Palmy Parent December 2022 - January 2023

Editor’s

Hello everyone!

Wow - December already?

Literally where has this year gone? I hope you are all keeping well and enjoying this amazing weather. This issue has some great Christmas gift ideas, sunscreen reviews (perfect for this time of year), a guide on how to travel with toddlers (also great timing!) and much more.

From myself and the team here at the Palmy Parent Magazine we would love to wish you all a happy and safe Christmas and holiday season.

We are always on the lookout for new contributors - for our birth stories, local interest, motherhood, healthanything goes! If you or anyone you know might be interested send us an email to palmyparenteditor@ gmail.com - we would love to hear from you! See you all in 2023!!!

Rowena and the Parents Centre Team

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Editor’s Note

What’s On Book Review: Road to the Future

The Gift of Experience!

When It’s Your Baby, Not You. Open-ended, budget-friendly Christmas gifts

The Changing ‘Post-Baby’ Body Tamra’s Tips for Traveling with Toddlers

Brainwave: Love and Limits

Product Review: Sunscreen

Craft - White Dough Christmas Ornaments Playing with Your Child Family Friendly Outing: Whanganui

PRIZE DRAWS: Enter our every issue prize draws, find out if you were our winner last issue?

Bruce McKenzie Book Draw Kind Hearts, Streetwise Coffee

The Hair Company Hair Cut

Contributors

Rowena Dorn, Brainwave, Ella Diprose, Jessie Osland, Tamra Petterson, AHA Parenting, Stephanie Harrod, Julia Pratt, Pinky McKay, Erin Evis, Alex Cameron, Laura Wenden Green

Cover photo credit

Grace Reade age 17months - contributed by Rowena Reade

Committee News

Tena koutou katoa

Beautiful weather, Christmas, camping, long summer days and BBQs brings us all together over these months. An absolute highlight that we, as a family, look forward to every year.

At Palmerston North Parents Centre, we have enjoyed getting back into our Preggy to Preschool garage sales, holding face to face Due Date classes and seminars. We were also able to hold our Christmas Party this year, so there were some great events that finished the end of the year on a high.

We have some great things lined up for next year, here’s a little message from Shinkal Hamilton “It is that time when we start planning the Parent and Child Expo again. We have started on all the finer details and set a date!

Be sure to keep 28th May 2023 free to attend this event, bring all the family along too!

Keep up to date with all the details by following our Facebook page Palmy Parent & Child Expo.”

We would like to thank Rowena Dorn for temporarily taking on the Magazine Editor role, a position that we look forward to filling in the New Year.

Thank you to Tara Parkes, who has worked tirelessly behind the scenes, taking on numerous roles, without you our cogs would not be turning as well as they have been!

Lastly, thank you to our committee members, the help and support you have provided has not gone unnoticed, we appreciate you.

We are always on the look out for

potential new Committee Members who are interested in volunteering in some fabulous roles, supported by our awesome Committee. These roles include:

• Post-natal Seminar Coordinator

• Music & Movement Facilitator

• Magazine Editor

If you are interested or would like more information, please contact us by email info@palmyparentscentre. org.nz

Have a wonderful Christmas and a fabulous New Year!

Jessie & Palmy Parents Centre Team

Mission statement

Positive birth experiences and informed parenting in a community where parents are supported and highly valued in their role.

Disclaimer: Opinions and articles in this magazine do not necessarily reflect Parents Centre NZ policy. Advertising in this magazine does not imply endorsement by Parents Centre.

What’s On...

Santa’s Cave at Te Manawa

Saturday 3rd - 24th December 2022

Te Manawa, 326 Main St, Palmerston North Central, Palmerston North www.temanawa.co.nz/santas-cave/ Santa’s Cave is a much-loved Palmy institution, a favourite holiday treasure that’s been enchanting generations for more than 100 years! For some, it is a magical trip down memory lane. Others find its kitsch-factor totally endearing. There are those who even find it curiously creepy… but all agree, it wouldn’t be Christmas in Palmerston North without the Cave. Since 1918 its sparkle and joy has put a smile on the faces of thousands of visitors every year.

Santa’s Cave is open daily from 10am – 5pm (4pm Christmas Eve). Santa himself will be in attendance during mornings and afternoons on the timetable available on their website.

A Very Palmy ChristmasChristmas Concert

The Square, The Square, Palmerston North Saturday 3 December 2022 5:00pm –9:00pm

Price: FREE

Join Rodger Fox and Friends for a Christmas Concert in Te Marae o Hine – The Square. This is one for the whole family! Enjoy kid-friendly activities and check out some of the delicious food we’ll have available from 5pm onwards. The concert will kick off at 6pm, so make sure you’ve set up a picnic blanket or some fold out chairs in front of the stage by then! We’ll also be lighting the big Christmas tree at 9pm – so come and watch it light up the Square and officially kickstart the festive season!

A Very Palmy ChristmasChristmas Parade

The Square, The Square, Palmerston North Sunday 4 December 2022 2:00pm – 3:00pm

Price: FREE

Santa will be coming to Palmy! The parade will make its way around our city centre so come down and join the hundreds of people participating in this annual event.

New Years Eve In The Square 2022

The Square, The Square, Palmerston North Saturday 31 December 2022 6:00pm –12:30am

• “Kids” New Year Countdown and Fireworks at 9:30pm.

• Price: FREE

Bring in New Year 2023 with amazing entertainment and fireworks as Palmerston North hosts our first post covid spectacular New Year’s eve event. Mark your calendar now and do not miss the biggest celebration in the Manawatu region - family style. This year our firework display will go to the next level with our biggest display ever. Mark Hazlewood is again our MC for the night. Amy Hunt, will be leading the first part of the evening supported by a number of young performers and singers, specifically for families. There will be plenty of things to entertain your young kids to see and with our roving performers and jugglers and plenty of food and drink options provided by the region’s premier food trucks. Bring either cash or eftpos, for glow sticks and join us in lighting up the Square. Picnic blankets and low chairs are welcome. Please note that there will be laser and stroboscopic lighting effects as well as fireworks during the event. The Square is both an alcohol and smokefree zone and we ask you to respect this.

• Fire and Flare present their new Fire and dance show right before the “kids” New Year countdown and fireworks at 9:30pm

Kicking off the second half, “The Legendary Lost Icon’s band” will get the party started with some of the biggest songs from U2, Elton John, Whitesnake, Queen, Talking Heads, David Bowie and Pink. This thirteen piece band features a three-piece horn section and six singers supported by our finest regional musicians. For 2023 we have changed up our production and are confident you will be wowed by the stage, sound and lighting experience.

The evening ends with our fireworks at midnight to welcome in 2023 while our DJ will play music to its conclusion at 12.15

Proudly supported by the Palmerston North City Council, Central Energy Trust, Inspire Net, MDR Lighting and Scaffit.

www.eventfinda.co.nz/2022/new-yearseve-in-the-square-2023/palmerston-north

Tulip and Doug

Written by Emma Wood Illustrated by Carla Martell

Available at Bruce McKenzie Booksellers on George Street St for $22.99

Price: Available at Bruce McKenzie booksellers on George Street, Palmerston North, for $21.99

A relatable and heart-warming book with whimsical and brightly coloured illustrations. Tulip and Doug is a story written about an adventurous girl called Tulip and the nature of friendship she experiences with a slightly quirky friend Doug the Spud (a potato).

As Tulip’s friendship with Doug progresses, Tulip unexpectedly loses Doug. Tulip’s dad supports her through the course of her friendship, coming up with a name for her friend, noticing changes in Doug, and comforting Tulip when she loses her friend. Soon Tulip forms a new friendship with a boy and his rock, Susan. The story shows that friendships can be short-lived and new friendships formed, and that there is a friend out there for everyone if you can accept their differences or quirks.

This book would appeal to younger readers, parents, and educators as it portrays the journey relationships can take along the way, underlying messages of loss, and that friendships come in all shapes and sizes, imaginary and real.

THE GIFT OF EXPERIENCE!

By Rowena Dorn

Unsure what to buy? Need to buy for a child that “has everything” - or you just simply don’t want to spend money on a toy that might be hit & miss? Do you have a family member who perhaps wants to “get something different” or a few family members who are keen to put their funds together and get your child something a bit bigger this Christmas?

Why not give the gift of experience?! I myself have been guilty of feeling last minute Christmas panic and buying random, cheap stuff that frankly when I got to the wrapping stage I was a bit frazzled at myself for even spending (wasting?) the money on. This year, I am going to try something different - we are going to gift our girls some activities that can be enjoyed throughout the year to come. Below are a few local ideas that I’ve pulled together, which might not seem like much but when you can go to an activity - and know that it’s already been paid for, it makes all the difference!

MANAWATU TOY LIBRARY

The Manawatu Toy Library is exactly that, a library of toys - they have different membership options but it means that you can practice toy rotation, keep the engagement level up with “new toys” but also simply reduce the clutter at your own home and it’s much easier on the pocket.

manawatutl.mibase.co.nz/home/index.php

The Manawatu Toy Library is a not-for-profit charity organization that has been part of the community since 1976 - that’s 46 years! The Manawatu Toy Library is like a regular library but with toys instead of books. Our members pay a subscription and some of them volunteer, although this is NOT a requirement. We are an environmentally friendly, money saving, community building way to make sure you always have new and engaging toys for your whānau.

What do they offer?...

Shop our range of hand selected Stirling Silver, NZ Pounamu Greenstone, Pearls, Gold and Gemstone jewellery.

Our pieces are perfect for any occasion and make beautiful gifts for milestones, celebrations, baptisms, heirlooms collections and just because!

Palmerston North Parent Centre Members can enjoy 10% off storewide using the code PNPC10

• 3 week toy hire / including large/outdoor toys (plus renew option for additional 3 weeks)

• Access to more than 2,000 toys

• Kids Size Party Table and Chairs for hire (5 seats & table $10 or 8 seats & table $25)

• Cake Tins ($5 each for hire)

• Gift vouchers

CLOUD 9 TRAMPOLINE PARK

Our eldest was given a voucher for her 2nd birthday - and it was definitely money well spent! I think we got almost 5 sessions out of the card, take advantage of the preschool sessions that run from 9-11am MonFri and it just means that the little ones can safely enjoy the space.

The coffee is great and kids get a free fluffy and muffin! There is also a gated play area, plenty of seating, tables and storage for bags, prams etc. There are also change table facilities available.

https://www.cloud9palmy.co.nz/ https://checkout.roller.app/ cloud9recreation/products/giftcards#/ sessions

Something else to consider - is there a class or an activity that you would love to enroll in for next year? Booking the term in advance and then DIY your own gift voucher - this is also a great gift idea that grandparents or family can contribute too and perhaps they can also attend the class too!

MANAWATU GYMSPORTS:

Playgym Explorers is a casual class suited for 0-5 year olds and runs throughout the term at around $5 a class https://www.manawatugymsports.co.nz/ copy-of-recreation

ZEROGRAVITY CHEERLEADING

They offer Cheer Tots for 0-5 year olds plus more structured recreational classes for 2+ years https://zgcheer.co.nz/pages/classes

The options are endless really - Toddler Dance classes, Music Classes, Baby Swimming Classes.

When It’s Your Baby, Not You.

By Pinky McKay

‘Is he a good baby?”

Isn’t this the first thing every new mum is asked?

Followed by, ‘how does he sleep?’

Is it any wonder self-doubt sets in and you start to question, ‘am I screwing things up?’

The thing is, even normal baby behaviour such as sleeping and feeding is being pathologised – babies wake up, they cry, and their feeding is influenced by your individual baby’s appetite, stomach size and feeding ability. Babies each have their own developmental timelines and growth

patterns that will be influenced by genetics.

When there are any perceived problems, mothers feel blamed and judged. I have seen babies with feeding issues such as a tongue tie that is seriously affecting a baby’s ability to latch and feed effectively. This poor mum with an unsettled baby who has been swallowing air at every feed has been told, ‘you need to learn tired signs.’ Instead of getting the help she needs, because she isn’t being heard by the professional she has asked for help, the mother is questioning every aspect of her baby’s care, wondering what she is doing wrong.

On the other hand, there can be a baby who needs some help to fall asleep with cuddles, which is perfectly normal, and the mum is struggling with pressure to teach the baby to ‘self-settle’. This mum is also questioning what she is doing wrong.

My message to all mums is, please don’t let anybody ‘should on you’. You are the expert about your baby. If you want to try some new way of being with your baby, go through the checklist, ‘is it safe? Is it respectful? Does it feel right for us?’ And if you are concerned about anything to do with your baby, please don’t worry about being an over anxious parent. Get professional help and, if you don’t feel heard, get a second opinion. You are not screwing up your baby! When it is your baby, not you-

• I CAN’T GET MY BABY IN A ROUTINE –your baby can’t tell the time. They need to eat when they are hungry and they will sleep (mostly) when they are tired, just like you. So, take the pressure off, ditch the books with strict feeding schedules, watch your baby, not the clock and enjoy every delicious cuddle, whatever time your baby wants to feed, play, or sleep.

• MY BABY IS REFUSING TO BREASTFEED – if your newborn won’t feed, it’s most likely because they can’t, it’s not your fault. Get an expert to check their mouth, does he have a tongue tie, for instance? Would a different feeding position help them latch more easily? If they are older, are they teething and have sore gums? Could they have oral thrush that’s hurting their mouth? Or sore ears or a blocked nose that make coordinating sucking, swallowing, and breathing difficult?

If you are ever concerned about your baby’s feeding, call in an expert such as an IBCLC Lactation Consultant who will observe your baby feeding, take a history, and check what might be happening. And please don’t blame yourself, breastfeeding is natural but it’s also a learned skill for you and your baby.

For effective strategies to assess and boost your milk supply, download ourFREE ebook ‘Making More Mummy MIlk,Naturally’ by Pinky McKay, IBCLC Lactation Consultant.

• MY BABY WON’T SELF-SETTLE – this isn’t you, it’s your baby: most babies need help to relax, switch out stimulation and fall asleep. Enjoy the cuddles, relax and allow your baby to breastfeed to sleep if that helps them relax – there are amazing chemicals in your milk that encourage sleep.

You aren’t depriving your baby of an important skill, even though that is often implied. To put things into perspective, consider that even most adults have little rituals to help them fall asleep –your partner isn’t nudging you as you doze off all snuggled together saying, ‘get on your own side of the bed, we are creating bad habits.’

‘My baby doesn’t sleep all night – do you sleep all night without stirring at all? Getting up to pee? Drinking a sip of water? Baby sleep is a developmental process and, just like being able to crawl

or walk or grow teeth, readiness varies with individual babies. So, it’s not a reflection on you or your parenting skills whenever your baby manages to sleep ‘all night.’

‘All night’ in baby sleep studies is five hours, so if your baby sleeps 5 hours in a row (or ever has) you can answer anyone who asks, ‘yes, he’s a good baby, he sleeps all night.’ And if they are still ‘getting there’ (newborns have tiny tummies so need frequent feeds day and night in the early weeks), create a diversion. Tell them, ‘no he’s a bad baby, he’s already robbing banks!’ They will be so bamboozled they will forget to ask how your baby sleeps.

• I’M WORRIED I HAVE CREATED BAD HABITS – stop beating up on yourself, whatever you did weeks ago that you worry is now a ‘bad habit’ was exactly what your baby needed at the time. For instance, if your baby was uncomfortable due to reflux, so you needed to hold them upright after feeds or wear them

to help them settle to sleep, what was the alternative? A distressed baby?

Any time that some way of caring for your baby becomes unsustainable you can make changes, gradually with love,– without beating up on yourself that it’s ‘all your fault’.

A Mum of five and Grandmother, Pinky McKay is an IBCLC Lactation Consultant, TEDx speaker and best-selling author of Sleeping Like a Baby, Parenting By Heart, Toddler Tactics and 100 Ways to Calm the Crying. Check out Pinky’s books at her website www.pinkymckay.com

https://www.pinkymckay.com/when-itsyour-baby-not-you/

Open-ended, budget-friendly Christmas gifts (birth

– one+ year olds)

Open-ended play resources strip away boundaries and pressure to play in a certain way. When children engage in open-ended play, they are afforded opportunities to be creative, develop confidence, and engage their problemsolving skills. Through this, they discover a sense of self and an understanding of the world around them.

Open-ended play is empowering to the childit has no limits, often costs very little, and has endless benefits!

VARIOUS BALLS – differing sizes, textures, colours.

Benefits – building hand-eye coordination, grasping skills, fine motor skills, gross motor skills, muscle development, learning about balance and movement. Click the image above for an example.

ORGANZA SCARFS; RIBBON RINGS - light, soft, flowy fabrics.

Benefits – acting as a prompt for body movement, enhances focus, learning of object permanence, a sensory activity, can satisfy sucking need, encourages changes of movement – developing arm muscles and core strength. Click the images above for an example.

BUBBLES/BUBBLE MACHINE - hours of fun!

Benefits - add to the bath, pop on some music for a mini dance party, take outside on a walk. Aids visual tracking, can utilise to create a relaxing/calming vibe, is tactile fun. Click the image above for examples.

MUSICAL INSTRUMENTS – utilise boxes, spoons, pots etc from around the home.

Benefits – builds on sensory development, motor skills, body awareness, cognitive skills, cause and effect processes, learning about sound and musical concepts - rhythm, beat, intonation, tone etc Instruments to purchase. Click the image above for an example.

HEURISTIC PLAY OBJECTS – egg cup, wooden pegs, loofah, jar rings, doilies, trinket tray, wooden scoop etc

Benefits – developing independence, fostering creativity and problem-solving, deepening focus, developing strong links to home and nature – learning about their world, providing sensory exploration. Click the image above for an example.

KITCHEN PLAY OBJECTS – items from your home - bowls, wooden spoons, containers, colander, sieve, whisk etc

Benefits – developing recognition of everyday items, connecting with family/becoming involved with home-life tasks, transporting objects, engaging in problem-solving, learning life skills - mixing, banging, stacking, shaking etc, building on role-play scenarios

HOUSEHOLD ITEMS – wallets, business/eftpos cards, purse, small bags/handbags, containers etc Benefits – promotes independent play, creativity, problem-solving skills, understanding of everyday routines/processes, developing fine motor skills, building on future role play scenarios

BLOCKS; STACKING CUPS – differing materials (wooden, silicon), shapes, sizes, textures etc

Benefits – developing persistence, problemsolving skills, understanding shape, size, depth, width, height; learning concepts of gravity, stability, balance, weight etc Click on images to the left to see examples.

PADDLING POOL/WATER PLAY ITEMS –

utilising household items - cups, lids, bowls, balls, bubbles, food colouring, funnels etc

Benefits – cooling off in the warmer months, engaging in a sensory experience, exposure to water (extending into learning of water safety), understanding of lifting, pouring, splashing, control etc, and learning about concepts of heavy/light, full/empty, floating/sinking; can be a de-stressor - a soothing/calming experience

Remember to always keep water safety as your priority; always actively supervise children in water, even when it’s shallow. Never leave children alone with water. Click on image below for an example.

TUFF TRAY – ideal for messy play!

Benefits – super versatile - offers containment for many play opportunities, durable and easy to clean, contains messy play to one space, great for shallow water play and sensory activities,

doesn’t have an age limit, can use for many years, can be used individually or with a group of children. Click image below for an example.

Additional open-ended gift ideas - Books, Puzzles, Dolls, Vehicles – the options are endless!

*Be sure to monitor the safety of all play resources, in particular small, round, firm objects; Ensure items are not too small to act as a choking hazard, and diligently check that pieces don’t break into small parts

The Changing ‘Post-Baby’ Body

By Alex Cameron

Pre-children my life was so structured and organised. I would run or walk every morning, easily make it to a weights session at the gym three times a week, and always eat a super balanced well thought-out diet. However, since having a baby I now understand just how busy mum life really is and can fully understand just how easy it can be to go from happy and healthy to feeling like the clothes are just getting tighter and tighter.

I always prioritise exercising every day but the type and duration of my workouts depends a lot on how my 15 month old is that day, and my meals

are often rushed and thrown together with one hand while entertaining a toddler with the other.

I work with so many women who feel deflated with their bodies and are lacking confidence in themselves post-baby. It might be that they felt good initially after having kids, but over the years their clothes have got tighter and time spent thinking about themselves and their own health seems to have disappeared completely. Regardless of what number is shown on the scales, everyone deserves to feel confident and happy in their bodies. Whether it be dropping a couple of kilos, strengthening up and gaining muscle mass, or addressing the ongoing bloat that we deal with, putting yourself and your diet first is more than okand is important for your long term health.

A good place to start when it comes to confusion around why our clothes are gradually feeling tighter is awareness. We live in such a fast paced world and with little time spent focusing on ourselves comes a huge loss in awareness of what we are eating and drinking, how often we are moving, and even how many hours we are sleeping. Slowing down and taking a few seconds to pause before eating a food is a good way to gain some awareness- but here are a

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few other tips which we have found helpful for ourselves and other mums:

1. SNACKING ON KIDS FOOD

This one is such an easy habit to start and a hard one to break! When we make a toddler a piece of toast they usually only want a third of it and it seems like such a waste to throw it away- cue the extra snacks creeping into our diets. Whether it be a few spoonfuls of pasta as we prepare their dinner, a few spoons of the breakfast that you lovingly prepared and they didn’t touch, or a packet of your older kids chips when you head into the pantry hungry after work; it can add up to hundreds of calories across the day. I totally understand this and am no saint myself- it is so hard not to eat when we are seeing and handling food that we love and are tempted by multiple times across the day!

Some helpful suggestions:

- Try to buy and prepare flavours and kinds of food that you don’t really like and won’t be so tempted to eat. If you love banana bread and always cut off a slice for yourself when preparing it for the kids, could you

make them another great option that they love that you are less interested in?

- Mindset is an important one too- offering your child a food even when they only play with it and don’t eat it isn’t a waste. It’s a sensory experience and also helps them to become familiar with new smells, textures, and flavours so that they are less likely to be fussy later on in life. It’s just as much a waste if you eat the leftovers as if you throw them in the bin! If your body doesn’t need them and you don’t really want to be eating it then it’s better to throw it out.

- If you are starving when preparing the food then it’s going to be a lot harder to avoid mindless snacking. Make a cup of tea or a snack for yourself and if possible- give them some of your snack options as well (if they are at the appropriate age and stage).

If you are struggling with preparing their dinner at 5pm because this is when you are starving too- can you prepare it a few hours earlier or cook up a bulk lot of food in advance for the week for them? Make it easy on yourself.

2. BUSY LIFE MEANS LESS ACTIVITY

Despite chasing a toddler around all day, my overall activity level has dropped significantly in comparison to what I was doing pre-baby. I don’t always have the time that I would like to have for a decent walk or run and spend a lot of time sitting at my desk working when I get a spare moment in my day. With more children comes less time for ourselves with sitting in the car, at a desk, or on the couch. Carving out some time in your day and making it a priority to move your body is really important, not just for weight but for wellbeing. A 30 minute walk at the end of a day when all that we have done since waking is sit is a good start- but really isn’t enough! The human body is designed to move, so get up and get some steps in across the day and make it a priority to complete some form of movement every day. Taking a 20 minute walk after lunch or when you feel your afternoon energy slump hit will get your blood pumping and body moving and support your physical and mental wellbeing immensely.

3. WE ARE SURROUNDED BY NEW, DIFFERENT FOOD ALL THE TIME

Pre-children it was super easy to avoid buying sugary, high energy, or any convenience food really. But teenagers and older children have high energy needs and need the extra calories, and younger children love their little baked goods and finger foods. Thinking of food as “kids food” is a good way around this and choosing things that they like rather than your preferences is helpful too. If you know that you are an absolute sucker for salt and vinegar chips (a classic example of mine) then it might be easier to get the kids another option that you are less likely to be thinking about at 9pm at night as you watch your show on the couch!

Placing snacks and baking out of sight is incredibly helpful but also filling the pantry and fridge with options that you know are great for you and tempting as well for when you are strolling into the kitchen

ravenous at 3pm. It might surprise you as well that the kids may not necessarily want the sweet or packaged foods and when you start making options that are better for your own health, they give them a try and love them too. Some examples might be chopped veggies, homemade hummus, bliss balls (lots of recipes inside our members space) , “healthier” baking (try my carrot cake if you haven’t already!), vita wheat with cream cheese and tomato, mini veggie quiche, or smoothies packed with fruit and veg.

Alex Cameron is a NZ Registered Dietitian with a Masters Degree in Nutrition & Dietetics and has a Bachelor’s Degree in Human Nutrition and Foodservice Management.

Alex Cameron

NZRD, MDiet, BSc www.alexcameron.co.nz www.alexcameron.co.nz/single-post/thechanging-post-baby-body

Tamra’s Tips for Traveling with Toddlers

By Tamra Petterson

My husband and I recently had a holiday in the States, which is where I am from.

It is a long trip and one we’ve done before, but this time we had a 4-year-old and a 22-monthold.

Traveling internationally with children is a feat, but we survived! We learnt some tips that other parents might find useful for traveling, even if it’s within the country - and just in time for Christmas!

HAVE A POSITIVE MINDSET

Children are excellent at observing their parents, and I believe they can sense when we are stressed or not in a good mood. Try your best to look at any circumstance you find yourself in while you travel in a positive light and not to sweat the small stuff (I know this is easier said than done!).

Talk about your upcoming travel way in advance with your children. It not only prepares them mentally (depending on their age), but it also gives you the chance to talk about it in a positive way and to build some excitement about it for your child. This worked great for my 4-year-old, who was a total champ through all of our long flights. I know traveling for hours with small children is challenging, but going in with a good mindset and reminding yourself you will not be in the car or plane forever really does help!

REMEMBER YOUR ROLE.

As hard as it is, being a parent often means putting aside your wants and needs so that your children are taken care of. This is especially true when traveling. I sought out a friend of mine for advice before our trip since she had traveled to the States with her son multiple times, and she told me to remember that the flights weren’t about me.

My job was to help take care of my boys and make the flights as smooth as possible for them. I may not get to watch a movie or read my book on the plane, and I had to accept that and be prepared mentally for that. She was so right, and I found that advice really valuable while traveling. Sometimes I did get a wee break, and that was a bonus that I enjoyed. But it’s better to tackle the trip reminding yourself that your children are not out to make the trip miserable for you (though it may feel that way at times!)

They are just tiny humans who need your help to cope with the long drive or the flight or the hard things we all have to deal with when going a long distance. Be patient, and if your child is a bit older, ask them what will make things easier for them ahead of time. You might be surprised at what little things can make them feel better.

BUY A FEW NEW TOYS/ACTIVITIES

I am a penny pincher, so I do not like spending unnecessary money on something I’m not sure will be used frequently. But you don’t have to spend a lot of money for your child to be mesmerized and entertained by something because just the fact that it’s new is exciting enough!

We bought things such as new stickers/sticker books, a Hot Wheels car, and at one point it was even a McDonalds happy meal toy that they got when we had to stop for lunch that excited them and kept them happy for a few hours. Sometimes it is hard to know what will work for your child and keep them entertained for ages and what will be used for 10 minutes, but you know your child and their interests better than anyone! Grab something small and present it to them at the last possible minute before traveling time for the best effect.

LESS IS MORE

Packing light is challenging when traveling with children, but I advise you to try to! We were overseas for a little over 4 weeks, but I only brought about 3 outfits, two jerseys, a rain coat, one pair of pajamas and two different pairs of shoes for each boy in addition to things like bibs, nappies, wipes, socks and undies. No matter where you’re going, you can usually wash clothes if needed, or you have the option of buying things. We’re fortunate that with our boys, we didn’t have to bring bottles or special feeding items, but I did pack them each a bowl/plate and utensils in case we went somewhere that didn’t have those.

We also decided against checking in a porta cot and a big stroller as it was just too much to push around at the airport. We ended up checking in a bag for me, a bag for my husband, and a bag for the boys to share, and a car seat for each of them. Then my husband, my 4-yearold and me all had a backpack to carry on, and I had a purse and a travel size pram. We were fortunate enough to have my mom buy a porta cot from a second-hand shop in the States,

and we used that during our whole time there and then planned to donate it before we flew back. She also bought a highchair as well and donated that after we left.

There will always be what-if scenarios, and if packing those kinds of items makes you feel at ease, go for it! But when flying, every bit of weight counts, so try to be practical with your packing, such as packing tops that can go with more than one bottom and can also be used as an undershirt for layering if it’s colder than expected. And only bring your child’s favorite teddy, book, and toy. We all know our children would have us bring everything in their room if we let them, but pick several items you know they love and play with regularly and then have them choose a few things from that pile of what they would like to bring.

INVEST IN THINGS THAT MAKE LIFE EASIER FOR YOU WHILE TRAVELING

Traveling with children is a stressful event, and you do not want to be stressed and overwhelmed and arguing with your spouse again when on the trip if it could be avoided by spending some money on a handy item. Some things you might be able to borrow from a friend, like we did!

THESE ARE MY RECOMMENDED ITEMS THAT I FOUND LIFESAVING WHILE FLYING WITH KIDS:

• An iPad (or similar tablet): I’ll mention later how much we used iPads on our trip, and it was a lot! They are pricey if you don’t already have one like we did, but even having some other form of digital technology that your child likes can be a worthy investment if you’re going to travel a lot.

• Child sized headphones: We bought some that you can get from the Warehouse. Having these ones for the boys that stayed on their head meant they could hear their entertainment well. The headphones on planes are never great quality, and they often fall out of kids’ ears, so these were a great investment for us, and the boys used them so much while we traveled.

• A portable change mat: I found one at Kmart, and it was such a handy thing for us! It has a clip, so I had it on the outside of our backpack when we were flying and in the airport. I could fit some wipes, a few

nappies, and some bum cream in it. This meant that I could just grab this when my younger one needed a nappy change, and I didn’t have to stressfully search for these things on the plane.

• A foldable pram like the Mountain Buggy Nano: We were very fortunate to have a friend who loaned us this pram while we traveled, and it was amazing! It was so small when it folded up, and it was good to have it in the airport when the boys were tired of walking and when my little one needed a sleep. Most of the time we could check this in at the gate or take it on the plane with us.

• A sleep aid: I did my research about using sleep aids, and everyone has differing opinions about giving your children medication to help them sleep on a plane or while traveling. After much research, I settled on giving them Kiwiherb’s Kids Calm since it is natural. I’m not sure if it really helped, but I gave it to my boys before the big flight there and back, and my older son slept for 8 hours! It isn’t cheap, but I was glad I had it, and it just gave me some peace of mind to know I had an option to help them sleep if they had really bad jet lag. The best thing was it came in a small bottle that I could put in the carry on. I also recommend having some Pamol on hand, especially if you are flying. My youngest ended up cutting a molar the day we were flying out to the States, so I was so grateful for my 100ml bottle of pain relief.

BE FLEXIBLE

When you’re traveling, your children are out of their normal routine. If you’re a scheduler like me, it can be hard to not strictly follow their normal routine of when to have meals, when to snack, and when they go down for naps or bedtime. But if following everything to a T is going to limit your time with friends/ family or if it makes things more stressful, then try and be more easy-going. Remember, this is not forever, and your family wants to enjoy the holiday and have fun. They may have more snacks than normal or go to bed late, but they will be making memories that will last a lifetime!

I encourage you too, with the fact that even if your children are not great at sleeping in various environments, they WILL eventually

sleep! My 22-month-old is an amazing sleeper... in the cot. He has never slept long stints in the car or in a front pack or on me and my husband, so I was a bit nervous about how he would sleep during the flights since he was on our lap. But he did sleep a bit on the plane, in the pram at the airport, and he also slept on me in the front pack while going through security! And both of my boys had several naps in the car while we were in the States because we did a lot of longer drives than they are used to, and I couldn’t believe how well they adapted. Just remember, they have to sleep at some point, so do your best and go with it!

TECHNOLOGY IS YOUR FRIEND

Everyone may not agree with me on this last tip, but our iPads made our lives 100% easier when traveling long distance. At home, we try to limit screen time, but we didn’t while traveling. We’re fortunate enough to have two iPads due to my husband’s work, so they each had one. My husband had downloaded multiple episodes of their favorite shows and a few movies, and we already had some of their favorite games and apps too, though we had to have a Wi-Fi connection for some of those. They used iPads on the flights, in the airports, and in the car when we were driving for hours at a time across different states. It often wasn’t the first thing we went to when the boys were bored or having a hard time, but I hate to think how much harder the trip would have been if we hadn’t had them. It was the quickest and easiest way to make everyone happier! I think the main thing is to be on the same page as your partner about screen time, so it might be a good idea to have a chat with each other about what you’re comfortable with ahead of time. This will help deter any technology related arguments.

These are the main things I found to be helpful for us on our big trip. No matter if you are traveling out of the country or just a few hours away this summer, I hope that some of these tips are helpful for you and your family and that you have an amazing time traveling and making memories together! xx

SUNSCREEN REVIEWS

By Ella Diprose

We have had some hot days already this summer and you will have likely had to use sunscreen already on your kids and family. There are so many sunscreens available for the family and figuring out which one is best to try can be confusing and sometimes overwhelming. Our committee have reviewed the sunscreens they currently use on their own babies and kids and have provided some honest and frank reviews to help you choose the best sunscreen for your situation. We have also provided information on which sunscreens are consumer tested and meet their SPF claims.

Skinnies Kids

SPF 50+ | Water Resistant: 2 Hours 100ml for $46.99 direct from www.skinnies.co.nz - but a quick google and you’ll usually find it on special somewhere!

Pros: This sunblock is suitable for tamariki from 3 months+ so great for delicate pēpi skin as it has “no nasties”.

It’s a waterless gel so it goes a looong way- they’re not lying when they say a tiny pea size blob is all you need for your face, neck & ears and it doesn’t sting your eyes. It smells amazing and leaves your skin feeling great, rather than greasy!

It’s a trustworthy brand. Skinnies is an NZ company and has a range of products for adults too - their Skinnies Sungel SPF30 was chosen by Consumer NZ to be tested- it was one of only 8 (out of 21) sunblocks that met their SPF claims.

Cons: It can stain white clothing, so put on the sunblock before putting on your Christmas Day outfit!

The cost is high but while it’s expensive, it truly does last a long time because it’s not water based & suitable for our pēpi so worth it!

Cancer society kids pure sun lotion

SPF 50+ | Water Resistant: 4 hours

This sunscreen was one of the few sunscreens reviewed and tested by Consumer NZ that met its SPF claim and met its broad spectrum claim. It provides high sun protection and is a very affordable option for a family sunscreen. Extra benefits include : Colour, fragrance & paraben free, Aloe Vera, Chamomile, Allantoin, Glycerin for skin moisturizing & soothing, Vitamin E and antioxidant that protects and repairs your skin.

Cetaphil Sun Kids

SPF 50+ | Water Resistant: 4 hours

This sunscreen was another one of the few sunscreens reviewed and tested by Consumer NZ that met its SPF claim and met its broad spectrum claim. It provides high sun protection although it is a more expensive sunscreen. It is only suitable for infants over 1 years, so better for older babies.

Invisible Zinc Junior

SPF 50+ | Water resistant: 2 hours

We love Invisible Zinc! When Mackenzie was young she would react to sun screens, she would get horrible sore red patches on her face that were almost like burns. I did a lot of research and discovered this one would be good to try and it’s great.

It is very thick but goes a long way and stays on well.

I love that I’m not putting chemicals on the kids that are absorbed into their skin! The Junior sunscreen is a low irritant formula suitable for children and infants over 6 months of age.

Smart 365

SPF 50+ | Water Resistant 4 hours

250ml bottle $10 (push lid makes this one great for in the car/ nappy bag), 500ml pump bottle $14, 75ml Roll on $6 and 1L pump bottle- $18 Pros: This sunblock is CHEAP! It’s $18 for 1L pump bottle (also available in 2 smaller bottles, and as a roll on). The roll on is fab to allow your strong independent toddler the opportunity to put their own sunblock on… with a lot less mess than a bottle!! As far as sunblocks go, it doesn’t leave you feeling super greasy. It’s trustworthy; this sunblock was tested by Consumer NZ- it was one of only 8 (out of 21) sunblocks that met their SPF claims. It’s made in Aussie, for The Warehouse NZ and supports New Zealand . It’s high SPF & water resistance, plus cost makes this amazing value for money, and a great sunblock for whānau. Cons… I can’t recall if this stains, the only thing I can think of is that it doesn’t smell as amazing as our Skinnies sunblock! Oh and because of it’s affordability & reliability it’s highly sought after, so it is often sold out- so check online before you go in store & tell your friends when it comes in stock!

Hire a TENS MACHINE

Hire a Transcutaneous Electrical Nerve Stimulation (TENS) machine to help reduce your pain during labour and childbirth. Palmerston North Parents Centre (PNPC) have 5 TENS machines available to hire with reduced hire rates for PNPC members.

Only $30 for up to 4 weeks of hire (plus a $40.00 refundable bond) for PNPC members. $50 for up to 4 weeks of hire (plus a $40.00 refundable bond) for non members. We recommend that you book a machine for the two weeks prior to your due date until two weeks post due date.

Book your TENS machine from Palmerston North Parents Centre by emailing us at info@palmyparentscentre.org.nz Please pay in cash and full terms and conditions will be provided upon inquiry. Note : TENS pads are reusable, however you can purchase new TENS pads for $40 if you wish.

www.palmyparentscentre.org.nz

White Dough Christmas Ornaments

By Erin Evis

This is a lovely alternative to normal salt dough, and doesn’t quite seem to dry your hands as much! The texture is smooth and the colour is white, so you can either leave as is or paint it easily without worrying too much about base coats.

INGREDIENTS

• 1 Cup baking soda

• ½ Cup Cornflour

• ¾ Cup warm water

DIRECTIONS:

1. Mix together the baking soda and cornflour in a small saucepan 2. Add warm water

3. Stir gently over a low-medium heat until it comes together nicely to form a thick dough, with bubbles coming through it

4. Take off the stove

5. Sit on a heat proof mat (a wooden chopping board works well)

6. Knead a few times once it’s cool enough to do so comfortably

7. Roll into balls and shape how you desire - try making stars and other shapes with cookie cutters, use it like play dough to make your own less perfect creations, roll into a ball then flatten with a baby hand to make the perfect gift for family members… if you want to hang them on the tree, use a skewer to poke reasonable sized holes in the top ready for threading cotton or wool through.

8. To dry, either bake on a low heat (70-80C) for 1.5-2 hours OR leave somewhere sheltered but warm, in the sun, to dry naturally (be careful not to let dust or tree debris drop on it if you’re leaving it outside!).

9. Paint with standard acrylic or water-based paints when dry, and decorate with sequins, glitter, or whatever else takes your fancy.

Playing with Your Child: Games for Connection and Emotional Intelligence

From Aha Parenting

All day, every day, children have to manage complicated feelings: Fear (What if there IS something under the bed?), Jealousy (Maybe you do love their sibling more!), Humiliation (The teacher acted like he should already know that, and all the kids laughed!), Panic (What if she doesn’t make it to the bathroom on time?), Anger (It was my turn!), Disappointment (Doesn’t anyone care what I want?!).... The normal challenges of every day for a growing child of any age stimulate all kinds of feelings. Children release these emotions through play. Laughter, specifically, transforms our body chemistry by reducing stress hormones and increasing bonding hormones.

Kids are more physical than adults. When they get wound up emotionally, their bodies need to discharge all that energy. That’s one of the reasons they have so

much more energy than we do, so they wear us out.

But we can use this to our advantage, because when we play physical games with children, they giggle and sweat and scream -- and they release the same pent-up stress hormones that they’d otherwise have to tantrum to discharge. Playing is also how kids learn, so when you “teach” an emotional lesson by playing, your child really gets it. Best of all, playing helps parents and kids feel closer.

HERE ARE SOME IDEAS...

When your child is annoying, or in your face.

“Are you out of hugs again? Let’s do something about that!” Grab your child and give them a LONG hug -- as long as you can. Don’t loosen your grip until

they begin to squirm and then don’t let go immediately. Hug harder and say “I LOVE hugging you! I never want to let go. Promise I can hug you again soon?” Then let go and connect with a big, warm smile, and say “Thank you! I needed that!”

A more intensive version, for when a child has a new sibling, or you’ve been doing a lot of disciplining.

Convince your child on a very deep level that you LOVE them by chasing them, hugging, kissing, then letting them get away and repeating -- again and again.

“I need my Michael....You can’t get away...I have to hug you and cover you with kisses....oh, no, you got away...I’m coming after you....I just have to kiss you more and hug you more....You’re too fast for me....But I’ll never give up...I love you too much...I got you....Now I’ll kiss your toes....Oh, no, you’re too strong for me...But I will always want more Michael hugs....”

This is my favorite game, guaranteed to transform your child’s doubt about whether they’re truly loved (and any child who is “misbehaving” harbors that doubt). (I call this the Fix game because it fixes whatever’s wrong. From a parent: “I’m kind of shocked how much my son is loving the Fix game!? I don’t think I’ve ever heard my son say, “Let’s do it again!” so many times :)”

A stepped-up version involving both parents.

Fight over your child (jokingly), vying to see who can snatch them up and hug them. “I want him!’ No, I want him!” “But I NEED him so much!” No, I need him! You ALWAYS get him!”

When your child is grumpy. “You seem to be in a NO mood. I have an idea. I want to hear you say NO as much

as you want. I will say YES, and you can answer NO in the same tone of voice. So when I say YES in this low voice, you say NO in a low voice. When I say YES in this squeaky voice, you say NO in this squeaky voice. Okay?”

To a child who is getting over-excited or too revved up:

“You have so much energy right now. What can we do with all this energy? Do you want to spin around? Come over here (or outside) with me where it’s safe to spin around, and I’ll spot you.”

Find a safe place where no other kids or parents are there to further stimulate them, and let them spin around, or jump up and down, or run in circles around you -- whatever they choose. When they drop in exhaustion, snuggle them and say, “It’s so much fun to be excited. But sometimes you get over-excited and you need a little help to calm down. Now, let’s take three deep breaths to relax. In through the nose, out through the mouth. 1.....2......3......Good! Do you feel a little calmer? It’s good to know how to calm yourself down. Now, let’s go snuggle by ourselves and read a book for a bit.”

When you and your child seem to be having a lot of power struggles.

Give your child the chance to be the more powerful one and to outsmart and over power a terrible monster -- You! Swagger and strut and roar at your child about how you will catch them and show them who’s boss....but when you chase them, always trip and bumble and let them outsmart you or over-power you and get away. Give them a remote and pretend they can make you stop, start, move forward and backward. When they highfive you, pretend they almost knocked you over. Another version of this is giving your child a feather, or a pillow, to hit you with. Every time they hit you, fall

over! Repeat as long as they’re giggling. Acknowledge your child’s formidable power: “You are so strong! You pushed me right over!”

When your child is cheating at a game. Say “Looks like we have new rules now.... But how come you always win?!...I hate losing!” Overdo your role as the “sore loser” so that your child gets to laugh at you.

When your child is super-clingy or has been experiencing separation anxiety.

Cling to your child, being superexaggerated and silly. “I know you want me to let go so you can go play, but I NEED you! I only want to be with you. PLEASE be with me now?” Keep holding your child’s hand or clinging to their clothes. They will like the feeling that THEY are the one in charge of letting go, rather than feeling pushed away. If you act silly enough, they will also giggle and let off some of the tension around goodbyes. When they definitively push you away, say, “It’s ok. I know you will come back. We always come back to each other.”

When your child goes through a stage of only wanting Mommy (or Daddy).

Let the preferred parent sit on the couch. Get between your child and that parent, and boast

“You can’t get to Mommy! You are all mine! Only I get to be with you! I will keep you from getting to Mommy!”

As they try to get to Mommy, grab at them, but bumble and be unsuccessful. When they reach Mommy, she laughs, cheers, hugs them and then lets them go. You lament that they got through, but continue to boast and challenge them and try to grab thrm. Exaggerate your boasting. “You can’t push around me to get to Mommy!” and then bumble

and let them push past you. They should giggle and giggle, which means that they are releasing their fears and anxieties. https://www.ahaparenting.com/

WHANGANUI

By Stephanie Harrod

If you are looking for a fun, affordable day out, look no further than Whanganui. The scenic drive from Palmy is just under an hour, which can be broken up by a quick caffeine break in Bulls (try Coffee on the Moove) or a stop in Sanson to try a cream horn at Viv’s kitchen!

There is SO much to do in Whanganui. From feeding the ducks at Victoria lake, tram rides in the CBD, to cruising the river, or relaxing at Kai Iwi beach - you will not run out of things to do and see. Here are a few of my fave things to do with our whānau when visiting the river city:

KOWHAI PARK: Nestled along the river, you’ll find Kowhai Park. This is such an amazing park to explore and it’s completely free! There is some themed play equipment, including an octopus, dinosaur, and even Fred Flintstone. As it is right beside the river, there are plenty of little accessible walks, suitable for little legs. In the summer months, there is a small splash pad for some fun water play! There is also an amusement park, Riverland family park, located at Kowhai Park which has karts, mini golf and more! This is paid and ranges from $7-$35 depending on your chosen activity.

MINT CAFE: A delicious cafe restaurant, with good vibes, great cocktail list and a playground. That’s right. A PLAYGROUND. You can enjoy a really reasonably priced meal and drink, or even just a coffee whilst your little ones are entertained on a safe, enclosed playground visible from your table. Absolute gem of a place, with very friendly staff. You’re welcome. Durie Hill Elevator and Echo Tunnel: This is such an underrated destination. It cost $2 per adult to go on the elevator

which takes you to the echo tunnel. Our kids absolutely loved the tunnel, and making all sorts of different (loud) noises and hearing them echo down the 400(ish)m tunnel. The elevator ride was short but entertaining for the kids, interesting for the adults and the guide/operator was very knowledgeable and enthusiastic. After your elevator ride, you can climb the spiral staircase to the viewing platform which has stunning views of the Whanganui river. The staircase is quite steep and a bit open so take care if going up with little ones.

BIKE PARK:

Just beside the Whanganui Splash Centre, there is a bike park for the littlies to safely learn the road rules and practice their riding skills. There’s roadmarking, roundabouts, and even a car wash for fun safe riding! There is a small pump track suitable for older children beside it too however it is slightly run down so be mindful of a few ‘potholes’ around the track. Make a day of it, or better yet a weekend away to enjoy everything Whanganui has to offer.

Abby Quinn Household Congratulates

COMMUNITY SUPPORT GROUPS

Across Te Kotahitanga O Te Wairua

We can provide a range of social services which include: Counselling, Family support (including respite care for children), Parenting advice/information and programmes, Advice on other services available for parents and families.

Contact: Graeme on (06) 356 7486 or visit www. across.org.nz

Allergy New Zealand

Support groups are a great way to meet others in a similar situation to you. They are very relaxed, informal sessions to share ideas, discuss your concerns, and get information and resources. Our regional support group is there to help put you in contact with others, to provide you with information such as those all important recipes, and to listen when you need someone to talk to. They are not medically qualified but can refer your queries on and seek information on your behalf. For further information phone 0800 34 0800 or visit www.allergy.org.nz

Babywearers Manawatu

This is a great way to try different carriers while finding a carrier that suits you and your baby. Babywearers Manawatu Sling Library is on most Wednesdays 12 pm - 1 pm (check FB for up to date info) at Palmerston North Parents Centre, 30 Waldegrave Street, Palmerston North. Membership is one off payment of $10 and carrier hire costs $5 for one week.https://www.facebook.com/groups/ babywearersmanawatu/

Brain Injury Association Central Districts

We provide advocacy information and support for people with brain injury, their families, whanau and carers. For more information call (06) 354 3540.

Breastfeeding Help

An IBCLC (often called lactation consultant) is a breastfeeding specialist qualified to prevent, recognise, and resolve breastfeeding problems. All members of NZCLA hold the professional qualification of International Board Certified Lactation Consultant (IBCLC). Any mother, family member or health professional interested in obtaining the contact details of an IBCLC can phone 0800 4 LACTATION (0800 452 282) during daytime hours.

HOPE

An opportunity for parents of premature babies to meet and chat and to offer hope and support to those who currently have babies in the Neo-Natal Unit. Graduates welcome. Held at: Plunket Family Centre, 42 Albert Street, Palmerston North. Monday 1pm – 2.30pm. Contact: Karlyn Sullivan-Jones (06) 353 0663 or karlynandmark@xnet.co.nz

Itchy Kids

A national support group for parents and whanau who care for children with eczema and allergies.

For more information contact Sarah Hartley 027 333 7385 or email hartleyfamilynz@gmail.com or visit itchykids.org.nz

Manawatu Toy Library

Now located at 200 Church Street, Palmerston North, this fabulous toy library has a collection of over 2000 toys. Our members include families, carers, and educational groups. We have toys suitable for babies 5+ months through to school age children. Membership costs $95 per annum or $60 for six months. You are welcome to visit to see what we offer. To find out more, including opening hours: manawatutoylibrary.nz, or call 027 364 6911.

Manawatu Down Syndrome Association

Regional contact is Andrea Wales (06) 356 1767.

Manawatu Home Birth Association

Offering information, advice and support to women and their families seeking to birth their babies at home. Birth pools and other equipment available for hire. Library, sibling kits, and bimonthly newsletters also available. Call (06) 356 BABY (06 356 2229) for more information.

Manline

Manline services are unique in that we are the only “men helping men” organisation in the Manawatu and Tararua region offering services for men to explore issues within their lives. Our programs are designed to be educational, developmental, rehabilitative, and preventative. http://www. manline.co.nz/home or 06 358 1211

Miscarriage Support

Miscarriage can be a very lonely experience and is often not talked about. Miscarriage support groups have produced quality information and pamphlets for women/couples who may need information and support. These invaluable resources can be downloaded from miscarriage.org.nz

Methodist Social Services

Offering free programmes for primary/intermediate aged children and their parents/caregivers, around the areas of anger management, grief loss and change, and confidence building. We also offer family, couple, and individual counselling, and have both male and female counsellors available. Advocacy and social work support services are provided along with an emergency food service. For all enquiries, please call 06 350 0307, 663 Main Street, Palmerston North.

Palmerston North Breastfeeding support group

We provide a relaxed place to come and ask questions about breastfeeding and parenting , we hold regular meeting on the first Monday of the month at Palmy Parents Centre, Ruahine St, 10am. We have a library with a wide range of books relating to breastfeeding and parenting. www.lalecheleague.org.nz/palmerstonnorth or www.facebook.com/PNbreastfeedingsupport/

Parent to Parent

Supporting families of children with a special need, health impairment, or disability. For more information please phone (06) 355 0787or email manawatu@parent2parent.org.nz

Parentline 24 Hour Crisis Line. Offering help and support for parents 24 hours a day. Phone 0800 4 FAMILY.

Plunket Education Services

For parent education classes please contact the Plunket family centre in Albert Street, Palmerston North, (06) 356 7248 for more information regarding classes in 2016.

Reflux Support

Contact: Sharon 354 7280

Sands

A voluntary group who have lost babies before, during or after birth. They can provide first hand support, guidance, and information on miscarriage, stillbirth, or newborn death. Further information and support can be found by contacting Shaun and Gaylene Vivian (06) 356 9715 or visiting sands.org.nz

Supergrans Manawatu Charitable Trust

Supergrans Manawatu is all about helping people help themselves. A service to all to brush up on the basic skills needed to provide for oneself or for a family. Our motto is not a ‘do it for you today’ it is a ‘help you to do it tomorrow’ concept. This is a free service. It is concerned with encouraging better skills in those everyday tasks around the home that sustain life. We work with you in your own home. Phone (06) 354 3804 or 021 0669 442 for further information.

MEMBER DISCOUNTS

GRANT IRVINE PHARMACY

FREE! Address labels with any birth announcement, thank you cards

168 Albert Street, Palmerston North Ph: 06 357 8782

Link Arcade, Broadway Avenue

Palmerston North Ph: 06 358 1309

Contact palmyparent@hotmail.com

Ground Floor, TSB Building 12-19, Fitzherbert Ave, Palmerston North 06 358 8549

10% off for all massages over $40 to PC members

Receive a free tea or coffee with the purchase of food. 95 the Square, Palmerston North

PLAYGROUPS IN YOUR AREA

Plunket Family Centre Playgroup 42 Albert Street 021-808-340 Mondays & Fridays 10am to 12noon

ASHHURST

Ashhurst Playcentre 118 Standford Street 326 9270 Mon to Thurs 9am - 12pm

AWAPUNI/WESTEND

Kingston St Chapel Kingston St 358 0716 Tues & Thurs 9am- 11:30am Palmy Playgroup Awapuni Community Centre, 22 Newbury St Tues & Fri 9.30am to 11.30am

Facebook: Palmy Playgroup Please bring your own morning tea and a donation of $2 per child.

CENTRAL

Crossroads Early Childhood 220 Church St 358 0669 Mon to Fri 9am to 12noon Salvation Army cnr Church & Princess Sts 358 7455 Thurs 9:30am to 11am Rudolf Steiner 187 Ruahine St 354 4514 Tues 9:30am - 12noon & Thu 2pm -3:30pm

Seventh Day Adventist Church 257 Ferguson St Wed 9:30 to 11:00am Playgroup with Hope 282 Cuba Street (opposite Briscoes) Tuesday 9.30-11.30am Contact: Heather 027 334 9981 playgroup@hopevineyard.nz

FEILDING

Feilding Playcentre 254A Kimbolton Rd 323 6100 Mon to Fri 9am to 1pm

Community Fielding Playcentre 42 North St 323 1918 Mon to Fri 9am to 1pm Doodlebugs Knox Hall, North St 323 7240 Thurs 9am to 11:30am SPACE 22 Bowen St 323 7221 Contact for more details Bright Sparks Preschool Programme Feilding Library 323 5373 Wed 10:30am to 11:30am

HIGHBURY

Te Aroha Noa Community Services 12-32 Brentwood Ave 358 2255 Fri 8:30am to 12noon

HOKOWHITU

St Albans Church 339 Albert St 357 9411 Wed 9:30am to 10:30am Park Road Playcentre Huia St extn 357 0791 Mon, Tues, Thurs & Fri 9am - 12noon

LINTON

Linton Playgroup Linton Camp (Community Centre) 3519970 Mon & Wed 9am to 11:30am

MILSON

Milson Playcentre 1a Seaforth Ave 356 9824 Mon, Wed & Fri 9am-12noon

OPIKI

Opiki Playgroup St Andrews Church, Main Road Tues 10am to 12noon

ROSLYN/KELVIN GROVE

Kelvin Grove Salvation Army 99-103 Kaimanawa St 353 0917 Wed 9:30am to 11:30am Church on Vogel 127 Vogel St 357 7336 Wed 9:30am to 12noon Plunket Roslyn Over 1’s Coffee Group 177 Vogel Street 021-808-340 Wednesdays 9.30am to 11am

RONGOTEA

Te Kawau Playcentre Medway St 324 8246 Mon to Thurs 9:15am to 12:15pm, Fri 11:45am to 2:45pm

SANSON

Sanson Playcentre 2 Philipps St 329 3503 Tues and Fri 9am to 12noon

TERRACE END

St David‘s Presbyterian Church Cnr Main & Rainforth 358 3246 Tues 10:00am to 11:30am Terrace End Playcentre 77 Ruamahanga Cres 0221400610 Wed, Thu, Fri 9.30am to 12.30 school term

SPECIALIST GROUPS

La Leche League 355 3104

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Manawatu Multiple Birth Club Kingston St Church 357 9773 Every 2nd Wed,10am

Parent 2 Parent Special Needs Matipo St 355 0787 1st and 3rd Tues each month, 1-3pm ABCD early intervention group 9 Woburn Place 0800 693 724 Once a month on Thurs 10am to 12noon - Down Syndrome

French for Preschoolers 1st floor, 47 the Square 021 207 0114 Fri 3.30pm to 4.30pm

Spanish Class – 2 yrs and up 355 8257 Contact for further details

Plunket Bhutanese Playgroup 25 Franklin Ave 3574844 Mon 12.30 – 2.30pm

Book Bubs baby book club PN Library Thursday 10.30 – 11 am fortnightly.