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Stuff We Love

Feature

GUIDE 25 SHORE Our favorite beaches to hit up this summer

OUTDOOR OASIS Fun finds to transform your backyard

Healthy + Happy

HEALTHY SUMMER Expert tips on water safety, sunscreen, ticks and more

IN THE CLEAR Thinking about Invisalign? Here’s what you should know.

Raising Smarties

SCREEN-FREE SUMMER Avoid screens and summer slide with these fun learning ideas.

On the Cover

THE SWEET LIFE Baked by Melissa founder Melissa Ben-Ishay on cupcakes, kids and life in Hoboken

JENNIFER LAVELLE PHOTOGRAPHY

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CELEBRATE GOOD TIMES How New Jersey families celebrated major milestones during the pandemic.

June Planner

FESTIVAL FUN HAS BEGUN Your guide to June’s biggest fairs. Plus: Memorial Day parades + more!

Special Section

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GEAR UP Stylish and functional goodies that make the baby days easier

A PEDIATRICIAN 40 FIND What to look for when

choosing your child’s first doctor.

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MASKING A PROBLEM Are face masks causing speech delays?

DANGER 48 HIDDEN Lithium coin batteries

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KNOW-HOW 45 DENTAL A checklist for baby’s

TIME 54 PLAY Indoor fun with no

TIGHT 47 SLEEP Keep them safe and

BY DAY 57 DAY How to navigate daycare

first visit to the dentist

sound every night.

screens involved

with your baby.

BABY BLUES 51 THE Signs of postpartum

depression to watch for 5

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Time to Celebrate! A few weeks before New Jersey went into lockdown in March 2020, my daughter and I met with photographer Jennifer Lavelle at Baked by Melissa founder Melissa Ben-Ishay’s Hoboken home to shoot our next cover. But like so many businesses after COVID hit, we shifted our coverage during those stressful months. A year-and-a-half later, we’re excited to catch up with Melissa to talk about something we’ve all been craving: reasons to celebrate. Melissa is the perfect NJ mom to embody celebrations. Baked by Melissa is all about bringing joy to ordinary days and milestone moments with signature tie-dye mini cupcakes that are seriously addictive. We asked her what it was like to keep the company running during COVID while parenting two girls under five with her husband, who also works with her. She also shared her classic tie-dye cupcake recipe. Go to njfamily.com/cupcake to make them! As we work to get to the other side of the pandemic, we’re thrilled to share how NJ families found a way to celebrate big moments with loved ones over the past year. Turn to page 31 and you’ll be inspired by a wedding, bar mitzvah, birthdays and bridal and baby showers. The baby days are like no other and in this issue, we’re honoring new moms with a special section. You’ll find everything from daycare tips to making sure your baby’s speech development is on track in the era of mask-wearing. And because warm weather is here, we’re highlighting some of our favorite Jersey Shore spots. Here’s to a safe and fun summer of getting out and exploring again.

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A protective helmet is needed when using bikes, scooters, skateboards and roller skates. “Helmets are mandatory for kids younger than 17,” says Joann Alfonzo, MD, special needs primary care pediatrician at Children’s Specialized Hospital in Hamilton. “Even if your child is only in the driveway, a helmet should be worn.”

PRACTICE WATER SAFETY Never leave kids unattended near a swimming pool or hot tub. If you have a backyard pool or spa, it should have a fence at least four feet high—or if the house is the fourth “wall,” an alarm should go off when the back door is opened, says Alfonzo.

WEAR LIFE VESTS When boating, kids should wear a Coast Guard-approved life jacket, not a floatie. A vest should fit snugly so that it doesn’t ride up over your child’s face when you pull up on the shoulders.

SLATHER ON THE SUNSCREEN Kids older than six months should wear sunscreen every day.

Make sure it’s SPF 30 or higher, and apply it every two hours, even if it’s water-resistant, says Alfonzo.

DON’T FORGET BUG SPRAY Use insect repellent that contains 20 to 30 percent DEET. Put sunscreen on first, then apply repellent. Skip combination products because you need to reapply sunscreen more often. Do a full body tick check once you’re back indoors.

KEEP KIDS HYDRATED Make sure kids drink water before, during and after sports and play—that’s at least three times an hour, says Alfonzo. Consider an electrolyte beverage if they’re doing vigorous exercise.

LET THEM BE KIDS THIS SUMMER After the year we’ve endured, kids need to get outside and socialize for the sake of their mental health. Day or overnight camp is the perfect place for that. “Kids’ mental health and social development is just as important as their physical health,” says Alfonzo. “Camp helps them reestablish these connections.”

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THEY’LL NEED TO WEAR THEM MOST OF THE TIME. Aligners need to be on for 20-22 hours a day, and only taken off when eating or brushing teeth. They may fidget with the top aligner, which comes off more easily than the bottom one.

KEEPING THEM CLEAN IS A DAILY RESPONSIBILITY. Your kid also needs to brush his aligners with a soft-bristle brush, just as often as brushing teeth. He can also soak them in water and Invisalign’s Cleaning Crystals or a denture cleaner.

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REMEMBER TO REPLACE ALIGNERS WEEKLY. Invisalign trays usually need to be replaced every one to two weeks depending on the treatment plan, so set reminders. Each set of aligners helps shift teeth into their correct position. The whole treatment could take anywhere from 12-18 months.

DON’T LEAVE HOME WITHOUT A CASE. They should never eat with aligners on so it’s important for your kid to carry a storage case to use when eating. Wash hands before handling the trays or keep sanitizer handy.

THE ALIGNERS MAY BE UNCOMFORTABLE (AND MAYBE EVEN PAINFUL) FOR A BRIEF PERIOD. My son complained of discomfort when wearing them (and even when taking them off to eat) for about a week. During this time, plan on giving your kid soft foods like yogurt, oatmeal or soup. After that, he got used to wearing them—and barely feels them.

KEEP THEM AWAY FROM THE DOG. Dogs love the smell of saliva and if your kid leaves aligners out, don’t be surprised if your dog makes a jump for them. Avoid the dog ate my Invisalign excuse by keeping trays far away from your pooch.

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Kids don’t need to be structured all summer long, of course. “Boredom is not a horrible thing,” says Ellen Frede, Ph.D., senior co-director of the National Institute for Early Education Research at Rutgers University. “And having to figure out how to spend your time is a good thing.” Nor do they need to quit all screen time. She suggests parents set up a schedule with their child featuring age-appropriate fun along with some activities based on everyday routines with chores and responsibilities baked in. Daily physical activity balanced by quiet time and generous free play is also a must, and screen time should naturally be limited. Beyond that, there are endless opportunities for educational

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Gather a group of kids and start a book club! “Wonder, Inside Out & Back Again, A Long Walk to Water are a few possibilities,” says Borba. “Or find what your child’s teacher is requiring and have kids read together via Zoom or safely distanced in your backyard.” With kids fueled by drinks and snacks, parents can take turns leading the discussion and hosting adjacent activities—for example, screening the movie post-discussion. And they don’t already have one, it’s time for your kids to get a library card and take advantage of the myriad summer educational programs offered.

BORED VS. BOARD The lessons learned playing board games are impactful any time of day. What sort of lessons? “Turn-taking is important,” says Frede. “And following games with rules helps kids learn about democracy and how to work as part of a team.” Not to mention, Monopoly offers lessons about counting and capitalism. Candy Land teaches kids to rally after a fall. And without Hungry Hungry Hippos how would we know what voracious eaters hippos are?

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Start a backyard vegetable patch or flower garden. Planting a garden offers endless educational opportunities, says Borba. “Research which plants grow best in your area, make a list of needed supplies, discover how to use gardening tools, taking responsibility for planting and watering, measuring and tracking the growth of each plant,” she adds.

WORK IT OUT “Enriching and engaging things that get them off the couch are a good idea,” says Frede. “It’s very important for kids to be more active. Period.” Sports in particular enhance social development, build character and teach kids to focus on the greater good. If joining a summer league is a no-go or group sports just aren’t your child’s thing, there are plenty of lessons to be learned navigating a rope climbing course, creating a

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“Simple acts of giving can make extraordinary differences in stretching our children’s resilience and empathy,” says Borba. After all, EQ is just as important as IQ. The best endeavors are both community-based (face-to-face interactions maximize impact and empathy) and passion driven. Is your child an animal lover? Fiercely anti-bullying? Pro inclusivity? “It’s always better if the charity is something that concerns the child,” says Borba. “Ask your child how he might help, then create a plan and then support it.” Not only will your kind-hearted kids boost their leadership, organizational, and creativity skills, they’ll enjoy the amazing feeling you get from doing good.

DO THE SIDE HUSTLE “Encouraging kids to pursue their business ideas and solutions has benefits far beyond just financial,” says Adam Toren, coauthor of Kidpreneurs: Young Entrepreneurs With Big Ideas. Emotional intelligence, creativity, responsibility, math acumen and other critical skills are all gained by seeing their ideas come to fruition—and managing the fruits of their labor. “Capitalize on a child’s eagerness, curiosity and unique perspective to help build their confidence and get them running,” he says. Need ideas? From baking cakes, crafting jewelry and coding new apps, to walking dogs, athletic skills coaching and thrifting to resell on depop.com, there are infinite ways to put young talent to good use. For inspiration and business ideas visit kidpreneurs.org.

MAKE COOKING A FAMILY ACTIVITY “Lots of science and math goes into cooking,” says Frede. Measuring and fractions, heat points and properties of transformation, observations and predictions…making dinner beats chemistry class any day. Organizational and literary skills, and even a dash of history, can also be incorporated into meal planning—cooking is pretty much a full curriculum unto itself. So have your kids help choose what to make, gather and shop for ingredients, prepare and serve dinner. “It can relieve you of doing a special activity, and take care of something that you were going to do anyway,” she says.

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On The Cover

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Hoboken mom Melissa Ben-Ishay, founder of Baked by Melissa, talks cupcakes, family and life in NJ.

hirteen years ago, Melissa Ben-Ishay called her big brother after being fired from her job as an assistant media planner. Rather than encourage her to look for a new job, he told her to go home and do what she loves—bake. “If it weren’t for my big brother Brian, Baked by Melissa would not exist,” says Ben-Ishay. “He was the one who encouraged me to go home and bake my tie-dye cupcakes the day I was fired from my job, and he believed in me and pushed me when I didn’t believe in myself. We founded the company with three others—each of us having a unique skill set. Together we created this magical company and you bet your butt that was incredibly challenging—and also amazing.” Ben-Ishay’s memories from the early days of Baked By Melissa, known for its bite-size tie-dye cupcake goodness, are some of her most cherished. Today, Ben-Ishay serves as CEO of the company, which has 14 locations (13 in New York and one at Garden State Plaza in Paramus) along with a thriving e-commerce site. A Bergen County native, Ben-Ishay lives in Hoboken with her husband, who works with her on the business, and their two young daughters, Scottie and Lennie. We caught up with Ben-Ishay to ask how she weathered the pandemic with two preschoolers at home, what it’s like to work with her husband and to share her favorite spots in New Jersey.

New Jersey Family: You’ve endured so many challenges since founding Baked by Melissa but none like surviving a pandemic. What was the best thing to come out of the pandemic for you? Melissa Ben-Ishay: The pandemic was absolutely horrible and the pain and suffering it caused is catastrophic. Leading a company while mothering two small children from home definitely pushed me out of my comfort zone and taught me a ton as do all of our most challenging times. I’ll take my experience and learning with me through all the adventures and challenges that lie before me, and I will cherish the extra time I got to spend with my kids and husband over the past year. NJF: You work on the business with your husband, Adi. What’s that like? MB: My husband and I met the day we opened our very first store in Soho. For so long, all we knew was spending all day, every day together because soon after we met, I hired him to help me ice all the cupcakes! He was really good at it. Now, Adi works out of the bakery and I work from our corporate headquarters in Manhattan. Since COVID though, I split my time between the bakery, my home office in my bedroom and our corporate headquarters. We work well together. I think setting clear structure and expectations is the key to being able to work with your spouse. Adi and I have laughed so many times together since last March—because we have spent more time than ever together over the past year. But we are good at it, because for us, it’s just like those first years of our relationship and how we fell in love—over icing cupcakes and overcoming challenges. NJF: You recently became CEO of Baked by Melissa. What was that like and what advice can you share for women who want to take the next step in their professional journeys? MB: When I became CEO in December 2019 it was not only a shock, I thought I didn’t want it. Our previous CEO could no longer be in his role and I was elected by my board to step in. I was extremely outside of my comfort zone. I think being scared is ultimately what made it exciting for me. I went from stepping into the CEO role to leading our company through our busiest holiday season ever, right into Valentine’s Day—our single busiest week of the whole year, and then ‘hello global pandemic.’ Talk about CEO bootcamp! I was pushed so far outside of my comfort zone in the past year. Through my experiences as CEO I have learned a selfconfidence I did not have before. I am living proof that you can do absolutely anything you set your mind to. I think women in general don’t give themselves enough credit. We can have babies. Don’t ever forget that. NJF: What inspired your birthday and other holiday boxes and what was your favorite celebration of the past year? MB: In the past year I have learned the importance of celebrating everything! I used to take life’s simple pleasures for granted but then COVID hit and took so much of that away from us. At Baked by Melissa we pivoted hard and made sure our customers knew if they couldn’t celebrate in person they could still send cupcakes. We celebrated a ton of quarantine birthdays over the past year. It felt really good to be a silver lining for so many during such a challenging

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time. We’re still receiving notes from our customers with photos of loved ones they couldn’t see in person, thanking us for bringing so much joy during a challenging time. Those notes and messages carried me through this past year and make me feel so emotional in all of the best ways—it’s why we do what we do! Baked by Melissa makes people happy—during the good times and the bad. NJF: What do you think your daughters have learned from watching you at work? Do they know you are Melissa of Baked by Melissa?

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MB: My oldest knows I am ‘Melissa of Baked by Melissa’ but I’m not sure about my two-and-a half-year-old. They don’t learn it from me though, I think their teachers think it’s cool and talk to them about it. I’m really humble and low-key about it all because at the end of the day I’m just a mom and wife working my ass off to give my children and family the best life I possibly can while also being the best wife and version of myself. I approach every challenge as an opportunity to learn and grow and that’s why Baked by Melissa exists and continues to grow. I think my kids have learned that mommies work just as hard (if not harder at times) as daddies do. I

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love that it’s all my kids know. I couldn’t be more proud of that. For me, working hard towards the things you love is the definition of success and fulfillment. The journey is the reward. NJF: There’s no such thing as real work-life balance especially when you own your own business but what advice do you have for moms juggling it all, especially now? MB: Embrace the chaos and try not to take life so seriously. If your kids only eat snacks for an entire day or weekend, everyone will survive. For me, I know that I will miss these days so much and although some days feel hard as hell, I will remember them as the best—so I’m trying to live them as my best and appreciate every single day. I know with certainty I will miss this phase. And I hope it only continues to get sweeter. I know it will. NJF: You grew up in Bergen County and now call Hoboken home. What’s a favorite New Jersey memory you have from childhood

and what do you love most about living in Hoboken? MB: My favorite New Jersey memories are of Van Saun Park, Paramus Park Mall—I can smell it when I close my eyes—and playing in my backyard. We moved to Hoboken from Manhattan when I was 9 months pregnant with our first child and it couldn’t be a more perfect place to raise our kids. Hoboken is one square mile so you can walk everywhere—it’s so close to the city which makes my commute a piece of cake, and it feels like everyone who lives here is in the same phase of life as we are. We’ve made so many friends since moving here and during warm months it feels like summer camp for young families. There are parks everywhere, our mayor is amazing. Can you tell I love Hoboken? NJF: What does a perfect family day look like for you? MB: A perfect day is a walk to the pier, soccer, a delicious homecooked lunch, maybe some gardening on our roof in the afternoon and hosting some friends for an early dinner.

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NJ’s beaches will be open with safety measures in place this summer and we’re so ready to catch a wave. We love a trip to the Shore, whether that means boardwalks and fried foods or relaxing on the sand and playing in the surf. With more than 130 miles of beaches, the Jersey Shore is the place to be. Here are our favorite family-friendly beaches to visit.

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This city is known for its vibrant music, arts and food scene. A record number of beach badges were sold last summer despite having to maintain social distancing. The good news: City officials don’t anticipate limiting the number of beach badges this summer. During your visit, make sure to grab a ridiculously over-the-top scoop from Coney Waffle, bring the kids to the playground on the sand, take a pinball break indoors at the Silverball Museum and have dinner at one of many restaurants with ocean views like Robinson Ale House or Langosta Lounge. Daily rates for beach access: $6 weekdays, $9 weekends and holidays. $70/season for adults, kids 12 and under are free.

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This family-friendly beach town with free parking is just a short walk from the ocean. “The beach and Atlantic Ocean have kept kids entertained for ages,” says Amy Hall, Bradley Beach’s director of tourism. “Build a sandcastle, collect some shells or head up to the spacious boardwalk for a game of mini golf and play on our brand-new beach front playground.” Afterwards grab a bite at the laid back family-friendly spot The Elbow Room. Badges are $12 daily. Season passes are $80 for adults and $30 for juniors (13-15) and seniors (65+).

Island Beach State Park

Put this quiet spot on your must-visit list for the summer. At press time, the plan was to continue with reduced parking to allow visitors to maintain social distancing. Be aware that the beach may close earlier, more often and for longer than usual. Swimming is only allowed when lifeguards are on duty at the one mile stretch of beach known as Swimming Area 1 and 2. You can surf or windsurf just south of the swimming beaches, or walk the 10 miles of white sand non-swimming beaches. If you like birdwatching or want to teach the kids about the environment, there are plenty of nature activities and viewing spots around the park. Visit from 10 am to 6 pm. Weekday entrance fees are $6 for NJ residents, $12 non-resident, weekends and holidays $10 NJ residents, $20 non-residents.

Ocean City

This NJ shore spot is a dry town, which is ideal for families looking to avoid college crowds. The beach and boardwalk are open, and public restrooms are sanitized throughout the day. Hand sanitization stations have been installed all along the boardwalk. Gillian’s Wonderland Pier has indoor and outdoor rides for all ages. If you’re brave, try the 130’ Drop Tower for amazing aerial views of the shore before you drop at 47 miles per hour. Or visit the bay side of Ocean City, where you can try your hand at stand-up paddle boarding and kayaking. Beach tags are required for anyone 12 and older and are $5/daily, $10/weekly and $25/season. Active military and their families and veterans are free. There is limited free street parking and pay-to-park lots.

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Part of the Gateway National Recreation Area that spans NY and NJ, this spot in Highlands is great for fishing and windsurfing at Lot C, hunting for seashells on North Beach and swimming in lifeguarded waters at Beach Area A-E. Bring your bikes and catch the ocean breeze on a post-swim ride. “Our parking lots do sometimes fill up, so we recommend visiting earlier or later in the day,” says Daphne Yun, a supervisory park ranger for the National Park Service. The parking fee is $20 per day or $100 per season.

The Wildwoods

These sparkling clean beaches stretch for five miles across the shores of North Wildwood, Wildwood and Wildwood Crest and the beaches are completely free! The Wildwoods opened last summer with a “Mask Up!” and social distancing campaign. Morey’s Piers will reopen this summer with three piers of amusement rides and water park action. Don’t miss noshing on Curley’s Fries while watching out for tram cars that pass by, or kick back at Wilhelm’s Bier Garten while the kids soar on coasters. Want more? Staying over? We Go to love the stunning njfamily.com/ Pan American Hotel beaches in Wildwood Crest for for more Jersey Shore fun. its retro glam feel.

Point Pleasant

This popular family-friendly beach is known for Jenkinson’s Boardwalk and fun rides. A limited number of beach badges were sold last year, but that’s expected to change this summer. The kids will love the new 7D Dark Ride and Adventure Lookout Ropes Course at Jenkinson’s Amusement Park, which has roller coasters, carousels and rides for toddlers to teens. There’s also an aquarium, games, arcades and multiple mini golf courses. Plan ahead for beach fees and limited street parking. $11 weekdays, $12 weekends & holidays. Children 5-11, $3 weekdays, $4 weekends & holidays under 5, free. Season, $110; seniors 65+, $80; children 5-11, $55; under 5, free.

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Free Beaches

These spots always have free admission to swim, play in the sand and soak up some sun: Atlantic City, Atlantic City Cape May Point State Park, Cape May Ideal Beach, Middletown Twp. Keansburg Beach, Keansburg Leonardo Beach, Middletown Twp. Jennifer Lane Beach, Manahawkin Wildwood, North Wildwood & Wildwood Crest, The Wildwoods William Morrow Beach, Somers Point

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ften overlooked for our ocean beaches, New Jersey’s lakes have trees that offer a shady break from the sun, no salt water in your eyes, a chill atmosphere and all the boating, swimming and fishing you love. We’ve rounded up some of our favorite lakes to spend the day. Remember to keep your distance and wear masks to bathrooms and indoor areas. Plan ahead to get a good spot before the lake reaches capacity.

Hooks Creek Lake

Inside Cheesequake State Park in Matawan, this lake spot is an incredible example of two ecosystems coming together in harmony. In this combined freshwater-saltwater compound, the lake is open for swimming from 10 am to 6 pm, while lifeguards are on duty. There’s also a beach complex with changing areas, restrooms, a first-aid station and a concession stand offering snacks, novelties and beach gear. Pack your own lunch and plan to eat at one of the many picnic areas throughout the park. For folks who like to get active, try freshwater fishing and crabbing.

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Lake Hopatcong

Head to Hopatcong State Park in Landing for a glimpse of the largest lake in the state. A few years back, this gorgeous gem was plagued with harmful algae blooms, but is now safe for swimming. This beautiful and scenic area is filled with a bountiful history, having been discovered by the Lenape Indians 12,000 years ago. Lifeguards are on duty 10 am to 6 pm through Labor Day weekend, and the bathhouse is available for changing, restrooms, first-aid and concessions where food and beach necessities are available. The area’s hilltop picnic areas are each equipped with a grill for a barbecue by the lake. They also boast two playgrounds and a large playing field perfect for soccer or Frisbee. For those who like the lull of the lake underneath their feet and the patience and relaxation of waiting for a bite, the lake is also open for boating and freshwater fishing.

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If you want a day on the sand minus the crowds, NJ has beautiful lakes to explore.

Lake Marcia

This Sussex spot inside High Point State Park boasts 20 acres of crisp and refreshing spring-fed waters, and has gorgeous Appalachian views that will take your breath away. The lake is open daily from 11 am to 5:30 pm. Adjacent to the beach is a bathhouse and food stand. Visitors can also take in surrounding nature by hiking up to High Point Monument (currently closed due to COVID restrictions) which stands a whopping 1,803 feet above sea level and whose view provides a gorgeous panorama of the lush surrounding farmlands and forests. Nearby attractions at High Point State Park include Sawmill Pond and Steeny Kill Lake, where families can watch seasonal boat launches.

Round Valley Recreation Area

Located in Lebanon, the boat launch is back open this summer, along with the rest of their facilities. The Round Valley Reservoir, stocked with lake trout to inhabit its beautiful freshwater, also has a beach complex complete with changing areas, restrooms, showers, a first-aid station and a concession building. Beachfront volleyball nets provide the perfect opportunity to get a family game going before the tired gang heads over to one of three picnic areas to eat and relax. Each picnic area has a grill, restrooms and a playground for the kids.

Wawayanda State Park

Located in Hewitt, this Sussex and Passaic county park has a quiet lake which will charm swimmers and boaters alike. Lifeguards are on duty from 10 am to 6 pm, and facilities adjacent to the beach have changing areas, restrooms, a first-aid stand and a concession area. Visitors can rent canoes, rowboats and paddle boats, or bring their own watercraft to launch, including sailboards. The lake is teeming with fish including trout and landlocked salmon. The park is also home to a 19-mile stretch of the Appalachian Trail, so it’s a great for hikers, too.

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COVID stopped us from doing many things, but if these hard times showed us anything, it’s that the good parts of life carry on. There were weddings, baby showers and birthday parties that looked different than they did in the past, but families still found a way to celebrate.

Milestone Birthday

Your Fully Charged Life author Meaghan B Murphy’s mom’s 70th birthday party was canceled at the start of COVID but later turned into a beautiful surprise dinner at Meaghan’s Westfield home. Planned by Personal Touch Catering Experience in Hackensack, there were flowers, catering, rental furniture and a balloon wall, all supplied by NJ businesses. When Nana finally got to see her 11 grandkids together, there wasn’t a dry eye in the yard. —PHOTOS BY LAUREN ANZEVINO

A Sleepover to Remember

“Clementine was turning 5 in March and her 4th birthday was smack in the middle of the stay-at-home order,” says The Effortless Affair’s Michelle Shuey of Glen Ridge. “This year, I really wanted to do something special for her. I have worked with The Slumber Society and decided to do a sleepover party.” Due to COVID, only Clementine and her sister Ruby were there, but that didn’t stop the girls from having a blast. —RACHEL WATKINSON PHOTOGRAPHY

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Baby Blessings

While the pandemic has been extremely challenging, it also yielded two blessings for the Latino family—the birth of Marie’s two granddaughters, Vittoria in August and Liana in March. To commemorate her first birthday as a grandmother, the family had an intimate dinner at her daughter Lisa Marie Falbo’s East Hanover home and documented the occasion with a color-coordinated family portrait. —PHOTO COURTESY OF LISA MARIE FALBO

They Still Said “I Do”

Caitlin and Jason Sluberski planned to get married in a church and celebrate their reception at Indian Trail Club in Franklin Lakes. At the time of their wedding, indoor dining wasn’t permitted in New Jersey and their church required the bride and groom to wear masks. The couple quickly changed plans to have an outdoor ceremony at Indian Trail Club followed by a tented backyard celebration at their home in Verona. — KERI CALABRESE PHOTOGRAPHY

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The Bride-to-Be

Breanna Popko’s bridal shower at Branches Catering in West Long Branch was rescheduled several times due to the pandemic. The celebration was held entirely outdoors on what turned out to be last summer’s hottest day. The guest list included the bridal party, family and a few close friends. Cookies made by The Sweetest Creation and a beautiful cake from Chocolate Carousel in Wall made it a sweet afternoon to remember. —NICOLE VAN HESSEN PHOTOGRAPHY

There’s Always a Bright Side

“Throwing a party was something we went back and forth on,” says stylist Tiffany Piñero of Scotch Plains about her daughter Lumi’s 2nd birthday last summer. “But it had been such a hard six months of isolation that we went the safest route with everyone being COVID tested before [our] small gathering in our backyard.” With help from her sister and her mom, who owns an event decorating business, the party turned out to be pure Trolls magic. —PHOTOS BY TIFFANY PIÑERO

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Rite of Passage

Renée Riebling of Metuchen wanted to give her son, Franklin, the same type of reception his older sister had for her big day but his bar mitzvah fell during the pandemic. Their temple allowed her to do a small service and an outdoor lunch limited to 25 guests with “bagel bags” and an appearance from an ice cream truck. “Franklin learned to chant Torah over Facetime,” says Renée. “He chanted so beautifully. I was really proud of him!” —KYO MORISHIMA PHOTOGRAPHY

Welcoming a Baby Girl

Taryn Palone of Somerset’s baby shower at the Molly Pitcher Inn in Red Bank had a slimmed down guest list, with a handful of people at each table, and only family and close friends in attendance. Taryn’s mom and sister planned the party with plenty of special, personalized details to celebrate her sweet girl. —NICOLE VAN HESSEN PHOTOGRAPHY

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Here’s how to secure the best fit for your family during the pandemic.

By Arricca Elin SanSone ure, painting the nursery and buying the cutest outfit for your little one matters. But choosing the right pediatrician for your family is one of the most important things you can do to prep for your new arrival. But don’t worry—trust your gut and you’ll find a good fit. “I am certain that there is more than one right pediatrician for you and your baby, so don’t become stressed,” says Marisa E. Rosania, MD, FAAP, of Franklin Pediatrics, Primary Care Partners in Whippany. “I recommend obtaining referrals from trusted neighbors, friends, or relatives. Many pediatricians offer prenatal meetings which can allow you to get a feel for an office. During your visits be certain you feel comfortable. You should leave feeling a sense of trust in your baby’s doctor and a sense of confidence in yourself as a parent.” Christina Ott, MD, MPH, chief of special needs primary care at Children’s Specialized Hospital in New Brunswick, says it’s important to figure out what matters most to you. “Is it office accessibility and hours? Do you want to focus on a special area, such as breastfeeding or sleep training?” Make sure you find someone who accepts your insurance and has an office that’s nearby. Here’s what else to consider:

CHECK THEIR CERTIFICATIONS

The site healthychildren.org lists board-certified pediatricians, indicated by FAAP (Fellow of the American Academy of Pediatrics), after their name. This designation means your pediatrician has earned the highest level of certification in this specialty.

ASK ABOUT COVID SAFETY MEASURES

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Most of us have become accustomed to additional protocols for seeing the doctor during COVID. Pediatrician offices are no different and have put many steps in place to keep kids, parents and staff healthy, says Joseph Schwab, MD, associate professor of pediatrics at Rutgers New Jersey Medical School in Newark. Ask what to expect, which typically includes checking in from your car, spacing out appointments, going directly to the exam room, enhanced protective gear and cleaning processes.

SCHEDULE A GET-TO-KNOW-YOU VISIT

The only way to know if you’re going to click with a new doctor is to have a meeting—either in person or through a telemedicine appointment. “It’s a good idea to meet before your child arrives, especially if you’re a first-time parent,” says Schwab. “This is a professional but also personal relationship. You need to feel this is someone you can talk to, who explains things in a way you

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understand, and who listens and takes time with you.” Don’t be shy about discussing what’s important to you so you can get a sense of whether the doctor is a good fit.

FIND OUT ABOUT THEIR WORKFLOW PROCESS

Ask how to contact a provider—by phone or email? Does the doctor handle calls personally or are they triaged through the nurse? What about after-hours visits? How are sick visits handled, and are they generally available same-day? In a large practice, you may be assigned a provider for scheduled visits, but you may see another doctor for sick calls if yours isn’t available. Do they do developmental tests periodically? “You should also ask about how soon after birth your child will be seen,” says Schwab. “Generally, your pediatrician will either come to the hospital, or he or she may see the child within two to three days in the office.”

LEARN ABOUT TELEHEALTH VISITS

In many cases, pediatricians are using telehealth for follow-ups for which your child may not necessarily need to be seen in person, says Ott. Some things, such as a rash or initial screening for COVID, can also be done by telemedicine, but ask about your doctor’s policies.

PAY ATTENTION TO THE FRONT DESK

Not only do you need to trust your provider, but you also need to feel comfortable with the staff, says Ott. Chances are, you’ll often need to call when you’re sleep-deprived and stressed, and you want to get a sense that they’re here to help. Is there a team vibe? Are they excited about their jobs? “In our office, we like to get feedback from our families because this is all part of your child’s care,” says Ott.

GO WITH YOUR GUT

Granted, the process of choosing a doctor is somewhat intuitive, but if you don’t feel comfortable right away, you probably need to keep looking, says Schwab. Sometimes it’s simply a matter of communication styles. Some people prefer doctors who get right to the point, while others prefer a more laid-back approach. There’s no right or wrong, only personal preference. Don’t be shy about finding a different doctor if you’re not at ease; you need to feel you and your pediatrician are a team. “It’s really a privilege to be in a family’s life and watch kids grow up,” says Ott. “You want to find a doctor who has that enthusiasm and connection to kids.”

& Face Masks How to help your baby learn language despite possible delays from wearing masks.

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abies learn sounds and language by watching faces. From birth, babies stare at eyes. By 4 to 8 months, they shift to also watching mouths, where sound is originating. So, does maskwearing have an impact on their language development? “There are no studies specific to the current situation,” says Robynne Kratchman, MS, director of speech language pathology programs at Speech & Hearing Associates in northern New Jersey. “But we do know masks hide faces, and babies need face time. Masks also mute sounds, hide our expressions, and limit what babies can see and hear, all of which could potentially delay sound and speech development.” How do you know if there may be a delay in your baby’s speech development? “Parents should be concerned if their baby is not aware of other people, not interested in interacting with people, not responsive to other people’s communication and not engaging in any sort of ‘back-and-forth’ play, does not vocalize at all, does not smile after the first two months

or so, doesn’t watch the parent when the parent is speaking, or if they used to do those things but either stopped or their development seems to have slowed down,” says Cristina Farrell, MD, MPH, a developmental behavioral pediatrician at Goryeb Children’s Hospital Child Development and Autism Center in Morristown. She advises immediately discussing concerns with your pediatrician, who can do a developmental screening. What can we do if we’re worried our babies aren’t getting the full message from our masked faces? Here’s how to help:

GO MASKLESS AT HOME WHEN POSSIBLE “If you have a babysitter or other caregivers coming into the home, consider having them use masks that have clear cutouts for the mouth or face shields so kids can see the full face without barriers,” says Cheryl Pizappi, MS, supervisor of the speech department at Children’s Specialized Hospital in Clifton, Bayonne and Newark.

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IMITATE YOUR CHILD’S SOUNDS Babies begin life by making ‘cooing’ and ‘gooing’ sounds as early as birth to 3 months. When your baby babbles, babble in return. Make different noises, use facial expressions and make sure your child can see your mouth when you’re talking to them. This helps your baby learn how sounds are made and how to read social and emotional cues from your face, says Kratchman.

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MAKE FACE TIME A PRIORITY Get down on your baby’s level and speak directly to her. Let your child touch your throat or mouth as you make various sounds so your baby can feel the vibrations. Sing and read to your baby. Make different sounds with different toys. Look in the mirror together, making faces or playing peekaboo with a blanket, says Pizappi.

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Resources for Speech and Language

Learn about milestones and tips for nurturing your baby’s language skills at: American Speech Language Hearing Association NIH Speech and Language Developmental Milestones NJ Speech Language Hearing Association peas. Look at what a pretty color they are.” Work on anticipation, too. Every time you go to the fridge say, “Open!” Then reach for the handle and pause. When baby makes a sound, open the door and say, “Open!” to help teach the relationship between sounds and actions. If something doesn’t feel right, call your pediatrician or schedule an evaluation by a speech language pathologist. “If there are delays, we know early intervention results in the best outcomes for kids,” says Kratchman. Telehealth also has become increasingly available, which may be a more convenient option.

Work That Smile! Your guide to taking care of those baby teeth

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Waiting to take your infant to the dentist until

they’ve got a full set of baby teeth to take care of? Don’t. Both the American Dental Association (ADA) and the American Academy of Pediatric Dentistry (AAPD) suggest you should see a pediatric dentist when the first tooth emerges, and no later than your baby’s first birthday. Going early also lets your little one get comfortable with the idea of regular checkups. The more familiar they become with the dentist, the less scary it’ll be. Baby teeth might not seem so important, but according to the AAPD, these primary teeth help children speak clearly, chew naturally and form a path for permanent teeth to follow.

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To take care of those teeth, brush them with a softbristled toothbrush, one designed for infants, and make sure to get them in the habit of brushing at least once a day before bedtime, says the AAPD. Here are tips from the ADA to prep for baby’s first visit: B rush teeth before visits, or save snacks for after the exam. S tay calm—if baby sees you nervous or freaking out, she’ll follow suit. A sk about issues with teething, thumb-sucking or pacifiers. D on’t schedule your visit during nap time! G o when baby is most likely to be rested and calm.

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Knowing how to put your baby down for sleep could save her life.

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he pain of experiencing the agony of losing an infant to Sudden Unexpected Infant Death (SUID) is unimaginable. “For most cases of SUID, there is no answer, and that is a horrifying grief,” says Barbara Ostfeld, Ph.D., professor of pediatrics at Robert Wood Johnson Medical School. SUID, which includes Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS), which only applies to completely unexplained deaths, accounts for 3,500 deaths in the country each year. These deaths occur in the first year of life, most often between 2 to 4 months. “Although the causes of SUID mostly remain unknown, we have learned how to reduce the risk,” says Ostfeld. How and where you put your baby to sleep could save your child’s life. The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends following these safe infant sleep recommendations from birth to one year: Put babies to sleep on their backs for the first 12 months of life. Babies can share your room, but not your bed. Babies should sleep only in a crib, bassinet, portable crib or play yard that meets current Consumer Product Safety Commission standards. Use the type of mattress intended for the product. The crib must be clutter free—no bumpers, pillows, blankets, quilts or stuffed animals. If warmth is needed, use sleep clothing, such as a wearable blanket Dress baby in layers to avoid overheating. There are other factors that are associated with an increased risk for SUID, including smoking, premature birth, being Black and

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poverty. Fortunately, parents can help compensate for the increased risk by using safe sleep practices. The SIDS Center of New Jersey is committed to helping save lives, and offers programs for new parents and healthcare workers, including SIDS Info, a free mobile phone app that teaches safe sleep for infants. The organization also offers webinars on its Facebook page, @SIDSCenterNJ. Thanks to programs like these, New Jersey has one of the lowest SUID rates in the nation. Complementing the work of the SIDS Center is Cribs for Kids, a nonprofit founded by Judy Bannon. After discovering that 90 percent of SUID cases were caused by babies sleeping in unsafe conditions or in locations such as couches and adult beds, she found a way to help. Through Cribs for Kids, cribettes (Pack ‘n Plays) and educational materials are distributed to individuals through the organization’s 1,800 safe sleep partners nationwide including the Central Jersey Family Health Consortium. “When community health workers make home visits and see unsafe sleep situations, they can get a Pack ‘n Play from us for the family,” reports chief program officer Laura Taylor. Find a location at cribsforkids.org. Through this program you can get a certificate for a free cribette so your baby—and you—can sleep safe and sound. —Karen B. Gibbs is a freelance writer specializing in health, parenting and lifestyle.

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n December 2020, 17-month-old Reese Hamsmith died after swallowing a tiny button battery that caused a hole in her esophagus. Reese’s mom, who started the group Reese’s Purpose to advocate for safer batteries, shared her story to warn other parents, saying that battery ingestion is more common than people realize. “Our children may be given a wide variety of high-tech toys at any age and these may have battery powered objects that light up, move, talk and even respond to them,” says Alycia Leiby, MD, a pediatric gastroenterology physician with Atlantic Health System. “Many of these contain either small alkaline batteries or large, high voltage lithium button or disk batteries.” Leiby says to be on the lookout for household items such as hearing aids, watches and even decorative candles that may contain these batteries. “Because of their larger size, lithium button batteries are particularly dangerous and may become lodged in the esophagus, causing a severe burn,” she says. “Complications of button battery burns can include tears in the esophagus and severe bleeding from damage to the surrounding blood vessels, as well as injury to the airways.” Pediatrician Ben Hoffman, MD, FAAP, chair of the Council on Injury, Violence & Poison Prevention of the American Academy of Pediatrics, says there’s been an increase in emergencies where young children have swallowed lithium coin batteries and button batteries over the past two decades, sometimes with devastating results. “It’s really important to make sure the batteries are secure in these devices, such as with a screw closure when available, or even a piece of strong tape,” says Hoffman. “Also, make sure you store unused batteries away where children cannot get them. As another layer of precaution, you can look for lithium coin batteries

that come in child-secure packaging and have a bitter coating, which may help to deter accidental ingestions. It is also important to make sure to dispose of old lithium coin batteries in ways that ensure that kids can’t get to them.” If you think your baby or child has swallowed a battery, try to remain calm and head to the ER immediately. “The sooner the battery is removed the better,” says Ernest G. Leva, MD, FAAP, director of Pediatric Emergency Medicine, The Bristol-Myers Squibb Children’s Hospital at Robert Wood Johnson University Hospital and Rutgers Robert Wood Johnson Medical School. “If the battery is found in the esophagus or stomach it can be removed and the likelihood of perforation is decreased. Generally, the window of opportunity is eight hours.” Even without symptoms, a battery can begin to cause serious damage in just two hours, says Hoffman. “While en route to the hospital, you can give your child two teaspoons of honey, if they are over one year of age, which can help reduce injury to the esophagus,” says Hoffman. “You are able to give up to six doses of honey about 10 minutes apart. Be sure that you do not give your child anything else to eat or drink, however, and do not offer another dose of honey if your child vomits.” Unfortunately, it’s not always obvious when a child has swallowed a battery, says Hoffman. “Some symptoms that you can look out for, however, include the sudden development of a cough, vomiting, swallowing difficulty or just seeming sick and not themselves. Your child may also have throat or tummy discomfort and lose their appetite.” If there’s a chance a child has swallowed a battery, they should be seen and X-rayed ASAP.

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eing a new mom is challenging enough—balancing feeding, cleaning and caring for your baby on little to no sleep. Now add in hormonal ups and downs, emotional overload, birth plan disappointments, identity issues, irritability and anxiety over everything from whether the baby is breathing properly to how you’ll be able to afford to send her to college. Combine all that with feelings of isolation, already common in our increasingly digital world and made worse by COVID. When

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you add it all up, it’s not surprising that up to 85 percent of women experience one to three weeks of the baby blues. And it isn’t just the blues—the mildest form of what’s collectively known as perinatal mood disorders (PMD). “Ten to twenty percent of women develop a mood disorder at some point from the time they become pregnant to up to a year after giving birth,” says Jill Wodnick, project coordinator for Pre/Perinatal Programming and Community Outreach,

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Allison Fox, MD, owner of Renew Integrative & Functional Medicine in Maplewood. “I also think that the expectations for what the postpartum period is going to be are not necessarily aligned with reality.” From being seen as inadequate and unsafe to the shame of not living up to their own and society’s expectations, many women keep their real struggles hidden from everyone. “By staying quiet, you risk none of that—but you actually risk everything,” Fox says. “Obstetricians and midwives want nothing more than to help their patients postpartum. To me, there should be no shame, but as a culture we still have the idea that we are independent and should do it ourselves.” Here are some things that can help: S ee a doctor: Whether pre- or postpartum, an OB-GYN or mental health practitioner can figure out what’s needed. H ire an expert: Night nurses let parents catch up on sleep. Lactation consultants ease nursing issues. Postpartum doulas offer emotional, physical and informational support. “Doulas are amazing allies who feel safe, but they are also highly trained,” says Fox. F arm out housework: If you can swing it financially, sign up for a meal delivery service. Send out the laundry. Let someone else clean your house. Or ask family and friends for help. G et some sleep: To catch more zzzzs, ask your partner to take a midnight or morning turn with a bottle. B reastfeed your babe: According to Wodnick, the feelgood, milk-making hormone prolactin has a protective factor—so long as new parents have the support and encouragement they need to do so since nursing struggles can also contribute to postpartum depression. Seek out new parent networks: Social support is key to mental health. “Women need other women at this time,” says Menken. “It’s really essential, and there’s nothing like being in it with someone who’s also in it at the same time.”

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Center for Autism and Early Childhood Mental Health at Montclair State University. What differentiates the blues from something more serious? “It’s a matter of duration and severity,” says Montclair-based clinical psychologist Alexis E. Menken, Ph.D., co-founder of the NJ chapter of Postpartum Support International. Postpartum depression, the most common complication of pregnancy and the best known PMD, affects about 10 percent of new mothers, commonly taking hold within two to three months after giving birth. Symptoms can include: sorrow and frequent sobbing, feeling little worth and unsafe as a parent, diminished interest in the baby, sleep, appetite and concentration issues and guilt for feeling this way. At the extreme end, psychosis can develop. Either way, depression is only one way PMD can manifest. “You don’t have to be weepy, sad and blue to have a perinatal mood disorder. There are many facets, and depression doesn’t even have to factor in. Anxiety may present instead of the classic face,” she says. In this case, women may feel agitated, irritated and fearful, potentially experiencing panic attacks, cold sweats and hyperventilation, and not even realize it’s PMD. What causes PMD? “Any number of things can contribute to a mood disorder,” says Menken. “A history of depression, having a mother who suffered PMD, a difficult pregnancy or birth, the sudden loss of freedom, exhaustion, body issues, even lack of basic resources like diapers can contribute.” Hormones, in particular, can have a dramatic impact. “The placenta is full of feel-good hormones (progesterone) and the sudden loss of the progesterone can feel really awful for many women,” says

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Have an indoor picnic. Lay a sheet on the floor; add finger food and beverages in non-spill cups. Go on a blanket ride. Pull the kids around the house— pretend you’re a train, a boat or a spaceship. Embark on a treasure hunt. Take turns hiding stuffed toys, blocks or anything toddler-friendly around the house. Draw a map and cheer the kids on when they find the treasures. Play a game of bowling using empty water bottles and a soft indoor-safe ball. Make an indoor hopscotch board or a maze using blue painter’s tape. Give the kids a box—the bigger the better. Cut out a door or window and let their imaginations take over. Make paper airplanes and let ’em fly. Finger paint. Line the floor with a plastic shower curtain, add lots of paper and finger paints. Then get your hands messy as you create with the kids. Channel your inner thespian—don’t just read, perform. Use different voices, exaggerated facial expressions and props to make stories come alive. Bake! Refrigerated cookie dough makes it easy to create edible masterpieces—and decorating them together is a blast.

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room, even with vigilant COVID cleaning. This will also happen in kindergarten and beyond, so don’t sweat it and just keep the pediatrician on speed dial. Instead, watch for your kid’s sudden love of Cheetos (because so-and-so brings them daily) or their obsession with an annoying pop song or TV show. And just wait for the day your sweet toddler demos how loud they can belch because they learned it from their new BFF.

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This convention at Hyatt Place in Fort Lee brings together artists, talent and fans of anime and video games. Cosplay is highly encouraged. Tickets start at $39.99. puchicon.com.

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Garden State Comic Fest

The Mills at Jersey Gardens Mall in Elizabeth is home to this year’s Comic Book Festival, featuring artists, celebs, vendors and panel discussions. Tickets start at $15/person. gardenstatecomicfest.com

NJ Renaissance Faire

The second weekend of this throwback event in Bordentown will have music, dance, sword fights, costumes and oversized turkey legs. You can even buy a ticket for your dog. $25/adult, $10/child or dog. njrenfaire.com

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This carnival is a fundraiser for the Chester Volunteer Fire Company and is a fun tradition with plenty of rides for the kids, plus food and music at Chubb Park. Fireworks night is currently planned for the 25th. chestertownship.org

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