April 2024 NewEnglandMonthly Magazine

Bad Medicine

MONEY, POLITICS & HEALTHCARE

Is It Time To Throw Patients A Lifeline?

Love

Looking For Mr. Right? You Could Be Playing Musical Chairs With The Future

Well Being

The Pain And Hidden Dangers For Those Suffering High-Functioning Depression

FAIRHAVEN $845,000

Stately Federal situated on a spacious corner lot in the heart of Fairhaven. Spectacular blend of period detail with all of today’s amenities. Contact Will Milbury 508.525.5200

SOUTH DARTMOUTH $5,529,000

Sensational Waterfront! Magnificent home has five bedrooms, five baths, dazzling views to the Elizabeth Islands and only a short walk into Padanaram Village. Contact Sarah Meehan 508-685-8926

WESTPORT $2,495,000

Four-bedroom, 3.5 bath contemporary home is set on 4.7 acres on the ocean’s edge with a private sandy beach. Summer living at its very best! Contact Sarah Meehan 508.685.8926

SOUTH DARTMOUTH

Expansive Colonial in the desirable Wild Pepper Farms This elegant home offers five bedrooms and gracious living spaces that overlook the quarry pond with patio that leads to the water’s edge Contact Will Milbury 508 525 5200

SOUTH DARTMOUTH $1,695,000

Slocum River Waterfront! Contemporary Cape with water views from every room. The 20+/- acre property offers considerable shore frontage. Contact Will Milbury 508.525.5200

FAIRHAVEN

Two-bedroom, two-bath Contemporary style home within walking distance of the beach. Quality updates throughout including Kraft Maid kitchen cabinets, Brazilian cherry flooring, stainless appliances . . . Contact Linda Hopps 508.965.9274 NEW

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MARION

CENTERVILLE

WESTPORT

NEW BEDFORD $499,900

Gorgeous three bedroom Ranch with many updates.

$10,500,000

Impressive waterfront estate with breathtaking Buzzards Bay views.

MASHPEE $2,499,000

Willowbend home with fabulous golf views.

WELLFLEET $1,625,000

Historic gem on an expansive 3.25 acres.

OSTERVILLE $1,549,000

Picture-perfect craftsman style bungalow sited on .77 acres .

DENNIS $839,900

Lovely, pristine Cape in a desirable Scargo neighborhood.

ONSET $750,000

Direct waterfront 4BR home with scenic water views.

$749,000

Renovated Cape oasis with open sight lines on large corner lot.

$519,900

Tastefully renovated home on over a half acre.

Or, how about putting your trust in an art gallery filled with your life’s work, only to learn they, too, were absent from a regular schedule and missed the all-important holiday season, resulting in a significant loss of income?

These are prime examples that have taken place and serve as accurate analogies, indicators of what your neighbors and the business community are questioning, particularly with the print media business; over time, it appears multiple magazines have abandoned the SouthCoast without a word of warning.

Once where stacks of magazines could be found, one remains: SOCO Magazine, a high-quality lifestyle publication, is still available in hundreds of locations.

We’ve noticed the decreasing availability of local magazines for a while; when once ‘magazine wars’ were fought over space allocation, SOCO has free reign over its distribution network like no other.

At the same time, we’ve all watched the demise of print in other markets. Few have made it, but those who have survived reduced the quality (both in content and paper) of their magazines, making them less desirable.

It’s widely known that the sight of brilliant color and the feel of the pages is what makes reading a magazine so enjoyable; with this knowledge, publishers who adhere to a schedule and haven’t degraded their quality, are finding new life for 2024.

Publishing is a tough business—and we should know because, for the last 18 years and 10 months, we have made good on our promises, printing and delivering 12 issues each year without interruption—never missing one—regardless of world events, domestic turmoil, or economic downturns.

From day one, we have maintained the tenets of our mission, commitment, and trustworthiness; we continue to be reliable in an unreliable culture.

Anyway, we’re here to stay, and you can expect to continue enjoying what we’re told day after day: SOCO is “The best magazine on the SouthCoast.”

www.landvest.com

Terry

Joanna

Betsy

The Bay Club - 1

Lane Mattapoisett,

Joanna Dresser

James River Farm Kingston, MA

$3.3M | Terry Boyle

WILD PEPPER FARMS

IT SEEMS WOMEN ARE BEING INCENTIVIZED TO HAVE OUTRAGEOUS EXPECTATIONS WHEN SEARCHING FOR A PARTNER WHILE, AT THE SAME TIME, BASHING AN ALREADY EMASCULATED POPULATION OF MALES.

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PRESENT

Making History: Our plan to bring well-deserved attention to a Massachusetts coastal community nearly two decades ago

LIVING WELL

High on a hill, this breathtaking home represents the fantastic value the SouthCoast offers home buyers

INTIMACY

A search for a perfect guy doesn’t often result in winning the prize; unrealistic expectations can yield regret and loneliness. Is it time to make a choice?

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WELL BEING

Hidden pain behind a façade; highfunctioning depression plagues many, but you’d never know by its cover

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36 HEALTH

It’s infuriating to patients who, for the most part, are wise consumers. I ask, what other businesses (other than those previously mentioned) charge their customers a percentage of their rent, taxes, employee compensation, and equipment on top of the services or products they sell?

When a famed Boston medical center runs off the tracks, it’s the patients who suffer. MGH has become the self-appointed arbiter of your healthcare and civil rights

40 GRAPES

The launch of Argentina’s Pelleriti Priore wines is here! You don’t want to miss a story that pairs perfectly with the release of this new collection

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46 IMPRESSIONS

Don’t be a fool; keep your eyes open

47 MONEY

Most people can become multimillionaires; do you have the discipline necessary to follow a path to building wealth most people dream about?

“Pelleriti and Priore’s ambition is clear: To produce extraordinary wines that leave an indelible mark on the palates of wine lovers and enthusiasts while magnifying the prestige of Argentina’s wine heritage worldwide.”

Don’t Blink, You Might Miss Something Important

BY STEVEN CHAN

It was nearly 19 years ago when a couple moved from Boston and decided if they were to call the SouthCoast home (an adopted name that exemplified the seaside location, albeit not wholly agreed upon), it would have to become the epicenter of exploration, (meaning change), inviting to ‘out-of-towners,’ and accept the notion the world has discovered this gem of coastal New England. For this to happen, it would take pushing and pulling to show those who resist that life doesn’t begin or end with the sun’s rise or fall, nor is the earth flat.

The two new arrivals, believing they couldn’t be the only ones interested in events, news, and commentary beyond local dogma, decided to expose the imaginary limits imposed by the old-guard media and political establishment and offer a more contemporary view of local, regional, and national news and opinions to conversations.

With an understanding that the SouthCoast communities had been suppressed and struggled for an appealing identity for over 100 years, continuously targeted with repetitive name-calling and vicious attacks upon its reputation, these marketing professionals realized the region needed to present a cohesive message beyond the myopic view and splinted efforts restricted to a small and local audience.

They embarked on sharing their vision and a lifestyle, viewed by some as revolutionary and by others as heresy. But it didn’t matter; they were woke (in a different way) before their time, believing everyone had a right to their opinions and voices—including them. They would become the conduit for a flow of information to and from the SouthCoast, a breath of fresh air.

The idea of publishing a magazine was serendipitous, the result of inadequacies found in print media; most, if not all, lacked critical content, slanted in one direction, and kept to an antiquated template conducive to ‘wash, rinse, repeat.’ And, if that wasn’t enough, most publications were poorly produced, filled with ads and a few short stories that were either common knowledge or incessantly recycled.

The first issue of SOCO was decisive, creating attention and giving news, color, texture, and the look it needed; the cover featured State Senator Mark Montigny dressed in a suit on railway tracks—his arms extended with curiosity, the cutline read, “Where’s The Train?”

The inside story told of his unquenchable efforts to push, pull, and tug Boston into recognizing the SouthCoast wasn’t going to take no for an answer; it seems they listened.

As we celebrate our 19th anniversary, Mark’s train will be pulling into

the station at about the same time. Congratulations, Senator.

Two more issues were published, and upon completion, supporters were offered to renew or leave our pages—they weren’t obligated beyond the initial three months. The short story, no one left, and a couple of dozen businesses joined.

It was clear within a couple of weeks after the inaugural issue was released, people loved the contemporary branding and positioning of the community; shining a light on a place that had great potential but was being held back for a century, SOCO was the remedy, for the cloud casting shade.

With a dash of ingenuity and a sprinkle of luck, SOCO Magazine went on to publish uninterrupted, 12 times per year, up to and including this issue.

Over the years, the publication has delivered remarkable experiences, allowing the founders to meet, dine, and interview world leaders, influential political figures, and an incredible number of highly acclaimed celebrities, many calling to appear in the magazine.

In all, the SouthCoast garnered the attention it sought.

It wasn’t long after, with the intent of promoting the area to the world, new titles were added: 401 Ocean State, New England Monthly, and REVEAL Connecticut; each became incorporated into the original concept.

By reaching outside traditional borders and with the assistance of loyal real estate brokerage clients and other sponsors, the magazine painted a face on the luxury lifestyle the SouthCoast has always had but was hidden under a cloak of secrecy.

Through enormous effort and investment, and by changing the narrative, the media company ignited renewed interest in communities deserving acknowledgment; it built an image for the Massachusetts coastline by reaching outside the area and beckoning those from afar to visit, establish roots, and become part of the rich heritage and future development.

Be well, enjoy yourselves to the fullest, and feel good about the new ‘SouthCoast Lifestyle’ everyone wants to know about, which is improving with age. H

A PRECIOUS ESTATE

HIDDEN

FROM SIGHT IN THE CENTER OF IT ALL!

BY STEVEN CHAN

By now, most have heard about the uniqueness of the SouthCoast, an area drawing attention and profound interest from around the country. The communities making up the region are known for their relaxed character, understated charm, and a patchwork of cultures, offering an eclectic collection of events, culinary experiences, and art colonies that define its people.

Not long ago, many lifelong residents were resistant to pulling back the curtain on this spectacular gem of a location, fearful it would expose the treasured lifestyle and its many advantages; it was a place frozen in time, and people loved it!

Even though thoughts of the near-pristine geoenvironment’s inability to endure irreparable harm from the expansion of home building and increases in taxes due to the appreciation of property values, there was a palpable thirst for recognition and commerce.

As unrealistic, even comedic as it sounds, some fought vigorously against progress with an unspoken desire to initiate selectivity as to who should be invited to make the SouthCoast their home.

Now, it’s water under the bridge; over the last decade, plus a few years, the many communities making up the SouthCoast have moved toward an ‘All are welcome’ attitude to newcomers.

Efforts to enhance the area’s desirability, hence drawing an assortment of individuals and families looking for a place to form a full-time residence or purchase a tony summer escape for the enjoyment of farms, the ocean, within proximity to a wide range of activities, have worked.

As for value, home investment in the coastal area of Massachusetts remains solid; in fact, finding an equally desirable community elsewhere can be difficult for the price.

Many new arrivals have been known to comment, “You get so much more house here.”

This month, we’re proud to present an exceptional home that can only be described as spectacular, attributed to its location and beauty. Nestled in a most desirable South Dartmouth enclave, Wild Pepper Farms (with only a few other homes) enjoys well-deserved seclusion and privacy.

Adding to the property’s attractiveness are breathtaking landscapes. Wild Pepper Farms is astonishing; a handsome colonial, set high on a bluff, it overlooks a quarry pond surrounded by an enchanting array of ancient flora and fauna.

NATURALLY, ALL WILL APPRECIATE AND BE IMPRESSED BY THE SPACIOUS FORMAL LIVING ROOM WITH SLIDERS TO A DECK, A MASSIVE FLOORTO-CEILING DOUBLESIDED STONE FIREPLACE ANCHORING THE ROOM, AND A BRIGHT AND AIRY SITTING AREA BEYOND.

With its dramatic and sweeping views, this outstanding home is perfect for those who enjoy home entertaining, a satisfying Sunday morning breakfast on the terrace, or a delightful afternoon cocktail watching the sunset.

Wild Pepper Farms offers plenty of light through an abundance of windows and French doors and claims an extravagant two-story foyer with an opulent staircase.

Naturally, all will appreciate and be impressed by the spacious formal living room with sliders to a deck, a massive floorto-ceiling double-sided stone fireplace anchoring the room, and a bright and airy sitting area beyond.

Also found at this level is a formal dining room and palatial kitchen with an island, dining alcove, and access to a screened porch overlooking the pond.

On the second level, there is a significant primary suite and private bath, an office with custom built-ins, plus a balcony overlooking the same pond. There are four additional bedrooms with two bathrooms.

The finished walk-out lower level functions as a great room, boasting ample windows and an additional floor-to-ceiling stone fireplace, plus sliders leading to a wrap-around terrace a few steps from the water’s edge.

Wild Pepper Farms has so much to give; it would be an injustice to attempt to describe the many inclusive amenities it offers, as well as the inability to relay the special connection one feels when entering the home. To counter this, we suggest you plan for an in-person tour of the estate.

Poised between Buzzards Bay, the harbor of Padanaram Village, preservation land, and the Slocum River, Wild Pepper Farms is the quintessential lifestyle for living well and is offered by Milbury and Company, 304 Elm Street, South Dartmouth, and 790 Main Road, Westport, Massachusetts for $1,895,000. H

For more information or to make a reservation to view the home, contact Will Milbury at 508-997-7400 (O) 508-525-5200 (C) or will@milburyRE.com.

Pointing Fingers

SOMEONE HAS TO BE AT FAULT & IF IT’S NOT ME—THEN IT MUST BE YOU

BY STEVEN CHAN

[ The word rogue, first used in 1835, describes an elephant that exhibits violent behavior resulting from separation anxiety by being separated from its herd or if injured and in pain. The creature, with such a condition, will destroy all it encounters. The word was specific and used to describe ‘behaving erratic or dangerously.’ ]

Has everyone gone rogue? Observations indicate ongoing trends are barreling ahead having the potential to negatively influence our culture and relationships—more damaging than previously thought. The devil is in the details, and most concerning are the unintended results social media has played on interactions between—well… everyone, but particularly with couples.

However, for our purpose, we’ll keep it to heterosexual relationships since we’d need volumes of space to include all variations of partnerships.

As if we didn’t have enough ‘normal’ discourse between the sexes, it seems women are being incentivized to have outrageous expectations when searching for a partner while, at the same time, bashing an already emasculated population of males.

One troubling example was the concocting of an intervention by a

mind-reading, fanatically vigilant warrior who scouted out, extracted, and misconstrued what they wanted you to believe as truth, followed by casting a shadow over a proud and heroic generation from decades ago.

Case in point, RimaAnn Nelson, the Under Secretary for Health for Operations for the Veterans Administration (previously accused of questionable career missteps), wrote a memo condemning the famous World War II photo of a sailor back from

TODAY’S WOMEN HAVE TURNED DATING INTO A CONTEST; IT’S SURPRISING TO LEARN THAT ENTRY INTO THE GAME OF PRIMAL SELECTION REQUIRES AN ANTE OF THE FOLLOWING: BE SIX FEET TALL, HAVE ABS OF STEEL, A JAWLINE THAT WILL SLICE A WATERMELON, AND AT MINIMUM, A SIX-FIGURE SALARY.

war, kissing a nurse in Times Square, while celebrating victory overseas.

A famous and harmless memento of success and appreciation was turned on its head when Nelson wrote the kiss could be construed as ‘sexual assault’ and it “didn’t meet the values” of today’s VA. She went on to proclaim that any reproductions of the image found on U.S. government property would be removed; she unilaterally banned it forever because she has a unique talent that allows her to identify the subtleties of male aggression. After all, you’re unable or unwilling to acknowledge its existence.

But don’t lose faith in your government dollars at work because it didn’t take long before Denis McDonough, the Veterans Affairs Secretary, shut down the ignorant and clueless order given by Nelson, followed by a statement indicating he hadn’t been aware of her actions and would not have approved of them had he known her intentions.

For more laughs, visit the New York Post; they have the complete story and explain the significance of the historic photograph.

On another front, we have young ladies who, for some sad reason, believe they are the chosen ones and that the world of men shall serve as their oysters. Today’s women have turned dating into a contest; it’s surprising to learn that entry into the game of primal selection requires an ante of the following: be six feet tall, have abs of steel, a jawline that will slice a watermelon, and at minimum, a six-figure salary.

Such a demand removes most of mankind from the equation. Adding to this disclosure, did you know a large segment of the female population, cited

in a 2009 study, that 80 percent of men didn’t meet their standard of attractiveness and were considered below average?

Obviously, many available women are fighting for a minuscule number of men they deem valuable and compatible. With this information, we can extrapolate that when you pay for an online dating membership, nearly all the selections you make are working overtime and focused on who they view as crème de la crème. The results mean that two out of 10 guys get hit on over and over and over while you support the website and become depressed.

Much higher up the food chain, dating becomes even more difficult; the bestlooking and available women will tell you they will juggle three to four guys with the hope of reaching for the final best— (in their eyes). What they look for—take notes, is a 20 percenter with a summer place in Nantucket, The Vineyard, Long Island, or someone who will jet them off (private, of course) to Europe for the season. And, of course, the lucky guy gets to fund the entire adventure—so much for equality and equity.

As the shallow dating pool empties, so do women’s options; playing against their odds of success, is age. Every summer that drifts by brings a new stable of attractions, limiting the possibilities of those who didn’t win the derby in previous years. After a couple of seasons, desperation begins to settle in, and standards are lowered as each decade passes. Studies indicate that a substantial proportion of available women—up to 80 percent (probably moving towards the big 3-0 or greater), begin to lower their

acceptance rate significantly with drastic compromise every 10 years.

So, you might ask, what becomes of the jilted 80 percent of passed-over men? The smart ones become wiser and richer since they invest in themselves, read, and learn what motivates the opposite sex until such time they hit their stride and the tide turns.

With this acquired knowledge and a ‘pocket full of money,’ they seek the 20 percent—under 30, looking to be spoiled and pampered. Naturally, there may be a significant age difference, but so what? The party is just beginning at that point. (Please, don’t blame me; I’m simply the messenger).

Back to 80 percent of the former princesses, time races by, and what had to be a multimillionaire becomes a guy with a job. The abs? They can be soft and cuddly. And, as far as travel, the local beach is going to become the highlight of weekends for many if they don’t choose soon.

Relationship experts all agree that having standards is okay and necessary, and the same is true of boundaries. Still, poor choices interfere with happiness, and when the objective centers around appearances and false hope, disappointment often follows.

This summer might be the one when you abandon the lofty search for unattainable perfection in a potential partner and decide what type of guy would genuinely make you happy overall. As it is said many times over, “Time waits for no one,” so seize the moment; you’ll be happier for it, and so will he.

Happy dating. H

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Piercing The Veil

‘High-Functioning’ Depression Is Widespread, But There Are Ways You Can Help

BY ROB SAINT LAURENT, M.ED

Most observers probably wouldn’t have given a second thought to Margot Harris’ appearance and behavior the day she handed in her master’s thesis at Columbia. The young woman’s face was made up and looked fresh, her hair curled and flowing, her fingernails shimmering with a new coat of polish that matched her dress. She and a friend brightly smiled as they posed for pictures, the camera not conveying any signs of discomfort.

Upon returning home, however, she says she dropped to the floor from emotional exhaustion, her back to the kitchen wall for seven hours as she pondered her feelings of emptiness.

As she looks back on that day, she’s not sure what image she presented to faculty and peers. While she appeared “put together” in the pictures, she believes no one would have suspected she was in the throes of a deep depression. She was doing well academically and seemed well-adjusted, yet she says she had hit rock bottom at that point and was “barely hanging on.”1

THE DARK CLOUD OF DYSTHYMIA

High-functioning depression, also known as dysthymia, isn’t a clinical term, nor is it listed in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5). Rather, it’s a colloquial phrase for people feeling depressed who can perform daily activities without readily apparent emotional pain. Psychotherapist Amy Morin, LCSW, says high-functioning depressed people are often skilled at hiding their distress from others. But, like Harris, they may get home from work and immediately crawl into bed or cry on the couch all evening. Because of this, they often go unnoticed and undertreated, continue to struggle within themselves, and are often exhausted from their plight.2

“Unlike major depression, high-functioning depression is low-level, chronic, and lacking a clear trigger,” writes author and psychotherapist Sean Grover, LCSW.3

As with all depression types, Morin says a person can develop dysthymia from a genetic predisposition, biological reasons (sickness, substance abuse, etc.), or stressful life experiences (trauma, strained relationships, etc.). Their symptoms can be mild enough that they continue functioning without obvious signs of emotional difficulty, or they might be afraid to reveal their turmoil because of their perfectionist tendencies. 2

Grover explains that the three most common causes of dysthymia are buried childhood trauma, inter-generational depression, or unresolved frustration, unforgiveness, or disappointments. After all, he says, “[t]he root of the word [depression] is ‘depress’—to push down, deny, or suppress,” unwanted feelings.3

A depressed person who is high functioning might appear as the person who performs their job well but otherwise avoids socializing; the person who maintains a fulfilling social life, yet struggles through the workday; the stay-athome parent who fulfills their daily tasks despite feeling overwhelmed, lonely, and depressed; or the online student who perseveres toward their college degree, but needs to quit their part-time job from feeling drained and unmotivated. 2

States Grover, “High-functioning depression is always there, a dark cloud on a clear blue sky. The substance of the cloud is a darkness that even you don’t understand.”3

DESPERATE PEOPLE ABOUND (QUIETLY)

Margot Harris certainly isn’t alone in her internal struggles.

We’re still learning how widespread high-functioning depression is in the U.S., but we know that one-year incidence for adults is 1.5 percent or about 3.5 million souls. Over a lifetime, incidence is more than twice that number, at 3.6 percent. Roughly half of these cases are severe.4

Though high-functioning depression can strike anyone of any age, it tends to crop up in people aged 45-59. Only about 62 percent of high-functioning depressed people receive treatment, And many of these people are dealing with concurrent mental health disorders, like major depression (75 percent) and anxiety (50 percent).4

Henry David Thoreau observed this trend in the human condition nearly two centuries ago in Civil Disobedience and Other Essays. In it is the iconic passage: “The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation. What is called resignation is confirmed desperation. From the desperate city you go into the desperate country, and have to console yourself with the bravery of minks and muskrats. A stereotyped but unconscious despair is concealed even under what are called the games and amusements of mankind. There is no play in them, for this comes after work. But it is a characteristic of wisdom not to do desperate things.”

His words resonate in a postmodern era where both men and women are burdened with increasing responsibilities, economic uncertainties, and technology-fueled loneliness and aloneness. When feeling hopeless, it isn’t difficult to resign oneself to a life of long depressive episodes.

While middle-aged people seem to be most impacted by high-functioning depression, those aged 12-27—Generation Z—are bearing much of the brunt of America’s current mental health crisis.5, 6 Youth depression rates have spiked in the last decade, especially in females. This is concerning because of depression’s effects on the normal formative changes that occur during adolescence. 6

When the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention’s biennial Youth Mental Health Survey began in 2011, 28 percent of high school students had “experienced persistent feelings of sadness or hopelessness. In 2021, that number rose to an alarming 42 percent. Meanwhile, 22 percent had “seriously considered attempting suicide” in 2021, a six percent increase from 2011.5

The pandemic may have influenced the 2021 data, but researchers say these trends were already evident before that.5

WHAT TO LOOK FOR

People with high-functioning depression are good at concealing their feelings, but closely observing a person’s behavior and asking questions can reveal signs and symptoms of depression.

SIGNS AND SYMPTOMS OF DEPRESSION

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n Ongoing sadness, low mood, irritability, emptiness

n Lost interest in activities once enjoyed

n Physical symptoms such as muscle tension, pain, headaches, and stomach aches

n Changes in sleep patterns and appetite

n Difficulty concentrating/focusing

n Tiredness/low energy causing reduced activity

n Feeling hopeless, worthless/low self-esteem, inadequate, pessimistic, guilty

n Thinking about death

n Other mental health issues

These symptoms can often last years and go unnoticed, as sufferers view them as unavoidable and not worthy of treatment. Symptoms lasting at least two years with no breaks longer than two months qualify as what’s called persistent depressive disorder (PDD). Listed in the DSM-5, PDD leaves people consistently feeling “down in the dumps,” making them seem “mopey” and even “whiny.” But they see this as a normal part of life instead of signaling a serious condition.2, 7

While there isn’t a diagnostic test for high-functioning depression, clinicians will often ask revealing questions. These may include inquiring whether a person feels happy or blue, whether they cry a lot, have problems sleeping, or lack energy. They may also ask what a person does for fun, as there’s often a gap in extracurricular activities with high-functioning depression. Or, they may not be performing well at work, at home, in the community, etc.8

Someone with high-functioning depression may also harbor a negative self-image that’s feeding their misery. They may have perfectionistic tendencies, feel guilty, or be self-critical. People struggling to perform may then feel self-doubt, anxiety, and lose self-confidence.8

WHEN AND HOW TO INTERVENE

Morin advises that people speak with their doctor if experiencing five or more symptoms of depression for two or more weeks.2

If high-functioning depression is suspected in a loved one, the person can be gently made aware of what you perceive and guided toward professional help if they’re receptive. Depression is highly treatable, and treatment is highly individualized. Experts suggest starting with a primary care doctor who can rule out any physical causes, utilizing an employee assistance program, or contacting a therapist. The starting point matters less than simply starting. 2, 8

Treatment may consist of lifestyle changes, talk therapy, medication, or some combination thereof. A therapist can help identify the cause of depression and develop a toolkit of strategies tailored to one’s circumstances. Cognitive behavioral therapy, for example, can help free a person from thought and behavioral patterns that reinforce negative feelings. 2, 8

Morin offers helpful ways of assisting someone who is functioning but showing signs of depression. 2

HELPING SOMEONE WITH HIGH-FUNCTIONING DEPRESSION 2

n Check on loved ones to ensure they’re okay

n Listen to their concerns without judgment

n Show them empathy and emotional support

n Offer to accompany them to a doctor or therapist

n Offer to help them with tasks

n Tell them it’s okay to ask for help, depression doesn’t mean they’re a weak person

n Take seriously any mention of self-harm or suicide

To make life easier with functional depression and complement treatment, people should try to eat a nutritious diet, get enough sleep and keep a steady sleep schedule, stay physically active, and try to get outside and incorporate stress management techniques such as meditation and deep breathing. Start with small changes, Morin suggests. If housework has become overwhelming, start with small, achievable tasks.2

Additionally, sticking to a routine is important for stability and structure, helping to ease depressive symptoms. Keeping a journal can help to process depressive feelings. Contacting friends and family can provide emotional support and lessen isolation.2

Faith in a loving Creator can also foster hope and resilience for this difficult human experience.

If left untreated, PDD can make it challenging to start or maintain relationships, where a person can feel unworthy of the people in their life, and social isolation can be mistaken for not wanting to be friends.2, 7

Without support, there’s a lot of loneliness and aloneness.8

ARE YOU AT RISK?

Denying one has functional depression or minimizing its impact and not reaching out for help can only make things worse. People with functional depression are just as worthy of help as those with major depression and are at risk of suicide.2

April and May are considered peak months for suicidal ideation and attempts. Many of us have experienced losing people who one day seemed well-adjusted, only to take their lives shortly thereafter.

If feelings of desperation become overwhelming, support from a trained counselor is available at the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline by dialing 988. H

1. Harris, M. (2023, October 13). The Reality of “High- Functioning” Depression. National Alliance on Mental Illness.

2. Morin, A. (2023, October 2). Is It Possible to Have Functional Depression? Verywell Mind.

3. Grover, S. (2022, April 3). The Keys to Understanding High-Functioning Depression. Psychology Today.

4. Bridges to Recovery. (n.d.). High-Functioning Depression.

5. Insel, T. (2023, December 8). America’s Mental Health Crisis. Trend Magazine (Pew).

6. Thapar, A., Eyre, O., Patel, V., & Brent, D. (2022, August 20). Depression in young people. The Lancet, 400(10352), 617-31.

7. Montijo, S. (2022, April 6). How Does It Feel to Live with Persistent Depressive Disorder (Dysthymia)? PsychCentral.

8. Pallarito, K. (2022, July 14). What Is High- Functioning Depression—And Could You Have It? Health.

Flawed Medicine

BY JAMES HOLDEN

THE TIDE IS TURNING, AND PATIENTS ARE CAUGHT IN A RIP WITH NO WAY OUT

ecently, I tuned into a Boston radio station around noon when I heard the DJ announce the next hour of uninterrupted music was being sponsored by Massachusetts General Hospital (MGH). My first thought was of appreciation; it can be an expensive proposition—especially on Boston radio.

But in an instant, I asked myself, “Do they need more business?”

After processing what had just occurred, I pondered why one of the most recognized and famous hospitals worldwide would need to promote itself; everyone knows its reputation as a leader in healthcare.

Ironically, I paused with a grin, only to reconnect my thoughts to the fact that at that moment, I was driving to ‘Boston Medical Enterprise’ (stay with me; in a second, you’ll learn the reason I’m giving MGH this name) for an appointment that I had to wait eight months for— it was the earliest I could be seen.

The media sponsorship quickly lost its shine.

I arrived at the hospital as planned and checked in for my visit; while waiting to be registered, I noticed a large T.V. monitor, the type used to post notices about COVID or how late doctors are running. But today was different; there was a message I hadn’t seen before. Larger than life, it read:

This medical office is considered a hospital outpatient location. You will typically be charged for the physician’s examination, which will usually be covered by your co-payment.

You will also be charged by the hospital for the use of hospital space, equipment, and support staff. This is commonly known as a “Facility Fee.” This may change your out-of-pocket responsibility.

I gasped as I turned away, “Here we go,” I said under my breath, “A resort fee!” I’ve always had an issue with hidden or undisclosed “junk fees” as a standard business practice; hotels are culprits; the same goes for cable providers and others, like restaurants, which add fees and mandatory tips to their customers’ bills thereby, avoiding paying workers a decent wage and health insurance, which is the responsibility of an owner.

If the hospital needs to fund its advertising campaigns while contributing to the Consumer Pricing Index (a measurement of inflation), the billing department could easily increase the cost for a visit and fold it into the ‘fee-forservice’ rate, which would be covered by insurance.

Here’s the back story. The reason healthcare facilities don’t follow the above suggestion is that insurance companies pay a discounted rate that is negotiated in advance; by charging patients, the hospital gets 100 percent of the add-on fee without having to offer a discount. It’s ostensibly a moneymaking machine, taking advantage of those requiring care and having no escape.

The subtle optic of having patients pay for the hospital’s “cost of doing business” isn’t appeasing them into acceptance. Administrators who initiated the practice must have believed they could either pass through the ‘up-charge’ without clamor since the public is getting used to being fleeced or realize patients don’t have an alternative in most cases.

It’s infuriating to patients who, for the most part, are wise consumers. I ask, what other businesses (other than those previously mentioned) charge their customers a percentage of their rent, taxes, employee compensation, and equipment on top of the services or products they sell?

‘Boston Medical Enterprise’ is an appropriate description of how this topflight hospital is turning its back on the elderly, struggling families, and all others

‘Boston Medical Enterprise’ is an appropriate description of how this top-flight hospital is turning its back on the elderly, struggling families, and all others who ‘must have healthcare’ and don’t choose it as a luxury.

who ‘must have healthcare’ and don’t choose it as a luxury.

What’s next? Will tipping staff be encouraged; how about we give the nurses and doctors a couple of bucks for showing up or offering a little extra care— everyone else has a tip cup, so perhaps they should too.

Plain and straightforward, beyond extraordinary cost for healthcare, the ‘business’ of medicine is conducting unadulterated gouging. If you can buy radio time, you have excess funds available!

This practice is an outrage; have you noticed even with insurance coverage, your co-pays are out-of-sight, and for older adults, their Medicare benefits, even with supplemental insurance, amount to hundreds, if not thousands, of dollars of out-of-pocket expenses?

The question on many minds is, “Who do we thank for this ruling?”

Drumroll, please; gratitude goes to the power-hungry, influence-peddling representatives on the Hill. Once again, they caved into lobbying and passed Bill S.792. Section 53I - Facility Fees. Yes, those people you voted into office have, once again, stabbed you in the back. But, what’s funny—as in dark comedy, you’ll put them back in office during the next election and not hold them responsible for their ill-advised actions.

If you wish to voice your complaint and help reverse the practice, go to pirg.org/ massachusetts/take-action/tell-your-governorend-unjustified-facility-fees/ and fill out the form.

Next on the agenda is an update on the newly enacted MGH Patient Code of Conduct.

It seems that the same hospital is focusing on patient behavior but not as much on hospital staff.

Here’s what they have to say:

“We recognize the threat of disrespectful, racist, or discriminatory words and actions on members of our community. Just as we have policies for our employees and clinicians to treat each other and every patient and visitor with courtesy and respect, this policy helps to define appropriate behaviors for patients, family members, visitors, and research participants.”

The Code of Conduct provides examples of words and actions no longer welcome at the hospital, including physical and verbal threats, offensive comments about others’ race, accent, religion, gender, or sexual orientation, and refusal to see clinicians or staff members based on those personal traits.

“If we believe you have violated the Code with unwelcome words or actions, you will be given the chance to explain your point of view.” “Some violations of this Code may lead to patients being asked to make other plans for their care.”

At face value, there’s nothing wrong with much of what MGH has to say in this announcement; however, unfortunately, there appears to be a need for a new level of corrective steps due to events during the last few years.

The hospital states there are policies for their employees to follow. Still, it would

have been valuable to print out what patients can expect from their healthcare staff, considering an MGH doctor was not long ago accused of sexually assaulting female patients over an extended period. It doesn’t end here; there are hundreds of other stories to be told.

We’re all too familiar with employees who display an ‘attitude;’ it can include short tempers or rudeness. Such behavior is found everywhere today, and you can’t escape the inevitable.

Here is where the problem lies with the new Code. Suppose you ask too many questions, have a loud voice, or request more information than is being offered; surprise, you could be accused of being confrontational by an employee of the healthcare institution. You should know in advance you’ll face judgment from a biased in-house tribunal rather than a third party appeal—which would be fairer when judging opposing views. The issue is the ‘snowflakes’ have taken over healthcare and rule the roost.

Another line in the “Patient Code of Conduct” is questionable and offensive to some, if not perhaps illicit to enforce.

‘…[the] refusal to see clinicians or staff members based on those personal traits.’ [referencing race, accent, religion, gender, or sexual orientation within the Code.]

It is unclear who wrote this; doubtfully, a lawyer. This warning could be construed as intolerant, bigoted, racist, and a violation of religious rights. It implies that it’s okay to take one person’s rights away and give them to another, begging the question, doesn’t the patient decide who they allow to treat them?

Civil rights in this country continue to be diluted, only for some—not for all. The public has the right and choice to decide who sees them undressed, who can put their hands on them, and to what God, religion, or other higher power they follow.

Neither MGH nor any other health facility can violate your right to choose a provider or treatment protocol. You have the right to decide who examines you due to beliefs, culture, or heritage; it’s called freedom. You cannot be forced or coerced

into allowing your boundaries to be violated, regardless of pressure or insistence.

No circumstances diminish the importance of eliminating discrimination; however, with first-hand knowledge, there have been patients from the Middle East (Royalty) who have traveled to Boston reserved an entire floor of private medical suites and seen by doctors and staff they choose (rather, dictated) to be involved in their medical care because of religious beliefs and cultural practices.

A question arises with the new Code: will such courtesies end and violate Middle Eastern practices? Will allowances be made based on ‘who you are?’ If allowed to continue, medicine will turn into a two-tier healthcare system.

Finally, MGH, a closely aligned Harvard University affiliate, should show concern and make a public statement

concerning the safety of the Jewish population who teach and work at the healthcare facility and the school. Beyond this, the Hospital should address and condemn the public humiliation and antisemitism (demonstrated by students and faculty) against a population who are rightly defending themselves against future attacks by Hamas, linked to the unimaginably cruel, barbaric, and criminal acts against humanity on October 7, 2023.

It’s also time for Harvard to denounce, restrict access, and subject perpetrators to dismissal from the University for any threat of verbal or visual violence specific to hate crimes in accordance with the U.S. Department of Justice.

The blatant antisemitism stain on these once prestigious pillars will not easily be forgotten—silence isn’t a PR strategy.

You cannot be forced into allowing your boundaries to be violated, regardless of pressure or insistence.

Perhaps the MGH Patient Code of Conduct should be updated and specifically include antisemitism, considering the close bond between the two organizations and the hatred we see on the streets of Boston and elsewhere.

These are my opinions; you, of course, are entitled to yours—at least until someone attempts to take that away too. H

ARGENTINA’S PELLERITI PRIORE RELEASES

A Collection

Of Exquisite Wines

BY LORENA TAPIERO & NATALIE SIMMONS

ecently, we had the distinct honor of being selected to review the newest collection of distinguished wines to ever arrive from South America. Beyond this prestigious invitation, we were asked to enjoy a virtual wine tasting with two of today’s most talked about vintners in the industry. Marcelo Pelleriti and Miguel Priore are at the forefront of winemaking. They began their harmonizing enology (wine science) by blending their love of winemaking artistry, accompanied by unparalleled business acumen; they infused

the industry with distinctive expertise and a unified vision for the future. In 2009, the duo forged a uniquely committed partnership and began their initial venture, “Marcelo Pelleriti” wines, producing their first three barrels (900 bottles) of high-end wines.

The task of navigating the start-up meant purchasing grapes from small producers, conducting vinification processes in an external winery, and finalizing their vintages—labeling, branding, cellaring, and developing strategic distribution channels for their product. Yet, tirelessly, with a commitment to the long haul, they turned each step into a learning experience and pleasurable memory.

With the introduction of this new collection, PELLERITI PRIORE wines reflect a distinct style—a signature blend of quality and character that stands the test of time. Looking ahead, they embrace an ambitious objective: to craft the Grand Cru of the New World with a devout respect for its unique terroir and biodiversity.

Pelleriti and Priore have cultivated a community reflecting their shared entrepreneurial spirit by nurturing a collective that is rich in expertise, steadfastness, camaraderie, and integrity. The new venture aims to inscribe Argentina’s rich viticultural narrative into the broader context of global wine history.

Marcelo is excited about his partnership when he says, “Finding Miguel along the way opened a world full of certainties for me; [I’m allowed] to create freely, to rest my mind. Only with that peace can one create and understand that personal

and professional evolution goes hand in hand with the evolution of the market, with the evolution of cult wines.”

Miguel, with the same enthusiasm, shares his feelings about the process. “Over the years, I have dedicated myself to the in-depth study and exploration of Mendoza Argentina’s distinct terroirs and the rich array of extraordinary wines they can yield. When Marcelo came forward with the idea for our collaboration, his certainty was infectious, and together, we embraced the chance to unite our dreams. My foremost ambition has been crafting iconic wines with a timeless appeal that allows us to transcend generations in global markets.”

At the heart of their operation is a team of highly skilled wine experts with over 250 years of combined experience in the nuanced art of wine crafting across 30 global markets. The company’s commitment to innovation, quality, and excellence are values that have been fundamental to its continued growth and success.

Pelleriti and Priore’s ambition is clear: To produce extraordinary wines that leave an indelible mark on the palates of wine lovers and enthusiasts while magnifying the prestige of Argentina’s wine heritage worldwide.

Pelleriti, at 54, masterfully blends the artistry of oenology with entrepreneurship. Born and raised in Mendoza, Argentina, Pelleriti is a vintner of global repute. His masterful creation of high-quality wines, especially Malbec, demonstrates his ability to seamlessly weave the old-world charm of French winemaking

with the new-world bold flavors of Argentine viticulture.

Such practice elevated him to the highest acclaim when he became the first Argentine winemaker to earn the prestigious 100-point score from renowned critic Robert Parker in 2010 for his exquisite French wine creation, Château La Violette in Pomerol. “I remember every harvest in both hemispheres… walking through the great chateaux with Michel, like Ausone, my favorite wine, or Figeac, or tasting each vintage of Pétrus… understanding what the texture and aging of cult wines mean. That experience doesn’t exist in any book; it has led me to cultivate a privileged palate.”

An experienced winemaker, he fondly recalls the formative days of his youth spent on a farm, where he and his grandfather would crush grapes to create homemade (patero) wine. These humble beginnings have profoundly shaped his career, reminding him of the essence of his craft.

It’s no wonder PELLERITI PRIORE wines are enjoying skyrocketing status; Pelleriti’s credentials include a Bachelor’s degree in Oenology and Horticulture, a Master’s degree in Management, and years of hands-on experience in the vineyard coupled with his adeptness in the nuanced craft of winemaking. In addition to his unyielding effort to be immersed in

the business of grapes, Pelleriti spent 22 harvests amidst the revered vineyards of Bordeaux, France, in the illustrious region known as Châteaux.

Pelleriti prides himself in being a winemaker who understands what a commercial wine and a cult wine entail when he explains that it is specific to producing outstanding textures and aromas that genuinely reflect origin.

Through innovative and adept winemaking techniques, Pelleriti’s objective is forthright; he intends to significantly elevate the stature of Argentine wines by showcasing the rich potential of Mendoza, Argentina, as a South American wine haven.

Partner Miguel Priore, a native of Mendoza, Argentina, who divides his time between Miami and Mendoza, is a seasoned executive with over 25 years of experience in wine, business, and entrepreneurship. He stands as a testament to resilience and spirit. He emerged from Argentina’s economic turmoil with insight and expertise transcending borders.

His journey in the wine industry began in 2009 when he co-founded PELLERITI PRIORE wines; Priore played a pivotal role in transforming the venture into one of the leading wine producers in Mendoza.

His many accomplishments include a Bachelor of Business Administration, multiple MBAs, a specialization in Wine Marketing, and multiple Advanced Wine certifications. The combination of Priore’s academic achievements and practical experience contributes to his strategic approach to the wine industry.

His reputation for excellence is anchored in his profound kinship with the earth, which forms an indelible vintner’s philosophy. With intellectual rigor and comprehensive knowledge, Priore is deeply embedded in the intricacies of winemaking and vineyard cultivation.

Over the past 15 years, he successfully built a highly experienced senior team, contributing to the company’s recognition for excellence and innovation. “In the early days of our venture, the team was lean, but our ambitions were boundless. I hired an accounting student whose fresh perspective became instrumental in the intricate dance of our daily operations,” he shares. “Our workspace was modest—our first desk was simply the box from our inaugural multifunctional printer, a symbol of our scrappy beginnings and the innovative mindset that propelled our growth.”

Under Priore’s leadership, the company’s global expansion saw a remarkable export increase from 9,000 to 600,000 bottles annually between 2013 and 2023.

As a dedicated ambassador for Argentine wine, Priore’s commitment extends beyond business operations as he conducts exhaustive research to understand better the potential of the various terroirs of Mendoza and the rich spectrum of exceptional wines they can produce.

Priore stands as a dynamic and influential figure in the wine business; his eye for distinction, discerning palate, and dedication to ingenuity have not only shaped the success of PELLERITI PRIORE wines, but in combination, these skills have positioned him as a respected leader in the global wine industry.

An exemplary strategist and visionary, his passion and devotion to viticulture distinguish him uniquely in the field; Priore is a prolific idea generator and a leader who builds wonders. His commitment to innovation and oenological excellence is without compromise.

PROSPECTIVE

It’s not unusual for readers to expect evidence as to the genuineness of claims made compared to the results of a harvest. And though ‘love is in the eyes (or on the tongue in this case) of the beholder,’ it makes sense to refer to an expert palate in evaluating the quality of these new releases.

With enthusiasm, we introduce the highly acclaimed and global expert in the field of wine evaluation, Mr. James Cameron Suckling. Both a wine and cigar critic, his credentials include time with Wine Spectator, where it is estimated that he tastes and evaluates 4,000 wines each year, and was once the European Editor for Cigar Aficionado.

Suckling’s Wikipedia profile gives insight into his talent for teasing out the characteristics of wines that separate the

“...wine is like a person; there isn’t one that is the same as the next. It should be an emotion, not something scientific. Fine wine is harmony, the balance of all the characteristics which I look for.”

ordinary from the exceptional; here is a sampling of his genius.

Responding to Corriere della Sera (a newspaper) from Milan, Italy, on how he ‘understands, judges, and recognizes a fine wine,’ Suckling replied, “Usually you start from the nose, from the scents of the wine. But for me, this aspect is less important. I put more emphasis on what I taste in the mouth; I find the concentration of fruit, of the tannins, the alcohol, and the acid. The most revealing element is the persistence of the taste in the mouth, the aftertaste. Another thing to bear in mind is that wine is like a person; there isn’t one that is the same as the next. It should be an emotion, not something scientific. Fine wine is harmony, the balance of all the characteristics which I look for.” Wines are rated on a scale of numbers; the commonly used method was conceived by wine critic Robert Parker. Beginning in 1978, a long list of professional connoisseurs, tasting experts, and consumers began relying on his 100-point scale; it is the yardstick for evaluating the desirability and quality of commercially produced wines.

Founders: Marcelo Pelleriti (left) and Miguel Priore (right)

Here is an example of the current system courtesy of Wine Enthusiast Academy:

98-100 Classic: The Pinnacle of quality

94-97 Superb: A great achievement

90-93 Excellent: Highly recommended

87-89 Very Good: Often good value; well recommended

83-86 Good: Suitable for everyday consumption, often good value

80-82 Acceptable: Can be employed

While there has been an embargo on information surrounding the launch of the new collection of PELLERITI PRIORE wines, Suckling was invited to the vineyards of Argentina for an opportunity to taste, evaluate, and share his impression of Pelleriti and Priore’s efforts with the world.

After visiting the vineyards, here is Suckling’s professional opinion, posted on his Instagram account: “Thinking about my tastings and visits in Argentina, and the good visit with Marcelo Pelleriti and Miguel Priore, who recently launched their own business, [PELLERITI PRIORE] make flavor intensive wines… without being heavy and some old vine gems.” H

OUR CONCLUSION TO SUCKLING’S REVIEW: The collection finished in the top tier category of 94-97, equaling ‘Superb: A Great Achievement’ status. Also noteworthy is that each wine has been ranked with 5 Stars, indicating that regardless of your selection, you’ll find satisfaction with each bottle you open.

Finally, adding to the outstanding results are the reasonable price points of $40-$50 (U.S.), making PELLERITI PRIORE an exceptional value.

As the release of PELLERITI PRIORE ‘Timeless Selections’ draws near, all eyes are focused, with emotions running high in anticipation for this exceptional feat of success by two gentlemen with vision and determination.

We urge you to visit pelleritipriore.com to join in the celebration; “Buena suerte!” pelleritipriore.com

BY PEET NOURJIAN

ARE WE A BUNCH OF APRIL FOOLS KIDDING OURSELVES ABOUT THE RULES THAT ARE BROKEN YEAR AFTER YEAR “THE END OF MARCH MEANS SPRING IS HERE!”

THE CALENDAR FILLS US WITH HOPE OUTSIDE THE CLOUDS ARE SPELLING NOPE MERCURY CLIMBS OUT OF DEEP FREEZE BUT BARELY ABOVE 50 DEGREES

THE BEATLES SING ‘HERE COMES THE SUN’ WARM AND BRIGHT ’TIL THE SONG IS DONE ‘APRIL IN PARIS’ HOP ON A PLANE CITY OF LIGHTS AND LOVE AND RAIN

LET’S FACE IT: THIS MONTH IS THE WORST THE PERFECT PRANK ON APRIL FIRST ACCORDING TO WHAT EXPERTS SAY IT’S LEAP YEAR, SO APRIL’S REALLY MAY. H

Big Hat, No Cows’

The

Truth About Getting Rich Vs. Building Wealth, With Steps That Will Make You A Multimillionaire

BY LINDA BERTRUM

In an effort to appear successful, influencers, content providers, and those bringing in hefty salaries— albeit burdened by bludgeoning expenses—are disingenuous as to what they actually own or the financial assets they’ve accumulated.

There’s a contagion sweeping America, and although it’s been prevalent throughout human existence, it’s getting worse.

In an effort to appear successful, influencers, content providers, and those bringing in hefty salaries—albeit burdened by bludgeoning expenses—are disingenuous as to what they actually own or the financial assets they’ve accumulated. Simultaneously, they offer false hope to a massive number of followers or hangers-on that they, too, can have it all!

Masters of deceit, using smoke and mirrors, create fantasy. Replicating the luxury lifestyles of dysfunctional celebrities and sports figures who exaggerate most moments of their lives due to a constant need and unquenchable thirst for attention and admiration from the public—who will never achieve the same, creates chaos and deep levels of insecurity in followers.

The naked truth is that a good percentage of those gaslighting fans into believing they live a carefree and enjoyable existence filled with indulgence is actually ‘hocked to the hilt,’ the bank and credit card companies routinely scratch at their doors for their next payment.

The projection of these false narratives is dangerous to mental and physical health for many; recent generations appear unable to differentiate authenticity and counterfeit, aimlessly measuring their self-worth by modern-day snake oil peddlers.

For these reasons, we offer some semblance of reality and a method for building a secure and responsible financial future.

GET RICH -VS- BECOMING WEALTHY

The difference is clear: being rich is earning and spending money in equal amounts on lifestyle choices. Sometimes, when faced with the adage, ‘Keeping up with the Joneses,’ the equilibrium is disrupted, with debt resulting.

Primarily, this balancing act becomes a competitive game fueled by salary increases or, conversely, unexpected emergencies or economic crises.

As for being wealthy, it comes on slowly and is less noticeable to others; it’s a give-and-take proposition, a disciplined approach for the accumulation of investment dollars, practicing frugality, and setting realistic goals.

DON’T WANT TO BE A MULTIMILLIONAIRE? DO THE FOLLOWING

YOU’RE WORKING TOO MUCH

Vote for lawmakers who propose legislation cutting back the average work week for Americans to 32 hours: In a recent study, employees self-reported that during an average work week (currently 40 hours), they only spent 70 percent of their time actually performing the tasks they were responsible for; they said distractions and interruptions caused decreased productivity. Based on what employees say and this example, a 32 hour work week would reduce accomplishments to a mere 22 hours a week. This drastic move would enable fulltime employees to be compensated for participation that is actually part-time work! But who cares? You’re not appreciated anyway, correct?

WORK-LIFE BALANCE

Believe this new version of “I hate my job” or “I don’t want to work,” it won’t interfere with achieving your financial goals. Even though work-life balance went out the window with 1950 television shows, you need to balance your life because you deserve to relax when you decide you want to, and not your boss.

As for those wealthy individuals you see enjoying some form of balance? Accept that they’re old, and you don’t want to wait until you retire to enjoy life; on top of this, be vocal and attempt to convince everyone you know how you feel, telling them, “Who wants money by then? It will be too late.”

Be of the mindset that executives at a start-up tech company who are going public probably have idyllic work-life balance in their lives, and they’re probably lucky. As for the guy down the street starting a business, well, he couldn’t be working 12-14 hours a day; likely, he’s trying to avoid his wife and kids. Spend as much time as you can around the house, relaxing.

PUT ON A SHOW: FINANCIALLY COMPETE WITH OTHERS

n Drive the right car, move to the most desirable zip code you know, and be the life of the party—superficially liked by others—by buying round after round of drinks; enjoy being celebrated.

n Take trips that have to be covered by one of a dozen credit cards, justified as being necessary.

n Eat all your meals out; you’re a busy person.

n Adopt the winning attitude, ‘you only live once,’ and treat yourself generously.

TO MAKE MILLIONS—FOLLOW THIS ADVICE

n Choose a career wisely: Tech workers get laid off, plumbers and electricians don’t.

n Find a wealthy mentor who can guide and advise you from their experiences.

n Create a hard-copy budget and stick to it.

n Cut out the wasteful spending that trickles dollars from your wallet or bank account. Eat or bring meals from home; stop the $12 per day Starbucks breakfast; Five Guys $20 lunch; and the ‘I’ll just pop in for a cold one’ that turns into a $50 tab.

n Purchase a starter home or condo as soon as possible; the appreciation will become yours rather than a landlord’s.

n Start a business or add multiple streams of income; they don’t have to make a ton of money but should add revenue to your bottom line.

n Take advantage of utilizing the tax system through an LLC or a Corporation.

n Don’t create debt; you only need a couple of credit cards, and they should be paid in full monthly.

n Never pay interest; earn interest.

n Open a brokerage account that allows you to purchase full or partial shares of stocks and make regular deposits as if paying a bill.

n Start a retirement investment account.

n Keep your financial status private.

n Don’t put anyone on your personally owned property; document who owns what when a relationship begins, and NEVER loan money.

n If you’re going to get married, find out the credit rating and debt your partner carries; it will become yours.

n Buy a car with the intention of keeping it for 300,000 miles; you’ll pamper it and maintain it properly.

n Be disciplined, not to the point of despair—gift yourself periodically.

n If possible, relocate to a state with a low-income tax or none at all.

n Wealthy people don’t let it show.

n Read everything you can get about making money and sound investment decisions; one suggestion is The Millionaire Next Door. These methods have been proven over time; there is a balance between obsession and frugality, and you shouldn’t poison the well by damaging your quality of life; it’s a process that evolves with time.

As a note of inspiration, you should realize the first million will be a challenge, but those that follow become easier to add to a portfolio—honestly, it’s true.

Start today! H

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