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Every Issue

10 Features 10 Grand Slam Mom Napa mom wins national Little League honor.

12 Wrinkly, Wise & Fun! Creative ways for grandparents to connect with little ones.

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Dear Reader

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Bits and Pieces Taste California’s Best Ciders—Apples, Too! New Orleans Comes to You Life in 3D Soulful Scribes Ahoy Matey!

24 Growing Up Online

14 It’s All A-OK The joys and challenges of raising a deaf child.

16 The ADD Exercise Cure How working up a sweat can lead to academic success.

Social Media Savvy

26 Calendar of Events Homegrown Heaven

38 Cooking with Kids Post-play Snacks

42 Humor Break

18 Exceptional Gifts How to buy an appropriate present for a child with disabilities.

20 Piecing the Puzzle Together Meeting the health-care needs of kids with autism.

22 Lighting Up

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How to protect your child from e-cigs.

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elcome to our Special Needs issue, which is dedicated to parents of kids who are differently abled. “It’s All Sharon Gowan A-OK” (page 14) Publisher/Editor reflects on the Sharon@family-life.us ups and downs of raising a deaf teen while “Piecing the Puzzle Together” (page 20) offers concrete advice on finding excellent health care for a child with autism.

Meanwhile, “The ADD Exercise Cure” (page 16) points to a drug-free remedy for kids with attention issues—physical play.

Mendocino Fairgrounds in Boonville September 18–20. The kids will love trying out more than 50 varieties of apples while you sample California’s best hard ciders at the California Cider Competition’s Grand Tasting September 19–20. (See pages 8 and 27 for details.)

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Speaking of play, if you are searching for family fun this month, look no further than the Mendocino County Fair and Apple Show at the

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he North Bay is apple country. And one of the fruit’s more adult delights is hard cider. Some of the best ciders will vie for your taste buds’ favor at the one and only California Cider Competition, part of the Apple Show at the Mendocino County Fair. Taste flights and cast your vote for the People’s Choice Award on September 19, 1–5 p.m., and 20, noon–4 p.m. (Flights are $6–$7 in addition to fair admission, which is $6–$9, under 6 free.) Cider producers will be on hand to consult about apples and cider-making. You also can sample more than 50 different varieties of apples at the Apple Show.

For more information about the cider tasting, see california cidercompetition.com. To find out more about the Mendocino County Fair, September 18­–20, see mendocountyfair.com. ¶

New Orleans Comes to You

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et yourself some gator sausage and good ol’ Creole rhythms at the Sebastopol Cajun– Zydeco Festival, September 12, 11:30 a.m.–7 p.m., in Ives Park, Sebastopol. Dance on a wooden floor to tunes churned out by Louisiana Music Hall of Fame member Paul “Lil’ Buck” Sinegal, Mark St. Mary and his Louisiana Blues and Zydeco Band, and Jimmy Breaux and the Cajun Cottonpickers. Then fill up on crayfish étoufée, gumbo, and blackened chicken sandwiches. Tickets are $22 online (winecountrycajun.com), $25 at the gate; kids under 12 are free. The event benefits West Sonoma County schools, nonprofit and community organizations, and Rotary International humanitarian projects. ¶

Life in 3D

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ant to watch the mesmerizing process of printing an object in three dimensions? Come to the Introduction to 3D Printing Workshop at the Petaluma Regional Library in Petaluma on September 12, 1–2:30 p.m. The workshop is free and open to all ages; no sign-up is required.

Only those who attend the workshop will be able to sign up for a session with the MakerBot 3D printer. For more information, see sonomalibrary.org. ¶

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Music Hall of Fame member Paul “Lil’ Buck” Sinegal

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o your teens want to be the next Maya Angelou or William Blake?

Let the 20th Annual Petaluma Poetry Walk on September 20 inspire their next stanza or line. Starting at 11 a.m., stroll through downtown Petaluma and see more than 20 noted poets read their work at various venues, such as Copperfield’s and the Seed Bank. Presenters include the internationally renowned Jane Hirshfield as well as Rob Greene, editor of the Raleigh Review ; Clara Hsu, 2001 nominee for the Pushcart Prize in poetry; and Sonoma County Poet Laureate Katherine Hastings. For venues and times, see petalumapoetrywalk.org. ¶

re you itching for an adventure? Let the play Treasure Island take your family into the world of a boy traveling the high seas with swashbuckling pirates. Follow 14-year-old Jim Hawkins as he befriends the infamous Long John Silver and searches for gold.

The play runs September 18—October 4. Friday and Saturday shows are at 8 p.m. and Sunday shows are at 2 p.m. The October 1 performance is at 7:30 p.m. No show on October 3. Tickets are $26 for adults, $24 seniors, $22 youth, and $16 students. They may be purchased at rpcity.org or by calling 588-3400. ¶

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Grand Slam Mom

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Local Parent Wins Little League Award

Michele Manahan and her son Nicholas.

f you’ve ever passed a park during Little League practice, you most likely smiled at the indisputably adorable sight of little boys suited up to look just like their heroes in the big leagues.

It turns out that those kids are doing more than just being adorable. They are learning how to build lasting friendships, be part of a team, and win and lose with grace.

Just ask Napa resident and Little League Mom of the Year Michele Manahan. Mom to 12-year-old Nicholas and 21-year-old Christopher, Manahan has been involved in Little League since 2001, when her eldest was just a boy.

She works full time as an administrative assistant for the CEO and COO of Hess Collection wineries in Napa, but her duties as a Napa Little League Board member, a role she has played for three years, could easily add up to another job.

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“For the first two years, I was in charge of fundraising and special events. And then this last year, I was able to hand that off to someone else, and I was the secretary, the registrar, the information officer, and the scheduler,” Manahan explains.

When does she have time for all that?

“Whenever I can fit it in,” she says, which means lunch hours, evenings, and weekends.

It can be “a bit of a challenge,” she admits.

For instance, as the registrar, she has to make sure that everyone who enrolls is in the database. She also has to answer a “million” questions, such as “Can I still play?” and “What level are we at?”

As the scheduler, she is responsible for figuring out who will play whom over the course of the season. With 500 players and 52 teams in Napa County, that’s a lot of games to map out.

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Discover Despite the work, Manahan says it’s satisfying to make a contribution.

“I want to do what I can for the community, not just for Nicholas, but all the other players. Somebody has to do it. Fortunately, I found the things that I felt I could be good at,” she says.

She points out how much Little League does for kids, emphasizing

Sparkling moments like the first home run shine on in a kid’s memory forever. that team members are often tightly tied to each other and the game.

“Even when they aren’t playing, you’ll see them out there watching their friends play,” she notes. And this is still true when they’ve outgrown Little League altogether.

Though this is Nicholas’s last year in the league, she knows “for a fact” that he’ll still watch his friends and former teammates play next year.

Besides abiding buddies, baseball is rich with sparkling moments that shine on in a kid’s memory forever— the first home run or grand slam, like the one Nicholas hit this year. “[That was] pretty exciting for him,” Manahan recalls.

Though Manahan herself never played ball, save one unsuccessful year of softball when she was a kid, she does play catch with her sons, something Nicholas really appreciates.

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Award, sponsored by the national organization Little League Baseball and Softball.

Manahan had jokingly mentioned to Nicholas that she had seen an announcement on Facebook about the award. Her son immediately replied, “I’m doing it!,” and slammed out on the spot a missive singing his mother’s praises.

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“I think my mom is the most amazing mom ever,” he wrote. “That is even what it says for my mom’s contact in my phone. She deserves this [award] for almost the entire week.”

Nicholas got his wish to honor his mom at a special on-field ceremony and breakfast held at last month’s 69th Little League Baseball World Series in Williamsport,

“I want to do what I can for the community, not just for Nicholas, but all the other players.”

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The award came just in the knick of time. This will be Manahan’s last year on the board as Nicholas will not be playing in Little League next year.

“I did consider staying on. But honestly…I need time to devote to just being a normal mom,” she says.

If you ask Nicholas and the folks at Little League Baseball and Softball, they’ll say she’s earned it. ¶ September 2015

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Have a beauty day. A simple session of nail painting can be very relaxing and the perfect time for a girl-to-girl chat. My girls love it when Grandma Mac brushes their hair because she is so patient and gentle, and talks to them so lovingly while doing it.

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Do an activity that interests your grandchild.

For instance, if you have a granddaughter who loves ballet, take her to see The Nutcracker. If your grandson loves trains, take him on a train ride.

Wrinkly, Wise & Fun! 12 Traditions for Grandparents

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randparents, I’m sure I don’t have to tell you how important you are to your grandchildren. You are so much more than an occasional babysitter. You teach without it even seeming like you are, and your wisdom is soaked up better than any lecture from a parent. You may not realize just how profoundly you affect your grandchildren. To keep your connection with them alive, try these 12 activities. Most of them are pretty adaptable so you can continue them as your grandchildren grow.

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Explore your “stuff” with them. Take the kids on a tour of your attic and basement, and point out special knick-knacks—baseball cards, music, books, photos, autographs, toys, and journals. Kids will learn so much about you and history by looking through your things.

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Snuggle up and read some stories. Make up tales; write them down in a notebook and illustrate them, too. Tell them what your child (their parent) was like at their age. Be sure to include stories about some of the messes Mom or Dad got into. My parents love to tell my kids how I once used a poison ivy leaf as a powder puff—and paid the price!

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Send them letters. You can write one when each grandchild is born, sharing your feelings about the birth and hopes for the future. Use a letter to mark milestones or to wrap up the year. Trust me, your words will be cherished.

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Teach a skill. Do you crochet, build furniture, paint, cook the

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Go fishing. Boys and girls alike are always up for a short bout of fishing, either on a boat, off a dock, or in a nearby pond. Teach them how to bait hooks and cast, and then watch their faces light up when they actually catch fish. And if they don’t…use the time to find out what’s on their minds.

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best chicken noodle soup in the state?

Could you teach your grandchild how to start a budget, care for cows, or grow blackberries? My kids got interested in rocks when my mom gave them some quartz crystal chunks.

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Make something together.

The possibilities are endless: bake cookies; start a textile, wood, or other kind of craft project; plant a tree or a pot of wildflowers. My husband’s grandma made wooden stick horses for all of her grandchildren. Now my kids play with them…40 years later.

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Go on a nature walk. Or take a trip to a nearby park, zoo, or nature center. If you aren’t physically fit, now is a great time to get that way by going on short nature hikes with the kids or pushing them on the merry-go-round. Try the Environmental Discovery Center at Spring Lake in Santa Rosa or Jug Handle Creek Farm and Nature Center in Caspar.

and you’ll make some special memories along the way. It doesn’t need to be lengthy or costly. A day trip to a neat landmark or a cool activity will do the trick! The Children’s Museum of Sonoma County in Santa Rosa, the Mendocino Coast Botanical Gardens in Fort Bragg, or the San Francisco Zoo are fine places to start.

Also, see sonomafamilylife.com for two articles, “Over the River and through the Woods,” which outlines a day-trip extraordinaire (tinyurl. com/q32uw4g), and “Brunch to Beach,” which tells you where to find tasty eats near sand and surf (tinyurl.com/q32uw4g).

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Show up. Attend as many sports, Scouts, dance, and other events as you can. This can be difficult if you have many grandchildren involved in myriad activities, so just do your best. Your presence is definitely looked forward to and appreciated. ¶ Kerrie McLoughlin (thekerrieshow. com) and her five kids feel blessed to have six grandparents living close by.

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Play a game, throw a ball. You can play something your grandchild wants to play, like Candyland, or tackle something you want to teach, like checkers, chess, or gin rummy.

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It’s All A-OK

things even when she was little. I’m the one who wants to believe that there really are charms and incantations that will protect her from the world’s perils. I let her step out of the circle without comment.

Inside, a smile spread across her face as she examined herself in the mirror. When she turned to me, she said simply, “Mom, I didn’t know you were so cool.”

Reflections on Raising a Teen Deaf Girl

My first reaction was a “Yes!” of triumph from the 13-year-old girl still

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oday is Crazy Hat and Hair Day at our middle school. This is a big deal for my daughter. At 13, she’s become self-conscious about things that never bothered her before. She’s angry about being deaf, something that’s been true since she was born.

She’s exasperated by blemishes, which became a problem only a few months ago. And she’s unhappy about her voluminous, naturally curly hair, which her peers have called crazy when it wasn’t Crazy Hair Day. Last night, we conferred. My daughter instantly rejected my idea that she liberate her hair for a day, and let it follow its wildest inclinations. Instead, she asked me to braid a skinny strand so it could be wrapped in red, white, and blue thread. When I finished, the wrapped braid, complete with a moon charm, flopped over her forehead and hit her in the nose, but she seemed satisfied.

This morning, when I went to wake her, she was already standing in front of her mirror scrutinizing her visor, which was festooned with decorative buttons.

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Her hair was slicked back into its customary ponytail, but the wrapped braid hung over the top of the visor at a jaunty angle.

I offered to put glitter into her hair, and she said, “Sure,” the most rousing endorsement I’ve been able to get from her lately. We headed outdoors. I made her hair gooey with gel and then sprinkled her with all the glitter in the craft box—blue, silver, gold. A sparkling ring formed on the driveway around her feet. For a moment, I was tempted to tell her it was magic, but my sensible daughter was skeptical about such

Like all families in which the parents hear and a child doesn’t, my husband and I have had to make challenging decisions about what’s best for our daughter. living deep inside me. That girl used to study the popular kids in the class wondering how they achieved cool without apparent effort. Now it turns out what I suspected all along was true.

The secret to middle school success is glitter—the surface shimmer and flash that has almost nothing to do with durable happiness. Even knowing how little it matters in the long run, I can’t help feeling pleased that I’ve finally achieved middle school cool.

The second feeling is an almost irrational happiness that my daughter is the source of this compliment.

Lately she’s been increasingly critical

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in her appraisal of me. Like most daughters, she assumes that I can’t possibly understand her. She’s often wrong. I remember perfectly well the other side of our battles about bedtimes and boys, movie ratings and tight tops. But she’s right about one thing. I don’t understand what it’s like to be her partly because I’m not deaf.

I want to believe that there are charms and incantations that will protect her from the world’s perils.

When she was little, I used to wish I could live inside her head for a day.

Like all families in which the parents hear and a child doesn’t, my husband and I have had to make challenging decisions about what’s best for our daughter. We’ve made each one knowing that, in crucial ways, we really don’t know what it’s like to be her.

That’s true for every parent, of course. Much as we want to believe our children will benefit from our experience, a huge amount of what each of us knows matters only in the context of our lives. All the tricks I’ve learned for coaxing curl from my stick straight hair don’t help my daughter with her corkscrews. Much of what I thought I knew about communication and relationships has been challenged by her experience as a person who doesn’t hear.

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at my goofiest faces and trusted my judgement even when she didn’t like it. The child I live with now can be downright vicious when I need to exercise parental authority. “You hate deaf people,” she’ll shout as she heads for her room. “I’ll never love you again.”

The fact that she often appears 30 minutes later cheerful or even apologetic doesn’t blunt the trauma I feel. I find myself bruised by our encounters even though I know the intensity of her feelings is necessary and even healthy. I understand that the gravitational pull of loving parents is often so powerful that a girl can’t sense the uniqueness of herself unless she exaggerates the extremes.

And I know, perhaps more clearly than other moms, that my daughter will not replicate my life. Her deafness is not her destiny, but it shapes her experience in ways that I often glimpse but cannot inhabit. One thing will, I hope, be the same. Eventually I learned to love the wistful middle school girl who longed to be noticed by the popular kids. In time, I trust, my daughter too will love the hair— and the ears—she has.

I know her volcanic eruptions are part of the process. I recognize and even respect that. But it’s hard to enjoy it. So, this morning, I bask in my daughter’s glitter. As glad as I am to have achieved belated cool, it is nothing compared to the gratitude I feel for this charmed moment when she is as glad to be my daughter as I am to be her mom. ¶ Carolyn Jabs, MA, is working on a book about constructive responses to conflict. Find her at growing-up-online.com. Copyright, 2015, Carolyn Jabs. All rights reserved.

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ne of the first things I learned about working with kids who have attention problems is that they’re usually better listeners if they’ve had time to play outside. This can be a tough sell to parents who, under­standably, are afraid their children will get too wound up and never settle down (which is true if a child is overstimulated for other rea­sons—for instance, having consumed too much sugar).

Exercise scientists have shown that physical activity helps children pay attention immediately afterward. For example, in a 2013 study reported to the American College of Sports Medicine, fourth and fifth grade students who exercised vigorously for ten minutes before a math exam scored significantly higher than a comparable group of fourth and fifth graders who were sedentary during that time.

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Spark, his semi­nal book on the link between exercise and the brain. In one study, stu­dents who took an aerobic phys ed class during first period were split into two groups. One group took a literacy class during second period and the other, during eighth period.

Both groups showed improvement in reading and comprehension, but the second-period group, who had the class immediately following aerobic exercise, performed best.

This study was part of a larger educational experiment that teaches physical fitness to high school students in a school district on the out­skirts of Chicago. The program resulted in dramatically higher standard­ized test scores for its participants.

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The article concluded that aerobic exercise improves executive functions, including volun­tary attention, in children, adolescents, and adults. ¶ From Parenting in the Age of Attention Snatchers by Lucy Jo Palladino, PhD © 2015

by Lucy Jo Palladino. Reprinted by arrangement with Shambhala Publications, Inc., Boston, MA, shambhala.com.

Lucy Jo Palladino, PhD, is an award-winning clinical psychologist, researcher, and author. She wrote Dreamers, Discoverers, and Dynamos: How to Help the Child Who Is Bright, Bored, and Having Problems in Schools (Ballantine Books, 1999) and Find Your Focus Zone: An Effective New Plan to Defeat Distraction and Overload (Atria Books, 2011), which has been translated into seven languages.

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are doing. “The situation is often painful, especially for relatives,” she says sympathetically. “There is an element of denial in their inappropriate gift giving.”

Barbara adds that toys for children with special needs ideally fill functions beyond pleasure and entertainment. They can also

People often give what they wish the child wanted instead of what is appropriate.

Exceptional Gifts

By Lynn Pribus

Pretend you get a birthday present.

You unwrap the colorful paper and discover a wonderful book, but when you open the cover, it’s written in Sanskrit. Or you receive an expensive and complicated piece of surveyor’s equipment, but your passion is pottery.

Perfect Presents for Kids with Special Needs

Your disappointment would be similar to what children with disabilities—whether physical or developmental—often face when they receive presents.

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limited vision, hearing, or manual dexterity. People often give what they wish the child wanted instead of what is appropriate and desirable.

Why don’t people take this into consideration? Barbara, the mother of a son with Down syndrome, suggests that people simply aren’t aware of what they

stimulate development, which can be especially valuable for a child with disabilities. “You have to ask what are the child’s capabilities,” she comments, “and what is the next step for the child to master.”

Some years ago when her son was young, Barbara says, he needed especially lightweight playthings, but standard toys are generally made to be sturdy and durable. “We used to buy him dog toys,” she recalls ruefully. “They were soft enough for him to squeeze and make a noise.”

For help finding suitable toys for a specific disability, google “toys blind child” or “toys deaf child.” And if you’re still not sure what to get that special child on your gift list?

“Ask parents for specific suggestions,” urges Barbara. “That’s not being intrusive, it’s being realistic and thoughtful.”

Lynn Pribus is a long-time writer and parenting educator. She and her husband have two sons.

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severe medical conditions…attributed… to ‘autism behaviours’… .” This holds true across age groups, and can result in serious long-term health consequences, including mortality rates three to ten times higher than the general population.

Piecing the Puzzle Together Get the Best Medical Help for Your Child with Autism

By Leslie Phillips

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ne of the most challenging aspects of being a caregiver of a person with autism is finding proper medical care. Some people with autism are nonverbal and unable to communicate

pain or discomfort in traditional ways. Others may have strong verbal skills but still are not reliable reporters of health issues.

This problem is greatly compounded by physicians who, too hastily, address changes in behavior or bowel habits, staring spells, and any number of symptoms with “It’s just the autism.” In fact, there is overwhelming evidence that certain medical conditions occur at a very high rate in autism. Often these 20 SonomaFamilyLife

conditions are treatable, and, when properly addressed, can improve core symptoms of autism, as well as immediate health concerns, such as pain, and long-term health outcomes.

The organization Treating Autism’s document “Medical Comorbidities in Autism Spectrum Disorders” states that there are “widespread reports of

The paper, “A Review of Research Trends in Physiological Abnormalities in Autism Spectrum Disorders,” published in the journal Molecular Psychiatry in 2012, also supports these findings. The article states that roughly 90–95 percent of relevant literature published between 1971 and 2010 supports associations between autism and serious medical conditions. In other words—and this is critical to understand—there is something about the biology of individuals with autism that puts them at greater risk for many serious medical problems.

So, what’s a parent (or caregiver) to do? The answer is complex, but here are six steps you can take to ensure your loved one with autism gets the best possible medical care.

Educate yourself. Read the two documents listed above to understand which conditions are most closely associated with autism, and then share them with your health-care provider.

Connect with support groups.

Talk About Curing Autism (TACA) and the National Autism Association have many chapters nationwide. In-person groups are best, but online support groups can also be helpful. Groups (or health care providers) that promise a “cure” or “quick fixes” should be avoided.

Steer clear of anyone who greatly oversimplifies an approach.

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Look for the best providers.

Unlike most providers, practitioners certified by the Medical Academy of Pediatric Special Needs (MAPS) are trained to diagnose and treat the complex—often chronic—medical conditions in autism. For some important tips on working with a health-care provider, see Lisa Ackerman’s article “Parents Bill of Rights and Parent Responsibilities” on TACA’s website, tacanow.org.

One tough issue is some of these practitioners do not participate in

There is overwhelming evidence that certain medical conditions occur at a very high rate in autism. insurance programs. Most mainstream physicians who take insurance are only going to prescribe psychotropic medications or off-label prescriptions that seek to mask, and do not treat, the underlying medical issue. If your only option is to see a health-care provider that is not MAPS-certified, try to find someone who is progressive and open-minded. Take your research and a list of your loved one’s symptoms to the first appointment. Many caregivers say that by listening to a provider and not being overbearing, they get further with her or him.

Get organized. Many caregivers have created systems to keep track of testing, medical bills, and insurance claims and appeals. Obtain copies of all medical test results and, if you don’t understand the findings, do more research. Document in writing any verbal conversations you have with www.sonomafamilylife.com

insurance companies, keeping track of the names of individuals you speak to, noting dates and times. Remember, sometimes it takes one, two, or even three appeals before insurance companies will pay. In this instance, persistence literally pays much of the time. Diagnostic codes should reflect the specific symptoms and suspected problem. Using the ICD-9-CM code for autism (299.0) does not accurately describe the reason for testing and can often cause a claim to be dismissed out of hand. An exception might be to obtain Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA) treatment in a state where coverage is mandated for autism.

Get the family on board. You will likely need your spouse, siblings, or others in the household to cooperate with treatments. It’s important they understand how critical it is to maintain adherence to diets, supplements, and other protocols.

View every effort as an opportunity to improve the health of your loved one instead of focusing on the sacrifices you are making.

Keep your eye on the prize. It can be overwhelming to address all the medical, educational, and emotional needs of your loved one, not to mention the rest of your family.

Improvement or recovery is rarely linear—it often looks more like a roller coaster. Good communication with those in your household can go a long way to preserving the loving relationships that can be stressed when there is autism in the house. ¶ Leslie Phillips is the mother of a child with Asperger’s Syndrome and another with moderate to severe autism. She serves on the board of the National Autism Association.

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e-cigarette use doubled from 4.7 percent to 10 percent between 2011 and 2012.

With no combustion, smoke, and the tell-tale smoke smell, “vape pens” are more discreet than traditional cigarettes. This means they pose a different kind of health risk to teens, says Harold Farber, MD, pediatric pulmonologist at Texas Children’s Hospital. Because e-cigarettes allow teens to use nicotine in places smoking isn’t allowed—at school, work, or in or around restaurants

Lighting Up

By Malia Jacobson

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How to Keep Your Teen Safe from E-Cigs

or decades, teachers have dealt with teen smoking: Kids skipping class to light up; smoke seeping out of bathroom stalls; tobacco scents trailing into class. But when electronic

cigarettes hit the scene a few years ago, educators noticed a change.

Instead of the classic smoker aroma, the smell was candy-sweet.

Instead of lighters, students were carrying electronic cigarettes.

“Suddenly, these things were everywhere,” says educator Megan Temple. “In sporting events, in bathrooms, even showing up in class.

It’s a big problem.”

E-cigarettes are slender cylindrical devices with an electronic heating element that vaporizes nicotine-infused liquid, also called “vape juice” or “e-juice.” This liquid comes in hundreds of sweet, 22 SonomaFamilyLife

teen-friendly flavors, from banana cream pie to butter rum.

The popularity of e-cigarettes is exploding. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), a quarter-million middle and high school students who had never smoked a traditional cigarette tried e-cigarettes in 2013, a three-fold increase from 2011. Among high school students,

Nicotine liquid comes in hundreds of sweet, teen-friendly flavors, from banana cream pie to butter rum. where cigarettes are banned—they increase teens’ access to nicotine, Farber says. The vape liquid smell isn’t a smoky smell, so parents may not detect it, either.

Discreet or not, e-cigarettes still pose all the health risks associated with nicotine, including reduced lung function, narrowed blood vessels, heart strain, and risk for serious, long-term addiction.

In addition, nicotine liquid is hazardous if ingested, inhaled, or absorbed through the skin. The CDC reports that poison center calls involving e-cigarettes jumped from one call per month in 2010 to 215 calls per month in February 2014.

Legal Limbo Appealing and addictive, e-cigarettes are also more accessible to teens than conventional cigarettes. Though some

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states ban e-cigarette sales to minors, vape pens and juice are available in a few clicks online.

California law prevents minors from buying vaping devices containing nicotine. However, the California State Assembly recently passed a bill that would ban teens under 18 years old from buying vaping and e-cig devices, period.

Currently, no federal ban prevents youth from purchasing e-cigarettes or the nicotine liquid. Federal regulation of e-cigarettes is currently pending; in spring 2014, the FDA released a proposed rule that would expand the ban on tobacco sales to minors to include electronic cigarettes and liquid.

A final rule is expected by the end of year.

Buzz Beaters The best way to keep teens away from e-cigarettes: Talk to them in terms they care about, Farber says.

“Teenagers don’t care as much about losing years of their life, because that’s so far in the future,” Farber says. “Instead, talk to them about how

The California State Assembly recently passed a bill that would ban teens under 18 years old from buying vaping and e-cig devices. nicotine reduces athletic performance.

Tell them it can age them and affect how their skin looks.”

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Avoiding exposure to tobacco marketing—retail displays, print ads, and television promotion—is important, too. American youth see 559 tobacco ads per year, and those exposed to more sources of tobacco advertising are the most likely to smoke.

Megan Temple hopes the e-cigarette novelty wears off. The school she works at drafted e-cigarette policies that seem to be helping. That’s a positive step, Temple says. “Any e-cigarette use at school or in teens is a problem.”

Malia Jacobson’s latest book is Sleep Tight, Every Night: Helping Toddlers and Preschoolers Sleep Well Without Tears, Tricks, or Tirades.

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Growing Up Online

presence; others become mommy bloggers and build a loyal following by chronicling intimate details about domestic life.

Social Media Savvy Keep Your Family Photos Safe

By Carolyn Jabs Social media has become the new back fence, a place where parents can tell stories, swap tips, and even brag a bit.

A recent survey from the Pew Research Center found that moms, in particular, give and get lots of encouragement, as well as useful parenting information, from networks like Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, and Instagram.

Almost all of these efforts involve photos that would be great if they stayed put. Unfortunately, they don’t. Photos of cute kids—especially babies—have been misappropriated and used for dubious purposes. Baby role-playing, for example, involves young women who use random photos of children to fantasize about motherhood. By posting pictures and inventing details about babies they don’t know, they attract attention on social media.

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danger. Still, most parents find it disconcerting to see their child’s face in someone else’s fantasy, especially if there’s a preoccupation with breastfeeding or bath time. In other cases, parents have stumbled across familiar photos used in advertising

All parents should think seriously about what impact a post that seems cute today might have on a child in the future. or to create memes, those Internet placards that sometimes take on a life of their own.

Obviously, people vary a great deal in what they feel comfortable saying on social media, and parenthood doesn’t necessarily change that. Some new parents find that they are very protective about a baby’s online

All parents, however, should think seriously about what impact a post that seems cute today might have on a child in the future. Parents must also try to imagine how a child will feel when he or she is an eye-rolling eight-year-old, an easily embarrassed teen, or a young adult looking for a job.

How can parents balance the benefits of social networking with its risks?

Here are a few tips.

Use privacy settings. The report from Pew found that parents typically have 150 friends on Facebook, and of those, one-third are actual friends. Go through your network and think about whether your relationship with each person is close enough to share details about your child. Most social media sites make it easy to establish different relational groups, such as “Close Friends,” “Family,” and “Business.”

(Details about fixing privacy settings for the main social media venues are available at socialmediaexaminer.com/ social-media-privacy-settings.)

Share your re-share policy.

Even if you are careful about privacy, photos can escape your network if they are re-shared. To discourage re-sharing, remind friends and family that photos are “for your eyes only.”

Talk to other parents, too. Explain your concerns about over-sharing and ask that they not post photos of play dates and other outings without your permission. Extend the same courtesy to them.

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Use a nickname. Instead of your child’s real name, use a pseudonym. It will be harder to connect an escaped photo to your family.

Make copying difficult. Save photos with the lowest possible resolution. Not only will the file transmit more quickly, but it will be blurry if someone tries to enlarge it.

Also, put a signature or watermark on photos. (See visualwatermark.com.)

No naked pictures. Ever. No matter how cute or innocent they may seem, naked pictures should not be posted online. Even if you don’t attract the attention of a predator or run afoul of the obscenity standards on your social network, you run the risk of distributing a picture that will be used to harass your child in the future.

Protect photo albums. Make albums on password-protected sites like Flickr or Photobucket. Share passwords only with family members and other trusted friends. Back up photo files in the cloud and on a separate hard or flash drive.

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With the passage of a Bond Authorization in June 2014 we have the resources to upgrade and modernize our schools.

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Be selective. Taking digital pictures is so easy. Be ruthless about culling your photos. Close-ups with only a few props tend to be more interesting; this presentation also makes it harder for strangers to identify your child or locate your home. Post vacation pictures after you return home so people won’t know when your house is unoccupied. ¶

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Heirloom produce. Find out what makes these veggies and fruit so special at the National Heirloom Exposition, September 8–10, 11 a.m.–8 p.m., at the Sonoma County Fairgrounds in Santa Rosa. Enjoy chef demos, an antique tractor show, and a chalk art show while you listen to bluegrass, gospel, and folk music. On September 10, bring the kids at 9 a.m. for the Educational and Fun Day. They can catch a glimpse of the winners of the pumpkin and sunflower growing contest, participate in egg and spoon races, learn how to shear a sheep, and explore a worm bin. The Educational and Fun Day is free. Tickets for the exposition itself are $15 for each day or $30 for a three-day pass. Kids 17 and under are free. For more information, see theheirloomexpo.com. ¶

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Field. 241 W. First St., Sonoma. svcfm.org.

Saturday 5 FREE Sebastopol Community Apple Press. Weekends in September and

October. Luther Burbank Gold Ridge Experiment Farm. 7777 Bodega Ave., Sebastopol. Make reservations at slowfoodrr.org/applepress.html.

FREE Science Saturday at Environmental Discovery Center.

Tangible experiments & projects let children explore the natural world. 1, 2 & 3 p.m. Spring Lake. 393 Violetti Rd., Santa Rosa. parks.sonomacounty.ca.gov.

Sunday 6 Annadel Loop 7-Mile Trail Race. Runners

receive handicap head starts based on age & gender. Exclusive purple shirts will be awarded to the first 13 finishers. 8 a.m. Empire Runners free. Nonmembers $10–$20.

Online registration ends Sept.

3. Annadel State Park. Channel Dr., Cobblestone Trailhead. empirerunners.org.

“The Birds” Schoolhouse Tour. Hear

the spooky stories of hauntings & the amazing history of this iconic schoolhouse. 10 a.m.,11:30 a.m. & 1:30 p.m. $25. Space limited. Bodega. seb.org.

FREE Boating at the Barn.

Volunteers help you try a nonmotorized vessel (yours or theirs) on the Petaluma River. Try canoe, kayak, rowboat, or sailboat. Open year-round. Sundays. 10 a.m.–1 p.m.

David Yearsley River Heritage Center.

Copeland & D Streets, Petaluma. friendsofthepetalumariver.org. www.sonomafamilylife.com

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FREE Bodega Bay Community Farmers Market. Food, shopping, live

music, beautiful venue. Sundays. 10 a.m.–2 p.m. Bodega Bay Community Center. 2255 Hwy. 1, Bodega Bay. bodegabaycommunitycenter.org.

Monday 7 Rock-n-Glow Bowling. Family

fun with LED lane-lighting & automated scoring. Special bumper-rails for kids. Mondays. 5–10 p.m. $9 for 2 hours. Shoes included. Windsor Bowl. 8801 Conde Ln., Windsor. windsorbowl.com.

sheep shearing, flower dissection, worm bin exploring. Through Sept. 10. 9 a.m.–8 p.m. Admission is free for ages 17 & under & for one chaperone accompanying up to four students. Sonoma County Fairgrounds. 1350 Bennett Valley Rd., Santa Rosa. theheirloomexpo.com.

FREE Puppet Making Workshop with Frank Gonzalez. Learn

to make & use puppets as tools for education & communication.

Ages 5–12. 3:30–5 p.m. Sebastopol Regional Library. 7140 Bodega Ave., Sebastopol. sonomalibrary.org.

Tuesday 8 FREE Educational & Fun Day at the National Heirloom Exposition.

Pumpkin & sunflower growing contest, art wall, egg & spoon races,

Wednesday 9 FREE Foster Parent Information Meeting. 565-4274 to register. 6 p.m.

Human Services Family, Youth &

REGISTER ONLINE TODAY! WWW.HEROESFORYKIDS.COM

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18 hole four person scramble Four person teams Shot gun start Lunch Golf towel & activities on course Dinner buffet and raffle Silent and live auction Green fee and golf cart

Thursday 10 FREE Knit Wits Club. Learn tips & tricks to make projects to share with our community. Crocheters welcome, too! Ages 12–17. 4–5 p.m. Sebastopol Regional Library.

7140 Bodega Ave., Sebastopol. sonomalibrary.org.

Saturday 12 North Bay BBQ Challenge. BBQ

ribs & wings, potato salad, baked beans, live music, Show and Shine Car Show, raffle. Benefit for Love in a Shoebox. 1–5 p.m. Rohnert Park Community Center. 5401 Synder Ln., Rohnert Park. 696-1210.

PURSUE SPRING 2016 SOMETHING NEW!

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Join us for a FREE Information Meet the instructor and ask questions.

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Health Navigator Certificate Monday, August 10 @ 5pm-6:30pm, Salazar 2022

M.A. in Psychology, Depth

Audio and Recording Production Certificate Thursday, August 13 @ 7-8pm, Ives 32 Recording Studio

B.A. Liberal Studies

Construction Management Certificate

EARLY BIRD SPECIAL AVAILABLE WITH CODE: EarlyBird

Tuesday, August 11 @ 6-7pm, Schulz 1121 M.S. Computer & Engineering

Saturday B.A. Degree Completion Program Saturday, August 15 @ 10:30am-12pm, Stevenson 2079

Project Management Certificate

Thursday, August 20 @ 6-7pm, Schulz 1121 Limited space available, all registration must be in no later than Friday, October 9th

Sonoma County Family Y  1111 College Avenue  Santa Rosa 707-545-9622  www.scfymca.org The Y is a non-profit community based organization.

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Children’s Services. 1202 Apollo Way, Santa Rosa. sonomafostercare.org.

Human Resource Management Certificate Tuesday, August 25 @ 7-9pm, Green Music Center 1057

WordPress® WebsiteFOR Development Certificate VISIT OUR WEBSITE MORE INFORMATION! Tuesday, September 8 @ 6-7pm, Schulz 1121

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See us at the Wedding Expo September 20th, 2015 at the Wells Fargo Center for the Arts in Santa Rosa, CA.

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Parties & Parents Night Out

Kids of All Ages LOVE the Fishetarian!

It’s not just Take a fun, family day trip out to Bodega Bay & stop by to see us!

We have many Kids Meal options to choose from, and they all come with a fishy cookie and gold fish crackers! Grown ups can choose from our many other fresh seafood & vegetarian options, including: A local, fresh & sustainable seafood case Fresh Rock Cod Panko Crusted Fish & Chips Mention Sonoma Grilled Fish Tacos that will Rock your world!

Family Life Magazine Award Winning (& gluten free) Clam Chowder for a FREE cup of local oysters (prepared 3 fabulous ways) chowder! incredible fried calamari & prawns organic farm fresh salads & spring rolls Plus Many Gluten free options & “grab n go” Locally made, Organic snacks!

We are a certified “Bummer-Free Zone!”

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Gymnastics...

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• Tumblebug Program for preschool aged children • Boys & Girls Classes Recreation 6–12 • Tumbling & Tramp Classes

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Cinderella’s Royal Not Forgotten Ball. A

benefit for Crossing the Jordan Women and Children’s Programs.

6–11 p.m. $100. Hyatt Vineyard Creek Hotel and Spa. 170 Railroad St., Santa Rosa.

FREE Santa Rosa Symphony Woodwind Quintet. A

very special event for the entire family. 2:30 p.m. Northwest Santa Rosa Library. 150 Coddingtown Center, Santa Rosa. sonomalibrary.org.

FREE Introduction to 3D Printing Workshop. See the MakerBot Replicator 2 3D Printer in action! 1–2:30 p.m. Petaluma Regional Library. Forum Room. 100 Fairgrounds Dr., Petaluma. sonomalibrary.org.

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FREE Finding Your Voice & Avoiding Clichés. Writing College Application Essays. 2–3:30 p.m. Petaluma Regional Library. 100 Fairgrounds Dr., Petaluma. sonomalibrary.org.

FREE Lego Solar Car Workshop. Design & build an electric car powered by sunlight. Ages 7–9. Limited to 16 participants.

AfterLibrary.

School139 Register at the library. 2–3:30 p.m. Wings Healdsburg Martial & Arts Piper St., Healdsburg. sonomalibrary.org.Program

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Now Offering Kindergarten

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AFTER-SCHOOL

MARTIAL ARTS PROGRAM

SCHOOL OF DRAMA! Join us for our NEW Kindergarten & Early Childhood programs

Children’s Circle: 2.5–3.5+ yrs.

Kinderclub: 3–5 yrs.

Montessori In Motion: 3–6 yrs.

7:1 Teacher Ratio

Now Enrolling Register at the Parks and Recreation Office 9291 Old Redwood Hwy., Bldg. 300D 838-1260 • townofwindsor.com

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SUPPORTS ACADEMICS WITH FUN

STUDY THEATRE WITH THE BEST

CLASSES FOR ALL AGES! There is something for everyone!

FALL CLASSES Registering NOW! Check It Out Today! www.6thStreetPlayhouse.com

Call (707) 523-4185 Today!

M-F from after school until 6pm • We Pick Up! Free Shuttle from School to our Studio • Daily Karate Classes & Homework Time • Light Meal Provided • Child Centered Curriculum

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ATA Martial Arts Tournament.

Watch students increase skills & boost confidence. 8 a.m.–6 p.m. $5.

Children under 3 free. Grace Pavilion.

Sonoma County Fairgrounds. 1350 Bennett Valley Rd., Santa Rosa. santarosamartialartsata.com.

Sebastopol Cajun–Zydeco Festival.

Featuring Creole United. Huge shaded dance floor. 11:30 a.m.–7 p.m. $22 or $25. Kids under 12 free. Ives Park.

Sebastopol. winecountrycajun.com.

FREE Petaluma Art in the Park. 50

local artists. Children welcome.

Supports art in Petaluma schools.

Sept. 12 & 13. 10 a.m.–5 p.m. Walnut Park at D Street & Petaluma Blvd.

So., Petaluma. petalumaarts.org.

FREE Sonoma Mountain Zen

paintings, photographs, textile creations, taiko drumming, traditional Japanese tea ceremony, more. 11 a.m.–4 p.m. 6367 Sonoma Mtn. Rd., Santa Rosa. smzc.net.

FREE Kids Outdoor Summer Movies. Sept.

12: Big Hero 6. Show: 15 minutes after sunset. Windsor Town Green. townofwindsor.com.

FREE Healdsburg Arts Festival.

Children’s Art Zone. Live music.

Sept. 12 & 13. Healdsburg Plaza. healdsburgcenterforthearts.com.

Russian River Jazz & Blues Festival. Jackie

Greene, Kyle Eastwood, Buddy Guy, more. Sept.

12 & 13. General $55. 2-day pass $90. Johnson’s Beach. Guerneville. russianriverfestivals.com.

Sunday 13 Clo-Cow Half Marathon & 5K. Race

is subject to selling out! 7 a.m. See website for costs & more info.

Downtown Petaluma. clocowhalf.com.

FREE Grandparents’ Day at Charles M. Schulz Museum.

Grandparents free when visiting with their grandkids. 10 a.m.–5 p.m. 2301 Hardies Ln., Santa Rosa. schulzmuseum.org.

Wednesday 16 FREE Music Time with Karen Slavin.

Sing, dance & fill up with joy at this fun sing-along event. Ages 2 & up. 11 a.m. Rincon Valley Library.

6959 Montecito Blvd., Santa Rosa. sonomalibrary.org.

Center’s Annual Bazaar. Pottery,

Sonoma County Airport

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Travel on Nonstop Flights to/from Los Angeles; Portland; San Diego; Seattle

Experience Flight Training Aircraft; Helicopters

Discover Scenic Tours Aircraft; Helicopters; Balloons; Historic Aircraft

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FUN FOR THE WHOLE FAMILY! Birthday Parties Public Skating Fundraisers Private & Group Instruction

CAL SKATE Roller Skating & Blading Center

585-0500 • FOR RESERVATIONS: 585-0494 6100 COMMERCE BLVD. • WWW.CALSKATE.COM

FREE Family Evening Story Time.

Stories, songs & fun for the entire family. Kids ages 0–12. 6 p.m.

Rohnert Park Cotati Library. 6250 Lynne Condé Way, Rohnert Park. sonomalibrary.org.

FREE Fall Booksale. Wonderful

books, movies & gifts for you to own, collect, read, give & enjoy. Thru Sept. 19. Sebastopol Regional Library. 7140 Bodega Ave., Sebastopol. sonomalibrary.org.

Friday 18 FREE Henna Art for Teens. Express

yourself with body art! Limit 20 participants. Sign up at library. Ages 12–17. 3:30–5:30 p.m. Cloverdale Regional Library. 401 N. Cloverdale Blvd., Cloverdale. sonomalibrary.org.

21st Annual Sonoma County Fall Home Show. Fun for the entire family.

Thru Sept. 20. Sept. 18: Noon–7 p.m. Sept. 19: 10 a.m.–7 p.m. Sept.

20: 10 a.m.–5 p.m. $7. 12 & under free. Sonoma County Fairgrounds.

1350 Bennett Valley Rd., Santa Rosa. sonomacountyhomeshows.com.

Cross & Crown Lutheran School

2 - 5 years Preschool Jr. Kindergarten - Kindergarten 1st - 6th Grade Preschool license #490100475

Call or email to visit our school:

(707)795-7863 www.crossandcrownschoolrp.org

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adventure for the entire family. Thru Oct. 4.

Times vary. $16–$26. Spreckels Performing Arts Center. 5409 Snyder Ln., Rohnert Park. rpcity.org.

Saturday 19 California Cider Tasting Competition. Taste

the state’s best hard ciders (apples, too!) & cast your vote for the People’s Choice Award. Thru Sept. 20. Grand Tasting 1–5 p.m. Sept. 19 & noon–4 p.m. Sept. 20. Flights are $6–$7, plus admission to the Mendocino County Fair and Apple Show.

Mendocino County Fairgrounds.

14400 Hwy. 128, Boonville. californiacidercompetition.com.

FREE Sing Along with Bob Gossett.

Singers, hummers, whistlers, clappers, finger snappers & foot tappers of all ages are invited!

2 p.m. Sonoma Valley Regional Library. 755 W. Napa St., Sonoma. sonomalibrary.org.

FREE Owen Baker-Flynn Presents.

Magic, puppets, comedy, juggling &

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general silliness. Ages 0–12. 2 p.m.

Central Santa Rosa Library. 211 E. S., Santa Rosa. sonomalibrary.org.

The Old Grove Music Festival.

Open-air concert in the redwoods featuring Hot Buttered Rum & One Grass Two Grass. Gates 4:30 p.m.

Show 5:30 p.m. General $24–$30.

Ages 5–12 $10. One free child per paid adult. Armstrong Redwoods State Natural Reserve. 17000 Armstrong Woods Rd., Guerneville. stewardscr.org.

FREE Sonoma County Coastal Clean Up Day. Register

in advance.

Gloves & tools provided. 9 a.m.– noon. Northern California Beaches. coastal.ca.gov.

Astronomy Day & Star Party! The

Robert Ferguson Observatory’s three main telescopes will be open for viewing. Solar viewing: 11 a.m.–3 p.m. Star Party: 8 p.m. Solar viewing is free. Star Party: Adults $3.

Under 18 free. Parking $8. Sugarloaf Ridge State Park. 2605 Adobe Canyon Rd., Kenwood. rfo.org.

Kids Night at the Museum. Drop kids off after hours for dinner, games, art, cartooning & crafts.

Recommended for kids 10 & under.

Reservations required. 5–9 p.m. $32 nonmembers. $25 members. Charles M. Schulz Museum. 2301 Hardies Ln., Santa Rosa. schulzmuseum.org.

FREE California Academy of Science. Free

entry all day! Arrive early due to likelihood of high demand. 11 a.m.–5 p.m. 55 Music Concourse Dr., San Francisco. calacademy.org.

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FREE MAD Science Presents: The Science of Toys. Spinning

tops, balancing figures, wind-up toys, giant gears, circuits, yo-yos, more. Grades K–5. 4–5 p.m.

Northwest Santa Rosa Library. 150 Coddingtown Center, Santa Rosa. sonomalibrary.org.

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Science-based Learning Bilingual Programs Cultural Studies

Family Fun Day. Walk the beautiful

.42-mile stretch of the Greenway and learn about aquatic insects and turtles, spot some fish, tour the underground culvert, and visit many booths. Prince Memorial Greenway between Olive Park and Santa Rosa Ave. Part of the Sixth Annual Creek Week Celebration, Sept. 19–27. 10 a.m.–2 p.m. For a list of all events and activities, see srcity.org/creekwalk.

Senior Portraits Now Booking Class of 2016

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• Pre-Kindergarten class for academic & social Kindergarten readiness • To support our families, we provide parenting tools & classes to work together as a team for your children

Sunday 20 FREE Petaluma Poetry Walk. Noted poets perform at seven historic downtown venues. Poets include Jane Hirschfield, Clara Hsu & Rob Greene plus many more.

Historic Downtown Petaluma. petalumapoetrywalk.org.

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FREE Entrance Day at National Parks. Celebrate

National Public Lands Day with free entrance to any national park. nps.gov.

Santa Rosa Toy Con 2015. Toy designers, comic writers & publishers, Cosplay Competition, Chewbacca Roar Contest, panels,

more. 10 a.m.–5 p.m. (early bird 9 a.m.) $15. (early bird $25). Children under 5 free. Sonoma County Fairgrounds. 1350 Bennett Valley Rd., Santa Rosa. santarosatoycon.com.

a.m.–4 p.m. $8–$20. 10 & under free.

Charles M. Schulz–Sonoma County Airport. Pacific Coast Air Museum.

One Air Museum Way, Santa Rosa. wingsoverwinecountry.org.

Wings Over Wine Country.

Bike MS: Waves to Wine Ride.

Spectacular aerial acrobats with amazing airplanes. Thru Sept. 27. 9

Sonoma County 2-day bicycle ride benefiting Muscular Dystrophy.

Ages 12 & over. Sept. 26 & 27. $75 registration. $350 fundraising minimum. wavestowine.org.

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FREE Festival on the Hill Car Show, BBQ & Children’s Carnival.

10 a.m.–2 p.m. United Church of Christ. 825 Middlefield Dr., Petaluma. uccpetaluma.org.

Cabrillo Lighthouse Tour. A unique

opportunity to visit the Lantern Room & the last tour of the third order restored Fresnel lens. $5. Tours from 10 a.m.–4 p.m. Point Cabrillo Light Station. 45300 Lighthouse Rd., Mendocino. 937-6123. pointcabrillo.org.

FREE 23rd Annual Kelseyville Pear Festival. Hometown fun with

activities, craft booths, art show, children’s activities, musicians, dancers & cloggers, horse faire, antique tractor & engine exhibit & a pavilion showcasing all things “pear.”

Parade starts at 9:30 a.m. 9 a.m.–4 p.m. Main St., Kelseyville. See website for full schedule & venues. 279-9022. pearfestival.com.

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Sunday 27 Napa Half Marathon & 5K. Half

marathon is $70–$90 & starts at 7:30 a.m. 5K is $35–$40 & starts at 8 a.m. Skyline Park. 2201 Imola Ave., Napa. napahalf.com.

To find the Pediatrician that’s right for you, call 1-888-699-DOCS (3627) or visit sutterpacific.org

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Come Pick Your Own Apples!

Make a day of it! Bring a picnic & the kids out to Ratzlaff Ranch

U-Pick Apples

at Sebastopol Ratzlaff Ranch

Home of Apple-A-Day Cider

We start u-pick apples as soon as Yellow Delicious and Rome apples are ripe—early September.

We provide picking bags and boxes if needed. Fresh and Frozen Apple Juice will be available on site.

Picnic tables are also available. For further information, call 707-823-0538.

Ratzlaff Ranch, 13128 Occidental Rd., Sebastopol Hours: 9am–5pm: Sunday–Wednesday & Friday • Closed Saturdays & Thursdays Please call before coming, in case the apples aren’t ripe yet: 707-823-0538.

Cooking with Kids

Post-play Snacks

Fuel Up after the Game

By Cynthia Lair

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esearch has shown that our muscles are able to replenish depleted glycogen more quickly when we eat or drink carbohydrate-containing foods within the first 30 minutes after an event, game, or practice. During this time, muscles will convert carbohydrates into glycogen up to three times faster than if the player waits until two hours after the game to eat. There are two explanations for this phenomenon:

1. Increased blood flow to the muscle cells brings more nutrients to make glycogen.

2. The muscle cells are more sensitive immediately after play to the substances that transform nutrients into glycogen.

The bottom line: eat whole-food, carbohydrate-containing snacks as soon as possible after the game or practice has finished. Picture appetizer-size amounts that include a small amount of protein. The best ratio is one part protein per four parts carbohydrate. The protein stimulates insulin, which helps glucose transform into muscle glycogen. Skip

sugary treats after the game.

Remember that the body has been stressed, in a good way, and nutrients have been used up. Trying to replenish with empty calories does nothing to rebuild what has been lost and leaves the body yearning for more.

Here are ideas for easy post-play snacks as well as a recipe for a fruit-and-nut bar that has plenty of complex carbohydrates, fat, and protein.

Peanut Butter Cranberry Zoom Zoom Bars Dry Ingredients 1 ½ cups rolled oats ½ cup sunflower seeds ½ cup pumpkin seeds ½ cup dried coconut flakes ½ cup dried cranberries ½ cup crispy brown rice cereal ½ teaspoon salt (optional) Wet Ingredients ½ cup brown rice syrup 2 tablespoons honey 2 tablespoons molasses 1 tablespoon butter 1 cup peanut butter or other nut butter

Directions Preheat oven to 350°F. Spread the oats, and sunflower and pumpkin seeds on a baking sheet and toast in the oven for 10 minutes, shaking every few minutes so that they toast evenly.

Add the coconut to the pan and toast for another 2–3 minutes until the coconut just turns golden (watch closely!). Remove the baking sheet when the nuts and coconut are fragrant. Let cool slightly and place in a large bowl. Add cranberries and brown rice crispy cereal and toss all together. Taste the peanut butter you plan to use. Is it salty? If yes, don’t add the extra salt. If not, add it now. Place all wet ingredients in a saucepan over medium heat. Bring to a low simmer and stir constantly until an even consistency is achieved. Stir the thick wet ingredients into the dry and combine until evenly mixed.

Plop onto a greased cookie sheet or one lined with parchment paper, and press the mixture with moist hands into a ½” thick square about 12” x 12”. Let cool completely. Pop into the refrigerator to hasten cooling. Cut into 2” x 3” squares and wrap in waxed paper or plastic wrap to keep bars from drying out.

Preparation time: 20 minutes. Makes 24 bars.

Excerpted with permission from Feeding the Young Athlete (Readers to Eaters, 2012).

Cynthia Lair is an assistant professor for the Department of Nutrition and Exercise Science at Bastyr University. She is also the author of Feeding the Whole Family (Sasquatch Books, 2008), host of the online cooking show Cookus Interruptus (cookus.tv), and a frequent speaker. See cynthialair.com.

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The 7 Stages of Lunch Box Grief Make Peace with a Necessary Evil

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hock No, no it can’t be. I just put you away. I remember it clearly. It was the last day of school, and I cleaned you out and shoved you in a drawer. What are you doing on the counter? Summer’s not over. If summer were over I’d have a perfect tan and rock hard abs from all the paddle-boarding classes I’d been taking. And since I’m still chalk white, muffin-topping over my sweatpants, and I haven’t even called the paddle-boarding place yet, summer can’t be over. So put yourself back in the drawer next to the other things I keep hidden like that ugly tablecloth my mother-in-law sent and my emergency PMS candy stash.

Anger Hey, lunch box! Why don’t you fill yourself! Just sprout arms out of your plastic sides and stuff yourself with a well-balanced meal! I’d like to see how many days in a row you can make a peanut butter and banana sandwich before going insane!

Denial I don’t have to make lunches.

Someone else can do it. Maybe my husband. No, last time he made lunches, he sent our son off to kindergarten with a wine cooler and a package of beer nuts. I’ll have to find someone more qualified to make lunches, like an escaped convict or a helper monkey. I’ll just walk into the kitchen every morning, the lunch boxes will be packed and my convict/ monkey will be waiting for me with a cup of coffee. I don’t know why I didn’t think of this sooner.

really big lunch on Monday and let my kids figure out how to make the food last ‘til Friday? Okay, here’s my last offer. What if I do community service in exchange for not having to pack a lunch? You hand me the orange vest and the garbage tongs, and I’ll hand you the Antman lunch box. Deal?

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I hate you, school lunch. There, I said it.

Bargaining What if I pack a lunch three days a week and then I just don’t send my children to school for the rest of the week? Or what if I make a

I should want to pack a lunch. I mean, really. What kind of mother am I?

Guilt I should want to pack a lunch.

I mean, really. What kind of mother am I? I bet other moms are out there right now arranging vegetables in a smiley face on a bagel and

writing little notes that say, “Dear Timmy, My heart aches while we’re apart. Please enjoy this homemade Bundt cake I stuffed into your lunch box as well as a Haiku I wrote about the 50 states to help you on your test today. Love, Mom P.S. I made all the blood sausages myself.”

Depression I’m never going to be that kind of mom, so I’m just going to give up, dig out my PMS candy, and sit on the kitchen floor eating Charleston Chews until I puke. I wish my convict/ monkey was here to rub my back.

Acceptance Okay, school has started again. I get that now. I’ve accepted that I’m going to have to pack a lunch, so I might as well just grab some slices of bread and get to work. And who knows? Maybe I’ll enjoy making lunches this year.

Maybe I’ll really get into it. Maybe I’ll become known for my lunches.

Yeah, that’s it. I’ll be known for my lunches, my rock hard abs, and my paddle boarding expertise.

This year is going to be totally different. I can feel it already. ¶ Holly Hester lives in Sebastopol and writes about life on her blog, Riot Ranch. Find her book, Escape from Ugly Mom Island!, on Amazon.

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