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Preventing Dog Bites
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DOPTIONS AND PURCHASES OF puppies and dogs have skyrocketed in the past year, proving once again that these furry animals are people’s best friends—especially during a pandemic. Unfortunately, the incidence of dog bite injuries to children has also risen sharply. INJURIES BY THE NUMBERS
KNOW WHEN TO BACK OFF • Most dog bites are preventable. To help reduce the risk of your child being injured by a dog: • Teach kids to never go near a dog while it’s eating or drinking. • Explain that a sleeping dog can be easily startled and bite as a result. • Instruct children not to taunt dogs with toys or treats. • Explain that backing dogs into a corner or other area where they have no way to escape can make the animal feel trapped and defensive.
• 470,000: The approximate number of children bitten by dogs each year. Boys are twice as likely as girls to be bitten.
• Help kids learn to recognize signs that a dog is agitated or uncomfortable:
• 5-9: The ages of children who are at the highest risk of being bitten, according to the American Veterinary Association.
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• 77%: The percentage of bites that are from a dog belonging to the child’s family, friends or neighbors. The consequences of dog bites for kids can be serious. Babies and toddlers are most likely to be bitten on the face and neck, while older children are often bitten on the extremities, such as the hands. The nature of a bite is often a disfiguring injury combination of laceration and crushing and may leave a severe scar. Broken bones, serious eye injuries, and muscle and nerve damage can all occur, and they account for a significant number of emergency room visits.
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• Raised hackles (the fur on the dog’s back stands up) • Growling or bared teeth • Tail tucked under or arched way over the dog’s back It’s important to remember that it is not a dog’s breed that determines whether it will bite, but rather the dog’s individual history and behavior, as well as the circumstances and above risk factors. Children under age 5 may not reliably recognize when a dog is about to bite, so never leave a young child near a dog without continuous adult supervision. For more information about dogs and kids, go to EugenePeds.com. ✦
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Role Reversal WHEN CARING FOR A PARENT
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HEN LISA, AGE 57, first noticed that her mother seemed confused, she assumed it was typical behavior from an 80-year-old. She continued to take it in stride when her mother tried to make a phone call using the TV remote. Lisa became somewhat concerned when her mother started sautéing onions in a pan and then walked outside to get the mail, forgetting the stove was on. When her mother began seeing her long-dead mother in bed with her, Lisa realized there was more to the picture than normal aging. She knew her mother required full-time care.
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Lisa is not a rarity. According to the Pew Research Center, there are 40.4 million unpaid caregivers of adults ages 65 and older in the United States. Ninety percent of those caregivers are related to the care recipient. More families in the coming decades will be faced with what is referred to as being the “sandwich generation,” meaning that adults will provide care for both their parents and their grandparents, says Dr. Lisa HollisSawyer, Gerontology Program Coordinator at Northeastern Illinois University.
HOW DOES BEING A CAREGIVER FEEL?
Hollis-Sawyer says, “Families rarely anticipate that their parent will need care.” This lack of planning can result in a breakdown of communication, leading to stress and frustration among family members. She recommends discussing a “care plan” with your parents before it becomes necessary. Hollis-Sawyer researched daughters who provided care for their mothers. She found their previous relationship influenced how the daughter felt about their role as a caregiver. If the daughter had a positive relationship with their mother, often they felt happy to be a caregiver since they thought they were reciprocating care their mother provided for them as a child. On the other hand, if the daughter had a negative relationship with their mother when growing up then they felt resentful about their caregiver role. Hollis-Sawyer found that the care recipient felt guilty or a burden on their child regardless of their previous relationship. Even though it is no fault of their own that they required care, the care recipient felt as if they failed at being a parent.
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HELPFUL COPING STRATEGIES Your role as a caregiver can be less stressful if you have open communication with other family members and with the care recipient. Hollis-Sawyer stresses the importance of asking for help when needed and expressing your feelings about the situation. She also suggests talking to the care recipient about their feelings or what they need assistance doing and ways they can be independent. “It is important not to assume the care recipient is unable to do anything,” says Hollis-Sawyer. Allowing the care recipient to complete everyday tasks within their capability may help them to feel independent. The caregiver and recipient should figure out together what the care recipient is capable of achieving. Self-care is an important aspect when you are caring for others. Hollis-Sawyer recommends the key to self-care is understanding yourself by writing in a journal or diary on a daily basis. This will help you to recognize when you need a break or when to ask for help to prevent burn-out.
It is also important to find social support for both the caregiver and recipient. There are many different forms of social supports such as counseling, community resources, senior centers, friends or other family members. “These social supports can help the pair identify both frustrations and triumphs which can optimize coping strategies”, says Hollis-Sawyer.
STAYING POSITIVE ABOUT YOUR NEW ROLE
Through her research, Hollis-Sawyer witnessed many positive effects of daughters caring for their mothers. “Daughters learned about their own aging process which helped them understand how to prepare for it,” says Hollis-Sawyer. She also noticed that the grandchildren benefited from seeing a role model of good care experience. The caregiver and recipient often develop a stronger bond that was not there prior to their new roles. “There is much to be gained through increased self-awareness and learning for all involved,” says Hollis-Sawyer. ✦
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What is the “Field of Dreams” ecology restoration theory?
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given the more hospitable surroundings. “The Field of Dreams stems from the notion that all one needs is the physical structure for a particular ecosystem, and biotic composition and function will self-assemble...” reports Robert Hilderbrand of Brazil’s Laboratório de Ecologia e Restauração Florestal. Restoring plant biodiversity is an important part of ecological restoration no matter what, but researchers have found time and again that animals returning is far from guaranteed, given the many factors at play that will dictate a different outcome from the original composition
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Researchers studying Tallgrass prairie restoration at Illinois’ Nachusa Preserve found that reintroducing Bison there ended up bringing back other native wildlife much faster than merely reseeding bunchgrasses.
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restorationists are trying to replicate. “Restoration sites do become re-vegetated, but may be of different species composition and degree of cover,” says Hilderbrand. While revegetating a disturbed site is no doubt the best course of action if the goal is ecological restoration, expecting the same native wildlife species to return in similar numbers as before is unrealistic; more likely a new makeup of species will develop based on more recent influences. Indeed, a recent study at Northern Illinois University (NIU) looking into best practices for restoring tallgrass prairie in the Midwest found that replanting alone is not enough to attract wildlife to return, thus debunking the Field of Dreams hypothesis. The researchers studied 17 plots of restored tallgrass prairie in the Nature Conservancy’s Nachusa Grasslands in Franklin Grove, Illinois, measuring biodiversity in snakes, small mammals and ground and dung beetles in response to different management techniques. They were surprised to learn that replanting alone was a poor indicator for future animal biodiversity. Much more effective ways to bring wildlife back included prescribed burns
as well as the reintroduction of bison, a keystone species that affects everything else up and down the food chain. Overall, these “active” management strategies were some six times more effective at bringing back native snakes, small mammals and beetles than just reseeding and waiting for the wildlife to return. “Seeding alone gets us started, but extra management super-charges the animal communities that are critical to maintaining healthy prairies,” says Pete Guiden, a postdoctoral researcher at NIU and lead author on the study. Granted, replanting and tending a disturbed site will likely bring back a semblance of the former wildlife there if we have decades or longer to wait. But conservationists wanting to see results in our own lifetimes are better served augmenting such a strategy with more “active” restoration techniques. ✦ CONTACTS: “Study challenges ecology’s ‘Field of Dreams’ hypothesis,” sciencedaily. com/releases/2021/02/210202164522. htm; “The Myths of Restoration Ecology,” lerf.eco.br/img/publicacoes/Hilderbrand%20et%20al_2005.pdf. EarthTalk® is produced by Roddy Scheer & Doug Moss for the 501(c)3 nonprofit EarthTalk. See more at https://emagazine. com. To donate, visit https//earthtalk.org. Send questions to: question@earthtalk.org.
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Long ago, there was a great forest fire. The mice in the forest were unable to outrun the fierce flames but the mighty Douglas Fir offered protection. Today, if you look closely at the cones of a Douglas Fir, you can still see the tiny feet and tails of the mice peeking out from the cones’ scales. At Seneca, we are proud to be built upon generations of trees and generations of family. MARCH 2021
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EXPLORE DEE WRIGHT OBSERVATORY. During summer months when the pass is clear of snow, visit this historic site amid a field of lava rock and stunning views.
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BIKING THE ROW RIVER TRAIL. Depending on your family’s interests, pick a lovely section of this 14-mile paved bike path or do the whole thing! Row River Trail leaves from the center of Cottage Grove and goes east past Covered Bridges, Dorena Lake, the sparkling rivers and deep forest. VISIT A U-PICK FARM. Get your hands on the freshest! Many farms in the area offer u-pick fun for seasonal produce such as berries, peaches, apples and more. Plus, meet wandering farm animals or enjoy live entertainment. RAFTING THE MCKENZIE RIVER. Get a real thrill with expert river guides on the Wild & Scenic McKenzie River. Your family will bond over laughter, splashes and wildlife sightings. For something a little more tranquil, choose a jet boat tour or a ride on the iconic drift boats.
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TAKE THE UNIQUE TRAIL TO HOBBIT BEACH. This coastal trail is a popular one for one special feature— a little path through brush that hangs over the sunken trail like a tunnel. At the end of the one-mile trail, the shrubbery opens up to a sandy beach with some tidepools. SEE POWERFUL PREDATORS AT CASCADE RAPTOR CENTER. The Cascade Raptor Center is a wildlife hospital for birds of prey. Your family can meet more than 50 birds in a forest setting. Call for information about the best time to visit if you’d like to see the excitement at feeding time.
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SPOT WILDLIFE AT DELTA PONDS. Visit these ponds in Eugene to spot blue herons, salmon, beavers, pond turtles and more. The trails are gravel and dirt but relatively flat. RIDING THE OREGON DUNES. Speed up and over towering dunes with an expert driver at the wheel. Your whole family can ride in a dune buggy together to share in the gripping experience that is actually safe! LEARNING ALONG THE TRAILS AT MOUNT PISGAH ARBORETUM. Explore along the trails at the Arboretum and learn about the wildlife and plant life with the help of educational signage and interactive learning sites.
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HORSEBACK RIDING ON THE COAST. Ride gentle, experienced horses through dune forests and out onto the beaches north of Florence with C&M Stables for an unforgettable day of adventure. First-time riders welcome. Under 5 years old, corral rides available.
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TAKE A DIP IN PURE WALDO LAKE. High in the Cascades sits one of the purest lakes in the world. Waldo Lake is a great place to recreate for the day or camp out for the night. Don’t forget your bug spray!
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SLED AT A SNO-PARK. Look no further for the perfect sledding hill! These sno-parks are a safe place to enjoy a snow day with the family. ✦
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EMBRACING YOUR TODDLER’S
Counterwill BY MEREDITH TUFTS (FOR PARENTING NOW)
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HROUGHOUT THE LATE TODDLER and preschool years, children are building their will—the ability to consciously control their actions. They are making more choices for themselves and they can be persistent in making those choices known! Behaviors that sometimes get labeled as disobedience, defiance, or opposition are often rooted in a child’s counterwill. Counterwill is a natural, healthy response to feeling pushed or pressured to do something. This is an important part of human development: learning to be your own person, make your own choices, and listen to your inner compass. We know that any skill takes practice, and three year olds are often working especially hard to practice this. When we consider “the big picture,” we can see the ways in which counterwill can be a positive thing. We want to support our children in growing into teens and young adults who can resist peer pressure and are able to make their own choices. Reminding ourselves of the value of these skills can help
us take it less personally when our child says “No!” to our every suggestion. If you’re finding yourself getting frustrated at the amount of resistance you’re facing, it can help to check in with how often you give your child choices and autonomy. Their capabilities can change quickly; sometimes you may need to give them more opportunities to make their own decisions or take on more responsibility. As you think about the times your child pushes back through direct “No’s,” ignoring directions, or doing the opposite of what you’ve directed, you can consider: • Is this a safety issue? Is there a reason it needs to be addressed right now? • Does my child know the expectation? Were my directions communicated clearly and at their level? Did I accidentally offer a choice when there isn’t one? • Is there a way I can make this fun or silly? We can sometimes turn these moments into sweet moments of bonding and playing with our children. • Are there feelings I can acknowledge or encourage? Children experiencing stress or feeling unhappy about an unrelated issue may need some help sorting through their feelings before they are ready to follow our directions. When counterwill comes up, first take a deep breath. Then, assess the moment. Can you focus on connection first? Take a moment to connect with your child before you redirect. Try to redirect with positive, inclusive language and a sense of being on the same team. Make room for their ideas about how or when the task should happen (within boundaries if needed). If you lose your cool, you can still reconnect and make amends as needed. Take a moment to celebrate your child’s growth—your child’s sense of safety and ability to express their counterwill means you’re doing things right! ✦
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Fourth Dimension Love BY BONNIE L. HARRIS Teaming up to fix the glitch.
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ANY JOYFUL, SILLY, WONDERFUL moments happen to millions of people every day, but they pass completely unnoticed and unappreciated. Amazon’s new feature, The Map of Tiny Little Things, explores this notion through the eyes of two teenagers with very different
THE MAP OF TINY LITTLE THINGS Amazon Studios, Rated: PG-13 Streaming on Amazon
perspectives. Funny, goofy, a little destructive, very self-reflexive, and utterly charming, The Map of Tiny Little Things, relies on the “Groundhog Day” premise of reliving the same day over and over again. Mark, our hero, takes his rewound day in stride and spices it up with a few good deeds, but mainly he avoids annoyances like going to class and hanging out with his family. When Margaret barges into his routine, Mark feels it’s a sign that they’ll eventually escape their temporal glitch. Of course, romance blossoms
as the teens begin mapping all the remarkable moments they encounter in their small town. But it’s an unconventional and quirky love story that turns mysterious when Margaret leaves every night at exactly 6pm. When Mark realizes that Margaret has priorities that don’t revolve around him, young love wavers. He gives up chasing Margaret, but not his comical meddling in other people’s lives. After Mark discovers Margaret’s secret, he not only begins to appreciate the remarkable moments around him, but he also acknowledges
them, applauds them, and involves himself in them. Meanwhile, Margaret figures out how to reverse the temporal glitch, but her challenge is letting go of the past and facing an uncertain future. Both teens agree that moving forward is better than staying in the same predictable day. Overall, my only concerns are one F-bomb and two shots of teenage drinking, which are realistic for a YA story, but parents should still be aware. That said, the film is overwhelmingly positive in its messages and its candor. ✦
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Y GRANDMOTHER USED to say, “There’s nothing like a good ‘ol Western.” The wonderful new drama, News of the World, starring Tom Hanks and Helena Zengel embodies the genre perfectly in a tale set on the wide open Texas territory in 1870 with plenty of cowboys, horses, outlaws, and gun-slinging. The story centers on former editor and soldier, Capt Jefferson Kidd, who comes across a young orphan, Johanna, after her chaperone is murdered on the journey to her aunt and uncle’s farm. Johanna’s an unruly, outcast child raised by the Kiowa tribes and Capt Kidd reluctantly takes charge of her on a 400-mile odyssey through the dangerous Texas hill country. Along the way, they share food, customs, language, and deep heartache that eventually binds them together. Slightly slow moving, but culturally fascinating, News of the World, depicts a rough & tumble time of American prejudice and vigilantism overlaid
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