Family Matters November 2010 by NCNG Family Programs

Family Matters November 2010â&#x20AC;&#x201D;Volume 2, Issue 11

The Green Zone

Director’s Column . . . Hello Everyone, When we discussed what we wanted to cover in this round of our publication, we considered less of ―military‖ and, more of what unites us as ―humans‖ and what can we do to make all of our lives better. We quickly came up with ―go green‖ and our environment. From recycling to cutting back on water usage to e-books, little changes can make a big difference. It can not only save you money, but, it can also lighten the load on our environment. We hope that each of you will consider what you can do at home, at work, and at play to reduce, reuse, and recycle. So, we‘ve included a few things in this issue on that note.

Family Matters November 2010 Diane Coffill

State Family Program Director diane.coffill2@us.army.mil (919) 664-6324

SFC Calvin Buchan Family Program Assistant calvin.buchan@us.army.mil (919) 664-6124

SFC Ramona Scott Family Program NCOIC ramona.scott1@us.army.mil (919) 664-6000 ext. 7005

In our own ―go green‖ efforts as a statewide program, we utilize Facebook to let you all know what‘s going on and about those hard-to-believe specials and discounts … or the great Family photos from our events. We‘ve even ventured into Twitter-land.

SSG Kitange Jordan

As we enter the Holidays, we‘re mindful that experts say this can be one of the most stressful times of year. The ―Holiday Blues,‖ I believe. Our desire for you and your Family are that you will enjoy the season with those you love most. You‘ll see on page 8, ―Beating Holiday Stress,‖ that by creating a budget beforehand, you can avoid overspending, or by learning to say ―no‖ you can better manage your time. Sometimes in the heat of it all, you may just want someone to listen, and our MFLCs can do that. Either way, we hope you‘ll have a happy holiday season. We also hope you‘ll take advantage of the upcoming events and free resources throughout the State.

SGT Daniel Holland

Last, but certainly not least, we hope you‘ll take the time to read our Volunteer Spotlight on Kathleen Hillicke, a 19-year old volunteer that reminds us all limitations are something you impose on yourself, and each of us can make a difference.

Budget Analysis kitange.n.jordan@us.army.mil (919) 664-7583

Family Program Assistant/Warehouse dan.holland@us.army.mil (919) 664-6124

PFC Carrie Stevens Family Program Assistant carolyn.stevens1@us.army.mil (919) 664-6000 ext. 6876

Lana Greer

State FAC Coordinator lana.m.greer@us.army.mil (828) 271-5029

Kathleen Flaherty

Airman & Family Readiness Program Mgr kathleen.flaherty.ctr@ncchar.ang.af.mil

(704) 398-4949

Sincerely, Diane Coffill, State Family Program Director

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Pamela Hughes

State FRG Advisor pamela.hughes5@us.army.mil (919) 693-5016 ext. 13

Alice Dean

State Youth Coordinator alice.dean@us.army.mil (919) 664-7616

Community Cares | Brides Across America

Nationwide Military 2010 Wedding Gown Giveaway Event November 9 & 10 A Bridal World 6350-103 Plantation Center Drive, Raleigh www.abridalworld.com 919.872.7433

Brides Across America will be providing several lucky ladies with a free wedding gown. This program is available to all military branches. How To Qualify: ~You must be engaged, or had a civil ceremony and planning a wedding within the next 18 months. ~You or your fiancé were deployed within the past 5 years to Iraq or Afghanistan and have not had a formal wedding. ~You or your fiancé/fiancée is on active duty and will be deploying to Afghanistan or to a war zone territory. All military brides must bring drivers license and/or military ID. Qualifying proof must accompany the bride on day of event: Copy of deployment papers for you or your fiancé that states the time of deployment and location.

Note: Each participating bridal shop has reserved a selection of gowns to give away. Once the limit has been reached, the store will put you on a waiting list for upcoming events. Gowns are given away on a first come, first serve basis. This event is occurring in select states; times and dates will vary from state to state. To view a full listing of locations, visit www.bridesacrossamerica.com. Please contact the store closest to you for more details. If you have any questions, please email: info@bridesacrossamerica.com, or call (617) 877-6396.

FOR DETAILS ABOUT THIS PROGRAM, VISIT WWW.BRIDESACROSSAMERICA.COM

Free Respite Child Care for Deployed Soldiers The United States Army Child, Youth and School Services (CYSS) is making Respite Child Care services available for you. Give Army Parents a Break Respite Child Care will provide your Family with 8 to 16 hours of free child care each month for each of your eligible children. You can use this time to run errands, attend appointments, or just take some well-deserved time out for yourself. NACCRRA will reimburse your provider for eligible care at the Army approved hourly rate.

Eligibility Requirements To take advantage of the Give Army Parents a Break, you or your spouse need only be an Army Service Member in one of the following categories: Mission Level 1 and 2 – Eligible for 16 hours/child/month      

Deployed - for 30 days prior and 90 days after return Temporary Change of Station Permanent Change of Station TDY (90-129 days) Wounded, Ill or Injured Survivors of Fallen Warriors

HOW TO APPLY To participate, you only need to submit a short application and choose a state- licensed child care provider. You can download an application at www.naccrra.org/MilitaryPrograms/army/ getting-started.php. To find a provider who meets the requirements to serve your Family, you can contact Child Care Aware® at 1-800-424-2246 for a personal consultation or search online for providers already pre-qualified to serve Army Families in your area. For more information about other programs for Army Families, visit the Nation‘s Network of Child Care Resource and Referral Military Fee Assistance Programs Website at www.naccrra.org.

November is Military Family Appreciation Month Military OneSource is offering special events and resources for you! Treat yourself to a FREE paperback or an audio playaway book! Each Servicemember or military Family/household is eligible to order up to 10 paperback and/or Playaway books in a one year time period. Choose from a wide variety of fiction and non-fiction titles at Military OneSource. www.militaryonesource.com/MOS/

Military Families stay in touch with TROOP TUBE by Military OneSource! TroopTube is the new online video site designed to help military families connect and keep in touch while miles apart. The site is designed for easy use, so you can quickly upload videos and share the simple joys of each day with each other. Sign up today and begin sharing videos. Visit//trooptube.tv.

Don’t Let the Well Run A Family of four uses an average of 400 gallons of water a day. The average shower head uses 5-10 gallons of water per minute and accounts for 30% of total water usage in a home. An average toilet flush uses 3-5 gallons of water per flush and low and newer low-flow toilets use an average of 1.5 gallons of water. By simply turning off the water while brushing your teeth you can save nine gallons of water a day per person. To cut down on water usage in homes experts on water saving suggest: 1. When you take a shower initially only leave it on enough to get your body wet. Soap Up and then turn the water back on to rinse. 2. Use low Flow shower heads and faucet accelerators. Many low-flow shower heads can reduce your water consumption during showers as much as 40%. 3. Don't run the water continuously when shaving or brushing your teeth. Every two minutes of leaving the faucet on uses 2-5 gallons of water. 4. Wash larger loads of laundry and/or use appropriate load size and water level settings. 5. Use the trash can for grease, produce stickers and garbage. Put only food waste down the garbage disposal or better yet, compost food waste at home or place it in your yard waste bin. 6. Check for Leaks. Take a look at your water usage during a colder month, such as January or February. If a Family of four exceeds 12,000 gallons per month, there are serious leaks:  A leaky toilet can waste 200 gallons per day. To detect leaks in the toilet, add food coloring to the tank water. If the colored water appears in the bowl, the toilet is leaking.  Check your water meter before and after a two-hour period when no water is being used. If the meter changes at all, you probably have a leak.  Examine faucet gaskets and pipe fittings for any water on the outside of the pipe to check for surface leaks. Also, when we use water more efficiently, we reduce the need for costly water supply infrastructure investments and new wastewater treatment facilities. Calculate Your Water Saving at the EPA website ww.epa.gov/ watersense/calculate_your_water_savings.html

SAVINGS The average household spends as much as $500 per year on its water and sewer bill. By making just a few simple changes to use water more efficiently, you could save about $170 per year. If all U.S. households installed water-efficient appliances, the country would save more than 3 trillion gallons of water and more than $18 billion dollars per year!

Turn Off the Lights In 2008 the U.S. Energy Information Administration determined US Households consumed 4.78 Quadrillion BTU's (British Thermal Unit) or 1,379 Billion Kilowatt Hours of electricity, excluding hot water heaters. 212 billion kilowatt hours was consumed for residential lighting. While using energy efficient resources can reduce the usage, reducing consumption is something all households can do. 1. Turn off Lights and Appliances, such as televisions, dvd players, etc. when you leave the room. 2. Use the microwave to cook small meals (Uses less energy than the oven) 3. Repair leaky refrigeration systems and air conditioners. 4. Cut back on air conditioning and heating use, if you can. 5. Cut down on water consumption. Letting your faucet run for five minutes uses about as much energy as letting a 60watt light bulb run for 14 hours. 6. Use Energy Saving Power Strips to cut off televisions, home entertainment systems and stereos when not in use. Even when you think these products are off, together, their "standby" consumption can be equivalent to that of a 75 or 100 watt light bulb running continuously.

With the Holidays just around the corner, are you looking for ways to save! Contact our Personal Financial Counselor Today! David Porter Personal Financial Counselor (704) 280-9555

7. Unplug chargers and other gadgets until you need to use them. 8. Use sunlight wisely. During the heating season, leave shades and blinds open on sunny days, but close them at night to reduce the amount of heat lost through windows. 9. Configure computers to go into sleep mode or hibernate after 30 minutes of inactivity. 10. Lastly, turn off the lights outdoors. Having landscape lights or outdoor porch lights on all night uses energy that can hurt the pocket.

For more information on energy saving tips and reducing you Carbon Footprint, visit the Environmental Protection Agency website at www.epa.gov.

Information was compiled from various sources. To include: Environmental Protection Agency, Save Water NC.org, The U.S. Energy Information Administration and the Natural Resources Defense Council.

Going Green Toolkit In this toolkit, you’ll learn what it means to “go green” and how you can help protect the environment while making smarter, healthier consumer choices. You’ll find articles, online calculators, and Web sites with easy tips that can help you save money, live more healthy, and make the world a better place. Visit www.militaryonesource.com. For local assistance with Military OneSource, contact April Prout at (919) 745-0929 or april.prout@militaryonesource.com.

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Beating Holiday Stress I am feeling overwhelmed with the holidays coming up, what are some things I can do? Overloading yourself during the holidays is not fair to you or your loved ones. Consider what is most important to you during the holidays and prioritize around that. If spending time with kids and Family is the top on your list, do just that. If you are hosting a holiday meal, let others contribute to the spread. Most importantly, if you are being asked to do too much say no or find ways to make it easier.

I want my Family to have a great Christmas/Holiday but this year's budget is a little tight. Budget, explain and minimize. Set what you can afford and stick to it. It is okay to tell children/Family that you have a limit. Ask your Family if alternative ways of giving Family gifts could be considered this year. You could have a limit on how much you spend. Without hurting anyone's feelings, you and your relatives could agree to draw names and give gifts to only one or two people—instead of everyone. This way, you can save money and get a head start for next year.

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I love being with Family and friends but sometimes it is too much or hard. Families coming together during the holidays can be hard to handle if you "work" better being apart. Realize that there may be differences in your Family and try to set them aside. You have the choice as to who you want to visit and how long you stay. Remember holidays are a time of joy, avoid heated discussions or situations that have soured your holidays in the past.

Military Family Life Consultants

If you cannot be with Family during the holiday season, remember that families come in all shapes and sizes. Share this year with others who may be alone. Or, if you have lots of Family nearby and find big gatherings overwhelming, invite a few close relatives for a more manageable get-together. Talk with your spouse and Family about what you would like to try differently this year. They may feel as you do or may understand your needs and want to help you meet them.

John Alleman Adult & Family Specialist (919) 745-9635

If you find yourself missing someone who is not there or has passed away talk with Family, friends or someone who can give you the support you need. Military Family Life Consultants are there for you to support and help you when you need it. Don't be afraid to reach out to others in the same situation as you.

Betty Steelman Child & Family Specialist (919) 665-9178

Talk to John or Betty, It’s Free and Confidential* *MFLCs are mandated reporters of child abuse, domestic abuse and duty-towarn situations.

The questions and answers were from the Military OneSource Article, “Managing Holiday Stress” More Articles Can be found On Military One Source Related to Holiday Stress and Deployment The winter holidays can be stressful for anyone, but when your loved one is deployed, they can be especially difficult. You may experience a range of emotions, from worry to loneliness -- even anger and disappointment. The holidays may magnify those feelings, but they can also be a time to strengthen your emotional commitment to your service member and your Family. For more information on limiting holiday stress when your loved one is deployed see this article on www.MilitaryOneSource.com: Holiday Stress and Deployment http://www.militaryonesource.

Family Readiness Groups State FRG Advisor Pamela Hughes 105 West Spring St. Oxford, 27565 (919) 693-5016 ext. 11 pamela.hughes5@us.army.mil

Family Readiness Support Assistants Charlotte Donna Gosney donna.gosney@us.army.mil (704) 359-5707

Clinton Sarah Strickland sarah.r.strickland@us.army.mil (910) 299-5466

Goldsboro Greg Smith gregory.paul.smith@us.army.mil (919) 739-5319

Jacksonville Judy Richardson judy.r.richardson@us.army.mil (910) 347-4352/line 11

Morrisville Jim Roberson james.roberson@us.army.mil (919) 664-7655

Oxford Norman Dean norman.dean@us.army.mil (919) 693-3651 x. 27 Get an Extra hour! Turn Back your Clocks itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Daylight Savings Time November 7, 2010

Upcoming SRPs ~ November 5-7: 130th FIN DET/1452 Trans Co, Greensboro Armory 110 Franklin Blvd., Greensboro ~ November 6-7: 30th BSTB, HHC, DET 1, CO B and CO A Rear Durham Armory, 801 Stadium Drive, Durham ~ November 6-7: 30th BSTB CO C and DET 1, Wadesboro Armory 100 Anson Jr. HS Road, Wadesboro

Military Appreciation Monday Free "Thank You" Dinner Mon., Nov. 15, 2010 Golden Corral's 9th annual Military Appreciation Monday dinner was a huge success honoring over 335,000 veterans and active duty military with a free dinner buffet and beverage. All Golden Corral restaurants nationwide participated in this event to honor our military heroes, past and present. Golden Corral restaurants and guests collected a record total of over $808,000 for the Disabled American Veterans organization to be used by state and local chapters to assist veterans. To date, Golden Corral restaurants have provided over 2.5 million free meals and contributed over $4.1 million to the Disabled American Veterans organization. November 15, 2010 will mark the 10th anniversary of Golden Corral's Military Appreciation Monday dinner. The free dinner meal is a special "thank you tribute" to any person who has ever served in the United States Military. If you are a veteran, retired, currently serving, in the National Guard or Reserves, you are invited to join us for Golden Corral's Military Appreciation Monday dinner. To locate a Golden Corral near you, visit www.goldencorral.com/locator.

Above & Beyond

"Limitations Are Something You Impose On Yourself" By Mrs. Kathryn Jarvis, NCNG Family Programs

Kathleen M. Hillicke, 19 Volunteer

Kathleen Hillicke is a nineteen- year old college student in Wilmington, North Carolina. She graduated with honors from New Hanover High School and maintains a high GPA at the University of North Carolina Wilmington while earning her Bachelors of Science Degree in Business Administration with a concentration in Management Information Systems. More than a year ago she found it difficult to handle her brother, a Navy Corpsman with the 1/8 Marine Expeditionary Force, being deployed to Iraq. Kathleen said, " …I found out that I could not handle the stress of deployment on my own so I set out to find a way that I could serve while he was serving overseas. … I found out about the 1-120th Family Readiness Group (FRG) in Wilmington and I decided Continue on Page 12

Yellow Ribbon Reintegration Program Events November 5-7, 2010 113th FIN DET —30/60 PDHRA Koury Convention Center, Greensboro

November 5-6 CO A 30th STB —Reunion/Homecoming Koury Convention Center, Greensboro For additional information, call:

(800) 621-4136 EXT. 6054

Veteran’s Day to Volunteer my serv i c es wi t h them." Soon after she started volunteering, the unit began to notice her skills with computers and officially made her the 1-120th Combined Arms Battalion (CAB) FRG Information Technology Specialist. Kathleen dedicated countless hours and attended almost every event held in and around Wilmington. In her experience, Kathleen said, "… not many Soldiers know about the programs so, they don't take advantage of it. So I would say to people to ‗take the time, maybe five minutes out of your day to just ... if you know a Soldier, or if you are in a unit, just make people aware‘ … because if people don't know it makes our program less successful." She has created flyers, graphics and other materials to help get the word out and has rearranged her school schedule to be able to dedicate every Thursday to the efforts of Family Programs. (Continued on Page 13)

The Carolina Hurricanes are proud to announce a special offer to all Military Personnel and their families!

Veteran’s Night Thursday Nov 11 vs. Philadelphia 7pm In appreciation of your service and commitment to our country, the Carolina Hurricanes would like to extend to you the opportunity to save 50% off tickets for Veteran’s Night. This is an exclusive offer to veterans, active military and their Family and friends. To purchase tickets skate to www.carolinahurricanes.com\military. For groups of 10 or more feel free to contact Matt Horton at (919) 861-5458

November 11, 2010 A Brief History of Veterans Day Veterans Day, formerly known as Armistice Day, was originally set as a U.S. legal holiday to honor the end of World War I, which officially took place on November 11, 1918. In legislation that was passed in 1938, November 11 was "dedicated to the cause of world peace and to be hereafter celebrated and known as 'Armistice Day.'" Major hostilities of World War I were formally ended at the 11th hour of the 11th day of the 11th month of 1918 with the German signing of the Armistice. As such, this new legal holiday honored World War I veterans. In 1954, after having been through both World War II and the Korean War, the 83rd U.S. Congress -- at the urging of the veterans service organizations -amended the Act of 1938 by striking out the word "Armistice" and inserting the word "Veterans." With the approval of this legislation on June 1, 1954, Nov. 11 became a day to honor American veterans of all wars. In 1968, the Uniforms Holiday Bill ensured three-day weekends for federal employees by celebrating four national holidays on Mondays: Washington's Birthday, Memorial Day, Veterans Day, and Columbus Day. Under this bill, Veterans Day was moved to the last Monday of October. Many states did not agree with this decision and continued to celebrate the holiday on its original date. The first Veterans Day under the new law was observed with much confusion on Oct. 25, 1971. Finally on September 20, 1975, President Gerald R. Ford signed a law which returned the annual observance of Veterans Day to its original date of Nov. 11, beginning in 1978. Since then, the Veterans Day holiday has been observed on Nov. 11. THANK YOU, VETERANS!

Judy Howard, Family Assistance Center Network Coordinator in Wilmington said, "I worked with the Heart Association for 24 years. I retired from there. So my job was to work with volunteers and train volunteers. I would put her (Kathleen) at the very top of the list of any volunteers I've ever worked with.‖ When things began to wind down for the 1-120th CAB‘s Family Readiness Group, she decided to do even more. Through Family Programs, Kathleen linked up with Headquarters Headquarters Company (HHC), 1-120th CAB Recruiting and Retention personnel to take on the role of Volunteer Recruiter for Detachment 3. Staff Sgt. Wayne Wray, Training Non-Commissioned Officer with HHC, 1120th CAB, says Kathleen‘s "always wanting to help, wanting to do stuff and she will never once say no I can't do that." Kathleen has Spastic Quadriplegia, also known as Spastic Cerebral Palsy. A disability which inhibits her from walking and effects the left side of her body. But even with "obstacles" she keeps going. Howard said she once heard Kathleen tell the RSP Soldiers, "I may be handicapped and in a wheelchair but my mind still works." Kathleen attends every drill to help make sure new Soldiers in the unit are "squared away" and self sufficient. Kathleen said, "I have committed a lot of my time to memorizing Drill and Ceremony because I feel that not only is it important for me to know but I need to make sure that it‘s fully understood between both parties. So, I run them through the drill and ceremony with the assistance of my fellow recruiters, and I also do technology briefings to narrow down certain Army systems like AKO and other national systems like MyPay." She says if a Soldier doesn‘t know these

systems, then she is not doing her job. Wray said, "There have been times,… the guys are out there doing a run and she's in a wheelchair. She'll be right behind them in a wheelchair, running with them and coaching them on telling them come on, you can make it. It's stuff like that makes her stick out." It is not the wheelchair that sets her apart from the rest. It is her will and dedication to be the Soldier she can and do it with pride. Many people say Kathleen is an inspiration. She says she likes to hear that but she thinks otherwise. Kathleen said, "I have found a bond" and she owes her success to the "amazing Soldiers in HHC 1-120th CAB.‖ She says, "… I never like to hear the words I can't, because to be a citizen Soldier, the words ‗I can't‘ cannot be in your vocabulary. So for me to just look upon my disability, [and say] ‗oh I can't do that‘ is not a valid excuse to me. So what I tell people is ‗my disability isn't a limitation it's an obstacle. You can cross obstacles, you cannot crossover limitations. Limitations are something you impose on yourself.‘"

Thank you for the opportunity to recognize such a wonderful volunteer. –James Marley, Wilmington FAC

Meet the FAC

DEBRA COLLINGTON SUE BENNETT I grew up in Chicago, but have lived in the south for most of my 30 years of marriage. I love Western NC and my husband and three grown children call it home. After spending most of my career in the school system, I had a desire to serve the military, after my own son joined the Army. Right before my son’s first deployment, knowing nothing about the military, I had so many questions and worries. “Call rear det,” was his only answer, as he handed me the phone number. From that feeble start, and after much phone calling, I discovered the FRG and was on my way to becoming educated on how to support my Soldier. I helped start a military support group at my church, which has continued to send care packages to the deployed, assist military families locally, and supported a Yellow Ribbon Ceremony. I am excited to be a part of Family Programs. Also, located in Asheville is our new NC Employment Readiness Program Get on the Right Road To a New Career Are you looking to take your career in a new direction. Let our Employment Readiness Specialist help. To learn more, contact: David Ponder NC Employment Readiness Specialist Direct Line: (828) 274-8571 Email: david.ponder@us.army.mil

My name is Debra Collington and I was born in Asheville, NC and have lived here most of my life except for the years I was in college . I have two grown children., Toimika is the oldest and is my “ Soldier girl” just back from a tour in Iraq. My son Donald lives in Winston-Salem and works for Dollar Tree. I am “Nana” to Tayairah, Makaius, and Elaineyanna. Just saying their names keeps me pretty busy. They are active with school work, little league football, cheerleading and Jr. ROTC. Helping their mom get them to and from their various activities is quite a feat sometime. When I am not busy with my Family and my church, my favorite thing to do is to curl up in bed with a good book and a glass of sweet tea with lemon. It seems that the military has been a part of my life for many, many years. I worked for 30 years at our local Red Cross in Service to the Armed Forces and help to facilitate communication for active duty service members, their families and their commands. That was very rewarding as I got to be a part of relaying needed information in times of crisis, emergencies and even happy occasions. Starting to work for NCNG-Family Programs was very natural for me and meant that I could continue help the Soldiers who give so much to protect us. My love and respect for our Soldiers and their Families has grown since working with NCNGFamily Programs. I come to work every day with a sense of purpose and knowing that what we do makes a difference in so many lives. I stand in awe of the great service Family Programs provides ... and, such an amazing staff. Thank you for letting me be a part of such a great organization!!

Social Media Awareness FACEBOOK PLACES I CHECKED INTO APPLICATION Facebook has recently launched a new application called ―PLACES I CHECKED INTO‖, which is automatically active on all Facebook accounts until disabled. This application utilizes the IP address, to identify where the user logs onto their Facebook profile from. The application then posts the status on the wall of the user‘s profile. Social network sites already provide an extensive open source intelligence gathering tool. This application is almost creating a one stop shop targeting pack, which could potentially be used to target military personnel, Family and friends. Here are instructions on how to disable this feature if you would like to.

Join Us Online Be the first to Know Follow us on Twitter @ncngfamily Virtual Career Fair for Veterans and Their Spouses If you have not been able to attend one of the Military Officers Association of America’s (MOAA) job fairs, then their upcoming Virtual Career Fair on November 4, 2010 may be of interest to you. MOAA has teamed up with Milicruit to provide veterans and military spouses an opportunity to meet with dozens of industry leading employers from the comfort and convenience of home. Beginning at 11:00 AM Eastern Standard Time on the day of the event, jobseekers can login and visit employer booths, view or apply for jobs, watch employer videos and presentations, chat with recruiters, and conduct video interviews right from home. For more information on the virtual career fair or to register for this free event, visit www.veteranscareerfair.com. To learn more about upcoming career fairs, go to www.moaa.org/benefits_career/ benefits_career_fair_2008_info/default.htm. (Source: www.moaa.org)

“PLACES I CHECKED INTO” HOW TO DISABLE IT. The following steps enable this function to be disabled: Step 1. Click Account then Privacy Setting. On the first page that appears click Customize settings. Step 2. Under Things I share Heading, disable ―Include me in "People Here Now" after I check in‖ box by un-ticking the box. Then change the ―Places I check in to‖ tab to only me by clicking on the drop down menu on the right, choosing Custom, then Only Me, then Save Settings. Step 3. To stop other users from posting your location on Facebook, under the ―Things others share‖ section click the Edit Settings tab to the right of ―Friends can check me in to Places‖. Click the drop down menu, and choose ―disabled‖ Step 4. The final stage is to stop the application itself from automatically posting your location. You do this by going back to the first page entitled ―Privacy Setting‖. At the bottom of the page is a section entitled ―Applications and Websites‖. Click ―edit settings‖ which is highlighted blue. Click the Edit Settings tab next to ―Info accessible through your friends‖. Step 5. Then untick the boxes as indicated below, once completed click on Save Changes, then Okay on the confirmation screen.

Child & Youth Program Military Teens Engaging in Service through Technology

2025 National Guard Dr.

November 19-21, 2010 Clarion Hotel State Capital 320 Hillsborough St., Raleigh

FAX: (919) 664-6156

Morrisville, 27560

Alice Dean State Child and Youth Coordinator

Are your military teens interested in photography? Maybe creating videos? How about Improv? If so, here's a weekend just for them!! NC Operation: Military Kids (OMK) program is pleased to announce M.T.E.S.T. (Military Teens Engaging in Service through Technology) weekend retreat! Military teens will be involved with photography, creating videos, improv, scavenger hunt, writing skills just to name a few! Military teens from across North Carolina will experience a weekend of fun and hands-on activities they can use back home.

(800) 621-4136 ext. 7616 (919) 664-7616 alice.dean@us.army.mil

Bridgette Carroll KOG Coordinator

(800) 621-4136 ext. 8820

Participants will explore downtown Raleigh as part of their weekend. M.T.E.S.T. is designed for military teens ages 13-18. Cost of $35 covers meals, lodging and training materials. Register by Nov. 9, 2010. Registration forms can be found and downloaded at www.nc4h.org/military/index.html. Program be-gins Friday, November 19th at 6:30 p.m.; Program ends on Sun-day, November 21st at 11:30 a.m.

bridgette.carroll@us.army.mil

Kristi Wagner Youth Coordinator

(800) 621-4136 ext. 8820

Teens will: 

Acquire knowledge and skills in developing creative and informative presentations using a variety of different media

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Form speakers bureaus and develop presentations, public service announcements, videos, and other materials and actively seek opportunities to share their experiences with others in the community (e.g. school assemblies, Service club meetings and events, city council meetings, fairs, community activities, and teacher in-service programs).

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Gain leadership, research, organization, & public speaking skills

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But MOST OF ALL....have fun and meet other military teens!

If there are any questions, please feel free to

kristi.wagner@us.army.mil

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Family Assistance Centers

Take the Guess Work Out of the Equation Ask a FAC Near You Asheville Military Family Resource Center 7 Yorkshire St. Suite C, 28803/Fax: (828) 274-8572 Debra Collington, FAC Network Coordinator debra.a.collington.ctr@us.army.mil, (828) 274-8571 Sue Bennett, FAC Specialist susan.j.bennett.ctr@us.army.mil, (828) 274-8571

Charlotte Unit Family Contact Center 4240 West Blvd., 28208/Fax: (704) 359-5759 Doretha McLaughlin, FAC Specialist doretha.mclaughlin1@us.army.mil, (704) 359-5769 Rachel Talbott, FAC Specialist rachel.talbott@us.army.mil, (704) 359-5756

Events November 2, Election Day. Remember to vote. Polls are open from 6:30AM to 7:30PM To find voting locations in your area visit NC Board of Elections at www.sboe.state.nc.us/PrecinctFinder.aspx. November 6, Aberdeen, NC. Military Appreciation Day at the Sandhills Bowling Center, 3281 N. Pinehurst Ave ( HWY 5), from 1:00PM to 4:00PM bring the Family for free bowling, face painting and more. RSVP is required at www.surveymonkey.com/ s/ZLLDP8P prior to attending. Participants will receive a $5.00 food voucher. Military ID is required. Sponsored by the PinehurstSouthern Pines Area Association of Realtors. For more information call (910) 692-8988.

Fayetteville Unit Family Contact Center 449 East Mountain Dr., 28306/Fax: n/a Amy Wallace, FAC Specialist amy.wallace3@us.army.mil, (910) 672-5125

Greensboro State Family Assistance Center 110 Franklin Blvd., 27401/Fax: (336) 691-7725 Katy Jones, FAC Network Coordinator katy.m.jones@us.army.mil, (336) 691-7712 Sandy Harrison, FAC Specialist sandy.harrison1@us.army.mil, (336) 691-7763

Greenville State Family Assistance Center 1401 N. Memorial Dr., 27834/Fax: (252) 551-6136 Dawn White, FAC Network Coordinator dawn.white@us.army.mil, (252) 551-5669

Kannapolis Military Family Resource Center 6001 Gateway Ctr. Dr., Suite 109, 28081/Fax: (704) 788-0550

Shane Judd, FAC Network Coordinator/Legal Assistant shane.judd@us.army.mil, (704) 788-4553 Sierra Johnson, FAC Specialist sierra.johnson@us.army.mil, (704) 788-4554 Lynn White, FAC Specialist lynn.white2@us.army.mil, (704) 788-4554

November 6-7, Charlotte, NC. The 145th Airlift Wing, Air National Guard Base will be hosting a Commissary Case Lot and Army Air Force Exchange Service (AAFES) sales over the weekend of 6-7 November at the NCANG Base in Charlotte, Building # 1 -4930 Minuteman Way, Charlotte, NC 28208.

November 7, Ornament Decorating Party. Charlotte Armory, 4240 West Blvd, from 2:00 PM to 5:00 PM. Governor Perdue would like for the Military Kids of NC to decorate her holiday tree with ornaments! There will be an open visit at the mansion set for December 5th to go view the tree. All ornaments will be handmade and children will be assisted by an Art and Design Major! RSVP: Doretha McLaughlin at 704 -359-5769 or email dortha.mclaughlin1@ us.army.mil.

Events

Family Assistance

November 13, from 8:30AM to 12:30PM, Money Camp/Resource Fair at the Asheville Armory, 100 Minuteman Drive. Come and learn from the pros about jobs and the market. Special guests from the Employment Security Commission, Department of Veterans Affairs and other Veterans Groups are coming to you to share the inside scoop on marketing jobs skills and resume and job-searching techniques. While you are busy doing that, military youth can get ahead of finances during the Money Camp. The camp for military youth will teach teens about opening and managing a savings account, tips on buying their first car and getting financially ready for college. Don’t miss out. For questions, call the Asheville Military Family Resource Center, FAC Network Coordinator, at (828) 274-

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8571 or email debra.a.collington.ctr@us.army.mil.

Fayetteville Unit Contact Center Potluck Dinner and a Movie (Toy Story 3, Rated PG), November 18 from 6:00 PM to 8:00PM at the Fayetteville Armory, 449 East Mountain Drive. Resources and giveaways will be available in recognition of Military Family Appreciation Month. We will bring the movie, popcorn and drinks. You bring your favorite dish and a favorite Family story to tell to Family and friends over dinner. Pictures are welcome. Military OneSource.Com, Wednesday, November 24 at 3:00 PM, Share your ideas, opinions and experiences, or just come to learn more about a variety of topics. This month, Military Family Life Consultants will host “Staying Connected Over the Holidays.” Longdistance families, deployed service members, and busy schedules can all make it seem difficult to feel connected with loved ones through the holidays. What are some ways you keep traditions meaningful and make holiday celebrations successful as a military Family? Come share your ideas and learn from others’ experiences. To learn more, visit Military OneSource online at www.militaryonesource.com/MOS/ OnlineCommunity/ModeratedChat.aspx>

Kinston Unit Family Contact Center 2875 Dobbs Farm Rd., 28504/Fax: (252) 526-2772 Earlene Capps, FAC Specialist earlene.capps@us.army.mil, (919) 334-9957 Gabrielle H. O’Flanagan, FAC Specialist gabrielle.h.oflanagan@us.army.mil, (252) 526-2711

Lenoir State Family Assistance Center 1535 Beecher Anderson Rd., Lenoir, 28645/Fax: (828) 757-4519

Nancy Davis, FAC Network Coordinator nancy.davis3@us.army.mil, (828) 757-4365 Frances Johnson, FAC Specialist frances.johnson3@us.army.mil, (828) 757-4365

Raleigh Military Family Resource Center 130 Penmarc Dr. Suite 110, 27603/Fax: (919) 334-9971 Mark Woolbright, FAC Network Coordinator mark.woolbright@us.army.mil, (919) 334-9966 Earlene Capps, FAC Specialist earlene.capps@us.army.mil, (919) 334-9957 Lisa Faison, FAC Specialist lisa.faison@us.army.mil, (919) 334-0196 Elijah Fisher, FAC Specialist elijah.j.fisher@us.army.mil, (919) 334-0195

Smithfield Unit Family Contact Center 406 Hospital Rd., 27577/Fax: (919) 934-2901 Abby Millsap, FAC Specialist abby.e.millsap@us.army.mil, (919) 485-9565

Southern Pines Unit Family Contact Center 500 Morganton Rd., 28387/Fax: (910) 692-3659 David Butler, FAC Specialist david.earl.butler@us.army.mil, (910) 692-8747

Wilmington Unit Family Contact Center 2412 Infantry Rd., 28412/Fax: (910) 251-7130 Jim Marley, FAC Specialist james.marley@us.army.mil, (910) 251-7195

Wilmington Military Family Resource Center 3114 Randall Pkwy., 28403/Fax: (910) 343-1776 Judy Howard, FAC Network Coordinator judy.m.howard@us.army.mil, (910) 343-1775 Julie Rowe, FAC Specialist julie.b.rowe@us.army.mil, (910) 343-1775