MomsTown NEWS - MARCH 2021

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SuperCharge MeaghanB your life with editor-in-chief of Woman's Day magazine

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MOMSTOWN • MAR 2021

Welcome to MomsTown!

Sparks. Bolts. Currents. “Your Fully Charged Life,” the new book

by Meaghan B. Murphy serves as this month’s inspiration for Supercharging Your Life.

The book by the Woman’s Day editor-in-chief starts with her telling the story of how she grew up with the nickname “Grumpy” — a feeling that a lot of us can relate to lately. We have certainly been through, and continue to navigate, difficult times. What we love about her book is the idea that we don’t have to remain stuck.

We don’t have to keep treading in negative waters. She credits her fully charged life and flow of upbeat energy with following one principle: “Every day, every hour, sometimes moment to moment, you consciously choose to act in a positive way or look for the positive in situations.” Meaghan shares more tips with us in an excerpt from “Your Fully Charged Life,” on pages 16 & 17.

Keeping the positive vibes front and center, we also are thrilled this month to feature a local mom who has created an entire jewelry line based on sharing positive messages, kindness and love. Feather & Rose founder, Lauren Earnest, has a simple business goal: “Our mission is to see females flourish by helping them cultivate confidence, joy and connection in their lives.” We’re thinking Feather & Rose jewelry might be a great Mother’s Day gift! (wink, wink!)

We also want to thank all of the moms sharing their stories with us. We are grateful and SuperCharged by the emails and the outreach. So much so, that we have felt a sense of energy building. We are clinging onto that spark and allowing it to propel us forward. We have found in our conversations with so many moms over the years that there are a few really great tips that help us build positivity and energy. For us there are five tips: 1. SUPERCHARGE BY SIMPLICITY: Simplify what you can, when you can. This might be something as simple as declining an invitation or request.

2. PERK UP WITH PURGING: Get rid of stuff and clutter and resist the temptation to bring more stuff into your life and home.

3 SPRING CLEAN SCHEDULES: As the world starts to re-open to a post-pandemic world we’re trying to keep our schedules light and airy.

4. GEAR UP WITH GRATITUDE: It’s amazing how even the smallest thoughts and acts of gratitude have a way of uplifting your spirit and level of energy.

5 CLEAR A PATH TO CREATIVITY: You have the power to clear out the gunk and create more joy- which leads to more creativity.

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And finally, we invite you to join us in the ongoing conversation.Visit us at MomsTown.com. Join our newsletter and share with us your hopes, your dreams, and let us know what SuperCharges your life! You can also visit MomsTown365.com to hear episodes of Mom Creators. Send us an email if you'd like to be featured on our podcast.

Warmly,

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If you’re like most of us, you may have let your beauty routine go on hiatus this past year. But this is the perfect time to do a purge and make some clean swaps to get ready for the season’s new trends. You won’t be able to just lean back into your old routine this spring. Like everything else in life, things have changed. Here are some ways you can prepare and be ready to show up in our ‘new normal’.

1. CHECK PRODUCT EXPIRATION DATES Toss out products you never use that have been collecting dust (and bacteria).

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feather & rose joyful jewelry crafted for confidence

Lauren Earnest is a local North County mom and creator living in Carlsbad. She is the owner of Feather & Rose, a jewelry business for women and littles. She specializes in creating gemstone and gold-filled jewelry that has special meaning and affirmation, and is known for her mother-daughter bracelet sets.

Q HOW DID YOU TURN YOUR LOVE FOR JEWELRY MAKING INTO A BUSINESS? I started Feather & Rose when I was looking for a fun activity to do with my daughter. Jewelry making was something we both enjoyed, and having matching jewelry was a fun way to feel connected. From there, Feather & Rose was born!

Q MANY OF YOUR PIECES INCLUDE POSITIVE AFFIRMA-

TIONS. WORDS ARE POWERFUL. WHAT DO YOU HOPE TO ACCOMPLISH WITH THE WORDS MOMS WEAR WHEN THEY PUT ON YOUR JEWELRY?

Q WHAT ARE YOUR BUSINESS GOALS?

We believe in the power of words of affirmation as a means to build confidence and self-worth. When I first became a mom I had a difficult time adjusting to my new role — I questioned my every move and felt like I was doing it all wrong. I truly leaned into the affirming words of others and positive self-talk to build my confidence as a new mom. We want every female to recognize her unique talents, to trust in her abilities, and to know that she is precious and beloved.

Our mission is to see females flourish by helping them cultivate confidence, joy and connection in their lives. We also want to support women on a global scale.

10% of all sales is donated to Carry the Future, a nonprofit that provides critical aid to refugee families in need, including supplying baby carriers, newborn supplies, and funding projects that create women-friendly spaces.

Q CAN YOU TELL US ABOUT THE PIECES YOU CREATE?

MOMS WHO COULD USE A LITTLE UPDATE TO OUR STYLE?

We have layering necklaces, stacking bracelets, and earrings. We are most known for our mother-daughter bracelet sets. I handcraft each piece at my home in Carlsbad. I use only gold-filled chains, links and clasps, as these will not tarnish or irritate skin. I use a lot of gemstone materials, which I love working with, because of their healing properties and special meaning. The gemstone’s meaning helps me create the affirmation or note of encouragement that is included with each piece.

Q FINALLY, WHAT FASHION TIPS DO YOU HAVE FOR US Absolutely.

1) INVEST IN A GOOD PAIR OF JEANS — swap the leggings for a pair of jeans that are comfortable but fit you in all the right places.

2) ACCESSORIZE — throw on a pendant necklace or a cute hat — it goes a long way!

3) LAYER WITH A CARDIGAN — keep on the casual T, but a nice cardigan suddenly makes you look a little more 'put together.'

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the MARCH 2021 ISSUE | VOL II

your life ISSUE

MOMSTOWN IS A COMMUNITY OF MOM CREATORS ON A MISSION TO INSPIRE & MOTIVATE. MOMS CREATE FAMILIES, COMMUNITIES, ART, CULTURE, BUSINESS, FOOD, TRADITIONS & SO MUCH MORE—

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▶ SPRING SALADS: Chimichurri Chickpea Salad & Cobb Salad ▶ MARCH MUSHROOM MADNESS!: Grilled Portabello Gyros w/yogurt dill sauce Roasted Chicken Thighs, Veggies & Orzo ▶ LUCKY Shamrock Cookies

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13 3 Many (many) women have fantasized about starting any kind of food business. While starting a restaurant is a pretty complicated endeavor (and a lot of work!). You might consider starting your own home-based food business.

There is a growing movement in California to support community-based food production, sometimes referred to as “cottage food,” “artisanal food,” “slow food,” “locally based food,” or “urban agriculture” movements. These movements seek to connect food to local communities, small businesses and environmental sustainability.

1. FULFILL A DREAM

If you've always dreamed of being in the food business, the cottage food industry is potentially a great way to start. And, you can get started today!

2. SHARE A RECIPE

A lot of cottage food startups got their jumpstart with a treasured family recipe.

3. SHARE A CULTURE

Food is one of the best ways to introduce people to the tastes and traditions of different cultures. Food helps us engage with the past so that we can be rooted for the future.

4. WORK FROM YOUR HOME KITCHEN

Cottage food laws make it possible to enter the food industry without spending a lot of money on commercial kitchen rentals.

5. SET YOUR OWN SCHEDULE: FREEDOM!!

6. BOOST YOUR LOCAL ECONOMY Local businesses attract local consumers and keep dollars within your local community.

7. CONNECT WITH LOCAL PEOPLE

Food unites us. Food starts conversations, creates connections and strengthens bonds. Building a business around a community is definitely satisfying.

8. FULFILL A MARKET VOID

The cottage food market gives food starters an opportunity to fill a market void and gauge the possibility for traction.

REASONS TO START YOUR OWN HOME-BASED FOOD BUSINESS

9. PAY THE BILLS

There is money in cooking. The transaction of selling food helps feed your family. But, like most ventures, cooking is not a get-rich-quick kind of venture. It’ll take time to build your business and that’s when the “Joy” factor will play an important role. It’ll be a lot easier to swallow the difficulties you’re inevitably going to encounter if you're enjoying the journey.

It’s also important to note that, in most states, there are literally caps on how much you can make in a cottage food business. So, before you jumpstart your food venture, be sure to check into what kind of money you’ll be allowed to make under your state’s cottage food license. Also, noteworthy in many jurisdictions, there are different classes of licenses.

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10. WORK WITH LOVED ONES

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11. CULTIVATE YOUR CREATIVITY

Creating a food product takes a creative soul. Beyond the recipe, there is the presentation, the packaging, the marketing and being creative when it comes to finding new ways to sell.

12. JOY IN COOKING

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CHIMICHURRI chickpea salad

GIVE SPRING SALADS A FRESH SPIN tasty fresh salads

With spring and warmer weather comes salad season, offering a perfect canvas for creating refreshing meals and appetizers centered around tasty greens, juicy tomatoes and crave-worthy dressings. Give your salads an update by avoiding the same tired mixes and instead create tasty meals fit for the season.

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Part of the appeal of dishing up a homemade salad is the unlimited options you have at your fingertips to make the bowl of greens uniquely “yours.” For many, this means one thing: the more toppings, the better. With grilled chicken, crispy bacon, tomatoes, ripe avocado, hard-boiled eggs, bleu cheese and a bed of fresh lettuce, this classic Cobb Salad offers an ideal lunch or even a quick family meal.

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cup fresh cilantro cup fresh parsley tablespoons dried oregano garlic cloves, minced cup red wine vinegar cup olive oil teaspoon salt teaspoon pepper can (14 1/2 ounces) chickpeas, drained teaspoon crushed red pepper flakes bag Fresh Express Baby Kale Mix cup NatureSweet Cherubs Tomatoes, diced medium avocado, diced tablespoons Litehouse Avocado Ranch Dressing

In food processor, combine cilantro, parsley, oregano, garlic, red wine vinegar, olive oil, salt and pepper. Pulse until sauce is smooth.

Place chimichurri sauce in small bowl with chickpeas and crushed red pepper flakes; toss to coat. Cover and refrigerate overnight, if possible.

Divide kale, tomatoes and avocado between four bowls. Top each bowl evenly with marinated chickpeas. Drizzle with avocado ranch dressing and serve.

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COBB salad

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eggs pound bacon bag Fresh Express Sweet Butter Lettuce pound grilled chicken cup NatureSweet Cherubs Tomatoes, halved ripe avocado, sliced cup bleu cheese cup Litehouse Homestyle Ranch Dressing

Bring pot of water to boil. Use slotted spoon to place eggs in water. Boil 10 minutes then transfer to ice bath to stop cooking process. Peel eggs and slice.

Heat skillet over medium heat. Dice bacon and add to pan. Sauté until bacon is crispy and fat is rendered, about 7 minutes. Remove from pan with slotted spoon.

To assemble salad, start with bed of lettuce then top with hard-boiled eggs, grilled chicken, tomatoes, avocado, bacon and bleu cheese; toss in ranch dressing.

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WHOLESOME MARCH MUSHROOMS grilled portabello gyros

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grilled portabello gyros w/yogurt dill sauce INGREDIENTS 4 1 1/2 1/4 2

portobello mushrooms tablespoon extra-virgin olive oil teaspoon dried oregano teaspoon smoked paprika yellow bell peppers, sliced

YOGURT DILL SAUCE

1 English cucumber, grated 1 cup whole-milk Greek yogurt 1/2 cup sour cream 2 tablespoons extra-virgin olive oil 1/2 small lemon, juice only 2 cloves garlic, minced 1 teaspoon salt 1 tablespoon minced fresh dill 4 pita breads or naan 2 tomatoes, thinly sliced 1/2 red onion, thinly sliced 1/2 head green lettuce crumbled feta cheese (optional)

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Remove stems from mushrooms and brush caps with wet towel. Using spoon, carefully scrape out gills. Slice mushrooms into 1/4-inch pieces and place in medium bowl with olive oil, oregano and smoked paprika.

Preheat indoor grill pan over medium-high heat. Add mushrooms and peppers; grill, tossing occasionally, until tender, 5-7 minutes.

To make yogurt dill sauce: Squeeze grated cucumber in clean towel to remove excess liquid.

Add to large bowl with yogurt, sour cream, olive oil, lemon juice, garlic, salt and dill. Stir to combine.

To serve, place mushrooms and peppers in middle of pita bread. Top with tomatoes, onion, lettuce, feta, if desired, and big dollop of yogurt dill sauce.

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ONE SKILLET ONE BOWL ONE PAN & smells amazing!

VOILA!

Recipe courtesy of Emily Weeks of “Zen and Spice” With their earthy flavor, mushrooms – like many other fruits and vegetables – can also play a positive role in supporting a healthy immune system.

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roasted chicken thighs and veggies w/mushroom orzo risotto CHICKEN

8 boneless, skinless chicken thighs salt & pepper to taste 6 tablespoons unsalted butter 16 oz crimini mushrooms, quartered 3 zucchini, sliced in half moons 3 large carrots, thinly sliced 4 fresh rosemary and roughly chopped 4 cloves garlic, minced

ORZO

4 cups chicken or vegetable broth 1 tablespoon unsalted butter 1 tablespoon extra-virgin olive oil 1 small yellow onion, diced 2 garlic cloves, minced 16 oz crimini mushrooms, finely chopped 1 cup uncooked orzo pasta 1/8 teaspoon black pepper 1/3 cup white wine 1/3 cup shredded Parmesan cheese

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To make chicken: Preheat oven to 450 F. Pat chicken dry. Season with salt and pepper, to taste. In large skillet over medium-high heat, melt butter. Sear chicken until browned, 4-5 minutes on each side.

In large bowl, toss mushrooms, zucchini, carrots, garlic and rosemary. On large baking sheet, spread vegetables. Nestle chicken into vegetables. Drizzle with butter and juices from pan.

Bake 20 minutes until chicken is cooked through and vegetables are tender.

To make orzo: In small pot over medium-low heat, warm broth.

Using skillet from chicken, add butter and olive oil over medium heat. Add onion, garlic and mushrooms. Cook, stirring occasionally, until onions soften, 3-4 minutes.

Add orzo and black pepper. Stir and cook 2 minutes. Add white wine and cook until evaporated, about 1 minute.

Add warm broth to orzo 2/3 cup at a time, stirring until liquid is absorbed. Repeat with remaining broth, waiting until last batch is absorbed before adding more. Remove from heat and stir in Parmesan.

Serve in individual bowls with chicken and roasted vegetables atop mushroom orzo risotto.

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LUCKY SHAMROCK cookies MINT CHOCOLATE CHIP & milk of course!

COOKIES

HEAT OVEN TO 2 1/2 1 1/2 1 1 1/4 2 30 1 1

It’s your lucky day because you don’t have to search for the pot of gold under the rainbow for this winning recipe. Throw out the old Irish classics and sweeten things up this year with some mint chocolate chip fun.

If you’re in a crunch for St. Patrick’s Day and need something glowing with green, here is a dessert that is sure to have everyone coming back for seconds (and more).

These Mint Chocolate Chip Cookies are as green as four-leaf clovers and have delicious chocolate chips mixed throughout for some extra sweet flavor. Served beside a big glass of milk, they are perfect treats for any St. Patrick’s Day party or virtual gathering.

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cups flour teaspoon baking soda teaspoon salt cup butter, softened cups sugar eggs drops green food coloring teaspoon peppermint extract package (12 ounces) chocolate chips

In large bowl, mix flour, baking soda and salt until blended.

Set aside.

In medium bowl, beat butter and sugar until combined.

Add eggs, food coloring and peppermint extract; beat until combined.

Find more recipes, celebration ideas and dessert favorites for every occasion at Culinary.net.

With so much mixing and scooping to be done, this is a great recipe for kids to get involved in the kitchen, too.

One of the best parts is the eye-catching color. Watch children’s smiling little faces as the batter turns from light brown to dark green for a priceless reaction.

After being perfectly baked, these cookies are bright, fun and will be the hit of any celebration. Soft in the middle, a little crisp on the edges and as green as can be. You can’t ask for much more on St. Patrick’s Day.

Add wet ingredients to dry ingredients; beat until combined. Stir in chocolate chips. Drop spoonfuls of cookie dough onto baking sheet.

Bake 11-14 minutes, or until edges are lightly browned.

Cool on wire racks (before devouring!)

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how to lead a

Meaghan B Murphy is a longtime magazine editor, writer, on-air lifestyle expert, podcaster and certified trainer.

As the current editor-in-chief at Woman's Day magazine, Murphy is a media veteran who previously served as executive editor of Good Housekeeping. She lives with her husband, their three children and fur baby in Westfield, New Jersey.

Be Amazing the FULLY CHARGED WAY What are you good at?

How did you shine this week?

In what ways did you totally crush today?

You are likely doing many, many things every single day that set you apart, that other people admire and that you can be proud of. We’re all fighting the good fight and racking up wins, big and small—and it’s time to more regularly and intentionally celebrate them. Unfortunately, we aren’t always good at relishing in our well-earned accomplishments, our inherent strengths and hard-fought habits—especially women. We take them for granted or are quick to share the spotlight or move on. One study found that it’s due to “backlash avoidance.” There’s a lot to unpack there but what I’m suggesting is simply recognizing your triumphs to yourself.

Because if you can’t recognize your victories, no one else will. And when you celebrate and take ownership of your awesomeness, the swell of positivity and confidence energizes you to do even more amazing things.

Research shows that when people focus on what they’ve done well or even on small achievements, ratings of well-being and mood go up—they’re happier and mentally healthier. And not only in the short-term. One study found that people who journaled about their accomplishments daily for just a week had higher well-being scores even six months later. No wonder: Achievement is one of the five cornerstones of Seligman’s well-being theory — but recognizing it is key. If you want to fill a journal with all the ways you’re killing it, do it.

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fully charged LIFE

A FEW OTHER SIMPLE WAYS: GIVE YOURSELF A PEP TALK My son, James, will tell you he’s the best basketball player on the court, the fastest dude in lacrosse, the best artist in class . . .

Kids point out how they shine because recognition and attention feels so good. That doesn’t change when we grow up. Take a minute every day to pat yourself on the back (try doing it while brushing your teeth!) with even a fraction of kid-level swagger. Or do it when you feel drained and need extra juju to take on a challenge

Resist the urge to attribute your achievement to others—whether you’re talking to yourself or accepting praise from someone. Yes, it takes a village (and by it I mean everything). You can still take credit; be humble and proud.

CONNECT THE DOTS

ACCEPT ALL THE COMPLIMENTS

Achievement hits harder when you link a successful outcome to something you did, your hard work or a decision you made. Like how a friend told me that whenever her boys are being particularly awesome, she thinks about how her parenting efforts, sacrifices and choices helped get them there.

See yourself through a friend’s eyes.

I know this woman who bats away compliments like mosquitos. It makes me want to shake the praise into her! While you might think it’s cool or funny to be self-deprecating— and sometimes it is—if you can’t celebrate even a little when someone points out how much you rock, what’s the point?

Make the voice in your head your best ally and hype person, not an adversary or neutral nobody.

OWN YOUR PIECE OF THE PUZZLE

What do people notice about you?

What do they compliment you on?

If you were your BFF, how would you give you props?

From YOUR FULLY CHARGED LIFE by Meaghan B Murphy, to be published on February 23 by TarcherPerigee, an imprint of Penguin Publishing Group, a division of Penguin Random House, LLC. Copyright © 2021 by Meaghan B Murphy.

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Is Flood Insurance included on my homeowners or renters policy?

NO. Many confuse water damage coverage with Flood coverage and vice versa. Flood is not included as a peril to be covered. Flood insurance is a separate policy.

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Do I need to be in a designated flood zone to get coverage for flood?

NO. EVERY building is in a flood zone and can be purchased regardless of the flood zone assigned.

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What about the Disaster Assistance Program, if I don't purchase Flood Insurance?

Any money obtained from this program MUST be paid back with a large interest rate attached to it. It can equal your mortgage payment and then some. Why be reactive to a disaster...be PROACTIVE! Purchase Flood coverage, just like Earthquake, for peace of mind.

CALL our office TODAY for quotes on your insurance coverage needs!

WHAT DOES BEING AN "INDEPENDENT AGENT REALLY MEAN? Being an Independent agent means we can represent multiple carriers so we can find our clients the BEST possible insurance COVERAGE and BEST possible PREMIUM out in the insurance marketplace.. Our agency is not tied to any one carrier or product. This is referred to as an exclusive agent. This we are not.

Our agency is affiliated with SIAA, Strategic Independent Agents Alliance, which is by far the largest network of independent agencies in the country. Collectively, we have over 4,000 agencies in our network that have written 8.1 billion in premium. That’s a large market share. What does this mean for you, you might ask? Simply, we are backed by the strength of our group and we have negotiating power, which equals lower premiums for you.

Some of the carriers we represent:

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Do I REALLY need Flood coverage here in California?

YES. Especially in the areas and surrounding areas that were burned from the recent fires. After fires, come rain and mudslides. This is where flood coverage comes in.

Not to mention, with the weather patterns changing, this has and will become a bigger issue for homeowners.

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Disclosure: This message contains information from Cabrillo Mortgage, and is confidential and privileged. The information is intended for the use RECORD-LOW RATES ual or entity named above. If you are MORTGAGE not the intended recipient, be aware that any disclosure, copying, distribution or use of the contents of this ohibited. If you have received this electronic message in error, please notify us immediately by replying to this message and then please delete the your system. Cabrillo Mortgage 3110 Camino Del Rio South Suite 312 San Diego, CA 92108 (Company NMLS 292211 Company DRE 01264205)

What Do the Rates Mean for You? LET'S ASK THE EXPERT: KEN MORAN

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Ken, how long have you been in the mortgage industry and what makes your service unique?

A: I’ve been in the mortgage industry for more than 27 years. We spe-

cialize in Jumbo loans to $10 million, government loans, and conventional loans. Our longstanding relationships with more than 100 funding sources enable us to provide preferred rates and pricing on mortgage products that many other lenders don’t have access to.

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What is your take on these new record-low rates for mortgages?

A: With the average 30-year fixed-rate mortgage at 3.18% this past

week, according to Freddie Mac, it’s the lowest level in nearly 50 years.

Rates are expected to stay near these low levels for at least the rest of 2020.

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What makes your service unique?

A: I’m able to close creative financing to help borrowers purchase when they otherwise could not. I do cross collateral loans to help buyers purchase non-contingent without having to sell their current residence.

I fund asset depletion loans using assets to create income where other lenders cannot. We have really great technology that enables us to frequently close loans in two weeks or less at market leading rates and terms. The great products, rates and experience enable me to close transactions and provide options for buyers that might not otherwise be able to purchase a home.

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What kind of paperwork do you need to help a potential client?

A: It is really not too much to compile. I always request 2 years tax

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returns and W-2s, 2 months of bank statements, and 2 recent pay stubs.

If a buyer is self-employed, I will also need 2 years business tax returns and K-1s or 1099s. I always set up a secure link so they can just drag and drop to make it quick and easy.

A: Interest rates are hovering near all-time lows, and for qualified borrow-

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What does this mean for a buyer of a home that costs $600K?

ers in San Diego County, borrowing less than $701,000, should get optimal rates in the low 3’s.

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How does it look for a buyer in the $900K or $2 million range?

Do you think these historically low rates could go even lower?

A: It’s possible. My best advice is to lock in a historically low rate now while you can. If rates go up there is nothing you can do. Rates are incredibly low. Take advantage of it while you can!

A: Qualified borrowers borrowing up to 2 million dollars in California will have great options with 15%-25% down payment. There are great loans that are fixed for 3, 5, 7, and 10 years all with rates in the mid to high 3’s.

There are also options to amortize over 30 or 40 years and interest only options for lower payments and higher cash flow.

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BluebonnetBaker blogs her way

to the bank

In a recent episode of MomsTown 365, The Daily 10-Minute Podcast for Mom Creators, we had the opportunity to talk with a very successful mom blogger.

Her name is Amber Bracegirdle.

She’s the founder of BlueBonnetBaker.com, FoodFanatic.com and the online ad exchange, Mediavine. Mediavine is helping content creators make money with their blogs and develop sustainable online businesses.

HERE’S AN EXCERPT FROM THAT EPISODE:

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We're excited to have you join us! Will you share with our listeners a little bit about who you are and tell us, what is Mediavine?

Sure. I am, first and foremost, a food blogger. I've been a food blogger since 2008. My website is BluebonneBaker.com. Back in 2012, I met a few partners that wanted to start an online food blog and we started a site together called Food Fanatic. It was unique in that it was the first time the guys had ever created their own content. It really opened them up to the fact that all of these content creators, themselves included, were having the same pain points.

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How have you seen the blogging industry evolve over the years? And where would you say it's at now and what do you see happening in the future?

When I started in 2008, BluebonnetBaker.com was a hobby and it remained a hobby. It was never my full-time job. I was always working a full-time job, but it was my way to have a voice, especially after I had my first child, I just needed an outlet to be creative. It was also connecting me back to my family that was living far away. I think a lot of bloggers start blogs as a passion project that then evolves into a business.

Many of those women that I've known, for more than 12 years now, are now the breadwinners in their family and they, or their husband, actually quit their fulltime jobs to come and work on the website.

Amber went on to say that a lot of people have been predicting that blogging is dead. She assures us it is not. Amber says blogging has only gotten bigger and better.

For more information about Amber and her work, visit Mediavine.com and to hear Amber’s tips on starting a blog, tune into MomsTown365.com, Episodes #74 & #75.

One of those pain points was ad technology. And so we built our online advertising platform. That kind of opened the floodgates and we were able to represent not just our own sites, but any site.

So that's what we do. We actually help content creators across the lifestyle space, put ads on their blogs, but we come at it from a really different place than most ad companies in that we're content creators, too.

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We don't want to have slow sites

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We don't want to alienate readers

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We don't want to have them have a bad experience when they visit your website

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We want them to come back

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We want them to subscribe to your newsletter, all those things

So, when we make decisions about our ad tech, we actually do it from a reader perspective first. What's really funny is that by making decisions based on the user experience that keeps users on the page, we're actually also giving advertisers what they want because they want engaged audiences looking at their ads.

It sort of solves two problems at once. And so that's what we do.

AMBER BRACEGIRDLE

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Preparing your responses, choosing a professional yet flattering outfit, researching the company, and setting up the perfect lighting are all known to top the virtual interview tip lists, but what about removing distractions?

EMILY STARK

Distractions have been known to derail an interview and distort how you’re remembered. I asked several recruiters to share serial virtual interview distractions they’ve encountered.

BACKGROUND MOVEMENT

INTERVIEW ETIQUETTE

The first distraction to quickly come up in my conversation with one recruiter was a ceiling fan. She remarked that it was not only distracting for her but the other interviewers on the panel, too. Take the time to assess your background for distracting movement and objects.

When the pandemic began, yoga pants with business tops were all the rage.

Not as much when a recruiter sees it in an interview. A recruiter described this scene: guy in interview; guy is asked a question which requires a document that is on the other side of the room; guy gets up to fetch document; guy shares his basketball shorts paired with suit and tie top. DRESS THE PART!

PRECLUDE THE TECH TALK At this point, most hiring teams have the interview process nailed down.

Scheduling, technology, and presentations flow smoothly so they’re able to focus on the decision-making. This leads to the next issue brought up by a recruiter: fumbling over the technology which was sent over prior to the interview.

Take some time to get acquainted with the technology that will be used in the interview.

The bottom line is the time on tech is stealing your opportunity to discuss the position and fully share your value for the position.

NOISE Could your Roomba timer go off in the middle of your response to the “Tell me about yourself” question? The sounds of dogs, appliances, tv, and people can be huge distractions. Some may be tempted to jump ship and hop to a coffee shop, but that’s risky because it could cause more stress in terms of internet connection, forgetting documents, and surrounding baristas contributing to your distractions.

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The overall distress I gathered from the recruiters was a general dissatisfaction that candidates weren’t taking the interview process as formally during the pandemic. Dressing the part was only the beginning — many didn’t send a thank you message or join the interview on time. Though we are in unprecedented times, an interviewee should revert back to precedented interview practices.

DESK DISTRESS Though a Zoom call doesn’t expose your workspace in its entirety, it can be one of the most offensive distractions to you and the interviewer. Clearing your work area is an important prep step. Consolidating your materials and leaving your resume and paper for notes is a quick action that will project into the overall interview vibe.

The biggest takeaway is to give yourself time to take a step back and evaluate the virtual interview from all angles as a pathway to ace an interview calmly and confidently.

For more information visit Marketable-Mama.com

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SAND TO SNOW:

local runners got grit

Junior Mavericks Running Club 2021

BY Robin

Missailidis

Last year was going to be a stellar year for our club. It started out with a full roster for spring track season, which didn’t surprise me. After all, we sent a record number of youth athletes to Junior Olympic Regionals in 2019. That summer we had 25 athletes compete in Las Vegas during a sizzling hot June weekend. At Regionals, three qualified for Junior Olympics; one became an All American. In fall we had two athletes make it to Junior Olympics for Cross Country, which were held in Madison Wisconsin in December 2019. Our athletes developed a hidden strength from running in frigid cold of 10 degrees with ice and snow on the ground. They quickly understood the importance of wearing 2 inch spikes in their racing shoes. This was completely opposite of what they experienced in June.

We’ve come a long way. Our club started as a fun summer workout for kids in 2010.

By 2014 we became a sanctioned USATF team. This created an opportunity to be a part of after-school enrichment. We were going strong. When Covid-19 hit, the club took an immediate hit. With a full roster, we held zoom classes. Coach Laura led the workouts while I moderated. It was the best we could do in the interim. This dynamic opportunity presented itself with a set of new beginnings. When the workout camps were allowed once again, we quickly responded and acquired permits at local parks. We found a new niche. The club is thriving again but in a much different format. We are hoping to return to regular season track meets at some point. We are grateful to the families in our community who have been loyal.

Before Covid-19, our club was chosen to provide after-school enrichment programs at elementary schools throughout North County. We hope to return but in the meantime have found a great place by working closely with our local park & recreation departments.

We have come full circle. When Junior Mavericks started, the local high schools benefitted. As our former athletes graduated high school and college, we have benefitted. Former athletes serve as mentors and coaches for the younger athletes. As a certified USATF Level 2 coach, it is a dream come true to work with our youth in fitness and health.

For more information visit: juniormavericks.com

EMILY STARK

Robin Missailidis

USATF Level 2 Coach

Junior Mavericks Running Club

As our club developed, we created a workforce of female coaches who are former college athletes. The coaches have a strong understanding of what it takes for young athletes to succeed in today’s world. Our coaches thrive on helping kids in our community.

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HOW TO TEACH

Children

Children develop their identities right alongside their abilities to crawl, walk, talk and recognize letters.

There’s also a common misconception that children are “colorblind.”

However, studies have found children can show signs of racial bias at an early age, with psychologists from Northwestern University finding children as young as four years old may be picking up on cues of intolerance from adults around them. Children may not understand prejudice or racial bias, but from their earliest days, they absorb and mimic attitudes that are held by the adults in their lives.

“For children, differences are a way of learning about themselves and others, a way of building their sense of self and a place in their family and community,” said Dr. Elanna Yalow, KinderCare Education’s chief academic officer. “Children will naturally look to their parents and caregivers for explanations about the diversity they see in their world and what those differences can or should mean. That’s why it’s so important to help even the youngest children learn how to embrace diversity in a way that’s respectful and celebrates different cultures, backgrounds and experiences.”

Understanding and addressing issues of diversity, equity and inclusion can be challenging, which is why some parents may shy away from having these conversations with their children. Yalow offers these tips to help parents lay the foundation for honest and developmentally appropriate discussions.

START BY ACKNOWLEDGING DIFFERENCES

To ignore differences among people is to ignore a part of the person.

When children ask, “Why does?” questions, rather than shy away or tell them, “We don’t ask those questions,” embrace the moment and answer in simple, direct language. For example, explaining that melanin creates different skin tones or people may use wheelchairs because their legs work differently, and they need help moving around. By answering their questions, children can learn differences aren’t bad or embarrassing — they’re what make each person unique and special.

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REFLECT THE DIVERSITY OF THE WORLD WITHIN YOUR OWN HOME Books are an easy way to help children learn about diversity because stories are natural conversation starters.

Look for books with diverse main characters who have different races, ethnicities, backgrounds and abilities, and reflect a number of family structures. As you read together, talk about the differences and similarities between the characters and your children using simple, clear language.

It’s important to ensure your children see themselves in the toys, books and media around them. Children feel welcome and important when their identity and their families’ identities are represented in their world.

BUILD EMPATHY Go beyond the common refrain, “put yourself in someone else’s shoes,” and ask your children why it is important to understand other people’s perspectives. Help your children think of times they learned something about someone else and how that knowledge helped them be better friends or family members. Empathy can help children comprehend the lasting, harmful impact inequality and exclusion can have and show them why it’s important for them to understand, respect and appreciate differences.

“Learning about and celebrating diversity, equity and inclusion are lifelong commitments,” Yalow said. “Children have the benefit of approaching these topics with a fresh perspective and a strong sense of what’s fair and unfair – skills that will help them build a better future for everyone.”

To learn more about talking with your children about differences, visit kindercare.com/dei

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PLAY is the work of children SMALL motor skills for SUCCESSFUL YOUNG WRITERS Building up muscles in the youngest writer’s small fingers and hands can help develop their small motor skills and create confident writers. How do we build up these muscles and encourage a good tripod grasp (ability to hold pencil correctly)? It’s easier than one might think and can be taught through common playtime activities. Here are some fun ways to help kids increase muscle strength in their hands and fingers.

CHEERIOS or any other small cereal put on their high chair plate or in a baggie encourages the child to hold onto them until they reach their mouth, building strength and eye hand coordination. These are the same little fingers that will eventually hold a pencil.

FINGER PAINTING is great for developing small motor skills and eye hand coordination. Children are learning to control their fingers and create beginning writing pieces when painting. Remember, a child’s pictures are their first attempts at writing and storytelling.

PLAY DOUGH is an all-time favorite muscle building activity. Plastic knives, cookie cutters, and a rolling pin are just a few tools kids can use with play dough. I love to make my own play dough and often add spices like cinnamon for the holidays or a packet of Kool Aid for a fun smell and color.

These are just a few ways to help small writers build up their hand and finger muscles. Digging in the dirt, planting, playing in sand, and sorting buttons into cups are a few more.

Be creative and remember, “Play is the work of children.”

KAREN FERNANDEZ

BEADING is a great small motor activity. Large wooden beads and shoe laces are great for beginners and for developing eye hand coordination and strengthening small muscles. Smaller beads are better for kids with more experience or stronger motor skills. Fruit loop necklaces are super fun and easy for beginners.

SQUIRT BOTTLES are great for building strength. The repetitive squeezing motion is a fun way for kids to build their hand muscles. Have them water your plants, use them for fun in the bathtub or pool, or make pictures on the driveway with them!

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VANESSA WRIGHT

homeschooling expert

“I actually just wrote an article about homeschooling and the art of letting go.”

According to a recent Forbes article, more than 300 million children are all of a sudden being homeschooled because of the pandemic. There is a difference, however, between traditional homeschooling and virtual learning.

In a recent episode of MomsTown365, The Daily 10-Minute Podcast for Mom Creators, we talk with homeschooling expert Vanessa Wright. Vanessa is one of the leading writers for TheHomeschoolMom.com. We talk about the difference between homeschooling and virtual learning and Vanessa’s tips on deciding if homeschooling is the best choice for your family long term.

Q CAN YOU TELL THEM A LITTLE BIT ABOUT YOU AND

HOW YOU CAME TO HOMESCHOOLING?

VANESSA WRIGHT

I have three kids. I have a son who's 15, and then we have boy and girl twins who are 13. I never, ever expected to be home educating, ever! My sister-in-law and brother-in-law had actually started homeschooling their kids. And I was like, what is she doing? She's crazy!

Then I happened to . . . it was 2009 . . . I'll never forget it . . . I went into a holistic moms network meeting . . . and I was in Northern Virginia at the time. I sat down at the meeting. I didn't know anybody. The topic was homeschooling. I almost got up and left. But by the end of the meeting, I was raising my hand and asking a million questions. I went home and told my husband, okay, we're going to homeschool our kids. He looked at me like I had six heads. We just kind of started from there. We haven't really looked back.

Q WITH ALL THAT’S HAPPENED DURING THE PANDEMIC A

LOT OF MOMS ARE BEING THRUST INTO EDUCATING THEIR KIDS FROM HOME, WHETHER THEY LIKE IT OR NOT. WHAT DO YOU SEE HAPPENING IN HOMESCHOOLING RIGHT NOW?

I now have three teens that we are home educating and we’ve been talking about this for the past several months, making a distinction between home educating versus what we are calling pandemic schooling. I do differentiate because if you're truly homeschooling you're more in control of what your kid is learning and how you're doing it.

Q DO YOU HAVE A LOT OF MOMS REACHING OUT TO YOU

WHO ARE NOW IN A VIRTUAL LEARNING ENVIRONMENT WITH THEIR KIDS?

Q WHAT WOULD YOU SAY ARE SOME OF THE GREATEST HOMESCHOOLING PROS AND CONS YOU'VE ENCOUNTERED?

The pros are — I'm being dead serious when I say this — not having to pack lunches every day. Not that I don't feed my kids lunch, but it just isn't a rushed thing and we enjoy the freedom and flexibility of travel and going places and doing things. Also, two of my kids had some pretty major health issues. I could not imagine having to deal with that plus send them to school and then deal with the teachers and deal with the doctors and deal with the physical therapy.

So having that flexibility for everybody's emotional well-being has truly been a blessing.

Obviously there are also challenges. My house is never clean because there's the dishes or there's somebody always making food, eating food and that things are not always super clean all the time. I actually just wrote an article about homeschooling and the art of letting go.

Vanessa says not having a show palace is okay with her. To hear more of our conversation with Vanessa, visit MomsTown365.com and tune into episode #72.

I have had a lot of people who have started out with virtual schooling through their public school and just said, you know what, this isn't working. And so they pulled out of that and are now becoming true homeschoolers.

And we're seeing a lot of people reaching out because, you know, especially if you're pulling a kid out of middle school or high school, it can feel super overwhelming.

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PAULA SHAW'S guide to navigating difficult conversations

Successful communication is critical in powerful relationships and in human interaction. And yet, good communication becomes challenging when emotions are involved or when the subject matter is difficult. Painful, emotional interactions are often awkward, uncomfortable and unproductive. We humans are great at discussing yesterday’s game or the latest buzz on social media but when someone is hurting, the wheels of communication too often grind to a halt.

So, what’s the problem? Why do we struggle with conversations when humans are being real and expressing their pain? How can we do it better?

There are many factors at play here. Family Experiences and Values have a powerful influence on what we believe it’s okay to talk about.

Social Norms, Cultural Expectations, Personal Beliefs, Peer Expectations and prior Traumatic Experience can all influence how we express or suppress ourselves.

Too often we don’t feel competent or skilled at knowing what to say in challenging situations, so we end up not engaging at all. We don’t show up for others when they really need us, leaving them feeling sad, hurt or abandoned. And we don’t speak up for ourselves, leaving our needs unmet and our hearts unexpressed.

What are some things we can do to better navigate those tricky, sticky convos?

Here are a few simple tips that can help during those more difficult conversational experiences: START WITH THE RIGHT INTENTION — Intend to create a safe place for you, and the other person, to speak their truths. Intend for the conversation to heal, connect, create awareness and understanding. Something of this nature is very helpful.

BE PRESENT — Good conversations just don’t happen if your mind is somewhere else. People sense it, don’t feel safe and don’t open up honestly on deep levels.

LISTEN — truly listen without putting your focus on the next thing you are going to say. Just listen. Deep listening creates deep safety and that leads to deep truths.

LET YOUR MINDSET BE THE CREATION of a neutral place for the other person to express and explore their thoughts and feelings.

Don’t teach, preach, criticize or judge. Be comforting and supportive.

WHEN IT’S TIME, RESPOND BRIEFLY FROM THE HEART, NOT THE HEAD — Hurting people need our humanity, not our database.

IN SUMMARY, deep, emotional conversations can be hard but they are also the most bonding. They are the glue that enables the relationship to work, grow and be strong.

If you really want to have effective communication with someone you value, or you want to help someone who is hurting, just set the right intention, be present, listen without judgement, comfort and support and respond from your heart. When you do this, their own wisdom, their own answers, their own truth, will come forth.

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TRACY'S TIPS FOR

planning to

have a clean slate

It’s that time of year again when that clean slate desire is in the air and people are motivated to purge and organize their homes.

They buy the bins, say they’ll do it this weekend and daydream what their spaces will look like when they’re done.

The weekend comes, they jump right in, become overwhelmed and then mentally check out an hour later. They call it quits for the day but resolve to doing it next weekend.

Sound familiar?

Finishing an organizing project takes more than just containers and saying you’re going to do it. You need a plan. Without a plan, even just a simple one, it’s easy to get stuck, sidetracked and overwhelmed.

TIPS TO CREATE A PROJECT PLAN SO YOU CAN FINISH YOUR PROJECTS ONCE AND FOR ALL TIP 1 CREATE A GOAL When you start with a goal in mind, it’s easier to create tasks to accomplish those goals. For example, converting an office into a baby’s room, adding exercise equipment to the garage or creating space in your kitchen.

TIP 2 FORWARD THINK & BACKWARDS PLAN Now that you have forward thought to come up with your goal now think backwards to determine the action steps. Have an if/then conversation with yourself. For example, “If I want to put the Peloton in the garage, then I have to move the tires.” Continue working backwards till you find the easiest step to start with.

TIP 3 WRITE IT DOWN Keeping visual track of the action steps will enable you to spend less time thinking and more time working once you’ve gotten started. I recommend Franklin Planner, Basecamp or Trello for project tracking.

TIP 4 SCHEDULE A SPECIFIC TIME Instead of saying you will do it this weekend, look for a specific time frame, for example 10-2, and add it to your calendar. The more specific you are, the better the chances you will do it.

TIP 5 PRIORITIZE As much as everyone wants to get it done right away, you just can’t. Look at your list of action steps and prioritize which ones need to happen first.

Having a plan in place before you get started is the best way to ensure you will actually finish what you set out to do. By following your plan, you’ll have that clean slate feeling before you know it.

And it feels glorious!

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Sea and Pine Interior Design By now you've adjusted to your home being more than just a “shelter.” Chances are your rooms have become offices, classrooms, or the occasional date night hub. You’ve probably also cleaned out spaces to make way for this new existence and maybe even felt a spark of joy in the process.

Yay for you because there are easy, inexpensive ways to make your home feel fresh, curated and pulled together this spring.

DECLUTTER — Approach each room and ask

yourself if you love every item in the space? If not, remove it (you can do this!). Less really is more.

Did you know that your eyes want to rest on a clear space? In Design 101, we learn a clear space brings calm and can even help reduce anxiety.

REIMAGINE THE SPACE — Rearrange fur-

niture to create a different focal point or sitting view.

It might be as simple as relocating a rug from one room into another. A small chair containing books and a table lamp can make for a fun, new look. A simple change can create a fresh living experience, which is something we all need right now.

ACCESSORIES — Objects look best when

displayed or grouped together, preferably in odd numbers for balance and rhythm. Have art? Create a collage on a single wall for visual impact. Need art? Etsy has great printable art, perfect to print and place in repurposed frames for a child’s room, office or entryway.

PAINT IS YOUR FRIEND — Paint is your

friend. If you have an extra gallon sitting on a shelf, now is the perfect time to touch up any wall nicks or imperfections. Feeling bold? Add color to inject visual interest to the space.

My go-to is Chalk Paint. Easy to use, little prep, forgiving and provides impressive results. I recently painted my bedroom furniture charcoal grey, removed the heavy bedspread, and opted for crisp white linens and a luxurious European duvet, perfect for spring. You can use paint to repurpose anything.

GREENERY — Easily found in your yard, neighborhood, or local nursery. Fresh is best, but if you’re not a green thumb, fake it with faux. Add simple beauty with an oversized leaf in an interesting vase.

Bringing nature into your home is an easy way to brighten your soul. My favorite faux-go-to is the fig plant. It looks real, has enormous leaves and, when

tucked into a textured basket, adds a pop of color and flair to any room.

LIGHTING — The mood of a room can easily be changed with light. Swap out your luminaries from one room to another or splurge on a new chandelier.

Consider placing your fixtures on dimmer switches where you can create a soothing space. Perhaps opt for a grouping of same-colored candles on an eye-catching tray.

EMBRACE THE OUTDOORS — Our envi-

able weather is about to warm up and, for many, this means BBQ’s, lounging, reading or even social distancing with a friend six feet away. Take all this goodness from the inside and bring these same concepts outdoors to create a place to relax by adding graphic pillows and cozy blankets. Flickering candles add ambiance, as do solar string lights, or how about a portable/odorless petite fireplace that runs on biofuel.

ABOUT DASHA

Award-winning Principal Designer Dasha Hervey is Kitchen & Bath + Universal Design certified.

She has served as Director with the American Society of Interior Designers and is an active member with the National Kitchen + Bath Association.

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