New Jersey Family: Fall 2020

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PREGNANCY DURING THE PANDEMIC YOUR GUIDE TO BABY’S FIRST TWO YEARS GEAR WE LOVE

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SPOOKY (AND SAFE) ATTRACTIONS IN AND AROUND NEW JERSEY

GENIUS REMOTE LEARNING FINDS

YOUR BREAST HEALTH CHECKUP

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Jenny and Sam Berse

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Matrimonial Law • Westfield

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They’re both caring and professional. They gave both emotional and professional support. Walking you through every step of the process—giving you options and practical advice on what is a highly stressful situation.

In addition to being a brilliant attorney, her compassionate and positive approach enables her clients to divorce without destruction.

—D.J., SCOTCH PLAINS

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Staci Greenwald Wills, Estates, Trusts, Child with Special Needs • Cranbury

Lori Arons Special Needs • Hackensack Lori is a top-notch attorney that truly cares about her clients.

She helped us navigate a very tough situation and we were able to obtain the best possible outcome. We secured an out-ofdistrict placement for our son at a highly sought-after school.

We highly recommend Lori.

Staci puts her families’ needs above all else and is exceptional at handling all matters relating to special education with compassion, professionalism and honesty. She’s accessible at all times and dedicated to those she serves.

—L.P., TOMS RIVER

—L.D., WESTWOOD

Emad Lawandi Wills, Estates, Trusts, Real Estate, Personal Injury • Matawan He’s very knowledgeable and explains things in detail. I get quick responses to questions and he’s on top of all of our needs. A wonderful person to have representing us!

—A.P., CLIFFWOOD

Mary Frances Palisano Special Needs • Newark Ms. Palisano is passionate about inclusive education. She gave personalized attention to our child’s case. She provided strategies on exactly how we should move forward with the case. It was a difficult and complicated situation. She has great patience to go through the details of every communication between the parties. Her demeanor is non-combative, yet assertive and powerful at the IEP meetings. After interviewing three other special ed. attorneys, we selected Ms. Palisano, and we’re glad to have this attorney for our child. She’s amazing!

—V.J., MONTVILLE

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Contents Feature

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A SOCIALLY-DISTANCED HALLOWEEN We found plenty of safe and spooky fun for every age.

Stuff We Love

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HOME SCHOOL SETUP Make virtual learning easier with these finds.

Healthy + Happy

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CHECK-IN TIME What to ask your pediatrician before winter

Raising Smarties

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PRIVATE SCHOOL PREVIEW Is private school the right fit for your family?

GOING REMOTE How to take the stress out of distance learning.

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PARENTAL PLANNING Make sure your parents have the legal documents they need.

Me Time

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BREAST HEALTH The latest on every type of screening

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WHAT TO EXPECT DURING IVF What to know about fertility treatments

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PREGNANCY DURING COVID-19 How to keep you and baby healthy and safe.

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BE WELL A guide to baby’s first two years of well-visits

IN GEAR 49 GET Finds you actually need IT ALLERGIES? 51 ISSigns it might be more than just the sniffles

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TOOTH HURTS Good dental hygiene is important, even in baby teeth.

DURING 58 PRESCHOOL THE PANDEMIC Keep your little one safe at daycare during COVID.

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A Long, Strange Year It’s hard to believe we’ve been living through a pandemic for eight months. Everything from visiting family and friends to going to school and work has been upended. Remote learning and wearing a mask while socially distancing in class now feels strangely routine for our kids. COVID has reminded us to reprioritize our health and mental well-being for the sake of our loved ones.

In this issue, we help you do just that with advice on getting your kids’ checkups done before winter. And if you’re due for a mammogram or aren’t sure when to start going, we have the latest screening guidelines.

If you’re at the start of your parenting journey, you know first-hand how COVID has redefined pregnancy and caring for a newborn. Whether you’re trying to conceive, have just given birth or are adapting to life with an infant, our special baby section is filled with the latest information from health experts.

Now that we’re more than a month into remote learning during this strange school year, we asked educators to share their best advice to make at-home learning less stressful. Turn to page 8 for their tips and page 6 for gear that’ll make it easier.

And just because we’re living through a pandemic doesn’t mean we can’t celebrate one of our favorite holidays of the year. Sure, trick-ortreating will look different but the good news is that many of NJ’s best Halloween attractions are open with new safety rules in place. Turn to page 29 for a list of spooky fun guaranteed to get you into the spirit.

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Stuff We Love

Remote SETUP

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Class is in session with smart gear to make at-home and hybrid learning easier.

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5 1. IN THE ZONE A lightweight noise-canceling headset makes it easier to focus in shared work spaces, with up to 20 hours of charge. HyperX Cloud MIX Wired Gaming Headset, $139.99. hyperxgaming.com. 2. STAND TALL. Use a stand to easily record videos for music or gym or hold the phone during lessons. CLCKR Universal Stand, $14.99. clckr.com. 3. STRONG SIGNAL Upgrade your Wi-Fi with whole-home coverage and parental controls to create Internet time-outs. Google Nest Wifi, $169 for router; $269 for two-pack. store.google.com. 4. TUNE IN Sleek noise-canceling ear buds with wireless in-case charging are made for long online classes. Urbanista London Ear Buds, $149. urbanista.com 5. HOME SCHOOL ORDER A rolling cart makes it easy to corral all things school-related to a quiet space in your house. Lexington 3-Tier Rolling Cart by Recollections, $29.99. michaels.com.

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Remote Learning Expert tips to deal with an all-remote or hybrid school schedule, even when it’s not your child’s learning style.

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CREATE A ROUTINE “It’s beneficial for both parents and children to have a morning routine that follows the same pattern each day,” says Vanessa De Jesus Guzman, a licensed counselor and owner of Free to Be Mindful in Ridgefield. “This can include washing up, changing out of pajamas, eating breakfast, then going to their set school space for the day. This primes the brain for learning. “Dr. Steven Sussman, PhD, a child psychologist in Mountainside who specializes in working with kids with oppositional defiant disorder, says there are three words parents need to remember when it comes to success with remote learning: structure, structure, structure. “This takes work on the parent’s part,” says Sussman. “Get up the same time and have breakfast. Set up your schedule to try and mimic the regular school day.”

GET MOVING Dr. Sussman says a big problem he sees with remote learning is kids are becoming sedentary, sluggish and overweight. He suggests building physical activity into the schedule and putting the kibosh on unlimited snacking. “Before starting school for the day, go for a 15-minute walk or do a game of catch outside,” he suggests. “We know that exercise improves focus. This will make kids more alert and ready to work versus

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coming to the desk still sleepy.”

HAVE A SET SCHOOL SPACE “Whether it be at a desk in their room or at a specific chair at the kitchen table, it is important to have a designated space with materials available and free of distractions,” says Guzman. “Once school is done for the day, the space isn’t revisited until the next day. This can provide much-needed separation if a child is home all day.” Sussman advises parents to make sure the space is clutter-free, to limit distractions and have no video games around since most kids will turn to them as soon as parents jump on a work call.

GET ORGANIZED “Have your child use their backpack, just as if they were going to school,” says Sussman. He also suggests color-coding folders– for example, blue for math and red for English–to help kids stay organized. “As adults, we must remember that organization is a learned skill,” says Guzman. “For the first two weeks, parents can work alongside their children when it comes to organizing them. Having a family calendar with virtual sessions, projects and assessments can be helpful for the entire family. “

HAVE COMPASSION (FOR YOURSELF AND OTHERS) “After our experience last spring we have an idea of what to expect; however, that doesn’t make it less challenging,” says Guzman.

“Having grace and compassion towards children, educators and

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ow that we’re well into what is likely a hybrid or fully remote learning schedule, the stress of trying to keep up with school work, job responsibilities and the house is off the charts. For parents who work outside the home and can’t be with their kids during at-home remote learning, it’s even tougher.

Although the situation may not be ideal, there are things you can do to help your child have a successful school year. We asked some of the state’s top child psychologists, plus a mom who’s in our shoes, for advice on how to reduce the stress of remote learning. It’s not too late to establish better habits.

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even for themselves can help parents take overwhelming times with more ease. If a child is reaching the point of frustration, taking a break may be necessary. The same is true for parents. Engaging in mindful activities such as taking belly breaths, blowing bubbles and moving the body by going for walks can help families keep the peace during these times.”

Bessie Frimpong, a registered nurse, fitness and lifestyle blogger at Very Bessie and mom-of-two in Newark, agrees. “As we’ve seen with the onset of this pandemic, things change almost moment by moment, day by day. Just as we’re trying to navigate through the constant barrage of changes, so are the school administrators and staff, and many of them don’t quite have all the answers to begin with. Many of the schools have never had to come up with a remote learning method, so we have to be willing to extend grace, as all of this is new to everybody.”

REMEMBER TO CHECK IN “Many schools have morning meetings or advisory periods to check in on how children are doing,” says Guzman. “Parents can do similar things at home. Having genuine and honest conversations with kids during walks, while playing a game of cards, or even over dinner can provide parents a pulse as to how their child is feeling.”

SET BOUNDARIES If your child is constantly coming to you for help, this can be tricky especially if you’re caring for other children or trying

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to work. “Tell your child that if she sees you on the phone to move on to the next piece of work and when she sees you hang up, then come to you for help,” says Sussman. Setting a few ground rules will save you from constantly being interrupted and may even encourage your child to find a solution on her own.

KEEP A SENSE OF HUMOR Sussman says parents will get a better response from their kids if they try to infuse a little humor into the school day. “When parents get serious and stern it doesn’t work,” says Sussman. He finds unique ways to keep the students and parents he works with laughing, rating kids on the schoolwork like it’s a game show to add a little fun and excitement to the day-to-day.

FOCUS ON THE POSITIVE “Remember that at no point have we ever been given so much opportunity to share input regarding our children’s educational needs,” says Frimpong. “I know so many of us have been bombarded with survey after survey and Zoom meeting after Zoom meeting.

But ultimately, I am enjoying the fact that some of the concerns that parents may have shared pre-pandemic, are now being given more consideration than ever before. I think it’s promising to know that based on our feedback as parents and caregivers, we are contributing to the improvement of our children’s educational experience, despite the challenges. That way, when it is safe to re-enter the classrooms, things may be better than where we left off.”

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When you connect with students as individuals, you can teach them anywhere.

During these complex times, parents can rest assured that MKA is providing the best education to prepare their children for real-world challenges. Our faculty members work hard to connect with students as individuals by teaching compassion, generosity, and well-being of mind. This commitment to social and emotional learning serves our teachers and students well, as connection and collaboration are essential elements for successful remote learning. As a result of these close connections, we can teach our students anywhere, without compromising what they will learn, even in classrooms that happen to be dining rooms, living rooms, and kitchens.

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Check out our preview of private schools in New Jersey.

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Christian Brothers Academy

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850 Newman Springs Rd., Lincroft 732-747-1959 ex. 217 • CBALincroftNJ.org Christian Brothers Academy has built a reputation rooted in excellence, basing our educational philosophy on the Lasallian tradition. We focus on developing every aspect of our students through unique activities both in and out of the classroom.

Our faculty is committed to a rigorous academic curriculum, while helping each student reach his full potential. The principles of faith and service remain ever-present in our community, always giving our students a chance to help those who are less fortunate. Over the past five years, each graduating class has averaged over 100 hours of service per student, which greatly exceeds the 50 hours required for graduation. Meanwhile, our championshipwinning athletics and dynamic extracurricular activities allow for our students to foster an unparalleled brotherhood during their time at the Academy. For over 60 years, CBA has developed young men of faith, character and action who are prepared to serve society as leaders and innovators.

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Private School Previews

The Community School

11 West Forest Ave. 201-837-8070 (Lower School); 1135 Teaneck Rd. 201-862-1796 (High School) communityschoolk12nj.org Community School is an amazing place. Serving the bright child with learning difficulties for 52 years, the school provides our students with individualized skilled remedial help, including reading instruction that utilizes the Orton-Gillingham and Wilson Language Training approaches. Speech and language services, counseling, college guidance and a full transition program are provided. The New Jersey Student Learning Standards and Common Core Standards are closely followed throughout the curriculum. All classes are grouped according to skill level, are small in size and offer high-level course content in addition to specific remediation. A wide variety of elective subjects are offered at all grade levels. The result is a challenging college preparatory program that includes a full array of extracurricular experiences and a strong interscholastic sports program. At Community School, each and every one

of our students can excel and is able to reach his or her full potential.

The Craig School

The Craig School Campuses 10 Tower Hill Rd., Mountain Lakes 24 Changebridge Rd., Montville 973-334-1295 • craigschool.org The Craig School is an independent school that specializes in working with students with learning disabilities in grades 2–12. We are a family of parents, educators and students brought together by purpose. We are a school built upon the foundation that all students can and will learn if the right environments, strategies and supports are made available to them. We are a second home to our students and families, and offer a challenging academic program that features proven, researchbased learning strategies including multi-sensory approaches, assistive technology and organizational skills. Our students are taught to learn by providing them with meta-cognitive strategies and crosscurricular approaches. These learning tools allow students to build their academic foundations, to

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increase their ability to be active and independent learners and to develop a sense of who they are as individuals and students. Visit craigschool.org or call 973-334-1295.

The Elisabeth Morrow School

435 Lydecker St., Englewood 201-568-5566 • elisabethmorrow.org EMS is a premier independent school serving children age 2 through eighth grade. We are dedicated to the academic growth of every student and their social and emotional health and well-being, whether it be on campus or with remote learning.

Located on 14 spacious wooded acres in New Jersey and 10 minutes from NYC, the campus features state-of-the-art technology labs, gymnasiums, maker spaces, science labs, libraries, outdoor learning patios, an athletic field, playgrounds, nature trails and working gardens. EMS is a diverse all-inclusive child-centered community with three divisions for students to learn and grow, each in their own dedicated building. EMS is known for its nationally renowned music program. Developing character is the guiding principle that defines every student’s experience. Call today for a virtual tour and visit our website for our fall 2020 re-entry plan that supports the safety and security of every child and meets or exceeds CDC guidelines.

The Gramon Family of Schools

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28 Dwight Pl., Fairfield 973-882-8822 • gramonfamily.org

The Gramon Family of Schools, located in Fairfield, NJ, is a New Jersey Department of Education approved private special education school dedicated to serving students ages 3 through 21 with Autism Spectrum Disorder and other developmental disabilities. Since 1939, The Gramon Family of Schools has supported students and their families by committing to the philosophy that every student deserves the opportunity to attain his or her highest potential. The program provides effective Individualized Educational Plans for each student utilizing the expertise of certified teachers, clinicians, administrators and support staff. Our curriculum provides traditional and functional academics, as well as 21st century skills, which are taught and modeled through Applied Behavioral Analysis and other evidence-based instructional methods. The goal is to connect school-based educational, pre-vocational and social experiences to the community and prepare students for their life-long journey. To learn more, please visit gramonfamily.org or schedule a tour at admissions@gramon.org.

Private School Previews

845-356-2514 • gmws.org How is your family educating your children this Fall?

Green Meadow Waldorf School opened successfully on September 9 with students in outdoor classrooms. We also have distance learning plans ready in case school closures are required. Class sizes throughout the school have been kept small for safety. Join us for a virtual Information Session on October 8 or a private in-person tour to learn more.

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Holmstead School

14 Hope St., Ridgewood 201-447-1696 • holmstead.org Holmstead School–the right fit for bright teens.

Holmstead School, celebrating our 50th anniversary, provides an educational and therapeutic atmosphere emphasizing an innovative and flexible program for adolescents who need to be challenged in order to change their motivation and performance. Students between the ages of 13–18 in grades 8-12, who have experienced a variety of social/emotional and/ or learning challenges, find academic success and behavioral growth. We have an equally balanced male/female teaching and clinical staff as well as an equally balanced student body. We have recently added two full time clinicians, one who is a certified DBT therapist and the other, who is a doctoral level school psychologist. We celebrate staff commitment to our mission; longevity at Holmstead is more than double the average in this challenging field.

Classification by the public school child study team precedes an on-site interview. The Holmstead staff applies our skills today to ensure your teen’s success tomorrow.

Immaculate Heart Academy

500 Van Emburgh Ave., Washington Twp. 201-445-6800 • ihanj.com Immaculate Heart Academy is an all-female college preparatory high school in the Archdiocese of Newark, which has as its purpose the complete education of young women. By cultivating the traditional Christian values of the Roman Catholic Church and upholding exceptional academic standards, IHA offers a unique educational experience. The school’s mission, both at its foundation in 1960 and today, is to provide quality Catholic education to young women in an atmosphere characterized by respect for the individual and the Christian community, and a high level of family involvement. In Fall 2020, IHA successfully reopened with a hybrid model of in-person and virtual instruction that was thoughtfully created to keep with the mission of the school while providing the community the safest and healthiest environment possible. By instilling in its students a sense of responsibility, confidence, justice, peace and compassion, IHA prepares its young women for life throughout the twenty-first century.

Lacordaire Academy

155 Lorraine Ave., Upper Montclair 973-744-1156 x12 • lacordaireacademy.com Lacordaire Academy is a 100-year-old independent, college preparatory school in the Catholic Dominican tradition serving a diverse coed PK–8th grade and all women in grades 9–12th. The school is on a 3-acre campus in Upper Montclair, and facilitates a rigorous curriculum to empower students to

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Mother Seton

A UNIQUE SCHOOL FOR GIRLS

Regional High School

Advanced Placement and College Preparatory Curriculum Engineering Design Program

Graduates of the Class of 2020 earned an average of $350,000 in academic scholarships.

One Valley Road Clark, NJ • 732-382-1952 • www.motherseton.org

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Success SuccessBegins Begins at atWestmont Westmont An Accredited School • Mendham Educating Children ages 18 mos. - 6 yrs.

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EDUCATE ENGAGE INSPIRE Supporting students ages 3 - 21 with Autism Spectrum Disorder and other developmental disabilities.

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develop their own gifts and talents. Lacordaire has a warmth and connectedness that is distinct. Class sizes are 15–22 students. Eighth grade boys attend high schools such as Seton Hall Prep, St. Peters, Xavier (NYC) and Regis (NYC). The Upper School prepares young women for exceptional leadership and empowerment. Graduates have been accepted to Harvard, Yale, Brown, Barnard and UPenn. Please register via our website for our Virtual Open House Oct. 18th, Future Freshman Sessions Oct. 29th and Nov. 5th, and our Academy Information Session on Dec. 2nd. Please also consider making a private appt. with the Admissions Office. We look forward to talking with you!

Lakeland-Andover School

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vocational classes we are expanding ours to meet the needs of students who may excel with hands-on instruction. These offerings are then complemented with extensive community-based instruction opportunities. When students at Lakeland-Andover experience the success of building and completing a project from their own drawings, or receive the accolades at an event where their wonderful culinary treats are praised, they are motivated. They are motivated to succeed and attempt new things. This translates to striving for success both vocationally and academically.

Lakeland-Andover’s academic, vocational and community-based instruction program prepares students for a successful transition to a world of opportunity.

20 Jefferson St., Newton 973-383-0208 • lakelandandoverschool.org

Montclair Kimberley Academy

Lakeland-Andover School is a private, non-profit therapeutic day school with vocational and academic programs providing special education for 6th–12th graders with learning, emotional and/ or behavioral challenges. Not only does LakelandAndover School have a dedicated and skilled staff teaching the required core-curriculum classes, but when many public schools are eliminating

At MKA, no two students are the same. They are inquisitive thinkers and insightful doers, diverse individuals and enthusiastic members of a warm community. From their littlest learners to the almostadult scholars, students at MKA go beyond answers.

Curious to learn more? Attend an upcoming MKA

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open house event. For more information, visit mka. org/admissions or contact the office of admissions at admissions@mka.org or by phone 973-509-7930.

Morristown-Beard School 70 Whippany Rd., Morristown 973-539-3032 • mbs.net

Morristown-Beard School is a private, independent, coeducational day school serving grades 6-12.

The rigorous academic environment embraces active engagement, analytical and critical thinking, excellence in writing, risk-taking and leadership opportunities. Recently, the school opened its Center for Innovation & Design which provides flexible and innovative space where students design, build and problem solve as they engage in multidisciplinary projects. The campus is also home to a new 25,000-square-foot Math & Science Center and Science On a Sphere,® an educational tool developed by NOAA that uses computers and video projectors to display planetary data onto a six-foot diameter sphere. Because of our student-centered approached to education, our ability to be nimble and innovative, our passionate and creative faculty whose strength is to engage and challenge our students, our cutting-edge technology and our small class

Independent education, grades 6–12, in Livingston, NJ Register now to attend a virtual open house this fall: newarka.edu/admission FALL 2020 | NEW JERSEY FAMILY

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FUTURE FRESHMAN SESSIONS Thursday, October 29th & November 5th ALL ACADEMY INFORMATION SESSION Wednesday, December 2nd Register for these events at

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sizes, MBS is particularly well positioned to pivot and respond to the challenges that lay ahead.

Mother Seton Regional High School 1 Valley Rd., Clark 732-382-1952 • motherseton.org

Founded in 1963, we are a four-year girls’ Catholic high school of the Archdiocese of Newark. We offer a four-year college preparatory curriculum including AP and honors-level courses. In addition to the STEM/Engineering Design Program, the STAR program–a college preparatory program focusing on individualized support–will be launched this year. In an atmosphere of academic excellence and Seton spirit, the school prides itself on community, scholarship and moral values. Students are provided with a Surface tablet to enhance their learning experiences, and are encouraged to develop in their faith, academics, athletic ability and leadership skills, as well as socially, through various activities. A beautifully landscaped 27-acre campus, it contains three science labs, two main computer areas, a spacious art studio, a chapel and a fitness center.

Enrollment is open to girls of all faiths. We believe at Mother Seton, the Future is Hers.

Mount St. Dominic Academy

3 Ryerson Ave., Caldwell 973-226-0660 • msdacademy.org Mount St. Dominic Academy is a college preparatory school for young women. Established in 1892, the Mount remains rooted in the Dominican traditions of our history and dedicated to the modern realization of our mission: to help our students discover their gifts and talents, with the expectation that they will use them to make the world a better place.

Our students learn and develop in an environment that fosters excellence, respect, appreciation and integrity. An education at the Mount reflects the Four Pillars of Dominican life–study, prayer, mission and community–as the foundation for a successful and meaningful future. An education at the Mount is a journey of continuing growth. An education at the Mount is an investment in your daughter’s future.

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Newark Academy

91 South Orange Ave., Livingston 973-992-7000 • newarka.edu Newark Academy’s enduring purpose has been empowering academic achievement and instilling intellectual energy into our students since 1774.

Located on a beautiful 68-acre campus in northern New Jersey, NA strives to provide students with the knowledge, skills and creativity needed to contribute meaningfully to their communities and the world. Today, Newark Academy is reimagining

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the educational rigor for which we are known. By engaging our 6th through 12th grade students in transformational learning experiences, our students become accomplished scholars instilled with a passion for learning. While Newark Academy has undergone a myriad of changes over the past 245 years, NA’s mission—to contribute to the world engaged individuals instilled with a passion for learning, a standard of excellence and a generosity of spirit—remains true. For more information, visit newarka.edu.

Oak Knoll School of the Holy Child

44 Blackburn Rd., Summit 908-522-8108 • oakknoll.org

Oak Knoll School of the Holy Child is a private Catholic school dedicated to the education of the whole child. The atmosphere is known for a spirit of joy, mutual respect and trust. The school welcomes religious, racial and ethnic diversity. A Lower School is offered for boys and girls in grades PK-6 and an all-girls’ Upper School is offered in grades 7-12. Lower School boys attend the area’s finest secondary schools while alumnae of the Upper School enroll at the most selective universities. Oak Knoll’s courses and activities maintain a healthy balance of academic, athletic, social, creative and moral development while fostering mind, body and spirit. The distinguished Upper School curriculum includes 17 AP and honors classes ranging from Italian to honors engineering. Oak Knoll offers extensive technology resources, including a 1:1 device program, a fully-networked wireless campus,

virtual and augmented reality and the latest interactive teaching tools.

Paramus Catholic High School

425 Paramus Rd., Paramus 201-445-4466 • paramuscatholic.com Faith, academics and security are the hallmarks of a Paramus Catholic education. The world today is wonderfully diverse. PC mirrors that world.

Through its academic offerings and extracurricular activities, clubs and sports, PC readies the 21st century student for his or her life’s journey. Paramus Catholic High School is located on 27 acres in Paramus, NJ. The curriculum offers 140 courses with 33 honors courses and 21 AP courses. PC offers a state-of-the-art music conservatory and a digital photography, CAD/CAM computer lab. The thriving ministry and service programs continually give back to the community. Paramus Catholic continues to maintain its firm commitment to the arts and is the only Catholic school in Northern New Jersey to have a marching band. Due to COVID 19 precautions, Paramus Catholic will have a virtual Open House on October 27, 2020. Please visit our website for more information. www.paramuscatholic.com

The Pingry School

Short Hills Campus (Lower School): 50 Country Day Dr., Short Hills Basking Ridge Campus (Middle and Upper Schools): 131 Martinsville Rd., Basking Ridge 908-647-6419 • pingry.org The Pingry School, founded in 1861, is an

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Ranney School

235 Hope Rd., Tinton Falls 732-542-4777 • ranneyschool.org At Ranney School, we know and value every child to inspire and challenge our students to reach their highest personal potential at every stage of their educational journey. Ranney is an age 3 through grade 12 independent, coed, secular college preparatory school in Monmouth County, NJ. From our youngest learners to those looking ahead to college, Ranney students are prepared, supported,

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challenged and encouraged as individuals. Ranney offers an innovative, flexible curriculum that balances excellence in traditional subjects while fostering creative, out-of-the-box thinking. Ranney offers a robust student life program that encourages students to pursue not just one, but many interests while at Ranney School. Relationships are the hallmark of a Ranney education. In every division, students are supported by a team of educators who collaborate to nurture academic and extracurricular success as well as personal growth.

Rutgers Preparatory School 1345 Easton Ave., Somerset 732-545-5600 • rutgersprep.org

Every student travels a unique road to success. At Rutgers Prep, it’s our job to help pre-kindergarteners through high schoolers find the paths that inspire them. Whether their goals are big, hairy and audacious, or quiet and personal, the results will amaze you. We are dedicated to helping students become their best selves. Our well-rounded approach (academics, sports, arts and citizenship) nourishes the whole child. We are committed to our students’ intellectual, creative, physical, social and moral growth. Small class sizes and individual

attention let us get to know your children—their strengths, weaknesses, interests and dreams—and work as a team to provide what they need to achieve their goals. Diverse curricular and co-curricular programs, and supportive staff, let students discover and pursue their passions. The moments in-between classes and activities are where you truly see the connections among students, and between students, teachers and staff. Rutgers Prep–inspiring outcomes since 1766.

Saddle River Day School

147 Chestnut Ridge Rd., Saddle River 201-327-4050, ext. 1108 • saddleriverday.org Founded in 1957, Saddle River Day School is a coed, college prep day school enrolling approximately 320 students in grades PreK-3 through 12. Students experience integrated and applied learning in a hands-on rigorous academic setting with a low student-teacher ratio. The NJAIS accredited school boasts pristine facilities including a Makerspace and fully equipped graphic design center. Instruction in Spanish begins in Pre-K with additional world language offerings beginning in Grade 9. The school boasts an award-winning performing/visual arts program and outstanding athletics recognition in

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Saint Peter’s Preparatory School 144 Grand St., Jersey City 201-547-2308 • spprep.org

Established in 1872, Saint Peter’s Prep is an independent, Catholic, college preparatory school for boys and remains New Jersey’s only Jesuit high school. Located in historic downtown Jersey City —in clear view of the Statue of Liberty – Prep’s location makes it easily accessible via mass transit.

Drawing from 146 New Jersey towns and 5 New York communities, Prep’s diverse student body enriches its eighteen AP courses, 19 varsity sports, 40 cocurriculars and four-year Christian Service program.

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Union Catholic High School prepares students for success in the real, spiritual and virtual worlds. Our faith-based, technology-driven learning environment makes us one of the premier Catholic high schools in the state. With our progressive Tablet Learning Program every student stays connected­—anytime, anywhere. The Union Catholic educational standard of excellence continues to grow through vision, innovation and individualized learning. Our six learning levels focus on each student’s individual strengths and our powerful integration of technology and curriculum offers an exciting, comprehensive college preparatory education resulting in our 100% college acceptance rate. Union Catholic’s foresight and vision allows us to illuminate the path forward.

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Villa Walsh Academy

455 Western Ave., Morristown 973-538-3680 • VWA@villawalsh.org Villa Walsh Academy, conducted by the Religious Teachers Filippini, is a college preparatory Catholic school for girls in Grades 7 through 12. Located on a beautiful 120-acre campus in Morristown, Villa Walsh offers an exceptional learning experience through a rigorous academic curriculum and diverse offerings

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of extracurricular activities for young women. The Athletic Department provides student athletes with opportunities to participate in a variety of successful programs. We pride ourselves on preparing students with the knowledge and confidence to succeed within higher education. Students are recognized for their academic achievements. Students receive multiple scholarships and attend top colleges and universities armed with the comprehensive education that the school provides. Historically, 100% of graduating students enter four-year colleges and universities. Villa Walsh Academy students are women of integrity with a deep moral value and a commitment to service that is grounded in the Catholic faith.

The Wardlaw + Hartridge School 1295 Inman Ave., Edison 908-754-1882 • whschool.org

The Wardlaw + Hartridge School is a coeducational, college preparatory day school enrolling 450 students in PreK-3 through Grade 12. The campus is located on 36 wooded acres at the conjunction of Middlesex, Union and Somerset counties. With an early childhood program that offers hands-on experiential learning, to an Upper School with rich academic offerings, the school is large enough to offer 19 advanced placement

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1150 Pottersville Rd., Gladstone 908-470-9500 • willowschool.org At Willow, every aspect of our pre-K to grade eight school is intentionally designed to help children develop into their best selves. In our indoor and outdoor classrooms, every learning experience has an intellectual and ethical purpose. Our dedicated teachers emphasize the joy of learning in an inquirybased, student-centered environment where virtues are embedded into everything we do. In our small classes, students nurture their curiosity, develop strong relationships, and grow into communicative, collaborative leaders in their school community and beyond. Learn more at willowschool.org.

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ith families abiding by statewide ‘stay-at-home’ orders earlier this year, many kids missed their well visit appointments. In fact, the Centers for Disease Control (CDC) says immunization rates dropped 22 percent or more in some parts of the country. Here’s how to make sure kids stay healthy and protected:

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SCHEDULE YOUR CHILD’S WELLNESS CHECKUP “Your pediatrician isn’t only concerned about your child’s physical health but also emotional and developmental well-being,” says Heidi Weinroth, MD, a pediatrician with Children’s Regional Hospital at Cooper University Health Care. “We look at the whole picture and check blood pressure and BMI and make sure kids are growing. But we also screen for anxiety and depression, and we talk to teens about behaviors such as vaping and drugs.”

Some portions may be done by telemedicine.

ASK ABOUT OTHER SCREENINGS Some schools aren’t performing certain tests this year, so your pediatrician should check hearing and vision for elementary schoolers and scoliosis for middle schoolers. “Another issue I discuss with kids is wearing your mask correctly, including over your nose,” says Weinroth. “I want to help parents find one that fits properly so kids are comfortable and protected.”

CATCH UP ON VACCINES “What’s concerning is that vaccines that were delayed may not be caught up,” says David Cennimo, MD, assistant professor of internal medicine and pediatric infectious diseases at Rutgers New Jersey Medical School. “There’s an

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optimal window when kids should receive these vaccines.” If you’re not sure what your child needs, call your pediatrician’s office ASAP and check healthychildren.org for an immunization schedule.

GET A FLU SHOT The CDC and AAP recommend everyone ages 6 months and older receive the vaccine annually (you, too!). During the pandemic, it’s more important than ever, experts say. “We don’t want to go into the winter without protection against the flu so that we’re dealing with the risk of two respiratory illnesses at the same time,” says Cennimo.

— Arricca Elin SanSone is a New York-based health and lifestyle writer.

Why You Shouldn’t Put off Dental Visits If your child missed a checkup, it’s time to make it up. “Pediatric dentists work with kids to be sure they’re following healthy habits so they don’t develop dental disease,” says Jessica Y. Lee, DDS, president of the American Academy of Pediatric Dentistry. “A simple filling can turn into a crown or extraction if we wait too long.” In addition, missing orthodontic visits can throw off your child’s treatment plan.

Like your pediatrician’s office, dentists have instituted additional practices to keep everyone healthy. “Safety is our top priority,” says Lee. Most offices require screening questions and temperature checks, and you may have to wait in your car. Most dentists allow one parent to be present, but it varies by practice. Some offices have installed additional ventilation such as air purifiers. Of course, dental staff will wear PPE, and kids may need to wear masks until seated in the chair. Call your child’s dentist if you have questions about what to expect on your next visit.

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The Count will play host to the Halloween Spooktacular at Sesame Place, in Langhorne, PA, from Sept. 26 until Nov. 1. Kids can dress in costumes (masks are required) to see the Sesame Street gang in their Halloween garb. Don’t miss daily parades, the Halloween-themed musical and more. On Tuesday and Wednesday, there is a drive-thru parade. Get tickets in advance at sesameplace.com.

If you love the Christmas experience at Skylands Stadium in Augusta, you’ll be all about the venue’s new pumpkin drive-thru. The Jack O’Lantern Experience features 5,000 pumpkins around the stadium. You can

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safely see everything from safari animals to movie monsters and more from the comfort of your car. Go to jackolantern.skylandsstadium.com for tickets.

The Bronx Zoo is hosting its annual Boo at the Zoo event, filled with adorable animals (of course), pumpkin carving demos, pumpkin and candy trails, stilt walkers wearing Halloween puppets and a scavenger hunt. There’s even an extinct animal graveyard. Go to bronxzoo.com for info about safety measures and reservations.

The annual Haunted Seaport event at Tuckerton Seaport and Baymen’s museum is happening October 15th to 18th. Dress in your costumes and hit the boardwalk for fall crafts, a magic show and a haunted hayride. All guests must wear face coverings, maintain social distancing and plan ahead since bathrooms and indoor spaces are closed. Head to tuckertonseaport.org for details.

Happy Day Farm’s Pumpkin Festival in Manalapan has plenty of outdoor fun. From a corn maze to a hay mountain, the kids will have plenty of things to climb on. For an extra fee, you can play paintball, shoot a pumpkin blaster or the corn cannon and decorate your

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he COVID-19 pandemic is putting a damper on the usual Halloween fun. Parties are limited in the number of guests and trick or treating will look different. Some of the area’s biggest events like Dorney Park’s Halloween Haunt and the Asbury Park Zombie Walk have been cancelled.

But Six Flags’ annual Fright Fest has gotten a socially distant makeover and there are still plenty of creepy, spooky and terrifying things to do. Most activities require masks, and not the ones that come with your costume. So make sure you work a safe and effective face covering into your look.

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The Great Jack O’Lantern Blaze in Croton-on-Hudson is a Halloween staple near Sleepy Hollow, home of the famed Headless Horseman tale.

Some of the annual fun is canceled or virtual, but there are still 7,000 hand-carved pumpkins haunting Van Cortlandt Manor until mid-November.

If the Hudson Valley location is sold out, try seeing the mega-pumpkin displays on Long Island. Buy tickets early at pumpkinblaze.org.

Tickets for Delaware River Railroad Excursions’ popular Great Pumpkin Train are limited this year (selling at only 25 percent capacity).

Ticketholders will get to ride the scenic train, stop at a pumpkin patch (every kid gets a free one!) and add a corn maze or tour of the Ol’ Susquehanna Mine and pan for gemstones. 877trainride.com for tickets and details.

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For outdoor toddler Halloween festivities, head to DiDonato Family Fun Center in Hammonton for a Trick-or-Treat train. You’ll have to reserve tickets for the outdoor train, and the kids can pick pumpkins and play in the Hay Maze afterwards. Visit didonatofuncenter.com for details and tickets.

Head to Cape May for haunted happenings on the grounds of the Emlen Physick Estate, which will be lined with spooky and silly scarecrows (submitted by the community) for spectators to vote on. There are also ghost trolley tours and historic haunt tours of the Emlen Physick Estate. Buy your tickets in advance at capemaymac.org.

Put on your costumes and masks for Storybook Land’s annual Trickor-Treat Weekends. The Egg Harbor Township fairy tale fave has mazes for the kids and trick or treat bags for contactless candy stations.

Storybookland.com has details on safety measures and tickets you’ll

need to reserve in advance.

Morris County residents can show off their spookiest houses for Halos for Angels. Register before October 17 at halosforangels.org, then decorate your house, post to social media and you can win a cash prize.

It’s $50 to enter your house, and the funds go to help families in need.

Addamsfest 2020 is happening, but has morphed into Alt AddamsFest. Westfield is home to Charles Addams, the creator of the infamous spooky Addams Family, which screams Halloween. The Alt Addamsfest features decorated Wicked Windows, a Haunt Your House contest, a drive-in (with holiday films), carving contests, a haunted trail ride and loads more.

Addamsfest.com has dates and details.

If your little ones aren’t quite ready for a haunted hayride, they can get a little thrill on a Harvest Moon Hayride at Alstede Farm. The famed

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Chester spot is doing night rides on the weekends (you have to book in advance), and you can try to master the corn maze with flashlights. Try some cider and pumpkins afterwards.

Get tickets at alstedefarms.com.

Warren’s Wagner Farm Arboretum will host a Brite Nites event, but this year the pumpkin display will be a drive-thru experience instead of a walk-through. From the comfort of your car, you’ll see hand-carved elaborate displays of gourds. Get tickets at wfafnj.org.

R and J Farms in Galloway Township is pressing pause on its Cornfield of Terror this year, but you can still bring the family for some daytime fun with a corn maze and hayrides. The maze is filled with clues, and the kids will want to take a bounce on their new jumping pad. Guests are required to wear masks and have their temperatures checked before entering. Visit randjfarm.com for more info.

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Fest got a COVID makeover this year and is now Hallowfest. The annual event in Jackson is still big on the scares, but indoor mazes are touchfree and outdoor haunted walks are socially distanced. Before 6 pm, younger kids can try the rides, visit Pumpkin Patch Lane and have some scare-free fun. After dark, Chills by Night start, zombies abound and you can ride coasters without lights.

Last year, the Bane Haunted House made a big move to New York City’s Hell’s Kitchen, the appropriate place for one of the scariest walkthrough experiences in the country. It’s reopening with required masks, small groups and social distancing. But the terrifying clowns, dark rooms and claustrophobic spaces will still have you screaming. Head to banehanuntedhouse.com for details.

Passaic’s Brighton Asylum is opening for the season, and everyone, including all the actors, will be wearing masks which somehow makes your walk through this haunted asylum

even more creepy. There are multiple tours and attractions to chose from, tapping in to your biggest fears.

Events run through Halloween. Head to brightonasylum.com for all the scary details.

Philadelphia’s Eastern State Penitentiary isn’t doing its superscary Terror Behind the Walls, but you can still get goosebumps on one of its Night Tours. These small self-guided tours will take you inside abandoned cells of an actual prison with sweeping lights from the guard towers, just like when there were actual prisoners in the cells. Tours run through midNovember. Go to easternstate.org and prepare to be terrified.

Wharton is home to the 13th Hour Haunted House, a terrifying twostory haunted house, or brave the Darkside of the Hayden House, its newest, darkest house yet. Enter the frightening escape rooms if you think you can handle the serious scare factor. Head to 13thhour.com to face your fears.

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For adults in the “sandwich generation,” it’s more important than ever to do the necessary legal planning for your own parents. ou’re a parent taking care of young kids and you’re also responsible to some extent for your own aging parents. Sound familiar? If so, you’re in what’s known as the “sandwich generation,” a group of adults pulled in both directions—physically, emotionally and financially—by their offspring and their own parents.

While having conversations with your aging parents about serious topics such as estate planning is not fun or easy, these days it’s more important than ever to make sure your family has plans in place to avoid headaches down the road.

Elizabeth Candido Petite, an attorney with Lindabury, McCormick, Estabrook & Cooper’s Wills, Trusts and Estates practice group in Westfield, says she sees her clients struggle

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to broach these delicate topics.

“A lot of adults are uncomfortable taking charge of their parents lives or saying, ‘Mom, you need a will,’” says Petite. The best way to approach the subject may be by using a family friend as an example to illustrate how the family may have to jump through hoops when an elderly parent gets sick and there’s no power of attorney in place, she says.

“Or just sit down and say, ‘Mom, I’m concerned. Do you have these documents? It’s going to help both of us in the long term.’”

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QUALITY OF LIFE DECISIONS “The first step is to discuss your parents’ finances,” says Hauptman. “What do they have in their names to pay for their current lifestyle or should the need arise, to pay for their care expenses, should they become unhealthy?”

“General durable powers of attorney should be prepared giving someone, often the adult children, access to their financial accounts so that financial transactions can take place should the need arise,” she says.

“Health care powers of attorney and living wills should be drafted to permit medical decision-making when appropriate and to express their wishes with regard to life sustaining treatment should there be no hope of recovery or regaining a meaningful quality of life,” says Hauptman.

“Wills should be reviewed and possibly updated to reflect tax planning if appropriate and current wishes with regard to probate asset distributions,” she adds. “Beneficiary designations should be reviewed and possibly updated to reflect wishes with regard to assets that pass outside of the will

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including life insurance policies, retirement accounts.”

HAVING THE UNCOMFORTABLE CONVERSATION The coronavirus pandemic has made it even more important to address these issues sooner rather than later. “Since COVID, we believe more people understand the unpredictability of life and how vulnerable we really are if we don’t have the appropriate documents and plan in place,” Hauptman says.

If the idea of taking these steps with your own parents still seems uncomfortable, Petite says she finds it helpful for lawyers to talk to elder parents without their children present to make sure everything being talked about is what they really want. And while you may be tempted use an online planning service, Petite advises against it.

“There are two problems with the online services,” she says.

“Sometimes they are perfectly fine for people, but the biggest problem is no one is helping execute the documents. Proper execution is critical. One client didn’t have the will notarized correctly. When you work with an attorney, they make sure things are signed properly. The other thing is having a third person who is not part of your family to bounce ideas off of can be useful.

Clients find it very helpful to have someone removed from the family dynamic to give advice.”

Another important benefit that comes from these interactions is people in the sandwich generation realize they need plans in place for themselves, too.

Petite says: “Usually what happens is after we do things for their parents, a week or month later I get an email saying, ‘I don’t have a will and I should probably have one, too.’ Don’t forget about yourself.”

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healthcare advance directive is even more pressing, she says.

“They authorize someone else to act during your life,” she says.

“It’s common for adult children to take their parents to the doctor and need authorization to talk to the doctor and handle bill paying.

If they don’t have power of attorney in a serious medical situation, the only way is to go to court and have a guardian appointed.”

Laurie A. Hauptman, of Hauptman & Hauptman, an estate, elder and special needs attorney based in Livingston, says there’s a checklist of things adults can do to make sure everything is in place for their own parents.

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BREAST HEALTH

There’s no one size fits all guideline for women. Here’s what to know about breast health screenings.

By Arricca Sansone

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“The better informed you can be about your choices, the more comfortable you’ll feel.”

inding breast cancer early when it hasn’t spread is the reason we’ve been getting annual mammograms. But guidelines have been updated in recent years, and women now have more options that include an ultrasound and genetic testing.

“There are several recommendations by different medical organizations about how women should be screened,” says Akiva Novetsky, MD, associate professor, department of OB/GYN and reproductive health at Rutgers NJ Medical School and chief quality officer of the Rutgers Cancer Institute of New Jersey.

“You and your doctor should have a conversation about what’s best for you, as opposed to previous guidelines that said ‘this is what you’re going to do.’ The better informed you can be about your choices, the more comfortable you’ll feel.” Here’s what you should know and discuss with your doctor: HOW OFTEN SHOULD I GET A MAMMOGRAM? The decision about when to start having mammograms, based on your personal history and risks, should be discussed with your doctor. The American Cancer Society (ACS) says women ages 40 to 44 can start annual screenings, while women ages 45 to 54 should get yearly mammograms. The American College of Gynecology recommends women start screening every 1 to 2 years starting in their 40s.

“Research has shown that we’re not missing any cases of cancer with these intervals, and we’re avoiding false positives, which result in significant anxiety and follow ups such as biopsies,” says Novetsky. But if you feel more comfortable getting a mammogram every year, you can continue with annual screenings, she adds.

WHAT SHOULD I DO IF I HAVE DENSE BREASTS? Breasts contain glandular, connective and fat tissue.

Women with dense breasts have more glandular and connective tissue and less fatty tissue, making mammograms more difficult to read. Women with dense breasts also have a higher risk of breast cancer, so

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an annual screening may be preferred, says Novetsky.

Some providers suggest an ultrasound along with a mammogram, but it’s unclear whether it’s helpful as a supplemental screening tool. An ultrasound can be useful for looking at uncertain areas on a mammogram; it often can tell the difference between a fluid-filled cyst, which is unlikely to be cancer, or a solid mass, which requires further testing.

WHAT’S MY PERSONAL RISK OF BREAST CANCER? You’re considered at high risk of breast cancer if you have a personal history of breast cancer or firstdegree relatives, such as a mom, sister or daughter, with breast cancer. Risk also is increased by having a BRCA1 or BRCA2 gene mutation, or if you have first-degree relatives with this mutation. Women with a BRCA gene change also have an increased risk of other cancers such as ovarian and pancreatic cancers, according to the American Cancer Society. High-risk women need more frequent mammograms, such as every six months, or mammograms along with an MRI. SHOULD I HAVE BRCA TESTING? If you’re at high risk, ask your doctor about being

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referred to a genetic counselor for evaluation, says Novetsky.

Risk factors include a family member with a BRCA gene mutation; a personal or family history of breast cancer; a personal or family history of ovarian, pancreatic or prostate cancer; or being of Ashkenazi Jewish descent (about 1 in 40 Ashkenazi Jewish people have one of these mutations).

IS 3D MAMMOGRAPHY BETTER THAN DIGITAL? In recent years digital breast tomosynthesis, or 3D mammography, has become available in some places.

“Traditional 2D digital mammograms take two images from different perspectives of breasts, while the newer technology takes a series of images which computer software converts to 3D images,” says Susan Brown, a registered nurse and senior director of education and patient support at Susan G. Komen.

“There’s a hope this newer technology will save more lives, but we just don’t know yet.” Some studies have shown it finds slightly more cancers, and it may be better at detecting cancer in dense breast tissue.

A large clinical trial is ongoing comparing the two types of digital mammography. Until the results are available, both the American Cancer Society and National Comprehensive Cancer Network recommend either 2D or 3D imaging. “Talk to your doctor about if 3D screening

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is right for you, but call your insurance company before your appointment to ensure it’s covered,” says Brown.

WHAT ELSE CAN I DO TO ENSURE ACCURATE SCREENING? “Use the same screening center or have your films transferred,” says Novetsky. “It’s helpful for the radiologist to be able to compare the new imaging to the old to help decrease false positives.”

And although an annual clinical breast exam by your doctor isn’t done any longer if you’re not having any issues, know your own breasts. If you notice any changes, call your doctor.

SHOULD I PUT OFF MY MAMMOGRAM DURING COVID? If you’re at average risk, it’s probably fine to delay a few months if your region is having an uptick in cases, says Novetsky. But you shouldn’t go beyond 2 years— and you shouldn’t put it off indefinitely because you’re nervous about coming in during COVID. “Don’t be embarrassed to call and ask questions about what to expect. That’s why we’re here,” says Novetsky. “We want to protect both our staff and the patient.”

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THINGS NO ONE TELLS YOU ABOUT IVF TREATMENT I

t was four years ago this month that I found myself smack in the middle of a nightmare. I was preparing for my fourth round of IVF, feeling completely and utterly alone. Four years, two kids, 11 pounds and one published book later, I’m here to tell you that you’re not alone if you’re going through IVF. Being prepared is such an important part of this journey. It will keep you from feeling upended when your stomach is bloated, your heart is broken, you’re in a hormonal rage against the guy making your coffee at Starbucks and you’re about ready for a divorce. So, on that uplifting note, grab your prenatals and read on as I share five things you may not know about IVF.

YOUR AGE PLAYS A FACTOR MORE THAN YOU THINK At age 25, 75 percent of a women’s eggs are chromosomally normal.

By 35, that number goes down to 50 percent. By the time you reach 40 it’s only about 10-15 percent. So, when your mother pleaded with you to freeze your eggs at 30, she was actually right. Before you lose hope remember, it’s a numbers game and it’s always quality over quantity.

Add this to the category of things my doctor should’ve told me when I was 20!

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By BRETT RUSSO

IT’S A ROLLER-COASTER RIDE, SO HANG ON! An IVF cycle has many bumps along the way. Don’t blame yourself.

In an average IVF cycle, there are two parts after the injections; the retrieval where the eggs are removed from a women’s body and the transfer where the fertilized embryos are put back in.

During the retrieval process there are many surprises that may catch you off-guard and can send you into a shame spiral, but don’t let it. For one, the number of eggs retrieved can vary immensely. Don’t get fixated on how many. If your numbers are low you may have to go through multiple rounds of retrievals. Understand that this is common.

Remember, it only takes one.

Once doctors remove the eggs from your body, they fertilize them with sperm and wait for them to mature for five days. Only about 3550 percent of embryos will survive this stage so again, be prepared. It’s simply the science of it all.

Next the eggs will either be transferred back into the mother for what’s called a “live transfer” or be frozen in order to be stored or genetically tested to see if they are chromosomally sound. This is important, especially in older women, because it can help prevent the transfer of

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an embryo into your body that would never have turned into a viable pregnancy due to chromosomal defects. It saves you a lot of wasted time and more importantly heartache to know this before going through with a transfer.

that you eat too much gluten. There are many reasons why infertility happens to a couple and I assure you most of them are not things you can control, so stop blaming yourself. You don’t need to feel guilty on top of everything else.

OH, THOSE HORMONES

IT CHANGES YOU IN THE BEST WAY POSSIBLE

Welcome to crazy town! We’ve been waiting for you. You know those injections that everyone talks about? They help your body increase the amount of eggs your ovaries will drop in a cycle. What they may not tell you is that they also make you batsh*t crazy. This is the stage where you’ll probably start arguing with your husband and crying at work.

Honestly though, this is a very isolating stage. It’s important to talk to your family and friends about what you’re feeling. You’re not a failure and you’re not alone. Just hang in there. It’s temporary. You’re one step closer to being a mother. Just warn your husband to be patient...and to wear a helmet.

After the battle is fought and the dust settles, you’ll learn things about yourself that you never knew possible. It will expose you to a level of human awareness that will change the way you treat people. The bravery and perseverance that now define you will feel like a badge of honor. One that you will wear proudly as you reach out to help the women that come after you just as you did for the women that came before you. You can do this. You will do this. Whether you have a successful IVF cycle or embark on another road to motherhood, all will be right with the world as you hold the child you were meant to have. Hang in there. You’re not alone.

For the rest of you, for Pete’s sake freeze your eggs! Go to njfamily. com/ivf to read an excerpt from The Underwear in My Shoe.

IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT The sooner you realize this the better. It’s not because you’ve been stressed over trying to get pregnant which every woman in your situation would be. It’s not about how much you smoked in college or

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—Brett Russo is the CEO of Capital Printing and just published “The Underwear in My Shoe,” a book about her journey through IVF at RMA of New Jersey. Brett lives in NJ with her husband and their two sons.

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PREGNANCY DURING THE

PANDEMIC You found out you’re expecting—congratulations! During a worldwide outbreak … yikes!

What it means to have a baby during this unusual time.

By Ronnie Koenig

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inding out you’re having a baby is wonderful, exciting news whenever it happens but there’s no doubt being pregnant (and giving birth and caring for a newborn) during COVID comes with a special set of rules and concerns. We spoke with expert OB/GYNs and a mom who recently had a baby during the pandemic so you can get a better sense of what to expect when you’re expecting (when no one really knows what to expect next!).

Dr. Diana Contreras, MD, chairman of Obstetrics, Gynecology and Women’s Health at Morristown Medical Center and Atlantic Health System, says the biggest thing expectant moms should prepare for is the ability to be flexible.

ADJUSTING TO A NEW NORMAL “This is a different time,” Contreras says, noting her team works with patients to lower anxiety, but there are key differences new parents should expect. “We don’t want to cramp people into a room.

We want to make sure we’re social distancing. We are wearing masks.”

Dr. Contreras says pre-pandemic new parents had few restrictions.

“People used to bring their whole family. Now we encourage people to limit their exposure,” she says. “The more people we expose, the higher chance of contracting this virus. Wearing a mask is critical.”

If the idea of wearing a mask while giving birth sounds strange and difficult, that’s because it is. But Contreras says it’s in the best interest of parents and babies.

“It’s difficult to push and participate in labor wearing a mask, but you have to,” she says. “Our team will all be wearing masks. We are looking to make this the safest experience possible.”

Contreras says new parents can take heart knowing there’s still a

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lot of support available virtually through telehealth. “We have classes offered virtually, we have virtual patient support,” she says.

As for preparation, she recommends expectant mothers find ways to deal with anxiety, which will likely be increased during this uncertain time. “Whether it’s meditation or breathing, I would encourage people to find something that works for them so when they come in, they have a tool to rely on,” she says.

As for what to pack for the hospital, Contreras says women don’t need to bring anything additional except a mask.

Jaime Maser Berman, 42, of Westfield gave birth to her third child, a son named Jones, at the start of the pandemic on March 9. She says her experience with motherhood was vastly different from when she had her other two sons, Bodie, 4 and Arlo, 2.

COMBATING ISOLATION “You need to wrap your head around the idea that some people in your life likely won’t meet your child until his first birthday,” she says.

Maternity leave can be very isolating during the COVID-19 pandemic, she says. “For my older children, I did new mom coffee meetups, story time at the local library and bookstores, infant music and yoga classes as soon as they were six weeks. Yes, there are virtual options, but to me that’s not the same as in real life classes or connections,” Berman says. She and Jones have spent the majority of their time taking walks, reading books and listening to music at home, or grabbing an occasional socially distant coffee with other mom friends.

Berman says becoming a mom again during coronavirus taught her that it’s okay to ask for help. “I took whatever ‘me time’ I could

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get and went for a run or caught a nap or watched Grey’s Anatomy or went grocery shopping solo,” she says. “That time alone is so clutch to remembering you’re a human being too and not just a baby making milk machine /caretaker of toddlers.”

She also recommends tuning out the opinions of others. “Everyone has an opinion–often unsolicited–so tune out the noise from strangers you meet on the online mom group and don’t second guess yourself or your parenting choices based on what other people are saying,” she says. “You do you.”

MAKING MENTAL HEALTH A PRIORITY Daniel Finch, MD, Chief Medical Officer, CarePlusNJ, says postpartum depression can be an even higher risk for new parents during COVID. Dr. Finch has a perinatal mental health certification (PMH-C), which requires additional training in treating a woman’s mental health during pregnancy and the postpartum period and is also a father to a 2-year-old daughter and a baby boy born during COVID. He says reaching out to others in the same boat during this time

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is vital for mental health. “Connect with other expectant mothers who might also be experiencing the same thoughts and emotions as you are,” he says. “You can find incredible value in sharing feelings, experiences and innovative solutions. There are several virtual support groups for this, including ones at the Maternal and Family Center at CarePlusNJ.” Dr. Finch also says it’s important to know the difference between “normal” feelings of loss, sadness or anger that can occur at this momentous time versus warning signs of a more serious depression.

“Examples are: two or more weeks of sleeping or eating too much or too little, extreme fatigue or irritability, not taking care of daily hygiene, significant feelings of guilt or lack of joy in things that used to make you happy and in the most serious cases thoughts of harming yourself or wanting to die,” Dr. Finch says.

“These are signs that you should seek help from a therapist or psychiatrist,” he says, urging new mothers to reach out for postpartum support at places such as the Maternal and Family Center.

“Lastly, remember that the birth of a child is a momentous occasion despite what may be going on in the world,” he says. “Moms and their partners should be reminded that nothing can take away from the miraculous experience of bringing a new life into the world.”

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Prepare for lots of appointments. Here’s your guide to baby’s first two years of well visits.

Now that your baby is finally here, your

pediatrician will become your trusted guide and resource for making sure your little one is hitting milestones and staying healthy.

In addition to vaccines, your doctor will keep a close eye on making sure he or she is gaining weight and hitting developmental milestones on or close to schedule. You can expect a head-to-toe exam during well visits and your pediatrician can answer important questions about everything from sleep patterns to breastfeeding.

Of course, parenting a newborn in the time of COVID is an unusual circumstance, but Dr. Walter David Rosenfeld, chair of the Department of Children’s Health for Goryeb Children’s Hospital and medical director of Children’s Health for Atlantic Health System, says the pandemic shouldn’t keep parents away from the doctor’s office.

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“Your pediatrician is the person you can trust and rely on,” says Rosenfeld.

Doctors offices and hospitals are taking every precaution to keep patients and staff safe, and you can feel confident about bringing your baby in when needed. In fact, it’s a bad idea to delay or skip important well visits.

“I’m worried that because of COVID, so many children have fallen behind in their immunizations and well visits,” says Rosenfeld. The result could be that diseases we’ve gotten a handle on could start coming back including measles, whooping cough, mumps and HPV. “We have immunizations for these things,” he says. “It is so important for parents to make sure that schedule is up to date.”

For a full list of milestones and tips on well visits, head to the Centers for Disease Control’s (CDC) website at cdc.gov.

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Along with head-to-toe checkups and well visits, your baby will likely follow a schedule of vaccinations and screenings established by the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP).

Make sure you talk with your doctor about any concerns you have regarding vaccines.

WITHIN THE FIRST WEEK epatitis B (HepB), 1st dose of three-dose series, if not given H at hospital Hearing test (continues through childhood)

heck hips, back, feet, ears, eyes, heart, pulse, umbilical stump, C skin (for jaundice), reflexes, circumcision (if done), movement, blood pressure and blood oxygen levels

WITHIN THE FIRST MONTH HepB, 2nd dose (between 1-2 months)

Tuberculosis (TB) test

2 MONTHS Rotavirus (RV), 1st of two- or three-dose series

Pneumococcal conjugate (PCV13), 1st of four-dose series

iptheria, tetanus and acellular pertussis (DTaP), D 1st of four-dose series

Inactivated poliovirus (IPV), 1st of three-dose series

Influenza type B (Hib), 1st of four-dose series

4 MONTHS RV, 2nd dose

PCV13, 2nd dose

DTaP, 2nd dose

IPV, 2nd dose

Hib, 2nd dose

6 MONTHS HepB, 3rd dose (between 6-18 months)

IPV 3rd dose, (between 6-18 months)

RV, 3rd dose (if given a three-dose series)

I nfluenza IIV (inactivated) annual vaccine, one-to two-dose series through childhood

DTaP, 3rd dose Hib, 3rd dose PCV13, 3rd dose

TB test Lead screening (also at 9 months)

12 MONTHS Hib, 4th dose (between 12-15 months)

Varicella (VAR), 1st of two-dose series (between 12-15 months)

PCV13, 4th dose (between 12-15 months)

Hepatitis A (HepA), 1st of two-dose series (between 12-23 months)

umps, measles and rubella (MMR), 1st of two-dose series M (between 12-15 months)

Lead screening TB test

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DTaP, 4th dose (between 15-18 months)

18 MONTHS Autism spectrum disorder (ASD) screening

Lead screening

Blood test

24 MONTHS AIV (live attenuated, nasal spray substitute for Influenza IIV) annual L vaccine, one- to two-dose series through childhood

ASD screening Lead screening —Source: American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP)

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SPOT THE SIGNS Suspect your baby is allergic to certain foods? Here’s what to look for.

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“ … your infant can still be allergic to breast milk if you eat something they are allergic to.”

ood allergies are scary, and they’re even scarier when it comes to your newborn. How can you spot the signs of an allergic reaction? What should you do if your baby gets hives? At what age could she develop an allergy?

It’s overwhelming to think about. These tips will help prep you for emergencies.

WHEN AND WHY DO FOOD ALLERGIES START? She can develop an allergy at any age, even as a newborn.

Allergies occur when the immune system identifies a foreign substance as harmful, even if it isn’t, which can cause irritation, swelling or anaphylaxis, according to the Mayo Clinic. An estimated 6 to 8 percent of children under the age of 3 suffer from some type of food allergy.

HOW DO CHILDREN DEVELOP ALLERGIES? If there’s a family history of food allergies, your baby could develop those allergies, too, according to the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP). In an effort to curb allergies, parents often ask if breastfeeding can help, but that isn’t necessarily the case. A 2019 AAP study says there is no evidence that restricting a mother’s diet during pregnancy or breastfeeding will prevent allergies.

Your infant can still be allergic to breast milk if you eat something they’re allergic to, according to the Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia (CHOP). If you notice your baby has developed allergies when you eat certain foods, cut food allergens out of your diet and the proteins should disappear from your breast milk in one to two weeks.

Current medical research doesn’t prove withholding certain solid foods, like peanut butter, eggs or fish, will prevent allergies, says the March of Dimes, a nonprofit that works to improve the health of mothers and

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babies. You don’t need to eliminate food allergens from your own diet if your baby hasn’t shown symptoms, according to CHOP. HOW DO I KNOW IF MY BABY’S HAVING AN ALLERGIC REACTION? When your baby tries a new food, these are the symptoms to look for, according to CHOP: diarrhea, bloody stool, vomiting, colic, eczema or constipation.

Serious reactions can result in anaphylaxis, which can cause loss of consciousness, a drop in blood pressure, shortness of breath, skin rash, rapid or weak pulse and vomiting. Contact your doctor if your baby exhibits symptoms, and call 911 if you see signs of anaphylaxis.

Once your baby’s diagnosed, you may be prescribed an epinephrine auto-injector (better known as an epi-pen), which you should keep with you and whoever is with your baby at all times.

IS IT POSSIBLE TO OUTGROW ALLERGIES? In some cases, kids can outgrow allergies to wheat, eggs, soy and cow’s milk, but they don’t usually outgrow allergies to peanuts, tree nuts, fish or shellfish, according to the AAP. If you’re worried your child has developed other allergies or want to find out if she’s outgrown them, see an allergist and ask about allergy testing.

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WHAT ARE COMMON ALLERGENS? Dairy, eggs, peanuts, tree nuts, soy and wheat. Aside from food and environmental allergens (like dust, mold and pets), symptoms may also be triggered by insect stings (bees and wasps), meds (especially penicillin) and latex, says the Mayo Clinic.

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Tips to keep their tiny teeth squeaky clean and cavity free

Yes, even baby teeth can get cavities. But you may be wondering: How can she already have tooth decay when her teeth have barely grown in? The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAPD) recommends children visit the dentist by the time they’re 12 months, but there’s a lot you can do before that first visit.

Be sure to brush at least twice per day with an appropriatelysized toothbrush and a pea-sized amount of toothpaste

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when your baby’s teeth start coming in. If your baby doesn’t have teeth yet, clean her gums with a washcloth or a soft infant toothbrush.

Restrict nighttime bottles to water. Milk, formula or fruit juice can fuel decay-causing bacteria.

Never dip your baby’s pacifier into anything sugary.

Make sure your lil’ one is getting enough fluoride, which helps reduce tooth decay. Public water and children’s

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from toothaches, suffers from sensitivity or has visible holes and brown, black or white spots on her teeth (especially along the gum line),you could be dealingwith cavities, says theAAPD. If you suspect she has a cavity, take her to the dentist ASAP. There’s a chance she may need a sealant or filling depending on her age and the severity. General anesthesia and sedation, which are usually avoided if possible, also pose risks, so make sure your dentist fully explains all options and procedures before work begins.

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toothpaste typically have fluoride, and your dentist can determine if your baby needs additional supplements.

Don’t forget to floss those hard-to-reach grooves.

Limit her intake of sugar and starches.

It may seem obvious, but don’t spread germs. Bacteria from your mouth transferred from shared utensils and food can cause caries, the disease that leads to cavities.

Don’t use your saliva to clean your baby’s pacifier.

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Safety considerations to think about during the pandemic

By Angel Madison he idea of sending our babies to daycare or preschool is daunting in general, but so much scarier during a pandemic. It goes without saying that you want to find a clean and comfortable place with attentive staff where your child will be well cared for. But during COVID-19, you also need to find a home away from home that does an outstanding job following the Centers for Disease Control (CDC) guidelines for safety and cleanliness along with the requirements for childcare centers from the NJ Department of Health. A sample of those requirements include: emperature checks for staff and students, with anyone with a T fever of 100.4 or higher immediately sent home Small groups of 10 or less that have limited interaction with others Staggered outdoor play for groups Spaced out pickup and drop-offs, with parents required to wear masks at the door Limited toy and supply sharing Increased sanitizing and cleaning No field trips Limited hugging or touching No visitors allowed during school hours Staff-required face coverings are mandatory and when feasible, children over 2 should also be wearing them.

Childcare centers have been up and running since mid-June and stayed open even during lockdown. The CDC asserted the importance of schools reopening in mid-July. If you’re thinking about sending your baby or toddler to daycare or preschool, you can take comfort knowing they’ve been operating smoothly since reopening. On the upside, temperature checks at the door may also keep out kids with other fever-based illnesses as well.

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NEW TERRITORY “Following the guidelines makes the environment as safe as possible,” says Jennifer Azqueta, director of Clifton Little School, a daycare for infants through kindergarteners. “Since we reopened on June 15, we’ve been doing amazing. All of the essential daycares that were open during the rise of the epidemic from March-June had zero COVID-19 cases. In the last six weeks with about 75 kids per day, I am pleased to share that we only had one child with a fever.”

If you’re a new parent nervous about starting without being able to see the facility in action because of mandated visitor restrictions, you aren’t alone. “These guidelines were new territory for all of us

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so it really was the same experience for both old and new parents,” says Azqueta. “New parents get to meet the teacher at the front door to at least get to know them before just dropping their child off to us.”

Apple Montessori schools throughout New Jersey offer in-person daycare and preschool but also offer At Home full-day programs for toddlers just starting to learn their ABCs. “Our goal is to provide structure in a nurturing environment,” says Apple Montessori Founder Joanne Mooney. “Whether parents choose to enroll their children in school or at home, full-time or part-time, our modern Montessori approach to education gives them an edge academically, socially, and emotionally.”

NURTURING IN THE COVID ERA Apple Montessori educators do their best to maintain social distancing guidelines, and encourage little ones to participate in no-touch games like yoga, bubbles, songs and dance, with some understandable exceptions. “The most important aspect of our whole-child approach is making sure children are safe, secure, and supported”, says Mooney. “Even though we will be maintaining social distancing guidelines, it is important to know that infants need to be held and touched. It is an important part of their development and cannot be completely avoided in the infant classroom. They need to feel nurtured and loved. Teachers are instructed to wash their and the child’s hands afterwards.”

Virtual options include live daily Zoom instruction for ages 3 months to 9 years if you aren’t ready to send your baby in-person.

The sessions focus on learning skills such as yoga and sign language.

There are also pre-recorded videos, monthly supply kits (for handson learning) and curriculum tailored to babies and toddlers. “A child’s brain is like a sponge, thirsty for knowledge. These early periods of brain development affect intellect, the ability to build core skills to think, read, learn, remember, reason, listen and pay attention, as well as nurture social and emotional well-being. We focus on making the most of that key time,” adds Mooney. “We want to give parents every opportunity to send their children to school this year by offering our in-person as well as our virtual At Home programs.”

If you’re worried your toddler will be overwhelmed, scared, nervous or shy if you send her to daycare after a long break, you can breathe easier knowing many quickly adapt. “I am amazed with how much they are literally running in and don’t want to leave,” says Azqueta. “These kids truly missed socializing, missed each other, missed the structure, and missed their sense of security. Parents tell us daily how much the kids love school.”

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