From the Vice President

Dear Stars,

In this issue, we’re offering some perspectives on engaging in dialogue. Before you read ahead, I wanted to share some of my own experiences with difficult dialogue. I hope my openness and vulnerability encourage you to be as well.

I used to strongly dislike any conversation that I thought had the potential to make me uncomfortable or anxious. As a young person, I did not learn any helpful strategies for communicating in a healthy and productive way that dissuaded me from running away from difficult dialogue. As such, I did not put myself in situations where I could practice articulating my stance and doing so without creating or accepting harm, as well as preserving a relationship or connection.

At a really helpful turning point for me in early adulthood, I begin excavating the why around avoidance and at the core of the issue was fear of not being enough or being accepted and a fragile ego. So often we enter conversations with an idea of how the other person or people will react or engage – ultimately clouding the encounter.

Over the past two decades, I have worked diligently to continue practicing leaning all the way in to what may not feel so great and striving for a healthy and productive interaction.

What’s your typical response when a conversation feels uncomfortable or difficult to you? I encourage you to take some time to think about it, especially before your next connection with a friend, loved one, peer, or colleague.

You are worth regular, healthy dialogue.

Keep shining, Stars!