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Volume 1, Issue 4 November/December 2021
FROM THE VICE PRESIDENT VALUES
In this issue, we’re offering some perspectives on engaging in dialogue. Before you read ahead, I wanted to share some of my own experiences with difficult dialogue. I hope my openness and vulnerability encourage you to be as well. I used to strongly dislike any conversation that I thought had the potential to make me uncomfortable or anxious. As a young person, I did not learn any helpful strategies for communicating in a healthy and productive way that dissuaded me from running away from difficult dialogue. As such, I did not put myself in situations where I could practice articulating my stance and doing so without creating or accepting harm, as well as preserving a relationship or connection. At a really helpful turning point for me in early adulthood, I begin excavating the why around avoidance and at the core of the issue was fear of not being enough or being accepted and a fragile ego. So often we enter conversations with an idea of how the other person or people will react or engage – ultimately clouding the encounter.
Over the past two decades, I have worked diligently to continue practicing leaning all the way in to what may not feel so great and striving for a healthy and productive interaction. What’s your typical response when a conversation feels uncomfortable or difficult to you? I encourage you to take some time to think about it, especially before your next connection with a friend, loved one, peer, or colleague.
You are worth regular, healthy dialogue. Keep shining, Stars!
Talia Carroll, Ph.D. (she/her) Vice President for Diversity, Equity, & Inclusion
DIVERSITY EQUITY INCLUSIVITY RESPECT LEARNING COMMUNITY JUSTICE
MISSION To work collaboratively with campus partners, alumni, and friends of Oklahoma City University to advance diversity, equity, inclusion, and justice through policy, education, and strategic initiatives that advance our university’s mission.
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