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Mr. Mid-Atlantic Leather His local connection

Have Some Faith

A guide to local churches that welcome all

Black Gay Pittsburgh A continuing series

When Your Spouse Comes Out It’s more common than you think

Pittsburgh Welcomes

CHER Local gypsies, tramps, and queens Cher their thoughts on the icon.

CONTRIBUTORS & THANK YOU’S

G. Michael Beigay is a freelance photographer and special education professional for Allegheny Intermediate Unit. His photography has provided educational tools to aid students with cognitive disabilities. He also has worked with a media specialist at his LGBT-friendly church to develop various multi-media productions.

Michael has shot for Cue, Whirl, and now Equal.

He is one of the hosts for G2H2 and also the main photographer.

Mike Buzzelli is a standup comedian and author. His book, Below Average Genius, a collection of humor pieces culled from his weekly humor column at the ObserverReporter newspaper, is available at Amazon.com.

Chrissy Costa is a standup comedian, actress and freelance writer. She studied sketch comedy at Chicago’s famed Second City. Her work has been featured in several local LGBT publications and you may recognize her from her column, “Last Woman Standing”.

She’s a fan of activism, big earrings and causing an awkward silence.

Philip Ezzo, one of the tallest men in Pittsburgh, is currently a pastry cook at the Duquesne Club downtown. He has been a writer and columnist in LGBT publications for over four years. He is known for his sense of humor and charming personality. In his spare time Philip is a chapter leader with Gay for Good, Pittsburgh chapter, where he is an outreach coordinator.

Mara Rago specializes in portraits, fine art, pets, events, model portfolios, legal, and corporate photography. She has a studio in the East End of Pittsburgh and shoots instudio as well as on location. Photography is Mara’s life. It’s a passion. Capturing visions in her little black box is a gift and, every day, she is grateful.

Jay P. Obertance is a food,

Stacey Federoff is a Sutersville, PA native, Penn State alumna, and reporter living in Park Place near Regent Square. She has written for The Daily Collegian, The Chautauquan Daily, and Trib Total Media. She loves music, vinyl records, coffee, running, and volunteerism.

Jonathan Fobear is a native of Cass City, MI. For 12 years he has been an art director branding nonprofits, corporations, destinations, and city festivals. He has worked with clients as big as The Dept of Agriculture and NASA and as small as his mom & dad. Jonathan has presented branding workshops both in Pennsylvania and New York and currently resides in Pittsburgh’s South Side.

quality, and entertainment addict; a gourmand/chef with a passion for fine dining and a love of company to

enjoy and share it with. As his motto goes, “Life is too short to eat mediocre food.”

Guest contributors: Morgan Armstead John Britt Joe Corcoran Jason Herring Greg Miller Rick Sicilio Joseph B. Smith Masha Vereshchenko

Cover photo by Mara Rago Cover Models: Veruca la’Piranha and Blade Mathews Special thanks to Spotlight Costumes

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WITH LOVE

Dear Friends Welcome to our March issue of Equal Magazine. This month we pay tribute to Cher, a living legend who arrives for yet another farewell tour on April 2 at the Consol Energy Center.

While we tried to score an interview with the gay icon prior to her appearance, we were told, “Are you serious? I’m Cher! I don’t do interviews. Snap out of it!” JUST KIDDING! Instead, we reached out to several of our community’s prominent drag queens and asked them to “Cher” with us a few of their favorite looks and inspirations drawn from the living icon. Check out the “Cher-brushed” spread on page 40.

We also welcome the opportunity to share a story on page 18 from an area straight family who found strength and support when one of the partners decided to come out of the closet.

Our on-going series, “Black, Gay & Pittsburgh” continues with a different perspective, as a local lesbian reflects on our community and her personal experiences on page 26.

Many will soon be celebrating Easter and we have compiled an extensive list of LGBTfriendly places of worship that welcome our diverse families and draw on the strength of our community. Check out the full list on page 32 to find one near you.

If you are looking to spice things up a bit, be sure to read the story of a local company that is bringing some exotic flavors to your plate and palate on page 38 and meet them in person this month at the Home and Garden Show. Friday, March 7 and Friday, March 16 are “Delta Friday’s at the show so take advantage of the $3.00-off savings with the coupon found on page 3.

We also catch up with a former Mr. Pittsburgh Leather Fetish who just won a national title, but still holds a place in his heart for our hometown. Read the full story on page 14.

Our monthly feature “Hot Guy Reads a Book” heats things up with a first person book review and a photo shoot on page 46 that reveals another reason to crack a page open.

There are so many more features to discover in this issue including “What’s Gay and Goin’ On” and a complete calendar of community activities to help break you out of your cabin fever as we begin to rev up for warmer weather and PRIDE! It’s hard to believe that Pittsburgh will soon be celebrating Pride again in the coming months. There is no better time to subscribe to Equal Magazine so you will be among the first to know who this year’s headliner will be (the suspense is killing us too.)

Hang in there Pittsburgh...warmer weather is right around the corner (we hope).

LGBT Visibility Everywhere

CORRECTION

In the February issue, the event held every Friday at the Blue Moon on Butler is called “Eddieoke.”

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IN (ALMOST) EVERY ISSUE 10 Calendar 12 What’s Gay and Going On? 18 When your spouse comes out 21 Queer Scene 22 Travel: Puerto Rico 24 Ally: Michelle Holsopple 28 Interview: Jillian Michaels 30 Girlfriends: When NOT to cockblock 35 Speak your mind 36 When you’re just not feeling it 38 Get spicy with Davis & Davis 41 Marriage Equality Map Update 44 Map 46 Hot Guy Reads a Book

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SPOTLIGHT ORGANIZATION

By Michael Buzzelli

Mr. Pittsburgh Leather Fetish, Joe Birdwell, won the title of Mr. Mid-Atlantic Leather (MAL) 2014 at the Centaur Motorcycle Club’s MidAtlantic Leather competition. He was crowned over a three-day event in January.

Mr. MAL 2014 contest: Jeffrey Williams of the Knight Hawks of Virginia; Omar L. Boots, Mr. Connecticut Leather 2014; and Thomas Ideux, the 1st Runner-Up to Mr. Maryland Leather 2014 for the top spot.

Joe became the fourth consecutive Mr. Pittsburgh Leather Fetish to win Mr. MAL. The last three Mr. Mid-Atlantic Leather Title-Holders, Bryce Caine (2013), Matthew Bronson (2012) and Doug Pamplin (2011) were all from our fair city. He bested three other contestants in the

Centaur Motorcycle Club, hosts of the MidAtlantic Leather Weekend, held the event at the Hyatt Regency Washington on Capitol Hill in D.C. The organization has been throwing the soiree in the Capitol for 29 years, and it is the first party of the New Year for the Leather

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Community.

Formed in 1970, Centaur Motorcycle Club consists of a group of men with an enthusiastic interest in motorcycles, leather and other men. The Club takes both a serious and irreverent approach to designing events for the amusement and enjoyment of the greater Leather Community. Centaur Motorcycle Club participates in a wide variety of philanthropic and social fundraising events.

Photo by Richard Puller Patrick Grady, Chairman of the Mid-Atlantic Leather Weekend, and long-standing member of the Centaurs said, “Every MAL Weekend I get to see people I see once or twice a year. It’s a big reunion.”

While the contest is only open to men who identify as gay males, Patrick confirms that the event is very inclusive. “We had men and women in leather, we had Furries. This year, we even had people dressed up like clowns.”

Patrick cites the camaraderie within the organization that allows him to volunteer his time organizing the event. “I really enjoy the brotherhood. It’s a very generous and protective group.”

The MAL Chairman visited Pittsburgh when Birdwell won the local championship, the Mr. Pittsburgh Leather Fetish Contest. Patrick said, “Four years in a row, the winner of the Mid-Atlantic Leather Weekend has been from Pittsburgh.” He added, “Three Rivers Leather

Club is a great organization.”

The Three Rivers Leather Club is a much younger brother to the Centaurs. TRLC was incorporated into the Leather Community in 1991. Ahren Hollis, the Road Captain for Three Rivers Leather Club, described the Mid-Atlantic Leather Weekend as an amazing party. Ahren said, “You walk into the [Hyatt Regency] hotel and you are greeted by a sea of leather men and women.”

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Photo by Richard Puller.

Members of the Three Rivers Leather Club were delighted by the choice of their new champion. The Road Captain, who is responsible for the club’s travel, beamed with pride at their choice. Ahren said, “Joe has a brilliant smile and southern charm that makes him an exceptional choice for our current Mr. Mid-Atlantic Leatherman.”

He added, “Fourteen members of the TRLC went down to the competition, and about forty people from Pittsburgh were at the MidAtlantic Leather Weekend.”

Joe isn’t used to the spotlight. He spent many of his early years in the shadows. He admits, ‘’I was always the one in the back of the bar. It wasn’t until I moved to Pittsburgh where I felt accepted.”

He added, “In September 2011, I was transferred with my job, from Florida to Pittsburgh. I didn’t know anyone so I got involved. I joined the Steel City Softball League, playing with the Mary’s, and I went to Leather Central and started meeting people.”

He felt accepted for the first time. He said, “I met the bartenders and there was no judging. Everyone there was so nice. For a long time I tried to find my niche in the gay community. I never felt comfortable. In Pittsburgh, I discovered who I really am.”

He added, “I met this great group of people at Donny’s/Leather Central.

They became my family. I got a whole new social life.”

In 2012, he entered the competition and became a 1st Runner Up and was determined to keep competing. The Tennessee-raised Birdwell, an architect now based in Tampa, says he became active in the leather community precisely because of the encouragement of the many mentors he found while living in Pittsburgh’s supportive community.

Photo by Richard Puller.

Photo by Richard Puller.

Joe, while no longer a Pittsburgher, wears his sash with pride. He said, “I got this great opportunity to transfer back to Florida, and my partner still lived there. So, I moved back. But I loved living in Pittsburgh.

Everyone is so welcoming. The Three Rivers Leather Club is a small, tight-knit group of people with the same interests. There is no judging.

Everyone is a family member. It’s a very accepting group of people. I have my real family and I have my Pittsburgh family.”

He added, “If my partner didn’t live in Florida, I’d still be there.” He reflected on the beautiful scenery of the city and waxed poetic about the changing seasons. Then, he added, “Except the snow. I don’t really like the snow.”

Joe will continue to represent Pittsburgh later this year in Chicago. Over Memorial Day Weekend, May 24 – 27, Birdwell will compete in the 35th annual International Mr. Leather (IML) contest at the Marriott in downtown Chicago. Members of the Three Rivers Leather Club will be there to cheer him on.

And the LGBT community will be doing so from Pittsburgh!

For more info about TRLC, visit trlc.net

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Local group helps straight spouses adjust to coming out process.

After having four children, Pattie and Tim Gabriel divorced after 15 years of marriage.

Surprisingly they still go on family vacations together – the only difference now is Tim often brings his partner.

to face it. But as I got older and older, I had to.”

“His partner’s family has just become an extension of mine,” says Pattie, 42, of Monroeville.

Formed in 1986 through PFLAG, the international network’s mission is meant to support, educate and advocate for straight spouses of gay, lesbian, or bisexual partners and mixed-orientation couples.

Her husband came out as gay to her four years ago – a week after their fourth child was born.

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Through Tim’s partner, he directed his wife to the Pittsburgh chapter of the Straight Spouse Network.

The Pittsburgh chapter has been active for at least 15-20 years, and includes about 30 currently active members from throughout the tri-state area, who often meet for monthly support groups and other social events, says

by Stacy Federoff

John Wilcox, who has led the local group since 2010.

“We want the same thing the LGBT community wants,” he says. “We want honest and loving relationships.”

John, 45, of Mount Lebanon was himself the straight spouse of a woman struggling with her sexual orientation.

He first attended PFLAG meetings, but felt like the support of that community wasn’t quite what he needed. He felt like he was being thrown into the LGBT community without a sense of control or choice.

“I think what people really want to know is that

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they’re not being judged. They don’t always need to know what to do next, they just need a place to vent,” he says.

Unique issues like feeling rejected, dealing with divorce, explaining things to children and dating again are addressed by the Straight Spouse Network, which Christine Grant, 43, of Squirrel Hill says drew her to the group after her husband of 13 years came out as gay six months ago.

“How can you not have compassion for someone whose been told they were evil their whole life? You don’t stop loving someone because something like this arises,” she says.

“He and I have been hurt by the same thing, which is intolerance for who he is.”

Christine says she hopes in 20 years there will be many less straight spouses as tolerance and equality allow more people to be who they really are instead of hiding in the closet.

“If the world back then was they way it is now, I think he wouldn’t have made the decisions he made in his 20s,” she says.

Tim says four years ago before he came out, he was deeply depressed, so much that it was

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affecting the way he treated his children.

“I just felt so empty, so alone, so isolated,” he says, coming out to his wife, whom he had known all his life, by reading from a journal. “I think it really hit home with her how tortured I felt – it really had nothing to do with her.”

“I don’t think the kids should see one parent hate another parent because obviously those children were conceived in love,” Michelle says.

“If we can help other families at some point through this, then that’s what was meant to be.”

The two were more like best friends raising children than husband and wife, Pattie says, which is why they have been able to maintain that positive relationship even now.

She says after her husband of 21 years came out as gay, she now better understands the fight for marriage equality and even participated in Pittsburgh Pride last year.

“It’s enhanced my life, it’s benefited my life,” she says.

“If you asked me three years ago what I thought of gay marriage, I would’ve told you it was wrong,” Michelle says. “My views have changed.”

About 15 to 20 percent of couples remain friends after their spouse comes out, John estimates. About 40 percent come to the group prior to disclosure, like after they have suspicions their spouse may be LGBT from finding pornography or signs of infidelity. Straight Spouse Network estimates there are about 2 ½ million straight spouses in the United States.

Michelle McLaughlin, 44, of McMurray says she joined Straight Spouse Network because she wanted to make sure the couple continued to be friends, and her grown children, now 22, 20 and 17, could also handle their feelings.

For more information about the Pittsburgh chapter of Straight Spouse Network, visit straightspouse.org or email johnwilcox2@gmail. com.

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TRAVEL

Puerto Rico Colonial and Colorful San Juan, Puerto Rico

By Rick Sicilio Photos by Rick Sicilio A visit to Puerto Rico, or the “Spanish Virgin Islands,” immerses you in a rainbow of color.

From the pinks and yellows of the dawn’s morning sky to the sinewy reds and purples of twilight, each day holds the promise of a vivid adventure.

Puerto Rico has launched a campaign promoting all three of her islands – the main island and the islands of Vieques and Culebra.

Mario Gonzalez, deputy executive director of the Puerto Rico Tourism Company said Puerto Rico is “focused on our diversity: diversity of product, diversity of geography, and diversity of tourists.”

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San Juan (Old San Juan). Imposing forts, including the mammoth El Morro, as well as dozens of majestic colonial and post-colonial homes and businesses, were built along its narrow cobblestone streets.

In recent years, Old San Juan has been impressively restored to its former glory. While the neighborhood is noted for its pristine colonial architecture, style-seekers are just as likely to love the area for its trendy fusion cuisine and stylishly designed eateries. The food that San Juan’s restaurants have to offer is incredible, especially along Calle Fortaleza, one of the main dining streets.

San Juan as a whole, in fact, is fast positioning itself as the creative culinary capital of the Caribbean serving traditional Puerto Rican cuisine, which incorporates Taíno Indian traditions with Spanish and African themes.

San Juan is a very gay friendly city offering many hotels, bars, clubs and restaurants.

Santurce and Condado, the beach tourist district, are the more concentrated gay neighborhoods. In the evening, locals and tourists alike pour from the beach into the clubs for a long night of dancing that usually includes salsa music.

No two trips to Puerto Rico are alike! Although it may seem like an exotic paradise, Puerto Rico is a U.S. territory so NO passport is required.

The dollar is the official currency, and Spanish and English are the official languages with a preference for English in the tourist zones.

Puerto Rico has all of the comforts of home, with a colorful tropical flair!

For travel recommendations, please contact RSicilio@TRIPSandCRUISES.com or call or 800411-8747.

Hotels W Retreat & Spa, Vieques

wvieques.com The W Hotel is the first “W” in the Caribbean and only one of three “W Retreats & Spas” in the world. Vieques was voted the best Caribbean island by “Travel & Leisure.”

Intercontinental Hotel

ichotelsgroup.com/ intercontinental The Intercontinental Hotel is located on one of the best northern beaches in San Juan. It is situated close to the airport and only 20 minutes from Old San Juan.

Marriott Hotel

marriott.com/hotels/travel/ sjupr-san-juan-marriottresort-and-stellaris-casino/ Located right in the heart of Condado, this Marriott has a fantastic casino, awesome beach, and is accessible to the nightlife in Santurce.

Bars and Clubs Circo Bar

650 Calle Condado San Juan, PR 00907 Circo is a modern stylish video bar with a mix of locals and tourists. It is the number one gay bar for men in San Juan with a front bar area that opens via large steel doors to a full back bar area with strippers and a nice dance floor. Check out the bar and pool table on the second floor. The crowd does not begin to

form until after midnight.

Circo is a quick cab ride away from Condado’s main hotel center.

as one of the 100 best restaurants in the Caribbean.

SX Bar

2 Vendig Street San Juan, PR 00907 Condado oceanopr.com For a taste of the trendy, Oceano sits right across the street from the Atlantic Beach hotel.

Sunday brunch is amazing with awesome food and live music in the open air.

Feels like South Beach in San Juan!

1204 Ponce de Leon San Juan, PR 00907 SX is San Juan’s best gay stripper bar with super friendly and hot guys. If you like Swinging Richards (in Atlanta or the Miami area) you will love SX. SX has videos and is walking distance from Circo.

Atlantic Beach Hotel Bar

1 Calle Vendig San Juan, PR 00907 Atlantic Beach bar is located right at San Juan’s most popular gay beach.

Enjoy the beautiful open air balcony that looks over the Atlantic Ocean while enjoying tasty treats and divine drinks. Happy hour starts here early.

Splash

Calle Condado 6 San Juan, PR 00907 Located right near the Marriott Hotel Condado, Splash is a very tiny place, but is the perfect stop in Condado to start your night.

Restaurants Dragonfly and Aguavina

oofrestaurants.com These impressive restaurants can be found on Calle Fortaleza in Old San Juan. Dragonfly features Asian and Latin cuisines and Aguavina features fresh fish and seafood. Both of these eateries are very trendy and were featured in “Conde Nast Traveler”

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Laurel Kitchen and Art Bar

299 de Diego Avenue San Juan, PR 00909 Santurce laurelkitchenartbar.com Laurel is located inside the Puerto Rico Museum of Art and is the showcase of “Nuevo Caribe Cuisine.” This concept was inspired by the plethora of fresh ingredients available year round. Highly recommended and enjoyed!

BudaTai

1056 Ashford Avenue San Juan, PR 00907 Condado ootwrestaurants.com BudaTai is across the street from the La Concha Hotel in Condado. The feel of this second floor restaurant combines New Latin tastes with Asian cuisine and puts you in Tapas heaven. Add some tasty pitchers of sangria to make your dinner more delightful.

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The Dedication and Devotion of

Michelle

Holsopple

By John Britt.

Photo by Michael Beigay

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Born in Douglassville in Berks County, Michelle Holsopple’s parents raised her to be involved in church and school functions, the goal being to help others and that upbringing has followed her all her life.

After graduating from Slippery Rock University where she received her degree in education, Michelle wed her husband Darrin and moved to Pittsburgh in 1994. Before starting their family, Michelle and Darrin spent three years in Guatemala.

Now living in Nottingham Township in Washington County, Michelle and Darrin have two boys, Gunnar and Lucas.

While working at the Allegheny Intermediate Unit, where she teaches students with disabilities, she learned about Persad Center from her co-worker Michael Beigay. He encouraged her to get involved and for the past six years she has volunteered for Celebrate Life/Celebrate Art (now Art for Change), and is now on the organizing committee and co-chair of registration.

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Darrin, who is her biggest supporter, summed it up when he said, “Michelle continually amazes me with the time and effort she dedicates to further the well-being of the LGBT community.”

Echoed Persad’s Development Director Bob McGrogan, “Michelle has been an invaluable addition to the Art for Change auction. As with most of our volunteers, she started as a volunteer at one event and is now part of the back bone of the biggest fund raising event Persad puts together; working for months to make it such a huge success. We couldn’t do it without her.”

And Michelle, explaining her involvement, said it best: “If opportunity presents itself, take it.”

For more information about the services offered by Persad or to volunteer, visit their website www.persadcenter.org

We’re an active part of the LGBT community and dedicate ourselves to understanding your unique goals.

Contact your local Wells Fargo Home Mortgage consultant today.

Jerry Pounds

Home Mortgage Consultant Cell: 412-606-6701 731 S. Aiken Ave, 1st Floor Pittsburgh, PA 15232 www.jerrypounds.com jerry.pounds@wellsfargo.com NMLSR ID 340848 Information is accurate as of date of printing and is subject to change without notice. Wells Fargo Home Mortgage is a division of Wells Fargo Bank, N.A. © 2013 Wells Fargo Bank, N.A. All rights reserved. NMLSR ID 399801.

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FEATURE

The second part of a series

by Equal Magazine

In this exploratory series, we ask Pittsburghers to share their stories about being black & gay in the city of black & gold.

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extremely popular Bulldogs. Bulldogs is an LGBT sports bar with mostly a male crowd, and while I’m a lesbian, we tend to enjoy activities that involve sports and beer too. Why is it that no one in Pittsburgh has tried to open a bar like this? Seems like such a wasted business opportunity. What is it about Pittsburgh nightlife that makes the black LGBT community want to give up hope of having a good time?

A major contributor to Pittsburgh’s lack of entertainment venues for the black LGBT community is that so many young people leave town after receiving their degrees. They tend to move on to bigger cities like Chicago, Atlanta and Washington D.C. that are known to be full of opportunity for upwardly mobile, educated African-Americans. I can’t get mad at them; I plan on doing the same after I obtain my degree, but I’m conflicted because I was born and raised in Pittsburgh, and would love to see my city grow. But I also feel like I am depriving myself of a wealth of professional opportunities and an exciting social life that at this point cannot be found in Pittsburgh. Why waste my youth living a mundane existence in an equally mundane city? I think I need to relocate before my three strikes are up and I’m forced to do a “life sentence” in Pittsburgh.

THREE STRIKES: BLACK, GAY AND LIVING IN PITTSBURGH

By Morgan Armstead

Pittsburgh has been finding its way on “Most Livable City” lists recently, although I don’t know why. Pittsburgh is a great city to live in if you’re NOT black and gay. Here the white and black gay communities are two separate entities; if we are all gay, then shouldn’t we just have ONE community? We have a couple of nice bars, but the crowd is mostly for gay, white men. I often find myself looking around thinking; “Where are all the black women tonight?” Don’t get me wrong, I love women of all races.

But sometimes white women in these shiny bars look at me as if I’m going to assault them on their way to the ladies room. Maybe they’re not into dating outside their race and that’s fine, but don’t judge me while I quietly sip my Jack & Diet Coke with my friends. I’m here to socialize, not steal your lunch money.

This city has made some notable strides the past 5-10 years. But why are there no places for the black, gay community to go that aren’t illegal and/or shut down every other week because of fights, stabbings, etc.? Atlanta is a good example of what I would like to see Pittsburgh become. I know that might be a reach, but it would be cool to have a black, LGBT sports bar like Atlanta’s

“ATLANTA IS A GOOD EXAMPLE OF WHAT I WOULD LIKE TO SEE PITTSBURGH BECOME. I KNOW THAT MIGHT BE A REACH, BUT IT WOULD BE COOL TO HAVE A BLACK, LGBT SPORTS BAR...”

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INTERVIEW

Jillian Michaels

Her Maximize Your Life Tour comes to Pittsburgh What can I expect if I attend the show? Will I need my workout gear?

Expect and evening of inspiration, information, and entertainment.

Expect to be moved and motivated.

No fitness gear required. If you want a workout, get one of my DVDs. This is the nuts and bolts of personal and physical transformation. The how to of “loving yourself more,” “taking the first step,” “building self worth and self esteem,” and “making your goals and dreams a reality.”

How is this different from your last tour?

This is the same show for the most part, just in different cities.

We won’t have an all new show until next year. However, there are a few small changes: we have incorporated a Q&A into the show and all VIP ticket holders will get a personal meet and greet with me!

During the first tour, was there a pattern in the questions that fans were asking or did each city present it’s own challenges to staying healthy?

People are looking to be motivated.

That’s the theme. They want to know how to get and stay motivated and the good news is that this tour will teach you how to do just that - get and stay motivated so you can accomplish any task you set your mind and your heart too.

Can you tell me about some of your favorite moments from the last tour?

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direct connection with my audience and that’s what this medium gives me; the chance to look people in the eye and speak with them, not at them. To truly hear and see one another in a way that allows us to connect and when people come together mountains get moved.

What types of takeaways are there from the tour?

Of course if someone came to learn how to lose weight I teach them VERY quickly the simple facts of weight loss so if they choose to make a change with their health they are armed with bullet proof info to do so. More importantly however, I give them an action plan to identify their issues and conquer them. Not a bunch of self help platitudes, but literally a step by step action plan to transform any aspect of their life that they choose to at any point that they choose to do it. They will come away with strategies on everything from managing and moving through fear to releasing old wounds and grudges that poison their happiness and hold them back.

Is the family coming with you on tour?

Always! I can’t be without them.

The kids love to dance on stage before the show to warm up the audience.

What is one thing every person can do to get motivated to make changes in their lives?

Identify their “why.” If you have a why to live for you can tolerate any how.

After 13 seasons on “Biggest Loser,” what is the biggest challenge you face with the contestants? Has that changed over the seasons or is the underlying issue always the same?

The actual show. The time frame of the show forces me to move them at such an accelerated pace because they might get sent home at the end of every week. That’s why I am so tough with them - there is no time to allow them to uncover their issues gradually. If we don’t get down to it ASAP they might go home and not have the critical accomplishments they will need to continue on their journey of health and happiness.

What do you think is the biggest hurdle for people to get healthy? What is the recurring theme(s) you keep hearing?

People make all sorts of excuses like money and time, but those aren’t real reasons hence the term “excuse.” There are very real reasons that people engage in destructive behaviors though. Any behavior we repeat is affording us something, no matter how much it’s hurting us in another aspect of our lives. During the show I help people uncover why they are holding themselves back and down and then show them HOW to stop and move forward once and for all.

What advice would you give to a busy working mom?

You must make time for yourself. You MUST. If I can do it, you can do it. Plus, it’s the best way to be there for your kids. When you are happy and healthy your kids will follow suit.

How you learned anything from the Biggest Loser that you have incorporated into this show?

In actuality, “Maximize Your Life” is everything I am doing behind the scenes with my contestants on The Biggest Loser. It’s the same info. I take all the tools I utilize on the show to help the contestants grow and change and give them to my audience during my life show. And - this is not just about changing your body - it’s about changing your life. I don’t build bodies; I help people rebuild their lives. That’s what this show will do for the audience.

How do you like the one on one interaction with your fans?

It’s what makes me truly love my work.

What’s next for you?

More of the same. I’m lucky and I love what I do.

Now that you’re a mom to 2 kids how do you fit it all in?

I drop a lot of balls, but I am constantly working on balance. I laugh more than I cry. I win more than I lose. I don’t know that one can ask for more than that.

Jillian Michaels brings her “Maximize your Life” tour to the Benedum Center on Wednesday, March 19. For tickets, visit trustarts.org.

Have you learned anything from your kids in terms of health and fitness?

Yes, people are not stupid. They don’t need to be manipulated. Talk to them honestly.

Give them the facts straight. They are able to hear the truth. Don’t underestimate people - it fundamentally dis-empowers them and no change made in that state will last.

Tell your friends! Bring your co-workers! Alert the media!

Join us at these upcoming dates for Xtreme Bingo:

Sunday, April 27 Sunday, May 18 Get your tickets online at deltafoundation.us/tickets or call 888-71-TICKETS

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ADVICE

“Trust Me”

By Chrissy Costa

Recently, I was among the last to leave a party thrown by a good friend of mine when I noticed a young damsel in distress. I asked my friend why this girl was tucked away in the corner, scowling at her phone and she informed me that the girl was having some troubles with her boyfriend. Although I don’t have boyfriend troubles or a degree in psychology I could relate to the feelings that causes one to transform from upright to the fetal position, even in a crowded room. I recognized the look on her face and the anxiety in her voice. Someone was playing phone games with this innocent heterosexual and I didn’t like it! So I grabbed another plate of food and called an intervention.

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be “why do you like boys?” but I remembered that we need to be tolerant of those who are different. We told her to start from the beginning so we could help her make a decision regarding her future with said boyfriend. She obliged and told us it all began so wonderfully and that he was so attentive and sweet. She continued to tell us how after she became closer to him she could sense him distancing himself. “Oh, he totally sounds like a lesbian!” my friend shouted. “We got this,” I proclaimed.

And just like that we were tag-teaming this girl…with advice (not in the way you’re envisioning).

We recommended that she play hard-to-get if she wanted him to commit. “Everyone plays the game, and everyone likes a chase,” we

insisted, as we clanked our drinks and toasted ourselves for being so wise and helpful. But when she told us that he had texted her saying she shouldn’t come over because he had a headache, we became extremely suspicious.

Even lesbians don’t use that excuse. While my friend was trying figure out if he was a gay or straight woman, I had concluded that he was cheating.

Having been cheated on in the past I could see all the signs. I insisted we all drive by his house so that we could catch him in the act.

My friend concurred as we had once done this for her many years ago. The sweet young girl looked terrified, however. I don’t know what was scarier for her; discovering her boyfriend was potentially cheating, or dealing with two pantless, jaded lesbians, drinking whiskey and snapping their fingers.

I DON’T KNOW WHAT WAS SCARIER FOR HER; DISCOVERING HER BOYFRIEND WAS POTENTIALLY CHEATING, OR DEALING WITH TWO PANTLESS, JADED LESBIANS, DRINKING WHISKEY AND SNAPPING THEIR FINGERS.

Just then my friend’s girlfriend entered the room and as we filled her in, she suggested that the girl should call him and have a conversation. My friend and I were instantly silenced. We hadn’t even thought of that. Who talks on the phone anymore? And as it turned out he really was sick and the sweet, young, heterosexual girl was able to confirm it by the sound of his voice. She didn’t need me to sneak onto his property or spy on his Facebook wall to tell her. She didn’t need us at all. We almost cockblocked an innocent man. How many other cocks have I blocked, I wondered?

How many beavers have I damned? I questioned my judgment and considered all the bad advice I may have given; all the lives I’ve probably ruined.

I also thought about all the advice my friends had given me over the years and how unbelievably inaccurate some of it was. They were just as lousy at making decisions for me as I was for myself. I even ruminated on all the unspoken words that could have saved me from some of my biggest mistakes; like the time I moved 1,500 miles away for a girl I had just met and my friends, instead of telling me it was the dumbest thing I would ever do, threw

me a going-away party. And when I inevitably returned home a few months later with my tail between my legs they then admitted they should have warned me rather than buying me toiletries for the road trip. Though it’s doubtful I would have ever listened to them anyway. All the introspection in the world won’t take away our mistakes or fill us with the joy that comes from life’s ebbs and flows. As the saying goes, “It’s all fun and games until somebody loses an eye, or becomes a single mom.” But if our friends aren’t responsible for us then who, is?

Perhaps it’s time we listen to our inner voices as we weed out the noise of the crowd.

Last I heard that sweet girl and her boyfriend are doing very well. That’s straight talk for getting it on. Let this be a lesson to all: be mindful of the advice of people who are perpetually single or without pants.

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With Easter on the horizon, religious people all around the world are flocking to their local churches to celebrate Lent. Amidst the festive baskets, chocolate bunnies, incense, and holy water, LGBT people of faith often struggle to find their place within a religious community. A Pew Research Study released in the summer of 2013 found that 48% of the LGBT community do not identify with a particular religious group and of 1/3 of those who do, feel as though their beliefs collide with their sexual orientation or gender identity. Thus, LGBT people of faith are often forced to choose between worshiping in environments that disfavor their presence and moving on to either a new faith…or no faith at all.

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UNITED CHURCH OF CHRIST

Allegheny Open Arms United Church of Christ 707 East Street Pittsburgh, PA 15212 412-321-1328

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Calvary Episcopal 315 Shady Avenue Pittsburgh, PA 15206 412-661-0120 calvarypgh.org 2

Christ Episcopal 5910 Babcock Blvd.

Pittsburgh PA 15237 412-364-2442 christchurchnorthhills.org 3

Episcopal Church of the Redeemer 5700 Forbes Avenue Pittsburgh, PA 15217 412-422-7100 redeemerpittsburgh.org 4

Revolution Church 101 N. Main Street Greensburg, PA 15601 therevolutionchurch.com 11

12 St. Andrew Lutheran Church 987 Beaver Grade Road Moon Township, PA 15108 412-264-4551 standrewmoontwp.com 13 St. John Evangelical Lutheran Church 601 Washington Avenue Carnegie, PA 15106 412-279-2952 sainjohncarnegie.com

UNITED METHODIST

St. Andrews Episcopal 5801 Hampton Street Pittsburgh, PA 15206 412-661-1245 standrewspgh.org

14 Calvary United Methodist 971 Beech Avenue Pittsburgh, PA 15233 412-231-2007 calvarypgh.com

CATHOLIC

15 Dormont United Methodist 1641 Potomac Avenue Pittsburgh, PA 15216 412-531-9055 facebook.com/dormontumc

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Church of the Redeemer (via Dignity Pittsburgh) 5700 Forbes Avenue Pittsburgh, PA 15217 412-362-4334 dignitypgh.org 6

ECUMENICAL CATHOLIC COMMUNION 7 Christ Hope Ecumenical 1301 Davis Avenue Pittsburgh, PA 15212 412-921-8282 christhope.com

LUTHERAN

8 Saint Andrew Lutheran Church 304 Morewood Avenue Pittsburgh, PA 15213 412-682-3342 standrewpittsburgh.org 9 St. John’s Lutheran Church of Highland 311 Cumberland Road Pittsburgh, PA15237 412-364-1606 stjohnslutheranchurch.com

Perry Highway Lutheran Church 11403 Perry Highway Wexford, PA 15090 724-935-1226 phlc.org 10

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First United Methodist Church of Pittsburgh 5401 Centre Avenue Pittsburgh, PA 15232 412-681-4222 firstumcpittsburgh.org 16

17 McKnight United Methodist 600 Fox Drive Pittsburgh, PA 15237 412-364-7132 mcknightumc.org 18 S. Ave. United Methodist in Wilkinsburg 733 South Avenue Pittsburgh, PA 15221 412-371-7421 southavenueumc.org

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19 Spencer United Methodist 117 Spencer Avenue Pittsburgh, PA 15227 412-881-4000 spencerumc.org 20 Center Avenue United Methodist Church 450 Eleanor Street Pitcairn, PA 15143 412-372-8680 caumc.us 21 Sewickley United Methodist Church 337 Broad Street Sewickley, PA 15143 412-741-9430 sewickleyumc.org

METROPOLITAN COMMUNITY CHURCH

Metropolitan Community Church Pittsburgh at St. Martin’s Episcopal Church 285 St. Martin’s Drive Monroeville, PA 15146 412-863-2994 mccpittsburgh.com 22

MULTI-DENOMINATIONAL

23 Community of Reconciliation 100 N. Bellefield Avenue Pittsburgh, PA 15213 412-682-2751 communityofreconcilliation.org

PRESBYTERIAN

24 Community House Church 120 Parkhurst Street Pittsburgh, PA 15212 412-321-3900 communityhousepittsburgh.org 25 East Liberty Presbyterian 116 S. Highland Avenue Pittsburgh, PA 15206 412-441-3800 cathedralofhope.org 26 Pine Creek Presbyterian 21 Oak Knoll Drive Pittsburgh, PA 15238 412-963-7868 thepinecreekchurch.org

27 Grand View United Presbyterian Church 301 Grandview Avenue Pittsburgh, PA 15211 412-431-7445 grandviewpresbyterian.org 28 Second United Presbyterian of Wilkinsburg 300 Hay Street Pittsburgh, PA 15221 412-242-4430 facebook.com/SecondUP 29 Shadyside Presbyterian 5121 Westminster Place Pittsburgh, PA 15232 412-682-4300 shadysidepres.org 30 Sixth Presbyterian 1688 Murray Avenue Pittsburgh, PA 15217 412-421-2752 sixthchurch.org 31 First Presbyterian Church 100 E. Wheeling Street Washington, PA 15301 724-225-5415 fpc1793.org 32 The Presbyterian Church 414 Grant Street Sewickley, PA 15143 412-741-4550 sewickleypresby.org

UNITARIAN UNIVERSALIST

33 First Unitarian Church of Pittsburgh 605 Morewood Avenue Pittsburgh, PA 15213 412-621-8008 first-unitarian-pgh.org

BRETHREN

34 Monroeville Church of the Brethren 481 Center Road Monroeville, PA 15143 412-372-4165 monroevillecob.com

For additional information, visit gaychurch.org

VOICE

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By Michael Buzzelli

Something funny is going on at the GLCC. A new monthly event, Open Mind/Open Mic, is a chance for LGBT and LGBT-friendly comedians, singers, dancers, storytellers, and poets to perform in front of a live audience.

The event, held every other Tuesday, was created and is hosted by Abby Denton, local comedian and third place winner of the Pittsburgh Improv’s Last Comic Standing 2013.

Abby, a trans woman, wanted to celebrate Pittsburgh’s artistic diversity. She said, “The event is an attempt to make a safer space for trans performers, LGB performers, performers of color, and anyone else who might not feel welcome at other mics. We want to foster new voices.”

She added, “For the time being we don’t have any formal content restrictions, but we would

like to ask all performers to try to respect the theme of the space to keep us from having to institute any policies. That would just feel yucky.

If you would worry about a queer grandma hearing a joke, please think twice about it.”

for working out material in a different type of setting. On both occasions, the crowd was engaged and eager to listen. It would be nice to see the event promoted further to draw in more performers and audience members.”

Comedian Ian Insect attends the open mic regularly. He said, “Reflecting on my own experiences, it only makes sense that there are performers out there who feel too intimidated by the current opportunities to really take advantage of them. When she suggested the idea, I was completely, enthusiastically sold on Abby’s concept of a safe-space variety mic.”

Abby claims an open mic event is a great place to hone your skills as a performer. She said, “Not confident in your skills? Don’t worry!

Open mics are for getting better.”

Ian added, “I like best that this mic even exists.

It is a space for performers who wouldn’t normally have a comfortable venue.”

The next Open Mind/Open Mic shows are March 4 and 18. Doors and registration are at 7 PM and the show starts at 7:15 PM. Although there is not a minimum donation, GLCC events ask for $2 per person. The GLCC is located at 210 Grant Street, Pittsburgh, PA 15219.

Anil Kumar performed stand-up comedy at the last couple of Open Mind/Open Mics. Anil said, “It’s an intimate and quieter atmosphere in which to perform, and I think this is good

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RELATIONSHIPS

Often, in the gay community, because of its overemphasis on sexuality, there’s a disconnect. Lust can lead to love, but is it possible to be in love with someone and not lust after them?

LOVEORLUST

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Let’s think of desire as the garden in which love and lust are grown. Many things can grow from desire, but it is up to us to weed out what we don’t want and nurture what we do.

Transplants rarely blossom. In other words, we can’t force something to grow where it doesn’t belong, and just because somebody looks good on paper doesn’t mean that the spark will be there.

So you’ve been on a few dates, and you have really started to like this person. You’ve put off having sex because you wanted to focus on “more important things.” But now the time has come. The magic is about to occur, when you suddenly realize that you aren’t turned on.

There’s no spark. Has this ever happened to you?

Often, in the gay community, because of its overemphasis on sexuality, there’s a disconnect. Lust can lead to love, but is it possible to be in love with someone and not lust after them?

Maybe love isn’t the right word. Cherishing someone and putting them on a pedestal can be like love. When we feel this way about

something we tend to put it in a safe place, where no harm can come to it. But if we lust after someone we cherish, it may tarnish a good thing.

Too much of a good thing can be bad, as the old adage tells us, but what makes lust so evil?

Why is it included with such sins as wrath or gluttony? If lust is just our basic animal instinct for sexual gratification, and it’s part of our DNA, why should we fight it?

Lust in and of itself isn’t bad, but the way it interferes with other social dynamics can cause a problem. Love is built on respect and trust. When that respect and trust is broken, lust can disrupt the bond that love creates. If you’re single, lust left uninterrupted, could lead you to develop a sense of emotional or romantic detachment. Maybe it was the way you were raised, or you are working too hard to counteract gay stereotypes, but sex is still considered “bad.” Your mind is telling you what you should want, but your body is disagreeing.

Lust and desire are feelings that aren’t designed to be planned or over-thought. It should come

naturally. Many of us yearn to be desired by others. We want to be wanted, and to be considered attractive because we think that will somehow build our confidence. If we could just be as hot as that guy or girl, our problems would be solved. We believe we’d never be lonely again. However, nothing could be further from the truth. Being starved for affection can often manifest itself in promiscuity, and it usually comes with a bevy of bad decisions. It’s like being a slut for all the wrong reasons. (No judgment, there are some right reasons. They just aren’t on the road to love.)

In conclusion, love and lust can be the perfect marriage when you nurture and prune them so that they grow up strong and intertwined in the garden of desire. It is naïve to think that there is only one perfect match for us out of the multitude of people in Pittsburgh and beyond. If you identify with the scenario at the beginning of the article, the trick is to reconcile what you find attractive with what satisfies you emotionally.

Just keep asking yourself “Mary, Mary, how does your garden grow?”

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FOOD

Spice,

Girls

Davis & Davis makes its delicious presence known

By Jay Obertance

Like most chefs, making and baking bread can often be a challenge. What seems like a simple philosophy of basic ingredients like flour, water, yeast and salt, often proves to be a sticky mess accompanied by a tsunami of flour. So when Ken Davis and his partner Chuck Graf, the men behind Davis and Davis Gourmet Foods, sent me their beer bread mix and their Tuscan Cooking and Dipping oil to try, I was beyond excited at being able to make a high-quality product without worrying about any margin for error.

After leaving the corporate world, Ken decided to spend his free time making high-quality jams that were reminiscent of his childhood days. After the orders from his family and friends started to grow, he decided to start Davis and Davis Gourmet Foods. “I never expected to grow to be this large.

It just happened,” said Ken. Now in almost 2,000 retail outlets, Ken credits his success with selling his products at local farmer’s markets and food shows, including the Pittsburgh Home and Garden Show, where they have been a vendor there for

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almost 11 years. Said Ken, “being at markets and shows gives us the chance to get feedback directly from the customer. He continued, “we take great pride in using only the highest quality items in our products and since everything is made by hand, our company is very much an artesian product produced in Pittsburgh.”

LGBT-owned and operated, Ken and Chuck have developed some really unique products. From their Peach Bellini to their Wacky Cracker line, they offer many solutions that will save you time and guess work and will make you look like a star at your next dinner party!

Be sure to stop by the Davis and Davis booth at the upcoming Pittsburgh Home & Garden Show, March 7-16 at the David L. Lawrence Convention Center. For more info, visit davisanddavisonline. com

GINGER BREAD WITH HONEY SESAME BUTTER 1 box of Davis and Davis Original Beer Bread Mix 1 12 oz. can of any ginger beer

Directions

Prepare the beer bread mix according to the packaged directions using the can of ginger beer. Once baked, allow the bread to cool. Serve with Tuscan Dipping oil on the side.

Directions

In a mixing bowl, add the room temperature butter and beat on medium speed with a mixer for two minutes until fluffy. Scrape down the sides and add in the salt, honey, and sesame oil.

Mix together on low speed until everything is incorporated. Serve butter alongside the bread.

HONEY SESAME BUTTER 2 sticks of Irish or European or sweet cream butter at room temperature 2 tbsp. Organic honey 1 tsp. sesame oil 1/2 tsp. kosher salt

The Pittsburgh Cultural Trust presents

TRUSTCabaret

Liz Callaway ONE NIGHT ONLY!

Monday, April 7 • Cabaret at Theater Square TrustArts.org • 412-456-6666 Box Office at Theater Square Groups 10+ Tickets 412-471-6930

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THE WEALTH CHER QUEENS

Some of our favorite queens Cher their insights Photos by Mara Rago

Veruca la’Piranha FAVORITE MOVIE “Mermaids” FAVORITE SONG “After All” FAVORITE LOOK Dark Lady FAVORITE CHER ERA “Believe,” which is when I came out at age 14 FUN FACT I’ve “done” Cher twice: once for a going away party as a favor to a friend and for this shoot. But I do love Cher!

Vita Opulence FAVORITE MOVIE “Moonstruck” FAVORITE SONG “Woman’s World” FAVORITE SONG TO PERFORM “Turn Back Time” FAVORITE LOOK “I Found Someone” - raw Cher FAVORITE CHER ERA the 70s because of all the Bob Mackie gowns and the good vibes from the Sonny & Cher Show. 80s & 90s because she shined on the big screen in every movie she made. CHER ADVICE Artists should follow their hearts and do whatever it is that makes them truly happy. Don’t let anybody tell you you can’t do it, show them you can!

FAVORITE CHER ERA

Blade Mathews FAVORITE MOVIE “Burlesque” FAVORITE SONG “The Shoop Shoop Song (It’s In His Kiss)” FAVORITE SONG TO PERFORM See above FAVORITE LOOK I have no favorite look as Cher has pulled off way too many great ones! FAVORITE CHER ERA I have been a fan of her work dating all the way back to the beginning, which is why I chose the era I did.

FUN FACT Showing us that from start to finish you can do anything and everything you want…just as long as you “believe.” CHER ADVICE Although she is known for her costumes and wigs, what makes Cher great is that she is an excellent performer and a genius at her craft. If you’re a new, up-andcoming performer, you might not have the hair and make-up or even those costumes just yet, but be true to who you are and never let the passion for why you perform die!

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“Believe,” which is when I came out at age 14

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The late 90s/early 2000, which was my coming out period. Her music was being played in all of the gay bars!

- Anna

Anna Steezia FAVORITE CHER ERA

I like the 80’s when she was with that young guy that was a mechanic and she kept showing up at award shows wearing hardly anything.

- Mahogany

FAVORITE MOVIE “Witches of Eastwick” because it’s campy and fun FAVORITE SONG “A Different Kind of Love Song” FAVORITE SONG TO PERFORM “Woman’s World” because it’s so empowering FAVORITE CHER ERA The late 90s/early 2000, which was my coming out period. Her music was being played in all of the gay bars! FAVORITE LOOK The red sequin costume worn for “Take Me Home” in her farewell tour. FUN FACT The “Dressed to Kill” concert will be my first time seeing Cher live, however I have watched the Farewell Tour DVD about 4,537 times! CHER ADVICE Do what feels fierce and stand up for what you “believe” in!

Nicole St. George FAVORITE MOVIE

“Mermaids”

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“If I Could Turn Back Time” FAVORITE SONG TO PERFORM “Strong Enough” FAVORITE LOOK The black dress with feather headdress that she wore to the Oscars.

FAVORITE CHER ERA The “Believe” era. The look was more over the top and more drag friendly. CHER ADVICE Be your best Cher every day. Be the glamorous, outspoken, honest, down-to-earth diva you know you can be! My best beauty tip to Cher is more is more!

Mahogany La PiranHa “Moonstruck” and “Witches FAVORITE SONG “Strong Enough” FAVORITE SONG TO PERFORM I have never really performed one, but the one that stands out to me is “You Haven’t Seen The Last Of Me” from “Burlesque.” FAVORITE LOOK I love her look from “Witches of Eastwick,” “Moonstruck,” and anything from the 70s with her ironed straight hair and a Bob Mackie gown! FAVORITE CHER ERA I like the 80’s when she was with that young guy that was a mechanic and she kept showing up at award shows wearing hardly anything. That’s a diva! CHER ADVICE I sure like that Cher has a trans child (being transgender myself). I think it shows a lot of strength and love and as we all know, the only thing left at the end of the world will be cockroaches and Cher.

True story, and I simply think that is fierce!

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THE SHOOT

BEHIND THE SCENES Thank you to our friends at Spotlight Costumes on the South Side who generously supplied us with over $2,000 worth of wardrobe, specialty headpieces, and accessories for our “Cher” shoot.

If you dream of “turning back time” to create an unforgettable ensemble to wear to the Cher concert, Spotlight Costumes suggests: A Cher inspired wig (a must). Choose a straight retro look with bangs for an “I Got You Babe” look or go curly and wild if you want to “Turn Back Time.” Spotlight Costumes owner Kim Brown says “Cher has worn almost every color hair in so many incarnations throughout her vast career that almost anything works. But she’s most well known for her dark locks.”

Make Up. The transformative aspect of makeup can be very empowering and a few simple tips can help anyone pull off a Cher inspired look.

A fringe or fur vest with a head scarf can help channel the “gypsy” look.

Accessories. Think chain belt, hoop earrings, even a well-placed feather dangle can help add to your overall look.

Spotlight Costumes works with theater companies in Pittsburgh and all across the country to provide show-stopping costumes and award-winning designs for stage and screen. From custom designs to an extensive collection of theatrical makeup, wigs, and specialty props that are available for rent or purchase. We are grateful for their support and to all the queens who helped to “Cher” their talents with our community.

Spotlight Costumes is located at 1503 East Carson Street. For more info, visit spotlightcostumes.com or call 412-381-7733.

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Marriage Equality Update

Seventeen states - CA, CT, DE, HI, IA, IL, ME, MD, MA, MN, NH, NJ, NM, NY, RI, VT, and WA - plus Washington, D.C. have the freedom to marry for same-sex couples. In Utah, Virginia, and Oklahoma, a federal judge has issued a ruling establishing the freedom to marry, and the decision is now stayed pending consideration of by the appellate court.

Three states offer broad protections short of marriage. CO allows civil union, while OR and NV offer broad domestic partnership. WI has more limited domestic partnership.

Marriage Broad Domestic Partnership / Civil Union and Anti-Gay Constitutional Amdendment Neither Relationship Recognition or Anti-Gay Constitutional Amendment Anti-Gay Constitutional Amendment

It’s Time, Pennsylvania.

The “It’s Time” campaign is a project of the Delta Foundation of Pittsburgh and includes a coalition of a group of like-minded organizations in Western Pennsylvania that are working to make equality in the LGBT community a reality. The group focuses on four issues including marriage equality, PA state wide non-discrimination, anti-bullying, and hate crimes.

Take the pledge on our website and receive a FREE Western Pennsylvania equality sticker!

www.itstimepa.org

Source: FreedomtoMarry.org

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HOT GUY READS A BOOK

Greg Miller

on “Ocean at the End of the Lane”

by Neil Gaiman

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Photo by Mara Rago Photography “Ocean at the End of the Lane” is Neil Gaiman’s entry into the adult genre after years of writing children’s books. This short thriller is a fascinating tale of an unnamed, middle-aged male narrator who returns home for a funeral after years of being away. While wandering around town, he soon begins to remember pieces of his childhood long forgotten. Childhood innocence is tested and transcended as we see what getting between ancient, mystic forces can cost, as well as what can be gained from the power of true friendship.

As a fan of supernatural stories, this book engaged me on the surface; however, I fell in love with the themes and metaphors it contained on a personal level. Childhood is a seemingly endless journey with many trials and

obstacles to overcome. Through the passage of time and adolescence, many of these trials and how we coped with them are forgotten, whether intentional or not. Another cord that struck me was the narrator blaming himself for the events taking place throughout the story.

Children oftentimes irrationally blame themselves for things happening around them in which they have no control or influence over. In many cases, it isn’t until adulthood until we can reflect and realize our guilt was misplaced.

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UPMC Center for Inclusion inspires a culture of collaboration throughout our company and within the communities we serve, all based on the simple idea that inclusion matters — to all of us, every day.

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