August 2023 New England Monthly

Local Knowledge with a World of Experience

Local Knowledge with a World of Experience

Local Knowledge with a World of Experience

NEW LISTING

SOUTH DARTMOUTH $2,695,000 - Unassuming from its approach, a gravel laneway meanders through an open meadow, past ancient stone walls, and through woodlands to an exquisite home site. Totaling 26+/- pristine acres, this supremely private property is set along the Slocum River, with extensive shorefront and dock potential. Presently, a simple cabin is set on high with dramatic downriver views. Wander along the shore, launch your kayaks, fish and enjoy the peace and tranquility of this rare waterfront offering. Contact Will Milbury 508.525.5200

SOUTH DARTMOUTH $2,695,000 - Unassuming from its approach, a gravel laneway meanders through an open meadow, past ancient stone walls, and through woodlands to an exquisite home site. Totaling 26+/- pristine acres, this supremely private property is set along the Slocum River, with extensive shorefront and dock potential. Presently, a simple cabin is set on high with dramatic downriver views. Wander along the shore, launch your kayaks, fish and enjoy the peace and tranquility of this rare waterfront offering. Contact Will Milbury 508.525.5200

-Westport waterfront with dock! A long lane meanders through 25 acres of woodlands to this handsome antique colonial. Paths wander through woods and across salt marsh to a private dock on the Westport River. Privacy and tranquility abound! Contact Will Milbury at 508-525-5200.

- PRIVATE WATERFRONT ESTATE - Long drive winds through twenty-five pastoral acres to this handsome, shingle-style residence, overlooking the Westport River. Rolling lawns, meadows, gardens; a nature lover's paradise! Delightful country living at its best! Contact Will Milbury 508.525.5200 or Sarah Meehan 508.685.8926

WESTPORT $2,795,000 - PRIVATE WATERFRONT ESTATE - Long drive winds through twenty-five pastoral acres to this handsome, shingle-style residence, overlooking the Westport River. Rolling lawns, meadows, gardens; a nature lover's paradise! Delightful country living at its best! Contact Will Milbury 508.525.5200 or Sarah Meehan 508.685.8926

WESTPORT $2,795,000 - PRIVATE WATERFRONT ESTATE - Long drive winds through twenty-five pastoral acres to this handsome, shingle-style residence, overlooking the Westport River. Rolling lawns, meadows, gardens; a nature lover's paradise! Delightf ul ountryc living at its best! Contact Will Milbury 508.525.5200 or Sarah Meehan 508.685.8926

- Absolute Perfection! Breathtaking water views from most every room of this quintessential beach house set on high, overlooking Buzzards Bay and Beyond. Contact Will Milbury at 508-525-5200.

MATTAPOISETT

Extraordinary Waterfront Estate with dazzling views of Buzzards Bay and private sandy beach. Offered at $3,495,000. Contact Roberta Burke 508.498.3285

SOUTH DARTMOUTH $5,495,000 Extraordinary Waterfront Estate, only minutes from Padanaram Village. A distinctive French manor home is set on nearly 30 acres, overlooks rolling fields to the water and features a guest house, caretaker's cottage, inground pool with pool house, tennis court, stable, barn and direct harbor frontage with dock potential. Contact Will Milbury at 508.525.5200.

Extraordinary Waterfront Estate with dazzling views of Buzzards Bay and private sandy beach. Offered at $3,495,000. Contact Roberta Burke 508.498.3285

SOUTH DARTMOUTH $895,000

SOUTH DARTMOUTH $5,495,000

Extraordinary Waterfront Estate, only minutes from Padanaram Village. A distinctive French manor home is set on nearly 30 acres, overlooks rolling fields to the water and features a guest house, caretaker's cottage, inground pool with pool house, tennis court, stable, barn and direct harbor frontage with dock potential. Contact Will Milbury at 508.525.5200.

Extraordinary Waterfront Offering! Rare opportunity to purchase two adjacent cottages with a shared garage and dock on South Dartmouth's Little River. Enjoy views of the salt marsh to the water, launch canoes and kayaks, or tie up your Whaler! Offered a Contact Will Milbury at 508-525-5200.

LITTLE COMPTON $1,195,000

Casual yet sophisticated coastal living with western water views over the Sakonnet River! Custom built 3 bedroom home complete with pool, hot tub and water access. Minutes to Tiverton Four Corners and beaches! Contact Sarah Korolnek 774.644.9156

WESTPORT $1,195,000

Elegant home nestled on 1.6 manicured acres offers a fabulous, open floor plan. Tastefully renovated, design details include vaulted ceilings that allow for sundrenched rooms, chef's kitchen, floor-toceiling stone fireplace . . . Close to Westport's beautiful beaches and farmland! Contact Sarah Korolnek 774.644.9156

MATTAPOISETT $695,000

Seaside living with deeded beach rights. Charming ranch just footsteps from the water with stunning waterviews and breathtaking sunrises over Mattapoisett Harbor. Contact Patricia Hottel 508.542.2030

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SOUTH DARTMOUTH $2,975,000

Located in a highly desirable enclave, on 7.8 acres, this waterfront home boasts captivating river views, two-story guest cottage, dock and carriage house. Simply stunning and exquisitely private! Contact Will Milbury 508.525.5200

SOUTH DARTMOUTH $2,150,000

Frank Lloyd Wright inspired, this home seamlessly integrates indoor and outdoor living on a luxurious single level, overlooking Wild Pepper Farm's pond and hills and offers gardens, Koi pond and putting green. Contact Will Milbury at 508.525.5200 or Sarah Meehan 508.685.8926.

WESTPORT POINT $1,575,000

Set on high above the harbor, replete with rolling lawn, stone walls and dazzling sunsets, this Antique Gothic Revival offers 2,800 +/s.f. of beautifully renovated space while maintaining all the charm of yesteryear. Contact Kevin Quinn 774.319.3401

MARION, MASSACHUSETTS

Truly one-of-a-kind 2,800 +/- sq. ft. Penthouse unit located in the highly desirable 25 Main Street Condominium building. Nestled in the heart of Marion Village, this unit is complete with 5 bedrooms, 3 baths, off-street parking and views of Sippican Harbor!

MARION, MASSACHUSETTS

Fully remodeled antique home in the heart of Marion Village. This 3,800 +/- square foot home offers 4 ensuite bedrooms, an open floor plan, and high-end finishes. This property also offers a detached 2 car garage with separate guest suite above.

MARION, MASSACHUSETTS

Stunning waterfront property set on 2.8 acres on a private compound in East Marion. This incredibly unique, restored 1910 barn offers an open floor plan with first floor primary suite, as well as access to a shared dock and beach on Blankenship Cove.

MARION, MASSACHUSETTS

Iconic 3,560 +/- square foot antique home in the heart of Marion Village, just steps to Silvershell Beach and town center. This newly updated home offers a large great room, 5 bedrooms, 3.5 baths, and professionally landscaped .27 acre lot with outdoor shower and private patio.

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MARION $1,950,000

MARION $1,395,000

NEW BEDFORD $1,350,000

Beautifully crafted home on 2+ acres in Indian Cove.

MARION $1,950,000

Beautifully crafted home on 2+ acres in Indian Cove.

WAREHAM $1,150,000

Classically elegant cape with water views near sandy beach.

WAREHAM $1,150,000

Classically elegant cape with water views near sandy beach.

WEST HYANNIS PORT $3,900,000

Classic Cape retreat with five bedrooms and deeded beach rights.

WEST HYANNIS PORT $3,900,000

Classic Cape retreat with five bedrooms and deeded beach rights.

Custom coastal home with harbor views.

MARION $1,395,000

Custom coastal home with harbor views.

PLYMOUTH $829,900

New construction! Beautiful home near Great Herring Pond.

PLYMOUTH $829,900

New construction! Beautiful home near Great Herring Pond.

PROVINCETOWN $1,899,000

PROVINCETOWN $1,899,000

Fully furnished one level condo with panoramic water views.

Fully furnished one level condo with panoramic water views. GREATER

Historic landmark in South End, diverse commercial potential.

NEW BEDFORD $1,350,000

Historic landmark in South End, diverse commercial potential.

FAIRHAVEN $225,000

Coastal dream home with ocean breezes and Buzzards Bay views.

FAIRHAVEN $225,000

Coastal dream home with ocean breezes and Buzzards Bay views.

MEDWAY $1,550,900

Palatial, spacious home on a private 3.89 acre wooded lot.

MEDWAY $1,550,900

Palatial, spacious home on a private 3.89 acre wooded lot.

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A Home on a Hill—

BY STEVEN CHAN

HIDDEN FROM SIGHT, MAKES THIS RESIDENCE AN OUTSTANDING OPPORTUNITY AND VALUE

With a tightening real estate market, a historic home of this caliber is a hidden gem; overlooking Cohasset Narrows in Wareham, Massachusetts, the attraction for many will be its location within a private association with deeded beach rights, and the fact this town is the last bastion of affordable, sophisticated living on the SouthCoast.

Nestled on a hill, with water views, steps from the shore, with tide waters funneled from Buzzards into the picturesque channels and estuaries, creates an idyllic setting for establishing a primary or secondary residence. Of perfect size and dimension, this elegantly proportioned classical Cape Cod home has become available—but it won’t last long. With a tightening real estate market, a historic home of this caliber is a hidden gem; overlooking Cohasset Narrows in Wareham, Massachusetts, the attraction for many will be its location within a private association with deeded beach rights, and the fact this town is the last bastion of affordable, sophisticated living on the SouthCoast.

Well maintained, while waiting for some personalized updating by a new owner, the bright Georgian pine floors on the lower level, a generously sized living room with wood beams and a fireplace, a gorgeous sun-drenched sunroom surrounded by glass allowing incredible water views, elevates modern day comfort with a touch of history.

Located at Jefferson Shores, close to marinas, shopping, and the village of Buzzards Bay, home to the Massachusetts Maritime Academy, it’s the perfect setting for entertaining or having guests spend a memorable weekend away from home. The tranquility throughout the property and exceptional interior details, including a formal dining room with built-in cabinets, leaded glass, and original hardware, are delightful.

As for the second level, there’s a sizeable primary bedroom with wide plank floors, an adjoining sitting room, an ensuite bath, plus two additional bedrooms and a bathroom. Recent renovations include new windows, baseboard heat, electrical service, plumbing, insulation, and a new roof.

The home has a detached two-car garage with ample space above that would make a spacious and stateof-the-art home office suite when renovated.

Other attractions to this home include a modest association fee of $150 annually, and low taxes.

The amenities most new owners strive to be near when searching for a summer retreat are here; without the burden of ‘bridge traffic,’ and only minutes from Cape Cod, allows travel on and off the Cape to be planned efficiently. Plus, with reasonable accessibility to the mountains of New Hampshire, Vermont, and Maine, a short drive

to Boston, and under three hours to Connecticut and New York, this could be considered the perfect location for a family looking to come together for summer and special holiday celebrations. H

6 Jefferson Shores Road, Wareham, Massachusetts, is offered at $1,150,000 and represented by Berkshire Hathaway/ Robert Paul Properties, 155 Front Street, Marion, Massachusetts, with offices throughout the SouthCoast and Cape Cod. To contact the listing agent for more information or to arrange a showing, call Erin Hovan at 508-763-7676 or email ehovan@robertpaul.com.

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A Different World

INCIVILITY AND NEGATIVITY ARE RISING. WHAT CAN WE DO?

BY ROB SAINT LAURENT, M.ED

People have sensed a negative change in collective behavior since emerging from the pandemic.

One observer, having their finger on the pulse of cultural affairs and who regularly meets with a broad spectrum of society and a full range of personalities while working and traveling for pleasure, says that while many people are enjoyable and helpful, there seems to be a shift in prevailing attitude.

“While driving, shopping, or trying to engage with someone about service or to buy a product, it often appears they are angry, depressed, or almost resentful, for some reason. They react by being cold, distant, unhelpful, derogatory, or sarcastic. At other times, I’ve witnessed the discourtesy of people cutting in front of others, attempting to circumvent orderly entering or leaving an event or location, and acting as if they must get ahead of everyone else. Even worse, driving has become a nightmare—and it’s dangerous.

I can’t help but notice these changes. It is as if some folks have become less socially appropriate and resistant to positive human interaction, even when approached in a non-threatening and safe manner.”

UNCIVIL WAR

Some would argue these experiences aren’t unprecedented and that we’ve simply adapted to a gradual downward spiral that may have reached yet another new normal of rude behavior.

Long before COVID, in 2013, a national survey of 1,000 US adults showed 71 percent of Americans believed civility was declining, and 70 percent believed incivility was at “crisis levels.” People reported an average of 2.4 acts of incivility per day, mainly attributed to our politicians, the Internet, young people, and the media. At that time, the researchers said our national incivility problem was evolving into epidemic proportions and becoming a “new normal in behavior.” The discord it sows within individuals [is] felt across society.1

CIVILITY IN AMERICA 2013: BY THE NUMBERS 1

50% ended a friendship because of uncivil behavior

48% “defriended,” blocked, or hid a person online for uncivil behavior

43% expected an uncivil encounter within 24 hours

AMERICANS EXPERIENCED INCIVILITY 17.1 TIMES PER WEEK on average (8.5 times offline and 8.6 times online)

26% quit their job over uncivil behavior

24% experienced cyber bullying, a 200 percent increase from 2011

19% of parents transferred their child to another school due to uncivil behavior

87% said talking to someone in person while on their phone is uncivil

72% believed cursing is uncivil, while 63 percent see it becoming more prevalent

81% believed the increase in incivility will lead to more violence

While 95 percent of respondents believed America has an incivility problem, 80 percent believed fixing the problem starts with our governmental leaders acting more civilly.

In 2019, our feelings remained consistent, with the same national survey finding 93 percent of Americans believing incivility was an issue, 69 percent saying it was a serious issue, and 74 percent believing incivility was getting worse. 2

In The Washington Post, however, reported opinion writer, Jennifer Rubin views the national crisis as not one of incivility, but of national character. In her mind, our politics reflect our collective behavior as “craven politicians more often than not follow the herd.”3

In USA Today, author and opinion columnist, Tom Nichols observes, “a long trend of rising narcissism and a sense of

entitlement that was enabled by peace, prosperity, and rapidly improving living standards” in America. This has led to growing impatience, selfishness, self-absorption, and violent temperament.4, 3

“The pandemic”, Nichols says, “just made things worse with a surge in mental illness.”

WHY WE BECOME NEGATIVE AND HOW TO OVERCOME IT

Cynicism, hostility, filtering (focusing on the bad in an otherwise happy experience or memory), polarized thinking (if a person isn’t perfect, they must be horrible), blaming, catastrophizing, jumping to conclusions, emotional reasoning, fallacy of change (believing you’ll be happy if others or circumstances change), and heaven’s reward fallacy (assuming you’ll always be rewarded for hard work and sacrifice, then become depressed and bitter when it doesn’t happen), are common ways negativity expresses itself.5

People often become negative from depression and insecurity or low self-worth. It can also grow from chronic illness, traumatic life events, substance abuse, and personality disorders.5 Yet other reasons for negativity and bad behavior can be more societal-based, such as never-before-seen economic inequality coupled with the uniquely American value of rugged individualism, where a person’s failure is viewed as their fault, and society owes them nothing in basic social welfare. In the end, University of California cultural studies professor Roddey Reid, Ph.D. says, we shouldn’t be surprised at the level of incivility in the US; while Pier M. Forni, Ph.D., the late founder of Johns Hopkins University’s “The Civility Initiative,” said we can shift our feelings of economic insecurity into hostility on innocent bystanders in a “kick-the-dog syndrome.”6

Negative thinking can become habitual; our brains biologically steer toward sadness. This can distort reality and reinforce negative thoughts. Yet, there are ways to break the cycle. We need to become realistic optimists, discerning what is true with the capacity to see both good and bad. We need to live in the moment, replacing negative thoughts with positive affirmations. Taking time to engage in activities that promote pleasant thoughts helps. We can act on our negativity in a positive way by trying to make a change for the better.5

Along the lines of positive affirmations, loving-kindness meditation may also effectively induce positivity. A small UK study has shown that by visualizing different individuals with a mantra promoting loving-kindness, health, and happiness, depressed people were able to retrieve positive autobiographical memories (often inhibited by depression), allowing them to be kinder to themselves and others.7

Of course, more empathy can also help us treat others with dignity and respect regardless of their station in life. Not surprisingly, research has shown that people who don’t have to interface with the public are happier than those who do.

Spending time with kind, caring people can help to instill

positivity and inspire us to spread goodness. When we do, it will resonate throughout the body and soul, promoting good health, just as negativity has been shown to promote ill health.5

KINDNESS IS CONTAGIOUS—AS IS INCIVILITY

While there are influences beyond our control, if we can change the world within us, research suggests we can change the world around us.

A study by scientists at UCLA’s Bedari Kindness Institute, established in 2019, illustrates how positive actions can radiate like sunlight. The study consisted of 8,000 people covering 15 experiments, 11 online and four in-person, on the streets of Los Angeles. Half the participants viewed the popular video “Unsung Hero,” which follows a young man’s daily life and random acts of kindness. The other half viewed a control video of impressive athletic feats. In-person participants were paid five one-dollar bills, then asked to donate to UCLA’s Mattel Children’s Hospital in an envelope while the researchers looked away. Those who viewed “Unsung Hero” gave 25 percent more than controls. 8

In an online experiment using the same model, participants were asked if they’d be inclined to give to a worthy cause if their donation was matched by their employer. Results were similar: 67 percent of “Unsung Hero” viewers versus 47 percent of controls said they’d be inclined to give. 8

Said institute director Daniel Fessler, Ph.D., “Each of us is kind to someone, and therefore has the potential to be kind to everyone—even those with whom we differ.” His team believes the impetus to spread goodness comes from “elevation,” that uplifting emotion often felt in our chests, along with goosebumps and even tears.

UCLA’s findings are supported by a large analysis of decades of research on the spread of kindness. Synthesizing results of 88 experimental studies with more than 25,000 participants who viewed or read about acts of kindness showed a moderately strong altruistic effect. People tended to act kindly when they saw others doing it. Said lead researcher Haesung Jung, “People resonate when they watch someone do something good. The message that these prosocial behaviors are quite contagious is a really important message that people should know.” The findings imply that humans are prosocial by nature but need inspiration to act.9

Likewise, research also demonstrates how bad behavior can spread like a virus.

A study on workplace incivility led by University of Arkansas management professor, Christopher C. Rosen, Ph.D., found that workers who experienced incivility (put-downs, sarcasm, etc.) earlier in the day [had] reduced self-control. This, in turn, led to them perpetuating acts of incivility later in the day.10

In another study, researchers at Sweden’s Lund University surveyed nearly 3,000 hotel and restaurant workers for a rela-

tionship between incivility, workplace satisfaction, and wellbeing. Incivility was a major driver of worker dissatisfaction, was most often done after witnessing a coworker do it, and was most likely to harm well-being when done by a supervisor.11

Overall, workplace incivility research suggests that workers are more likely to engage in rude behavior after they’ve experienced it themselves.

BECOMING MORE CIVIL

Stress is undoubtedly a significant catalyst of incivility. But as is the definition of civility, there are ways we can become more polite in our behavior and speech.

The former head of the UMass Chan Civility Committee, Yasmin Carter, Ph.D., explains four methods she believes are best at promoting civility at work and in the world at large.12

Carter suggests practicing active listening. Speaking civilly means allowing for the free exchange of ideas with respectful disagreement. Listen intently to others’ views without interruption, realizing that you may be wrong and need to admit that you don’t know something, and listening to others’ ideas and criticism may be valuable.

Pick your battles wisely. Not every occasion is appropriate for heated discussion. Ask yourself if it will benefit the other person and yourself or only cause harm. Will criticism be constructive?

Stand up to uncivil behavior. Hold perpetrators of bad behavior accountable, which can be done politely and with determination. Even if the uncivil behavior doesn’t stop, the show of support can make an impact.

Practice gratitude. Noticing even small examples of beauty and looking at the bright side of circumstances takes practice for many, but research shows it can be uplifting for us and others.

How important is acting and speaking civilly? History is rife with examples showing that the very existence of a society depends on getting along.

Says Rubin, “Unless we all shape up, demand better of ourselves and others, and reassert basic social norms, democracy, and social cohesion will continue to unravel.” H

1. Weber Shandwick. (2013, July 30). Seven in 10 Americans Believe Incivility Has Hit Crisis Levels [Press release]. PR Newswire.

2. Weber Shandwick. (2019, June 26). Civility in America 2019: Solutions for Tomorrow.

3. R ubin, J. (2022, January 4). Americans’ Behavior Gets Worse. No Wonder Our Politics Is Lousy. The Washington Post.

4. Nichols, T. (2021, August 19). Trump is not ruining democracy, we are. And it’s been anguishing to confront. USA TODAY.

5. M aloney, B. (n.d.). The Effects of Negativity. Marque Medical.

6. W illiams, R. (n.d.). The Rise of Incivility in America.

7. P ublic Library of Science. (2023, June 28). Kindness meditation helps people with depression recall positive memories, study finds. Medical Xpress.

8. Wolf, J. (2023, January 5). Is Kindness Contagious? UCLA Magazine.

9. Suttie, J. (2020, November 18). How Kindness Spreads in a Community. Greater Good Magazine.

10. R osen, C. C., Koopman, J., Gabriel, A. S., & Johnson, R. E. (2016). Who strikes back? A daily investigation of when and why incivility begets incivility. Journal of Applied Psychology, 101(11), 1620-34.

11. Holm, K. Torkelson, E., & Bäckström, M. (2015). Models of Workplace Incivility: The Relationships to Instigated Incivility and Negative Outcomes. BioMed Research International, 2015, Article ID 920239.

12. C arter, Y. (n.d.). The Importance of Civility in Trying Times. UMass Chan Medical School.

PAD’NARAM BRIDGE Impressions

BY PEET NOURJIAN

In winter Bridge Street white with snow

Is where young downhill sledders go

In summer that street carries you

To a bridge with a postcard view

The Village from the harbor side

Its waterfront uniquely tied

To sailing yachts and powerboats

And dinghies tethered to the floats

Across the bridge cars come and go Until the traffic starts to slow Draw bridge opening stops the flow As tall ships slowly pass below

The drivers are okay with that They get out and enjoy the chat Locals, renters, folks passing through Answer the question “Hey, what’s new?”

A dozen sails bulge in the breeze

Small yachtsmen racing on their knees

Around the red can one by one

Salt spray sparkles in the sun

Yacht club cannon fires a round

Shore birds scatter at the sound Harbor reflects the starry night

Below decks glow in amber light. H

IS YOUR PARTNER HIGH-VALUE?

Suppose you spend time on social media, particularly TikTok or Instagram. In such a case, you’ve probably heard—and watched, countless reviews and personal recommendations by those pretending to be relationship experts, who often share faulty advice as to how and where to find and hook onto what has flooded the vernacular as ‘High-Value’ men and women. Unfortunately, these cultural Gurus focus on appearances and perceived wealth when looking for a connection rather than evaluating emotional integrity, reliance, and other vital behavioral traits.

We have become a society engulfed with unrealistic illusions of what perfect men and women look and act like. What’s missing is attention that should be paid to the red flags that appear when meeting someone you’d like to pursue long-term.

Searching for the ideal mate, based on conversations and tips offered to a confused audience, abound; here is one

of the most egregious pieces of advice we’ve heard. “Girl, you want a man who can afford to treat you like your worth; he’s got to have money, a couple of houses, nice cars, and bring you on vacations—not just around the block but International travel to start—that’s High-Value!” Interestingly, missing from the list is any mention of emotional connections; the only concern seems to be about the ‘Benjamins.’

From the man’s point of view (one with similar misconceptions about partnering), the picture is similarly shallow; they want a woman on their arm who looks and acts like an escort— but behaves like the proverbial nun; she has to be trustworthy and loyal, dresses like she’s hitting 5th Avenue for a day of shopping 24-7, and will bed him upon request, in between cooking, cleaning and putting up with his childish antics.

If these examples sound farfetched, take a step back and look at the list of celebrities, actors, actresses, millionaires, and billionaires the paparazzi are exposing. The photographers, PR people, and gossips share stories of hangers-on chasing fame and money in the hope of

tying the knot, even if temporary, with a calculated plan for a payout later.

Here is what the formula looks like: Take the age of the couple, divided by two; this equals a 30+ year difference, add an income ratio of one partner’s net worth ($10) to the others ($10 to the power of 10 = $10 billion US), subtract alimony, child support, and living expenses deducted from an un-enforceable prenup agreement and, well, you get the picture.

Is it a sign of the times or misguidance?

It’s difficult to identify, but it fits the narrative of current research showing half of marriages ending in divorce, 20 percent participate in one or more affairs, another 20 percent are unhappy but stay in the unsatisfying relationship, leaving roughly 10 percent who enjoy their partner’s company. Such statistics indicate couples are making serious mistakes when choosing a love source.

WHAT IS ONE TO DO?

Youth is magnificent; it delivers fabulous hormonal highs that rationalize and justify almost every decision, and when it comes to relationships, the more,

The Truth & Misconceptions Deciphered BY STEVEN CHAN

the merrier, the richer, the better.

Conversely, age corrects faulty vision, making clear that after not so many years, the glitter dulls, gravity tugs, and weight piles onto slim bodies, leaving the spoils to a new herd of trendsetters lining up for their taste at the trough.

The truth about what it takes to be a High-Valued person of interest may sound antiquated—even listless. Still, if that’s the intended objective, it is a sure way of finding compatibility and happiness for a long time.

Before we delve into the qualities singles should include in their search; it should be noted that the person you choose to share your time, even life with, will have an unrealized influence upon you, making it essential to find a suitable match. There’s nothing worse than ending a failed relationship 10 or 20 years after, finding yourself at the starting gate again.

Quality men need support and will accept a women’s guidance—they listen and deliver on promises because they understand quality women seek safety, security, and respect. This combination of expectations is the first step in preparing for a joint journey.

Something else to touch upon is the concept that water seeks its level. Having unrealistic expectations due to unequal skill sets, education, physical attributes, emotional intelligence, and career choices will reduce your pool of qualified candidates.

When individuals have different strengths and weaknesses that complement each other, the two personalities complete the concept of “Yin-Yang.” The female/male energy shapes and bonds together for a lasting connection; such variety is believed to be the glue of a relationship.

Here’s what partners should present and expect from those they invite into their lives. It’s a best-case scenario, but what little you take away from these attributes will assist you in your search for lasting love.

Best of luck! H

1. AUTHENTICITY, KINDNESS, EMPATHY & COMPASSION

These traits are easily recognized and verified; they treat others with respect and courtesy, especially when being served or interacting in a position of dominance or control. It’s never a oneoff; they are consistent across situations.

2. SELF-AWARE, OPEN TO DISCOVERY

Being able to acknowledge others have opinions, they don’t feel it necessary to debate or attempt to force their ideas on others, they are comfortable with their theories and positions, yet a High-Value person is open and willing to hear and learn from others.

3. SECURE, SELF-LOVE & CARE

They exhibit these attributes through open dialogue rather than ignoring, hiding, or denying feelings. Rather than displace or project negative thoughts and feelings, they are comfortable sharing a conversation about the impact of adversity and addressing their needs without embarrassment. Vulnerability is to be shared by partners.

4. KNOWING ONE’S VALUE

Accept their station in life with the knowledge it is a temporary place and can change at any time. They are secure in sharing their emotional, financial, romantic, and sexual assets. Those who understand and accept themselves realize they have value and self-respect and can set boundaries so others know what is unacceptable. They don’t hold grudges but can separate if necessary.

5. MATURITY & SELF-SUFFICIENCY

High-Value individuals are fun to be with but don’t accept unnecessary risks and are protective of those they care for; they can also care for themselves and don’t rely upon or blame others for their position, pleasure, or unhappiness.

6. PASSION & DESIRE

Sometimes overt, while at other times, their drive can be felt; they strive to meet goals and expectations.

They are willing to share all they earn or accumulate and view a relationship as a partnership, working with and off the strengths of their loved one.

7. PRESENTATION

These individuals hold themselves to a standard in grooming and dressing. Their reflection on others confirms their taste, preferences, class position, and importance. Regardless of the situation, they will stand out and be recognized.

8. FIDELITY & LOYALTY

Paramount in a healthy relationship, trust, and assurance of commitment are expected and demonstrated. They refrain from embarrassing their partner; absent is flirtatious behavior directed at others. Reliance and integrity are graciously given and accepted without expectation. They don’t need opposite-sex friends to feel fulfilled.

9. ECONOMICS

It is a consideration, not at the top of the list, but it has its place. High-Value partners have means and are responsible stewards for earning and preserving wealth. They will be beyond median income earners and enjoy expressing their good fortune. Although they are clearly successful, they don’t need to announce their worth.

10. SENSE OF ADVENTURE

High-Value individuals and couples thrive on experiences and discovery; they travel, explore, and are active. They seem to know what’s new and where to find it; they strengthen their bonds through joint activities and those they participate in with others.

11. MENTAL & PHYSICAL HEALTH

They are proactive in maintaining their mental and physical health; their appearance is important, and they expect it to be to their partner. Youthful and energetic, it’s easy to recognize the people you want to meet and engage with. They don’t advertise their desirability; they’re being themselves. High-Value people attract all types, causing a difficult choice to be made; who is a correct fit?

Celebrating a Community’s Rural Roots –The South Coast Harvest Festival Is On!

An Enchanting Social, Educational & Interactive Weekend of Events Running Over Three Days, September 29-October 1 For The Entire Family

The SouthCoast’s magnificent history and work ethic continue to be admired for the salvation of its vast preserves, farms, stables, gardens, and shores.

Possessing a rich heritage and a near perfect climate for growing crops and flowers and raising livestock all can be found in the overlapping coastal regions of Massachusetts and Rhode Island. The two adjacent states share similarities and interests in promoting the unspoiled beauty found in the fields, pastures, and woodlands from Rochester, Massachusetts, to Newport, Rhode Island, and many towns and villages between them.

The overlay is significant due to their sharing of the Atlantic coastline and the seamless accessibility to roam for miles. It’s vital to recognize the importance of maintaining the uniqueness and character of the back roads and dirt paths and be conscious of efforts to over-develop an already squeezed area.

For these reasons, two residents, Michelle and Brian Peay of Westport, decided to bring awareness to a region they cherish, knowing that showcasing the core of the people, crafts, and trades is a message that needs to be shared far and wide.

In speaking with the award-winning garden and landscape designers, they believe it’s their mission to invite the community to celebrate an authentic New England lifestyle that many have only read about. Additionally, their purpose is to honor and support preservation efforts

while acknowledging and celebrating those who invest and assist a future of agriculture along the SouthCoast.

Kicking off the fall celebration is a Grand Garden Illumination Preview Party, from 6–9 p.m., on Thursday, September 28, with a portion of the proceeds benefiting the Westport Fair Agricultural Scholarship Fund; this evening will be followed by programs commencing on Friday and Saturday, 10 a.m.–8 p.m., and Sunday, 10 a.m.–6 p.m. Tickets will be available at the door or in advance at eventbrite.com/e/south-coastharvest-festival-tickets-468474468747.

The South Coast Harvest Festival will be held at the Westport Fairgrounds at the heart of Westport; the one-of-a-kind event will feature professionally designed gardens, complete fall floral displays, scarecrow creations, antique tractor displays, and procession, live music, autumn-themed foods, marketplace vendors, a pumpkin carving artist, garden talks and demos on topics such as pollinator gardens, beekeeping, mushroom log demonstration, a live Owl program, and children interactive activities.

The Full Harvest Supermoon overlooking the South Coast Harvest Festival will add to the enchantment! H

For more information or to become a vendor, presenter, or volunteer, contact michelle.scharvestfestival@gmail.com, karen.scharvestfestival@ gmail.com, southcoastharvestfestival.com, or call 401-265-4116.

Tickets are now available: Advance: $15; Day of the Event: $20; Seniors & Veterans: $10; Children Under 12: $5; and Ages 1-5 are free.

Who’s Wealthy, Who’s Rich; Is There A Difference?

BY ROBERT WRIGHT

Being wealthy or rich (I’ll explain later) is more than having money; it’s connected to the degree of comfort and contentment one feels. And, while everyone has heard “money doesn’t buy happiness,” there’s proof the quote is false; assets and cash flow provide a necessary support system delivering opportunities that are quite pleasant.

Still, it’s critical to understand that even with millions in the bank, everyone

experiences waves of anger, heightened anxiety, a barrage of disappointment, and ruminating thoughts, “If I only had more money.” We’re humans, and there is no escaping our constant need to reach for greater satisfaction.

Don’t fret; the highs you’ll experience by hoarding cash will hopefully smooth the edges of those difficult days.

Before we begin, let’s rank how many achieved the financial success they desired in years past; sure, a few of these tactics might appear dated, but many of the world’s wealthiest built their

fortunes utilizing these techniques:

1. I nvent Something

2. Create a Monopoly

3. Budgeting

4. E arning and Saving

5. I nvesting and Compounding

6. I nheriting Assets

7. C areer Politics

8. Transactional Relationships

9. Marriage

And today, well, things have changed slightly.

1. I nvent Something

2. Technology, Data Collection & Surveillance

3. I nfluencing, Podcasting, and Host on OnlyFans or FansOnly

4. C areer Politics

5. R eal Estate Development

6. I llicit Behavior (including stock trading on inside information, scamming the SBA’s PPP loan program, bribery, drugs & extortion, and the list goes on)

7. Transactional Relationships

8. Marriage

These examples may not be precisely in the order you’d view them. Still, they get the point across that the steps necessary to become affluent have been modified over generations and a marathon of cultural changes.

Is there a difference between being rich versus wealthy?

There sure is, and I’m pleased to report that being wealthy is better because it’s built on a foundation of future security, while being rich is subjective, equated to running on a treadmill; when you stop, so does the cash.

WEALTHY PEOPLE INVEST, RICH PEOPLE SPEND

You might believe the words rich or wealthy are interchangeable, but I assure you they’re not. Each lifestyle is vastly different; one spends rigorously on flaunting their newfound rewards,

referred to as ‘nouveau riche,’ a term founded in ancient Greece, while the other focuses on sustainability for themselves and their legacy, their money comes from the monetary practices of their lineage, not a paycheck.

The thought processes of each group are simple to understand; those with actual wealth live in the future, while the rich live in the moment. Each group has money to splurge, but often, the spendthrifts go broke far more frequently than those with a long horizon.

When comparing the two mindsets, factors related to income, net worth, debt, and liabilities are markedly different. Expenses take up a majority of a rich person’s monthly income due to an extravagant lifestyle. In contrast, wealthy people have control over their expenses, with monthly earnings making little difference to their bottom line. A rich person might yield a greater income, but their net worth pales to a wealthy person.

Wealthy people don’t take loans; they are the bank; their purchases are made in cash, and the only interest they concern themselves with is earning potential through investing or loaning others their money.

The rush to catapult attention to oneself and capture feelings of exuberance by attracting followers on whatever media platform suits their taste, being seen in the right bar or restaurant, or getting into the most notable club, often results in a hard landing at the most unpredictable moments; the news is filled with personal tragedies.

As for those willing to act and plan for a steady climb in stature and assets, here are a few tips.

1. H ave a working plan; outline the steps you need to take to create wealth. Budget, save, and invest as often as time and resources allow; make it part of your lifestyle, and it will quickly become second nature

2. Budget and stick to it. Be conscious of every dollar you spend and aware of each you save. There’s nothing wrong with amping up your lifestyle at times—enjoying yourself is a gift, but examine how you can live well and not be foolish with expenditures; respect for money is vital to creating wealth.

3. H ave goals and monitor them frequently. As your efforts become a reality, your level of motivation will continue to grow exponentially. Such a cycle will yield positive results.

4. P urchase assets, not liabilities; real estate, yes, a $250,000 Porsche— probably not.

5. D on’t borrow money and keep your debt to near zero. Some will tell you paying interest on loans while investing your money makes sense. Yes, it can make sense under specific conditions, but not in the early stages of developing a plan. The goal is to reduce risk, not chase it.

6. I nvest wisely and often. Timing the market is attractive, but history shows a continuous investment in equities wins the race.

Some advice I once heard, albeit not politically correct, I will modify the thought for the safety of all enjoying this feature.

A wealthy person who owned a company that had recently employed new hires found he/she/zie at a company-sponsored luncheon.

In awe of what the owner had created, one of the young executives asked how they could duplicate her/his/zir success.

Leaning back in her/his/zirs chair, she/he/zie paused and then grinned, finally responding with, “I never lost a male, female, transgender, gender neutral, non-binary, agender, pangender, genderqueer, two-spirit, third gender, and all, none or a combination of these people, chasing money; but, I have lost money chasing them!”

Truth be told—good luck. H

NEWPORT PRESERVATION SOCIETY CEO TRUDY COXE, HONORED FOR LEADERSHIP

BY NATALIE SIMMONS

If you hadn’t heard, and you indeed should have, the head of the organization that operates one of the most high-profile attractions worldwide was recently awarded the Trinity Rep’s Pell Award for Outstanding Leadership in the Arts. At a gala held in Providence, Rhode Island, Trudy Coxe, and three other residents were recognized for their contributions and advocacy to improving life for Rhode Islanders and all who visit the Ocean State.

A significant milestone for Coxe, she joins the ranks of others demonstrating a commitment to the community, including actors Ted Danson and Mary Steenburgen, who received the 2023 Pell Award for Lifetime Achievement in the Arts.

Coxe commented, “I have been to several award ceremonies in the past, and I can honestly tell you I never thought I would end up on the stage receiving a Pell Award, so this is a really special night for me.” Noting the importance of her long relationship with the late Senator Pell, who hosted numerous fundraising parties for Save The Bay while Coxe ran the highprofile organization. “I will always be grateful [to him]. More recently, there is not a day of the week I don’t think of him.”

Coxe recalled working with Danson when he visited Save The Bay to gain insights into activism and advocacy after founding the American Oceans Campaign.

As the leader of the Newport Preservation Society of Newport County, Coxe is recognized for her tireless efforts in raising millions of dollars to restore and preserve the

Newport Mansions for generations to come.

Under Coxe’s watch, implementing an aggressive plan to ensure the long-term conservation of the ‘cottages’ has become a reality. Her sucessess include:

n Achieving re-accreditation by the American Alliance of Museums—fewer than 900 of the 35,000 museums in the US are credentialed.

n Establishing a Fellows program for emerging scholars.

n Initiating a vibrant exhibition program and converting the second floor of Rosecliff into a museum exhibition space.

n Organically growing the organization’s membership from 3,800 to 48,000 supporters.

Coxe also played a crucial role in convincing HBO and Julian Fellowes to film the new historical drama The Gilded Age in Newport, making numerous locations at various Preservation Society Mansions available for filming, and hosted innumerable authorities and celebrities as speakers and guests to its 11 historic properties. H

Trinity Rep’s Pell Awards were established in 1997 to honor the legacy of Senator Pell and recognize artistic excellence in Rhode Island and the New England region as well as on the national level.

The Preservation Society of Newport County is an accredited Museum dedicated to preserving and interpreting historic architecture, landscapes, decorative arts, and social history.

Left, Ted Danson, Mary Steenburgen, Trudy Coxe, and Keith Stokes, member of the Preservation Society’s board of trustees, introducing Coxe for the Pell Award for Outstanding Leadership in the Arts.

SUMMER DESTINATIONS THAT THRILL, CHILL, EDUCATE & INVIGORATE

Our Recommendations For August Travel You’re Sure To Love!

BY STEVEN CHAN

Depending on your expectations, sense of adventure, and willingness to get out of your comfort zone and explore new locations, one or all travel picks will satisfy your curiosity with accurate, no-holds-barred reviews based on our experiences, comments from other travelers, and the opinions of locals about their place in the sun.

Each review begins with an introduction to the ‘Vibe’ you can expect to feel upon arriving at your

destination. Yes, it’s subjective, but insight into the tone and customs of a region can offer a baseline for which your feelings can be included when deciding whether the summer vacation spot is worthy of a second visit and recommendation to friends and family. Our list varies, focusing on a hierarchy of value, amenities, luxury, and expectations; with this information, we hope to share the uniqueness and distinctiveness characterized by local culture, economics, and general appeal specific to a visitor’s lifestyle and tastes. H

VIBE: Out at sea and isolated from the mainland, you feel like an upscale castaway. The dress code is expensive casual and comfortable. Everyone is there for the same reason, so the timber is agreeable with unforced comradery amongst strangers; everyone goes out of their way to be courteous and cordial; that includes other tourists, shopkeepers, and locals. Stunningly beautiful, the town center is filled with travelers enjoying Nantucket’s history, carefree lifestyle, and affluence; in contrast, inland and along the opposite coast— facing the Atlantic, it’s relaxed and unassuming. Nantucket is the perfect place to unwind and feel willfully entitled to a connection everyone seems to enjoy at the magical and one-of-akind Island resort.

PROS: C asual, upscale, and friendly

L uxurious surroundings and amenities

L ittle packing required

CONS: E xpect to leave a significant investment on the Island

Intown traffic

H aving to leave

GETTING THERE: Multiple ferries run daily and will assure your timely arrival, but don’t consider bringing a vehicle—you would have had to book its passage last year. The airport is a helpful alternative but is sometimes subjected to fog, which could delay your stay or departure.

TIPS: Make all reservations required as early as possible and be flexible, especially when dining out.

Plan an evening meal at LoLa’s next to the White Elephant; it’s wonderfully delicious!

NANTUCKET ISLAND An Oasis On The Atlantic Ocean

THE MAIN EVENT

The Island reeks of wealth and privilege, and no one seems offended—as they shouldn’t be. It’s a large summer playground catering to the whims of economic titans and everyone else. The commerce witnessed serves as a barometer of the country’s financial strength; there’s no shortage of willing and able customers lining the cobblestone streets.

Enjoying a tour around town can take a full day; the historical port is lined with galleries, real estate agencies, fashion boutiques, restaurants, hotels, and every imaginable service or product desired.

Car and bike rentals and visits to the Whaling Museum, the Island’s lighthouses, fishing excursions, whale watching, and sandy beaches are popular. Nantucket is highly romantic, but it’s not a singles resort; bring what you need. The Island is famous worldwide for the number of proposals, engagements, and weddings—it must be something in the water!

Whether you visit for the day, week, month, or season, Nantucket is one of the most remarkable settings for a summer retreat. It can become crowded in season, so patience is required, with a prevailing attitude, “We’re all in paradise together.” H

VIBE: Far from Kansas, it offers the excitement of Oz.

The most recognized summer spot in the nation is on fire. The combination of jetsetters, world travelers, and celebrities, accompanied by the refinement and trappings of unleashed extravagance found on the southern folk of Long Island, is translated to—one hell of a good time!

The Hampton and “The End,” a subtitle describing the tip of Montauk, is an incomparable summer vacation packaged in luxury, intrigue, and mystery.

Busy, influx, enlightening, and hip only nicks the surface of describing what vacationing on the Island is like.

The passion and thrill of Montauk and the Hamptons is contagious, and once you get bit, there’s no cure.

PROS: The beaches are to die for!

Active nightlife

Ocean-front accommodations

Beautiful & sophisticated

CONS: Resevations are scarce

Difficult getting into the best clubs & restaurants

Cover charges are $$$$; one popular club’s entry is $600-$800 per person (but you mingle with supermodels and celebrities

GETTING THERE: You can drive—if you’re a masochist; but, better, to take one of the many ferries, some offering vehicle transportation, others not. Or, you can book a private air service and indulge in an opportunity to blow air kisses upon arrival with people you just met.

TIPS: It is worth booking one of the many hotels on the beach

Reserve Early!!!

MONTAUK & THE HAMPTONS If You Haven’t Been, You Haven’t Lived!

EXPECT THE UNEXPECTED

The journey to Montauk and the Hamptons begins with excitement the day you make your reservations and begin to pack. From there, the thrill grows with each step closer to your destination. The people you meet, the weather, views, scenery, and the noticeable extravagance of upscale living engulf all senses.

With a reliance on tourism, this legendary resort community is home to some of the most notable personalities and ensures a higher standard of care for all visitors—it is expected and delivered.

Montauk and the Hamptons is a top-tier vacation and not for the weak; it’s youthful and inspiring; however, if you’re not interested in a fast-paced, over-the-top social drowning day and evening, or are restricted by a credit card limit, then take a pass because you won’t become fully immersed in the experience.

What is there to do; how about anything you want? By day, swimming, surfing, fishing, if it has to do with water, it’s here. Then, there’s shopping and snacking—it’s everywhere.

Regarding romance, feel free to take your chances; traveling with or without a companion will work, but be advised, this is a hunting ground for love, and every one is loaded for bear. H

VIBE: Spirited & Driven By Desire— Morning to Night

Staggering displays of wealth and influence capture attention and all the senses; strolling along historic Bellevue Avenue and standing in the shadows of Newport’s famed Mansions immerses minds in contemplating what life was like when America attempted to create its version of royalty.

The City by the Sea envelops the soul with feelings of pleasure, partly due to the surrounding activity but more likely due to the breathing in of air containing atoms having an extra electron.

Youthful, carefree, and determined, those choosing Newport as a destination have their eyes on the prize, regardless of what it might be.

The Island is a place to find those at the top of their game in business, politics, and personal endeavors, exemplified by the Newport-based 11th Hour Racing Team, commanding a win in the 14th edition of the round-the-world Ocean Race last month.

You cannot feel less than a valued contributor to the community by the example of the many philanthropic events and organizations open to all.

PROS: Rocking good nightlife

Quality, upscale harbor-side restaurants

No shortage of accommodations

Easy to reach

Good value

CONS: W hen Newport closes, it gets deserted and creepy, quickly

Drivers aren’t as polite as in other resort areas

Service is unpredictable

L ack of parking

A n overload of bridal parties— could they find another place to get inebriated?

GETTING THERE: It’s a piece of cake; there are a few ways in if driving, many arrive by boat, some fly into T.F. Green International Airport in nearby Warwick, Rhode Island, or limited ferry service.

NEWPORT Is For Winners!

LIKE NO OTHER

Speaking with slight variations, nearly everyone feels the same; no other place comes close to resembling or imitating Newport. Enticed by the landscape and how it accommodates an enormous amount of activity and events—often within walking distance—the Island, yes, it too is an Island but accessible by bridges, has a distinctive and noble aura that draws a plethora of local, regional, national, and International visitors and tourists. While the beaches don’t impress, sailing, fishing, Mansion tours, the Cliff Walk, and nautical-themed shopping keep everyone busy.

Live music echoes from a dozen or more locations, each offering a slightly different twist, attracting varied audiences.

Recognized as an ideal location for couples proposing and exchanging vows—followed by glorious receptions—there’s an everchanging contingency of availables, searching for suitors that might be standing in the shade of their mega yachts.

Newport offers excitement, sun, and fun; take the plunge and make a reservation. H

VIBE: Old-World Charm, A Combination of Rustic—Sometimes Elegant, Relaxation In The Wilderness

New Hampshire’s familiar ‘Live Free or Die’ motto may have been dropped from the billboard and license plates, but it hasn’t been removed from the hearts and minds of those making their way through Franconia Notch on the way to the mountains. And, if you don’t start the discussion, someone probably will.

The feelings that capture the spirit while enjoying the panoramic views from the peak of Mt. Washington, splashing in a rushing river along the Kancamungus Highway, or visiting Littleton, which carries the honor of being named #6 of 50 “Best Small Towns in America,” are experiences that will remain fresh for a lifetime.

PROS: Easy access & plenty of parking

Beautiful views, quiet, and peaceful

No sales tax!

Plenty of accommodations at every price-point

Best prices on alcohol at State-owned stores

Come as you are

CONS: Nightlife: Early to bed, early to rise

Middle-of-the-road dining options

Boston traffic Bears

GETTING THERE: All roads lead to New Hampshire, but timing is vital; either plan to get through Boston 11 a.m.–1 p.m. or try Rts. 95 or 495; their window for travel is a little kinder.

TIPS: Don’t think about drinking and driving; it’s been rumored that for sport, the authorities—local and state, search for weekend warriors on Friday and Saturday nights so they have a couple of days, locked up, to contemplate their sins before a hearing on Monday morning.

Feeling On Top Of The World In THE WHITE MOUNTAINS

LEAVE THE WORLD BEHIND

If you want to feel you’ve left civilization but still have a connection to the resources and conveniences you’ve grown accustomed to, then the White Mountains are calling to you.

Within 30-45 minutes, some of the most memorable experiences you’ll ever have are found. Adventures that await include, a quick hike up to ‘Artist’s Bluff’ across from Cannon Mountain; its dramatic views are a favorite by all who paint, shoot photographs, or load up selfies for sharing on social media.

Of course, no trip is complete without driving up the Mt. Washington Auto Road. There you’ll experience a myriad of sights, sounds, and emotions explicitly reserved for visitors to the President Range.

Along the Notch are hidden but easily accessible rivers and streams sitting under green canopies that hold the sound of flowing water—blocking all else. The tranquility is mesmerizing, with favorites including The Basin, Kinsman Falls, Rocky, and Cloudland Falls.

And when it’s time for an afternoon cocktail or two, the veranda at the Mt. Washington Hotel, with its breathtaking vistas, is the place to be until the sun sets.

Special to the White Mountains of New Hampshire is that it’s a true 4-season resort, so anytime you’d like to show up, you’re invited. H

VIBE: Very chill and laid-back; nothing to rush to or for; it’s a lifestyle choice

With more locals than visitors, vacationers are divided into two distinct groups. The historical cities and towns, for example, Fairhaven, New Bedford, Fall River, and Taunton, are popular with day-trippers and weekenders. At the same time, more affluent vacationers gravitate to the small towns and villages of Wareham, Marion, South Dartmouth, and Westport.

Lacking acceptable short-term accommodation, the new crop of ‘Summer People’ choose to purchase on the SouthCoast, making it their second or third home. Others secure a month to three-month stay at one of many private enclaves or tony homes available online or by contacting real estate agencies who find them a community with families of similar interests.

With numerous ports and harbors, the SouthCoast is one of many anchorages sailors call home—even if temporary.

PROS: A remarkable coastlines with wide-open access to Buzzards Bay

Fascinating history

A travel hub for conveniently reaching all of New England and New York

Farms, preservation land, and homemade goods

Drenched in art

CONS: Nightlife—nonexistent

Limited fine dining

Short-term accommodations are mid-level and below

Incessant traffic

Can become repetitive

GETTING THERE: It’s best sailing your boat, has an airport—lacking service to and from most destinations, but effortless by car.

THE SOUTHCOAST SECRET Has Been Unveiled

A TOUCH OF THE PAST WITH A VISION OF THE FUTURE

The cities are patched-work quilts of diverse communities; they struggle economically but are making strides, and all are recognized for their devotion to the arts and local history. The mill cities have restored and preserved an incredible list of historic homes, factories, and buildings, many providing incubator space to countless start-ups.

At the same time, the more affluent towns have witnessed skyrocketing real estate prices; having laid dormant for years, outsiders soon learned the value of the SouthCoast region and relentlessly swept in, making vast improvements to homes that hadn’t seen an iota of restoration since the Rolling Stones took the stage.

The draw to the SouthCoast is its accessibility to the many islands off the coast, Providence, Boston, and New York; it’s become a bedroom community with affluent families leading the way.

As for those seeking a more sedentary lifestyle, the rural Farm Coast is a perfect fit. Offering privacy and luxury, these communities are close-knit and protect their way of life. Neighbors have the foresight to act before the unyielding development of fields and pastures makes the SouthCoast like every other place on the map. H

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