Family Matters-October 2012

Family Matters

NCNG Family Programs ~ October 2012—Volume 4, Issue 10

Cycles of Change Stages and Timing of Deployments

Military Families, Near and Far

Hire Patriots New Employment Resource for Military and Families

There’s an app for that!

Upcoming Events October Fest, Spooktacular Festival and More!

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Volume 4, Issue 10

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Contents 4 5 6 8 9 10 12 13 15 16 17

Director’s Column Cycles of Change Employment / Spouse Resources About Hire Patriots Upcoming Events FRG—JSS Webinars Transitioning FRG’s Child and Youth Programs Holiday Ornaments Family Assistance Centers Legal Assistance Program

On the Cover: Kimberly Lewczyk Photo and illustration spouse, Sgt. of Servicemembers First Class David and Lewczyk, Families.

882nd Photos ENG CO, exchange from US Army.mil goodbyes on June 22, 2012, before he departed Charlotte Douglas International Airport for a deployment to Kuwait, while the couple’s middle son nestled in-between them. Mrs. Kimberly Lewczyk says, “Saying goodbye If would like task…. to haveWe your photo onsons, the cover, email ncngfamilyprois you never an easy have three but our middle child, Isaiah (age grams@gmail.com with Who, What, When, Where and picture the name of the 6), was having a difficult time at the airport.

I think this shows of perthe son who took the photo. great sacrifice that even our children have to endure.”

Photo taken by Lori Mathis, Sister of Kimberly Lewczyk

Diane Coffill State Family Program Diane Coffill Director diane.coffill2@us.army.mil State Family Program Director (919) 664-6324 diane.coffill2@us.army.mil (919) 664-6324 MSG Ramona Scott Family MSG Program Ramona NCOIC Scott Family Program NCOIC ramona.scott1@us.army.mil ramona.scott1@us.army.mil (919) 664-6000 Ext. 47005 (919) 664-6000 Ext. 47005 SGT Tammy Fowler SGTPrograms Tammy Fowler Family Assistant Family Programs Assistant tammy.l.fowler@us.army.mil tammy.l.fowler@us.army.mil (919) 664-6000 Ext 46876 (919) 664-6000 Ext 46876 Wendi Bell Wendi BellAssistant FAC Administrative FAC Administrative Assistant wendi.bell@us.army.mil wendi.bell@us.army.mil (919) 664-6078 (919) 664-6078 Lana Greer Greer State Lana FAC Coordinator State FAC Coordinator lana.m.greer@us.army.mil lana.m.greer@us.army.mil (828) 652-4595 Ext. 2 (828) 652-4595 Ext. 2 Terry Henderson Terry Henderson Airman & Family Readiness AirmanProgram & FamilyMgr. Readiness Program Mgr. terry.henderson@ang.af.mil terry.henderson@ang.af.mil (704) 398-4949 (704) 398-4949 Alice Dean Dean Lead ChildAlice & Youth Coordinator Lead Child & Youth Coordinator alice.dean@us.army.mil alice.dean@us.army.mil (919) 520-9548 (919) 520-9548 Angelena Dockery Dockery Manager MarketingAngelena & Communications Marketing & Communications Manager sallie.a.dockery@us.army.mil sallie.a.dockery@us.army.mil (919) 485-9570 (919) 485-9570 Kathryn Jarvis Jarvis Manager Marketing &Kathryn Communications Marketing & Communications Manager Kathryn.jarvis@us.army.mil kathryn.jarvis@us.army.mil (919) 485-9571 (919) 485-9571 Judy Richardson Judy Richardson Senior FRSA Senior FRSA judy.richardson@us.army.mil judy.richardson@us.army.mil (910) 347-4352 Ext. 5 (910) 347-4352 Ext. 5

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Hi Everyone, I can't believe that it's FALL! What a wonderful time of year! There are some of us who look forward to cooler weather, and perhaps, slowing the pace a little before we plunge towards to the Holidays.

In this issue, we've added some information on transitions and change. We may not realize it, but we change everyday. We make most of those decisions without really thinking of them as "Change". We've put away our summer clothes, gotten out the fall ones, added sweaters, jackets and socks to our wardrobe and it is a natural thing to do, this time of year. As National Guard Families, we possess a resilience that comes naturally to some and with a little extra thought, for others. After all, it is an essential part of military life.

DIRECTOR’S COLUMN

MILITARY FAMILY LIFE CONSULTANTS NON MEDICAL COUNSELING SERVICES

You experience many transitions as your Service members, deploy, return goes to AT (Annual Training), drill and other training throughout the year. You know how to survive at home, and I hope you know that we're always here for you during any of those times, as well as, those days when they are home, too. That's why we have the monthly newsletter and hope to keep you informed on what's going on around the State, and most importantly, the consistent resources that are available to you.

As a reminder, we've highlighted our Legal Assistance Program flyer, this month. This resource is FREE for our military Families. A part of being resilient is being prepared for anything. The Legal Assistance service you with preparing a Will, Power of Attorney, Family Law issues, estate planning, consumer issues and much more. If our team can't help, then I'm sure they can point you in the right direction.

You'll also find information on our Employment Readiness Program. We know that the economy is changing and that can present issues with finding a job. We know that there are companies looking for employees with your skill set... companies are joining forces with our Employment Program and ESGR (Employment Support of the Guard and Reserve) to hire, not only Service Members, but Family members, as well. Each Friday, on our Facebook page, we poste what we call "hiring Friday" which contains information about employment opportunities.

As we gear up for the Holidays, you'll see that we're accepting handmade ornaments from military children. Yes, again this year, we've been invited by the Governor to have those ornaments decorate a tree at the Governor's Mansion. This year's theme is Patriotism.

So, there's a lot going on and a lot of things available to you. Let us know how we can help. We look forward to seeing you at our some of our Programs and events, and please take advantage of the FREE resources that are available to you.

Have a Happy October and a safe Halloween!

Sincerely,

Diane Diane Coffill, State Family Program Director About Family Matters Family Matters was created to provide Servicemembers and Families the most up-to-date information and services available. If you would like to contribute to future issues, or if you have suggestions and comments, please contact the NCNG Family Programs Marketing and Communications Department personnel, Angelena Dockery or Kathryn Jarvis, at ncngfamilyprograms@gmail.com. E-Versions of Family Matters can be downloaded at the NCNG Family Programs webpage at www.nc.ngb.army.mil.

References in this newsletter to any specific commercial products, processes, services, or the use of any trade, firm, or corporation name does not constitute endorsement, recommendation, or favoring by NCNG Family Programs.

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timing of the various stages and nature of the deployments can cause increased turmoil and stress for the military family. The stages are: Stage 1 – Anticipation of Departure Stage 2 – Detachment and Withdrawal Stage 3 – Emotional Disorganization Stage 4 – Recovery and Stabilization Stage 5 – Anticipation of Return Stage 6 – Return Adjustment and Renegotiation Stage 7 – Reintegration and Stabilization

Stage 1- Anticipation of Departure: In this stage, spouses may alternately feel denial and anticipation of loss. As reality sinks in, tempers may flare as couples attempt to

take care of all the items on a family predeployment checklist, while striving to make time for “memorable” moments. In the new emotional cycles of deployment, Stage 1 may begin again before a couple or family has even had time to renegotiate a shared vision of who they are after the changes from the last deployment.

Stage 2 – Detachment and Withdrawal: In this stage, service members become more and more psychologically prepared for deployment, focusing on the mission and their unit. Bonding with their fellow service members is essential to unit cohesion, but this may create emotional distance within the marriage. Sadness and anger occur as couples attempt to protect themselves from the hurt of separation. As this stage happens more often and more frequently, marital problems may escalate.

With back to back deployments, however, spouses may find it hard to muster the emotional strength required, but many resources are available to provide needed support.

Stage 5- Anticipation of Return: This is generally a happy and hectic time spent preparing for the return of the service member.

Spouses, children and parents of the service member need to talk about realistic plans and expectations for the return and reunion.

Stage 6 – Return Adjustment and Renegotiation: Couples and families must reset their expectations and renegotiate their roles during this stage. The key to successful adjustment and renegotiation is open communication. Families also need to be prepared to deal with the effects of combat stress on the returning service member. Such stress and trauma can be difficult to deal with.

When a husband or wife must repeatedly create emotional “distance”, they may gradually shut down their emotions. It may seem easier to just feel “numb” rather than sad, but the lack of emotional connection to your spouse can lead to difficulties in a marriage.

Stage 3- Emotional Disorganization: With back to back deployments, one might think that this stage of adjusting to new responsibilities and being alone would get easier.

Although a military spouse may be familiar with the routine, (s)he may also be experiencing “burn-out” and fatigue from the last deployment, and feel overwhelmed at starting this stage again.

Stage 4- Recovery and Stabilization: Here spouses realize they are fundamentally resilient and able to cope with the deployment.

They develop increased confidence and a positive outlook.

Troops with combat stress are often irritable, guarded, and want to be alone. Some may use increased alcohol or drugs in a failed attempt to “numb” the emotional pain they are experiencing.

Attempts at renegotiation may result in increasing marital arguments.

Stage 7- Reintegration and Stabilization: This stage can take up to 6 months as the couple and family stabilize their relationships anew.

As noted with Stage 6, the presence of combat stress can severely disrupt the stabilization process.

Where can families find help? National Guard , Reserve and Active Duty Families can contact the state or regional Family Assistance Center for assistance.

Original article can be found at http://www.cnic.navy.mil/navycni/ groups/public/documents/document/cnicp_a144789.pdf OCTOBER 2012

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Show ‘Em

What you Got!

Employment Assistance and Credentialing Programs

Calling All Male Military Spouses MachoSpouse.com is a new online resource and informational hub for male military spouses. Macho Spouse is a positive, pro-active project designed to help guys deal with military life issues through the use of video, online networking, and communication.

The videos contain interviews from current and former male military spouses, military family and relationship counselors, military spouse career and entrepreneur experts, as well as a variety of other individuals who have an in-depth knowledge of what it takes to be a happy, successful, strong, supportive person in military family life.

Service Members, Families, and friends are encouraged to share Macho Spouse with male military spouses, significant others, and boyfriends. Connect with Macho Spouse on the web, on Facebook or Twitter.

Army and Navy COOL: The Army and Navy both offer Credentialing Opportunities Online (COOL). These programs give you the opportunity to find civilian credentials related to your rating, or military occupational specialty. You can learn what it takes to get the credentials and learn about programs that will help pay credentialing fees. Check out the Army COOL website at www.cool.army.mil/ or Navy COOL website at: www.cool.navy.mil/ to learn more.

Air Force Credentialing and Educational Research Tool (CERT): CERT at au.af.mil/au/ccaf/ certifications.asp is a valuable resource for Air Force personnel in increasing awareness of professional development opportunities applicable to USAF occupational specialties, crosswalks to CCAF degree programs, national professional certifications, certification agencies, and more.

Occupational Information Network the Dictionary of Occupational Titles (O*NET): This provides detailed descriptions of most occupations. Available online at: http://online.onetcenter.org/ The Encyclopedia of Associations: This lists the addresses of professional and industry associations. http:// library.dialog.com/bluesheets/html/bl0114.html

Dun and Bradstreet and Standard and Poor's Register of Corporations: Both documents offer information on individual companies and organizations. Dunn and Bradstreet reports can be found at www.dnb.com/.

Standard and Poor’s Register of Corporations and Dunn and Bradstreet Reports can be found in the reference section of your local library.

The Occupational Outlook Handbook: This book addresses the projected needs for various occupations. It may help you choose a career or open the door to a new one. You can view the handbook online at: www.bls.gov/oco/home.htm.

For more information on Employment Transitioning visit www.turbotap.org

Help Wanted?

NORTH CAROLINA EMPLOYMENT READINESS PROGRAM Contact David Ponder, Employment Specialist (919) 485-9567—david.ponder@us.army.mil

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The Sesame Street for Military Families app puts all of Sesame’s bilingual (English & Spanish) resources for Military Family’s right in your pocket! Now you can use your mobile device to access engaging videos, articles, storybooks, parent guides, and more to help you support your preschool and school-aged children as they encounter transitions common to Military Families. Because of the sensitive topics in the app, we highly recommend that a parent or guardian preview the materials before co-viewing with a child.

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Topics include: Deployments, Homecomings, Injuries, Grief and Self-Expression. Download the App for free at iTunes. Search Sesame Street for Military Families. The app will be available for Android devices— including the Kindle Fire—later this month.

Free Credit Score FINRA Investor Education Center have provided another month of FREE access to finding out your FICOR credit score. The focus of the program is to provide FICOR credit scores free of charge to Service Members and their spouses who are at risk financially or have financial problems that could lead to security clearance revocation or other negative occurrences. The program is intended to provide one credit score per Servicemember (and spouse if appropriate) initially and a single followup score 90-120 days later. If you have not obtained your credit report before or checked it in the past year, here is the web site to go to: http://apps.finra.org/myFICO/2/default.aspx. In the box labeled "Financial Educator Code" put in this code: 1TDEYH54. **The code expires on October 31, 2012.** Complete all of the required fields (labeled with a *) as well as the Captcha, and follow the remainder of the prompts to obtain your FREE credit score. This will also give you an analysis of your credit report and how you can improve your credit score. If you get to a site that asks for a credit or debit card number, you're in the wrong place. There is NO COST for this service.

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Employment | Hire Patriots

ABOUT HIREPATRIOTS.COM HirePatriots.com was launched in 2005. The founders were living next door to Camp Pendleton Marine Base. One day a Marine who had just returned home from Iraq knocked on their door. “Sir,” he said, “I just got back from deployment and found out that my wife was laid-off a couple of months before I got back home. And when I got back today I found out that our utilities were turned off. So I need to earn some extra money to make sure that we can have lights and heat before my kids go to sleep tonight. – Is there any work or repairs that I can do for you around your home or yard?”

Our founders wanted to just give the Marine the money he needed; but, he insisted on working for it. So he cleaned their house, did yardwork and fixed the carburetor on an old car they had. The Marine earned $100 that day and got his bills paid.

After that our founders created HireMarines.com to see if any other residents wanted to hire local Marines. Within a few months 10,000 residents and Marines were coming to the site every week! -- The website became HirePatriots.com when the sailors in San Diego asked if they could use the site too.

The site has been a tremendous help to active duty, Reserves and Guard since. And now it is providing a daily source of income for transitioned troops all across America. HirePatriots has helped over 100,000 US veterans find employment to date. But there is a lot more work to do. Nearly 50% of current transitioned veterans are taking more than 3 years before they find sustainable employment. This is devasting to them and their families.

The mission of HirePatriots is to create a nationwide employment safety net for US veterans. So wherever a veteran lives in the US, they can find work every day, with either a One Day, Temporary or Full Time job from the HirePatriots website.

HirePatriots is represented by veteran owned and patriotic businesses across America. Each has their own HirePatriots site and job board for their area. But there are many more states and communities that HirePatriots needs to reach in order to

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achieve their goal of 100% employment for every willing and able US veteran.

Community...We invite

HirePatriots has received the one of the highest civilian honors a US President can

our Veterans, members

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Merit, and the Presidents Volunteer Service Medal. We are lauded by the Pentagon and the Joint Chiefs of Staff.

This unique, patriotic, employment program also stimulates local economies. It has received the Visionary Award for Economic Development and the Chamber’s Extra Mile Award.

Hot Dogs with all the trimmings and a jazz band HirePatriots is a program of Patriotic Hearts, a 501c3 non-profit (EIN 208599179). There are 10 additional programs for US veterans that we also offer. to entertain us!

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All of our services are offered at no cost. It is supported by donations, sponsorships and grants.

There are no salaried officers or employees of Patriotic Hearts. New business members make a contribution to our 501c3 when they join. This is the primary source of

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RALEIGH OKTOBERFEST 2012 Friday, October 7, 2011 & Saturday, October 8, 2011 Raleigh, North Carolina Come join the Knights of Columbus and the Little German Band and Dancers for the Raleigh Oktoberfest at St. Raphael's Catholic Church, 5801 Falls of the Neuse Rd, Raleigh. Fest will be held INDOORS at our Activity Center. Learn more at http://www.raleighoktoberfest.com/.

OKTOBERFEST IN HICKORY Friday, October 12, 2012; Saturday, October 13, 2012; Sunday, October 14, 2012 Vendors, Festival Food Vendors, Crafts, Live Entertainment, Beer Gardens, Kids Rides, Games and More! Learn more at http://www.hickoryoktoberfest.com/ .

OKTOBERFEST IN DOWNTOWN ASHEVILLE October 13, 2012 Don't miss the fun and tasty Oktoberfest on Wall Street in downtown Asheville. It mixes Bavarian traditions with Asheville’s eclectic vibe. Learn more at http://www.romanticasheville.com/oktoberfest.htm.

OKTOBERFEST AT SUGAR MOUNTAIN RESORT October 13-14, 2012 Village of Sugar Mountain, NC Not only will the Harbour Town Fest Band provide a festive Bavarian atmosphere to Sugar’s 22nd annual Oktoberfest celebration, the national award winning Avery Smooth Dancers and the Mountain Laurel Cloggers will get your feet stomping and bring out the country drawl in all of us. Admission, parking and shuttle service are free. Rain or shine the festival will go on! For additional information please call 828-898-4521. Take in the beautiful fall foliage, cool, comfortable mountain temperatures, and a weekend full of festival activities from 10 am until 5 pm each day. Be sure to bring the kids because the event is for the whole family. Learn more at http://oktoberfest.skisugar.com/.

OKTOBERFEST HOUSE PARTY October 19-21, 2012, Cashiers, NC In honor of Oktoberfest, High Hampton Inn is throwing its third-annual Oktoberfest House Party on Saturday, October 20th from noon - 4:30p.m. There will be a special menu of authentic German cuisine, along with delicious German beers.

Throughout the afternoon, the Atlanta Polka Band and the Euro Volk Dancers, dressed in traditional German costume, will be entertaining on stage on the side lawn. For additional information or to reserve a place at Oktoberfest, please call (800) 334-2551. http://www.highhamptoninn.com/events-detail.aspx?eid=16.

ONSLOW OKTOBERFEST Saturday, October 27, 2012 10 a.m. until 9 p.m., 5K starts at 8 a.m., Riverwalk Crossing Park, 421 Court Street, Jacksonville, NC. Learn more at http:// onslowco.org/Oktoberfest.php.

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FAMILY READINESS GROUPS | JSS OCTOBER WEBINARS

Judy Richardson, Senior FRSA 142 Broadhurst Road Jacksonville, NC 285403545 judy.r.richardson@us.army.mil

Joint Services Support offers much more than volunteer webinars. You can find upcoming events, community resources and more. Login today!

(910) 347-4352 Ext. 5 (800) 621-4136 Ext. 11346

FAMILY READINESS SUPPORT ASSISTANTS CHARLOTTE Nikkie Newsome nikkie.newsome@us.army.mil (704) 344-2352 Ext. 14548

CLINTON Sarah Strickland sarah.r.strickland@us.army.mil (910) 592-2100 Ext. 14735

GREENSBORO Gloria Fields gloria.d.fields@us.army.mil (336) 691-7700 Ext. 15620

GOLDSBORO Greg Smith gregory.paul.smith@us.army.mil (919) 731-2021 Ext. 15423

MORRISVILLE Pamela Hughes Pamela.hughes5@us.army.mil (919) 804-5300 Ext. 16313

OXFORD Norman Dean norman.dean@us.army.mil (919) 693-3651 Ext. 27

RALEIGH George Lane

george.lane1@us.army.mil (919) 664-6054

CEI Reporting Tool in JSS Thursday October 11, 2012, 10 a.m.—11 a.m.

This webinar shows Employer Support Specialists and Employer Support National and Regional Program Managers how to access and view the CEI Report.

This includes how to access and view the Unemployment Report and outlines how Service Members enter their CEI data. https://www.jointservicessupport.org/Events/ EventDetails.aspx?Mode=ReadOnly&Id=3CF11733B293-4214-B374-5D23DFF6AC0F

Using the Groups Tool in JSS Tuesday October 16, 2012, 2 p.m.—3 p.m.

This webinar shows how to use the JSS Groups tool to connect with others, access information, and communicate effectively over email and on the web. This includes how to post events in a shared calendar, upload documents to a File Library, and collaborate in forum discussions. https://www.jointservicessupport.org/Events/ EventDetails.aspx?Mode=ReadOnly&Id=9EC5698D93A7-4006-A245-02AF3FB8D8E0

YRRP Event Management Orientation Thursday October 11, 2012, Noon—1 p.m.

This webinar orients YRRP Event Coordinators to event management in JSS, including an overview of publishing events, submitting funding forms, managing registrations, and completing after action reports. https://www.jointservicessupport.org/Events/ EventDetails.aspx?Mode=ReadOnly&Id=8123DE5FA64F-4472-A50E-4920B98070DE

Creating & Uploading Event Evaluations in JSS Wednesday October 31, 2012, 11 a.m.—Noon This webinar will show event coordinators how to produce standard Yellow Ribbon and custom breakout class evaluations; how to scan and upload evaluation forms; and tips for ensuring the successful processing of uploaded evaluation forms. (Note that you must log in to JSS to register for this event.) https://www.jointservicessupport.org/Events/ EventDetails.aspx?Mode=ReadOnly&Id=ACB023885285-4DA6-A2A7-76B4F3029881

Get R.E.A.D.Y. with JSS - Volunteers Thursday October 11, 2012, 2 p.m.—3 p.m.

This webinar provides an overview and shows volunteers how JSS tools equip them to serve the National Guard community. This includes how to track your volunteer hours, collaborate in Groups and Forums, and locate helpful resources. Staff working with volunteers will also benefit from this session. https://www.jointservicessupport.org/Events/ EventDetails.aspx?Mode=ReadOnly&Id=CDDE216E -37D7-441F-869C-CA73753D342B

After registering, you will receive a confirmation email containing information about joining the webinar.

Get R.E.A.D.Y. with JSS – Youth Coordinators Tuesday October 16, 2012, Noon—1 p.m.

This session orients State Youth Coordinators to relevant JSS features and how these can be applied in the field. This includes how to set-up program-specific events, create targeted email campaigns and announcements. https://www.jointservicessupport.org/Events/ EventDetails.aspx?Mode=ReadOnly&Id=4BF3276F9221-440C-83AA-F3E7FEAA64EA OCTOBER 2012

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Invitation to Attend ...

Family Readiness Regional Training

NCNG Family Programs is bringing Family Readiness Training to Commanders, Military POCs and Family Readiness Group Leadership.

From 0900 – 1000 – Commanders & Mil POCs & 1030 – 1330 Family Readiness Group personnel will focus on maintaining an effective Family Readiness Group Team.

Registration begins at 0845 & 1015 Respectively.

13 Oct 12, Lenoir Armory, 1535 Beecher Anderson Road, Lenoir (FRG register by 9 Oct 12, 1130 am on JSS): jointservicessupport.org

October 13, 2012 from 9:30 a.m.—3:30 p.m. for Ages 5 and Up Join the Kids on Guard team for a day at North Carolina’s oldest history museum! Located in historic Wilmington, youth will learn about history, science, and cultures of Lower Cape Fear through fun and exciting educational exhibits and programs.

Cape Fear Museum, 814 Market Street, Wilmington, NC 28401 Pre-Registration is required for those interested in attending. During the event lunch will be provided. We ask that you inform us when you RSVP if there are any special dietary needs of attendees you are registering. To obtain a registration form and/or further information please RSVP to: Alice Dean, (919) 520-9548 / alice.dean@us.army.mil Pre-registered attendees will need to be at the Museum between 9 a.m—9:30 a.m. for Check-in and Drop-off.

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October 13-14, 2012, 8AM-4PM, 211th MP CO SRP, Clyde Armory, 1824 Jones Cove Rd, Clyde, NC October 14, 2012 9AM-4PM, 105th EN BN Family Day, Raeford Armory, 305 Teal Dr., Raeford, NC October 14, 2012 8AM-5PM, 1450th TC ISR, Foothills Readiness Center, 1535 Beecher Anderson Rd,, Lenoir NC October 16, 2012, 8AM-5PM, 2/130th AOB SRP, Fayetteville Armory, 3555 Owens Dr., Fayetteville, NC

NCNG Family Programs’ extends an exclusive invitation for our upcoming Family Readiness Training to FRG Leaders and Unit Volunteers that are in Appointed positions. Commanders & Unit POC’s are invited to observe this training as needed.

This workshop is designed to assist FRG Leaders & Unit Volunteers in maintaining FRG Communications with families in the areas of phone trees, e-mail campaigns, and newsletters; managing FRG activities; and, knowing the resources in your areas that you can share with your Soldiers and Families. Also to assist FRG Leaders in How to Better Communicate with your Command.

For questions or to register, contact Judy Richardson, State/Senior Family Readiness Support Assistant, at 800.621.4136 ext. 11346/ 910.347.4352 line 5 or via e-mail to Judy.r.richardson@us.army.mil Please note: Costs incurred by individuals for meals and travel are not reimbursable expenses for this training.

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By Judy Richardson, NCNG Family Programs, Senior FRSA

When commands return from deployment, Family Readiness Groups may experience lower levels of participation and attendance at meetings. This turn of events can be disheartening for the group’s officers, especially if the FRG was strong during deployment. Members may find the support group that helped them during the deployment is no longer needed. Their spouses are home, and even though they may stay in contact with some FRG members, they may not have the time or desire to meet on a regular basis. Groups will typically re-energize before the next deployment cycle, and the process will start again.

What about Transfer of FRG Leadership?

FRG operations that are “up and running” are helpful for the incoming FRG leaders. It is much easier to find out what support systems and resources are in place, and to determine the needs and desires of command. Although some coordination may be hampered when forward command rotates out, the incoming FRG leader can reduce the confusion by seeking and obtaining support from former FRG leaders, volunteers, and command. The ideal situation is when FRG leaders can “handoff” their FRG leadership.

The outgoing FRG Leader or other key positions of the FRG should turnover or pass-down information for their particular role to the incoming appointed members. Be sure to include all records of financial transactions and general information about the group that will help with the leadership transition.

If you have maintained a continuity binder, please by all means transfer this to the new leader. Key to this whole process is communication both to command, through your Military POC or FRG Liaison and through your Brigade’s FRSA. Both outgoing and newly appointed FRG Leaders should seek out the assistance of the Major Command (MACOM) FRSA for a smooth transition. If you do not know who that person is, please call the Family Assistance Center (FAC) closest to you and they can point you in the right direction. The FRSAs are there to assist the Command, Soldiers and the Family Readiness Groups and Volunteers in Family Readiness.

Both outgoing and newly appointed FRG Leaders should seek out the assistance of the Major Command (MACOM) FRSA for a smooth transition. If you do not know who that person is, please call the Family Assistance Center (FAC) closest to you and they can point you in the right direction. The FRSAs are there to assist the Command, Soldiers and the Families in Family Readiness Groups and Volunteers in Family Readiness.

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CHILD & YOUTH PROGRAM

NCNG CHILD & YOUTH PROGRAM STAFF Alice Dean Lead Child & Youth Coordinator (919) 520-9548 alice.dean@us.army.mil

Kristi Wagner Youth Coordinator 1-800-621-4136 ext. 8851 kristi.wagner@us.army.mil

Vacant Child & Youth Specialist 919-693-3651 ext. 23

Bullying Prevention Awareness Month (October 2012) In support of Bullying Prevention Awareness Month, the National Child Traumatic Stress Network (NCTSN) is providing resources for Families, teens, educators, clinicians, mental health professionals, and law enforcement personnel on how to recognize, deal with, and prevent bullying.

Bullying can be verbal, physical, or via the Internet. It can severely affect the victim's selfimage, social interactions, and school performance―often leading to insecurity, lack of selfesteem, and depression in adulthood. School dropout rates and absences among victims of bullying are much higher than among other students.

Studies have shown that children who have been identified as a bully by age eight are six times more likely to have a criminal conviction by age 24.

Children who are bullies may continue to be bullies as adults, and are more prone to becoming child and spouse abusers.

Learn more at http:// www.nctsn.org/resources/public -awareness/bullying-preventionawareness-month

Did you know that October 5th is Do Something Nice Day. After doing something nice for someone it almost always evokes a very pleasant response. At the very least, it results in a smile. In keeping with the spirit of this day, set a goal to do something nice for someone. Perhaps, you can do this for several people. More likely, that person will do something nice to, or for you. Best of all, doing something nice just might be contagious. So go ahead, do something nice, anything nice. It won't hurt....we promise. (creator or origin unknown)

Hunters Helping Kids An opportunity is being sponsored by Hunters Helpings Kids , a 501c3 national organization dedicated to taking special children hunting. The local Bertie County Chapter will be hosting a girls Hunt on 9-10 November 2012 at Pollock’s Hunting Club near Windsor, NC. The girls need to be 1015 years old and have little or no hunting experience. The event will provide hunting clothing, lodging, food, weapons and guides at no cost to the participants. An immediate family of each hunter is invited to participate.

Hunting safety will be instructed and each young hunter will have their own personal hunting guide. Interested individuals are asked to contact Alice Dean, Lead Child & Youth Coordinator, at (919) 520-9548 or via email to alice.dean@us.army.mil for more information.

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Join Forces with Military Teens During our Meet and Greet (Dinner Provided) at the

North Carolina State University 4-H Youth Development Office, 512 Brickhaven Drive, Raleigh, NC 27695.

Monday, Oct. 29, 2012 from 5:30 P.M.—8:30 P.M.

Interested teens are required to be between the ages of 13-18 and live in or around the Raleigh area.

R.S.V.P to Alice Dean, (919) 520-9548 / alice.dean@us.army.mil

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FAMILY ASSISTANCE CENTERS | CONTACT US

We’re Just a call away

Asheville Military Family Resource Center (MFRC) 7 Yorkshire St. Suite 101, 28803 Fax: (828) 274-8572 Debra Collington, FAC Network Coordinator debra.a.collington.ctr@us.army.mil, (828) 274-7209 Charlotte Unit Family Contact Center (UFCC) 4240 West Blvd., 28208 Carry Bandy, FAC Specialist (704) 344-2352 Ext. 14547 Fayetteville Unit Family Contact Center (UFCC) 3555 Owen Drive, 28306 Amy Wallace, FAC Specialist, amy.wallace3@us.army.mil (910) 321-1001 Ext. 14920 Greensboro State Family Assistance Center (SFAC) 110 Franklin Blvd., 27401 Katy Jones, FAC Network Coordinator katy.m.jones@us.army.mil (336) 691-7700 Ext. 15649 Sandy Harrison, FAC Specialist sandy.harrison1@us.army.mil (336) 691-7700 Ext. 15651 Greenville State Family Assistance Center (SFAC) 1401 N. Memorial Dr., 27834 Dawn White, FAC Network Coordinator dawn.white@us.army.mil, (800) 621-4136 Ext. 11150 Kannapolis Military Family Resource Center (MFRC) 6001 Gateway Center Dr., Suite 109, 28081 Fax: (704) 788-0550 Lynn White, FAC Specialist, lynn.white2@us.army.mil (704) 788-4554

Kinston Unit Family Contact Center (UFCC) 2875 Dobbs Farm Rd., 28504 Gabrielle H. O’Flanagan, FAC Specialist gabrielle.h.oflanagan.ctr@us.army.mil (252) 208-0255 Ext. 15817 Lenoir State Family Assistance Center (SFAC) 1535 Beecher Anderson Road, 28645 Frances Johnson, FAC Specialist frances.johnson3@us.army.mil (828) 757-4365 Ext. 4 line 1 Morganton Unit Family Contact Center (UFCC) 411 Kirksey Drive, 28655 Nancy Davis, FAC Network Coordinator nancy.davis3@us.army.mil (828) 437-0746 Ext. 2 Raleigh Unit Contact Center (UCCC) 4105 Reedy Creek Rd., 27607 Earlene Capps, earlene.capps@us.army.mil (919) 664-6000 Ext. 47101 Lisa Faison, lisa.faison@us.army.mil (919) 664-6000 Ext. 47100 Mark Woolbright, mark.woolbright@us.army.mil, (919) 437-3191 Smithfield Unit Family Contact Center (UFCC) 406 Hospital Road, 27577 Abby Millsap, FAC Specialist abby.e.millsap@us.army.mil (919) 934-2013 Ext.16 Southern Pines Unit Family Contact Center (UFCC) 500 Morganton Road, PO Box 1317, 28387 David Butler, FAC Specialist david.earl.butler@us.army.mil (910) 692-8747 Ext. 6 Wilmington Unit Family Contact Center (UFCC) 2412 Infantry Rd., 28405 Jim Marley, FAC Specialist james.marley@us.army.mil (910-) 251-7100 Ext. 16918 Judy Howard, FAC Network Coordinator judy.m.howard.ctr@us.army.mil 910-251-7100 Ext. 16925

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