NCNG Family Matters

Family Matters NCNG Family Programs ~ November 2012—Volume 4, Issue 11

Protecting Your Family Dynamics of TRICARE

Celebrating Veterans Inside: Parades, Ceremonies

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Volume 4, Issue 11

FAMILY MATTERS OCTOBER 2012 FAMILY MATTERS

Contents 4

Director’s Column

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TRICARE

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Employment Fair

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FRG—JSS Webinars

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Upcoming Events

9

Child and Youth Programs

10

Volunteers lead the Way

11

Discover, Innovate, Create –4-H SET

12

Family Assistance Centers

13

Military Family Thanksgiving at the Speed way

Photo Courtesy of the North Carolina National Guard Public Affairs.

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NOVEMBER 2012 Diane Coffill State Family Program Director Diane Coffill diane.coffill2@us.army.mil State Family Program Director (919) 664-6324 diane.coffill2@us.army.mil (919) 664-6324 MSG Ramona Scott Family Program NCOIC MSG Ramona Scott ramona.scott1@us.army.mil Family Program NCOIC (919) 664-6000 Ext. 47005 ramona.scott1@us.army.mil (919) 664-6000 Ext. 47005 SGT Tammy Fowler Family Programs Assistant SGT Tammy Fowler tammy.l.fowler@us.army.mil Family Programs Assistant (919) 664-6000 Ext 46876 tammy.l.fowler@us.army.mil (919) 664-6000 Ext 46876 Wendi Bell FAC Administrative Assistant Wendi Bell wendi.bell@us.army.mil FAC Administrative Assistant (919) 664-6078 wendi.bell@us.army.mil (919) 664-6078 Lana Greer State FAC Coordinator Lana Greer lana.m.greer@us.army.mil State FAC Coordinator (828) 652-4595 Ext. 2 lana.m.greer@us.army.mil (828) 652-4595 Ext. 2 Terry Henderson Airman & Family Readiness Terry Henderson Program Mgr. Airman & Family Readiness terry.henderson@ang.af.mil Program Mgr. (704) 398-4949 terry.henderson@ang.af.mil (704) 398-4949 Alice Dean Lead Child & Youth Coordinator Alice Dean alice.dean@us.army.mil Lead Child & Youth Coordinator (919) 520-9548 alice.dean@us.army.mil (919) 520-9548 Angelena Dockery Marketing & Communications Manager Angelena Dockery sallie.a.dockery@us.army.mil Marketing & Communications Manager (919) 485-9570 sallie.a.dockery@us.army.mil (919) 485-9570 Kathryn Jarvis Marketing & Communications Manager Kathryn Jarvis Kathryn.jarvis@us.army.mil Marketing & Communications Manager (919) 485-9571 kathryn.jarvis@us.army.mil (919) 485-9571 Judy Richardson Senior FRSA Judy Richardson judy.richardson@us.army.mil Senior FRSA (910) 347-4352 Ext. 5 judy.richardson@us.army.mil (910) 347-4352 Ext. 5 NC National Guard Family Programs State Office NC National Guard 1636 Gold Star Drive Family Programs State Office Raleigh, NC 27607-6410 1636 Gold Star Drive (919) 664-6053 Raleigh, NC 27607-6410 www.nc.ngb.army.mil (919) 664-6053 www.nc.ngb.army.mil

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DIRECTOR’S COLUMN

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About Family Matters Family Matters was created to provide Servicemembers and Families the most up-to-date information and services available. If you would like to contribute to future issues, or if you have suggestions and comments, please contact the NCNG Family Programs Marketing and Communications Department personnel, Angelena Dockery or Kathryn Jarvis, at ncngfamilyprograms@gmail.com. E-Versions of Family Matters can be downloaded at the NCNG Family Programs webpage at www.nc.ngb.army.mil.

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John Alleman Adult & Family Specialist 919.745.9635 Betty Steelman Child & Family Specialist 919.665.9178

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News you can use!

Although this is not particularly a financial subject, TRICARE is a topic I receive a great deal of inquiries about. In particular, divorce. Not adjusting your DEERS, can be quite expensive for you, in the event you do not change it in a timely manner.

Here are the generalized rules regarding divorce and TRICARE: When there is a divorce, the sponsor must update this information in the Defense Enrollment Eligibility Reporting System (DEERS). A copy of the divorce decree is needed to update DEERS. TRICARE eligibility for some family members may change: Former Spouses As of 12:01 a.m. on the day of the divorce, your benefits end unless you meet the eligibility requirements of a former spouse. If you meet the former spouse requirements, you'll continue to be eligible for TRICARE, and will use your name and health benefit number (not your former sponsor's) to schedule appointments and file claims. If you do not meet the former spouse eligibility requirements, you can no longer get care through TRICARE. Any claims paid after your loss of eligibility will be recouped. Upon loss of eligibility, you may be eligible to purchase coverage under the Continued Health Care Benefits Program.

Children Biological and adopted children of the sponsor remain eligible for TRICARE up to age 21 (or age 23 if enrolled in college) as long as the child remains a dependent child (i.e. is not married or serving on active duty.) Stepchildren who were not adopted by the sponsor lose TRICARE eligibility once DEERS is updated with the divorce decree.

Upon loss of eligibility, stepchildren may be eligible to purchase coverage under the Continued Health Care Benefits Program.

Getting Care for Children After a Divorce The custody agreement, sponsor's military status and location may have an impact on how and where eligible children get care. In many cases, if your child lives between two households, or apart from the Service member parent, he or she can get health care anywhere by following the rules of their health care plan. If needed, contact your regional contractor for assistance. Read below for some common things to keep in mind when selecting a health plan option and getting care for your child after a divorce. If you need further assistance for a unique situation, or would like assistance in selecting a health plan for your child, contact your regional contractor.

When Both Parents are Service Members A child can only have one sponsor. When both of the divorced parents are Service members, you must decide together which parent should be the sponsor of the child's benefits. If an agreement cannot be reached, visit an ID card office for additional guidance on how to resolve the issue. The ID card office can also update your child’s records to remove their benefits and entitlements under one of the applicable parents. Removing their benefits and entitlements will not remove them from the other parent's DEERS record.

When One Parent is a Service Member and the One Parent is No Longer Eligible for TRICARE Your child should have his or her own ID card when in the care of a parent or guardian who is not eligible for TRICARE or who is not the custodial parent. Contact your local ID card office for more information if your child does not have an ID card. (continued on page 7)

Assistance For Families If your Family is in need of assistance for the Holidays, please contact your local FAC for details about help you are eligible for and how to obtain it.

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There is no fee, however, vendor registration is required. For more information contact rankina@uncw.edu

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FAMILY READINESS GROUPS | VOLUNTEER TRAINING

Judy Richardson Senior FRSA 142 Broadhurst Road Jacksonville, NC 28540-3545 judy.r.richardson@us.army.mil

(910) 347-4352 Ext. 5 (800) 621-4136 Ext. 11346

FAMILY READINESS SUPPORT ASSISTANTS CHARLOTTE Nikkie Newsome nikkie.newsome@us.army.mil (704) 344-2352 Ext. 14548

CLINTON Sarah Strickland sarah.r.strickland@us.army.mil (910) 592-2100 Ext. 14735

HIGH POINT (Temp. location due to construction in Greensboro) Gloria Fields gloria.d.fields@us.army.mil (800) 621-4136 Ext. 15620

NOVEMBER 2012 Volunteer Management (VM) Building a Volunteer Portfolio & Awards Packet November 6, 10 a.m.—11 a.m. https://www2.gotomeeting.com/register/352728570 November 8, 9 p.m.—10 p.m. https://www2.gotomeeting.com/register/481496642 A good portfolio highlights your skills and achievements, benefitting you in many ways. Developing a portfolio and writing an award nomination are two different things, but using the volunteer portfolio as part of the process to write an award nomination can make all the difference!

This is a Voice over “Internet” (VoIP) session, please use where possible.

Follow prompts post login. Speakers for sound are required & microphone (optional) to participate in the conversation. If you do not have a microphone & want to be able to speak, please use the toll free line: 1-877-380-7755 - access code 4665215. For further information, please contact, Judith.wolf@us.army.mil (703-607-5309) or tammychase.vtt@gmail.com.

GOLDSBORO Greg Smith gregory.paul.smith@us.army.mil (919) 731-2021 Ext. 15423

MORRISVILLE Pamela Hughes Pamela.hughes5@us.army.mil (919) 804-5300 Ext. 16313

OXFORD Norman Dean norman.dean@us.army.mil (919) 693-3651 Ext. 27

RALEIGH George Lane

george.lane1@us.army.mil (919) 664-6000 Ext. 46714

(Continued from page 5) Shared Custody in Different TRICARE Regions If custody of your child is shared, and you and your former spouse live in different TRICARE regions, you should decide carefully which health plan option your child should use based on the amount of time they stay with each parent. For instance, if your child is enrolled in TRICARE Prime, is available in both locations, and custody is shared for more than 60 days at a time, you should consider transferring your child's TRICARE Prime enrollment each time the child moves between parent's homes. If you don't transfer the enrollment each time, you'll need a referral from the primary care manager for any non-emergency care. Without a referral, you will pay higher out-of-pocket costs for some services through the point-of-service option. TRICARE Standard and Extra may be the best option in this scenario because your child can get care from any TRICARE-authorized provider, network or nonnetwork without a referral. However, some services require authorization.

Using TRICARE with Other Health Insurance TRICARE is always the second payer to any other health insurance (OHI) plan. After a divorce, if a child is covered by health insurance from the non-uniformed Service parent, then TRICARE can still act as a second payer after the OHI. If the child visits the uniformed Service member for extended periods of time, TRICARE is still the second payer, so make sure your child has the OHI information to get care away from home during these visits. You should review your OHI and TRICARE options carefully, to make sure you have the best coverage for your child.

Source: NG Financial Management Program, Financial Frontline

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ACROSS THE STATE | UPCOMING EVENTS

VETERANS DAY PARADES

NOV. 10

Say a big “Thanks” to all those who have and are currently serving in our nation’s armed forces.

Below are a few Veterans Day Parades we learned about. Listed are the Starting Points, Times, and Contact Information.

Chatham Co. (Siler City), Time TBA Starting Point: Siler City Fire Dept. of Chatham Ave., 919-663-3385 Fayetteville, Time TBA Starting Point: Hays St., 910-864-8589 Hendersonville, 8am Starting Point: Bruce Drysdale School, Main St., 828-435-1106 Jacksonville, Time TBA Starting Point: Veteran Cemetery, 910-455-3303 Jacksonville, Time TBA Starting Point: Coastal Carolina Community College, 910-347-4141 Lexington, Time TBA Starting Point: North Main St., 336-249-9901 Matthews, 10am Starting Point: 6350 Weddington Road Phone: Not Available Pamlico County (Bayboro), Starting Point: Neal’s Creek Road, 252-745-5764 Randolph County, 4pm Starting Point: Church St, Asheboro, 336-498-7146 Tarboro, Time TBA Starting Point: Tarboro Commons 252-823-5734 Troy, Time TBA Starting Point: N. Main St., 910-576-4711

For More information and times please contact the numbers provided above.

Saturday, November 10, 9:30 a.m.

Downtown Raleigh For more info, visit www.raleighnc.gov Look for the OMK Float, If you are interested in participating with OMK during the parade email scott_enroughty@ncsu.edu, by November 6 with the following: First and Last Name (for each family member participating) and Branch of Service

Additional Events Nov. 2-3, 3pm-7pm; 9am-4:30pm Yellow Ribbon, 30-Day Post Deployment 881sy/883rd EN CO Koury Convention Center, 3121 High Point Rd, Greensboro Nov. 3, Time TBA Family Day, 139th Academy Fort Bragg 139th Military Academy, Pratt St., Ft. Bragg Nov. 22, Noon-1pm USO Thanksgiving Feast Lowe’s Motor Speedway, 6551 Burton Smith Blvd., Charlotte The Greensboro SFAC is being temporarily closed and staff is temporarily assigned to alternate locations due to construction at the Armory. They are still available to support you and may be contacted at the same phone # and email address. Please take a look at the Page 12 for the new temporary locations for Katy Jones, Sandy Harrison and Gloria Fields.

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NCNG CHILD & YOUTH PROGRAM STAFF Alice Dean

CHILD & YOUTH PROGRAM

Military Children are Invited to Send in their Handmade

2012 Holiday Ornaments

Lead Child & Youth Coordinator 919- 520-9548 alice.dean@us.army.mil

Kristi Wagner Youth Coordinator 1-800-621-4136 ext. 8851 kristi.wagner@us.army.mil

Vacant Child & Youth Specialist 919-693-3651 ext. 23

For the Governor’s Holiday Tree The North Carolina National Guard has been asked to coordinate the collection of handmade holiday ornaments from military children in North Carolina. The ornaments will be displayed on a 12ft holiday tree in the Governor’s Mansion.

The theme will be Patriotism. Please ensure that all handmade ornaments include the child’s first name, age, city and branch of service affiliation. If you cannot write on the actual ornament please attach a small gift tag with that information.

All ornaments need to be returned to the by:

APP FOR THAT !

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Tell us what you want to have on a NCNG Family Programs App.

Mail ornaments directly to: Alice Dean Child & Youth Program 1636 Gold Star Drive Raleigh, NC 27607, or drop off at your local NC National Guard Family Assistance Center.

Families are invited to attend the exclusive, Military Family Holiday event this December. Limited pace is available and registration is required. For questions, please contact: Alice Dean at alice.dean@us.army.mil or 919-520-9548

Share your comments on Facebook at www.facebook.com, “North Carolina National Guard Family Programs”

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"Building Stronger, Self-Reliant Military Families" To all in attendance at the 13 Oct 12, Regional FRG Volunteer Training in Lenoir, I thank you! The Family Program Staff appreciates your hard work and dedication to helping your fellow Military Families--Before, During and After Deployment.

Sincerely, JUDY R. RICHARDSON Sr Family Readiness Support Assistant NCNG,(Contractor)

More FRG training will be happening around the State. Please contact your FRSA or FAC to get the dates. We look forward to seeing you there!

Seated (left to right):Rhonda Bliley, 630th Key Caller West; Michele Prather, 1450th FRG Leader; Megan Bunck, 630th Treasurer and Sarah Rick, 630th Newsletter Editor. Standing (left to right): Frances Johnson, FAC; Victoria Klinger, 630th FRG Leader; Gloria Fields, FRSA; Judy Richardson, SrFRSA; Melissa Deyton, 630th Volunteer; Cheri Hoke, 1450th Treasurer; Lynora Essick, 883rd FRG Leader and 1LT Mitchell Rick, 630th Commander.

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North Carolina National Guard Family Programs Is honored to extend an invitation from: Governor Beverly Eaves Perdue and First Gentleman Robert W. Eaves Cordially invite you and your family to join them for a holiday reception Sunday, December 2, 2012 1:00 p.m.— 2:30 p.m.

Executive Mansion 200 North Blount Street Raleigh, North Carolina RSVP by 26 November 2012 To: Alice Dean Alice.dean@us.army.mil 800-621-4136 or 919-520-9548 Holiday Attire or ACUs Photo ID Required for Admittance

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Military Children During the 2/130th AVN gather for a photo with Pvt. Richard before he leaves on his adventure with the unit. Unit FRG Leader, Jacci Connell, spouse of SFC Andrew Connell, was inspired by a military friend who had a bear travel with the unit on a deployment, providing updates to Families along the journey.

Pvt. Richard, the bear, has joined the 2/130th AVN during their deployment to Kuwait.

Each month, unit FRG Leader,Jacci Connell, spouse of SFC Andrew Connell, will update us about PVT Richard’s adventures in with the Unit. Check the next Family Matters to see how PVT Richard is doing.

Military Family Bookmark Print the Page, then cut on the dotted lines

You wear no uniform Have no Chain of Command Yet you Rise to the Challenges Being a Military Family Demands Your Patience, Your Caring and Unwavering love Means more than you know when push come to shove Whenever I am near ,I see more of You And when I am far, memories help get me through There is no award fit for all that you do Just for me to tell you how much I love you NCNG Family Programs NOVEMBER 2012

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FAMILY ASSISTANCE CENTERS | CONTACT US

Kinston Unit Family Contact Center (UFCC) 2875 Dobbs Farm Rd., 28504 Gabrielle H. O’Flanagan, FAC Specialist gabrielle.h.oflanagan.ctr@us.army.mil (252) 208-0255 Ext. 15817 Lenoir State Family Assistance Center (SFAC) 1535 Beecher Anderson Rd., 28645 Frances Johnson, FAC Specialist frances.johnson3@us.army.mil (828) 757-4365 Ext. 4 line 1

Asheville Military Family Resource Center (MFRC) 7 Yorkshire St. Suite 101, 28803 Fax: (828) 274-8572 Debra Collington, FAC Network Coordinator debra.a.collington.ctr@us.army.mil, (828) 274-7209 Charlotte Unit Family Contact Center (UFCC) 4240 West Blvd., 28208 Carry Bandy, FAC Specialist (704) 344-2352 Ext. 14547 Doretha McLaughlin, FAC Specialist (704) 344-2352, Ext. 14548 doretha.mclaughlin1@us.army.mil Fayetteville Unit Family Contact Center (UFCC) 3555 Owen Dr., 28306 Amy Wallace, FAC Specialist, amy.wallace3@us.army.mil (910) 321-1001 Ext. 14920 Greenville State Family Assistance Center (SFAC) 1401 N. Memorial Dr., 27834 Dawn White, FAC Network Coordinator dawn.m.white2@us.army.mil, (800) 621-4136 Ext. 11150 High Point Unit Family Contact Center (UFCC) (Temporary location due to construction in Greensboro)

3515 Armory Dr., 27260 Katy Jones, FAC Network Coordinator katy.m.jones@us.army.mil (800) 621-4136 Ext. 15649 Kannapolis Military Family Resource Center (MFRC) 6001 Gateway Center Dr., Suite 109, 28081 Fax: (704) 788-0550 Lynn White, FAC Specialist, lynn.white2@us.army.mil (704) 788-4554

Morganton Unit Family Contact Center (UFCC) 411 Kirksey Dr., 28655 Nancy Davis, FAC Network Coordinator nancy.davis3@us.army.mil (828) 437-0746 Ext. 2 Raleigh Unit Contact Center (UCCC) 4105 Reedy Creek Rd., 27607 Earlene Capps, earlene.capps@us.army.mil, (919) 664-6000 Ext. 47101 Lisa Faison, lisa.faison@us.army.mil, (919) 664-6000 Ext. 47100 Mark Woolbright, mark.woolbright@us.army.mil, (919) 664-6000 Ext. 47102 Smithfield Unit Family Contact Center (UFCC) 406 Hospital Rd., 27577 Abby Millsap, FAC Specialist abby.e.millsap@us.army.mil (919) 934-2013 Ext.16 Southern Pines Unit Family Contact Center (UFCC) 500 Morganton Rd., PO Box 1317, 28387 David Butler, FAC Specialist david.earl.butler@us.army.mil (910) 692-8747 Ext. 6 Wilmington Unit Family Contact Center (UFCC) 2412 Infantry Rd., 28405 Jim Marley, FAC Specialist james.marley@us.army.mil (910-) 251-7100 Ext. 16918 Judy Howard, FAC Network Coordinator judy.m.howard.ctr@us.army.mil 910-251-7100 Ext. 16925 Winston-Salem Unit Family Contact Center (UFCC) (Temporary location due to construction in Greensboro)

2000 Silas Creek Pkwy., 27103 Sandy Harrison, FAC Specialist sandy.harrison1@us.army.mil (800) 621-4136 Ext. 15651 NOVEMBER 2012

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Happy Thanksgiving

Holiday Dates for Military Mail

Thursday, November 22, 2012

Calculated for December 25, 2012.

More at

Military Families have / are celebrating Thanksgiving apart. Share ways that you and/or your Servicemember celebrate the holidays away from each other.

https://www.usps.com/ shippingdates/

Post online at www.facebook.com; North Carolina National Guard Family Programs.

When posting items please keep in mind the content that you are posting and the effects it could have on the safety of Families at home and Servicemembers abroad.

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Get the Address Right—Use the service member’s full name All mail must be addressed to someone specific; addressing mail to “Any Service Member” is no longer permitted. Include the unit and APO/FPO/DPO (Air/Army Post Office™, Fleet Post Office or Diplomatic Post Office) address with the 9-digit ZIP Code™ (if one is assigned).

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