PALMY PARENT PALMERSTON NORTH PARENTS CENTRE MAGAZINE
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NEW MUM SCREEN TIME: CLOTH SURVIVAL HOW MUCH NAPPIESCHECKLIST IS TO MUCH WE LOVE THEM
EDITOR’S NOTE Hi everyone! - thanks for joining us for another issue of the Palmy Parent Magazine. Hope you are all keeping warm and well now that Winter is upon us! Quite a few good reads in this issue great information on starting solids, car seat safety, snuggly merino sleeping bag reviews (perfect timing for this cooler weather!) Don’t forget to enter our exclusive PNPC Magazine competitions - did you know in every issue we give away a free haircut, a coffee voucher, and also a children’s book?! That’s 3 different opportunities to win in every issue - flick through and find the details and enter via email to be in to win! We ’ v e a l s o b e e n b u s y p l a n n i n g o u t the next few issues - is there anything in particular you would like to read or know more about? Let us know and we will do our best to include this in our future issues.
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CONTENTS FEATURES New Mum Survival Checklist
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Screen Time: How Much is to Much
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Keeping your Winter Baby Warm
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Cloth Nappies - Why We Love Them
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Starting Solids
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IN EVERY ISSUE Editor’s note
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PNPC Seminars & Events
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Book Review
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What’s On
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Birth Story: Maisie Kate Waller
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Advertorial: From Capsule to Carseat
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Product Review: Snuggly Winter Merino
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Parenting: Responsive Parenting Tips
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Craft: Autumn Leaf Hair craft
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Family Friendly Outing: Mt Lees Reserve
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Community support groups
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Member discounts
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Playgroups in your area
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The Hair Company styling treatment
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Kind Hearts, Streetwise Coffee
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CONTRIBUTORS Rowena Dorn, Tara Parkes, Desiree Harvey, Bawani MK, Sarah Taylor, Brainwave, Ella Diprose, Lise Bakker, Jessie Osland, Kelly Sutton, Georgia B r ad l e y , Tabi t ha Jons on, Je s s i ca U l r i c h , Laura Wenden Green Front cover by: Sarah Taylor
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COMMITTEE NEWS Te n a k o u t o u k a t o a We are almost half way through the year; welcoming the falling leaves, muddy puddles and frosty mornings. Some mornings are a little harder than others and I will find myself stealing away moments to breathe, send a quick message to a friend to vent, and then carry on with the day. I am reminded how grateful my whānau and I are for our little village that we have fostered; sharing knowledge, kai, school pick ups, and loving arms for when we need it most. I suppose this is a wee reminder, to take time out for yourself (we all know how hard that can be!) or reach out when you need it. It is Parents Centre Week and National Volunteer Week 19-25 June, we look forward to celebrating with all the volunteers that have dedicated their time and love toward supporting parents, whānau and their journey with their tamariki. While we do have some exciting updates coming up for our Music and Movement classes - I would like to use this space to thank Teresa Watson for her loving role as Music and Movement facilitator. She has dedicated so much time and love over the years, seeing families grow through the classes. I had the opportunity to see how loved she was in her role when meeting with her recently; being recognized by a family who simply adore her. Thank you Teresa, you will be very missed. We are looking for potential new Committee Members who are interested in volunteering in some fabulous roles, supported by our awesome Committee. These roles include: • • • • •
Postnatal Seminar coordinator Business relations officer Fundraising and Events coordinator E-Comms coordinator Magazine sub-committee members
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BOOK REVIEW
ME AND MY QUIRKS Words by Hannah Hamilton Illustrations Lisa Knowles Available at Bruce McKenzie booksellers on George St for $19.99 ‘Me and my Quirks’ is a young children’s picture book about autism. The words describe how a younger person with autism can feel and act in some situations, in a way that young children can understand and empathise with - ‘I really try to be like you, but I don’t always know what I need to do’. The pictures illustrate some of these ‘quirks’ to show that someone with autism has a mind that just works a little differently. ‘I have my quirks I know it’s true but that’s the only difference between me and you’ This book is a wonderful example of a children’s book that encourages thoughtful engagement with children, and will hopefully promote a greater acceptance of the diversity in our communities. I wholeheartedly recommend this to all families.
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The children’s book reviewed above has been generously donated by Bruce McKenzie Booksellers on George Street, Palmerston North to give away to a lucky Parents Centre Member. Bruce McKenzie’s Booksellers is situated in George Street beside the entrance to the Palmerston North Library. Bruce McKenzie’s carries an enormous range of books from children’s to specialist non-fiction and is definitely worth a visit. If you have any questions don’t hesitate to ask the staff who are always willing to help.
WHAT’S ON... Alpacas at the Museum Saturday 11th June, 10am-3pm Saturday 18th June, 10am-3pm Te Manawa, 326 Main St, Palmerston North Central, Palmerston North https://www.temanawa.co.nz/event/alpacas-atthe-museum/2022-06-11/ The alpacas are coming to Te Manawa! For two Saturdays in a row, 11 & 18 June, we will welcome a pair of animals from Nevalea Alpacas right into the museum for you to meet. Come on in for a cuddle! Free entry.
Matariki Star Search Saturday 25th June, 4:30 – 6:30 pm Te Manawa, 326 Main St, Palmerston North Central, Palmerston North https://www.temanawa.co.nz/event/matarikistar-search/ Join us on the 25th June for a Matariki Star Search in the museum, designed specially for children 5 years and under. They’ll discover the nine iconic stars of Matariki through songs, stories, and a star hunt in the museum. Choose from a 4.30pm or 5.30pm start; each session is 45 minutes long. Entry by donation. Booking is essential as places are limited – call 0800-4-A-MUSEUM or email frontdesk@ temanawa.co.nz.
Matariki Glow Show Wed 13th July 2022, 11:00am - Family Show The Regent Theatre on Broadway https://www.glowshow.co.nz/ The MATARIKI GLOW SHOW is back with an all-new, giant-scale puppet show for tamariki, educators and whānau. The Glow Show’s magical glow-in-the-dark characters are getting ready to celebrate with you at 40 theatres around Aotearoa, alongside the first-ever nationwide Matariki holiday! Bigger, better, bolder, with more music and more characters, this is an upbeat show that ‘edu-tains’ and engages the audience over 50 minutes with patai (Q and A) afterwards. Shorter shows of 30 minutes are designed for 0-5yo.
MATARIKI GLOW SHOW 2022 relates to our whakataukī at Matariki, with a strong theme of togetherness! Little Green Man Productions is thrilled to present MATARIKI GLOW SHOW in a theatre near you. Adults are the same price as children, service fees apply. Children under 18 months on a parent’s/caregiver’s lap are free of charge with a paying adult.
Sensory Sessions at Cloud 9 Cloud 9 Trampoline Park, 37 Taonui St, Palmerston North General Admission (caregiver jumps free): $12.00 each Sun 26 Jun 2022, 9:00am–10:00am Tue 28 Jun 2022, 1:00pm–2:00pm Tue 26 Jul 2022, 1:00pm–2:00pm Sun 31 Jul 2022, 9:00am–10:00am Trampolining fun for those with special needs! If your child would benefit from a session with less stimulation join us for these sessions at Palmerston North’s largest indoor activity park. Features include limited numbers, low lighting, and no music. Give your child some space to enjoy themselves on the ninja assault course, foam pits, and multiple trampolining areas. Phone or book online, or just come along on the day. Caregiver jumps for free! https://www. cloud9palmy.co.nz/
Pre-schooler/under-110cm sessions at Cloud 9 Cloud 9 Trampoline Park, 37 Taonui St, Palmerston North 9am -10am Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursdays Under 110cm pass: $11.00 each The preschooler sessions provide two hours of exclusive use of the park for under-110cm kids that haven’t started school yet. Come along with your little one for a fun morning! Free fluffy and muffin for all kids jumping, a caregiver free per child. You can book online or you can just turn up on the day. https://www.cloud9palmy.co.nz/ ISSUE 307 . June | July 2022
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NEW MUM SURVIVAL CHECKLIST
– 6 WAYS TO MAKE THINGS EASIER, RIGHT NOW From new mothers, I often hear comments like: “I can’t even have a shower because I don’t know how long she will sleep for.” Or: “It takes so long to get him to sleep that we start cooking dinner at 9 p.m.” If your baby hasn’t yet been born, these sorts of things may sound ridiculous. However, managing your day around a newborn can be a challenge, especially if you’re used to order and punctuality. Conserving your energy and learning to multitask are keys to survival in these early days. Here are some quick tips. I am not advocating a rigid routine but it can be helpful for both you and your baby if you create a gentle rhythm around her needs. Checklist: Managing your day with a newborn 1. Include your baby in your daily tasks. For instance, don’t wait until they are asleep to have your shower. Instead, pop them in a rocker in the bathroom so
that you can see each other. They will probably enjoy listening to the water running and the sound of your voice if you sing or chat while you shower. 2. Multi task so you can rest when baby sleeps. Carry baby in a baby carrier or wrap as you prepare food or hang out washing. 3. Get dressed early in the day – then you will feel at least slightly in control, even if things go pear-shaped later, and you’ll be ready to head out for a walk with your baby if you feel overwhelmed by ‘cabin fever’ or a grumpy baby. 4. Plan your day around your baby’s calm times. For example, if they tend to be more content in the mornings, pop them in a pram or carrier and do your shopping then. Or prepare dinner early so that later, if (or when) they have their ‘arsenic hour’, you won’t feel so stressed. 5. Create a comfortable ‘headquarters’
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for feeding and cuddling. You will be sitting around an awful lot in the first few weeks, so borrow some good books and DVDs. Set up a feeding basket with healthy snacks (Try Boobie Bikkies, our natural and organic superfood cookies, especially created for breastfeeding mums) to keep you going as well as your book, phone, water bottle, breast pads, pen, notepad, hand cream, and whatever else you may need. Then, if you feed your baby in different places (inside or outside), keep your basket handy; this will help you to view feeding time as a nurturing time for you, rather than feeling restless because you are ‘stuck’, focussing on your own hunger and thirst or, even worse, worrying about all the ‘to dos’ that are waiting. The pen and pad (or your phone) are for writing lists of ‘action steps’ for when you have a free moment so that you can prioritise and gain some sense of achievement when you can cross things off later. Remember though, try not to put too many things on your list – there is no emotion worse than disappointment! TIP: delete or delegate things that can wait or be done by others. 6. Be kind to yourself -on days when it feels as though you have absolutely nothing to show for your efforts because your baby has been on a feeding marathon or is extra clingy, remember, you are doing an amazing job – you are creating world peace (by teaching your baby about unconditional love). Remember too, the mummy mantra for when the going gets tough – ‘this too shall pass’. It will, I promise, all too soon. So please, be kind to yourself and forget the mess for now, look deeply into those navy blue eyes, breathe in that sweet baby smell and enjoy every delicious cuddle. A Mum of five and Grandmother, Pinky McKay is an IBCLC Lactation Consultant, TEDx speaker and best-selling author of Sleeping Like a Baby, Parenting By Heart, Toddler Tactics and 100 Ways to Calm the Crying. Check out Pinky’s books at her website www.pinkymckay.com https://www.pinkymckay.com/ new-mum-survival-checklist/
IByLOVE YOU Jessica Ulrich I love you. I hope you know that. But I’m so small and I can’t say it yet. So the tears will come when I need you, and sometimes I feel yours too. I know you ache, but I ache for you. Maybe we feel the same? When it’s dark around me and your face comes into view, I know everything will be ok. Do you know that too? I just want to tell you, I love you. But I can’t just yet. So I’ll stretch out my arms instead, I’ll protest and fuss when you put me down. When all I want is your smell, my comfort, a wholeness. Because you smell like the two of us, as if we were one. You’re all I know. All I need. I can’t wait to know more about the you before me, but right now it’s, ‘us’. One day I will tell you, I love you. When I gaze up at you, as soon as I find your eyes, my whole world is in focus. Maybe, we can both slow down together. Orbit around each other, like we have nowhere to be. As if this will be no longer. As if my smallness won’t last. I wish this moment could last forever, and maybe one day you will too. These days are ours, as you whisper to me, I love you. When you kiss me goodnight. As I fall asleep. As we breathe each other in. When I wake, again and again, searching for you. While you’re searching for you too. While we find each other. I know it is constant. But you are my constant. Because these days filled with nothing are everything to me. And soon my head won’t rest on your chest, soon my cries will become words instead. By watching you, my lips start to move, the only feeling I’ve ever known, in a voice that feels new. I’ll smile up at you and say the words, “I love you too”. Reprinted with permission from Jess Urlichs, NZ Mother of 2 - soon to be 3 Jess Urlichs, Writer ‘My After All’ poetry book www.jessicaurlichs.com/shop
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SCREEN T I ME:
HOW MU CH IS TO O MU CH?
By Bawani MK. It’s one of those subjects that parents are so divided over. How much screen time should kids have? Should they have any screen time at all? We also need to understand that screen time isn’t all bad for kids, of course using it in moderation. Back when we were growing up, the most we did was probably watch the Sunday cartoons or movies. Our generation and the one before that knew what it meant to spend time without getting hooked on television. These days the amount of screen time children spend in front of digital devices is worrying. This one’s squarely in your hands and will take some work, but managing screen time is important and becoming more so at lightning speed, especially when we are stressed by these global circumstances where coronavirus has
made the use of digital devices, even more, a part of our daily lives. Considering the Covid-19 times, it has become kind of impossible for kids to avoid screen time. Rather it has impacted severely on younger kids. Despite hearing so many warnings about too much screen time for kids, parents are stuck with online schooling as well. Even in our home, my eldest was never given a phone / iPad / or TV but during the pandemic things changed where we gave her an iPad to keep her occupied and she was just 3 years old. As I was expecting my second one and my husband was under the essential services, the iPad was our
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babysitter during the 7 weeks of lockdown. Of course, my daughter was really excited to have it - she could sit with it for 2 hours and give me a chance to do what I needed to. We also realize that, during that time, my daughter wasn’t interested in family time such as doing puzzles, art, and craft or even running around the backyard - there was a change in her behavior and most likely due to the iPad. I am sure most whānau are facing these challenges now; somedays I do have regrets about introducing technology to her at an early age. Just like me, of course, if you desire a well-balanced family - then it’s going to take a little more work, time, and effort. YouTube can’t do it all for you, we’re sure you don’t want tech to babysit your kids, from toddlers to teens. Together we’ll get more specific further down in this article on helpful family screen time, where I share some thoughts and ideas which I have applied with my daughter which saw some positive changes.
doesn’t have to be an either/or proposition. Limiting screen time can enable your child to reap the benefits of using technology without experiencing the drawbacks. The risk of too much screen time versus defining the right amount of screen time for children is debatable. For example, have you ever binge watched Netflix, rolling from episode to episode until you were braindead? Well, that can happen to kids too. Risks can be further categorized into short-term and long-term risks, keeping in mind that short-term risks can develop into permanent obstacles if left unchecked. There are a lot of risks if we start reading up on screen time, but I have narrowed it down to the general risks that we could face. I have also gone through these risks with my girls before reading further on introducing screen time to preschoolers. These are the effects of too much screen time with preschoolers.
Dear parents, there’s no doubt that when using screen time appropriately, it can be an asset to your child’s development and childhood experience. Firstly, you cannot wish it away or keep kids away from it, but you can reduce its impact on your children. Kids are more vulnerable than adults when it comes to spending too much time with gadgets and this can affect many aspects of family life. According to World Health Organisation (WHO) guidelines, no screen time for kids up to two years old and no more than one to four for children between the ages of two and four years. Now you know screen time
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• Development issue: Studies have found
that kids between the ages of 2 and 5 years showed delayed development when they interacted more with screens which may cause growth issues in their later lives, especially delays in speech for those under 2. It was proven that kids younger than 30 months have limited ability to learn from video, they learn more from live interaction.
• Keep bedtime, mealtime, and family time screen-free – Don’t allow your child to watch an iPad or TV while having a meal or watching screen 30 minutes before going to bed. That can affect their attention to food and keep the mind active in sleep.
• Pay attention – Fully vet what your children are watching. Though some of you would have downloaded YouTube kids, which you think is safe, do explore them every time they watch.
• Behaviour problems and depression:
Kids constantly exposed to technology may fail to develop the social skills needed and may never emotionally develop to process different situations. Also linked with an increased possibility of attention problems in children.
• Develop a reward-based system – For example, a chart that tracks good behaviour can decide if screen time has been earned through healthy behaviour or if more chores or time outside is needed.
• Sleep distribution: The blue light used
in electronics can disrupt your child’s much-needed sleep which can lead to insomnia and digital eye strain.
• Be a good example – “Do as I say, not as I do” only works sometimes. Limit your own phone use because kids will do what they see their parents doing. In the evenings go ahead and put your phone away until your kid’s bedtime – you’ll be a great role model for your kids.
• Mental health issue: Higher risk of ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder) for pre-schoolers who spend two hours or more looking at a screen each day.
• Addiction: Eventually spending too much time on screen will create the urge to need more - just like us, who are so addicted to Facebook, Instagram, etc.
All the experts acknowledge that the use of digital devices by children in moderation is not harmful and has a place in our lives. We need to understand that we have
To help make wise parenting decisions it helps to firstly understand what your ultimate goals are regarding screen time with your children and what the place it has in your home. These choices can help set your child up for the success you know they deserve and can achieve.
How do make the most of screen time for kids? You can follow these tips
recommended by the American Academy of Paediatrics (AAP) in 2016 for successfully using screen time for kids.
• Co-watch whenever possible – Coviewing and engaging with your child during screened activities can encourage social interaction and build relationships.
• Set limits – Set a time frame for screen
time, for example after an hour of watching I try to switch to an educational app where we both can join in and play a game for 30 minutes before I ask her to put down the iPad. Or I get her to act out or share what she watched.
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References: Rideout, Vicky (2017). “The Common-sense census: Media use by kids aged zero to eight”. Common Sense Media. Nickerson, Sam (8 November 2019). “Too Much Screen Time May Be Slowing Childhood Brain Development”. Ecowatch. Retrieved 10 November 2019. Reichel, Chloe; May 14, Journalist’s Resource; 2019 (14 May 2019). “The health effects of screen time on children: A research roundup”. Journalist’s Resource. Retrieved 9 November 2019. February 22; 2019 (8 February 2019). “How Much Screen Time is Too Much?”. Scripps Health. Retrieved 8 November 2019. American Academy of Pediatrics Council on Communications and Media. (2011). Media use by children younger than 2 years (Pol-icy Statement). Pediatrics, 128(5), 1040–1045. https://doi.org/10.1542/ peds.2011-1753 “This Place Just Made it Illegal to Give Kids Too Much Screen Time”. Time. Retrieved 8 November 2019
created a world where we’re constantly in touch and tapped into everything that’s going on. Hopefully, my supporting research and tips will be beneficial so that now you can understand both the good and bad that can go along with the use of technology and screens.
Byeon, Haewon; Hong, Saemi; Lin, Haotian (18 March 2015). “Relationship between Television Viewing and Language Delay in Toddlers: Evidence from a Korea National Cross-Sectional Survey”. PLOS ONE. 10 (3): e0120663. Bibcode:2015PLoSO..1020663B. doi:10.1371/journal.pone.0120663. PMC 4365020. PMID 25785449. Nickerson, Sam (8 November 2019). “Too Much Screen Time May Be Slowing Childhood Brain Development”. Ecowatch. Retrieved 10 November 2019.
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KEEPING YOUR WINTER BABY WARM Used with permission from Onewa Parents Centre Keeping young babies warm during the winter months is important, but it’s just as important that your baby doesn’t get too hot. These guidelines should help you find the perfect temperature.
NEWBORN (0 – 6 WEEKS OLD)
Think of your baby as thermally-challenged. Although newborns have some natural protection against the cold, they’re fairly helpless to protect themselves, particularly against the hypothermic effects of inhaling low air temperatures. What newborns needs is a consistently warm room temperature of between 25° - 27° for the first month or so until their body has started to fill out with improved levels of insulating fat – this is especially true within the first 48 – 72 hours after birth.
NON-MOBILE BABY (7 WEEKS – 9 MONTHS OLD)
The golden rule is to always dress your baby in one extra layer than an adult. So, if you have on a t-shirt, jumper and jacket, your baby needs a singlet, t-shirt, jumper and jacket. Similarly with bedding, so if you have one blanket on your bed, your baby needs two.
Most body heat escapes through the head – so in winter always put a hat that covers the ears on your baby before going outdoors and remove it when you’re indoors. If their feet and hands are exposed make sure you put on booties or socks and mittens. If your baby sucks on her hands, keep an extra pair of mittens handy as once they get wet they’ll make her colder rather than keep her warm.
MOBILE BABY (10 – 12 MONTHS OLD)
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cover. Just keep in mind that while you’re working up a sweat walking around, your baby is just sitting still and will become cold well before you do. Check baby regularly but if they start fussing they may be trying to tell
you they’re cold. Check baby’s fingers, toes, ears and face regularly and head indoors before they get uncomfortable. Heading indoors? Once inside, even if it’s just a quick stop at the supermarket, take at least one layer off your baby and the rain cover so baby doesn’t perspire, otherwise the dampness can make them colder when you go back outside into the winter air. If you’ve covered baby with a blanket in the car and a hat, then take them off as soon as you come indoors or the car warms up. Baby’s room and bedding: Only use a heater to take the chill off your baby’s room, as babies shouldn’t sleep in hot rooms. The recommended room temperature for a baby is 16 - 20°, with around 18° being ideal. This may feel chilly to you as we’re often used to room temperatures of around 22°. If you feel your baby is still cold, put more clothing on them or additional layers of bedding. The following guidelines were recently published in Australia’s Practical Parenting Magazine and are based on baby wearing a nappy, singlet, stretch ‘n grow and a cotton sheet (remember that their swaddle is 1 layer). If the room is 12°, baby will need 4 layers on the bed 14° = 3 – 4 layers 16° = 3 layers 18° = 2 layers 20° = 1 – 2 layers. If your baby is sweating or their tummy feels hot to touch, take off some clothing or bedding.
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BIRTH STORY
MAISIE KATE WALLER By Georgia Bradley My pregnancy journey started like many with a positive pregnancy test in the bathroom. It was expected and planned for, yet we still had the shock of ‘oh my god, is this real?’ My partner Callum read and re-read the instructions of the test trying to work out if this was really happening. It was. I was lucky in my
job to work with midwives so I always had a rough idea of who I wanted and I was also lucky that my colleague was her husband. Thankfully she had space and took us on. Through my job I was very aware that births do not always go to plan and things change so I knew I didn’t want a set plan that would upset me if it wasn’t followed. My plan was to go with the flow and make the decisions on the day. Of course there were certain aspects I had hoped for; I wanted a water birth and I had hired a TENS machine and wanted to labour at home for as long as possible. I didn’t want pain relief but in the back of my head I doubted my ability to get through the labour and birth without it. My due date came and like the past few days I started the day with a long walk which included lots of curb walking. Just like the previous
days I would get cramping during the walk, get home and the cramping would fade away. Disheartened I tried to mentally prepare myself to go overdue and to prepare for what that would mean if our little one didn’t make an appearance. This was the polar opposite of my thoughts just
a week prior. New Zealand had just entered yet another Covid lockdown and I was convinced I was not going to have my baby in lockdown. But nearing the end of my thirty-ninth week of pregnancy I had decided I was done. I wanted the baby out and didn’t care if it meant having her in lockdown. Hence the sudden increase in physical activity when beforehand I hadn’t wanted to move a muscle. The evening of my due date was very standard, it was 6.45pm and I had just finished preparing a pasta bake and was bending down to put it in the oven when I felt something strange. Did I just pee? What was that? That felt weird. I quickly darted off to the bathroom and gave Callum the yell: “I think this is it”, “I think my waters have broken”, “wow this really isn’t stopping”. It was at this moment that it finally dawned on me that
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by tomorrow (hopefully) we would be parents. Wow. From here things happened quickly, my contractions were near one minute and were coming quickly. I thought that my prior assumptions were correct that I would need pain relief, if this was what labour was like and if it was going to last for hours and hours like everyone had told me then I was not going to survive! We called my midwife and it happened to be her weekend off. I thought here we go. My non-birth plan is already falling apart. Her lovely backup midwife made a plan to meet us at the hospital the next morning if nothing happened overnight. Unfortunately, when my waters broke I thought they looked a bit off. I knew all about meconium and knew what it often meant for labours – lots of monitoring. Yes, another aspect of my non-birth plan is not going to plan. Because of this I was somewhat in denial about the fact that yes my waters did have meconium in them, so we made the decision to send a photo to my midwife who agreed it was meconium. Our plan was changed and we were to meet her at the hospital in around an hour as she had to come from out of town. Callum hurriedly started packing up our things while keeping an eye on me. By this time my contraction timer was alerting me that it was time to get to a hospital. We made the relatively quick drive across town which wasn’t as bad as I had heard it could be. We were lucky with it being around 8pm in the middle of lockdown the bustling metropolis of Palmerston North was traffic free. When we arrived at the hospital my worst fear was met – Callum couldn’t come in with me for the exam. The biggest issue this caused me was going up the elevator on my own to the birthing suite as elevators are not my favourite thing, especially on my own. Very irrational fear I know. At this moment though I couldn’t care less, all I could think was how much pain I was in and how I wanted it to end. I had done an online hypnobirthing cause which I think helped me immensely. My breathing was so constant and was helping me get through each contraction, as hard as they were I knew I just needed to breathe and the pain would eventually end. In the room I was met by my midwife who wasn’t expecting me to be in so much discomfort as it had only been a couple of hours since my waters had broken. She did an exam and said it was definitely my waters and that they had meconium in them.
She and I were also incredibly surprised that when she checked how dilated I was I was already eight centimetres. She asked if I had a history of rapid labours in my family and I was struggling to understand that this was really happening and it was happening quickly. Once it was established that I was very much in labour Callum was able to come in to support me. My midwife asked me what pain relief I had planned on using and encouraged me that I was doing a great job with my breathing. I didn’t know what I wanted, I felt like my go with the flow birth plan was letting me down as I couldn’t think straight. I quickly decided that I would give gas a go. I contemplated if I should mention that I had hoped to have a water birth as I knew more monitoring was required with meconium babies. Much to my surprise my midwife let me know that the hospital had a waterproof monitor and she would check if it was available. I tried to not get too excited with the fact that something might be going to plan. But it was going to plan, the monitor was available. So I waddled over to the birthing pool and jumped in *slowly manoeuvred my way in a very ungraceful manner*. I was surprised that the water didn’t give me instant pain relief as I had imagined, now I look back and think how did I ever think that. Almost as soon as I sat in the pool I felt an uncontrollable urge to push. This terrified me as I think I was still in denial that I had to get this baby out. Just to carry on the theme of my non birth plan not going to plan the monitor stopped working so I needed to get out of the pool. This was another slow and ungraceful process. Once on the bed it took me a while to find the right position and to get comfortable. My midwife informed me that if I stop using the gas I might be able to focus more on my pushing. I gave it up and at that point felt like it wasn’t doing a whole lot to help anyway. During the pushing process I would push and feel my little girl get nice and low and I would start to feel intense pain. I would instantly stop and think no no no this baby is not coming out. I told a few white lies saying that the contraction had finished. When in reality I just felt the pain and didn’t want to commit to it. It was when I asked if we were okay and my midwife replied saying yes everything was okay and that there wasn’t any need for intervention that I remembered about all the possible interventions. I wanted the process to be over and I didn’t want any interventions. I pushed as hard as I possibly could and I squeezed my partner’s hand as hard as I could. With that push my baby’s head was born. I breathed through this until the ISSUE 307 . June | July 2022
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next contraction but in the meantime we were greeted with a cry from our little girl. When the next contraction came I pushed out our little girl’s body. On August 28th 2021 at 11.30pm our little girl Maisie Kate Waller was born. Our lives had changed forever. The love we had for her was overwhelming - we were Maisie’s mum and dad and we were over the moon. Maisie and I were transferred to the maternity ward. Due to covid visitor restrictions Callum was unable to join us. It was a hard goodbye. It felt like everything had just fallen into place but yet again things weren’t going to plan. I had planned on going straight home from the delivery suite but with the meconium Maisie needed to be monitored for twenty-four hours. Much to the shock of the maternity ward nurses we left bang on twenty-four hours later at 11.30pm in the pouring rain. I wanted to be reunited as a little family and missed my home so much. So we met a very excited new dad Callum in the carpark who carefully chauffeured us home. Upon returning home the reality that we were parents hit. We knew nothing about being parents yet somehow had to look after
this baby and get her through to the morning when our midwife would visit. After some quick googling “what do babies wear to sleep?”, “is it normal for my newborn to poo this much?” and “normal temperature of a baby?” we were on our way. The next few days can only be described as overwhelming. My life had changed so drastically in such little time and it was so hard to process. My partner Callum was instrumental in supporting me through this. Slowly over time we got used to our new normal and life as a family of three. All the hard times, sleep deprivation and tears were all worth it when I looked at Maisie and knew that she was my little girl and I was her mum. My favourite part of my birth experience was the fact that it brought me and my partner closer. He supported, encouraged and uplifted me when I was at my most vulnerable and I will forever cherish these moments. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever done in my life but I wouldn’t change any part of it. It brought me my little Maisie who is now nearly eight months old and is the absolute light of our lives.
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ADVERTORIAL
FROM CAPSULE TO CARSEAT Kia ora everyone Welcome to parenthood!
6, 12 or 30 months approx (You want the 30 month ones). They install with the seatbelt under babies legs and they must use the top tether at all times. That is a strap that goes from the top of the seat and into an anchor point in the back of your car. It is a movable strap so is easy enough to get baby in and out.
We are Treasured Cargo, Palmy’s Car Seat safety experts. Sadly over 80% of carseats are being used incorrectly. That is a frightening statistic! We are here to make sure you have the safest seat for your child and that you’re using it properly. We believe that informed parents = safer kids.
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Here is some info for when you’re moving up from the capsule. Your next seat will be a convertible seat (rear faces then goes forward facing)
EU seats will install with either a fixed Isofix OR a long 3 point seatbelt. The seatbelt must be very long and goes under and around the back of the seat and can not be moved. This can be very tricky to get correct and difficult to use as the seatbelt is across the door. Also these seats only have a max harness limit of 18kgs.
Research rear facing. This is the safest way for children to travel. Ideally our babies are all rear facing to 4yrs old. If you can get to 5yrs, even better! That said, not all seats here in NZ will last that long.
• They also do the rotating seats, which install with a fixed Isofix. This means it might be too upright for your baby and there is no way to adjust the angle. They also only go to 18kgs so are often outgrown much earlier than other seats.
You’ll want a seat that will rear face to AT LEAST 18kgs or 30 months (more on that later). Some seats will rear face to 22kgs and sadly some only go to 10kgs.
There are so many seats to choose from and we understand it can be VERY overwhelming. We are here to help you.
It’s really important to read the specifications and weight limits BEFORE you buy a seat. Please be aware that some seats will advertise birth to 36kgs, BUT they only harness to 18kgs then the child must use the seatbelt booster mode. This can be as young as 3yrs old. Not safe! Alway try a seat in your car before you buy it. Not all seats fit in all cars. Your seat needs to fit your baby, your budget and your car. Here in NZ we have 3 different standards of car seats. The US, European and AUS/NZ standards. They all install slightly differently and have varying limits.
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US Standard seats go by weight and height and will install with Isofix OR seatbelt going under babies legs. They all have a chest clip and will rear face to 18kgs or more.
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PLEASE contact us to try seats, get advice, or just to make sure your seat is being used correctly.
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Child’s harness is snug on their bodies. A loose harness is dangerous. Check that it’s snug on hips and shoulders.
We have a selection of great seats here that we can try in your car before you purchase. We will install it correctly, try baby in, and make sure you can fit comfortably in the front seats. Everyone’s safety is important to us.
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PRODUCT REVIEW
WINTER SLEEPING BAG REVIEW By Ella Diprose It’s getting colder and as autumn turns into winter it’s time to think about getting a winter sleeping bag to make sure your baby or toddler stays snuggly and warm through the winter nights. When your baby is too cold at night it can lead to frequent night waking and mean you’re up more at night resettling. One of the reasons for the 4am or 5am wake up can be baby being a little bit cold as this is often the coldest part of the night. If your house is getting below 18 degrees at night then you’ll definitely need a winter weight sleeping bag as your baby will wake more frequently when cold. Using a winter weight sleeping bag also means you have to use a heater less which means saving on power costs. However, if your house isn’t as cold during winter you can make do with a medium weight, year round sleeping bag and just layer up with more merino or cotton clothes. Here’s some popular choices in baby and toddler winter sleeping bags.
Tommee Tippee Grobag www.nappies.co.nz/product/tommee-tippeethe-original-grobag-sleep-bag-2-5-tog The Tommee Tippee grobags come in a variety of weights or tog ratings and for winter I would look at the 2.5 or 3.5 tog grobag. The key benefit of grobags are their fantastic quality and durability. If you want a sleeping bag that will last for years or do multiple kids this is great. These sleeping bags are a more affordable winter option retailing at between $49-$89 depending on tog weight and size of the sleeping bag. The grobag has a 100% cotton outer and lining which makes it breathable and means your baby won’t get hot and sweaty in it overnight. The grobags are known to be lovely and soft and super snuggly. If you’re looking for a nice, simple winter weight bag these are a good option. They’re easy to put on and easy to wash.
Ergopouch 2.5 tog Jersey sleeping bag www.thesleepstore.co.nz/ergopouch The ergopouch 2.5 tog or 3.5 tog sleeping bags retail for around $89.95 and are a more affordable option if you’re looking for a warm, cotton, winter weight sleeping bag for your baby. I have used the Ergopouch swaddles before and found them excellent and the sleeping bags are just as good. The Ergopouch bags are 100% cotton and all highly breathable, keeping babies warm yet allowing them to keep a consistent body temperature and not overheat. If your baby has eczema or has sensitive skin and you find a merino sleeping bag isn’t working, then the Ergopouch range is the way to go. These sleeping bags come in a range of sizes; 3-12 months, 8-24 months, 2-4 years and it even goes up to 4-6 years. The ergopouch sleeping bags have more of a slim-fit, stretchy design compared to other brands but still have plenty of room for your baby or toddler’s legs to be in the healthy hip position, and they are a great length. One downside to this sleeping bag is that they do take a long time to dry so it’s handy having 2, so you have a spare when one is in the wash.
You do have to buy the next size up in Tommee Tippee grobags more frequently than another brand, as they have smaller size ranges.
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The Sleep Store Duvet Weight woolbabe www.thesleepstore.co.nz/woolbabe
Merino kids go go bag www.merinokids.co.nz The Merino Kids Go Go Bags are an internationally award winning baby sleep bag which is just as popular as its competition, the Woolbabe sleeping bag. Merino Kids bags use only 100% natural fibres – 100% superfine merino wool on the inside & 100% GOTS certified organic cotton outer. The natural ability of superfine merino wool allows the skin to breathe and regulates body temperature year-round, so baby won’t overheat or wake up cold. These are well worth the money, they are a high quality product that will keep your baby warm and cosy at night. The duvet go go bag is an excellent winter sleeping bag choice if your house is between 15-20 degrees overnight. They retail for over $200 new, but you can find second hand merino kids go go bags selling for a lot less on trade me or facebook marketplace.
One of my absolute top recommendations for your baby! This sleeping bag seems to be the warmest bag out there on the market. They retail for $189 full price but the Sleep Store often has sales or multibuys which bring the price down. It’s quilted and filled with a thick layer of 100% Australian wool, has a 100% cotton lining, and then a 30% merino / 70% cotton jersey outer. It comes in a front and side zip, with the front zip being most popular among my friends I’ve talked to. The duvet weight is suitable for 18-20 degrees & under, down to approx 12 degrees, with the appropriate clothing layers underneath. These bags come in 3 sizes, a mini duvet weight for 0-9 months (these fit more like 1 year) the 3-24 month size and a 2-4 year size. Each one has poppers/domes under the arms to make it safe so it doesn’t ride up around their neck. The sizing makes these bags a great investment as you don’t have to keep buying the next size up every 6 months like some brands. I love how it also comes with a room thermostat, so I know what I need to dress my baby in under the Woolbabe. My baby stays so cosy and warm in this sleeping bag all night. regular detergents can be too harsh on this type of delicate fabric.
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FEATURE
CLOTH NAPPIES -
WHY WE LOVE THEM By Ella Diprose I started our cloth nappy journey when my eldest daughter was a few weeks old with a trial pack from Nappy Mojo, a company you can hire cloth nappies from. For me, however, it was all too much and adjusting to life with a newborn was as much as I could handle so I returned the trial pack and went back to disposables. I started using cloth nappies again full time when my daughter, Sofia, was 6 months old and I’m proud to say, I’m still using them 1 ½ years later. I now have 2 kids under two in cloth nappies and it is busy but also super cute. Is it more work than using disposables? Yes. At times I wonder if I am crazy for having two kids so young both in cloth nappies. It is more prep work, stuffing nappies, and more washing loads to go on. It’s a bit messier cleaning up poo nappies. But, for me, the cute fluffy butt is worth it. That and the money saved in the long term, as well as being more environmentally friendly. I like how cute cloth nappies look on your baby’s bottom, there are prints and designs for just about everyone’s style and every occasion or holiday. It’s true when people say you can get addicted to buying them, there’s something exciting about a new cloth nappy release, getting the new prints for your collection. Here’s two photos showing how my nappy stash grew from having 1 kid in cloth to 2. Cloth nappies just seem to fit better and stay on better than disposables. My hubby even says they’re easier to put on than a disposable nappy once you know how. Here’s some thoughts from a few of my friends who use cloth nappies and their advice.
LEIGH LEMMEN: “It’s a lot easier than you think, and not at all smelly. Make sure you have a good wash routine and you are sorted. We have not had any nappy rash since moving to reusables and I would never go back.”
JAIMEE WESTCOTT:
“ I love cloth nappies because they are super cute! But also good for the environment, it reduces your rubbish by so much. We were surprised by how many disposable nappies we went through in 1 week. If you are thinking about using reusable nappies just do it. Find a friend who already uses cloth to ask questions, they would love to help you out. It’s not as scary as you think once you understand it all. “
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GABRIELLA ROZENBURG:
3 reasons why I love using cloth nappies. The obvious environmental benefits, reducing waste and our environmental impact. I also find the process of washing, drying and folding very satisfying and it’s not as hard as one would think. The biggest reason I love cloth nappies is the amazing prints and cute fluff butt.
SHANNON FROM NAPPY MOJO SHARED HER THOUGHTS ON A FACEBOOK POST RECENTLY:
about using reusable nappies to celebrate cloth nappies. There were several online events going over the basics of cloth napping, discounts and of course, giveaways. If you’re thinking about using cloth/reusable nappies check out Facebook groups like Cloth Nappies Uncensored New Zealand or Clean Cloth Nappies, ask around and find some people to help you on your journey.
www.nappymojo.co.nz
The secret to successful long term cloth nappying may not be what you think it is.
Feeling guilty about waste is sometimes a starting point for considering giving cloth a go, but it’s not a long term motivation. We all get that parental guilt that we are in one way or another, not perfect. And it drains us of our energy. Relieving guilt is not a long term motivator to use cloth nappies. And this is why at Nappy Mojo don’t go on and on about the obvious environmental benefits of using cloth. I believe the key to long term cloth nappy success is finding what it brings to your life rather than focusing on the guilt it may take away. And there are so many good things! For my strange selfThe simple pleasure of choosing the nappy and capturing that super cute photo was enough to break up the monotony of those endless days at home with a new baby- Satisfying Snapping up a second hand or clearance nappy bargain-Exhilarating! Hanging them on the line, the white inserts so clean they are almost reflective, looking out the window every now and then to see them swaying in the breeze- meditative Seeing that little round fluffy tush as my new walking baby stretched up to reach somethingToo cute What is your why? Is environmental guilt enough for you? Cloth nappy week happened throughout New Zealand from the 25th April to 1st May. It was a chance for retailers, manufacturers, advocates and basically anyone who is passionate
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HEALTH AND WELLBEING
STARTING SOLIDS from solids until around 8-9 months, so waiting until 6 months won’t cause them any problems. The other signs that they are ready for solids become a lot more apparent around 6 months as well, so there’s no harm in giving them that little bit longer to mature before giving solids a go.
APPETITE AND INTEREST:
By Lise Bakker Oh, the joys of solid foods! The careful consideration of which special food will be the first for your little one to taste, the decisions about spoons, bowls, plates, the ever-helpful advice from friends, family, and others, and of course the total mess that it leaves where it’s probably easier to just chuck the baby straight in the bath and leave it at that. But how can you tell when your baby is ready to start this exciting journey? Let’s just get this out there first off: every baby is different, so every intro to solids will be different too. Never feel like you should start solids just because your mum tells you that you were eating Farex at 12 weeks, or everyone else in your antenatal class is already eating 6 times a day (although you can raise a questioning eyebrow at that claim, especially before 7-8 months). But there are some good signs that your baby will give you (sometimes it seems like they crawl into your lap and shove them in your face) that they are ready to start.
AGE:
Age is a good solid starting point when it comes to whether you’re ready for solids. Previous advice has been for any time between 4-6 months, but current advice from both the WHO and the Ministry of Health is to wait until closer to 6 months. Infants don’t need the extra nutrients
This one is usually very specific to your baby. You’re looking to see firstly if your baby is still looking for more food after a milk feed – so continuing to nurse on an empty bottle, seems to get a bit hangry before you’d normally give them the next feed, or just wanting to get on and stay on the breast for long periods of time. Interest is important too – if they pay attention to the food on your plate at meals, look like they want to reach out and grab it (or actually reaching out and grabbing it, that’s a great sign!), and open their mouth when you have food on your fork/spoon. Another great sign is if your baby is bringing toys/fingers/toes to their mouth to suck or chew on a lot more than usual – that’s the brain letting them know that most of the systems are ready, so let’s get started on practising sucking and chewing skills!
GROSS MOTOR:
This one is mostly about safety, and ability to concentrate on feeding. Think about it this way – do you want to eat a full meal while you’re rock-climbing, or out for a run, or standing on the top of a ladder painting the ceiling? No! It’s the same with your baby. If they don’t have the ability to hold their head up unsupported, and sit up fairly well in a high chair, they won’t have any concentration or energy left to focus on feeding. A nice test of this is to pop them in a high chair with a few toys, and see if they are able to play with the toys while seated. If they’re struggling to hold
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their head up, they won’t be interested in playing, and so they won’t be interested in eating. If you’re pushing your baby too early, before their motor skills are good enough, they’ll struggle, which can cause some of those automatic responses to feeding challenges like coughing or choking. A little bit of floppiness is okay – especially if they have been sitting unsupported in the high chair for a little bit and they’re getting tired – but if that head and trunk control is missing or really not great yet, best to just hang tight until it’s a bit more developed.
ORO-MOTOR:
Just like with gross motor skills, your baby’s oro-motor (so lips, tongue, palate, cheeks, and jaw) muscles need to be ready to go as well. A really good sign of this is bringing an empty spoon to their mouth. Do they open their mouth and let you touch their tongue with the spoon? Do they close their mouth when the spoon touches it and turn away? Does the spoon on their tongue cause a gag or a cough? If you touch their tongue with the spoon, do they seem to push the food back out with their tongue? If the first one is true, then great! That’s an excellent start. If any of the other ones are true, it’s probably a little too early, and give them another week or so before trying again.
WHAT’S NORMAL AND WHEN TO GET CONCERNED:
Remember that every baby is different! Some babies may be hitting all of these indicators at 4.5-5 months, and that’s great, you can start then. Other babies may still be lagging behind a little by 6 months, and that’s also great, you can give them a little more time. As long as your baby is managing one solid meal (and it doesn’t have to be huge, it can be just a few teaspoons) by around 7-7.5 months of age, you’re on a winner. It’s totally normal for babies to have a few negative reactions during this stage – there’s definitely going to be some coughing or gagging, and on a rare occasion maybe a choke. This is usually completely fine, especially if they can clear the solid
easily. What’s important is to stay calm and encourage them, give them some help if they need it, but let them deal with the gag or cough so they know what to do. If your baby gags or coughs or chokes routinely on everything they’re eating, that’s a sign either they’re a bit young to be trying solids, or there might be something else going on, and it’s probably a good time to reach out for a bit of extra support. If your baby is really showing no interest in solids past 7 months, or you’re finding they’re getting a chesty cough or sounding a bit gurgly after each solid meal, again that’s probably an indication that it would be a good idea to have them looked over. Most of these issues can be solved really easily and quickly, and it isn’t something to worry excessively over. So have fun with your solids exploration, and enjoy this special time with your little one! Lise Bakker is a paediatric Speech-Language Therapist who specialises in neonatal and infant feeding. She works privately at Go Glow Occupational Therapy in Palmerston North, while also finishing off her PhD investigating oral feeding in Aotearoa’s neonatal units. She is happy to talk through any problems or concerns you have with your baby, and can be reached through the Go Glow website at www.goglowot.co.nz
REFERENCES:
https://www.health.govt.nz/your-health/ pregnancy-and-kids/first-year/6-12months/feeding-your-baby https://www.healthed.govt.nz/resource/ starting-solids https://www.who.int/news-room/factsheets/detail/infant-and-young-childfeeding https://www.plunket.org.nz/caring-foryour-child/feeding/solids/introducingsolid-foods/#feeding-between-three-andsix-months https://www.healthnavigator.org.nz/ healthy-living/b/baby-starting-solids/
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PARENTING
RESPONSIVE PARENTING TIPS By Tabitha Jonson The research is very clear that how we interact with our kids impacts how their brains develop, their future relationships (with friends and partners), and how they cope with life’s ups and downs. No pressure!
“I don’t want you to eat the cat food because it’s not good for human tummies.”
TIP 3 – ACCEPT BIG FEELINGS
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Greater cooperation
Kids brains are still under construction. The connections to the thinking part of their brain frequently get blocked and they get stuck in survival (aka tantrum) mode. Over time ( brains aren’t fully wired until early/mid-twenties!) our patience and support during meltdowns help children develop pathways that enable them to calm themselves down in future.
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Better relationships
TOP TIP: Stay close, calm & connected
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More successful learning
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Positive mental and emotional health
“You’re really angry I said no. I’ll stay with you as long as you need, sweetheart.”
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Positive social behaviours
It can be hard to see the long game when we’re stuck in a sleepless world of nappies, “No!”s and not enough hands. However, working with our kids and helping them navigate their strong feelings through empathy and connection has numerous positive outcomes including:
TOP TIPS TIP 1 - MEET NEEDS WITH WIN-WINS.
Our kids rely on us to meet their needs. We’re it! Food, sleep, connection, play, exploration, and autonomy are all vital needs. When their behaviour isn’t working for us, look for other ways to help them meet their needs.
h t t p : / / w w w. p a r e n t i n g s c i e n c e . c o m / authoritative-parenting-style.html Tabitha Jonson is a Mum to 2 lovable, often exasperating children and is the Facilitator for Palmerston North Parent Centre’s Responsive Parenting Course. Want to learn more about Repsonsive Parenting? Contact us at info@ palmyparentscentre.org.nz to find out when our next course will be!
“Hmmm…You want to play and I want to enjoy my coffee. How about we sit outside where I can watch you?”
TIP 2 - GIVE INFORMATION.
Our little ones are new to this place. Let them know what’s happening and what would be helpful. Tell them why they can’t do something and offer an alternative. This alone can prevent many a meltdown. “We’re going to the café. There might be lots of people so I’d like you to stay near me while I get our drinks then we’ll find a place where you can play. Today we’re getting smoothies.” 28 PALMY PARENT . PALMERSTON NORTH PARENTS CENTRE MAGAZINE
CRAFT
AUTUMN LEAF HAIR CRAFT SUPPLIES: • Leaves of different colors and shapes • Glue • Crayons • A4 paper • Optional: googly eyes, stickers, anything to decorate your face INSTRUCTIONS: 1. Draw a face outline on a4 paper (I found a free printable online!) 2. Put a thick line of glue along the hairline of your face 3. Press leaves into the glue until you have created your favorite hair do. You may need to add extra glue as you go for extra leaf layers. 4. Using the felt pens (and optional googly eyes etc.) decorate your faces
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FAMILY FRIENDLY OUTING
MT LEES RESERVE By Sarah Taylor Mt Lees reserve can be found at 199 Ngaio Road, roughly 25 minutes from Palmerston North and just 10 minutes from Feilding. It is open to the public 7 days a week from 9am to 5pm and is currently undergoing a major redevelopment/ upgrade making it an amazing place to take the family. There is plenty of parking available on the gravel just through the entrance, with picnic tables and a toilet block right next to the carpark. From here you can wander along the driveway past the old homestead to the newly constructed adventure area. The adventure area is amazing, constructed from tree stumps, logs, and tyres it provides plenty of opportunity for balancing, jumping, and climbing. Our 3.5 year old is able to make his way around the area independently, while our 2 year old needs the occasional boost to get up onto the logs. There is currently an old wooden swing, and the framing for a new swing was being installed while we were there. You also have the option of walking on the tracks through the reserve, with the loop track being 2.3km long. While I have seen families complete this with a pram in tow, I wouldn’t recommend it especially now with mud and tree roots making the track a little difficult to navigate in some spots. If you don’t feel like doing the whole loop walk with kids in tow, there are plenty of little paths you can adventure down with bench seats spotted all through the reserve to rest little legs and for snack stops. Highlight of the loop walk for us was the “bamboo forest” right near the end of the loop walk and just before the uphill section - this was great motivation for the kids to keep going. If you visit Mt Lees currently and have children who like dogs and machinery you might be lucky enough to meet Bark Ranger Repo and the council workers who are busy with the reserve upgrades. These guys have been super friendly every time we visit, happy to chat to the children and show them how the diggers work. Repo is a very friendly, wellbehaved dog (but it is worth noting that other dogs are not allowed at Mt Lees). 30 PALMY PARENT . PALMERSTON NORTH PARENTS CENTRE MAGAZINE
Hire a Tens Machine Hire a Transcutaneous Electrical Nerve Stimulation (TENS) machine to help reduce your pain during labour and childbirth. Palmerston North Parents Centre (PNPC) has five TENS machines available for hire by our members for ONLY $20 for up to four weeks’ hireage (plus a $40.00 refundable bond). Machines can be booked for the two weeks prior to your due date until two weeks post due date. Watch a video interview with a TENS machine expert at youtube.com/ watch?v=4gUEtYAqPw8
Book your TENS Machine from: Palmerston North Parents Centre, 117 Ruahine Street, info@palmyparentscentre.org.nz. Please pay in cash. Full terms and conditions supplied upon inquiry. Note: TEENS pads are reusable, you can purchase new TENS pads for $35.
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COMMUNITY SUPPORT GROUPS Across Te Kotahitanga O Te Wairua We can provide a range of social services which include: Counselling, Family support (including respite care for children), Parenting advice/information and programmes, Advice on other services available for parents and families. Contact: Graeme on (06) 356 7486 or visit www.across.org.nz Allergy New Zealand Support groups are a great way to meet others in a similar situation to you. They are very relaxed, informal sessions to share ideas, discuss your concerns, and get information and resources. Our regional support group is there to help put you in contact with others, to provide you with information such as those all important recipes, and to listen when you need someone to talk to. They are not medically qualified but can refer your queries on and seek information on your behalf. For further information phone 0800 34 0800 or visit www.allergy.org.nz Babywearers Manawatu This is a great way to try different carriers while finding a carrier that suits you and your baby. Babywearers Manawatu Sling Library is on most Wednesdays 12 pm - 1 pm (check FB for up to date info) at Palmerston North Parents Centre, 30 Waldegrave Street, Palmerston North. Membership is one off payment of $10 and carrier hire costs $5 for one week.https://www.facebook.com/groups/ babywearersmanawatu/ Brain Injury Association Central Districts We provide advocacy information and support for people with brain injury, their families, whanau and carers. For more information call (06) 354 3540. Breastfeeding Help An IBCLC (often called lactation consultant) is a breastfeeding specialist qualified to prevent, recognise, and resolve breastfeeding problems. All members of NZCLA hold the professional qualification of International Board Certified Lactation Consultant (IBCLC). Any mother, family member or health professional interested in obtaining the contact details of an IBCLC can phone 0800 4 LACTATION (0800 452 282) during daytime hours. HOPE An opportunity for parents of premature babies to meet and chat and to offer hope and support to those who currently have babies in the Neo-Natal Unit. Graduates welcome. Held at: Plunket Family Centre, 42 Albert Street, Palmerston North. Monday 1pm – 2.30pm. Contact: Karlyn Sullivan-Jones (06) 353 0663 or karlynandmark@xnet.co.nz Itchy Kids A national support group for parents and whanau who care for children with eczema and allergies. For more information contact Sarah Hartley 027 333 7385 or email hartleyfamilynz@gmail.com or visit itchykids.org.nz Manawatu Toy Library Now located at 200 Church Street, Palmerston North, this fabulous toy library has a collection of over 2000 toys. Our members include families, carers, and educational groups. We have toys suitable for babies 5+ months through to school age children. Membership costs $95 per annum or $60 for six months. You are welcome to visit to see what we offer. To find out more, including opening hours: manawatutoylibrary.nz, or call 027 364 6911. Manawatu Down Syndrome Association Regional contact is Andrea Wales (06) 356 1767. Manawatu Home Birth Association Offering information, advice and support to women and their families seeking to birth their babies at home. Birth pools and other equipment available for hire. Library, sibling kits, and bimonthly
newsletters also available. Call (06) 356 BABY (06 356 2229) for more information. Manline Manline services are unique in that we are the only “men helping men” organisation in the Manawatu and Tararua region offering services for men to explore issues within their lives. Our programs are designed to be educational, developmental, rehabilitative, and preventative. http://www.manline.co.nz/home or 06 358 1211 Miscarriage Support Miscarriage can be a very lonely experience and is often not talked about. Miscarriage support groups have produced quality information and pamphlets for women/couples who may need information and support. These invaluable resources can be downloaded from miscarriage.org.nz Methodist Social Services Offering free programmes for primary/intermediate aged children and their parents/caregivers, around the areas of anger management, grief loss and change, and confidence building. We also offer family, couple, and individual counselling, and have both male and female counsellors available. Advocacy and social work support services are provided along with an emergency food service. For all enquiries, please call 06 350 0307, 663 Main Street, Palmerston North. Palmerston North Breastfeeding support group We provide a relaxed place to come and ask questions about breastfeeding and parenting , we hold regular meeting on the first Monday of the month at Palmy Parents Centre, Ruahine St, 10am. We have a library with a wide range of books relating to breastfeeding and parenting. http://www.lalecheleague. org.nz/palmerston-north or https://www.facebook.com/ PNbreastfeedingsupport/ Parent to Parent Supporting families of children with a special need, health impairment, or disability. For more information please phone (06) 355 0787or email manawatu@parent2parent.org.nz Parentline 24 Hour Crisis Line. Offering help and support for parents 24 hours a day. Phone 0800 4 FAMILY. Plunket Education Services For parent education classes please contact the Plunket family centre in Albert Street, Palmerston North, (06) 356 7248 for more information regarding classes in 2016. Reflux Support Contact: Sharon 354 7280 Sands A voluntary group who have lost babies before, during or after birth. They can provide first hand support, guidance, and information on miscarriage, stillbirth, or newborn death. Further information and support can be found by contacting Shaun and Gaylene Vivian (06) 356 9715 or visiting sands.org.nz Supergrans Manawatu Charitable Trust Supergrans Manawatu is all about helping people help themselves. A service to all to brush up on the basic skills needed to provide for oneself or for a family. Our motto is not a ‘do it for you today’ it is a ‘help you to do it tomorrow’ concept. This is a free service. It is concerned with encouraging better skills in those everyday tasks around the home that sustain life. We work with you in your own home. Phone (06) 354 3804 or 021 0669 442 for further information.
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PLAYGROUPS IN YOUR AREA Plunket Family Centre Playgroup
ASHHURST
Ashhurst Playcentre
AWAPUNI/WESTEND Kingston St Chapel Palmy Playgroup
CENTRAL
Crossroads Early Childhood Salvation Army Rudolf Steiner Seventh Day Adventist Church Playgroup with Hope
FEILDING
Feilding Playcentre Community Fielding Playcentre Doodlebugs SPACE Bright Sparks Preschool Programme
42 Albert Street
021-808-340
Mondays & Fridays 10am to 12noon
118 Standford Street
326 9270
Mon to Thurs 9am - 12pm
Kingston St 358 0716 Tues & Thurs 9am- 11:30am Awapuni Community Centre, 22 Newbury St Tues & Fri 9.30am to 11.30am Facebook: Palmy Playgroup Please bring your own morning tea and a donation of $2 per child. 220 Church St 358 0669 cnr Church & Princess Sts 358 7455 187 Ruahine St 354 4514 257 Ferguson St 282 Cuba Street (opposite Briscoes) Contact: Heather 027 334 9981
Mon to Fri 9am to 12noon Thurs 9:30am to 11am Tues 9:30am - 12noon & Thu 2pm -3:30pm Wed 9:30 to 11:00am Tuesday 9.30-11.30am playgroup@hopevineyard.nz
254A Kimbolton Rd 42 North St Knox Hall, North St 22 Bowen St Feilding Library
323 6100 323 1918 323 7240 323 7221 323 5373
Mon to Fri 9am to 1pm Mon to Fri 9am to 1pm Thurs 9am to 11:30am Contact for more details Wed 10:30am to 11:30am
12-32 Brentwood Ave
358 2255
Fri 8:30am to 12noon
339 Albert St Huia St extn
357 9411 357 0791
Wed 9:30am to 10:30am Mon, Tues, Thurs & Fri 9am - 12noon
HIGHBURY
Te Aroha Noa Community Services
HOKOWHITU
St Albans Church Park Road Playcentre
LINTON
Linton Playgroup
MILSON
Milson Playcentre
OPIKI
Opiki Playgroup
ROSLYN/KELVIN GROVE
Kelvin Grove Salvation Army Church on Vogel Plunket Roslyn Over 1’s Coffee Group
Linton Camp (Community Centre) 3519970
Mon & Wed 9am to 11:30am
1a Seaforth Ave
Mon, Wed & Fri 9am-12noon
356 9824
St Andrews Church, Main Road
Tues 10am to 12noon
99-103 Kaimanawa St 127 Vogel St 177 Vogel Street
Wed 9:30am to 11:30am Wed 9:30am to 12noon Wednesdays 9.30am to 11am
353 0917 357 7336 021-808-340
RONGOTEA
Te Kawau Playcentre Medway St 324 8246
SANSON
Sanson Playcentre
TERRACE END
St David‘s Presbyterian Church Terrace End Playcentre
Mon to Thurs 9:15am to 12:15pm, Fri 11:45am to 2:45pm
2 Philipps St
329 3503
Tues and Fri 9am to 12noon
Cnr Main & Rainforth 77 Ruamahanga Cres
358 3246 0221400610
Tues 10:00am to 11:30am Wed, Thu, Fri 9.30am to 12.30 school term
SPECIALIST GROUPS
La Leche League 355 3104 Manawatu Multiple Birth Club Kingston St Church 357 9773 Parent 2 Parent Special Needs Matipo St 355 0787 ABCD early intervention group 9 Woburn Place 0800 693 724 - Down Syndrome French for Preschoolers 1st floor, 47 the Square 021 207 0114 Spanish Class – 2 yrs and up 355 8257 Plunket Bhutanese Playgroup 25 Franklin Ave 3574844 Book Bubs baby book club PN Library
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Contact for more details Every 2nd Wed,10am 1st and 3rd Tues each month, 1-3pm Once a month on Thurs 10am to 12noon Fri 3.30pm to 4.30pm Contact for further details Mon 12.30 – 2.30pm Thursday 10.30 – 11 am fortnightly.
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