PALMY PARENT PALMERSTON NORTH PARENTS CENTRE MAGAZINE
June / July. 2019
WINTER WONDERS Ideas to get out and about this winter
SNUGGLY WINTER WARMERS
Product review on popular merino clothing brands
TRAIN YOUR BABY’S TASTE BUDS
Tips from Wal Herring on growing Adventures Little Eaters
EDITOR’S NOTE
Brrr!! We are definitely into winter now. Cosy up under the err... heat pump... (not quite so romantic-sounding as a fire, is it?!) with a mug of hot chocolate, put the ugg boots on, and get into our latest issue, because we have some great reading inside for you. The amazing Pinky McKay does some great breastfeeding myth busting for us in one of our parenting features, and we have sage advice for the newly minted Dads amongst you, too. This month we go for a wintry walk around Timona Park and the Oroua River in Feilding for our family friendly outing, and invite you to do some arty weaving using the myriad leaves and natural items you might find along the way in our craft pages. If you need more inspo to get out and about and beat the winter blues, there’s a feature with some awesome seasonal family ideas, too - who says you need to hibernate like a bear? As well as the above, check out the great read on overcoming the pressure to bounce back post-partum and cut yourself some slack, and don’t miss the tips on creating adventurous eaters from an early age, if introducing solids is on your agenda. Yes, there’s plenty here to keep you occupied on a wet day! I hope you enjoy this celebration of the season.
Erin Evis, Editor
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CONTENTS FEATURES Why Do Babies Wake At Night
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Read me a story
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7 Best First Foods When Introducing Solids 21 A letter to Mums for Mother’s Day
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IN EVERY ISSUE Editor’s note
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PNPC seminars & events
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What’s on ... In our region
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Book Review
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Welcome to the World
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Developmental play: Dough Days
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Birth Story: Two babies... in just over a year 18 Family Friendly Outings: Mt Lees Reserve
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Dads Life: The Chemistry of Dad and Baby
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Craft: Baby stimulation Cards and Posters
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Community support groups
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Member discounts
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Playgroups in your area
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CONTRIBUTORS Erin Evis, Laura Wenden-Green, Wal Herring, Pinky McKay, Onewa Parents Centre, Lydia Arber
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COMMITTEE NEWS On May the 5th 3 committee members and our Childbirth Educator attended the Parents Centre National Conference in Wellington, there were great speakers such as Emily Writes who spoke about her journey into motherhood and how her own Parents Centre Coffee group was a huge sense of support on that journey, Nathan Wallis talked about the first 1000 days, the human brain, differences between boys and girls brains and development, birth order and sex determining success and attachment, Alison Sutton about Talking Matters, Bronwyn Sweeney on SLEEP and Maria McKenzie on Brainwave Trust.
Check out the details of our Photo fundraiser on Page 2, we are lucky to have the talented Tamara Milldove of Milldove Photography working with us again in her studio, for $25 you get a studio shoot and 1 digital JPG with an option to buy more images, such a good way to ensure all the adults are in front of the camera, documenting memories for the future. Saritta
We also took part in workshops designed to help committee members with running of individual centres, on subjects such as funding, finical reporting, branding and running great committee meetings. We left the conference with lots of ideas to bring back to the wider committee. Planning for our 2019 Palmy Parent and Child Expo has begun in earnest, we are excited to be bringing it back to the Manawatu again this year since it was so well received last year. Make sure you pop the 20th of October 2019 in your calendar as you do not want to miss it, the goody bags are going to be just as special this year as they were last year we promise. Head over to the Expo FB page facebook. com/palmyparentandchildexpo/ and give it a like to make sure you are in to win when we start up the giveaways in the lead up to the Expo date. We have had some new committee members join committee and I would like to give a warm welcome to Shinkal and Sandra, we are so very thankful to have you join the team, we hope you enjoy your time on committee.
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NEWBORN BREASTFEEDING Saturday 29 June, 10am Designed for ALL expectant and new mums who are intending to, or have recently started breastfeeding. Learn how to prepare for and get started with breastfeeding, along with strategies for an effective and sustainable breastfeeding journey. You can attend this seminar while pregnant and again in the early weeks with your newborn. Partners welcome. Presented by Cheryl Benn, Lactation Consultant, selfemployed midwife, and Regional Midwifery Advisor to MidCentral and Whanganui DHB Cost: Free to all HOT TOPIC “WHY KIDS ‘MIS’BEHAVE” Monday 1 July, 7.30pm Why kids ‘mis’behave and how to help them. Sometimes it can feel like we’re constantly screaming No! Stop! Would you just listen?! In this Hot Topic we will look at why kids behave in challenging ways and discuss some strategies to help them navigate this crazy world of ours. Cost: $10 members; $15 non-members STARTING SOLIDS Saturday 27 July, 10am Perfect for parents of 3-9 month olds. In this popular seminar with our new presenter Registered Dietitian and mum Megan Somerville, you will learn the signs that your baby is ready for complementary feeding, what to introduce when, other topics to ensure you are confident and ready for this next step. Cost: $6 members; $12 non-members
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WHAT’S ON . . . in our region FUN FOR THE FAMILY Matariki Celebration Feilding Civic Centre Friday 21 June, 10am Join us for our Matariki Celebrations 2019. This is a free community event. Waiata Kapa Haka - Community Services - Schools and Agencies. Hangi will be available for $12.50. West End School - A Wolf’s Tale Regent on Broadway, Palmerston North Tuesday 25 June, 6pm-8pm The Big Bad Wolf... such a charming yet very sneaky character who loves to spin a good tale! What a shame he is always painting himself the victim of some very elaborate schemes. To buy tickets call 0800 224 224 Room on the Broom Regent on Broadway, Palmerston North Friday 28 June, 12pm and 5pm Based on the award winning picture book. “A truly theatrical feast that leaves both adults and children fully entertained. Five stars” (The List) Polar Express Night Train Palmerston North Esplanade Scenic Railway, Palmerston North Friday 5 July, 6pm In dead of winter you can ride the trains at night around our short circuit, and see the bush magically lit by our special show lighting. Weather permitting. Under 2 years free. Tickets $3 each. Candlelight Express Feilding Steam Rail Depot, Gladstone St, Feilding Thursday 11 July and Friday 12 July, 6pm 8.30pm (last train at 8pm) Take a step back in time and ride the candle light express. while sitting in our 1940’s carriages let the sparkle of lights covering the carriages transport you into a mid winter wonderland.
REGULAR PROGRAMMES Baby Bop Join us at Central Library - Events, ground floor Thursdays during term time - 10am - 10.30am A fun filled baby time session aimed at early literacy and baby development. Music, bubbles and more! Book Bubs Baby Book Club Join us at Central Library - Events, ground floor Thursday 27th June 2019 - fortnightly during term time, starting Straight after Baby Bop fortnightly. Opportunity to borrow brand new baby books and get tips on reading to baby. Manual memberships are available at the session. Jumping Jellybeans Join us at Central Library - Events, ground floor Wednesdays during term time - 10am - 11am Don’t miss out on the most fun you can pack into one hour. Free preschool session aimed for children aged 2 - 4 year. Enjoy stories, activities, music, craft and FUN! Active Tots Te Manawa, 326 Main St, Palmerston North Mondays 10.15am - 11.45am A programme for the under-5s, focused on self-directed play and exploration. Nau mai, haere mai! Story Time at Boho Cafe Boho Cafe, 2 Pitama Road, Palmerston North 9.30am - First Wednesday of every month (even in school holidays) Join the author of the new ‘Dog and the Mog’ book as she shares other stories about the rascally pair and reads other popular stories to your little ones while you enjoy a lovely coffee. Session runs for approx. 30mins. All ages welcome.
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BOOK REVIEW
GRANNY MCFLITTER By Heather Haylock, Illustrated by Lael Chisholm Reviewed by Desiree Harvey Available from Bruce McKenzie Booksellers on George St for $19.99 This book follows on from the adventures in the award winning Granny McFlitter the Champion Knitter. This time, we are off to the A & P Show where Granny is competing for Best Vegetable Knitter. Granny has come well prepared, having knitted her heart out making every vegetable imaginable for the competition. Little does she know that her skills are to be tested on the day, when a rampaging bull gets loose and wreaks havoc all over the Show! Granny knows just what to do, but can she outwit – or outknit – the bull and save the day?! The talented illustrator, Lael Chisholm, lives in Feilding and was the youngest ever to win the Gavin Bishop Award for Illustration for The Champion Knitter. The illustrations in A Country Yarn are bright and colourful, swirling and whirling, and easily draw the attention of both young and old. This is a lovely book that city and country children alike will enjoy reading along to with delight as they follow Granny in her fantastically heroic exploits.
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WELCOME TO THE WORLD
WELCOME TO THE WORLD Welcome to all the new babies born to our wonderful Parent Centre members! If there are any corrections to the list below, please email palmyparenteditor@gmail.com
Class: November 6th 2018 | Hostess: Caroline Short | CBE: Jess White
Ethan Bodhi Adams
Arthur Brian Gilbert
born to
born to
Katrina Abraham and Scott Adams
Britta and Thomas Gilbert
13 December 2018
24 December 2018
Zac John Castleton
Arlo Steven Barnett
born to
born to
Amy and Graeme Castleton
Jodie and Daniel Wilson
1 January 2019
2 January 2019
Harry James Davis Robertson
Maxwell Shaun McFarlane
born to
born to
Chanelle & Paul Davis
Jodi and Shaun McFarlane
5 January 2019
21 January 2019
Lucy Trudy Gainford
Lisa & Ella Gainford
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Kate and Danny Gainford
24 January 2019
Edward Mikaere Duindam born to
Natalya and Michael Duindam
13 February 2019
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Class: 8th November 2018 | Hostess: Jenna Elrick | CBE: Jess White
Max Scott
Gray William Stephens
born to
born to
Christel & Alex Scott
Julia Tong and Jacko Stephens
19 December 2018
14 January 2019
Emilee Margaret McDermott born to
Evelyn Ashleigh Imogen Russell born to
Stephenie and Ross McDermott
Bridget Obrien and Samuel Russell
18 January 2019
24 January 2019
Mason Paul Ivil
Micah Murray Sigurd Lucas
born to
born to
Shea Molony and Kenyon Ivil
Robyn and Caleb Lucas
6 February 2019
7 February 2019
Emily Tamar Jones born to
Eleanor Sonya Whitehead born to
Abigail and Harrison Jones
Heather & Paul Whitehead
8 February 2019
11 February 2019
Arlo Harry MacMillan born to
Jessica and Scott MacMillian
12 February 2019
Olivia Louise Voss born to
Morghan and James Voss
14 February 2019
Mabel Rose Free born to
Simone and Kevin Free
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Class: 8th January 2019 | Hostess: Saritta Burney | CBE: Anna Morris
Darragh Airangi Matthews
Julia Georga Carston
born to
born to
John-Darragh Matthews & Sandra
Rachel Ireland and Nick Carston
23 February 2019
24 February 2019
Nate (Nathan) Arthur Palamountain
Olivia May Bookless born to
born to
Rachael and Ben Palamountain
Marc and Stephanie Bookless
2 March 2019
8 March 2019
Oliver Paul McGoverne
Archibald Thomas George
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born to
Michael McGoverne and Ashley Graham
Tom and Ellie George
14 March 2019
19 March 2019
Peter Joe Daryl Curran
Elodie Jessica Dykstra
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born to
Kaleb Curran and Briony File
Chris and Holly Dykstra
19 March 2019
19 March 2019
Maggie Grace Wismans
Austin William Eades
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born to
Clare Corboy and Robert Wismans
Sarah Hewitt and Casey Eades
28 March 2019
28 March 2019
Hudson Samuel Cobham born to
Willy and Nichole Cobham
31 March 2019
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DAD’S LIFE ISSUE 289 . June | July 2019
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FEATURE
WINTER WONDERS By Erin Evis While many of us see winter as the season of cold, wet and wind - and we all know that’s very much true here in the Manawatu (there’s not a wind farm here for no reason!) - and dread months of being cooped up inside with cranky, restless children, desperately trying to think of ways to entertain them, there’s no need to hibernate. As the saying goes, ‘there’s no such thing as bad weather, only bad clothing’. So seize your moment and take those kids outside; it’s not just great for their development and exploration of their world, it’s also a great way to keep away the winter blues for those affected by the lack of light and sun. Here are some wintry ideas to try with your family.
1. GO BUSH TOGETHER We are so lucky to live in this region, with a plethora of fantastic, child-friendly walks through beautiful native bush right on our doorstep. While some of the tracks through the ranges are steep and may be difficult with younger children (unless you’re happy to baby wear), there are so many great ones in and around the Pohangina Valley, Feilding, Palmy and surrounding areas, and on a wet day, being under the cover of the trees can be quite pleasant and offer some protection from the worst of the weather. On a dry day, your options are even less limited! Favourite walks for us lately include the Tawa Track in Te Apiti/Manawatu Gorge (picnic tables at the top included, though this is very steep), Kowhai Park to Kitchener Park along the Makino Stream in Feilding, Almadale Reserve, the Manawatu River Walkway and Esplanade, and the Kahikatea Walk.
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Always take care to check the weather forecast before setting off, let people know where you are, pack food and water, wear appropriate clothes and shoes, and consider safety around things like slippery tracks and rising streams if it’s a particularly stormy day.
2. SPLASH AROUND YOUR NEIGHBOURHOOD It’s wet? Raining? Pop that raincoat on, fetch your gumboots and get out there!! Nothing beats splashing in puddles when you’re a toddler, so go exploring with them and jump on in, too. See how many worms you can rescue from the footpaths, have a snail hunt, hold a ‘biggest puddle finding or splashing’ competition, find out which leaves or branches make the best umbrellas. Even a stomp around the garden can be great fun for children.
and have fun? There’s nothing more lovely to watch than a toddler dip a tentative toe in a big puddle of mud, slowly adding in another foot, discovering the feeling of mud on skin and clothes, splashing and jumping and - yes falling down. We always keep spare clothes for each child, a towel and a bin liner in the boot of our car just in case of spontaneous messy play on our adventures - but if all else fails, there’s nothing wrong with a trip home in just a nappy with a blanket, if it means a happy toddler.
3. MUD BATHS After a few days of rain on our wet Manawatu clay, we inevitably end up with an abundance of very muddy puddles, and most children will naturally gravitate towards them. While our instinct as parents may be to steer them away from it, why not let them embrace that instinct
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HOW DO YOU DITCH THE PRESSURE TO ‘BOUNCE BACK’ AFTER BABY? By Pinky McKay “Tell me there is no one way to ‘do’ newborns. Tell me you just have to figure out what they need. Tell me they aren’t scary.” Emily has just had her third baby two weeks ago and she is overwhelmed. Her baby is overwrought with Emily’s oversupply of breast milk so the adage, ‘if in doubt, flop them out (your boobs, that is),’ that worked perfectly with her first two baby boys isn’t working with this baby. Her baby hates being wrapped and she doesn’t like to be ‘worn’ – tactics that worked with her other babies too. So as Emily walks the floor trying to soothe her newborn – with a toddler clinging to her leg and yelling, “Mama!” – is it any wonder self -doubt is setting in. To top it all off, visiting grandmas have told Emily, ‘in my day... We didn’t have a washing machine or dishwasher; my husband went back to work two days after the baby was born; I had five babies and I HAD to manage all by myself. ‘
Then there is a friend with a (settled) baby the same age as Emily’s baby who has managed to go camping already with her husband and kids and her two week old baby. The kindy teacher has emailed, ‘we would love you to bring your baby in to meet the class (of germy four year olds).’ So now Emily is feeling like sh*t because not only is she drowning in the craziness of an unsettled newborn, an emotional toddler and a preschooler (and the mountain of washing from her vomiting baby, endless hours breastfeeding and kids crawling on her for extra cuddles), she’s hearing loudly and clearly that she ‘should’ be coping (whatever that means) by now. Emily also feels she must justify her husband taking his annual leave to support his family and bond with their newborn too. I remind Emily … ‘in my day’, the grandmothers would most likely have spent at least a week or possibly even a couple of weeks in hospital resting with strictly supervised visiting hours, babies in a central nursery at night time, while
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mama slept and a trolley delivering meals and hot cups of tea. They may have lived closer to extended family and had help with children. They certainly wouldn’t have been influenced by media images of women juggling leaky boobs and laptop just hours after birthing. They wouldn’t have had a phone dinging with text messages and calls or emails to answer around the clock and they wouldn’t have felt pressured to take photos to share on social media, complete with joyous and clever captions or to respond to hundreds of well wishing ‘friends’ whom they had never actually met (message to new mums, switch off your phone!). Of course, in grandmother’s day, women had stresses and pressures unique to the time and their own family situations. They too may have felt, like Emily, that they should have been ‘coping.’ They may have long since tucked away their own desperate feelings of vulnerability into the back of their minds or they may be carrying a deep sense of pride that they did make it through those early days with a newborn and very little support. What is with this expectation of ‘bouncing back’ after having a baby? Why do we expect our bodies to ‘bounce back’ after spending nine months growing a baby then birthing and making milk to nourish our babies? Where does this pressure come from that says we need to ‘bounce back’ to our pre baby productivity as soon as the placenta is expelled? And why do we try and dismiss our feelings of vulnerability as weakness when our mind and spirits are stretched beyond anything we could have possibly imagined and our brain chemistry is awash with hormones that direct every anxious thought to the wellbeing and heightened awareness of our baby? Women will recover physically and emotionally at different rates but please dear new mama, don’t let comparison steal your moments of joy as you gaze into your newborn’s eyes or nuzzle her soft downy head and breathe in that sweet newborn scent. This is your journey, don’t let it be spoilt by judgment, whether this seems to come from others or whether you are your own harshest critic. Please don’t be fooled by the perfect photos of the women in the media who look as though they are ‘bouncing back’ – into their clothes (without vomit stains), into the gym and into their social lives. Those artistic flat lays of perfectly dressed baby surrounded by designer clothing and the stunning photos of an impeccably groomed new mama and her family
(with other kids all matching and even wearing shoes!) took a major effort for that mama too. And although she may not be fessing up, because she also feels the pressure to bounce back, that mama is exhausted (and probably reduced to tears) after all her efforts for one picture perfect moment! Try to remember, dear mama, there are days when even the most ‘together’ looking mama is ugly crying because she is feeling more tired or sore or fragile than she ever has before. Or because her baby is screaming and her toddler is clutching her leg and she too is wondering, will this ever get easier? Will I ever drink a hot drink again? Will I ever get sleep? Will I ever bounce back? But of course, you won’t see these images on social media. Whether this is your first baby or a subsequent child, there is no ‘ bouncing back’ There is no ‘back’. There is only ‘through’ – through these days of healing; through these days of adjusting to being a mother to one or two or three or more; through the long nights of broken sleep that seem to slip into daylight long before you feel rested; through the days and weeks of getting to know what your brand new baby needs and how she tries to communicate this through her subtle grimaces and her cries. And if this isn’t your first baby, through the adjustment and knitting together of the old and new fabric of your changing family that adding a child means for each of your other children and their unique relationships with you and each other. Please be patient and try to be as kind to yourself and your beloved as you are to this new little being. Remember, your baby’s cries are not a reflection of your competence as a mother or a sign your baby hates you. Even when it gets scary because nothing you do seems to be working, trust yourself, you do know your baby best and if you feel confused, it’s OK to reach out and ask for help. It’s OK to take time out, away from the outside world and to say ‘no’ to visitors if this feels right for you. It’s OK to ask visitors to wash their hands before they touch your baby (yes, it’s normal to be worried about germs). Try to ditch the pressure to ‘bounce back’ and block out the noise as you honour the awesome job you have done bringing forth new life and the changes this means to your body, your mind and your spirit. You have got this. You will get through. Take it gently, mama. h t t p : / / w w w. p i n k y m c k a y. c o m / h o w - d o - y o u ditch-the-pressure-to-bounce-back-after-baby/
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PRODUCT REVIEW
SNUGGLY WINTER MERINO By Erin Evis It’s that time of year where layers are necessary, and woolies are essential. And what better fabric to wrap your precious wee ones in than soft, gentle, breathable New Zealand merino? Perfect for layering and ideal for both summer and winter months, it’s natural, sustainable and gentle - ideal for babies. From singlets to tops, hoodies to leggings, and all the standard winter accessories (hats, scarfs, gloves…) you can find it all in this lovely fabric, but quality certainly varies. Read on for a few well-known brand reviews.
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Teeny Weeny (Farmers) (dresses, onesies, leggings, tops, bodysuits) Every year Farmers bring out a range of merino baby clothes, with bright prints and cute colours, and every year I go and buy some, and then cross my fingers tightly. I want to love them. They’re not as fine or soft as higher quality brands, but the price is reasonable, and they are warm. But then they always seem to get holes, or tear, or run, no matter how gently you wash them and how they’re treated. The fabric isn’t as tightly knitted as others and I suspect that’s part of why they can be prone to issues. Some of our pieces have lasted several years and two children, particularly undergarments such as pyjamas or singlets, which makes it worth it and is why I continue to purchase it. But you do need to be aware that it should be treated very gently and isn’t as bulletproof as more expensive brands. Nevertheless, it’s cute, it’s warm and it can last well…
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BIRTH STORY
THE BIRTH OF BABY JACK By Lydia Arber This baby was special; we had been trying for three years unsuccessfully due to PCOS. We went on the public waiting list for fertility associates and got approved for IUI and conceived on our first try in September 2017. After a long pregnancy, finally my due date rolled around, and I felt... nothing. No tingles, no superior knowing, nothing. I had an appointment with my midwife that day and opted for a stretch and sweep as they didn’t want me to go too far over my due date. After having this done and being monitored for half an hour for baby’s heartbeat and movement, I lost some blood as I stood up. My midwife checked me over and everything was fine, but she advised me if I was still bleeding by 5pm that she would meet me at the hospital to do more monitoring. As 5 o’clock rolled around, my husband and I made our way up to the hospital. I was still not feeling any signs of labour, but after being monitored for an hour and everything looking fine they suggested I spend the night at hospital. I sent my husband home to get a good night’s sleep as I was sure
nothing was happening but I would need him ready to go in the next few days; there was no point in us both being tired. At 7:30pm I felt a gush of fluid and the hospital midwife said my water had broken, but I still could feel no signs of labour, so she suggested I should try to get some sleep as I would probably be having a baby that night. Heed this warning ladies: try to sleep, because you will need it! I did not; instead I bounced on my yoga ball, read a book, and updated everyone, as they all need to know your baby business! Then the contractions started. I was trying to do what my labour book had suggested and imagine them as waves reaching a peak and washing away, but it wasn’t very helpful for me in the moment. By about midnight they were getting very strong and frequent so I pushed my call button and the midwife came to check me. I asked “when should I call my husband?”, as I still didn’t believe this was actually happening, and she said “now love, you’re going to have your baby soon”. I called my husband and best friend and they both arrived within minutes of each other. The midwife suggested I have a shower as the pain was getting to me. I had the shower temperature up to high, which caused me to
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vomit, which my best friend caught in a towel – you cannot ask for a better friend! As soon as my midwife arrived, I said I had changed my mind and wanted an epidural. This was the best choice for me, as the birth was such an enjoyable experience. This was done surprisingly quickly and as the epidural was going in, I thought, ‘oh no, I’ve peed myself’. Turns out it was just the rest of my water breaking. My midwife then checked me and I was 9cm dilated and I felt the urge to push. She was instructing me not to push, but that was very hard with all the pressure I was feeling and as every contraction came around, I would cry out “I’m pushing!” I was checked again quickly and was at 10cm and ready. After a few strong contractions and a couple of rounds of pushing the head was out. The midwives unwrapped the cord from his neck, and my perfect baby boy was placed on my chest at 4.10 am. Next came the placenta, and then they did their thing and tidied me up. I had expressed from 35 weeks so I had a good store of colostrum which my husband syringed to him. He drank around 6mls, which is apparently quite a lot for a first feed. We were moved into a room in the maternity ward. I didn’t feel too bad after the birth. I was swollen and I kept having clots come out, which I thought was all a normal part of the after birth and was not concerned, even though my husband kept asking if it was normal. After a big day of visitors and getting to know my new baby, I had a large clot come out that evening which my husband insisted I show the nurse, and ended up having surgery to
repair some things they had missed. The next few days were hard due to the post-surgical recovery, and I was unable to get up. I couldn’t get my baby out of his cot when he cried, or change him, so I was very reliant on the nurses and family and friends, who were all absolutely amazing. Going home was one of the greatest feelings, as you could finally do what felt right for you, and get back to your new normal.
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HOW TO TRAIN YOUR BABY’S TASTE BUDS SO THEY BECOME ADVENTUROUS EATERS Do you remember the first time you liked a tomato?
easier when they go through the ‘fear of new food’ phase in their toddler years.
I do. I was 19. The tomato was served sliced on marmite toast with a sprinkle of salt. I had grown up and now was at an age where my taste buds were more mature, finding the taste of tomato... delicious, for the first time in my life.
If your baby spits your nutritious spiced pumpkin puree out, then try again tomorrow, then the next day. Their taste buds will gradually grow the more times they try that food. It can take 10-15 times of ‘trying’ that spiced pumpkin puree before they polish the bowl off. The trick is to keep giving them that food. It may seem disheartening making a food and your baby not eating all of it… but keep heart, their taste buds are growing with each bite.
I grew up thinking that taste buds were something that matured with age. When I became a mother, I thought that I was trying to figure out what my baby liked. If she spat something out, it was a sure sign she didn’t like it. At some point her taste buds would mature. I just had to wait for that day… even if that day came 19 years later. But, alas, I have learnt how taste buds evolve. I wish I knew this when I had my first child, it would have meant half the dinner battles.
Using the Flavour Window to your Advantage To maximise this flavour window to help train your baby’s taste buds make sure you make your baby’s meals are:
Do you want to know how to train your baby’s taste buds… So they grow into Adventurous Little Eaters?
How to Train Taste How do you train arm muscles? Take a 50kg barbell and if you cannot lift it, accept you have weak arm muscles… that your muscles will be weak forever? Not likely. If you cannot lift that 50kg, you’ll start with a smaller weight, slowly increasing the weight regularly until the 50kg goes up as easy as your nightly wine goes down. You will train your muscles to grow stronger.
Vegetable based Packed full of flavour
Examples of Training Taste Meals 3 Puree Foods
Taste buds are the same. Babies have a taste preference for foods that you ate when you were pregnant and breastfeeding, but, their taste-buds are not set in stone. If your baby is in the magical age of 6-18months, then you are in what is called a flavour window. Your baby is more likely to try new foods without any fuss. And the more flavours you offer your baby, the stronger their taste buds will get. They will like eating more ‘healthy foods’ making life
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Spiced pumpkin
Roast cubed pumpkin (skin removed) with pumpkin spice mix. Cool and blend with coconut cream until smooth.
Mint, zucchini and pea
Steam zucchini and peas until soft. Cool and puree with mint leaves and liquid such as breastmilk, water or chicken stock.
Avocado and coriander leaf
Mash avocado. Finley chop coriander leaf and mix into avocado. Add as splash of lemon to keep from going brown.
3 Finger Foods Paprika Roasted Kumara
Coat cubed kumara with melted coconut oil and paprika. Roast until soft. Cool and serve.
‘Wal Herring is a Nutritionist mother of 4. She is author of Healthy Little Eaters: How to help your children develop a Healthy Relationship with food. Head over to:
adventurouslittleeaters.co.nz
and check out the blog on raising healthy children who willingly eat foods from lentils to broccoli. All recipes mentioned here are found in full at:
adventurouslittleeaters.co.nz/recipes
Garlic Sautéed Cauliflower
Cut cauliflower into bitesize pieces. Melt butter and add cauliflower and garlic to pan. Sauté on medium heat until cauliflower is slightly soft. Cool and serve.
Roasted Herby Vegetables
Cut a selection of root vegetables and add to roasting tray. Coat in oil and sprinkle on mixed herbs until all vegetables seasoned. Roast until soft. Cool and serve.
Taste buds are to be trained, like we train muscles. If your baby seems not to like what you serve, it could take 10-15 times of trying that food before they accept it. Receptiveness is the key. By making their meals vegetable based and packed full of flavor in your baby’s first year of eating you will be providing the foundations to raising an adventurous eater. For the recipes above and more then go to
adventurouslittleeaters.co.nz/recipes They will be eating a variety of foods, from lentil to roast vegetable root salad in no time.
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By Pinky McKay
You need to space feeds to give your breasts time to ‘fill up’
This is one of the biggest lies about breastfeeding: breastfeeding works on a theory of supply and demand –the more milk that is removed from your breasts, the more milk your body will produce. By spacing feeds, rather than feeding according to your baby’s hunger cues, your body will receive the signal to slow milk production. This can result in a reduced milk supply.
Babies will vary in the amount of milk they drink at each feed and women’s milk storage capacities also vary (this isn’t necessarily related to the size of your breasts) , so some babies will go longer between feeds than others. Babies also have ‘frequency days’ when they will feed more often, perhaps due to a growth spurt, a developmental leap or if they have been exposed to a bug and need a big dose of immune factors to fight off an impending illness. So the best advice to maintain a healthy milk supply is ‘watch your baby, not the clock.’
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It seems crazy that breastfeeding is the biologically normal way to feed a baby and women have been feeding their babies at the breast since time began, and yet there is still a plethora of misinformation that can mess up a mother’s experience and feeding her baby can become a huge struggle. How many of these big fat lies have you heard – and what is the actual truth?
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FIVE BIG FAT LIES ABOUT BREASTFEEDING - WHAT IS THE TRUTH?
There is no goodness in your milk after 3 months, 6 months …whatever
There is no ‘use by’ date on the immune factors or nutrition in breast milk. Breastfeeding continues to be an important source of nutrition and health protection, however long your baby breastfeeds. In fact, immune factors in breast milk increase during the second year of your baby’s life just as your baby is becoming more mobile and mixing socially with more people. In one study (Perrin, 2016) breast milk from mothers feeding babies into the second year contained significantly higher concentrations of total protein, lactoferrin, lysozyme, and Immunoglobulin A than milk bank samples. Another study showed that milk from mothers nursing babies over a year old had significantly higher fat and energy contents compared with mothers who breastfed for a shorter time. According to a well known study (Dewey 2001) “Breast milk continues to provide substantial amounts of key nutrients well beyond the first year of life, especially protein, fat, and most vitamins.”
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• 29% of energy requirements • 43% of protein requirements • 36% of calcium requirements • 75% of vitamin A requirements • 76% of folate requirements • 94% of vitamin B12 requirements • 60% of vitamin C requirements (Dewey 2001)
Breastfeed babies are ‘bad’ sleepers
Breast milk is digested more easily than manufactured baby formula so breastfed babies will generally feed more often but they can also sleep more soundly. Hormones in breast milk calm babies and aid sleep: your breast milk contains a range of hormones, including oxytocin, prolactin and cholecystokinin (CCK) as well as a type of endocannabinoid, a natural neurotransmitter. Research suggests that your night time milk may even be more effective at helping your baby sleep: melatonin, a sleep inducing hormone is barely detectable in day time breast milk but peaks during the night. Recent studies by Spanish scientists show that components in mother’s milk can vary significantly over a 24 hour period and concentrations of sleep inducing nucleotides (proteins known to have a role in exciting and relaxing the nervous system), were stronger after dark than during the day. Dr Cristina Sanchez, the lead researcher of this study, advises that breast milk should be fed fresh or if you are expressing, it’s best to note the time you express and feed it to your baby at the same time of day
be able to get more milk than a pump. If you are not able to pump much milk, please don’t let this create doubts about your milk supply. Some women respond better to pumps than others. A better way to affirm your milk supply is to watch your baby’s output – heavy wet nappies and bowel motions along with good weight gains are a much more reliable indicator that you are making plenty of milk and your baby is feeding effectively.
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In the second year (12-23 months), 448 mL of breastmilk provides:
You need to drink milk to make milk
Have you ever seen a dairy cow drink milk? No, you don’t need to drink or eat any specific foods to make milk. Some foods are lactogenic and can support a healthy milk supply because they influence prolactin (your milk making hormone), so production and some nutrients, such as omega 3 fats, will increase in your breast-milk when your own diet is plentiful, but milk isn’t necessary to make milk. In fact, if you drink a lot of milk you could be displacing other nutritious foods that would be beneficial to your health. Also, some babies are sensitive to dairy protein passing through your breast milk, especially if you have a family history of allergies, asthma or eczema (your baby is never allergic to your breast milk). The best advice regarding your diet while breastfeeding is to eat a variety of healthy, natural foods. This will maintain your own health as you breastfeed and the more you feed your baby, the more milk your body will be signalled to make (see number 1, above).
And, just in case you have been advised that a bed time bottle of formula will make your baby sleep longer, there is evidence that this could be another ‘lie’ . A 2015 study of babies aged 6 to 12months in the Academy of Breastfeeding Medicine Journal found that night wakings or night feeds didn’t differ between mothers who breastfed or formula fed. Another study showed that parents of infants who were breastfed in the evening and/or at night slept an average of 40-45 minutes more than parents of infants given formula.
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By replacing an evening breast feed with formula, you could reduce your milk supply (see number 1 big fat lie above about supply and demand). Or, if your breasts aren’t emptied and they become engorged, you might find yourself with painful blocked ducts leading to mastitis.
The amount of milk you can pump is an indicator of your milk supply
The amount of milk you can pump shows how much milk you can pump, not necessarily how much milk you are making, unless you are an exclusively pumping mama (hats off to you if this is the case). However much milk you can express, even with the best hospital grade pump, a baby who is well attached and sucking effectively will almost always ISSUE 289 . June | July 2019
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DAD’S LIFE
TOP TIPS TO HELP DADS-TO-BE HIT THE GROUND RUNNING Courtesy of Onewa Parents Centre No matter what happened during pregnancy— whether or not you played Mozart to your unborn child—the rubber hits the road when the baby is born. Jump in now: the more you do with your baby, the quicker you’ll bond. Learn from the best. Ask the hospital staff or midwife to show you how to change, swaddle and bathe your baby. You’ll all benefit: you can become a pro at something baby-related early on, and you and your partner can start sharing responsibilities. Trust your instincts. You’ll become an expert on your own baby. The most nervous dads are afraid to hold a baby, but a few such encounters go a long way. Change the nappies, comfort the baby, trust your instincts and in no time at all you’ll feel like a natural pro.
Be patient and positive. Dads always say that the most important thing in the early weeks is being patient and taking care of mum. Even if you’ve had a hard day at work, it probably sounds like a vacation to her. So do be patient and supportive. Standard advice: call your partner in the afternoon, when she may be feeling as if the day will never end, and let her know she’s doing a great job and you’ll be home soon (but if you say you’ll be home at a specific time make sure you are). Stand your ground. Don’t let anyone push you away from your baby. It’s easy for new fathers to feel excluded from taking care of a baby, or that he can’t do anything right. Dads may well do things differently from mums, and that’s OK. A little bit of time alone with your baby makes you feel like a father, and it’s the only way you’ll reach the milestone
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of learning how to comfort your crying baby yourself. You will get frustrated. When you don’t know why a baby is crying it’s easy to get frustrated. When you’ve checked out every possible reason for discomfort, know that babies
sometimes just need to let off steam, but also know your limits. Remember, this too will pass. This baby will be grown up before you know it. When times are trying, keep this in mind.
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FAMILY FRIENDLY OUTING
TIMONA PARK AND OROUA RIVER WALK, FEILDING By Erin Evis Feilding has a number of fantastic childfriendly attractions, and Timona Park is definitely one of them. Expansive sports fields surround an excellent children’s playground, featuring a multi-tiered series of tunnel slides
built down a hill - perfect for bigger kids - and plenty of swings, roundabouts and see-saws for the younger ones. Our children absolutely love visiting, although they do find the slides a little intimidating, so perhaps leave those
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for the older ones or be prepared to slide too!! Timona Park is situated alongside the beautiful Oroua River, and in Summer, when the water is safe and clear and warm, you are able to swim in the shallow, stony waters. There is ample room for picnicking under the trees, making it a great place for a day out. It’s also a lovely starting point for a walk along the river through Feilding, with the pathways mostly sealed, and easily navigable with a buggy. The walkway is flat, though some parts follow the road through
the wider Timona Park sports fields, so you need to watch out for cars. Some areas are quite stony, but a large section behind the industrial estate has been recently revamped with soft, smooth sand. You can go as far as you like, eventually ending up at the rail bridge and then the eastern part of Waughs Rd/SH54. The river is very peaceful and soothing to meander along, with plenty of trees and plants for children to explore and perfect places for a summer or winter picnic, away from the bustling crowds - you feel like you’re somewhere in the countryside, yet only a few minutes’ walk from town and a main highway. Our kids loved looking at the different plants (helps that Mum is an herbalist!), wildlife, playing hide and seek along the path, and trying to figure out what the various factories were that we could see. When we finally made it to the railway bridge, our eldest was awestruck looking up through the sleepers, hoping desperately that a train would go overhead! Our youngest, on the other hand, wasn’t quite so impressed, having nodded off in the carrier for a very unusual day nap, lulled by the peaceful surroundings. This is a really lovely walk and a fantastic park for families to spend a day exploring.
Simone Renwick
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CRAFT
CRAFT: WINTER WEAVING Materials: • Cardboard • Scissors or stanley knife • Rubber bands • Assorted fallen leaves or dried flowers • Skewers • Tape
Method: 1. Cut a square or rectangular frame from the cardboard 1. Tape skewers (snapped to size) along the top and bottom back edges of frame to strengthen it, otherwise the bands may fold the cardboard in half! 1. Stretch rubber bands around the frame horizontally to create a frame to weave through 1. Weave leaves through the rubber bands to create a beautiful natural work of art
Optional: Prior to adding rubber bands, paint the cardboard to make it a little prettier
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Hire a Tens Machine Hire a Transcutaneous Electrical Nerve Stimulation (TENS) machine to help reduce your pain during labour and childbirth. Palmerston North Parents Centre (PNPC) has five TENS machines available for hire by our members for ONLY $20 for up to four weeks’ hireage (plus a $40.00 refundable bond). Machines can be booked for the two weeks prior to your due date until two weeks post due date. Watch a video interview with a TENS machine expert at youtube.com/ watch?v=4gUEtYAqPw8 Book your TENS Machine from: Junior Kids Store, 23 Broadway Ave, Ph 06 354 5516, info@juniorkidsstore.co.nz, Mon - Fri 9am - 5pm › Sat 9.30am - 4pm. Please pay by cash and bring your PNPC Membership card. Full terms and conditions on our Facebook page: facebook.com/PNorthPC
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COMMUNITY SUPPORT GROUPS Across Te Kotahitanga O Te Wairua We can provide a range of social services which include: Counselling, Family support (including respite care for children), Parenting advice/information and programmes, Advice on other services available for parents and families. Contact: Graeme on (06) 356 7486 or visit www.across.org.nz Allergy New Zealand Support groups are a great way to meet others in a similar situation to you. They are very relaxed, informal sessions to share ideas, discuss your concerns, and get information and resources. Our regional support group is there to help put you in contact with others, to provide you with information such as those all important recipes, and to listen when you need someone to talk to. They are not medically qualified but can refer your queries on and seek information on your behalf. For further information phone 0800 34 0800 or visit www.allergy.org.nz Babywearers Manawatu This is a great way to try different carriers while finding a carrier that suits you and your baby. Babywearers Manawatu Sling Library is on most Wednesdays 12 pm - 1 pm (check FB for up to date info) at Palmerston North Parents Centre, 30 Waldegrave Street, Palmerston North. Membership is one off payment of $10 and carrier hire costs $5 for one week.https://www.facebook.com/groups/ babywearersmanawatu/ Brain Injury Association Central Districts We provide advocacy information and support for people with brain injury, their families, whanau and carers. For more information call (06) 354 3540. Breastfeeding Help An IBCLC (often called lactation consultant) is a breastfeeding specialist qualified to prevent, recognise, and resolve breastfeeding problems. All members of NZCLA hold the professional qualification of International Board Certified Lactation Consultant (IBCLC). Any mother, family member or health professional interested in obtaining the contact details of an IBCLC can phone 0800 4 LACTATION (0800 452 282) during daytime hours. HOPE An opportunity for parents of premature babies to meet and chat and to offer hope and support to those who currently have babies in the Neo-Natal Unit. Graduates welcome. Held at: Plunket Family Centre, 42 Albert Street, Palmerston North. Monday 1pm – 2.30pm. Contact: Karlyn Sullivan-Jones (06) 353 0663 or karlynandmark@xnet.co.nz Itchy Kids A national support group for parents and whanau who care for children with eczema and allergies. For more information contact Sarah Hartley 027 333 7385 or email hartleyfamilynz@gmail.com or visit itchykids.org.nz La Leche League coffee group 3rd Tuesday of every month at 10am, all welcome. Contact Jo Walsh 0273818546 for location Manawatu Toy Library Now located at 200 Church Street, Palmerston North, this fabulous toy library has a collection of over 2000 toys. Our members include families, carers, and educational groups. We have toys suitable for babies 5+ months through to school age children. Membership costs $95 per annum or $60 for six months. You are welcome to visit to see what we offer. To find out more, including opening hours: manawatutoylibrary.nz, or call 027 364 6911. Manawatu Down Syndrome Association Regional contact is Andrea Wales (06) 356 1767.
Manawatu Home Birth Association Offering information, advice and support to women and their families seeking to birth their babies at home. Birth pools and other equipment available for hire. Library, sibling kits, and bimonthly newsletters also available. Call (06) 356 BABY (06 356 2229) for more information. Manline Manline services are unique in that we are the only “men helping men” organisation in the Manawatu and Tararua region offering services for men to explore issues within their lives. Our programs are designed to be educational, developmental, rehabilitative, and preventative. http://www.manline.co.nz/home or 06 358 1211 Miscarriage Support Miscarriage can be a very lonely experience and is often not talked about. Miscarriage support groups have produced quality information and pamphlets for women/couples who may need information and support. These invaluable resources can be downloaded from miscarriage.org.nz Methodist Social Services Offering free programmes for primary/intermediate aged children and their parents/caregivers, around the areas of anger management, grief loss and change, and confidence building. We also offer family, couple, and individual counselling, and have both male and female counsellors available. Advocacy and social work support services are provided along with an emergency food service. For all enquiries, please call 06 350 0307, 663 Main Street, Palmerston North. Palmerston North Breastfeeding support group We provide a relaxed place to come and ask questions about breastfeeding and parenting , we hold regular meeting on the first Monday of the month at ACROSS, 294a Church Street, Palmerston North at 10 am. We have a library with a wide range of books relating to breastfeeding and parenting. http://www. lalecheleague.org.nz/palmerston-north or https://www.facebook. com/PNbreastfeedingsupport/ Parent to Parent Supporting families of children with a special need, health impairment, or disability. For more information please phone (06) 355 0787or email manawatu@parent2parent.org.nz Parentline 24 Hour Crisis Line. Offering help and support for parents 24 hours a day. Phone 0800 4 FAMILY. Plunket Education Services For parent education classes please contact the Plunket family centre in Albert Street, Palmerston North, (06) 356 7248 for more information regarding classes in 2016. Reflux Support Contact: Sharon 354 7280 Sands A voluntary group who have lost babies before, during or after birth. They can provide first hand support, guidance, and information on miscarriage, stillbirth, or newborn death. Further information and support can be found by contacting Shaun and Gaylene Vivian (06) 356 9715 or visiting sands.org.nz Supergrans Manawatu Charitable Trust Supergrans Manawatu is all about helping people help themselves. A service to all to brush up on the basic skills needed to provide for oneself or for a family. Our motto is not a ‘do it for you today’ it is a ‘help you to do it tomorrow’ concept. This is a free service. It is concerned with encouraging better skills in those everyday tasks around the home that sustain life. We work with you in your own home. Phone (06) 354 3804 or 021 0669 442 for further information.
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PLAYGROUPS IN YOUR AREA Plunket Family Centre Playgroup
ASHHURST
Ashhurst Playcentre
AWAPUNI/WESTEND Kingston St Chapel
CENTRAL
42 Albert Street
021-808-340
Mondays & Fridays 10am to 12noon
118 Standford Street
326 9270
Mon to Thurs 9am - 12pm
Kingston St
358 0716
Tues & Thurs 9am- 11:30am
Crossroads Early Childhood Salvation Army Rudolf Steiner Seventh Day Adventist Church Playgroup with Hope
220 Church St 358 0669 cnr Church & Princess Sts 358 7455 187 Ruahine St 354 4514 257 Ferguson St 282 Cuba Street (opposite Briscoes) Contact: Heather 027 334 9981
Mon to Fri 9am to 12noon Thurs 9:30am to 11am Tues 9:30am - 12noon & Thu 2pm -3:30pm Wed 9:30 to 11:00am Tuesday 9.30-11.30am playgroup@hopevineyard.nz
FEILDING Feilding Playcentre Community Fielding Playcentre Doodlebugs SPACE Bright Sparks Preschool Programme
254A Kimbolton Rd 42 North St Knox Hall, North St 22 Bowen St Feilding Library
323 6100 323 1918 323 7240 323 7221 323 5373
Mon to Fri 9am to 1pm Mon to Fri 9am to 1pm Thurs 9am to 11:30am Contact for more details Wed 10:30am to 11:30am
12-32 Brentwood Ave
358 2255
Fri 8:30am to 12noon
339 Albert St Huia St extn
357 9411 357 0791
Wed 9:30am to 10:30am Mon, Tues, Thurs & Fri 9am - 12noon
HIGHBURY
Te Aroha Noa Community Services
HOKOWHITU
St Albans Church Park Road Playcentre
LINTON
Linton Playgroup
MILSON
Milson Playcentre
OPIKI
Opiki Playgroup
ROSLYN/KELVIN GROVE
Kelvin Grove Salvation Army Church on Vogel Plunket Roslyn Over 1’s Coffee Group
Linton Camp (Community Centre) 3519970
Mon & Wed 9am to 11:30am
1a Seaforth Ave
Mon, Wed & Fri 9am-12noon
356 9824
St Andrews Church, Main Road
Tues 10am to 12noon
99-103 Kaimanawa St 127 Vogel St 177 Vogel Street
Wed 9:30am to 11:30am Wed 9:30am to 12noon Wednesdays 9.30am to 11am
353 0917 357 7336 021-808-340
RONGOTEA
Te Kawau Playcentre Medway St 324 8246
SANSON
Sanson Playcentre
TERRACE END
St David‘s Presbyterian Church Terrace End Playcentre
Mon to Thurs 9:15am to 12:15pm, Fri 11:45am to 2:45pm
2 Philipps St
329 3503
Tues and Fri 9am to 12noon
Cnr Main & Rainforth 77 Ruamahanga Cres
358 3246 0221400610
Tues 10:00am to 11:30am Wed, Thu, Fri 9.30am to 12.30 school term
SPECIALIST GROUPS
La Leche League 355 3104 Manawatu Multiple Birth Club Kingston St Church 357 9773 Parent 2 Parent Special Needs Matipo St 355 0787 ABCD early intervention group 9 Woburn Place 0800 693 724 - Down Syndrome French for Preschoolers 1st floor, 47 the Square 021 207 0114 Spanish Class – 2 yrs and up 355 8257 Plunket Bhutanese Playgroup 25 Franklin Ave 3574844 Book Bubs baby book club PN Library
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Contact for more details Every 2nd Wed,10am 1st and 3rd Tues each month, 1-3pm Once a month on Thurs 10am to 12noon Fri 3.30pm to 4.30pm Contact for further details Mon 12.30 – 2.30pm Thursday 10.30 – 11 am fortnightly.
PREGGY TO PRESCHOOL GARAGE SALE
Date: Saturday 29th April 2017 Time: 9.00am – 11.00am Place: Central Baptist Church, 190 Church Street (Opposite the Fire Station) Come along for great bargains on new & used baby/children’s clothes, toys, books, nursery equipment, maternity wear and more!
old Coin Entry – This is a fundraising event for Parents Centre
ok a table online at www.palmyparentscentre.org.nz
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