Family Matters March 2012

Family Matters March 2012—Volume 4, Issue 3

Financial Peace Get your ducks in a row with Family Program’ s new Dave Ramsey Financial Peace University

“ Boots On, Boots Off” Charlotte Kids on Guard goes through the Deployment Cycle with fun this March

Strong Bonds Retreats Relationships matter the most; Reserve your space for an upcoming retreat

Building Family Resilience Catch the latest advice and tips from Military OneSource

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Volume 4, Issue 3

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Contents 2 4 5 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 17 18

Director’s Column New JFHQ Building Military Family Resilience Strong Bonds -Marriage Enrichment Re treats Strong Bonds—Family Retreats Financial Resources Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace Upcoming Events Veterans Crisis Line Employment Readiness Resources Volunteer Spotlight Child & Youth Program FAC Contact Strong Bonds Retreats Application (Cover Photo courtesy of NCNG Public Affairs Office)

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MARCH 2012 Diane Coffill State Family Program Director diane. coffill2@ us. army. mil (919) 664-6324 SFC Ramona Scott Family Program NCOIC ramona. scott1@ us. army. mil (919) 664-6000 Ext. 47005 Wendi Bell Administrative Assistant wendi. bell@ us. army. mil (919) 664-6078 Lana Greer State FAC Coordinator lana. m. greer@ us. army. mil (828) 652-4595 Ext. 14 Terry Henderson Airman &Family Readiness Program Mgr. terry. henderson@ ang. af. mil (704) 398-4949 Alice Dean State Youth Coordinator alice. dean@ us. army. mil (919) 664-6000 Ext. 16289 Angelena Dockery Marketing &Communications Manager sallie. a. dockery@ us. army. mil (919) 485-9570 Kathryn Jarvis Marketing &Communications Manager Kathryn. jarvis@ us. army.mil (919) 485-9571

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DIRECTOR’S COLUMN || RESILIENCE

Keep Your Bounce.

This month’s newsletter is all about bringing you the information and resources to maintain your bounce and resilience.

You’ll see information inside on our Strong Bonds Retreats. These retreats are for our Servicemembers and their Families. There are three different types of retreats, the Marriage Retreat, the Single Soldier Retreat and, then, there is a Family Retreat. Each retreat has several different dates and locations for you to choose from. Strong Bonds incorporates fun and hands-on activities that are designed especially for military Families. The retreats have been around for several years now … if you never been, ask some of your fellow Servicemembers and Families about their experiences. We believe that we’ve simplified the registration process, and, in this issue you’ll find the actual application and form for your convenience.

We hold NC Military Veteran Partnership meetings across the State, and have two going on this month. Get involved and get others involved. Participation is open to local businesses, community leaders, employers, child care providers, educators, physicians, etc. The goal of NCMVP is to have a network of resources available to you at the local level – where you live, if you need it.

There are also a few Yellow Ribbon events going on this month. Family Members, we encourage you to take advantage of this opportunity to come out and learn more about this part of the deployment cycle. You’ll get your questions answered, meet others, and learn about the programs available to assist you in this transition.

Last month, Family Programs staff, along with NCNG Servicemembers, participated in the first NC National Guard Resilience Training. This three-day course emphasized the importance of resilience. We’ve learned that resilience is a life-skill that can be applied to any situation. This month, we’ve included an article, by Military OneSource, on how you can build the resilience of your Military Family. We hope that you’ll gain some tips and tools to better equip you for variety of situations that you will face along life’s way.

Sincerely, Diane Coffill, State Family Program Director diane.coffill2@us.army.mil About Family Matters Family Matters was created to provide Servicemembers and Families the most up-to-date information and services available. If you would like to contribute to future issues or if you have suggestions and comments, please contact the NCNG Family Programs Marketing and Communications Department personnel, Angelena Dockery or Kathryn Jarvis at ncngFamilyprograms@gmail.com. E -Versions of Family Matters can be downloaded at the NCNG Family Programs webpage at www.nc.ngb.army.mil.

References in this newsletter to any specific commercial products, processes, or services, or the use of any trade, firm, or corporation name does not constitute endorsement, recommendation, or favoring by NCNG Family Programs.

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FAMILY MATTERS| ACROSS THE STATE

N.C. Guard and Partners Cut Ribbon on NEW JFHQ

By Army Staff Sgt. Robert Jordan, NCNG Public Affairs

“A long day in coming, we are now under one roof,” said the Adjutant General of North Carolina, Army Maj. Gen. Greg Lusk, leader of the nearly 12,000 Soldiers and Airmen in the NCNG. The headquarters includes a 400-person auditorium, a 150-person dining facility, the state’s new emergency operations center and State Highway Patrol State Communications Center. The 237,000-square-foot facility incorporates the most modern technologies and energy-efficient “green” engineering.

“It is amazing, on time and under budget,” said Army Lt. Gen. William E. Ingram Jr., Director, Army National Guard.

Raleigh, N.C. -- North Carolina Governor Bev Perdue joins key leaders of N.C. state agencies, the National Guard and Department of Defense cut the ribbon during the NCNG Joint Force Headquarters Building ribbon-cutting ceremony. Photo by Tech. Sgt. Brian E. Christiansen.

RALEIGH, N.C. – North Carolina Governor Bev Perdue, state leaders and local officials joined North Carolina National Guard (NCNG) and other state agency leaders at a building dedication for the new NCNG Joint Force Headquarters at a ceremony held here today.

Perdue and other leaders flanked by Soldiers, Airmen, North Carolina Highway Patrol Troopers and other state employees took hold of ceremonial gold scissors and cut a ribbon stretching across the building’s main entrance as the symbolic opening of the new facility.

“Thank you for all you to keep us safe,” said Perdue.

The building is also home to the N.C. Emergency Management State Emergency Operations Center, N.C. Department of Transportation State Transportation Operations Center, State Highway Patrol Communications Center and the N.C. Turnpike Authority.

“It combines resources for better response to disaster and shows collaboration across the department,” said N.C. Secretary of Public Safety Reuben F. Young Sharing the headquarters with other state agencies improves the Guard’s mission to save life and property in an emergency to cover counties across the state.

Earlier Perdue, state leaders and media toured the new facility, met with workers, and were briefed by staff on the new headquarters

Legislation supported by U.S. Rep. David Price and other congressional leaders through the federal American Recovery and Reinvestment Act (ARRA), a stimulus package for job growth, infrastructure development and economic activity largely funded the project.

“A momentous occasion, it gives the North Carolina National Guard a facility worth of its expanding role,” said Price.

Construction crews began July 2009 and completed the building in about two years.

View pictures of the event use the QR Code below or go to on the North Carolina National Guard’s Flickr Site at: www.flickr.com/photos/ ncngpao/6853464077/in/photostream

“It is a great opportunity to show off what we do for Soldiers and what a great organization the Guard is,” said Army Staff Sgt. Sophia Murphy, an administrative noncommissioned officer serving here.

The building resides on an 18 acre campus adjacent to the Claude T. Bowers Military Center, the original NCNG headquarters, and houses nearly 520 civilian and military personnel.

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Photos Courtesy of North Carolina National Guard Public Affairs

Building the Resilience of Your Military Family As a member of a military Family, you know that service members, their spouses, and their children are likely to have significant stress in their lives at one time or another. And the possibility of having to deal with serious adversity is always present. Long deployment separations, difficult post-deployment adjustments, frequent moves, and major life changes caused by combat-related trauma or loss are just a few sources of stress and adversity for military Families. While most Families do very well managing the unique demands of military life, you may have noticed that some people and even entire Families seem to be especially able to keep moving forward during periods of high stress and to recover from traumatic experiences. The following information will help you understand the concept of resilience and how you can work to nurture it in your Family. (Continued on Page 6) March 2012

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What is Resilience?

Resilience is the ability to withstand, overcome, and adapt in positive ways to an immediate crisis or an ongoing challenge.

Being resilient doesn't mean that a person avoids emotional pain and suffering when faced with a crisis. Instead, it means that he or she is able to recover and perhaps grow even stronger from the experience. Experts are beginning to find answers to questions about what makes some people more resilient than others and identify things we can do to increase resilience in ourselves and our Families.

Characteristics of Resilient Families In Strengthening Family Resilience, 2nd ed. (The Guilford Press, 2006), resilience specialist Dr. Froma Walsh identified nine characteristics that resilient Families have in common. These characteristics reveal the Family belief systems, organizational patterns, and communication/problem solving skills that foster resilience in adults and children. · Making meaning of adversity. Resilient Families view crises as shared challenges that together they can understand, manage, and make meaningful in some way. They see their emotions as human and understandable under the circumstances and believe in their ability to learn from their experiences and move forward. · Positive outlook. Resilient Families have an optimistic rather than pessimistic view of life. Members see each other's strengths and offer encouragement for overcoming difficulties as well as accepting what can't be changed. · Transcendence and spirituality. Resilient Families have beliefs and values that provide meaning, purpose, and connection beyond their personal lives and their troubles. They find strength and comfort through their cultural and religious traditions, and they experience spiritual inspiration in a variety of ways, including nature, the arts, service to others, and faith in a higher power. · Flexibility. Resilient Families adapt to change. They're able to adjust their Family roles and rules to fit new challenges in their lives while maintaining the rituals and traditions that provide stability in their relationships. Their flexibility depends upon strong yet nurturing leadership, guidance, and protection of children and mutual respect in the marital relationship. · Connectedness. Resilient Families pull together during times of crisis. They are able to function as a team and support each other while respecting individual needs, differences, and boundaries.

· Social and economic resources. Resilient Families reach out for help when they can't solve problems on their own by turning to extended Family friends, neighbors, community services, and/or counseling. · Open emotional sharing. Resilient Families accept and encourage a wide range of emotional expression (joy, sadness, fear, silliness, etc.) in adults and children. Family members take responsibility for their own feelings and accept others who have different feelings. They value positive interactions and appreciate humor, even as they cope with difficult circumstances. · Clarity. Resilient Families practice clear, consistent, and honest communication. Family members say what they mean and mean what they say; thus they avoid vague, confusing, or mixed messages to each other. · Collaborative problem solving. Resilient Families manage their difficulties by working together to understand a problem and to identify ways to solve it. They make decisions together in ways that allow Family members to disagree openly, then resolve those disagreements through negotiation, compromise, and give-and take. These Families seek to repair the hurts and misunderstandings that go along with conflicts and act proactively to solve current problems and prevent future ones. They also learn from their mistakes.

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Increasing your Family's Resilience

· Move toward your goals. Develop some realistic goals. Do something regularly -- even if it seems like a small accomplishment -- that helps you move toward your goals. Instead of focusing on tasks that seem unachievable, ask yourself, "What's one thing I know I can accomplish today that helps me move in the direction I want to go?"

These characteristics of resilient Families represent ideals that individuals and couples can have as goals to work toward and that parents can teach to children. The more you're able to make them your own habits and patterns of Family interaction, the more resilient your Family is likely to be when faced with difficulties.

· If you're currently coping with a stressful situation such as the deployment of a loved one to a combat area or caring for a wounded warrior; or if you're suffering from a loss or dealing with a crisis of any kind, there are things you can start doing right now to strengthen your own resilience and model resilience for your children. The American Psychological Association (APA), in its publication The Road to Resilience, recommends ten ways to become more resilient when dealing with stress or adversity.

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Avoid seeing crises as insurmountable problems. You can't change the fact that highly stressful events happen, but you can change how you interpret and respond to these events. Try looking beyond the present to how future circumstances may be a little better. Note any subtle ways in which you might already feel somewhat better as you deal with difficult situations.

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Take decisive actions, rather than detaching completely from problems and stresses and wishing they would just go away.

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Accept that change is part of living. Certain goals may no longer be attainable as a result of adverse situations. Accepting circumstances that cannot be changed can help you focus on circumstances that you can change.

Look for opportunities for self-discovery. People often learn something about themselves and may find that they have grown in some respect as a result of their struggle with loss. Many people who have experienced tragedies and hardship have reported better relationships, a greater sense of personal strength even while feeling vulnerable, increased sense of self-worth, a more developed spirituality, and heightened appreciation for life.

Make connections. Good relationships with close Family members, friends, or others are important. Accepting help and support from those who care about you and will listen to you strengthens resilience. Some people find that being active in civic groups, faithbased organizations, or other local groups provides social support and can help with reclaiming hope. Assisting others in their time of need also can benefit the helper.

Take decisive actions. Act on adverse situations as much as you can.

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Nurture a positive view of yourself. Developing confidence in your ability to solve problems and trusting your instincts helps build resilience.

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Keep things in perspective. Even when facing very painful events, try to consider the stressful situation in a broader context and keep a long-term perspective. Avoid blowing the event out of proportion.

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Maintain a hopeful outlook. An optimistic outlook enables you to expect that good things will happen in your life. Try to visualize what you want, rather than worrying about what you fear.

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Take care of yourself. Pay attention to your own needs and feelings.

Engage in activities that you enjoy and find relaxing. Exercise regularly. Taking care of yourself helps to keep your mind and body primed to deal with situations that require resilience.

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Marriage Enrichment Retreats Say “I Do” all over again. Join us this year for an opportunity to enhance your marriage. Military life can be challenging, and one of the relationships that can be most impacted is the one with your spouse.

You’ll have fun, special time together and much more. Check out the last two pages for additional information and registration.

May 4-6: Myrtle Beach, SC June 8-10: Asheville, NC July 27-29: Charleston, SC

~ SAY “I DO” ALL OVER AGAIN ~ March 2012

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Raising Resilient Children Different factors, including temperament and intelligence, influence children's resilience when they're faced with stress or adversity. But no influence is more important than the parenting they receive. When parents model and teach to their children the habits characteristic of resilient Families, the children will already have many of the skills needed to cope with difficult situations when they occur. Still, during difficult times, children need additional support and attention from parents, even as the parents are dealing with the same difficulties.

You can help to build resilience in your children during times of stress or adversity by giving them as much of your time as you can. When you're with your children, encourage communication by listening to their concerns and answering their questions with openness, honesty, and reassurance. You may find the APA's Resilience in a Time of War series helpful if your children are dealing deployment-related issues. It offers tips for helping children at different developmental stages (preschool, schoolage, and teen) to manage their feelings and build on their strengths. (See resources below.)

best meets your needs is to call Military OneSource at 1-800342-9647 and speak with a consultant. The consultant will work with you to assess your need for counseling or other services and connect you with qualified professionals in your area. (article from Military OneSource.com) MILITARY ONESOURCE 800.342.9647 // 24 hours, 7 days a week, 365 days/year

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Asking for Help Even when you know that support from others will strengthen your resilience, you may still find it difficult to ask for help. It's normal for people to not want to burden others with their troubles or to feel ashamed if they aren't coping as well as they think they should. But dealing with stress or adversity alone can drain your resilience instead of strengthening it. So when you know you need help, don't wait to ask for it.

Beyond Family, friends, neighbors, and co-workers, you can also look to your community (civilian or military) for support and for opportunities to share your experiences with those in similar situations. Military Family support groups through your unit or installation can connect you with other military Family members. Military chaplains and members of the clergy in your community can help you get involved with a faith-based support group. Your installation Family Support Center or National Guard Family Assistance Center (see resources below) can help you locate a selfhelp group or program in your community that's right for you. You may find that there are many people who are eager to help, but they need your guidance about how to go about it.

Join us this year for an opportunity to enhance your Family. Military life can be challenging, and one of the relationships that can be most impacted is the one with your Family. You’ll have fun, special time together and much more. Check out the last two pages for additional information and registration.

Sometimes a crisis can overwhelm even the most resilient person and stop him or her from moving forward. If you feel that your ability to function and take care of your everyday responsibilities is impaired, then it's important for you to get help from a mental health professional. They're trained to help people who feel "stuck" or overwhelmed to develop new strategies and take actions necessary to start moving again.

April 20-22, Gatlinburg, TN June 22-24, Myrtle Beach, SC August 10-12, Mountains

An easy way to get connected to the professional help that

**Dates and Locations are Subject to Change.**

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FINANCIAL READINESS || FINANCIAL RESOURCES

THE MILITARY ONESOURCE FREE TAX FILING SERVICE IS HERE, FEATURING H&R BLOCK AT HOME® ONLINE Military OneSource is pleased to announce the availability of the Military OneSource version of H&R Block At Home® Online tax preparation service.

If you are eligible under the Military OneSource program, you can complete, save and file your 2011 Federal and up to three State returns online for free with the H&R Block At Home® tool.

You must start your return from the Military OneSource H&R Block At Home® link to access this free offer.

Free Credit Score and Credit Analysis for Service Members and Military Families In support of the National Guard Bureau, Financial Industry Regulatory Authority (FINRA), FINRA Investor Education Foundation (which is part of FINRA) has once again provided us with the opportunity to check our credit score and credit analysis free of charge, until 31 March 2012. This program deadline has been extended in the past, so check Facebook for updates.

Every Service Member and Family Member alike should take advantage of this wonderful service!

Checking your credit through this site does NOT go against your credit history.

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Go to: http://apps.finra.org/myFICO/2/default.aspx On the right frame is the link to get the credit score Educator's code: NEU2BWJJ

NORTH CAROLINA ARMY NATIONAL GUARD

FREE INCOME TAX RETURN PROGRAM By the OFFICE OF THE STAFF JUDGE ADVOCATE

The Office of the Staff Judge Advocate will be preparing federal and state income tax returns free of charge for members of the NC National Guard and their Families starting February 15 through April 15 every Monday, Wednesday and Friday from 9 a.m. to 2 p.m. Services are available by appointment only at the USPFO Building, NCNG Joint Force Headquarters, Raleigh, NC 27607.

Interested soldiers and Family members should contact the NC National Guard JAG Office at 919-664-6000 ext. 46220 for additional information or to schedule

Please bring the following items with you:  Valid military identification for yourself and/or your spouse  Social security cards for you, your spouse, and dependents (social security number verification letters issued by the Social Security Administration or military IDs are also valid)  Birth dates for you, your spouse, and dependents  Current year’s tax package, if you received one  Wage and earnings statement(s) (i.e. Form W-2, W-2G, 1099-R, etc. from all employers)  Interest and dividend statements from banks (i.e. Form 1099-INT or 1099-DIV)  A copy of last year’s federal and state tax return  Bank routing numbers and account numbers if you’d like to take advantage of direct deposit  Other relevant information about income and expenses (especially if you plan to itemize deductions) such as medical receipts, mortgage interest statements, receipts evidencing property taxes paid, receipts evidencing charitable contributions, etc.  Total amount paid for day care and the day care providers’ tax identification number (the individual’s Social Security Number or the business’ Employer Identification Number)  Statement of a physician if you are blind and/or permanently and totally disabled  Valid power of attorney if you will be signing the income tax returns on behalf of your spouse March 2012

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FINANCIAL READINESS || UPCOMING WORKSHOPS, RESOURCES

CHARLOTTE 13-Week Series Begins:

RALEIGH 13-Week Series Begins:

MARCH 13

MARCH 15

Charlotte Armory, 4240 West Blvd.

Day Series (Bring your lunch) 11AM-1PM 4105 Reedy Creek Road, USPFO Conference Room Evening Series Begins @ 7PM NCNG JFHQ, 1636 Gold Star Dr. Special Preview -March 8

Day Series (Bring your lunch) 11AM-1PM Evening Series Begins @ 7PM Special Preview -March 6

Registration is required to attend the course. There is a one-time fee of $93 (tax included) for your Financial Peace Kit you will receive the first day of the course. Payments of cash/check will be accepted at the previews. To register or for more information contact David Porter at (919) 334-8313 /ncng.pfc@gmail.com.

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UPCOMING EVENTS | ACROSS THE STATE

NCMVP North Carolina Military Veteran Partnership Join Family Programs Representatives, Local Community Leaders and Businesses for one of our upcoming NCMVP events, where we work together for solutions to better-support our Military Members and their Families within the local community.

March 20,2012 NCMVP—SMITHFIELD

Single Soldier Retreats April 27-29, 2012, Myrtle Beach, SC July 20-22, 2012, Myrtle Beach, SC August 17-19, 2012, Beach

Smithfield Armory 406 Hospital Road 9 a.m.—11 a.m.

Check out the last two pages for additional information and registration. **Dates and Locations are Subject to Change.**

American Red Cross and the 1452nd Transportation Co. invite you to donate blood at one of locations below: March 3rd, 9 a.m.—2 p.m.

Boone Armory, 274 Hunting Hills Lane Morganton Armory 411 Kirksey Drive

UPCOMING EVENTS

514th MP Co., Pre-deployment March 16: 1-7 p.m.

Koury Convention Center 3121 High Point Rd., Greensboro 1-131st AVN BN, 30-Day Postdeployment March 23-24: 9 a.m.—2 p.m.

Renaissance Charlotte Suites 2800 Coliseum Centre Dr., Charlotte

Marion Armory 845 Spaulding Rd.

~HELP SAVE A LIFE~

SRP: 690th BSB/694th, Det. 1 694th March 3-4: 8 a.m.—3 p.m., Kinston

If you would like to dress up your car with a shiny new plate, fill out their application at ncnga.org/2012/02/14/uso-nc-license -plate/ and send it to: USO of NC, PO Box 91536 Raleigh, NC 27615 Make sure you write “license plate” in the memo section of your check.

Help the USO meet their goal of selling 300 license plates by June, which is the amount needed before DMV will print the plates.

Please let your colleagues, family and friends know about the NC USO Plates. Questions? Contact Anna Martin at 919-840-2945 or amartin@uso-nc.org.

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NC EMPLOYMENT READINESS PROGRAM || CAREER CONNECTIONS

EMPLOYMENT ASSISTANCE Building Blocks together to train and hire Servicemembers, Veterans and Military Spouses. Stay tuned for upcoming opportunities through our Website and Facebook Page!

CONTACT

David Ponder, Employment Specialist (919) 485-9567 DAVID.PONDER@US.ARMY.MIL

RecruitMilitary Veteran Opportunity Expo Thursday, March 8, 2012—11 a.m.—3 p.m.

Vaughn Towers at Carter-Finley Stadium 4600 Trinity Road, Raleigh, NC 27607 Register online at https:// events.recruitmilitary.com/events/raleighopportunity-expo-march-8-2012>

Online Tools for Veterans and Spouses Hiring Our Heroes has launched an online partnership with Military.com to complement face-to-face hiring fair efforts across the country. Veterans can get help writing resumes and interview tips; translating military skills, experience, and training into related civilian careers; and finding current lists of employment opportunities with military-friendly employers. Click below to get the tools you need to find your next career.

www.military.com/hiringourheroes/ The Veterans Job Bank provides a central resource that allows Veterans to access jobs available specifically for them. Enter keywords, your MOS/MOC, and/or location online to begin your job search.

Search Today at: www.nationalresourcedirectory.gov/jobSearch/

Honoring our Military Children … Because Military Kids Serve, Too! Join us across the State in April 2012 as celebrate and honor our Military’s Youngest Heroes, the children and youth of the North Carolina National Guard, during Month of the Military Child. As a united effort, we’ve put together a variety of ways to personally express your love and gratitude for the Military Child in your life. There will be three different Military Child Appreciation Awards available for download this month– one is for your youngest heroes, birth to elementary school-age, and the others are geared for middle-to high-school Military Youth.

You can make the presentation a Family occasion or a big bash with the help of teachers, child care providers or youth organizations.

Certificates will be available for download at www.nc.ngb.army.mil/index.php/fp/.

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FAMILY READINESS GROUPS | VOLUNTEER SPOTLIGHT, WEBINARS JACKSONVILLE Judy Richardson, Senior FRSA 142 Broadhurst Road Jacksonville, NC 28540-3545 judy.r.richardson@us.army.mil (910) 347-4352 Ext. 15 (800) 621-4136 Ext. 8570

FAMILY READINESS SUPPORT ASSISTANTS

Family Readiness Group Volunteer Spotlight Debra Caldwell, FRG Leader with HHC 230th BSB is our Volunteer Spotlight for March. Caldwell, mother to five children and five grandchildren, has been involved with HHC 230th BSB since the unit’s deployment to Iraq. Her daughter, Sgt. Briana Caldwell, was a member of the unit but has recently moved to another unit.

CHARLOTTE Nikkie Newsome nikkie.newsome@us.army.mil (704) 344-2352 Ext. 14548

Caldwell said, “I wanted to know more of what was involved in my daughter’s deployment and how I could become more involved.”

CLINTON Sarah Strickland sarah.r.strickland@us.army.mil (910) 592-2100 Ext. 14735

“I joined (the FRG) because I felt like I was closer to my daughter as she deployed,” she said. “I could become a part of the unit even though I was not enlisted nor deployed. I wanted to do something besides wait.”

GREENSBORO Gloria Fields gloria.d.fields@us.army.mil (336) 691-7700 Ext. 15620

And, waiting she did not. Caldwell helped set up events for the unit and now recalls her most memorable moments with the FRGs during those special events.

GOLDSBORO Greg Smith gregory.paul.smith@us.army.mil (919) 731-2021 Ext. 2

“Our troops coming home is probably one of the most special events,” she said.

JACKSONVILLE Judy Richardson judy.r.richardson@us.army.mil (910) 347-4352 Ext. 15 MORRISVILLE Jim Roberson james.roberson@us.army.mil (919) 804-5300 Ext. 16313 OXFORD Norman Dean norman.dean@us.army.mil (919) 693-3651 Ext. 27 The Mission of the ARNG FRSA program is to empower commanders in their duty to deliver the Total Army Family Program (AR 600-20) so that soldiers and Families are entitled, informed, educated, assisted, and made ready for the unique demands of Military life before, during, and after deployment.

Caldwell also recounts a craft fair in which she felt that many individuals were touched.

“The Craft Fair was in the Drill Hall, so, the Unit went outside to have formation. As I was impressed about how the Troops were so dignified, I looked around and noticed that all the vendors were staring at them. But, one gentleman, in particular, had tears rolling down his cheek and had his hand over his heart,” she said.

“He had obviously been in the Military at some point in his life, and he knew the meaning of what was happening,” said Caldwell.

“Once formation was over, there was a sense of pride in the Drill Hall that cannot be described. It stayed throughout the day, and I believe it was due to the presence of the men and women in uniform. Our vendors that day were very grateful to have had the chance to witness something not everyone gets to witness,” said Caldwell. “I know it changed people’s impressions of how our military is observed.”

She added, “I had many vendors tell me that, even though they had a great day selling their wares, they left with a pride for their local Service Men and Women that day. That was the most memorable moment,” Caldwell believes that others would enjoy the service they could provide for the FRG by helping in any capacity they like. “It gives not just the opportunity to serve others but gives the ones serving a brighter view of what it is their Soldier is going through, as well as the other Families of the Unit’s Soldiers,” she said.

“We have had wonderful Family Days that have been enjoyed by many a Soldier and Family, as well as Command,” she said. “This is a great time to enjoy the company of all in a very unique and comfortable way.”

Caldwell also described how deployments come along, and Families can share their ups and downs with each other. She said, “We like to think we are a part of a much bigger family.”

She said the part of being in the FRG that she enjoys the most is “the people I work with, but most the people I serve … Families. They are what make the Soldier who he/she is; and, they are the backbone of the deployments.”

If you or someone you know is interested in being a Family Readiness Group volunteer, or featured in our Volunteer Spotlight, please contact Judy Richardson, Senior Family Readiness Support Assistant, at judy.r.richardson@us.army.mil.

EVERYONE READY® MANAGING CHANGE AND DEALING WITH RESISTANCE TO IT! Presented by Connie Pirtle

Session 1 3/6, 10 a.m.

Session 2 3/13, 10 a.m.

Session 3 3/20, 10 a.m.

3/8, 9 p.m.

3/15, 9 p.m.

3/22, 9 p.m.

Registration is required.

Visit www.joinservicessupport.org.

For more information, please email deanna.l.cole@us.army.mil or call (717) 533-2662.

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CHILD & YOUTH PROGRAM | UPDATES

Every year, Kohl's recognizes and rewards young volunteers (ages 6-18) across the country for their amazing contributions to their communities. This year, Kohl's will award more than 2,200 kids with over $440,000 in scholarships and prizes.

Nominations Accepted Through March 15, 2012 http://www.kohlscorporation.com/CommunityRelations/scholarship/

MARK YOUR CALENDARS Military Child Education Coalition Space Camp

NCNG CHILD & YOUTH PROGRAM STAFF Alice Dean State Child & Youth Coordinator (800) 621-4136 ext. 16289 (919) 664-6000 ext. 16289 alice.dean@us.army.mil

Kristi Wagner Youth Coordinator 1-800-621-4136 ext 8851 kristi.wagner@us.army.mil

MARCH 11th

2nd Sunday of March -spring forward

This camp is for children of Active Duty, Mobilized Guard & Reserve, and/or children of a Military Member who died while serving on Active Duty or Mobilized Guard or Reserve. Child must be enrolled in grades 6 through 9. Go to www.spacecamp.com Deadline is 10 March 2012.

North Carolina 4-H’s Operation: Military Kids Visual Arts Contest

The contest is opened to all North Carolina youth. The age categories are 5-8 years old, 9-10 years old, 11-12 years old, 13-15 years old, and 16-18 years old. The contest is designed to introduce youth to photography and the arts as a part of the 4-H Expressive Arts Curriculum. Youth will utilize their photography skills and their artistry but most importantly what freedom, patriotism and support for our troops mean to them. For additional information, visit www.nc4h.org/military/ index.html. Selected photographs and artwork will be displayed during the week of the 2012 North Carolina 4-H Congress, other events and appropriate venues. Submission deadline is 30 April 2012.

“Hug a GI Day” Everyone knows we celebrate St. Patrick’s Day in March hoping to find the gold at the end of a rainbow; but, did you know … March 4th is a day we should all embrace, it’s Hug a GI Day.” Give a great big hug to any and all Servicemembers you see on March 4th.

The men and women of our armed forces perform an invaluable service for us and our country, they deserve our thanks. A simple hug is a great way to show our appreciation.

You can even create a simple, easy craft …

“A Paper Hug!” Items needed: Construction paper or drawing paper, yarn, ribbon or string, and tape 1.

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Trace both hands onto paper Cut out Write a thank you note on hands Cut a 2’ length of yarn Attach each end of yarn to hands with tape

You have now created a Thank You Hug that can be handed to any Servicemember so they can wrap a warm hug of appreciation around them anytime.

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FAMILY ASSISTANCE CENTERS Asheville Military Family Resource Center (MFRC) 7 Yorkshire St. Suite 101, 28803 Fax: (828) 274-8572 Debra Collington, FAC Network Coordinator debra.a.collington.ctr@us.army.mil (828) 274-7209 Charlotte Unit Family Contact Center (UFCC) 4240 West Blvd., 28208 Fax: n/a Keneitha Delaney, FAC Specialist keneitha.delaney@us.army.mil (704) 344-2352 Ext. 14547 Fayetteville Unit Family Contact Center (UFCC) 3555 Owen Drive, 28306 Fax: n/a Amy Wallace, FAC Specialist amy.wallace3@us.army.mil (910) 321-1001 Ext. 14920 Greensboro State Family Assistance Center (SFAC) 110 Franklin Blvd., 27401 Fax: (336) 691-7766 Katy Jones, FAC Network Coordinator katy.m.jones@us.army.mil (336) 691-7700 Ext. 15649 Sandy Harrison, FAC Specialist sandy.harrison1@us.army.mil (336) 691-7700 Ext 15651 Greenville State Family Assistance Center (SFAC) 1401 N. Memorial Dr., 27834 Fax: (252) 551-6136 Dawn White, FAC Network Coordinator dawn.white@us.army.mil (800) 621-4136 Ext. 11150 Kannapolis Military Family Resource Center (MFRC) 6001 Gateway Center Dr., Suite 109, 28081 Fax: (704) 788-0550 Lynn White, FAC Specialist lynn.white2@us.army.mil (704) 788-4554

Spring into Life Call a Military Family Life Consultant Today

John Alleman Adult & Family Specialist (919) 745-9635

Betty Steelman Child & Family Specialist (919) 665-9178

Kinston Unit Family Contact Center (UFCC) 2875 Dobbs Farm Rd., 28504 Fax: (252) 526-2772 Gabrielle H. O’Flanagan, FAC Specialist gabrielle.h.oflanagan.ctr@us.army.mil (252) 208-0255 Ext. 15817 Lenoir State Family Assistance Center (SFAC) 1535 Beecher Anderson Road, 28645 Fax: (828) 757-4519 Frances Johnson, FAC Specialist frances.johnson3@us.army.mil (828) 757-4365 Ext. 4 line 1 Morganton Unit Family Contact Center (UFCC) 411 Kirksey Drive, 28655 Nancy Davis, FAC Network Coordinator Fax: (828) 437-2068 nancy.davis3@us.army.mil (828) 437-0746 Ext. 18 Raleigh Military Family Resource Center (MFRC) 130 Penmarc Drive Suite 110, 27603 Fax: (919) 334-9971 Earlene Capps, FAC Specialist earlene.capps@us.army.mil (919) 334-0195 Lisa Faison, FAC Specialist lisa.faison@us.army.mil (919) 334-0196 Mark Woolbright, FAC Network Coordinator mark.woolbright@us.army.mil (919) 334-9966 Smithfield Unit Family Contact Center (UFCC) 406 Hospital Road, 27577 Fax: (919) 934-2901 Abby Millsap, FAC Specialist abby.e.millsap@us.army.mil 919) 934-2013 Ext.16 Southern Pines Unit Family Contact Center (UFCC) 500 Morganton Road, PO Box 1317, 28387 Fax: (910) 692-3659 David Butler, FAC Specialist david.earl.butler@us.army.mil (910) 692-8747 Ext. 6 Wilmington Unit Family Contact Center (UFCC) 2412 Infantry Rd., 28405 Fax: (910) 251-7130 Jim Marley, FAC Specialist james.marley@us.army.mil (910-) 251-7100 Ext. 16918 Wilmington Military Family Resource Center (MFRC) 3114 Randall Pkwy., 28403 Fax: (910) 343-6953 Judy Howard, FAC Network Coordinator judy.m.howard@us.army.mil (910) 343-1775 March 2012

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