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All thoughts turn to gratitude this month as families prepare the biggest meal of the year and gather together to enjoy it. To be sure you and your loved ones remember all there is to be thankful for, Family Life magazine shares ways to appreciate what’s good in your life (page 12). And, we even give some helpful tips for managing the picky eaters around your Thanksgiving table (page 16)!
Autumnal weather may make your list of best things about November, and our fall family fun article (page 10) offers some outdoor adventure suggestions. From festivals and seasonal foods to pumpkin
picking and perennial planting, the opportunities are endless!
As the year begins to wind down, it’s time for high school seniors to gear up for their futures. Our investment expert offers advice for saving toward and making post-graduation plans (page 18). And, while it’s something no one likes to think about, ways to discuss traumatic events with children is addressed (page 20). This edition comes full circle with a humorous reminder that hosting the holidays may be one person’s nightmare but another’s dream come true (page 30). Here’s to finding your gratitude … even in the challenging moments!
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4-Ingredient PB Cookies
Kid-baker Friendly
By Momma Chef
My 10-year-old (and TikTok) get most of the credit for this recipe. When your son comes in the kitchen asking to bake together and promising it won’t make a mess, it’s hard to say no. He had found a recipe on TikTok that he wanted to make, but after many times of us trying those 20-second recipes that claim to be “so easy,” I was not too optimistic.
We went over the recipe, made some additions and changes, and 15 minutes later, these amazing cookies came out of the oven. They were so good that not only did he eat three after they came out of the oven, I let him have them for breakfast this morning. Peanut butter equals protein, so I shouldn’t feel too guilty, right?
This is a great recipe to make with your kids, they can even make it on their own after you go over the instructions. These were even better the next day after they crisped up a bit. Hope you enjoy these as much as we did!
Karen Nochimowski is the author of the cookbook 6-Minute Dinners (& More!), featuring more than 100 simple recipes. Karen started and runs Momma Chef’s Soup Kitchen and Momma Chef’s Little Free Pantries. Part of her cookbook proceeds go toward feeding those facing food insecurity.
4-Ingredient Peanut Butter Cookies
Prep time: 5 mins
Cook time: 10 mins
Serves: 12 cookies
3/4 cup peanut butter
1/4 cup sugar
1 teaspoon vanilla
1 egg
Instructions:
Preheat the oven to 350 degrees. Mix all of the ingredients above in a small bowl until well combined.
Using a tablespoon, form dough into 1-inch balls with the palms of your hands. Place on parchment paper-lined baking sheet.
You can then use a fork to slightly press down the cookies in both directions to make a pretty design.
Place the baking sheet into the oven and bake for 8-10 minutes, making sure the bottoms do not burn.
Let cool and enjoy!
Lighting Up the Holidays
The 14th annual Festival of Lights features handmade displays from the Mendocino Coast Botanical Gardens staff. Happening rain or shine, the festival runs every Friday, Saturday, and Sunday from Friday, November 29–Sunday, December 22. Check off your list in our gift shop, while enjoying hot cocoa, apple cider, and sweets available at the FOG Holiday Cafe (cash and Venmo). Take your own photos with Santa along the lighted paths each Sunday. Tickets are free for children ages 16 and younger and $10 per adult if purchased in advance. Prices increase to $20 per adult at the door and will not be available when the event has reached capacity. Doors open at 5 p.m., with last entry at 7 p.m. Mendocino Coast Botanical Gardens. 18220 N. Hwy. 1, Fort Bragg. Visit tinyurl.com/22stjwfk for ticket information.
Victorian-style Dickens Festival
Lakeport’s Dickens Festival features lives music performances, beer, wine, and warm drinks, craft and food vendors, children’s activities, cookie decorating and, of course, a visit from Santa. Santa joins the fun at 5:15 p.m., in front of the tree lighting ceremony at 5:30 p.m. Saturday, November 30. 11 a.m.–6 p.m. Xaiben Park. 800 N. Main St., Lakeport. Sponsored by Lake County Tribal Health, Sutter Lakeside Hospital, and Santana’s Cottage Cafe. Learn more at lakeportmainstreet.com/ lakeport-dickens-festival
Fantasy Skating Rink Returns
The Ice Fantasy Skating Rink returns for another holiday season featuring family fun, food, and the main feature, a synthetic ice skating rink. Sixty-minute ice skating session and ice skate rental ticket prices range from $14 for children ages 3–12, $16 for adults, to $15 for seniors 55-plus and those with military ID. Family and group packages are also available. Friday, November 22–Sunday, December 1. Austin Park. 14077 Lakeshore Dr., Clearlake. Purchase tickets at icefantasyskatingrink. tscheckout.com.
Festival of Lights
Lakeport’s Dickens Festival
Ice Fantasy Skating Rink
Second-chance Trunk or Treat
The Middletown Area Merchant’s Association offers one more chance at trunk or treating Friday, November 1. Bring the kids and enjoy trunk-or-treating in a safe environment, with creatively decorated car trunks as the site of candy distribution. Costumes welcome, games provided, face painting, and fun for all ages offered. Decorate your car, stock up on candy, and come hand out fun; or dress up and come to collect candy (be sure to bring your own treat bag)! 4–7 p.m. Middletown Car Wash (across form Middletown Square Park), 15741 Douglas St., Middletown. Learn more at tinyurl.com/ysebfpwu.
Train Ride to Christmas
All aboard to visit the world’s largest living Christmas tree. Enjoy seasonal treats and decor on a journey through the redwoods to Mr. Skunk’s giant Christmas tree, a decorated redwood along the line, which also serves as the workshop for Santa Mr. Skunk. Complimentary hot chocolate and holiday cookies, festive decorations and games, live music, and even a visit from Mr. Skunk himself. Tickets start at $68.35. Infants (2 and under) ride free on a lap. Multiple ride times November through December while seats remain. Departing Willits: 299 E. Commercial St., Willits. For tickets, visit skunktrain.com.
Farm-fresh Foodie Fun
Calling all farm-fresh foodie enthusiasts. November is the last month of the season for Middletown Farmers Market which will not return until next spring. Experience the freshest produce, locally crafted goods and artisanal treats, from crisp, organic vegetables to homemade jams, and baked treats. Support local farmers and artisans while enjoying a vibrant community atmosphere. Bring the family and friends to savor the flavors of the season and discover the bounty of your region. Learn more about community organizations and experience live music, too. Fridays from 4–7 p.m. Middletown Square Park. 21256 Washington St., Middletown. For more information, visit tinyurl.com/3kbtmmev
Skunk Train
Trunk or Treat
Fall Family Fun Outdoorsy Adventures for Everyone
By Kimberly Blaker
Summer may be seen as the outdoor season, but autumn also offers lots of opportunities for outdoor fun. Try some of these family activities, and fill your kids’ senses with delight.
Enjoy a color tour. National parks and forests are the places to be in the fall. Contact your nearest National Park, and find out when fall colors will be at their peak and recommended routes for picturesque views.
Host a campfire cookout. If outdoor fires are permitted in your area, have the kids round up neighborhood friends for a cookout. Hot dogs, hot chocolate, marshmallows, and s’mores are a traditional way to top off the season. Have everyone take turns telling stories around the fire. If you have little ones, check out library books with autumn themes to read.
Attend a football game. Gather your blankets and head to the stadium. High school, college, and pro football games are great fun the whole family. Take along a bag of popcorn and thermos of hot cocoa, then snuggle up and get ready to cheer on your team.
Visit an apple orchard. Take your kids apple picking, and top off the day with cider and doughnuts, a hayride, and end-of-the-year picnic. Make a scarecrow. What’s fall without a scarecrow on your porch? They are easy to make. Buy a couple bails of straw, then have each family member gather old clothes and hats. Stuff it and use string to tie off the hands, feet, and head.
Walk in the woods. As flies and mosquitoes retreat, it’s the perfect time of year for a walk in the woods. Look for animals scurrying about gathering for the long, cold months ahead. Don’t forget your binoculars. Contact state and local parks for wooded trails near you.
Leaf fun. Remember as a kid diving into the crisp fall leaves? Grab the rakes and have your youngsters pitch in. Pile up the leaves to jump in, build a fort, and even have a friendly leaf battle.
Find a festival. Apple, pumpkin, fall harvest, and many more festivals are found this time of year featuring food, arts and crafts, kids’ games, pony and wagon rides, and more. Visit your local events website online to see what’s coming up.
Visit a pumpkin patch. Begin a family tradition of picking your pumpkins from a patch. After cleaning out the pumpkins, make roasted pumpkin seeds, a yummy treat that kids love. Rinse the seeds, pat them dry, and coat with melted butter. Spread the seeds on a cookie sheet, sprinkle with salt, and bake at 350 until golden brown. Be sure and stir them occasionally.
Bird migration watch. As fall fills the air, many birds begin to head south. Contact State and National parks or your Department of Natural Resources for recommended birding locations as well as bird festivals.
Shift through a cornfield maze. Kids delight in finding their way through cornfield mazes. To find a maze near you, visit cornmazesandmore.org.
Plant perennials and bulbs. Let your kids try out their green thumbs. After all, fall is the time of year to plant perennials and flower bulbs. Have children choose some plants from the gardening store, and give them the opportunity to help design the garden. A hand-painted rock or two adds color until the spring blossoms bloom.
Take a railroad excursion. With the colors of fall blazing under bright blue skies, a scenic railroad excursion is a sure bet. Check with your local travel agency for nearby excursions.
Hold a pumpkin sale. Have little entrepreneurs set up a pumpkin stand in your front yard. Find an orchard where pumpkins are cheap, then have your kids purchase a small stock to
sell for a higher price. Hot cocoa, baked pumpkin seeds, or doughnuts make good commercial additions to the stand.
Horseback rides. Head to the stables and enjoy the fall colors on horseback. For horse rental listings by state visit horseback riding sites or search stables online.
Make a bird feeder or house. Kids will enjoy the carpentry experience and marvel at watching birds make use of their creation. Kits
are available in hobby stores and online for making bird feeders. To make one from scratch, visit your library and check out a book on how to build a birdhouse, or find free instructions on the Internet.
Parades and marching bands. Find out when your local college or high school will hold its homecoming parade. Be sure to take a blanket and snacks, and enjoy the colorful floats, majorettes, cheerleaders, and marching band. Also, don’t forget the spectacular Thanksgiving Day parades in many communities or on TV. ❖
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Giving Thanks
Fill Up Your Family with Gratitude
By Christina Katz
Gratitude fills us up. Inner appreciation helps us stop needing things outside ourselves for satisfaction. At Thanksgiving and year-round, attitude strengthens relationships, reduces stress, improves health, and helps us feel happier.
But maybe your family has gotten away from noticing what they appreciate. Gratitude isn’t automatic, after all. But it is a habit you can practice in a few simple steps. Follow these steps to get back in the gratitude groove.
Step one: Put the kibosh on complaining, criticizing, or gossiping for a specified amount of time like one week or even a month. Discuss
the meaning of these three words with your family. Playfully bust each other when one of you breaks a rule. You will, and that’s OK. Build awareness of negative habits rather than shaming, and then redirect attention in a more positive direction.
Step two: Explain that having legitimate needs and expressing them is important. If negative communication persists, try
Be as present as possible when interacting with others.
interrupting them with the question, “What do you need right now?” You might discover that meeting basic needs helps everyone shift into a more positive attitude. And don’t be afraid to ask yourself, “What do I need?”
Once everyoner is getting needs met, or at least getting needs on a schedule to be met, gratitude flows in.
Step three: Recognize what you feel grateful for throughout the day. Try to pause several times a day when you feel happy and discover the source, so you can model the habit for the rest of your family.
Step four: Acknowledge something you feel grateful about by writing it down or saying it aloud to someone else. Or do both. Gratitude becomes more positive when appreciated by you and others.
Step five: After you recognize something to feel grateful for, sit with it for at least a count of 10. Make your gratitude process at least as long as several deep breaths. This way you make something positive a little bigger and start to reap the benefits of your gratitude practice immediately.
Need more help? Try these techniques until they become habits ...
1. Find something around you right now to appreciate. Look around the room. What do you see, smell, hear, taste, or feel? Our senses help us connect with our appreciation.
2. Notice how children set an example of spontaneous gratitude and follow their leads. Approach your day through a child’s eyes.
3. Post reminders of things you appreciate about family members on sticky notes. Leave a message on the coffee pot for your spouse. Put a note in with lunch. Get in the habit of leaving notes on go-to screens throughout the house.
day. Then look back at your calendar and remember the month fondly.
6. Take a moment to recollect what inspires awe in you whether changing seasons, a person who lifts you up, or someone who is really good at what they do. Check in regularly with these inspiring touchstones.
7. Appreciate mistakes you make. Tell your children stories of how bouncing back from misjudgments makes you a more humble person, who is not afraid to be human.
4. Keep an ongoing list of something you are grateful for right now. Use the notes app in your smart phone to keep track or keep a memo pad in your purse.
5. Write something you appreciated on the calendar as the sun sets each
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8. Say something kind to someone. Tell folks what you admire about them. If you like what a person is wearing, say so.
9. Discuss lessons learned in the past. Turn them into a list of
character-building stories about your life.
10. Appreciate something with another person. Remarking, “It’s a beautiful day, isn’t it?” helps you both focus on the positive.
11. Don’t keep good news to yourself. Notice good service and offer feedback about it before you forget. If you can’t get your hands on a comment card, ask to speak to a manager and report good employees.
12. At a weekend meal, ask everyone to share best moments of the week. You can do this around the dinner table or at tuck-in time. Even once a week is better than never. If kids are feeling down, ask for a positive and a negative memory to balance feelings.
13. Thank someone daily for something no matter how small. If you want your kids to be more grateful, thank them for things you appreciate. Gratitude begets gratitude.
Thank
someone daily for something no matter how small.
14. Appreciate nature and the earth. Stop to smell a flower or pick up a pretty stone to take home and display.
15. In moments that are hard, appreciate the opportunity to grow in character, even if you don’t like what is happening.
16. Be as present as possible when interacting with others. Put your
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phone down or stop what you are doing. Be attentive, not distracted.
17. Find a cause and contribute time, money, or energy. Then be sure to share the experience with your kids.
18. Accept a compliment, whenever one is offered. Stop, smile, and say thank you. Practice self-kindness so you can offer kindness to others.
19. Use your phone to alert you to pause for a moment and find something to feel grateful about. Add it to your gratitude list or just relax for a minute and savor the moment. ❖
Author, journalist and writing coach Christina Katz flexes her happy muscles daily by stopping and appreciating the little things as well as the people around her.
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Finicky Eaters
How to Survive Holiday Meal Time
By Gina Rich
Thanksgiving has always been one of my favorite holidays. Not only does it occur during the same month as my birthday, but a holiday devoted entirely to relaxing with family while enjoying delicious carb-laden foods is right up my alley.
When I was growing up in California, my family usually celebrated Thanksgiving at our house, with friends joining us on occasion. Though it’s been over a decade since we were all together for the holiday, both my nose and my tastebuds can still recall those days in vivid detail: Waking up to the scent of onions and butter sizzling on the stove; taking my first bite of tart cranberry sauce; filling my belly with a second or third helping of stuffing, which was always my favorite.
The most important aspect of Thanksgiving is spending time with each other.
When it came to preparing the feast, my dad typically ran the show, which meant the meal involved at least eight sticks of butter, and giblets were always, always mixed into the stuffing. Yes, I know giblets make some people cringe, but the point is, I loved it all.
Naturally, I assumed my enthusiasm for Thanksgiving fare would carry
over to my two children. I was wrong.
Enter my daughters, who at the tender ages of 7 and 5 years, have already distinguished themselves as two of the most finicky eaters in our entire extended family.
Though my husband and I have continually encouraged our daughters to try different foods, their tolerance for cuisine other than plain noodles and carrot sticks is alarmingly limited. One child refuses cheese in all forms. The
If they want something other than what we’ve prepared for the meal, they have to make it themselves.
other will eat cheese, but only if it’s not melted, so mac ‘n’ cheese is a no-go in our house. Both prefer their “pizza” served to them as a naked crust void of ingredients (may as well just call it toast at that point). And sadly, neither has developed an affinity for any of the Thanksgiving dishes I’ve loved for so long: Turkey, stuffing (oh, the stuffing!!), mashed potatoes, and pumpkin pie.
At last year’s holiday, faced with a delightful spread of traditional dishes that no sane person could refuse, my daughters turned up their noses and decided to subsist on rolls, a few slivers of lettuce from the salad, and the chicken nuggets we hastily heated up for them.
Our family is hosting Thanksgiving this year, and while I’m very excited about getting everyone together, I’m
also dreading the fact that I will once again have to contend with my daughters’ stubborn palates.
So after some hand-wringing on this issue, I’ve decided to do things a bit differently this time around. I’m hoping the following guidelines will preserve my sanity:
First, my kids are in charge of choosing which foods go onto their plates. I’ll encourage my daughters to serve themselves from the variety of dishes I’m planning on preparing. What specific foods they choose to eat, and how much they consume, is up to them. If they want to eat four dinner rolls and a few bites of green beans instead of a more balanced meal that contains actual protein — while this makes me cringe — it’s their decision.
Second, if they want something other than what we’ve prepared for the meal, they have to make it themselves. So you refuse turkey and want peanut butter on plain
I assumed my enthusiasm for Thanksgiving fare would carry over to my two children. I was wrong.
bread? Go for it, kiddo! You know where the supplies are. Oh, and you want plain toast instead of stuffing? Splendid. There’s the toaster right over there; you know how to use it.
Third, I’ll remind myself that, while food is a key part of the holiday
and I’d love my daughters to expand their palates and enjoy this tradition as much as I do, the most important aspect of Thanksgiving is spending time with each other. It’s true: No matter what my daughters eat (or don’t!), the holiday will be special, simply because our family is together.
Plus, assuming my kids don’t eat any stuffing, that just means I can have extra helpings later.
Happy Thanksgiving, everyone! ❖
Gina Rich lives in Wisconsin, where she writes about parenting, health, and the natural world for publications including the Washington Post, Notre Dame Magazine , and others.
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Planning Beyond High School
Choosing a Path and Saving for the Future
By Devon Copeland
It may come as a surprise to no one, but Gen Z looks at their future prospects a little differently than the generations before them. The route to post-high school education continues to evolve as educators, parents, and students redefine success. Some parents have been saving for their child’s education years before starting a family, while others started saving later, and still others fear it may be too late to begin.
With rising college tuition costs and hidden expenses, the fear is valid but not insurmountable. The cost to attend a traditional four-year institution is increasing at an average rate of 8 percent annually, meaning the cost of college doubles every nine years. Fortunately, there are many different paths to success
and 529 accounts can help every step of the way.
Students Share the Financial
Burden A 2023 Sallie Mae study revealed that 56 percent of families rely on their students to help pay for higher education in some capacity. The good news is, as students prepare for the next steps in their education,
they are also thinking about financial feasibility, responsibility, and their futures.
According to research by the College Savings Foundation, Gen Z students want to work and help pay their way. And if you’re wondering what students want for their birthdays and graduations, 73 percent say they would prefer contributions to a 529 account rather than material gifts.
Community College
Enrollment on the Rise
Attending community college first is another way to alleviate some of the financial burden of higher education. In the fall of 2023, community colleges saw a 2.6 percent increase — 118,000 students — the highest increase in any higher education sector. Depending on your student’s chosen path, attending community college for two years can save your family up to $50,000, making it a cost-effective first step toward a degree.
The
Trade
School Trend
A more significant percentage increase, vocational-focused community college jumped 16 percent last year, the highest recorded increase to date. Trade certifications often offer flexible learning options and students have more of an opportunity to set their schedule and pace. This can potentially reduce the time needed to earn a credential, making it a more affordable option. Many trades also offer apprenticeship programs, through which the apprentice is earning an income while also learning their trade.
Recent reports indicate Gen Z sees the most potential in the trades, earning them the nickname of the
“toolbelt generation.” According to a USA Today survey, 83 percent of Gen Zers believe that learning a skilled trade can lead to better economic security than college, including 90 percent of those who already have college degrees.
Think of the fastest-growing trade in the U.S. right now — wind turbine technicians. At the highest pay level, wind turbine technicians can make over $100,000 per year. By 2032, job growth is expected to increase by 45 percent and most trades are expected to follow a similar upward trend.
Choosing the Best Path No matter the direction your child chooses, a flexible 529 savings plan can accommodate your child’s personal dreams and professional
goals. Money invested in a 529 account can be used at in-state, out-of-state, public, or private schools, as well as community colleges, trade schools, graduate programs, some international schools, K-12 tuition,
529 accounts can also be used to pay down student loan debt up to $10,000, a significant dent in the national average of $28,940 as of 2024. And, beginning this year, unused funds from a 529 account can roll over to a Roth individual retirement account (IRA) in the account beneficiary’s name without incurring tax penalties.
While the educational landscape will continue to shift, it’s never too early or too late to start saving for the future. ❖
registered apprenticeship programs and certification programs. Plenty of resources are available at your fingertips to help plan your savings contributions or estimate your child’s financial aid eligibility.
A mom of two, Devon Copeland is an experienced communications professional with more than 10 years background in research, education, and trends. She is Senior Communications Associate for Invest529, where she develops and integrates strategic plans to advance Invest529’s mission to make higher education more accessible and affordable for families and individuals.
Tough Talks
Discussing Traumatic Situations with Kids
By Josette Sullins
Being hypersensitive when talking about violent and/ or traumatic events — like school shootings — with children is beneficial. As parents, our natural instincts are activated to protect, and creating that safe space for communication with our children begins within.
Start with an inventory of your own mental health. Having a personal time out with yourself to feel and let some of the gut-wrenching emotions process is important. Take the time needed to find clarity on what you actually want to relay. If need be, take a walk, journal, or listen to calming music. Being centered and as calm as possible prior to discussing a sensitive topic with anyone, especially our children, is important. Your child’s emotions and their need for comfort play a role in how involved the conversation will be. Pay attention to their cues.
Creating a safe place and time for open communication with your child and possibly getting professional guidance can help in this area. Because children are unique in age, life experiences, social, emotional, and mental development, professional advice helps us address topics or occurrences of violence at the appropriate level.
Symptomology occurring from even vicarious trauma can have damaging effects regardless of the age of the child. Any type of overstimulation has an effect on children which may cause
developmental delays. Being exposed in any way including vicariously to violence can cause trauma, PTSD, behavioral disorders, and some scholars are even discussing possible moral injuries.
When there is trauma or overstimulation, our survival instincts may be activated. Making sure your child’s needs are met, routines are kept, and they are comfortable you can aid in their feeling safe. Assist them in being able to find some sort of calm happy space at home, in the car, and in public.
Being centered and as calm as possible prior to discussing a sensitive topic with anyone, especially our children, is important.
Professional help is always recommended for any child who has been exposed to acts of violence. There are countless factors that play into a child’s mental health, safety, and well-being that are taken into consideration by a trained professional. Children do not always show signs of distress right away. Sometimes grown children will share times when, at a very young age, they did not feel safe or supported, or suffered immensely without the knowledge of their parents.
Reaching out for professional help for yourself is also an option. Children take their first cues from parents on how to interact and receive information. The
more traumatized we feel in communicating the event and topic, the more likely our children will be from hearing it. The more trauma-informed communication style we have as parents, the better our children will be able to receive the information, and the greater likelihood they will feel safe to respond and ask questions about an event. Applying the same safe space you created for your children for yourself is equally beneficial.
Realize that you do not have to respond immediately to your children’s questions or have all, if any, of the answers. Being real and stating you need more time to calm down, think about their questions, or get professional advice, gives you
and your child the opportunity to take a step back to process. It allows for an honest, safe, and comfortable pace and atmosphere.
Ignoring the topic, minimizing the impact, or not foreseeing the aftermath are not options. Trauma, PTSD, depression, and other behavioral health disorders do not commonly fade or go away by themselves. They may lie dormant for a years and are likely to surface
during teenage years to early adulthood.
As a parent, it is important to realize the growing need for mental health check ins, self-care days, and open conversations throughout children’s development. It is also equally important to realize and care for your own mental health.
Normalizing mental health not only lets go of the stigmas around the topic but can lead to healthier relationships and a more rewarding life. Mental health is becoming the new buzz word for self-care. Teaching and supporting healthy-care is essential to well-being.❖
Josette Sullins is CEO of dehp Therapeutics licensed integrated clinics, dIT creator and dehp coach.
November Calendar of Events
Friday 1
FREE Start your day on the right foot with this one-hour group walk. 8:15–9:15 a.m. Outside Lake County Library. 1425 N. High St., Lakeport. lakecountyca.gov/Calendar Children’s Storytime. Stories geared for the 0–6 age range, but older siblings are always welcome. For kids and their adults. Fridays. 10–11 a.m. Fort Bragg Branch Library. 499 Laurel St., Fort Bragg. 10:30–11 a.m. Ukiah Branch Library, 105 Main St., Ukiah. 10:30–11 a.m. Willits Branch Library, 390 E Commercial St., Willits. tinyurl. com/26ah47h8
FREE Picture book story time with songs, rhymes, and crafts. Fridays. 10:15–11 a.m. and 2:30–3 p.m. Lake County Library. 1425 N. High St., Lakeport. lakecountyca.gov/Calendar
FREE Build and create with LEGOs at the Library. This activity is great for increasing motor skills and creativity for kids. 3–4 p.m. (Other branches will host this event at different times.) Lake County Library. 1425 N. High St., Lakeport. lakecountyca.gov/Calendar
The Middletown Area Merchant’s Association trunk or treating. Costumes welcome, games provided,
Saturday, November 23
General Admission: 10AM-5PM Early Birds and VIPs: 9AM-5PM Santa Rosa Veterans Memorial Building
Meet the master builders & artists behind amazing LEGO ® creations. Vendors will be selling all kinds of LEGO ® related products. From new and used sets, to vintage and classic. Bulk LEGO ® by the pound, individual minifigures, jewelry, t-shirts, and so much more!
face painting, and fun for all ages offered. 4-7 p.m. Middletown Car Wash (across form Middletown Square Park), 15741 Douglas St., Middletown. Learn more at tinyurl. com/ysebfpwu.
Youth Wrestling Club Season Sign–ups. Sponsored by the Mendocino County Sheriff’s Activities League. New & returning wrestlers need to register. Ages 5 & up. Sport Physical fee: $40. Start date: Monday, Nov. 4 from 5–7 p.m. 22751 Bray Rd., Willits. tinyurl.com/y5hnb6t4. tinyurl.com/ bdxm72r9
Exhibits, vendors, demos, activities, art, food, and fun for the whole family! SEW
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Middletown Farmers Market. Farm fresh seasonal produce, local honey, microgreens, baked goods, fresh cut flowers, gourmet foods, local artisans, and more. Friday evenings throughout November. 4–7 p.m. Midlletown Square Park. 21256 Washington St, Middletown. tinyurl.com/3kbtmmev
FREE Family Fun at Alex Rorabaugh Recreation Center. Open gym. Kids younger than 12 must be accompanied by an adult. Friday and Saturday nights: 5–9 p.m. Sundays: Noon–4 p.m. Alex Rorabaugh Recreation Center. 1640 S. State St. Ukiah. cityofukiah.com
FREE Dia de los Muertos en Middletown. Bring photos of loved ones who have passed, offerings, tokens of affection, food, flowers, and other mementos for your beloveds. Food and drink available for purchase. Friday, Nov. 1: Offrenda communitaria. 5:30–9 p.m. Saturday, Nov. 2: Folklorico y musica. 6–10 p.m. Middletown Art Center. 21456 Hwy. 175, Middletown. middletownartcenter. org/events.html.
Friday Night Films. Experience the Oscar–winning classic, Citizen Kane (1941), in conjunction with the exhibition Bravo, Snoopy! Peanuts and Pawpet Theater. Cost: $10 per person (popcorn included!). Members receive 20% off. Tickets can be purchased in advance or at the door. 7 p.m. Schulz Museum. 2301 Hardies Ln., Santa Rosa.
Dial M for Murder. A new version of the celebrated murder mystery that inspired Hitchcock’s masterpiece. Tickets: $12–$25. Friday–Sunday, Nov. 1–3 and 8–10. Fridays–Saturdays, 7 p.m. Sundays 2 p.m. Ukiah Players
Theatre. 1041 Low Gap Rd., Ukiah. ukiahplayerstheatre.org/box–office
Saturday 2
Mr. Skunk & the Giant Christmas Tree. Enjoy seasonal treats on a journey through the redwoods to visit the world’s largest living Christmas tree. Tickets start at $68.35.
Infants (2 and under) ride free on a lap. Various dates & times thru December while seats last. Departing Willits: 299 E. Commercial St., Willits. skunktrain.com.
Happy Trails Hiking Book Club. Walks/hikes at Anderson Marsh State Park along with book discussions.
The Fun Begins November 22 Through December 1
Saturdays. 8–9 a.m. Redbud Library, 14785 Burns Valley Rd., Clearlake. lakecountyca.gov/Calendar.
FREE Fabric Club. Share, learn, and create with sewing, quilting, embroidery, fabric–folding, and other fabric crafts. The library has some fabrics and threads. Club members
bring their own projects, sewing machines, and supplies. 10 a.m.–Noon. Contact Amy at amy.patton@ lakecountyca.gov to register.
Kids Craft Time. Supplies provided. For all ages. Most 1st & 3rd Saturdays. 11 a.m.–Noon. Fort Bragg Branch
Library. 499 Laurel St., Fort Bragg. tinyurl.com/26ah47h8
2nd Annual Punkin Chunkin Festival. Watch catapults, air cannons, & trebuchets launch pumpkins in a battle between the local FFA Chapters. Food vendors. $10 per person. Free parking. 11 a.m.–3 p.m. Beckstoffer Vineyards. 7900 S. State Hwy. 29, Kelseyville. tinyurl.com/ bdz5uc83.
FREE Maker’s Faire & Open Mic. Local artisans & crafters sell their work. Bring your own instruments. 5:30–8 p.m. Open Mic: 6 p.m. Middletown Art Center. 21456 Hwy. 175 & Hwy. 29 junction. tinyurl.com/ yhjhv6xy
“The Hot Licks” annual benefit concert. Dan Hicks has passed, but his music lives on. The original members bring Dan’s songs for guests’ listening and dancing pleasure. The six–piece acoustic combo plus vocal harmonies make it a night to remember. Presented by Lake County Community Radio. Open seating: $25 general; $22 KPFZ members. Doors open: 6:00 p.m. Concert: 6:30 p.m. Soper Reese Community Theatre. 275 S. Main St., Lakeport. soperreesetheatre.com.
Once Upon a Tune. Exhibit by Harrison Goldberg including illustrations from his new book, The Dolphin Gallery. Through Sunday, Dec. 1. 1–3 p.m. Seacliff Center. 39140 Hwy. One, Gualala. gualalaarts.org/ category/events
FREE Wings of Hope Family Support. One–day bereavement camp. Pre–registration required: (707) 263–6222, ext. 123, or kbradley@ LakeCountyHospice.org. Hospice
Services Bereavement Center. 1862 Parallel Dr., Lakeport. tinyurl. com/5u8hf238.
Sunday 3
Santa Rosa Doll Show & Sale. Antique, vintage, modern & miniature dolls. $6. Ages 12 & younger: Free when accompanied by adult. Free parking. 10 a.m.–3:30 p.m. Santa Rosa Veterans Hall. 1351 Maple Ave., Santa Rosa. santarosadollshow.blogspot.com.
FREE First Fiddlers’ Jam. Listen to fiddle tunes played by members of the Northern California Old Time Fiddlers Group. Noon–1 p.m. Ely Stage Stop & Country Museum. 9921 Soda Bay Rd. (Hwy. 128), Kelseyville. lakecountybloom.com/big–calendar
Tuesday 5
FREE All Together Playgroup. Ages 0–5 years. Arts & crafts, free play, & healthy snack. Bilingual. Sponsored by First 5 Mendocino Rise & Shine. Tuesdays. 9:30–11 a.m. Alex Rorabaugh Recreation Center. 1640 S. State St., Ukiah. raiseandshine.org
Circle time at Mendo LEAP. Weekly themes, dance, songs, & stories designed for infants–7 yrs. Included in 2–hour general play admission. $15/ child. Each child gets 2 free adults. Tuesdays & Wednesdays. 10–11 a.m. Mendo Leap. 203 S. State St., Ukiah. mendoleap.com.
Garden Book Club (online). This is a Zoom meeting. Read and review all the new gardening books while sharing your own gardening tips and techniques. 10–11 a.m. Contact Amy Patton at (707) 263–8817, ext. 17105 or amy.patton@lakecountyca.gov for login information.
FREE Tech Tuesday. Bring your device in to any Lake County Library branch for free tech tutoring. 10 a.m.–4 p.m. (Hosted at multiple branches.) Lake County Library, 1425 N. High St., Lakeport. lakecountyca. gov/Calendar.
Family Game Time. Board, card games, & Nintendo Switch games. All ages welcome. Tuesdays. 2–3 p.m. Lake County Library. 1425 N. High St., Lakeport. lakecountyca.gov/ Calendar
LEGO & Games. Design your own LEGO creation or play a game with
friends. Most Tuesdays. 2–4 p.m. Fort Bragg Branch Library. 499 Laurel St., Fort Bragg. tinyurl.com/26ah47h8.
Wednesday 6
FREE Walk Through the Grades Tour. Take peek into Waldorf classrooms. Check out the campus & working biodynamic farm. Adults only: 9–11 a.m. Summerfield Waldorf School & Farm. 655 Willowside Rd., Santa Rosa. Register: summerfieldwaldorf.org
FREE Queer & Trans Parent
On–line Support Group. Open to all members of the LGBTQIA+ community who are expecting, adopting, and/or parenting from pregnancy to four years postpartum. This group is intended for gestational, non–gestational, and foster or adoptive parents. Wednesdays. 2:30 p.m. tinyurl. com/3dsh4wja
Teen Hangout. Anime, crafts, table–top gaming, and STEM ventures. First Wednesdays. 2:30–4:40 p.m. Ukiah Branch Library. 105 Main St., Ukiah. tinyurl.com/26ah47h8.
FREE Play Nintendo Switch. Every 1st, 2nd and 4th Wednesday of the month. 3–4:30 p.m. Middletown Library. 21256 Washington St., Middletown. (Hosted at multiple branches.) lakecountyca.gov/Calendar.
Teen Dungeons & Dragons. No experience necessary. Materials and snacks provided. First & Third Wednesdays. 3–5 p.m. Space is limited. Sign–ups required. Fort Bragg Branch Library. 499 Laurel St., Fort Bragg. tinyurl.com/26ah47h8.
Beginner’s Stitch Club. Knitting and crocheting, cross stitch, and embroidery, all stitchers welcome.
Open to all ages. 3:30–4:30 p.m. Redbud Library. 14785 Burns Valley Rd., Clearlake. lakecountyca.gov/ Calendar
Bad Art Paint & Sip. Adults of all skill levels! Join us every first Wednesday for mocktails and hilarity as we attempt to recreate actual works of art. 5:30–6:30 p.m. Redbud Library. 14785 Burns Valley Rd., Clearlake. lakecountyca.gov/Calendar.
Thursday 7
FREE Chess Club. A day of friendly competition open to all ages. 2–3 p.m. Middletown Library. 21256 Washington St., Middletown. Registration is required: library@ lakecountyca.gov.
Open Mic Poetry. Share your own poetry, read a favorite, or just listen in. First Thursdays. 7–8 p.m. Fort Bragg Branch Library. 499 Laurel St., Fort Bragg. tinyurl.com/26ah47h8.
Saturday 9
FREE Anderson Marsh Guided Nature Walk. Leisurely paced, docent–led, 3–mile walk. Second Saturday. 8:30 a.m. Anderson Marsh State Historical Park. Anderson Ranch Pkwy., Lower Lake. andersonmarsh.org.
Yarn Wizards Club. Work on your own projects, share knowledge, and learn new techniques. 10–11 a.m. Lake County Library. 1425 N. High St., Lakeport. lakecountyca.gov/Calendar
FREE Cafe Beaujolais Second Saturday Art Fair. Enjoy wood fired pizza, sip from our delicious selection of beer and wine while browsing and supporting local artists and purveyors
of art, jewelry, vintage, and more! 1–4 p.m. 961 Ukiah St., Mendocino. tinyurl.com/mr4xckx9.
FREE Dungeons & Dragons Club playing 5th edition. Ages 13 & up. Saturdays. 1:30–4 p.m. Middletown Library. 21256 Washington St., Middletown. Registration required: (707) 987–3674 or library@ lakecountyca.gov. lakecountyca.gov/ Calendar.
FREE “Life in the Past Lane” genealogy class. 2nd and 4th Saturdays. 2–3 p.m. Lake County Library. 1425 N. High St., Lakeport. lakecountyca.gov/Calendar. For more information about the class, email sleeperseeker@gmail.com.
Salmon: Forest Superheroes. Kids & families, join special guest, Anica Williams, from California State Parks, as she offers salmon information, games, and crafts. Plus, learn about the free State Park Adventure Passes specifically for fourth–graders. 2–3 p.m. Fort Bragg Branch Library. 499 Laurel St., Fort Bragg. tinyurl. com/26ah47h8.
Stitchaholics. For knitters and crocheters, cross–stitchers, needlepointers, and every stitcher in between. Saturdays. 2–4 p.m. Redbud Library, 14785 Burns Valley Rd., Clearlake. Call (707) 994–5115 for more details. lakecountyca.gov/ Calendar.
AV Annual Chili Cook–off. Beer, margaritas, raffles, prizes, & more. Chili tasting tickets: $15. 4–7 p.m. Anderson Valley Senior Center. 14470 Hwy. 128, Boonville. avseniorcenter. blogspot.com.
Laurie Lewis & The Right Hands.
Night club–style seating. No dance floor. Reserved seating: $30 tables; $25 balcony. 7 p.m. Soper Reese Theatre. 275 S. Main St., Lakeport. soperreesetheatre.com.
Sunday 10
Caspar Fall Fundraiser. Annual Harvest dinner (vegan & gluten–free options) & silent auction. 6 p.m. Caspar Community Center. 15051 Caspar Rd., Caspar casparcommons.org.
Tuesday 12
Read to a Dog. Children who are independent readers can sign up for one 15-minute session to read to Cinnamon, a certified therapy dog. Work on reading comprehension and confidence in a comfortable place with a furry face. 11 a.m.–Noon. Middletown Library. 21256 Washington St., Middletown. lakecountyca.gov/Calendar
Wednesday 13
FREE Shadow & Walk–Through High School Tour. Prospective students come shadow while parents tour the school. Parent tour: 8–9:30 a.m. Student shadowing: 8 a.m.–3 p.m Summerfield Waldorf School & Farm. 655 Willowside Rd., Santa Rosa. Register: summerfieldwaldorf.org.
Virtual Reality Experience. For adults and kids ages 13 & up. 3:30–5 p.m. Lake County Library. 1425 N. High St., Lakeport. lakecountyca.gov/ Calendar
Silent Book Club. The book club for introverts. Dedicated silent reading time, book swaps, optional socializing. 5:15–6:45 p.m. Second and fourth Wednesdays. Redbud Library, 14785
Burns Valley Rd., Clearlake. For more information or to sign up, call (707) 994–5115. lakecountyca.gov/Calendar.
Thursday 14
Chair Yoga. A low–impact, inclusive program that will get you moving while seated for a yoga routine.
11–11:59 a.m.. Coast Community Branch Library. 225 Main St., Pt. Arena. tinyurl.com/26ah47h8
Cookbook Club. Prepare, share, and critique recipes. Learn about new cookbooks at the library. Also available via Zoom. Noon–1 p.m. Lake County Library. 1425 N. High
Providing opportunities on the Mendocino Coast that promote physical and mental wellbeing for everyone, through active play, community enrichment, programs and events.
St., Lakeport. Email Amy.patton@ lakecountyca.gov to join via Zoom. lakecountyca.gov/Calendar.
Food Pop Up. Mendocino Food and Nutrion Program. Free food for all. Noon–1:00 p.m. 76300 Grange St., Covelo. Email outreach@foodbank. org or call (707) 964–9404 for more information.
Friday 15
“A Journey Through Strings and Stories” with Hiroya Tsukamoto. Night club style seating. No dance floor. Tickets: $25. 7 p.m. Soper Reese Theatre. 275 S. Main St., Lakeport. soperreesetheatre.com
Saturday 16
Mendocino College Ceramics
Visiting Artist Series: Didem Mert. Doors open at 9:30 a.m. Event runs 10:00 a.m.–4:00 p.m. 1000 Hensley Creek Rd., Ukiah. tinyurl. com/2mx4fruh.
Creative Club. Share your own craft projects, learn about the library resource Creativebug, and try your hand at a new craft each month. Creativebug.com has unlimited access to more than 1,000 classes and offers downloadable patterns, templates, and recipes. Free access through the library’s subscription. 10 a.m.–Noon. Lake County Library. 1425 N. High St., Lakeport. lakecountyca.gov/ Calendar.
FREE Gibson Museum STEM Day. Learn how science and history intersect. This month’s topic is emulsion and attendees will learn more about the process and make their own butter. Noon–2 p.m. Gibson
Museum. 27267 Calistoga Rd., Middletown. tinyurl.com/y7hum4fz
Tuesday 19
Yarn Club. All ages and skill levels share yarn crafts. Bring yarn, needles, hooks, patterns, ideas, and questions. Share and learn from each other. Third Tuesdays. 2–4 p.m. Upper Lake Library. 310 Second St., Upper Lake. lakecountyca.gov/Calendar
Wednesday 20
Great Reads Book Club. Share & recommend your own great reads. This club meets via Zoom. Noon–1:30 p.m. Email library@lakecountyca.gov to join. lakecountyca.gov/Calendar
Monthly Kid’s Craft. 3rd Wednesday of every month, all four Lake County Library branches. Contact your favorite branch for details. Supplies may be limited. 3:30–4:30 p.m. Registration required at your local branch. lakecountyca.gov/Calendar.
Thursday 21
Youth Mic Night. Encourage your children to showcase their talents and prepare them to dazzle future audiences. 6–8:30 p.m. Children’s Museum of Arts & Science Activity Center. 15210 Lakeshore Dr., Clearlake. facebook.com/ cmaslakecounty
Mendocino College Repertory Dance Company presents original dance works by professional artists. Thursday, Nov. 21: 7:30 p.m. Friday, Nov. 22: 6:30 p.m. Gala; 7:30 p.m. Saturday, Nov. 23: 7:30 p.m. Sunday, Nov. 24: 2 p.m. CVPA Theatre Ukiah Campus. 1000 Hensley Creek Rd., Ukiah. tinyurl.com/ mws7w6s2.
Friday 22
FREE Gifts ‘n’ Tyme Holiday Craft Fair. Friday–Saturday, Nov. 22–23: 10 a.m.–6 p.m. Sunday, Nov. 24: 10 a.m.–4 p.m. Napa Valley Expo. 575 Third St., Napa. tinyurl. com/3hw56ur4
Saturday 23
Makerspace Open Lab. Use any of the library’s Makerspace supplies and tools. Fourth Saturdays. 10 a.m.–Noon. Lake County Library. 1425 N. High St., Lakeport. lakecountyca.gov/ Calendar.
Sunday 24
Lake County Symphony Fall Classical Concert. John Parkinson conducting. Featuring some of the greatest composers in Western history. Seating: $25 general reserved; $30 premium reserved; $5 discount for LCSA members. Doors open: 1:30 p.m. Concert: 2–5 p.m. (Open Rehearsal: 11 a.m. $5; Ages 18 & younger: Free). Soper Reese Theatre. 275 S. Main St., Lakeport. soperreesetheatre.com
Colorful Rhythms of Spain and Argentina. Tickets: $30. 3–5 p.m. Preston Hall. 44831 Main St., Mendocino. Register: tinyurl.com/ msmm36xb.
Friday 29
Gamer’s Craft. Crafting all things geeky... painting mini game pieces, cosplay tutorials, costuming make–up, etc. Open to adults and children ages 8 and up. Last Friday of the month. 3–4:30 p.m. Middletown Library. 21256 Washington St., Middletown. lakecountyca.gov/Calendar
Annual Festival of Lights. Garden plants illuminated with holidays lights. No dogs allowed. Tickets are free for children ages 16 and younger and $10 per adult if purchased in advance. Prices increase to $20 per adult at the door and will not be available when the event has reached capacity. Fridays–Sundays, 5–7 p.m. Thru Sunday, Dec. 22. Mendocino Coast Botanical Gardens. 18220 N. Hwy. 1, Fort Bragg. tinyurl.com/22stjwfk
Saturday 30
FREE Historic Planes Display. Stroll amongst the display of historic airplanes. Held the 4th Saturday of each month. 10 a.m.–2 p.m. Lampson Field Airport. Highland Springs Rd., Kelseyville. support.lakecochamber.com
FREE Winter Celebration on the Farm. Refreshments, farm gifts, & goodies available for purchase. 10 a.m.–2 p.m. Peace & Plenty Farm. 4550 Soda Bay Rd., Kelseyville. peaceplentyfarm.com.
Amble & Ramble Book Club. Adults 21 and over. We welcome discussion of any book you are currently reading. Noon–1 p.m. Meet on Perkins Street near the old Train Depot. Email carrm@mendocinocounty.org to sign up or for more information. tinyurl. com/26ah47h8.
Neurodiversity Night at Mendo LEAP. Meal, mingle, meet experts, & play. All welcome. Bilingual event. Pizza dinner included. 4:30–7 p.m. $15/child. Mendo Leap. 203 S. State St., Ukiah. mendoleap.com.
Cirque de Bohème presents
Thanksgiving Thoughts To Host or Not?
By Cheryl Maguire
This is how I wanted to respond to my 11-year-old daughter’s request to host Thanksgiving, “Not if I can help it,” since I hate cooking, cleaning, and anything related to hosting for 20 people. But I knew that wasn’t the answer she was looking for. Instead I responded like any mom would that is hoping to avoid a debate: “Maybe.”
“YES!” My daughter screamed, pumping her fist like she just won the lottery.
“Careful,” I reminded, “It isn’t a ‘yes’ yet. Now go get ready for school.”
I made a long list of reasons why going to Auntie’s house for Thanksgiving would be far superior to hosting. Then I won a turkey from a contest at the YMCA. If I didn’t know any better, I would have thought that my daughter somehow rigged the contest.
“That means we’re hosting Thanksgiving,” my daughter noted. “I
can’t wait to decorate the house, bake, and have everyone here!”
Easy for her to say. She didn’t have to go to the grocery store, clean the house, and spend days cooking and baking. Or did she?
“OK, but you have to help me every step of the way.”
“YES!” Again my daughter screamed, pumping her fist like she just won the lottery.
Clearly, she had no idea what she was in for, much like the poor turkeys with whom we celebrate.
At the crowded grocery store, I felt frustrated maneuvering crowded aisles. My young Padawan was unfazed, wearing a perpetual smile as if she was at Disney World. (There were some parallels, like mobs of people and an overabundance of food but it was
lacking in those wishing you a magical day.)
While cleaning, my daughter maintained a sunny disposition. She played music and danced, and the song “Whistle While You Work” popped into my head. Maybe my daughter is going to be a Disney character one day.
When I didn’t think it was possible for her to be any happier, she was elated to cook and bake.
During preparations, my daughter never complained, even while taking out the garbage or washing dishes. Her enthusiasm was infectious and I might even go so far as to say it was fun to host. The best part was spending time with her and realizing that something I thought was tedious could be entertaining.
“Mom, can we host Christmas?”
Even though I enjoyed hosting, I thought we were getting a little ahead of ourselves by discussing this before Thanksgiving dinner was over.
“Maybe.”
“YES!” my daughter screamed, pumping her fist like she just won the lottery.
Looks like we will be hosting Christmas, too. ❖
Cheryl Maguire holds a Master of Counseling Psychology degree. She is married and is the mother of twins and a daughter. Her writing has been published in The New York Times, National Geographic, Parents Magazine, AARP, Healthline, Your Teen Magazine and many other publications. She is a professional member of ASJA and SATW. You can find her on X @CherylMaguire05.