Out and About Mag Issue 6 Vol. 4 – Chef Thinus: From Brain Cancer to Michelin Star

Chef Thinus Van Der Westhuizen

From Brain Cancer to Michelin Star

The dark does not destroy the light; it defines it. It’s our fear of the dark that casts our joy into the shadows.

— Brené Brown The Gifts of Imperfection

“Yougainstrength,courage andconfidencebyevery experienceinwhichyoureally stoptolookfearintheface. Youmustdothethingyouthink youcannotdo.”

Eleanor Roosevelt.

You know that thing you’ve had in mind, but, for some reason, you’ve been hesitant to take the next step? You must do the thing you think you cannot do.

We are all storytellers because we tell our own stories each day. You hold the cards to your life in your hands, so trust the process and write your own story. Despite the obstacle or that moment of doubt, once you face that fear and step in that direction, even if you do it while afraid, you will be stronger for it.

Features and Highlights

This Edition of Out and About Magazine is all about storytelling, and what better way to do that than to hear from Abu Dhabi residents first-hand? Of course, we also cover fashion, food and travel, so you will definitely get your fill from this Edition.

Get started with our Voices - My Abu Dhabi Story feature with Chef Thinus Van Der Westhuizen, who went from brain cancer to Michelin Star. His story sets you up to enjoy The Residents Voices, which features other Abu Dhabi stories. Get ready to be inspired!

In Abu Dhabi, check out A Star-studded Golf Classic by Steve Harvey Gala Dinner and the Dream Ball, raising funds with others at heart.

In Fashion, we share Hublot x Cheval Blanc Randheli and The Code 11.59 by Audemars Piguet: Starwheel revisits the Tradition of Wandering Hours. There is also Ted Baker’s Christmas Guide (hint, hint)!

Check out 5 Vegan Beauty Products for the Holiday Hamper in our Beauty section.

In the Lifestyle section, we talk about 7 Steps to Finding your Peace and Pushing Through Tough Times and Difficult Obstacles, as

well as Fitness and Food features. In Food, we look at Michelin-starred Hakkasan Abu Dhabi and list 9 Holiday Drinks from Around the World. This Edition’s Fitness feature delves into 5 Fitness Trends to Look out for in 2023

For the Travel & Experiences section, know that Rixos Bab Al Bahr is for couples, too, and find out the Top 12 Reasons Budapest is the Ultimate Winter Wonderland City to Visit Also, take a peek Inside the AED 130 Million Riva Del Lusso.

In For the Culture, check out Commitment to Chance, and for Shelf Life, grab The Gifts of Imperfection.

You gain strength, courage and confidence through every experience

We may not know the outcome when we begin, but irrespective of the result, taking the step would’ve been a lesson learned and a move towards being more courageous and confident.

You are a lot stronger than you think!

Out and About Magazine, along with the team that made this Edition possible, is always here to remind you of your greatness. Boldly tell your story!

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SECTION 1 VOICES - MY ABU DHABI STORY

& EXPERIENCES

1.

Tell us a little about yourself.

I have been cooking for about 17 years and have always wanted to be a chef, having learned from my father and other mentors. It has always been a passion, and that is very important for me to be able to live my passion. Otherwise, it becomes more of a job, and that’s different from what I want. I’m not a 9 - 5 guy in an office. I’m a guy who likes to be in the kitchen, in the restaurant, and just in the life of hospitality.

2. What’s your Abu Dhabi story?

I was working for Anantara in Mozambique about seven years ago, and I did an internal transfer because I really wanted to work at Qasr Al Sarab. At that time, it was the flagship of Anantara, and therefore, it was very important for me to go there. That’s how I got here and started living in the middle of the desert. Then I moved to Dubai to have some city life because to go from an island to the middle of the desert is quite a secluded place. I went to Dubai for a while, then Abu Dhabi just came calling again, and I love it. People ask, ‘What do you like more, Abu Dhabi or Dubai? For me, it’s Abu Dhabi; it’s always been.

3.

What does it mean to receive a Michelin Star?

For us, it’s a culmination of a lot of effort. When we got the invitation from Michelin, we didn’t even know Michelin was coming to Abu Dhabi, so for us to even be nominated was incredible. We were just doing what we do. So there was no, ‘Oh, Michelin is coming. Maybe they’re here in the restaurant; maybe they are not; let’s put extra flare.’ It was just the staff and us doing what we were doing, and when we won the Michelin Star, we went absolutely ecstatic. So it’s a lot of effort, a lot of hours that we put into this. So it was wonderful.

4.

What goes into putting together a menu that earns you Michelin Star?

Firstly, it comes to the quality of the products you use and the techniques. We put a lot of effort into really working on techniques. We have a standard-based Japanese food, but to give it a little bit of, we call it Spanish flare. To do what they do, but to do a little bit more modern, a little bit different. Most of our products are flown in from Japan. Our tuna we fly from Bodegas, Spain, twice a week; this gets flown in fresh. So it’s all about the freshness and quality of the product we give to our guests. And obviously the technique, and let’s not forget our service as well. The service is top-class, and it has to be, so we pride ourselves on doing exactly that.

5. Japanese-style cooking, menus and restaurants have become very popular, especially in the region. Why do you think this is?

I think it’s moving along with trends that are happening. People are also looking for healthier foods, of which Japanese food is one. They’re also looking for fresh products, and they’re looking for what Japanese is. You can see the Japanese culture when they approach food as well, with respect and with a certain kind of dignity. People love that kind of service as well that they get.

So, especially now that they’re using their own cultures, say Peruvian, or for us in this case Spanish, it’s good to combine those two, so you move a little bit away from the traditional and it’s new, it’s sparkling. It’s something that pulls people towards your restaurant, saying that you are a little bit on the gravel road rather than going on the straight and narrow forward to what everybody’s doing. I think that pulls a lot of customers or clients to your restaurant, and if you do it well, it makes it even better; you get a Michelin Star.

6. What is your favourite dish to cook at home?

For me, especially coming from South Africa, anything that’s been cooked on a fire. I have a level of expertise because we’ve been doing it from a very young age. Japanese has always had a place in my heart, so I love the way that it’s being presented, and I love the fine techniques and especially the Kobe that we use. The A5 beef in South Africa, especially the way I grew up, chicken is a vegetable, so anything with meat, you have my heart’s desire locked in.

7. When are you happiest?

When I’m in the kitchen. We joke with the guys to say our house is just the place where I go to visit. A couple of years ago, I moved away from the kitchen to work in coffee for two years because it was just a very interesting world to me. After two years, I had to go back to the kitchen because it’s something that is a part of you; the brigade of the kitchen. My father was in the military, and my uncles were in the military, so that is how I grew up. It’s what we have in the kitchen as well, that brigade, that level of respect that chefs have for each other, especially in this country with all the nationalities that work with each other. So that’s what I love about the kitchen, that rush; that’s where my heart is for sure. There was a point when someone asked if I wanted to go back to the kitchen, and I bawled my eyes out, saying yes, please, let me go back. I remember that moment like it was yesterday.

8. What is one life lesson you’ve learned along the journey?

I call it a little speed bump because I feel like it was. Funny enough, on this day eight years ago, I had brain cancer. It was diagnosed as a stage three tumour, and… the tumour was as big as a golf ball. I was diagnosed on Wednesday, and the surgery was on Friday. I was in the hospital for two weeks, and then the doctor wanted to start chemo and radiation. I said, ‘Hold on, because this is the first time in six years that I’m at home with the family that I can do Christmas and New Year’, and that’s a special time for chefs. We tend to miss those times because when everybody’s having a holiday, a chef works the most.

After that, I had to do six weeks of chemo. I was out of work for about eight months, but luckily with Anantara being the company that it is, they still paid me every

month. And they were taking care of my medical bills as well. So I was very, very happy.

I didn’t have any stress while going through the whole process. And I like to say I handled it like a cold. I know every cancer case is on a case-by-case basis, but for me, the way I handled it is the way the people around me would’ve handled it. So I handled it like a cold; let’s just get this over and done with, and that’s how everybody else took it, rather than sitting in a corner and crying about it and feeling sorry for myself.

Change your mentality in your head, and that’s pretty much how I tackle anything at this stage. I stopped planning 10 years ahead. I stopped planning five years ahead. There’s a big picture, but it’s not that important. What is important is what we do now and what we live now.

9.

How are you today?

Today, luckily, I’m very happy to say we’ve got very good doctors in this country, and I’ve been clear for eight years now. Nothing’s come back; I’m very, very happy… that I can still do what I love without the hindrance of something medically related.

10. Next two to five years, what do you see yourself doing?

In the immediate plan for us here at 99, if we can get one star, why not look for two? That’s always the challenge because you can also lose a Michelin Star as quickly as you get it. So for us, that’s our main focus at the moment.

We just do what we do. If opportunities come my way, and it’s right, and I feel right about it, I will grab it. But I’m very happy where we are now with 99 Sushi, and I’m very happy with the team that we work with; we work like a family.

So 99, as a group, has international goals that we want to achieve, and those are working. Rabat in Morocco is opening in December, and next year, there is more happening. So, 99 as a group has a lot of possibilities and a lot of places to grow. So with that regard, I see myself with the 99 family and staying with them. I don’t see myself moving on yet, as we want to work to keep the star.

11. Now how do you get two stars?

I think that’s where our service comes into play as well. We work a little bit more on the food, see what techniques we can improve, see what new trends are coming in. So you keep up with the trends, but for the second star, for sure, that’s where the service comes in. That’s where the wine list comes in—also the knowledge of the staff and how they approach things.

I think the biggest thing for Michelin is to see the love in the staff and how they present themselves. That’s why the first star is all about the signature, the chef, and if you can see his identity. I think when the service comes back, that’s when you go for the second star, so we’ll just try our best and see where we go.

MY ABU DHABI STORY

THE RESIDENTS VOICES

The UAE has been voted the best country to live in on several occasions, and its capital Abu Dhabi, specifically, ranked the safest city in which to live. The country is known to provide opportunities, which may not have been available in the expatriates’ home countries.

Here are some residents reflecting on their Abu Dhabi Story:

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IN ABU DHABI: A STAR-STUDDED GOLF CLASSIC BY STEVE HARVEY GALA DINNER

The second annual MELT Middle East Golf Classic by Steve Harvey Gala Dinner was lit (pun intended) as Hollywood, social media and local reality stars turned out to the event after a day of golfing at the Yas Acres Golf Club.

Hosted by Sally Mousa, who led an on-stage discussion with MELT Middle East founders Steve Harvey and Oweis Zahran, the event coincided with the Louvre Abu Dhabi’s fifth anniversary celebration.

Check out the list of some of the stars who attended:

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Steve Harvey, Marjorie Harvey, Pharell Williams; former NBA stars Shaquille O’Neal and Al Harrington; comedy legends Martin Lawrence, DL Hughley and Anthony Anderson; Earn Your Leisure founders Troy Millings and Rashad Bilal; RHOA star Nene Leakes; Harvey’s sons Broderick and Wynton Harvey; Pretty Little Things CEO Umar Kamani; viral social media stars Khaby Lame and Shiggy; scooter world champion Dakota Schuetz, boxing champion Badou Jack and retired French national football player Ibrahim Ba.

Anas Bukhash and members of the cast of the Real Housewives of Dubai: Chanel Ayan, Lesa Milan, Caroline Brooks, and Caroline Stanbury, represented the local scene.

Video by MELT MIDDLE

ABU DHABI DREAM BALL RAISES FUNDS WITH OTHERS AT HEART

The 4th annual Abu Dhabi Dream Ball, held Under the patronage of HE Sheikh Nahayan Mabarak Al Nahayan, UAE Cabinet member and the Minister of Tolerance and Coexistence, took place on November 17.

This year’s fundraiser supported Anera, a charity that has helped refugees and vulnerable communities in the Middle East since 1968.

The event raised over US$1 million, including the support of sponsors—pledges on the night—and bids on the auction lots raised over US$500,000.

A host of local and international guests lit up the white carpet, including Lando Norris, Elie Saab Jr, Hadley Gamble, and John Mikel Obi.

Memorable speeches were delivered by HE Sheikh Nahayan Mabarak Al Nahayan, Co-Chair Nadine Y Maalouf, best-selling author Deepak Chopra, and the President and CEO of Anera, Sean Carrol.

Her Excellency Sheikha Lubna Bint Khalid Al Qasimi, the first woman in the United Arab Emirates to hold a ministerial position, and Dr Youssef Maalouf presented the 2023 Special Recognition Award to His Excellency Sheikh Nahayan Mabarak Al Nahayan for his ongoing, unwavering commitment to empowering vulnerable communities, promote tolerance, educate young people, and pave the way for a better future.

Raya Abirached and Rosemin Madhavji led the proceeding of the evening, and live performances included one of Britain’s most successful singer-songwriters, Emeli Sandé.

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HUBLOT X CHEVAL BLANC RANDHELI

In celebration of Cheval Blanc Randheli’s ninth anniversary, Hublot honours its continued partnership with iconic Maison by introducing limited editions of the Big Bang Unico, and the Big Bang One Click watches, each in 25 numbered pieces.

The Big Bang Unico Cheval Blanc Randheli and the Big Bang One Click Cheval Blanc Randheli combine Hublot’s flair for style, sophistication, and mechanical innovation in stylish timepieces that are as vibrant and elegant as the idyllic Maldivian Maison it is named after.

Incorporating Cheval Blanc’s splendid shades of taupe and Randheli’s mesmerising popyellow sun, the two timepieces capture every moment of the memorable stay featuring an alligator strap in white and warm grey and a polished yellow ceramic bezel. The dials in shades of taupe reflect the warm wooden decks and signature colour of the Maison.

The Big Bang Unico dial is dressed in a matt taupe colour, while the Big Bang One click features a sunray taupe dial set with 11 brilliant white diamonds. The watches come with an additional white line rubber strap giving the wearer additional styling possibilities.

This collaboration follows the successful launch of the 2016 and 2017 Cheval Blanc Randheli Special Edition watches and is inspired by Hublot’s signature art of fusion, merging two worlds: luxury watchmaking and exceptional hospitality. They are a perfect souvenir for the guests of the unspoiled Noonu Atoll at Cheval Blanc Randheli.

The Big Bang Unico Cheval Blanc Randheli and the Big Bang One Click Cheval Blanc Randheli Special Editions are only available at the Maison Concept Store, in the dedicated Hublot area that reflects the identity of the most iconic Hublot boutiques around the world.

Equipped solely with a seconds hand, the Code 11.59 by Audemars Piguet Starwheel indicates the time using three discs that point to a 120-degree scale graduated with 60 minutes © Courtesy of Audemars

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THE CODE 11.59

by Audemars Piguet:

Starwheel revisits the Tradition of Wandering Hours

Invented in the 17th century, wandering hours are a type of horological complication that displays the hours using a system of satellites that gravitate along a minute scale arranged in the form of an arc. This aesthetic presentation of the hours and minutes brings a certain mystique to reading time.

After falling from favour in the 20th century, Audemars Piguet rediscovered and reintroduced this system in 1991. Named the Starwheel, this unusual mechanism equipped many models up until the early 2000s.

Ted Baker’s Christmas Gift Guide

As the gift-giving season approaches, Ted Baker makes lives easier with the perfect gifts for every loved one on your list.

The Traditional Male: For the classically styled male in your life, Ted Baker has practical and stylish accessories that make the ideal gift. Choose from black brogues that add sophistication to any look or from Ted Baker’s selection of PU bags that come in an array of colours like black and navy.

The Homebody Female: Comfort is key for this lady who wants to spend her festive season cuddled up at home with a good TV show. Ted Baker has a selection of pyjama sets in patterns that look good enough to wear out.

The Best Friend: Ted Baker’s bags are a must-have for the female best friend. You can’t go wrong with a classic mock croc print that comes in many shapes, like a tote or crossbody. A mesh strap is an unexpected choice for fashion-forward gentlemen, while a leather strap pairs well with any look. For the male best friend, a timeless Ted Baker watch is a foolproof gift.

The worry of gift shopping is a thing of the past thanks to Ted Baker, with a gift to suit every style.

To explore Ted Baker items, visit the regional website at tedbaker.ae

Establishing a daily skincare regimen is one of the easiest ways to ensure long-term skin health and a glowing complexion. Natural and organic skincare products, in particular, combine essential vitamins, botanicals, and minerals that heal and restore our skin—without harming our bodies or the Earth.

These natural skin care products from sustainable beauty brands are redefining industry standards and are perfect for your holiday hamper.

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Chebula Active Immunity Serum

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Price Range | Serum (AED 330)

Using nature’s most restorative and nourishing ingredients, including green tea leaf extract* and aloe vera leaf juice*, this award-winning serum is clinically proven to outperform two leading anti-ageing serums in fighting fine lines and wrinkles.

OSEA Ocean Cleansing Milk

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Price Range | Atmosphere protection cream (AED 313.50)

This super gentle daily cleanser cleanses the skin while hydrating and soothing rosacea skin types. OSEA Ocean Cleansing Milk is a fragrance-free cleanser; it gently removes makeup and is free of chemical surfactants. Red Algae gel from the Brittany Coast, DPHP, Water Lilly Extract and Rose Flower Wax hydrate, cleanse and soothe the skin.

Cocokind’s Turmeric Mask Stick

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Price Range | Turmeric Mask Stick (AED 82)

This clarifying spot treatment reduces the appearance of inflammation and brightens the look of dark spots. The mask stick is made with organic turmeric root powder - curcumin, a natural chemical found in turmeric, helps reduce the look of dark spots and brighten the skin; organic ginger root powder - antioxidant properties rich ginger has skin nourishing benefits to help protect against oxidative stress, and organic tea tree oil offers purifying cleansing, and skin-soothing benefits.

Herbivore Botanicals Bamboo Charcoal Detoxifying Soap Bar

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Bamboo Charcoal has been used for centuries in the Far East, purifying and cleansing the skin of dirt by drawing impurities from deep within pores. The Bamboo Charcoal Soap is suitable for all skin. Especially beneficial for oily and combination types. It can also be used as a body bar. The bar targets blemishes, the appearance of pores and skinbalancing

Weleda Skin Food Original Ultra-Rich Cream

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Weleda Skin Food Original Ultra-Rich Cream feeds thirsty skin with intense nourishment and hydration. With extracts of gentle viola tricolour, calendula and chamomile in a rich, thick base of oils and beeswax, Skin Food hydrates skin to give you a healthy-looking glow.

Skin Food is dermatologically tested and makes skin feel hydrated, smooth and moisturised.

Steps to Finding your Peace

In a frantic world, peace of mind might seem like a friend with whom you can rarely catch up. But, finding peace of mind is possible.

Peace of mind, sometimes called inner peace, refers to an internal state of tranquillity. When you find inner peace, you might feel:

• at ease within yourself

• a sense of self-compassion

• unruffled by day-to-day worries

• prepared to welcome whatever life tosses your way.

You might assume you can only find inner peace when you’re completely free of troubles, but that’s not the case. Making peace with your circumstances and planning for better is what it takes to find inner peace.

Here are seven things to do when trying to find your peace:

1. Know your ideal self. Make a list of all the good qualities you intend to cultivate. Are you going to be kinder, fairer, more tolerant, more generous, more patient, and more dignified? What are your responses to difficulties going to be? What principles do you wish to uphold?

2. Do the next right thing. If you’ve been struggling with your emotional or mental state, it may not be easy, at first, to act with integrity all the time. You may find yourself making mistakes and sometimes behaving in a less-than-ideal way. To build up a habit of sticking to your principles, practice doing the “next right thing” all the time.

3. You are not perfect. Let go of perfectionism. You could make my life a lot easier if you validated your attempts to do the right thing even when things were a struggle. Instead of beating yourself up and making yourself feel worse, understand that it’s all a journey. Give yourself grace. Allow yourself to be imperfect and make progress.

4. Make amends immediately.

If, for any reason, you end up treating someone unfairly or unkindly or doing something dishonest or mean, make amends as soon as possible. Don’t wait for the right time. Find peace of mind that you have improved upon your actions and done your part to relieve any ill feelings or guilt.

5. Practise patience.

Others around you may not live the same way you have chosen to live. It doesn’t matter; they will have their conscience to live with at the end of the day, and you will have yours. Choose to respond in a way that will give you peace of mind. Take a deep breath before reacting. Do the 5-4-3-2-1 countdown before you respond in situations that might anger you. Also, remember to be patient with yourself.

6. Let your head and heart support you.

You won’t have peace of mind if negativity dominates your thinking. Try to understand others rather than judging them. Forgive others, and you’ll free yourself. Radiate compassion. Not only will others benefit, but you’ll also add to your self-esteem.

7. Practise gratitude

Keep a gratitude journal every single day. This may feel cheesy and ‘Pinteresty’, but it’s powerful and transformative. Anxiety keeps us fixated on past experiences or worried about future ones, but gratitude is grounding because it centres us in the present. It reminds us to stop complaining and whining and internalise our blessings.

Each day, write down five things you’re grateful for, beginning with “ Today I am grateful for . . .” Practising gratitude is foundational for a life of peace. If you can’t find five things, start with three and increase as the weeks go on.

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Pushing Through Tough Times and Difficult Obstacles

“Even a happy life cannot be without a measure of darkness, and the word happy would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness.”

- Carl Jung

Dark, dangerous-looking, stormy clouds overtake the sky. They forecast turbulent weather. We watch, and we accept the laws of nature. We go with the flow, understanding that if we want a rainbow, we have had to endure heavy rainfall and thunder.

We welcome inclement conditions because we know there is always sunshine after rain. We expect light after darkness. Yet, it is difficult for us to apply the very same principles when challenging events touch us on a personal level.

When facing adversities in our personal or professional life, we tend to react negatively.

We might surrender to sorrow and get discouraged with our tasks and undertakings. Gone with the wind are our positive attitude and upbeat approach to life. We become impatient with struggles and hardships that come our way, viewing difficulties as our enemies. We might wish for an instant solution or a quick fix to eliminate our fear, discontent with the situation, and insecurities.

Yet, perhaps the key to life is to accept challenges, instead of avoiding them, and to recognise their silver lining. Possibly it is not so much about the difficulties one faces but meeting oneself in the face of such adversities.

A Man in the Mirror

“Adversity introduces a man to himself.”

- Albert Einstein

It is easy to have a presence and keep our heads up when all goes smoothly and we are on top of our game. We gather new acquaintances that want to be in our circles. We feel the admiration of others that are looking for a closer association. We are the champions. We pat ourselves on the shoulders and feel love and respect. That’s the way to go.

However, life is not constructed linearly. It has peaks and valleys. It contains joys and disappointments, winning and losing moments. It has a spectrum of bright and dark hues that paint our existence and create our personality.

It is exactly in tough times that we discover our

true colours and our real character. When we paddle through rough waters, we gather our courage. We come across our full potential. We have a chance to build our mental strength and physical endurance, pushing our body and mind beyond our limits, advancing our intellect and developing our talents.

It is only natural to go through hardships. It is neither a point of shame nor a defeat. It is a circle of life, a sign to further self-discovery, a chance to become better and stronger, mentally and physically. It is a signal to believe in us and have faith in our inner power.

When we go through hardships and decide not to surrender, that is the strength and authentic character-building component. That is a self-love and self-respect process we are to appreciate and be thankful for.

Who am I? What are my virtues and values? What do I represent?

Order versus Chaos

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Difficulties make us feel alive. With the right approach, they are a source of motivation. In sports, athletes thrive when they are under pressure. Challenges work as a natural boost of stamina. Yet, unexpected or prolonged hardships might throw us off balance and cause chaos.

Facing turbulent times requires the right approach and strategy. It is about analysing the situation and modifying plans according to circumstances. Retreating to cool down our emotions gives us much-needed time to calmly regroup and form new decisions. Taking a step back is not about giving up or surrendering. It is a tactic to recharge and reorganise before taking two steps forward.

We can meditate and use a calming breathing technique to contemplate and attain inner stability. We might also visualise our desired outcome and experience it in our brain with positive emotions creating matter through our energy and thoughts. This way, we encounter a sense of meaning, aligning our actions with our dreams.

When we stop and check with ourselves internally, we are better able to understand our exact position and determine our next move. We are able to attend to what is necessary to bring back order while setting a new path forward.

“Start by doing what is necessary; then do what is possible, and suddenly you are doing what is impossible.”

Francis of Assisi

Stoic Wisdom

Stoic philosophers praised intelligence and fortitude, focusing on the development of virtues over pleasure. To build our inner strength, integrity and dignity and practise our righteousness, we must encounter various life hardships and difficulties to become wholesome.

The presence of a well-balanced and resilient mind in the heat of disruptive occurrences is a key to resisting an emotional response to our setbacks

- Marcus Aurelius

and frustrations. Withholding the emotional pull of the moment, and remaining confident, positive and assertive, no matter the circumstances, can help us to think logically and strategically.

Facing various adversities trains the mind to become tougher. Learning to restrain spur-of-amoment emotional reactions steers us away from the chaos and lets us think twice before we make our next move.

“You have power over your mind - not outside events. Realise that, and you will find strength.”

Epicurean Love of Life

Pleasure is the highest good, defined through freedom from fear and pain and calmness of mind. This ancient philosophy recognises the power of the mind as a primary source of pleasure, structure, and self-control. Epicurus, founder of this ideology, focused on achieving joy in moderate living, limiting artificially produced wants and desires that can be a source of pain and frustration. Being content with simple things and achieving inner tranquillity is the key to the Epicurean approach to life.

challenges presented in our life. We eliminate negative emotions of fear and distress with gratitude for our life. Appreciating the moment in time, enjoying the companionship of our dear family members and trusted friends, feeling content after a delightfully nutritious meal, or spending time in beautiful and comfortable surroundings adds to building our positivity.

- Epicurus

It is about building character by analysing our needs and desires and courageously seeking inner peace, moderation, and composure, despite

Moderation, mindfulness and paying attention to our physical and mental well-being support our quest to achieve an inner equilibrium and develop a collected, self-commanded demeanour, increasing our odds of defeating any adversity thrown at us.

“You do not develop courage by being happy in your relationships every day. You develop it by surviving difficult times and challenging adversity”

Triumph and Reward

“Accept the challenges so that you can feel the exhilaration of victory.”

- General George S Patton

We wish for an easy life. Yet, the joy of life comes as a reward in response to our triumphant fight against all odds. To achieve inner balance and become well-rounded individuals, we endure a spectrum of situations and circumstances that shape our character and form our behaviour.

From ancient philosophers and athletes trained in a competitive environment to strategists, military experts and leaders, we learn about the value of developing inner strength and resilience by training our minds to remain calm and composed under pressure. Our collected approach to facing adversities is a powerful tool that supports us in making the right decisions and setting new strategies.

In our grand plan, we might lose some battles, but, in the end, we might win our campaign if we focus on our ultimate goal and act with persistence to accomplish it.

Giving up is not an option. Instead of reacting emotionally to people and situations, we can take control and set subtle but precise and effective actions bringing us closer to the finish line.

Anna

Fascinated with the holistic approach to life and business, and wanting to understand the human mind and human behaviour, Anna studied Foundations of Psychology at Yale University. She is an innovative technologies expert and media personality known for her writing, speaking engagements and interviews with entrepreneurs, industry influencers, and idea trendsetters. Coming from an artistic background, Anna continues her family legacy by being a third generation involved in the film industry.

“Being challenged in life is inevitable; being defeated is optional.”

- Roger Crawford

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5Fitness Trends to Look out for in 2023

It’s that time of year when new year’s resolutions are being made, and usually at the top of people’s lists is getting back in shape after all the holiday indulgences.

If you’re looking to stay ahead of the curve, here are five fitness trends to look out for in 2023:

HIIT workouts will become even more popular

High-intensity interval training (HIIT) has become very popular over the last few years because it allows you to achieve quick results and burn fat without spending hours in the gym.

This workout style involves short bursts of intense exercise followed by a rest period, forcing your body to work at a higher intensity than during a regular workout.

This training can be highly effective at burning fat and improving fitness levels. It’s also a lot of fun, making it the perfect type of workout for people who don’t like going to the gym.

Although this type of workout is already trendy, it will become even more popular in the next few years as people look for ways to improve their health without spending a tonne of time working out.

A bigger focus on mental fitness

The pandemic took a toll on many people’s mental health, and it’s clear that we need to focus on our well-being more than ever before.

In 2023, we can expect to see more people focusing on their mental health and taking steps to improve their well-being. This could include anything from meditation and yoga to therapy and self-care routines.

Virtual Reality Workouts

Virtual reality workouts will become more popular as technology advances. You'll be able to sweat it out in exotic locations or with your favourite celebrity trainer without even leaving your living room! Workout trends went through some revolutionary changes during the COVID-19 times, and they seem like they'll stay.

Digital detox

People are begging to realise that taking social media breaks and disconnecting from technology regularly is therapeutic and attainable as a self-care goal. Practices like putting phones in do not disturb mode, muting social media notifications and reverting to traditional alarm clocks so phones can be tucked away at night are becoming increasingly popular.

Increased interest in plant-based diets

Plant-based diets have been gaining popularity over the past few years, and this trend will only continue in 2023.

As people become more aware of the benefits of plantbased eating, they’ll be more likely to incorporate them into their diet—cutting out meat altogether or simply eating less.

Michelin-starred Hakkasan Abu Dhabi

Hakkasan Abu Dhabi is one of the three restaurants awarded a Michelin Star in the inaugural Abu Dhabi Michelin Guide. The restaurant joins Hakkasan Hanway Place, Hakkasan Mayfair, and Hakkasan Dubai in holding a Michelin star.

This makes Hakkasan one of the most recognised brands by Michelin, with four individual stars held across 10 locations.

Having opened in Emirates Palace Hotel in June 2010, Hakkasan Abu Dhabi’s menus are spearheaded by Executive Chef Lee Kok Hua, with guidance from Global Executive Chef Andrew Yeo. Chef Lee started his culinary journey at the age of 16 and now brings to the kitchen more than 30 years of culinary experience, including at kitchens in Johor and Singapore.

Chef Lee’s menus take inspiration from the seven years he spent at Hakkasan Hanway Place, with the year he started at the restaurant (2003) coinciding with the year it first gained a Michelin star, which it has since retained. These dishes that he has created stay true to Hakkasan’s ethos of highlighting incredible ingredients through modern Cantonese dishes whilst also featuring specials exclusive to the location, with these reflecting his philosophy of the guest being the highest priority in the restaurant.

Hakkasan Hanway Place was the first Chinese restaurant to receive a Michelin Star in the UK guide in 2003 and has now retained it for 19 years, being joined in 2011 by Hakkasan Mayfair and in 2022 by Hakkasan Dubai, which also gained a star in Dubai’s inaugural Michelin Guide.

All Hakkasan locations are overseen by Chef Yeo, who now holds four Michelin Stars, making him one of the most awarded Chinese chefs globally.

Hakkasan’s resilience and culinary relevance have continued to grow since its 2021 acquisition by Tao Group Hospitality. The group’s Chief Culinary Officer, Ralph Scarmadella, has worked closely with the Hakkasan culinary team on the brand’s expansion, as seen in the forthcoming openings of Hakkasan Riyadh, which will overlook Riyadh’s Diriyah Gate whilst Hakkasan Istanbul will be on the banks of the iconic Bosphorus strait.

This prestigious accolade, gained by Hakkasan Abu Dhabi, further cements the culinary credentials of the acclaimed Cantonese restaurant and Tao Group Hospitality.

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Holiday Drinks from Around the World

In many countries, nothing says winter like the smell of homemade drinks. With Christmas around the corner and celebrated across many diverse cultures—each with traditions and practices, why limit yourself to the same festive brews this year?

Here are some winning combinations from around the world:

COQUITO, PUERTO RICO

Coquito is the cream-like choice of beverage for Puerto Ricans at Christmastime. This coconut-based cocktail is made with rum, coconut milk, sweet condensed milk, vanilla, cinnamon, and cloves.

Variations of the drink include flavoured rum or spiced rum, with other recipes calling for lemon zest, ginger, and chocolate. Add some eggs, and you’ll have a ponche—the Venezuelan or Dominican version of eggnog.

EGGNOG, USA & CANADA

Eggnog hardly needs an introduction. You’ll undoubtedly have spotted this delicious blend of milk, eggs, and sugar in every North American holiday movie. Add a splash of your favourite alcohol to make it more indulgent

IRISH COFFEE, IRELAND

There are many ways to drink Irish coffee and just as many occasions. But as people who’ve been to Ireland during the holidays know, it’s everywhere this time of year. The popular drink was invented in the 1940s in County Limerick by a chef called Joe Sheridan, who served it to cold passengers from an arriving ship.

Irish coffee is simple to make. Take one cup of freshly brewed coffee, one tablespoon of sugar, and a shot of Irish whiskey. Mix and serve with cream and a dusting of cinnamon on top. For some healthier variations, serve it with decaf coffee for less caffeine, or omit the sugar for less sugar content. It’s also worth trying with rum extract instead of whiskey or skipping the cream.

BOMBARDINO, ITALY

Popular during the winter in Italy, particularly in ski resorts, the Bombardino is Italy’s version of eggnog. Its name derives from the exclamation of one of its first-ever tasters who, noting the kick of the alcohol and the high temperature, said: “It’s like a bomb!”

To make a bombardino, simply mix one part advocaat or eggnog with one part brandy. Heat and serve with whipped cream on top. A shot of espresso can be added, too. To make it healthier, leave out the whipped cream or, for a non-alcoholic version, try a brandy extract mixed with non-alcoholic eggnog.

SORREL, JAMAICA

This deep-red drink comes in slightly different forms. In Spanish-speaking countries in and near the Caribbean, sorrel is known as agua de Jamaica and karkade in several Middle Eastern and African countries. The sorrel plant is believed to have made its way to the region from West Africa during the transatlantic slave trade, and it has connections to African medicinal tradition.

Appropriately tropical, this Jamaican festive drink is made with petals from a type of hibiscus, ginger, cinnamon sticks, cloves, sugar, white rum, and a few dashes of ground nutmeg. Chill in a refrigerator, and then serve.

The rum in this drink is optional, so for a non-alcoholic version, leave it out. For a slightly tarter (and healthier) punch, add less sugar.

GLÜHWEIN, GERMANY

Perhaps one of the world’s most-known festive beverages is Germany’s glühwein, more commonly known as mulled wine.

Variations of this hot wine-based beverage are wide and varied, but in its most basic form amounts to red wine spiced with cloves, orange, and cinnamon.

The German glühwein typically calls for lemon, cinnamon sticks, cardamom or ginger, and cloves. In Alsace, traditionalists will add vanilla beans. Nordic gløgg is very similar to glühwein, albeit for the option shot of aquavit – a traditional Nordic white spirit.

SBITEN, RUSSIA

Sbiten is a traditional honey and herbbased beverage that dates back to the 12th century. Made with honey, water, spices (including cinnamon, ginger, cardamom, and cloves) and oranges, it’s originally non-alcoholic, though red wine, vodka or brandy is often added.

Sbiten is considered by many to be a home remedy for a host of ailments, from the common cold to melancholy, making it the perfect antidote for Russia’s long, cold winter days.

WASSAIL, UNITED KINGDOM

Wassail was originally an integral part of a mediaeval ritual where people went doorto-door singing and offering a drink from the wassail bowl in exchange for presents and good tidings. A pot of this warm apple cider-type drink with plenty of cloves and cinnamon will warm any cold night, whether you spend it visiting all of your neighbours or not.

SUJEONGGWA, KOREA

Sujeonggwa is a non-alcoholic, cinnamon-ginger punch that is typically enjoyed after a big meal as a dessert beverage or digestif. Literally translated as “cookies in water”, Sujeonggwa is made with ginger, cinnamon, brown sugar, and water (and is topped with persimmons and pine nuts for an ultimate seasonal effect).

Its two main ingredients—cinnamon and ginger—are celebrated for their digestive and anti-microbial properties, making it the perfect beverage for ending a winter meal. Served over ice, Sujeonggwa is packed with all of the flavours and aromas that define the season of giving.

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Rixos Bab Al Bahr: Couples can go, too

When many think of Rixos Bab Al Bahr, family fun (with children) is probably the first thought, so let’s take you on the ultimate couples retreat to the same hotel.

Start with a picturesque view of camels grazing or lining the desert road on the journey to Rixos Bab Al Bahr. The hotel is located on Al Marjan Island

in Ras Al Khaimah, off the Emirates Road, about an hour north of Dubai.

On entering the all-inclusive property, you are greeted by the most welcoming staff at check-in before taking off to your beautifully decorated room. On the way, you are bound to notice the tranquil colours and beautiful decor along the corridors.

THE ROOM

A spacious, third-floor premium bedroom opened up to a massive balcony with beautiful views of the ocean and the front of the hotel, the perfect spot to take in the breathtaking sunset.

The room was tastefully decorated with beiges with touches of navy blue on the carpet, bed linen and pieces of furniture. The room came fully equipped with a king bed, lounge chairs, an office desk and chair, spacious wardrobes with ironing facilities and a minibar. The minibar came stocked with refreshments, all included in the all-inclusive package.

Notice we left the bathroom out? Yes, that is because we have a thing for bathrooms. The massive white bathroom was well-lit, with a large shower and a nice touch—a vanity. The bathroom also opened out to the balcony. There was only one thing missing from the bathroom—a bath. On a couple’s holiday, one of the most relaxing things is to have a nice long soak in the bath after a day at the beach, or maybe that’s just us. However, that felt like it was missing for us.

BEACH

Head off to the pristine white sand beaches for a swim or relax on the sunloungers while enjoying a cool drink from the nearby Cabana Bar. On the beach, you can also enjoy a volleyball game with other guests, an excellent way to meet other people.

Also, look out for the ice cream buggy for a cold, indulgent snack during the day.

WATERSPORTS

Watersports enthusiasts or couples wanting to give it a go can experience various sea adventures, including scuba diving, windsurfing, snorkelling, and more. Watersports is not included in the all-inclusive package.

CABANA OASIS

Along the beach is also a secluded area—Cabana Oasis—that couples can book cabanas (AED 399) with butler service for a quiet day away from the hustle and bustle of the hotel. Cabana Oasis is open daily from 9 am - 6 pm. Be sure to book in advance, as these tend to go very quickly.

POOLS

There are several pools at the property that come in various sizes. Many of the pools are crowded with families with children. However, the cool thing for couples is that there is a dedicated pool and full bar for adults only. This is located closer to the beach and away from the other pool areas. The area is also manned, which means couples can relax without fear of being disturbed.

FOOD

There are several dining options at the hotel: 15 in total.

BREAKFAST:

Buffet breakfast is served in the main restaurant, Seven Heights; however, this area can become extremely busy with families with children. To help couples have a more relaxing time at the start of the day, the hotel has put on what is known as a Comfort Breakfast at Fish Bone, the seafood restaurant. Though this is a much smaller setting, all the main breakfast menu fillers are available.

Large-spread lunch and dinner are served at Seven Heights, however, guests can book one of the five other restaurants to enjoy a quieter feast. These range from Italian to Turkish to meat-lovers paradise.

During our stay, we enjoyed fresh seafood from Fish Bone, amazing pizzas from O’olivio and tasty vegan burgers from Meatpoint.

BARS AND PUBS

The hotel also has seven pubs and bars where couples can enjoy a nightcap before retreating to bed.

NIGHTLY ENTERTAINMENT

There is a range of nightly entertainment, many of which can be viewed from the restaurants. Though a bit “cruiseshippy”, the live performances are rather enjoyable. They include acrobatic performances, dance shows, and a fantastic masquerade-themed night on the Sea & See stage.

GROUNDS

The hotel grounds are clean, and the lawns well-manicured.

OVERALL IMPRESSION

All in all, we had a lovely time at the property. We were not overwhelmed by the number of children and still felt we could enjoy a relaxing time at the resort.

We give Rixos Bab Al Bahr an 8/10

Reasons

Budapest

1. VÖRÖSMARTY SQUARE CHRISTMAS MARKET

Winter in Budapest would not be complete without visits to its numerous and famous Christmas markets located around the city. The Vörösmarty Square Christmas Market is the city's largest.

Bathed in twinkle lights and decorated in Christmas ornaments to the hilt, this year the Christmas market will remain open until December 31, 2022.

Taste the traditional Christmas dishes of Hungary on offer, including such favourites as stuffed cabbage, fish soup, chimney cake, or buy beautiful handcrafted gifts for your loved ones from the many vendors, craftsmen, and women. There are lots of festive puppet shows held throughout the day and evenings, with a Bethlehem scene created for the small ones, guaranteeing every visitor is suitably invigorated with the Christmas spirit!

2. BASILICA CHRISTMAS MARKET

One Christmas market is never enough, and, fortunately, just next to Vörösmarty Square is another Christmas market—located at the foot of Budapest’s second tallest building—to explore, the Basilica. In addition to the food vendors and merchants offering a lot of festive arts and crafts, an ice-skating rink has also been created, adding perfectly to the winter-wonderland scene.

With the Basilica as a backdrop, be prepared to take Instagramable snaps.

3. ICE SKATING RINKS AROUND BUDAPEST

Ice-skating is a Christmas tradition for Budapest locals, with ice rinks located throughout the city. The most famous is the skating rink in front of Vajdahunyad Castle in the City Park, which is best experienced at night.

The castle is beautifully lit up, and the air is fully fragranced with the smell of roasted chestnuts being steamed by the rink. Skates are easily rented at the site, so you can celebrate Christmas like a local!

Pro tip 1

Walk along the beautifully lit Andrássy Avenue, which ends at Heroes’ Square and the skating rink in the City Park.

Pro tip 2

If you’d like to try out other skating rinks, there are also festive skating rinks in the main squares in Óbuda and in Újpest.

4. WALK AROUND THE MAJOR CITIES IN BUDAPEST (SZENTENDRE, GÖDÖLLŐ)

Festive celebrations are not just limited to the capital, with Budapest’s nearby satellite cities also providing a great opportunity for new discoveries and festive cheer, especially in Szentendre or Gödöllő!

Szentendre’s charm captivates all with its cosy cafés and restaurants.

The city hosts a Christmas market and is home to a Christmas Museum.

Gödöllő is also close to Budapest and is proudly home to Sissi Castle and the unique Christmas House, both great attractions to visit with the whole family.

5. BUDAPEST THERMAL BATHS

After a day of walking the city and Christmas markets, it is always great to know that relaxation and rejuvenation is never far away in Budapest, thanks to its many world-famous spas.

There are more than 1,500 thermal springs found throughout Hungary, each with its own unique properties and settings to enliven the soul. Széchenyi Spa is the largest thermal spa in Budapest and is unique for its large outdoor settings. Rudas Spa, at the foot of Gellért Hill, has a rooftop hot pool offering stunning panoramic views of the city. Also, at the foot of Gellért Hill is the Gellért Baths, one of Budapest’s oldest and most famous baths.

6. SLEDDING IN NORMAFA

Normafa, located on the Buda side of the city, is a popular hiking spot offering one of the most beautiful snowy winter landscapes. In addition to enjoying a refreshing stroll, if you are lucky enough to visit Hungary when it is snowing, you can also go sledging, eat homemade strudel, and even go up to the lookout tower on János Hill, where delicious roasted chestnuts tempt visitors.

For children, there’s a playground, and for couples and those with a sweet tooth, the nearby Szamos Szepkilátás Patisserie makes the perfect end to any Normafa excursion.

Although the Chain Bridge is closed, you can still enjoy a beautiful view of the winter landscape from the funicular from the Chain Bridge to Buda Castle.

7. CHRISTMAS TRAMS WITH TWINKLE LIGHTS

Christmas Trams are a Budapest institution and a favourite of Budapest residents. Covered in twinkle lights and running throughout the city, they only make their appearance in the lead-up to Christmas and make for a great Instagram moment.

8. SNOWY, FROSTY WALK AROUND BUDA CASTLE

Few things are more beautiful than walking around Budapest Castle at this time of year. Strolling through the snow-covered, cobbled streets, taking in the sights of Buda Castle, Matthias Church, as well as the recently renovated Riding Hall and St Stephen’s Hall, a morning or afternoon out is best capped off with a visit to Hungary’s oldest confectionery house, Ruszwurm Confectionery, for a decadent cake and hot cup of tea or coffee.

9. CHRISTMAS SHOPPING IN BUDAPEST

Christmas is a time for spoiling loved ones (and yourself) with surprise gifts and presents! Shopping in Budapest is always great, but during Christmas, there is even more on offer.

At the fairs, you can buy expertly handcrafted goods, bags and products from Hungarian craftsmen and women. At Vörösmarty Square, there is Fashion Street and Váci Street, where high-street fashion brands and boutiques line up one after the other.

For those looking for high-end luxury brands, Andrássy Street is the place to go. Here the latest collections and selections from brands such as Gucci, Louis Vuitton, Rolex, and Burberry can be found. Adding to the excitement and charm, Andrássy Avenue is especially beautifully lit during the festive season, so one can enjoy the illuminated surroundings between shop visits.

10. CHRISTMAS IN THE OPERA HOUSE

Tchaikovsky’s Nutcracker has for decades been an essential part of celebrating Christmas at the Hungarian State Opera House. The fairytale ballet continues to enchant and mesmerise audiences year after year.

However, with the Opera House having recently undergone extensive renovations, this year, more than ever, is expected to bedazzle and be a spectacular experience not to be missed.

11. SPECTACULAR CAFÉS

Budapest's café houses are world-famous— and rightly so! Whether it be between visits to Christmas markets, shopping sprees, or even city walks, the day can always be broken up with visits to Budapest cafés, which truly are an experience unto themselves.

Delicious cakes, light bites, coffees, teas, and hot chocolates are all on the menu, served in the most elaborate and gorgeous settings. If your time is limited, be sure to at least include New York Café, arguably one of the most beautiful restaurants in Budapest.

12. DINNER CRUISE ON THE RIVER DANUBE

The best way to experience Budapest's many architectural wonders is from the River Danube that runs right through it. And the best way to do that is as a dinner cruise aboard a luxury catamaran.

With Budapest's landmarks all decorated and lit up for the season and live piano music providing a musical serenade, Budapest is ready to hold visitors spellbound as they enjoy a sumptuous festive dinner, one to be remembered for many Christmas' to come.

Inside the AED 130 million Riva Del Lusso

Riva Del Lusso is a 10,000 sq ft beachfront signature villa boasting five bedrooms, seven bathrooms, private beach access, a private swimming pool, and spacious private basement parking.

The property is on Billionaire’s Row, on the picturesque Frond G of the world-famous Palm Jumeirah. This impressive villa is truly an architectural masterpiece of epic proportions.

Dubai-based Alpago Properties recently sold Riva Del Lusso for AED 130 million. This superb villa is the epitome of class and sophistication.

Also featuring the most magnificent views of Atlantis and Royal Atlantis and surrounded by the freshest waters of the Arabian Gulf, Riva Del Lusso is on another level of excellence.

The opulent villa is one of only a handful of villas in Palm Jumeirah with custom-made basement parking, which can house six cars comfortably. It is an architectural and interior design work of art designed by the Maestro Massimo Castagna and the multi-award-winning firms SAOTA, Interni Design Experience & CK architecture.

Completed back in June of this year, Riva Del Lusso is a modern residential wonder and the first of six Alpago Properties’ signature villas set to dominate Billionaire’s Row.

For the Culture Commitment to your Chance

I always marvelled at folks who attempt the world-renowned ‘new year’s resolution.’

“On January 1st, I will start a new diet, exercise for 30 minutes daily, and meditate for another 15 minutes,” was my last new year’s resolution. Funnily, I was resolute only in thought, not deed nor action.

This concept of making and maintaining a ‘new year’s resolution’ confounded me. I was perplexed, perhaps dismayed, that I could not last the first month of this serious decision, journey, and point of enlightenment. I was in the middle of the first month of 12. It led me to think, comically, who commits to such a thing as this façade?

Significantly, the real enlightenment dawned on me the night of the Black Excellence Awards, when a powerful woman, the organiser and visionary Marsha Fry, pontificated, “It is time to commit to chance.” It was just the message I needed to answer my dismay of never conquering the first month of 12.

This statement gave more meaning to the concept, which states that “The journey of a thousand miles does not necessarily start with the first step, but the intention, purpose, and resolve to execute such an action.”

HH Sheikh Mohamed Bin Zayed Al Nahyan once postulated, “If your point of view is positive, you will see the challenges in the future as opportunities.” This eloquent, graceful, and wise leader of the UAE spoke with intrigue as he posited this statement under the umbrella thought of having the right mindset for the future. His wise words, tied with the charge from Fry, opened my subliminal eyes to the fact that people like me, who struggle with resolutions, have a dilemma, and this predicament is that “Our process is our problem.”

Learning to let go of things, people, and inopportune situations is difficult for us when we cannot see that one change in direction could be all we need; one dance ‘risk’ could change our lives and save us from myopia that keeps our eyes chasing the same path that leads our present straight back to our past.

Consequently, taking control of our present is our greatest challenge to being the masters of our future.

A phenomenon occurs when we think so much

that we end up doing nothing. This active inaction comes from an active mind being obsessed with being perfect, infatuated by instant gratification, which ends up leading to the very same thing we try desperately to avoid, failure.

Our problem is our process because of giving and taking to task our thoughts, and our process gets stagnant by failing to “Just do it,” like Nike, and realise that “We got now,” like New Balance.

What I have taken from the lesson I learned the night of November 5th, 2022, is that our future is the decisions we make now. “Just do it because we got it now” is a mantra; I believe we must permeate our actions and intentions. It is time for us to make a concerted effort and decision to risk our present to reap the rewards for our future.

Gratification tastes better when it gets time to marinade into the meat of the matter of our future. The instance of instant gratification is as shallow as our eyes are from our hands in their further distance.

Additionally, HH Sheikh Mohamed Bin Zayed explained that “The worst thing you can ever do is to wait; waiting is a waste of time and a waste of years and missed accomplishments.” MBZ, as he is known around the world, tells us in this quote again, as is the consensus of this piece, that we must change our direction to develop and grow into our best selves. Yesterday’s self struggles to match today’s demands because our yesterday’s self-served its purpose... yesterday!

It is in our worst interest to wait because, as HH Sheikh Mohamed Bin Zayed said, we are missing the boat onwards to the port of success. It is in our best interest to commit to our chance. It is in our best interest to commit to change. It is in our best interest to act now because waiting on our complete thoughts to come off will not happen without taking that first step. We must be intent on making

that decision to maintain seriousness, the desire to scorn gratification that comes flaring and instantly for more substance and clarity.

Another interesting point of view is that where we are trained is not where we are elevated. Training for intent and purpose does not always have to be our physical environment. There is always a space or place for the different facets of our being, like mental, emotional, or cultural.

Where we are trained must be the catalyst for us to commit to a chance since the process of training is to prepare us for the risk of competition. Yet, I find that even in my own ‘coming up’, I found it very difficult to let go of the old self I alluded to previously. To let go, we will have to cut off our old selves, which we are overly attached to. This aspect of our lives stunts our growth, but we will hold on because it is the safest thing to do.

Again, this current era has succinctly set us for risk takers to reap the rewards; we must, in training, be prepared to take the same risks we are shedding our old selves to be ready for. Whatever the process we are going through now, remember that later it will be easier when you commit to taking chances for our change.

Finally, it is vitally important to listen to your heart. Committing to a chance is a scary proposition because you are challenging yourself to challenge the unknown. Harking back to HH Sheikh Mohamed and Marsha Fry, both juggernauts of their spaces in leadership, committing to our chance will bring the change you want because with a positive mindset, you have created a path for your future today.

Let us not be like the old me this January, wasting time planning and thinking about how we want to approach this year’s resolution. Instead, let us, “Just do it because we got it now.”

Every day is a blessing; if we are present, the world must feel our presence. A positive mindset opens the door to a positive outcome. Therefore, let us apply ourselves to supply our wealth (not necessarily money or materials). Do not allow our process to be our problems by being overthinkers and active non-starters. Of course, committing to a chance is petrifying; a change in direction is all we need to shed ourselves of myopia, stunted growth, and monotony many of us might be experiencing.

Let us harken to these two honourable and intriguing leaders; let’s commit to our chance!

JEROME DOUGLAS

Jerome Douglas is a dad, trained teacher, poet and writer from the beautiful island of Jamaica. His personal philosophy is “If it is for me to be, then it is up to me.” He attended the Catholic College of Mandeville in Jamaica. Additionally, he is a community builder and humanitarian who volunteers his time to help with the academic and social well-being of people in his Central Jamaica community and surrounding areas.

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The Gifts of Imperfection

by Brené Brown

Imagine embracing who you truly are and letting go of who you’re “supposed” to be using the “dig-deep button”. Imagine living wholeheartedly.

These are the main concepts that Dr Brené Brown explores in The Gifts of Imperfection. She explores the most significant barriers to authentic living and shows us how to move through them to cultivate resilience.

The book contains personal stories, motivational quotes, and ideas for making deliberate inspired choices about how we live.

The Gifts of Imperfection is split into 10 chapters—or guideposts—that lead the reader to let go of what people think; cultivate gratitude; let go of exhaustion and anxiety, and cultivate happiness.

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