Family Matters June 2010

Family Matters

June 2010—Volume 2, Issue 6

Diane Coffill

State Family Program Director diane.coffill2@us.army.mil (919) 664-6324

Exclusive Summer Getaways and discounts for NCNG military Families.

SFC Calvin Buchan State Family Program Assistant calvin.buchan@us.army.mil (919) 664-6124

SSG Ju Autry

Budget Analysis ju.autry@us.army.mil (919) 664-7583

SGT Daniel Holland

Be Army Strong!

HR Assistant dan.holland@us.army.mil (919) 664-6124

PFC Carolyn Stevens

HR Assistant carolyn.stevens1@us.army.mil (919) 664-6876

Lana Greer

North Carolina National Guard Families continue to navigate various phases of the deployment cycle. Whether your Service Member is deployed, on R&R, or recently returned …

Summer is here! And, Summer is a time to enjoy life, the heat from the Sun, and have fun.

Resolve to make this a great summer for you and your family.

Inside, you’ll find a lot of events happening in June that are sure to please. We also wanted to let you know about the highlights from the May Yellow Ribbon Event for the 30th HBCT.

State FAC Coordinator lana.m.greer@us.army.mil (828) 271-5029

We’ve learned that North Carolina National Guard Soldiers and Families are all about ‘getting over it,’ ‘working through it,’ and ‘taking advantage of the resources.’

Renee Brotherton

You work hard, and you owe yourself a little fun!

FAC Team Leader renee.brotherton@us.army.mil (704) 359-5736

Enjoy your Summer!!!

Kathleen Flaherty, LTC (Ret.) Airman & Family Readiness Program Mgr.

kathleen.flaherty.ctr@ncchar.ang.af.mil

(704) 398-4949

limited. Use Registration form on page 9 to

Pamela Hughes

State FRG Advisor pamela.hughes5@us.army.mil (919) 693-5016 ext. 13

reserve a spot today!

~IN THE KNOW~

Alice Dean

State Youth Coordinator alice.dean@us.army.mil (919) 664-7616

GET WITH THE “PROGRAM!” FACEBOOK ~ BECOME A FAN

Individual Highlights Community Cares Upcoming Events Father’s Day Photo Tribute Father’s Day Card Change Quiz 30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon Family Retreat Registration Coupons/Quick Reference FAC Staff Directory

Family Retreat Coming in August. Space is

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North Carolina National Guard Family Programs

VIEW EVENTS ONLINE www.nc.ngb.army.mil Family Programs Events Calendar

JOIN JSS jointservicessupport.org Get program information, events, chat with other military Families, and more. You will also receive emails with lots of great opportunities.

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COMMUNITY CARES |community outreach

FREE CLASSES FOR COMBAT VETERANS AND/OR SPOUSES

Healing the Wounds of War Breath by Breath The Yoga Warrior method is designed to provide advanced knowledge and practical tools for yoga teachers working with combat veterans diagnosed with Combat and Operational Stress Reaction or Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). The Yoga Warriors Method skillfully integrates concepts from yoga therapy, traditional yoga philosophy, psychology and sensory integration theory with current scientific knowledge of the mindbody connection to promote health, wellness and peace of mind from within. For information about Yoga and PTSD, visit www.yogawarriors.com.

A Day of Love & Appreciation for Military Wives On Saturday, May 22, 2010, the Raleigh (NC) Chapter of The Links, Inc. honored military wives with “A Day of Love & Appreciation for Military Spouses” event. The event included a continental breakfast, chair massages, fashion tips on how to dress for less, beauty tips, and resume-building. Participants also had one-onone sessions with a financial counselor and life consultant, if desired. A Chic-Fil-A lunch with trimmings was provided for the wives. The luncheon speaker, K97.5 Radio Host “Mary Jane,” addressed how selfacceptance and a positive support group are keys to happiness. She said, “It’s essential to surround yourself with people that will have your back in the tough times.” Several door prizes were given away, one that included a $175 Spa Gift Package. Each Military Wife received a tote bag filled with lots of great giveaways.

Susan S. Taylor, with The Links, said “I would like the Guard community to know how much the community really supported this program. All of the food and many giveaways were donated.”

Tuesday nights from 6:30-8pm at the American Red Cross in Raleigh starting June 15 until August 24, 2010. Class is free and open to the first 25 students who register by calling Diane Callan at 919-650-1806 or emailing wellnessforwarriors@gmail.com. Sunday nights from 5:30-6:45pm at Yoga Garden, Apex. Open to first 10 students who register online at www.yogagarden.com or by calling Margaret Richards at 919- 267-9264. Friday mornings from 10-11:30am at Noda Yoga, Charlotte NC starting June 4 until August 20, 2010. Open to first 10 students who reserve call Jillian Longsworth 704-560-6144.

Thank You Military Spouses

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UPCOMING EVENTS |summer fun

Military Appreciation Days May 30-31; July 4-5 Carowinds will offer FREE admission to any active or retired military personnel on May 30-31 and July 4-5, 2010 when showing proper identification at the Carowinds Front Gate. Along with free admission, active and retired members of the military will also be able to purchase discounted admission tickets at the Carowinds Front Gate for members of their immediate family on these dates. The free ticket offer is only available on the dates above and a valid military ID must be presented to receive this special offer.

Kings Dominion announces its "Tribute to the Armed Forces" May 30 & 31 July 4 & 5 Kings Dominion is pleased to announce that it will offer FREE admission to active, retired and former United States military personnel on Sunday and Monday of both the Memorial Day and July 4th weekends as a part of its Tribute to the Armed Forces program. The exact dates are May 30, 31 and July 4, 5, 2010, and include all branches of the service, including National Guard and Reserves. The free ticket offer will be available on the Sunday and Monday of each weekend and a valid military ID or discharge papers must be presented at Kings Dominion on one of the dates of the program. Place your credit card order online at: www.kingsdominion.com Then, simply click on tickets, then corporate partner, Your COMPANY ID is: AFAD8.

Relationship Enhancement Programs Single Soldier‟s Retreat How Not to Date a Jerk or Jerkette August 20-22—Smoky Mountains For more details, call 800-621-4136 ext. 6124

Marriage Enrichment Weekend Retreats Laughing Your Way to a Better Marriage Reserve your Slot Now! July 9-11, 2010 - Beach July 23-25, 2010 - Beach August 13-15, 2010 - Beach August 27-29, 2010 - Beach For more details, call 800-621-4136 ext. 6124 Music in the Park (Stump Sound Park) Saturday, June 12, 2010 ~ 6pm-9pm ~ Onslow County Free Admission, moonwalk, concessions, live entertainment.

Bring your lawn chairs. Call 910.347.5332.

Danny Desens Jr. & Fallen Heroes Memorial Ride Sunday, June 27, 2010 Ride in memory of Danny Desens Jr. and all the Service members who have made the ultimate sacrifice. Registration starts at 11am. Donations are accepted for scholarships. Ride begins at 1pm. For more info, call 910.346.9997 or email teacheyc@coastalcarolina.edu.

Throughout 2010, members of the military and as many as three direct dependents may enter SeaWorld, Busch Gardens or Sesame Place parks with a single-day complimentary admission.

Visit http://www.herosalute.com/cavatx/index.html

Father's Day/Service Member Card Craft Event Family Readiness Groups will be onsite on June 5 at the Morganton Armory from 1-3pm to make Father’s Day Cards, and also at the Lincolnton Armory from 10am to 12pm.

You can also show your love for your Father or Military Member at the Lenoir State Family Assistance Center.

Walk in and make a card, at your convenience. Join us on Friday, June 18, 2010, at 2-6 pm at the Lenoir State Family Assistance Center, 1535 Beecher Anderson Rd., Lenoir N.C.

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UPCOMING EVENTS |summer fun for KIDS NC Operation: Military Kids Science Day Camps (Middle School Age Youth) June 21-25, 2010—Wayne Co. Contact: Summer E. Young or Wallace Simmons at 919.731.1527 Youngest Heroes Camp This camp is just for military kids ages 5-8. Youth will engage in traditional camp activities, sleep in cabins, and gain selfconfidence in learning management. Youth will also create a camp craft, and participate in recreational activities. This camp is FREE for military youth. Kids will enjoy rock climbing, canoeing, kayaking, camp fire stories, archery, and more. See camp options below.

Betsy-Jeff Penn 4-H Center—Reidsville, NC July 18-21, 2010 To register, go to: www.NC4H.org/centers or contact Stacy Burns at 336.349.9455.

Millstone 4-H Camp—Ellerbe, NC August 1-4, 2010 or August 6-8, 2010 To register, go to: www.NC4H.org/centers or contact Gene Shutt, Director, at 910.652.5905.

Day Camp (ages 9-12) August 2-5, 2010 Contact: Wanda Mills at 910.455.5873 Camp for Youth with Developmental Disabilities August 5-8, 2010 Eastern 4-H Conference Center Contact: Chase Luker at 252.797.4800

5th Annual

Step Up For Soldiers

Children‟s Fishing Tournament Saturday, June 19, 2010 7am-1pm ~ Kure Beach Pier Enjoy a day of fishing and fun for military kids and their Families. Pier activities include fishing, food and prizes. After the tournament, a live performance by Wilmington Police Pipe and Drum Band and from 15pm free admission to: Splash Inflatable Water Park. To donate or volunteer, call Jim Verdon at 570.971.0553.

Jacksonville TrainingAcademy Range

Fishing contest and prizes for youth up to 16 years of age; 12 and under requires an adult to accompany. Call: 910.347-5332.

Visit ww.onslowcountync.gov/parks

Bridgette Carroll KOG Coordinator (919) 693-3651 ext. 21 bridgette.carroll@us.army.mil

Kristi Wagner Youth Coordinator (919) 693-3651 ext. 23 kristi.wagner@us.army.mil

HERSHEYS TRACK & FIELD MEET

THE FIRST TEE

Tuesday, June 1, 2010 Rain date is Thursday, June 3, 2010 White Oak High School Track 1001 Piney Green Rd., Jacksonville Registration 5-5:30pm Meet begins 5:45pm

It’s tee time for children from military Families, thanks to The First Tee Military Affiliate Program. The program offers free golf instruction to children from National Guard and Reserve Families geographically separated from a military base at The First Tee’s 200 chapters across the nation. School-age children at all skill levels, from beginner to advanced, are invited to hone their golf game with the help of trained coaches. The program not only sharpens children’s skills on golf course greens and fairways, but it also provides life skills. Along with basic golf instruction, The First Tee coaches teach children interpersonal communication, managing emotions, goalsetting and overcoming obstacles. To sign up, parents can visit a First Tee chapter in their community or download a coupon for free instruction by visiting The First Tee website, http:// www.thefirsttee.org/military. The site also includes a listing of chapter locations.

Open to boys & girls ages 9-14 on/ before Dec. 31, 2010. Those who turn 15 this year are not eligible. No Charge.

Come test your skills!! If you are between the ages of 9 and 14 years old and you like to run, jump and throw, then the Hershey’s Track & Field Youth Program is for you!! A birth certificate is required to

Operation Kids on Guard

Day Drills: June 19: Kinston Armory July 10: Raeford Armory July 24: Winston Salem Armory August 21: Morrisville Armory Contact Scott Enroughty at 919.515.8500 or August 28: Asheville Armory

Kids Fishing Derby ~ June 5, 9am

Alice Dean State Youth Coordinator (919) 664-7616 alice.dean@us.army.mil

Pre-registration Required http://stepupforsoldiers.org Contact: Tom Russell: 910.297.4981, or email stepup4soldiers.aol.com

Family Camp Weekend September 3-5, 2010 Eastern 4-H Conference Center Contact: Chase Luker at 252.797.4800

scott_enroughty@ncsu.edu.

Child & Youth Program 2025 National Guard Dr. Morrisville, 27560 FAX: (919) 664-6156

Overnight Weekend Camps: September 24-26, 2010: Camp Butner Spaces fill quickly.

To learn more and to register, contact Bridgette Carroll, KOG Assistant, at bridgette.carroll@us.army.mil, or call 919.664.7664. Registration Forms can be found at www.nc.ngb.army.mil. „Family Programs,‟ „Child & Youth Programs.‟

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We Wish all Dads a Happy Father’s Day

F.A.T.H.E.R.S. "F" aithful.

"A" lways there.

"T" rustworthy.

"H" onoring.

"E" ver-loving.

"R" ighteous.

"S" upportive.

Author Unknown

Print out a Father’s Day Card on Page 6 and write a custom message for your dad for Father’s Day (provided by Microsoft.com)

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Do You Embrace Change?

Take This Quiz and Find Out

Stephanie Stokes Oliver about the power of change.

Oliver says, “Old-school songs proclaim "Everything Must Change" and "A Change Is Gonna Come." Maybe you know all of the lyrics. But do you also know how to embrace the inevitable changes that happen in life? Unfortunately, because change ushers in the unknown, most of us fear suddenly imposed situations. Yet embracing and managing what we cannot control can build character, fortify our resolve, and make us stronger. Take the quick quiz below--called it the "Test of Your Emergency-Response System"--to see how well you embrace change.”

Courtesy of niaonline.com Choose the answer that best describes your gut reaction to change.

1. You're told that a life-changing event is about to occur. You: a) Accept it graciously, even though you are secretly worried.

Scoring: You may have wanted to answer b) Get angry and berate the bearer of the news. "all of the above" for each question. That c) Ignore it until you're forced to deal with it. would be understandable, because we all experience waves of varying emotions in 2. After the shock of the change, you: times of uncertainty. However, if you ana) Make a plan of action. swered mostly C's, you are slow to accept b) Complain about it incessantly to anyone who will listen. change and may live in a state of denial c) Turn off your cell phone and take to your bed. longer than most people do. Mostly B's means you use anger to make yourself feel 3. If the change will affect your financial future, you: empowered when dealing with change. If a) Call a financial adviser or turn on Suze Orman. your answers were mainly A's, you embrace b) Call your lawyer to sue the people who imposed the change with a positive attitude. change on you. c) Continue your spending lifestyle so that no one will know.

4. To you, change signifies: a) Opportunity. b) Adversity. c) Nothing in particular.

5. When change occurs, your spiritual sense says: a) I don't know what the future holds, but I know who holds the future. b) An eye for an eye.

If you or someone you know is having trouble experiencing change, you can always take advantage of the free counseling services through the Military Family Life Consultants. These counselors don’t keep records or paperwork on who they assist, so you don’t have to worry … your privacy is maintained.

MILITARY FAMILY LIFE CONSULTANTS Free! Private! Call today!

Free Counseling, No Paperwork!

John Alleman Adult and Family Specialist john.b.alleman@healthnet.com (919) 745-9635 Betty Steelman Youth and Family Specialist bettys.ncmflc@gmail.com (919) 665-9178

Asheville: ng.mflc.lenoir@gmail.com (828) 729-0729 Charlotte: ng.mflc.charlotte@gmail.com (980) 213-6458 or 6459 Greenville: ng.mflc.greenville@gmail.com (252) 295-8558 Morrisville: ng.mflc.morrisville@gmail.com 919) 627-4360 or 4361 Wilmington: ng.mflc.wilmington@gmail.com (910) 508-6170

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YELLOW RIBBON |30th HBCT Feature Historic 30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon Event—Recap

By Angelena Dockery, NCNG Family Programs

YELLOW RIBBON TEAM 800-621-4136 EXT. 6054 John Gattis Program Director john.gattis@us.army.mil Staff

David Coffill david.coffill@us.army.mil

Adam Garrity adam.l.garrity@us.army.mil

Lola Lawson

lola.lawson@us.army.mil

Ken Martinsen kenneth.martinsen@us.army.mil

Gerald Murray

Around 11 months of planning went into the production of the 30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon Event that took place last month in May.

gerald.murray@us.army.mil

David Nobles david.nobles@us.army.mil

Chris Rosehart

SGM Tommy Gattis (Ret.), who leads North Carolina‘s Yellow Ribbon team, said, ― We‘ve been planning for this day, since the day you left.‖ Gattis encouraged Service members and Families to take advantage of the many vendors and informational briefings.

christopher.rosehart@us.army.mil

The entire Family Programs staff, Yellow Ribbon team, uniformed Soldiers, Command Leadership, and additional support were in place to make the historic 30-day Reintegration Event a success.

DON‟T MISS

“ We’ve been planning for this day, since the day you left.”

The event was held at the Koury Convention Center, in Greensboro, N.C., the only facility large-enough to house the Brigades‘ massive numbers.

Major General William E. Ingram, Jr., Adjutant General for the North Carolina National Guard, said ―There won‘t be many times in your military career that you will have this many people together to concentrate on you.‖ Ingram, who spoke during the Soldiers‘ dinner said, ―Our Yellow Ribbon Program … we‘ve done several for our returning units … but never one of this magnitude. A lot of time, energy, and effort was put into having the right people at the right time … to have you here together to understand what is going on. The theme for this is that ‗It‘s all about you.‘‖ Service members and Families applauded Ingram as he closed with, ―Old Hickory, Welcome Home. Really … We‘re really glad to have you back.‖ Colonel Cohn, NCNG J9, also told the crowd during Thursday night‘s dinner, that though it‘s been said before, ―Welcome Home 30th Brigade, I‘m glad you‘re here.‖ Additional panel members also addressed participants.

The 30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon-undertaking required an additional two hotels to help support lodging. The events, which began on Thursday, May 13, 2010, included grouped-units of the 30th HBCT rotating throughout the weekend. After the first night, the Koury Convention Center turned over the entire hotel to the North Carolina National Guard.

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30th HBCT Yellow Ribbon 60-Day Event Start: Friday June 4, 2010 at 4pm End: Sunday June 6, 2010 at 9pm Start: Friday June 11, 2010 at 4pm End: Sunday June 13, 2010 at 9pm Koury Convention Center 3121 High Point Rd.Greensboro, NC 1-130th and 638th Yellow Ribbon 30-Day Reintegration Event Start: Saturday, June 26, 2010 at 4pm Registration and vendor displays.

Sunday, June 27, 2010 Classes and Seminars 8am to 3pm Raleigh Convention Center 500 S. Salisbury Street, Raleigh, NC POC: Lola Lawson 919.664.6054

9 CONTINUED FROM PAGE 8 CHILD AND YOUTH PROGRAMS FOR REINTEGRATION The military children participated in structured activities according to age group. Little ones ages 0-4 were sat by trained professionals hired to do the job, as well as volunteers—teachers from Guilford County-— who signed on to provide assistance. Family Programs staff members assisted, as well. Yellow Ribbon also assigned a uniformed Soldier to be in charge of security. Also, in place, were additional uniformed Soldiers who manned the entrances to the children‘s areas to provide gatekeeping – one of which was a Medic.

Safety procedures included a matching band for child and parent … where only the parent that signed the child in could check that child out.

Families value those types of measures and the friendliness of staff.

Kelly Harrington, wife of SGT Avery Harrington, Co. C 1/120th, said, ―It‘s my first time leaving Emily with anyone. I called before; I was so stressed. When I found out the credentials of the staff, I was at ease.‖ Kelly also said that once she dropped off Emily and saw her walk right MAJ Robert Kemp, 30th HHC, said, ―I thought good information was in without crying or hesitation, they were okay. As for the Yellow Ribpassed out. It was good to see friends. It was easy to find.‖ bon event, the first for Mrs. Harrington, the couple said, ―It was great.‖ They both agreed that the best part was for their 21-month old daughSoldiers and Families checked into various stations to confirm their pres- ter. The Harringtons said, ―She had a blast. She was the last to leave, ence, then get their hotel information, and childcare registration (if they and she didn‘t want to go.‖ had children).

Children enjoyed a surprise visit from the Fat Cat mascot of the North Family Programs staff manned various stations daily during the event Carolina State Employees‘ Credit Union. Volunteers from 4-H gave the from 7am to 9pm to ease registration and provide assistance. Abby Mill- kids hands-on learning activities and arts & crafts. sap, Smithfield Family Assistance Center Specialist, said, ―It‘s a wonderful opportunity and that‘s why we‘re here.‖ Kristi Wagner, Assistant Youth Coordinator, said, ―I really have had several Families in awe with the variety of activities and curriculum Soldiers were set up at various points, as well, to help get the 30th HBCT that‘s taught.‖ The agenda Wagner‘s referring to is one created by FamSoldiers and Families processed efficiently. ily Program‘s Child & Youth division. It brings to life partnerships between 4H‘s Operation Military Kids and even Americore. During a YELLOW RIBBON PROGRAM AGENDA presentation before a local Congressman who stopped by, Diane Coffill, State Family Program Director, said, ―We could not take care of all The agenda included briefings on behaviors from the Military Family of our Families without partnerships because that‘s what we thrive on.‖ Life Consultants and Family Programs. To make the content as relevant as possible, Military Family Life Consultants passed out a survey to Ser- AmeriCorps volunteer Tamara Staton, said, ―We do different projects. vice members, requesting their top concerns, and, as such, the MFLCs And, we voted this year on this one. It‘s about making a difference. tailored their presentations to address those matters.

We‘re here to help the children feel comfortable. And, they do.‖ As well, medical briefings on issues such as TRICARE, Dental, VA, and While the state‘s Yellow Ribbon is fairly new, North Carolina‘s military the Vet Center took place. Moses Gloria from the Vet Center assured and civilian community are coming together to make sure that our Citiparticipants that representatives are first-hand qualified to provide assiszen Soldiers and their Families are supported. tance. ―The VA hired people within the program that know what it‘s like to serve, because they are veterans. Vet Centers have flexible hours and counselors ...‖ said Gloria.

For the first-time-ever, this Yellow Ribbon event included a mini-version of the premiere Marriage Enrichment seminars and new Single Soldier workshops.

The detail-oriented event, equipped with command center for both the Yellow Ribbon and Family Programs, also contained a finely woven, extensive Vendor‘s List. Grouped according to medical, employment, various organizations, universities, and static stations (such as Tricare, Yellow Ribbon, Family Programs, Vet Centers, etc.), Service members and Families were able to receive one-on-one information.

MAJ Kemp noted that, ―The vendors were great.‖

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Reality Set In

Feature: Reintegration |30th HBCT

By Kathryn Jarvis, NCNG Family Programs For Soldiers of the North Carolina Na- Getting things back to "normal" resounds tional Guard 30th Heavy Brigade Combat heavily in many Families and soldiers Team, their Families and friends toughest lives. Simple things like finding a bowl or challenge is living without one another spoon can be frustrating for both the one for a year. Soldiers are learning to live in at home and the one returning. One milia defensive environment, much different tary spouse said, It drove me crazy when than the life they live at home. Spouses my husband was in the kitchen and kept learn to be single or single parents mak- opening and closing the drawers. Finally I ing all the decisions for the house, their got so irritated I asked him, "What is it children and themselves. They are that you are looking for?" While she was stressed daily from worrying about the frustrated with her spouse for opening safety and wellbeing of their loved one and closing the drawers, he was frustrated deployed. However, one thought is the that he knew where nothing was. During same for both, soldiers and Families look reintegration frustration reaches multiple forward to the day of being together levels on both sides. Yellow Ribbon again. events are a great place for soldiers and Families to come together and share experiences and solutions. It is a place where SPC Cleta Kawa, they are not alone. wife of Sgt Mark Kawa, 230th Brigade Support Battalion, Company A, says, The most helpful for her was the Marriage Enrichment Seminar.

Once Soldiers return and the celebration of their homecoming is over, Families and Soldiers are faced with the true realities of reintegration. When Soldiers return home they may feel like a stranger in their own home or are faced with decisions and choices they are not use to. Military wife, Kelsey Heiney said, "When he first came home‌it was whoo, you know, good times and then it got rough." For Mrs. Heiney it was hard sharing what was her space for a year. Mrs. Heiney said, "I had the apartment all to myself for a year and so of course it's tough trying to just share the apartment with somebody." She said getting the routines together and getting use to each other has been something they have been working through and they are trying to figure out the best way to compromise.

Scott Enroughty, 4-H Operation Military Kids Project Manager, shared with Yellow Ribbon participants what Operation Military Kids does and what they offer. Like the upcoming summer camps for kids throughout the state.

The Yellow Ribbon event brought soldiers and Families a support network.

SPC Cleta Kawa, wife of Sgt Mark Kawa, 230th Brigade Support Battalion, Company A, says it is good to have these events 30, 60 and 90 days after the deployment because problems and issues do come up before returning to drill and having this information now is helpful. The most helpful for her was the Marriage Enrichment Seminar. Kawa said, "I was deployed to Iraq before but I haven't been an Army wife with my husband deployed‌In the Marriage Enrichment class they know and talked about the changes couples go through during deployments and coming home. It made me feel better to hear somebody say this,it is normal." She said it helped her and her husband understand that each of them is going through different challenges and they are not harder than what the other is facing. While he is challenged with coming back from a deployment, she is challenged with him being away. Kawa says she was glad she chose to attend the optional Marriage Enrichment class and During Yellow Ribbon events Families hopes they do it at Yellow Ribbon events and soldiers attend classes and seminars in the future. with other soldiers and Families from the same deployment. Mrs. Heiney said, " I Participants have the choice to leave the think it is good from a spouses point of Yellow Ribbon event with information view because I can meet other women"‌ and help pertaining to them and if they and "relate to them whereas over the don't find anything helpful at least they phone it is different. It is kind of hard to were able to get together with their talk to someone over the phone about "second" family; the soldiers and Famistuff." During downtime participants had lies they shared a year of their life. These the opportunity to meet one-on-one with events help Families and soldiers pick up vendors ranging from support organiza- their lives while getting to know each tions to potential employers. other again.

A major part of successful reintegration for Soldiers , their Families & friends is communication.

Resolving to openly discuss concerns and feelings can lead to a smoother transition.

Military Family

2 Registration Form

Registration Deadline: July 20, 2010 Guard Member’s Name:

Family Retreat August 20-22

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North Carolina National Guard Guard Member’s Social Security Number: Spouse Name (If applicable):

Spouse Social Security Number: Mailing Address:

Phone Number (include area code): Email (Please indicate an email address. Your registration will be confirmed via email): Military Unit: Number of Children Please List their Names and Ages Below:

Military Families deserve a break from the daily grind and chance to “reset” their life at home.

Raising a military family is a little more complicated when challenged with family life changes. Chaplains and Family Programs are bringing military Families training relevant to the special dynamics of military family life during the North Carolina National Guard‘s first Family Retreat.

Registration will begin Friday at 4 p.m. and last until 7 p.m. Following Registration at 7:30 p.m. family participants will have some time to meet others who have registered for the event.

Rooms will be available for both Friday and Saturday nights. Childcare will be provided. Children at least 8 years old and older will have the opportunity to participate in activities tailored for that age group.

Please direct questions about this retreat to: PFC Carolyn Stevens at 1 -800-621-4136 ext. 6124 or

carolyn.stevens1@us.army.mil.

Please check the appropriate boxes: □ We plan on staying at the hotel for Friday & Saturday night. □ We will commute and be there by 0800 for the start of the workshop. □ We have included the names and ages of our children. □ Enclosed a $20 per family non-refundable registration fee.

Civilian Spouses will be put on Individual Travel Orders

Make check or money order payable to: NCNG Family Readiness

Mail form and Payment To NCNG Family Programs C/O PFC Carolyn Stevens 4105 Reedy Creek Road, Raleigh, NC 27607

Mail Registration Form along with non-refundable registration fee

by July 20,2010 to: NCNG Family Program, c/o PFC Carolyn Stevens 4105 Reedy Creek Rd, Raleigh, NC 27607-6410 Please indicate on the registration form and Include: - Utilizing Hotel Accommodations or If you will be commuting, - Number of Children and their ages.

- Include your $20.00 per Family non-refundable registration fee

12 Pamela Hughes State FRG Advisor 105 West Spring Street Oxford, 27565 (919) 693-5016 ext. 11

$$$$$$$$Cut Outs$$$$$$$

pamela.hughes5@us.army.mil

Family Readiness Support Assistants Charlotte (704) 359-5707 Clinton Sarah Strickland sarah.r.strickland@us.army.mil (910) 299-5466 Goldsboro Greg Smith gregory.paul.smith@us.army.mil

(919) 739-5319 Jacksonville Judy Richardson judy.r.richardson@us.army.mil (910) 347-4352/line 11 Morrisville Jim Roberson james.roberson@us.army.mil (919) 664-7655

JOIN JSS jointservicessupport.org

Get program information, events, chat with other military Families, and more.

You will also receive emails with lots of great opportunities.

NCNG Family Programs “Guarding Families on the Homefront.”

QUICK REFERENCE DEERS/ID Cards 1.800.538.9552 TriCare 1.888.363.2273 www.tricare.osd.mil Transition Assistance Andy Jackson 919.664.6573 American Red Cross: 877.272.7337 www.redcross.org National Suicide Prevention Hotline 1.800.273.TALK (8255) Veteran’s Affairs (VA) The VA offers Readjustment Counseling Services for service members and their Families working toward readjustment.

Locations Charlotte Vet Center, 704.333.6107 Fayetteville Vet Center, 910.488.6252 Greensboro Vet Center, 336.333.5366 Greenville Vet Center, 252.355.7920 Raleigh Vet Center, 919.856.4616

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Family Assistance Centers … Here to Help

Asheville Military Family Resource Center 7 Yorkshire St. Suite C, 28803 Fax: (828) 274-8572 David Ponder, FAC Network Coordinator david.ponder@us.army.mil, (828) 274-8571

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Debra Collington, FAC Specialist debra.a.collington.ctr@us.army.mil, (828) 274-8571 Charlotte Unit Family Contact Center (UFCC) 4240 West Blvd., 28208 Fax: (704) 359-5759 Rachel Talbott, FAC Specialist rachel.talbott@us.army.mil, (704) 359-5756 Lynn White, FAC Specialist lynn.white2@us.army.mil, (704) 359-5769

Lenoir State Family Assistance Center (SFAC) 1535 Beecher Anderson Rd., Lenoir, 28645 Fax: (828) 757-4519 Nancy Davis, FAC Network Coordinator, nancy.davis3@us.army.mil, (828) 757-4365 Frances Johnson, FAC Specialist frances.johnson3@us.army.mil, (828) 757-4365 Raleigh Military Family Resource Center 130 Penmarc Dr. Suite 110, 27603/(919) 334-9966 Fax: (919) 334-9971

Fayetteville Unit Family Contact Center 449 East Mountain Dr., 28306 Fax: n/a Amy Wallace, FAC Specialist amy.wallace3@us.army.mil, (910) 672-5125

Mark Woolbright, FAC Network Coordinator mark.woolbright@us.army.mil, (919) 334-9966

Greensboro State Family Assistance Center 110 Franklin Blvd., 27401 Fax: (336) 691-7725 Katy Jones, FAC Network Coordinator katy.m.jones@us.army.mil, (336) 691-7712

Lisa Faison, FAC Specialist lisa.faison@us.army.mil, (919) 334-0196

Sandy Harrison, FAC Specialist sandy.harrison1@us.army.mil, (336) 691-7763 Greenville State Family Assistance Center 1401 N. Memorial Dr., 27834 Fax: (252) 551-6136 Dawn White, FAC Network Coordinator dawn.white@us.army.mil, (252) 551-5669 Kannapolis Military Family Resource CTR 6001 Gateway Ctr. Dr., Suite 109, 28081 Fax: (704) 359-5759 Shane Judd, FAC Specialist shane.judd@us.army.mil, (704) 788-4553 Doretha McLaughlin, FAC Specialist doretha.mclaughlin1@us.army.mil, (704) 788-4554 Kinston Unit Family Contact Center 2875 Dobbs Farm Rd., 28504 Fax: (252) 526-2772 Vacant, (252) 526-2711

Earlene Capps, FAC Specialist earlene.capps@us.army.mil, (919) 334-9957

Smithfield Unit Family Contact Center 406 Hospital Rd., 27577 Fax: (919) 934-2901 Abby Millsap, FAC Specialist abby.e.millsap@us.army.mil, (919) 934-2013 Southern Pines Unit Family Contact Center 500 Morganton Rd., PO Box 1317, 28387 Fax: (910) 692-3659 David Butler, FAC Specialist david.earl.butler@us.army.mil, (910) 692-8747 Wilmington Unit Family Contact Center 2412 Infantry Rd., 28412 Fax: (910) 251-7130 Jim Marley, FAC Specialist james.marley@us.army.mil, (910) 251-7195 Wilmington Military Family Resource Center 3114 Randall Pkwy., 28403 Fax: (910) 343-1776 Judy Howard, FAC Network Coordinator judy.m.howard@us.army.mil, (910) 343-1775 Julie Rowe, FAC Specialist

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