One Tribe Magazine – January 2019 – Issue 16

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The definitive style magazine for

MIND

BODY

and

SOUL

Join the world’s most inspirational creative writers living their lives authentically

Wherever YOU are in the world, this is YOUR TRIBE, we together are ONE TRIBE. Featuring: That

Was The Year That Was Kenny Ball Free The Nipple Bianca Spears Self Love 101 Isik Tlabar How I Overcame Depression In A Day And Became Free Preparing Your Vortex For Living Your Best Year Yet Vanessa Louise Moore 12 Prompts To Feel Instantly Fulfilled And Alive Jessica Cleverley Do This Before You Leap Into 2019 Amanda Bellia Wish I May Wish I Might Christine Saunders What Men Wish Women Knew About Men Samareh Rahnavardi I Am Shy Before, I Am Confident Winnie Mabena Why The Need For An Instant Gratification Is Killing Your Success Juliette Stapleton Believe You Deserve Universe Will Serve Neena Kaur The Art Of Love Is So Simple Yet We’ve Made It So Complex Samantha Caroline Lavallée 3 keys To creating An Extraordinary 2019 Theodore Treveil Just Before Midnight Andy Ferguson Free Choice Of Energy Jennifer Thorp Joanna Intara

Saying it and preaching it while hiding wouldn’t be living in alignment with my values. rs Bianca Spea

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Our cover features the amazing Bianca Spears (above), a highly respected Author and Empowerment Coach from Australia. You can read Bianca’s insightful article ‘Free The Nipple” on page 6 – One Tribe Magazine will transform the way you see yourself and the world around you.

So, get ready to LOVE YOUR LIFE, as our creative writers share fresh perspectives, inspiring stories and simple, easy-to-follow steps that will help you through life’s many challenges.

We would like to thank our fabulous creative writers for their amazing insights and you, our wonderful readers for your continued support over these 16 issues. Have a fabulous month and remember to share the love and live your life in glorious technicolour. – Kenny Ball (Editor and Creative Director) (Please note our writers are from all over the globe where there are variations in English dialect, to preserve authenticity we have retained these variations throughout the magazine). Photos and text are Copyright to the respective authors and OTM. © 2019 One Tribe Magazine | OneTribeMagazine.com | OneTribe.Media

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Contents One Soul Tribe

Love

World Self

That Was The Year, That Was Kenny Ball | 04 Free The Nipple Bianca Spears | 06 Self Love 101 Isik Tlabar | 14 How I Overcame Depression In A Day And Became Free Joanna Intara | 16 Preparing Your Vortex For Living Your Best Year Yet Vanessa Louise Moore | 18 12 Prompts To Feel Instantly Fulfilled And Alive Jessica Cleverley | 20 Do This Before You Leap Into 2019 Amanda Bellia | 22 Wish I May Wish I Might Christine Saunders | 24 What Men Wish Women Knew About Men Samareh Rahnavardi | 26 I Am Shy Before, I Am Confident Winnie Mabena | 28 Why The Need For An Instant Gratification Is Killing Your Success Juliette Stapleton | 32 Believe You Deserve Universe Will Serve Neena Kaur | 34 The Art Of Love Is So Simple Yet We’ve Made It So Complex Samantha Caroline Lavallée | 36 3 keys To creating An Extraordinary 2019 Theodore Treveil | 40 Just Before Midnight Andy Ferguson | 42 Free Choice Of Energy Jennifer Thorp | 44

New Year New You MA GAZINE

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MA GAZINE Wherever you are in the world, this is YOUR TRIBE, we together are ONE TRIBE. Kenny Ball | Editor & Creative Director

That was the year, that was.

always seeking answers on the far side of complexity but ignoring that the answer lies on the near side of simplicity.

So for me in 2019, my intention is not to complicate life, but move forward, take regular action, and most of all keep it simple. Remember complexity leads to procrastination.

As we enter a new year and reflect on the past one, what lessons can we carry forward to help us live authentically every day?

For myself, it’s been a year of mixed emotions from great sadness after losing my dear mum at the end of January 2018, to great joy in seeing my children grow into the remarkable independent human beings they are today.

I have also come to realise that the choice is within us all to become whatever we want to be and that there is no final destination, but with a lifelong pursuit of personal development, you can live a life of wonder and absolute amazement.

Publishing this magazine over the last year has allowed me to meet up with

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some fabulous souls both virtually and inperson who have all been instrumental in moving One Tribe forward in 2018. Thank you to all and every one of you.

I am so humbled to be in this position of trust to deliver such powerful life-affirming messages to the world through the global phenomenon that is One Tribe Magazine.

No doubt you may have been like me,

So at the end of my days when I’m looking back and saying, ‘that was my life, that was’, I can smile in contentment and be at peace with myself as having lived the most joyful, rewarding and fulfilled life I could with the resources to hand.

The One Tribe team wish you a Happy New Year and all the very best for 2019.

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The Unveil Experience is all about being witnessed in your vulnerability and absolute beauty in communion with nature, discovering the depth of self worth and love you have within you.

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Playing in the waves and dancing in the setting sun, natural, the way I was born felt right, it felt natural.

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FREE the nipple Remove the taboo that we place on women’s nipples Bianca Spears | Empowerment Coach & Author Early in my pregnancy, I held back in sharing any bump photos on social media or even with family. I’d barely even taken any because I felt a bit weird with the changes going on in my body. My bump looked a little like a gut at times, and perhaps even, as my dad had joked, looked like I’d “had a few too many beers”. I think that proportions played a huge role in that; at five weeks pregnant, I was bursting from my bra and at seven weeks I had gone up 2.5 cups from a D to buying an E and and F bra (because the E was not going to last long)!

I was suddenly back at the bra size I’d been was when I was sixteen, my emotions and mind re-entering that time and place where shirts hung awkwardly off my chest like some kind of verandah to my body below, where I had to go into the fugly-granny-bra section or spend a fortune on nice lingerie, where I could not buy matching bikinis, I had to find separates.

Back then, I was known (of the two Biancas at school) as “the one with the big boobs”. The boys loved to watch me sprint on sports day, and not because I was quick, but because of the Baywatchlike bounce that occurred when I ran down the track. My friends laughed when I stood above lights in the pavements, because my face was fully shadowed while theirs looked like they had a torch shining up on it from below.

change and fluctuate with weight and pregnancy etc. throughout my life. I knew that I was young and that I had not finished growing, and I actually did grow another cup size or two after the surgery.

It was interesting to notice how fourteen years later, as a pregnant 30 year old adult, the mindset and habits of the teenage me crept back in. I was right back there with the frequent awkwardness of choosing what to wear and the tendency to try to hide them; this time, taking comfort in knowing that I could kind of “blame” the size of them on the pregnancy, that they would not be defined by others as a part of the “normal” me.

Don’t get me wrong, I was confident and definitely not tormented or traumatised by this, but it was an identity I wanted to get away from. I did not want me or my life to be defined by my breasts.

I remember talking to my Mum and her friend about the idea of getting a breast reduction one day, in what seemed to be casual conversation. I didn’t think at the time that anything would come from it, though just a few weeks later, we were at the surgeon’s having a consultation. I made the decision and had the reduction within six months of that, knowing that they are breasts – they would grow and

As confident as someone may be, we can all have hang-ups about little things, and those little things can consume our time, thoughts and energy. They can hold us back from doing what we want to do and being who we want to be.

A few months further into the pregnancy, there I was, naked on a beach in Melbourne, with photographer Vienna Chiron snapping her shutter on the rawness and realness of me in my skin.

The body that had stretched and grown as it grew a new human within it, the scars, the lumps, the bumps, the little hairs standing on end in the cold... it was all on display, and I felt so free.

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Playing in the waves and dancing in the setting sun, natural, the way I was born felt right, it felt natural. The shots that Vienna captured were truly gorgeous, I was in love with them...but then, when I thought about sharing them, the stories of our culture crept into my mind: “I shouldn’t share them, it’s wrong to share them, my Dad and uncles, my friends and people I didn’t even know should not see them. They don’t want to see them.

What would my Dad think? What would my partner think? I should be ashamed!”

I felt confused. Were these thoughts and beliefs were mine or whether they were borrowed from society? If I believed them, why? and did I need to believe them? The thought process continued: well maybe if I cropped the images so it’s not showing any bits it’d be OK, maybe if I darkened the silhouette and you couldn’t see the outline/colour of my nipple it’d be OK…so basically if I hid, it’d be OK, acceptable, shareable, understood, accepted. Thankfully Vienna, who doesn’t airbrush her images and only edits to bring the colours and clarity back to what was originally there in the moment, wasn’t going to be part of that.

She told me in no uncertain terms that if I was going to edit or filter the images, “don’t tag me”. I got that message loud and clear. I totally understood that it would misrepresent the very nature of her work and the Unveil Experience, which is all about being witnessed in your vulnerability and absolute beauty in communion with nature, discovering the depth of self worth and love you have within you. In fact, I’d be undermining the

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very reason I wanted to work with her in the first place.

I sat in this uncomfortable, undecided limbo for a bit, during which I read a post

by Vienna about the ban that Instagram has on female nipples, and that one of her posts (which showed only a sliver of a woman’s nipple) had been removed.

She called to the audience to “Free the Nipple” and remove the taboo that we place on women’s nipples, while men’s are obviously fine to be shown in public.

It got me asking myself: Why are men’s nipples G-rated and somewhat familyfriendly, while women’s breasts, despite being the bearers of the rich milk that gave us sustenance as babies, are considered X-rated in media? I totally agreed that women’s and men’s nipples should be considered equal as far as exposure goes. I agreed with every cell in my body, yet I felt dread in my gut, knowing what that meant for me. If I believed that, saying it was not enough.

Saying it and preaching it while hiding wouldn’t be living in alignment with my values. Saying it wasn’t enough to lead the way and to create actual change within myself or the world.

When we hide, we are playing into fear, and as a human, as a woman, as a leader and a Mum, I choose to live bigger than that.

Keep up to date with Bianca at: www.biancaspears.com

A few months further into the pregnancy, there I was, naked on a beach in Melbourne, with photographer Vienna Chiron snapping her shutter on the rawness and realness of me in my skin.

Photographer - Vienna Chiron

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We owe our children – the most vulnerable citizens in any society – a life free from violence and fear. Nelson Mandela

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SELF LOVE1 Isik Tlabar | Transformational Coach, Writer. Workshop Leader.

Self love is one of the hardest things I find. The more I do breathwork journeys, workshops and sessions, the more I see I’m not alone in feeling this way.

Self love is not just taking baths, getting a massage etc. It’s also about going into your darkness, accepting and loving those parts of yourself you don’t want anyone to find out.

You might feel you don’t deserve to be cared for so you don’t do it for yourself when you do it so generously for others.

You might feel seperate and lonely so you seperate yourself even more by abandoning yourself. You might feel you deserve good things only as a reward when you earned it. Or you might feel self-love is a weird narcissistic thing where you feel awkward to love yourself.

Growing up, maybe you believed there was something wrong with you, maybe you felt you’ve done something bad and you don’t want anyone to find out. So you carry a shame keeping people at an arm’s length distance so they don’t find out. If they find out, they might shame you, reject you or abandon you.

I have felt and done all the above. I still do them from time to time and continue to work on them.

You’re not black or white. There are many sides to you. Sometimes you’re feisty, dark and sexual. Sometimes you’re loving, soft and giving. Accepting them as a part of you takes the power out of it.

When you do so, it stops showing up so strongly because you listened and payed attention to it. It was a part of you just wanted to be heard and seen.

Growing up, I believed anger was a bad emotion and I felt guilt and shame

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whenever I felt it, especially towards people I loved. Now I see, anger when integrated, coming from a higher place, is actually power and strength. It shows you where your boundaries are and what you care about.

There are always two sides to things.

Our pain becomes our greatest strength when we see the lesson, forgive and let go of the story. Our shame becomes compassion. Our fear becomes courage.

Our grief becomes freedom.

Here are few steps to accept and love parts of you you might struggle to accept and love: • Close your eyes and take a deep breath.

• Take 4 more deep breaths.

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• Ask, “What do you need?” (Maybe just needs to be acknowledged and to be listened) • Give them what they need.

• Tell that part of you, “I love you and accept you.” and imagine you hug that part as it integrates to your body.

When you have your internal love and validation, any external love and validation would be extra, not a necessity.

You receive love and validation when you let go of the need for it.

Master this and practical side of what to do to cultivate self-love such as alone time, bath, movement etc is actually easy. My next post is about that.

Sending you love.

• Go on then, one more.

• Ask, “What part of me I feel I can’t show to people?”

• Imagine that part of you infront of you

Keep up to date with Isik at: www.isiktlabar.com

You receive love and validation when you let go of the need for it.

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How I Overcame

Depression In A Day And Became Free.

Joanna Intara | Medicine Woman for the Soul

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And it can be way easier than you might think.

When I was 27 years old I carried the weight of the world on my shoulders.

I was in $100,000 of student loan debt from graduate school, had cut off ties with my very toxic blood family, and knee deep in difficult relationship work with my boyfriend at the time.

It was SO hard I barely slept, ate and felt frantic as adrenaline pumped through my veins at night worried about all that I had to do, be and overcome.

Eventually I became quite depressed.

Lethargic. Hopeless. So sad.

So much of my time and energy was spent fighting my soul gouging grief, my moping around melancholy, and the doomsday dread that lived on in my heart and body relentlessly.

At times, I had suicidal thoughts.

And one day, I just couldn’t take it anymore.

I’d come home from a client who was political refugee who had endured torture. I was extremely triggered and my supervisor wasn’t available until two days later on vacation.

I painted black lipstick on with heavy black make-up, and all black clothes.

Lit black candles.

Said all the things my super depressed self wanted to say, but had been holding back.

And the topper, a little chocolate black cake to load the sugar on, because why not.

I lit the burgundy red candle, took a breath, made a wish, and blew it out.

My boyfriend and I had got in a huge fight.

And then, the cackles of laughter came.

And my best friend tried to help me by being rational, but the advice sucked in the face of all that I was dealing with.

For at least a half hour.

I sat down, head in the palms of my hard-working hands, and cried big, hot, sobbing tears, and just gave up.

I walked around the apartment, pointing sweet fun at myself and what I’d done during the day.

The fight hurt too much and I knew it was time to do something radical, but what could help me?

And felt completely healed. (I had been diagnosed with a form of depression), as everything shifted.

So, I decided to throw a depression party.

What worked?

Fuck it. If I couldn’t beat the depression, I’d live it up fully.

And wouldn’t stop.

I mean ROFL, kind of laughter.

I could say it was all the therapy, the exercise, the inventories of all things in my life that needed help and support.

So, for an entire day, I cleared my schedule.

Or the friends that loved me.

I drew the curtains back.

But ultimately, it was me, that resolved to feel it all, surrender to the fullness of what was there, and not try to get out of it, but go through it thoroughly.

And turned on really dark, moody music.

Danced a dorky depression dumps dance.

Or the therapist that supported me.

And to this day, going after my shadows like this has resulted in one liberation after another.

So, if you’re going through a rough passage right now, an anxiety or depression that seems to never end, If you’re struggling and losing hope and wonder about the benefits of going all in to face all that you know is inside of you, Keep going.

And, get your support team lined up, who actually have the skills, resources and training to help you pull through.

And if you want it to be fun, easier than traditional methods offer, and effective, I’d love to hear what you’re going through and support you because I know that I can completely help you transform.

The days of doing this all alone, or sitting in empty discontent, depression and a stifled life are over.

And if you’re seeing yourself in the shoes of the women and men who have triumphed, who have chosen to rise above depression, anxiety, or any other kind of life-sucking soul loss, consider this your sign to move ahead.

Keep up to date with Joanna at: www.besoulfulfilled.com

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Preparing your

VORTEX for living your best year yet.

Vanessa Louise Moore | Transformational Mentor & Speaker.

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”We want you to be inside the vortex where you feel secure and confident and expectant of good things coming to you” - Abraham Hicks People say to me often, “You’re always so jolly Vanessa, you’re so enthusiastic, optimistic, happy and positive. You see the beauty and the best in people and circumstances”.

I feel touched to think that others see me this way and then I think, ‘hold on Vanessa, you make a conscious choice to be all these things as best you can, because you realise: ‘what’s the alternative’.

I have spent too much of my life living in a place of fear and shame and for most of it, not really understanding why or how I got there.

I believe ‘I know what I want because I know what I don’t want’. I have made some of my most profound choices from a place of contrast and because of knowing what I don’t want.

It’s only when we’ve experienced pain, trauma and struggle of any kind, can we determine whether it will continue to be a place we choose to live or not. The greatest problem I find we have as a human race, is that we don’t believe we are the powerful and magical creators that we are. We believe we are mere mortals living in a physical body and a physical world.

So once we’ve decided pain and struggle is no longer a place we want to live, how do we begin to change it and create a life we do want, full of all the things and people we love?

A few years ago, I sat down and made a list of all the things I wanted to see in my life. Everything from colours in nature to wanting to feel love, harmony and peace. From fun, laughter, hugs and smiles to the experiences of travel and places I wanted to see. I wrote down any thoughts, words and feelings that made me feel good.

I created affirmations from my list and more importantly I created a visual for me to look at everyday to remind me.

I found in a short amount of time, I’d created the space around me that attracted to me all these things on my

list. Before long I was aware of how good I felt. My energy levels rose, and I gained clarity in my thought process.

The transformation occurring across all areas of my life showing up in my health, wealth, relationships and overall happiness, all because I raised my vibration to one of love and focused of what I did want to see in my life.

I called this space ‘My Vortex’. A vortex being: a mass of air or water the spins around very fast and pulls objects into its empty centre.

Imagine a whirlwind around you as you stand strong and centred and all the circulates you is your heart’s desire. This is your vortex and it’s up to you what you fill it with. That is what you will then experience in your life.

Focus on all that you do want and what you love, to bring it into your vortex and you will feel strong, energised and joyous. Focus on what you don’t want and that will be what you bring into your vortex and experience in your life, and you will feel tired, frustrated, angry and your health will suffer as a result. The choice is yours.

Where I find many people struggle is they begin the process of choosing what they do want but because it doesn’t show up immediately or in the way they imagined, they stop consciously choosing and revert back to old habitual ways of thinking and lose faith in their vortex.

I’ve come to learn that it’s the preparation of our vortex that is the fundamental key to attracting all we want and love to us and that we are constantly preparing our vortex daily as we are continue choosing each day.

Our work on attraction is never done because the moment we stop consciously choosing what we do want and love, our default as human beings is to focus on what we don’t want and what we fear, which will create a vortex of exactly what we focus on.

importantly, how you want to feel. Make a list to then create a visual by adding images so you have something to focus on daily. Remember, just like planting seeds in the ground, there is a gestation period for manifesting your desires.

Nurture yourself and your list daily while focusing your attention on filling your vortex with your wants and desires. It’s the simplest way to attract to you, all you desire to create your best year yet.

Keep up to date with Vanessa at: www.trustvanessa.com

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Jessica is a passionate traveller and writer, inspiring you to see the world with fresh eyes. Fusing her playful spirit with the deep well her creativity stems, she interweaves raw experiences with poetic story telling, lifting readers into higher states of being.

She is currently writing her memoir, The Unravelling Journey, spanning seven continents and the expansive journey into inner space.

You can support her journey here in exchange for the unique rewards she gives with deep gratitude: www.patreon.com/theunravellingjourney

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12 prompts to feel

instantly

fulfilled and alive Did I mention they’re free, easy and effective?

Jessica Cleverley | Word Wizard at The Unravelling Journey 1. GRATITUDE: subconsciously switches your focus from lack to abundance, and makes you more aware of all the blessings in your life. What are you grateful for? Start your day by asking yourself this question.

2. MUSIC: is one of the most powerful ways we can raise our vibration, because our ego doesn’t try to fight it. Our mind simply melts into melodies as sonic tonics lift us into higher states of being and carry us away on waves of sound.

3. LAUGHTER: relieves physical tension, relaxes muscles, boosts our immune systems... and sometimes gives us an ab workout too!

4. MOVEMENT: Sometimes we don’t have words for the bundled-up-messof-emotional-energy stagnating within us. That’s okay. Let it move. Let it flow.

Dance, shake, stretch, run. Feel the rush of dopamine and serotonin enliven every cell.

5. THREE DEEP BREATHS: Our parasympathetic (rest and digest) and sympathetic (fight and flight) nervous systems cannot operate at the same time. Three, deep belly breaths kick our sympathetic nervous system (and any anxiety) in the gut and allows us to relax, s l o w d o w n and be.

6. SELF AWARENESS: Once we see we have a choice to change, we can no longer neglect the responsibility of

transforming our lives and transcending our own suffering. Train your brain to dance in the rain, and remember the beauty of the rainbow.

7. THE OCEAN AND THE STARS: Nature therapy makes us feel a part of something much bigger than ourselves.

Our sense of purpose is what makes us feel alive.

8. ACKNOWLEDGE. FEEL. RELEASE. “The dark days will still come. Let them.

Acknowledge what’s there. Allow yourself to feel it. Then let it go. Let it come, and let it go.” - some of the greatest advice I’ve ever been given, from my shaman and friend, Lesley Myburgh, after a San Pedro Cactus ceremony that transformed my entire perspective of a highly medicated, seven year depression and allowed me to begin my healing journey.

By consciously acknowledging what’s there for us, we can then consciously let it go. You gotta feel it, to deal with it, then heal it.

9. HEALTHY FOOD, HEALTHY MIND: Between 2007 and 2011 I was hospitalized six times for extended periods of time. Two of these fell on my birthdays. Twice, I was admitted to a psychiatric hospital with concerns for my mental health. The head chef at said hospital wrote a book titled “Healthy food, healthy mind” and took great joy serving us delicious, nutritious meals each day.

10. HEALTHY INNER DIALOGUE: Are you familiar with Dr Emoto’s research on the molecular structure of water when subjected to the energy of different intentions and prayers? Basically, good intentions created crystalline water molecules. Bad intentions distorted the structure. We are 60% water. Creating a healthy inner dialogue is key. Every day, meet your own reflection and affirm the life you want to live.

11. THE MISSING PIECE IS YOU: It’s your will to change. It doesn’t matter how much love and support you get, if you don’t want to help yourself, nothing will. The good news is you can make the decision right now, this very minute, to be an ally to yourself and learn to love yourself unconditionally. I know it’s in you.

You wouldn’t be reading this if it weren’t.

12. DECISION IS THE FIRST STEP. ACTION IS STEP TWO. Use these three questions to guide you when you feel out of alignment with your full potential. Make adjustments accordingly.

What am I putting into my body?

What am I doing with my body?

What am I saying to my body?

You can join Jessica’s travels at: www.patreon.com/ theunravellingjourney

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Do this before you leap into

2019 Amanda Bellia | Founder of Change the Way you Age Wellness Practitioner and Healthy Ageing Expert

Before you jump fearlessly or fearfully into 2019 armed with your new goals, your intentions or just your hopes of a better year or an even more amazing year than the one you have just had. Before you take that leap forward full of enthusiasm, positivity and determination or maybe dread, anxiety and trepidation…STOP FOR A MOMENT!! However much you are excited to move into a new year, whether it’s because you are eager to start something new, or because you cannot wait to see the back of the old one…. if you want to make 2019 one of your best years, hold fire until you read this.

Whilst looking forward is what we need to be doing, taking some time to reflect back on the past 12 months can be extremely valuable and potentially cathartic. It will enable you to move into a new year with a renewed outlook, a greater self-awareness and a heightened sense of wellbeing and freedom from limitations. By reflecting we give ourselves the opportunity to take heed of any learnings which we may have ordinarily brushed over, missed or not taken any notice of. It can help us to let go of negative emotions and release inner tensions which can hinder and even halt us when we try to get going.

Life is all about learning and growing.

This comes from our life experiences and how we are in them, how we feel about things that have happened and how we acted in these situations or experiences is our key to understanding ourselves better. Everything we experience moulds

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and shapes us and can either move us forward with great gusto or hold us back, stunting our growth and limiting our potential. The reason for the latter tends to be because we haven’t acknowledged and dealt with some underlying negativity and burying it just won’t cut it. It will find its way out. This is when you tend to find yourself repeating the same mistakes or unable to achieve your goals or desires.

When doing this exercise, take time to reflect on main events or situations that happened and be truthful about how you felt about them and how you still feel about them. We often brush a lot of feelings under the carpet. This won’t make it go away, it will stay there and fester until one day something triggers it and the rug gets pulled back and there it

all is, probably bigger than it was before.

And you don’t want to be carrying this into your new year. This is the time to uncover those emotions and let them out.

It is very normal to cry when doing this, but crying is good. The relief you will feel after will be amazing.

Whilst we tend to focus more on the negative things, it is important to spend time reflecting on all the positive things, however small they might have been.

Finding joy and happiness can be in the smallest of things and in the smallest of ways. By carrying underlying and undealt with negative emotions, you may not be able to truly embrace the times when there has been great joy and happiness in your life. Joy and happiness are what we all deserve so big up all those small things, remind yourself what made you truly happy and the decisions you made which you know felt so right.

I have been doing this for a few years now and from my experience, as you start reflecting back, if you think you have had a bad year, you may actually find more positive things happened than you thought and your perspective on the year is completely different. It also gives you a beautiful journal of the year to keep, which you may look back on in time and realise that it was one of the best years you have had.

Here are your 8 steps to get you ready for a fantastic 2019.

1. Find a quiet place where you won’t be disturbed. If you wish you can play some meditation or relaxation music in the background.

2. Prepare yourself with a notebook or journal, a pen and a large glass of water.

3. Spend 10 mins closing your eyes and focus on your breathing. Aim to clear your mind pushing away all current thoughts as much as possible.

4. For the next 10 mins, take yourself back to the beginning of the year and start to remember all the things that happened, things that you did, things you achieved, things that made you happy or sad, new people you may have met, new friendships or relationships formed or ended. Just taking this time with your eyes closed will help light up your memory bank.

5. Open your eyes and start writing about all the good things that happened.

Don’t worry if it’s not in order of how the year happened, however try and work through the year from the beginning as much as you can. Write about what you got from an experience, what did you achieve or accomplish, how have you changed or grown from it? What made it happen, was it something of your own doing or something someone did for you?

6. Now start writing the things that had a big impact on you, were challenging, or difficult to deal with. Was there one big thing or was it a lot of small things that happened? How did you feel, how are you feeling about it now? What are the emotions you are feeling? You may find that you start to feel overwhelmed with emotions at this stage. Let them out, let yourself cry or be sad. Close your eyes and imagine another you wrapping their arms around you and telling you it is ok to feel how you feel and that you will feel so much better very soon.

7. When finished, read back what you have written. Look for any patterns of behaviour or habits or emotions and reflect on these. How do you think you have grown this year, what are you more aware of? What do you think you have learnt?

8. Now close your journal or notepad, close your eyes once more for 10 mins.

Take some gentle breaths and say “Thank you for this year which has now passed and which has helped me to learn and grow, I appreciate and value everything that has happened as I know it is all part of my wonderful life. I trust that when life brings me sadness or something challenging, I always get through it. I am in control of my life, my thoughts, my emotions and life will be what I want it to be” Then jump headfirst into 2019…. And enjoy!

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Wish I may

WISH I MIGHT Christine Saunders l Empowerment Coach-, Wholehearted Life

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Remember when you were young, and you wanted something in the worst way? When I was little I used to wish for things such as, a wish on a star, a wish on a cloud, a wish for the first butterfly in spring. I was told “don’t tell anyone or it will not come true… umm confession I always told people (ahaha). Did I get everything I wished for? Nope, and what I now know is I was simply setting my intention, sending the energy out to the universe and waiting for some sort of “magic” to happen. Was it magic?

Or luck? When I was younger, I only understood I am wishing for something. I had no idea there was a bit more to it.

ACCEPTING RETURN ENERGY

Let’s chunk down these so-called wishes or luck, I mean that is my “go to” strategy. Before I start, I want to be clear, it is not either luck nor wish…it is energy that we posess, give out, and receive back. Ok, no more delay.

Along with an open mindset we must be open to recognizing opportunities as they manifest themselves. It is also equally important in accepting the opportunity and even more critical, knowing you are worthy of the opportunity presenting itself to you. Wait, worthy? Yes, I said worthy. Here it comes…the times we sabotage things presented to us as returned energy because we think they are “too good to be true”. Or “oh gosh I can’t accept that” or even worse “I don’t deserve that”. Let’s face it, we all have done that and then kicked ourselves for doing so. Sabotaging really are those limiting beliefs we all have that keep us stuck. Smashing these limiting beliefs and replacing them with empowering ones are the key to success. In our journey we are all worthy of wellbeing, happiness, and love.

SETTING YOUR ENERGY INTENTION

Ok so how do I know this to be true?

Setting your intention and releasing your energy is key. I mean you could in fact send energy out in the universe in a confusing uncertain way, or you could be very clear in setting your intention.

I am not saying it must be dialed in to the smallest detail, it makes it to complicated. Knowing your “why” or “purpose” is very helpful. Knowing your “why” or “purpose” aids in keeping us grounded and focused on the end game.

I am delighted to share my experience on this with you

RECOGNIZING RETURNED ENERGY There is no secret formula for a turnaround time. It is not like you are going to sleep and in 8 hours the universe matches your energy. There is a recognition of the energy that is returned to us. We must be open to all kinds of returned energy. It might not be the ideal thing that you have envisioned, it may only be a step to the end direction. So, having the ability to see opportunities relies on having an open mindset. Are you asking, “what does an open mindset mean?” Having an open mindset is simply the meaning we place on things that are presented to us. We could view them as things happening “to” us, as most of us do or we could shift our thinking a bit and say things are happening “for” us. Just that little shift in thinking creates room for opportunities.

I was finding myself challenged to share my content and experience with a wider audience. All I wanted to do was ease suffering for others by telling my story, share strategies to change mindset and let them know they were not alone. I did some very focused thinking about ways I could share these strategies with others. So, I decided I needed to send that energy out into the universe. I sat in my backyard, meditated and prayed for a platform to share my knowledge and ease suffering.

It was literally 2 days later that I was contacted by an owner of a radio station to join him and share my content. I was to begin with 30 minutes every week on his radio! I literally said out loud to the producer, “I am not a radio personality” he laughed and said, “you will be great!”

This was the universe providing me with a platform. Did I expect this? I can say in that moment no way! I was able to recognize this as a once in a lifetime “too good to be true” type of opportunity.

Being grounded in my “why” or mission of easing suffering for people whenever I can, made it easier to be open to this opportunity. Now today that opportunity has given me a space to help others navigate their own story of inspiration

and provide a platform for them to share.

Everyone has a story, and their story matters. This is my platform to provide opportunities for others.

The universe provides, set your intensions, remain grounded, and open your WholeHeart to the opportunities when they manifest for you. Oh, and when you make a wish… tell everyone!!!!

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What Men Wish Women Knew About Men Samareh Rahnavardi | Human Behavior Specialist. International Speaker. Life & Success Coach Growing up being surrounded by guys’ was not easy at times, but for sure it had its portions of blessings in my life and it’s been giving me the wisdom and information to do all that I am doing today.

As a little girl of four years of age up until the age of nine I literally had no friends that were girls and was always playing with other six little boys and we were the cool gang in our neighbourhood and my journey of competing for power and equanimity and fighting for gender equality started from such a young age and early time of my life.

That led me to get to know men and their way of thinking as a child and as an adult, which with laughter I would say both is kind of the same thing. All that made me mostly be friends with guys and made it all easier to understand them and create great friendship with them. One of these amazing men who ended up being a great friend, turned into a boyfriend, then my fiancé and my husband eventually.

But then life had its own mysterious plans and when I was going through my divorce after ten years of marriage I often thought it was so unfair as my best friend/husband was turning to an ex and the idea of not having him in my life frightened me so much that I had to remember to use all my knowledge, wisdom and understanding to make sure we kept our friendship and would be able to co-parent our beautiful daughter together. I just didn’t want any conflict.

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that they also get upset when they don’t get a reply to their messages or they also feel insecure and sensitive when they feel there is a competition and so on, but they just have a different way of expressing it all. Mostly men withdraw while us women may throw a tantrum or express with emotions, it is just a difference in our nature that men and us women behave differently, so please ladies let’s give the guys a break and stop accusing them of being emotionless beings!

So I thought if we could once be best friends once we could be that for second time too. Even though I didn’t recognize and realize at the time that the universe had a different plan for me by all that was happening, something deep down said “you know what to do, use your own wisdom and just keep the peace and the friendship”. Today I know exactly why it all happened. I can prove my points as I am living them today and I could help other women to empower themselves by understanding men in their interactions of all forms. Either professional, romantic, friendship or family and be able to create fulfilling short or long-term relationships together.

There is so much that I can explain and write here, but for now I’m just going to share with you three important secrets of what men wish all women knew.

1) Men have emotions too, they just show and express it differently.

I think it is just not fare how we women put men in a box and say they don’t have emotions, often my guy friends told me

2) Men need to pull away at times, they need their alone times.

Often when consulting with my lady clients I hear them complaining about their man keeping quiet for a few days or how he pulls away a bit and how it makes them feel insecure or uncomfiortable, but I am here to tell you differently my ladies.

To be honest when men pull away is actually a positive thing, Because they are re-energizing and if you don’t allow them to do so, it will back fire at you.

Sometimes when men get so close with their emotions suddenly they kind of freak out and they just pull back a little bit to gain their balance and sense of power, it has nothing to do with you or whether they like you or not! Men need to go to their cave now and then, either alone or with their guy friends and this actually re-energize them and they come back around enthusiastic with more of a positive attitude, but of course if you accept them and do not punish them for it. They are just wired differently and they act more like an elastic band, when they

pull away they come back strongly, the less they are able to pull away the more they lose enthusiasm and they get bored.

You must make sure to create such a life for yourself full of fun and interest that when they not around, your happiness and fulfilment won’t get affect ted and yet in fact you are almost happy to give them that space because you also need it for yourself and so when they come around you are both happy to re-bond.

3) He wants to be the only hero in your eyes.

age, skin colour or background would love to be loved and appreciated for who they are just the way they are, who wouldn’t wish for unconditional love or acceptance. That one thing makes us all human regardless of our gender. Well after all love is the language, that every heart speaks.

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I am going to say it and I know it is the truth as I have done my research on this one and every single man I asked said the same thing and yet they all said “but promise you don’t mention my name on this one’ and so I didn’t.

Here is the truth, no matter how long you have been together, a day or a decade or more, he wants you to always remind him, yourself and others that he is your number one hero.

Men are so competitive, whether they confess it to you or not, they love to know and believe that you truly think he is your saviour and the champion knight of your story.

So I suggest if you truly care about him and love him dearly, remember to now and then show your appreciation and gratitude for his hard work towards creating success and bringing smiles on your lips. Believe me men know it very well when they are being an asshole, so they don’t need you to keep reminding them of it, but they do need you to acknowledge their good deeds, that is just how they are. Of course everybody loves to hear some “thank you” or words of appreciation, but men kind of need to hear it more than women do, believe me they rather be appreciated and then be loved which is opposite women’s need of being loved first and then be appreciated second. It is just a different behavioural pattern and understanding.

Well I hope the tips I have mentioned can expand your awareness in your interaction with men and help you understand their nature more, which is quite different to us as women. But it is wise to remember that at the end of the day, either men or women, regardless of

To be honest when men pull away is actually a positive thing, Because they are re-energizing and if you don’t allow them to do so, it will back fire at you.

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Live your life positively and be authentic.

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I am shy before

I AM CONFIDENT Winnie Mabena | Author and Founder of The Knowledge Effect

When you go public with a part of yourself, your purpose and passion, the world is left to think you are a giant. Yeah, you may be a giant, but sometimes it takes a little effort to get to the stage and be that same giant.

You can only do this when you have accepted the now, what’s going on, and choose your path of light. Ask yourself, should I embrace this feeling or emotion or should I identify it with something to let go?

The world will not think of how many times you tried and practised your presentation before they say “job well done”, “you spoke so well”. They barely realise that you had to change your clothes sometimes five times before they say “you look good”.

You have the power to make a decision.

There is a difference between how we act behind the closed door and how we act in public.

Sometimes you have to write and delete your message up six times before it goes public to bless the intended recipient.

Quite often, we say to ourselves, I know my idea is awesome but I need a second opinion so I can retouch it with courage as I bring it on to the stage.

Sometimes you have to stay quiet and listen more, not because you have nothing to say, but because you are wondering if the audience is ready to understand your definition of truth and the flow of your emotions as you express yourself.

It gets worse to find yourself alone with no one to give you a second thought and criticise your concepts, of course, it’s an invitation to positive criticism that we all need!

Sometimes you have to speak from a corner, not because you cannot get to the stage, but because you need your balance at the corner where there is a wall to lean on.

Sometimes you have to fail your mathematics exam because your calculations to the cost of becoming were not accurate, a financial crisis hits you instead, thus before the world can ask, “how did you do it?”

We all have the background efforts that we sometimes question how will it be, what will come out of this, how do I do it right and effectively? We ask this because we know we don’t just live, but we are intentional about everything we set our eyes on.

A lot of this mostly led us to underestimate our potential and misrepresent ourselves as our vibe and confidence maybe slightly shaken.

This may cause us to feel inferior in places where people desire our presence, so we walk away. We never know that some people may also be struggling to ask us “would you please stay?”

Unapologetically I do feel that way too sometimes. We are shy before we are confident. I don’t take it for granted because it stands in our acknowledgement that we are human and it’s okay to feel vulnerable to our emotions.

What counts is not allowing someone to take advantage of your vulnerability. Or to let the event take over who you truly are – the courageous and brave you.

Thus, it’s important to note that the amazing things can only happen to you when you stay calm and embrace the process. Allow yourself to be vulnerable to the possibilities of the new dawn; show up, live your life positively and be authentic while acknowledging the challenges that come before perfection. The proofreading, brainstorming, budgeting, designing, identification of goals, setting deadlines and practice can be some of the things we fall shy to before we are confident and be before the world can recognise us.

It’s okay to go through this process; we cannot go above or under it, we have to go through it, but we have to see that we remain focused and we are not defined by what we go through before we can become. Take time to learn to set time aside for yourself to help you realise what you need and what is it you desire than focus on what you may feel in the process.

Be Positive!

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Living POSITIVELY Growing Up in one of the rural areas of Zambia Africa. Winnie Mabena was born with the odds set against her. Born into a culture where the society doesn’t see the value in a girls life seemed unbearable.

Determined to defy the odds she was born into Winnie begins the journey determined to succeed. Suddenly her life takes a drastic near death turn. Life as she knew it would never be the same.

Will Winnie choose to thrive once more or will it be too much to bare and easier to choose death?

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Winnie Mabena

Winnie Mabena is an International Speaker, Author, Trainer, Civil registrar and Founder of The Knowledge Effect, a nonprofit company that is working to empower communities by promoting literacy.

Winnie is currently serving as Board Chairperson for Young Women in Action and for nearly three years she volunteered with Plan as a National Representative for the Youth Advisory Panel for Plan International Zambia. She has participated in various local and international consultation processes especially on ending child marriage and promoting girls rights.

Her tenacity to improve lives is unrelenting thus she uses her life experience so far “ her journey as a girl and living positively” to empower and transform young women like her with knowledge on various issues including promoting education, Surviving HIV/AIDS, ending child marriage, mentorship, living a rural community, and literacy. Winnie envisions a world where people are fully empowered with knowledge to live above social problems through promoting literacy.

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Her favorite quote goes by Nelly Ray “I know what giving up looks like, I want to see what happens if I don’t give up”. Her dream is to grow into a voice for the voiceless at a global level. To get to her dream Winnie keeps investing in her education and she currently pursuing her professional course in teaching methodology.

She holds a Bachelor of Arts Double Major Degree in Library and Information Science and Public Administration alongside a Diploma in Management Studies from the University of Zambia.

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Why the need for an instant gratification is killing your success Juliette Stapleton | Online Visibility Strategist

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One of my Fearless Client Attraction Academy students, let’s call him Jim, had a tough time recently managing his expectations when it came to his social media content strategies. He was disappointed that the range of posts that he was producing did not convert readers into customers as well as his free sessions did.

Having no clarity with what exactly online visibility does is a big issue with so many business owners. Most of them are waiting for instant results and overnight successes. Almost as if they forget how hard it is to get results offline with a brand new unknown business.

They forget how they had to do so much networking and advertising to just get their first clients on board or in the door.

Visibility is not something you do online.

It is an old concept for any business. If no one seens you or knows about you no one will buy from you.

And it is surprising how when the same business owners decide to increase their online presence. They expect it to have some miraculous advantage over their offline efforts. Or they develop conditional amnesia and conveniently forget how hard it was to establish themselves in the first place.

And those who have not even try to fill their businesses with local clients before using online space to boost their visibility, don’t seem to want to hear that this is a long game, a marathon, not a spring.

Growing your visibility online is even harder than doing it offline. It requires patience and consistency To start with, there is so much more competition, and not just within your industry. Online we are competing for the commodity that does not come in abundance any more. It is the toughest competition you have ever faced.

Online we are all competing for one thing - attention.

With information being thrown at us from every direction, it is so difficult to focus on anything, so the only way to win is to be showing up with such consistency and perseverance that you get noticed eventually, only because your content comes up so often, it starts creating

curiosity an people start checking out your content. There you get a chance to build relations through producing content your ideal client can resonate with and with continuing your consistent, highvalue content you build the trust required to go deeper, for example, to buy from you, provided you are selling what your audience truly needs.

Building your social media presence and influence is a process that takes time. It takes patience and focusing on the big goal.

Like growing a tree.

When you plant the seed, it takes ages before you can even tell if it is going to survive. Then one day you see a small little green shoot. You watch it getting bigger and bigger every day, but it is not yet a tree. It takes years for it to start resembling a tree. It takes many years to gain the strength, centuries to create a powerful presence.

I am not saying it will take you centuries to create a solid social media presence.

But it will not take you a few short months either, let’s be real.

(Well, it can, but you have to have solid systems in place and know your target audience. THAT takes time to figure out also.)

Plus let us make a distinct difference between our visibility activities and our sales activities.

Offering a free trial or a free session to convert someone into your paying customer is a sales strategy.

Producing consistent high-value content and creating relationships with your audience is a marketing strategy, that

can lead to bringing people into your sales funnels, which can indeed be a free session.

So my advice to Jim and everyone who is reading it, still expecting instant results from their social media activities to stop getting upset that the seed you planted is not giving you fruit yet. Stop getting frustrated that your posts do not get raving comments thanking you for your brilliance and inspiration.

Give it time.

Nurture your visibility by being consistent with your posts and your message.

Respect the time it takes to grow your visibility.

You are making an investment here, a long-term one.

Another thing, just like you cannot see the nutrients work in the soil, you sometimes do not know that you ARE being watched.

In fact, you are being watched so much more than you can imagine.

And those silent viewers still experience the power of your content. They connect, resonate and build trust in you!

They are often the ones that invest in you.

So your investment pays off.

Patience and trusting your journey is the key. Success IS the journey, not the outcome.

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Believe you deserve

UNIVERSE WILL SERVE Neena Kaur | Law of Attraction Practinioner & Life Coach

There is no single area where I put my intention and it doesn’t get manifested.

Every thought becomes things and these things just push me harder to go further.

THOUGHTS ON MIND, THINGS IN YOUR HANDS. CHANGE YOUR THOUGHTS, CHANGE YOUR LIFE.

My future has in store my Live seminars and workshops in metropolitan cities.

My intuition says the same as my faith in the universe, what I ask the universe, the universe serves me.

WHAT YOU FEEL, WHAT YOU THINK, UNIVERSE GIVES IT BACK. Above are a few statements that are all accurate, once you realise its all about your thought process which can change your entire life.

The reason to write this article was to make you believe with some experiences of my group members who have felt the change with this practice within 28 days of their faith on LAW OF ATTRACTION.

I am an example of someone whose life was transformed 100% with a practice called the LAW OF ATTRACTION, for me it has been a lifesaver.

When I was introduced to the LAW OF ATTRACTION and started believing, miracles started happening in my life.

Every new manifestation made my belief stronger, and I reached a point, in a very short period of time, where it became unshakable and yes it truly worked and worked wonders.

When I was confident with the practice of the LAW OF ATTRACTION, it transformed my life completely, so I placed a new thought to the universe, with a goal to introduce this practice to the as many people in the world who could join me and also transform their lives using these practices. IF I CAN BE A CHANGE, WHY NOT YOU ... Was my thought.

While writing my blessings and intentions, I put my intention to start my own workshops online.

Again, THOUGHTS ON MIND, THINGS

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So here you go...

IN YOUR HANDS ...

As soon I gave this thought and my intentions, I put it down in words in my journal, writing my workshops started and people were happily joining me and making the LAW OF ATTRACTION a practice in their life, while writing, I again set an intention of a certain period of time and desired member numbers.

TO MY SURPRISE, exactly on the date my workshop started, people joined the online Whatsapp group. The group started very well while taking the workshop, I gave a thought to have around 50 members in my group by September 2018, you will not believe how close the universe listens, the exact figure of the group members was 50 and it kept on increasing thereafter....

But before this, I just want to share that I have a page on INSTAGRAM named - ASK_BELIEVE_RECEIVE_THE SECRET, when I made the page it was random posts done related to the practice and with all thanks to universe, in 1 year and a few months, I completed 50,000 FOLLOWERS on my page, who truly love the page as they write me personally that their life has been changed a lot following the posts on the page. It gives me so much of satisfaction where my page can be a help in anyone’s life .

LIFE IS BEAUTIFUL, YOU HAVE TO DECIDE HOW YOU WANT TO SHAPE IT AND SEE IT. LET’S FOLLOW THIS PRACTICE AND MAKE OUR DESTINY. LOVE YOURSELF, INSTEAD OF HATRED. See how it turns up your life.

WHEN YOU LOVE YOURSELF, YOU ARE LOVED BY THE WORLD. WHEN YOU HATE YOURSELF, EVERYONE WILL HAVE A REASON TO HATE YOU. BE A LIGHT TO THE WORLD, NOT THE DARKNESS OF PAIN AND PROBLEMS So here are a few sharings of my group members who transformed their lives and came out of depressions which they were in for years and many who have achieved their goals and dreams...

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THE ART OF LOVE is so simple yet we’ve made it so complex Samantha Caroline LavallÊe | Writer & Lover of all things soul at Beautiful Disaster.

The art of love is so simple yet we’ve made it so complex that we fear it, we label it, and we cage it; all in an effort to “protect it�.

A protection we believe that is to bear shelter for us from the rejection of others, the pain and struggles realised by life, the fear of lost and the worry of the not forever having hold of the possessions which we name as love.

All of which are simply an illusionary and a distorted view of the essence of Love.

For in doing so we deny ourselves from ourselves, hence to deny love from love – as we are love.

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In reality we are creating a barrier from ourselves as we are in essence the very source of that which is LOVE.

An energy that articulates itself into a myriad of eclectic feelings felt from within.

Love is not a thing, not a thought, not an action, rather an energy that is translating as YOU.

A STATE OF BEING so pure that it takes our breath away, that it silences all thoughts, that it expands the heart, that just is, no action required.

We express our energy of love by creating things, thinking thoughts, demonstrating acts and conveying words to translate what we are experiencing from within, who we are, which is Love.

We are the translator translating the translations of Loveđ&#x;’ž

In this state of being we are VERTICALLY ALIGNED with our true self, which is that of Liberation Oneness Vitality Empowerment

An energetic potency that is not meant to be contained but energetically expanded outwardly with the world from within the inner world of self.

When we are living from that energetic frequency, a state of exhilarating emotions known as Love, we are naturally in our natural abundant space; That knows no beginning nor no ending.

That is not focused on presence or absence. It just is focused.

There is no gain nor lost.

It’s a place that lives on both end of the polarities while mending the gaps to meet in between, creating and restoring an harmonious harmonized balance as it constantly grows.

A space that cannot be measured nor described, for love itself is indescribable.

We may try to describe as I am doing now, but this universally felt kaleidoscope of emotions cannot be defined nor described in one way. There is no right nor wrong or good nor bad description.

Simply an expression of what is being lived from within, and this for each and every soul expressing the full essence of their experiences of who they are, which is LOVE. Try as I may I can never fully convey what I feel when I feel love.

I know I am love, like you and all others.

A feeling lived from within and this is in its essence what is real and true, the source of our very existence, LOVE. In the space of love we find grace, solace, divinity, purity, oneness, connection, energetic alignment, wholeness, abundance, fulfillment, expansion and a deep appreciation for the essence from that which we are created.

Love is the solution in all situations, no matter how difficult.

It all started with love, thus we as an extension of that very creation of love -are all one and the same, simply in different physical forms.

journey of self love is one of rediscovery and reclaiming of the whole self.

When you are aware that your natural source of creation is that of love , and you then nurture and live from that very source of love you are organically loving thy self beyond all conditions.

To love yourself in your totality unconditionally as you are where you are, you by default love others as they are where they are.

As this high vibrational state brings true alignment with you and your creation, thus naturally the recognition of the sameness within others is enhanced and developed. As a result that love is recognized as a blessing not to be feared but to be embraced, and this no matter the different outward appearances of each other. For loves diversity is no adverity my darling, but a generosity of love’s infinite living loving potent potential life force.

How magnificent is that?!!

You are love, Love is who you Are. Being You is to be Love.

Go ahead and love yourself, It’s time.

Now! With an invitation to move into 2019 with the intent to love and appreciation you as you are right here right now, while choosing to cultivate your relationship with self all the year through.

Imagine the difference a year can make! And yes, you are deserving of a powerhouse relationship with self that is fulfilling from the inside out my loves xox

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The source of love which is that of who you are is the place where you start experiencing this love by reconnecting with yourself, love for yourself. The

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3 keys to creating AN EXTRAORDINARY 2019 Theodore Treveil | Public Speaker, Author, Philanthropist, Blogger.

Intention is your navigation system to ride you from where you are to where you want to be.

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As we are approaching New Year, it’s quite easy to start experiencing the overwhelming expectations and pressure we have on ourselves in accomplishing and achieving HUGE success for 2019!

It becomes EXTREMELY unhealthy for our mind, body and even spirit. Our entire life begins to tense up in this moment. We put all our hopes, into assuring that this year becomes the year we accomplish all that we haven’t been able to accomplish.

Therefore, as we begin to set new goals this New Year, we do it with somewhat elements of fear, guilt, shame, doubt and insecurity. We develop a tendency to prove something to ourselves and others.

We don’t smoothly transition with the mentality that we ACTUALLY have 365 days of opportunities to create a lifestyle of more passion, more joy, more excitement, more love and more contribution. The opportunity to better and enhance the quality of our lives, as we are still carrying beliefs, values, stories and even peers from 2018 that hasn’t been serving us. We can ONLY do better, when we know and become aware of better ways of achieving and accomplishing our goals.

I’ve been obsessed this year in assuring I accomplish in creating an outstanding through accomplishing the goals I set myself, more importantly, supporting others in doing the same for their own lives through researching and discovering what is really holding people back from creating an extraordinary 2019.

Research shows that EACH new year, those that set New Year resolution. Whether it’s becoming healthier, finding a more intimate relationship, changing a career or even starting their very own business.

Around 80% don’t go on to accomplishing any of it as they usually find that they are sabotaging themselves in the first three month of the year. Not enough time for the goal to be seeded and to grow into what it’s supposed to.

Only 20% ACTUALLY go on to accomplishing their goals. It’s typical for us to immediately then assume and think to ourselves that they must have had some cutting edge or some resources the rest didn’t.

However, we all have the capacity and capabilities to accomplish our goal, it’s just when we choose to blame others for WHY we haven’t accomplished our goals, or why we are not where we want to be, we then give that power away.

However, MANY people never dare ask and be specific because of one or two failure in their lives that they are allowing to define them instead of learning a lesson and growing from it. They then find generic results in their lives.

What is this resource that’s so powerful enough to help us accomplish and achieve what we desire in our lives. Emotion.

• What is it YOU want this New Year?

What’s the difference between those that accomplish their goals and those that don’t? How can we secure our ticket to our goals this upcoming year regardless of the distractions that try to show up in our lives?

Firstly, it comes down to ONE HUGE lesson, which would be acceptance and acknowledgment.

As most enter into 2019, they do so in denial of their fears of where they really are in their own lives and with themselves.

Therefore, they try to live off from a place where they genuinely believe things are better than what they really are, leaving them open to disappointment in their lives for when results don’t turn out as they had anticipated it.

Some will even enter into 2019, thinking and seeing their lives worse than what it really is. It’ll either leave them in regret or anxious and indecisive in what to do.

Therefore, when they set intentions and goals, it’s fear based so it’s important we all acknowledge everything in our lives up till this stage and we begin to see everything for as they truly are.

Now I could go on to sharing the three things that could and will hold you back from creating an extraordinary new year.

Let’s instead focus on what you can do to assure you overcome these dilemma.

First key is to set intentions for exactly what you want.

Intention is your navigation system to ride you from where you are to where you want to be. You have to be as detailed as possible, as that’s how you will activate your creative and resourcefulness part of you. This will inspire you to take more opportunities and risks, to take notice of things you couldn’t before in order to reach your destination.

• Why do YOU want it? Why are you doing what you are doing? Make sure your action and feeling match otherwise you will experience conflict and resistance in anything you go on to producing.

• When do you want it by? This will help you track where you are therefore you know what to do to get to where you want to be. You can’t progress what you can’t track.

Most people that set goals this New Year, it’s because they’re looking to lose something, which is fear, instead of becoming excited in achieving something new which is love.

In 2019, you will attract what you believe about what you want as you have always been.

You have to get out of the vibration of attachment and fear. Let go of everything and trust the process. You’ve set intentions and now life is doing what it’s supposed to in order to build your character.

As Jim Rohn said, “Success isn’t something you pursue but what you attract by the person you become.”

You want better this year? Aspire to feel and live better NOW. Finally, aspire to set goals and intentions from your heart not your head. Your mind will try to figure it all out and when it can’t, it’ll talk you out. It will make you doing your potential but YOUR heart will influence you to dream big

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Just before midnight 31 December 2018 Andy Ferguson, Explorer, Andy Ferguson Network A funny thing happened to me in the last few hours of 2018. Unusually, for me, I ended up in a pub. And considering most pubs on New Year’s Eve or Hogmanay as it’s called here in Scotland, shut early so that everyone can go home and be with their families, being in any pub was not something I had foresaw myself doing earlier that evening.

We talked for a bit and it was obvious he held me in very high regard because of the way I had acted all those years ago. It was a hell of a conversation to be having as the minutes ticked away to midnight.There I had been for the last few weeks getting all worked up about this anniversary, three decades worth of life - this history, meeting Nicki, living more than half our lives together, bringing up a family and now them moving on and yet this part of my story, my history, I had no idea about. The timing was insane, god must be having a laugh, at my expense.

One of Nicki’s friends had texted us out of the blue saying that this pub was open and did we want to meet them there to “see in” the New Year. As the kids were both away, leaving just the two of us, we thought, “why not” and off we duly popped.

Now this particular New Year was a bit special to me. It would be exactly thirty years since Nicki and I had met at a New Year’s Party whilst working in in France.

We had our first date a few days later on her birthday. Given this and the fact that our kids were now grown up and spreading their wings it made the normal end of year reflection even more potent, as it felt more like the exclamation mark of a three decade journey.

We met our friends and took a seat but when I was asked what I wanted to drink, not frequenting pubs much meant I was unsure, so I decided to walk over to the bar to see what they had on offer.

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I was just making my mind up when a guy came up to me and said “you don’t remember me do you? You don’t know who I am?” I confessed I didn’t. He then went on “you should know you had a huge impact on me years ago. I used to work at such and such a company and you were my trainer”. (FYI ... I left that company nearly 15 years ago). He continued “You know nobody ever treated me the way you did. And nobody’s treated me like it on any training course I’ve been on since.

You made me feel like I was important, and what I said or thought mattered. You treated me with respect and showed me how to treat people properly and it left a huge impression on me.”

I won’t go into too much detail why this seemingly random encounter really shook me up but in essence he made me remember something it’s so easy to forget - what we do, everyday, matters, even if we hardly notice it ourselves. I had worked with thousands of people as a trainer and coach with that company and I’d like to think I treated them all the same: With respect, empathy and warmth. It never occurred to me that some people would take more than the specific training and skills development away from our encounter. I wasn’t setting myself up as a role model so much as trying to do my job well.

I have many flaws, after nearly 11,000 days together, I’m sure Nicki could provide you with a really long list, I’ve let people down and failed to do my best on many

occasions but on a good day ... as that guy reminded me ... on a good day I have the power to inspire and encourage and empower others, not just by what I say but by what I do, what they see me do, how I treat the world and the people in it.

If I learned anything in 2018 it’s this ... I’m not perfect and that’s okay. I have my good days and bad. I don’t always “turn up” or at least not at 100%. I make promises I find I can’t keep and start things I can’t finish.

I’m lazy and stupid and selfish even when, perhaps especially when I don’t set out to be.

But just because we can’t do everything right, all the time doesn’t mean we can’t do some things right some, or even most, of the time. And realising this, that we are trying, allows us to forgive, ourselves and others. It can even inspire us - “so none of us is perfect but I’m not going to use that as an excuse not to try”.

Meeting that guy in the pub, at that precise moment has had an impact on me perhaps as much as I had on him all those years ago. If our lives are an unfolding narrative, what story does ours tell? There’s a paradox though, we need to be aware and mindful of what we do at each moment and yet as the years slip by the longer perspective tells it’s own story. Is it a love story or a disaster movie? A lifetime has taught me that whilst the destination is always uncertain the journey is the real deal. How we act, how we behave builds and aggregates and creates its own momentum. A life only makes sense when we look at it in the long view but it is lived in all the little details day to day.

Thirty years, half a life time together or just a brief encounter in a training room, how we treat others defines who we are and the story people will tell of us. So what is that story going to be? I may not be perfect, and my life has been far from perfect but randomly meeting a guy in a bar just before midnight of a New Year’s night reminds me of who I want to be and who I can be, when I try and it reminds me how what I do has an unseen impact, one way beyond what I’m aware of.

Life, like that evening is full of surprises, twists and turns, it may never be perfect or predictable but it can be extraordinarily rewarding, if you keep trying. I’ll leave you with this thought experiment. Imagine

you’re in a pub, a decade or three in the future. As you stand at the bar trying to make up your mind what to have a succession of people come up to you and describe what impact you’ve had on them ... everyone from the shop assistant in the local supermarket to your family members.

A whole raft of people telling you their experiences of you. That’s your story.

And now let’s take it one step further ... imagine you’re standing there right now with your future self and they are telling you about the person you became, the life you lived. You can’t control what is going to happen to you. But you can choose how you indent to behave ... so what’s it going

to be? How are you going to act, from today? Your story is still being written, with all your little acts .... of kindness, empathy, compassion? Thoughtfulness?

Thoughtfulness ... isn’t that what this time of year is all about? Now there’s a thought!

Have a Happy New Year.

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Free choice of Energy Jennifer Thorp | Author, Photographer and Life Alchemist

If reality is 98% perception, then to me, saying “good and bad” is different than expressing “good or bad” 100% of the time. The first statement is collective, while the second offers choice. That’s the difference and in my life, I revel in my ability to enact my freedom of choice.

Where I put my focus is a freedom. This freedom is not the kind that can be bought or sold. No one can steel it from me and it certainly can’t be held by anyone other than me nor can it be contained. This freedom is the kind that is not often talked about and not a discipline or practice taught in the schools we attend nor the homes in which each of us are raised. This freedom, is that of the self. My freedom stands alone.

My freedom is an independent condition that is the foundation of mind and body.

Choice is a do or don’t do for the self; at least, this how I understand it to be for me.

Maybe that’s why schools have failed to note it or even give credit in a footnote on the subject of my freedom of choice. So too my parents likely trusted I’d come to understand my state of being and provided generously all kinds of great stuff to foster and nurture me along the way. Each being

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has it’s own freedom unique to ones self or cell for that matter.

At a time when there are resolutions to be made with the New Year at hand, I want to celebrate every minute I get through freedom of choice. That’s is what I want, and how I am approaching every day of 2019 and beyond; because, in my world, it is all about me. What I hope for, is that each person realize their freedom of choice each and every day of every year.

I can’t even begin to marvel at the sensational seasons the year has in store. So as the clock ticks ahead, I’m celebrating life. The details unfold moment to moment for me, and as I have come to feel the importance of this personally; it is in part, due to my freedom and choices as they relate my desire to really enjoy now.

It’s a bit of a surprise that I’ve arrived at this perspective; because, for example someone’s description of a long trip is 10 miles in distance, my response in thought is “that’s a walk for me. It seems like its next door”.

So I’m just going to mark 2019 as now.

I’m in, game on! I choose to celebrate my

freedom of choice and the energy I invest in life with each breath I take and the space in between. Its an electro-chemical path from moments to light years of a space and time odyssey.

It feels a bit like a circle when expressed in the manor I’m going about laying out my intentions as they relate to thoughts, and the value they play in times. As my body carries the vessel filled with stuff my spirit has been collecting through this life time, freedom of choice has played an intricate roll in getting me from point A to B. No matter to weather it’s a 10 or 10,000 miles. At the end of 2018, it remains in my thoughts as collective positions that have all been reached through energy and free choice to get me there, so I can continue to travel. If someone said to you “your free” what would you do?

Happy 2019 and beyond. May we all go onward and upward in happiness, health and wealth. Saulte’

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