October 31, 2003 by Catholic San Francisco

Young Adult Ministry Annual Fall Fest brings young adultÂŽ together for faith, values and fun By Jack Smith

Three Santa Clara University students attend last weekend's Fall Fest at USE More than 250 young adults from as far as Honolulu attended the annual day of prayer, faith exp loration and fun.

ore th an 250 young adults from th roughout the Bay Area and as far as Honolulu gathered M for the Seventh Annual Fall Fest held at the University of San Francisco Saturday, October 25. The full day of prayer, workshops and fellowship is sponsored by the Archdiocesan Office of Young Adult Ministry, headed by Dominican Sister Christine Wilcox, in cooperation with the Department of Theology and Religious Studies at USE Mary Jansen, of the Office of Young Adult Ministry, said, "the purpose of Fall Fest is to get young adults excited about their faith. They can come together in a forum that leaves them strengthened and validated so they can go back and be active participants in their parishes." Topics for this year 's 33 different workshops were drawn on the unifying themes of the U.S. Bishop 's 1997 pastoral plan for young adults , "Sons and Daughters of the Light. " The pastoral letter sought ways of connecting young adults to Jesus Christ , the Catholic Church , the mission of the Catholic Church in the World , and a peer community with shared YOUNG ADULT MINISTRY, page 10

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John Paul II - 25 years our Pope! I was moved - inspired - more than I thought I would be at the celebration of the Pope 's silver jubilee on October id. Perhaps it was because of the vivid memory I had of being in St. Peter 's Square at that same hour 25 years before. At th at time , I was beginning the third of my six years working at the Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith. In the piazza , I stood with the crowd that always gathers morning and afternoon during a conclave to witness the smoke rising over the roof of the Sistine Chapel. It is this smoke that signals whether the work of the cardinal-electors has been completed or not. Black smoke means the required two-thirds majority for election of a new pope has not yet been reached , and the cardinal s will have to return th at afternoon or the following morning to vote again. White smoke tells the waiting crowd in the piazza - and the world - that they have completed their task. Soon after the white smoke vanishes in the sky, the Cardinal Camerlengo will appear on the loggia of St. Peter 's Basilica with the thrilling words: "Annuntio vobis gaudium magnum: habemus Papam!" "I proclaim to you a great joy: We have a Pope!"

The cardinals ' choice (and the Holy Spirit 's!) took the world by surprise. In the year of the three popes, when his predecessor lived barely a month as pope, Cardinal Karol Wojtyla , Archbishop of Krakow, Poland, a vigorous 58, had been chosen to lead the Catholic Church in the final decades of the 20th century, and into the 21st indeed, into the third millennium of Christianity. For the first time in over 450 years a non-Italian was elected pope. Even more surprising, this man was from a country behind the Iron Curtain , a phrase once so common that we never hear any more. Soon we began to learn from him that the division of the geopolitical scene into East and West was not destiny, that his voice proclaiming God's p lan for the freedom of the human spirit everywhere to love God and neighbor helped millions under Communist rule find their voice as well. On that night in St. Peter 's Square the immense intellectual and pastoral gifts that Pope John Pau l II has brought to the papacy were still undisclosed to most of us. If 1 found myself thrilled by the daring choice made, not everyone in the piazza was so elated. I was standing next to my boss, Msgr. Alberto

Archbishop William J. Levada Bovone, who as Undersecretary was the third-ranking superior in the Congregation. We became good friends over the years, with his visits to California and Oregon, and my more frequent return visits to Rome. He was a kind, cultured gentleman , whose subsequent work as Secretary of the Congregation for the Doctrine of the ORDINARY TIME, page 3

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The 150 years are very well-placed in the hands of San Mateo's Poplar Creek Golf of archdiocesan Archivist , Jeffrey Burns, and Course - is "mostly for fun and not California State Librarian, Kenneth Starr, who offer scores," Vic said. Among those teeDominican Sister Helen Bendik cuts ribbon to new kindergarte n princi pal commentary. If ya ' can't watch it, be sure to ing off were St. Benedict pastor, playground at San Rafael's St Isabella Elementary School that was tape it.... Mercy High School, Burlingame welcomed Father Tom Coughlin and Msgr. recently dedicated in honor of her sister and St. Isabella founding more than 200 alumnae for Homecoming rites Mickey McCormick, retired pastor principal, Dominican Sister Jeanne Marie Bendik who died in 2001. September 21st. Among those headin ' up the celebra- of Mission Dolores.. ..More hats off Joining Siste r Helen are, from left, Dominican Sisters Raya tion was alumnae prez , Kelly Hendon Molloy, who pre- and a welcome aboard at Our Hanlon, Lois Silva, Joanna Browne, Francis deSales Taggart, sented former principal Mercy Sister Rosann Fraher Lady of the Pillar, Half Moon Bay Marcella McMackin, Catherine Browne. to new parish secretary, Gail Chalios, a resident of the coast and Elementary School, San Rafael. The fun-space was nearby La Honda for the last 35 years.... dedicated October 8th to the memory of late Happy 55 years married to Mary Lou Dominican Sister Jeanne Marie Bendik who was the and John Kaufer, longtime parishioners of school's first principal when it opened its doors in 1962 St. Luke's, Foster City, where they serve and again from 1988 until her death in 2001. Bernadette as readers, eucharistic ministers and reli- Kelleher, who has taught at the school for 27 years, said gious education instructors. A trip to Hawaii "Sister Jeanne Marie was loved by all and is now missed marked the occasion , John said....Prayers by all." Vice-principal Kathy Adams echoed the sentiplease for Father Edward Murray, pastor, ment noting that nothing made the late principal "happiSt. Teresa Parish and chaplain at St. er than children enjoying themselves." Current principal, Mary 's Medical Center, who is recovering Cynthia Bergez, said she is honored to follow in the from back surgery. "It's a good experience revered sister's steps. Thanks to school mom and PR volin learning how it is for people who suffer unteer, Julie White, for lettin ' us know ....Happy 61 from chronic pain," Father Murray, who years married to longtime St. Agnes parishioners Irma also spent 25 years as a Navy chaplain, and Jim Keeffe. Jim is a retired SFFD captain. Irma is said. "It will make my hospital ministry bet- an alum of the Department of Catholic Schools of the ter." All hats off here for Raymund Archdiocese. Thanks to Marianist Brother John Radovich, parishioner and organist at the Samaha for the good news. "They are the salt of the Mercy High School, Burlingame 's class of '53 at last month's homePotrero Hill church for 30 years. The World earth," he said.... Birthdays, births, anniversaries, marcoming celebration. Bottom row from left: Lois Daly Bonvicino, War II Navy veteran is survived by his wife riages, engagements, new jobs and all kinds of goingsFrances Curtiss Tidd, Nancy Flores Casey; 2nd row from left: Jo Ann of 56 years, Genevieve, and daughter, on are welcome here. Remember this is an empty Lyons Quadt, Bernice Stangl Frost, Rosemary Powers Fidler, Cathy Peterson and her husband, Robert, space without ya' . 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Archbishop Levada kneels to kiss the Pope 's ring on the day before John Paul's 25th anniversary. Ital y. "Povera Italia! Primo Moro , e adesso questo." "Poor Ital y ! First Moro , now this." B y "this " he meant , of course, the removal of what was by now a bulwark for Italian Catholics: the papacy, or rather, an Italian Pope. It was the possibly damaging effect of the election of a non-Italian pope on the political life of Italy that generated such a spontaneous

History of Archdiocese to air Sunday evening Nov, 2 at 6:30 p.m. on KMON-Channel 4 See an extraordinary documentary of the 150 year history of the Catholic Church in the San Francisco Bay Area. Titled "Proclaiming the Gospel," the documentary is narrated by actor Joseph Campanella with commentary by historian Kevin Starr, author Jeffrey Burns and others. Rare photographs, motion pictures and music present a story stretching from the Gold Rush to 2003. The half-hour program airs Sunday evening at 6:30 p.m. on KRON-Channei 4.

response. It was a new lesson for me about the link between faith and culture in Italy. But the 25 years of this pontificate proved to Bovone and to us all that his fears could be put to rest. The Pope has shown himself more than able to be Bishop of Rome; the Italians quickl y embraced him as one of their own. This pontificate has been a visible symbol of an important truth about the catholicity of the Church: by our Catholic faith we are indeed citizens of the whole world , and strangers to no member of the human family created by God. After 25 years the pope whose youth ful vigor surprised the world has himself grown old. He cannot rise from the chair he sits in , pushed where he needs to be by others. His face has become like a mask, I am told by the hardening of mus-

cles caused by his type of Parkinson 's disease. At his jubilee Mass he arranged for Archbishop Sandri , Sostituto of the Secretariat of State , to proclaim most of his homily. At the concer t in his honor the next day, where he attended with about 10,000 of us to listen to Beethoven 's Ninth Symphony, performed by the German Radio Orchestra and Chorus of Leipzig, 1 watched his face in a close-up on the video screen. Because of the rigidity of his facial muscles, he seems unable to use his lips to pronounce words; it seems that he must make an extra effort to try to use his tongue to achieve the sounds we normally make with our lips when speaking. It must be a great cross for this energetic apostle and preacher to the whole world to find his body in such a weakened condition. And yet , there is no doubt that he preaches an even more powerful sermon by his courage. It reminds me of the comment attributed to our beloved patron Francis of Assisi: "Preach the Gospel always; if necessary, even use words." When I knelt to kiss his ring at the Wednesday papal audience the day before his anniversary, I told the pope that I brought with me the prayers and good wishes of all of us in the Archdiocese of San Francisco. The next day he invited all the bishops present to concelebrate his jubilee Mass with him. It was an inspiration for me personally, and I was particularly pleased to be the representative of all of us in the Archdiocese to offer praise and thanks to God for these 25 years of the pontificate of Pope John Paul II.

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WASHINGTON — When the U.S. Catholic bishops meet in Washington Nov. 10-13, they will be asked to approv e a short pastoral statement , "Popular Devotions and Practices: Basic Questions and Answers." Drafted by the bishops ' Committee on Doctrine in consultation with the committees on Liturgy, Catechesis, and Ecumenical and Intcrreligious Affairs , the 21-page statement strongly affirms the role of popular devotions and p ious practices in Catholic life. It also stresses , however, that such prayers and practices must always be in accord with church law and teaching and must never supp lant the liturgy, which the Second Vatican Council described as "a sacred action surpassing all others" and "the summit toward which the activity of the church is directed ."

Florida legislators, governor intervene in Schiavo case

TALLAHASSEE, Fla. — Florida Gov. Jeb Bush and state 's legislators "have bravely risked erring on the side of protecting life" in the case of Terri Schindler Schiavo, the Catholic bishops of Florida said in an Oct. 23 statement. "We applaud this courage and pray with them that clarity and resolution will follow in this tragic case," they added. "It is our ardent hope that while the judicial system further considers this extraordinary and extremely difficult case, that a true and convincing picture of Tern's wishes and her condition will emerge." Schiavo, 39, resumed receiving nutrition and hydration through a feeding tube Oct. 23 at a Pinellas Park nursing home, where she returned after a

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brief stay at Morton Plant Hospital in Clearwater to receive intravenous fluids. Her feeding tube had been removed Oct. 15 by court order, but an executive order by Bush rescinded the removal.

Partial-birth abortion ban passed by U.S. Senate; g oes to Bush

WASHINGTON — The U.S. Senate passed the PartialBirth Abortion Ban Act by a 64-34 margin Oct. 21. President Bush has said he would sign the legislation , which three weeks earlier was passed by the House on a 281-142 vote. Bush applaude d the Senate action , saying the ban "will end an abhorrent practice and continue to build a culture of life in America." Gail Quinn , executive director of the U.S. Catholic bishops ' Secretariat for Pro-Life Activities, predicted abortion advocates would challenge the law in court but said most Americans oppose killing partiall y bom children. "The American people — from every background , of every age, every faith and representing every segment of the political spectrum — reject the killing of children who are in the process of being born ," she said in a statement released immediatel y after the vote.

Head of bishops ' confe rence says sex abuse survey could be startling

Mary Schindler, the mother of Terri Schiavo , tells news media that her daughter is responsive to certain words . Members of the Schindler family spoke Oct. 24 outside the Pinellas Park hospice where Terri is cared for in Florida. The 39-year-old woman, who suffered severe brain damage more than 10 years ago , is the center of a legal dispute between her husband,who argues Terri would not want to be kept alive by artificial means , and her parents, who say she's not in a persistent vegetative state and reacts to their presence and voices.

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Ursuline Sister Dianna Ortiz receives U.S. Catholic Award

CHICAGO — Sister Dianna Ortiz, author of the award-winning book "The Blindfold' s Eyes: My Journey from Torture to Truth ," has been honored with the 2003 U.S. Catholic Award for furthering the cause of women in the church. Sister Ortiz , an Ursuline Sister of Mount St. Joseph, is the 25th recipient of the annual award and joins a list that includes death penalty opponent Sister Helen Prejean , the Catholic Theolog ical Society of America , and the late teacher and evangelist Sister Thea Bowman. Sister Ortiz accepted the award on behalf of members of her organization , the Torture Abolition and Survivors Support Coalition. She was abducted , tortured and raped 14 years ago in Guatemala , where she was serving as a missionary with the Ursulines and taught indigenous children.

U.S. bishops to consider statement on agriculture

WASHINGTON — U.S. bishops will consider making their first collective statement on agriculture in 14 years when they review a new document called "For I Was Hungry and You Gave Me Food" during their fall general meeting Nov. 10-13. Subtitled "Catholic Reflections on Food, Farmers and Farmworkers ," the proposed document outlines princi p les on agriculture policy and domestic and international trade issues. The action program it suggests includes targetin g crop subsidies to small and moderate-size farms , keeping a watchful eye over the use of geneticall y modified crops , and increasing the pay of farmworkers , most of whom are immigrants. The draft document notes that the "increasing concentration and growing globalization " of agriculture are having the effect of "pushing some ahead and leaving others behind."

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Local Missionaries of Charity see beatification live at St. Paul's By ja yme George When Mother Theresa of Calcutta was beatified on October 19, the Missionaries of Charity of St. Paul's Convent in San Francisco were praying and singing along with Pope John Paul II and the 300,000 pilgrims and admirers who were gathered in St. Peter 's Square. However, for the 56 nuns who watched the beatification take place it was 1:00 a.m. and they were seated approximatel y 6,000 miles away from the ceremony. Through the combined efforts of a supportive community and a local television network and thanks to a big satellite, the San Francisco Missionaries of Charity were able to view a live telecast of the beautification of Mother Theresa in Rome. "Mother Theresa is the founder of our order, so this day meant so much to us. It is a confirmation that what we do leads to holiness," said Missionaries of Charity Sister Emanuelle. Once Laura Flaviani, Music Director at St. Paul's Parish and a music teacher at various schools in the Archdiocese, was alerted to the nuns ' desire to watch the ceremony live, the search began for a location that could receive a satellite feed

From left: Sister Thomas More, Victor Flaviani and Sister Emanuelle. from Rome. Laura 's husband Victor Flaviani contacted Ron Loiacono, executive director of Catholic Television Network inn Menlo Park who arranged a connection between the EWTN live feed of the beatification and St. Paul's Elementary School.

Mass planned for separated , divorced and widowed

Author to be guest on Mosaic TV program Nov. 2 Wesley Smith, lawyer, public advocate, audior and consultant for the International Task Force on Euthanasia and Assisted Suicide, is the guest on Mosaic, hosted by Tom Burke, which airs Sunday, Nov 2, at 5 a.m. on KPIX—Channel 5. Smith' s revised and updated book, "Forced Exit: The Slippery Slope from Assisted Suicide to Legalized Murder," was released earlier this year. Mosaic, which airs the first Sunday of each month, is a production of the Office of Communications of the Archdiocese of San Francisco and KPIX-Channel 5, the CBS affiliate in the Bay Area.

Bishop John C. Wester will celebrate a Thanksgiving Mass for separated , divorced and widowed Catholics and dieir families at Our Lady of Mount Carmel in Mill Valley at 12:00 noon on Nov. 15. Gail Castro, a coordinator for the Archdiocesan Separated and Divorced group told Catholic San Francisco, "We 're thankful the Church offers us somediing to get through this and holidays are a hard time for separated and divorced people." Ms. Castro "never thought about finding something in the Church" for her until she ran across an announcement for the annual Mass a couple of years ago. Since then she has become involved in separated and divorced ministry and found that "actually there are a lot of things to be grateful for because life can be a lot better than you thought," she said. 'There is life after divorce," according to Vonnie McGee, another separated and divorced ministry coordinator. Ms. McGee helps lead a seven-week workshop twice a year that helps separated and divorced Catholics with "the emotional pain

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"This was not a very positive session for the issues the Church cares about," Mr. Dolejsi said. "One of the most disappointing areas was reli gious freedom." At the lop of that list was AB 17, a bill that requires companies and nonprofit agencies , including religious organizations , with stale contracts to provide the same benefits to domestic partners as it does to married couples. "On the last day, the governor si gned AJ3 17." Mr. Dolejsi said. "We are not giving up. We are coming back and trying to find some way to get a respectful treatment of reli gion in society. It doesn 't go into effect until 2007 so we have the time to assist society in correcting this mistake ." The bill , by Assembly member Christine

Professional and business club formed By Jayme George San Francisco soon will have its own chapter of a club that has been spreading rapidly throug hout Northern California since 1990. The first meeting of the Catholic Professional and Business Club of San Francisco will be held Nov. 20 at the Cathedral of Saint Mary of the Assumption located between Gough and Ellis streets. Similar Catholic Professional and Business Clubs have been established to give Catholic businessmen and women a place where they could share their faith, hear Catholic speakers, and even do a little networking in the business world. According to the group 's mission statement , the club calls people of the Catholic faith to "incorporate and uphold their beliefs into every aspect of life, and to gather to share with others who seek a more ethical business environment." The idea originated with a small group of friends in Santa Rosa who initiated a weekly get-together to share faith and fellowship. With the support and blessing of Bishop John T. Steinbock of the Santa Rosa Diocese, the small group of Mends grew into a gathering of 120 people who attended the club's inaugural meeting in June 1990. In the last thirteen years, the club's

popularity has insp ired members to establish chapters in several other Northern California Dioceses. Denis Regan traveled from Marin County to the monthly breakfast meetings in Santa Rosa until the board Members agreed to extend the format to a Mari n County Club . Soon to follow in Marin ' s footsteps were Fresno, Merced , Modesto , Bakersfield , San Jose, and Sacramento . The electe d officers for the San Francisco chapter include Maria VickroyPeralta, President; Cathy Scharetg, Vice President; Sand y Dahl , Treasurer and Archdiocese Liaison, and Isabella Del Santo, Secretary. Rev. Thomas Parenti will serve as the club's Spiritual Director. This month's speaker will be Dr. Andre Delbecq, Professor at Santa Clara University ' s School of Business and Director of the Institute for Spirituality and Organizational Leadership. Dr. Delbecq will speak on "Integrating Business Leadership as a Calling into the Spiritual Journey." The San Francisco club will meet for breakfast on the third Thursday of the month . The meetings will begin at 7:00 am and will take place at the Cathedral of St. Mary's lower level conference center. The cost is $20 and includes a catered breakfast. More information is available at www.cpbc-sf.org or on the club hotline at (415) 614-5579.

Kehoe , D-San Diego with support from Assembl y member Mark Leno, D-San Francisco, is part of a "continuing problem ," he said. "This society has a history of respecting the conscience of religious organizations and allowing them to self define, essentiall y, hi recent years, as a religious organization driven predominantl y by the pro-abortion and the pro-gay agenda folks , there has been an unwillingness to achieve that balance." In some cases , such as AB 17, legislators simp l y eliminate the reli gious emp loyer exemption. In other cases, "they define who is and who is not a religious employer," he said. "Illustrative of the inconsistency and confusion in society about reli gious freedom ," Mr. Dolejsi said, "is that the legislature passed AB 196, a transgender , transvestite , transsexual employment discrimination bill , with the California Fair Employment and Housing Act exemption for reli gious organizations in it - the same exemption wc had been asking for. In that bill , they recognized that a reli gious employer can self-identif y and not be subject to the provisions of that law. Yet when we move to AB 17 and stale contracting, all of a sudden that 's melcvant." Another challenge came in AB 205 a domestic partners bill by Assembly member Jackie Goldberg, D-Los Angeles, and signed by Governor Davis. "We're engaging that issue because the underl ying public policy is to make domestic partnershi ps equivalent to marriage ," Mr. Dolejsi said. ". . . The Church is very respectful of the dignity of each individual person but we temper that with what we feel is best for the common good Our issue is what is good for the common society, how do we maintain stability. 'Our position is that marriage is between a man and a woman primarily because it provides for the procreation and nurturing of children and that is the building block of society. . . Marriage needs to be respected and upheld otherwise we're moving down a very sli ppery slope. AB 205 represents a very dramatic step down that slope."

SCHOOL SYSTEM VS. PARENTS Parental rights was the key issue in the conference 's opposition to SB 71 , a bill that changed the ground rules of sexual health and

HTV prevention instruction in public schools. No longer will schools be required to contact parents and ask their permission - "opt in " in education jargon - before a child receives the instruction. The bill now places the burden on parents to refuse permission or "opt out." Althoug h the change might seem minor, both sides of the legislative debate saw it as a major issue. Parents with strong reli g ious beliefs maintained that the change was designed to allow educators to slip objectionable material past parents who did not realize that they had the right to object. "We thought the process was not fair," Mr. Dolejsi said. "It 's a presumption that the school knows the best philosop hy for providing this. With something as sensitive the HIV education , the parents should immediatel y be consulted and invited to choose. The parents are the first educators. They should be the ones to make this choice." "We worked hard to try and get this to allow for sexual health and HIV education to be done in a way that was respectful of parents and the famil y unit." Mr. Dolejsi said. "We asked th at parents be allowed to opt into the program , that there be a presumption that the school will not do this kind of valuedbased education without asking the parents." "This goes to the heart of the parentsschool trust relationshi p that needs to exist to make our public schools successful ," he said.

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Mr. Dolejsi hopes to restore funding unnaturalization training programs that were offered by Catholic Charities agencies throughout the state. The funding was cut in the bud get compro mise. "We were very sad to lose the naturalization funding. That was unnecessary - so little funding proportionally for so much benefit , for both individuals and the society. We have to find a way to restore that. We are more vital as a people when we allow people to make decisions to become citizens. Our Catholic Charities are involved because we are a Church of immigrants. In America, the Catholic Church is a church of immi grants , as it has always been." Part two of two installments.

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The Catholic cemetery, long an outland ministry ol the Church , has in recent years been connecting itself more and more to the dail y life of the faithful. Formerly existing in almost Bri gadoon fashion , and appearing only on (he occasion of putting loved ones to rest , Holy Cross Cemetery in Colma also has become a place of retreat , prayer and consolati on for the living. "Our mission is to serve the Catholic community, offer a reasonable price , help families throug h the grieving process , and ultimatel y bury the Catholic dead in a respectful manner," said Roger A ppleby, cemeteries General Manager , who celebrates 30 years with the Archdiocese next month. "Our guiding directive is that we are here to help." Mr. App leby said the cemetery 's softer hand was first seen in the lifting of requirements that families leave the casket in "a receiving chapel" with no opportunity for graveside rites. "The chapel restrictions were seen as a matter of efficiency considering the number of services we had ," Mr. App leby said , noting choices today include the graveside service and the receiving chapel service. "When that wall came down it opened communication with families. What does the famil y want , we asked , and , if within reason , let 's do it." Another of the "Church' s steps toward the peop le" came in its positive approach to cremation and the opening of space at Holy Cross for the interment of cremat-

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educator, counselor, advocate , and resource facilitator , while always focusing on the importance of spirituality. Ms. Elliot said adding "parish nurse" to her former status of "parishioner" was made easy because of Canossian Sister Rosetta Benelli , pastoral associate for the sick and elderly. Sister 's accurate record keeping of the names of the frail elderly needing assistance gave Ms. Elliot the opportunity to visit the homebound , nursing care facilities and hospitals almost immediately.

In addition , the program is strengthened with a health ministry team of volunteer Dames of Malta. "I' m formulating the needs of the parishioners and the duties that the volunteers can perform that are non-RN in nature," said Ms. Elliot. "Older people are very proud and want to be independent ," said Ms. Elliot. "As I get more familiar with the families , and gain their trust , there will be plenty of volunteer tasks to perform , such as taking the person to an appointment , shopp ing,

walking, reading to (hem , and pray ing with them." Adding the spiritual dimension to the person 's life can revitalize an otherwise depressed patient , according to Ms. Elliot. "Sometimes all it takes is asking to pray with the patient ," she said. Also, touching a person in a gentle, loving way can lift the spirits of someone who has been homebound for a long time. "So, not only are we replacing outdated medical equi pment such as suction machines and wheelchairs , we have expanded the position by communicating throug h spirituality," said Ms. Elliot . "The Knights wanted to enhance the program by including spirituality because of the important role it plays in the person 's health status." Ms. Elliot maintains an office in the lower Church Flanagan Center where she receives visitors and telephone calls from parishioners with health-related questions. She has been known to visit others needing her help outside the boundaries of the parish. "Our motto is 'No one is a stranger,'" she said. Fifty years ago, June 24, 1953, eightmen were chosen as initial members of the Western Association of the Kni ghts of Malta and invested as Knig hts of Mag istral Grace by Archbishop John J. Mitty in St. Mary 's Cathedral in San Francisco. Today, the Western Division of the Knights of Malta carries out its charitable works in the San Francisco Bay Area, Sacramento, Monterey, Los Angeles , Orange County, Phoenix and Seattle. The Knig hts ' focus is charities in health services.

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SAN FRANCISCO COUNTY St. Gabriel's Tuesday, November 18th 7:00 p.m. - 9:00 p.m.

MARIN COUNTY

St. Mary 's Cathedral Wednesday, December 10th 10:00 a.m. - 11:30 a.m. Msgr. Bowe Room

For more information, i p ease caU (650) 756-2060 or Barbara Elordi (415) 564- 7882

Our Lady of Loretto, Novato Wednesday, November 19th 4:30 p.m. - 6:00 p.m.

Good Shepherd , Pacifica Sunday, November 23rd 1:15 p.m. -3:00 p.m.

CHRISTMAS REMEMBRANCE SERVICE (No Mass)

Holy Cross Catholic Cemetery, Colma Saturday, December 13th - 11:00 a.m. - All Saints Mausoleum Chapel - Rev. John Talesfore, Officiating

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Holy Cross Catholic Cemetery 1500 Mission Road Colma, CA 94014 650-756-2060

Holy Cross Catholic Cemetery Intersection of Santa Cruz Avenue, Menlo Park, CA 94025 650-323-6375

Mt. Olivet Catholic Cemetery 270 Los Ranchitos Road, San Rafael, CA 94903 415-479-9020

Young adults gather f or Mass celebrated by bish op Ignatius Wang at Saint Ignatius Church.

Saint An&elm 's Father Steve Lop es ( l ef t ) with Saint Fatrick s' seminarians David Schunk and Ngoan Phan

Young adult ministry . . .

other. It really allowed us to meet people we normally wouldn 't who are of the same faith , facing similar ÂŚ Continued from cover struggles and issues. " At the same time, Knievel was values. In a letter to participants , Archbishop William J. impressed and appreciative of the diversity of ethnic Levada said, "Young adults are a gift to our Church. You groups arid socio-economic backgrounds represented bring vitalizing energy to our Church, and are the presen t by particip ants. as well as the future hope of our Church ." Andrew Martinez-Fonts of Saint Dominic Parish The day began with refreshments and opening prayer attended an ecumenical conference on "Our Fellow followed by a keynote address by Archdiocesan Vicar for Non-Catholic Christi ans" led by an Episcopal priest, an Administration Monsignor Harry Schlitt and Trish Orthodox priest and an Evangelical minister. "It was Plunkett Hurley, who is a University of California at good to hear directly from them, to see how they describe Berkeley Law Lecturer and a Called and Gifted Workshop their faith and how they see their relationship to the Catholic Church and each other, " Mr. Martinez-Fonts coordinator. Three sessions of workshops were held throughout the said. day covering topics such as Ignatian Spirituality, Mr. Fonts also attended a presentation on "Eucharist bioethics , fast food culture , Marian theology, politi cs and in a Fast Food Culture" by Jesuit Father Thomas Scirghi. Fonts enjoyed the discussion of "how other forces are apologetics . Ann Knievel of Saint Vincent de Paul Parish attended a encroaching on the Church's position as community presentation on Bioethical Challenges for a New World by builder and source of identity." Fonts said Scirghi used the Jesuit Father James Bretzke of USE Ms. Knievel said the example of how Starbucks creates a sense of community where people come , "but don 't presentation was "valuable because we are constantly ready know each other or talk "It really allowed us to meet reall ing stories about new uses of to each other." Fonts said this technology and medical ethics. . peop le we normally wouldn 't was something he had thought . How do you hold back on techabout before, but hadn 't heard it nology given the questions of who are of the same faith , expressed as cogentl y. "The morality involved. " Ms. Knieval same thing happens in our facing similar struggles and also found it valuable that Fr. parish too though , " Fonts said, Bretzke incorporated current with people coming and feeling issues. " - Ann Knievel topics, such as the Terri Schiavo community, but not really feeding tube controversy into his knowing each other. "It's can be difficult to. incorporate your faith and Fonts said the young adult group at his parish has distalk. sense of morality to these topics, " as they appear so quick- cussions very much like those at Saturday 's conference, but ly, she said. that Fall Fest is important because of the ability to meet a The greatest benefit of Fall Fest for Ms. Knievel "was the more diverse group of young adults from other parishes introduction of Bay Area Catholics who don 't know each and parishes which don 't have young adult groups.

Julie Peterson of Saint Dominic's and Chris Voltz of Saint Vincent de Paul p arish enjoy a dance. After the sessions, Mass was celebrated at Saint Ignatius church by San Francisco Auxiliary Bishop Ignatius Wang. Dinner and Dancing followed. Mary Jansen said Fall Fest participants are kept connected through a monthly calendar, which lists events of interest to young adult Catholics throughout the Bay Area. The Office of Young Adult Ministry also sponsors a quarterly newsletter and Theology on Tap in January. For more information on Catholic Young Adult activities visit website www.sfyam.org

Pictured above: Dancing toYMCA. Pictured lef t: (l-r) Angela Vereau of Saint Vincent de Paul p arish, Dieter Statezni of Cup ertino, Den ise Carnaroli, Andrew Martinez-Fonts and Nellie 3oldrick of Saint Dominic's

Hi gh school youth conference

Faith overcoming fear is message of youth meeting at cathedral

By jayme George i& n old tradition was given new life this month with the return of the Archdiocese ,# "" mof San Francisco's High School Youth Day More than 300 high school students from throughout the Archdiocese of San Francisco gathered at St. Maiy's Cathedral on Oct. 25 to celebrate their faith in a multicultural event called "Faith Factor/Factor de la Fe." The Youth Conference kicked off with a kind of exuberance rarely exhibited by high school students so early on a Satu rday morning. There were musical performances by workshop leaders Vince Nims and Francisco Hen-era and skits acted out by members of the St. Augustine Parish youth group from South San Francisco, who also helped organize the event with the Office of Religious Education and Youth Ministry. Michael Pritchard , humorist , actor, and youth activist who is one of America's most respected youth counselors, presented the English keynote address. Father Jorge Roman , Parochial Vicar for St. Peter Parish in San Francisco, and founder of the musical group "Up With People," gave the Spanish keynote. Workshop leaders included Vince Nims, known around the nation as "The Roamin' Catholic Banana Faith Factor coordinator Paula Spackman (center) from Guy," Francisco Herrera , Vikki Shepp-Kraetzer, and Sr. Mary Greenan . Our Lady ofMt Carmel with members of the parish The spirit of multiculturalism was prevalent in all the events, including the afternoon litu rgy celebrated by Father Roman . The Mass featured music in both youth group. Pictured from bottom left are Megan Claire , English and Spanish, and participants were treated to a Polynesian dance performed Brittany Biasing, Danielle Mabubay, Jackie Buselli, by members of the youth choir. Francisco Herrera , a litu rgical minister and cultural Stephanie Egan, Johanna Funke, and Ana Cancino. worker, led a workshop entitled, "One Faith , Diverse Cultures" that extolled the virtues of a faith made richer by the inclusion of different cultures. While multiculturalism and faith were the official themes of the conference , the tor in all our lives and our faith is being tested every day. Today's event is a way that we can affirm all the things we believe in," said Refruenzo. day's speakers also touched on another importan t issue facing youth minat :; : J ¦ ¦ Ri| ¦ ' ' " - - -. istry today—the difficulties of reaching a generationn of kids ' ' W$ ™ Romero , a senior at Sacred Heart Cathedral ^t*®0** ^Katrina MHttMMi_ ^,^0^1 100 said, "My youth group has taught me to live logy j tfi? * *^ ?reP : Preparatory, who are constantly being enticed by a world of technology ^.^JH^^PWj^M Bkb rf P' t ' Catholicism every day of my life, not j ust for an hour on and entertainment. k Sundays." Michael Pritchard's keynote presentation, which f i The conference closed with proclamations of drew heavily upon his experiences as a comedian and | and promises to go forth and make a diffe rence W faith parent, played out like a comedy act, but between laughs \ ';f m f' f L ^C iy S;,M '^^&^ i§» IJ&M V i Pl ffii ¦ ¦ iV' " , m ^ ig ^ m m U L A a m m m f *' W in i the communities that were represented there that he commented on the material wealth and spiritual \^ \*> TiEv . *^ *v '-' "JH Hr y day. poverty of today's teens. "You've got your television, Internet, let, ^*SttVm WrT d, "But ^ ^»^mmM DVDs, CDs, Ipods, mp3s, Walkmans, and stereos," he said. "I :am encouraged that the youth day is being brough t IP**^ ' Bai Area," said Vince Nims, "Tradition is what makes back to the Bay love is more important than anything else." these events successful. In the coming years we hope to see an even bigger turnout ." "I perform at conferences like this all over the countty, and the Bay Area is the hardest place to do youth ministry," said Vince Nims; a musician and Confirmation Director at St. Gregory Parish in San Mateo, who specializes in youth ministry. "When I go to a youth event in the Midwest, there are anywhere from 500 to 3,000 kids in attendance . In the Bay Area, where there is so much else going on, you only see the kids who have given something else up in order to be here, " One of those students who made the effort to participate in the event was Arthur Refruenzo , who is also a member of the St. Augustine youth group. "Faith is a fac-

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Francisco Herrera and Vince Nims open the day with a celebration of multicultural music.

Sacred Heart Cathedral Preparatory Choir perf orms during a liturgy celebrated by Father Jorge Roman.

A group of girls participates in song and dance.

I CATHOLIC SAN FRANCISCO The good-news generation By John Leo Ours is a four-generation family. I am a "silent " or a "mature," born before 1946 ("duty, tradition , loyalty," are the watchwords to professional generation watchers, who like to find three nouns for each group). My esteemed spouse is a baby boomer ("individual ity, tolerance, self-absorption"), our first two daughters are generation X-ers ("diversity, savvy, pragmatism ") and our youngest daughter is a "millennial," a member of the cohort bom between 1977 and 1994. One of the best researchers and generation-watchers, Ann Clurman of the Yankelovich Partners, suggests "authenticity, authorship, and autonomy" as the three nouns for the emerging millennials , also known as generation Y or the "echo boomers." The comic overtones of dividing and labeling everyone this way are hard to miss, but there is some sense to it, too. The shaip break between the silents and the boomers, obvious to all, has fueled the search for clean dividing lines between the generations that came after. Now the focus is almost entirely on millennials, 78 million strong and the largest birth cohort in American history. Speaking at the American Magazine Conference last week in the Palm Springs, Calif., area, Clurman described millennials this way: They are family oriented , viscerally pluralistic , deeply committed to authenticity and truth-telling, heavily stressed, and living in a no-boundaries world where they make short-term decisions and expect paradoxical outcomes. (The sense of paradox means that every choice results in some good consequences, some bad: Air bags save lives but kill people, too.) By pluralistic , Clurman means that distinctions of race, ethnicity, and gender are of little interest to millennials—they tend to overlook differences and treat everyone the same. Part of the fallout is that opposition to gay marriage, strong among older Americans, is low among millennials. Authenticity and integrity are prime values. Millennials want very much to succeed in life, says Clurman, but "integrity trumps success." (Enron should have hired millennial executives.) Yankelovich and other researchers have been picking up a renewed emphasis on family for years. Thejy earning^ora good marriage is a dominant value among millennials, Clurman says, and 30 ^percent of those surveyed say they want three or more children. Indeed, one research company, Packaged Facts and Silver Stork, recently predicted a 17 percent increase in the U.S. birthrate over the next 10 years. Clurman says that as a group, boomer parents are spending a lot of time getting close to their millennial children. These are better relationships than the gen X-ers had with boomer parents, orphan boomers had with their own mothers and fathers. According to Gallup , more than 90 percent of teens say they are very close to their parents. In 1974, over 40 percent of boomers said they would be better off without their parents. J. Walker Smith, president of Yankelovich, says the drive toward reconnection with family and community was showing up in the data even before 9/11 and is exceptionally strong today. . Brandchannel.com, an online marketing site run by Interbrand, issued a gen Y report last week that echoes Yankelovich. Gen Y is not turning out to be the edgy, cynical, ironic cohort many expected, the report said. In addition to millennials' closeness to their parents, statistics on sexual activity, violence, and suicide rates are down, and concern with religion and community are up. Evidence on drinking and drugs is more mixed, but smoking, drinking, and drug use among eighth, 10th, and 12th graders fell simultaneously in 2002 for the first time. The millennial affection for the authentic over the glitzy marketing product is marked by the rise of Avril Lavigne, "an ordinary looking, midriff-free , nondancing singer hailed as the anti-Britney," reports Brandchannel.com. Yankelovich makes the same point about Lavigne. Smith says the millennials will watch over-the-top cultural products like reality TV and the movie Kill Bill , but they stand apart from them and look around for more genuine, less exploitative material. Millennials are apt to trust parents, teachers, and police. Apparently they are likely to trust presidents, too, A Harvard poll released last week reported that President Bush has a 61 percent favorability rate among American college students, This may not mean much. The millennials are not a very politically active generation. But they are clearly able to resist programming by their professors , 90 percent of whom seem convinced that Bush is either Hitler or a moron. The millennials are a very interesting generation. Now if they could just walk one block without canying a bottle of water and making four phone calls . . . . John Leo 's column is distributed by Universal Press Sy ndicate

Private beliefs , pu blic actions

How amazing and sadly disappointing it was to see the October 24th edition of Catholic San Francisco abjectl y offering apology, in a special editorial , to a Catholic politician who used his power to promote , protect and expand the practice of killing innocent children before they are born . It looked as if the paper was subjected to a high powered organized political campaign resulting in the apology and in the publication of columns of fawning letters defending and comp lementing the politician. Among these was a very long letter by the politician himself and others from clergy and from the leaders of Catholic Youth Organization , Catholic Charities , the Saint Anthony Foundation and the Saint Vincent De Paul Society. Was it fair and proper for our diocesan newspaper to have written that a politician is "staunchl y proabortion " because he used his political power to promote , to protect and to expand the practice of abortion? Begging the question , Catholic San Francisco 's editor, the politician and his defenders say that it is not fair to call the politipro-abortion cian staunchly because the politician has done so much good regarding matters other than the killing of the unborn . He is a champion of "social justice," they say and therefore we must turn our eyes away from what he has done to promote abortion. The politician himself , in a gush of off point self-congratulation , recites his achievements for the good and then proclaims that he is absolutel y adherent to the Church's teaching on the killing of the unborn in his "private life." His public life , however, which is visible to all as example and in which he has had real power to do good and evil, is something different altogether. There , in public , the politician is indeed staunchl y proabortion and he freely admits it, arguing the all to familiar mantra of Catholic —polkieifttis—throughout America that they use their political power to protect, to promote and to expand the killing of unborn children because they do not want to presume to force their private morality on others . Against it and for it in one breath - it is a great political achievement leaving only the dead babies , who cannot vote, to take offense. Now really the questions are these. Is it true or not that an abortion takes the life of a human being with a soul given through the grace of God? Are not the babies killed by abortion in need of and entitled to our protection? Can conscience be cleaved so that the truth may be held secretly in private and then abandoned in public? And once the tru th is abandoned in public can a politician still claim to adhere to the truth while using political power against the truth ?

Catholic politicians who use political power to help kill innocent human babies must not be permitted to escape a fair characterization and justifie d condemnation of their actions. Does the Church accept the proposition that Catholic politicians may say that they privately disagree with the killing of the unborn , that, while they say that they would never kill an unborn baby themselves , they have an obligation in our "pluralistic " society to use their political power to hel p others to kill these babies? This illogical and contradictory rationalization knows no end in its mischief. Will they say, "I would never euthanize the old myself or put the disabled to death but I have no right to interfere with others who want to kill these children of God?" If we truly believe that abortion kills a human baby then the politician 's argument is no different from saying, "well, I would never kill my children but what right have I to interfere with my neighbors on the other side of the fence if they want to kill theirs?" The fault in the reasoning is this: Our concern is not for the politician 's goal to be all things to all people (people who can vote, that is). Our concern is not for the so-called ri ghts of those who want to kill the unborn , to euthanize the old or to eliminate the disabled. Our concern , our duty rather, is for the rights of the God given lives in the souls of the unborn children who are killed in the millions as a result of the actions of pro-abortion politicians. It is the God given rights of these innocent babies that must direct our beliefs and our actions, J private and public. Contrary to the argument of the politician, public actions are a better measure of belief and adherence to the teachings of the Faith than different contradictory beliefs claimed to be privatel y held. Facta non verba, deeds not words define us and announce our beliefs. Truly the politician is a staunch supporter of abortion and it is sad and troubling that our Catholic newspaper apologized for saying it. The next question is, what really do they believe who support and defend the politician , knowing what the politician really believes and what he has done with his power? Edmund Francis McGill San Rafael

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Selectively p ro-choice

I suspect Leo McCarth y protests too much over being called "staunchl y proabortion " in Catholic San Francisco 's Oct. 10 editorial . The former lieutenant governor insists in his letter to CSF that he did not "seek to compel non-Catholics to conform to my religious convictions on abortion or other subjects ." That stand pretty well makes him "pro-choice." Yet he goes on to state that his record includes action on several issues dear to Catholics - including "health care for the disabled and ending racial discrimination." No "choice" there. I wonder what his stand was on guns or smoking. Come on , Mr. McCarthy, the subject is abortion. Strange, but abortion seems to be the only issue regularl y linked to "choice" in the mass media. I have just one question for those who fired off an e-mail in his defense. Did you ever attack a dail y paper for describing McCarthy as "pro-abortion " or "pro-choice?" That , of course , includes the Los Angeles Times. James O. Clifford Sr. Redwood City

Moderat ion no virtue

After reading all the correspondence regarding Leo McCarthy, I f ind that one word is misused on both sides: that is '.'staunchl y" pro- abortion LETTERS, page 18

The Catholic Diff erence

Evelyn Waugh, 1903-2003 According to an often-repeated tale, British novelist Evelyn Waugh was once accosted at a party by a matronly lady who had taken offense at his manners ; Waugh, it may be supposed , was feeling little pain at this point in the evening. In any case, the matron demanded to know how he, Evelyn Waugh, a prominent Catholic convert, could behave so badl y, and in public. "Madame," Waugh is said to have responded , "were it not for the faith , I should scarcely be human." As a comeback, it doesn ' t quite rise to the level of brilliant brevity frequently displayed by Winston Churchill (e.g., Lady Astor: "Winston, if I were your wife, I'd poison your soup." Churchill: "Nancy, if I were your husband , I'd drink it."). But remembering Waugh's legendary riposte to his accuser does get us to the core of the man, as we mark his centenary on October 28, thirty-seven years after his death. Fot whatever else he was — brilliant novelist and travel writer, difficult husband and father, brave but anarchic soldier — Evelyn Arthur St. John Waugh was an utterly convinced Catholic. On this centenary, some literary critics will doubtless, and rightly, remember Waugh's comic genius. No one has ever written a better satire on media pretentiousness and the manufacture of news than Scoop; no one has ever skewered political correctness and airy-fairy progressive politics as thoroughly as Waugh did in Black Mischief. Still, I think it would be a mistake to remember Waugh primarily for his ability to make us laugh. The Loved One is laugh-out-loud funny ; but it's also a sober and telling examination of two

great truths: that death is unavoidable , and that those who try to avoid it make a nonsense of their humanity. Put Out More Flags is a terrific send-up of literary vapidness in wartime Britain; it 's also a serious study of people spirituall y unprepared for the blood, toil , tears and sweat Churchill promised. Then there is Bridehead Revisited. Often taken as another example of Waugh's social satire, this great novel is in fact an elegant meditation on the ladder of love — the human ascent from less worthy loves, and indeed through less worthy loves , to nobler, truer loves. Helena , dismissed by most critics as a piece of reli gious propaganda , is at one and the same time a bold experiment in literary form and a defense of the grittiness of the incarnation and redemption. Waugh's masterpiece, the three-volume Sword of Honor trilogy, draws extensivel y on the author 's experiences in the Royal Marines and Britain 's commando forces; but while it deftl y captures many of the foibles and idiocies of modern war, it is also a thoug htful , searching meditation on the crisis of modern civilization and a profound reflection on vocation as the great dynamic of every human life. In a letter to his friend , John Betjeman, Waugh once explained how Catholics think of saints. Betjeman had complained that the Empress Helena, finder of the true cross , didn 't "seem to be like a saint" in the novel Waugh named after her. Waugh' s reply can stand as a fine epitap h as we pray for the repose of his turbulent soul on his centenary: "Saints are simp ly souls in heaven. Some peop le have

been so sensationall y hol y in life that we know 11 they went strai ght to i ^ heaven and so put them < m the [liturgical] calendar. We all have to X o become saints before we get to heaven. That is what purgatory is for. And each individual has his own peculiar form of sanctity which he must achieve or perish. It is no good my saying, 'I wish I were like Joan of Arc or St. John of the Cross.' I can only be St. Evel yn Waugh — after God knows what experiences in purgatory. "1 liked Helen's sanctity because it is in contrast to all that modems think of as saints. She wasn't thrown to the lions, she wasn't a contemplative, she wasn't poor and hungry, she didn ' t look like an El Greco. She just discovered what it was God had chosen for her to do and did it. And she snubbed Aldous Huxley with his perennial [agnostic] fog by going strai ght to the essential physical historic fact of the redempti on ."

George Weigel

George Weigel is a senior fellow of the Ethics and Public Policy Center in Washington, D.C.

Family Lif e

The p arents of Terri Schiavo My husband and I sympathize with the anguish of Robert and Mary Schindler, the desperate and heroic parents of Terri Schiavo. Their epic struggle to care for their disabled daughter against the wishes of her husband has grabbed national attention because Governor Jeb Bush and the Florida state legislature intervened on their behalf. Terri suffered brain damage as the result of an unexp lained illness ten years ago. Her husband , Michael Schiavo, has been demanding for years that she be denied care, and Terri's parents have become her advocates. Michael Schiavo now lives with his fiancee, who is expecting his second child , but he refuses to release Terri to the care of her parents and lose control of the $750,000 trust fund that was set up for her in a malpractice settlement. Contrary to the statements of Michael Schiavo and some doctors, Terri is not in a "persistent vegetative state" being kept "artificially alive." She is awake, attempts to speak, responsive to love and receives Holy Communion regularly. Nevertheless , this month a judge sided with Mr.

Schiavo and ordered that Terri's feeding tube be removed. The Shindlers begged the court to be allowed to wean Terri off the feeding tube gradually and to spoon feed her. But the judge would not hear of it , and his ruling amounted to forbidding Teni from receiving any food or water. When the priest came to give Terri Communion one last time, the police prevented him from doing so. What is at stake here is not whether we have a "right " to die, but whether our spouses have a "right " to starve us to death when we have become hel pless. Even the law passed by the Florida state legislature, authorizing the governor to order the restoration Terri's care, failed to recognize the real question. The law states that the governor may step in only because Terri had not signed a living will forbidding others to feed her should she become unable to feed herself. In other words, if she had written , "Please starve me to death when I can no longer lift a spoon to my mouth ," no one would legally have been able to stop her husband from doing just th at.

We come into this world and leave this world dependent upon the mercy of others, and at some point in between anyone of us could suffer a fate like Terri Schiavo. Thus, the very virtues and happiness of the family hinge on its willingness to give basic and tender loving care to its weakest members. 1his truth is being ignored by an awful lot of people, but not, at least, by Robert and Mary Schindler.

Vivian W. Dudro

Vivian W. Dudro is a parishioner at St. Mary 's Cathedral and the mother of four children, ages 7 to 15.

Stiiritualitv M.

The Value of Praying a Doxology A friend of mine likes to tease the Jesuits about thenmotto: "For the greater glory of God." "God doesn 't need you to enhance his glory," he likes to kid them. Partly he 's right, but the Jesuits are right, too. God doesn't need our praises , but we need to give praise; otherwise, our lives degenerate into bitterness and violence. Why? Spiritual writers have always told us that we are either growing or regressing, never neutral. This means that we are either praising someone or demanding we be praised; offering gratitude or muttering in bitterness; blessing or cursing; turning attention away from ourselves or demanding it be focused on us; praying a doxology or doing violence. We are always doing one or the other and"it 's only by deflecting atten tion away from ourselves, which is what we do in essence when we give glory to God, that we save ourselves from egoism, jealousy, bitterness, greed and violence. It's no accident that when good art depicts someone as being martyred, it always depicts the victim's eyes as turned upward, toward heaven, while the eyes of those who are doing the killing or watching it are turned in other directions—never upward. A good artist knows that if we don 't have our eyes turned heavenward, we are involved somehow in violence. Michael Ondaatje points this out in Anil's Ghost. He submits that unless we celebrate a faith or create something in art, we will do violence to somebody, be an artificer or a demon. Praise or create something beyond yourself or fall into the trap of believing that it 's your own person that makes the world go round. Ondaatje's right. Unless we're consistently praising somebody or something beyond ourselves we will be consis-

tenUy speaking words of jealousy, bitterness and anger. That, in fact, is our daily experience. We sit around talking with each other and, invariably, unless we 're praising someone we're "killing" someone. Gossip, slander, harsh jud gment and vicious comment are often both the tone and substance of our conversations and they're the very antithesis of a doxology, of offering praise to God. Nothing sounds less like a doxology ("Glory be to the Father and to the Son and to the Hol y Spirit") than many of our everyday conversations. The main reason our faith asks us to constantl y render glory to God is that the more we praise the less we slander, gossip, or pass judgment. Offering praise to God, and others, is what saves us from bitterness and violence. And, in the end, overcoming bitterness and violence is the greatest spiritual hurdle of all. Much tougher than the Sixth Commandment is the Fifth ('Thou shal l not kill !"). As Henri Nouwen used to say, we're killing each other all the time. Nobody is shot by a gun who isn't first shot by a word, and nobody is shot by a word who isn 't first shot by a thought. Our thoughts are too frequently murderous and soon enough get expressed in our words: "Who does he think he is!" "She thinks she 's so special!" "What a hypocrite!" Underneath those comments, driving that bitterness, is a not-so-subtle anxiety and hurt: "What about me? Who ' s noticing me? Who's giving anything to me?" I say this sympathetically because it 's not easy not to be anxious in this way, especiall y for the young, and it's not easy, after the neuroses of mid-life and beyond, not to be bitter or not to feel cheated. For both the young and the old, it's hard to simply say to someone else, God included, "Glory be to you" and really mean it.

We 're made in God' s image, have a divine fire in us th at over-charges us for this world , and live lives of quiet desperation. That desperation , all too often , expresses itself in negative , bitter , and even murderous jud gments because the divine in us has been ignored and we feel rage about this slight. But that 's precisely why daily, hourl y, we need to give glory to God , to pray a doxology. Only by focusing ourselves on the real center of the universe can we displace ourselves from that center. When St. Paul begins his Epistles, he usually does so in a rapture of praise: "Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ from whose great mercy we all drink!" That isn 't a throwaway opening; it 's a key part of the main lesson. All the great spiritual writers do the same. They know a deep secret: Only praise saves us from bitterness and only by blessing others do we save ourselves from cursing them.

Father Ron Rolheiser

Obla te Father Ron Rolheiser is a theologian , teacher and award-winning author.

Holy Cross Cemetery and its predecessors By Jeffrey M. Burns (with hel p from the Hol y Cross Cemetery Staff) As the autumn winds arrive and the days grow shorter, our thoug hts turn naturally toward mortality. The Church recognizes this by celebrating All Saints Day and All Souls Day lo begin November. Since the earliest days of Christianity, the cemetery has held an honored place in the Christian tradition. The catacombs nurtured and sustained the early churc h, and since then , the resting place of the faithful departed has served as a place to remember and pray for the dead, to console the living, and to insp ire reflection on our own mortality. Mission Dolores provided the first Catholic cemetery in the history of the archdiocese. Many early Spanish settlers were buried there as well as close to 5,000 Native Americans. Brother Guire Cleary, Curator of Mission Dolores, noted the troubling fate of those who had built the mission structures: "Padre Ramon Abella recorded the following sad note in the Burial Register at Mission Dolores on Jul y 22, 1814, Today I buried Viridiana , the last oi the adults who witnessed the founding of the mission...Everyone who saw the arrival of the missionaries... have died; and of those who have been born since that time, rare are those who live."' While intending to bring life , the Spanish, albeit unintentionall y, brought death. Mission Dolores Cemetery provides a grim reminder of that reality. Mission Dolores also contains the graves of some of the historic Spanish families such as Noe, Sanchez, Bernal , and Arguello. In 1834, Mission Dolores was "secularized", but continued serving as the Catholic cemetery. By the 1850s, Irish names began to surpass Spanish names on the The remains of Archbishop Alemany are welcomed home in rites at Holy Cross Mausoleum in 1966, headstones indicating the chang ing make-up of San Francisco. By 1860, Mission Dolores was essentiall y filled to capacity thoug h the last burial would not take place until city of San Francisco in the Lone Mountain District , which the city, nearly ten miles. Riordan 's foresight , however, 1898, some three decades after the sale of burial plots had included the Odd Fellows Cemetery, . the Masonic proved correct as the area developed into San Francisco's "City of the Dead." Holy Cross started the trend. A reporter ceased. Mission Dolores remains one of only two remain- Cemetery and Laurel Hill Cemetery. The first priest to be buried in Calvary was the pastor of for The Monitor concluded that Riordan had chosen his site ing cemeteries within the city of San Francisco. In 1860, Archbishop Joseph Alemany purchased lands in the French parish , Notre Dame des Victoires, Father well indeed: "A more suitable place for the burial of our Dominic Blaive. He was buried in the center dead it would be difficult to find." Riordan dedicated Holy the Lone Mountain District of San Francisco for a new cemetery. On November 8, 1860 he PROCLAIMING of the priests ' plot , a heart-shaped area Cross on June 3, 1887 in a low-key celebration with onl y a dedicated Mount Calvary Cemetery. Even m, GOOD NEWS kn own as "The Heart." Each year an annual select few in attendance. There is some dispute as to who was the first interment before the dedication, the first interment had TO ALL CREATION requiem Mass for the dead was held at Calvary, followed by a procession to the at Holy Cross. The earliest funerals arrived at the cemetery taken place: On October 14, 1860, Canadian in horse drawn hearses. Legend has it that the horse drawn born Joseph Soultier, who had died at St. priests ' plot. Mary's Hospital , received the distinction as By 1887, Calvary was rapidl y filling up, hearses of Brid get Martin and Timothy Murphy raced to and so no further burial plots were being Holy Cross to see who would receive the distinction as the Calvary's first burial, with Father John Hand y sold. Only family members or people who first burial. The story goes that Bridget arrived first , but that officiating. Interestingly, the San Francisco ii lrl had previousl y purchased plots could be Timothy was listed as first in the official register book. A Call later claimed that that distinction buried in Calvary. By 1901 no further burials later historian would suggest that this was a clear case of belonged to John Riley, a pauper. were allowed, though the cemetery was discrimination against women. In 1862, a cross was constructe d at the briefly reopened following the earthquake top of Lone Mountain , a cross which served By 1891 the primary way of corning to a funeral at Holy and fire of 1906. The final burial took place Cross was by a train, a trip that took roughly 30 minutes as a city landmark for years. The cross was blessed by Archbishop Alemany on August 4$***f y t & z r z s in 1909, and the cemetery officially closed in from the Fourth and Townsend Street station in San 1914. 17, 1862; he was assisted by the bishop of Francisco. Two special funeral trains ran from San Francisco A SESOU1CKOTIIHK5AI, YEAR Oi? To remedy the need for more cemetery each day—round trip was 50 cents, with a $1.00 charge for Sonora, Mexico, Pedro Losa, recently exiled REMEMBRANC E &8£> RESBWAi mmmmmmMmmmmmommm land , Archbishop Patrick W. Riordan looked the casket, which was kept in the baggage car. A special by the anti-clerical government in his home country. Father Joseph M. Gleason later ARCHDIOCESt Of south of the city. In 1885 he purchased 30C Funeral Parlor car was also available for $50.00. The special acres in the Westlake area near present day car had a compartment for the ladies, one for the gentlemen, poetically described Alemany's act: "On this SAN FRANCISCO Daly City. After seven burials the cemetery a drawing room, and a special compartment for the casket. peak he raised the cross of Christ so that the was closed—it was thought to be too close to setting sun might throw the shadow of that Over the years the natural beauty of Holy Cross has been Lake Merced, and it was feared that the buri- enhanced by the construction of several impressive buildings. cross' arms over the graves of Christ's dead." The cross was removed in 1930 when the San Francisco als might contaminate the lake. In 1886, Riordan purchased In 1905, the stone office building (now located across from College for Women was constructed at the top of Lone 300 acres of the Buri Buri rancho for his new cemetery in the cemetery) and gateway were completed. In 1914, the Mountain (now a part of the University of San Francisco what would become the Town of Colma. In 1887 Holy beautiful domed Romanesque chapel was dedicated. In 1921, campus). Cross Cemetery was opened across from McMahon 's the monumental Holy Cross Mausoleum was completed. Calvary was one of the "Big Four" cemeteries for the Station . Some complained that Holy Cross was too far from HOLY CROSS, page 15

In earlier times, funerals were brought to Holy Cross Cemetery by train. The cemetery's original offices are on the right.

Three crosses, a reminder of Calvary, memorialize the unclaimed remains from Mt. Calvary Cemetery, which were reburied in Holy Cross Cemete ry between 1939-1941.

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Numerou s additions have been made to the Mausoleum over the years; the most significant of which was the centra l chapel and crypts that were comp leted in 1950, and now house the remains of all deceased former archbishops of San Francisco. Besides these buildings , the center road at Hol y Cross is graced by a row of private mausoleums or famil y mausoleums , or what one observer called , "mini-mansions for the dead." In the early 1960s the old chapel was knocked down and a new receivin g chapel constructed and dedicated in 1963. The new chapel contained five bri ght and beautifully decorated chapels. Its innovative desi gn gave the cemetery the ability to conduct five services at the same time. When Holy Cross Mausoleum was nearing capacity (40,000 entombments), desi gn work began on a second community mausoleum. Catholic families had indic ated their desire for a more modern facility — one with heal and carpeting. Construction began in 1981. The chapel in this mausoleum is hi ghli ghted by a wall relief crafted b y Fila Ravcntos , depicting the Hol y Spiri t surrounded by the saints at the gates of heaven , waiting to welcome the departed— hence the name "All Saints Mausoleum ". The chapel and several corridors were blessed and dedicated on Memorial Day, May 30, 1988 by Msgr. James P. McKay, who was Directo r of Cemeteries at that time. It will eventuall y be a two-story building and accommodate 33,000 entombments. As Holy Cross developed , a drama that centered on the cemeteries in San Francisco was unfolding. When Mount Calvary was founded , the Lone Mountain District was on the outskirts of the city, As San Francisco grew, the cemetery land became prime real estate , and developers cast their greedy eyes upon the homes of the dead . As early as 1880, the San Francisco Post ran an editorial entitled , "Tyranny of the Dead," which called for the closure of the city cemeteries and the removal of the alread y interred to a more remote site . Archbishop Alemany vi gorousl y opposed the removal initiative. By 1900, however, the San Francisco Board of Supervisors declared that there were to be no more burials in San Francisco after 1901 , an order that was signed into law by Catholic Mayor James D. Phelan. In 1913 , the order became more imposing—all city cemeteries were to be closed and the bodies removed . The following year the Board of Health denounced the cemeteries as "a public nuisance and a menace and a detriment to the Public Health and Welfare ," and ordered that all bodies be removed within fourteen months. Catholics led by Archbishop Riordan joined other groups such as the Cemetery Protective Association in opposing the order. In 1923-24, another city ordinance , this time approved by the voters, ordered the removal of the cemeteries. Catholics, who had not been overly enthusiastic about women receiving the right to vote in 1920, now tried to rall y women voters to defeat the removal initiative . As The Monitor put it , we seek "the enlistment of women voters to keep Calvary Cemetery sacred from body-snatchers and real estate sharks." Two of the Big Four cemeteries succumbed and moved their bodies to Colma. Catholics continued the battle until 1937. Finally, between 1939-194 1, the bodies from Mount Calvary were exhumed and transported to Holy Cross. Families with loved ones buried at Calvary were given time to arrange for their removal and reinterment. Many, however, were left unclaimed , and so their remains were reburied in the "Mt. Calvary " area in Hol y Cross. Over the years the cemetery received many comp laints from visitors about this lovely site, as there was no recognition of those buried there. Rev. Zachary J. Shore, Director of Cemeteries in 1993, set a budget for the design and construction of a monument and the perimeters were distribu ted to local monument dealers. The winning design was of three simple crosses - the perfect reminder of Calvary. Father Shore blessed and dedicated the monument on May 31, 1993, following the annual Memorial Day Mass. The 39,307 Catholics who were interred there 52 years earlier at the expense of the Archdiocese were finally memorialized. Perhaps the most significant reinterment had nothing to do with the mass removal of 1940. The first archbishop of San Francisco, Joseph Sadoc Alemany, OP, had returned to his native Vich, Spain following his retirement in 1884. He died and was buried there in 1888. In the early 1960s, noted

Remains are exhumed for removal from San Francisco 's Mt. Calvary Cemetery.

California church historian and archivist for the foundress of the only order indigenous to the archdiocese, the Archdiocese of Los Angeles, Monsignor Francis J. Weber, Holy Family Sisters. A special plot also exists for the priests got the idea that the remains of Alemany should more prop- of the archdiocese, a plot designated by a monument of the erly rest with his successor archbishops in the Holy Cross Last Supper with the words "Thou Art a Priest Forever" Mausoleum. So after much negotiation , in 1966, inscribed on the back. Perhaps the most famous priest in the Archbishop Alemany returned to San Francisco, and was history of the archdiocese, Father Peter C. Yorke, is not buried in th"e priests ' plot. He is buried beneath his mother in a beaureinterred with his fellow archbishops. Besides the archbishops of San Francisco, Hol y Cross tiful tomb marked appropriately enough with a Celtic cross. houses a virtual "who's who" of San Francisco Catholics Following his death on Palm Sunday in 1925, Yorke's grave including such dignitaries as James D. Phelan, Eugene became the site of an annual pilgrimage that originated at St. Schmitz, Patrick H. McCarthy, Angelo Rossi, and George Peter's parish in San Francisco. The day became a major Irish Moscone, all mayors of San Francisco; banking greats A.P. and labor celebration , which annuall y featured many digniGiannini of the Bank of Italy/Bank of America, and the Tobin taries including Eamon de Valera, president of the Free Irish family of the Hibemia Bank; James F. Smith, co-founder of State. No day was complete without the recitation of the poem the Young Men 's Institute and one-time Governor-General of in honor of Father Yorke, "Rest Wanior Priest." Currentl y, the most visited gravesite is that of baseball the Phili ppines; John G. Downey, the seventh governor of California , Governor Edmund G. "Pal" Brown , the thirty-sec- great Joseph P. DiMag gio, "The Yankee Clipper". The majority of those buried at Holy Cross are neither rich ond Governor of California , and many others. A special plot exists for women religious, which contains hundreds of dedi- nor famous. They are the ordinary Catholics who sustained cated servants of the Lord, who built and sustained the Church the Church in San Francisco with their many contributions, in San Francisco, most notably Mother Dolores Armer, the sacrifices and toil. These Catholics are honored and respected at Holy Cross no less than the well-to-do and famous. The beauty of Holy Cross Cemetery is enjoyed by all. To honor all the dead at Holy Cross and to give sustenance to their fami lies, Holy Cross offers a monthly memorial Mass the first Saturday of each month. Annually they host a Mass on Memorial Day, Todos de los santos (All Saints Day), and All Souls Day. An annual remembrance service is offered at Christmas and Easter, and on Veteran's Day. The Archdiocese is home to two other cemeteries, Holy Cross in Menlo Park, a lovely seven-acre cemetery in a residential area of Menlo Park, and Mt. Olivet in San Rafael , an old boot hill cemetery adjacent to Hwy. 101. Although much smaller than Holy Cross in Colma, they serve the Catholic community with the same sense of ministry and history. Though Colma is no longer the remote spot it once was, Holy Cross Cemetery continues to provide important ministry for the Catholics of the archdiocese. Here amidst the rush and pressure of modern life, is an oasis that calls on us to reflect on an ultimate reality. Here amidst the beauty of Holy Cross we confront our own mortality, and come to realize that the grave is not the end, but an entry way into A recent overview of Holy Cross Cemetery, Colma our ultimate union with the God whom we love.

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Nov. 1,2: InStyle, 34th annual Fashion Show benefiting St. Ignatius College Preparatory School, SF, an event "that has raised millions of dollars for the SI scholarship fund," the school said. "The paparazzi will be there and the runway filled with fashionable models." Tickets to Saturday's Evening Gala are $125. Sunday luncheon tickets are $75, Sponsorship and other underwriting opportunities are still available. Call Jeannie Barulich at (650) 373-4140 , or Theresa Moore at (415) 586-8051. Nov. 1: Fall Festival at Sacred Heart/St. Dominic School, 2445 Pine St., SF from 11 a.m. - 3 p.m. Raffle, live music from Bobbi Webb and the Smooth Blues band, BBQ, and Halloween Contest for children. Call (415) 346-9500. Nov. 6: Annual Brennan Dinner of San Francisco's St. Vincent de Paul Society honors Peter Brusati at St. Mary's Cathedral, Gough and Geary St., SF beginning at 6 p.m. Cocktails, dinner, silent auction.Tickets $150 per person. Call Tina McGovern at (415) 661 -2645. Nov. 7: Catholic Marin Breakfast Club gathers. Now in its 10th year the morning begins with Mass at 7 a.m. in St. Sebastian Church, Bon Air Rd. and Sir Francis Drake Blvd., Kentfield, with breakfast and presentation following in parish hall. Today's speaker is Jesuit Father Joe Eagan. Reservations required to Sugaremy @ aol.com or (415) 461-0704 daily. Members $7, others $10, Dues $20 per year. Dec. 5: Archbishop William J. Levada. Nov. 8: Evening of Dinner and Entertainment sponsored by St. Philip's Young at Heart. Club in new parish hall, 725 Diamond St., SF, beginning at 6 p.m. A choir and folk dancer extravaganza from 7 - 9 p.m. Tickets $20 per person, Call Jess Centeno at (415) 239-1729. Mercy Sisters M. Regina Sutton, Mary Placida Conant, and Cecilia Dolores Conant Nov. 8: Recital and book signing by popular composer, Jesuit Father Bob Fabing at the Del Santo Reading create door hangings that will be available for sale November 21st and 22nd at the Room, 2nd Floor of USF's Lone Mtn Campus, 2800 Turk Boutique at Marian Center, 2300 Adeline Dr., Burlingame. The annual holiday Blvd. between Masonic and Parker, SF. Father Fabing's songs have recently been translated for use by Chinese emporium features "beautiful handmade items including great gift baskets and congregations. Hs Cds and books will be on sale with crocheted blankets made by the Sisters. " Benefits retired Mercy Sisters . proceeds benefiting the Father Edward Malatesta Call Debbie Halieran at (650) 340-7426. Scholarship Endowment. Call (415) 422-6401. Nov. 8: Do your Christmas Shopping early at the Christmas Boutique benefiting the Dominican Sisters of Ireland, Australia, and Canada. $10 suggested donation Nov. 23: Maryknoll Alumnae Association gathers Mission San Jose, 10 a.m. - 4 p.m. at Immaculate for Mass in Chinese at St. Matthew Church , El benefits St. Stephen Music Ministry. Call (415) 681-2444. Conception Academy, 24th St. and Guererro St. SF. Camino Real at 9th Ave., San Mateo at 4 p.m. SF Nov. 7,8, 14,15: Roaring Twenties, a modern day soNov. 9: Pancake Breakfast and Talent Show beneAuxiliary Bishop Ignatius Wang will preside. Dinner to-say setting of the Bard's A Comedy of Errors at Mercy fiting St. Finn Barr Elementary School in Goode Hall, and hot cider reception follows with ballroom dancHigh School, 3250 19th Ave., SF. Features talent from Hearst and Edna St., SF from 8:30 a.m. - 2 p.m. ing at Hyatt Regency at SF Airport. Tickets $55 per Mercy and other nearby schools. Current all dates at Tickets $5/$4.50/$4/$2.50. Call (415) 333-1800. person. Call Gail Chan at (415) 392-0645. 7:30 p.m. Nov. 7 tix at $15 include post show buffet. Nov, 15: Potluck dinner anc Nov. 20: The St. Thomas More Tickets for other dates $8. Call (415) 334-0525. presentation of Marin County Society, an organization of Respect Life Program featuring Catholics serving in the legal proWesley J. Smith, internationally fession , hosts its annual Pastors' known author, attorney who advisclothes lo» its Vkieentlan Desk th.it Nov. 2: Class reunions and Alumnae Mass and Lunch. Jeanne Woodford, warden es The International Task Force 6erves more than 800 people a Brunch honoring classes of '58 , '63 , '68, 73, 78, of San Quentin State Prison is on Euthanasia and Assisted ' month most of whom are men. '83, '88, '93, '98 at Notre Dame High School, featured speaker. Call Stacy Suicide. 'The event is designed to Items most needed are pants, .shirts Belmont. Contact alumnae office at (650) 595-1913, Stecher at (415) 433-1400 for educate the community about the but not tee shirts, coats, sweaters, ext. 351 or alumnae@ndhsb.org . reservations. realities of the Culture of Death as sweat shirts, shoes, belts, underi Dec. 6, 7: Passport to it relates to end of life issues, care wear and socks. Drop off station is Christmas, St. Brendan Boutique of the disabled, the assault on 425 4th St at Harrison, SF weekbenefiting the parish school and medical ethics and more ," said days from 9 a.m. - 5 p.m. Call (4 15) Nov. 1: All Saints Day Mass/Todos Los Santos sponsored by the Mothers' Club. Vicki Evans, coordinator. Call 202-9955 with Archbishop William J. Levada presiding in Holy Enjoy raffles, kids' games, food (415) 945-0180. Takes place at St. Cross Mausoleum Chapel, Holy Cross Cemetery, and wide selection of holiday Sebastian parish, 373 Bon Air Rd. Colma at 11 a.m. Refreshments in garden follow the gifts, gourmet baskets and a new at Sir Francis Drake Blvd, Greenbrae at 6 p.m. annual liturgy. Call (650) 756-2060. vendor bazaar. Sat. 10 a.m. - 6 p.m.; Sun. 10 a.m. - 2 Nov. 15: Crab Bash and Family Dinner benefiting p.m. in St. Brendan Church Hall, Ulloa and Laguna Nov. 8: Sisters of Notre Dame de Namur offer Holy Name of Jesus Elementary School in the parish's Saturday Morning Prayer 9:30 - 11:30 each 2nd Honda Blvd., SF.Call (415) 731-2665. Ryan Hall at 40th Ave. and Lawton St., SF Tickets Sat. of the month at their Province Center, 152C $28/$200 for table of eight. $10 for kids 12 and under. Ralston Ave. across from Ralston Hall on their uniBegins at 5:30 p.m. Menu includes all-you-can-eat versity campus. Today, Grieving Our Losses with cracked crab, pasta and more. Call (415) 664-8590. Notre Dame Sister Kathryn Keenan. Admission free unless otherwise noted. Nov. 15: Sew Chic, fall fashion show benefiting Si Nov. 11: Veteran's Day Memorial Prayer Service Nov.2: Acclaimed organist, Maryliz Smith, will perform Stephen Elementary School. 'Tailor made for fun" at in Star of the Sea Section of Holy Cross Cemetery, in concert at St. Stephen Church, 451 Eucalyptus, San Olympic Club, Lakeside beginning at 11 a.m.Tickets Colma at 11 a.m. Call (650) 756-2060. Francisco at 4 p.m. The program, dedicated to the mem$60. Call Linda Rizzo at (415) 334-2841 . ory of lost loved ones, will feature the artist's own comNov. 15.16: Holiday Boutique at St. Andrew Church, positions as well as a selection by Samuel Barber. Southgate and Sullivan, Daly City. Sat. 9 a.m. - 6 p.m.; Maryliz, who is music director at St. Stephen's, is known Office of Young Adult Ministry: Connecting Sun. 9 a.m. - 2 p.m. Features handcrafted gifts and genfor her "evocative, luminous and intensely-felt music." tly used household items. Call (650) 756-3223. 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Catholic Church. Contact Dominican Sister (415) 6145595, Christine Wilcox , wilcoxc@sfarchdiocese.org, or Mary Jansen, (415) 614-5596, jansenm @sfarchdiocese.org. Thurs. at 7:30 p.m.: St. Dominic Adult Formation Series in the parish hall 2390 Bush St. at Steiner, SF. Explore the skills needed to understand the bible and help it inform daily life. Join at any time. Contact Scott Moyer at scott@stdominics.org.

Social Justice/FamilyLife Nov. 9: Presentations on the Ohlhoff Recovery Programs at St. Francis Episcopal Church, 399 San Fernando Way at Ocean, SF at 5 p.m. Supper follows. These programs "empower adults, adolescents and their families recovering from alcoholism , chemical and eating disorders." Call (415) 334—1590 by Nov. 3.

Single, Divorced, Separated Sundays through Nov. 23: Divorce Recovery Course, 7 p.m., O'Reilly Parish Center, 451 Eucalyptus, San Francisco. $45 fee includes materials. "Provides a chance to understand the emotional journey begun with the loss of a marriage," said Separated and Divorced ministry of the Archdiocese of San Francisco sponsor of the sessions. Call Susan at (415) 752-1308 or Vonnie at (650) 873-4236. Nov. 15: San Francisco Auxiliary Bishop John C. Wester will preside at a Mass of Thanksgiving at Our Lady of Mt. Carmel Church, Mill Valley at 1 p.m. Pot luck reception follows. Call Pat Harder at (415) 492-3331. Separated and Divorced support groups meet 3rd Sat. at 6:30 p.m. at St. Mary's Cathedral, call Pat at (415) 492-3331; and 1st and 3rd Wed. at 7:30 p.m. at St. Stephen Parish Center, SF, call Gail at (650) 591-8452. Catholic Adult Singles Assoc , of Marin meets for support and activities. Call Bob at (415) 8970639 for information.

Consolation Ministry Groups meet at the following parishes. Please call numbers shown for more information. St. Catherine of Siena, Burlingame. Call Elaine Yastishock at (650) 344-6884; Our Lady of Angels, Burlingame. Call Louise Nelson at (650) 343-8457 or Barbara Arena at (650) 344-3579. Our Lady of Mt. Carmel, Redwood City. Call (650) 366-3802; Good Shepherd, Pacifica. Call Sister Carol Fleitz at (650) 355-2593; St. Robert, San Bruno. Call (650) 589-2800. Immaculate Heart of Mary, Belmont. Call Ann Ponty at (650) 598-0658 or Mary Wagner at (650) 591-3850. St. Isabella, San Rafael. Call Pat Sack at (415) 4725732. Our Lady of Loretto, Novate. Call Sister Jeanette at (415) 897-2171.St. Gabriel, SF.Call Barbara Elordi at (415) 564-7882. St. Finn Barr, SF in English and Spanish. Call Carmen Solis at (415) 584-0823; St. Cecilia, SF. Call Peggy Abdo at (415) 564-7882 ext. 3; Epiphany, SF in Spanish. Call kathryn Keenan at (415) 564-7882. Ministry for parents who have lost a child is available from Our Lady of Angels Parish, Burlingame. Call Ina Potter at (650) 347-6971 oi Barbara Arena at (650) 344-3579. Young Widow/Widower group meets at St, Gregory, San Mateo. Call Barbara .Elordi at (415) 564-7882.

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Film on life of St. Therese needs support for distribution By jayme George Saint Therese of Lisieux once said, "I want to preach the Gospel on all continents at the same time." Now, thanks to Luke Films and the dedication of St. Therese 's many admirers , that desire is being made possible. The feature film Therese , about the short but insp irational life of the French saint , is slotted for a spring 2004 release in theatres worldwide. Also known as "The Little Flower of Jesus ," St. Therese rivals St. Francis of Assisi in popularity among saints. In 1997 , Pope John Paul II declared her a Doctor of the Church and her books have sold 100 million copies in 60 languages around the world. Her traveling relics attract such throngs of people that she has been dubbed "The Hurricane ." The film 's director Leonardo Defili pp is believes that St. Therese 's popularity is a result of her accessibility to the common person. "She dedicated her life to caring about every soul ," said Defili ppis. "A lot of people have given up on holiness , but Therese is accessible to peop le because she was a weak person and she said that God will accept you despite your weaknesses." According to Defilippis , the story of St. Therese is relevant to modern society because of the inspirational message that

it sends to young people. "Therese Martin lived her whole life as a young person , and yet she has become a cherished saint and a brid ge between many faiths. Statisticall y, the younger generations support the movie industry and the lack of reli gious representation in popular cinema would seem to indicate that youth today have no sp iritual depth. I made this film for young peop le because I want to show the world that the youth do have sp iritual depth ," said Defili pp is. Defili ppis , who also plays Therese's father Louis Martin , strove to create a film that mirrors the lush , romantic look of the Victorian age while still retaining a feminine simplicity to represent the way in which St. Therese lived her life. For Defilipp is , the most challeng ing part of the filmmaking process was figuring out a way to portray a life that was primaril y interior in nature. The solution came in the form of a moving soundtrac k composed by Sister Marie Therese Sokol . OCD. In many ways Luke Films and Leonardo Defili ppis have created a landmark movie. "Therese" is the only film about a saint to be produced outside of Holl ywood . Instead , filming look place primaril y in the Northwest , where Luke Films is located. "Therese" is also the first movie to be endorsed by the Vatican as a means of evangelization. Bishop Albert Malcolm Ranjith of the Vatican says that

Two books on St. Therese of Lisieux By Sister Mona Castelazo, CSJ Catholic News Service "Wisdom of the Little Flower" by Rudolph Slertenbrink [Crossroad Publishing, New York, $17.95] and "St. Therese of Lisieux: Essential Writings " edited by Mary Frohlich [Orbis Books , Maryknoll , NY, $15.00] offer surprisingly fresh insights into the life and personality of this popular saint. Stertenbrink highli ghts St. Therese's sensitivity and human vulnerabilities. A youthful , idealistic visionary, she felt called to heroism for God. A poet and a lover of nature, she had early dreams of living in a sunny chalet with a garden full of flowers and a view of the sea. For St. Therese, Stertenbrink says, everything in nature contained a dormant song and she sensed "in each and every thing the presence of the divine 'YOU' through whom everything was created." In striving for sainthood by the doing of great deeds, St. Therese writes that she found it impossible to make herself "any bigger."

the film is "a marvelous production revealing the spiritual and missionary message of the life of Saint Therese...it has great communicative power to people , showing how, with the grace of God, they can achieve such holiness in their own lives." Cardinal Francis George of Chicago says, "I am impressed with Luke Films ' vision and understanding of the importance of a Catholic voice within the entertainment industry...I encourage Catholics to support 'Therese ' in any way that they can."

She resolved to endure her inadequacies and to seek heaven in a "little, entirel y new way." As she states elsewhere, "By now I have resigned myself to the fact that I am permanentl y imperfect, and I delight in it." The saint 's "Essential Writings" emphasize the complexities of her spiritual struggle toward simp licity. Frohlich writes that St. Therese contended with "personal versions of narcissism, illusion , sin, and inner and outer conflict ," as well as a spirituality of reparation which called for performing innumerable pious acts for the salvation of the corrupt "outside world" and a holiness that required "victim souls." St. Therese desired to be a warrior, a priest, an apostle, a doctor of the church, a martyr, a crusader and a papal guard. Frohlich's selections show us that through the lived experience of humiliations, aridity in prayer and periods of darkness, the saint relinquished the grand hopes of future heroism, realizing that a life of love in the present moment yields a hidden, eternal glory, one with the divine.

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Defilippis acknowled ges that as a director he has been very fortunate in being able to see this film come to completion. Now the movie hovers in a predistribution phase , which means that it is waiting for the chance to find its audience. "About sixty to seventy percent of films by independent filmmakers never see the li ght of day," said Defili ppis. "We don ' t have the same marketing power Mel Gibson has with his movie. We are rel y ing on the film 's website and the support of the Church to make this movie known to the public." The website , located at www.theresemovie.com , is interactive in nature and features a trailer , clips from the film , interviews , and several audience re actions from the two major screenings that were held in Chicago and Portland. In addition , here are biograp hies on the cast and crew as well as a bnel history ol Therese and the worl d that she inhabited. Visitors to the site can also register to express theii interest in seeing "Therese " brought to their city. The message that St. Therese imparts throug h her life's work is one that can be summed up in one word—love. She is quoted as say ing, "You know well enough that Our Lord does not look so much at the greatness of our actions , nor even at their difficulty, but at the love with which we do them." The movie attempts to highli ght this idea that even small acts can transform the world if they are done with love.

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Letters.. . ¦ Continued from page 12 McCarth y, and "staunchl y" Catholic Cuomo. Neither politician was completel y committed to the one position named. A more accurate descri ption might be "moderatel y " pro-abortion and "moderatel y" Catholic. But that is precisely the lukewarm stance that is a scandal for today 's Catholic politicians. Of course we live in a pluralistic society, and so the Holy Father asks all Catholics to "Stand up for life" and give witness. At this rate, the onl y pro-life politicians we can be proud of and vote for will be non-Catholics such as Tom McClintock. According to the Gospel , 'B y thenfruits you shall know them." Cardinal Bernardin 's seamless garment has given us the legacy to today 's "Catholic " politician exemplified by Kenned y, Daschle, Pelosi , Davis , Bustamante , etc . They support only the "politically correct" social teaching of the Church , none of which matters if you are not born . So, even if McCarthy should speak with the tongue of angels, propose legislation for many good causes , distribute his money to charities , and sit on prestigious boards , it profits nothing because he has not love for life at its beginning. That is the foundation and cornerstone of Catholic social teaching. I applaud Catholic San Francisco for speaking the truth forthrightly. Beatrice Smalley San Francisco

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Many thanks for the extra copies of the October 10 Catholic San Francisco. Just a brief personal note to say that the excellent layout of the Vatican II article is much appreciated. Bishop Francis Quinn Retired Bishop of Sacramento

Who is PJ, the author of "Above All , A Priest" in the October 17 issue? A wonderful job. Also, Catholic San Francisco just keeps getting better. Joe Giacomini San Rafael Ed note: Patrick Joyce writes from Sacramento and is contributing editor and senior writer for Catholic San Francisco.

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In his editorial of October 24 Douglas Kmiec of the Catholic News Service writes that the pre-emptive war against Iraq was justified; that links between Hussein and Al Qaeda are disputed; and that those who oppose the war are politically gullible and morally indifferent. The links between Al Qaeda and Hussein are not disputed. Bush has stated that no such link is known. Iraq has also not been connected with 9/11. And , citizens have the right to oppose the war without being denigrated as politicall y gullible or morally indifferent. Mr. Kmiec says the war was not centered on the question of weapons of mass destruction but at the same time states that self-defense is a key element of preemptive "just-war " thinking. The primary reason given for going to war at President Bush' s speech to the UN was that Iraq possessed weapons of mass destruction posing an imminent threat to us. No such weapons have been found. Iraq 's third rate army defeated in a few weeks was obviousl y no threat. Iraq 's regime was obviousl y evil and cruel , but many other nations including China have similar regimes. Should we also attack them? Most of the nations of the world opposed the war. Even those few governments like Britain and Spain whose leaders supported the war dismissed their citizens ' opposition to the war. Bush's unilateral belief in pre-emp-

tive war is a dangerous precedent and perilous path that other nations such as Pakistan , India , China or Taiwan may adopt. Al Trimbach Tiburon

Living with criticism

I wish to commend Father Ron Rolheiser for his October 3 article , "Living with Criticism, Seeking Identity from God." It was no an easy piece to write. His statement , "Nobod y goes throug h life without facing criticism , opposition , misunderstanding , suspicion and , at some point , having to experience hatred ," is indeed apropos and pertinent to the Christian community. In variant degrees , all of the components Father Rolheiser addresses are painful to humankind. At times, each of us is deserving of criticism and opposition. However, if done with good intent , both elements can become constructive. Misunderstanding and susp icion are more difficult to reconcile because of the degrees of distress involved. Nevertheless , if people are willing to sit down and discuss such problems with openness and honesty, oftentimes both elements can be resolved. In my opinion , by including the last component , "hatred ," Father Rolheiser brings us into a different dimension - the sphere of moral evil. God gave us the gift of free will. "...Thus has moral evil, incommensurabl y more harmful than physical evil , entered the world."

(Catechism of the Catholic Church 1849) When Father Rolheiser writes , "...and , at some point , having to experience hatred. " He does so as a theolog ian and teacher who is full y aware of the pain and devastation hatred perpetuates. As he continues the article, the author tells us: "The real pain , though, is not when these negative jud gments come from outside , but precisel y when it comes from inside , from persons with whom we are meant to share family and faith." By utilizing that insight , Father Rolheiser 's statement emerges as completel y accurate. To most of us, the motivation that causes the depth pain of Father Rolheiser refers to seems incomprehensible. Father Rolheiser reminds us that Jesus coped with his horrible persecution and death because he took "his identity from God and not from himself or from the op inions others had of him." The very human Jesus suffered hatred , cruelty and death at the hands of his persecutors; the Divine Jesus triumphed in the accomp lishment of his mission. In summing up, Father Rolheiser tells us: "In the face of criticism , opposition and hatred, we should always seek spiritual direction , from the wise and from the good...Wisdom and goodness are the great princi ples of discernment." Dolores L. Callagy Belmont

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