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What is Pink Dot? Allies Show Support for their Gay Family, Friends

LGBT History Month

Evergreen Conference

Collegiate Pride Weeks

Frankmusik Gets Nekkid

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Obama to keynote HRC National Dinner The Human Rights Campaign announced that President Barack Obama will deliver the keynote address at the organization’s 15th Annual National Dinner on Saturday, Oct. 1, 2011 in Washington, D.C. Obama previously addressed the event in 2009.

“We are honored to share this night with President Obama who has a tremendous record of accomplishment for LGBT people,” said Human Rights Campaign President Joe Solmonese. “On the heels of the end to ‘don’t ask, don’t tell,’ we look forward to celebrating our victories and redoubling our efforts for the fights that remain ahead.”

This will be Obama’s second appearance at an HRC dinner. In 2009 he pledged to end DADT and continue his work repealing the anti-gay Defense of Marriage Act. He is likely to face mounting pressure from gay advocates to support the legalization of same-sex marriage. He is already being called on to denounce ballot measures in Minnesota and North Carolina that would place a Constitutional ban on gay marriages in those states. Obama has denounced Proposition 8, the ballot measure to invalidate a court ruling legalizing gay marriages in California, and advocates want him to place come out in firm opposition to other similar state ballot measures.

The event, which is expected to draw nearly 3,000 attendees, will be the evening of Saturday, Oct. 1, at the Washington Convention Center.

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Head of NOM steps down board of NOM and participate in a new branch of the group called the Marriage Anti-Defamation Alliance. It will support those who feel they have been attacked because of their opposition to marriage equality.

“My original intention in co-founding the National Organization for Marriage was to launch a politically sophisticated national activist organization to fight for the views of millions of Americans who believe that marriage is and should remain the union of husband and wife,” she said in a statement.

“I think it’s fair to say that NOM has been launched, and is now far more successful than even I dreamed (and I dreamed big!).”

Recently NOM convinced major Republican presidential candidates to sign a pledge to ban same-sex marriage. Gallagher also led the organization through many ballot initiatives including in New York, Maine, California and Massachusetts.

DADT: Trans service members, veterans still face discrimination

there if my kids were closer.”

Reactions from friends in her unit were extremely positive at the 20-year reunion, Leyden said.

“A lot of guys from my unit have been really great. They’ve said that I’ve fought and paid the price to protect the right to be who I want to be,” Leyden said.

Even after serving, trans people often face discrimination and many medicalrelated expenses are not covered in health benefits plans. There is no reliable statistic for how many transgender service members are in active duty but the Transgender American Veterans Association estimates there could be as many as 300,000 transgender people among the nation’s 26-million veterans.

While Leyden said she is excited about the lift on the ban for gay and lesbian service members, she looks forward to when trans people do not face any discriminatory barriers in the armed forces.

“I served, I fought, I defended my country. I am entitled to be who I am, I’ve earned that right and so have thousands and thousands of others,” she said.

As the queer community celebrates the repeal of the policy banning gays and lesbians from serving openly in the military, many transgender veterans and service members are experiencing a bittersweet emotion. The ban on transgender service members is still in place, barring many Americans from serving their country in the military.

Mattie Leyden Mattie Leyden, who served in the Marine Corps from 1989 to 1993 and was on the ground in the first Gulf War, said she is ecstatic for her gay and lesbian friends, but laments that the repeal could not be completely inclusive.

While serving, Leyden, who is a transsexual woman, was in the closet and terrified of being found out she was different.

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Maggie Gallagher stepped down as the chairwoman at the anti-gay National Organization for Marriage, the group announced on Thursday. She will be replaced

by John Eastman, a former dean of Chapman University Law School in California, who gained notoriety for his strong support for Proposition 8. NOM is rumored to have ties to the Mormon Church.

Eastman went so far as to criticize the backers of Prop 8 for being too conciliatory in the trial and argued that gay couples do not deserve any rights at all.

“Marriage has quite correctly been described as a bedrock of civilization. Protecting the institution of marriage is a critically important issue, and I’m honored to join such distinguished company on the board of such a phenomenally effective organization as the National Organization for Marriage,” Eastman said in a statement.

Gallagher will continue to serve on the

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“I grew up in the ’70s and ’80s. I didn’t know what a transsexual was,” Leyden said.

She had her first sexual experience with a man while serving, but there was something missing, she said.

“I was always trying to fix myself. I dropped out of high school because I thought the Marine Corps would fix me. I thought getting married and having kids would fix me. If I ever write my book, it’ll be titled, I Tried to be Gay. I liked men but there was always something missing. I had to come to terms with myself before I could move on,” Leyden said.

Leyden left her native California and came to Utah to transition.

“I know, people think I am crazy for coming to Utah to transition,” Leyden said while laughing. “But the trans community is really terrific there. I’d still be living

While we observe this tremendous, hard-fought victory for lesbian, gay and bisexual service members, we recognize the journey is not over. Transgender service members are still being forced to serve in silence... In addition, the military still lacks explicit nondiscrimination protections, equal benefits and an inclusive equal opportunity policy for LGBT people.”

—National Gay & Lesbian Task Force

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We thank Congress members from both sides of the aisle who passed repeal, helping President Obama keep his promise for open service. ... Today, we can hold our heads a bit higher knowing that our men and women in uniform have taken a giant step toward equality in service for all.”

—National Stonewall Democrats

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This has been a long time coming. After 18 years and more than 13,000 people discharged based on their sexual orientation, the end of the ‘Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell’ law is here.”

—Lambda Legal

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Today is not just the end of ‘Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell,’ it is the beginning of a new era in which government policies that discriminate based on sexual orientation and gender identity are rightly seen as shameful and outmoded. We salute President Obama for his leadership in bringing this inexcusable discrimination to an end. We also honor the thousands of men and women who were harmed by this policy, including many who made great personal sacrifices in order to speak out against it. While more work lies ahead in the movement for full equality, today we should celebrate how far we’ve come.”

—National Center for Lesbian Rights

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Huntsman calls booing of gay soldier ‘unfortunate and unnecessary’ Former Utah Gov. Jon Huntsman, who participated in a Republican presidential debate in Florida last week, said the treatment of a gay soldier asking a question about “don’t ask, don’t tell” was “totally unfortunate and unnecessary.”

Active-duty soldier Stephen Hill, serving in Iraq, recorded a question on YouTube asking, “In 2010, when I was deployed to Iraq, I had to lie about who I was because I’m a gay soldier, and I didn’t want to lose my job. My question is, under one of your presidencies, do you intend to circumvent the progress that’s been made for gay and lesbian soldiers in the military?”

A few members of the audience in the Orange County Convention Center began booing after the question was asked.

Candidate Rick Santorum said, “Yeah. I would say that any type of sexual activity has absolutely no place in the military.” He also stated he would reinstate the DADT policy.

Gay conservative group GOProud issued a statement blasting Santorum.

“Tonight, Rick Santorum disrespected our brave men and women in uniform, and he owes Stephen Hill, the gay soldier who asked him the question about DADT repeal, an immediate apology. That brave gay soldier is doing something Rick San-

torum has never done — put his life on the line to defend our freedoms and our way of life. It is telling that Rick Santorum is so blinded by his anti-gay bigotry that he couldn’t even bring himself to thank that gay soldier for his service.

Stephen Hill is serving our country in Iraq, fighting a war Senator Santorum says he supports. How can Senator Santorum claim to support this war if he doesn’t support the brave men and women who are fighting it?”

Santorum claims not to have heard the boos, as have several other candidates.

Huntsman seemed to agree with GOProud.

“When someone in uniform asks a question of a panelist in this case, the first response should be thanking the soldier for his or her service,” Huntsman told ABC News. “We all wear the same uniform in America. We all salute the same flag I have two boys starting their journey in the U.S military. We should take more time to thank them for their service as opposed to finding differences based on background or orientation.”

Former New Mexico Gov. Gary Johnson expressed embarrassment.

“That’s not the Republican Party that I belong to,” he said.

Gay soldiers seek missing pay The Department of Justice is fighting a lawsuit filed on behalf of 142 gay and lesbian service members who received a smaller separation package because they were discharged under the now defunct “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy. The DOJ has asked the federal courts to simply dismiss the suit filed by the American Civil Liberties Union looking for $2.1 million in compensation.

Justice Department attorney L. Misha Preheim did not argue the merits of the policy, but said the Department of Defense should be able to determine the separation

pay and that it is not the court’s responsibility to become involved in personnel issues.

Separation pay is given to service members who are involuntarily discharged after six years of service. However, being discharged for reasons such as alcohol abuse, drug use and, previously, under the DADT policy, could cut that payment in half.

The case was originally brought to the media’s attention by Air Force sergeant Richard Collis, who was discharged in 2006 after he was spotted 10 miles off base giving his partner a kiss on the cheek.

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LGBT family group releases safer-school kit The Family Equality Council, an advocate group for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender families released the 2011 “Back-to-School Tool Kit” for parents concerned about the safety of their children in school. Brent Wright, FEC director of programs, called the tool kit a valuable resource for the one million LGBT parents raising two million children in the country today.

“There is no doubt that the children of LGBT parents are more vulnerable to bullying, harassment and discrimination,” said Wright. “A 2008 report found that 42 percent of kids with LGBT parents reported being harassed during the previous 12 months at school.”

The 2011 Back-To-School Tool Kit offers LGBT parents specific tips to help make schools safe and welcoming places: Ask Questions: Ask the principal and your child’s teacher if they are aware of other LGBT families at the school currently or in the past.

Ask how school staff deal with comments like “that’s so gay” or other anti-LGBT slurs. Ask whether the staff has received training on how to support students with LGBT families. Ask the school librarian if the library contains books that include LGBT families. Find out who is on the school board, PTA and other influential groups at school and research their records regarding inclusiveness.

Be Out: Be as out as you feel you safely can be in your community. Meet with your principal and teacher to introduce your family. Introduce yourselves to other families at school. Let your child’s teacher know what language you use to describe your family relationships (e.g. Daddy/ Papa, Eva has two moms). Be a guest speaker in your child’s class, at a staff meeting or PTA meeting.

Get Involved: Parents can have a huge influence in their school communities when they get involved. Volunteer in your child’s classroom or help out in the school. Take on a leadership role — join the PTA, site council, diversity committee, or curriculum review committee. Make your voice heard — express your thanks when the school or district takes steps to be LGBT inclusive and vocally oppose any anti-LGBT policies or actions. Speak up at a school board meeting or email board members and district administrators about issues that impact your family.

Check Policies: Take a look at your school or district’s policies addressing discrimination, harassment and bullying to see if they include sexual orientation and gender identity/expression. If they don’t, work with administrators,

teachers and other parents to change them.

Fix Forms: If your school forms say “mother/ father”rather than “parent/guardian,” ask if they could be updated to include all families.

Provide Resources: Suggest specific, concrete ways the school could change to be more supportive of your family. Offer suggestions for age-appropriate books, videos, curriculum and other materials that include LGBT families. Donate some of these resources if you can. Offer suggestions for how to deal with potentially sticky situations like Father’s Day, Mother’s Day, family-tree assignments, or how to respond when other parents have questions about your family. Let your principal and teacher know about LGBT-related staff development opportunities, such as local trainers or conferences.

Build Community: Organize a get-together with the parents/guardians of other children in your child’s classroom. If there are other LGBT families at your school, organize an LGBT and Ally potluck at school. Start an LGBT school advocacy group in your district or region. There is great strength in numbers and in diverse voices advocating for fairness.

Expect More! Whether your school is just beginning the process of becoming a welcoming environment for LGBT families or has already taken great strides to do so, continue to raise your expectations. Nearly every school could take further steps to become even more welcoming and inclusive of LGBT families. Help your school move to the next level.

The kit and other resources for parents can be downloaded from the Family Equality Council website at familyequality.org/resources.

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Pink Dot campaign attracting queer and straight alike Support for queer family members and friends can come in subtle interactions with others. It can come in overt displays and admonitions of love, but making it known publicly can be difficult, said Lisa Tooley, who has a gay cousin.

“I like that gay prides are a place for my cousin and her friends to get together and celebrate, but I’ve never felt like I was the target audience,” said Tooley, who is a member of the Mormon Church.

Tooley, 23, and her cousin were raised by their grandmother and are as close as sisters. When her cousin turned 16, she came out to Tooley, and two years later is still on a journey letting her classmates and employer know about her orientation.

“I was raised Mormon and I love my faith, but it’s so important to me to have the chance to show my cousin I love and support her even more than a faith,” Tooley said. “I’m fully aware of the many hurtful and bigoted things members of my faith have said, but I would love to be a part of the bridge to make it easier for us to come together.”

Tooley said she is excited to attend the Pink Dot

event to show her cousin her support.

The message of family inclusiveness and being a voice for everyday people, regardless of political affiliation, faith or any other factor, is exactly what the Pink Dot is about, said Ken Kimball, an event co-organizer.

The Pink Dot campaign includes a month-long web series of YouTube videos and ambassadors showing their support for queer friends and family. The entire campaign will culminate on Oct. 11, 5 p.m., where participants are asked to wear pink and form an enormous pink dot at Spring Mobile Ballpark, 77 W. 1300 South, in Salt Lake City. The theme of the event is Support, Love, Courage.

Similar events have been held in Singapore, but this will be the first such gathering in the United States.

Ambassadors have so far included Sister Dottie S. Dixon; former Salt Lake City Mayor Ted Wilson and his wife, former Salt Lake City Weekly editor Holly Mullen; Latino activist Archie Archuletta, Parents and Friends of Gays and Lesbians Salt Lake Chapter president Kathy Godwin and her

DADT activist celebrates repeal with Utah visit

By Seth Bracken

Eric Alva is an accidental activist. The first American soldier wounded in Iraq during the 2003 invasion came out on Good Morning America, and his role in becoming a Human Rights Campaign’s spokesperson happened organically.

“I never really thought I’d become an activist,” Alva said. “I didn’t do it to seek attention, and it took me a while to admit that I am an activist. But here I am, with a message.”

Alva will be speaking at the Salt Lake Community College, Redwood campus, ,Oct. 11, 11:30 a.m., in celebration of National Coming Out Day. Following Alva’s presentation, there will be a panel discussion with audience participation. The free event is open to the public.

Alva served more than 13 years in the Marine Corps and was in the first wave of the ground troops in Iraq when he stepped on a landmine, triggering an explosion and lost his right leg.

After retiring from the military, Alva humanized the raging debate surrounding

husband Mike Godwin; First Unitarian Church Rev. Tom Goldsmith; KUER Radio producer Ken Verdoia; and Family Fellowship founders Gary and Millie Watts. Musician Kurt Bestor added his voice this week, including a video about why he chose this project to be his first public pronouncement of his support for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender civil rights.

“We want to create a space for the middle. You always hear the extremes on both sides yelling, and I think most people are right in the middle of it. This is your chance to have your voice heard,” Kimball said.

In addition to attending the event, members of the queer community are asked to bring along friends and family as a chance to show support, Kimball said.

“We want everyone to be there, this is the place to bring family members and friends to a very safe and politics-free zone. We’re removing the controversy so we can focus on the love and support,” Kimball said.

For more information, go to PinkDotUT.org.

tary members, according to the Williams Institute at the University of California Los Angeles School of Law. More than 14,000 service members were discharged under DADT and millions of dollars were spent enforcing the policy. A survey released by OutServe indicated that about 11 percent of lesbian, gay and bisexual service members would come out. And about 29 percent would come out to close friends.

the battle to repeal the anti-gay measure, “don’t ask, don’t tell,” which barred service members from being open about their sexuality. He became the HRC’s spokesperson for the repeal of DADT. “Some of my friends and people in my unit knew,” Alva said. “After so many questions about what I did on leave and why I attended the ball alone, it was bound to happen.”

Alva said he’d ask a friend to go grab some beers and shoot pool when he’d let them in on his secret and try to keep the rumors to a minimum.

“I was lucky that no one turned me in,” Alva said. “But it went over so well with everyone. If anything, it made my relationship with my friends that much better.”

On Sept. 20, the repeal of DADT was finally enacted and members of the armed services are allowed to be open about their sexuality.

The enactment of the law comes after Congress repealed the law, which had been on the books since 1993, last December.

The repeal benefits the estimated 70,000 Former Marine Eric Alva will speak at the Salt Lake active-duty lesbian, gay and bisexual mili- Community College Redwood Campus

Alva was standing behind the president as he signed the law.

“I was so close I could smell his cologne,” Alva said. “This really is a special moment.

The repeal of this law is overdue. Long overdue, really. And I really think it will open the doors to more conversations and events. People will be forced to deal with questions about benefits for partners and we can start to work on other issues that are so important to having equality for all.”

Alva also pointed out that the repeal of DADT is applicable only to gays, lesbians and bisexuals. Gender identity and expression are not included in the repeal and openly transgender people are still not allowed into the armed services.

Alva said he plans on continuing to advocate for equality in the armed services and ensure that the proper education and training are given after the repeal.

“It’s so important that service members will be able to be open. And while not all of them will, it’s so important to have that option,” Alva said. “My only advice for anyone before coming out is to find a support network. Go to the HRC, the Stonewall Democrats, PFLAG, anywhere you can find some support, just in case things go sour.”

The event with Alva is sponsored by QSaltLake, as well as the Speaker’s Bureau of SLCC and Coloring Outside the Lines. Q

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Police continue investigation into Dane Hall attack

By Seth Bracken

Salt Lake City Police Chief Chris Burbank held a press conference last week after The Salt Lake Tribune reported that police were looking into the investigation of Dane Hall’s assault as drug-related and not motivated by hate. The Tribune also released information about Hall’s prior arrest on drug charges. Burbank, however, denied that a theory related to drugs held any more credence than other theories and all avenues are still being investigated.

“There is no more credence to [Hall’s assault] being motivated by drugs than by hate ... We are investigating all angles,” Burbank said. “We pursue an assault. An assault on an individual occurred, which is inappropriate in our community and we’re not going to tolerate it, regardless of the motivation.

There’s no new information, this is not new information,” Burbank said. “We’re investigating an aggravated assault. What motivated that crime is also part of what we’re investigating. We’re looking at whatever could have done it.”

The motive of the crime is not likely to be known until after an arrest and interrogation of a suspect in the crime, Burbank said.

Hall has vehemently denied that drugs were at all related to the incident.

Hall was brutally attacked outside of Club Sound in Salt Lake City on Aug. 27.

As a result of the attack he was hospitalized for several days, had six teeth severely

chipped and his jaw was broken in three places. Hall said he did not know his attackers, and that they shouted gay slurs at him during the incident.

In a statement, Hall’s lawyer also wrote, “Hall underwent a blood test immediately after the attack, and it showed there were no illicit narcotics in Hall’s system and he did not have any illegal drugs in his possession.”

On Sept. 23 the SLCPD released the description of a single suspect as a white, male, adult in his mid-20s; 5 feet, 10 inches tall with a medium build; short or shaved, lighter-colored or possibly sandy-blond hair. He was last seen getting into a gray or silver, four-door, compact car with a hatchback. This vehicle may have a white, vinyl sticker, about 10 to 12 inches in size, in the rear window of the hatchback.

Anyone with information about the suspect is asked to call the SLCPD Dispatch at 801-799-3000. Or text the keyword “TIPSLCPD” plus the information to 274637 (CRIMES). A link to download the free TipSubmit mobile application is available on their website, slcpd.com. Tipsters always may remain anonymous.

Since the attack was first reported, rallies, fundraisers and community discussions have been organized in Utah and around the country.

Burbank said the attack on Hall is not related to other attacks on gay men, including one that occurred on the same evening.

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Gala planned to benefit QBA anti-violence reward fund

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d h A gala fundraiser to benefit the anti-violence reward fund is an event unlike any ”seen in Utah and will be held Oct. 5, 6:30 fp.m. at Studio 1053. The event will feature an Iron Florist competition, with some of Salt Lake City’s top florists producing the most amazing arrangements onsite in a 30-minute time period, and a silent auction and other fabulous displays and activities.

The fund was created by the Q Business Alliance, which is a group of Utah busidnesses owned and operated by the lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender community and stheir allies. The fund comes in response to recent violence against members of -the queer community in Utah, and it will provide reward money for information -leading to an arrest and conviction in bias-motivated crimes directed at members of the queer community.

“This reward fund sends a message to yperpetrators of violent crimes against our community that we have the money and Qresources to fight back, track down and

prosecute those who would harm our brothers and sisters,” said Michael Sanders, membership director of the Q Business Alliance and owner of Now & Again.

The Iron Florist competition includes participants from Modern Display, Every Blooming Thing, Diamond Designs, Roots, Window Box, Sean Oviatt Designs, Twigs, Especially For You, Provo Floral and Orchid Dynasty. The floral arrangements will be judged and then auctioned off.

Catering will be provided by Culinary Crafts and Le Croissant. The event will be held at 1053 E. 2100 South, in Sugar House.

Other sponsors of the event include ZumaPhoto, Culinary Crafts, Sprout Photo, ShutterBooth, KRCL, Now and Again and QSaltLake.

To purchase an admission, go to RewardsFundGala.eventbrite.com. There are individual and VIP packages available for $20 and $100 donations. For more information or to donate an item to the silent auction, go to QBusinessAlliance.com.

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Evergreen Int’l conference attracts hundreds

By Seth Bracken

The Evergreen International Conference held in Salt Lake City last weekend attracted hundreds of gays, lesbians and their friends and family. Evergreen strictly follows the traditions of the Mormon Church and teaches that homosexuality can be overcome and even reversed.

The group is not officially condoned by the Mormon Church, yet one of its leading authorities, Elder Jay Jensen, was the keynote speaker and he gave Evergreen a stamp of approval. He told the crowd that it is possible to find solace and healing through Jesus Christ.

“I love the Evergreen Constitutional Statement,” Jensen said. “We like the way Evergreen faces.”

The Mormon Church holds the stance that gays and lesbians should simply ignore their homosexual feelings and remain celibate or date and marry members of the opposite sex whenever possible. However, many Mormons still believe it is their duty to change and overcome their temptations, said conference attendee Jared (members are often identified by only their first name to remain anonymous.)

Jared, 17, sat through the sessions of the conference flanked by his parents on either side, in hopes to overcome his ‘temptations,’ serve a mission, marry a woman and enjoy a typical Mormon’s life, just like his two older brothers.

“I have two years to conquer this,” Jared said. “By the time I turn 19, I am going to have this whole same-sex attraction mess taken care of so I can go on a mission and serve the Lord. I know he’ll bless me if I promise to do his will.”

Jared’s parents said they encourage him to pray and read his religious texts daily and if he does so, God will answer prayers.

“We heard it in general conference last year. Packer told us that a loving heavenly father wouldn’t make me this way. I just have to overcome all my sexual feelings and learn true control,” Jared said.

He joined the swim team his freshman year to help make and build healthy, nonsexual friendships with other young men, Jared said. He hopes that by building these friendships, his sexual attraction toward them will diminish. However, he admits there’s been little to no progress in that area since he first started noticing he was attracted to men during puberty.

The Evergreen Conference is an annual event and includes workshops, speeches and prayers. This year’s conference included a presentation by David Pruden, executive director of Evergreen.

Pruden said changing sexuality is possible for those that find the deeper reason they are attracted to people of the same sex and address those issues. He said one of the leading reasons people are gay is because of a lack of non-sexual relationships with members of the same sex.

“Nobody is born with same-sex attraction,” Pruden said. “Same-gender attraction is not the same as homosexuality. Isolation from healthy same-sex relationships makes your unholy attractions more acute.”

Pruden railed against the American Psychological Association who says homosexuality is a healthy expression of human sexuality. The APA, with more than 154,000 members, is the largest and most comprehensive group of psychologists worldwide.

Pruden, on the other hand, has a degree in social work.

“The APA doesn’t get much right,” Pruden said. “(Homosexuality) is manageable and correctable. We know that for a fact.”

The APA does not endorse any therapies or groups, such as Evergreen, that would suggest changing sexuality is possible and it can even be detrimental to the mental health of the patient, said Jerry Buie, owner and director of Pride Counseling.

“I work a lot with gays and lesbians that have tried those therapies and my observation is that they are more severely and chronically depressed. They’re discouraged and often quite suicidal. The idea that their sexuality needs to change runs so deep, and these programs just reinforce that. Ultimately, it comes down to thinking if my sexual orientation doesn’t change, it’s because of my own lack of effort, which simply isn’t true,” Buie said.

In addition to promoting their own practices, the conference was riddled with other groups who promote the altering of sexuality. Groups such as Journey Into Manhood and the National Association for Research and Therapy of Homosexuality, were given prominent tables to promote their own conferences and events, which cost hundreds of dollars to attend.

While the Mormon Church denies any

affiliation with Evergreen, it hosts the group at the Joseph Smith Memorial Building at their headquarters in Salt Lake City and sends speakers and presenters to the events, including Jerry Harris, a counselor for LDS Family Services.

Harris echoed the assertion that homosexuality was not in-born and comes from other factors that can be addressed and overcome.

“Most major religious groups have organizations that support the treatment of

unwanted homosexual attractions,” Harris said. “It is one of the only issues that brings together Christians, Jews and Muslims.”

As Jared listened to the speakers, he grew visibly excited and scribbled notes throughout the day.

“I can do it. Just listening to these inspired men who receive inspiration from God lets me know that I can be normal and fit in with my older brothers and their families,” Jared said. “I want that more than anything else in the world.” Q

not as I do Anti-gay billboards erected traditional marriage.

Anti-gay representative charged with stealing to fund own wedding Maryland Rep. Tiffany Alston, who was a key player in derailing same-sex marriage in the state, was charged with embezzling money to pay for her own wedding. Alston, 34, is charged with writing herself checks and cashing them to pay for her nuptials expenses.

Charging documents accuse her of stealing $3,560. Alston, who is a Democrat, originally supported a marriage equality bill, but then voted against it saying it was what her constituents wanted. She said she supports the sanctity of

by church Rev. Tony Scott of the Church of Strayer in Ohio paid for nine billboards to be erected that condemn gays. He did it in response to a single billboard that said, ‘Being gay is a gift from God.’ Scott’s billboards, instead of being affirming, say, ‘Being Gay is NOT a Gift from God – Forgiveness, Love and Eternal Life Are.’ In an interview with a local newspaper, Scott said he doesn’t hate gays and went on to say, “my point is that I love them too much to let someone believe a lie. I love this city too much to let a lie be sown.” He called homosexuality a deviant

lifestyle and said gays and lesbians cannot be happy until they turn straight.

Fox News ignores repeal of DADT In a monumental step for gay rights, the repeal of the anti-gay policy preventing gays and lesbians from serving openly in the military was finally enacted on Sept. 20.

Fox News, in true conservative fashion, mentioned the repeal just 16 times in their 24-hour newscast. Compared to the 66 mentions by CNN and 84 by MSNBC, the Fox coverage continues a trend of ignoring queer issues, such as protests, the passage of the New York marriage equality bill and other stories.

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Lesbian activist Staceyann Chin will speak at the University of Utah Pride Week.

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Westminster College and the University off their Pride Week, Oct. 17, with the

eof Utah are hosting a long list of activi- film, The Butch Factor, and a discussion

ties, speakers and events during the week of Oct. 17-21, for their campus pride celebrations.

The U of U kicks off the week with the grand reopening of its LGBT Resource Center, Oct. 17, which underwent a renonvation, more than doubling in size. Activities include bingo with QSaltLake’s own Ruby Ridge. Throughout the week other activities include a showing of the Sundance documentary Becoming Chaz and a guest speaker Staceyann Chin, a lesbian activist who shares her struggles growing up in Jamaica.

“It really is going to just be a really terrific time for everyone,” said Cathy Martinez, the director of the center. “Most of the events are open to the general public and it’s a great time to get acquainted with the center and with campus life.”

“We try to offer a service that all students can utilize and we focus on offering a safe environment for everyone, no matter their background,” Martinez said.

“When people ask how many students I serve, I tell them every student on campus, which is about 32,000.”

The week will finish off, Oct. 21, with a ‘Gay-la and Silent Auction’ at the Jewish Community Center to raise money for scholarship funds for queer students.

Westminster College’s diversity group geared toward the queer community, which is called Alphabet Soup, will kick

about gender issues. On Oct. 18, 11 a.m.

Author John Corvino will speak at the Westminster College Pride Week

to 2 p.m., Alphabet Soup will host a volunteer fair geared specifically toward queer organizations. On Oct. 19, author John Corvino will give a presentation highlighting issues of specific concern to Utah’s queer community. The Royal Court of the Golden Spike Empire will take over the campus, Oct. 20, with a fabulous drag show, and on Oct. 21 the week will finish off with a closing social.

For a complete schedule and more information, go to sa.utah.edu/lgbt for the U of U, and to tinyurl.com/lgbtalphabetsoup for Westminster.

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Protest planned against Sugar House Chik-fil-A As a new branch of the popular fast-food chain Chik-fil-A opens in Sugar House this November, it will face an all-day protest from queer-rights and animal-rights activists. The protest comes as part of a nationwide movement against the restaurant chain which is well known for promoting the Southern Baptist principles of the founder and owner.

“They have a strong record against equality that is well documented,” said protest organizer Kyle Foote. “I think it’s important for us, as Salt Lake City residents, to be very careful about who we invite to be our neighbors. Does Chik-fil-A really espouse the values we want to have in our community?”

In January of this year, an individual franchise owner sponsored the anti-gay Pennsylvania Family Institute conference. Through the company’s Wingate Foundation, a large donation was also made to the anti-gay National Organization for Marriage.

The company’s stated mission is to “glorify God by being a faithful steward of all that is entrusted to us.” The company touts its support for traditional families and even runs a ‘marriage institute,’ where gay couples are not welcome.

The company’s treatment of animals is

also a cause for protest and those involved in animal-rights groups are welcome to attend, Foote said.

“We want this to be a multipronged defense attack and we’re going to have people there all day, from open to close, protesting in shifts,” Foote said. “Our goal is to have

about 200 people involved.”

The protest will be held on Nov. 10, 10 a.m. to 9 p.m. at the new location, 1206 E. 2100 South. Those interested in participating should go to the Facebook event page, Protest the Opening of Chik-fil-A in Sugar House. As the event nears, a schedule with time blocks will be distributed to ensure there are people staffing the rally all day, Foote said.

“Here’s a chance to show Chik-fil-A and other community members who is being hurt by anti-gay policies,” Foote said. “Even if you just stop by on your lunch break to protest, it can make a huge impact.”

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Qmmunity Gender Conference The Utah Pride Center is accepting submissions for workshops, discussions, art and other items for the annual gender conference. The deadline to participate in the third annual conference sponsored by TransAction, an inclusive advocacy group open to all transgender community members, friends, partners, family and allies, is Oct. 17. Applications are available through Dayne@utahpridecenter.org.

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8th Lotus Festival Urgyen Samten Ling, a center for traditional Buddhist meditation, practice and instruction, and Red Lotus School of Movement, will host the annual Lotus Festival. The event celebrates religious diversity and honor, and contributes to the rich tapestry of Buddhist and martial arts culture. This free event is open to the public and offers something for everyone. Watch martial arts demonstrations in the traditional Chinese and Japanese styles of T’ai Chi, Wing Chun Kung-Fu, Iaido Swordsmanship and Kendo.

There will be dance performances, a holy relic exhibition of rare Buddhist artifacts and delicious food.

WHEN: Oct. 7, 5 p.m.

WHEre: 741 S. 300 West INFO: UtahLotusFestival.com

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Colorado man faces prison for putting raw chicken in ex-wife’s vents. A Denver man convicted of placing raw chicken in his ex-wife’s vents, along with other random acts of vandalism, could face prison. Police said 58-year-old Ronald Smith also poured an unknown substance into a piano and erased a hard drive on his ex-wife’s computer. The vandalism caused thousands of dollars in damage. The jury in the case deliberated for six hours before coming back with a guilty verdict convicting Smith of second-degree burglary and criminal mischief.

Disgraced bisexual pastor to appear on ‘Wife Swap.’ Pastor Ted Haggard and actor Gary Busey will participate in an upcoming edition of the ABC series, Wife Swap. Haggard’s appearance comes just five years after his fall from his

position at the National Association of Evangelicals for admitting to purchasing amphetamines and a massage from a male companion.

Haggard has admitted to being bisexual and has recently started up another church. His wife recently wrote a book about her husband’s gay scandal titled, Why I Stayed.

Fewer young Americans getting married. New census data indicates that young Americans are not getting married as much or as young as former generations. In the past decade marriages among adults ages 18 and over dropped to 51.4 percent compared to 57 percent.

Among adults aged 25-34 years old, marriage was at 44.2 percent, a new low. Births have also declined by approximately 6 percent in the last decade.

And about 25 percent of families with children are headed by single mothers. Roughly 5.9 million Americans age 25-34 still live with their parents, this is up 25 percent over the last 10 years.

Drag For Justice The youth drag show to benefit survivors of bias-motivated crimes is in response to recent violent crimes happening in Utah.

Utah’s queens, kings, and androgyny are bringing their fiercest performances yet.

It is an open-house event for people of all ages. Monetary donations are highly suggested, but not required. All donations will be given to the individual survivors of these recent crimes.

WHEN: Oct. 22, 7 p.m.

WHERE: Sugar Space, 616 E., 2190 South INFO: UtahPrideCenter.org

Walk For Becker With the upcoming campaign season, Equality Utah has formed a walk in support of Salt Lake Mayor Ralph Becker.

Becker has been a major supporter of LGBT rights in Utah and has received numerous honors from the Utah Pride Center, including the Pete Suazo award.

He was key to the Domestic Partner Registry and nondiscrimination ordinances in Salt Lake City.

WHen: Oct. 1, 9 a.m.

Where: Jordan/Provo River Pkwy, 1180 N. Redwood Road INFO: EqualityUtah.org

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Queen Extravaganza Pageant planned for October About 30 years ago, Ema Katoa’s second cousin was infected with HIV and died shortly thereafter. She said she’ll never forget the reaction from the family and how her parents told people he died from a brain tumor.

“A lot of times in the Polynesian culture, you just don’t talk about being gay or lesbian,” Katoa, who is straight, said. “But I want to help fix that. All my closest friends are gay or lesbian, and they helped raise my nine children and nine grandchildren.”

Katoa, along with several others, is coorganizing a drag pageant with contes-

sports Avalanche in Houston

By Brad Di Iorio

Salt Lake City’s Mountain West Flag Football League finished regular season play and are preparing Team Avalanche to represent Salt Lake City at Gay Bowl XI, the National Gay Flag Football League’s championship. Gay Bowl XI will be held in Houston, Oct. 6-9, and will include round-robin play for seating in a double-elimination tournament.

The MWFFL season concluded with four teams battling for flag football superiority at Sugar House Park. Playoffs concluded in August with team JAM besting Diva’s Bistro and Bakery for the championship.

Team JAM also accomplished the best record throughout the season, winning almost all of their games. Prestman Auto placed third while Club Try-Angles placed fourth in the tournament.

League practice began in late April with

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eant is to show to the younger gay (Polynesians) that it’s OK to be yourself,” Leiataua said. “We want everyone to be accepted and loved.”

tants from Utah, Nevada, Hawaii, California and Mexico. Dubbed the Queen Extravaganza Pageant, the categories include introduction, talent, formal wear and question. The winner of the contest will receive $500 and the accompanying bragging rights. The show, on Oct. 22 at 7 p.m., will be held at the Elegant For Less event hall, 8700 S. 450 West, in Sandy. Tickets are $15 in advance and $20 at the door. A $35 VIP ticket includes dinner, drinks and access to the after-party masquerade ball. Everyone over 18, regardless of race, sexuality or gender identity, is invited to attend the show.

It’s being sponsored by Elegant For Less, Katoa’s event-planning business.

“I wanted to create a whole new pageant experience. If you go to the drag shows at the bars, people are laughing and it’s fun, but I want to show the queens on the stage that they are embraced and loved. This is going to be the real experience and a chance to see all the talented queens,” Katoa said.

Katoa has been involved in a group of Polynesian gays and lesbians, which she refers to as The Sisterhood, for about 18 years. The group meets regularly and can sometimes attract more than 100 people.

A large event like this has been needed for a long time, said Sakalia Leiataua, another of the event organizers.

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games held Thursday evenings throughout the summer. Each team had 12 to 17 players, including the MWFFL’s first female player.

“All are welcome to play in the league – male, female, LGBT or straight,” said Ryan Peel, MWFFL board member and Salt Lake City representative to the NGFFL. “We’re not concerned about anyone’s sexual preference or what gender they are. We just want to play flag football.”

Peel, who has played in the league for years, actually took on the role of referee this year along with fellow MWFFL player, Ralph Ingersoll. Peel and Ingersoll have organized and lead the league throughout the years with MWFFL founders, Mark Barr and Gordon Wilkins. Barr recently moved to New York, but will participate on Team Avalanche at Gay Bowl XI, as he spent the beginning of the season in Utah, coaching and playing quarterback for Club Try-Angles.

“As league leader, I hope the Salt Lake Avalanche continue the tradition of strong competition and good sportsmanship,” said Peel, who will not be attending the Bowl. “One of the great benefits of Gay Bowl every year is not just the friendly competition but the camaraderie that everyone feels by competing year after year.

This will be my first Gay Bowl in five years that I’ll miss.”

Peel, Barr, Ingersoll and other players, supporters and volunteers hosted Gay Bowl XIII in Salt Lake City where one of two Salt Lake City teams, the SLC X-Communicated, placed second out of 19 teams.

Last year at Gay Bowl X in Phoenix, Team Avalanche won the consolation bracket.

“We’re one of the smallest local leagues compared to the other local leagues that make up the NGFFL, yet we consistently, year after year, compete above our level,” added Peel.

Team Avalanche will have 16 players including Mike Madsen, who has played quarterback in the MWFFL for the last six years and lead the SLC X-Communicated to their second place finish in the championship game of Gay Bowl XIII. Ingersoll will attend as the team’s coach.

“As coach this year, we are focusing on a quicker offense and showing the opposing team a few looks of a different defense. We also have come up with some brand new plays to run this year,” said Ingersoll, who has based the offense around Madsen’s throwing arm and talent.

To attend Gay Bowl, players must come up with funds for flights, hotel stays and

food in the host city. To help Team Avalanche get to Gay Bowl XI, the MWFFL has put together ‘The Men of the MWFFL 2012 Calendar.’ Spearheaded by current MWFFL and Team Avalanche member, Jeff Carter, who enlisted his partner, Anthony Siciliano, to help create the first MWFFL calendar. The 2012 calendar features athletes in actual game play along with stills.

“It was something the team has thought about for a couple years but there was never enough interest,” said Carter. “Since I’m partnered with a photographer, I talked to him about donating his time and skill, and he agreed, with the consideration that some of the proceeds go toward charity.”

Carter and Siciliano brought on the Homeless Youth Resource Center, a program of Volunteers of America, and 20 percent of all sales will benefit the program.

Calendars are $20.

“We wanted a wide variety from the team to show our diversity,” said Carter.

“Both Anthony and I had a great time organizing and working with the guys.”

Calendars will be available at a calendar release party at Club JAM, Sept. 30 at 8 p.m., and by visiting facebook.com/mwffl. Q

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from the editor Evergreen hook-ups and hang-ups

By Seth Bracken

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alking into the Evergreen International Conference at the Joseph Smith Memorial Building, I felt butterflies in my stomach and took in my surroundings. It was my first time attending an event where the goal was to encourage participants to stop being gay and turn straight.

I was nervous, and all the preconceptions about the pious and faithful gathering were smashed just moments after walking through the door.

“Is this your first conference?” The plump, balding middle-aged man I was sharing an elevator with, asked.

“Yeah, it is. Yours?” I responded, happy to make a friend that might be able to show me the ins and outs of the conference.

“Nope, I’ve been to tons. I love ‘em. So many cute guys here, kind of like you,” he said as he took a step closer to me and smirked.

“You smell good, would you like to feel good?” He asked me as we landed on the ninth floor for registration.

Exiting the elevator quickly, I practically ran into another pleasantly plump, balding middle-aged man. Sensing I was flustered, he asked me if I was OK. “Yeah, I’m fine. I just had a very surreal experience. A guy totally came onto me in the elevator and I wasn’t exactly

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expecting that here,” I said offering my hand to my new friend, introducing myself.

“Well I can’t say that I blame him, you’re a cutie. What are you doing after the conference? I have my own place not far from here, would you like to come over for some fun?”

“Jesus Christ!” I blurted out far too loudly. “What the hell is going on? I thought all you guys were trying not to be gay.”

“We are, but no one is perfect,” he shrugged and walked away.

I was propositioned more times at a conference that was supposedly chang-

ing people straight than I ever have been at a Pride festival, gay bar or party. I had guys old enough to be my father putting their arms around me, bumping up against my leg and asking to take me home.

Throughout the day I was bombarded with religious dogma, but the overarching theme of the conference was that Lady Gaga is wrong: you aren’t born this way.

False statistics were bantered about and the American Psychological Association was attacked and demonized.

As married men propositioned me for sex, and very confused teens sat with their parents in what had to be an extremely awkward day, it seemed that the crowd was challenging the speakers’ assertion through their very existence. No one there chose to be gay. The diversity of age, body type and personality also combated the idea that sexuality is not an inborn characteristic. People from all walks of life were gathered and I became friends with construction workers, business executives and bankers.

It quickly became clear that the Evergreen method did not work. But equally as clear was that the method and rhetoric being spouted was damaging. Rather than expressing their sexuality in healthy ways, these men were relegated to attending the conference just to find a partner for sex and some sort of connection.

And Chad, the last Evergreen Conference attendee to hit on me, was as shameless as a Craigslist post.

“Look, I really just kind of want to see you naked. I’ll let you do whatever you want to me, just don’t tell anyone, especially my wife,” he said.

“Why are you doing this to yourself? Why not just come out and drop the whole charade of being religious?” I curtly responded, growing tired of the hypocrisy of the situation.

“I can’t. I just can’t. It would be like admitting defeat. If I keep it hidden, it’s like no one will ever have to know,” Chad said as he scanned the crowd looking for someone else that might be interested in his proposal. Q

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guest editorial Attacked again

By James Tidmarsh

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s 18-year-old Matthew Shepard lie in his hospital bed, struggling to hold onto his life, a rumor began to circulate on conservative websites and elsewhere; the 1998 beating, in which Shepard was tied to a fence post in a Wyoming field and left to die, didn’t have anything to do with his sexuality at all. Instead, the rumor said, “It was a drug deal that had gone bad.”

We will never know how Matthew Shepard would have responded to the rumor. He died in his hospital bed a few days after the beating. What we do know is that even though there was absolutely no truth to it the lie continues to persist in the blogosphere and even sometimes in mainstream media today.

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conference. According to QSaltLake, Utah’s only independent LGBTQ news magazine, Chris Burbank “denied that a theory related to drugs held any more credence than other theories and all avenues are still being investigated.”

The article also prompted Hall, the victim, to have to speak out in defense of his own character and story. In a statement

released to to the Tribune through his attorney yesterday afternoon, Hall writes “All I know is that I was attacked and that I heard my attacker shouting gay slurs during the attack. I hope the police can find out who did this and why, but this had nothing to do with drugs.”

In the statement Hall’s lawyer also writes, “Hall underwent a blood test immediately after the attack, and it showed there were no illicit narcotics in Hall’s system and he did not have any illegal drugs in his possession.”

No victim of any crime should ever have to worry about defending his or her character to a newspaper or anybody else

the straight line Come out, come out, wherever you are

By Bob Henline

Crimes committed because of race, gender and sexuality are almost always the victim’s fault

from a broken jaw and other injuries he suffered outside of a Salt Lake city night club, 20-year-old Dane Hall awoke yesterday to the headline in The Salt Lake Tribune that “Drugs not Gay Hatred..” may t have sparked his attack. e Why the Tribune chose to run the story uwe will never know, but what is clear is tthat the piece was fueled by sensationlalism and insensitivity. By running the piece, without having any evidence to support their headline, the newspaper apparently gave little thought to other evictims of similar attacks let alone to Hall.

Attacking the victim of a crime isn’t ganything new, the conservative fascist army is well trained in such tactics; the narrative is almost always the same.

Crimes committed because of race, gendder and sexuality are almost always the victim’s fault.

In response to yesterday’s article, Salt Lake City’s Chief of Police called a press

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ver the weekend I had an opportunity to participate in the Utah Stonewall Democrats’ strategic planning retreat. In case you don’t know, the Stonewalls are the LGBT caucus of the Utah Democratic Party. This is a purely member- and volunteer-driven group committed to the cause of electing fair-minded Democrats to local, statewide and national offices.

During one discussion, the subject of the Log Cabin Republicans came up. The LGR are basically the GOP equivalent of the Stonewall Democrats. Yep, LGBT Republicans. What I don’t understand is how a group of people would want to belong to an organization whose fundamental ideology holds them as second-class citizens. The Salt Lake County GOP platform is pretty clear on this point: “We recognize the traditional family as the fundamental unit of society. We agree with the Utah State Constitution, Article 2, Section 29, where it affirms that ‘Marriage consists only of the legal union between a man and a woman.’” The GOP national platform carries a similar statement.

Would you want to belong to an organization, and support candidates for public office, that have a philosophical objection to your existence?

Yet, in Utah this sort of dichotomy seems to be a common practice. Just last weekend, Evergreen International held its annual conference in Salt Lake City. Evergreen is an organization that “helps people who want to diminish same-sex attraction and overcome homosexual behavior.” To

me, that reads: “we want to help you to become the person we think you should be, instead of who you really are.”

While not officially an arm of the LDS Church, Evergreen’s conferences are held at the LDS-owned Joseph Smith Memorial Building and include talks from LDS authorities. This year’s bigot of choice: Elder Jay Jensen, General Authority.

To the LGBT-LDS folks out there, I ask you the same question: why would you

Why would you want to be a part of a religion that holds your basic existence to be a sin in the eyes of its god? want to be a part of a religion that holds your basic existence to be a sin in the eyes of its god?

Wait, wait, maybe that’s not entirely fair. According to LDS authorities, it’s not a sin to be attracted to individuals of the same sex, it’s only a sin if that turns into sex. So what you need to do is admit that you are attracted to people of the same

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sex, then live the rest of your life denying that attraction and either be celibate or marry someone of the opposite sex for purposes of sex.

Again I ask: why would anyone want to be a part of an organization that denies the right to be who they are?

In all fairness to the Mormons, they aren’t the only anti-gay bigots out there in religious clothing. We’ve all seen or heard the Westboro bigots. Several months ago I went to Ogden to debate a Baptist minister regarding his opposition to anti-discrimination ordinances, which was based upon religious bigotry. Those folks are out there, those groups are out there, but you don’t have to belong to them in order to belong!

This is America, people. While our laws haven’t caught up to our basic ideals of equality and justice for all, we are working in that direction. Everyone has the fundamental right to be who they are (insomuch as that doesn’t cause harm to someone else, of course).

We saw some serious progress last week, when “don’t ask, don’t tell” officially became a footnote in history. After the discharge of some 13,000 service personnel on the basis of bigotry, this ridiculous policy is finally gone. California’s inane Proposition 8 is working its way through the court system, and more and more states are finally recognizing that marriage isn’t between a man and a woman, it’s between two people who love each other enough to make that commitment to one another.

Do you realize what is making the difference today? Why these policies are being changed and governments are moving forward? It’s simple: more and more people are standing up for who they are and demanding to be treated equally, with respect.

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lambda lore Come out and make a difference

By Ben Williams

ontrary to popular belief, Oct. 11 was established as Coming Out Day, not because it’s Cleve Jones’s birthday, which is a happy coincidence, but rather because it was established to commemorate the 1987 Second March on Washington. Gay historians refer to the event as The Great March because of its success, size and scope. While The Great March today is rarely remembered except for by the few of us who were there, it left a lasting legacy, Coming Out Day, which has been an annual event since 1988.

The 1987 march on Washington drew more than a half million people to protest the Supreme Court’s decision that stated privacy in America was not a Constitutional right. Fifteen years later that decision was overturned. Young people who have come to sexual maturity in the last eight years have never known the stigma of being regarded as sexual criminals. For nearly 35 years of my adulthood, every time I had sex with a man I broke the law in Utah and in most other states. My love was illegal. The Supreme Court’s, Bowers v.

Hardwick opinion was so odious to gay activists everywhere that even a hardy group of Utah queers made way to Washington, D.C. to join the protest.

Utah actually played an important role in The Great March because of Mel Baker.

Mel had been a co-host on a KRCL program called Concerning Gays and Lesbians with Becky Moss. He left the program to serve on the National Planning Committee. I first heard of a march on Washington from Mel when he was pitching to the Gay and Lesbian Community Council of Utah for funds to help him get to D.C. However, I never thought I’d be going myself until early October of that year. Call it being moved by the spirit or whatever, but I knew I had to be there for that historic occasion.

I bought a round-trip train ticket, and with about $100 to my name I ventured forth. I was determined to be there even if I had to sleep on a park bench. I did not go alone. My ex-Marine drag queen friend, Marc Lamar, insisted that he was going too.

After three days of travel we reached Union Station in Washington D.C. We were surprised at the greeting by a contingency of Utahns who had arrived days earlier. “There beyond the throng of strangers were at least 16 people from my gay Salt Lake family! They all cheered and clapped for Marc and I, while Rev. Bruce Barton snapped pictures of us arriving in D.C., two ragged and weary sojourners. It was just wonderful to me. They made us feel like

heroes!”

On the day of the march, Oct. 11, it was a wonderfully cool autumn day. From the Lincoln Memorial we walked to the Ellipse which was filled with hundreds of thousands of people filing into marching order by regions of the United States. California, New York and Texas were their own region.

Utah wasn’t even listed on the program since we had no planning committee. Nevada was also left out because obviously they thought no one was coming from those states. So we just eased ourselves in between New Mexico and Colorado.

I was worried that no one would know that Utah was being represented so I man-

Michael Aaron got us chanting, ‘We’re sorry for Orrin Hatch!’ A cute kid then yelled at us, ‘We forgive you!’ aged to find an ACT-UP group which had created signs for all 50 states and territories. I claimed the sign that read UTAH ACT UP and brought it back to the Utah delegation. I was determined to let the rest of the nation know we were here! Every state in the Union was represented this time unlike in 1979 when Utah was not represented at all.

California’s delegation had an estimated 50,000 people. We had 19. But you could not believe the reaction we were getting from the crowds because we were there.

Some encouraging soul yelled at us, “Utah, small but proud and brave!” That is how we all felt. We had no pretty flags, no large signs or banners, but people were stopping us to take pictures of the Utah group.

It was like no one could believe that anyone would dare show up from Utah because of the perception that Utah gays were so oppressed; that it was a blooming miracle that we were in the march. At one point Michael Aaron got us chanting, “We’re sorry for Orrin Hatch!” A cute kid then yelled at

us, “We forgive you!” I truly believe that Utah being in the march meant a lot to people; that civil rights could grow and take root even in the harshest of conditions.

The brave souls that represented Utah — to the best of my ability to remember — were John Bennett, Chris Brown, Ragnar McCall, Michael Aaron, David Nelson, Guy Larsen, John Bush, Cory Cozzi, Joe Dewey, Val Mansfield, Marc Lamar, Steve Oldroyd, another John, and two more gay guys that I didn’t know, but one was on crutches for the entire march! Two lesbians also joined us en route who said they used to be from Utah. There were many more Utah folks there who marched under the banner of Affirmation in the section relegated for spiritual organizations. I know Rev. Bruce Barton and Bruce Harmon marched with MCC and Tony Feliz, John Butler and Robert McIntier marched with Affirmation.

After the march, I literally stumbled upon the Names Project’s AIDS Quilt which was displayed for the first time. It covered three football fields. Involuntarily I broke out in tears witnessing the reality of how AIDS was decimating our lovers and friends.

Later I heard Rev. Jesse Jackson address the multitude, calling for AIDS funding, civil rights protection and an end to antigay violence. Running out of steam, and too traumatized by the effect of the quilt to listen to more speeches, I left for Mel Baker’s place. I will always be grateful to Mel, not only for representing Utah in the planning of the event, but also for allowing me to crash on his apartment floor when I had little money and no place to stay.

On the way home to Utah I met one of the organizers of the AIDS Quilt on the train.

He told me all about the vision of Cleve Jones, and I became determined to create a quilt project in Utah. I met with Ben Barr of the AIDS Project Utah and we organized the Utah AIDS Memorial Quilt Project. It was my honor to create the first AIDS panel in Utah for Tracy Ross, a beloved member of the Royal Court.

Feeling like I had been to a gay revival meeting I was eager to spread the gospel of gay liberation. Within a year I formed Unconditional Support for Gays and Lesbians, became a co-host for Becky Moss on KRCL, helped with the formation of a youth group and a gay father’s group, established a gay historical society with Connell O’Donovan, organized community dances and founded Beyond Stonewall, a mountain retreat workshop for Utah’s gay people, and of course a gay archives.

I hope you all realize that you too can make a difference in our community. One person can. I did. So can you. Just open your heart to the possibilities and believe.

Heed the legacy of The Great March. Come out! Because we love you! Q

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snaps & slaps SNAP: Alaska judge backs tax breaks for gay couples A state judge in Alaska ruled that elderly gay couples are entitled to the same senior citizen property tax discounts that are given to married elderly couples.

Judge Frank Pfiffner said the state marital classification violates Alaska’s constitutional promise for equal protection. The American Civil Liberties Union challenged tax rules for three couples who were denied the same tax breaks they would have been entitled to if they were married. One of the couples, Julie Schmidt and Gayle Schuh, had been together 34 years.

SLAP: Anti-gay group protests new ‘Schweddy Balls’ ice cream The American Family Association is calling for a nationwide boycott of the new Ben & Jerry’s ice cream flavor named after a popular Saturday Night Live sketch, ‘Schweddy Balls.’ The sketch originally aired in 1998, and featured Alec Baldwin, Molly Shannon and Ana Gasteyer.

Baldwin played a baker named Pete Schewddy who shared his famous holiday treat with the two public radio hosts and famously said, “No one can resist my Schweddy balls.” The AFA released a statement calling for a national boycott of all Ben & Jerry’s ice cream calling the flavor ‘sexually suggestive.’

SNAP: Obama calls for gay rights in UN Assembly President Barack Obama recently addressed the United Nations General Assembly where he asked all nations to increase rights and protections for their gay and lesbian citizens. Obama said that in order for all nations to reach their full potential, all citizens must be free to reach theirs. He went on to say, “no country should deny people their rights because of who they love, which is why we must stand up for the rights of gays and lesbians everywhere.” However, Obama still publicly denounces the legalization of same-sex marriage.

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threw my fifth attempt at a column in the trash and decided to watch an old episode of Glee, rather than single-handedly destroy a rainforest or my fingernails.

Glee tends to get my brain juices going, sometimes even other ones, but mostly it just makes me sing off-key and dance without rhythm.

Anyhoo, I started watching a re-run of Glee in which Santana actually wears a shirt that sort of labels her a lesbian. Santana is someone, who in the past, would go to great lengths to hide the real her. This episode brought me to tears and laughter, and gave me a topic to unblock my writer’s block.

Labels. We can’t live with them, we can live without them.

There are many sexual orientations, there’s asexual, bisexual, pansexual, heterosexual, homosexual, etc. Since I’m nowhere near asexual and heterosexual, I scratched those off my list.

Even at 20-something I needed a label.

I hadn’t left high school. Well, not in my mind. So I tried to figure out if I was the preppy kid or the designated loner, the lesbian or the straight.

After coming out as lesbian when I was 21, I thought my bisexual days were long gone. That bisexuality was just a stop on the way to lesbian-land. My friends believed the same way. It was just how things were.

It took me a decade of going back and forth between men and women before I realized that just wasn’t the way things were.

Far from it! Many of us fall somewhere in the middle and then somewhere in the middle of that. For example, nowadays some kids have to come out as straight.

They can be wrapped up in the gay and lesbian world because their parents are in it, and even act on being gay before they ever

come out as straight.

As someone unlucky enough to be born after the turn of the century, the people I surrounded myself with weren’t so far evolved. I was cursed with everything being either/or, for example: left or right, bad or good, innocent or not so much, gay or straight.

The dichotomy of either lesbian or straight caused me to judge myself as not good enough. Sometimes I even considered myself a bad person, as some people called me a whore.

I tried hard to live up to one side of the rainbow; a task extremely difficult as I’m often more physically attracted to women but more romantically and emotionally attracted to men. I tend to get many things from women I don’t from men and vice versa. I thought going out with only women would finally make me a lesbian. While the fact that I came out as a lesbian, but still end up bringing guys home, made me certain there was something immensely wrong with me.

In this quest, I almost walked away from someone because they didn’t have the right equipment, no lady parts. I immediately regretted it as I started dating other people, who all fell short of the man who made me feel at complete peace for the first time in my life.

I stopped caring whether or not bisexuality existed and stopped blaming nonexistent beer if I slept with a man.

After losing the second person I ever loved, I realized I didn’t need the reverse discrimination anymore. I stopped listening to so-called friends joke about how being bisexual is not good enough, and I decided not to walk away from love. After all, love is really all that matters, not sexual orientation. A label is really just a label. Q

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ith the 10th anniversary of September 11 behind us it’s important to reflect on the state of national security. For weeks now, pundits have been waxing philosophically about whether or not America is truly safer today than it was a decade ago. Most of them are full of shit, of course. Making people take their shoes off and confiscating bottles of water and cans of Aqua Net at the airport is security theater, pure and simple. After all, the failures that allowed the terrorists onto those planes 10 years ago were at the CIA and FBI level, not because some baggage screener missed a box cutter.

Still, there’s one threat that not enough people are talking about. A threat so dire that it makes terrorists look like Teletubbies (still scary, mind you, but comparatively harmless). That threat is, of course, homosexuality. But people are afraid to speak out.

Afraid that the homosexuals will enact revenge on their families if they expose the terrifying truth.

One woman, however, is brave enough to speak in public about this terrible danger our nation is facing. That woman is Oklahoma state legislator Sally Kern.

You may remember that Kern has spoken on this issue in the past. A few years ago she called homosexuality “the death knell of this country.”

“I honestly think it’s the biggest threat our nation has, even more so than terrorism or Islam, which I think is a big threat,” she said.

She then compared homosexuality to cancer: “If you got cancer or something in your little toe, do you say, well, you know, I’m just going to forget about it because the rest of me is fine? It spreads. OK? And this stuff is deadly, and it’s spreading, and it will destroy our young people, it will destroy this nation.”

Mind you, Kern thought these comments were limited to the audience she was addressing. But somehow in this day and age where everyone has a cell phone and every cell phone has a camera and/or video recorder, her address was recorded and the Gay and Lesbian Victory Fund had a field day making the video go viral. Kern and

her right-wing apologists make a big deal about how the video was “selectively edited,” and yet Kern stands by what she said and continues to say the same thing.

In an Aug. 31 interview with Peter LaBarbera, president of Americans for Truth about Homosexuality, Kern restated and “clarified” her “gays are worse than terrorists” line of thinking, proving that her original comments were not taken out of context or misunderstood.

“You know if you just look at it in practical terms, which has destroyed and ended the life of more people?

Terrorism attack here in America or HIV/AIDS? OK?” she said. “In the last 15 to 20 years, we’ve had maybe three terrorist attacks on our soil with a little over 5,000 people regrettably losing their lives. In the same time frame, there have been hundreds of thousands who have died because of, uh, having AIDS. So which one’s the biggest threat?”

This is, of course, a completely faulty comparison. Not to mention the fact that it rests on the assumption that all gay people have AIDS and are using it as a biological weapon of sorts. Also, since Kern is so concerned about AIDS, I’m sure we can expect her to sponsor bills to increase HIV/AIDS research and prevention funding in Oklahoma.

Of course, to Kern, gays are a sort of biological weapon, sights set on all of the young people in America. Because gays are all about making everybody gay.

“And you know, every day our young people, adults too, but especially our young people, are bombarded at school, in movies, in music, on TV, in the mall, in magazines, they’re bombarded with ‘homosexuality is normal and natural.’ It’s something they have to deal with every day,” Kern said. “Fortunately we don’t have to deal with a terrorist attack every day, and that’s what I mean.”

See? That’s what she means. That gays are a constant, devious threat to the people of this nation and terrorists are only a sometimes threat; therefore being gay is worse than murdering someone. No duh and obviously.

And to think that Kern is baffled that people call her homophobic and a bigot. Q

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Since 1994, October has been celebrated

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To celebrate the storied past of Utah’s queer community and its reach, QSaltLake is featuring three people with Utah ties who have changed the world: John Amaechi, Matthew Breen and John Cooper. With very different paths, approaches and impacts, all three serve as an important reminder that one person can make a difference.

Gay History Month The list of influential people in history who identified as lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender is expanding daily. Glance through our list of some of the most influential queers that you may not have known that ‘bat for our team.’ QSaltLake is the exclusive local participant in National Gay History Project.

Horatio Alger: Gay While writer Horatio Alger Jr.’s work has come to symbolize the “rags-to-riches” possibilities of the postCivil War 19th-century American dream, his stories were also an outlet for his own desires and frustrations — fueled by his probable life in the closet.

oming out as the NBA’s first openly gay man solidified hall-offamer and former Utah Jazz player, John Amaechi’s, spot in history.

In his 2007 New York Times best-selling memoir, Man in the Middle, Amaechi made public what was already known by some of his teammates and close friends.

Amaechi joined the ranks of the Jazz greats in 2001 and is perhaps best known for scoring the first points in the new millennium and turning down a $17-million contract with the Lakers. In his 1999-2000 season he averaged 10.5 points with the Orlando Magic and was a standout player for Penn State from 1992 to 1995. He was named First Team Academic All-American during his collegiate career. He was the first, and so far the only, Brit to be in the NBA Hall of Fame and he has been a part of two European championship teams.

Unlike some other players, and the traditional stereotype, Amaechi is an intellectual that focused on his studies and went on to earn his doctorate degree after leaving the world of professional sports. He now runs his own practice as a psychologist in England, where he grew up. His philanthropic enterprises include a non-profit sports center for urban communities. More than 2,000 children a week utilize the program. He is also working with the 2012 Olympic Games in London doing volunteer coordination for diversity and inclusion.

Amaechi said he enjoyed his time in Utah and visits occasionally, but living a semi-closeted life was more difficult than he would have liked.

“I enjoyed getting involved with groups and people who were interested in the same things I was, outside of sports,” Amaechi said. “I relish the memories of sitting around in a coffee shop in the 9th and 9th district, just talking with friends.”

Coming out of the closet while playing would have been extremely difficult, if not impossible, he said.

“I wish that I would have been able to come out. I really do, but knowing the owner at the time and the coach at the time, it just wouldn’t have been impossible,” Amaechi said. “Keeping that hidden absolutely affected my play. Anything that can distract from your absolute focus will be detrimental to your play, and keeping all of that hidden was very difficult.”

Amaechi used gender-neutral pronouns when discussing his personal life and avoided as many specifics as possible.

But the landscape is changing, and it might be possible to have openly gay players, he said.

“I think the NBA, like some other sports, has improved in their level of acceptance,” Amaechi said. “But there’s still so much more to improve. So much more to do, and other sports, the NFL for example, have even further to go.”

Amaechi didn’t come out as gay to be a role model or to pioneer, he said. But he does relish the opportunity to help others, and being an example is his favorite part of once being a professional athlete.

“I think I had a choice to come out at the age of 16. Of course if I had, I’d be a happy, chubby psychologist living in Manchester,” Amaechi said. Q

Katherine Lee Bates: Lesbian

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Her first version of the poem “America the Beautiful” appeared in the Congregationalist on July 4, 1895. She is also credited with originating the idea that Santa Clause has a wife. She lived with her partner Katherine Coman.

Leonard Bernstein’s first major work, Symphony No. 1, “Jeremiah” (1943), received New York Music Critics’ Circle acclaim as the best new American orchestral work of 19431944. In 1956 and 1957, Bernstein composed “Candide” and “West Side Story,” respectively.

James Buchanan: Gay

Cary Grant: Bisexual

More than 150 years before America elected its first black president, Barack Obama, it most likely had its first gay president, James Buchanan (1791-1868). Buchanan, a life-long bachelor, shared a residence with William Rufus King, a Democratic senator from Alabama who later became his vice president, for several years in Washington, D.C.

One of Hollywood’s most distinguished actors, Cary Grant was named one of the greatest male American screen legends by American Film Institute.

Grant starred in more than 70 films and earned two Academy Award nominations for Best Actor. While Grant married five women and fathered a child with his fourth wife, he was sexually active with men. Between marriages, Grant often resided with fellow actor Randolph Scott.

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William Rufus King: Gay

Edmonia “Wildfire” Lewis: Lesbian

William Rufus DeVane King, the 13th U.S. Vice President, has the distinction of having served in that office for less time than any other vice president. He died just 25 days after being sworn in. He is rumored to have been romantically involved with President James Buchanan, who he served under.

Edmonia “Wildfire” Lewis (1843-1911) stands out for her courage and willingness to live a life defined by her own sense of agency and independence.

Despite her mixed racial/ethnic heritage, she is considered one of a few AfricanAmerican artists to develop a fan base that crossed racial, ethnic and national boundaries.

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wo years before the Stonewall Riots in New York City and 10 years before the election of Harvey Milk, the first openly gay man elected to public office, a newsletter known as the Los Angeles Advocate began circulating. More than 44 years later, now called The Advocate, it is the longest-running, and one of the most widely distributed, queer publications in history. Focusing on news and entertainment, it has featured some of the most prominent members of the queer community as writers and subjects.

Former Salt Lake City resident and editor-inchief of The Advocate, Matthew Breen, 37, is using the history and legacy of the magazine to push it into a new digital age, hopefully attracting a new generation of readers.

“We are absolutely still very relevant and offer content and viewpoints that can’t be found anywhere else,” Breen said. “There’s still plenty of new readers to reach and with changes to our website and social media strategies, I think we’re getting there.”

Breen took the helm of the magazine in March of this year. He’s utilizing his experience working with the Sundance Film Festival and graduating from the University of Utah with a degree in English to ensure that The Advocate continues the tradition of being the premier queer news source in the nation, Breen said.

Breen’s family moved to Sandy, Utah when he was 3 years old. He grew up as an outsider, being one of the few kids in the neighborhood that wasn’t a member of the Mormon Church.

“The space that was present because my family wasn’t Mormon was tangible. That separation can be subtle but insidious,” Breen said.

“I’d hear damaging remarks like, ‘Oh you’re so nice, I just assumed you were Mormon.’ That group-think and pressure to exclude people who are not like you is very powerful in some parts of Utah.”

Breen left Utah shortly after graduating from college in 1996 and coming out as gay. Along with the Sundance Film Festival, Breen was the executive editor at Out Magazine, program director for the Austin Film Festival and the film programmer for the West Los Angeles Film Festival.

“I think my true passion really lies in arts and entertainment and I have a special place in my heart for films,” Breen said.

Breen said he misses the mountains and breathtaking beauty of Utah and he cherishes the lessons he learned while living in the Beehive State.

“I hope my work, along with all the talented and hard-working individuals here, helps everyone, especially people in Utah,” Breen said.

Michelangelo di Lodovico Buonarroti Simoni is considered one of the greatest artists of all time. Two of his best-known works are the sculpture, David, and his design and painting the ceiling frescoes of the Sistine Chapel in Vatican City.

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Queen Victoria awarded Florence Nightingale the Royal Red Cross in 1883. In 1907, Nightingale became the first woman to receive the Order of Merit. Hospitals, foundations and other organizations in her name continue to advocate for improved health care.

Stephen Sondheim is hailed by The New York Times as the greatest artist in American musical theater. His most famous scores include “A Funny Thing Happened on the Way to the Forum,” “Sweeney Todd,” and “Into the Woods,” for which he wrote both lyrics and music, and “West Side Story” and “Gypsy,” for which he wrote the lyrics.

transformed the role of First Lady. She served as a diplomat and was a tireless champion of international human rights. While First Lady, Roosevelt developed an intimate relationship with Lorena Hickock, a journalist who covered the White House. The relationship lasted for the rest of Roosevelt’s life.

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Sundance Film Festival director worked his way to the top

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t was a simple layover in Salt Lake City that introduced John Cooper to the Sundance Film Festival. More than 20 years later, he’s now the director of one of the largest and most influential independent film festivals in the world.

Cooper was an independent film lover at an early age, and even sneaked into the New York Film Festival because he couldn’t afford tickets.

Through mutual friends on his layover he met people involved in the Sundance Film Festival who asked him if he wanted to volunteer. He took the offer. Returning later to work in the film labs, Cooper worked his way up the ladder and went from volunteer to being in charge of the entire festival. He is the second person to hold the position, and he took over for Geoff Gilmore, who held the post for nearly two decades.

“It was really very fate-oriented,” Cooper said.

“It was never really planned out, it just sort of happened.”

While not a Utah resident, Cooper spends the entire festival in the state and visits frequently.

“I love it in Utah. I love the relaxed attitude and gorgeous mountain air,” Cooper said. “And it has changed so much in the past 20 years.”

Cooper studied theater in college, but independent film was where he saw the implementation of many concepts and principles he learned about in his classes.

“I think (film) changes people’s lives. It changes people’s attitudes. When a film tells a story on screen, a story that is personal, you’re meeting different types of people as opposed to as a statistic or fact,” Cooper said. “I believe that people are changed by other people, not statistics.”

Cooper is in his third season as director of the festival and has helped introduce the world to Academy Award-winning films and other stories that are touching, humorous and powerful.

Some of the films shown under his direction include Precious, Howl, Waiting for Superman

and many others.

The festival has a long, storied tradition of embracing queer stories and is one of the first festivals Cooper participated in. A Long Time Companion, one of the first films to address the subject of AIDS, won the festival’s Audience Award.

The selection of queer films happens organically, Cooper said.

“The selection process is actually very simple.

We look for original stories or stories that are told in an original way,” Cooper said.

He’s just begun viewing film submissions for this season, and he’s excited. This year’s films will be building off of the enormous success of last year’s festival, and the amount of submissions this year has skyrocketed.

“All I can really say is I am really optimistic and excited for this year’s festival,” Cooper said.

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Friedrich Von Steuben: Gay

Pyotr Ilyich Tchaikovsky: Gay

Leonardo Da Vinci: Gay

Before his arrival in Valley Forge in 1778, the Revolutionary Army had lost several battles to Great Britain and, without him, the United States of America might still be the British colonies.

If George Washington was the father of the nation, then von Steuben, a gay man, was the father of the U.S. military.

Pyotr Ilyich Tchaikovsky is one of the most popular composers in history. His best-known works include the ballets “Swan Lake,” “The Sleeping Beauty,” and “The Nutcracker”; the operas “The Queen of Spades” and “Eugene Onegin”; and the widely recognized Fantasy Overture “Romeo and Juliet” and “1812 Overture.”

Leonardo Da Vinci was the archetypal Renaissance man. His curiosity and genius led him to make observations, experiments and breakthroughs in a variety of fields including engineering, architecture, math, anatomy, optics, astronomy, geology, biology and philosophy.

Alice Walker: Lesbian Alice Walker is an award-winning writer, activist and self-proclaimed “Womanist”—a term she coined in her book In Search of Our Mother’s Gardens (1974) to describe black feminists.

Her most famous novel, The Color Purple (1983), won a National Book Award and made Walker the first AfricanAmerican woman to receive a Pulitzer Prize for Fiction.

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John Waters: Gay

Andy Warhol: Gay

John Waters is an award-winning screenwriter and director known for his obsession with the seedy side of life.

Affectionately dubbed by critics “The Pope of Trash” and “The King of Sleaze,” Waters’s work includes a string of independent cult classics, blockbuster movies and Broadway shows.

With his pioneering image-appropriating Pop Art, Andy Warhol is one of the most influential artists of the 20th century.

Galleries rejected his early drawings due to their overt homosexual content. In the 1960’s, Warhol appropriated images from popular culture to create his iconic “Campbell Soup Can,” “Disasters” and “Marilyn” series.

Tennessee Williams: Gay His award-winning plays include “A Streetcar Named Desire” (1947), “The Rose Tattoo” (1951), “Cat on a Hot Tin Roof” (1955) and “The Night of the Iguana” (1961).

Williams and his partner, Frank Marlo, were together for more than 10 years. Their relationship ended when Marlo died of cancer in 1963.

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Walt Whitman: Gay Walt Whitman is considered by many to be America’s greatest poet. He liberated poetry from the constrictions of European models and created a genuinely American style of verse. Best known for Leaves of Grass, his groundbreaking volume of 12 untitled poems first published in 1855.

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By Kyle Foote

hen you’re the one suffering from any form of bipolar and beginning a manic phase, you may not catch the symptoms early and put a stop to it all. That’s why friends, family members and trusted medical professionals, plus the individual need to have

a strategy for catching the red flags that signal someone is about to go into a manic phase. After all, catching it early can save thousands of dollars in medical bills, confusion and ending up in unusual or unsafe places that can occur with a full-blown manic phase.

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When a person suffers from bipolar disorder, there are two swings on this particular roundabout of mental illness. The first is hypomania or a manic phase or episode. This is a period of time when an elevated, wide-awake, expansive or notably irritable mood is present and lasts for at least one week. Symptoms can include: excessive involvement in pleasurable activities that have high potential for painful consequences (e.g., unrestrained buying sprees, sexual indiscretions or foolish business investments); decreased need for sleep; racing thoughts and flight of ideas; and extremely talkative or feeling pressure to constantly talk.

One bipolar patient left home after 20some years of marriage, moved into an apartment in another state with someone she’d only known for several weeks, and took out an extended lease on an apartment well beyond her financial means. Fortunately, this person got help for her brain disorder and is back home safe and sound and with a strategic plan in place for capturing the next manic phase before it leads to such rash decisions and painful consequences for the people who love her.

Most mania sufferers have said that the biggest challenge is recognizing the initial symptoms of mania. For some people, they cannot recognize when their thinking is off track or delusional, which makes it tougher to pinpoint the beginning of a phase. Having a positive support network of people you trust that have some practical strategies for coping with a manic episode is a real plus.

It’s easier to “check our reality” when we have trusted people we can confide in when we feel our grasp on reality may be slipping.

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health, physical health and stability. Positive strategies to help calm or quiet a beginning mania can be as simple as practicing meditation, learning some deep breathing relaxation techniques, reading, long walks with trusted humans or a pet and even watching comedy movies. Of course, consulting a physician is part of the process too, but there are things the bipolar sufferer can do without facing anything as severe as a lengthy hospital visit or changing their medicine cocktail.

Part of coping with mania, that is part and parcel of the bipolar course, is to accept and understand that episodes will occur and will keep occurring.

Being vigilant about staying healthy – both mentally and physically — is an anchor to stability. So, take hope.

Things can be put back into place in an even healthier way. By learning what the red flags are and taking healthy steps to stop it in its tracks, people can lessen the severity of an episode and support staying healthy and stable. It takes an informed support network and some creativity, but coping with a manic episode in its early stages means a shorter duration, less irrational choices and less suffrage. All it takes is a simple plan supported by trusted family and friends. Q

Fortunately, this person got help for her brain disorder and is back home safe and sound

Kyle Foote facilitates a free NAMI Connection Support Group for members of the LGBT community who suffer from a mental illness. The group is held Monday nights, excluding holidays, 7 p.m., at the Downtown campus of the Salt Lake Community College, across from Library Square. (231 E. 400 South, #111) For additional information contact Kyle at facebook. com/newtopic or visit namiut.org.

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By Tony Hobday

Last weekend I went on my last camping trip of the summer — and great balls of Metamucil, it was like being on a Shady Pines retreat! The campers included myself, my dear friends Blaine and Steve, and their parents. We talked about difficult bowel movements and orthopedic walking canes, we played gin rummy and connectthe-liver-spots, and we even tried horse shoes but there were too many injuries, most commonly hip dysplasia. All-in-all, it was a blast! The parents are freakin’ amazing and accepting peeps, and I sure love ’em.

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thursDAY — Fashion Week in Park City is a

fabulous two-day event. Tonight, update your fall wardrobe with a “new-to-you” couture swap.

Bring your fashion-current couture (and handbags), and remember that all items must be freshly laundered and in excellent condition. On the 30th is the Fashion Stroll, in part by Farasha Boutique. The evening is a combination of art and fashion. Park City galleries will be displaying and selling the work of up-and-coming designers, in addition to fine art offerings. Featuring clothing, jewelry, accessories and shoe designers from Utah and abroad.

6–9pm, through Sept. 30, Couture Swap is held at the Kimball Art Center and is $125 per person; Fashion Stroll is held on Main Street, Park City and is free. For more info email marenmullin@gmail.com or gwhelehan@ pancanvolunteer.org.

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friDAY — I’ve been waiting, blue-balled, since 2009 for this night to arrive. Who’da thunk Kathy Griffin could make my balls turn blue? Anyhoo, the Emmy-winning, multi-faceted performer with fire wit, and hair to match, is sure to unleash a bounty of chuckles from our “gay army” because, you know, she is our comic “warrior princess.”

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7:30pm, Abravanel Hall, 123 W. South Temple. Tickets $35–75, 801-355ARTS or arttix.org.

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Uh ... what was I doing? Oh yeah, this hot little man band is back in concert. Don’t miss out on their hits like “Rhythm of Love” and “Hey There Delilah.”

7:30pm, SLCC Lifetime Activites Center, 4600 S. Redwood Road. Tickets $10–20, 801-467-8499 or smithstix.com.

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QQ Repertory Dance Theatre presents Vanguard, featuring the revolutionary work of America’s groundbreaking leaders of the avant-garde and postmodern dance movements. Pieces include Merce Cunningham’s “Scramble,” and “Trio A” and “Chair Pillow”

by Yvonne Rainer.

7:30pm, through Saturday, Jeanne Wagner Theatre, Rose Wagner Center, 138 W. Broadway. Tickets $15, 801-355-ARTS or arttix.org.

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friday — William Shakespeare’s classic Romeo & Juliet returns to the Utah stage — but now with the delectable and talented Jesse Pepe as Romeo. I first fell head-over-heels with Jesse when I saw him perform in SLAC’s Dark Play ... amazing! So even though we know everything about this tragic love story, Jesse should renew our love for it.

7:30pm, through Oct. 15, Allred Theater, Val A. Browning Center for the Performing Arts, WSU, Ogden. Tickets $8–11, 1-800-WSU-TIKS.

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John Durang’s Baby with the Bathwater, a gendervariant exploration of growing up. Feeling far too polite to check if their newborn child is a boy or girl, a nervous young couple decides it’s a girl and name her Daisy; a decision that could haunt Daisy for the rest of her life.

8pm, through Saturday, The Sugar Space, 616 E. Wilmington Ave. Tickets $10, 888-300-7898 or thesugarspace.com.

7pm, Tower Theatre, 876 E. 900 South. Free, 801321-0310, utahfilmcenter.org.

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tuesday — The queer-

friendly alternative rock band Foo Fighters comes to Salt Lake City promoting their latest album Wasting Light.

Some of their notable hits include “Walking After You,” “Learn To Fly” and “Rope.”

7pm, Maverik Center, 3200 S. Decker Lake Dr. Tickets $36.50–56.50, 801-988-8800 or maverikcenter.com.

wednesday — For more

than a decade Odyssey Dance Company has been spooking the masses with the holiday classic Thriller. This “Halloween Spectacular,” a sort of tribute to the late Michael Jackson, will showcase returning numbers such as ‘Curse of the Mummy,’ ‘Children of the Corn,’ ‘Jason Jam’ and ‘Lost Boys.’

saturday — Beethoven wrote one opera, and the Utah Opera is doing it, baby. Opening the operatic sea- 7:30pm, through Oct. 29, Kingsbury Hall, 1395 E. Presidents Circle, UofU. Tickets $25–40, 801-581son is Fidelio, which tells the story 7100 or kingtix.com. of how Leonore, disguised as a prison guard named “Fidelio,” rescues her husband QQ Salt Lake Acting Company’s 41st season Florestan from death in a political prison. opener is the six-time Tony award-winning Sung in German with English supertitles.

God of Carnage. The story portraits two 7:30pm, through Oct. 16, Capitol Theatre, 50 W. 200 sets of upper middle class parents having South. Tickets $16–85, 801-355-ARTS or arttix.org. a cordial meeting in reaction to a brawl between their sons. In the immediacy of monDAY — Pygmalion one afternoon, the play comically pits child Productions and the Utah against child, couple against couple and Pride Center present a cefinally spouse against spouse. lebrity reading of openly gay

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playwright Terrence McNaltuesDAY — Eliza Doolittle, a dirty, common flower girl blos- ly’s Some Men, a play consisting of a series of interwoven stories which chronicles and soms into a glorious rose under the tutelage of one Professor contrasts the lives and attitudes of gay men Higgins and becomes My Fair Lady ... well, not mine exactly, because I’m a raging homo who simply adores musicals. Phffft! in the U.S. over the past 80 years. Celebri7:30pm, through Nov. 26, Hale Centre Theatre, 3333 S. Decker ties include Justin Kirk (Weeds) and Josh Lake Drive. Tickets $15–26, 801-984-9000 or halecentretheatre.org.

Stamberg (Drop Dead Diva).

thursday — The Hive Theatre Company presents

Charles Watson. Cult icon Divine stars as a spoiled teen who gets pregnant and soon becomes a career criminal ... makes me happy that I can’t get prego!

7:30pm, Jeanne Wagner Theatre, Rose Wagner Center, 138 W. Broadway. Tickets $50–300, 801-355ARTS or arttix.org.

QQ As a precursor to a visit from gay director John Waters on Oct. 13, the Damn These Heels film series is screening Waters’ 1974 dark comedy Female Troubles. Waters dedicated the film to Manson family-member

7:30pm, Salt Lake Acting Company, 168 W. 500 North. Tickets $15–42, 801-363-7522 or saltlakeactingcompany.org.

QQ HTBW! (Holy Tornado Bat Woman!)

Could it get any gayer? The Grand Theatre is not only mounting a production of the Wizard of Oz, but will also be holding a screening of the movie with a sing-along on Oct. 17. Also on that night is the Grand Ruby Slippers Awards — to learn more about the contest, visit grandrubyslippers.com. I should’ve studied at SLCC, I could’ve been more gay-fabulous than I already am!

7:30pm, through Oct. 29, Grand Theatre, 1575 S. State St. Tickets $10–24, 801-957-3322 or thegrand.org.

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book review

‘Hell Hounds of High School’

By Patricia Marie Budd Review by Tony Hobday

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n the 2011 semi-biographical Hell Hounds of High School, Canadian author Patricia Marie Budd develops an environment personal to her own experiences as a 19-year veteran Catholic high school English teacher.

Written perceivably for young adults, parents and teachers, Hell Hounds is, at best, an intermediate educational tool.

The protagonist in Budd’s second novel is a recovering addict, Mrs. Priscilla Bird; she is a feisty, unequivocal Catholic high school English teacher, whose husband has been instrumental

in her survival not only as a recovering addict, but too as an educator. Plus, he’s rid her of using swear words, though the dialogue is riddled with them: “a-hole, f-you, f-in’ b-, jacka-, bulls-,” and so on.

Aside Mrs. Bird in the hallow halls, of what is commonly called H.E.L.L., is a handful of teachers and administrators who spend too much of the book balking the institution, all the while succinctly trashing the students. In fact, an entire chapter (luckily the chapters are short) is dedicated to a roundtable whine fest about student coddling: students take no responsibility for their actions (there’s a leap). The chapter ends: “We need to make them understand that they need to do the work,” Wood emphasizes. “We can’t do it for them.”

“You are so right,” Bird concurs. “The fact is, the more we feed education to them with a silver spoon in an attempt to shoe it down their throats, the less we — no, the less they — get in return for our efforts.”

“So what do you suggest we do instead?”

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Motioning with her own (plastic) spoon to illustrate, Bird explains, “I don’t know, but one thing is for sure — in order for them to truly learn anything, they have to lift the spoon themselves.”

The student characters summoned by Budd are somewhat mundane and stereotypical; there’s the bad boy, Greg, who is harboring a dark secret; there’s an obese girl whose self-esteem is so low she eats lunch daily under a stairwell; there’s an effeminate boy who everyone thinks is gay (including the teachers); there’s the popular, pretty girl whose pièce de résistance is shedding tears to get her way; and there’s the ill-witted jock.

In another chapter’s end, the obese girl, Mary, comes to a rather shoddy revelation after being ridiculed in the classroom. “No, Mom, there are no friends here for me, but I don’t care because I

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have you!” Mary knows what she has to do now.

“Mrs. Bird is right. Those other kids don’t mean anything.” Mary smiles. The other kids pick on her because she lets them, because she is always afraid. Well, she says firmly to herself, I am no longer afraid!

Though Hell Hounds is far from groundbreaking, the character of Mrs. Bird is much more than two-dimensional unlike most of the other characters, and she is uninhibited and entirely likable — an easy flowing testament to the author. These two, Bird determines, are forming a drunken association that may lead to foolish maneuvers on their part.

Mrs. Bird motions to Pitts and offers him whispered advice, “Don’t dip your wick in the company ink.”

As an educator, according to Mrs. Bird, the goal is to poop out ‘bright minds.’ And in the end, with a little help from existentialism, a few bright minds are pooped out of H.E.L.L. Q

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Art Meets Fashion expands in its third year

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he Art Meets Fashion event showcases premier designers, and visual and performance artists from around the state. In addition to showing off

some of the most avant-garde work in Utah and being a who’s who gathering for the world of Utah art, it is a benefit for the YWCA, an organization that helps women and children who are victims of domestic violence.

The AMF will be held Oct. 15, 6 p.m. to midnight, at the Granary Building, 404 W. 700 South, in Salt Lake City. The first hour will feature works from 26 local artists who created pieces with the theme of, ‘Deconstructing Venus.’ Local artists include John Bell, Tyler Bloomquist, Jason Wheatley, Dennis Mecham, Adrian Prazen and many more. Food and wine parings will be provided by the winners of Salt Lake Magazine’s Best of State award winners. Also, specialty cocktails will be served throughout the evening.

For the second hour, the models will take to the red carpet and display lines from seven local designers with their looks completed by local salons. The designers include Shelly Huynh, Andrea Black, DesNeiges Gregory, Danny Nappi, Andrea Hansen, Mary Rino, Roberto Leone and others. Throughout the evening performance artists will take the stage and will include aerial arts, musicians and more. The event is sponsored by (a)perature and will include a variety of art forms.

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at,” said Heidi Gress, the event coordinator.

“This is the kind of event you’d see all the time in Los Angeles or New York. You really shouldn’t miss it.”

In its third year, AMF expands each year and around 500 attendees are expected this year. More artists are signed on each year and the reach of the event is larger than ever. Tickets are $50 and are selling quickly and can be purchased in advance at ArtMeetsFashion.net.

“We really wanted a venue to introduce fashion lovers to great art, and vice versa. And it’s great to do that while raising money and awareness for the YWCA,” Gress said.

The AMF is expanding outside of Salt Lake City and will soon be featured in Portland, Gress said. Recently, the event was held in Los Angeles.

“We’re trying to offer something different for Utahns. This is going to be an event that will feel much bigger than Utah. We’ve got so much talent here and we want to make sure everyone can be exposed to some of the great Utah artists,” she said.

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Frankmusik mixes it up Pop music-maker on ‘restricted’ straight guys,

teaming with Erasure and getting naked for the gays

By Chris Azzopardi

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rankmusik goes where no straight man’s gone before. Just look at what he did in 2008, when he disrobed, and bared his bum, for a spread in one of the U.K.’s gay magazines. Then, recently, he got naked again, on a massage table, for a promo that has a bunch of bears giving him a rubdown.

Clearly the guy’s an original, which isn’t just evident in his friendliness with the gays, but his music, too.

With that, he’s proved that pop isn’t just a woman’s world, mixing music for Lady Gaga and Pet Shop Boys and releasing his first album, Complete Me, two years ago.

The 25-year-old follows up his electro-pop debut with Do It in the AM, but it’s not the only project with his name attached to it – he also produced Erasure’s new album, Tomorrow’s World.

On the road with the synth-pop legends during their first U.S. tour in five years, Frankmusik chatted about how working with Erasure was his “calling,” being an anomaly in the music business and why he wishes more straight men would let go of their inhibitions.

Hey, Frank, how are you? Hot. Not hot in a physical sense. Like, it’s actually hot.

I already know you’re hot ... physically, anyway. Thank you, sir. Compliments will get you everywhere. (Laughs) Where does mine get me? This is a recorded conversation. I’ll tell you off the record some other time.

How did the title track, “Do It in the AM,” come about? It’s about losing it in my mind. I’ve never really spoken about this in an interview properly because I don’t really think anyone’s really been highbrow enough to engage in it but, being creative, I like having the creative freedom at night, because it’s like my little secret. I’m making the party in my studio, and I’m making the songs that people want to party to.

So do you keep an alcohol stash in the studio? No, no.

I don’t drink. Well, hardly. It just doesn’t agree with me.

I used to drink like a fish, but I just get heartburn. I’m getting old, man. And the hangovers — I actually cannot stand the concept of a hangover.

What’s your a.m. routine? Shower, shit, shave. No, wait — shit, shower, shave. You don’t want to shit after you’ve already had a shower. The three S’s. Sometimes you can do four S’s if you’re lucky, which is sex, shit, shower, shave. That is much more likely to happen these days since my missus has moved in.

How did your move from London to L.A. influence the album? Just not being in London, being in a new city. I haven’t got any really massive circle of friends or anything. I came here to experience emptiness.European culture is very clustered, very pedestrianized and everyone is very closely knit. I love L.A. for its vastness. It’s devoid of any real sort of social integration because it’s so spread out, and I love that. I love the fact that I can be really anti-social and obnoxious in my studio and just concentrate on work.

You’ve gotten naked for the gays on a couple occasions. Do your gay friends call you a tease, because I think you might be? I could be a tease; it depends on if you fancy me or not. The main thing is, I’m having fun. That’s such a shit thing to say, but it is actually that.

Straight male artists are restricting themselves through their sexuality, and I think you should just be open to anything, especially in the press. If someone has an idea and it’s tasteful, yeah, I’ll do it. Fuck it. When I did the nude photo shoot, that was for male eating disorders. I wanted to support that cause, and if it meant a few famous guys getting their clothes off and talking about their own experiences with eating and their health, then fuck — any day dude, any day.

Why is it such an issue for straight guys to open up like that? You have to ask them, because I’m definitely not one of them. I think it was because I was brought up by my mom; I didn’t have a dad, so I didn’t have, like, this tenacious male figure in my life that was trying to make me fit a certain mold or anything. My mom sent me to ballet school and poetry recital classes. I mean, I was dancing around in a fucking leotard! I didn’t know any different. If you don’t know anything different, it doesn’t mean anything. It’s imposed on you, this kind of straightness.

I feel so bad for guys, because you have this culture where people’s gender has to fit into a demographic, which is just stupid. Men are just as expressive as wom-

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en. I was just lucky enough that somebody as intelligent as my mother brought me up that way. It’s a combination of common sense and not sort of digesting the bullshit that’s fed to you in culture. I wish more men were expressive because, I’ll tell you, there’d be a lot less trouble in the world.

Do people ever think you’re gay? I hope so, because that means I’m surrounded by stupid people that I can manipulate. That’d be nice.

Who are your boy crushes? George Clooney.

He’s an absolute gentleman and a brilliant, brilliant human being and very good at what he does. And he’s just really classy about it. I love classy guys. Not being a gentleman drives me crazy. I think being respectful and well-mannered is one of the most attractive things that any human can be.

You’re an anomaly in pop music, because the genre is so dominated by young females, and you’re a straight white guy.

Why do you think there are so few like you in pop music? Once again, it goes back to what it’s like to be a man these days. Why is it that we feel that the only type of males that should succeed in this market are ones that come from a boy band? Or they’ve got to be a rapper, or they’ve got to be some beardy guy holding an acoustic guitar. Apparently dancing around and singing pop songs is only reserved for people like Usher and black culture, which I think is bullshit. White guys can do it too, but I think we’re having a huge identity crisis.

I’m not a heavily political person, but I think there are some real plain facts staring us in the face that need to be dealt with — why can’t a guy dance and sing without being

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seen as queer? Does that say anything bad about me, or does that say something really bad about the culture?

Tell me about your relationship with Erasure’s Andy Bell. Has he ever tried to get into your pants? No, no, not at all. The closest we got was when we were doing the new single and he enjoyed what I was making so much that he said something like, “I could fall in love with you,” but I think he was referring more to the music that we were creating.

(Laughs) He’s a wonderful human being and incredible to work with. I see Andy more as a family member than a sexual stranger.

When did your relationship with Erasure start? Beginning of this year, I think. I met Vince (Clarke) at his house in Maine and I met Andy in London. I met them both separately.

I’ve yet to actually meet all three of them at the same time, so that will happen when I’m on tour with them.

How would you compare the sound of their album to yours? I mean, it’s Andy Bell. The vocals are incomparable. His male tenor is like a freight train running through a china shop. I mean, the power! You believe every word he says, because he lives what he says.

He is in the song. It’s not some cookie-cutter bullshit, and that’s what I love about him.

They stand for actually creating so many things that have been imitated blandly since they first made it. They’re incredible, incredible pioneers. And I’m glad I could celebrate their originality once again.

Was it intimidating working with them? No, no. It felt like my calling, it really did. I felt like I needed to make that album ... for me and for them. Q

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Hawthorne Heights talks new label, record and tour

By Seth Bracken

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he emo, scream-o, hard rock and totally kick-ass band, Hawthorne Heights, will be stopping in Salt Lake City on Oct. 14 at In The Venue. Eric Bucciarelli, the band’s drummer, told QSaltLake, about their transition to their own record label, the inspiration for the latest album and who’s on his iPod. Congratulations on your latest album. It is absolutely terrific and the song, “Divided,” is one of my favorites of anything you’ve ever recorded. How has the transition to your own label, Cardboard Empire, been? Thank you! The transition to our own label was a fairly easy one.

We’ve always been very hands-on with the business of our band and we’ve learned a lot from our years in this business; so in forming our own label there wasn’t a whole lot of additional work to do. There was a small learning curve when it came to setting up distribution, but nothing a little FAQ couldn’t handle for us.

What kind of performance pressure did you feel for this album? We’re not buying into the traditional business model of only focusing on album sales. So from that standpoint, there is no pressure. We’re more concerned about expanding our brands overall reach. Our objective is for more people to hear about us through the promotion of this album, our tours and music in general.

When I listen to Hate, I feel like there’s way more emotion and energy in this album than there’s been in recent albums. Would you agree with that and how was the environment when you were recording it? There is a lot more emotion in this album than anything we’ve ever done.

A lot of baggage has built up within us over the last few years and we reached a breaking point. Our internal conversations were much angrier than our music ever reflected. The goal when writing these songs was not shy away from those emotions. We needed to get things off our chest, which for one reason or another, we

hadn’t up until now. The mood in the studio was one of excitement and joy. We felt liberated.

Who are some of your biggest musical influences and how would you describe your music genre? Growing up my biggest influences were all New York and New Jersey hardcore bands. I grew up in New Jersey when the Youth Crew revival bands like Floorpunch and Mouthpiece were at their peak. It was an exciting time for me and that music and scene shaped who I’ve become today. It wasn’t just those bands that influenced me though. I spent hours at the local record store digging through the stacks and scouring the “Thank Yous” of other CDs to find those bands and the bands that influenced them. I had a real desire to find out where my favorite bands got their sound. That’s something that people don’t really get into anymore. It’s sad.

Hopefully someone who reads this will go check out Quicksand and Lifetime for example.

They were both super influential on me, my drumming style, and in many ways a lot of the bands that you see on Warped Tour today.

You’ve been to Utah before. Do you remember anything in particular about your stops here? We’ve had some of our best shows in Salt Lake City. We’ve played the Big Ass Show several times and each time it was killer. The scenery is beautiful, but the lake itself stinks and the time of year we played Great Salt Air, there were a billion flies all over the place. It was kind of gross.

Do you remember anything in particular about the Utah crowds? The crowds in Salt Lake City always seem to get rowdy and that’s how we like it. Shows are meant to be fun. Sing along and move around. Salt Lake City crowds always seemed to understand that without a lot of prompting.

Will you be playing mainly from your latest album or some of your classic songs too? We’ll be playing a lot of songs from our older albums and a few from the new one as well. Q

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tah’s performing arts, early on in the new season, has been pretty remarkable. Granted, I’ve had the privilege so far only of seeing two musicals. However, while on opposite ends of the spectrum — the first being a family-friendly, heartwarming comedy and the other a mishmash of wounded hearts and dysfunctional family structure — each has branded me in some way, as only great theater can. Pioneer Theatre Company’s take on the Pulitzer Prize- and Tonywinning drama, Next to Normal, is a sometimes booming roar and a sometimes chilling whisper of author/lyricist Brian Yorkey.

Director Karen Azenberg, like with that of PTC’s spring production of Rent earlier this year, once again mounts a genuinely inspired production: Azenberg is, apparently, a brooding rock musical savant. George Maxwell opens up the stage with a tiered set design and a “normal” cookie-cutter suburban neighborhood backdrop ... that is until you notice part of the neighborhood is floating upside down.

Once an aspiring architect, Diana Goodman (Judy McLane), for more than 15 years has been spiraling deeper into debilitating psychosis; her hide-out-in-the-garage type of husband Dan (Jonathan Rayson) desperately hopes for his wife’s well-being under shadows of denial; 16-year-old daughter Natalie (Ephie Aardema) competes, blindly, for her mother’s attention; and son Gabe (Matt Dengler) plays tug of war

with his mother’s already eradicated emotions.

Inserted into the Goodman family dynamic is a sweet, awkward, chivalrous pot-smoker named Henry (Alex Brightman) who’s had his eye on Natalie for years and Diana’s rock-star psychologist and psychopharmacologist (Ben Crawford).

These outside connections help derive a sense of the personal inner turmoils of the Goodman clan, especially within Diana and Natalie.

The cast belts out large, emotionally charged songs like “I’m Alive,” Gabe’s unyielding plea, with sharp intensity, and also croons moving ballads like Natalie and Henry’s heartfelt “Perfect For You.” Though the Goodman family is unstitched, the cast members are so tight-knit they are far from normal ... they are extraordinary. As moving as many of the scenes are, watching a credibly fraught McLane take the hand of a debonair Dengler and briefly waltz the stage melted me with their simplicity and the belief that they truly are mother and son.

Even if your family is a little bit closer to normal than that of the Goodmans, the show still can be easy to relate to your own life in one way or another and besides that, a wonderful night of theater, like Next to Normal, should make you happy, very happy; and that, Diana Goodman, doesn’t make you stupid. Q

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she culture Spotlight: Reiko Turner

By Annalisa Millo

eiko Turner is the type of girl that you just want to put in your pocket and take home to your mother. She’s very well-mannered, ambitious, intelligent, and sports a pretty face and an elaborate Japanese heritage to boot. Reiko was born and raised in Salt Lake City and Bountiful, and told us about the importance of education, community and grandmother-oriented hobbies.

tious, but she’s also nerdy and quirky, but in a cool way, and I think that’s what really attracts me to someone, is that they can be themselves and be open to what I’m into, and we still have a good time.

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the queer female community? I think the male community is more easily seen, and the lesbian scene is a little bit more underground. I hung out with a lot more gay men when I first came out because I didn’t know where to find lesbians, it was just more easily accessible, and even reading blogs and things like that, it is very gay male focused. But when I did do my own searching, I did find a lesbian group that I fit in with, so now it’s more even.

What are some of your current impressions of the queer scene in SLC, as opposed to your first impressions? I’m happy to see that it is what I thought it would be. Now that I’m more

What’s your story? What are you studying in school and where are you working? My overall major is mass communication, with an emphasis on strategic communication, which is mostly PR, marketing and advertising. I work at a place called Fuel Marketing, it’s a marketing and advertising agency. Some of the bigger companies we’ve worked with are the Salt Lake Film Society, a business called Physicians Group Utah and Gold’s Gym. How would you describe your style? I tend to mix a lot of feminine and masculine clothing items. I like to think I’m a little more on the androgynous side, but kind of on the more feminine side of androgyny. I wear anything from jeans and a T-shirt to a dress and a suit jacket for work. My style has changed quite a bit from the time I came out to now. When I first came out I thought I needed to dress more masculine, I didn’t wear dresses or heels, and then as I grew more comfortable with myself my style formed around that.

And you have a girlfriend, how long have you and Ally been together and what does she do? We’re going on 10 months, it’s going really well, and she’s a third-year law student.

What sort of hobbies do you have? Well, I’m kind of an old woman. I like to read a lot, and I needle felt.

QSL: I have no idea what that is. What is needle felt? You take a Styrofoam square and clumps of wool, and with long needles you jab them into the Styrofoam and form shapes with the wool. You can make things like animals, and the needle has little grooves on the end so it catches, and then it clumps into these weird shapes. The first time I heard about it I was like, “Are you serious?” because it sounded weird but I can’t get enough of it now. You need to try it.

I also really like to cook and bake, and Ally likes to bake, so those are our old-women hobbies. Like, a perfect day for us would be spent baking and reading and drinking coffee.

What do you find attractive in a person, or what are your favorite qualities about Ally? The one quality that stood out to me and everyone we know is that she’s genuinely a sweet person. She cares a lot about her friends and her family, and you can tell that she does.

I like that she’s witty and intelligent and ambi-

Reiko Turner photo by Swainston Photo So you’re almost done with school, where are you headed in the future? I would like to eventually move out of Salt Lake, but I don’t see that happening for at least a few years. I’ve only been working for Fuel for a few months, and I’d like to get established with that company first to get some experience and a foot in the door.

The ideal place to move would be Portland or California, but that would depend on job availability and what alleys we would take — we would definitely take that into consideration.

So how long have you been out? I came out the second semester of my freshman year, so that was toward the end of 2007. I’m a “super senior” now, and it’s my last semester at the U. What were some of your first impressions of the queer/lesbian community in Salt Lake City? When I first came out I was a little nervous as to what I’d find. Although the queer community here is smaller, just because Salt Lake City is a small city, it surprised me to see that there is a thriving liberal, artsy, queer community. I really thought that I’d be the only one, but it was nice to see that there is a community here and I think that’s also what makes us unique — because we are small, we’re closer as a community. It was also refreshing to see that more people were accepting and open and ready to help me than I thought.

What do you think are some of the main differences between the queer male community and

involved, all the impressions that I hoped for, I’ve found.

What do you think could be improved upon in terms of the queer community here, what things would you like to see? I’d like to see more people involved. Although we do have the Utah Pride Center and things like that, it’s a very small group that is willing to help. It’s nice to have resources like QSaltLake writing about people of the queer community, because people have impressions and stereotypes, and when they actually sit down and read stories about real people, it changes a lot about the way people think. Q

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hen people ask me what language I use to first write my columns, I usually smile and say it doesn’t matter. The important thing is that I can communicate with my readers.

In the last few weeks I’ve been meeting many wonderful readers of my column and I cannot explain how exciting it is to hear what they think of my stories. Many of you greet me with a big smile and a warm hug and tell me what your favorite story was. I have no words to explain how this makes me feel.

When I was growing up I always felt the need to communicate and feel surrounded by people.

Now I cannot stop communicating with people (though at times I wish I could). Whether at work or at school, people tend to tell me their problems, concerns and deepest feelings. I, of course, have the need to listen and give advice.

Despite the fact that I love talking, writing is one of my true passions ... and believe it or not, I always find myself asking strangers for approval.

Last Saturday I met a guy who I thought I’d seen before, but couldn’t remember where. He approached me and started to tell me all his favorites stories and his feelings about them.

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uando las personas me preguntan en que lenguaje escribo mis columnas, usualmente sonrío y digo: no importa. Lo que importa es que me puedo comunia writer and get published, and now I have that. car con mis lectores.

How lucky I feel. I thanked him for reading my En las ultimas semanas he tenido el placer de columns and he gave me the support I needed conocer y estrechar las manos de muchos lectoto continue writing. res de esta humilde columna. No pudo explicar Even though this column is in both English el sentimiento que tengo al escuchar lo que and Spanish, I truly enjoy the Spanish language ellos piensan acerca de la columna. Muchos de — its sounds; its ups and downs, its million ustedes me saludan con una amplia sonrisa, un ways to express what only one English sentence abrazo calido y me expresan cuales han sido sus can. historias favoritas. No tengo palabras realmente Spanish, its vowels and sounds, flow like a para explicar ese placer tan grande. song in my ears. Spanish, the language of my Cuando era niño, siempre tuve la necesidad ancestors, how could I forget you? Spanish, how de comunicarme y sentirme rodeado de persocould someone ever want to get rid of traces of nas. Ahora, no puedo dejar de comunicarme con you while speaking a foreign language? las personas( aunque algunas veces quisiera no Yes, sir, I speak English, too. But it’s just a hacerlo). No importa donde me encuentre, las matter of education and communication in this personas me cuentas sus problemas y preocupaciones, y yo de hecho tengo la necesidad nation. Yes, I live and am in love with America, apremiante de escucharles y darles un pequeño however no one can take away my mother consejo. tongue.

A pesar de que disfruto mucho hablar, A bumper sticker reads, “Welcome to America, escribir es mi pasión … y créanlo o no siempre now speak English.” I say thank you, and I will me encuentro en la encrucijada de esperar la speak English — at school, at the grocery store, aprobación de propios y extraños. at the clubs, at the house of my in-laws. But El sábado pasado conocí a un muchacho que secretly, in my own room, my heart, tongue and por alguna razón me pareció haber conocido mind I speak only one language — Spanish. Mi antes. El me saludo y comenzó a decirme las corazón y mi alma está con vosotros en esta historias que para el fueron sus favoritas. Mi edicion ... nos vemos mis queridos lectores.

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corazón estaba latiendo a mil, siempre quise ser un “escritor” y ser publicado, y ahora tengo esta oportunidad. Que afortunado me siento.

Le agradecí por leer mis historias y darme las fuerzas para seguir escribiendo.

A pesar de que esta columna es en Ingles y Español, realmente tengo un gran deleite por el idioma Español, sus sonidos, sus altos y bajos, y sus mil y una manera de expresar un pensamiento, mientras que el Ingles solo se necesita una oración.

El Español, sus vocales y sonidos fluyen como una canción en mis odios, El Español, el lenguaje de mis ancestros, ¿como podría olvidarte?, Español, ¿como alguien quisiera arrancarte de mis labios? ¿Como alguien quisiera opacarte al hablar un idioma extraño?

Si, señor ! Hablo ingles, pero solo por un tema de educación y comunicación en esta nación. Si, vivo enamorado de America, sin embargo nadie podrá privarme de mi lengua madre.

Un sticker para auto dice: “bienvenido a America, ahora habla Ingles.” Yo digo, gracias, y si hablare ingles — en la escuela, en la tienda, en los clubs, en casa de mis suegros. Pero Secretamente, en mi dormitorio, mi corazón, lengua y mente unidos hablan un solo lenguaje — Español. Mi alma y corazón estén con vosotros en esta edición y nos vemos mis queridos lectores … Sintámonos orgullosos de hablar Español.

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Pernod and Roses

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went out with Jennifer and the gals last night,” Ramona said just before she dug into her salad Niceoise. A little bistro had opened on West 18th Street — Le Quai à Nice. All very lovely and evocative, until Ramona made a face after tasting the tuna. She shrugged and took another bite. “We went to that awful ‘Kittens’ place in Soho on Saturday. Blecchhh! Lily wanted to go.

Never again. Anyway, for the first time in like forever I got really wasted. Margaritas.” She leaned toward me confidentially. “So I did something I never did before: I took the bus home!”

“So?” I said.

“Well, I made it home safely, which was surprising, since I never drove a bus before.”

She spread out her arms in a “ta-da!” gesture, which caused me to laugh so abruptly that I choked on a bit of frisee and briefly wondered if Ramona could be trusted to actually perform the Heimlich maneuver rather than just take my gagging literally as a gag. The joke was pure Ramona. I’ve adored her for 35 years.

“So Mo,” I said. “What am I going to do about Dan?” “Dan who?”

It’s not that she didn’t like my partner. She was just wildly jealous of him. If I hadn’t come out during our senior year in college, I’d have married

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Ramona. She was stunned and hurt by my big revelation, which I accomplished involuntarily when Mo caught me getting blown by an all-but-blind physics major. After the operatic and very public first week (the spectators being the entire student body of Haverford College, the opera reminiscent of Lucia di Lammermoor), she recovered quickly. Her rampant sex drive saw to that. She didn’t exactly set out to plow her way through the soccer team, but she didn’t leave many guys out in the cold. Her mother hasn’t spoken to me since.

“Come on, Mo,” I said. “This isn’t funny.”

“OK,” she said through a mouthful of green beans. “Here’s whatcha do. One night when he’s at home working into the wee hours, get out of bed, go to the secret place where you’ve hidden a dozen red roses — long stem; you’ll look bad if you cut corners — and surprise him. Be naked. It’s both sexy and abject, both of which you are.” She forked another bunch of beans and delivered them to her still-chewing mouth. “Mmm, and get down on one knee. Act chivalrous.”

So I did. I hid the roses in a vase in the closet where I keep my toolbox; I’d bet his life he’d never go in there. Naked, I offered my apology, roses and love to my life partner, and he accepted it. I also brought out a bottle of Pernod and two glasses.

Then we ... well, it’s actually too personal to write about, even for me.

Pernod, the legendary anise-flavored aperitif, is mixed with a little water and served in what are called longdrink glasses: tall liqueur glasses that flare out beautifully at the top. I bought ours on eBay. I remember the items’ description vividly: “Rare and Superb Pernod Glasses.” I bought two for $1.98 each plus shipping. Q

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Q scopes Care for yourself, Pisces!

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Mercury conjoins Saturn in Libra raising knowledge and articulation of what our relationships are about and where they’re going. Feeling limited can create arguments or healthy productive discussions. Stay focused on what you want and who you love.

ARIES (March 20–April 19) A drop in energy can leave you feeling high and dry–not that you’re becoming lethargic. You’ve been cranked up, and it couldn’t last. A serious talk about romance can make or break a relationship.

Be very clear on what you want.

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Little competitions with your partner can be fun. Just remember you’re really on the same side! Single? Dating isn’t a competitive sport. Being serious is good, but not too serious!

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CANCER (June 21–July 22) Power struggles at home can be sugarcoated with apparently good intentions. Sensing underlying motives can stress you out. Confronting them is sure to create some trouble now, saving lots of trouble in the long run.

LEO (July 23–August 22) It can be very hard to keep secrets, to know whom to trust. Getting high, even a little buzz, can impair your judgment.

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It’s too easy to get into needless, stupid arguments. Anger comes from hidden wounds. Take time alone to care for yourself and work on practical concerns. Cleaning house can be a meditation. Exercise and conversations with trusted friends helps.

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the climacteric It’s not you

By A.E. Storm

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y hell, I’m as spontaneous as a pimple. I couldn’t believe I just vomited the words: “Move in with me?”

Seriously! I should scrawl ‘Loser’ across my forehead in permanent ink.

Charlie’s first reaction to the question was to laugh. He does that a lot. Maybe I’ll scrawl ‘Human Laugh Track’ across his billboard of a forehead in permanent ink—okay, his forehead is actually proportionally sound, I’m just being a bitch. ‘Hyena’ would fit.

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He eyed, me as if he was inside my head taking photographs, “You’re thinking something cruel again, aren’t you?”

“No, no.”

“Did you not mean that?”

“Mean what?” I scurried into cluelessness.

“You just asked me to move in with you.”

“Well, yeah—temporarily, I mean—” I would’ve felt more comfortable being buried alive at this moment.

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“You can stay until you find another place, or—longer.”

Charlie stifled another laugh. Can people laugh without a tongue?

Once he locked eyes with me he said those three little words that turn people into minced meat, “It’s not you—” “Portus!” I commanded under my breath. We just returned from seeing the final Harry Potter movie.

Unfortuantely Charlie heard it and gaffawed.

Dropping his arms, he explained, “Tommy, you are one of the funniest persons I have ever met and you bring me such joy—” “Hey, I say that too!” Run, girl run! He gave me a freeze-frame look, and I did.

“Tommy, you’re sweet and neurotic, qualities I love in you—the combination is spellbinding.”

I guess we were both channeling Harry Potter.

“But I haven’t lived on my own, ever. I’ve always lived with family or roommates, and to tell you the truth I’m over it. I want to try living alone for once, does that make sense?”

For a 28-year-old, of course; but for me, who’s about to turn 42, not so much. “Sure.”

Those four little words that turn people 180 degrees and sprinting for the hills, move in with me, obviously still do the trick.

A few days after my faux pas, I still hadn’t responded to two voicemails and a dozen or so text messages from Charlie. I should have, I haven’t received any today. I had saved all the other messages and so I went through them again, though by this I point I could recite them verbatim — okay, maybe not verbatim. I can be overdramatic. The messages started out somewhat apologetic and sweet, but hurried to less apologetic and more accusatory—still with underlying sweetness. I sighed and slumped over on the couch. A few moments passed before my hands took over and punched in Charlie’s cell

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Unfortunately I am unable to take you’re call at this time. I would really like to get back to you as soon as possible, so please leave your name, number, and a brief message. Thank you so much and have a really great day, bye.

I paused, soaking up his sexy voice, and then realized my message wouldn’t likely be brief—or necessarily coherent. And, of course, after a minute or two of rambling I hung up, uncertain of the sense I made, if any. I guess now only time will tell.

Suddenly I was urged to listen to Asia. I fingered through my tower of cassettes until I found it, 1990’s Now & Then. I slipped it into the cassette player, pushed the stubborn play button, then wedged a nail file in between it and the pause button to keep it from shutting itself off. Technologically advanced I am not, but I do have nicely manicured hands.

As John Wetton broke into one of my favorite songs “Heat of the Moment,” I was transported back to my old bedroom in the basement of my parents’ house. I wished that the Portus spell would’ve worked more quickly. I was 20 years old and partially in the closet (I had come out to my friends but not my parents). Daniel and I had skipped our art appreciation class at the U of U and went back to my house—both my parents worked—for a little gay R&R. (Rimming & Risting) Okay, that’s just bad form. I had put on Asia— back then I had the vinyl record—and Daniel and I really got into the heat of the moment. So much so, that in the middle of it he asked me to move in with him. Uh, excuse me, this is the first time we’ve been biblical! I realized immediately that was another overdramatization for an agnostic.

I nudged him off me and did my best to let him down softly, “It’s not you—well, maybe a little.

You’re three years older than I am, so we don’t really have much in common. I just don’t see it working out.” Q

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