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DeSantis Signs Bill to Allow State to Take Trans Kids Away From Their Families
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While gleefully tossing Sharpies into a crowd at an evangelical school, far right Gov. Ron DeSantis (R) signed a series of anti-trans and anti-LGBTQ bills, including one horrifying bill that allows the state to temporarily take trans children away from their families if they’re receiving or are planning to receive gender-affirming care.
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S.B. 254, which passed the Florida legislature earlier this month, allows trans children to be taken by the state, giving courts the power of “temporary emergency jurisdiction” to modify out-of-state custody agreements in certain circumstances. The bill classifies gender-affirming care as “serious physical harm,” allowing a dissenting parent to request a warrant to receive physical custody of a trans child if they are undergoing or “threatened,” as the bill says, with gender-affirming care.
The bill further places restrictions on gender-affirming care for trans children and adults. Medical facilities will have to pledge to the state Department of Health that they will not provide gender-affirming care to children or refer children to receive it, or else risk losing their medical license. It bars children from receiving gender-affirming care like puberty blockers, and makes it a third-degree felony to provide genderaffirming care to a trans child.
Access to gender-affirming care for adults will be severely restricted under the bill. Only physicians, not health experts like nurse practitioners or physicians’ assistants, would be allowed to perform genderaffirming care.
This is already having widespread impacts; at least one Florida clinic that provides gender-affirming care in the state is staffed only by nurse practitioners, leaving the clinic’s patients in limbo, while Planned Parenthood is canceling adults’ appointments for gender-affirming care in the state.
If a trans adult wishes to access genderaffirming care, they will have to obtain written consent by two state “oversight” boards whose members are appointed by DeSantis under the new law.
The use of telehealth for gender-affirming care for trans people, as well as the use of state funds for gender-affirming care, is also banned under the bill.
Opponents of the law have called it an “abduction” bill allowing for the “legal kidnapping” of trans kids that will almost certainly lead to death for people now unable to access the life-saving care, which is recommended by every major medical association in the U.S. Some providers say their patients are moving out of the state due
“I would say free states don’t ban health care,” state Sen. Lori Berman (D) said during debate on the bill last month. “This bill is wrong on the way it attacks transgender adults, wrong on the way it attacks parents’ rights to raise their children, and wrong on how it puts medical professionals at risk.”
In a bill-signing ceremony in front of an applauding crowd at the Cambridge Christian School in Tampa, DeSantis signed several other bills in one of the most sweeping legislative attacks on LGBTQ rights yet seen in the GOP’s current attacks. One bill attacks drag shows, giving the DeSantis administration the power to take away the licenses of establishments if they allow children into a drag show. Another restricts faculty and students from using personal pronouns of their choice in public schools, saying that every school must implement hateful anti-trans policies declaring that “a person’s sex is an immutable biological trait.”
Another bill bans trans people from using changing rooms or bathrooms that match their gender identity in public buildings, including those in public schools and universities. The law makes it a first-degree misdemeanor for a trans person to not leave a bathroom if asked by a government employee to do so — a charge that can lead to up to a year in prison.
Added up, these bills amount to an attempt to legislate away trans peoples’ ability to exist in the state.
“This isn’t about disagreeing on issues. We aren’t all expected to think the same things or make the same decisions about how to live our lives or how to raise our children,” wrote legal expert Chris Geidner for Rolling Stone. “This is about his using the law to take away fundamental choices that we all should be free to make for ourselves. And in the latest attacks, DeSantis and his ilk are staking out an even more extremist position — criminalizing certain choices, turning fundamental freedoms into potential prison sentences.”
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Sharon Zhang is a news writer at Truthout covering politics, climate and labor. Before coming to Truthout, Sharon had written stories for Pacific Standard, The New Republic, and more. She has a master’s degree in environmental studies. She can be found on Twitter: @zhang_sharon.
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Florida Republican Admits His Party Has Hatred for LGBTQ People by Chris Walker, TRUTHOUT
Republican state Rep. Jeff Holcomb made the admission on Monday while arguing that opposition to a GOP bill to bar the U.S. military from implementing more inclusive policies was an attack on the military.
AGOP member of the Florida state House of Representatives recently admitted that people in his party hate gay people while defending a piece of anti-LGBTQ legislation. recently approved a bill that would allow state courts to intervene in custody disputes and remove children who are receiving genderaffirming care from supportive families with whom they live — a measure that LGBTQ advocates have said essentially amounts to legal kidnapping.
“I just can’t let our military be labeled as racist and discrimination [sic] without any, without a response,” Holcomb said.
He then claimed that the bill isn’t truly anti-LGBTQ because the Florida Republican Party is less hateful toward LGBTQ people than al-Qaeda or ISIS, describing the extremist groups as “folks that discriminate.”
“We bombed a building in 2017 like we never usually do. We bombed it because they threw homosexuals off that building,” Holcomb said.
“Our terrorist enemies hate homosexuals more than we do,” he went on, drawing audible gasps in the chamber.
Holcomb’s words come as Florida Republicans have introduced a barrage of anti-LGBTQ legislation over the past years, much of it under the guise of protecting children.
In April, Florida legislators expanded Gov. Ron DeSantis’s (R) discriminatory “Don’t Say Gay” law, restricting discussions on LGBTQ issues in K-12 public schools across the state. The state House of Representatives also
In recent days, LGBTQ lawmakers in Florida have spoken about the effect that laws targeting LGBTQ people have had on their mental health.
“I have enough tears in my car to fill a lake,” state Sen. Shevrin Jones (D), who is gay, said in an interview that was published last week.
“I’m literally trying to exist,” said state Rep. Michele Rayner-Goolsby (D), a lesbian in the state legislature, adding that “the harsh things [Republicans are] saying” in promoting their anti-LGBTQ agenda “are to prop up a governor’s political ambition, and their desire and quest for power.”
Chris Walker is a news writer at Truthout, and is based out of Madison, Wisconsin. Focusing on both national and local topics since the early 2000s, he has produced thousands of articles analyzing the issues of the day and their impact on the American people. He can be found on Twitter: @ thatchriswalker
Missouri Attorney General Issues Order Terminating Anti-Transgender Rule
Missouri Attorney General Andrew Bailey issued an order terminating his anti-transgender emergency rule challenged in Southampton Community Healthcare v. Bailey, the lawsuit filed by Lambda Legal, ACLU of Missouri and Bryan Cave Leighton Paisner LLP. Bailey issued the emergency rule on April 13, seeking to impose severe restrictions on transgender people of all ages seeking genderaffirming care. Attorney General Bailey filed the request to terminate the rule after the court issued a temporary restraining order blocking enforcement of the rule in the lawsuit.
“While the immediate threat and unprecedented reach of the Attorney General’s emergency rule will end, we are fully aware that the Missouri Legislature continues to train its sights on Missouri’s trans community,” said Nora Huppert, Staff Attorney at Lambda Legal. “SB 49 would deny adolescent transgender Missourians access to evidence-based treatment supported by the overwhelming medical consensus. The fight against these dangerous and unprecedented attacks is far from over.”
Judge Ellen H. Ribaudo of the 21st Judicial Circuit had previously granted a temporary restraining order against the implementation of the attorney general’s extreme and unprecedented restrictions on gender-affirming care for trans people of all ages. Meanwhile, on May 10, the Missouri legislature passed SB 49, which would prevent transgender adolescents from having access to evidence-based, medically necessary healthcare. The bill would also ban access to gender-affirming health care
under Medicaid and place restrictions on gender-affirming care in state prisons.
The legal advocates filed the lawsuit on behalf of Southampton Community Healthcare, Kelly Storck, Logan Casey, and the families of two transgender adolescents. Read more about the case Southampton Community Healthcare v. Bailey.
Joining Lambda Legal attorneys Nora Huppert, Kara Ingelhart and Omar GonzalezPagan are Anthony Rothert, Gillian Wilcox, Jason Orr, Jon Schmid and Tori Schafer with the ACLU-MO and Jim Lawrence, Ben Clark, Mary Grace Warren, Michael Rowan and TJ Briggs with Bryan Cave Leighton Paisner LLP. Lambda Legal is a national organization committed to achieving full recognition of the civil rights of lesbians, gay men, bisexuals, transgender people and everyone living with HIV through impact litigation, education and policy work. www.lambdalegal.org
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Over 200+ Centers Denounce Anti-LGBTQ Bills
For years, anti-LGBTQ bills have been on the ballot in statehouses around the country, but in 2023 the legislation - both in volume and appalling measures - has reached a fever pitch.
State lawmakers have introduced more anti-LGBTQ legislation this year than in the previous five years combined. With 470 anti-LGBTQ bills on state dockets, and 362 of them specifically attacking the transgender community, LGBTQ people are literally fighting for their lives.
These bills enforce discriminatory bathroom bans, censor drag shows or even make them illegal, stop transgender students from participating in sporting activities at school, force teachers to out students, eliminate school curriculum
engage in advocacy, public policy, and civic engagement across a wide variety of issues affecting the LGBTQ community. And despite almost three quarters of centers having experienced anti-LGBTQ threats or harassment over the past two years, the community of LGBTQ centers has remained stalwart in their missions.
CenterLink and its extensive network of member centers are stepping up to create a powerful, united front to push back against the wave of hateful legislation targeting the LGBTQ community. We are calling on people
around LGBTQ and racial issues, attempt to allow states to put restrictions on same-sex marriages, erase LGBTQ people from schools and public life, and prevent transgender youth from accessing genderaffirming care or force them to detransition.
Over 220 LGBTQ centers have united to take a stand against hate and discrimination.
Our member centers have always and will continue to provide vital resources for their communities. LGBTQ centers remain a place where people can go for a wide range of critical, life-saving services. These centers collectively serve over 51,800 people each week, or nearly 2.7 million people per year. Nearly all LGBTQ centers
across the country to get involved: Find your local LGBTQ community center and support their services by volunteering or making a donation.
Make sure you’re registered, then when the time comes, vote for lawmakers who support equality for all Americans.
CenterLink, along with over 220 LGBTQ community centers, denounce the tidal wave of anti-LGBTQ legislation that lawmakers are hurling at our community. We continue to stand united as safe havens for LGBTQ people and as pillars against hate and discrimination. We will not relent until these attacks stop and LGBTQ people are treated fairly and equally under the law.
Read the full letter and see the list of signatories at:.
https://www.lgbtqcenters.org/News/
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CenterLink and its extensive network of member centers are stepping up to create a powerful, united front to push back against the wave of hateful legislation targeting the LGBTQ community.
Big City Mayors Support Homeless Investments, Call for Sustained Funding to Reduce Encampments
San Diego Mayor Todd Gloria, as Chair of the California Big City Mayors – a bipartisan coalition of the Mayors of California’s 13 most populous cities – issued the following statement following Gov. Gavin Newsom’s release of his May Revision budget on Friday:
“Governor Newsom’s May Revision continues the State’s leadership in dedicating needed funding directly to California’s cities to address homelessness. We are grateful for this investment and dedicated to doing our part so that the State and local governments produce results.
“We know that making a real impact on homelessness will require a multiyear commitment from the State. We urge the Governor and Legislature to provide increased and ongoing funding for the Homeless Housing Assistance and Prevention (HHAP) Program and additional resources for Homekey to get struggling Californians off the streets and into housing.
“California’s Big City Mayors are leading the state in standing up shelters, housing, and services to combat unsheltered homelessness. With State funding, the 13 largest cities have provided nearly 16,000 new beds and helped place more than 19,000 people into housing or shelters, getting them out of dangerous encampments and off the streets. We’ve also created more than 5,100 new homes in our cities through the Homekey program. Direct funding for big cities to address homelessness is essential, and we look forward to continuing to engage with the Governor and the Legislature to ensure we get the ongoing support we need to continue doing this work.”
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Finding Love as Transgender People
by Lauren Pulido (He/Him/His)
It started in a place where I never thought I’d find such an authentic and beautiful type of love. I didn’t know what to expect out of Grindr, but I thought I’d give it a shot since I was newly divorced and wasn’t looking for anything serious. It started with a simple “hello” and ended in a love phenomenon beyond my wildest dreams. I wasn’t looking for her, and she wasn’t looking for me. But now that we have found one another, there is no turning back.
As a masculine transgender person, there are many things I have never been able to connect on with a partner. Whether it is discussing the effects of hormones, body changes, desires, or even masking parts of my body to cover the dysphoria, finding a partner that has an understanding of these experiences was a shot in the dark. But then I found her, a beautiful, intelligent, empathetic, passionate, transgender woman who opened my eyes to a new way of receiving and outpouring love. She opened my eyes to a new way of loving myself, a new found confidence and respect for both myself and her. She showed me a love that I never knew I needed and wanted out of life.
I had heard of what community labels “T4T” relationships before, which means both or all partners identify in some way as transgender, but never experienced it for myself. The gentleness, understanding, passion, and communication that has happened since our meeting has set my soul into a new chapter of life. Spending countless hours talking about our aspirations, experiences, family planning, and honest desires and needs out of life
brought us together in a way I had never expected. In just a few short months, my heart has been healed, loved, supported, and seen in a way it never has been before. Knowing how precious and rare this type of experience and love is, you have to both do the work to really cherish it. Trust, respect, and understanding are the foundational elements of what we are building together and I know it will only grow from here. As transgender people, the world can be a mysterious and dangerous place. Intentions
are not always vocalized directly by others and many in the world fetishize or deny our very existence. But together, we can be our own safe place. We can be our own home and sanctuary, and we can be our own saviors. If you haven’t found a love that screams this for you, don’t settle and keep your standards high. We are all deserving of love in the highest regard and passion. I never thought I would find it, but here it is, and I will cherish her and this love we have created together.
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$500K+ Grants Awarded to Keep Pets Safe and Families Together
RedRover® has reached a milestone by awarding $572,502 in Safe Housing grants in this latest round of funding, the most ever for a single round, thanks in part to Purina and PetSmart Charities! Safe Housing grants are available up to $60,000 and can be used to build or renovate spaces dedicated to housing survivors’ pets, to create a foster program, to pay for temporary boarding, or can be used for a combination of services. Funds may also go toward routine veterinary care, emergency veterinary care, and pet deposits.
RedRover President and CEO Nicole Forsyth said, “We’re thrilled these grants can help domestic violence shelters overcome barriers to creating pet-friendly spaces, enabling even more survivors and their pets to escape abuse. We will keep working diligently to ensure that 25% of domestic violence shelters become pet friendly by 2025.”
This cycle, 11 domestic violence shelters and one animal shelter were awarded Safe Housing grants -*SEVEN shelters can welcome pets for the first time.
RedRover + Purina Purple Leash Project DV Shelter Grantees:
*The Women’s Safe House, St. Louis County, Missouri - $60,000
*Safelight Inc., Henderson County, North Carolina - $60,000
*F.A.I.T.H. Inc., Rabun County, Georgia - $60,000
*Schuylkill Hope Center, Schuylkill County, Pennsylvania - $60,000
DV Shelter Grantees:
*Sunrise of Pasco County, Inc., Pasco County, Florida - $60,000 (funded by PetSmart Charities)
*Peace River Center for Personal Development, Inc., Polk County, Florida - $60,000 (funded by PetSmart Charities)
Women’s Advocates, Ramsey County, Minnesota - $18,200
Turningpoint for Victims of Domestic and Sexual Violence, Pierce and St. Croix Counties, Wisconsin - $60,000
Domestic Violence Resource Center, Washington County, Oregon - $16,502
*Steps to End Domestic Violence, Chittenden County, Vermont - $57,000 (Funded by PetSmart Charities)
YWCA of Kitsap County, Kitsap County, Washington - $40,800
Animal Shelter Grantee:
Big Sky CARES, St. Tammany Parish, Louisiana - $20,000
“Steps to End Domestic Violence is thrilled to receive RedRover’s Safe Housing grant! It increases access to our services by transforming our shelter into a pet-friendly facility,” said Executive Director Nicole Kubon. “Soon we’ll be welcoming all pets into our building, removing a significant barrier for many survivors in their efforts to flee domestic violence. No one should have to leave their pets behind and, thanks to RedRover, the people we serve won’t have to.”
“The RedRover Safe Housing grant will allow the YWCA Kitsap ALIVE Program to provide kennel boarding for pets, transportation for visits, food and initial vet Care,” said Jackie Brown, YWCA of Kitsap County Transitional Housing manager. “This will allow families to make sure their pets are safe too. Thank you RedRover!”
Stay tuned for our 25x2025 campaign launch in July, generously powered by PetSmart Charities! To learn how you can help, visit 25by2025.org.
Safe Housing grant application deadlines are March 1, June 1, and September 1. To learn more, visit: RedRover.org/SafeHousing.
Pets and Domestic Violence:
As many as 71% of pet-owning women entering DV shelters reported their abuser injured, killed, or threatened family pets (F.R. Ascione)
Up to 48% of DV victims reported delaying leaving an abuser for fear of what would happen if they left their pets behind (F.R. Ascione)
91% of survivors indicated their pets’ emotional support and physical protection are significant in their ability to survive and heal
Currently, only 17% of DV shelters nationwide are pet friendly (“pet friendly” means shelters can accept companion animals/pets, in addition to service and emotional support animals)
About RedRover
Founded in 1987, RedRover focuses on bringing animals out of crisis and strengthening the human-animal bond through emergency sheltering, disaster relief services, financial assistance, and education. Since 2012, RedRover has awarded 197 grants to shelters in 46 states, totaling more than $3.6 million and providing more than 443,000 safe nights for pets. Additionally, Safe Housing grants have created the first pet-friendly domestic violence shelter in 10 states! RedRover has earned a coveted 4-star rating from Charity Navigator, America’s largest independent charity evaluator. To learn how RedRover is creating a more compassionate world, visit RedRover.org.
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Legislative Attacks On Drag Performances Lead To Cancellation Of Pride Events
by Zane McNeill, TRUTHOUT
As LGBTQ Pride Month approaches, anti-drag bills are endangering pride events and businesses that serve LGBTQ people across the country, LGBTQ organizers have warned. oriented” performances — an arts center in the state has refused to host a youth drag event for pride because of the law. As a result, Northwest Arkansas Equality, a nonprofit that organizes annual pride events in northwest Arkansas, has ended its long-standing relationship with the art center, citing its “censorship of Queer performance art.”
Since April, Port St. Lucie, Florida, canceled its pride parade after Florida lawmakers passed a bill targeting businesses that host drag performances; the largest performing arts center in northwest Arkansas announced that it would no longer be hosting a pride event; and the only lesbian bar in Houston, Texas, was denied insurance because the bar hosts drag shows, which may force the business to shutter its doors.
“This is the goal, they want to eliminate LGBTQ people from public life,” said Alejandra Caraballo, a trans rights activist and civil rights attorney.
While at least fourteen states have introduced anti-drag bills, Tennessee is the only state where a drag ban has been signed into law. Though Tennessee’s law istemporarily blocked, police in the state have been documented threatening artists — including Hayley Kiyoko — with legal action for bringing drag queens on stage. Musicians, including Lizzo, have spoken up against the ban.
Though legislatures in Florida, Arkansas and Texas have yet to sign anti-drag bills into law, the proposal of such legislation has led to the preemptive cancellation of pride events and the targeting of LGBTQ businesses. This year alone, Florida has introduced 10 antiLGBTQ bills, Arkansas has introduced nine, and Texas has introduced an overwhelming 52.
Pride organizers in Florida have warned that Senate Bill 1438, which has been passed by both chambers of the state legislature, is so vaguely worded that “this might be the last Pride as you know it.” The bill would fine venues and potentially suspend or revoke businesses’ alcohol licenses if they admit children to drag shows. It would also allow misdemeanor charges against anyone who knowingly admits children to an “adult live performance.”
The bill is likely to be signed by the state’s governor, Ron DeSantis (R), who has made attacks on LGBTQ people a cornerstone of his administration. In anticipation of the law’s passage, the Pride Alliance of the Treasure Coast has preemptively canceled its pride parade and restricted its other pride events to people ages 21 and older. Despite the fact that the governor hasn’t yet signed anti-drag legislation into law, the DeSantis administration filed a complaint in March against the Hyatt Regency Miami hotel for holding a drag show, arguing that the hotel’s liquor license should be revoked.
“This is the law working as intended: forcing queer people back into the closet,” said “New York Times” columnist Lydia Polgreen.
Meanwhile, though Arkansas’s anti-drag bill was stripped of language specifically targeting drag shows — instead restricting “adult-
At least one employee of the arts center, Savannah Hanna, quit their job because of the center’s decision.
“It just feels like I was fooled, to be honest,” Hanna told “The Arkansas Times.” “When it [came] time to put your money where your mouth is and do the right thing for a community that you would not exist without, then you shut up and close your doors and say, ‘Not this year; it’s too divisive.’ That’s gross.”
Meanwhile, a drag ban is advancing in the Texas legislature despite massive public outcry. While the ban has not yet been passed into law, a lesbian bar in the state has already been affected by the potential legislation. Julie Mabry, owner of Pearl Bar — one of just a few dozen lesbian bars left in the country — told Click 2 Houston that the bar has been denied insurance because it hosts drag events. While the bar will remain open under its current coverage, Mabry is concerned that she may not be able to find coverage in the future and the bar will be forced to close.
“I’ve worked my whole life to have my dream come true. I honestly can’t believe we are here in 2023 but you’ve seen the posts; Big-name performers in Tennessee posting about how they’ve been warned that if they have drag queens they will be legally reprimanded,” Mabry said. “Well — think about the BARS! Not some big show that happens in a city once a year, but somewhere where people go every single day.”
As pride month approaches, festival organizers across the country are monitoringvarious bills to ban or restrict drag performances, and some are struggling to obtainthe permits needed to host their events.
“The idea that we wouldn’t allow a pride event in the year 2023 is a little bit hard to fathom,” Clayton Klutts, the president of Tennessee’s Franklin Pride organization,told NBC News. “It feels like we’re going backwards.”
Zane McNeill is a breaking news writing fellow at Truthout and has written for In These Times, Waging Nonviolence, National Geographic, the Progressive, and Sentient Media. He has a Master’s Degree in Political Science from Central European University and is currently enrolled in law school at the University of Denver Sturm College of Law. They can be found on Twitter: @zane_ crittheory. For more articles like this, visit: https://truthout.org
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As people gear up for the International Mr. Leather weekend in Chicago – and Pride Month approaching – health officials warn that there could be another mpox outbreak. Men who have sex with men and their sexual partners are especially encouraged to get vaccinated. Health officials in Chicago have reported a cluster of cases.
In San Mateo County, health officials reported one case this month after six months of having no cases.
In San Francisco, health officials urge people to make sure they get both doses of the vaccine. A clinic is coming up on Saturday, June 10, in conjunction with the Second Saturdays event in the South of Market neighborhood.
Key Facts
Mpox (monkeypox) is a viral illness caused by the monkeypox virus, a species of the genus Orthopoxvirus. Two different clades exist: clade I and clade II
Common symptoms of mpox are a skin rash or mucosal lesions which can last 2–4 weeks accompanied by fever, headache, muscle aches, back pain, low energy, and swollen lymph nodes.
Mpox can be transmitted to humans through physical contact with someone who is infectious, with contaminated materials, or with infected animals.
Laboratory confirmation of mpox is done by testing skin lesion material by PCR.
Mpox is treated with supportive care. Vaccines and therapeutics developed for smallpox and approved for use in some countries can be used for mpox in some circumstances.
In 2022–2023 a global outbreak of mpox was caused by a strain known as clade IIb. Mpox can be prevented by avoiding physical contact with someone who has mpox. Vaccination can help prevent infection for people at risk.
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“I Have Something to Tell You (For Young Adults)” by Chasten Buttigieg
reviewed by Terri Schlichenmeyer
Experience, they say, is the best teacher. Once you’ve done something, you can say you like it and you’ll do it again or not. The subject comes with a different viewpoint, once you’ve gotten a little experience with it. You’re wiser, more confident. As in the new book “I Have Something to Tell You” by Chasten Buttigieg, you’ll have the chops to offer valid advice. college in Wisconsin clarified many things and helped him gain confidence and “broaden [his] perspective.”
If you’d have asked 8-year-old Chasten Buttigieg what life was like, he probably would’ve told you about his big brothers and how wild and daring they were. He would’ve said he didn’t have many friends and that he loved his parents. He wouldn’t have told you about being gay, though, because he had no frame of reference, no experience, or role models. He just knew then that he was “different.”
A year later, he watched “Will & Grace” on TV for the first time, and it was hilarious but he had to be careful. Already, he understood that being “someone ‘like that’” had to be hidden. He watched “Ellen” and he was sure that “gay people weren’t found in places” like his Northern Michigan home town.
For much of his childhood, Buttigieg says he was bullied, but being lonely was worse. He was awkward, but he found his happy place in theater. “In school,” he says, “I felt a constant tug-of-war between where I was and where I wanted to be,” between authenticity and pretending. A year as a high school senior exchange student in gayfriendly Germany, then a “safe space” in
By the time he met the man he calls Peter, “I felt at ease to present myself in ways I hadn’t felt comfortable doing...” Still, he says, things may be better or they may be worse, “We’ve got a long way to go, but you, the reader, get to be a part of that promising future.”
Filled with an abundance of dad jokes and a casual, chatty tone that never once feels pushy or overbearing, “I Have Something to Tell You” may seem like deja vu for good reason. This gently altered version of a 2020 memoir, meant for kids ages 12 and up, says all the right things in a surprisingly paternal way.
And yet, none of it’s preachy, or even stern.
Though there are brief peeks at his adult life on the campaign trail with his husband, now-Secretary of Transportation Pete Buttigieg, the heart of author Chasten Buttigieg’s book is all memoir, set in a loving household in a small town. It’s lightly
humorous but not trite; to this, Buttigieg adds a layer of subtle advice, and genuineness to a tale that’s familiar to adults and will appeal to young, still-figuring-it-out teens.
You can expect a “you are not alone” message in a book like this, but it comes with an upbeat, fatherly calm. For a teen who needs that, reading “I Have Something to Tell You” will be a good experience.
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Little Activisms by
Judy Saint
Talking Like an Adult
“Mommy, can I has cheeseburger?” Mothers patiently correct, “May I have a cheeseburger” almost subconsciously before answering. Mom restated her son’s comment in adult words. That’s how children learn, by hearing a corrected mirroring of their statement.
We can often do the same when we hear insensitive stereotypes, subconscious assumptions, or even religious platitudes if we are not ourselves religious. We can mirror what they say, letting them know we understand their meaning, while taking the opportunity to mildly model how we prefer people in our adult world should talk. We can model how we might express ourselves in sincere yet accepting ways. Just a simple rewording or re-examination of what was said can sometimes be very effective, especially if said with a smile. Let’s look at some examples. (See what I did there? Modeling for you. YW.)
For “She shouldn’t have walked home alone”, we could respond, “I love that you are concerned for her. Maybe you could join that Angels group that walks with people after dark.” Start with a compliment about their concern.
For “It’s just locker room talk”, we could say, “You heard someone say this, really?
What did you say back?” It assumes they are too nice to talk that way.
For “I see he’s in a wheelchair. What type of shirt is he looking for?” You can respond, “I wonder, too. Let’s ask him.” (This really happened to me.)
For “I’m scared to say ‘he’ or ‘she’ now, since everyone gets so angry about it”, we could say, “You know, it sounds like you really care about not offending people. I like that about you.” Appreciation can model how a conversation could start on a better foot.
And, since I’m not religious I’ll add a few of those comments I hear a lot.
For “He’s in a better place now”, nonbelievers might respond, “Oh man, he sure had a great place right here with his family. He loved those kids.”
For “God bless you” after you sneeze, we could respond with a smile, “Oh, I’m not superstitious, but thanks. I’ll try not to give you my cold.”
For “I’ll pray for you”, you could respond, “I don’t think that does anything, but thanks for your kind thoughts. Maybe you could come stay with me after my chemo, pick up my prescription this afternoon, or watch Mattie while I’m at the doctor’s tomorrow.”
Try rewording comments using words and phrases from an adult perspective, with a smile of course, being appreciative of any honestly good intentions first. Matter-of-factly rephrasing assumptions and platitudes might not seem like much activism, but each little rephrasing adds one more piece to the puzzle. It helps, really.
Try it with whatever phrases you hear that you think could be adjusted to be more accepting or less edgy. See what it feels like to speak up, even just once. Thanks for considering it.
Little Activisms encourages readers to consider small changes we can make to help social causes, and to feel good about ourselves for taking small risks. Judy Saint is President of the Greater Sacramento Chapter of Freedom From Religion Foundation and author of The Pleasant Atheist Adult Coloring Book available on Amazon.
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Hard Rock Hotel & Casino Sacramento Announces Three Special Events To Celebrate Pride This Summer
Hard Rock Hotel & Casino Sacramento at Fire Mountain is gearing up for a summer of fun celebrating Pride with three special events and concerts in June and July. Hard Rock Live is a 2,500-seat state-of-the-art music and multi-event space situated in Wheatland, California, located 35 miles north of Sacramento. It hosts live music, comedy, MMA, and Boxing, as well as marketing, charity, and social events year-round. Live Nation, the world’s leading live entertainment company, is the exclusive talent booking agency for the venue. A full list of Hard Rock Live shows and events is available at https://www.hardrockhotelsacramento.com/live-event-calendar.
Social purpose has propelled Hard Rock since 1971, when it was founded on the mottos: Love All-Serve All, All Is One, Save the Planet and Take Time To Be Kind. We work to improve lives, help communities, and sustain the Earth, infusing the power of music into all we do. Ever since Hard Rock’s founding, we have planted roots and thrived wherever we operate. Trust from the communities we serve is based on the substance of our actions, which we must grow and sustain every day.
50 years after our founding we continue our tradition of inclusion and work to integrate our mottos into daily business operations and critical business decisions.
Diana Ross, June 17
Kicking off the festivities is the iconic Diana Ross concert on June 17 at Hard Rock Live. Ross, one of the most accomplished hit artists of the past 50 years, released a brand-new album in 2021, Thank You. Ms. Ross co-wrote, produced, and curated the album with songs of collective spirit and togetherness.
Starting her career as a young girl in Detroit, her timing was ideal to become a catalyst for the Motown sound she helped create as the leader of The Supremes before launching her own solo career that has inspired countless artists and musicians ever since. An accomplished actress, musician and fashion icon who has received numerous awards national and international awards, Ross continues to procure fans from every generation with her timeless style and sound. Ms. Ross is also one of the few celebrities to have two stars on the Hollywood Walk of Fame.
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Halsey, July 2
Singer songwriter Halsey is coming to Hard Rock Casino Sacramento’s Hard Rock Live on Sunday, July 2, performing with a live string ensemble for this engagement. Halsey has amassed more than 41 billion combined global streams to date, including more than 15 billion U.S. streams, and sold nearly 20 million adjusted album units worldwide. Her most recent album, If I Can’t Have Love, I Want Power, debuted at No. 1 on Billboard’s Top Current Album Sales and Top Alternative Albums charts in 2021. It follows 2020’s Manic, which also entered the Top Current Album Sales chart at No. 1. Halsey continues to push creative boundaries, exerting an influence and impact beyond music. Her first book, I Would Leave Me If I Could: A Collection of Poetry, debuted on “The New York Times” Best Sellers list in 2020. Named as one of “TIME’s” 100 Most Influential People of 2020, they have won over 20 awards, including an AMA, MTV VMA, GLAAD Award, the Songwriters Hall of Fame’s Hal David Starlight Award and a CMT Music Award. Halsey continues to speak up for important causes such as disenfranchised youth, women’s rights, mental health, and the LGBTQ community.
Rupaul’s Drag Race, July 20
The world’s most famous drag queen, RuPaul, sends some of his favorite drag queens on the road from the reality-competition show, RuPaul’s Drag Race “America’s Next Drag Superstar” in the Werq the World Tour, stopping by Hard Rock Casino in Wheatland July 20. Hosted by Bianca Del Rio and Michelle Visage and featuring performances by favorite drag queens from the television show, Aja, Alaska Thunderfu%$, Alyssa Edwards, Kim Chi, Peppermint, Sasha Velour, Shea Coulee, Trinity Taylor, Latrice Royale, Detox, Shangela, and Violet Chachki. The lineup is subject to change. The touring event is produced by @ VossEvents.
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an you remember the exact moment when you fully embraced the letter in LGBTQ that represents who you were born to be?
I was watching the latest season of Queer Eye which has been released just in time to help psyche ourselves up for all the pride coming down the pike this next week and one episode had a lesbian looking into a mirror and learning to love herself. My self-acceptance also began in front of a mirror when at 16 years old I looked at myself and said aloud, “I’m gay.” Even though it was another 2 years before I came out it was the beginning of accepting and loving who I was. Take a few moments this pride season to honor he first steps you took toward being the fabulous human you are!
A huge thank you and congratulations to everyone who rode, volunteered and donated to the 2023 NorCal AIDS Cycle ride. What an amazing turn out of support! Though the event may be over it’s not too late to show a little love with a donation at Norcalaidscycle.
org
Jun. 5 is HIV Long-Term Survivors Awareness Day which was created to raise awareness about the needs, issues, and journeys of those who were infected in the early days of the epidemic as well as celebrate their strength and resilience.
Don’t get B-10 to the good seats at June’s Drag Queen Bingo on Thursday, Jun. 1 at Mango’s, 1930 K St. Make sure you are there B-4 all the spaces are gone and you’re left out in the cold! Hosted by the fabulous DoMe Moore, this month’s event benefits the Sacramento SPCA. Admission will be first come, first served. Mangossac.com
With the state fair around the corner people often forget about the Sacramento County Fair which is a whole cauldron of awesome unto itself! This year’s County Fair returns May 25-29 at Cal Expo, 1600 Exposition Blvd. It’s where tradition meets tomorrow… allegedly. Calexpostatefair.com
Are you ready to stand in love? You betta be! Sunday, Jun. 4 at 10 a.m. Davis Pride gets underway at Central Park in Davis. But apparently a group of anti-transgender and anti-drag protestors claim they will be present to disrupt the stage performances. The Love is Love Movement refuses to let hate win and welcomes those who wish to stand united in love at the Davis Pride stage. Be safe fam.
The Sacramento Pride March and Festival returns June 10-11 on Sacramento’s Capitol Mall in downtown Sacramento. The two day festival brings community members together to celebrate our colorful and diverse LGBTQ culture and community. Even though the event doesn’t take place on a Friday,
attendees will be getting down and having fun fun fun fun with Rebecca Black as she headlines the event. Saccenter.org
If you like Pink Floyd you are in for the trip of a lifetime! Paramount’s Laser spectacular “The Music of Pink Floyd” will alter your perception of these classic tunes! Check it out Friday, Jun. 9 at the Crest Theatre, 1013 K St. Crestsacramento.com
RuPaul’s Drag Race Season 15 Takeover event continues on May 28 as Mistress Isabelle Brooks takes FACES Nightclub, 2000 K St., by storm! Come witness the fabulousness! Faces.net
Enjoy live music in a loose, easy-going atmosphere in Crocker Museum’s outdoor courtyard at 216 O St., on Thursday, May 25 at 7 p.m. Jazz Night at the Crocker will host the tribute band Sacred Fire as they bring the sound of Carlos Santana to life. Also enjoy food from Casa Tulum, drinks by Good News Wines and sweet treats from Hella Halo. Crockerart.org
Ready for some Queer+ Kickball this summer? Come get involved on Saturday, Jun. 3 at 9 a.m. at Roosevelt Park as they kick off their 9-week Saturday Summer 2023 Kickball League. Anyone is welcome to register at Outloudsports.com
Who is seeing Lizzo’s “Special 2our” on Sunday, May 28 at the Golden 1 Center, 500 David J Stern Walk? I want a full report on the concert! If you aren’t able to go (like me) here’s a heads up on another awesome combo concert coming up that you need to grab tickets for! Bryan Adams—who wrote the music to The Pretty Woman Musical so don’t you dare say “that old singer”—is coming to the Chase Center in San Francisco Sunday, Jul. 30 with none other than the early lesbionic icon herself Joan Jett and the Blackhearts! There is no way you can miss this! Check for tickets online.
Events, birthdays, announcements? Send them to matthew@hengemedia.com.
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Pride Sentiment Stronger Than Ever This Year Davis Festival Is June 4 In Central Park
by Wendy Weitzel
Members of the Davis Phoenix Coalition work to eliminate hate. That’s been a heavy lift this year, as organized groups have threatened trans youths, protested drag shows and boosted white supremacy. And that was all before the community was terrorized by what police say was a serial stabber who killed two and injured one in a six-day period this spring.
So, the nonprofit’s team is more determined than ever to bring a positive message to their biggest event of the year: the Davis Pride Festival. It’s all part of a weekend of activities in downtown Davis that celebrate June as International LGBTQ+ Month. After three years of COVID and the trauma of the stabbings, they want to offer positive ways for the community to come together for healing and joy – and to celebrate diversity.
Davis Pride is an all-inclusive celebration for members and supporters of the LGBTQ community. The community-focused, familyfriendly weekend includes a skate night, fun run, music festival, drag queens, vendors and more – June 3 and 4. Proceeds from Davis Pride events support the coalition’s anti-racism and anti-bullying campaigns, support to LGBTQ+ youths and their families, and outreach with area police departments, churches and schools.
DPC organized a vigil to honor the first stabbing victim, David Breaux. Hundreds turned out on April 30 to pay tribute to Breaux, 50, known as the “Compassion Guy” for his study of compassion. It turned out to be a dedication to two people, as a second victim, 20-year-old UC Davis student Karim Abou Najm, was killed two days later.
The group stood firm against anti-trans protests in Davis schools, advocating for affirmation and support of trans and genderexpansive children. It noted a suicide rate of about a third more among children who lack such support.
The coalition showed up to defend drag queen events, including one at a Woodland bar in July that was disrupted by protesters who made derogatory comments about the LGBTQ community.
“Pride is our time to be positive in a world full of negativity,” said Davis Pride Director Sandré Henriquez Nelson.
Although police are convinced they have the stabber in custody, there will be plenty of security. Organizers are assuring participants that Central Park will be a safe space to gather. “We have been working with law enforcement agencies, community groups and a security team for several months to ensure the safety of Davis Pride,” Henriquez Nelson said. “In light of the recent crimes, we plan to add even more security. We look forward to coming together as a community.”
The events, produced by the Davis Phoenix Coalition, follow the theme “I am Davis Pride.” This year, Davis Pride’s presenting sponsor is BluPeak Credit Union.
Here’s what to look forward to for Davis Pride 2023:
- Those in Davis will notice the rainbow
crosswalks around Davis’ Central Park, painted early on the morning of Sunday, May 28. It sets the celebratory tone for the upcoming events, which include:
- Skate with Pride, from 7 to 9 p.m. on Saturday, June 3. The free night will include a disc jockey, disco lights and food trucks. Skating will be under the Davis Farmers Market Pavilion in Central Park, Fourth and C streets, downtown. Bring your skates for family fun.
- Run for Equality at 8 a.m. on Sunday, June 4. It includes a 5K and 1K run/walk from Central Park. Registration is $25 until May 28 and $30 after.
- Davis Pride Festival kicks off after the run, with a community fair from 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. Sunday in Central Park. The fair portion includes educational booths, food, drink, and vendors coordinated with the assistance of Davis Craft and Vintage Market. There are even special activity zones for youths, teens and seniors. The highlight of Sunday’s festival is the entertainment from 11 a.m. to 4 p.m. Headlining is 1980s tribute band Tainted Love, performing from 2:30 to 4 p.m. Second billing goes to the drag revue that starts at noon, hosted by Mercury Rising and featuring Nayasha Lopez, along with Shay D, Xena CyberGoth and Tilly Creams. The event will explain the importance and history of drag in the LGBTQ community, and will pay tribute to a drag icon. Other performers include Cheer Sacramento at 11:50 a.m., the Sacramento Women’s Chorus at 1 p.m. and Sacramento Gay Men’s Chorus at 1:30 p.m.
- Later in the month, on Friday, June 23, there’s a Ride with Pride bike party excursion, with participants meeting at Central Park at 6 p.m. and leaving about 30 minutes later.
Davis Pride events are coordinated by an all-volunteer community formed by the Davis Phoenix Coalition, a nonprofit that works to foster diversity, eliminate intolerance, prevent hate-motivated violence, and support LGBTQ+ youths in Davis and surrounding communities. The coalition was founded in the aftermath of a 2013 anti-gay attack on Davis resident “Mikey” Partida. Proceeds from Davis Pride events support the coalition’s antiracism and anti-bullying campaigns, support to LGBTQ+ youths and their families, and outreach with area police departments, churches and schools. To donate, go to https:// davisphoenixco.org/donate.
For more information about the event, visit https://www.davispride.org/. To learn details as they unfold, follow Davis Pride on Facebook and Instagram.
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Old Ladies, Evil Dead & A Mermaid at the Movies
In between gobbling up episodes of the fantastic second season of “Schmigadoon!” – please, God, let there be a third season – I managed to see four new films, including the movie every young girl and gay man has been waiting for, “The Little Mermaid.” Read on for my reviews.
by Chris Narloch
The Little Mermaid
I am not always a fan of Disney’s live-action remakes of its animated feature films, but this time the studio got it right, delivering a movie that, while not as great as the original film, is nevertheless much better than the more recent stage musical. Kudos to Disney for casting a Black actress (Halle Bailey) as Ariel in the big-screen blockbuster. Besides being beautiful and having a gorgeous singing voice, Bailey projects an innocence that is perfect for the part. The underwater effects are also lovely, plus Melissa McCarthy and Javier Bardem hit home runs with terrific work as Ursula and King Triton, respectively. My only quibble would be that McCarthy is so villainous as the villainess that young kids may be frightened by her scenes. In wide theatrical release.
Book Club: The Next Chapter
There was no need for a sequel to the original “Book Club” movie from 2018, but as an excuse to get four of my favorite actresses back together again on the big screen, I’ll take it. Jane Fonda brings the sex appeal and Mary Steenburgen provides the sweetness, but it’s funny ladies Candace Bergen and Diane Keaton who steal the show this time out. The paper-thin plot, about a girls’ trip to Italy to drink wine and buy wedding dresses for the upcoming nuptials of Fonda’s character, often feels more like a travelogue than a fleshed-out script. Still, thanks mainly to the fantastic foursome at the center of the film, I had a smile on my face before, during and after “Book Club: The Next Chapter.” In wide theatrical release.
Evil Dead Rise
Hardcore horror fans will enjoy this latest installment in the long-running “Evil Dead” franchise, which began with two excellent scary movies directed by Sam Raimi (“The Evil Dead” and “Evil Dead II”). Raimi no longer directs these films, but Lee Cronin does an admirable job here, approximating Raimi’s swooping camerawork and sicko sense of humor. While not as darkly funny as Raimi’s “Evil Dead” films, this movie does deliver intense violence, rivers of blood, and a very warped plot about a tattoo artist who becomes possessed by a demon and attempts to kill her own kids. I admired the skill with which “Evil Dead Rise” was made, but I can’t really recommend it to anyone except diehard fans of the franchise. In wide theatrical release.
Carmen Hunky Paul Mescal (who was nominated for a Best Actor Oscar earlier this year for his captivating performance in “Aftersun”) is back, this time playing half of a hot-to-trot hetero couple on the run from the law. Sultry Melissa Barrera plays the female lead. Loosely based on a novella of the same name – which was also the inspiration for Bizet’s “Carmen” – and directed by French dancer and choreographer Benjamin Millepied, this “Carmen” is a mixed bag. Frequent dance sequences that are superb (and very sexy) can’t quite make up for the awkward dialogue and mostly flat performances in between. The movie is a must for fans of dance films and doomed romances – all others need not apply. “Carmen” opened at Sacramento’s Tower Theatre on May 19th.
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A La Mode Brings Camp To The Crocker For Artmix
by Eben Burgoon
The Crocker Art Museum’s ArtMix series has bridged art and entertainment on second Thursdays since 2010. As the Public Programs Coordinator at the Crocker, I’ve had a lot of fun curating this fan-favorite program and collaborating with community partners. For Pride Month, I wanted to honor the out-and-proud artist couple Paul Wonner and Theophilus Brown, whose works are on view in the Crocker’s current exhibition, Breaking the Rules: Paul Wonner and Theophilus Brown.
For this event, I met with A La Mode early on, and we both agreed that a camp theme was perfect for the moment. It’s a fresh twist on the Crocker’s usual Pride-inspired ArtMixes, and it embraces the rule-breaking spirit of Wonner and Brown. To help capture the vibe, we invited local artist Jaime Crews to create a commemorative poster, which we’ve unveiled on our social media and have teased in this issue.
I chatted a little bit with A La Mode about ArtMix, camp, and what she is most excited about with this event.
Eben Burgoon: You’ve been a partner and performer with the Crocker in the past. What about this ArtMix has you excited?
A La Mode: This is my second year curating, performing, and hosting for ArtMix Pride, and I’m ecstatic to be returning. The energy in the crowd last year was truly electric. I met new people I had never seen before, and I knew we had achieved what we set out to do: expose people to drag who had never seen it before. We’re transforming the space for this event with outlandish decorations and one-of-a-kind performances, and I’m so excited to share it with you.
EB: The term “camp” has such an undefinable mystery to it. What is your approach to bringing that “you’ll know it when you see it” quality to this event?
ALM: If you think something is tacky, garish, over the top, or «too much,» it’s probably camp. My go-to reference is anything in the John Waters canon—think Hairspray or Pink Flamingos.
More is more. Wear a gown, a coat, a poncho, 10 bracelets on each arm, four wigs, eight necklaces, six earrings, and giant platform shoes all in one outfit. Put your three-piece work suit in an industrial shredder and wear it as is. Arrive at the event in workout clothes, freshly sweaty from the gym, and adorn yourself with a tiara and royal jewels. Still not sure what to wear? Ask your least stylish friend what they would wear and you’re onto something.
EB: Camp at a museum might lead to comparisons with the Met Gala 2019. Thoughts?
ALM: Truly nothing is original. Concepts, ideas, and themes are always recycled. Being compared to the Met Gala is a compliment. The Anna Wintour-helmed fundraiser was very influential, so any similarities that are drawn would be quite flattering. More importantly, I know that this event will do Camp justice.
EB: In your vision for the variety show, what were you looking for when finding performers?
ALM: True variety. We have moved past the need for any drag show to only include drag queens. Drag is as hard to define as camp is, so why limit the scope when curating a showcase of local drag talent? I curated a show focused on variety, but more importantly on diversity and equity. I wanted the audience to be exposed to drag like they’ve never seen it. I’m very excited that the Alley Apples, Clive Maxx, Mumzie Stems, Diana Hole, Serpentina, Azutanah, and DJ Subeaux will be joining me on stage. This lineup represents a truly diverse group of artists and I’m thrilled to showcase their talent at the Crocker.
EB: Why is having a show like this at an art museum important to you?
ALM: We are so lucky to live in a state that has not wasted time passing legislation to target nightlife performers. Most media outlets have referred to Tennessee Senate Bill 3 as a «drag ban.» This is incorrect. The bill bans public «adult cabaret performance» in front of children in the state of Tennessee. Make no mistake, when reading the fine print, this is an anti-trans bill. Specific wording around clothing and public presentation makes it clear the bill has nothing to do with drag, burlesque, exotic dancing, etc. This is also a distraction technique that does not confront actual issues facing Tennessee’s constituents.
Drag is an art form like any other and should be presented as such. Drag
performance incorporates music, comedy, dance, theater, fashion, and makeup artistry. Most drag artists create their own costuming, do their own makeup, book their own events, market themselves...the list goes on. Drag artistry is most often associated with nightlife, but drag artists are storytellers at heart.
I truly believe that drag should be presented in more fine art spaces. The Crocker has been such a fantastic partner in recognizing drag as an art form, elevating it alongside the fine art in its permanent collection. I’m grateful to Stacey ShelnutHendrick for recognizing that and inviting us into the space, and to you for continuing that legacy.
ArtMix: Camp is Thursday, June 8 from 6 – 9 PM. Tickets can be purchased at crockerart.org.
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Disneyland After Dark Celebrates First Pride Nite
by Chris Narloch
Given Florida Gov. Ron DeSantis’s ongoing war against just about everyone who isn’t a straight, white Christian conservative, I am happy to report that Disney continues to support the queer community in various ways, despite lawsuits and threats of boycotts.
Recently, a Florida teacher was even reportedly “under investigation” for showing students a Disney movie with a gay teen character — last year’s “Strange World.”
So, it is encouraging that Walt Disney World will host what’s billed as “the largest LGBTQ+ conference in the world” in September as Gov. DeSantis continues to claim victory over the company in the fight over last year’s so-called “don’t say gay” bill and legislators crack down on diversity and inclusion measures statewide.
Out & Equal, a California-based LGBTQ+ workplace equality organization, will hold that 2023 Workplace Summit at Florida’s Disney resort Sept. 11-14, and during Pride Month in June, “Disneyland After Dark” will host the first-ever “Pride Nite” for two unforgettable evenings at Disneyland Resort in CA.
“Disneyland After Dark: Pride Nite” is a separately ticketed event that celebrates the LGBTQIA+ community and allies, which will be held on June 13 and 15, 2023, inside Disneyland Park.
This after-hours event includes themed entertainment, Disney characters, one-of-a-kind photo opportunities, specialty menu items, event merchandise and more.
“Pride Nite” begins with a three-hour pre-party mix-in from 6 p.m. to 9 p.m. PT, then the private party runs from 9 p.m. to 1 a.m. PT, when guests can ride some popular attractions after regular park hours.
Quantities are limited. For tickets, please visit https://disneyland.disney.go.com
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Will The Tony Awards Go on This Year?
This year’s live telecast of the Tony Awards on CBS and Paramount+ will likely look very different from past years if it happens at all. The current strike by the WGA (Writers Guild of America) put the future of the televised event in jeopardy, but there are various options for how the awards could still happen, including postponing the show until the strike is resolved, or holding a nontelevised press conference on the original date of Sunday, June 11th. nine each.
Traditionally, the live telecast includes fully staged numbers from most or all the nominated musicals, but exactly what shape the ceremony will take was still up in the air and could change after this article is in print.
Ariana DeBose was originally scheduled to host again this year, and Lin-Manuel Miranda had begun creating an opening number, but last I heard, both of those plans were in doubt given the WGA’s reluctance to grant the Tony Awards Management Committee a waiver that would allow the telecast to proceed.
No matter what happens with the ceremony this year, the nominees will not change, and there is no denying that this season has been a very good year for new Broadway plays and musicals, at least in terms of quality.
The new stage musical of Billy Wilder’s iconic film “Some Like It Hot” led all nominees with 13, followed by “New York, New York,” “& Juliet” and “Shucked,” with
“Kimberly Akimbo” and the current revival of Stephen Sondheim’s “Sweeney Todd,” starring Josh Groban and Annaleigh Ashford, both received eight nods.
In the play department, “Ain’t No Mo’” and Tom Stoppard’s “Leopoldstadt” tied for the most nominations, with six each, while the highly acclaimed “Fat Ham” (winner of the 2022 Pulitzer Prize) nabbed five Tony Award nominations, including Best Play.
“Fat Ham” is a queer, Black riff on Shakespeare’s “Hamlet” that follows a gay Southern college kid named Juicy who is visited at a backyard barbecue by the ghost of his father, demanding that Juicy avenge his murder.
In other queer Tony news, both Ben Platt (the original Evan Hansen) and Alex Newell (of “Glee” fame) are Tony-nominated this year for their work in the revival of “Parade” and “Shucked,” respectively. For the latest updates on this year’s Tony Awards, go to www.tonyawards.com
by Chris Narloch
(this story is developing as we went to print)
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Marcel Spears and Calvin Leon Smith costar in “Fat Ham.”
Photo by Joan Marcus
A Free Concert In Rancho Cordova
Mark your calendars for Saturday, June 3, 2023, when Symphony d’Oro will present their next free concert at the Cordova High Performing Arts Center in Rancho Cordova. Vaudeville, Folksong, Jazz, Rock ‘n Roll, American Symphonic Sound - they have it all at their next concert, “American Spring.”
Enjoy the depth and unique quality of American music, including Aaron Copland’s stunning “Quiet City” and rollicking “Hoe Down,” traditional American folk tunes, the rich jazz sound of Duke Ellington’s band, and a special arrangement of the Overture to “In Dahomey” from the first musical composed by and performed by black musicians and actors on Broadway.
Join Symphony d’Oro for an unforgettable afternoon of music that celebrates American culture and creativity. This exciting free concert begins at 3 p.m. For more information, please visit www.symphonydoro.org
The Mondavi Center Presents A New Musical
The UC Davis Department of Theatre and Dance will present “Open, Stay,” a new musical, June 7-10, 2023, in the Vanderhoef Studio Theatre, part of the Robert and Margrit Mondavi Center for the Performing Arts.
Featuring music and lyrics by Anna DeNoia and arranged/orchestrated by Joshua Villa, “Open, Stay” masterfully weaves together musical genres to create an evening of laughter, romantic resilience and lessons learned.
“Open, Stay” is a vibrant contemporary musical that explores romance in all forms – from thrilling first encounters to bittersweet goodbyes. The musical will be directed by Broadway veteran Mindy Cooper, with music direction by Graham Sobelman.
“Open, Stay” is a collection of ten moments of connection — beginnings, endings, and in-betweens – as well as the moments that come long after we part ways. It is an exploration of how we love and how we lose one another, all connected by the need that brings us together — the need for each other.
Don’t miss this opportunity to see a new musical. For more information, go to https://arts.ucdavis.edu
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Mayacamas Winery –Beauty Inside and Out
by Diana Kienle, Certified Specialist of Wine
Iwill admit it, tI first visited the Mayacamas Tasting Room in downtown Napa, CA because of the ratings the Cabernet Sauvignon received from credible reviewers. The wine is also a collaborative effort with one of my favorite winemakers, Andy Erickson. Of course, I had to see for myself. That day, what I found was a great Cabernet with wonderful texture and rich flavors. The wise thing to do was to capitalize on the great find and just buy!
Just recently during a visit to Napa Valley, it was time to visit the winery itself, high up on Mt. Veeder. To say the least, the setting was impressive as well as the wine. Our tasting started off with a ride to the top of the mountain via four-wheeler where we could look out over the valley and vineyards. To the south, the San Pablo Bay was quite visible. This body of water provides cool breezes that allow for longer hang times and retention of acidity. All this nurtures the grapes on the vine. It was a gorgeous setting in which to enjoy a taste of the winery’s luscious 2021 Chardonnay. It was a wonderfully crafted wine with flavors of lemon and nuts, refined and bright. Cruising back down the mountain, we got more views of vineyards that are true mountainside plantings. The winery and its vines are located on the south facing side of Mt. Veeder at elevations between 1800 and 2200 feet. It is a serene and peaceful setting without other intrusions in the space. On the trip up to the winery, we saw that the winter rains had washed out the road in several places. Be prepared to be careful where the road turns to one lane in places. Back at the winery, we were afforded a
walk through the storage cave to see some of the original barrels still in use today. All very interesting, yet the star of the show was definitely the wine. The standout was the 2018 Cabernet. It was well-crafted to say the least. Rich yet svelte on the pallet, tannins round and soft. Antonio Galloni of Vinous says this about the wine: “Bright floral and spice notes lift the soaring finish as the wine’s inner sweetness gradually emerges over time. The 2018 is superimpressive.” He rated this wine 98 points. The price I paid for this delicious bottle of Cabernet Sauvignon was $150. It is well worth it. This is not the first high scoring wine the winery has delivered. The 2015 was rated 97+ points, and Galloni described the 2016 as “insanely beautiful” and gave it 99 points. Wine Spectator placed this Cabernet on their top 100 Wines in 2019 and 2020. To say the least, this wine is well worth your investment.
To visit either the downtown Napa tasting room or the winery itself – or to purchase wine, go to the Mayacamas Vineyards website. Enjoy!
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Queer Anthems To Celebrate Pride
Pride season invariably brings with it new music by queer artists, and not all of that music is great. This recent disc, on the other hand, collects previously available songs by LGBTQ performers for a hit-filled, 16-song release that hits the bullseye, thanks to careful curation that includes older, legacy artists like Elton John, Melissa Etheridge, Queen and k.d. lang alongside today’s red-hot queer artists, such as Kim Petras, Troye Sivan, Lil Nas X, Kehlani, Scissor Sisters, and Hayley Kiyoko. As a bridge between generations of music fans, I found the combination of old and new very satisfying, and you can purchase “Now That’s What I Call Proud” at: http://www.nowthatsmusic.com
Gallic Cinema Returns to the Tower T
he Sacramento French Film Festival (SFFF) returns to the Tower Theatre for its entire 22nd event, which will take place over three days, June 9-11, 2023.
The 22nd SFFF will open on Friday June 9 with the police drama “The Night of the 12th,” the big winner at the 2023 César Awards, including Best Film, Best Director & Best Screenplay. The festival will close with the uplifting drama “Revoir Paris,” starring Virginie Efira, winner of the 2023 César for Best Actress.
In between, the SFFF will present six more French features, carefully picked by its Film Selection Committee. Half are comedies, half are dramas, and four of this year’s eight films were directed by women.
For more information and to purchase Festival Passes, please visit: www.SacramentoFrenchFilmFestival.org
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Plan Your Prides! Here are a few right here in California.
Vacaville Pride
Saturday, June 3, 2023
Andrews Park, Vacaville
Fresno Pride
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Fresno City College
Santa Monica Pride
June 3, 2023
Downtown District
Santa Cruz Pride
June 3-5, 2023
Sonoma Pride
Saturday, June 3, 2023
Old Courthouse Square
Santa Rosa, Ca.
Davis Pride
Sunday, June 4, 2023
Davis Central Park
West Hollywood Pride
Sunday, June 4, 2023
West Hollywood Park
Richmond Pride
Sunday, June 4, 2023
Richmond Civic Center Plaza
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Welcome to Sadie Grove Farm
by Melanie Ernould, Psy.D. and Taylor Urban
One by one, cars pulled up by the green gate with rusty metal butterflies and the campers piled out. They walked down the long dusty driveway, past the rainbow flag, and the horses glanced up from their breakfast to watch them. It’s another day of camp at Sadie Grove Farm and this group’s excitement to be together was electric.
They didn’t know each other before they came from different schools and communities all across the Sacramento area to be together at farm camp. They were a ragtag group whose parents individually feared they’d struggle to make friends or fit in; some struggled with anxiety, had experienced bullying, identified as queer, or came out by week’s end, were neurodivergent; and all wanted to come to farm camp to ride horses or be with animals. Yet somehow together, amongst the dust and poo, and after a week of frolicking with animals, they found connection and belonging.
Sadie Grove Farm is the passion project of Dr. Melanie Ernould, a child clinical psychologist, and Taylor Urban, her animalloving partner. Melanie says, “My doctoral dissertation was a treatment manual for a support group for LGBTQ+ kids who had experienced bullying. Many years later, when we started the farm, we wanted to create a safe place for like-minded people to be able to enjoy horses and the farm experience safely. I inadvertently ended up merging the two very different areas of my life. I think it’s my calling.”
The camps happen several times over Summer and sometimes the year. The concept was born of a desire to save animals and create a full circle experience. “Taylor and I rehabilitate the animals, the children reap the benefits of the animals, and then they give back to the animals during their time here, which is also part of their own healing experience,” Melanie says. The camps are considered to be inclusive and therapeuticallyinclined, integrating a horse, farm, nature, and art camp into one. While they are not “therapy” per se, they are therapeutic in that the environment, activities, and accepting social experience provides a healing effect and experience unlike any other.
While the camps are intentionally free-range, giving the children opportunities to find quiet moments of connection with animals, Melanie intentionally incorporates animal-assisted therapeutic activities. In one such activity, Melanie teaches a child how to direct a horse to move around the perimeter of a circular pen while the child stands in the center. The child controls the horse’s direction and speed with only body movements and energy and nothing
attached to the horse. It is in this moment of controlling a thousand pound animal with only a minor change of body posture, that a child who feels out of control in so many aspects of their life, might come into their own. When the child who is afraid to take up space in their regular world finds it within themselves to lift themselves up and command the energy in that pen, and the horse responds to that energy appropriately, something shifts within the child and a tiny seed of confidence grows.
Campers also get an opportunity to create something meaningful, beautiful, and natural to take home. These creations are seen from conception to finish throughout the week. For example, during Spring, campers were able to process wool directly from the sheep to woven yarn and felted creations. Melanie believes that making with one’s hands and working with natural materials is therapeutic and rare grounding activities. These activities are an important piece of the camp’s structure.
In addition to the children’s camps at Sadie Grove Farm, they also offer LGBTQ+ friendly riding lessons for children and adults on safe, well-trained lesson horses. Animals are also boarded at the farm, providing an opportunity for people to have farm animals who don’t have the appropriate space for them at home. Similarly, the farm can also offer the lease of horses, providing the experience of owning a horse at much lower cost and care. Lastly, Dr. Melanie offers individual farm therapy and animal-assisted therapy to children and adults outside of the context of camp.
The benefit of equine activities is that one gets to practice connection, vulnerability, and safe boundaries with beings who are oftentimes easier to be with than other humans. The unfortunate reality for the LGBTQ+ community is that too often the gatekeepers to those beings tend to be humans who are hostile to the community. Alternatively, Sadie Grove Farm provides a safe and nurturing space for every human to experience farm life and animal connection.
Come pet a goat, ride a horse, hug a chicken, kiss a pig, get dirty, and be gay, at Sadie Grove Farm!
For more information visit; www.sadiegrovefarm.com
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Don’t Miss This Queer Vietnamese Love Story
You have until May 29, 2023 at midnight to watch this captivating queer love story from Vietnam, which recently played in person at the Sacramento Asian Pacific Film Festival. In “Song Lang,” the male star of a traveling opera troupe develops an unlikely friendship with an enforcer for a loan shark. Set in a richly imagined 1980s Saigon, the film is a gritty underworld noir hiding a tender, romantic heart. The movie has a rare 100% positive rating from critics on Rotten Tomatoes and can be rented for just $5 via VOD by visiting https://sapff.org/2023
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Bono & the Boys Return
by Chris Narloch
Even before COVID reared its ugly head, U2 had been quiet for a little while. Not so anymore. Bono was obviously writing his memoirs during that time, and he and the band were working on “Songs of Surrender,” their recent 4CD boxset of revisited hits.
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Then there was that delicious Disney+ documentary with Bono and The Edge a few months back, which was marred but not ruined by the participation of David Letterman, who turns everything into a joke – and not always a good one.
I am not a big fan of Letterman and his Father Time beard, but he doesn’t wreck the documentary, which has the ego-driven title “Bono & The Edge: A Sort of Homecoming with David Letterman.”
If you can ignore Letterman, the almost 90-minute movie is a fascinating journey through time to U2’s origins, using old performance footage and new interviews, plus a recent concert by Bono and The Edge in Dublin that previewed the acoustic-driven covers of their own songs that make up “Songs of Surrender.”
We learn things about the band in the doc that I didn’t know, and the director (Morgan Neville) does a fine job of giving viewers a historical and political context for the rise of the hugely popular Irish band.
I don’t like everything on “Songs of Surrender,” which includes a generous 40 tracks on four CDs, but a few of the new versions are even better than the originals, and the ones that aren’t are still interesting.
“Songs of Surrender” strips down and reworks past hits like “Pride (In the Name of Love),” “One,” “Where the Streets Have No Name,” “Beautiful Day,” and many more, putting the focus on the often-magnificent lyrics and Bono’s quieter vocals.
The third recent gift for U2 fans was Bono’s excellent autobiography, “Surrender: 40 Songs, One Story,” which is a very revealing trip through the life of Paul David Hewson (Bono’s real name) and his famous band’s career.
An artist, activist and a lead singer, Bono has lived an amazing life, and he shares very private details of his upbringing in Dublin as the child of a Catholic father and a Protestant mother.
The rock star also writes movingly about his enduring romance with his wife, Ali, whom he began dating soon after U2 formed.
Bono also sheds light on the creative differences and occasional turmoil within the band, which (thankfully) is still going strong after more than 45 years together.
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The Best U.S. Cities to Get Lucky
Which cities have the sauciest hookup scene or the most opportunities to score? Bespoke Surgical scoured locations across the country to find which ones have the most singles, minimal sexual frustration, the highest number of bars, adult entertainment clubs, and other indicators of a thriving hookup culture – all to help you find the perfect place to get lucky. So, get ready to pack your bags and leave your inhibitions at the door because we’re about to dive into the best cities in the U.S. to get it on.
Key Findings
• Tampa, FL is the #1 best U.S. city to get laid. 43% of Tampa’s population is single, and Floridians boast 14 orgasms per month, on average. The national average is 12.5.
• Pittsburgh, PA ranks #2 because it has 225 bars for every 100,000 residents––more than any other city in the ranking. The national average is 86 bars (per 100K).
• Los Angeles, CA ranks #4 because 45% of the population is single. LA has 16 drive-in movie theaters for getting frisky and 54 swingers clubs for sexual play.
•Las Vegas, NV lands the sixth spot because it has more adult entertainment clubs than any other city––10 clubs per 100,000 residents. The national average is two clubs (per 100K).
Of the top 20 cities to get lucky, 13 are located on the coastline. Out of the top five cities, three are located in Florida, indicating that sea air, sunshine, or warm weather may go a long way when it comes to getting in the mood.
You can find the full study at: https://bespokesurgical.com/2023/03/02/best-us-cities-to-get-lucky/
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Brotox Boom: The Surge in Men’s Cosmetic Surgery
by Karla Jo Helms
According to the American Society of Plastic Surgeons (ASPS), male cosmetic surgery and non-surgical procedures increased by 29% between 2000 and 2018. The increase is influencing dermatological and plastic surgery practices across the United States.
In 2020, top treatments among men included botulinum toxin, laser skin resurfacing, laser hair removal, and soft tissue fillers. Laser skin resurfacing rose by 482%, cheek implants rose by 1616%, and soft tissue fillers by 137% since 2000.
Botulinum toxin treatments increased by 182% and became popular among men as “Brotox”. Over 265,000 male patients received botulinum toxin procedures in 2020 to treat crow’s feet and frown lines, indicating a continuing “Brotox Boom”.
This significant increase in the number of men undergoing cosmetic procedures highlights a shift in societal norms and the growing desire for men to enhance their physical appearance.
“The stigma of vanity surrounding cosmetic procedures for men has evaporated. Minimally invasive treatments with little downtime and natural-looking results give men the same benefits women have enjoyed for decades — enhanced self-esteem, confidence, and sociability,” says Dr. Cynthia Elliott, the owner and primary practitioner of Skinspirations.
ISAPS reports that over the past two to
three years, a greater percentage of men (14.4% or more) have expressed interest in aesthetic surgical treatments. In fact, by 2024, the global market for men’s grooming is anticipated to reach $81.2 billion.
Men are undergoing more cosmetic procedures due to various factors such as social pressures to maintain a youthful appearance, the desire for selfimprovement, and to remain competitive in both their career and personal life.
“With the rise of videoconferencing post-pandemic, having a youthful and appealing face has gained importance since that is predominantly the only part of a person that co-workers and new clients see during video conferences,” notes Dr. Elliott.
“At Skinspirations, our team of highly knowledgeable and skilled licensed aestheticians uses medical-grade products to help men, as well as women, achieve a certain level of enhancement to their appearance without attempting to look drastically different.”
For more information, visit www.skinspirations.com.
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Online Dating - All Downhill from the Sign-Up?
by John Daniel
So I bought a new smartphone last week. I’ve been limiting my smartphone use lately because they’re so addictive and isolating, but now that I’ve had the chance to play with my new toy for a few days, I have to admit I’m smitten by the improved technology, and the phone’s fit and finish is just beautiful: I can’t stop caressing the damn thing.
What can I say? Smeagol is pleased. Very pleased.
Anyway, as I was drifting off to sleep the other night, a stunning idea suddenly hit me like a ton of rainbow-colored bricks:
“I’m gonna give Grindr a try!” I thought as I anxiously groped for my phone.
Heart racing and temples pounding, I sat at the edge of my bed and mercilessly poked and prodded my little precious until it led me to the fabled site. Moments later, my room was bathed in a lurid, orange glow.
I was in.
Although middle-aged, I felt like a kid again, having stepped into a wondrous new world; but unfortunately I couldn’t proceed without first suffering through a mind-numbingly long list of terms and conditions:
“Will you allow us to use your location?”
“I accept.”
“Will you allow us to share your email address with other advertisers?”
“I accept.”
“Can we distract you from any and all other truly meaningful, life-enhancing activities, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, and 365 day per year?
“I accept.”
When it finally came time to upload a pic, my heart momentarily sunk once again when the following warning appeared:
“ABSOLUTELY NO PREHISTORIC IMAGES ALLOWED.”
“How ageist!” I thought, “that can’t be right.” But then I fetched my reading glasses:
“ABSOLUTELY NO PORNOGRAPHIC IMAGES ALLOWED.”
Ah, now the message made sense, but it got me thinking: I wanted to upload a picture that was sharp and clear, but just a touch flattering as well. Something detailed, but not too detailed; vague but not too vague…you know, a happy compromise between Lindsey Lohan’s mugshot and the Shroud of Turin.
In the end, I settled on a torso shot. While the Grindr gods were reviewing my submission, I perused a few profiles to pass the time. I was surprised to see that people’s desires (and delusions) hadn’t changed much since the ye olden days when we posted ads in the back pages of gay newspapers and exchanged Polaroids via snail mail.
The guy in closest proximity to me described himself as a “100% True Top,” though he occasionally made exceptions for 110% True Tops. An 18yo about three miles away sent me his Amazon wishlist. Whatever for?
What really blew my mind was the sheer number of Gay and Bisexual men who lived around me. I’m in a workingclass, blue collar neighborhood, far, far away from the gay bars, trendy shops and hip restaurants downtown. If someone had asked me to guess how many gays lived in my neighborhood, I would have estimated about 5 to 10 people.
It turns out that there are around 40 to 50. Who knew? My low estimate was likely influenced by the fact that I came of age in the late 70’s, when most LGBT kids grew up feeling isolated and alone.
I doubt I’ll ever meet most of the people behind the smiling faces staring up at me from my smartphone, but it’s comforting to know that I have so many Gay and Bisexual brothers surrounding me; and I’m sure that the younger generation of LGBT people in my neighborhood feel comforted as well.
That’s why we need to get out and stay visible. That’s why we need to continue to fight for our rights. That’s why we need to…OMG I just got my first IM!!
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