The Reality of Kink Parties

The fetish scene is often cloaked in mystery, and as much as this is what attracts some people, it’s also the thing that makes others nervous to take the plunge. So let’s settle some of those nerves as we break down some common misconceptions.

SOMEONE MIGHT SEE ME:

One of the main reasons people are tentative about heading out to a kink event is fear they’ll bump into a neighbour, colleague, or (fuck forbid!) a relative. This is one fear that rarely comes to fruition.

From a purely business perspective kink events must provide discretion – if a safe space is not. Just remember, if you do see someone from your “vanilla” life at an event there’s every chance they will be just as surprised as you are.

The other brilliant thing about kink events is that masks and hoods are welcome. If you are really adamant no one knows who you are, you won’t look out of place BEING anonymous.

WHAT TO WEAR:

There’s an idea that you have to spend a small fortune on outfits just to get through the door, or that people won’t accept you if you don’t have the required ‘look’. In most cases, you won’t even have to wear ‘fetish’ gear. Yes, there are dress codes, and even themes on offer for those who really enjoy the dressing up, but these are not rules on how to dress – merely suggestions. If you can dress in basic black, or even your favourite club or night wear more often than not, you’ll be fine. Keep in mind that some parties and events do have high protocols for their dress code, these are generally fetish-specific parties, eg. leather, latex, nudity and those wanting to attend are fetishists more than happy to invest in their passion. Be sure to check the dress code for your chosen event, and do your best.

KINK IS CODE FOR ‘ORGY’: DO I HAVE TO PARTICIPATE IN PLAY:

Consent is the key to kink play. You never have to play at a kink event. No means No and any coercion – be it subtle or overt – is unacceptable. You are absolutely empowered to decline in no uncertain terms, and more often than not, that ‘no’ will be met with respect.

There are always Dungeon Monitors (DMs) at kink events and their job is to ensure safe and respectful interaction throughout the event. They are there for the safety and support of the patrons, and know how to deal with disrespectful players.

But do keep in mind, participation doesn’t have to mean being spanked, flogged or suspended from the rafters – a lot of kink play is sensual and slow. Participation could be a foot massage, a back rub, or braiding hair! There really is something for everyone.

The only way you’re going to know what kink events are really like is by heading along. With everything on offer at Oz Kink Fest, there really is no better place to start. Take it slow at the Fet Expo and After-Party, or dive in deep at Hellfire Resurrection – with such an array of events on offer there is a perfect place for YOU. MisKnickers First published on the Adult Match Maker blog FULL ARTICLE here

Ummm… Sorry. Nope. Most people attend kink events to catch up with friends, socialise with like-minded people, wear something shiny and participate - even simply as a viewer - in kink.

There are kink parties that do allow sex on premises, and if this is on your To-Do list be sure to check out our monthly Provocation event.