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Angela Buhri
Why Women Can’t Lose Weight for Good Obese Woman Detects 59 Possible Causes of Weight Gain in Women
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— By Angela Buhri
They will see hundreds of articles about the newest diet or exercise program and, once again, give it a try. However, they are just the same diets and exercise programs with a new cool name and ‘wrapped’ in a new nice ‘package.’ But they have hope and think, “Now I will succeed. This sounds great. I can do that.” Come February; they realize that once again, such a weight loss plan didn’t work.
The worst thing about this is that all these wonderful women who fail with their diet blame themselves. They think they lack the necessary willpower or just don’t have enough discipline. But it’s the opposite: weight loss diets failed them. Diets don’t work – can’t work – because they are against our body’s own nature. Maintainable weight loss can’t be achieved with willpower, and it requires much less discipline than most of us think.
Nobody tells them that extra weight is a message from the body (a signal) and that maintainable weight loss is all about eliminating the root causes. Once the causes are taken care of, the weight will take care of itself.
I became overweight at the age of 5 (after having been molested by a male relative) and struggled with my weight until I finally overcame the abuse at the age of 26. Within only a few months, I went from 84kg to 55kg, without dieting, without exercising, and without anything weight loss-related. It simply happened. I kept that weight off for 16 years, leading a normal life and eating normally (three-course menus, wine, dessert). Then, at the peak of my success as a weight loss coach, when I desperately needed staff, I hired two women. Later, it turned out that they were friends of a woman who saw me as a competitor. Within three months, they had completely destroyed from within what I had built in 12 years. After that, I went through severe famine for many years because I had lost everything, including my entire clientele. Within that time, my weight exploded, and today, I’m labeled as “morbidly obese” (118kg).
Due to my own obesity history, I constantly searched for answers beyond the diet/exercise mainstream because nobody could provide me with an answer. To this day, I have detected 59 possible root causes of weight gain in women in four different areas:
- Some causes are physical: sleep deprivation, toxic overload, metabolic syndrome, hormonal imbalance, lack of certain vital nutrients, food intolerances, dieting, etc.
- Another prominent group of root causes among women are emotions: emotional imbalance, stress, insufficient boundaries, self-rejection, depression, etc.
- Mind: negative thinking, negative self-talk, negative attitude towards themselves, speaking negatively about their weight and body, etc.
- Psychological causes: trauma, abuse, lack of love, inner void, self-sabotage (not feeling worthy of looking beautiful), violence, not feeling valued, etc.
Although being obese as a weight loss coach has been extremely hard and difficult for me, today, I am grateful for it. Without my own weight struggles, I would never have kept searching and finding answers. No slim person wants to spend so much time looking for solutions once they have lost weight. And if what I have found can help trigger a paradigm shift regarding weight loss and help more women find better, healthier, and faster solutions to their weight problems, then it has been worth the pain. And if that is what is needed to finally make the very necessary paradigm shift within the weight loss industry happen, then I’m happy to be part of that shift.
In order to really understand the weight issue, we need to gain a better understanding of the law of cause and effect. Everything has a cause, good or bad. The real problem with weight loss is that we have been utterly misled and sold the idea that all we had to do to lose weight was eat less and exercise more. This misconception has long been scientifically debunked.
Let me use an example. One of my clients attended a weekend workshop of mine where I mentioned that one of the root causes of being overweight is sexual abuse. After the workshop was over, she went home and moved out of her sister’s house, where she had been raped by her brother-in-law. She then went through some therapy to get over the abuse and lost all her excess weight without dieting or any lifestyle change for that matter. She transformed the cause (the abuse), and the effect (the excess weight) was no longer needed. Her excess weight served as a protection against abuse – it kept that man away from her.
Now tell such a woman to eat less and exercise more to lose that fantastic protection shield that is doing such a great job for her! That would be ridiculous. As a matter of fact, in such a situation, a diet is completely counter-productive. Such a woman would always gain her weight back until she got the chance to transform her trauma.
This is just one of many possible causes. Thank goodness, not all overweight women had to go through such a terrible experience.
The goal is to detect the effective cause, transform or eliminate it, and the body will take care of the extra weight. Sometimes, we need to eliminate some poor eating habits, but even those have a psychological reason. That’s why I prefer to use a body-mind-spirit approach when I work with clients, and I always recommend looking at the person as a whole being and not just as a body of flesh and bones. For too long, overweight women have been reduced to their eating habits, and nobody cared about what was going on in their souls.
I believe it’s really time to start thinking outside the diet box and share the truth with the millions of women struggling with their weight:
That it’s more important to address the root causes than what we eat.
Like the iceberg, 80% of the problem is underneath the surface and has to be addressed there. Psychologists tell us that 80% of problems are usually about people’s psychology. That is exactly my experience with the 10,000+ clients I have had the privilege to work with…and regarding my own weight struggles. My own extra weight has really become one of my greatest teachers in life. This gives hope. We don’t have to starve ourselves to death to be healthy and slim. We don’t have to look like a stick with skin to be attractive. We can lose weight for good simply by addressing the root causes.
Happy slimming!
About Angela Buhri
Angela Buhri is a behavioral psychologist, adult educator, and teacher from Switzerland with over 10,000 former participants. In her search for answers, she has interviewed more than two dozen health and weight loss experts and is now making these interviews available to other women. To learn more, you can attend her free webinar at https://cdm.weightlossexpertsrevealthetruth.com/webinar-truth-weightloss-registration
