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by Tom Burke The bells are ring ing... A n n e McVeigh and Captain Bill McNertncy, USN Ret. met in 1997 while taking School of P a s t o r a l Leadershi p theology courses. On April 23, the two were married at Anne 's home parish of St. Dominic. Joni Gallagher, assistant director of SPL, says Captain Bill and Anne Mary her "hat's off to the McNertney couple wishing them "a wonderful life together." Adventuring forth...Those of us with a few hours to exp lore the inlerfaith dimension of our call as Catholics have a perfect opportunity this Sunday at St. Mary Cathedral where the Interrel igious Spring Feast , "a Jewish-Muslim-Christian celebration ," takes place from 5 to 8 p.m. We are invited to join in dialogue , song, music and food. A $15 donation is requested. Father P. Gera rd O'Rourke , who celebrates his 50'" year as a priest next year, directs the Office of Interreligious Affairs of the Archdiocese. From his small Chancery di gs, Father Gerry has built many a bridge across the interfaith chasm.

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I CATHOLIC SAN FRANCISCO Official newspaper of the Archdiocese of San Francisco Most Reverend William J. Levada, publisher Maurice E. Healy, associate publisher Editorial Staff: Dan Morris-Young, editor; Evelyn Zappia, feature editor; Tom Burke, "On the Street " and Datebook; Sharon Abercrombie , reporter. Advertising Department: Joseph Pena, director; Britta Tigan , consultant; Mary Podesta , account representative; Don Feigel, consultant. Production Department: Enrico Risano, manager; Julie Benbow, graphic consultant; Ernie Grafe, Jody Werner, consultants. Business Office : Marta Rebagliati, assistant business manager; Gus Pena, advertising and subscriber services. Advisory Board: Noemi Castillo , Sr. Rosina Conrotto, PBVM , Fr. Thomas Daly, Joan Frawley Desmond, James Kelly, Fr. John Penebsky, Kevin Starr, Ph.D., Susan Winchell. Editorial offices are localed at 441 Church St., Sail Francisco, CA 941 14 Telephone: (415) 565-3699 News fax: (415) 565-3631 Circulation: I-800-563-0008. Advertising fax: (415) 565-3681 Catholic San Francisco is published weekly except the last Friday in December and bi-weekly during the months of June , July and August by the Roman Catholic Archdiocese of San Francisco, 1595 Mission Rd., South San Francisco, CA 94080-1218. Annual subscription rales are $10 within California , $20 all other states, and $40 internationall y. Application to Mail at Periodical Postal Rates is Pending at South San Francisco, California and at additional mailing offices. Postmaster: Send address changes to Catholic San Francisco, 1595 Mission Rd., South San Francisco, CA 94080-1218 Corrections: If there is an error in Ihe mailing label affixed to this newspaper, call Calhnla San FimctscB .it 1-800-563-fJOOS. It is help ful to refer to the current mailing label. Also, please Jet us know if the household is receiving duplicate copies. Thank you.

From left: Lou Ciardella, Barbara Borra , Madeline Vinci , Bishop John Wester, Steven Fuentes, Lauren Kilcullen, Lorraine lavarone, Joseph Basuino. Good peop le, good wwft...The Italian Catholic Federation presented Bishop John Wester with an $11 ,000 seminary burse at the annual Archbishop 's Mass and dinner at St. Charl es Parish in San Carlos on April 18. The ICF is celebrating its 75 ,h anniversary in 1999. Events commemorating the birthday are scheduled for Labor Day weekend during the group 's annual convention. The ICF has a presence in all three counties of the Archdiocese. SF District President is Joseph Basuino of St. Cecilia Parish; San Mateo District President is Louis Ciardella of Nativity Parish, Menlo Park ; and president of Branch 161 in Larkspur is Leroy Cheda of Our Lady of Mount Carmel Parish , Mill Valley. The ICF theme song, "Non Vogliam Dio" or "We Need God ," says loudly where their hearts are. Thanks for the translation to Lauren Kilcullen , longtime St. Cecilia ICF member and associate director of the Stewardship Office of the Archdiocese.

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Show me that on the map... St. I< inn Barr Elementary School recentl y celebrated "a week long multi-cultural festival ," said Denise McEvoy, the school' s resource and special projects coordinator. The program focused on art , history, literature food and music. Included in the "around the world without ever leaving home" excursion was a showcase of dance and song from the various native lands arranged by kindergarten teacher Karen O'Reill y. Kudos to parents and other parish adults who "gave freel y of their time," Denise said. Dominican Sister Bernarda Sindol is princi pal. Father Larry Goode is pastor. A very good cause... Friends of Denis Murphy are "sock hopp ing " for their injured pal at the gym of Good Shepherd Parish , 909 Oceana Blvd. , Pacifica on May 22 from 7:30 p.m. A ski accident in February has left Denis paral yzed from the waist down and this event is to hel p pay for his many expenses. Louis Sampson, who 's coordinating the get-together , says, in deference to the gym floor , you should not wear hard sole shoes. A $20 per person donation is reque sted. Music by the "Rockaways." If you can hel p or need more information , call Louis at (650) 355-2789. Bring flowers to the fairest... Mass, a May crowning and a pizza brunch were the focus of year-end celebrations for religious education students and their families at St. Stephen Parish on May 2. Hol y Ghost Father Sean Corcoran, parochial vicar at the parish , said Father Joseph Walsh , pastor , "addressed the children and showed them his stole and chalice as signs of priesthood." Father Corcoran called it "a very fitting end to a successful school year." / think I' m gonna 'faint, Father...Great goin ' to altar servers at St. Anthony Parish , Menlo Park , who recentl y came to the aid of peop le hit by Hurricane Mitc h with an effort that raised $1, 150. Hats off to Fabian Arias; Angelberto Cortez; Ramon Cortez; Adan and Joel Contreras; Victor Gutierrez; Elizabeth Ojeda; Rosa, Maricela , Gabriela , and Leticia Revuelta; Lino, Orlando and Jesus Rodriguez; Guillermo and German Guerra; Tony and Danny Sanchez ; Miguel Garibay ; Juan Renteria; Jose and Perla Salcedo; Rodolfo Rodarte; Noe Perez; Juan C. Rivas. Congrat 's, too, to servers at St. Patrick Parish , San Francisco who are part of the altar server group, Knights of the Holy Table: John Darryl Cruz; Eleazor Bautista; Alfonzo Reyes; Tobit Capati; V.J. Almacen; Tristan Rivera; Michael Garcia; John Ivan Dalapi; Donald Tajeron; Ryndell Cabrera; Angelo Cabarle; John Carolino; Lovence Urot; Benedict Almacen; Erick Perez; Edison Baling it; Denny Yanga; Alex Estucio; Marvin Estacio. One priest , whose examp le I remember but whose name I forget , 1 a a. always treated servers at my home parish in suburban p Philadelphia wonderfull y. When I asked him one day why he never leveled us for not being on the ball , he said , "The < a most important thing is to have young peop le partici pating m in the Mass and at the end if nothing is broken or on fire < we are ahead of the game."

From left in the garb of their ancestral countries are St. Finn Barr students Alberta Newman and Brittany Ruiz, Mexico; Monica Lee, China; Marissa Aguilera, Nicaragua; Daric Carvajal, Philippines. Standing is teacher 's aide Maria Gonzalez, El Salvador.

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60 Minu tes 'not the arena ' City health care cuts to try suit, states provincial met by growing protest A television news show is "not the arena" in which to try a lawsuit , the provincial superi or of the California Province of the Society of Jesus at Los Gatos said after "60 Minutes" aired a segment , May 9, concerning legal action taken by a former Jesuit against some of its members. Jesuit Father John A. Privett issued his response the day after CBS Television aired the segment on its Sunday evening show. During the broadcast , John Bollard , a former Jesuit seminarian, alleged that while he was studying at the Jesuit School of Theology in Berkeley, he was sexually harassed by a number of priests , including Father Thomas Gleeson, its president . Father Gleeson was president from 1987-95. Father Privett, in a statement given to The Catholic Voice and Catholic San

Francisco, said the former seminarian 's lawsuit was dismissed by the Federal District Court for the Northern District of California on May 15, 1998. Bollard has since filed an appeal with the Ninth Circuit of the United States Court of Appeals, asking for a million dollars in damages. The Jesuit superior said that "60 Minutes " approached members of the Society of Jesus asking for their side of the story, but they declined to participate. "The facts and legal complexities cannot be adequately represented in 15 minutes of air time. They deserve to be heard in a court of law," Father Privett stated. None of the Jesuits accused by Bollard are currently at JSTB. Father Gleeson is currently working for the Jesuit Conference in Washington, D.C.

patients now till their prescriptions at commercial drug stores. The closure of the pharmacy will save San Francisco a reported $1 million per year but protesters say this comes at too hi gh a human price. Physicians and nurses say what used to be a two-hour wait for free prescri ptions has become a two-day process , after which medicall y indi gent patients — those with no insurance or Medi-Cal coverage — pay at least $2 per prescri ption. Those with Medi-Cal coverage usual ly pay much more , they said. According to Welch, Medi-Cal administrators determine the share-of-cost their patients can afford . "If the state is saying they can afford it, we can 't continue to afford to subsidize it," she said. "Still, anyone on general assistance or any homeless people can still have a zero co-pay. We are honoring federal poverty guidelines." "(The public health director) feels himself in a tough position ," said interim chair of Community Health Network , Robert Okin. "If he puts money to fix the pharmacy they have to take it from someplace else , from the homeless , or the mentally ill, or the infrastructure of PHN , because there is nol sufficient money." "The erosion of the infrastructure has reall y been a problem ," Okin said. "It 's always in your face." He cited problems with insufficient housekeeping and maintenance staff , resulting in filth y bathrooms , broken app liances that take months to be repaired , and windows jammed open letting rain fall on patients . Medical professionals from SF General took their cause to the streets on May 4 when they demonstra ted in front of the Public Health Commission buildin g at 101 Grove St. after the commission 's regular meeting. They have also met individuall y with supervisors . In one of these individual meetings, activists made the case to Finance Committee Chairman Supervisor Leland Yee, who called the situation a crisis. He attributed it largel y to federal and state cuts in health care . HEALTH CARE , page 17

By Kamille Maher Physicians , nurses and stall from San Francisco General Hospital are waging a growing protest against recent surprise cuts in programs and reductions in services to the city 's poorest patients. Calling the situation a health care crisis, the medical professionals and other activists have staged demonstrations, met privatel y with members of SF's Board of Supervisors , and appealed to religious leaders for help and intervention. Organizers are protesting two major changes in services which the San Francisco Public Health Commission authorized in March and April. The commission closed a satellite pharmacy at SF General and began charging share-of-cost payments for prescriptions which had long been free to Public Health Network clients . "The Department of Health is facing a $25 million deficit ," said Melissa Welch, physician and chief medical officer of Public Health Network (PHN), the service delivery arm of the city's Department of Public Health. "We needed to look at internal ways to decrease these losses because we cannot start the new (fiscal) year in a deficit." Welch cited reasons for PHN's shortfall. Public hospitals across the country are receiving decreased federal and state reimbursements for medical care due to balanced budget initiatives. Also, the network is incuning revenue losses at another of its service hospitals, Laguna Honda, because of an ongoing Department of Justice investigation. That investigation cited Laguna Honda for overcrowding. A patient census reduction was ordered , resulting in fewer patients and a significant drop in revenues. "You have to look at the pharmacy in the context of the entire budget," Welch said. The satellite pharm acy, closed on March 5, used to fill about 700 prescriptions per day. Staff reported that volume has increased 30 percent at the remaining pharmacy since the satellite pharmacy closed, althoug h Welch said 20 percent of the

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ROME (CNS) — An Italian cardinal said that to better respond to the pastoral needs of divorced and remarried Catholics , the Church should examine what constitutes a valid marriage. Cardinal Ersilio Tonini also suggested the Churc h recognize the authority of local bishops in granting annulments in some cases, thus streamlining the legal procedures for Catholic couples. The retired archbishop of Ravenna , a popular commentator on Church affairs in Italian media , said he was taking his cue from recent statements by Cardinal Josep h Ratzinger, head of the Vatican doctrinal congregation , who had questioned whether every marriage between baptized Christians should automaticall y be considered a valid marriage. Cardinal Tonini cited the fact that divorced and remarried Catholics are barre d from the sacraments and said he agreed with Cardinal Ratzinger that the Church "cannot dismiss millions of faithful by telling them , "Too bad for you. '"

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WASHINGTON (CNS) — The head of the Catholic Health Association is challeng ing candidates for U.S. president to make health care reform "a priority goal " of his or her administration. Father Michael D. Place , president and CEO of the St. Louis-based association , promised his organization would be "both a voice for the voiceless and an agent for transformation " in the health care debate.

Backs bill on chronic p ain

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WASHINGTON (CNS) — The U.S. medical community's record on manag ing pain for chronicall y ill patients is "disappointing and disturbing, " an official of the Catholic Health Association said May 3. Sister Carol Keehan , who chairs the CHA advocacy and public policy committee , said the introduction in the U.S. Senate of The Conquering Pain Act of 1999 would help health care professionals "in achieving one of their most important goals: improving care for people in pain and at the end of life." Sister Keehan , a Daughter of Charity, is president and CEO of Providence Hospital in Washington , D.C.

VATICAN CITY (CNS) — One year after a Swiss Guard murdered his commander and then shot himself , the new head of the coips announced new procedures for selecting members of the Vatican corps. The recruitment of men for the 100-strong corp s which guards the pope will be entrusted to a centfal office in Switzerland with a uniform examination of candidates , including psycholog ical evaluations if necessary, said Col. Pius Segmuller, whom Pope John Paul II appointed after the 1 998 murders.

Poll: Americans opp ose abortion

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WASHINGTON (CNS) — Nearly three-quarters of Americans think access to abortion should be limited in some circumstances , according to a CNN/USA Today/Gallup poll made public May 5. The latest poll , based on phone interviews with 1,014 adults April 30-May 2, found 16 percent of Americans think abortions should be illegal in all circumstances and 55 percent said it should be allowed only in cases of rape, incest or to save the life of the mother. Another 27 percent said abortions should be permitted in all circumstances. The poll also showed that the number of Americans who describe themselves as "pro-choice" is dropping, while the number who call themselves "pro-life " is rising. Compared to 56 percent three years ago, those who said they were pro-choice fell to 48 percent. Forty-nine percent of women and 47 percent of men said they were pro-choice. The number who considered themselves pro-life went from 36 percent three years ago to 42 percent — 43 percent of men and 42 percent of women.

WASHINGTON (CNS) — About 115 U.S. Catholic bishops have signed a resolution asking the U.S. government to close the U.S. Arm y School of the Americas. The school at Fort Benning, Ga., is a training program for soldiers from Latin America. The organization SOA Watch, founded by Mary knoll Falher Roy Bourgeois , links some of the school' s graduates to notorious cases of assassination , kidnapp ing, disappearance and tortu re that have occurred throughout Latin America in the last 30 years .

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GUATEMALA CITY (CNS) — In a new attempt to solve last year's killing of Auxiliary Bishop Juan Gerardi Conedera of Guatemala City, prosecutors began DNA testing May 4 on 17 people, including 12 military officers and a diocesan priest. "This is a positive precedent for Guatemal a's justice system," said Ronalth Ochaeta, director of the Archdiocesan Human Rights Office. The samples were due to be sent for analysis to the United States May 6. Results were expected by late May.

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TALLAHASSEE, Fla. (CNS) — The Florida legislature has given final approval to a statewide voucher program, which a Florida Catholic education leader called "a significant breakthrough." Critics have said they will file suit to block its imp lementation. Under the bill, students in Florida 's worst public schools will be eligible for vouchers of about $4,000 a year to help pay for tuition at private or parochial schools, or parents could choose to send their children to another public school. "The legislation is a signific ant breakthrough because it is the first statewide ... voucher program in the nation," said Larry D. Keough, education coordinator for the Florida Catholic Conference.

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"Lord, when was it that we saw you hungry and gave you food, or thirsty and gave you something to drink?" (Mt. 25:37) These words from St. Matthew's Gospel call us to recognize the moral worth of each human being by putting our faith into action. They are an expression of the servant model of Church that is primary to the teachings of the Second Vatican Council. Catholic Charities of the Archdiocese of San Francisco is one of a network of hundreds of individual Catholic Charities organizations across the nation. Desoite the differences in demographics and governance, we share a common purpose. That is, to provide care, compassion and hope to those in our communities who continue to hunger and thirst. As Chairman of the Board of Directors for Catholic Charities, I am proud to lead Catholic Charities in serving our Archdiocese through 37 programs offered to more than 70,000 people in need. Programs range from parish-based ministries such as our Grief Care Program

to St. Josep h's Village, which is designed to address the region-wide concern with homelessness. Such forms of ministry have been an integral part of the Catholic Church for 2,000 years. One Sunday each year is designated "Catholic Charities Sunday." In this way, all of us can be reminded of the outstanding work being done in the name of us all through our archdiocesan charitable agency and its programs. We can focus our attention once again on the many needs - often dramatic - of our brothers and sisters. And we can reach out to them, both with our volunteer efforts if we are able, and with our contributions according to our means. We should all be proud of the good work done by Catholic Charities, i am especially pleased by the extraordinarily low overhead, which allows a remarkable 91 percent of the overall budget to be spent on delivery of direct services. The Archdiocese of San Francisco is justly proud of

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Thoug hts on Catholic politicians who vote 'p ro-abortion

By George Wesolek Recently, Catholic San Francisco ran a letter from Father Larry Goode which mentioned the irony of State Senator Jackie Speier, a Catholic, who consistently votes pro-abortion, being lauded by a Catholic school for her work on helping to make busses safer for students. In the next issue of Catholic San Francisco, there were two letters in support of Senator rsm^—™~^rr?^w Speier, one of which said she was a "caring person ." This occasions a central question: How do Catholics respond to Catholic politicians who vote pro-abortion in light of protection of human life being a central element of Catholic social teaching? This is a very complicated question , requiring more space than this column George Wesolek will be able to provide. Let us say this can be the beginning of a dialogue among Catholics of good will about this sensitive issue. First some basic observations: • The Catholic Church and Catholic organizations are directed by teachings of the Church. Church social teaching calls each Catholic to be mindful of the dignity of every person and calls each of us, as a central part of our faith , to advocate for this dignity, whether the dignity of the unborn person or the dignity of the poor and politically marginalized. • The social teaching of the Church is neither Republican nor Democrat. In fact , we do not fit comfortabl y within either party in regard to how either reflects Catholic social thought. • Individual Catholics may be members of whatever political party they wish. • Catholic social teaching should motivate Catholic politicians, as Catholics. Helpful to this discussion are the following points taken from the U.S. bishops ' pastoral: "Living the Gospel of Life: A Challenge to American Catholics." • The document notes that the dignity of all life in the United States is in jeopardy: the elderly, the poor, the disabled, the politically marginalized , but especially the unborn , the terminally ill and the infirm , because they have no voice. "Abortion and euthanasia have become permanent threats to human dignity," it states, "because they directly attack life itself," the most fundamental of human rights. Any politics of human life must also work to resist the violence of war and the scandal of capital punishment. •The document also states clearly and consistentl y that Catholics must respect the dignity of the human person across a broad spectrum—including such issues 'as hunger, health care, racism, poverty, employment, education and housing. Opposition to abortion and euthanasia does not excuse indifference to these issues.

Catholics are called to be in solidarity with the "poorest just working conditions. We must also press them on a difficult matter both Democratic and Republican parties of the poor." • While clearly affirming all human rights, the bish- seem to agree on, capital punishment. There are, of ops, at the same time, begin a re-formation of the social course, Catholic politician s who do better on some of the justice paradigm, changing the "seamless garment " con- issues than others. We need to recognize there are honest and sincere differences of cept — where some have opinion about effectiv e and interpreted all issues having in a equal weight — to the tu fair political solutions to cera tain social problems among metaphor of the person as politicians of good will , for "the living house of God." 2 Direct attacks on human life, I example hunger, housing, immigration. such as abortion and euthana> •Because these politisia, strike at the house 's founa cians will not be perfectl y dation. X say •The bishops a. attuned to the full message of Catholic social teaching, we Catholic politicians are morally accountable for their w must be civil , reasonable and y intellectuall y competent in positions on life issues. "The our dealings with them. Our failure to protect and defend Cardinal Anthony Bevilacqua (right) stands with arguments should be set in a fife in its most vulnerable congressional representatives outside the U.S. context of charity and tolerstages renders suspect any Capitol in September after a failed vote to overance, always working for the claims to the 'rightness ' of ride the president 's veto of a bill outlawing pargreater common good if not positions in other matters the lesser evil. tial-birth abortion. At left is Sen. Rick Santorum, affecting the poorest and least •Our message needs to powerful of the human comR-Pa., a Catholic who supported the bill. be consistent. We must munity," the bishops state, noting they reject the argument: "I am against aborti on always advocate for the dignity of the human person. We personally, but will not force my personal religious views must be at the side of the poorest of the poor, who have on the rest of society." They comment: "Most Americans no voice, for families, and those who are politically would recognize the contradiction in the statement, marginalized. At the same time, we need to pay special 'While 1 am personally opposed to slavery or sexism, I attention to the foundational issues - direct att acks on life that are so serious in our society. We must never cannot force my personal view on the rest of society.'" •Finally, the bishops call on Catholic politicians "to allow ourselves to be herded into silence on these issues reflec t on the grave contradiction of assuming public because this or that politician is doing well with other roles and presenting themselves as credible Catholics issues. We cannot forget the extremely serious nature of when their actions on fundamental issues of human life abortion and what voting to further the abortion agenda are not in agreement with Church teaching. No public does. We must remember this killing of human life, with official , especially one claiming to be a faithful and seri- procedures so ghastly we hesitate to write about th em ous Catholic, can responsibly advocate for or actively openly, is truly a moral wrong without historical parallel. This becomes even more evident when we review support direct attacks on innocent human life." The bishops ' position raises a serious challenge to votes in favor of allowing partial birth abortion. Here, pro-abortion Catholic politicians. It also requires seriou s clearly, a near full-term baby is partiall y given birth only reflection by Catholic lay organizations and laity as they to be killed in a horrific manner. Many have said we evaluate politicians. And it puts into context the tone of have crossed the threshold of infanticide in these Father Larry Goode's letter about Senator Jackie Speier. instances. So we cannot and must not wink and nod But the question remains: Given the bishops' state- when Catholic politicians vote for such things so clearl y ment on Catholic politicians and life issues, how should wrong. •Catholic organizations — universities, high Catholics respond to Catholic politicians who vote proschools, hospitals and the like —need to be prudent how abortion? I dp not believe there is a simp le answer. Here is a they treat pro-abortion Catholic politicians'. We have had framework I propose for making decisions based on instances where Catholic institutions have publicly awarded and praised Catholic politicians for work for individual situations: •I don 't believe any Catholic politician, tn the pre- the benefit of children. This praise may be warranted, sent political environment, is perfectly in line with the but to do this without reference to a vote that advances full spirit and message of Catholic social teaching. Our more killing of unborn (and sometime partially born) role as Church is to continue to move all politicians , children , as if the two things were not related , is dishonincluding Catholic ones, in the direction that best sup- est, misleading to the Catholic public , especially youth. ports human dignity at all levels - in matters of basic An omission of this sort is clearl y not speaking the entire human rights, like the right to life of the unborn and the SOCIAL JUSTICE, page 17 frail and dying, health care for all, adequate food and

Prayer, hospitality mark groundbreaking at St. Augustine Parish Prayer and hospitality marked groundbreaking ceremonies following a 12:30 p.m. Mass at St. Augustine Parish in South San Francisco on May 9. The digging rites began the countdown to completion of the community 's new elementary school and 350-seat church addition which are expected to open for use in the fall of next year. More than 1,000 people attended. "I cannot wait to see the church enlarged and the kids coming to school in August 2000," said Dominican Sister Glenn Anne McPhee, superintendent of Catholic schools for the Archdiocese. Other dignitaries attending included City of South San Francisco Councilmen Eugene R. Mullin and Joseph A. Fernekes and San Mateo County Supervisor Michael D. Nevin. The school will open with grades kindergarten through third. "We're on our way," said St. Augustine pastor, Father Eugene Tungol. The parish has raised more than 70 percent of the $3.5 million needed to complete construction and will probably borrow the rest , Father Tungol said.

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In a May 5 letter, Archbishop William J. Levada offered his "congratulations and best wishes " to the community on the occasion of "the groundbreaking ceremony for the expansion of the parish churc h and construction of the new St. Augustine Parish School." "May God bless all of the families and parishioners in

St. Augustine Parish in South San Francisco, and may the construction projects , which begin today with the groundbreaking ceremony, reach a successful conclusion ," the Archbishop wrote. Hot dogs, chili and noodle dishes were available for all at a post-groundbreaking reception in the parish hall.

You ng adults walk across nation for the unborn Trek s tarts Monday

Bay Area women recount jou rney By Sharon Abercrombie

Giving up your summer to walk across the country for a belief can be wonderful. Spending three months on the road can also take its toll ph ysicall y, emotionall y and spirituall y, according to two Bay Area women who have participated in Crossroads pilgrimages. Both Erin Muth of Napa and Mary Lockwood of Novate were students at the Franciscan University of Steubenville when they took part in then classmate Steve Sanborn 's prolife pilgrimage. Muth walked in both 1995 and 1996. Lockwood participated in 1997. "In retrospect , it was absolutely amazing, an enormous feat,"said Muth. The greatest surprise was discovering that "99.9 percent of the country is pro-life , especially grassroots America. People gave us money. They listened to us." Along with the euphoria of encouragement, though, were the practical issues, like blisters raised from walking 30 miles every day, the heat, the sunburn, and the close quarters Muth and her 11 compatriots had to endure. The small amount of negativity they encountered was nonetheless frightening. In Steamboat Springs , Colo., "someone threw a coathanger at us ," she remembers. "They drove past us and then they came back . The second time, they had the coat hanger. They must have gone back to their house to get it." Muth and a friend , however, were able to successfull y encourage a young woman to have her bab y. "When we were in a coffee shop, she saw our Pro-life T-shirts, and asked if she could talk to us."

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Crossroads, a pro-life youth group founded in 1995 in Ohio to witness to the dignity of all human life, will once again launch its annual summer walk across the U.S. from San Francisco. Archbishop William Levada will offer Mass for this year 's group of 11 walkers at 8:30 a.m. on May 17 at Mission Dolores Church. Father Peter West, a member of Priests for Life , will accompany the group for a portion of the walk through San Francisco. Each summer since 1995, groups of college students have crossed the country on foot , starting from San Francisco, walking to Washington , D.C. Steve Sanborn created the apostolate in 1995 when he was a student at the Franciscan University of Steubenville. Along the route , Crossroads members deliver pro-life talks to parishes, schools and community groups and give interviews to national and local media. Walkers generally cover 18-25 miles per day on foot while wearing T-shirts emblazoned with "PRO-LIFE". The group walks in shifts during the day and often covers terrain during nighttime hours as well. Leading this year 's group of walkers will be Mark DeYoung who is currentl y employed in the Youth Division of the American Life League in Stafford , VA. This summer, Crossroads is having two walks. One will follow a southern route, departing from near Los Angeles May 20 and the other will follow a more central route through the United States, leaving from San Francisco. Both groups will meet in Washington, D.C.,Aug. 15 for a pro-life rally at the Capitol. Walkers range in age from 18-32 and many come from the Steubenville school. Anyone wishing to jo in them, can call the Franciscan University at 1-800-277-9763.

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Mother and daug hter graduate together tomorrow sharing their college experience with a parent. How did they do it? The Schiffs' relationship is based on humor, friendshi p, and independence. "I attended mostly night classes, and Sarah went to class in the day," says Barbara. "Our reasons for being at Dominican are independent from each other." As both neared completion of their senior year, they realized they would be graduating together. At first, Barbara was hesitant. "I didn 't want to take the limelight away from my daughter," she said. "But Sarah said, 'Let's do it together.'" Experiencing this milestone together is cause for celebration. After they receive their diplomas they will throw a huge party at their home, and then spend six weeks driv ing across the country, fol lowing not a map, but the road in front of them. Sarah is planning to go away to veterinarian school. Barbara will continue her career in rehabilitation counseling. Although they will go their separate ways, college was an adventure, chock-full of jubilant memories. "A lot of kids want to be far away from their parents ," said Barbara. "Going to college with Sarah was a really nice thing."

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Barbara and Sarah are best friends. They travel together. They study for finals together. And they are graduating from Dominican College together. But Barbara , 53, and Sarah, 22, aren 't typical college roommates. Barbara is Sarah's mother. On May 15 the mother-daughter duo will graduate along with more than 350 other students from Dominican College of San Rafael , a coeducational , independent Catholic liberal aits institution . Together they will participate in the pomp and grandeur of Dominican 's century-old tr aditions , including the Hood Ceremony at the Anne Hathaway Lawn and commencement in Forest Meadows Amphitheater. Barbara Schiff will receive her bachelor 's degree in psychology and Sarah, her daughter, will be presented her bachelor of arts degree in biology with a chemistry minor. Both are top-notch students. Barbara will graduate with a 3.9 GPA and Sarah will graduate with magna cum laude honors. Barbara and Sarah Schiff Barbara graduated from Glen Rock High School in Glen Rock , N.J., in 1963. For the next three decades she attended seven colleges, dabbling in numerous disciplines. "Growing up, I watched my mom go through college ," remembers Sarah, a '95 graduate from Weed High School in '^m^M 8HN nHfl^l : Weed, Calif. ^BlFlls -S In 1997, with over 120 Hani HHBS MHfP"' . units , but no degree , mm HP^^^^-K WISH! ' LAJJBSBR Barbara decided to pursue aBSjMÎ ^B^^Hil^B ÊF -I^B WM aE2__HP l V W "'""*¦ :^H jHSSj^l BMP1P H m îH her degree in psychology. Because she was working Dominican full-time , ¦¦ ¦ ¦\ 1 IH -_ iiti^Bi_fl ¦Pl^w ^BnHi^l BSfW «B P^^Hi&, *«*:..:<&'' 1111 College was the solution. :-^^MI HBT -MF i A ^ iHIP^HH." IBH HiIt;9 i ' Offering flexible , acceler¦ w| > \ jK H ^mm 9B^BU »K ated classes in the ¦ ' ¦¦' ¦ ¦W » ! T i JH^Hif ^H^fl^H ¦¦ evenings and on weekto %? * J C$< I^BE wut' ¦¦ ¦ "' £ * Dominican 's ends , -W iYlBH :|Ki HI »* ¦>. \.¦¦¦¦ ¦ Mf^ ; ^ ;.i >;. "% y m W^Kl® W$M> l^^B. ^S Pathway s program for ^MKJHL^H IHt^ adults was a fit. At the same time, frusIllrWi^^B ..^^di^H trated with her experience at a large university in Southern Californi a, Sarah opted to transfer to Dominican, a smaller, more nurturing college. And so began their jo urney together. Sarah moved home to Currentl y, there are a select 1 m busier than I've ever been. " ^.IraSliW live with her mom. They number of surprisingly affordable 's from quite a statement That Slllba studied together, Sarah in one ~ anc' two-bedroom apartments someone who was a pro minent the armchair reading her IP Êi—llllm available. So why not stop by and for over gator law pro fessor and liti biology books, and Barbara ^S^^^^^j ^^. " see *°r y°urse^ wât ma kes tapping on the computer. 50 years. But Louis Schwartz finds ^^MBBBBB ¦! Their personalities balSan Francisco Towers such an retirement living at San Francisco | g anced each other well, they extraordinary community. as his law stimulating Towers as U U *" JU,llula "1 6 ¦*'» SAN FRANCISCO TOWERS ' ' said, especially when the And why an astute person like personality career. He loves writing pressure of school bore Louis Schwartz has become one of profiles for the San Francisco down. "Sarah's more disciLIFE CARE our greatest advocates, „ and is an „.„. newspaper Towerscope p lined than I am," said w/(y mi the m Barbara. avid computer enthusiast. ~ Sarah laughed , "My Louis and his artist wife Mirrn H^ SSStiS, mom is always going shopand personal care particularly enjoy the sense of To karn more about how you can enjoy life p ing or to the movies. And _ „ Towers. , ., . at San Francisco Towers, call todayJ at cornrnunitv at San Francisco 1 that 's the good thing. She * Full-course meals tailored 415-776-0500 or complete the following to They 've made many new friends to your needs helps me relax." receive an information package: ballroom dancing sharing art classes, Many children would • Weekly maid service . j. cringe at the thought of and conversations over dinner. atl (j n,iens Name

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Caribbean Bishop Begs American Catholics To Help Provide Housing for the Destitute Poor The needs of the poor weigh heavil y on Bishop Paul Boyle 's heart. As the sp iritual leader for Mandeville, Jamaica, he shepherds a suffering flock — fathers stri pped of their dignity by poverty, mothers struggling to care for their malnourished infants and children who are hardened by the adversities of their lives. "And too often, I find that homelessness is at the heart of the poor's misery," Bishop Boyle explained. "When a family loses its home, it often spirals down into deeper and deeper levels of poverty. These people would be lost if it wasn't for the help of the church and organizations like Food For The Poor." By partnering with Food For The Poor and making use of its home building program, Bishop Boyle has begun constructing basic housing for the poorest of the poor in his Diocese. With this hel ping hand , many families are recovering their dignity and discovering a new sense of hope in their lives. They are experiencing Christ 's mercy in a direct and meaningful way. "A home gives a poor family security and stability. It allows them to get back on their feet again. I beg every American Catholic who wants to help the poor to consider the value of Food For The Poor 's building program. I know firsthand — it makes a real dif-

ference in the lives of the poor/' he said. Building homes through Food For The Poor is simple and cost effective, (see program details on opposite page). Each $1,500 contribution to the home building program allows Food For The Poor to construct a home for a poor family on behalf of a mentoring priest or pastor like Bishop Boyle. "I am deeply grateful to everyone who has contributed to build a home in my diocese," Bishop Boyle said. "In fact, on behalf of the many pastors and priests who serve the poor in the Caribbean , I want to thank everyone who has contributed to build a home through Food For The Poor. Know that we are all deeply grateful for your support ," Bishop Boyle said. "The gift you give is a powerful testimony to the love and mercy of Christ among the poor. May God richly bless you for the sacrifice you have made."

As the p hotographs above depict , the Caribbea n and Latin America face shocking problems with homelessness and sub-standard housing. Homes are often makeshift structures "built " around a framework of sticks or scrap lumber. Walls of cardboard, rusty tin sheets and p lastic can blow down easily in simple thunderstorms. Food For The Poor 's home building program replaces these patchwork shacks with sturdy lumber homes.

Thousands on Waiting List — "The StoriesAreHeart-Wrenchinf Hurviii Thomas, a father of six, has been forced to move out of a condemned house on the edge of the Spanish Town Highway. Unemployed, with nowhere else to turn , he is worried about the future of his youngest children — ages four , five and six. To spare them from the pain and danger of sleeping on the streets, Hurvin is begging for help. Albertha Evans is 108 years old. Her son, 79, cares for her in a tiny patchwork shack they share. The shack's roof leaks and the cramped space inside makes life for the two

unbearably hard . In desperation , they have come to Food For The Poor. "My waiting list of needs go on and on, and all of the stories I hear are just as heart-wrenching. Poverty in countries like Jamaica and Haiti is devastating. Thousands of men , women and children are desperatel y searching for simple shelter," explained Pearl Barrett , coordinator of Food For The Poor's home building effort in Jamaica. "Our home building program was created to give these poor families hope and a sense of God's mercy. Through the ministry, American sponsors provide funds which are used to build basic, cabin-style homes for the poorest of the poor.'Ysee details of the program on the opposite page) . Since 1982, thousands of houses have been sponsored and built by benefactors to Food For The Poor, Barrett said, but demand for

the homes remains veiy high. Jamaica and Haiti have both undergone serious economic problems in recent years. Fathers and mothers who have lost job s often end up on the street where they become trapped in a life of abject poverty. Once homeless, it is virtuall y impossible for these families to recover their lives, she said. "Tragically, some of the fami lies seeking hel p from us originally lost their homes and livelihoods in a fire or one of the hurricanes that hit the island years ago. They've been struggling to survive ever I since," Barrett said. "Imagine — some of the children we are hel ping have never lived in a home of their own . They've never known that sense of stability or security in their lives," she said. "You can also

imagine how most families react when they receive a home. Many cry tears of joy and praise God because they believe He has answered their prayers with a miracle." As inspired as Barrett is by the success of the program, she remains concerned about the needs that remain, particularl y of the plight of the children and the elderly. The fact that so many of these vulnerable souls will be homeless tonight is painful to Pearl Barrett and her staff. "At this point , i have a backlog of several thousand requests for homes," Barrett said. "I pray these families can sustain themselves until we can locate a sponsor for them. 1 pray for miracles."

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Unique Program Offers Tangible Way To Help the Poorest of the Poor By Craig Cole Special to St. Cloud Visitor Velma Brown stepped out of her patchwork tin shack and faced the bri ghtening dawn sky. It had rained again during the night , and her tears had mingled with the stead y drips from the leaking roof. They were tears for her three young sons and the pain they were being forced to endure. "The littlest one — that is Richard — said 'Mommy, when can we come out of this house and go into a pretty house?' And I said, 'One day, one day , Father God will take you out ,'" Velma Brown said , emotionall y relating her struggle. "I went outside , turned my face to where the sun was coming from , lifted my hands up to God and cried , 'Touch someone's heart to come and help me.'" What happened next , Velma firmly believes, was a miracle. Food For The Poor discovered the Jamaican woman's pli ght and offered her hel p throug h the ministry's housing program. An American Catholic — a person Velma had never met — was making a gift to build her and her family a new home. Within a few months she moved into a sturdy, wooden house — a safe , dry home for her family. That morning, during a prayer of thanksg iving, she broke into tears, joyful for God's blessing and grateful to the American benefactor who had sponsored her home. "I hear it often from the families we hel p; these houses are an answer to prayer. They are a miracle of God ," explained Ferdnand Mahfood , founder of Food For The Poor. "And

the benefactors who sponsor the homes realize this too. They are responding to God's blessings in their own lives by embracing this opportunity to hel p someone else — someone in desperate need. They are God's tools of mercy in the modern world ." Those who donate to the home building program in Jamaica and Haiti enjoy a unique sense of purpose and accomplishment , Mahfood said. They see a tangible outcome of the gift they have given. Donors may also give their gift as a memorial or special recognition to a family member or friend. In those cases, a plaque is attached to the constructed home. To involve as many people as possible, Food For The Poor has created a variety of ways for donors to contribute. Homes can be built with a single gift of $1,500. Smaller gifts can also be combined with those of other benefactors to sponsor a single home. These "miracle teams" are great for church groups, schools and clubs. Once a gift is received, Food For The Poor works through local clergy who locate the neediest people in their communities. Lumber and supp lies are then purchased and shipped to the area of need. When it arrives , this "house kit " is assembled by local carpenters — if possible with hel p from the reci pient and church volunteers. "Thanks to the wonderful response we 've had from

"Before and After " — These p hotos demonstrate the wonderfully positive changes that result when an individual or family is blessed with the gift of a home. There are few gifts a donor can make that have such a meaningful and tangible outcome. American Catholics, the home building program has been able to provide hundreds of homes to the poorest of the poor in Haiti and Jamaica," Mahfood said. "You can't imagine the difference these houses make to the families who receive them. It gives them a stable foundation to rebuild their lives. It returns their dignity and gives them a new sense of hope.

FerdinandMahfood, founder of Food For The Poor, shares his concerns about Third World po verty with Pope John Paul II. Their most recent meeting took place at the Vatican. Pope John Paul II has also honored Ferdinand Mahfood as a Knight of St. Gregory — the highest honor available to a Catholic layman. "I feel very blessed by the Pope 's encouragement. It has inspired me to do more — to focus my whole life on help ing the poo r, " Mahfood said.

It's a uniquely direct and meaningful form of charity." To sponlor a home or contribute toward a team-built home, send your donation to Food For The Poor , Home Building Program - Dept. 13489, 550 SW 12 Ave., Deerfield Beach , FL 33442, or use the enclosed brochure. All contributions made to this program are tax-deductible.

Exiled Sudanese bishop to sp eak at Cathedral Bishop Macram Max Gassis , the exiled bishop of the El Obeid Diocese in central Sudan , Africa , will deliver a presentation May 19 at St. Mary of the Assumption Cathedral , 1111 Gough St. For more than a decade ,the Islamic fundamentalist government in Sudan has waged a deadly war againsfAfrican populations including the Nuba Tribe. The presentation will include an exhibition of photographs of the Nuba people taken last month by Jim Nicholls. The event is scheduled 6:30 to 9 p.m. in St. Francis Hall. For further information , contact the Cathedral Development Office , (415) 5672020, ext. 205.

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Photo exhibit of Tarahumara Indians set May 29-30 at Mission Dolores Isidro Ulloa and Artu'ro Vera share a dream: that soon they will be on their way to the Sierra Madre of Mexico, loaded with beans , corn and antibiotics for the Tarahumara Indians who have been facing years of drought, hunger and death. The two men are parishioners at Our Lady of the Rosary in Union City, and by different paths have become advocates for the Tarahumaras. Vera, a photographer, went to the Siena Madre two years ago to capture the Indians' celebration of Holy Week on film.Ulloa went to the state of Chihuahua in March, when he saw the native people asking for "korima" (alms) in the streets and where he read about the crisis in the Sierra.

Ulloa approached Vera, whose photographs of the Tarahumaras were exhibited in the Mexican Art Center for Latino Arts in San Jose in 1998 and also in the Oakland Coliseum. When he ran into his friend on Palm Sunday he told him , "We have to do something." In a short time the project was Jesuit Father William Owen underway. Richardson , who taught theology at the The two opened a bank account to collect University of San Francisco from 1960 to funds for the Tarahumaras and are planning 1989, died May 9. an exhibition of Vera's photos to raise awareWhen declining health forced him to ness of the crisis. It will be held in the audi- abandon the regular routines of classroom torium of Mission Dolores in San Francisco teaching, he continued his lecturing, on an on May 29 from 10 a.m. to 8 p.m. . and on irregular basis, in parishes and at San May 30 from 10 a.m. to 2 p.m. A closing cer- Quentin Penitentiary. emony will take place at 2 p.m. Sunday. _ Father Richardson was a native of

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By Cindy Wooden BUCHAREST, Romania (CNS) — After 20 years of promoting Cliristian unity, Pope John Paul II flew to Romania , showing that the separate paths Cadiolics and Orthodox have traveled for more th an 900 years are finally converging. "At die end of the second millenni um , the paths which were separated are beginning to draw near to each other, and we are witnessing the intensification of the ecumenical movement aimed at reaching the full unity of believers," the pope said May 9 during an evening Mass in Bucharest. The Mass attended by Romanian Orthodox Patriarch Teoctist was the last event of the pope 's three-day visit, his 86th foreign trip and his first to a predominantl y Orthodox country. While neither the pope nor die patriarch received Communion from each oilier, they attended each other's liturgies — wearing their liturg ical vestments, processing together to the altars and jointl y blessing the mixed Catholic and Orthodox crowds. At the morning Divine Liturgy celebrated by Patriarch Teoctist, he and the pope — both carrying their processional staffs — met on a pathway in front of the altar and kissed each other on both cheeks before kissing a large stone cross. At the end of the liturgy, Patriarch Teoctist gave Pope John Paul a pectoral cross, placing it around his neck. Then, the two gave each other chalices. The May 9 service was not the first Orthodox Divine Liturgy the pope had attended ; during a 1979 trip to Turkey, he was present at a Divine Liturgy celebrated by the Ecumenical Orthodox Patriarch of Constantinop le. But Cardinal Edward I. Cassidy, president of the Pontifical Council for Promoting Christian Unity, said the level of the pope and Romanian patriarch' s joint activity during the trip was unprecedented. At the evening Mass, the pope told the crowd, "1 am here among you pushed only by the desire for authentic unity. 'Not long ago it was unthinkable that the bishop of Rome could visit his brothers and sisters in the faith who live in Romania ," he said. "Today, after a long winter of suffering and persecution , we can finally exchange the kiss of peace and together praise the Lord." As he did throughout the trip, Pope John Paul acknowledged how much Romania's Catholic minority had suffered , especially under communism, but he told Cadiolics their well-tested faith in Christ must give them the strength to overcome their differ-

Romanian Orthodox Patriarch Teoctist speaks to Pope John Paul II at Bucharest 's Orthodox cathedral May 7. During his visit to Romania , the pope paid homage to the country 's majority Orthodox Church , but also called for justice for the Catholic minority.

ences with the Orthodox and work with them to preach the faith . In an evening meeting May 8 with Patriarch Teoctist and the country's three dozen Orthodox bishops , Pope John Paul said it was time for Catholics and Orthodox to admit their own mistakes, then move on to their main task — proclaiming together salvation in Christ. "Common witness is a strong means of evangelization ," the pope said. "Division, on the contrary, marks the victory of darkness over light." The pope said he hoped his visit would promote a healing of hurt feelings and painful memories from past tensions between Catholics and Orthodox in Romania. Throug hout die trip Pope John Paul made extraordinary gestures honoring the predominant place Orthodoxy holds in Romania — including visiting the Orthodox cathedral before going anywhere else and having Patriarch Teoctist join him in the popemobile. However, he also called repeatedly for equality for the country 's Catholics. Justice , he said , includes returning to the Catholic community more of the schools and churches the communist government confiscated and , in many cases, handed over to the Orthodox. Emphasizing he was not pointing a finger at the Orthodox , he asked the Orthodox to recognize how much the country ' s Eastern Catholic Church ' suffered after it was outlawed in 1948.

"The Romanian Greek Catholic Church underwent decades of violent repression. Its rights were battered and violated. Its children suffered greatly, some of them making the supreme witness of shedding their blood," the pope told the Orthodox synod. "The end of the persecution has brought freedom, but the problem of church structures still awaits a definitive solution ," he said, referring to continuing property disputes.

To facilitate the papal visit , Eastern Catholics in Romania promised to withdraw lawsuits demanding the return of all their property and instead submit the disputes to a Catholic-Orthodox commission. "Let dialogue be the way to heal the stillopen wounds and resolve the difficulties which continue today," Pope John Paul told the Orthodox prelates. "The victory of love will be an examp le not onl y for the churches, but for all society," he said. At the meeting, in which die pope and patriarch issued a common appeal for peace in Yugoslavia , the pope said Europe and the world "need a witness of fraternal love" to overcome "hatted and quarrels and to open hearts to reconciliation. " "Who will forgive us if we fail to witness?" he asked. "I have sought unity with all my strength, and I will continue to dedicate myself to this because it should be among the priority concerns of the churches and those who govern them," the pope told the Orthodox. Patriarch Teoctist, addressing the same gathering May 8, said he hoped the pope 's visit would give new energy to CadiolicOrthodox dialogue in Romania. "Certainly, along the path toward full communion there still exist wounds inflicted in the past which have not completely healed," the patriarch said. Before boarding his plane for Rome, the pope said , "Renewed communion among the Christian churches and the discovery of brotherhood among peoples " is "the dream I carry with me as I leave this dear land."

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Assembly Bill 525 would attach hospitals The California Assembly is about to tu rn its back on the contributions of Catholic health care and undo centuries of religious tolerance by adopting Assembly Bill 525. This bill would impose major financial sanctions and single out for discrimination Catholic hospitals that do not perform or arrange for abortions and other medical procedures. AB 525 at best ignores and at worst insults the contribution of Catholic health care to this state and its people. Of far greater concern to us is the bill's retreat from our state 's tradition of tolerance for religious differences into one of intolerance. In. 1854, the Sisters of Mercy arrived in San Francisco and immediately created a safe haven for abandoned women, prostitutes and young girls. They also took in the elderly and visited the sick in their homes. The following year a cholera epidemic struck the city and the Sisters of Mercy went to work in the county hospital. According to San Francisco's The Daily News of that time, "The Sisters of Mercy.. .did not stop to inquire whether the poor sufferers were Protestant or Catholic , American s or foreigners, but with the noblest devotion applied themselves to their relief... " Through the years, Catholic health care providers have witnessed their commitment to human dignity through service to Californi a 's communities. In response, AB 525 says, in effect , "for those same beliefs that informed your service to the poor, the sick and marginalized, we now intend to marginalize you." How would AB 525 discriminate against our Catholic hospitals? As approved by the Assembly Judiciary and Health Committees, the bill would: Require Catholic hospitals to provide or arrange for abortions or lose millions of dollars annually in state assistance. The loss of this support could require Catholic hospitals to increase charges or reduce charity care to make up the difference; Permit the Attorney General to review and impose restrictions on mergers between charitable health care organizations if reproductive services — including abortions — are affected. Further, the bill permits reviews even if such services are left unchanged, as would be the case in the merger of two Catholic hospitals. The Attorney General could hold up mergers, impose requirements that could violate Catholic princi ples and charge hospitals for the state 's costs of doing so; Requne all health plans that contract with Catholic hospitals to single them out for identification as hospitals that do not provide abortions or certain other reproductive services. This provision does nothing to achieve its stated purpose of informing patients of where such services are available; it is simply an attempt to stigmatize Catholic institutions and beliefs. This legislation is aimed directly at our Catholic hospitals and Catholic beliefs. A press release issued in March by AB 525's author, Sheila James Kuehl, stated that "AB 525 was created in response to a growing threat to reproductive health services as a result of mergers between religiously affiliated health care systems" and other systems. The press release identifies the "Ethical and Religious Directives for Catholic Health Care" and its prohibitions on abortions and certain other services as targets of the bill. Among the many ironies presented by AB 525 is the fact that it expands existing anti-discrimination requirements for health care providers to prohibit discrimination "on the basis of race, color, religion, national origin, ancestry, sex, or sexual orientation" — provisions that we support. Yet in the same breath — literally in adjoining paragraphs — the bill promotes discrimination against Catholic health care because of our religious beliefs. The truth is that this legislation is not about access to health care. It is about intolerance. Despite the claim mergers threaten reproductive health care services in California , the bill's sponsors have produced no objective evidence that a threat exists. The way to address any serious concern about the availability of any health care service is to commission a thorough, independent study that can tell us if there are gaps, where they are, their causes and their potential remedies. Instead of research and reason , the sponsors of AB 525 have employed undocumented threats and scare tactics, blacklists and exclusions — to penalize those who do not share their world view. This approach stands in stark contrast to that of the 197 1 conscience clause legislation adopted in the wake of the passage of California 's therapeutic abortion statute. The hallmark of this statute is tolerance for differing views concerning abortion and the free exercise of religious beliefs. Unfortunately, AB 525 only fans the flames of intolerance and divisiveness. Sister Suzanne Sassus, CSJ Sister Joyce Weller, DC Senior Vice Presidentfor Sponsorship Chairperson of the Corporate Members St. Joseph Health Systems of Orange Catholic Healthcare West

We at The Adoption Network of Catholic Charities of the Archdiocese of San Francisco want to thank you for the sensitive, effective, factual, and well written article, "Mother 's Day - Adoption of foster children 'great need," which appealed in the May 7 Catholic San Francisco . On Friday, May 7, we received six calls from families interested in adopting Sarah or another foster child needing an adoptive family. We thank the newspaper and Evelyn Zappia, feature editor, for helping us to get the word out about the need for families willing to adopt California 's foster children. This article will set the stage for our recruiting efforts. We will let you know when Sarah has been successfully matched with an adopting family. I would be very happy to speak to any groups that would like to know more about the work of The Adoption Network of Catholic Charities. Terry Watters, LCSW Program director The Adoption Network

Prayer calendar works

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Since 1994 the Archdiocesan Council of Catholic Women has been distributing a monthly Prayer for Priests Calendar to its members as well as pastors and schools throug hout the area. Each priest is assigned a particular day on which members and others pray for him. The simplicity of the program is what makes it work. You say a "Hail Mary " each day or if you are rushed , a "God bless Father Smith." Tt is a small effort for what we receive fro m our priests. Without p riests there would be no Eucharist to receive , nor would we have the consolation of reconciliation. Their lives are dedicated to serving God' s people. A "Hail Mary " a day is a small return from each of us , but your "Hail Mary" added to my "Hail Mary " makes a loud and joyous sound in heaven. Small as our "Hail Marys" are, the responses from the prayed-for priests hav e been overwhelming. Anyone who would like to receive a calendar and join their prayers with ours may contact ACCW, 445 Church St., San Francisco, 94114. Mary Ann Bouey

RENEW at our house

At our final RENEW evening of Season II, our group of 12 cleared the dining room table of Bibles, papers and candles and then placed on the table all the makings for 20 large Easter baskets. One member, who owns a boutique , was going to show us how to assemble the baskets and place the ribbons just so. However, she was unable to attend that evening. But it was amazing how people just dug ri ght in and began to fashion wonderfull y colorful works of art. You could tell the love and the detail that was going into each Easter basket. One RENEW member opened her purse and took out coins to place in the plastic eggs. Before long we had 20 beautifully decorated baskets to give out to little ones at Easter. RENEW is not only a time for faith sharing but also a time for putting into practice the spirit and the love that develops from the sharing, and taking that spirit and love and fashioning a basket to share with the rest of the community. Mary Shypert San Bruno

Badly f lawed p olicy

diousands will have their lives adversely affected by the damage to or destruction of facilities necessary for the orderly conduct of their lives. If the hostile activity being conducted by the United States were to achieve the removal of the Serbian leader, it would at best provide feeble justification for what our government is doing. Bombs and missiles alone are unlikely to achieve diat end. As bad as the situation is, voices are heard calling for the use of ground troops, not because of a just cause but to save face. More loss of life, more misery, for what purposes? The remarks attributed to Cardinal O'Connor in your May 7 issue are but a beginning which must be pursued urgently. Permit me to add that I am a combat veteran who served in the U.S. Marine Corps in the . Pacific Theater in WWII. I am unimpressed 1 with the strategy and the tactics involved in Yugoslavia. Both, I believe to be seriously flawed. Paul M. Hupf Daly City

Isn't it time for those in position of competent authority to address fully the moral issues involved in the hostile activity being conducted in what was once known as Yugoslavia? Innocent people have been and are being lolled. Thousands have been displaced from their homes, and perhaps tens of

Charities Sunday

As Catholics and as Americans nearing the end of the millennium, many of us enjoy good health, a relative affluence and the comfort of a loving family and friends. We have been richly blessed. But for thousands in our community, such abundance has proved elusive. Each night , an estimated four to six hundred children in San Francisco County go to bed hungry and without adequate shelter. And as the population ages, more Americans find themselves caring for and providing support to both their children and their elderly parents, often at a substantial expense of time and income. In San Mateo County, the demand for aging services is already outstripping supply in many areas. And in Marin County, the Asian and Pacific Islander population has grown to about 13,500 people—the majority of whom live below poverty level and are nonEnglish speaking, making contact with mainstream service providers nearly impossible. Yet because of you , a family will sleep tonight safely and comfortabl y at Cadiolic Charities' St. Joseph's Village. Because of you, a working mother will know that her frail parent is experiencing the joy of companionship at Catholic Charities' San Carlos Adult Day Center. Because of you, a Vietnamese family, newly arrived in Marin County, will work with Catholic Charities Marin Asian Advocacy Program to learn a new language — and build a new life. Because of your generosity each year on Catholic Charities Sunday, thousands of families and individuals will be given the help they need to reclaim their lives. For these people, your gift — no matter what size really will make a difference. We thank you for your help. - Bishop John C. Wester Archdiocese of San Francisco - Father Maurice McCormick Mission Dolores San Francisco - Father Thomas Moran St. Charles Church San Carlos - Father James T. Tarantino St. Hilary Parish Tiburon - Vicki Coe Committee Chair Church of the Good Shepherd Paciflca - Joni Gallagher School of Pastoral Leadership San Francisco - The Stupski Family - Brian Swift St. Hilary Parish Tiburon

The Catholic Diff erence

Henry Hyde, Catholic statesman the rule of law, equal justice before the law, and honor in our public life." Two months earlier, Hyde had defined the meaning of the "rule of law" on the House floor in words that should enter the pan theon of American public rhetoric: "The rule of law is one of the great achievements of our civilization. For the alternative to the rule of law is the rule of raw power. We here today are the heirs of 3,000 years of history in which humanity slowly, painfully, and at great cost evolved a form of politics in which law, not brute force , is the arbiter of our public life . "We are the heirs of the Ten JL olitical Washington, or at least the sensible Commandments and the Mosaic parts of it , finally got around to honoring Henry Hyde in law: a moral code for a free people the middle of April. who, having been liberated from The chairman of the House Judiciary Committee and bondage, saw in law a means to longtime leader of the pro-life forces in Congress turned avoid falling back into the habits of 75 recently, and there was much praise of Mr. H y de 's slaves. decades of public service during several events in his "We are the heirs of Roman honor. But it was in his most recent role as chief law — the first legal system b y spokesman for the House of Representatives in the which peoples of different culimpeachment trial of President Clinton that drew most of tures, languages, races , and relithe attention. The meaning of that trial will be debated for gions came to live together in a decades, even centuries to come. What no one will be form of political community. able to gainsay, however, is that Henry Hyde of Illinois "We are the heirs of the brought a rare eloquence to the performance of his duties. Magna Carta, by which the At a time when adults were hard to find in the freemen of England began to nation 's capital , Henry Hyde was, indisputably, an adult. break the arbitrary and unchecked That so little of his message got through the media filters power of royal absolutism .... was a disservice to the country. So a reminder of what "We are the heirs of 1776, Henry Hyde thought the impeachment of William and of an epic moment in human Jefferson Clinton was about is in order. affairs when the founders of this Concluding the House case, Hyde reminded the republic p ledged their lives, forSenate that he and his fellow managers had been accused, tunes, and sacred honor - sacred relentlessly, of being Clinton-haters. But this was not, honor - to the defense of the rule Hyde insisted, "a question of whom we hate; this is a ques- of law. tion of what we love. And among the things we love are "We are the heirs of a tragic

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civil war, which vindicated the rale of law over the appetites of some for owning others . "We are the heirs of the 20th century 's great struggles against totalitarianism , in which the ru le of the law was defended at immense cost against the worst tyrannies in human history. "The 'rule of law ' is no pious aspiration from a civics textbook. The rule of law is what stands between all of us and the arbitrary exercise of power by the state. The rule of law is the safeguard of our liberties. The rule of law is what allows us to live our freedom in ways that honor the freedom of others while strengthening the common good. The rule of law is like a th ree-legged stool: one leg is an honest jud ge, the second leg is an ethical bar, and the third is an enforceable oath . All three are indispensable in a truly democratic society." In the Clinton trial, Henry Hyde vindicated the late John Courtney Murray 's claim that , when the rest of the country had forgotten the moral vocabulary of its founding , it would be Catholics who remembered the grammar of right and wrong on which Washington , Adams, Jefferson , Madison , and all the rest had staked the nation's claim to independen ce. Henry Hyde is the leading Catholic statesman of the day. The republic is fortunate in his advocacy.

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Modern popes have fostered contemporary art By Lynne Weil V V ith« a papal letter and a new display, the Vatican invited the world to explore how modem popes have fostered contemporary aft. The letter, published April 23, showed the current pope 's close link to artists "by experiences reaching far back in time." The same day, Pope John Paul II inaugurated a collection of paintings, drawings and sculptures of Pope Paul VI. Pope John Paul, who acted on stage and penned p lays and poetry long before becoming a priest, wrote that his current home is an architectural masterpiece full of artistic treasures. "This extraordinary complex is a remarkably powerful expression of sacred art , rising to heights of imperishable aesthetic and religious excellence," he wrote. The day the document came out , Pope John Paul said Pope Paul once commented that artists and the Church had shared a "troubled friendship" due to restrictions on expression , which had since been lifted. Remarking on Pope John Paul's latest document , Cardinal Edmund C. Szoka, president of the Pontifical Commission for Vatican City State, said Pope Paul had spoken of "misunderstandings which, throughout the past centuries, had distanced artists from the Church." Pope Paul's successors, the cardinal added, had carried on his campaign "to say to modern artists, 'Your work is important ' ."

Cardinal Szoka said Pope Paul Pope John Paul inaugurated the "gave emphasis to the importance of eight-week show with a brief speech, modern art, to encourage it, and to a prayer, and walk-through. recall (for) artists the fact their mission Pope John Paul moved deliberis a spiritual mission." ately down the wide corridor with It was Pope Paul who set up a retired Archbishop Pasquale collection of paintings , sculpture Macchi. The archbishop , a close and graphic art to record how conaide to Pope Paul , quietly temporary culture could convey relidescribed the artworks to the pope gious ideas. He inaugurated the as they made their way toward the Vatican's Collection of Modern door. Religious Art in 1973. They came to a bronze statue of The collection remains spread Pope Paul, with his hands clasped and through two floors of the Apostolic a miter on his head. Stooped as he Palace and in a series of rooms below was, Pope John Paul raised his eyes to the Sistine Chapel. It starts with gaze at the face of his predecessor. works by Henri Matisse and Auguste For a moment, the pope fingered , A tempera painting of Pope Paul Rodin and includes the likes of smiling. Then he stepped into the VI by Italian artist Luigi Filocamo Georges Braque, Wassily Kandinsky, freshness of Rome in April in the is among the artwork in a new Henry Moore and Edvard Munch . early afternoon — shocking several exhibit on Pope Paul and art at Pope Paul later told artists they dozen passers-by on St. Peter 's the Vatican. (CNS photo courtesy were precious to the Church for their Square. Vatican Museums) "preaching and rendering accessible Climbing into a black convertand comprehensible — or, better still , ible, the white-robed Pope John Paul moving — the world of the spirit , of the invisible, of the turned to them, grinned, and gave one vigorous wave Ever the artist, he knew how to make an exit. ineffable, of God." That same pope became the subject of an exhibition just mounted by the Vatican in a high-roofed hall neigh- . Lynne Weil is the European correspondent for boring St. Peter 's Basilica. On view are 95 of the Vatican's Catholic News Service and is stationed in the CNS more than 600 portraits and sculptures of Pope Paul. Some Rome Bureau. of the works were completed only after his death in 1978.

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Christ: closer than he appears what a blessing it would be, when confronted with the death of a loved one, with the shame of some failure, to actually see and touch the risen Christ. We can begin to unders tand the "better" of the Ascension only when we contemplate the "best" of Pentecost. The paradox of the Ascension is that Christ does not leave us to return to the Father: on the contrary, his return to the Father brings him closer to us. So long as Christ manifested himself to his disciples in the glory of his risen humanity, he would be a source of wonder, but still someone "out there." Had God desired solely our adoration, this would have been enough. But God wants more than our worship; he desires our love: An Easter week of 1997, 1 spent a few days by the Sea he calls us to communion. The mission of Christ is not of Galilee, in the neighborhood of the villages where our simply to show us the Father, but to unite us with the Lord lived. Gazing out upon the glistening water framed Father — to pour out the Holy Spirit of adoption which by a riotous display of wild flowers, I thought , "It must makes us his sisters and brothers. have looked just like this 2,000 ago." After his ascension , Jesus is nearer to us than was Whenever we read the events recorded in the possible in his earthly life, or even in his risen body, a Gospels , we feel a longing to have been alive in the time communion so close that St. Paul could say, "It is no of Jesus. "If onl y I had been there, when he fed the mul- longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me." (Gal 2:20) titudes, healed the sick, preached the Good News. What The Apostle is not employing poetic metaphor. It a privilege it must have been!" As we celebrate Christ ' s was his encounter with the risen Lord on the road to Ascension, we might be tempted to envy those first dis- Damascus which revealed to him not only the truth of Jesus ' resurrection , but also the reality of Christ 's union ciples, who actually knew Jesus in the flesh. And yet, in John 's Gospel Jesus tells those disciples, with his disciples. The glorified Lord asked the zealous "It is better for you that I go." (Jn 16:7) Better? Would it persecutor, "Saul, Saul , why do you persecute me?" not have been better if he had stayed among us, to con- (Acts 9:5) Not "my followers" but "me." So profound is firm our faith by the miracle of his resurrection? Imagine the bond between Christ the Head and the members of

his Body — not simply the moral unity of shared ideals , but the spiritual communion which truly transforms us into Christ. As disci p les, this is both a privilege and a responsibility. We are privileged to receive by adoption the inheritance the Son of God has by nature, that inner communion with the Father in the Spirit which is eternal life. The responsibility ? Jesus gives a hint in one of the most remarkable statements he ever made to his "Whoever followers: believes in me will do the works I do, and greater far than these." (Jn 14:12) What could possibly be greater than the work Jesus did? Clearly nothing — unless it be that the works Jesus could do in one place can now be done all over the earth, through us, the members of his Body. The feeding, healing, teaching, encouragement, forgiveness which Jesus gave in Galilee he now can give everywhere, through us. Perhaps this is why at the Ascension the angels redirect the vision of the disciples away from the heavens. If hope is the virtue which allows us to follow Christ into glory, it is faith which enables us to recognize his presence within us , and love which calls us to carry that presence into our world.

After his ascension, Jesus is nearer to us than was possible in his earthly life. ...

Father Milton T. Walsh

Father Milton T. Walsh is dean of students and an assistant professor of systematic theology at St. Patrick Seminary, Menlo Park.

Family Lif e

Preserving urban farmland

Christine Dubois

VJ abe, my 5-year-old, hates tomatoes. Canned, fresh , stewed, hidden in casseroles, no matter. He won't touch them. Except for the tomatoes he picks in the children's garden at the share farm we 've belonged to for the past 10 years. "These are my tomatoes," he says. "They taste better." Recently, a Seattle Times reporter asked me why I'm working to preserve urban farmland. I told him about Gabe and the tomatoes. "I want my kids to know that food doesn 't come from a package in the store," I said. For our family, the Root Connection Share Farm has

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been the answer. Every week during the growing season we pick up bags bursting with fresh , organic produce. Lettuce , radishes , beans , cucumbers , squash, carrots, beets, chard , and more—with a flavor that makes storebought veggies taste like cardboard in comparison. We walk through the field , picking dahlias and snapdragons, snipping basil and sage, watching the swallows swoop overhead. Lucas and Gabe chase butterflies, pull carrots in the children 's garden, and collect p ieces of the brightly colored glass that covers the driveways. It 's a feast for the soul, as well as the stomach. Last fall, Claire, who runs the farm , asked if we 'd like to be part of a group working to promote farmi ng and protect local farmland. Like most small farmers, Claire was leasing the land year by year, with no guarantee it wouldn't be sold out from under her. "A few of us are getting together to see what we can do," she said. I thought about our already crowded calendar, then I thought about life without the farm. "We'll be there," I said. It was a diverse group—farmers, techno-millionaires, real estate folks , accountants, homemakers, activists. But we all had the same goal: to buy farmland and lease it for small-scale, organic farming and related projects. We met at a large house in Woodinville. The kids played in the basement while we waded through legal documents and put words to our vision. B y Febru ary,

we had created a limited liability company and lined up investors . In March , we closed on our first p iece of land , the land our share farm sits on. Shortly after, on a warm spring day, Roger (our general manager) and I drove to the farm to meet with another reporter, this one from the Wall Street Journal. The reporter asked why we were investing our time and money in farmland. I looked out over the rich, dark earth, full of the promise of new life and abundance , felt the warm sun on my face, saw my boys laughing and kicking dirt. The answer seemed obvious. My children won 't grow up on a farm , the way their great-grandmother did. But I want them to feel the earth beneath then feet and witness the rhythm of life. I want them to learn to respect and cherish the earth, the beautiful garden our Creator placed us in. And I want them to know that carrots grow under the ground, green beans grow on vines, and fresh-picked com on the cob is well worth waiting for. "All these years, I've been calling this my farm," I said. "And now it is." "Well, actually," said Roger, "it's about .3 percent yours." I laughed. "That 's close enough."

we began talk of marriage "in case the worst happens." urnmi a W civil i We have entered marriage, but that is not enoug h Crv riurifor either of us spiritually. spiriti We had a sexual relationship together before either of us were married, and after our divorces, but that is impossible for us now, of course. If I am to die here, I want to go knowing that our marriage, and our life together, is sanctified and right in the eyes of God. A priest said nothing could be done now. However, I will be thankful for any furthe r advice. (Texas)

Whatever has been done in the past, a spiritually fruitful and holy life is possible for you now, even in your present situation. Unless your and her previous spouses are deceased, no marriage in the Church would be possible without an annulment or some other action to deal with' those marriages. What that might entail will depend on several circumstances surrounding your first marriages. To be practical, it is not likely an annulment process would be pursued as things are now. But you could ask the priest again if it is possible to initiate any action. If not, don ' t worry. You are doing everything you can by your prayer and reception of the sacraments. God understands that. I am proud of you for your goodness in desiring to do the right thing with God , with your faith and with your wife. I' m sure others will join me in praying for you.

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Q As you can tell from my L address, I am in prison. I provided an %^C alibi for someone who killed three peop le, and by Texas law parties involved receive the same sentence as the murderer.I am 41 ana have been on death row 14 years. 1 was married 21 years ago. After my divorce 1 dated a lady with whom I had been close in high school, but later we went different ways. She wasn 't ready to commit to another marriage until her son grew older. I respected that. We have maintained a close relationship since I' ve been here, p lanning to marry if I ever got out. As the years passed

A. Obviously you are well aware the most important thing for you now is to be as close to God as possible, especially through the sacraments and prayer.

Christine Dubois is a widely published freelance writer who lives with her family near Seattle.

Retreats/Days of Recollection May 19-20: "The Elders of the Body of Christ: Overnight Retreat for Grandparents," a chance for reflection and prayer to occasion fo rgiveness and reconciliation in the immediate and extended family. Vallombrosa Center, 250 Oak Grove Ave., Menlo Park. Discussion led by well known family advocates and grandparents, Peg and Ed Gleason. Prayer led by Father Tom Madden, Vallombrosa director. $70. Call (650) 325-5614. May 26 - June 6: "10 Day Centering Prayer Retreat," Mercy Center, 2300 Adeline Dr., Burlingame. Call Brian Anderson at (650) 340-7454. June 4 - 6 : For single women 18 - 35, at Sweetwater Villa, a weekend of prayer, spiritual direction and talks by Father John Boettcher and Joseph lib. Suggested donation of $25. Call Sister Maria of the Trinity of the Little Sisters of the Poor at (415) 751-6510. June 12: "God of the Millennium" with Blessed Virgin Mary Sister Marilyn Wilson , 9:30 a.m. 3:30 p.m., Vallombrosa Center, 250 Oak Grove Ave., Menlo Park. Call (415) 325-5614. Cancer Prayer Group meets Thursdays from 10:30 a.m. to noon at Mercy Center, 2300 Adeline Dr., Burlingame. Call (650) 755-3364.

2nd Fridays at 8 p.m. at Presentation Sisters Motherhouse Chapel, Turk and Masonic, SF. Call Sister Monica Miller, PBVM at (415) 751-040 and at 7:30 p.m. at St. Luke Parish, 1111 Beach Park Blvd., Foster City. Call (650) 345-6660. STuesdaysat 8:30 p.m., SL Dominic Church, 2390 Bush St., SF. Call Delia Molloy at (415) 563-4280.

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Center, 250 Oak Grove Ave., Menlo Park. Call Sister Toni Longo, ASC at (650) 325-5614. 1st Fridays at 8 p.m. at Mercy Center, 2300 Adeline Dr., Burlingame. Call Mercy Sister Suzanne Toolan at (650) 340-7452.

Reunions San Francisco's Archbishop Riordan High School celebrates 50 years in 1999-2000. School is in search of alumni and Riordan memorabilia for display as well as volunteers for upcoming activities. Call (415) 586-9190. Are you an alumna/us of Our Lady of Mt. Carmel Elementary School in Redwood City but not on the current mailing list? Especially looking for members of classes 1948-49 Call Julia Tollafield at (650) 366-8817.

Food & Fun May 21, 22, 23: "Farewell Nineties," three day festival at St. Kevin Parish, 704 Cortland Ave., SF. Food, fun, games for all ages. Call (415) 6485751 for tickets or more information. May 22: 25lh Anniversary celebration of FilAmerican Assn. of Star of the Sea Parish, SF, following 4:30 p.m. Mass. Filipino folk dances, dinner and dancing. $8 in advance;$10 at door. Call Lorna or Bud Feria at (415) 346-3093. May 22: "Sock Hop" benefit for Denis Murphy, Church of the Good Shepherd, 909 Oceana Blvd., Pacifica, $20 donation suggested, 7:30 11:30 p.m. Call (650) 355-2789. May 24: The Booste r Club of Notre Dame High School, Belmont announces a fundraising Golf Tournament at Green Hills CC, Millbrae. Shotgun tee off is at noon , dinner follows. Call Chris Miller at (650) 595-1913 , est. 255. May 26: "Fashion by Primrose House," a special fashion show benefiting Catholic Charities Auxiliary of San Mateo County. Auditorium of St. Bartholomew Parish , 600 Columbia Dr., San Mateo, 11 a.m. $15 ticket includes lunch and door prize. Call (650) 349-1162 or (650) 692-4598. June 4, 5, 6: Annual St. Pius Parish Festival. Fun for all ages. Delicious food, exciting games , great people. Fri., Sat., 12:30 - 10 p.m.; Sun., 1 - 9 p.m. 1100 Woodside Rd. at Valota, Redwood City. Call (650) 361-1411. Knights of Columbus of the Archdiocese meet regularly and invite new membership. For information about Council 615, call Tony Blaiotta at (415) 661-0726; Dante Council, call Vito Corcia at (415) 564-4449; Mission Council, call Paul Jobe at (415) 333-6197; Golden Gate Council, call Mike Stilman at (415) 752-3641.

Perf ormance May 14, 15: Students of Holy Name of Jesus Elementary School perform "Bye, Bye Birdie" at the parish's Ryan Hall at 8 p.m. $5 aduits/$3 students May 16: The Chorus Paulinus of Manila, Philippines performs at Our Lady of Perpetual Help Church , 60 Wellington Ave., Daly City, 7 p.m. $10 donation. Call (650) 991-9786. May 17: Spring Concert at Mercy High School, 2750 Adeline Dr., Burlingame, 7 p.m. featuring Mercy's Chorale and Advanced Chorale with the Tri-School Chorus with voices from Mercy, Notre Dame and Junipero Serra High Schools. Reception follows. Call Katherina Kulp at (650) 685-7390. May 19: Mercy High School, Burlingame 's

Datebook? "Evening of Fine Arts " featuring presentations in art , dance, drama and song, 5:30 to 9 p.m. at the school , 2750 Adeline Dr., Burlingame. Call (650) 685-7390.

Most Holy Redeemer AIDS Support Group is looking for volunteers to provide practical and emotional support to people living with AIDS. For information, call Milton Headings at (415) 863-1581.

May 21, 22, 23: Broadway's "Pajama Game" at Notre Dame des Victoires Elementary School, 659 Pine St., SF, featuring the 8lh grade class. May 21, 22 at 8 p.m. May 23 at 2 p.m. Tickets $6. Seniors $2 at matinee only. Call (415) 421-0069.

St. Vincent de Paul Society of St. Mary Cathedral invites you to join them in service to the poor: (415) 563-0863.

July 18: The Golden Gate Men's Chorus performs at Old Saint Mary's Church, 660 California St. at Grant, SF, 7 p.m. $15. Call (415) 668-GGMC Sundays in May: Concerts at St. Mary Cathedral featuring various artists at 3:30 p.m. Gough and Geary Blvd., SF. Call (415) 567-2020 ext. 213.

Women in Community Service, seeks people to assist women making the transition from public assistance to the workforce. Call Gwen al (415) 397-3592. Bernal Heights Neighborhood Elders Support Team helps seniors remain at home with rides, food delivery and companionship. Interested volunteers should call Lisa Lopez Coffey at (415) 206-9177.

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Project Linus, a group supplying special blankets for seriously ill and traumatized children, needs blanketeers to knit, crochet and quilt. Call (650) 589-6767.

May 15: March honoring the Blessed Mother from Mission Dolores to St. Mary Cathedral beginning at 7 a.m. and concluding with Mass at 1 p.m. Call Office of Ethnic Ministries at (415) 565-3622.

Women Against Rape Crisis Counselor training begins May 27. Call Janelle at (415) 861-2024,

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August 12-16: To the National Shrine of the Immaculate Conception in Washington , DC with Archbishop William J. Levada. For information , please call the Office of Ethnic Ministries of the Archdiocese at (415) 565-3622. September 1999: 45lh National Rosary Pilgrimage to Lourdes, call (301) 530-8963.

May 17: Archbishop William J. Levada will preside at a Mass for the pro-life group "Crossroads" at 8:30 a.m. at Mission Dolores, Dolores St. and 16lh St., SF.

Sundays in May: Concerts at St. Francis Shrine by various artists, 4 p.m. Call (415) 983-0405.

Volunteer Opportunities Catholic Charities' St. Joseph Village can use donations of clothing, shoes , accessories , kitchen supplies, diapers, linens etc . To volunteer to assist in this program that helps homeless families become self-sufficient , call Kristen Rauda at (415) 575-4920, ext. 223. San Francisco 's St. Anthony Foundation needs volunteers for its many outreach programs to the poor: (415) 241.2600. Birthright needs people to work with women faced with unplanned pregnancies. For more information , call Mary Alba at (415) 664-9909. San Mateo County's Volunteer Center: call (650) 342-0801. For San Francisco Volunteer Center, call (415) 982-8999. Laguna Honda Hospital, SF is in need of volunteers to serve as eucharistic ministers, lectors and chapel escorts at Tuesday and Sunday morning Masses. CallSister Miriam at (415) 664-1580, ext. 4-2422.

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May 31: Memorial Day Mass, 11 a.m., at Catholic Cemeteries of the Archdiocese, Holy Cross, Colma; Holy Cross, Menlo Park; Mt. Olivet, San Rafael. All are invited. Holy Cross, Colma offers free shuttle service from main gate to Holy Cross Mausoleum from 10 a.m. to 1 p.m. Call (650) 756-2060 , June 6: Celebrate the Feast of Corpus Christi with the cloistered Dominican Sisters of Corpus Christi Monastery, 215 Oak Grove Ave., Menlo Park, 2:30 p.m. Mass concludes with Eucharistic procession and Benediction. Centering Prayer: Mondays, 7 p.m.- 8:15 p.m., Most Holy Redeemer Church, 100 Diamond St., SF. Call Sr. Cathy Cahur at (415) 553-8776; Tuesdays, 7:30-8:30 p.m., Star of the Sea Church, 4420 Geary Blvd., SF. Call Chuck Cannon at (415) 752-8439; Saturdays, 10 a.m noon, St. Cecilia Church, 2555 17,h Ave., SF. Call Coralis Salvador at (415) 753-1920. Mass in American Sign Language is celebrated each Sunday at 10:30 a.m. at St. Benedict Parish, 1801 Octavia (between Pine and California) in SF. A sign language Mass is celebrated at St. Anthony Parish, 3500

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Middlefield Rd., Menlo Park on the third Saturday of the month at 10:30 a.m. and later that day at 4 p.m. in the chapel of Marin Catholic High School, 675 Sir Francis Drake Blvd. (at Bon Air Rd.), Kentfield. For information , call St. Benedict at (415) 567-9855 (voice) or (415) 567-0438 (TDD) Fridays at 3 p.m., Divine Mercy Devotions; Saturdays at 12:15 p.m., Franciscan Marian Devotion, Shrine of St. Francis of Assisi, 610 Vallejo St. (at Columbus), SF. For information, call (415) 983-0405.

Blessed Sacrament Exposition Church of the Nativity , 210 Oak Grove Ave., Menlo Park, 24 hours everyday, (650) 322-3013. St. Sebastian Church, corner of Bon Air Rd. and Sir Francis Drake Blvd., Greenbrae, M - F 7:30 a.m. to 7:30 p.m. in Adoration Chapel, (415) 4610704. St. Agnes Church, 1025 Masonic (near Page) SF, Friday, 9 a.m. to 10 a.m., (415) 4878560. Our Lady of Angels Church , 1721 Hillside Dr., Burlingame, M- F afte r 8 a.m. Mass until 7 p.m. St. John the Evangelist Church, 98 Bosworth St., SF, 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. M -F. in Parish Center Chapel, (415) 334-4646. St. Isabella Church, One Trinity Way, San Rafael, Fridays, 9:30 a.m. - 5 p.m. Our Lady of Loretto Church, 1806 Novato Blvd., Novato, Fridays 9:30 a.m. -6 p.m., 1" Fridays 9:30 a.m. to 9 a.m. Saturday. St. Bruno Church, 555 W. San Bruno Ave., San Bruno, 24 hours everyday, Our Lady of Guadalupe Chapel. St. Francis of Assisi Shrine, 610 Vallejo St. at Columbus, SF, Fridays following 12:15 p.m. Mass until 4:15 p.m.

Second Collections May 16: Catholic Charities June 13: Catholic University of America June 27: Peter 's Pence - Holy Father

Religious Education/Enrichment May 19, 26: "Why Be Catholic?" series at Epiphany Parish, 827 Vienna St. at Amazon, SF, 7:30 - 9 p.m. May 19 - Jesuit Father Michael Barber; May 26 - Archbishop William J. Levada. Call (415) 242-9087. May 20: "Why Be Catholic?" series at St. Dominic Church, 2390 Bush St. at Steiner, SF, 7:30 - 9 p.m. May 20 - Jesuit Father Michael Barber. Call (415) 242-9087. May 16: Religious Education class for special needs children begins today at St. Veronica Parish , 434 Alida Way, SSF. Preparation for the sacraments of Reconciliation and Eucharist will be provided where appropriate as well as ongoing catechetical formation. Classes will be held two Sundays a month from 1:30 p.m. to 2:30 p.m. Children need to be registered prior to attending. For registration forms , a schedule of classes or to volunteer to help, call Lynn Zupan, Office of Religious Education , (415) 565-3669.

Divorced, Separated June 11 - 13: Retrouvaille weekends, a program for troubled marriages. Call Lolette and Tony Campos at (415) 893-1005. For information about ministry available to divorced and separated persons in the Archdiocese , call (415) 273-5521. Catholic Adult Singles Association of Marin meets for support and activities. For information, call Don at (415) 883-5031; Peter at (415) 897-4634.

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ness is felt by visitors. Parishioners are enthusiastic about their liturgical celebrations. The parish is home to approximately 1,500 families who have more and more shown an interest in adding a parochial school . Outreach includes a St. Vincent de Paul Society Conference; sacrament preparation in English and Spanish; Mass in Portuguese; and religious education Pastor . Father Dorningo 0rimaco Masses: Saturday : 5 p.m.; Sunday : 7:45, 9:00, 11:15 a.m.; 12:45 p.m. (Spanish); 10 a.m.(Portuguese) on 1st Sunday of the month, Seating capacity: 450 _. ., ,n „ ,. , Found,nS date: 1868 as Pansh Phone: (650) 726-4674

Social Justice/Advocacy May 22: "Restoring Justice: A Response to the Death Penalty and Prison System" featuring Sister Helen Prejean, author of "Dead Man Walking," 8:30 a.m. - 4 p.m., St. Joseph the Worke r Church, 1640 Addison St. at Jefferson , Berkeley, $12 in advance , $15 at door includes lunch/drinks. No one turned away for lack of funds. Call Faye Butler at (510) 791-8136 or Bay Area Pax Christi at (510) 832-3776. Information about the Catholic Business Network is available by calling Father Labib Kobti at (415) 665-1600. The CBN meets regularly over breakfast to discuss living one's faith in the marketplace.

Lectures/Discussions/Displays June 5: "Spirituality at Work ," a support of business people, 10 a.m.- 4 p.m., St. Gregory Nyssen Church, 500 De Haro St., SF. Call Mark Lodico at (415) 252-1667

Datebook is a free listing for p arishes, schools and non-profit groups. Please include event name, time, date, place, address and an information pltone number. Listing must reach Catholic San Francisco at least two weeks before the Friday public ation date desired. Mail your notice to: Datebook, Catholic San Francisco, 441 Church St., S.F. 94114, or f a xit to (415) 565-3633.

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By Tom Burke Fifty years later, Father Clement A. Davenport still loves being a priest. During a very recent interview with Catholic San Francisco at Menlo Park's Church of the Nativity Parish , where he has been pastor since 1976, Father Davenport remembered the half century he calls the "best years of my life." It was example that drew Father Davenport to the priesthood. "Those were the times when the priests went around and talked to everybody in the classroom ," Father Davenport began, recalling his grammar school days at St. Joseph Parish in Berkeley. "One day a priest came to talk to us and a friend of mine and I decided to take the seminary exam. I passed and the rest I guess is God's grace at work." Father Davenport joined the Army Reserve at San Francisco's Presidio in 1948 just after ordination and was called into service not long after to bring the sacraments to soldiers in Arizona. Later, he accepted an assignment to Korea's front lines where he ministered for 12 straight months. "I was very happy to go," Father Davenport said remembering his days as a young lieutenant. "I was with the 45" Division, the Oklahoma Division. It was trench warfare, saying Mass, hearing confessions and anointing kids. It was great work." Father Davenport said he went into the war with "no training for it" and that he "just put on the uniform" and went. "All of a sudden you are just there hearing those rounds coming in and it's pretty terrifying," he said. "I always carried the Blessed Sacrament with me and the oils, of course." It took the priest nine days to cover his regiment , a group that included more than 3,000 soldiers. "You'd walk the trenches and meet the kids and if they were Catholic

you 'd hear their confession and give them Holy as a parochial vicar at Holy Name of Jesus, St. Philip and St. Thomas the Apostle. He has also been chaplain at St. Communion," he said. The young officer celebrated Mass whenever he came Mary Medical Center. In Jul y, Father Davenport will retire from assigned minupon a site that could accommodate it. "You'd get to certain istry and take up residence at St. spots with a bunker and you'd have Matthew Parish in San Mateo. He 20 or 30 kids gather in and you'd say said he's anxious "to still function Mass for them as best you could." as a priest as much as possible" and Father Davenport said he was never will "pitch-in " wherever necessary. injured but a bullet went "right "I love hearing confessions," Father through" his fatigues one time winDavenport said, calling the sacraning him the name "Father Lucky." ment "God's great gift to us" and Father Davenport said he anoint"God in action." ed hundreds of men on the front Father Davenport is especially lines and heard thousands of confesproud of the Nativity community, who sions. Asked how he faced the sufhave been staunch in support of fering he saw, Father said, "I think round-the-clock exposition of the God steels you to it. I think there's a Blessed Sacrament there. "The grace there." Eucharist and praying with Christ are "The sad tiling both in Korea and so important," Father Davenport said. Vietnam was you get very close to When asked where his strength the young second lieutenants , the to serve has come from , he said, "I platoon leaders, and they all get think it's Christ. I think it's the killed ," Father Davenport said , Eucharist. I think it 's grace." repeating it in a whisper of continuFather Clement A. Davenport ing Hishfili p.f About Kosovo, the retired Army who holds a Bronze Star and 11 other military awards, Father Davenport was a brigade chaplain, colonel, In Vietnam, who served as "boss, confessor and friend" to seven other said, "It's easy to start a war but mighty hard to stop one. I folchaplains. He also ministered on the front lines averaging low the Holy Fatiier's lead to move toward a diplomatic reso"nine Masses on Sunday" and rarely fewer than seven lution . I would be very hesitant to see any of our kids go in there because I think it could become like Vietnam." Masses on other days. On May 15, Father Davenport will celebrate his 50 Father Davenport says he's "loved every assignment" he's had . In addition to his military service and Nativity, years as a priest with family, friends and the Nativity comwhere he also served as a parochial vicar in the early 60s, munity with Mass and dinner on the parish grounds. More he has been pastor of St. Peter Parish in Pacifica and served than 900 people have indicated they 'll be there.

War echoes scenes from Mother Teresa's childhood By John Bohuslaw HARTFORD, Conn. (CNS) — Serbian soldiers, after laying in ambush, attacked lightly armed patriots from Kosovo, tossing the dead and the dying into the river. The soldiers next stormed a village , raped the women, shot the men and bayoneted children , to save bullets . This is not a story from 1999 news bulletins but from a recent biography on the late Mother Teresa. The history of her early life is sketchy. Born Agnes Ganxhe Bojaxhiu to Albanian parents in Skopje, in what is now Macedonia, on Aug. 26, 1910, she had a sister, Aga, and a brother, Lazar. Her father was a grocer, but the family's background was more peasant than merchant. Mother Teresa and her family lived among killing scenes similar to those dep icted in today's TV news coverage of the region.Sometime before her birth , the family had moved to Skopje, from Prizen , which is situated in what is today the Yugoslav province of Kosovo, near the Albanian border. During recent months this village has been obliterated by Serbian ethnic cleansing. Skopje has been over the centuries alternately in Serbia, Kosovo and Macedonia. The prevailing religion of the region has been alternately Orthodox, Catholic or Muslim. Mother Teresa, in several interviews throughout her life, refused to discuss her early years. In the 1997 biography, Mother Teresa: Beyond the Image , by Anne Sebba, she was quoted as saying: "I remember my mother, my father and the rest of us praying together each evening. I hope our Albanian families have remained faithful to the practice."

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Muslim and summed up the Vatican policy as "better not to take sides." He said Church leaders should remember, however, that "silence presumes consent." Navarro-Vails said the Vatican ' s actions have ranged from moral appeals to a summoning of ambassadors to explore peaceful solutions. "The Holy See is not neutral nor partisan nor antiAmerican. Instead, Pope John Paul II has done and is doing all that is possible so that dialogue based on the respect for law and history can begin once again and widiout delay," he said. The papal spokesman cited some of the pope 's numerous calls for peace, for a humanitarian corridor for refugees, and for an end to ethnic atrocities and destructive bombings. He said that "a day does not pass " in which the pope does not express publicl y his wish for a lasting peace in Yugoslavia. Navarro-Vails also cited several diplomatic initiatives

undertake n by the Vatican in favor of a cease-fire and a permanent settlement of the Kosovo crisis. He said these moves have received "very little coverage " in U.S. media. "Such initiatives have the aim of stopp ing the suffering, massacre and destruction , and of encouraging the start of new negotiations to guarantee a just solution ," Navarro-Vails said. Moreover, he pointed out, from the very fust day of NATO bombings the Holy See has urged Catholic charitable organizations to aid all refugees , whatever their ethnic group. He said the Vatican's position on the war was based on the conviction that "the use of force is always a defeat for humanity." He said that sooner or later the Serbs, Kosovars and NATO countries would have to meet again at the negotiating table. "Why not gather together sooner, before destruction and death inevitabl y increase the hatred and destroy reciprocal faith?" he said.

Physician-assisted suicide bill scheduled for hearing May 19 By Kamille Maher "Physician-assisted suicide" legislation is set to be considered , and almost certainly voted on , at an Assembly Appropriations Committee hearing on May 19. Committee members will hear public comment from a pre-determined number of speakers, but members of the public are welcome to attend the meeting in Room 4202 at the State Capitol in Sacramento. The meeting starts at 9 a.m. and AB 1592 is expected to be heard in the morning, according to an aide to Assemblywoman Dion Louise Aroner (DBerkeley/Richmond), author of the bill. The bill , fashioned after Oregon 's euthanasia law that went into effect last year, would allow doctors to prescribe lethal drugs to dying patients who request them. Candidates would have to be 18 years

or older and suffering from what physicians decide is an incurable disease leaving fewer than six month s of life. Bay Area members of the Appropriati ons Committee include Chairwoman Carole Migden (D-San Francisco), Louis Papan (DMillbrae), Kevin Shelley (D-San Francisco), and Patricia Wiggins (D-Santa Rosa). Kevin Shelley also sits . on the Judiciary Committee, which last month passed the measure by one vote. Shelley voted "no" in that committee and considers this to be "by far the most difficult vote," according to Tracy Dunne, his press secretary. "I would not be surprised if he voted 'no' (in the Appropriations Committee) as well," Dunne said. Other Bay Area legislators and publications are drawing lines on the issue. Appropriations Committee Chairwoman Migden remains undecided about her vote,

according to her chief of staff , Alan LoFaso. Migden chaired a select committee on palliative care during the last legislative session, LoFaso said, and sponsored a law removing some of the paperwork involved with prescribing "Schedule 2" drugs such as opiates and morphine. "(Migden) is working with a variety of people and has come to a lot of common ground on this issue," LoFaso said. The California Catholic Conference has issued a Legislative Alert in which it listed several arguments against the legislation. "Intrac t able pain is controllable in almost every instance ," the Conference wrote. "A person who requests death to avoid pain needs a physician adequately trained in pain management. HMOs and other insurance providers stand to benefit from the assisted suicide option. Paying for one pre-

scription of lethal drugs is far less expensive than paying for extended hospice or other palliative care for the dying." A M arch 4 editorial in the San Francisco Chronicle said, "Anyone who has witnessed a relative or loved one dying in pain would be hard-pressed to deny them the relief of a humane death. But society — and California law — should not be in the business of facilitating or endorsing suicide." It also editorialized against the legislation April 26. According to Assemblywoman Aroner, however, "This measure is about compassion and choice." In a March 1 press release, she slated: "A mental ly competent person suffering from a terminal illness who is in great pain should have the option of peacefully ending his or her own life." (Ed. note: Information on AB1592 and other legislative issues can be obtained via the legislative Internet site: www.leginfo.ca.gov)

Health C a r e . . . ¦ Continued from page 3 "We have a hodgepodge of policies and unanticipated funding needs," said Yee. "This is a much larger problem than just for the Board of Supervisors." Organizers questioned whether public health care or fixing the Municipal Railway System should receive more funds. Muni has been a politically hot top ic since Mayor Willie Brown vowed to improve the system within 100 days of taking office four years ago. "We need to think more clearly about our priorities," Yee told activists. "Your advocacy is very important There needs to be a groundswell of advocacy." A patient who attended the meeting at Supervisor Yee's office described the scene in the remaining outpatient pharmacy. Security guards now keep watch over raucous crowds of sick people waiting hours for medication they cannot afford, she said. People wait to drop off prescriptions, go home and wait 24 hours for pharmacists to fill them. They return the next day to wait in line more hours to pick up the medicines. "I' ve never seen anything like this ," said the woman, who asked not to be named. "People were saying , 'I guess we go home and die.' I believe in my heart that people are going home and getting sicker. And then I think , what

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about people with TB (tuberculosis , a highly contagious disease) and other communicable diseases?" William Brady, president of Alliance to Empower the Latino Community, said his organization 's goal is to convince public officials to restore the satellite pharmacy and the 35-year tradition of providing free medicines to PHN patients at SF General, Laguna Honda , and clinics. He also wants officials to establish a moratorium on further cuts which have been proposed. "Unbalanced budgets have to be expected and accepted in a public health setting, by the very nature of the beast ," Brady wrote in an April 12 letter to the Archdiocese. "We should be prepared to subsidize public health for the poor, if necessary, and with good grace . . . " According to George Wesolek, director of the Archdiocese's Office of Public Policy and Social Concerns, he and other archdiocesan officials "have been talking with supervisors" about the immediate PHN cuts as well as overall access to health care. "The issue of cutting back on health care, in this case closure of a pharmacy which affects poor people, is symptomatic of a much greater problem — that being health care is becoming less and less available and accessible to people. The Archbishop has come out publicly in favor of universal availability of what we consider a basic human ri ght — health care," Wesolek said, adding: "It is a scandal that six million people in California, and almost 44 million nationally, do not have health care insurance. And these are not poor people. The poor have Medicare.

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NEW YORK (CNS) — Here is a list of recent films the U.S. Catholic Conference Office for Film and Broadcasting has rated on the basis of moral suitability. The first symbol after each title is the USCC classification . The second symbol is the rating of the Motion Picture Association of America. USCC classifications'. A-l — genera! patronage; A-1I — adults and adolescents; ATJI — adults; A-1V — adults , with reservations (this indicates films that , while not morally offensive in themselves, are not for casual viewing because they require some analysis and explanation to avoid false impressions and interpretations); 0 — morally offensive. MPAA ratings: C — general audiences, all ages admilted; PG — parental guidance suggested, some material may not be suitable for

children; PG-13 — parents strongly cautioned some material could be inappropriate for children under 13; R—restricted , under 17 requires accompanying parent or adult guardian; NC -17 — no one 17 or under admitted. A Affliction , A-1TJ (R) Analyze This, A-IV (R) B Baby Geniuses , A-II (PG) Blast from the Past, A-I1I (PG-13) Blood Guts Bullets and Octane, A-1V (R) C The Castle, A-1II ® Central Station , A-HI (R) A Civil Aclion , A-II (PG-13) Cookie 's Fortune, A-1I1 (PG- 13) The Corrupter, O (R) Cruel Intentions, O (R) D The Deep End of the Ocean, A-TII (PG-13)

Doug 's 1st Movie, A-I (G) The Dreamlife of Angels , A-III (R) E EDtv, A-ffl (PG-13) 8 mm , 0 (R) Election , A-IV (R) Elizabeth , A-IV (R) Entrapment , A-IV (PG-13) F Forces of Nature , A-III (PG-13) Friends & Lovers, 0 (no rating) G Go, O (R) Gods and Monsters , A-IV (R) Goodbye Lover, 0 (R) H The Harmonists, A-IE (R) I Idle Hands, O (R) K The King and I, A-I (G)

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Capsule movie reviews NEW YORK (CNS) — The following are capsule reviews of movies recently screened by the U.S. Catholic Conference Office for Film and Broadcasting. The Castle (Miramax) Sophomoric satire in which a good-hearted Australian famil y of nitwits refuses to let a planned airport expansion rob of them of their home. The case goes to Australia 's highest court. Director Robert Sitch' s goofy underdog tale is undercut by heavy-handed treatment of the comical situations. Minor menace and vandalism , occasional profanity and recurring roug h language. The U.S. Catholic Conference classification is A-III — adults. The Motion Picture Association of America rating is R — restricted. The Mummy (Universal) Spirited horror adventure set in 1920s Egypt where a treasure-hunting Yank (Brendan Fraser) and an archaeological librarian (Rachel Weisz) inadvertentl y revive a 3,000year-old mummy (Arnold Vosloo) whose evil powers of destruction seemingly know no bounds. Writer-director Stephen Sommers stuffs the lavishly shot action movie with spooky special effects and a comical tone that generally adds up to rousing, old-fashioned entertainment. Recurring stylized violence and fleeting partial nudity. The U.S. Catholic Conference classification is A-III — adults. The Motion Picture Association of America rating is PG-13 — parents strong ly cautioned some material may be inappropriate for children under 13. Midsummer Night's Dream (Fox Searchli ght) Fanciful adaptation of the Bard 's comedy is updated to 1900 Tuscany in a magical forest where the fairy Puck (Stanley Tucci) causes all manner of romantic mix-ups overnight casting spells on mismatched young lovers (including Christian Bale and Calista Flockhart), an aspiring actor (Kevin KJine) and the fairy queen (Michelle Pfeiffer). Some cast members excel , others do not in articulating Shakespearean dialogue in writer-director Michael Hoffman 's whimsical adaptation . Romantic complications and fleeting nudity. The U.S. Catholic Conference classification is A-III — adults. The Motion Picture Association of

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By Lisa L. Wang Special to Catholic San Francisco "Excellent!" "Incredibly spiritually rewarding." "Such a great experience!" "Definitely recommend it." She had her dress, the ban d, and the caterer. The flowers were ordere d and the invitations were about to go out when Joyce Scardina Becker, then 36, cancelled her wedding. She remembers sitting on the floor of her apartment sobbing, thinking it was the end of the world. These are two types of reaction to the Engaged Encounter, a weekend-long marriage preparation program of the Catholic Church with more than 400 local couples partici pating in the last year. How can there can be such a divergence of experiences? Trust me, if you go through the Engaged Encounter, soulsearching weekend , you'll know. My husban d and I went on the Jul y 1996 Engaged Encounter just three months before our wedding . On the drive to Redwood City where the weekends are held in the Mt. Alverno Conference Center, we were lamenting our loss of two whole days of planning. We racked our brains to see if there were any vendors we could see near the Conference Center. Secretly, I was glad to be going. 1 had had a bad case of jitters right after we had become engaged, and I was hoping the weekend would resolve them once and for all. We had followed protocol. We had informed our local parish of our marriage intenti on and we met with Father

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Bill Brad y several times. He had us take an intensive "test" which scored our similarities on various subjects like interpersonal communication , interests , finances , sexuality, etc. Called FOCCUS, the survey was designed by professionals in famil y counseling and marriage. We hadn 't scored as well as I had hoped , only adding to my fears . The next several sessions with Father Bill were spent tackling some of these areas. After reducing and reducing, it finally boiled down to my question , "Father Bill , I want the top 10 reasons peop le get married. 1 mean, how do I know we won 't be one of the 50 percent of marriages that end in divorce?" Father Bill calmly took this in and said, "No one can promise you won't get divorced. All you can do is promise to be committed to working things out." Suddenl y, the future seemed much more manageable. Now, I was ready for the marathon weekend. You arrive Friday night and sign in. You might find yourself smiling if you, like us, noticed the many couples in the registry had the same address. After the initial orientation , you are split up for bedtime—men in one wing, women in the other. It seemed a bit sill y, but it was actually quite sweet to see your significant other eagerly awaiting your arrival in the lobby the next day. When Saturday arrives, the real work begins. The weekend is usuall y set up with at least two married "presenting " couples and a priest. Tire married couples, often with many years of experience between them , share true life stories of how they addressed specific problems. The engaged couples are each given a sheet of paper with one topic. (These are similar to the ones in the FOCCUS test: family, finances, sexuality, etc.) You and your mate separate and answer the questions on that topic, writing responses in a notebook. When time is up, you share them with each other. After about eight of these, you are tired. In the evening after dinner, there is a time for anonymous questions. These questions are collected in a hat and read to the group. Your peers and the presenting coup les try to answer them. It is a good time to explore issues that have not yet been addressed or are specific to your situ ation.

Mark Rodriguez: 'We didn 't think there was much more that we could know about each other. We were definitely wrong.'

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Sunday : the exercises continue , but the day is a bit lighter. There is a funny section where 25 "yes" or "no" questions are thrown at you. Everything from "little " things like, "I squeeze the toothpaste fro m the bottom " and "Hair in the soap bothers me" to more serious things like "I would like to work after having children " and "1 am willing to move for career." Afterward , you go throug h them again and all of the people who answered "yes" stand up and then all of the people who answered "no" stand up for each question. It 's really interesting to see what, if any, community "standards" become apparent. The weekend seems to be especiall y good for couples in that it is a time set aside for their relationshi p — and not wedding planning. "I would' ve been hard-pressed to sit down with Walter and discuss these issues on our own with the amount of time and the detail it takes," Julie O'Haire , a March 1997 attendee, said. Jennifer Mitchell, 30, who attended last March 1998 agreed. "It covered lots of stuff you onl y talk about when ENGAGED, next page

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¦ Continued from previous page you 're in an argument. This gave you a chance to discuss them in an environment when you 're not stressed." "We didn 't think there was much more that we could know about each other. We were definitely wrong, echoed Jennifer 's husband , Mark Rodri guez . And the Engaged Encounter does have lasting effects. "There is this one thing, I remember , this buzzword- 'life-g iving ' . It ' s when you do something just for the other person , like if you hate making the bed , but you know the other person likes it to be done so you do it ," said Walter O'Haire. "Once every th ree to four months one of us will say, 'I'll do Joe and the life-g iving ' ." Dave Hayes who with his wife, Lorraine, has been leading weekend programs for years thinks that by the end of the weekend couples "either love each other or hate each other. The weekend is strong enough that if it [the relationshi p] is 'iff y ', it can bring it out. If it ' s a good relationshi p, then the weekend will strengthen

grams is required for a coup le to be married in the Catholic Church in the San Francisco Archdiocese. For coup les with time constraints , the weekni ght program is a good alternative and has its own fen club. "I liked the weekdays better. Il gave you time to process the information ," said Michele Lynch who married Joe at St. Dunstan 's in Millbrae in 1995. The weeknig ht program consists of four separate sessions in the home of a presenting couple. Each of the four evenings focuses on one of the following: 1) communication , 2) conflict 3) sexuality and 4) faith , Church and sacrament. Sometimes the weekday programs even throw in bonuses thai you don ' t get on the Engaged Encounter weekend like the Michele Myers-Bri ggs personality type test. Jennifer McVey. a Methodist , and her husband Sean, a Catholic , did the weekni ght program through the Church of the Nativity in Menlo Park because it better fit their schedule. Jennifer echoed a common sentiment , "I think every reli gion should put this program in place!" Jennifer is part of the 38 percent of Engaged Encounter coup les who are non-Catholic. So, what happened with Joyce— the woman who attributes her wedding cancellation directl y to her experience at the Engaged Encounter? Joyce had spent close to 100 hours planning the day, and was so afraid to call it off "because the altern ative was being alone." When asked how she developed the

courage to end her engagement , she credited Engaged Encounter and her presenting coup le to whom she later turned for additional hel p. "Throug h the grace of God ," she said, "this was a gift , as painful as it was, and I recognized it." Joyce wound up marry ing a "wonderfu l man" (Dana Becker) five years later and went on the Engaged Encounte r again onl y this time, instead of it feeling like a "therapy session" with "red flags going up," it was a "cementing of who we are, an affirmation." Gail Brenner, PhD, clinical psychologist and assistant clinical professor at the University of California at San Francisco who does marriage counseling, noted , "It's a reall y good thing to do some kind of preparation to determine if the marri age should happen. Anything is better than nothing." Brenner, a non-Catholic , said problems can not be put on hold indefinitely. They will surface.

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LITURGY &SCRIFTUR E The rite of marriage: you are cordially invited. .. The marriage season is now upon us and you have probably received a wedding invitation or two already. Before you make your way to the bridal registry in search of an appropriate gift for the couple, you might take some time to consider what you can bring to the liturgy itself. Since many wedding guests are either not Catholics or are Catholics who do attend Mass regularly, your "presence" as a full , conscious and active participant in the ritual will be more valuable than any other presents the bride and groom might receive. The marriage covenant The rite of marri age is a covenant ritual. As a celebration of human love, it is a covenant ritual between a bride and groom . As an act of Catholic worship, it is the covenant ritual between Christ and the Church. Just as the marriage between two complete strangers would be rather hollow, so too a wedding ceremony would be impoverished if the guests were completely unfamiliar with the rites. Your awareness of the basic patterns of Catholic worship will be indispensable to the experience of all who gather for a wedding. The basic rhythms of the celebration will depend upon your partici pation more than ever. Without the regular Sunday crowd to lead you in movements and responses, you should pay special attention so you don't miss your cues. The exchange of vows and the presence of witnesses are essential to the validity of a Catholic rite of marriage. The following reflections on these two elements are provided not only to help you enter more deeply into the next wedding you attend but every liturgy as well.

might enhance this conversation with God by helping guests who are not Catholic to join in the dialogue by finding the proper place in a missalette if provided. Witness Like the exchange of vows, the presence of witnesses is essential to the validity of a Catholic wedding. While die bride and groom are technically the ministers of the sacrament of matrimony in the free exchange of their vows, the Church still requires the presence of a priest or deacon and at least two witnesses who will attest to the fact. That you also bear this responsibility along with the whole assembly is made clear by the presiding minister 's introductory address to the couple: "You have come together in this church so that the Lord may seal and strengthen your love in the presence of the Church's minister and this community." Anyone with sight or hearing could attest to the exchange of vows. Only someone with the eyes and ears of faith can bear witness to the sacrament. Your "full , conscious and active participation" in every liturgy you attend testifies to God's presence and action in our world. In a day when many guests come to a wedding with little regard for the sacredness of the event , your prayerful attention to the divine love at work in the life of the bridal couple and in the celebration of this sacrament will be all the more powerful a witness.

Father John Talesfore The exchange of vows The core of the marriage rite is the couple's exchange of vows. This expression of mutual consent bears the same pattern of God's loving dialogue with us. God's self revelation initiates this conversation and our response is freel y given in faith. Not only the vows of the bride and groom, but the entire rile of marriage and all of Catholic worship bear this pattern of dialogue. Be it as ornate as the responsorial Psalm to the first reading or as simple as the "Amen" to one of the prayers, the discourse between celebrant and assembly takes up the conversation of Christ and his bride, the Church. In addition to proclaiming your own hearty response to standard cues of the Mass such as "The Lord be with you," you

Father Talesfore is Director of the archdiocesan Office of Worship

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New Liturgy Commission: The recently appointed Archdiocesan Liturgy Commission met April 29 with Archbishop William J. Levada and Father John Talesfore , director of worship, at St Mary 's Cathedral. Sitting, from left: Debbie McAuliffe; Jesuit Father Michael Barber; Noemi Castillo; Archbishop Levada; Kathy Carey; Father Talesfore. Standing, from left: Tony Eiras; Doug Benbow; Father John Glogowski; Father John K. Ring; Father Agusti n Escalante; Father Thomas Merson; Father Bill Vaughan; Dolores OiHolloran; Deacon Bernard OfHolloran; Christoph Tietze; Father Milton Walsh; Father James Garcia; John Renke; Dominican Father Michael Carey. Not pictured: Father William Brown and Notre Dame Sister Sharon McMillan.

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Just what does 'glorification' of the Lord entail? We must remind ourselves , as we celebrate the Ascension of the Lord this Sunday that we are not abandoning our 50-day observance of Easter but merely concentrating on one aspect of Jesus ' g lorification. Quite frankl y, all we have been doing during Lent, the Triduum, Eastertime, and every Sunday for that matter is remembering, making preAscension of the Lord sent, and sharActs 1:1-11; Psalm47; ing through hesians 1:17-23; Matthew 28:16-20 Ep Word and Eucharist that glorification of Jesus. What does it mean? Jesus prayed , "Father the hour has come; glorify your Son." (Jn 17:1) An attempt to clarify "glorify " might be: "Father, make me look like you; help me to translate into human flesh , words, and deed what lies at your heart." Jesus' prayer is answered . He is glorified. He is "lifted up" on the cross to reveal that at the heart of God is a love unto death for us God's friends; he is "lifted up" into glory to reveal that God's love for us is stronger than death. He is made the source of the Holy Spirit so that God 's love might abide in us and empower us to love as Jesus does. (cf. Jn 15:8-17, 20:19-23) When we celebrate the glorification of Jesus at every liturgy, especially Sunday Mass, we remember, make present, and share in the whole event , aspects of which we highlight at different times (for example, Lent, Triduum, Ascension, Pentecost). The readings for this Sunday proclai m that God's energy in glorifying Jesus produces an energetic Church that carries on Jesus ' mission. His "departure" (in picto-

Father David M. Pettingill rial-spatial language) results in a fuller presence to the Church. Our first reading treats us to the opening of the Acts of the Apostles. Here we see we are to understand Luke and Acts as a two-volume work, the first dealing with Jesus' journey to the cross and then to the right hand of God (his "exodus," Luke 9:31) and the second dealing with the Church's journey, empowered by the Spirit of Jesus' completed journey, driving it on: "You will receive power when the Holy Spirit comes upon you, and you will be my witnesses in Jerusalem, throughout Judea and Samaria, and to the ends of the earth. " When Jesus "was lifted up and a cloud took him from their sight," the message to the Church in each time and place is:

"Get busy, do something," or as Acts would have it, "Why are you standing there looking at the sky?" Ephesians (our second reading) reminds us that the same power God exerted in glorifying Jesus now abides in us. The author hopes that what we have been given will dawn on us: "May the eyes of your hearts be enlightened that you may know. . .what is the surpassing greatness of his power for us who believe, in accord with the exercise of his great might, which he worked in Christ, raising him from the dead and seating him at his right hand in the heavens." Finally, Matthew, in the concluding chapter of the gospel , ends the way it began. In 1:23, Matthew takes the time to translate for us the name "Emmanuel," which, the text says, 'means, God with us." This Jesus who appears in this Gospel as a new Moses renewing the People of God, is by his words, deeds, and person the very presence of God with his beloved People. In 28:20, Matthew has Jesus say to his Church, " 'I am with you always to the close of this age.'" This book-end effect opens our eyes to discover that as God was with us in Jesus, so Jesus is with us his Church, making our words, deeds, and persons his very own. That is why when we "go," "make disciples of all nations;" when we "baptize them in the Name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit;" and when we teach "them to observe all that I commanded you," we feel the pleasure and energy of the risen Lord and his Father in us and we realize that we are "the fullness of the one who fills all things in every way." Father David Pettingill is director of the archdiocesan Office of Worship.

Memories of my second-favorite wedding

One day in April , I sat in the second pew from the front , formal wedding gown , no tux , no photograp her snapping right-hand side, waiting for Mass to begin. I heard muffled p ictures, no doling parents, friends , and family, no wedding myself, a Many coup les marry in the spring, which is a romantic voices from the sacristy. Presentl y the chap lain peered out , entourage, and no guests except the priest and reception. There was no stranger. complete «¦«*. thing to do. Good spouse and 1, our wedding was in March. got my attention , and beckoned me to join him. He * Clearly, all this coup le wanted was to be Early March . Not spring yet. The weather was cool, and introduced me lo a man and woman who stood there ¦ and to have a Catholic wedding. married our wedding day was rainy. We didn 't realize that when you looking happy and shy. Both were in civilian Someplace, please God , there is a , at least, choose a wedding day what you reall y choose is an clothes , but 1 figured one of them % couple celebrating a 32nd anniversary day. For the rest of our lives we are stuck with had to be in the Navy. Both appeared anniversary this April , to be in their early 30s. Jr a day in early Marc h to celebrate our anniversary. and on their wedFather asked if I would be a wit- m A Naturall y, my favori te wedding was ours . But my next i ding license is the (hey were ness toe the coup le as , favorite wedding happened years before in 1967, and I signature of a ft ¦ ¦ I about to be married. Naturally, have no idea who the man and woman were whose wedwhose sailor young agreed. There must have been anothding it was. name means nothI was a young petty officer stationed at the U.S. Naval er person present because you need ^ ing to them. If I Air Station at Barber 's Point, Hawaii. On a streak of piety, two witnesses, but I have no memory of Fcould, 1 would tell I suppose, during my lunch hour I had taken to attending who that was. At the appropriate moment this coup le that every in the Mass, the couple left dai ly Mass in the ^H Apri l , for all these years, I their pew, stood before the little wood frame ^B have said a prayer for them and ¦P^^ i priest , recited their marriage Catholic chapel, Clearly, all this coup le wanted for their marriage . God bless you, Mr. ^r vows, and exchanged rings. After and most days it and Mrs. whoever-you-are, and I hope your was the chaplain was to be married and to have Mass, I returned to the sacristy and marriage has been , and still is, a happy and holy one. signed the wedding license. The couple and me. He was a thanked me, I shook their hands and con career officer who a Catholic wedding. Mitch Finley, a columnist for the Catholic Sun Columns gratulated them, and I never saw them again had been in the I have attended more than a few wed- Service, is the author of numerous books, most recently You Nav y a long time. If he had been an enlisted man, he could have been called dings since that spring day in 1967, but except for my own Are My Beloved: Meditations on God' s Steadfast Love "an old salt." Father whatever-his-name-was was a kindl y they are all vague in my mind. The one that stands out clear- (Resurrection Press) and For Men Onl y: Strategies for ly was the one that had none of the trapp ings - no music, no Living Catholic (Liguori Publications). man and a good priest.

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How can one tell if a marriage is sacramental? By Andrew and Terri Lyke We hear and talk much about the sacramental marriage. We ask ourselves, and we're sure other couples do too, how do we know when we 're in a sacramental marriage? Are we doing it right? Well, there are no definitive answers. Our road is crooked with turns and twists that give us reasons for doubt. Talking with other couples we have, however, found a few hallmarks that indicate God is present in a marriage and that that presence is projected to others. While this is not an exhaustive list , it is but a few indicators of the sacramental couple: They laugh together: Their sense of humor, even in times of conflict and disillusionment , lifts them to a better place. They can laugh at each other and themselves while being sensitive to hurtful areas. Their laughter reminds them of the joy promised to them , and keeps them hopeful. They play together: Their playfulness takes them away from their worlds of work and homemaking. They go on dates, vacations, dancing, or they just close their doors for their private playful times. They know each other's issues: After a year, five years, 20 years, 50 years of marriage, those particular issues they respectively bring to the relationship are still there. They 've given up efforts to change _^,_ C {/ J ^-r^ |^

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The following is excerpted from the booklet, Planning Your Wedding Music, published by the Archdiocese : Planning your ceremony will probabl y take more time than you expected because of the great variety of wedding music that exists. Here are some guidelines to help:

QD Choose music with lyrics th at are liturg ically suitable, that is, with l yrics that speak of God , who gifts you with your love; or of Christ, whose love for the Church provides the model for all love; or of the Church community, to which you belong; or of the marriage vows of lifelong commitment and mutual fidelity. The best lyrics for Catholic liturgy come from the Bible and fit the part of the celebration for which they are chosen. Length y, solo songs, purel y secular sentiments , or music to fill up time should be avoided.

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GD Choose music that has artistic value. This can sometimes be a difficult because of the variety of personal tastes. Artistic value does not claim , however, to jud ge one type of music (popular, classical , folk , Gospel , etc.) as superior to another. It simply asks that whatever kind of music is chosen be good music. Good music can endure without becoming trite or stale. Your parish musicians , most of whom have been trained in the standards of good music, will be able to help you.

instrumental or vocal solo. f) Eucharistic acclamations, the Holy-Holy, the Memorial Acclamation, the Great Amen. Here the cantor can lead the entire community. g) Communion rite, congregational song, h) Recessional , instrumental solo. Some couples also include a vocal solo or congregational acclamation immediatel y after their vows — or a song to Mary, if they choose, to honor her after the liturgy. If you prefer a simple ceremony instead of a Mass, omit e, f and g. Finally you might consider preparing a souvenir booklet for your guests, containing parts of the Mass you would like them to sing or recite. If so, consult your parish musician or priest on how this is done.

QD Choose some music your guests can sing . Catholic worshi p expects people will participate in song — whether at baptisms, funerals, or weddings. Perhaps the congregational music you select will consist of onl y a few short phrases (acclamations or anti phons); perhaps you will prefer some longer hymns. If you plan to invite non-Catholics , you might want to include some ecumenically suitable songs. Your guests will be pleased to have been included in the song at your wedding. Working with musicians For your wedding you will probabl y need both an instrumentalist and a cantor/soloist. The latter can lead the congregation as well as perform songs alone. Be sure to contact your parish musician(s) as soon as possible regarding your choice of musicians and musician 's fees. Note: most parishes require that their own musicians be paid the usual fee, even if someone else provides the music for the wedding. Some parishes, moreover, hesitate to allow non-parish musicians because they might not understand how to use the organ, deal with the acoustics of the church , or have the opportunity to rehearse with parish musicians. Always check first. You will find most parish musicians competent and cooperative.

GD Making particular choices Some classical , pop, and show tunes have become associated with weddings. Unfortunatel y, their lyrics are poorl y suited to liturgy either because they make no mention of the Lord , contradict the Christian view of marriage , or suggest themes more appropriate for receptions. The most popular ot these are "Wagner 's Bridal Chorus " (Here Conies the Bride), Mendelssohn 's "March fro m the Midsummer Ni ght ' s Dream," "Always and Forever ," "Annie 's Song," "Aquarius ," "Color My World," "Endless Love," "Evergreen ," "The First Time Ever I Saw Your Face," "Hawaiian Wedding Song," "I Don 't Know How to Love Him," "Impossible Dream," "Let It Be Me, Look for Love," "Through the Eyes of Love" (from Ice Castles), "Love Song from Romeo and Juliet ," "Music Box Dancer," "0 Promise Me," "Sunrise Sunset," "Theme from An Officer and a Gentleman ," "The Rose," "Time in a Bottle ," "We've Only just Begun." Incidentall y many of these were originall y scored for rock band or orchestra and sound poor when played on an organ or solo guitar. The Archdiocese does not encourage the use of these and similar selections at liturgy for the same reason bands

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Pope John Paul II: Marriage laws provide support and direction VATICAN CITY (CNS) — Church laws regarding marriage are pastoral tools to protect individuals, promote true married love and safeguard God's design for matrimony, Pope John Paul II said. "Conjugal love is not only or even especially a feeling; instead, it is essentially a commitment to another person , a commitment which is assumed with a precise act of the will," the pope told members of a Vatican tribunal . In his recent speech to officials of the Roman Rota , a Church marriage court , the pope said Church marriage laws are based on an authentic understanding of conjugal love "between two persons of equal dignity, but who are distinct and complementary in their sexuality." Pope John Paul said Church action is needed to counteract "a widespread deterioration of the natural and religious meaning of marriage" as seen in the growing number of couples who live together without marriage and in "die insistent public opinion campaigns aimed at obtaining conjugal dignity for unions between persons of the same sex." Married love means a total, lifelong commitment of self-giving, exclusive, indissoluble and fruitful love, he said. "In light of these principles it can be seen how incongruous is the attempt to attribute a 'conjugal' reality to same-sex unions," he said. "Love is not an end in itself and it cannot be reduced to a corporal encounter of two beings, but is a profound interpersonal relationship which reaches its crowning moment in full , mutual giving and in cooperation with God the Creator, the ultimate source of every new human life," he said. The Church's marriage laws, Pope John Paul said, are supported by its experience and are "rooted in the existential reality of the human person ." If marriage is seen only as a public celebration of a couples' attraction for each other and their feelings of love for one another, "how can one be surprised that such a marriage is destined to fail?" the pope asked.

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