2012-11-01 outlook columbus magazine by Outlook Media, Inc

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inside: social tsar Robbie stephens are you a stress mess? Movember in molumbus stick me: acupuncture hands on healing MadLab Apocalypse Silver Moon Rising A little dog laughed interview: mika out & Proud & Local celebrity bloggers

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alternative health is political It’s a fine, fall day here at the outlook offices, and transition is definitely in the air. Not only is the temperature dropping, the leaves are a brilliant yellow and deep red, but the sounds of bull dozers and dump trucks across the street are sign that change is upon us and things are finally moving forward... as are we.

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Also changing around here is our corporate structure. If you haven’t heard yet, as of August 14, 2012, I became the sole owner of Outlook Media. With the additions of Bob and Robby, I’ll have much more time to focus on building community cooperation and outreach while also expanding our This month we welcome two new peo- product lines to new markets. ple to the outlook family. Robert Vitale from the Dispatch will be coming on And the last bit a change for this issue as our new Editor-in-Chief for both of is a change of perception. This month our publications. Bob has a wealth of we are focusing on Alternative/Holistic journalism experience covering both Medicine and the community’s practithe local government and transporta- tioners. Inside and online we talk with tion beats for our hometown, daily a variety of people specializing in newspaper. Expect to see a positive ways to heal without just popping a shift in the editorial both in print and pill. Covering everything from online, as he will be directing much acupuncture to reiki, yoga to EFT, homore hard-hitting news topics, while listic dieting to therapy, we hope to also bringing in a bit of levity to our enlighten you to new and time-tested products. We are super excited to practices that can make your life bethave him as part of the fold and hope ter, keep you healthy and having you you all welcome him with as much feeling good. glitter and gayness as you can muster. I think that is something we could all And speaking of levity, we also weluse. come Robby Stephens as our new Scene Tsar, another excellent edition Christopher Hayes to the magazine. You may know Robby Publisher from his day job as an Am-Fam insurance agent, his current moonlighting PS. Don’t forget to vote! Hit early votjob as Stonewall’s Contributing Editor ing on Morse Road or hit the polls on or his past stint as Cue’s Scene Editor. November 6. Download outlook’s enHe is definitely a man about town, and dorsements at: http://outlookcolumas such, he will be snapping your pic- bus.com/2012/10/polisigh-2012-endor ture and giving you the 411 on the hot sements/ events in Columbus. Practice saying outlookcolumbus.com

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What is your Outlook? by Robby Stephens, Social Tsar I’m so excited to be joining the Outlook Magazine team. I’ll be out and about on the town covering events for my monthly contributions to the scene section of the magazine. We say goodbye to Halloween and start preparing our social calendars for the Holiday season! When I say “Holiday Season” I also include the OSU vs. MICHIGAN game as an official Holiday in Cbus. Football season has certainly picked up with OSU’s dramatic win over Purdue. So what’s on your calendar Columbus? Make sure to ‘Like’ our facebook page to see continued coverage of special events, people, and business spotlights. Just search for Outlook Columbus or go to: http://www.facebook.com/outlookcolumbus.

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The 2012 SBB Awards Gala by Robby Stephens, Social Tsar The Bluestone was the venue, local business owners were the guests, and the Small Business Beanstalk was the host! The second annual Small Business Beanstalk Awards Gala was held in late October with a dress to impress theme. The Emmy style awards celebration of local businesses in the Columbus area had an amazing turnout. Drinks, dancing, and local musical artists followed the awards. Guests enjoyed music from Adam DeAscentis & Jon Lampley, Chris Burton, Indigo Wild (my favorite), Total Navajo (who are totally HOT), and Forest and the Evergreens. The Small Business Beanstalk is an organization devoted to promoting local business interaction and championing shopping locally. To sign up for your SBB Community Card check out their Facebook page at Facebook.com/thesbb. Congratulations to Tim Wolfe Starr and his team on a great event. For more on this event and more photos from our night check out my column on the Outlook Columbus Facebook page.

CMH Fashion Week 2012 Finale Runway Show by Robby Stephens, Social Tsar It was a “Grand” evening! Hilton Hotel had their grand opening while being host to CMH Fashion Week’s 2012 Finale Runway Show. Event organizer Tommy McClure and his team did a phenomenal job of creating an elegant fashion show. CMH Fashion Weeks’ Finale Runway show is certain to be a Must on any social calendar. Hundreds of fashion lovers gathered in the grand ballroom of the new Hilton as local designers displayed their latest work. Mayor Coleman welcomed guests on behalf of the City, the new Hilton Hotel, and emphasized the importance of our community supporting organizations such as CMH Fashion Week. CMH Fashion Week is a non-profit organization dedicated to showcasing local designers and providing scholarships to aspiring designers. The Finale Runway Show showcases ten designers walking their clothing lines back-to-back down the runway. For more on this event including more photos of my night check out our Facebook page Outlook Columbus Magazine.

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Robby loves a suspender and taking your picture. Jump in front of his camera at the next event!

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Second Circuit Court of Appeals Rules for funds from fair-minded, socially-responsible corporations. Until the Boy Scouts of America reDOMA Unconstitutional

LGBTQH relationships from anti-violence programs programs, is an emerging and innovative leader in in 22 states across the country, including Ohio. the international human rights movement.

moves this hurtful policy that is inconsistent with The United States Court of Appeals for the Second its own principles, they do not deserve the financial In 2011, NCAVP documented 19 intimate partner violence (IPV) homicides, the highest yearly total Circuit found that Section 3 of the federal Defense backing of companies that strive for workplace ever recorded by the coalition and more than three equality especially innovators like Intel.” of Marriage Act (DOMA) violates the equal protectimes the 6 documented homicides in 2010. Of the tion component of the Fifth Amendment to the 19 homicide victims, a majority (63.2%) of IPV On his petition, Wahls points out that donating to United States Constitution, making it the second homicide victims were men, a significant shift from the Boy Scouts is in direct conflict with Intel Founfederal appeals court to find DOMA unconstitu2010 when 66.7% of LGBTQH homicide victims dation’s own funding criteria, which stipulates that tional. The United States Court of Appeals for the identified as women; that LGBTQH people under 30 Intel will not fund “organizations that discriminate First Circuit made a similar ruling in May of this were approaching two times (1.59) as likely to exon the basis of race, color, national origin, gender, year. Enacted by Congress in 1996, DOMA nullifies perience physical violence; NCAVP programs resexual orientation, veteran or disability status.” the marriages of gay and lesbian couples for all ceived 3,930 reports of intimate partner violence, a Intel’s own Director of Diversity, Rosalind Hudnell, purposes of federal law. has said, “Driving diversity isn’t rocket science. It’s decrease of 22.2% from 2010; more survivors in Adam Umhoefer, executive director of the American harder. We are trying to do inside of our walls what 2011 (61.6%) reported being denied access to shelter than in 2010 (44.6%). This continues a Foundation for Equal Rights (AFER), the sole spon- society is still trying to do outside of our walls.” two-year trend of increases in shelter access desor of the federal constitutional challenge to Calinials; as well as, gives specific policy recommenUWCO Sets $52.55 Million Goal for fornia’s Proposition 8, issued the following dations. Download report: 2012 Campaign statement on today’s decision: http://www.avp.org/ncavp.htm “Today’s decision by the United States Court of Appeals for the Second Circuit continues the unceasing momentum toward marriage equality for all Americans and affirms that discrimination against gay and lesbian Americans is unfair, unjust, and unconstitutional. The body of evidence in support of marriage equality is clear and convincing. This decision, as well as, previous decisions in other DOMA cases and in our federal constitutional challenge to California’s Proposition 8, signals that the arguments opposing the recognition of marriage for gay and lesbian Americans have no legal basis. With [this] ruling, we are one step closer to the day when marriage equality is a reality for every American.”

United Way of Central Ohio announced a 2012 campaign goal of $52.55 million. This goal represents the beginning of a multi-year transformational fundraising effort that will improve lives, strengthen our community and fight poverty. It is more than $2.5 million, or 4.9 percent higher than the 2011 campaign’s final result.

$75K Fund Opened to Help LGBT Undocumented Immigrants Pay for Application Fees Under Deferred Action Program

California Governor Jerry Brown made history by signing a landmark bill that will protect lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender youth from psychological abuse by deceitful mental health professionals who falsely claim to be able to change their sexual orientation or gender expression. With Governor Brown’s signature, California becomes the first state in the nation to protect LGBT young people from these dangerous practices, including the use of shame, verbal abuse, and aversion therapy, that place youth at high risk of depression and suicide. The law, which goes into effect January 1, 2013, prohibits state-licensed therapists from engaging in these practices with minors.

In The Life, Will Air Final Episode This GLAAD Study Records Highest Percentage Ever of LGBT Series Regulars December on Broadcast Television, Cable LGBT Character After 20 years in production, In The Life Media (ITLM) announces that December 2012 will mark the last broadcast of In The Life. Though legally dissolving the organization is a process that will continue into 2013, all regular ITLM operations will conclude with the final broadcast.

At a time when lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) people were virtually invisible in media, ITLM became the first to bring real stories, Young LGBT undocumented immigrants struggling struggles and issues about the LGBT experience Eagle Scout Zach Wahls Urges Intel To to pay application fees under President Obama’s into living rooms across the country through its new “Deferred Action for Childhood Arrivals” public television show, In The Life. Stop Funding Boy Scouts’ Anti-Gay (DACA) can now receive financial help. The LGBT Discrimination Dreamers Fund - made possible by more than ITLM is coming to an end, but its vision is not. The $75,000 in contributions from LGBT movement organization will pass the baton onto communities, More than 3,500 people have joined a popular new leaders - officially begins accepting applications, networks and individuals in the form of an online campaign on Change.org urging Intel Corporation, giving many young LGBT undocumented immihub featuring thousands of hours of incomparable one of the Boy Scouts of America’s largest corporate grants a chance to apply for the protections avail- and never-before seen ITLM footage. Users will donors, to stop funding the Boy Scouts until the or- able under the President’s new program. view, share and build on the archive with their own ganization removes its ban on gay youth and lead- The President’s program allows young people who stories, using the power of open source, interactive ers. Eagle Scout Zach Wahls, founder of Scouts for were brought to the country as children to apply for technology to create a new wave of compelling Equality, launched the campaign after an Amerirelief from deportation and for two-year renewable LGBT media that will break down barriers to lasting can Independent report revealed that Intel gave work permits. More info: social and political justice. More info: www.ITLMenearly $700,000 to the Boy Scouts in 2010, despite http://www.libertyhill.org/LGBTDreamersFund. dia.org. the organization’s anti-gay policy. Intel Corporation has a perfect score on the Human Rights Cam2011 Report on Intimate Partner International Gay and Lesbian Human paign’s Corporate Equality Index and has an exViolence in LGBTQH Communities in Rights Commission Appoints New ED plicit policy of not donating to groups that the U.S. Released discriminate “As an Eagle Scout representing an The International Gay and Lesbian Human Rights organization of 1,500 Eagles strong, I applaud The National Coalition of Anti-Violence Programs Commission (IGLHRC), a 22-year-old organization Intel’s support for the Boy Scouts of America as a (NCAVP) released its report Intimate Partner Viodedicated to strengthening lesbian, gay, bisexual vital American institution critical in the developlence in Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, and transgender (LGBT) rights worldwide, anment of our nation’s future leaders,” said Wahls. Queer, and HIV-Affected (LGBTQH) Communities in nounced the appointment of Jessica Stern as exec“But in July of this year, the Boy Scouts of America the United States in 2011. NCAVP collected data utive director. Stern, who previously served as reaffirmed their discriminatory policy barring gay concerning intimate partner violence within IGLHRC’s acting executive director and director of Scouts and leaders, thus forfeiting their eligibility

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CA Governor Brown Signs Bill To Protect LGBT Youth From Psychological Abuse

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GLAAD, the nation’s lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) media advocacy and antidefamation organization, released the annual Where We Are on TV report; a comprehensive review of scripted LGBT primetime characters in the upcoming 2012-2013 television season. After a decrease last year, the number of regular lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) characters on broadcast networks has risen to the highest ever recorded, while the overall LGBT character count also increased on cable television. The Where We Are on TV report also calculates the ethnic and racial diversity of all scripted regular characters on primetime broadcast television and found an increase in the number of Black characters while Latino/a representations declined. For the full report visit www.glaad.org/whereweareontv12.

An Online Support Network That Safely Connects LGBT Youth, Families And LGBT Adults. On National Coming Out Day, Equalize Youth (equalizeyouth.org), launched its global support network, Out Your Story, which empowers youth with a knowledge-base formed by adults, and enables them to connect with relatable content - the stories, reflections, and coping mechanisms submitted by those that have lived in similar backgrounds and communities, queer folks of their same gender and orientation.

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Looks like CMH Fashion week invaded CGMC. Check out them sweaters!

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by Erin McCalla When I enter the Blue Star Barbershop, Johnny Cash is pumping through the speakers. He’s singing about shooting a man in Reno, just to watch him die and subsequently ending up in Folsom Prison. Johnny Cash wouldn’t get his haircut in a beauty salon, and if you’re a man (or a lesbian with a short ’do), neither should you. That’s because this locally (and queer) owned barbershop employs people who are really focused and adept at giving great haircuts, tapers and fades to “smart men who want to look sharp.” And speaking of sharp looking men, Greg Hund, the suave and savvy proprietor of Blue Star, opened this 9-chair shop two years ago on Polaris Parkway, and is pleased with his product. Though he didn’t get his start in the styling game until a few years back, he does know a thing or two when it comes to branding.

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Greg grew up in the Akron area and after graduating from Miami University (Go Redhawks!) he headed to the Big Apple. After 23 years in New York City and owning a couple of franchises there, (Mailboxes, Etc. and Buttercup Bake Shop) Greg wanted to develop his own brand. After NYC, Greg moved to Austin, Texas and decided that, “barbering looked fun” and got his license. Although he enjoyed Austin and its young, hip vibe, he realized he didn’t want to start his personal brand there. Instead, he moved back home to the Buckeye state, to our fair capital city, where the demographic and economy were healthy. He envisioned a new twist on the classic barbershop, and that’s exactly what you get when you patron the Blue Star. Sure the smells of lathers and aftershave lotions are the same, but you won’t find Floyd from Mayberry trimming up anyone’s sideburns. (An Andy Griffith Show reference? Really? How old AM I?) Instead, young, trendy professional stylists who know their way around a set of clippers, service you in the slick white and blue tiled shop, as The Prince of Kansas, Blue Star’s mounted deer head mascot looks on. But why did Greg choose the Polaris area over the artsy gayborhood? “There are like, 5,000 places to get your haircut in the Short North, Grandview, and German Village areas,” explains Greg. “The north side of town is a little different.” Hund decided upon the bustling Polaris Parkway Boulevard because he not only wanted to open a high-volume, walk-in shop with ample free parking, but also to bring something unique to the area. And his idea was a good one. Since opening up in

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2010, the shop has been enthusiastically received and increasingly successful. Greg’s goal was to do 100 cuts a day, and Blue Star has beaten that number... handily. He explains that it’s his superb staff that keeps the clients coming back. Greg has his employees go through a stringent screening process before they even sharpen their shears. This isn’t your bargain bin buzz cut, as each potential hire goes through three interviews and a technical try out; that’s why you can’t get a better cut in town for the price. ($19!) He’s not knocking his swanky salon sisters and brothers, but Greg is passionate when it comes to a man’s mop and suggests that men should stay away from salons with womenbased clienteles. “A man gets a much better haircut from a person who cuts men’s hair full time,” he explains. “Haircutting skills are no different than golf skills – you have to hit a lot of balls; you have to cut a lot of hair.” And while Greg doesn’t cut too many heads of hair himself these days, he is the only one in the shop that does the classic straight razor shave that is becoming a lost art in the grooming world. (I’m totally picturing Herb Ritts’ iconic photo of Cindy Crawford and k.d. lang, NOT Sweeny Todd.) It’s something every man should experience at least once; just plan ahead when you do. Greg is busiest doing shaves on Fridays and Saturdays (date nights) so call before come (up to two hours) and get yourself on his book. Now, if only I could get Greg to agree to straight razor my legs - that would be hot. (Well, probably only for me.) Don’t worry urbanites, Greg’s love for Columbus is not relegated to the North side suburbs. He lives in Clintonville, and claims to fancy it as much as the Upper West Side - this is coming from the self-proclaimed #1 fan of NYC. He also plans to sponsor a lesbian softball team next summer, which will probably play out at Berliner on Greenlawn Ave. Need to get your ears lowered? Walk-in and get the first available chair. Not that brave? Check out the Blue Star Barbershop website to read all the stylists’ bios and come in and request your favorite. When their chair opens up, you’re next. If you like to plan ahead, you can do call ahead barbering - up to two hours prior - and get your name on the list. It’s a Blue Star perk that gets you less time waiting and more time looking good. For a smooth shave or a classic cut, visit the Blue Star Barbershop at 2144 Polaris Parkway, Columbus OH, 43240, bluestarbarbershop.com, 614.547.0690.

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Angry Pickles by Regina Sewell “Stress level: extreme. It’s like she was a jar with the lid screwed on too tight, and inside the jar were pickles, angry pickles, and they were fermenting, and about to explode.” - Fiona Wood What would it be like to just be? What would it be like not to agonize about something left undone at work, the pile of unpaid bills on the table, the state of your bank account, or the plight of the nation, the environment or the universe? What would it be like not to worry about navigating through complicated office politics, delicate social relationships or family troubles? What would it be like to not to hear the ranting of a vicious inner critic, shredding your psyche to pieces? What would it be like to get enough sleep that you woke up feeling rested, refreshed and ready for the day? In short, what would it be like to not be stressed out? Stress – that’s what you feel when your fight or flight motion shifts into gear. Some stress is good. It makes you more alert and energized so that you perform better. Stressful situations can even be exhilarating because they cause dopamine, the feel good neurotransmitter, and adrenaline and cortisol, the energy boost hormones, to flood the body. This is why so many people think that it’s fun to watch horror movies, jump out of airplanes and/or have sex in risky situations. The catch is that stress is only useful if it’s short-lived. Chronic stress can leave you feeling exhausted, overwhelmed and/or immobilized. It can make you feel like a jar of angry pickles, ready to explode. When stress becomes the norm, the body doesn’t

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have a chance to discharge the added energy or rebalance itself and cortisol levels in the bloodstream rise causing a host of physical problems. Elevated cortisol levels lead to impaired cognitive functioning, suppressed thyroid functioning (which can slow your metabolism and cause you to pack on pounds), blood sugar imbalances (which not only cause hyperglycemia but also lead to sugar cravings which can also lead you to pack on the pounds), decreased bone density (which can lead to osteoporosis), decreased muscle tissue, weakened immune system response, increased inflammatory problems such as fibromyalgia, slower wound healing, and increased abdominal fat (which can lead to heart attacks and strokes). At the emotional level, chronic stress can lead to anxiety, fear, anger, frustration and depression. Chronic stress can also cause people to withdraw, become indecisive or inflexible and/or irritable or aggressive. It can also lower your libido and who wants that? Chronic stress seems to be endemic to modern life. We have too much to do and too little time to do it and we want to fit it all in. We constantly worry about work, finances, and relationships and any time we miss the mark, we hear the tyrannical voice of an angry inner critic. So what can we do about this? The simple answer is to relax, but this is challenge given the fact that we have adrenaline and cortisol racing through our veins. A strenuous work out can help discharge some of the excess energy, but the bigger issue is in our heads – the way we think and the “rules” we think we have to live by. Think about your “To Do” list. Whether you’ve actually written it down or just have it stored in your

brain, it’s pretty long isn’t it? You probably have a number of basic living tasks you need to do now – buy a card for your father’s birthday, call Syl to make sure she’s OK, get milk, change the litter box, vacuum the living room, dust the mantle. And then you probably have a list of things you are expected to do at work that you haven’t done – or you have to search for a job. And then you think about the balance in your checking account relative to the expected incoming bills. And if you’re really on the ball, you might even take time to worry about your retirement account. This list is probably driven by those rules you think you must live by to be an acceptable human being. Some of these are probably a little over the top. Rules like, “Never leave the house in a mess,” are probably fine in moderation, but taken to an extreme, you’ll find it almost impossible to get out of the house because you are so busy dusting, washing dishes and putting things away. Rules like, “Family always comes first” also sound good. But what if you have six brothers and sisters who all have kids? If they live nearby, there might be a family function requiring gifts or at least some potluck item every weekend – which can put a damper on your social life and make it difficult to get your house cleaned. Likewise, expectations you put on yourself to help out – whether it’s volunteering for your favorite charity or cause, or helping out friends in need can leave you feeling overwhelmed and burned out. In the meantime, the milk doesn’t just magically appear in your refrigerator just because you went to your nephew’s soccer game or helped your best friend move. And working late night after night to complete the next big project is unlikely to improve your relationship with your partner. Add to this, those things on your list that don’t get done add fuel to your inner critic’s litany about how much you suck.

I hear there’s a new app called Angry Pickles. It’s the designer imposter to Angry Birds.

The test for these sorts of rules and expectations are, “Will this make me feel more energized and alive or will it make me feel more depleted and overwhelmed?” And conversely, “What will the consequences of not doing this be?” Perhaps you can live with coming home to a house that’s not perfectly tidy. Perhaps you can ask for help on that project or ask for an extension. Perhaps you can skip one or two birthday parties or say no when someone asks you to volunteer for yet one more thing. Perhaps you can look at downsizing so that you aren’t constantly trying to make miracles happen with your paycheck. Finally, at the end of the day, being present is the best way to manage your stress. Most of the stress we are dealing with is focused on worries about the future. Letting yourself be here now lets the pressure out of that pickle jar – at least temporarily. Even if you are losing your house. Even if you and your partner are breaking up. Even if your father is dying. Take a moment to tune into your breath. Feel it move through your body. Better yet, take a walk in the woods or by the river or dig in your garden. Feel the ground beneath your feet and the breeze on your face. Breathe in the scents of the season. Be in the now. The lists will wait. Time in nature might not change your finances or your relationship or your father, but it will give you space to think about things differently and respond to them from a more grounded place. And it will calm down those angry pickles. To ask Regina a question, check out upcoming workshops, or check out her books and other writing, go to: www.ReginaSewell.com .

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Oohhh, it’s just so hard being a pretty angel. You people just don’t know...

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New Leaf Columbus: Past, Present, Future by D.A. Steward In 2008 a group of friends and fellow activists came together at the former James Club 88 on Long Street, and over drinks and conversation started a movement. “We were all LGBT people of color and we were all activists and organizers in some way, but we kept seeing the same faces,” said Erin Upchruch. “We kept asking, ‘Where are we?’ One of our major goals early on was to bring the LGBT people of color community together.” And bring them together they did. It was from those early conversations that New Leaf Columbus (www.newleafcolumbus.ning.com) was born, an unprecedented endeavor to bring together black and Latino LGBT individuals. This year New Leaf celebrates its 4 -year anniversary and it can’t be argued that since its inception there have been dramatic leaps forward for the LGBT people of color community in Columbus, Ohio. The group went from a small online enterprise that mostly catered to African Americans to the definitive word on racial diversity within Central Ohio’s LGBT community, opening doors for a host of spinoff businesses and organizations that serve the needs of Columbus’ growing LGBT people of color population. This month, in honor of New Leaf’s milestone, I decided to chat with the people who made it possible, to get their views on the organization’s past, present and future. “New Leaf was ‘born’ in James Club,” said James Blackmon, former owner of James Club 88 who now travels the world performing for Holland America cruise line. “Aaron Riley used to stop by often after work, and we would have conversations about gay and black/gay affairs in Columbus and in the US.

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One day we were having one of these conversations safe space to promote and support visibility. and I mentioned it would be nice to have a group that dealt with these issues.” As someone who was born and raised in Central Ohio, I have seen the major impact New Leaf’s genBut soon talking was no longer enough. Blackmon, eral existence has had on our community. As I’ve reRiley, Upchurch and several others came together ported in this column many a time, we’ve seen and launched what would become known as New drastic change in the visibility and mobilization of Leaf, whose purpose was to “build and uplift LGBT people of color in Columbus just over the past Columbus’ LGBTQ people of color.” According to its couple of years, and much of that is owed to the website “New Leaf Columbus is an interactive, doors opened by New Leaf. open and inclusive online community that welcomes the participation of our allies,” a mission of “The definition of diversity has expanded in Columinclusion that’s still carried out today. bus,” said Riley, New Leaf President/CEO who’s a living legend in his own right in the realm of social “We named it New Leaf because we were turning activism. He’s the former Executive Director of the over a ‘new leaf’ in Columbus,” said Upchurch, a Columbus AIDS Task Force (now AIDS Resource longtime social worker and activist who runs the or- Center Ohio) and is currently working with the ganization Diverse Strategies, responsible for ADAMH Board of Franklin County. launching the HUE Leadership Summit, an annual seminar geared toward empowering LGBT youth of “We’re now seeing new faces at the table,” Upcolor. “The LGBT people of color community was church said. “LGBT organizations are now being dispersed and this was a brand new effort to bring held accountable for having people of color reprethat community together like never before.” sented in their leadership. There are businesses like Traxx that can thrive and new efforts like Columbus Facebook’s membership had just gone from strictly Urban Pride and open and affirming churches like college students to anyone with a computer, which the Goodlife Church.” sparked the interest of the small group of founders. “During the first Community Conversation we “The whole social media phase was still in its inhosted in 2010, there were many people who left fancy and we were looking for something similar to there empowered,” Riley said. “So many other projFacebook to connect gay people of color and their ects came from that meeting, like Marla Flewellen allies,” said Jacqueline Bryant, Columbus City and the Fellowship Family House,” Schools Communications Manager and former Executive Producer at NBC’s Columbus affiliate Now that a solid foundation for a movement toWCMH-TV. We launched New Leaf and looked at wards real change has been laid, New Leaf has its ways to connect our community as well as various sights set much higher. platforms to bring in profits to help sustain the platform.” “My question for the next five years is ‘How do we increase our reach?’” Riley said. “When I first New Leaf’s online social network now has more started New Leaf I was told that this would be a than 300 members, but its online presence has be- great organization for the entire state, but I shied come a small part of its overall impact. The group away from that idea because we were so new. Now I hosts several events throughout the year that bring think it’s time, I think we’re ready to start talking together LGBT people of color in mass, offering a about statewide initiatives.”

“There has been a lot of good done, but we still have a lot to accomplish,” Upchurch said. “I’d like to not only just see one or two people of color in leadership roles at the various LGBT agencies, but I’d like us to be the majority. I’d like to build Columbus Urban Pride and continue to build and support opening and affirming places of faith. But most importantly I’d like us to start doing more with empowering our youth. We need to begin training the next generation of leaders.” Personally, when it comes to the impact of New Leaf, I think the founders are being modest. Many shied away from giving New Leaf full credit for the visibility we see today, often saying true credit was owed to the community for backing New Leaf as it has. But the truth is New Leaf made it O.K. for a young black gay kid just out of college to believe he could make a difference in a city where he mostly saw white gay influences. Now he’s devoted his life to making that difference. A little empowerment can make all the difference. It’s like President Obama often says, “It takes one voice to change a room, one room to change a community, and one community to change the direction of our nation.” The LGBT POC community in Columbus is on a precipice of real change. With endeavors like HUE Leadership and United Way’s Project Diversity and Pride Leadership and the AIDS Resource Center Ohio’s Greater Columbus Mpowerment Center, we could become the city that other communities look towards for strategies to build inclusion. And without New Leaf I’m not sure we’d be here. “I think one of the greatest things New Leaf did when it started was to re-energize the LGBT people of color community and I’d like to see that continue,” Riley said. “New Leaf is not about Aaron’s agenda, I’ve always said I will support whatever the community decides it wants to accomplish. I want it to grow. I don’t want New Leaf to ever stop with me.”

Be sure to check out New Leaf at newleafcolumbus.ning.com & http://www.facebook.com/NewLeafColumbus.

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Lesbian Conversion on WNCI: The Fun Never Starts by Mickey Weems Morning radio shows everywhere try to outdo each other with pranks and gimmicks designed to make the daily commute to work a little less tedious. But sometimes their efforts to be edgy cross the line. Such was the result of a September stunt by Straight male DJ Jimmy Jam of the WNCI 97.9 Morning Zoo radio show when he offered to convert a hot Lesbian into a Straight woman. On face value, the gimmick had all the right qualities: sex, a controversial topic, and enough spice to piss some people off, thus get people’s attention in hopes to keep WNCI listeners titillated enough to stay tuned in. What Jimmy Jam did not take into account were the repercussions of the prank on the lives of real people. Two of the LGBT community’s staunchest defenders, Karla Rotham and Mary Jo Kilroy, let WNCI know that there was indeed a problem. Karla was out of town at the time, but she heard about it from Mary Jo. Here is Karla’s description of what happened: “Mary Jo was listening to the radio one morning and heard a story on WNCI that disturbed her. The Morning Zoo team was trying to “fix up” one of the male radio personalities on a date with a “hot” lesbian to see if he could convert her into a straight person. MJ was offended by this and

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asked me to help her to resolve the issue and have it taken off air. She and I both wrote letters and encouraged others to do so via Facebook [to see the letters, go to http://www.stonewallcolumbus.org/archives/1889]. I believe hundreds of folks joined in to help end the story. “Stonewall Columbus was very concerned about the message that this story was sending to young people. We felt it gave license to bullies in schools across Ohio to try and convert people instead of understanding sexual orientation and celebrating diversity. Also, for those people who only tuned in the one day, they were given the impression that if they were an LGBT person that this was not good and that it needed to be fixed or changed in some way. This is absolutely the wrong message. “But it was all in good fun, or so claimed WNCI operations manager Michael McCoy. ‘Nobody on the show thinks that Jimmy can ‘turn’ a lesbian ‘straight’,’ he said, and went on further to say the stunt was designed in the end to be ‘instructional and educational… What will end up happening is that Jimmy will be embarrassed by his efforts and the lesson that will be forwarded through the story is exactly what you think it would be: you can’t change who a person is and that you need to accept them as they are. The idea was from a news story that is all over the place today [a father in Hong Kong seeking a man to marry his Lesbian daughter]. The joke in this bit is not on the lesbian or the GLBT community, it’s on Jimmy.’”

Morning Zoo personnel believed, at least initially, that Lesbian conversion is okay as long as it is presented as a gag with a teachable moment at its wild and wacky conclusion (“Hot Lesbians blah blah blah! But remember: you cannot convert people from their sexual orientation”). Karla was not having it. “I think that the Zoo often does contests and radio stories that are in the genre [of shock-humor], but the LGBT community did not want to be included in this radio format,” she said. “There are really many ways to teach and we find this method offensive.” Karla said the issue was resolved in favor of our community: “WNCI apologized on air and in writing.” But do Jimmy Jam and the WNCI staff really get it? There is always the chance that unwitting offenders like the Morning Zoo DJs would resent being called out, that Karla and Mary Jo would be stereotyped as “angry Lesbians” who overreact to what was merely a joke. I recently had that happen to me when I heard a college radio program play a Gay-hate song by Capleton, a homophobic Jamaican artist who calls for LGBT people to be beaten, shot and burned. The young DJ laughed when I called in about it, possibly as a nervous reaction. A few minutes later, she apologized on the air but never said why. It was one of those generic “I’m sorry if I offended anyone” statements, with no reference

Instead of trying to turn gays stright or straights gay, can’t we focus on turning water into wine?

at all to why anyone would be offended. The point of my call was to make people aware of Capleton’s extreme homophobia, and what I got was a whole lot of nothing. Here is the apology from the WNCI Facebook page (September 28): WNCI is aware of the complaint regarding the recent program that aired Thursday morning on our morning show. We understand your concerns, it was unacceptable and insensitive, and we apologize to anyone we offended, that was never our intentions. WNCI support the gay community and again, we are so sorry to anyone we offended. When asked if there where any signs of harm against members of our community due to the Morning Zoo stunt, Karla said, “We really are not aware of any repercussions because it was resolved pretty quickly with our online outreach and our letter writing campaign.” Did Morning Zoo personnel truly get their act together, or was their apology only as genuine as their stunt was funny? To its credit, WNCI has not removed a ton of posts on their Facebook page criticizing the station for the stunt. Let us hope that the DJs for the morning commute were sincere in their apology, and that they made it a point to let their listeners know without a doubt that the Hot Lesbian Conversion gimmick was not what they thought it would be.

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Not Your Average

Black Hole by Mario Pinardi We love holes - all types and all flavors. We love doughnut holes, we love “holes-inone,” we love glory holes and we love our own holes. Yes, I went there. As upstanding (and sometimes kneeling) gay boys & gals, we love to put objects in our holes with discretion, whether it is an organic or manufactured object. We don’t talk too openly about our hedonistic “holy” ways. Well, I am changing this now. Join me in a declaration of “hole love” for all, and I mean love in the purest sense. With all of the poking and penetration into our various holes, there is going to be pain, pleasure, and poop (and just plain icky). What is the best and safest way to maintain our holes? Are current “hole trends” good for us? What is the ramification of hole abuse? I know I did a similar column last year, however this time I want to explore more holes and more possibilities for our holes. Our mouth is probably the most used hole on our body. We shove things in it all day, sounds come out of it, and we constantly try to keep it smooth & moist. We brush our teeth several times a day, we pay for oral care from health care practitioners, and we are always seeking to improve the appearance of our mouth. So, if we invest all of this time and money in our mouths, why do we put dirty (as in unclean) things in it? And why do we not think before we lick? Gals, when is the last time you became pensive before “muff diving?” Never, right? Remember what other organ affects taste? Your nose. Use your nose before putting your tongue on something nasty or before putting something icky in your mouth. It sounds logical, right? Many people forget to do a polite sniff test and will end up with a health concern, such as an upset stomach or even a STD. Many common STDs can be detected by a sniff test; the odor down

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below is usually sour and putrid. Putting your mouth on a dirty (literally) organ can lead to nasty naughty bits for you. Use good judgment, no matter how many liters of vodka you drank, and don’t play Little Oral Annie if you are too drunk. This only leads to drama and a doctor’s visit. Also, remember that your lust muffin’s eating habits can cause problems, too. If he or she ate something that you are allergic to, the food item in question can transfer into their “love juice.” An example of this is when I blew someone who ate creatine and when they came, I got nauseous and threw up because my body hates creatine. So sexy. Again, take care of your mouth and think before you put objects into it. Let’s move on to a couple of our favorite holes – our boo-tay and our vajayjay. We love to stick all kinds of things in these holes, and we can even use them for smuggling, too. Besides sticking penises in these holes, we also like to stick various man-made objects and various food items. Have you ever fucked a zucchini? The reality is that these holes can only take so much and you can cause trauma to your body by being too ambitious in your “hole play.” Sticking objects up your poop chute or puss that are bigger than a bear boy’s thigh is not smart and can cause damage to you by causing scar tissue and bleeding, so leave the fisting and the large vegetable fucking to the pros – the porn industry. In porn, it takes several tries, a large film crew, and careful editing to get an arm up an ass, along with a medic on most reputable sets. So, use your mind before you use your ass as a clown car.

Now, let’s talk about keeping your manhole and your girl kitty tidy and fresh. Women have a plethora of products to use to keep their vagina tidy and fresh, and many of these products have the appropriate chemistry to clean and freshen without discomfort. Guys and our butts do not have this luxury. We love to stick shower attachments and homemade enemas up our bum to keep it tidy. Stupid. If you feel that you need to get some butt love and you want to clean it out, either purchase a disposable anal douche that is medical grade or just scrub back there. Plus, a diet rich in fiber will keep you clean, too. Just don’t eat corn before a night of butt love! And, if you want to groom it, be careful. There are razors on the market that have extended handles, but you still need a degree of flexibility to do this on your own. A newer trend in anus care for guys is anus bleaching; this procedure bleaches the pigment around the anus to match your current skin tone and sometimes makes it lighter. Do not do this yourself. Go to a professional. It sounds obvious but there are in-

Just what do you think you're doing, Dave?

stances where men have burned the membrane on their anus by trying to bleach it on their own. Dumb fucks. Well, I hope you love your holes, as much as I love mine. Be proud about getting some hole love, and be open about what you like and what you don’t like in your holes. Building a relationship on transparency, whether be a trick or be a potential mate, can only benefit you and make your holes sexier. Remember to never be a victim and to always be a survivor. I wonder if my health benefits cover anus bleaching. Imagine that listed on my health coverage statement!

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Hands-on Healing by Tom Muzyka

diet with herbal remedies, doing reiki or tai chi which affect your body’s energy, or performing As winter approaches and cold season begins, more physical treatments like sports massage visits to the pharmacy add up and the flu shot and reflexology. Different practitioners have difline becomes the new water cooler at the offerent specialties and may perform a combinafice. Some people are taking other measures to tion of these treatments, depending on their ward against sickness, and the trend has been training and the patient’s needs. growing in the last few years. To what do I refer, you ask? Well, reader, I am referring to holistic The focus of integrative medicine is on a and integrative medicine, alternative aphealthy overall lifestyle; a typical consultation proaches to wellness and lifestyle. begins with an assessment of the patient’s habits and habitat. Trouble-shooting target The National Center for Complementary and Al- areas of behavior and developing healthier ternative Medicine recently found that 36 per- habits is the first step; treatments such as mascent of American adults use holistic medicine of sage and acupuncture are secondary and treat one type or another. When including use of vita- the symptom rather than address the cause. mins or prayer for health reasons, the number Don’t worry, if you just want to try a treatment, increases to 62 percent. Granted, many of the you don’t have to undergo a lifestyle audit and people that fall under these categories might fill out stacks of homework quiz sheets. Panot consider themselves to be using holistic tients can go to a practitioner looking for a spepractices or even know what that means, but cific treatment right off the bat; in fact, even so, that’s a fair amount of non-traditional acupuncture, massage, and chiropractic are healing going on. And this trend is growing. the three most popular holistic practices. Not being amongst these percentages, I had little exposure to this branch of healthcare other than the buzzword basics that have permeated society: yoga, herbal supplements, acupuncture, tantric sex. Sexual healing being the most enlightened of medical practices. All of these treatments (except for the sex) fall under the category of holistic medicine, while integrative medicine is the combination of holistic practices with Western medicine. The overall goal of integrative medicine is to create a balanced approach between holistic and traditional medicine, which fully addresses an individual’s overall wellness. Holistic practices don’t seek to replace primary care but rather compliment it with additional treatments. So, where to start when looking for the treatment that’s right for you? There are several focus areas within the umbrella of integrative medicine, the main ones being whole medical systems, biologically-based practices, manipulative and energy-based practices, and energy medicine. A lot of complex terms, but basically the treatments work in different ways with the body, whether it’s through supplementing your

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As I mentioned before, these practices don’t replace a trip to your primary care provider, therefore, no yoga to cure that broken clavicle. Integrative medicine joins the two health systems as an overall treatment plan. So you could end up with a prescription to treat your chronic joint pain with monthly massage sessions and a regimen of exercises to do at home, maybe accompanied to Sweating to the Oldies.

of other services should adopt.

credible education for massage therapists, whether in technique or client interaction; just According to Dr. Kemper, the majority of paas holistic health treats all aspects of the body, tients, whether at the CIM or across the country, so does the AIAM treat patients from the office are “middle-aged women who are educated.” waiting room to the massage table. It’s about Traditionally more willing to visit health care “treating the whole person as an energetic sysproviders, women with more access to informa- tem” and individualizing treatments for each tion are also willing to try alternative treatpatient rather than a standard massage or ments; these ladies know how to pamper acupuncture session. themselves with massages and meditation. Conversely, young adults are the least likely to There’s also the more traditional route of medparticipate, as they are the smallest demoical school, followed by a specialization in a graphic to visit any type of medical provider. I specific area of holistic health. Dr. Brian would like to think I’m doing my small part in Beesley is a doctor of osteopathic medicine, promoting health in those whippersnappers by which means that in addition to his medical highlighting the variety of treatment options school training, he has “training in osteopathic available; holistic is so in right now, kids. manipulative treatment… a form of manual medicine that is used to diagnose, treat, and And for the skeptics out there, an important prevent illness or injury.” thing about integrative medicine to remember is that these doctors have still undergone the Dr. Beesley’s patients undergo osteopathic masame medical training as any other specialist; nipulative treatment when looking for “a reducall doctors at the CIM have gone through the tion in pain levels, increased active and passive standard medical credentialing process, and all range of motion, and overall improved function of them hold faculty appointments at OSU. of the system,” when a traditional medical approach isn’t sufficient. He went on to say that Where do you sign up? Typically, clients are re- some doctors “have further specialized their ferred to the CIM through their primary health manipulative skills” and will sometimes receive care provider; most physicians should know of referrals from physicians, chiropractors, or the center, as there is a “great word of mouth other doctors of osteopathic medicine for their network” across the Central Ohio area. Walkhealing hands. ins are welcome, too, while the center continues to grow its client base and spreads its That’s holistic medicine in a nutshell: easily acmessage of complimentary healing. cessible, designed to suit your individual needs, the big new thing in health care. I say to all the Or would you rather get more hands on with young and healthy people out there who scoff at treatment? In addition to the CIM, Columbus visiting the doctor: there is another way. And I hosts the American Institute of Alternative Med- say to the rest of you, you’re not young and icine (AIAM), an accredited school with a curhealthy, so you had better visit a holistic practiriculum of massage, acupuncture, medical tioner as soon as possible. Girl, you’re not lookassisting and nursing. Started by Helen Yee and ing too good. partner Diane Sater in 1994, the AIAM has gone through several changes throughout the years; You can learn more about the CIM by calling them at what started as a massage therapy clinic grew 614.293.9777, visiting the website at medicalcenter.osu.edu/patientcare/healthcare_services/int to an educational institution that not only inte- egrative_medicine or on FaceBook by searching for ‘OSU grates Occidental and Oriental medicines, but Center for Integrative Medicine.’ More information on the boasts one of the only holistic nursing programs AIAM can be found at www.aiam.edu . For more information on the National Center for Complementary and Alternative in the country.

In researching holistic health, I discovered that Columbus hosts one of the most cutting edge centers for integrative medicine in the country. OSU’s Center for Integrative Medicine (CIM) has a “pretty big reputation” across the country, said Dr. Kathi Kemper, Director of the CIM. It is one of the first centers developed, and already there are plans to increase its scope and staff. The CIM works to provide “a diverse range of healthcare services and education not often found in traditional Western medical centers, while closely integrating all facets of care into a comprehensive plan for each patient.” Which boils down to treating each patient as an individual and forming a treatment plan accordingly, an approach a lot The AIAM was created in response to the lack of

Chad may not be holistic, but he sure can eat a side of beef in one sitting.

Medicine, visit nccam.nih.gov.

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TRANSGENDER DAY OF REMEMBRANCE AT MTSO 7p @ Methodist Theological School in Ohio 3081 Columbus Pike (US SR 23), Delaware, Ohio 43015

Linda Cox would like to invite everyone to a remembrance service for the transgender people who have fallen to violence this year. This service is NOT replacing TDOR at King Ave, this is just an alternative event. This event is also NOT a worship service, so please share the evening with L.I.F.E.(Love Is For Everyone)@MTSO as we host our first ever Day of Remembrance at the seminary! outlookcolumbus.com

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Stick Up or Tap Out - Acupuncture & EFT by Alisa Caton

She has been practicing acupuncture for about a year and a half, and is a licensed acupuncturist in For most Americans the practice of acupuncture is the state of Ohio and a graduate of the American a new concept, but this alternative form of medi- Institute of Alternative Medicine. Colette began as cine has been practiced and perfected by the Chi- a message therapist, a service she still offers, but nese for centuries, and is the reason why after being an acupuncture patient for many years Columbus based acupuncturist Colette Haley with and experiencing its benefits, decided to expand CMH Acupuncture says there is nothing alternative the treatment she could provide for her patients. “I about it. “Acupuncture has been around almost wanted to do more to help people,” said Colette. 5,000 years. That’s why when they call it alternative medicine I chuckle, because it has been here Part of Colette’s acupuncture education was done way longer then western medicine,” said Colette. in China for a month through an internship program with The Beijing Integrated Hospital of WestThe theory and practice behind acupuncture is ern Medicine and Traditional Chinese Medicine. much different than any of the western medicine She said that the treatment is so popular and that majority of us are used to. The Chinese crecommon in China, that each doctor would see alated this treatment based on the idea of meridians most 100 patients before noon. “They treat everythat run through out the body, and connect to each thing with it over there,” said Colette. organ with an energy flow, or “chi.” A variety of issues can cause the energy in the body to come un- Patients will come to Colette for a wide variety of balanced and this affects the flow of chi in the issues including pain, infertility, digestive probmeridians, either due to a blockage or a deficiency. lems, sleep issues, anxiety and depression. She Colette compared this to a traffic jam on the high- has also treated patients for struggling with way due to an accident or a blockage in a river. weight loss or trying to quit smoking. “(AcupuncWhen the flow isn’t occurring properly, issues in ture) helps physical and emotional issues,” said the body arise, either physically or emotionally. Colette. Each issue requires a different treatment, “This is more of a deeper level, an energetic level, meaning placement of needles and the number of trying to bring the body back to balance,” said Co- needles used. She also stressed that there is no lette. specific treatment to tackle each issue, every patient is treated as an individual with a body that Acupuncture treats these issues by placing very reacts in its own way. small, “sterilized, single use disposable” needles in the body at specific points on the meridian lines Colette begins each session by getting an entire to address the specific issue a patient is having. health history from a patient. She then will ask There are close to 400 actual named points in the what issues you are having, and check the tongue body. “We just know the needles and the combina- and pulse because these mirror what is occurring tion of where we put them affect the chi and blood in the meridians. All of this information allows Coflow of the body,” said Colette. lette how to decide placement of the needles and

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how to better treat the client. After all of the needles have been inserted, she allows the patient to relax for the 30 minutes. Colette said that she has had people come in nervous of the needles, but they do well with it, as the needles are much smaller then those used in a doctor’s office. Majority of her patients even fall asleep during the treatment; they find it to be so relaxing.

focuses on the meridians in the body. Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) uses a tapping treatment alongside an affirmation to release the energy in the meridians. Cynthia Hartline at Enchanted Elements said that her clients will use EFT to control diet, stop smoking or release pain. The treatment of EFT is also something that can be done daily, or as often as necessary, by a client once they are taught the process.

She does suggest that clients coming to her for chronic issues make the commitment to at least five treatments to ensure a better result. “The longer you’ve had it [the ailment] the longer it [the treatment] is going to take,” said Colette.

“They can come in and we’ll do it for them or they can take classes here and we will show them how to do it,” said Cynthia. The treatment can be done in less then three minutes, and starts by messaging a gland on the chest and stating the affirmaAside from just traditional acupuncture, Colette tion, such as “Even though I have this headache, I also uses a “cupping” technique to treat some pa- deeply and completely accept myself.” The next tients, the majority of those with lower back pain. step is the light tapping sequence while holding on Cupping works by taking a cotton ball soaked in to this affirmation statement. The tapping points rubbing alcohol and lighting it on fire, and then are around the face, by the eyebrows, the eyes, placing it in the cup to create suction. The ball is under nose and on the chin. There are other points then removed and the cup is placed on the pathat can be tapped for treatment through out the tient’s back. This treatment works to move stagbody, for example on the rib cage and the hand or nate chi in the body through the suction in the cup. arm. Cynthia said the results are immediate. Colette also offers group acupuncture sessions. These can be done in her office, or in past have been hosted in a home as a “Tranquil-a-Tea” Time parties, for people that are curious about acupuncture. At these sessions, Colette will explain the practice of acupuncture and answer any questions. She will then use a five-needle technique to calm and relax where all of the needles are placed in the ear on each of the guests. “It is a great way to introduce people to it,” said Colette. The sessions are $20 per person.

“EFT gives you something that you can take with you through your day that is practical, said Cynthia. Enchanted Elements offer classes on EFT for $25, or individual sessions starting at $50 for a half hour and $75 for an hour. Interested in trying acupuncture? Contact Colette Haley at CMH Acupuncture at 614.654.0654 or cmhacupuncture@gmail.com. The first session is $90, and $70 for every treatment after that. She also offers packages of 10 sessions for $600. For EFT, contact Cynthia Hartline at Enchanted Elements at 614.437.2642 or readings@enchantedelements.com.

Acupuncture isn’t the only healing treatment that

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THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 22 GET THE STRETCH PANTS OUT Thanksgiving Day!

THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 1 “IT’S A WORLD OF COLOR” Watercolor Ohio 2012 @ Riffe Center, 77 S High St, 614.644.9624, www.riffegallery.org: If you’re slightly more sophisticated than painting by numbers, partake in the free opening reception of the watercolor exhibit. The exhibit will feature numerous artists overall it’s a bargain. 5:30-10p; $11. WEDNESDAY, NOVEMBER 7 ANY WAY I WANT IT, YOU SAY? Journey feat. Pat Benatar, Loverboy @ Nationwide Arena, 200 W Nationwide Blvd., 614246-2000, www.nationwidearena.com: They’re here! They’re near! They’re still somehow popular after all these years! Come see the seventies refuse to die at Nationwide Arena, and sing along to that one song they played to death at your high school graduation! I know I’ll be there. 7:30p, $40-$125.

THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 8 HUSH, HUSH... VOICES CARRY CAPA Presents Aimee Mann with Special Guest Ted Leo @ Capitol Theatre, 77 S High St, 800.745.3000, www.capa.com. Singer/songwriters are just so cool, and Mann is one of the coolest. I still curl up in the fetal position sobbing like a lost child every time I listen to the Magnolia soundtrack. 8p; $25 and $35.

FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 2 EVEN DEATH CAN’T FIND GOOD HELP Raconteur Theatre Company presents Joe Musso’s Conk &Bone @ Club Diversity’s Theatre, 863 S High St, 614.656.2228, www.rtheatre.org: Conk and Bone find themselves in quite the predicament when they agree to assist death in taking the dead across the river Styx. Not the boss to disappoint. 7:30p; $10-15. TUESDAY, NOVEMBER 6 WELL, THEY DO HAVE THE REQUISITE NUMBER OF PEOPLE... Grouplove @ Newport Music Hall, 1722 N High Street, 614-294-1659, promowestlive.com: Indie music lovers, rejoice! Newport has once again managed to find you a creative niche band with a quirky name! Also, the band does request that you come clothed to the concert; no actual group loving will occur on the floor. 7p, $20.

FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 9 SAY IT WITH ME: YES, I CAN! Jeanne Robertson @ Capitol Theatre, 77 S High St, 800.745.3000, www.capa.com: Need a little motivation? Attitude adjustment? Good spanking? We can’t guarantee the last one, but professional speaker Jeanne Robertson has you covered on the rest. 8p; $41.70.

FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 16 OUTLOOK NIGHTS OUT! Short North Stage: The Little Dog Laughed @ Garden Theater Green Room, 1187 N High St, 614.725.4042, www.shortnorthstage.org: The razor sharp comedy dealing with sexuality. Lots of “adult”humor. 1/2 price drinks at the 7p pre-theatre party. 8p; Use code: “outlook” for $19 discounted tickets.

SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 17 A FUNNY GOLDBERG NOT NAMED WHOOPI Off The Wall Comedy – Dana Goldberg & Special Guest Jason Dudey @ Wall Street Night Club, 144 N. Wall St, www.wallstreetnightclub.com. Self-proclaimed product of a Jewish wildpack, Goldberg peppers anecdote with smart wit and quick edginess. If you don’t like it, I’ll have to kill myself and then you’ll feel bad. Is that what you want? 8p; $18.

FRIDAY, NOV 16 A LITTLE BIT COUNTRY David Nail @ The Bluestone, 583 E Broad St, 614.233.3000, www.liveatthebluestone.com. Come for the songs about booze, girls and pick-up trucks, stay for the smoldering eyes. 7p; $15

SUNDAY, NOVEMBER 18 I PERFER THE CHEEKS OF THE ROUND AND PLUMP VARIETY Columbus Symphony Masterworks: Cheek & Charm @Southern Theater, 21 E Main St, 614.228.8600, www.columbussymphony.com. Think there was no great music composed in the first quarter of the 20th century? Shame on you. Come see how very, very wrong you were. 3p; $25-$65.

WEDNESDAY, NOVEMBER 28 LIFELONG BROMANCE, TOTALLY NO SEXUAL TENSION WHATSOEVER The Story of My Life @ Riffe Center, 77 S High Street, (614) 460-7214, www.capa.com: Follow the story of two men as their friendship is traced from age 6 to 35 in this new musical at the Riffe Center. Be inspired by this friendly friendship that totally doesn’t go anywhere beyond friendship despite how friendly this friendship is. Did I mention they TOTALLY aren’t gay? Runs through December 16. Tickets $45, show times online.

MONDAY, NOVEMBER 19 SPREAD ORGASMS NOT STIS Free STI Testing @ Upstairs at The Center on High, 1160 N High St, 800.322.2437, stonewallcolumbus.org/g ettested: Don’t stop the party, have an informed one. 1p-7p; free.

FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 2 SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 3 YOU’RE SUCH THE ROMANTIC The Columbus Symphony presents Rachmaninoff & Sibelius @ The Ohio Theatre, 39 E State St, 614.228.8600, www.ticketmaster.com: Guest conductor Tito Munoz and the Columbus Symphony will perform the exotic melodies of Cowell’s Ancient Desert Drone and Rachmaninoff’s Symphony No 2. 8p;$25-65

FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 2 SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 3 COLUMBUS GOES GLOBAL Columbus International Festival @ Veterans Memorial, 300 W Broad St, 614.735.2848, columbusinternationalfestival.org. You’ll play, you’ll eat, you’ll get flu shots! Meet your brother from a different mother as cultures come together to celebrate diversity. 9a-9p; $5; $7 at door.

MONDAY, NOVEMBER 5 THE POWER OF THE PEN Thurber House Fall 2012 Adult Writing Workshops: How to Be Brilliant In 600 Words @ Thurber Center, 91 Jefferson Ave, 614.464.1032, www.thurberhouse.org: If your Grandma’s the only fan of your blog, it may be time to break into something new. Learn how to write impressive, short, attention grabbing articles from instructor Cindy Gaillard, an Emmy Award winning writer, produce, director and editor. 6p-8p; $40. SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 10 BLOODLINES WILL BE DRAWN Joe Bonamassa @ Palace Theater, 34 W Broad St, 614.469.0939, www.capa.com. Veteran rocker Joe Bonamassa is back to rock you. So pull out those acid-washed jeans, wrap that bandanna around those dreads, and get ready for a lot of confused fans thinking that the sign for “I love you” also means “rock on”. 8p; $72-$95.

SUNDAY, NOVEMBER 4 GIRL, LOOK AT DAT BODY Kellog’s Tour of Gymnastics Champions @ The Schottenstein Center, 555 Borror Drive, (614) 292-9908 www.schottensteincenter.com: Come see the top performers from London 2012’s Team USA perform live at the Schot, performing in everything from tumbling to aerobic gymnastics. 4p. $28-$203.

MONDAY, NOVEMBER 12 NOW IF ONLY THEY’D REMOVE THE SINGLETS... WWE Raw Live @ Nationwide Arena, 200 W Nationwide Blvd., 614-246-2000, www.nationwidearena.com: Staged fights? Check. Buttloads of testosterone? Check. Hot, sweaty men rolling all over each other while millions of people watch from all corners of the globe? Double check. 7:30p, $17-$97.

THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 15 “TO SONTAG, TO SONDHEIM, TO ANYTHING TABOO” The Builders Association SONTAG: REBORN @ Wexner Center for the Arts, 1871 N High St, 614.292.3535, www.wexarts.org: A look into the life of Susan Sontag, the time she spent as a student and “aspiring writer, her sexual awakening as a lesbian, and her internal struggles as a wife and a mother. 8p; $10-20. WEDNESDAY, NOVEMBER 21 OUTLOOK NIGHTS OUT! Irving Berlin’s White Christmas @ The Ohio Theatre, 39 E State St, 614.469.0939, www.capa.com. Another installment of Outlook Nights Out.” For discounted tickets, enter code “outlook11” when purchasing. After the show, join us at Level for the cast-invited afterparty before heading to “Heaven and Hell” at Wall Street. 8p.

SUNDAY, NOVEMBER 25 CLIMATE...OF ROCK The Aerosmith feat. Cheap Trick @ Nationwide Arena. 200 W Nationwide Boulevard, 614-246-2000, www.nationwidearena.com: What’s the difference between Aerosmith and polar bears? One of them just refuses to die off. So ancient yet so talented. 7:30p, $59.60-$166.25.

SUNDAY, NOVEMBER 4 WINNING IS INDEED EVERYTHING Miss Gay Ohio United States at Large 20122013 @ Axis 775 N High St, 614.291.4008, www.columbusnightlife.com. Alexis Stevens is ready to give up the crown. Who will be Ohio’s next big bitch? 10a-5p.

FRIDAY, NOV 23 WHATEVER HAPPENED TO THE GHOST OF CHRISTMAS FABULOUS? CAPA Presents Charles Dickens’ A Christmas Carol @ Palace Theater, 34 W Broad St, 614.469.0939, www.capa.com: A Columbus tradition for over 30 years, this much-retold Christmas classic never gets old; only we do. 7:30p; $22-$32.

WEDNESDAY, NOV 14 A NIGHT OF RELATIONS Network Columbus Holiday Theater Showcase @ The Ohio Theater, 39 E State St, 614.469.0939, www.facebook.com/events/48973581772 1129: Free appetizers, fellowship and CAPA’S Holiday Show Preview. Everything’s free but the booze. 6p-8p; free.

WEDNESDAY, NOV 21 VIRTUES & VICES Heaven & Hell @ Wall Street Nightclub, 144 N Wall St, 614.469.0939, www.wallstreetnightclub.com: It’s time again for the infamous party where you can unleash your inner angel/devil onto the dance floor. Destination attire encouraged. 9p-3a; $10-12.

THURSDAY, NOV 22 Columbus Turkey SATURDAY, Trot @ Shops on NOVEMLane Ave, 1585 Lane BER Ave, www.columbusturkeytrot.com; Running and Thanksgiving 24SATURdon’t usually go hand in hand, 24 but this annual DAY, NOVEMBER holiday trot is putting fitness in turkey day. Holiday Hoopla XXI @ ShadDon’t worry, they hand out pies at the finish owbox Front line! Kid’s trotLive, 8:30a,503 5 milerS9a, 2 milerSt, 9:10a; Suite 614.416.7625, $38 before 260, race day, $45 on race day.

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Reach Out & Touch: Reiki vs Massage by Ayana Wilson We all, at some point or another, have received a massage. Whether from a professional or the well-intentioned rubbings of a significant other, massages feel good. When another person lays his or her hands on our bodies, it stimulates, revives, refreshes. Essentially, this is why lots of people get massages; they seek rejuvenation of the muscles, and as Jay Stanforth, a licensed massage therapist in the city of Columbus will attest, “It gets fresh blood flowing…really it just feels good.” But there are those who make massage therapy a part of their daily lives, a necessary course of continuous treatment that is as essential as vitamins and yearly doctor visits. Massage therapy is deeply steeped in healing and the curative properties of using the hands as instruments of rejuvenation. The practice itself was developed in the 1800s and popularized by John Harvey Kellogg in the 1920s. Kellogg believed that illnesses could be cured through muscle manipulation, and it is this idea of healing through touch that is the foundation for massage therapy and other holistic treatments, like reiki. Based on ancient Japanese traditions, reiki practitioners also seek to heal. Reiki is built on the principles of the seven chakras, and seeks to cure sufferers of physical, spiritual, and sometimes even emotional ailments. Not to be confused with reflexology, reiki works by the practitioner reading individual auras and energies in order to help unblock or repair what is damaged. So, for instance, a person who seeks to lose weight may in fact be holding some un-

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resolved issue, some pain or burden in the solar plexus, or stomach region. A reiki specialist would be able to diagnose what is misaligned internally, and right the path. Fabienne Grenet is one such local consultant, and she recommends thinking of reiki working like a stretch. “When you stretch, you stretch to work one part, but then you find that you feel it elsewhere, that stretch. That is how reiki works. You never know sometimes where you really need a stretch.” The physical act of touching is not necessary for a reiki treatment to work the way it is with massage therapy, but both require the finesse of a professional in order to be correctly performed. Both massage and reiki best work when adopted as part of a schedule. Sure, you can go to the hairdresser once for a haircut, but if you want to maintain the shape and beauty of the style, you have to go back regularly. So too with a holistic lifestyle, where the goal is to achieve complete balance – mind, body and spirit – and have that balance be a lifelong experience. Massage therapy and reiki can relieve pain, aid in speeding up recovery time, boost the auto immune system, and enhance metabolism. The long-term advantages of integrating holistic practices into your lifestyle have even been linked to prolonged life. Quality of life is really the goal for both callings, even when the callings are varied. Grenet believes that reiki is a life mission; one has to be enthusiastic about the craft, openminded, and willing when reiki calls. As she

puts it, “There’s a level of commitment you have to have, and you have to be ready for it. Not everyone is ready. You have to know it’s your calling, and you have to have passion for it.” Reiki practitioners can study anywhere from a few months to years, depending on the maturity of the individual. This is because reiki requires the student to be open to receive the input and energy of the world around us. The term “reiki” literally means “universal energy” and so practitioners are mediums of sort, there to interpret and channel the healing power that already exists all around us every day. Massage therapists, conversely, are trained and licensed. The healing they offer comes from a direct laying of the hands on the body, where the fingers and palms work out any physical blockages or pain the individual is experiencing. There’s rarely a spiritual or emotional component to massage, as it’s based firmly in corporeal stimulation in order to achieve a cure. In fact, according to Stanforth, many clients he sees who have made massage a part of their regular lives are “health-conscious, fit, [and] think about diet.” They are primarily interested in keeping their bodies in peak conditions, not necessarily their spirits. And so the techniques massage professionals perform are stroking, tapping and palpitation, not the interpretation of energy as is called for in reiki. This is not to say that there isn’t a healthy overlap. As holistic medicines, treatments and procedures become more comfortable with the general public, often times, when someone

tries one, he or she is usually willing to try another. Stanforth has admitted to trying acupuncture, and Grenet regularly has other holistic devotees do readings on her. It’s not as taboo as once thought, and as curiosity grows, so does the potential for expansion. According to The Huffington Post, some 83% of cancer patients have tried at least one alternative, also called complementary, treatment during the course of their disease. Indeed, the term “integrative medicine” is one that was developed because of the conjunction between traditional and new-age care, and is one most holistic specialists hope to see more of in the future. Already a community which lives by the pay-itforward attitude, practitioners of reiki and massage, like Grenet and Stanforth, simply want to continue to help people, and as many of them as they can. Holistic customs ameliorate the lives of millions every day. Massage therapy and reiki are but two of the several remedies alternative medicine has to offer. It continues to grow in popularity as more and more of us become attuned to our bodies, how they work, and what they need. Holistic practices have become so prevalent because they stimulate the body to heal itself – and that kind of healing lasts. When we are in touch with ourselves and our environments, we achieve peace, happiness, and a healthy life. The old saying still holds true here: if you can believe it, you can achieve it. Anything the mind believes the body can do, it can, if it is strong enough, has enough faith, and the right guide along the way.

Chris would like to thank Beth, Erin and Traut for their many, many back rubs...especially during production.

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And how do you feel about that? by Emily Kreuz It’s 2012. We have a black president, an Indian governor of Louisiana, a powerful gay CEO of Apple Inc., and dozens of strong female cabinet members. Our culture has certainly come a long way since the Civil Rights movement in the 1950s and ’60s. On the surface, it appears that we as a nation have developed a more socially acceptable mindset. However, over the recent years, we have seen major backlash towards the LGBT community and their denied right to marriage. Statistically speaking, suicide is the leading cause of death among gay youth, with 30% of all reported teen suicides each year are committed by gay and lesbian youth. Who can someone turn to in a time of need? Many would consider therapy, but there are still those who believe that homosexuality is a mental illness. Who can you trust? Experts recommend a counselor or therapist with similar beliefs to yours, in order to receive the full benefits the therapeutic sessions bring. I was lucky enough to find one, personable counselor who provides her patients with an office type setting in the hospitable ambiance of grandma’s house. Kris Elliot, co-owner of Center Point Counseling Associates, has been serving the LGBT community for over 30 years. Kris began studying to become a teacher, when a guidance counselor encouraged her to pursue psychology. “She said I had a natural knack for it,” Kris states, matter-of-factly. Kris then studied at Duquesne University for her Masters in Psychology. For a number of years, Kris worked as director

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of emergency services at a large institution in Kentucky. Unsatisfied with the treatment of the patients, she decided to venture out on her own, and become an independent counselor. “I really wanted to create a non-hostile environment where people can come and feel comfortable, not as a number in a waiting room.” Kris describes her office as a soothing, peaceful place of comfort. “Working in an institution with about 20 other counselors, was difficult to make people who came to see us feel as people and not as numbers for statistics.” Kris recalls, “I used to work with Vietnam vets and rape survivors as the director of emergency services in Kentucky. The staff there wanted to categorize patients like diagnostic disorders than as individuals struggling with issues. With me, they get a very clear idea that my interest lies in helping them flourish, not to just exist.” She went on, “I wanted to provide people with relational, spiritual, mental and physical ‘training,’ so to speak, to help guide them through their journey of metamorphosis. This technique is called, psycho-spiritual. My job is so rewarding. If I am able to be a part of someone’s transition or change in life, it makes me feel like I am doing what life is about-helping others.” Emily Kreuz: In counseling, what type of technique works best with your clients? Kris Elliot: There isn’t a ‘best ‘or a ‘one size fits all’ technique. The techniques I utilize are specific to each situation. Overall, I have a very direct approach to my techniques. I’m very up front with things I share with my clients. I want them to feel comfortable sharing their thoughts and opinions with me. If they don’t think that what we’ve been trying has worked, I want to know. From there, we can determine if it’s the

technique that’s ineffective, or the match. If it’s the technique, I’ll try a different approach. And if it’s me, I won’t take offense. I’m here to help, and I want that to show. Even if it means helping them find another counselor. Specifically speaking, some techniques I have found to be effective in the past are MDMR, hypnotherapy, existential therapy and cognitive restructuring. In every situation, however, I try to view the world through their eyes. It helps to make yourself as a tool for them much more effective. When you act as a second party in the process of their self-improvement, it reflects positively on their self-esteem. It gives them the understanding that they are in control of the change that occurs in their life. EK: What do you say to people who insist that being gay is a mental disorder? KE: There really isn’t a whole lot of that perspective today, like there was 30 years ago. I’ve seen a lot of people come in who have been traumatized by a former therapist with their blatant ignorance in treatment. Some therapists treat people who identify themselves as gay, as a mental disorder - something behavioral that can be changed. This type of approach to treat someone initially suffering from depression or anxiety is completely ineffective and irrelevant. A person’s sexuality is not behavioral, and therefore cannot be changed. What started out as depression from being ostracized for being gay, turns into trauma from being shamed for something they have no control over. It’s a very sad thing to see. What is the typical diagnosis for someone identifying as gay? EK: Depression and anxiety. Which is a common diagnosis in general among most people.

Pinky and the Brain, Pinky and the Brain, One is a genius and the other’s insane.

EK: Do you think treatment makes a difference? KE: [with genuine enthusiasm] Yes. When I look at my work with someone who is struggling with substance abuse, for instance, someone who was suffering, in denial, continuing to abuse, with deteriorating health, and then watching them come into recovery, watching someone come into being, it’s a recognition, that what I do is not unlike what a midwife does - bring a child into being - and that is a wonderful thing.” EK: How do you advertise your services as LGBT friendly? KE: I put ads in LGBT publications; I organize sports teams and word of mouth. It helps to come out to them myself, because in our sessions, they share intimate details of their life-so in turn, I will share one from mine. It establishes an open, relationship bond up front. EK: How do you feel society can show acceptance of others? KE: One of my favorite quotes is from Ghandi: “Be the change you wish to see in the world.” I attended the Gay Pride Parade this year, and there happened to be a lot of picketers who showed up, opposing the parade. The supporters of the parade reacted most unconventionally. Instead of reciprocating the hostility, they began blowing them kisses, and shouting words of love and praise. It was the greatest thing I had ever experienced in my life. The amount of love the parade goers had for the people displaying their hatred was so moving. From that experience, I took away that the best way to show acceptance, is with love. Centrepoint Counseling Associates is located at 6797 High St, Worthington, OH 43085. To make an appointment call 614.846.0305.

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live in a cave to reach this level of awareness. Carla insists that yoga can be effective for anyone, even if Gomukhasana, Padmasana, Balasana, Utkatasana, you have a busy schedule full of stressors that block Anjaneyasana and Adho Mukha Svanasana. No, this is your chakras. It’s “yoga for the householder” - yoga not some sort of hypnotic Sanskrit chant. You proba- you can practice while still living your life. As a yogi, bly know these terms as Cow Face, Lotus, Child’s, she doesn’t spend her life in a downward facing dog, Chair, Low Lunge, and Downward-Facing Dog poses, she has a social life, a wife and a home and therefore respectively. And Carla Fox-Duelley is just the yogi to on average, practices Kundalini once a week from instruct you in them. another instructor in class, and two to three times a week at home where sometimes her wife Jenny will A practitioner of Kundalini yoga, Carla has been join her. teaching for four years, and she started her yogic path by way of fate or “destiny.” She explains, “I al- Everyone has different expectations, goals and flexiways thought I should be really into yoga, but nothing bility levels when they start yoga, but Carla explains really clicked until I went to a Kundalini retreat on my that it’s important to let go of your ego and not combirthday four years ago. Something just clicked. I felt pare yourself to others in the room. “Not everyone’s something shift the first time I did it. But every path body is capable of doing the same stuff.” But Carla is is different.” adamant that anyone can do yoga, even if you are wheelchair bound. She even has students who are in Kundalini, sometimes called “the yoga of awarethe 60s with Multiple Sclerosis. ness” is based on lifting your consciousness with a lot of meditation, visualization and breathing work. There are many medical benefits to practicing yoga, Through the poses, coupled with the meditation, one like strengthening muscles, balancing the glandular can gain access to the infinite energy that’s inside all system and sympathetic and parasympathetic nervof us. In Kundalini, there are exercises that work on ous systems and gaining flexibility. And with all the the body’s seven chakras. Sometimes some or all of focus on breathing, it also can help the respiratory our chakras, from our tailbone to our crown, can be and circulatory systems. blocked. Carla also expounds on the psychological and spiriNot familiar with the seven chakras? Here’s a brief tual health benefits and believes that mental and and very basic breakdown: (And they are the colors physical health are interrelated. “When I started, I of the rainbow - how gay!) dropped a lot of anxiety, and was able to process my stress in a different way. I learned that the ease of Red: The Root Chakra (Muladhara) is located at base relaxation, and personally, I dropped weight after I of your spine. This is your “basic instincts,” security started.” and survival chakra. There are over 20 different types of yoga, and KunOrange: The Sacral Chakra (Swadhisthana) is located dalini is sometimes criticized as the yoga that will near the sexual organs and is your sexuality and sex- “make you go crazy,” and Carla laughs at this asual hormones chakra. sessment. “I practice the Yogi Bhajan style of Kundalini, who brought it to the west. There is a Yellow: The Solar Plexus Chakra (Manipura) - Is locodification and structure to use without overwhelmcated at your, you guessed it - your solar plexus, and ing the senses and the mind.” is your digestive systems chakra. If you have taken a yoga class before, your instructor Green: The Heart Chakra (Anahata) - is located in might have come over to you to adjust your hips or your chest and it’s your “well-being” and emotions shoulders to achieve better flexibility. In Kundalini, chakra. instructors don’t touch their students. Carla explains, “When people are working on their energy flow, they Blue: The Throat Chakra (Vishuddha) - is located at are vulnerable and it’s not the time to enter their your throat and it is your communication chakra. aura.” She will verbally cue during poses, and only in very special circumstances will she enter place a Purple: The Brow Chakra (Ajna) - is located at your helping hand. “I only do this if someone is doing forehead or where your “third eye” would be and it’s something that is really harmful to them, because your intuition chakra. health and safety is always my primary concern.” Pink: The Crown Chakra (Sahasrara) - is located at the crown of your head or even somewhat above. This is considered to be your chakra of pure consciousness.

As well as Kundalini, Carla also teaches pre-natal yoga, and yoga for senior citizens. She says, “The beautiful thing about yoga, find something that can work for everyone.”

When these chakras are unblocked, one’s consciousness is lifted. “It’s a sacred technology where energetic centers can flow,” says Carla.

Want to take a Kundalini class from Carla? Visit her at the Center for Wholeness on Mondays at 7:30p at 3408 Indianola Ave Columbus, OH 43214, at Breathing Space Yoga in New Albany on Tuesdays at 11a at 6576 New Albany Condit Rd. New Albany, Ohio 43054 and at Equavita in Grandview (times vary.) For more information, you can email her at sat.puran@gmail.com.

You don’t need to run off from the outside world and

Chris caught Erin and Alisa on the floor of the office doing the “corpse pose.” He thinks they were napping.

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Wheatgrass, Anyone? by Ayana Wilson Some who have tried holistic diets do so beWhen you hear the term “holistic diet,” what do cause they want to achieve something healthyou automatically assume? Probably days and wise: lose weight, quit smoking, even combat nights filled forcing down organic grains, lots of long-running conditions like asthma. But for rice, and moss green-colored drinks, which is many, holistic dieting is about making a lifestyle what I initially imagined when I first heard the choice that goes beyond the food on the plate, expression. I wondered if a meat-loving, scotch and considers all facets of the daily experience. devotee could ever be satisfied with such a Stress levels, exercise, and alcohol-consumplifestyle choice. Much to my surprise, I found tion are just as important as the food consumed that holistic nutrition is not only more diverse because, as Lily puts it, “Healthy is about more than I had previously thought, but that the bene- than just all the body parts doing what it’s supfits of such diets do more than feed the body; it posed to do; it’s about making sure it’s happy to nourishes the spirit. do it, and it understands why it’s doing it.” Despite sounding a bit lofty, holistic diets are about Firstly, a holistic diet is one that is designed to the complete person, and establishing a relatreat both the body and the mind. As with most tionship between food and the individual that’s holistic practices, the goal is to bring balance. A wholly beneficial. person’s happiness, or in this case, well-being, depends on all systems working in harmony: As you can imagine, a holistic diet is based priphysical body, emotional heart, mental head, marily on natural foods. Fruits and vegetables, and universal spirit. Lily Dempsey is a friend of whole grain, and teas are essential, but this mine from college who got into holistic nutrition doesn’t mean you have to become a vegetarian when her mother tried alternative dieting after or vegan to enjoy the practice. Many diets also being diagnosed with cancer. According to her, include chicken and fish, freshly prepared, and “holistic diets can work because they treat the view animal protein as absolutely necessary to cause of a condition, not its symptoms…We try achieve and maintain a healthy balance. The to get to the heart of what caused the problem, trick is to avoid processed and pre-prepared and eliminate that, so that harmony can be refoods that contain foreign and artificial ingredistored to the body.” The food we eat is only a ents that work against a body’s accord, not with small part of the equation; how we eat the foods, it. To that end, there are many different types of in what amounts, and how we actually feel about holistic diets you could adopt – a vegan one, the food we’re eating, all impact the success of where there is a strict adherence to plant-based a holistic diet. In this way, the changes we expe- foods, or food-combining, eating like-types of rience in our health are not temporary, but enfoods together in order to maximize digestion. during transformations that continue to affect us You could even try a holistic diet based on your throughout the course of our lives. blood type, where the foods you eat are based

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on ancient ideas of the constitution, metabolism and tolerance of persons with each of the vari- So, I gave Lily a set of perimeters: I’m a meatous blood types. eater and card-carrying member of the Baconof-the-Month club, extremely stressed, and have Digestion, how our body responds to and emno food allergies. I asked her if I were to conploys the food we’ve eaten, is key to the success sider a holistic diet to reduce, and eventually of a holistic diet. Most holistic nutritionists rec- eliminate my constant anxiety, given my proviommend steering clear of cold foods and bever- sions, what would my meals look like. She said ages because the cold hinders the speed of it’s not that simple. See, you should never begin digestion, which can affect the food’s advana holistic diet without seeing a professional. tages. The way food affects our system is diMuch like with any diet, because there are rerectly related to how it makes us feel, whether strictions on what can and cannot be consumed, calm, excited, or energized. Warm foods make it is important to ensure that all necessary nutrius feel warm, so when we ingest foods that are ents are accounted for in some fashion. Peralready at our own body’s temperature, our body sonal rates of food absorption, levels of activity, warms up to it (pun very much intended) more health conditions and family history, even taste easily. preferences all vary from person to person, and have to considered when designing a plan that Holistic dieting is best described as a journey to would work. If any diet is to have a chance to well-being; it is about weighing and evaluating thrive, it must be one that can be enjoyed, and adequacy, stability, and moderation in our lives so the job of the holistic nutritionist is to work in order to achieve personal balance and inner with the individual to devise a plan that succeeds concord. I asked Lily if this was a feasible and on all levels, not just the physical. doable life plan for an urbanite who may not always have access to, or the income to afford or- Alternative dieting is not a new fad, but it is one ganic foods. She admitted that there would be that is enjoying a bit of resurgence as our nation some difficulties, but for those who were serious focuses on eradicating obesity and healthier about such a commitment, there’s always a way: lifestyle options. Once thought of as “hippie liv“Big chain supermarkets have organic produce ing,” holistic practices and foods are now being readily available, and farmer’s markets flourish embraced because of its focus on cleanliness of in urban settings. There’s really no excuse – but the body, the mind and the spirit. It has the you have to want to do it. It makes no sense fol- power to force our generation to take stock of, lowing the food plan if the heart isn’t into it. It and responsibility for, our own healthy futures. won’t be beneficial then because you’ll be unEven though we’ve all been told that “diet” is a happy and if you’re unhappy, it goes against the bad word, not all diets are bad diets - even the whole reason for doing it in the first place, which ones that frown upon bacon. is to have a true, overall sense of well-being.”

Remember the days where you just smoked grass and didn’t eat it?

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MOvember for MOlumbus by Chet Ridenour It’s fall again, and with it comes shorter days, colorful falling leaves, and cooler weather, which is nature’s signal to us men it’s time to change styles. And I’m not just talking about your wardrobe (though hopefully CMH Fashion Week gave you some stylish new ideas - great job Tommy!) ... I’m talking about a facial (no, not that kind), and coordinating those hairs in a way that makes a statement. So what do you get when you grow mustaches in November? ... Can you say Movember? (“Mo” is Australian slang for the mustache). For the uninitiated, this month has unofficially become man month for swarms of facial hair enthusiasts around the world. Beginning in Australia in 2004, a brazen bunch of blokes (“Mo Bros”) began a movement, which would spread across the world, to grow mustaches, the forgotten staple of classic ’70s stag flicks, in the hopes of “changing the face of men’s health.” Movember.com helps these facial philanthropist raise money on their website through fundraising campaigns and friendly competitions to fund medical research for the most common mankillers. According to their website, more than 854,000 participants registered worldwide last year while raising AUD 124 Million. And the group is poised to break the million-man mark this year. They claim to have sparked 1.9 Billion conversations about Movember and men’s health, directly leading to increased awareness and checkups among males.

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If you’re going to join the fight, it’s important to know the rules before you start: #1) Start off clean-shaven. #2) Grow and groom your ‘stache for the entire month. #3) No sideburn connections (that’s a beard). #4) No chin connections (that’s a goatee) and #5) Conduct yourself like a true country gentlemen (so keep it classy, San Diego). And that’s it; you’re ready to grow back in time to the ‘70s. Warning: common side-effects include resembling the latest America’s MostWanted crop, being mistaken for a pedophile, and greatly reducing your ability to attract a partner. Unless of course you find the rare gem that enjoys mustaches rides, then you just might be the most popular queen at this month’s dance or heir to Ron Jeremy’s throne. If you think that’s hardcore, did you know there is an American Mustache Institute devoted to “protecting the rights of, and fighting discrimination against mustached Americans by promoting the growth, care and culture of the mustache?” Each year they vote on the Robert Goulet Memorial Mustached American of the year that best promotes or contributes to the ‘stache community. Wow, shit just got real.

15 and 44 year old men. The American Cancer Society estimates there will be over 241,000 new cases of prostate cancer in 2012, and over 28,00 deaths this year alone and your chances for prostates cancer increases rapidly after age 50. Scary, right? So you better check yourself before you wreck yourself. Men should regularly perform testicular self-examinations by rolling each ball between their thumb and fingers after a warm bath to check for any irregularities. Regular prostate cancer screenings are controversial, so the best bet might be to reduce your risk through prevention. Healthy lifestyle choices including limiting red meat and dairy, not smoking, exercising regularly, eating your vegetables and drinking in moderation will all go along way.

It’s not all so serious ladies, and you can have fun this month too! “Mo Sistas” can play just as active a role in fundraising or raising public awareness for men’s private parts. Next time you go out, bring along a stick-on-stache for a great photo-opp, or draw one on your finger with a sharpie for some versatile photo flair.

A local group, Molumbus’ Mustached Men of Movember you might say, have come together again to coordinate various events and activities throughout the month. You can start off with a fresh shave in the barbershop of dreams by hopping over to the Old Familiar in Olde Towne East or to Blue Star Barbershop (this month’s Small Pond) where they take being a gentleman seriously. Byrne’s Pub, the come-as-you-are hub of Grandview will be hosting the kick-off party Thursday, Nov. 1st. Mustached tribute shows will be going on all month at Tree Bar, KOBO, Brothers Drake, and other great venues, including a table in front of Bernard’s Tavern during the Gallery Hop Nov. 3rd. For more info and a complete schedule, visit: movembercolumbus.com/.

But back to the facts, Jack(aroo). Testicular Cancer is the most common form of cancer between

And speaking of local, check out some of these other businesses spreading the mustache merri-

Chet offers free mustache rides everyday. Just ask nicely.

ment: Cookie Cravings in Italian Village has some delicious ‘stache shaped sweets, while you can pay Homage (literally) by grabbing their “Mustache Gang” tribute shirt to the 1972 Oakland Athletics who faced off against the Cincinnati Reds in the World Series dubbed as “the Hairs vs. the Squares.” We’re also hoping that Traxler Tees brings back the Free Mustache Rides & Mustache Men shirts this year. This year’s theme “Movember & Sons” is all about family - a clever take off our favorite little lion men, Mumford & Sons. So make it personal; recruit friends and family to join you to see who can have the longest, thickest piece on their upper lip (since Pride?) this fall. And speaking of family, I’ve challenged my old man to bring back the stache my mother used to love to hate. It will be The Original Chet vs. Chet 2.0 in this Ridenour battle for Mopremacy. My brother will be sporting blonde hairs this month, and I found out my grandfather’s Mo comes in a reddish/orange but I guess everybody already suspected there were rainbows hidden in my family closet somewhere! So, take a chance and answer the challenge “ to boldly Mo where Mo-one has gone before!” And when someone asks you, “What did the five fingers say to the face?” The correct answer this month would be “Nice Mo, Sir.” - because remember, you’re a country gentleman. I’ll show you mine if you show me yours! Follow me for regular mo picture updates! @ http://www.facebook.com/chet.ridenour

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EZRA MILLER JOINS THE CAST OF MADAME BOVARY It’s been a decade or so since the last of the umpteen adaptations of Madame Bovary, which means, clearly, that it was time for a fresh one. And come on, you know you can’t get enough of this stuff, especially when the production values and creative care taken are as impeccable as period films have been delivering lately. This one’s coming from French-born (and raised everywhere else) filmmaker Sophie Barthes (Cold Souls) and stars Mia Wasikoswka (already an old hand at the corset thing from all that time she spent blowing you away in the excellent Jane Eyre) and Paul Giamatti. The project also features new queer heartthrob Ezra Miller, the 20-year-old star of The Perks of Being a Wallflower and We Need To Talk About Kevin. If you don’t know him yet, you will; the young actor recently chose the pages of Out magazine to get all that annoying future speculation out of the way by announcing his sexual orientation before it turned into an elephant in the room, which is pretty much the new standard of How To Do It Right. Cut to the chase and get back to work!

SACHA BARON COHEN IS NOT THE LESBIAN It’s not just Law & Order episodes; movie plots are ripped from the headlines, too. For example, remember the recent Internet buzz about Cecil Chao, the Hong Kong billionaire who offered $65 million to any man who could woo his perfectly happy and partnered adult lesbian daughter away from that partner and that happiness? Well Borat star Sacha Baron Cohen thinks it’s got the makings of comedy. And he’s right, of course; it does. Tentatively tiled The Lesbian, the project will most likely star Cohen as the entitled Big Daddy and, in better news, not in a simultaneous dual role as the lesbian. Obviously, satirizing the “good intentions” of a man who thinks money can buy anything will offend a small segment of the population for whom homosexuality is a character flaw to be eradicated, but who cares? Mr. Chao must have a screw loose if he thinks a monster dowry is going to derail his daughter’s sexual orientation. And if Cohen’s got all of his own screws locked down tightly, this comedy might perform better at the box office than The Dictator. The negotiations begin here.

ANGLOPHILIA IS THE NEW BLACK You know who you are: the queer person addicted to everything that comes from that tiny country across the channel from France. Well, you’re in luck, because a bumper crop of culture is coming your way sooner than you can say AbFab. Here’s the rundown: Julian Fellowes has a Downton Abbey prequel in the works, a series that would detail the early years of the title-rich and cashpoor Earl of Grantham and his convenient romance with new-money-having American heiress Cora, one that bloomed into affectionate lifelong marriage (with occasional lapses in judgment re: outside sex). Meanwhile, the original queens of What Not To Wear, charismatic presenters Trinny Woodall and Susannah Constantine, are re-teaming for Trinny and Susanna: Inside Out. It’s another style makeover show, obviously, but what else do you want from these two, cooking tips? And finally, perhaps best of all, Stephen Fry, who should be considered a gay cultural treasure no matter which side of the Atlantic you’re on, is the subject of a documentary titled Wagner & Me. Coming later this fall from director Patrick McGrady, it’s the story of Fry – who is Jewish – and his life-long enthusiasm for composer Richard Wagner. That’s right, the Wagner Hitler loved so much. How does that work? Well, you’ll just have to watch it, won’t you?

HANNIBAL WANTS TO EAT YOUR SPARE TV-VIEWING TIME Remember that Munsters reboot called Mockingbird Lane from cool queer creator Bryan Fuller (Pushing Daisies)? Well, it might not be happening now. Hollywood is weird that way. Why put something interesting on the air when another bland family sitcom will do just as well in the ratings and offend practically nobody? But don’t cry for Fuller. He’s got Hannibal and it’s a done deal. The new show, detailing the serial gourmet cannibal’s early years, stars hot Danish actor Mads Mikkelsen (Casino Royale), Hugh Dancy, Laurence Fishburne, Kids in The Hall alum Scott Thompson and Caroline Dhavernas (who starred on Fuller’s earlier oddity Wonderfalls). The plan is for Hannibal to arrive on NBC’s midseason schedule, eating up the time slot left by the fresh corpse of a something cancelled. Bring on the fava beans.

Romeo San Vicente would marry Lord Grantham even if he were a coal miner. He can be reached care of this publication or at DeepInsideHollywood@qsyndicate.com.

The Apocalypse Comes to MadLab by Andy Batt It’s been theorized and dramatized in Hollywood in recent years that the absence of the honey bee would be devastating to the planet’s ecosystem. MadLab’s upcoming producing of Tira Palmquist’s “Age of Bees” explores the lives of a few survivors after the removal of these vital pollinators. In Palmquist’s futuristic tale, as the bees began to disappear, crops and other vegetation began to lose their most important ally to survival outside of Mother Nature. As a result, a domino effect of disasters follows – disease, famine, war….any of these sound familiar? To this end, the population has splintered into small colonies and factions whose only goal is the survival of the human race. Palmquist looks at one particular highly patriarchal colony, led by a religious zealot, and the individual females in that culture. Whereas life in this colony is not necessarily good, it is safe, and relatively predictable – until they are visited by a stranger

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I want to get deep inside a new chili dog from Whit’s.

with a promise of a different world outside the protection of their walls. “Age of Bees” follows Mel, an industrious young woman devoted to helping feed her community while still avoiding the trappings that many of the other females in the commune find themselves. Palmquist takes a fascinating look at how the progress in women’s rights can breakdown so quickly and what kind of men would push that agenda, and how many women would happily prostrate themselves to get what they want. Palmquist is a native of Columbus now living in California. She was a powerhouse in the Columbus theatre scene for years, most notably as a co-founder of Total Theatre. Andy Batt is the Artistic Director at MadLab Theatre. “Age of Bees” will be performed at MadLab on 11/29-12/1, 12/7-12/8, 12/14-12/15, & 12/21-12/22, all shows at 8p. Tickets are $12 for general admission, $10 for students/seniors, and $8 for MadLab Members. For tickets, visit www.madlab.net or call 614.221.5418. MadLab is located at 227 N 3rd St in downtown Columbus.

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First Look: “The Little Dog Laughed” Comes to the Short North Stage by Andrew Keller Of all the insulting things that someone could say to you, you’d think that the phrase “you just have a slight case of homosexuality” would be one of the worst, and the most patronizing. If you hear this uttered in the Short North this November, however, you’re pretty much guaranteed to laugh. This November 8 through the 25, the Short North Stage presents The Little Dog Laughed, an edgy comedy following what goes wrong when Hollywood politics gets in the way of a relationship. With universally relatable problems and humor that will make your mother blush, this may be the company’s most interesting production yet. The play itself, which was spawned from the mind of writer Douglass Carter Beane, follows the exploits of an actor named Mitchell as he contracts the aforementioned ‘slight, recurring case’ of homosexuality. When he meets a small-time hustler named Alex and begins a physical relationship, his snake of an agent, Diane, feels that she needs to do something about this ‘problem’ to preserve both his career and hers. The resulting hilarity follows the characters as they explore what, and whom, they really want. “It’s a conflict between knowing what you really want and what you really should want,” said Rick Gore, Executive Producer of the Short North Stage. “People think they know what they should want and what they really want, and they make compromises.”

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According to Gore, he happened upon the idea of producing this play when he and his partner saw a production of it in New York City in 2007. With its particular style of edgy humor, it offered Gore exactly what he was looking for: a play that pushed boundaries. “One of our decisions in developing a season was that we like to choose one comedy that is edgy, and last year we chose a play called the Irish Curse, featuring men with small penises in New York,” said Gore. “We were looking for a well-written play that’s funny and pushes some buttons.” Despite the humor that the play brings to bear, one of the more interesting aspects of it, according to Gore, is the humanity and universal nature of the problems that the play brings to the stage. And because of this, even characters that seem somewhat two dimensional on the surface end up being more complicated in the end. According to the actors, this added to the challenge of putting the play on with any sincerity. “For me the biggest challenge will be finding Diane’s heart,” said Lindsey Marlin, the actress who plays the somewhat cold agent Diane. “For me, I start with myself and find a way in which we’re similar, though I like to think I’m more loving than not, and work from the inside out.” Matt Bailey, former member of the Jersey Boys tour and the actor cast to play Mitchell, takes on probably one of the more straightforward charac-

ters in the play in terms of his problems, as Mitchell’s dilemma is the center of the story itself. Though Bailey is straight, he said that he has faced no problems playing a gay man, even at times in the plot where the scenes themselves can get a bit more heated.

Marlin. “Sometimes you have a character in one scene that walks directly into another space, and there’s going to have to be a quick turning from one to the next. That’s going to be something that we’ll tackle, but I think it’s going to flow beautifully in the end.”

“When you’re a straight guy kissing a guy for the first time, it can be a little new,” said Bailey. “It’s uneasy, it’s not something you’re necessarily comfortable with.”

Ultimately, however, the cast and direction of the play urge the audience to see it because, ultimately, it is something that everyone can walk away from with a sense of having related to someone or something in it.

Bailey, however, stated that, as he had performed roles of this sort before, his comfort level with the role came very quickly. The comparison for him, in fact, is not so different from simply getting to know the other person and what their boundaries are. “It’s just a matter of getting comfortable with the other actor,” said Bailey. “Everyone gets a little shy. It’s like being on the first date. There’s a little giggling, there’s the question of ‘are you going to take off my shirt’ or vice versa, and other things.” Aside from the characters themselves, another thing that will challenge the cast will be putting the play on in the space provided. The Green Room at the Short North Stage is intimate, and allows for great interaction with the audience, but also presents the challenge of set, scene and character changes that would normally be more easily pulled off in another theater. “The transitions are basically seamless,” said

I bet there is nothing little about these main character studs.

“These are people struggling to find out what they really want,” said Gore, “and sometimes having to compromise.” “It’s definitely a story that could be absolutely true five years ago or five years from now,” said Bailey. “Even though it’s the Hollywood industry we’re talking about, that’s applicable to every industry, putting on a public versus private persona,” said Marlin. “We talk differently with our boss than with our significant other.” She added, though, that people may take away something less deep than they might expect. “They’ll also probably walk away thinking how nice it is to not be in the Hollywood industry,” she said. The Little Dog Laughed premiers at the Short North Stage on November 8. Tickets can be purchased at the Garden Theater itself (1187 N High Street), or online at www.shortnorthstage.org. Tickets are $23.

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Magic Mika Pop star talks new album, coming out and stripping down to his underwear. by Chris Azzopardi After years of speculation, Mika has finally confirmed it: He’s gay. Totally queer. One-hundred percent into men. Now, moving on: The British performer’s third album, The Origin of Love , is Mika’s most self-reflective work, from opening up about his sexuality to the ebb and flow of love and the bullies that he fended off as a child. He even looks more GQ than Toys-R-Us kid these days. Mika caught up with us to chat about whether he’s over talking about being gay (he’s not), his female alter egos and how tight jeans help with the high notes. Chris Azzopardi: So, you’re gay. Are you sick of talking about that yet? Mika: (Laughs) The question before was, “Are you gay?” Now the question everywhere I go is, “What’s it like being a 29-year-old who’s gay?” It never irritated me, and it’s never something that has bothered me, so I’m not sick of it. It’s not essential to understanding my music, but I guess if you want to understand me as a real person – as a person with facets and different angles – then it is important. So no, I’m all right with it, and I’m still answering those questions. It certainly didn’t make them go away. If anything it’s becoming even more a theme for conversation in interviews. CA: You’re 29. You seem so much younger. M: There is a naive childishness to my music. Even with this new record, which is definitely an evolution, it is more mature, but it’s still got this sense of mischief. There is that sense of youth. It’s essential to always be able to look at stuff in life in awe; if you know you can be in awe, or be awed by something, you know that you’re alive. I

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guess people can sometimes misunderstand that for childishness, because often it’s children who stand there with their mouth open, but I guess I’m very comfortable standing there looking at things with my mouth open … being in awe. (Laughs) If an extremely beautiful person is walking down the street, I’ll just stand there and stare and they’ll think I’m the biggest psycho in the world. CA: I also can’t say I know many adults who dance around their bedroom in just underwear. M: (Laughs) And on the one hand, I’m fully aware that in that video (for “We Are Golden”), there are moments of it where I look ridiculous, like in a bad way, and there are moments where I look great. It’s the combination of those two things that I’m fine with. I quite like it. CA: You don’t mind looking a little ridiculous? M: Sometimes. As long as you can look hot a minute later. (Laughs) CA: You sampled a Wicked tune for your song “Popular” off the new album – a song that’s directed toward bullies. Can you explain the process of writing that? M: I wrote it with a friend of mine called Priscilla Renea; she’s becoming really well known for writing a lot of urban and hip-hop stuff. She’s actually the one singing on it with me. We were sitting there and I was like, “Do you know that melody from the Wicked song ‘Popular’?” And she completely geeked out and I burst out laughing. I was like, “Listen to you. You walk around in your threeinch-long fake nails and you write raps and hooks on hardcore rap songs. Does anyone know you like Wicked?” And we laughed about it. She was tortured in school. She was made to feel like shit every day. And we were laughing how the

people who write pop songs are often the least popular growing up. It’s that bizarre thing: You end up writing something that is innately popular or designed to be popular. So it started off like that. We wrote it as a conversation. I would say some things and she would answer back. I guess we were both thinking of that horrible feeling you get when you walk across the schoolyard. Bizarrely, I still feel that sometimes when I’m put in certain situations – that schoolyard mentality comes right back. Isn’t it weird? I can feel threatened sometimes, but when I’m onstage – no matter who I’m singing in front of – I feel like that’s my boxing ring and I have nothing to fear, and everything to say. I guess that’s where I found my outlet. CA: So, Elphaba or Glinda? M: Elphaba is too soppy. I don’t feel sorry for her and her greenness. Like, she’s green – tough shit, get over it. (Laughs) I actually do find her really irritating. Gotta be honest. And when she sings “Defying Gravity,” I’m like, OK, big deal. CA: What’s the highest note you can sing? M: It depends on the day and other various factors: altitude and whether I drank the night before. And it depends on the tightness of my jeans. CA: The tighter the better, right? M: The tighter the better. Always. CA: How does your boyfriend play into The Origin of Love? M: On the record you can hear a horrific breakup, you can hear me questioning myself and going on dates with other people, and then you can hear me finally finding love in the person who I was originally with – you see this transition through the record. I think for him, it’s a record with a

I agree with you Mika, the tighter your jeans, the better.

happy ending – well, for both of us – but it’s definitely something that I think he sees a lot of truth in. As funny as it may seem, and as flippant and ironic as it may come across, “Love You When I’m Drunk” was written completely from truth. CA: There’s no question that a lot of your songs have radio potential, but they’re often overlooked by American radio. Do you think that has anything to do with you being gay or your songs being flamboyant? M: I was accidentally copied on an email a couple of years ago, and it was from a person at radio saying that they wouldn’t play “Love Today” because it sounded like a guy who was singing in the range of a girl. I immediately assumed this had to do with sexuality or identity and I got really angry, and then I just was like, “You know what, it’s not; that’s just an excuse. It cannot be a reason.” I may just be naive, but I don’t know – it cannot be the reason. Maybe I’m just being a dick and I should take a reality pill, but if I took that reality pill then maybe I wouldn’t have made this last record, and I think that would’ve been a shame. With that said, I wanted to tour America again and (the label) was like, “Let’s do three shows and see how it goes.” So we put the three shows on sale and they sold out in 52 seconds – all three shows sold out in 52 seconds! I can sell shows in America when I haven’t been there in four years and I haven’t had a single played on radio. I can keep on building my niche and my fans are faithful and I don’t have to compromise any part of myself or my writing. If that’s the case, then I’ll keep going. For the complete interview, visit www.outlookcolumbus.com. Chris Azzopardi is the editor of Q Syndicate, the international LGBT wire service. Reach him via his website at www.chrisazzopardi.com.

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Silver Moon Rising By Tom Muzyka Werewolves. Lesbian awakenings. Hot flashes. Three of my favorite things, and perfect reading material for a chilly autumn night. Silver Moon is the first in a soon-to-be series based around the mysterious town of Wolf’s Point and the women of a certain age who inhabit it. I spoke with the author, Catherine Lundoff, about her exploration of the Sapphic supernatural and love’s hairier side. Tom Muzyka: Congratulations on your first novel. Could you tell me a little about your previous writing? Catherine Lundoff: Certainly. I’ve had three short fiction collections published to date: Crave, Night’s Kiss and A Day at the Inn, A Night at the Palace and Other Stories. I’ve also edited the anthology Haunted Hearths and Sapphic Shades: Lesbian Ghost Stories and co-edited (with JoSelle Vanderhooft), Hellebore and Rue: Tales of Queer Women and Magic. Silver Moon is my first completed novel, though I have several others in progress. From a genre standpoint, most of my earlier work is erotica, with some erotic romance and some science fiction and fantasy thrown in. My more recent writing is fantasy with some romance elements. I’ve also had some short stories published in dark fantasy/horror venues. I like to experiment with different kinds of fiction and writing styles since that’s also what I like to read. TM: Why werewolves? Is there a deeper statement on women, sexuality, and our inherent animalistic nature, or is this a pure escapist novel? What was your inspiration for writing this book? Obviously (?) you are not a werewolf, but did you draw upon any life experiences while writing Silver Moon? CL: Nope, not a werewolf. At least not so far. My

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inspiration came from a couple of different things. The first were the Ginger Snaps movies, which are a series of Canadian films about two sisters, one of whom becomes a werewolf. They are great movies and well worth tracking down, but they fall squarely into a trope in which menses in a young woman triggers a werewolf attack. Female werewolves are rare to begin with, and almost always young, which, contrary soul that I am, made me want to do something different. Then there’s the physical changes that many women experience during menopause: mood swings, sudden hair growth, the sense that their bodies are in the process of transforming into something out of their control. Lycanthropy was a natural corollary once I started thinking about it. So I’d say that it’s not so much about women and sexuality as it is about women coping with major changes, internally and externally. It’s also about new beginnings. Menopause for women is often presented in pop culture as though it’s the end of everything and it’s all downhill from here. I wanted to play with the notion that it was a whole new beginning. In addition, middle-aged female protagonists, werewolf or otherwise, are quite sparse in science fiction and fantasy, and I, for one, wanted to read about a middle-aged female protagonist. Since few other authors were writing them, I thought I’d give it a try. I do hope some of it is pure escapist fun, though as I wasn’t trying for anything extremely ponderous. TM: Your protagonist isn’t a typical hero; she is a menopausal woman with gradually emerging questions on her sexuality. Why did you choose such an atypical character to focus on?

CL: One reason, as I mentioned above, is that there are so few middle-aged female protagonists in science fiction and fantasy to begin with. I wanted to write about a different kind of character, someone who wasn’t a kickass YA heroine or typical urban fantasy babe with a tramp stamp (not that there’s anything wrong with those kinds of characters). Part of it was relatability, part of it was wanting to see a bigger range of life experiences explored in genre fiction. When I did readings from Silver Moon back when it was a novel in progress, I got a lot of positive feedback at science fiction conventions and bookstores. People from a whole range of ages and backgrounds were interested in the final story and the characters, and that helped me get excited about finishing the book and doing more with the characters. Do I think that the giant flood of YA heroines will be washed by a flood of older female protagonists any time soon? No, nor do I think they should be. But I do think that there has to be a balance. TM: According to the title page, this looks to be the first novel in a series: Women of Wolf’s Point. How many books are you planning, and do you have a clear direction of where you want the series to go? CL: I am working on a second book, with the working title of Blood Moon, even as we speak. My current plan is that there will be three books about Becca and Erin and some of the same characters from Silver Moon. After that, we’ll see how that goes. I may discover more story as I go along…and build from there. Yes, Becca and Erin’s relationship will develop and deepen and I think we’ll be seeing more of the other characters, including Deputy Lizzie Blackhawk and Shelly and

Hot flashes get me hollowing at the moon too.

Pete. I had so much fun writing all of them that I’m looking forward to more time in the town of Wolf’s Point and its surroundings. I’m hoping that Blood Moon will be out in 2013 but it will depend on how my writing/day job schedule looks. TM: The mythology you created resembles some of the Hollywood stereotypes, but is mostly unique. How did you develop this mythology, and how much have you developed? CL: I came up with the notion of place-based magic as the origin for Becca’s Pack when I was contemplating the whole idea of “menopausal werewolves.” Magic was the most logical reason for there to be a Pack of middle-aged women who turned into wolves at roughly the same time and I wanted to give Becca a community to grow into. That was an easier element to set up if it didn’t start out with a violent attack; she wouldn’t immediately distrust and fear them. An additional component is my activist history. I’ve been an activist of various kinds for many years and I wanted a way to talk about activism and community and coming out and about issues like ex-Gay ministries and their so-called “treatments.” I wanted to talk about the damage caused by these organizations without talking specifically about the real world groups. Since I didn’t see any reason for Becca’s Pack to be the only werewolves around, I introduced werewolves created through what is now considered to be the traditional method (being attacked) as the surrogates for “recovered homosexuals.” Catherine Lundoff is the award-winning author of Silver Moon: A Women of Wolf’s Point Novel (Lethe Press, 2012) as well as the short story collections Night’s Kiss (Lethe Press, 2009), Crave (Lethe Press, 2007) and A Day at the Inn, A Night at the Palace and Other Stories (Lethe Press, 2011). You can learn more at www.catherinelundoff.com.

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by Dan Savage What the hell do I say to my straight 14-yearold son about porn? Should I say anything? My sister tells me that all the research shows my son has been looking at porn for three years already. Am I too late? Distressed Anxious Dad According to the Today show and the Boston Globe and the American Family Association and most of what pops up when you google “kids and porn,” DAD, you’re three years late to this pantsshitting party. “The average age a child first views Internet pornography is 11,” Matt Lauer warned parents on Today seven years ago. “And those kids don’t look away.” But the alarming statistic Lauer cited - which was used to justify all sorts of proposed crackdowns on online porn - turned out to be total bullshit. Way, way back in 2005, Seth Lubove, a writer for Forbes, traced the stat back to its source. The Today show got it from the Boston Globe, the Boston Globe got it from Family Safe Media, “a small firm in Provo, Utah, [which] is in the business of scaring parents into buying software to protect their kids from Internet smut.” Family Safe Media got it from Internet Filter Review, a website that markets content-blocking software. Internet Filter Review got it from The Drug of the New Millennium, a self-published book about the dangers of porn addiction. Lubove tracked down the self-published author, and guess what? He couldn’t recall where he got that stat. Somewhere along the line, Third Way, “a Washington think tank that helps Democrats grab on to red-state issues,” was seriously pimping the bogus stat to credulous conservative Dems.

and their anger and resentment is a poison that creeps into a lot of porn; sometimes the poison is obvious, sometimes it’s not. If you put it in your straight son’s head that the poisonously misogynist shit he’ll see in some porn is there to appeal to angry losers who can’t get laid, DAD, your son will be less likely to internalize it - because your son doesn’t want to see himself as an angry loser, right? Finally, DAD, if your son is watching porn, he’s masturbating. Tell him to vary his routine: left hand, right hand, a little lube, a lot of lube, firm grip, loose grip. You don’t want your son to ruin himself for partnered sex by using the “death grip” - a fist clenched tighter than any human throat or pussy can clench - during solo sex. And send him to www.makelovenotporn.com for a brisk, sex-positive porn-versus-reality check. A while ago, I broke up with my long-term boyfriend. A few months after the breakup, I met someone new and we started sleeping together. It was the best sex of my life. Wild, passionate, and unpredictable. New Guy wasn’t looking for anything serious, and neither was I, so we kept things very casual. After a couple months of amazing sex with New Guy, my longterm boyfriend came back into the picture. I told him I’d been seeing other people, but that I missed him and wanted to make things work between us. All good, right? Wrong! I love him so much, and I think we could have a very happy life together, but when we have sex, it just seems so dull and average compared to the volcanic sex that I was having during our time apart. Do I sacrifice an amazing sex life for a happy life of decidedly average sex with the man I love? Help!

Now, maybe Mr. Long Term is the problem (he could be lousy at sex) or maybe it’s the combo of you and Mr. Long Term that’s the problem (maybe you two just don’t click sexually), and the relationship is doomed no matter what you do. But there’s a chance your problem is a relatively common hang-up, MAS. It’s possible that you, or Mr. Long Term, or you and Mr. Long Term feel inhibited during sex because you’re in love, and people who are in love are supposed to have sex one way (you’re supposed to make safe, boring, predictable love). But people who aren’t in love people like you and Mr. New Guy - are free to have sex another way (they’re allowed to have wild, passionate, and unpredictable fucks). Give Mr. Long Term permission to fuck you like he’s never going to see you again. You should fuck him the same way. Fuck each other like the stakes are low - fuck like it’s casual, fuck like it could end at any time. The “lovemaking” inhibition can be literally fucked death, if it’s indeed the problem here, and once you’ve fucked it good and dead, you’ll see that you can have a happy life, a committed relationship, and wild, passionate, unpredictable sex - with the same person! But you gotta want it bad enough to fuck for it. I’m a straight woman in a monogamous, long-distance relationship with a straight man. Last weekend, I went out with my roommate (also a straight

woman, also in a committed relationship). We went to a club, took some E, and did way too many tequila shots. We stumbled home and ended up fingerbanging each other in my bed. I have never had sexual feelings for my roommate, and she says she doesn’t have them for me. Do I have to tell my boyfriend about this indiscretion? I know he would be confused and upset. It was a strange, one-time thing that I plan on never doing again. Not A Lesbian I Think If it was a one-time thing, if you learned your lesson, if you’re sure it won’t happen again, if you didn’t contract anything, and if there are no fetuses gestating (which, barring a miracle, is not an issue for you), you don’t need to disclose this indiscretion. Chalk it up to the E and the tequila, change your sheets, scrub under your fingernails, and spare your boyfriend the upsetting details. Gay Republicans, Dan. Why? How? Confused Self-loathing, that’s why. Homophobia, that’s how. Find the Savage Lovecast (my weekly podcast) every Tuesday at thestranger.com/savage. mail@savagelove.net @fakedansavage on Twitter

Missing Amazing Sex Lubove reviewed actual research done by legit social scientists - a real study! A statistically significant population sample! A random-sample survey! - and reported that most kids don’t start actively seeking out online porn until age 14. So you’re not too late, DAD. Now, here’s what I think you should tell your son about porn: There’s a lot of it out there, some of it’s pretty fucked up, and he can get in huge and potentially life-derailing trouble if he gets caught watching or downloading the wrong kind of porn, e.g., underage, kiddie, etc. You should tell your son that the sex in porn bears about as much resemblance to real-life sex as action movies bear to real-life life. And warn him that a lot of porn is made by and for guys who have no other sexual outlets, i.e., guys who have no wives, no girlfriends, and no hope. Many of these guys - many, not most, but many - are angry and resentful,

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You’re not going to be happy having safe, boring, predictable sex with Mr. Long Term for the long term, right? Not after all that wild, passionate, unpredictable sex with Mr. New Guy. So if things don’t improve, your relationship with Mr. Long Term is doomed. So you have nothing to lose by slapping your cards down on the table, MAS. Tell Mr. Long Term the truth: The sex has to get better.

I wish I could blame tequila for every time I’ve been finger banged.

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Hey outlookers, normally we highlight one local celeb in this spot in the magazine, in June we launched a new Local Celebrity Guest Bloggers segment that crosses over between the print edition and our online portal www.outlookcolumbus.com. Every Monday you can log onto our website’s blog (BlogOQueer) and see what this month’s menagerie has to say about the random topics we give them. In print you get their top five that correlates with what they are writing on online. Silly, stupid or highbrow, these Columbus gurus are sure to give you an eyeful. Enjoy!

Rita Trimble, Grad. Teaching Assoc. Comparative Studies, OSU Top 5 Issues Related to Sexuality

Emily Baker, Nursing Student Capital University

5. Comprehensive sexual health education 4. HIV/AIDS awareness, prevention, treatment, and support 3. Accessible and affordable sexual and reproductive health care 2. Sexual and gender related violence and bullying prevention 1. LGBTQ civil rights and equality November 5th BlogOQueer Topic: Standing Together for Sexual Rights and Freedoms

My Top 5 Celebrity Crushes as a teen: 5. Laurel Holloman - Boogie Nights 4. Renee Zellweger - Jerry McGuire 3. Demi Moore - Ghost 2. Elizabeth Shue - Adventures in Babysitting 1. Claire Danes - Romeo and Juliet November 12th BlogOQueer Topic: How Claire Danes helped me realize that I was gay

Justin Ray Poole, Student & Pres. for Pride at Capital University

Scott Morrison, Human Resources Coordinator at YWCA

Top 5 Madonna Songs: 5. Push 4. What it feels like for a girl 3. Something to remember 2. Like it or not 1. Survival

Top 5 Places to Read/Chill in C-bus 5. Travonna 4. Luck Bros 3. Upper Cup Coffee 2. Cafe Brioso 1. North Marketst

November 19th BlogOQueer Topic: Being an LGBT activist and an athlete

November 26th BlogOqueer Topic: Being a Gay Chaplin

ARIES (March 20 – April 19): Your strong suit is leadership. Stay foAs the Sun enters Scorpio, he trines cused on the big picture. Yes, the details count, but arguing over little Neptune arousing erotic and other reveries, but also, perhaps, profound things can become a huge distraction. Let the detailed people handle insights. Try to stick to the latter. that and stay out of their way. Then he conjoins Saturn, focusing attention on crucial challenges. The TAURUS (April 20 – May 20): You altransition feels pessimistic, but ready have everything you need, so that’s reality where solutions lie. reach out with what you can offer. Domestic arguments may be hard to SCORPIO (October 23 – November avoid. Keep your ears open to what’s 21): We’re all going through hard times. You could feel sorry for your- not being said and be careful not to say too much. self or focus on solutions that will help you lead others through the GEMINI (May 21- June 20): Snafus at challenges. It will be a while, so work could be signals that you are keep your eye on the long haul. overreaching. Feedback from colleagues may not be reliable, but be SAGITTARIUS (November 22 – December 20): Disputes with your part- open at least to constructive critiner should be easily resolved if you cism, even if it doesn’t feel supportive. Take a walk, or at least count to keep an open mind. Single? You could have a mad fling that feels like 10, before responding to anything. more, but it’s probably not. In the CANCER (June 21- July 22): Brilliant end you’ll be glad for what it was. though your insights may be, you Enjoy. should probably consider your time, CAPRICORN (December 21 – January place and company before sharing 19): Clear foresight brings a strong them. Timing is everything. Even if sense of what needs to be done. It’s you want to be completely outré, a lot, but don’t expect people to see you’re best waiting for just the right moment. the program as clearly as you do. Your sense of urgency could be alienating. Lead by example. They’ll LEO (July 23 – August 22): Especially at home, but elsewhere too, resist catch on when they’re ready. getting caught up in arguments. It’s usually just about ego and you have AQUARIUS (January 20 – February 18): You’re feeling at the top of your nothing to prove. Listen and learn. Your silence doesn’t make them game. Half of that is over-confiright. It makes you wise. dence. Stay sharp. When you’re at the top there’s nowhere to go but VIRGO (August 23 – September 22): down, and you’re not quite at your For now there is no such thing as a apex yet. “sweet, innocent” flirtation. The slightest cock of your eyebrow could PISCES (February 19 – March 19): lead quickly to a lot more than you’d New adventures beckon, but they intended. Be careful also not to will take hard work and creativity. over-interpret incoming signals. Creativity pushes you ahead. Whimsy just drags you into la-la LIBRA (September 23 – October 22): land. Be clear on the difference. If An old Swedish proverb says that your family is behind your work, heed their criticism. If not, don’t let buying something you don’t need is stealing from yourself. Don’t let oththem distract you. ers goad you into “keeping up.” You know deep within yourself what matters and what you really need.

Lead by example, Capricorn!

Jack Fertig, a professional astrologer since 1977, is available for personal and business consultations in person in San Francisco, or online everywhere. He can be reached at 415-864-8302, through his website at www.starjack.com, and by email at QScopes@qsyndicate.com.

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