are you bringing sexy back?

story by | jodie harvala Ok ladies, time to put on your big girl panties! With Valentine’s Day in our midst let’s dive into a conversation about inner sexiness. What makes you feel sexy? No holding back on this one!

What makes me feel sexy now is different than it was 10 years ago! Some of you may agree that as time changes we need to adjust our way of thinking a bit. You add kids, a few extra pounds, a busy lifestyle and that adjustment may not always be easy.

Let’s start with the definition of sexy. Webster defines it as “sexually suggestive or stimulating.” For me sexiness has evolved and my definition has changed. Step into my world, the world of me and my three boys. First there is the big one, my hubby, who on some mornings, as I am busy getting ready, will pull back the shower curtain and say, “Hey, honey, check this out,” as he proceeds to give me a little shimmy-shimmy-shake. Then there is the six year old who will breeze by naked on his way to the potty, “HEY MOOOMMM, check this out” as he shakes his “booty” at me. Lastly there is the two year old, who is naked because he has not yet learned the art of going potty and keeping his clothes on all at the same time, screams, “I DID IT – I DID IT,” as he goes to the bathroom in the big potty. So ladies, I am a bit desensitized at the whole shimmy-shimmy-shake if you know what I mean.

Let’s think about it. We all have a different idea of what makes us feel sexy. Is it an unexpected dozen roses and a candle light dinner? Maybe it’s a sassy pair of stiletto heels and a lacy little bedtime number. Or, maybe it’s just cuddling up on the couch after the kids are in bed. For me, I LOVE coming home to a clean house that I had no part of picking up. This makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside. If the big boy really wants some action, I say, “Do the laundry! Wash, dry, fold and PUT IT ALL AWAY!” This will no doubt drive me over the top! Yum! How about a hot outfit? Yes, please! Add the appropriate accessories…even better. A night to wear that hot outfit with my hubby is always a plus, but a night out with the girls is just as good. Guaranteed, they will REALLY tell me how hot I look in my hot outfit. But I have to admit the ultimate feeling of sexiness for me is having sexy hair! I need to have kick butt hair to feel really in the groove with myself. Why? I have no idea. I just do. A friend once said, “Well, if you need an attitude adjustment just go get your hair done!” She is right! That’s something I keep in my back pocket for emergencies…a new doo.

So my challenge for you is to find that diva and inner sexiness hiding in us all. Is it physical, emotional, or simply confidence under-cover? You may have to think outside the box a little more these days with all the little people doing laps around you, but you can do it. Take the time. You deserve it and remember; sexiness always starts from within. So…ask yourself, “What makes me feel sexy from the inside out?”