HEALTH & WELLBEING
Self defeating
behaviour Negative patterns of behaviour that stop you attaining your goals. This pattern emerges from the belief that we are not good enough and a fear that we will not achieve what we want or that it will show that we are a failure. Below is a list of many common Self Defeating Behaviour with a short description. by Jacqui Sayer-Noble H.E.A.L.L / JSN Therapies
Physical and mental neglect. Is a failure of not looking after self which includes not getting enough rest, food and nourishment. Lacking in personal hygiene, medical care and not caring about self.
Procrastination. Holding back and putting off what you want to do because you fear that what you want to do may not be successful.
Comparing self with others. Belief that others are more attractive, cleverer, wealthier, Self criticism Always finding fault in what confident, ambitious. they do, how they look a fear of not being Refusing help. They know that they need help but good enough. by accepting help makes them feel less in control Self pity/Blaming others. Feeling sorry and acknowledges that they have a problem. for self and believing that others have an Over spending. Some may use advantage that you have not. overspending to relieve stress and anxiety, Passive/ People pleasing. Feeling not others as a means to impress others. able to stand up for one self and feeling Relationship sabotage. Is often due to a fear of uncomfortable socially, always apologising. closeness or a fear of intimacy as getting close
Perfectionism. When someone is a and then loosing that would be too hurtful. perfectionist they believe every thing that they do has to be one All the above behaviours can be changed by learning how to hundred percent perfect. So those love yourself and accept that you are enough. The Self Defeating with this type of behaviour miss out on Behaviours below are more serious behaviours that require more specialised help. Self harming, Under/Over Eating, Alcohol/Drug doing things for fear that they may be abuse, Attempting Suicide. If you feel that you have any of the criticised if they are not perfect. above Self Defeating Behaviours I can help you.
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If you are suffering from stress or anxiety, I can help you! 0771 785 69 99 l jacqui@jsntherapies.co.uk I am able to do consultations via Face Time, Skype or Zoom www.oraclepublications.co.uk
October 2021
