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10 Features 10 Bill’s Bits of Wisdom Parenting advice from a father of three.

14 S’mores Under the Stars Take your clan camping.

16 Goodbye Summer Slide Create an at-home enrichment program.

18 Parents But Not Partners Tips for co-parenting peacefully.

20 Trash to Treasure

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Dear Reader

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Bits and Pieces Just Slithering Around Round ’Em Up! Cruisin’ Music for the People Find Your Own Rhythm A Loverly Afternoon

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28 Family Fun King for a Day

30 Calendar of Events Hop on the Merry-Go-Round

38 Cooking with Kids Treats without the Heat

42 Humor Break Dad, Guess What?

Make this year’s garage sale the best.

22 Good, Cheap Fun Simple ways to cut back and save cash this summer.

24 Keep on Truckin’ Tips for keeping your car safe and on the road.

26 Birth of a Father Help for guys with newly hatched kids.

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31 It’s Pool Time!

Schedules for public swims near you.

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he last school bell has rung.

Conjure up some spectacular summer fun with the help of our Calendar of Events (page 30).

Sharon Gowan Publisher/Editor It’s packed with Sharon@family-life.us local festivals, library classes, and fitness opportunities, many of which are free or reasonably priced. Add the money-saving ideas in “Good, Cheap Fun” (page 22), as well as city pool swimming (see “It’s Pool Time!” page 31, for schedules), and we’ve got your good times covered.

Cotati father of three Bill Bailey shares his advice for new dads. (Hint: Spending time with the kids is tops on the list.)

Office Manager Patricia Ramos patty@family-life.us

Becoming a dad comes with a lot of responsibility. For many men, the new role is as anxiety provoking as it is thrilling. See “Birth of a Father” (page 26) for tips on how to help your guy make it through the post-partum period with flying colors. And then turn to “King for a Day” (page 28) for some wonderful local ways to honor his accomplishments.

We hope the beginning of your summer is filled with ice cream cones, beach breezes, and heaps of kid joy.

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Bits & Pieces See Royal Jelly Jive play at the free Railroad Square Music Festival in Santa Rosa.

Just Slithering Around

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url up with a green anaconda snake or get buddy-buddy with a hissing cockroach at Python Ron’s Reptile Kingdom presentation. Kids will learn about and get their hands on a variety of exotic creatures from around the world.

The free event will be held on June 23 at 11 a.m. at the Rohnert Park–Cotati Regional Library in Rohnert Park, and at 2 p.m. at the Northwest Santa Rosa Library in Santa Rosa. See pythonron.com or sonomalibrary.org for more details. ¶

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iddy-up! Does the sound of a horse’s neigh make your spirit sparkle? If so, a rodeo may be just the thing for your weekend wandering.

Get your fill of lassos and broncos at the 50th Annual Russian River Rodeo on June 25 and 26 at 1 p.m. in Duncans Mills. Tickets at the gate are $12 for adults, $5 for ages 12 and under, and $7 for seniors 60 and over.

See russianriverrodeo.org for details. ¶

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Cruisin’

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ee a bit of cultural history twinkle in the sun at Peggy Sue’s Car Show and Cruise.

Classic, stock, and custom all-American vehicles will be on display on June 11, 8 a.m.–4 p.m., at Sonoma Mountain Village in Rohnert Park. After the show, watch the beauts cruise through downtown Santa Rosa, 5:30­–8:30 p.m. For more information, see cruiseforpeggysue.com. ¶

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Music for the People

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veryone deserves music,” sings popular rocker Michael Franti. And at free events like the Railroad Square Music Festival, local performers make that vision a reality. Come listen to the gypsy rock of Royal Jelly Jive; the New Orleans jazz of the Dixie Giants; the Americana harmonies of the Bootleg Honeys; and several other acts. The event will be held on June 5, 9 a.m.–8 p.m., on the Santa Rosa Plaza in Santa Rosa. To hear a sample of everyone in the lineup, see railroadsquare musicfestival.com. ¶

A Loverly Afternoon

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isten to Eliza Doolittle enunciate her way to high society in My Fair Lady. “The Rain in Spain,” “Wouldn’t It Be Loverly?,” “Get Me to the Church On Time,” and other classic tunes will all be part of the 6th Street Playhouse production of the musical. Performances will be held at the G.K. Hardt Theatre in Santa Rosa at 8 p.m. June 2­–4 and 2 p.m. on June 4 and 5. Tickets are $15–$37 and may be purchased at 6thstreetplayhouse.com/home. ¶

Find Your Own Rhythm

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re your kids always tapping their feet to their own beat? Maybe they need an artistic outlet for their restless energy. Let the Santa Rosa Symphony Percussion Trio take them on a musical tour of drums and other percussion instruments, and tell them what it’s like to be a professional percussionist. The group will perform on June 11 at 1 p.m. at the Roseland Community Library in Santa Rosa.

See sonomalibrary.org for more information. ¶

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have three hours. So use it,” he says.

Go throw a ball, read together, or ride bikes.

“We found the guys like fencing, so we’re getting ready to learn to be fencing coaches together. We also do Scottish country-dance. They are fantastic at it. I’m not as good as they are, but we dance together,” he says.

From left to right: Bill Bailey with Jane, Jared, Ethan, and Levi at Mount St. Helens in Washington.

Bill’s Bits of Wisdom

By Melissa Chianta

A Veteran Dad’s Advice for Newbies

Every new father wishes his kid came with an instruction manual. Since that’s not possible, what’s the next best thing?

Advice from an experienced dad.

Bill Bailey, a 52-year-old software marketing director, has been raising a family with his wife, 51-year-old Jane, in Cotati for 17 years. His three boys—Levi, 18, Jared, 15, and Ethan, 13—have taught him a lot 10 SonomaFamilyLife

about fathering. Here is the wisdom he has to share.

Be involved—in everything.

Make time in your schedule for your kids. “[If] you get home at 5:30 and [the kids] go to bed at 8:30, you only

It’s great to do chores with your kids, too, Bailey says. Taking care of household duties like washing dishes, folding laundry, or making meals not only teaches kids how to be responsible, but also how to take care of themselves. “I tell my kids, ‘I love folding laundry. I love doing those things that I had to do when I was a kid. So now that I’m an adult I know how to do my own laundry and cook my own meals,’” he relates. This contributes to their growing sense of confidence in their ability to make it in the world on their own.

The most significant part of any activity, Bailey says, is engaging with your kids. Even something like driving a child to a doctor’s appointment can provide the opportunity for conversation.

“I’ll take my oldest son to the chiropractor, and we’re sitting there, and I’ll say, ‘So what are you thinking about right now?’” he says.

Figuring out what is going on inside your child’s head, what matters to him or her, is critical to parenting well, he believes.

Be on the same page with your spouse. Just as important as knowing what matters to your child is knowing what matters to your spouse, especially when it comes

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to childrearing. Before you have kids, Bailey advises, talk about your philosophies and expectations. “What does [your spouse] love about kids?

What doesn’t she love about kids?

Listen to her.” Discuss how you are going to approach eating, clothing, education, discipline. “How are you going to handle it when your child says no to a food because he doesn’t like the way it looks?” he asks.

Bailey teaches his kids to focus on what’s possible.

He never says, “We can’t do this.” Rather, he says, “How can we do this?”

When you know where each of you stands, it’s easier to present a consistent, unified front, which is key to all aspects of parenting, especially discipline, Bailey asserts.

“If Mom sets a boundary, Dad has to walk with it. Dad’s got to follow. I can’t take her out at the knees because I don’t like something. And vice versa,” he says. “I’m a firm believer, if it happens in that moment, then you have to discipline in that moment. You don’t say, ‘Wait ‘til your father gets home.’ Why? It only undermines the mom’s authority. That might have worked back in the day, but I don’t know how it did,” he says.

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Jane to homeschool their kids, the couple had to calculate how to live on just Bailey’s salary. That’s meant squeezing their family into a fairly small house.

“We’ve been in a 1,300 square-foot home for 17 years. We gave up [living on] two incomes. And we decided that very early on,” he says.

On the day-to-day level, know that you are “on” the minute you walk in the door. “You don’t just come home, put your feet up, and start scrolling through the TV. You have to wait. You have to put that off. I’m not saying don’t do it. I’m saying you can’t do it right now,” he says.

One thing to avoid sacrificing, if at all possible, is time with the kids. “If [you] miss their first step, if [you] miss their first word, if [you] miss their first eating of solid food, it’s gone. You don’t get that back,” he says. So when you have to be away from the children, make sure your time contributes in some way to the life of the family, he advises.

Although making sacrifices is necessary, Bailey has also found it’s essential to take time for self-renewal. “Send [Mom] to a B&B for the weekend because Mom needs Mom time,” he says. “Do those things that are self-gratifying, make time for them, it’s important, but [stay] involved.”

Create and maintain the vision for the family. As you get the hang of what’s necessary to keep your family functioning well, you can start to think about what you want for its future. Bailey is clear that he wants his sons “to create

opportunity”—especially economic opportunities—for themselves and other people.

“We have hundreds of thousands of kids who are graduating from college with no jobs,” he remarks. “I want my

Taking care of household duties like washing dishes, folding laundry, or making meals not only teaches kids how to be responsible, but also how to take care of themselves. guys to create jobs and hence create opportunities for a ready work force.

That’s our vision.”

Over the years, this vision has led to the creation of more than one family business venture. When the boys were little, they sold vegetables from their garden to the neighbors. And when they were older, they started a window-washing business, which is still going strong. Now Bailey has gone into partnership with Levi and launched Bailey Enterprises, which sells their own software products.

(Check them out at baileyen.com.)

“We’ve got a bona fide company, and it all started from selling zucchini and potatoes,” he says.

Bailey is quick to point out that any family vision must consider and cultivate the kids’ own wishes for their futures. For instance, Jared wants to be a pilot, so Bailey is helping him think about how his career choice could create opportunity for others. Right now

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they are entertaining the idea of chartering planes.

“Who knows? In ten years we might have a fleet of aircraft. We’ll be flying wine executives around the world. Why not?”

Bailey teaches his kids to focus on what’s possible. He never says, “We can’t do this.” Rather, he says, “How can we do this?” For him, where there is a will there is a way. You just have to summon the courage to take action.

Say “I’m sorry.” No matter what your vision or approach to parenting, you are going to mess up, says Bailey. Mistakes will be made, and the best way to deal with them is to apologize. “If you make

a mistake on discipline, if you make a mistake on timing, whatever the issue is, look [your child] in the eye and say, ‘I was wrong. I’m sorry. I’ll do everything I can to not do that again.’,” he says. Bailey believes when parents act with humility and

“You get home at 5:30 and [the kids] go to bed at 8:30, you only have three hours. So use it.”

—Bill Bailey are genuinely remorseful about their errors, kids feel respected and loved.

Stay the course. In the wee early morning hours when you’re trying to settle a crying baby for the

umpteenth time, and wishing, once again, for that infallible instruction manual, you may find yourself thinking that becoming a dad was a big mistake. But take heart: You have what it takes. And, what’s more, Bailey says, when you focus on what’s possible, your ride will most likely be a sweet one. “If I had known it was going to be this good, I don’t know that we would have waited [to have kids],” he says.

Someday, when your children are older, and someone asks you what you like about being a dad, you may just find your reply is the same as Bailey’s: “Everything.” ¶ Melissa Chianta is the features editor at Sonoma Family Life magazine.

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9 Steps to a Great Family Camp Out

S’mores Under the Stars

By Ashley Talmadge

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amping has become an increasingly popular family activity, and it’s not hard to see why. There’s no better way to experience all of nature’s offerings. A leisurely hike, jumping fish, s’mores around the campfire—it all adds up to hours of stress-free quality time with the ones you love most. And even the plushest camping accommodations are inexpensive compared to other lodging. So when in-town temps soar this summer, pack up your family and head to the mountains or shore for a breath of fresh air. Here are tips to ensure a great experience.

Research and reserve. Get recommendations from friends, and access online information about campgrounds, including site maps and fees. During the summer months, it’s best to reserve your site in advance when possible. National, state, and county parks often provide excellent camping facilities at moderate cost.

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more expensive, but may come with amenities such as laundry facilities and pools. Narrow your online search by clicking on desired features— showers, flush toilets, hiking trails, beach access, playground, pet-friendly, etc. See sidebar for websites.

Make a list and check it twice. A printout of must-haves can help you avoid leaving

necessities at home. Who wants to drive 20 miles for a box of Band-Aids? A comprehensive checklist can be found at Coleman (checklists.coleman.com/guide/ coleman-camping-checklist) or Love the Outdoors (lovetheoutdoors.com/ camping/checklists.htm). Pare and adapt according to your family’s needs.

Get your gear. If you already have the essentials, be sure everything is in good working condition. You don’t want to discover the hole in the tent during a downpour. Equipment can be expensive, and there are many options. If you’re new to camping (or trying it for the first time with children), you may want to borrow a tent and other items from a friend.

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CLOVERLEAF RANCH Make a dry run. Before you hit the road, practice using any unfamiliar piece of equipment. Set up the tent, install the car-top carrier, and light the stove. Not only will you avoid fumbling in bad weather, you’ll give the kids a preview of the camping experience. Maybe you’ll want to try a night or two of camping in the backyard before heading to the campground.

Be sure everything is in good working condition.

You don’t want to discover the hole in the tent during a downpour.

Plan meals. You can chop veggies ahead of time, and use precooked frozen foods as ice blocks in your cooler. If you’re using a camp stove, foods that can be cooked with hot water (pasta, instant oatmeal) are quick and easy. And never underestimate the value of grabbing a meal at the local pizzeria or burger joint if you’re camping near a town.

Check the weather. If you’re camping at elevation or on the coast, remember that evenings and early mornings may be chilly. You may also need to prepare for rainy or windy conditions.

Review rules. When you arrive at the campsite, scope it out before you set up equipment. Call a quick family meeting and point out site boundaries, bathrooms, trash containers, and water. Remind the kids to respect neighboring sites, clean up after themselves, and refrain from feeding wildlife. Make sure everyone is aware www.sonomafamilylife.com

of potential dangers such as creeks, cliffs, and rash-producing plants.

Relax and unwind. After you’ve set up camp, it’s time to let the great outdoors work its magic. Hike and fish. Organize a scavenger hunt.

Prop your feet by the campfire. Eat s’mores. Tell ghost stories after the sun goes down. Drink an adult beverage. Play a card game with the kids by the lantern’s glow. Find constellations you can’t see in the city. It’s all good.

Dealing with “tech deficit.”

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Fill your phone with nature-related apps, and there will be no need to lug ten field guides and a journal on your next hike. they can learn about the local flora and fauna. For older kids (as well as parents!), technology has its benefits.

Fill your phone with nature-related apps, and there will be no need to lug ten field guides and a journal on your next hike. Another tech bonus: You can easily log your discoveries. ¶ Ashley Talmadge is a freelance writer and mother of two young boys.

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Goodbye Summer Slide 5 Ways to Promote Learning Over Break

By Christina Katz

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ummer vacation has arrived. Are you worried that your kids will turn into couch potatoes,

their gray cells diminishing by the day? A DIY at-home enrichment program may be the answer. These tips will help keep growing brains in gear and the summer slide at bay.

Dare Them to Read. Sign up your kids for a summer reading challenge through their school or local library, or even create your own. We buy our daughter eight age-appropriate reading-challenge books before school gets out. The rule is she must read for at least a half-hour on weekday mornings before she can do anything else. The half-hour often turns into an hour or even hours depending on the

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book. Keep your costs down by using the library or buying second-hand books or e-books.

Ban Morning Cell Phone Use. In our house, phones are viewed as a privilege, not a right. As long as we

What if everyone in your home learned something new? pay for them, we get to model healthy cell phone behaviors, no matter what the other parents are doing. So we don’t use cell phones until noon, every day, even when it’s not summer. We aren’t interested in our daughter passively staring at a screen when she could be doing something enriching or creative. However, we make an exception if the screen is being used in pursuit of self-expression. So if she wants to look up fashions from different periods so she can render them more accurately in her fashion

notebook, that’s allowable. We also permit a quick phone check first thing in the morning to wish someone a happy birthday or reply to a message.

Tackle Life-skill Projects. Life skills are often not taught in school.

Teaching them to your child can be a bonding experience. Examples might be creating a garden with a toddler or preschooler, learning to cook with an elementary school child, redecorating a room with a tween, or balancing a checkbook with a teen.

Schedule Daily, Weekly & Monthly Chores. Your child is part of the family and therefore part of a team. Summer is not your only chance to reinforce this principle, but more free time can mean more help around the house, if you play your cards right. Before break begins, sit down and make a chores list for each child. Divide it up into daily, weekly, and monthly chores so kids can’t wiggle out of helping with big jobs like cleaning out the garage

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or washing the cars. Kids like to graduate to more sophisticated chores the older they get, so make sure the level of difficulty matches each child’s aptitudes and abilities. Whether simply emptying the dishwasher daily, cleaning

We aren’t interested in our daughter passively staring at a screen when she could be doing something enriching or creative. their room weekly, or doing yard work with the whole family every other week, kids can feel proud of pitching in.

Learn Something Fun. What if everyone in your home learned something new over break? Look for summer learning opportunities through your child’s school, local library, YMCA, or community center, and even online. Video training series are available online any given day, just make sure you screen the instructor, website, and material for security and age-appropriateness. You can even help your kids create their own curriculum using books, videos, vocabulary, and a creative project.

If you want to teach your kids that learning can be fun, put them in charge of learning a topic that motivates them and watch what happens. ¶ Author, journalist, and writing coach Christina Katz loves routines. She also loves bagging the routine in favor of a spur-of-the-moment adventure with the family, which is what summer is all about.

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Parents But Not Partners How to Raise Kids with Your Ex

By Joryn Jenkins

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ou just finalized your divorce, but it’s never really over because you have children together. What are the best ways to co-parent?

How can you do what’s right for the kids but keep the peace with your ex? Follow these tips to help you figure it out.

ex’s character flaws, but you do have to accept that they exist and work around them if you want to co-parent your children successfully.

You can’t really co-parent until you’re done getting divorced. People don’t always decide at exactly the same time to get divorced. It’s not unusual that one is ready to divorce but the other is not. When that happens, if the final judgment is entered and someone is still not acclimated to the idea, co-parenting will be difficult. The one who wanted the divorce has to wait for the slower one to catch up. If you’re too nice, you send the wrong signal. So be patient and kind, but be firm. Until the other person is over it, don’t talk about anything except issues involving your kids.

Being parents together is not a state of being; it is a work in progress.

And it is work.

Understand that a parenting relationship is hard work.

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will both work together on “being married” every day, so, too, you should commence your divorce the same way, committed to working on parenting your children together. Being parents together is not a state of being; it is a work in progress. And it is work.

Eat a meal together once a week, or at least monthly.

Breaking bread together is a great way to make peace. After all, it’s hard to yell at someone in a restaurant. This regular meeting can be designated as a time to discuss what’s going on in your children’s lives, as well as parenting issues.

Understand that your ex will not change. He or she didn’t change during the marriage, and he or she won’t change after it, either. Now you know that you can’t live with your

Be nice. You’re not married anymore. Treat your ex like you would a friend, or, if not that, then someone from work. She’s your children’s mother; he’s your children’s father. Be polite and respectful.

Understand that you will disagree on some things.

Hopefully, you share most of the same views on parenting. But every once in a while, you won’t. Pick your battles. Try to address each one, working through your disagreements with solid communication and

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Don’t take it personally. You might be tempted to translate everything your ex says or does as criticism of you. Remember, his or her world no longer revolves around you. It’s, therefore, quite possible that a comment, as critical as it may

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Treat your ex like you would a friend, or, if not that, then someone from work. sound, or action, as painful as it may feel, has nothing to do with you.

Don’t let his or her opinion rule you.

Don’t let it rattle your confidence in your ability to parent.

Bite your tongue. It’s not always wise to “speak your truth.” Ask yourself if what you want to say will serve the greater good. If not, why speak? Especially when you know that it’s not about what you say, it’s about what she or he hears.

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You can be each other’s friends or worst enemies. This is the most important advice. If you realize this, then you can make being friends (and ideal co-parents) your goal. Envision that as a reality, and you can make it happen. Nobody wins, especially the kids, when you are enemies with your ex. ¶ Joryn Jenkins is a divorce attorney and author of War or Peace: Avoid the Destruction of Divorce Court.

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the morning, so the earlier you open the better. If you start by 7:30 or 8 a.m., rummagers will flock.

Display Your Wares Don’t heap your merchandise on tables or leave it in boxes to be ransacked. While some don’t mind digging through messy stacks, most people won’t bother.

Hang as much clothing as possible.

Use a laundry pole or portable closet, or install two support brackets and a closet rod. You can also support

Tips for a Trash to Successful Treasure Garage Sale

By Kimberly Blaker

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re your garage, basement, and closets overflowing from the heaps of stuff you’ve been saving “just in case”?

Then it may be time to put it to good use—in someone else’s home. Rummage sales are a great way to clear out, recycle, and make some extra cash. Follow these suggestions for a successful sale and a clutter-free home.

Pick a Storefront Offering shelter and requiring little daily set up and tear down, a garage is usually the best place to hold a sale. If your garage is hard to get to, hidden from view, or contains valuables that can’t easily be secured, use a covered porch or patio or your yard. Keep 20 SonomaFamilyLife

plenty of tarps available to protect your goods from rain.

Time It Well Plan your sale when temperatures are 60–90°F. Typically, the best days to hold sales are Thursdays–Sundays, with Fridays and Saturdays drawing the most traffic. Most people shop in

Don’t heap your merchandise on tables or leave it in boxes to be ransacked. While some don’t mind digging through messy stacks, most people won’t bother. a broomstick between two ladders.

If you have few clothing items, a clothesline will do.

Plenty of table space is a must. Borrow folding tables, and if you run out, make your own table by resting a sheet of plywood on top of two sawhorses, or prop spare planks of wood between chairs. Keep all but big items off the floor for better visibility.

Neatly fold and stack on tables clothing that can’t be hung; label stacks according to size. Organize good toys and complete sets where parents and grandparents will easily spot them. Stick small toys in boxes on the ground where young children can dig for treasures to take home.

Label boxes according to the price per item.

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Set up a table with hand tools, gadgets, electronics, and home repair items.

Place small articles like jewelry in divider containers or egg cartons so they are easy to view.

Finally, make sure batteries or electricity is available so that you can demonstrate that items are in working condition.

Dress Up Your Stuff Appearance plays a big roll in the sale of used goods. Wash and dry all clothing and linens. Wash dirt from toys, tools, and household items.

Repair broken merchandise.

Price to Sell Don’t overprice, or you’ll wind up packing up nearly as much as you started with. For big items, look through classified ads for typical

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resale prices. Some top quality items in like-new condition can bring 25–35 percent of the replacement cost. Occasionally, tools, equipment, and other items in small supply can be priced higher and could sell for

Make sure batteries or electricity is available so that you can demonstrate that items are in working condition.

50–60 percent of the replacement cost, depending on age and condition. Most used merchandise will bring 5–10 percent of the replacement cost at best.

Advertise Ads in the classifieds section of the newspaper or on Craigslist usually

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Also post fliers on grocery store or Laundromat bulletin boards, and if there are no regulations against doing so, post signs on nearby corners. Don’t forget to put up a bright sign in front of your house and tie balloons to your mailbox or a tree. ¶ Kimberly Blaker’s articles have appeared in more than 200 newspapers, parenting and women’s magazines, and other publications throughout the US.

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bring the best results unless you live on a main street or a heavily traveled highway. Include your address and main cross streets, dates and time of your sale, and what you’ll be selling. List big items individually as well as the categories of items for sale, such as “tools” or “toddler clothing.”

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Good, Cheap Fun 32 Simple Ways to Save Money This Summer

By Christina Katz

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omplicated money-saving strategies just don’t work for today’s busy moms.

Especially during the lazy-crazy days of summer, maintaining a budget needs to be simple.

Thanks to these 50 tips, creating special memories doesn’t have to break the bank or leave you stranded at home.

In fact, you might be surprised how much you can save while still enjoying summer to the fullest.

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Check your AC for needed maintenance and replace filters.

You don’t want to find out your AC doesn’t work on the hottest day of the year and incur a rush repair.

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Make homemade granola from oats, nuts, and dried fruits purchased in the bulk food section.

Don’t forget the honey and peanut butter. It’s a delicious way to start the day.

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Teach kids that the best things in life are not always new. Shop garage sales, flea markets, and local thrift shops for clothes and shoes.

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Leave your car behind as much as possible. Use a bike instead. Give it a seasonal tune up and add baskets and racks. If you go long distances, bring along a tire repair kit.

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Check for discount coupons on websites. Competition between destinations can yield sweet savings.

Grow your own cutting garden.

Fill an entire bed from end to end with varieties like daisies, lilies, gladiolas, sunflowers, and zinnias.

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Camp in the backyard. Use whatever camping gear you have on hand and borrow anything else you need from friends and neighbors.

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Make sun tea.

Remove the tags from 10–12 black tea bags (buy in bulk), and leave the jar in the sun until water turns amber.

Add mint and lemon or create your own tasty variations.

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Invest in a few inexpensive sprinkler heads. During the hottest weeks of summer, turn on the sprinkler at set times every afternoon.

Encourage entrepreneurism with an old-fashioned lemonade stand.

Encourage kids to invite their friends over for a quick dash about, squirt fight, and bubble-blowing contest.

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Build a raised garden bed to keep out weeds and pests.

Plant a whole summer’s worth of salad plants. Pace plants to harvest on an ongoing basis.

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Check our calendar on sonomafamilylife.com for free music performances and festivals. You can also sign up for our Funblasts, and have great ideas for free entertainment e-mailed to your inbox every week.

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For whimsical porch and patio décor, make shoe pots out of old shoes and boots. Fill with

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Check out lake and ocean beaches within an hour’s driving distance.

Leave early and stay all day to maximize the fun without adding the hotel stay.

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lightweight potting soil and add annuals, ground cover, or succulents— or a combination of all three.

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Encourage lying about by hanging a hammock, scattering lounge chairs throughout the yard.

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Visit the library each week for a steady supply of reading materials and educational media.

Remember, the library is often cool on extremely hot days.

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Have cooler, will picnic!

Make sure you own a sturdy cooler on wheels with a drip tap at the bottom. Buy reusable ice packs or fill with ice and bring along a whole day’s worth of hydration rather than paying for expensive sugary drinks.

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Have a family yard sale. Don’t forget to check attics and basements for things you will likely never want or use again. Let kids sort, price, and sell in exchange for a percent of the profits.

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Invite birds and butterflies into your yard by planting sweet-smelling flowers like cosmos, phlox, and zinnias. Purchase seed in bulk and feeders at the thrift store.

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Use your slow cooker to make your own BBQ sauce, baked beans, or ratatouille.

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When the big movie you want to see is released, eat lunch at home first, and then go enjoy the matinee.

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Attend a parade. Bring a picnic and homemade lemonade.

Cut your own lawn or teach your older kids how to cut it.

Make raking a family affair.

Let children paint favorite words on wooden boards and rocks with smooth surfaces. Set these around the yard for inspiration.

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Use long days to teach your kids about money. Encourage entrepreneurism with an old-fashioned lemonade stand. Have kids make their own piggy banks. Open up savings accounts for each child. Set goals for earning and saving, and offer fun rewards for meeting them.

Keep firework purchases to sparklers and attend free public fireworks displays instead.

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Keep a bag of swim towels and bathing suits, binoculars, and hand-held pruners in the car, so you will be ready to get wet, bird watch, or collect an impromptu bouquet at a moment’s notice.

Hang tree swings. They cost a lot less than swing sets, and create lifelong memories.

Fire up the grill to keep the kitchen cool. Purchase meat in bulk, divide, marinade in freezer bags, and stock the freezer.

To save on gas, grill a few items for the week. Don’t forget shish-ka-bob spears, foil, and grill baskets for grilling veggies.

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Go to bed early, wake up with the larks, and go for a long day-hike. Pack oranges and granola bars.

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Happy summer savings, everyone! ¶ Author, journalist, and writing coach Christina Katz never needed much money as a kid to create summer memories, but she has noticed that everything costs a lot more when you are a parent.

Make a note on your calendar of the free days at local museums and nature centers.

Spruce up furniture you find at yard sales and flea markets with a couple of coats of paint. Let it dry outside.

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Make your own salad dressings and BBQ and dipping sauces using fresh herbs from the edges of your raised garden bed.

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Keep on Truckin’ 9 Car Maintenance Tips for Moms

By Denise Morrison Yearian

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hen it comes to routine automobile maintenance, most women take a back seat. Not so with Jodie Wood. When this mother of two was growing up, her father taught her the basics—how to change tires, oil, brake pads, fuses, lights, and wipers, as well as how to check tire pressure and fill fluids. “As an adult, this helped me to recognize signs of trouble before it hit and kept me on the road when finances were tight,” she says.

To increase the longevity of your vehicle and save time and money, consider these ten maintenance basics.

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Read, check, and inspect.

Paul Davis, adult education auto technology instructor, says reading the owner’s manual will help individuals locate, understand, and operate different instruments on the vehicle and explain the manufacturer’s recommended maintenance intervals by time and mileage. “Whenever the oil is changed, check the manual to see if the car is due for one or more maintenance items,” he says. “Also do a quick inspection of the tires, belts, hoses, lights, wipers, and fluids.”

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Retain records. Archive all maintenance done on your car, says automotive technology educator John Hoopes. “For organizational purposes, use a notebook to record the type of service, who performed it, the date, and the vehicle mileage.

More importantly, keep a folder of all receipts so you have concrete records if there is ever a warranty issue.”

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Observe oil. “To increase the longevity of your car, change the oil at the manufacturer’s recommendation,” says Ed Kriston, AAA automotive expert. “Between changes, check the oil level regularly, particularly if you suspect a leak or

have an older model. When the engine is cold, start the car and let it run for one minute, then shut it off. Remove and wipe the dipstick, then reinsert it into the tube and remove it again.

Cuts or grooves on the sidewall near the metal rim may mean the tire is losing air.

Read the lines toward the bottom of the dipstick to determine the oil level.

Add oil until it reaches the Full line, then replace the dipstick. Use only the type of oil specified in the owner’s manual.”

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Filling fluids. “Refer to the owner’s manual to determine where the receptacles for each of the fluids are, what the proper levels should be, how to read them, if the engine should be turned on or off, and what type and grade of product to use,” says Davis. “Most important, don’t get them confused; put the proper fluid in the right receptacle.”

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Appropriate inflation.

Check tire pressure every few weeks, particularly when there has been a dramatic change in outside temperatures, says Kriston. “Use the psi listed either inside the driver’s door frame, in the glove box, or under the fuel filler door. Some people go by the number stamped on the outside of a tire, but that’s the maximum pressure, not the recommended pressure. To get a true reading, check pressure when the tires are cold. And don’t forget about the spare.”

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Detect tire damage. Cuts or grooves on the sidewall near the metal rim may mean the tire is losing air, says Kriston. “To check tread depth, turn the tires to the right or left then hold a penny between your thumb and index finger, and place

Lincoln’s head down into the tread. If you see the top of his head, you need new tires.”

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Battery basics. Hoopes says batteries more than three years old should be checked before winter and summer—times when most batteries fail. “If you notice corrosion on the terminal, brush it off with a baking soda and water paste; then

Batteries more than three years old should be checked before winter and summer—times when most batteries fail. rinse. But remember, batteries can be dangerous, so wear safety glasses and rubber gloves,” he says. “If there’s a

substantial amount of corrosion, the battery may need to be replaced.”

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Look at lights. “Pull up to a storefront that has glass, turn on your headlights, switch to high beams, and then put on your turn signals.

Check the tail lights the same way by backing in,” says Kriston.

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Watch wipers. “If the blades streak, wipe them with a paper towel to remove build up,” says Davis.

“If they still streak or chatter going across the window, get a new set. Tell the auto parts store your car’s make and model. They will give you the right size and may even put them on for you.” ¶ Denise Morrison Yearian is the former editor of two parenting magazines and the mother of three children.

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Birth of a Father

Advice for Brand-new Dads

By Denise Morrison Yearian

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hen a child is born, much emphasis is placed on helping the new mother and baby adjust. But they aren’t the only ones undergoing change. Most first-time fathers experience stress due to sleep deprivation, change in routines, and their own apprehensions about parenting.

“There are a myriad of emotions that come with being a new father,” says Armin Brott, author of multiple books and one DVD on fatherhood.

“Most often it’s a feeling of pride and excitement. At the same time, there can be apprehensions—‘Will I be a good father?’ ‘Can we afford this?’ ‘How is this going to change our lives?’”

This was what David Wuttke found.

“When my son, David Jr., was born, I had overwhelming feelings of anxiety and excitement all at once,” he says. “I had been babysitting since I was 16, so my anxiety wasn’t about child care. It was the reality of the responsibility that this was my son. And that sent a shock to my system.”

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Just knowing there’s another person to care for can be a big stressor for first-time fathers. And then there’s the problem of bonding with the newborn.

Many men simply don’t know how to go about it.

“If a mother is nursing, it naturally brings her in contact with the baby,” says Brott. “Dads don’t have that same natural bonding method, so they often get stuck doing the dirty work. But it shouldn’t be that way.”

Susan Maroto, LCSW, and parent educator in prenatal care and postpartum adjustment, agrees.

“There are things moms can do to help dads feel competent in that role,” she says. “Encourage them to take part in all areas of child care—feeding,

bathing, reading, and putting the baby down. Just be careful you aren’t overly critical. Standing behind your husband and correcting his every move will only frustrate him. Show him what needs to be done, then let him develop his own style.”

Fortunately for Wuttke, basic training occurred as a teen sitter

Just knowing there’s another person to care for can be a big stressor for first-time fathers. and paid big dividends when his son was born. Soon after his wife, Christine, delivered, she enrolled in college and David was thrust into solo evening child care.

“I never had to think about how to take care of David. I just fell back on my babysitting days,” says Wuttke. “If he was crying, I would say, ‘Okay, let’s guess what he

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needs?’ Then I’d check his diaper. If that was okay, I’d try to feed him. If he wasn’t hungry, I thought maybe he had gas or needed to sleep. One of those usually did the trick.”

no meaning anymore,” says Franco.

“It became irrelevant after a while, and we just fit sleep in whenever we could.”

For Anthony Franco, the adjustment wasn’t that easy. When his wife, Lisa, gave birth to the twins, Franco seemed to be fine. But four months into it, things changed.

The Wuttkes solved this problem by enlisting the help of relatives. “There were times Chris and I said, ‘We need a break,’ and my mom would take David so we could rest. We even called my grandparents so we could have an occasional night out.”

“I started experiencing panic attacks and didn’t know why,” he remembers.

“I would be in the supermarket when all of a sudden I would get this overwhelming sense of dread and lightheadedness.”

Extended family and friends can be a huge help or add significant stress, depending upon the dynamic of the relationship, say experts. This is where husbands can help their wives by setting boundaries.

This went on for several months until Franco finally went to the doctor.

“Dad should take the role of communicator outside the family and,

“He asked me where it was happening, and I told him it was when I was buying diapers, formula, and other things for the twins,” he continues.

“That’s when he pinpointed the problem. He said this happens to a lot of new fathers. He prescribed a little anti-anxiety medication, and then I was fine.”

Brott believes it’s important for men to have someone with whom they can share their stress. “Some men have close friends they can confide in. But a lot don’t, so they keep all those concerns in and the stress level builds,” he says. “They shouldn’t be afraid to talk with other men and find out what they have gone through. Chances are they’ll find others felt the same way, too.”

One concern most new fathers share is fatigue. Franco and Wuttke both had a hard time with this.

if needed, limit visitors,” says Maroto.

“Encourage others to help in practical ways, such as dropping off meals, running errands, or watching the baby for 20 minutes so the couple can take a quick walk.”

What’s most important is to realize this is a period of adjustment and life does get easier.

“It’s like anything new, it takes a little time,” says Franco. “It took about 18 months before I became completely comfortable with the twins. Now we’re pretty much inseparable.” ¶ Denise Morrison Yearian is the former editor of two parenting magazines and the mother of three children and four grandchildren.

Words from the Wise Looking for a way through the new-daddy darkness? Let these media light your way.

Books Armin Brott, The Expectant Father: Facts, Tips, and Advice for Dads-to-Be (Abbeville Press, 2010).

Gary Greenberg and Jeannie Hayden, Be Prepared: A Practical Handbook for New Dads (Simon and Schuster, 2004).

Jack Heinowitz, Pregnant Fathers: Becoming the Father You Want to Be (Andrews McMeel, 1997).

Wade F. Horn and Jeffrey Rosenberg, New Father Book: What Every New Father Needs to Know to Be a Good Dad (Better Homes and Gardens, 1998).

S. Adams Sullivan, The Father’s Almanac: From Pregnancy to Pre-school, Baby Care to Behavior, the Complete and Indispensable Book of Practical Advice and Ideas for Every Man Discovering the Fun and Challenge of Fatherhood (Main Street Books, 2011).

DVD Armin Brott, Toolbox for New Dads: The Complete Guide for the Expectant Father (Razor Digital Entertainment, 2008).

Websites newdads.com mrdad.com

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Family Fun Transcendence Theater performs in Jack London State Historic Park in Glen Ellen.

King for a Day

6 Local Ways to Celebrate Father’s Day

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et’s face it: Earning a living and taking care of a child (or two or three) is downright exhausting. All parents need a break. On his special day, make sure Dad gets to play his way. Here are some dynamic ideas to get him started.

Glen Ellen Most dads prefer their dramas on stage instead of at the dinner table. So peacefully pass the potatoes (or pack a picnic) and then take him to Broadway Under the Stars’s This Magic Moment. He’ll get to hear professional actors singing show tunes and popular songs in Jack London State Park. Performances start at 7:30 p.m. and run June 17–July 3. Bring a picnic at 5 p.m. for a country repast.

Tickets are $42 and may be purchased at transcendencetheatre.org.

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Open Field Farm hosts a hike in Petaluma.

Petaluma Bring along the kids and take Pops on a moderate 30-minute hike at A Taste of Open Field Farm. Outdoorsy dads will appreciate the expansive views of western Petaluma, and kids will love the post-hike strawberry tasting. Pack Dad’s favorite foods for a picnic on the 560-acre farm; a fresh strawberry-infused green salad, made in front of your very eyes, will be shared among participants. The event is free and will be held at Open Field Farm on June 18, 10 a.m.–1 p.m. Register at sonomarcd.org (click on “Get Involved”) or by calling 569-1448.

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BECOME A FAN! Healdsburg Foodie fathers are always looking for culinary inspiration, and Chef Perry Hoffman aims to deliver it. During his Summer Culinary Adventure class, Hoffman will teach budding gourmets how to use edible flowers and herbs to turn ho-hum dishes into something special. Participants will take a guided tour of the culinary gardens at the Shed restaurant’s HomeFarm, too. The class will be held on June 18, 10 a.m.–1 p.m., and costs $110. To find out more and purchase tickets, see healdsburgshed.com.

Santa Rosa Help Dad lighten up this election year with a dose of Peanuts politics.

At the Charles M. Schulz Museum exhibit “Mr. Schulz Goes to Washington,” he can chuckle at “Snoopy for President” tees, Lucy’s White House aspirations, and Pig Pen’s run for class president. Stop by anytime between 11 a.m.–5 p.m. on weekdays or 10 a.m.–5 p.m. on weekends to take a gander at the show, which runs through December. Admission is $10 for adults, $5 for ages 4–18 and seniors 62 and over, and free for ages 3 and under. For more information, see schulzmuseum.org.

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Windsor Demanding bosses, pediatrician appointments, parent-teacher conferences—a father’s work never ends. Take him up, up, and away from it all at the Sonoma County Hot Air Balloon Classic. Pops can hop on a tethered balloon ride, and, if he’s an early riser, see the magical Dawn Patrol, when the glow of fired-up balloons illuminates the early morning darkness. The event takes place at Keiser Community Park on June 18 and 19. Dawn Patrol is at 5 a.m. and the main launch is at 6:30 a.m. Tethered rides are 6–11 a.m., and are dependent on the wind. Pre-sale tickets may be purchased at schabc.org and are $6 for adults, $5 for youth ages 6–12, and free for kids 0–5. Tethered rides are $10. www.sonomafamilylife.com

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Hop on the Merry-go-round

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trolling through the fairway, cotton candy in hand, is an American summer tradition. Get your taste of it at the Sonoma–Marin Fair, June 22–26, at the Sonoma-Marin Fairgrounds in Petaluma. Grin at cute bunny tails, breathe in the aroma of a chef’s newest creation, or scream yourself silly on a roller coaster ride. You can also attend a variety of live music concerts from country to Mexican, all for the price of admission. Tickets are $15 for adults, $10 for ages 4–12 and for seniors 65 and over.

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Wednesday 1 FREE Family Reading Book Club.

Unique reading-aloud program for parents & kids. Grades 2 & up. 4–5 p.m. Windsor Regional Library.

9291 Old Redwood Hwy., Bldg. 100, Windsor. sonomalibrary.org.

Thursday 2 My Fair Lady. Classic musical

performed by 6th Street Playhouse.

Thru June 5. June 2–4: 8 p.m. June 4 & 5: 2 p.m. $15–$37. G.K. Hardt Theatre.

52 W. 6th St., Santa Rosa. 523-4185, ext. 1. 6thstreetplayhouse.com.

Hot Dog Thursday. $5 includes hot

dog, chips, drink & admission to museum. Pacific Coast Air Museum.

1 Air Museum Way, Santa Rosa.

575-7900. pacificcoastairmuseum.org.

Friday 3 Funky Fridays Concert. Live music

by The Pulsators. Bring a picnic. 7–9 p.m. Admission: $10 Parking: $10.

Hood Mountain Regional Park. Hood Mansion. N. Pythian Rd. off Hwy. 12, Santa Rosa. funkyfridays.info.

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Crazy, Awesome Science! 2–3 p.m.

$10 (admission to museum). Children’s Museum of Sonoma County. 1835 W. Steele Ln., Santa Rosa. cmosc.org.

skill levels welcome! 9 a.m.–2 p.m.

Riverfront Regional Park. 7821 Eastside Rd., Healdsburg. parks. sonomacounty.ca.gov.

FREE Friends of Santa Rosa

FREE KidsWorks at Friedman’s.

Libraries Book Sale. 10 a.m.–5 p.m.

June 4: 10 a.m.–4 p.m. June 5: 2–5 p.m.

Central Santa Rosa Library. 211 E St., Santa Rosa. sonomalibrary.org.

FREE Cuentos y Cantos—Bilingual

Join Museum-on-the-Go on location in Santa Rosa. First Saturdays. 9 a.m.–12 p.m. Friedman’s Home Improvement.

4055 Santa Rosa Ave., Santa Rosa. cmosc.org.

Story & Play Time. Explore books,

FREE Bike Basics for Kids. Cruise

songs, rhymes & play in English & Spanish. Libros, canciones, rimas y actividades en ingles y español.

Ages 1–5. Fridays. 11 a.m. Sebastopol Regional Library. 7140 Bodega Ave., Sebastopol. sonomalibrary.org.

on over & learn how to do basic repairs & maintenance on your bike.

Bring your bike & helmet. Ages 6 & up. 11 a.m. Sebastopol Regional Library. 7140 Bodega Ave., Sebastopol. sonomalibrary.org.

Healdsburg Jazz Festival 2016.

FREE Mindful Minis. yoga para niños/ kids’ yoga & meditation workshop.

Acompáñenos para una práctica del yoga y exploración del consciente con actividades divertidas. Será limitado el número de participantes. Regístrese con la Recepión en la biblioteca.

Join us for a playful yoga practice & exploration of mindfulness through fun activities. Space is limited. Sign up at the service desk. Ages 6–11. 2 –3:30 p.m. Roseland Community Library.

Ten days of jazz in wine country, featuring jazz legends, new talent & local favorites. $25–$75. Various venues. Healdsburg. 433-4633. healdsburgjazz.org.

Saturday 4 FREE BioBlitz at Riverfront. An

intensive one-day study of biodiversity in a specific location. All ages &

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hen kids get hot, they get grumpy. Keep ’em cool at a public pool! Easily accessible and affordable, pools provide hours of fun to your little ones. So pile on the waterproof sunscreen, and let the party begin.

Petaluma

Petaluma Swim Center. 900 E. Washington St. 778-4410. Facility includes a 50-meter pool and a wading pool, both heated and outdoors. Complex also includes heated showers, dressing rooms, a large deck, and picnic areas. Swimming lessons available. Recreational swim through August 14: Sundays, 12:15–5 p.m.; Mondays, Tuesdays, and Thursdays, 12:15–7 p.m.; Wednesdays, Fridays, and Saturdays: 12:15–6 p.m. Day-use fees: adults $5, seniors 55 and up $4, ages 17 and under $2. See cityofpetaluma.net/parksnrec/brochure.html.

Cavanagh Swim Pool. 426 8th St. 778-4536. Pool is walled on all four sides. Swimming lessons available. Summer recreational swim starts June 6: Monday–Saturday, 1–4 p.m.

Day-use fees: adults $5, seniors $4, under 18 and pool side $2.

See cityofpetaluma.net/parksnrec/brochure.html.

Rohnert Park

Benicia Pool. 7469 Bernice Dr. 588-3456. The grand opening of the newly renovated pool will be held June 4, noon–2 p.m. Free public swim, snacks, and games will be available. Summer session June 6–August 14. Public swim: Monday–Friday, 1:30–4:15 p.m.; Saturday and Sunday, 1:30–6 p.m. Adults $5, seniors 55 and up $4, ages 2–17 $4, ages 0–2 free. For more information, see the Rohnert Park Community Services Summer 2016 Recreation Guide at rpcity.org.

Honeybee Pool. 1170 Golf Course Dr. 586-1413. Summer session June 6–August 14. Call facility for schedule and fees.

Public swim: Monday–Friday, 1:30–4:15 p.m.; Saturday and Sunday, 1:30–6 p.m. Adults $5, seniors 55 and up $4, ages 2–17 $4, ages 0–2 free. For more information, see rpcity.org.

Magnolia Pool. 1501 Middlebrook Way. 795-8619.

Swimming lessons available. Summer session June 6– August 14. Public swim: Monday and Tuesday, 1:30–4:15 p.m.; Wednesday–Friday, 1:30–4 p.m. Adults $5, seniors 55 and up $4, ages 2–17 $4, ages 0–2 free. For more information, see the Rohnert Park Community Services Summer 2016 Recreation Guide at rpcity.org.

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Santa Rosa

Finley Aquatic Center. 2060 W. College Ave. 543-3760. This facility features a large outdoor training pool and an L-shaped instructional pool as well as showers and locker rooms with coin-operated lockers. Fully ADA-accessible, the pool has a ramp and wheel chair lift. Swimming lessons available. Public swim June 6–August 19: Monday–Friday, 1:30–4:45 p.m. Also June 11–August 21: Saturday and Sunday, 1:30–6 p.m. Adults $5, ages 2–17 $4, ages 55 and up $4, disabled $4. See ci.santa-rosa.ca.us for details.

Ridgway Swim Center. 455 Ridgway Ave. 543-3421.

Features nine-lane competition pool and an instructional pool, and 140-ft. water slide. Public swim June 13–August 19: Monday–Friday, noon–4 p.m.; Friday eve, 7:30–9:30 p.m.; Saturday and Sunday, 1:15–6 p.m. Adults $5, ages 2–17 $4, ages 55 and up $4, disabled $4. See ci.santa-rosa.ca.us for details.

Sebastopol

Ives Pool. 7400 Willow St. 823-8693. This is an outdoor year-long pool. Swimming lessons available. Public swim starts June 6: Monday–Friday, 1–3 p.m. Saturday and Sunday, 2–4:30 p.m. Adults $5, juniors $3.50, seniors $4.

Call or see ivespool.org for summer schedule.

Sonoma

Sonoma Aquatic Club. 17350 Vailetti Dr. 939-8833. Since there is no public pool in Sonoma Valley yet, we direct readers to this private membership year-round gym, which features a heated indoor pool, an Olympic-size outdoor pool, and an outdoor Jacuzzi. Swimming lessons are available. Call for current schedule. Summer membership flat rates (no initiation fee): Individuals: 30 days, $120; 60 days, $240; 90 days, $340. Family: 30 days, $200; 60 days, $400; 90 days, $570.

Couple (two adults or parent and child): 30 days, $165; 60 days, $330; 90 days, $470. Students: $75, 30 days; $150, 60 days; $215, 90 days. See sonomaaquaticclub.com for more information. ¶ June 2016

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779 Sebastopol Rd., Santa Rosa. sonomalibrary.org.

FREE 22nd Annual Art at the Source. Self-guided open studio tour

in western Sonoma County. June 4–5 & June 11–12. artatthesource.org.

FREE Star Party. Presentations

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astronomical topics throughout the evening. Starting at dusk, the observatory’s 3 main telescopes are open for public viewing. 8 p.m.

Robert Ferguson Observatory. 2605 Adobe Canyon Rd., Kenwood.

833-6979. rfo.org.

FREE Forestville Youth Park BBQ.

Food, activities, parade & live

music. No pets or coolers. June 4–5. 10 a.m.–8 p.m. Parade: June 4, 10 a.m. Forestville Youth Park.

7045 Mirabel Rd., Forestville. forestvilleyouthpark.org.

Sunday 5 FREE Railroad Music Festival.

Royal Jelly Jive, Dixie Giants, Bootleg Honeys & many more local bands. 9 a.m.–8 p.m. Santa Rosa Plaza. Downtown Santa Rosa. railroadsquaremusicfestival.com.

West Side Story. Performed by The Mountain Play. June 5, 11, 12 & 19. 2 p.m. $25–$40. Cushing Memorial

Amphitheatre. Mount Tamalpais State Park. 801 Panoramic Hwy., Mill Valley.

415-383-1100. mountainplay.org.

FREE Sunday Boating at the Barn.

Borrow a rowboat, canoe, kayak, or sailboat & spend the afternoon on the Petaluma River. Safety demonstration required. Sundays. 10 a.m.–1 p.m.

David Yearsley River Heritage Center. 755 Baywood Dr., Petaluma. friendsofthepetalumariver.org.

Hit the Road Jack Run. 21K half-marathon, 3.5K run/walk & official USATF 10K run. Strollers & dogs allowed on course. 3.5K & 10K: 8 a.m. 21K: 7:30 a.m. 3.5K: $25, family of 4 $90. 10K: $20–$35. 21K: $65. hittheroadjack.org.

Tuesday 7 FREE Tuesday Kids’ Movies. June

7: Frozen. June 14: Kung Fu Panda 3.

June 21: Penguins of Madagascar. June 28: Minions. Start 15 min. after sunset.

Windsor Town Green. ci.windsor.ca.us.

Wednesday 8 FREE Zumba for Tweens. Loud

music, exercise & dance moves.

Wear comfy clothes to move in & shoes for exercising. Ages 9–12. 3 p.m. Healdsburg Regional Library. 139 Piper St., Healdsburg. sonomalibrary.org.

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hat is it about butterflies that capture our imagination? Their beautiful colors? Their gentle flight? Or the miraculous transformation from caterpillar to winged insect? Contemplate Lepidoptera’s charms at the free Open Gardens Day on June 26, 10 a.m.–4 p.m., at the Hallberg Butterfly Gardens in Sebastopol. You can learn about the butterfly life cycle, wildlife gardening, and habitat preservation while the kids participate in special activities. Take a self-guided tour or let a docent show you around. For more information, see hallbergbutterflygardens.org. ¶

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FREE Author Talk. Steve Silberman, author of NeuroTribes: The Legacy of Autism & the Future of Neurodiversity.

6:30 p.m. Petaluma Regional Library.

100 Fairgrounds Dr., Petaluma. sonomalibrary.org.

FREE Friends Book Sale. A fine

selection of used books, DVDs, VHS videos, music CDs & books on tape.

June 2016 www.sonomafamilylife.com

June 8: 5–7 p.m. June 9 & 10: 10 a.m.–5:30 p.m. June 11: 10 a.m.–3 p.m.

Rohnert Park Cotati Regional Library.

6250 Lynne Condé Way, Rohnert Park. sonomalibrary.org.

Friday 10 FREE Henna Art. Learn about the natural, ancient art form of henna. Ages 12–17. 3–4:30 p.m.

Windsor Regional Library. 9291 Old Redwood Hwy., Bldg. 100, Windsor. sonomalibrary.org.

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Santa Rosa Library. 211 E St., Santa Rosa. sonomalibrary.org.

FREE Mini-Quilt Sewing. Learn hand-sewing basics to create a classic four-patch mini-quilt wall hanging.

Grades 12–17. 4 p.m. Sonoma Valley Regional Library. 755 West Napa St., Sonoma. sonomalibrary.org.

FREE Magic of Timothy James.

Magic show for the whole family.

Ages 0–12. 11 a.m. Roseland Community Library. 779 Sebastopol Rd., Santa Rosa. 2:30 p.m. Cloverdale Regional Library. 401 N. Cloverdale Blvd., Cloverdale. sonomalibrary.org.

FREE Santa Rosa Symphony Percussion Trio. Performance & musical tour of drums & other percussion instruments. Discussion about being a professional percussionist. 1 p.m. Roseland Community Library. 779 Sebastopol Rd., Santa Rosa. sonomalibrary.org.

Peggy Sue’s Car Show & Cruise.

Hair & Skin Care for the Entire Family!

Classic, stock & custom all-American cars. 8 a.m.–4 p.m. Sonoma Mountain Village. 1400 Valley House Dr., Rohnert Park. Cruise in downtown Santa Rosa 5:30–8:30 p.m. cruiseforpeggysue.com.

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Incarnation 100. Benefits the homeless. Open to all types of cyclists, avid to recreational. Registration: 6 a.m. Rolling start: 7–9 a.m. 45-mile: $70. 100-km: $80. 100-mile: $90. incarnation100.org.

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Tuesday 14 FREE Watercolor Resist Workshop.

Explore the many ways of using watercolor paints during application.

Design a concept & apply learned techniques. Ages 12–17. 3 p.m. Central www.sonomafamilylife.com

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Wednesday 15 FREE Three Little Fish & the Big Bad Shark. Puppet show of a traditional tale —with an underwater twist. Ages 5–12. 11 a.m. at Petaluma Regional Library. 100 Fairgrounds Dr., Petaluma. 2 p.m. at Sebastopol Regional Library. 7140 Bodega Ave., Sebastopol. sonomalibrary.org.

FREE So You Want to Be a Spy?

Learn all the necessary skills, including how to crack codes, make a periscope & collect fingerprints. Ages 9–12. 5:30–7:30 p.m. Rincon Valley Library. 6959 Montecito Blvd., Santa Rosa. sonomalibrary.org.

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FREE Bilingual Family Storytime/ Hora de Cuentos para Niños.

Exploraremos cuentos, cantos y rimas en ingles y español./ Explore books, songs & rhymes in both English & Spanish. Ages 0–5. 6 p.m.

Windsor Regional Library. 9291 Old Redwood Hwy., Bldg. 100, Windsor. sonomalibrary.org.

FREE Summer Cinema. Check with

library for the movie listings. Popcorn & snacks provided. June 15 & June 22. 3 p.m. Healdsburg Regional Library. 139 Piper St., Healdsburg. sonomalibrary.org.

FREE Make Veggie Spring Rolls & Pineapple Sorbet. Space

limited to 15 teens. Sign up at the Reference Desk. Ages 12–17. 6–7:30 p.m. Healdsburg Regional Library.

139 Piper St., Healdsburg. 433-3772. sonomalibrary.org.

FREE Personal Shrine Shadowbox.

Create a personally inspired shadow box with found objects, drawings & collage materials. Space limited to 12 teens. Ages 12–17. 3 p.m. Northwest Santa Rosa Library. 150 Coddingtown Ctr., Santa Rosa. sonomalibrary.org.

Thursday 16 FREE Brian Scott Magic Show. A blend of sleight of hand, misdirection & comedy

for audiences of all ages. 11 a.m.

Healdsburg Regional Library.

139 Piper St., Healdsburg. sonomalibrary.org.

Friday 17 Youth Overnight. June 17: 7 p.m.–

June 18: 9 a.m. Sonoma County Family YMCA. 1111 College Ave., Santa Rosa. scfymca.org.

Broadway Under the Stars: This Magic Moment. Thru July 3. BYO picnic: 5 p.m. Show: 7:30 p.m. $42.

Jack London State Historic Park.

2400 London Ranch Rd., Glen Ellen. jacklondonpark.com.

FREE Python Ron’s Reptile Kingdom. Kids can get up close & personal with creatures from around the world. Ages 5–12. 11 a.m.

Windsor Regional Library. 9291 Old Redwood Hwy., Bldg. 100, Windsor. sonomalibrary.org.

FREE Mindful Minis: yoga para niños/kids’ yoga & meditation workshop. Children

will learn yoga & mindfulness tools for home & school to increase awareness, self-esteem, balance & calm. Space is limited. Sign up at the service desk. Ages 6–12. 4 p.m. Healdsburg Regional Library. 139 Piper St., Healdsburg. sonomalibrary.org.

Saturday 18 Small Hands, Big Talent

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hen most 12-year-old boys are playing video games and telling jokes their mothers don’t want to hear, Joey Alexander is touring the world as a jazz pianist. The Indonesian prodigy will be bringing his nimble fingers to the Healdsburg Jazz Festival. See what the buzz is about on June 10 at 8 p.m. at the Jackson Theater in Santa Rosa. Tickets are $45–$75 and may be purchased at healdsburgjazzfestival.org. ¶

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Exhibit of politically oriented Peanuts memorabilia & comics. Thru Dec. Weekdays: 11 a.m.–5 p.m. Weekends: 10 a.m.–5 p.m. Admission: $5–$10. Free for kids 3 & under. Charles M. Schulz

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Museum. 2301 Hardies Ln., Santa Rosa. schulzmuseum.org.

Summer Culinary Adventure with

Dutton-Goldfield Winery. 3100 Gravenstein Hwy. N., Sebastopol. duttongoldfield.com.

Chef Perry Hoffman. Learn about

FREE Open House at Sonoma

edible flowers & herbs. Tour the Shed’s HomeFarm. Simple lunch served. 10 a.m.–1 p.m. $110. Dry Creek Valley. healdsburgshed.com.

Lavender Barn. Wander the Sonoma Lavender fields & browse hundreds of lavender products available at discounted prices. U-cut fresh lavender. Noon–4 p.m. Thru June 19. Also June 25 & 26. Sonoma Lavender Barn. 8537 Hwy. 12, Kenwood. sonomalavender.com.

FREE A Taste of Open Field Farm. 30-minute hike. Strawberry tasting. BYO picnic. Family-friendly.

10 a.m.–1 p.m. Open Field Farm.

Petaluma. (Exact address given upon registration.) Register online: sonomarcd.org (click on “Get Involved”).

Sonoma County Hot Air Balloon Classic. Dawn Patrol: 5 a.m. Balloon

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10 a.m.–4:30 p.m. $20 tasting or complimentary with 2-bottle purchase.

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Noon–4 p.m. $55–$65. Meadowcroft Wines. 23574 Arnold Dr., Sonoma. meadowcroftwines.com.

Father’s Day Bubs, Suds & Barbecue. Barbecue chicken or tri-tip.

Wine. Live music by the No Buenos.

Noon­–2 p.m. $75. Gloria Ferrer Caves & Vineyards. 23555 Hwy. 121 (Arnold Dr.), Sonoma. gloriaferrer.com.

FREE Father’s Day Show & Shine Car Show. Proceeds support the MSA

scholarship program & ECA Safety & Community Relations Programs.

Registration: $40. Free spectator admission. 9 a.m.–4 p.m. Juilliard Park. 531 Juilliard Park Dr., Santa Rosa. 546-5500. nceca.org.

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FREE Father’s Day at Charles M. Schulz Museum. All fathers

receive free museum admission today. 2301 Hardies Ln., Santa Rosa. schulzmuseum.org.

Tuesday 21 FREE PerlerPalooza! Fun with Perler

beads. Make an 8-bit-style character from your favorite fandom—Mario Brothers, Pac-Man, Minecraft, or more. Ages 12–17. 4 p.m. Sonoma Valley Regional Library. 755 West Napa St., Sonoma. sonomalibrary.org.

Thursday 23 FREE Tweens Create: Tie Dye Love. Create one-of-a-kind tie-dyed shirts. All supplies provided. Ages 9–12. 2 p.m. Healdsburg Regional

Library. 139 Piper St., Healdsburg. sonomalibrary.org.

FREE Land Meets Sea in Acrylics.

Utilizing painting techniques for each part of the landscape, each artist will be able to walk away with some newfound painting skills. Sign up at the Reference Desk. Ages 12–17. 2 p.m.

Rincon Valley Library. 6959 Montecito Blvd., Santa Rosa. sonomalibrary.org.

Saturday 25 FREE Lion Dance. Performance by

Sonoma Vietnamese Association. All ages. 11 a.m. Rohnert Park Cotati Regional Library. 6250 Lynne Condé Way, Rohnert Park. sonomalibrary.org.

FREE Saturday Story & Craft with Clay. Supplies provided. Ages 3 &

Friday 24 Bye Bye Birdie. After

Performing Arts Theater. 115 North St., Healdsburg. raventheater.org.

Sunday matinées, stay for a brief Q&A session with the cast & company of the show. All ages welcome.

June 24, 25 & 30: 8 p.m. June 26: 2 p.m. $10–$30. June 30 value night: Adults & seniors $15. Raven

up. 2 p.m. Petaluma Regional Library.

100 Fairgrounds Dr., Petaluma. sonomalibrary.org.

FREE Digital Bling Workshop.

Construct simple circuits to create wearable art with LEDs. Ages 12–17.

2 p.m. Cloverdale Regional Library.

401 N. Cloverdale Blvd., Cloverdale. sonomalibrary.org.

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KaCees Car Wash 50th Annual Russian River Rodeo & Parade. Thru June 26. $4–$12.

Russian River Rodeo Grounds.

Moscow Rd. at Hwy. 116, Duncans Mills. 865-9854. russianriverrodeo.org.

FREE Open Gardens Day. Learn about the butterfly life cycle, wildlife gardening & habitat preservation.

Kids’ activities. 10 a.m.–4 p.m.

Hallberg Butterfly Gardens. 8687 Oak Grove Rd., Sebastopol. 823-3420. hallbergbutterflygardens.org.

Italian Street Painting Festival.

Showcases about 100 master street painters who turn the streets into a gallery. This year’s highlight is a large 3-D painting of Rome’s iconic Trevi Fountain. June 25: 10 a.m.–8 p.m.

June 26: 10 a.m.–6 p.m. $10 or $15 for a 2-day pass. Kids 12 & under free.

Downtown San Rafael. Buy tickets: brownpapertickets.com/event/2540770.

Also see italianstreetpaintingmarin.org.

Sunday 26 Family Yoga Peanuts Style! Learn

breathing practices, relaxation, games & activities & some special Peanuts

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yoga poses, too. Ages 2–17. 2–3 p.m.

Charles M. Schulz Museum. 2301 Hardies Ln., Santa Rosa. 579-4452. schulzmuseum.org.

Monday 27 FREE Positive Parenting Program.

Designed to give parents the skills they need to raise confident, healthy children & build stronger family relationships. Online registration (required). Child care not provided.

Babies in arms welcome. 6–7:30 p.m. Children’s Museum of Sonoma County. 1835 W. Steele Ln., Santa Rosa. cmosc.org.

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Thursday 30 Allen Stone & Monophonics.

Soulful music that transcends all pop convention. 7:30 p.m. $38. SOMO Village Event Center. 1400 Valley House Dr., Rohnert Park. ticketfly. com/event/1152915.

Marin County Fair. June 30–July 4. 11 a.m.–11 p.m. 10 Avenue of the Flags, San Rafael. marinfair.org.

Cross & Crown Lutheran School 2 - 5 years Preschool Jr. Kindergarten – Kindergarten 1st through 5th Grade

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June 2016

Fun Summer Intensives

Contessi Ballet Summer Dance Camps For dancers 6 through 18 years, pointe class included

June 27-July 1 & August 1-5 Guest Ballet Instructor David Bertlin, Oakland Ballet Younger dancers will enjoy “Dancing under the Sea” Theme

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Cooking with Kids

Raw Brownies

Raw Vegan Chocolate Walnut Truffles

Treats without the Heat Easy, No-bake Goodies

By Don Orwell

W

hen summer days heat up, the last thing you want to do is turn on the oven to cook. It’s easy enough to whip up a salad, but, other than Jell-O and ice cream, what are your options for desserts that don’t require baking? Here are a couple of ideas from the Healthy Kids Cookbook by Don Orwell. For more of Orwell’s recipes, see superfoodstoday.com.

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Raw Brownies Ingredients • 1 1/2 cups walnuts • pinch of salt • 1 1/2 teaspoons ground vanilla bean • 1 cup pitted dates • 1/3 cup unsweetened cocoa powder • splash of water (optional) • 1/3 cup almond butter Instructions Add walnuts and salt to a food processor or blender. Mix until finely ground.

Add the vanilla, dates, and cocoa powder to the blender. Mix well and, optionally, add a couple drops of water at a time to make the mixture stick together.

Raw Vegan Chocolate Walnut Truffles Ingredients • 1 cup ground walnuts • 1 teaspoon cinnamon • 1/2 cup coconut oil • 1/4 cup raw honey • 2 tablespoons chia seeds • 2 tablespoons cacao powder • additional cinnamon for coating • coconut flakes • chopped almonds Instructions Mix first six ingredients and make 1-inch balls. Coat with cinnamon, coconut flakes, or chopped almonds. ¶ Don Orwell is the author of several books on superfoods.

Transfer the mixture into a 9”x 13” pan and top with almond butter.

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Playtime Daycare/Preschool Join our loving family. Spacious playroom, large yard, meals provided. CPR & first aid certified.

M-F. Infants & up. Call Wendy 539-7524. Lic. #04746.

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Humor Break

Dad, Guess What?

By Bull Garlington

The Endless Chickenbutt Continuum

I

f he says it one more time, I will kill him. This is not hyperbole. I have cause, just cause, to take him out—my son, the new teenager, the purveyor of the non sequitur, the little @#$#% who thinks this is the pinnacle of high comedy:

You have to be standing there elbow deep in sink-water splendor thinking about your other life, the one wherein you stand with an insouciant slouch against the dark mahogany bar of a private club that is feting your recent literary—

Dad, guess what?

Dad, guess what?

Wait, let me stop right here. You need context for this to make sense.

You have to know the buoyant hope with which I unconsciously respond to my son; you need to envision his beatific dome turning to me in the car, a smile on his face that can melt steel, a sparkle in his eye foretelling outstanding accomplishment, recognition, genuine inspiration.

You have to be hauling a bag of dog food up onto your shoulder,

Dad, guess what?

I mean, you have to believe, the way I always believe, that this time, this grin, this smirk is heartfelt. This time it’s not a sucker’s bet. You have to let your mind unspool histrionic scenarios of potential greatness: He’s on the honor roll; he’s been chosen to be valedictorian; he invented flubber.

Dad, guess what?

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Did they transmogrify themselves into the— Dad, guess what?

You have to be asleep, deep into the dream about the mahogany bar, Don Draper just finishing his riveting extemporaneous speech lauding your singular character, people crying, the reporter from Life magazine applauding, and you— Dad, guess what?

I always believe that this time, this grin, this smirk is heartfelt. This time it’s not a sucker’s bet. envisioning yourself trim and well-jeaned, worn flannel sleeves rolled up, neighborhood soccer moms slowing down their minivans and thinking how lucky Mrs.— Dad, guess what?

You have to be on your knees in the laundry room fishing underwear out of the dryer vent and wondering how in the name of God—I mean, how is it even possible? Did the underwear pull the lint screen out?

You have to be hunkered over your old Royal, like an anvil with buttons, your mind reeling with the pure, unadulterated beauty, the sheer mind-bending brilliance of the first sentence of your first screenplay, when the main character—a perfect blend of Cary Grant, Tom Hanks, and Bruce Campbell—looks into the camera and says— Dad, guess what?

WHAT!? WHAT?! FOR THE LOVE OF ALL THINGS HOLY—WHAAAAAAAT?!!!!

Chicken butt! ¶ Bull Garlington is the author of Death

By Children, the ForeWord Review’s Humor 2013 Book of the Year. Find him at bullgarlington.creativewriter.pro.

June 2016 www.sonomafamilylife.com

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Santa Rosa City Schools is pleased to present the Class of 2016, comprised of over 1,600 graduates from our five comprehensive and four alternative high schools.

Elsie Allen High School • Grace High School • Maria Carrillo High School Mesa High School • Midrose High School • Montgomery High School Piner High School • Ridgway High School • Santa Rosa High School The Board of Education, Superintendent, and staff members would like to congratulate our graduates on their outstanding accomplishments and wish them all the best in their future endeavors!

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