QSaltLake Magazine - February 14, 2008

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February 14, 2008

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ISSUE 96

Salt Lake City Passes Domestic Partner Registry Utah Senate passes Sen. Buttars’ bill to kill it through committee

Affirmation Seeks to Meet with LDS Leaders ‘We extend to you an olive branch’

Utah Wife Pleads for Gay Husband Who Hired a Hit Man to Kill Her Adoption Bill Being Held in Rule Committee

Swiss: HIV+ with Undetectable Viral Load Cannot Transmit Virus Troy: Gordon B. Hinckley Was a False Prophet Ben Williams Reminisces over Lost Utah Leaders The Gay Agenda Qdoku, Comics

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World News

Gay Weddings Decline in UK

By Rex Wockner

Swiss Experts Say HIV+ People with No Viral Load Cannot Transmit HIV

Swiss AIDS officials have determined that if you’re taking anti-HIV drugs and you always take the drugs on schedule and your HIV blood tests come back “undetectable” six consecutive months and you don’t have any other sexually transmitted diseases, it is next to impossible to transmit HIV during unprotected sex.

The Swiss Federal Commission on HIV/AIDS issued its report Jan. 30, concluding that people with HIV who have no detectable viral load as a result of anti-retroviral treatment apparently are unable to transmit the virus.

The commission arrived at its position following an extensive review of scientific literature, after prolonged discussions, and upon recommendation of its Subcomission on Clinical and Therapeutic Aspects.

In the report, the agency said: “During effective ART [anti-retroviral therapy], free virus is absent from blood and genital secretions. Epidemiologic and biologic data indicate that during such treatment, there is no relevant risk of transmission.

Residual risk cannot be scientifically excluded, but is, in the judgment of the commission, negligibly small.

“The commission realizes that medical and biologic data available today do not

permit proof that HIV infection during effective ART is impossible, because the non-occurrence of an improbable event cannot be proven. If no transmission events were observed among 100 couples followed for two years, for instance, there might still be some such events if 10,000 couples are followed for 10 years.

“The situation is analogous to 1986, when the statement ‘HIV cannot be transmitted by kissing’ was publicized,” the commission said. “This statement cannot be proven, but after 20 years experience its accuracy appears highly plausible.

“Concerning the statement, ‘An HIV-infected person on anti-retroviral therapy with completely suppressed viremia ... cannot propagate HIV through sexual contact,’ however, the evidence is much better than what was available in 1986 regarding kissing.”

The Australian Federation of AIDS Organizations responded: “People need to be aware that relying on ‘undetectable’ viral load is not a ‘safe sex’ strategy — it’s one that reduces the risk of transmission and it isn’t foolproof. The best way to protect yourself and your partner from HIV is through regular and consistent condom use.”

The number of same-sex civil partnerships taking place in the United Kingdom dropped 55 percent in 2007 over 2006 — likely reflecting a decline in pent-up demand since the law took effect in December 2005.

The figures were gathered by the Local Government Association from officials in 40 localities. The Office of National Statistics has recorded a similar drop-off.

More than 16,000 couples formed a civil partnership in 2006 but only 4,060 did so in the first half of 2007, agency records show.

However, the total number of civil partnerships to date exceeds government estimates issued when the law took effect.

Officials had expected to see a maximum of 22,000 partnerships by 2010.

Olivia Newton-John to Perform at Sydney Mardi Gras Seventies pop star and gay favorite Olivia Newton-John will perform at the party that follows the Sydney Gay and Lesbian Mardi Gras parade Mar. 1.

Newton-John, 59, said the appearance is payback for four decades of support from gay people.

“The gay community has always been a major supporter of mine and I am hopelessly devoted to each and every one of them,” she said. “I can’t wait.”

Another Anti-Gay Attack in Jamaica Another in a string of violent attacks on Jamaican gays occurred Jan. 29 in the town of Mandeville, Human Rights Watch reported Feb. 1.

A mob of 15–20 men approached a house where four males live and demanded they leave the community because they are gay. The attackers later broke down the door and beat and slashed the inhabitants.

Police arrived 90 minutes after being called and rescued three of the men. The fourth man fled, with the attackers in pursuit, and is feared to be dead. Blood was found at the mouth of a nearby pit, suggesting that the man fell into it or was killed nearby.

Two of the other men were taken to a hospital. One had a severed left ear, spine damage and his arm broken in two places.

“This incident is the latest in a string of homophobic mob violence over the last year,” HRW said.

“Roving mobs attacking innocent people and staining the streets with blood should shame the nation’s leaders,” said Scott Long, director of the group’s Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Rights Program. “Official silence encourages the spread of hate.”

Gay Men Arrested in Senegal Up to 20 men have been arrested on suspicion of homosexuality in Dakar, Senegal, the International Gay and Lesbian Human Rights Commission said Feb. 4.

A British Broadcasting Corporation report three days later said at least some of the men had been released from custody.

The BBC had no further details.

The arrests occurred after the magazine Icône published photographs of a local gay wedding that took place more than 18 months ago.

IGLHRC said the sensationalistic magazine paid $3,000 to acquire the photos.

“We are afraid for our lives, especially those of us shown in the photographs,” said local activist Jean R. “Some of us have gone into hiding and others are fleeing the country.”

Penal Code Article 319 punishes homo-

sexual acts with up to five years in prison and a fine of up to $3,000.

Euro Commission Warns Netherlands on Discrimination

The European Commissioner for Employment, Social Affairs and Equal Opportunities has told the Netherlands to fix laws that permit anti-gay churches and religious schools to discriminate against gay people in hiring, local media reported Feb. 4.

Vladimír Spidla said the European Commission could haul the country before the European Court of Justice if it doesn’t beef up gay protections within two months’ time.

European Union law bans employers from discriminating based on sexual orientation, disability, age, race and religion.

The European Commission is the executive branch of the 27-nation European Union.

Several other nations also received warnings about their implementation of various aspects of the EU’s Employment Equality Directive, which was supposed to be fully implemented by the end of 2003.

Dutch Would be OK with Gay Prime Minister Seventy-eight percent of Dutch people would be OK with having a gay prime minister, according to a poll of 21,000 members of TV program EenVandaag’s permanent opinion panel, NIS News Bulletin reported Feb. 6.

The panel also would be fine with a prime minister who is female (93 percent approval), unmarried (90 percent approval), atheist (87 percent), black (75 percent) or Jewish (53 percent).

But only 27 percent of the panel would support an Islamic prime minister and only 33 percent would be OK with a fundamentalist Christian prime minister.

Eight Men Jailed in Egypt on Homosexuality Charges Human Rights Watch on Feb. 5 highlighted the cases of eight men incarcerated in Cairo, Egypt, following homosexualityrelated arrests or convictions.

Two men were arrested last October while having an argument on the street, after one of them told police officers he was HIV-positive. They were handcuffed to a desk for four days in the office of the Morality Police, were later subjected to anal probes and forced HIV testing, reportedly tested positive, and remain in custody in a hospital handcuffed to beds.

Two other men were arrested because their phone numbers or photographs were in the possession of the first two men. They also were force-tested for HIV and remain in custody pending possible filing of charges.

Four additional men were arrested in November after they secured a lease and moved into the apartment of one of the first four men. They were tortured in custody; deprived of food, drink and blankets; and force-tested for HIV. In January, the four were convicted of “habitual practice of debauchery” and sentenced to one year in prison. On Feb. 2, the convictions were upheld on appeal.

One of the men was told he is HIVpositive and is incarcerated in a hospital chained to a bed 23 hours a day.

“These cases show Egyptian police acting on the dangerous belief that HIV is not a condition to be treated but a crime to be punished,” said Scott Long, director of Human Rights Watch’s LGBT Rights Program.

National News

New Push to Amend California Constitution on Marriage

Anti-gay groups are paying signaturegatherers in hopes of placing an initiative before voters in November to amend the California Constitution to ban samesex marriage.

Previous attempts to collect enough voter signatures to force a ballot vote have failed.

Gay leaders said the effort is being supported by NationForMarriage.org and ProtectMarriage.com. “We are committed to a vigorous opposition campaign,� said Geoff Kors, executive director of Equality California. “We are determined to make sure voters understand the very real pain that comes with marriage discrimination and how these types of amendments will only bring harm to California families.�

According to the CEO of the Los Angeles Gay & Lesbian Center, Lorri Jean, “Californians are tired of these costly and divisive campaigns.� “These out-of-state extremists continue to expend time and resources to write discrimination into our California Constitution,� she said. “We believe voters will reject this measure and the politics of hate and division it represents.�

Delores Jacobs, CEO of The San Diego LGBT Community Center, urged Californians to “reject these efforts by refusing to sign the petitions and talking with their friends and family members about why marriage discrimination is wrong.�

Kate Kendell, executive director of the National Center for Lesbian Rights, said such an amendment “would enshrine discrimination for generations of Californians.� —RW

Ruling: N.Y. Must Recognize Same-sex Marriages from Elsewhere

Justice Department Gay Group Unbanned U.S. Attorney General Michael Mukasey has unbanned the Justice Department’s gay group, DOJ Pride, the Washington Post reported Feb. 5.

In 2003, the group was barred from holding its annual pride-month celebration by then-Attorney General John Ashcroft, who also reportedly prohibited the group from posting information on agency bulletin boards or using its e-mail system.

Ashcroft said it was unwritten department policy not to sponsor events without a presidential proclamation. The policy was continued under Attorney General Alberto Gonzales, who succeeded Ashcroft.

But Mukasey now has issued an equalemployment-opportunity policy prohibiting discrimination against any employee organization and has informed DOJ Pride of the change.

In a statement, Mukasey said the Department of Justice will “foster an environment in which diversity is valued, understood and sought.�—RW

Oregon Couples Finally Can Register Same-sex couples in Oregon finally were able to begin using the state’s registeredpartnership law Feb. 4.

It had been delayed for a month by anti-gay activists who challenged the legal determination that they hadn’t collected enough valid voter signatures to send the law to a ballot referendum.

In the end, the opponents’ drive fell short 96 signatures.

The law grants registered couples the state-level rights of matrimony, including in such areas as inheritance and joint income-tax filing.

Five other states have same-sex civilunion or domestic-partnership laws that extend all or nearly all state-level rights and obligations of marriage: California, Connecticut, New Jersey, New Hampshire and Vermont. In addition, three states (Maine, Hawaii and Washington) and the District of Columbia have laws that extend limited spousal rights to same-sex couples.

Massachusetts is the only state that allows gay couples to marry. Couples from most other states cannot marry there because of a racist state law from 1913 that prohibits people from marrying in Massachusetts “if [the] marriage would be void if contracted in� their home state.

Gay couples from Rhode Island and New Mexico are among those who can marry in Massachusetts, as those states have no laws specifically banning samesex marriage, even if they don’t offer it themselves.

The California Legislature has twice passed a bill legalizing full marriage for same-sex couples, and Gov. Arnold Schwarzenegger has twice vetoed it. A ruling by the California Supreme Court in a case seeking legalization of same-sex marriage will be issued by early June.

Gun Owners and Libertarians File Supreme Court Brief

by David Nelson

Washington — Lawyers for the gay groups Pink Pistols and Gays and Lesbians for Individual Liberty filed on Feb. 7 an amici curiae “friends of the court� brief about the review of District of Columbia v. Heller at the U.S. Supreme Court to

encourage the justices to affirm an individual right to own firearms and invalidate three District laws which ban the possession of handguns and “functional� rifles or shotguns. District lawyers appealed in 2007 after a three-judge panel at the U.S. Court of Appeals for the District of Columbia Circuit affirmed the rights of six Washington residents including Tom Gordon Palmer, a gay senior fellow at the Washington-based Cato Institute.

In the brief, St. Louis lawyer Michael B. Minton argued that “[e]ven in their homes, LGBT individuals are at risk of murder, aggravated assault and other forms of hate violence because of their sexual orientation. In fact, the home is the most common site of anti-gay violence. Thus, for certain LGBT individuals, the possession of firearms in the home is essential for a sense of personal security.� But, Minton said, “[i]nterpreting the Second Amendment as recognizing a right conditioned upon military service, where eligibility for military service is defined by the Government, ... would completely eradicate any Second Amendment right for members of the LGBT community� as long as the federal “Don’t Ask. Don’t Tell� policy remains.�

Utah lawmakers including U.S. Sens.

Orrin Hatch and Bob Bennett, U.S. Reps.

Chris Cannon, Jim Matheson and Rob Bishop, and Utah Rep. Merlynn T. Newbold joined two briefs on Feb. 8. Leaders of Utah State Rifle and Pistol Association, and the Utah-based Women Against Gun Control joined two briefs on Feb. 11. A total of 40 briefs were filed to encourage the justices to affirm an individual right to own firearms. Just 20 briefs were filed in opposition.  Q

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A New York appellate court ruled unanimously Feb. 1 that the state must recognize same-sex marriages from countries that allow them — Belgium, Canada, the Netherlands, Spain and South Africa — and from Massachusetts, the only U.S. state that allows them. “Congratulations to all same-sex couples validly married outside of New York state,� said Donna Lieberman, executive director of the New York Civil Liberties Union, which filed the case. “You are now considered married in New York as well.�

The case, Martinez v. County of Monroe, was filed in 2005 on behalf of Patricia Martinez, an employee of Monroe Community College in Rochester, who married her wife, Lisa Golden, in Ontario and then was not allowed to add Golden to her health-insurance plan.

The case dealt solely with whether the time-honored “marriage recognition rule� applies to same-sex marriages. “If a marriage is valid in the state or country in which the marriage took place, New York law generally requires the recognition of that marriage,� said Arthur Eisenberg, the NYCLU’s legal director. “This case involved a straightforward application of that principle.�

Canada has no citizenship or residency

requirements for getting married, and numerous U.S. same-sex couples have crossed the border and tied the knot, often in a one-day visit.—RW

The gay activists working most directly on the court challenge see the court’s signals in the case so far as encouraging.

Full same-sex marriage also is legal in Belgium, Canada, the Netherlands, South Africa and Spain. Non-Canadian couples can get married in 12 of Canada’s 13 provinces and territories during a one-day visit. The process takes longer in Quebec, although there is an approved way to circumvent the province’s waiting period.

Numerous nations grant registered same-sex couples some, most or all rights and obligations of marriage under registered-partnership, domestic-partnership or civil-union laws. They include Andorra, the Czech Republic, Denmark, Finland, France, Germany, Iceland, Luxembourg, New Zealand, Norway, Slovenia, Sweden, Switzerland and the United Kingdom. Greenland, a self-governing division of Denmark, also has a civilunion law. In yet other nations, such as Argentina, Australia, Brazil and Mexico, such rights are granted by city, state or provincial laws. Informal cohabitation of same-sex partners has become legally recognized in Austria, Colombia, Croatia, Hungary, Israel and Portugal — and in parts of Australia, Italy and the United States.—RW

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Local News

Salt Lake City Council Passes Domestic Partnership Registry

by Michael Aaron

michael@qsaltlake.com

Salt Lake City Mayor Ralph Becker’s first proposal to the city council was passed unanimously Feb. 5. The proposal, which will become law once signed by Becker, creates a domestic partner registry for unmarried cohabitating adults.

Sen. Chris Buttars, R-West Jordan, has sponsired legislation aimed at stopping the registry. (See story at right.)

“They want us to write them a blank check,” Buttars told the Salt Lake Tribune.

“How brazen they are is unbelievable.”

Will Carlson, manager of public policy for gay advocacy group Equality Utah, was the first to speak at Tuesday’s council meeting and began by thanking Becker and city council members for considering the creation of a registry.

“In 1984, Berkeley, California was the first city in the Unitd States to create a domestic partnership registry,” he said.

“Domestic partnership benefits are important in today’s society. For many Utah families, health care is their greatest concern. This registry will help alleviate that burden by signalling to employers when an employee has a family member who may be uninsured. Employers may then choose whether they will include these family members in insurance plans.”

Rep. Jackie Salt Lake City Council Chair Jill Biskupski, D-Salt Remington Love Lake City, also testified before the council, saying that words and actions are important as they will be addressed on Capitol Hill.

She said that the registry is a “greatly needed step in the right direction to help families that are really struggling for a number of reasons, and mostly because of legislation that has been passed over the past many years.”

Council Chair Jill Remington Love made the motion to pass the proposal, which was seconded by Soren Simonson.

“We had to flip a coin over who would make this motion because there were so many of us who were eager to do it,” Love said. “This is a compassionate ordinance that recognizes that support systems do not come in just one package. Sometimes it may be a mother and daughter, and sometimes it may be two longtime friends who care for each other into old age and some times it may be a gay couple. Hopefully this ordinance will allow for more couples to take care of each other.”

Councilmember Soren Simonson stressed the importance of the extension of healthcare benefits in light of important legislation on Utah’s Capitol Hill.

“I think this will be a small step forward to try and provide health care for some who don’t have it, nevertheless

I think it is a significant step to try and continue to close that gap on people who cannot receive health care and other benefits from their employer because we don’t have the mehchanisms in place to make that happen,” he said.

Simonson also expressed his desire to not limit the registry to Salt Lake City residents so that employers could extend benefits to those outside the city, but said that could be brought up at a later time.

Council newcomer J.T. Martin said the support for this ordinance was overwhelming in his district.

“It’s a proud day for this city and a proud day for me to be able to be a part of this important legislation,” he said.

Councilmember Carlton Christianson was the only remotely negative speaker, bringing up the possibility that the registry could bring “unintended consequences” to the city. “But I’m not smart enough to know what those will be,” he said.

All eight councilmembers were present for the vote, and all eight voted for the registry.

According to the report presented to the council, in order to participate in the registry, two individuals seeking domestic partner status must each declare that they are each other’s domestic partner, be age 18 or older and unmarried, show common financial obligation, and be cohabitating.

Joint financial obligation would be proven by offering three of the following documents: Joint obligation, mortgage, lease or vehicle ownership, Life insurance policy, retirement beneftis account or will designating the domestic partner as a beneficiary or executor. a mutually-granted power of attorney, proof showing the partner is authorized to sign for the purposes of the other’s bank or credit account, proof of joint bank or credit account.

A “Certificate of Domestic Partnership” will be awarded attesting that the two individuals are in a relationship of “mutual support, caring and commitment; and are responsible for each other’s physical and financial welfare; and have the present intention to remain in that relationship.

The report states that the proposal is consistent with the city’s recently-enacted “Adult Designee” ordinance in that it does not imply a romantic relationship between domestic partners.

Those registered as a domestic partnership would be allowed to use or access any city facility’s benefits that are otherwise afforded to married couples, such as family pool passes. Domestic partners would be allowed health care visitation in a health care facility within Salt Lake City limits where immediate family or spouses would be allowed visitation. The report also states that companies looking to provide domestic partner benefits to their employees could use the registry as proof of the relationship.

The registry will be paid for through registration fees and not through taxpayer expense.

Buttars’ Bill Seeking to Kill Domestic Partner Registry Advances to Senate

by JoSelle Vanderhooft joselle@qsaltlake.com

After an hour and a half of testimony touching on gay rights and the rights of municipal governments, the Senate Health and Human Services Committee unanimously approved a bill on Feb. 11 that would put an end to Salt Lake City Mayor Ralph Becker’s proposed domestic partnership registry.

Becker made creating a registry for domestic partners part of his 2007 mayoral campaign. His registry, which the Salt Lake City Council unanimously approved Feb. 5, would create a catalogue Sen. Chris Buttars for unmarried partners — gay and straight — to prove shared living and financial obligations. Although participation in the registry comes with only a few benefits such as being able to buy a family pass to the city’s public amenities — Becker has repeatedly said that its main purpose is to provide proof of an interdependent relationship to private employers who want to offer domestic partner benefits.

But Sen. Chris Buttars, R-West Jordan, the sponsor of SB 267 Local Government Authority Amendments, said that the Mayor’s ordinance has a more sinister purpose. He called the registry unnecessary and a deliberate attempt to get around Utah marriage law.

“Utah’s marriage recognition policy already allows people all rights that don’t infringe on the marriage recognition policy,” he said, adding that these rights included asset sharing, hospital visitation and co-ownership of property.

SB 267 would prevent county and municipal governments from “creating or establishing a registry or any other means to define, identify or recognize a domestic partnership, civil union or other domestic relationship other than marriage for any purpose.”

To allay fears that SB 267 could be used to eliminate the capital city’s adult designee benefits program, Buttars accepted an amendment exempting such programs — provided they were open to all adult dependants.

The City Council approved the adult designee program for city employees in 2005. It was initially conceived by former Salt Lake City Mayor Rocky Anderson as a program to let unmarried city employees designate a partner to receive insurance benefits. The council, however, later widened the program’s scope.

“We never challenged [that program] because it didn’t favor any group or class for special recognition,” Buttars said.

Despite Buttars’ assurances, Salt Lake City attorney Ed Rutan said that SB 267 was worded “ambiguously” enough to do away with the adult designee program as well as the domestic partner registry. He cited a line in the amendment that stated that designee programs were legal as long as they did not “define or establish a separate and distinct category of citizens or domestic relationships other than

marriage and recognized family associations involving blood relatives.”

“That clause can be read to exclude certain employees from the program,” he said.

During the question period, fellow committee member Sen. Scott McCoy, DSalt Lake City, asked Buttars and former state representative LaVar Christensen, who testified with Buttars, several pointed questions about the bill, including whether or not the registry’s limited benefits — such as granting a same-sex couple a family pass at the Gallivan Center ice skating rink — constituted the rights and benefits of marriage under state law.

“All I ask is that we hold ourselves to the actual language in the law,” said McCoy, an openly gay lawmaker. “The legislature drew the line at the substantial equivalent of marriage and nothing in my mind [about the registry] is substantially equivalent to the thousands of benefits that are available to marriage.”

McCoy, who was presenting a bill to the Senate Buisness and Labor Committee when the committee voted, later called SB 267 “unnecessary and misguided.”

“The registry is not inconsistent with state law. It is a solution in search of a problem,” he said.

Becker agreed, testifying that the registry did not violate state marriage law and that Salt Lake City voters — who elected him knowing that he would create the registry — wanted it.

“If the legislature overrides Salt Lake City that would be a big mistake,” he said. “Salt Lake City has a population that wants this. We’re only trying to do what’s best for our city and citizens.”

Riverton Mayor Bill Applegarth, however, testified that allowing Salt Lake City to have a domestic partner registry could have “unforeseen consequences” for other cities, including his own.

“Cities in Salt Lake County and the Wasatch Front look toward the capital city on ordinances, and they filter down to our city councils and become a pattern,” he said. “If you kill this bill now, in essence you have said to other cities that we approve of the domestic partner registry.”

Applegarth urged the committee to pass the bill so the “wise minds of the senate” could rule on its legality.

“I elect my senator to represent me and to uphold the rule of law, and to make those decisions that are best for the state of Utah,” he said.

Several people testified to speak for and against the bill. Those in favor included City Council Chair Jill Remington Love and Kristy Gleave, chair of the mayor’s human rights commission.

Those against included Eagle Forum president Gayle Ruzicka and attorney Frank Mylar, who represented several Salt Lake City residents in a suit against the city over Anderson’s benefit plan.

The suit was dropped when the City Council voted to extend the benefits to all adult designees.

Local gay rights group Equality Utah has said that it will continue opposing the bill.

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Regional News Colo. Lesbians Challenge Marriage Ban DENVER – A lesbian couple charged with trespassing for staging a sit-in when they were refused a marriage license last year are seeking to overturn Colorado’s ban on gay marriage, the Denver Post reported Feb. 11.

They have filed a motion with a state court, saying that the marriage ban — known as Amendment 43 — violates the right to equal protection under the law for gay and lesbian couples.

Kate Burns and Sheila Schroeder were arrested on Sept. 24, 2007 after entering the Denver Clerk and Recorder Office asking for a marriage license, then refusing to leave after being told their request violated state and federal law.

In an interview with Soulforce, a gay and lesbian grass roots religious group, Burns said that her inability to marry her partner violated her right to practice her religion freely. “As a life-long Unitarian Universalist, I seek to practice my religion by marry-

ing my life partner in the church where I grew up,� she said.

At the time, Schroeder also said that her inability to marry Burns was discriminatory. “We experienced panic when I had a potentially dangerous health crisis and we had no security that she could attend to me in the hospital,� she said.

At the time of their arrest, the women were accompanied by their minister, Rev. Mike Morran of Denver’s First Unitarian Church. “I am proud to stand on the side of love in support of Kate and Sheila,� he said. “From a church point of view, marriage is a sacrament and the state should stay out of it. This civil right — the freedom to marry — should apply to all citizens.�

Colorado voters passed the constitutional gay marriage ban in 2006.

Burns and Schroeder’s trial for trespassing is scheduled for Feb. 13.

Ariz. Legislators Revisit Gay Marriage Ban recipient of the ultra-conservative movement? This is about getting out the base.

They get out their base by ... promoting fear and hate instead of compassion and inclusion and understanding,� said Sen. Paula Aboud, D-Tucson, an openly lesbian lawmaker who has introduced a bill that seeks to create state-recognized domestic partnerships.

In 2006, Arizona became the first state to defeat a constitutional amendment defining marriage as the union between a man and a woman. Under the opposition campaign Arizona Together gays and straights — including heterosexual retirees — united against the measure, Proposition 107. As part of their strategy they ran commercials that focused entirely on medical decisions, not gay marriage.

Ultimately, Proposition 107, failed by a narrow margin of 52 percent to 48 percent.

Although Cathi Herrod, executive director of the Center for Arizona Policy, which lead the fight for Proposition 107, said that the new legislation would leave the issue of domestic partner benefits alone, gay rights activists have still called the measure divisive. �They are trying to divide the state on a moral issue,� said Sam Holdren, public affairs director of Equality Arizona.

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TUCSON, ARIZ. – Saying that the abstinence-only sex education program in her state hasn’t worked, Arizona Democratic Governor Janet Napolitano turned down $1 million in federal funding for the program on Jan. 28. “While we all support abstinence-only and don’t believe, in particular, that teenagers should be engaged in sexual relationships of that sort, the fact of the matter is that some do,� Napolitano said in a letter to the federal government explaining her decision. “They need to have complete information for their own health.�

In addition, Napolitano said she rejected the money because the federal government requires states to match funds. Arizona is facing a $1 billion budget deficit this fiscal year.

Arizona is now the 16th state to refuse the money, a number which has increased since the release of a congressional study about abstinence-only education programs last April.

The study followed 2000 students from elementary to high school. Half had access to family life services and the other half to abstinence-only education. The study found that only half of the teens

in both groups had abstained from sex by age 17. Of the half that were sexually active, less than a quarter had used a condom. Overall, the study concluded that students who received abstinenceonly education were no more likely to abstain from sex than students who had received education about contraceptives and safer sex.

The federal government has funded abstinence-only education for more than 25 years, spending over $1.5 billion in total.

Several groups including the American Civil Liberties Union have criticized this spending, on the grounds that these programs are often based on religious views of sexuality and hostile towards gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender teenagers.

Under Arizona law, sexual education programs in public schools are required to teach abstinence, but not exclusively.

Decisions about such programs are typically left to individual school districts, some of which choose to include information about contraceptives. Also, some religious organizations like Catholic Charities have contracted with the Department of Health Services to teach abstinence in the classroom.

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TUCSON, ARIZ. – Two years after Arizona voters shot down a constitutional marriage amendment, they may be asked to vote on it again — this time on a much narrower piece of legislation.

On Feb. 11, leaders of the state’s House and Senate introduced a new piece of legislation aimed at putting the issue on the ballot this November. Unlike the 2006 amendment, the new measure leaves out a controversial clause that would prevent governments from allowing domestic partnerships (for gay and straight couples), which are recognized in several Arizona cities and counties.

House Speaker Jim Weiers, R-Phoenix, told The Arizona Republic he was confident the revised measure would pass this time. �All those other issues have been taken out,� said Weiers, who is the lead sponsor on the House’s version of the law. Senate president and congressional candidate Tim Bee, R-Tucson, has sponsored the Senate version.

Both versions say that “only a union of one man and one woman shall be valid or recognized as marriage in this state.�

So far, 15 of the Senate’s 16 Republicans have signed on as co-sponsors, as have all but two of the House’s Republican Representatives.

One who refused to sign on was Rep. Michele Reagan, R-Scottsdale. “I think we’ve got a lot of bigger issues to do,� she told the Arizona Daily Star, noting that gay marriage is already illegal in the state. However, Regan said she would likely vote for the measure if it comes up for vote.

Although Arizona law already forbids gay marriage, Weiers said that a constitutional change is necessary to prevent such laws from being challenged in court.

Senate and House Democrats have called the mostly Republican-backed measures unnecessary and a GOP “political ploy.� “This is their attempt to raise the turnout in November, and who is the lucky

Ariz. Gov: Abstinence-Only a Bust

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WinterPride: Four More Gay Days The third annual WinterPride will end on Sunday, Feb. 17, leaving four more days for community members to get out, have fun and show some pride.

THURSDAY, FEB. 14 The Utah Pride Center’s traveling photo exhibit of queer families “FAMILIES … IT’S ALL RELATIVE” will be open to the public from 6:00 to 9:00 p.m. at Urban Utah Homes & Estates (380 West 200 South).

The event is free and open to the public.

Light hors d’oeuvres and a cash bar will be available.

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FRIDAY, FEB. 15 Although the Queer Utah Aquatic Club’s Women’s Mixer and Ski-and-Swim Opening Social have both sold out, tickets are still available for the WinterPride TRIPLE “F” COMEDY SHOW – Funny, Fabulous, Fashion at Club Sound (579 West 200 South). Starting at 9:30 p.m. and hosted by Nova Starr herself, the evening will feature San Francisco Comic Karen Ripley, a fashion show by the ‘Men of Utah County,” Blue Lotus Belly Dancers and, of course, the Girls of Nova Starr’s PPR. This event is for people over age 18 (IDs will be required). Tickets are $10 in advance and $15 at the door. Doors open at 9:30 p.m.

SATURDAY, FEB. 16 QUAC’s annual Ski-and-Swim weekend kicks off with the following schedule: COMMUNITY BREAKFAST AND SKI DAY KICK-OFF at The Lodge at the Mountain Village Park City Mountain Resort (1415 Lowell Avenue, Park City). Although the event is open to the public, participants will need to get a free ticket in advance.

The breakfast starts at 9:00 a.m.

DOWNHILL SKIING & SNOWBOARDING with Half Pipe from 9:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m. at Park City Mountain Resort. The public is invited and passes are $50 for adults over 13 ($81 at the door), $40 for children age seven to 12 ($50 at the door) and free for children six and under.

TIMED NASTAR COURSE TWO RUNS. The time for this public event will be announced at the Community Breakfast.

It will take place at the Park City Mountain Resort. Tickets are $7 advance and door. For more details on this event visit parkcitymountain.com/winter/activities/nastar.

SNOWSHOEING (Time to be announced).

The tickets for this public event are $35 in advance only, and include a shuttle ride (departing from the Park City Mountain Resort), snowshoe rental, poles, bottled water, power bar and guide tour. Visit parkcityhiking.com for more information.

ALPINE COASTER will be at the Park City Mountain Resort from12:00 to 4:00 p.m.. It is open to the public and tickets are $17 in advance or at the door.

QUAC-ATHALON. The time for this event will be announced at the Community Breakfast. It will be held at the Park City Mountain Resort and open to the public.

Cost is free with Nastar course ticket an registration in the 100 yard freestyle.

OLD TOWN SHOPPING. Shopping at Main

Street Park City’s boutiques, eateries and unique stores will be open from 8:00 a.m. to 10:00 p.m. A free shuttle service is available.

A COMMUNITY LUNCH will be held at noon at the Mountain Village at the Park City Mountain Resort (1415 Lowell Avenue, Park City). As with breakfast, the buffet is free and open to the public, but an advance ticket is required.

Over a dozen private HOUSE PARTIES will be held throughout the evening at several homes along the Wasatch Front.

Costs vary per host and RSVPs are required. Parties that are open to the public include QVinum’s sponsored Wine and Food Pairing at the home of Frank Kieffer and Dan Fahndrich (rsvp at 4872593 or online at plumwineslc@yahoo. com); Pssst… Blast Away the Chill, Baby Cocktail Party at the Judge Café (to RSVP visit pingg.com/rsvp/y4k576w73dk); and the Utah Polyamory Society’s Tiki Party (to RSVP call Ian at 309-7240).

QUAC’S SKIN-N-SWIM DESERT PARTIES are sold out.

SUNDAY, FEB. 17 A free, 30 minute GUIDED TOUR OF TEMPLE SQUARE (50 W. North Temple) will start at 9:00 a.m. Tickets are required.

QUAC’S SWIM MEET, WATER POLO AND DIVING EXPO will be held from 10:00 a.m. to 2:00 p.m. at the University of Utah Aquatic Center (270 South 1850 East).

The event is free to spectators and $5 to participate in each competition.

A BOWLING PARTY will begin at Bonwood Bowling (2501 South Main Street) at 3:30 p.m. Tickets are $12 in advance and $15 at the door. The fee includes three games, shoe rental and a drawing for a new bowling bag and ball.

WinterPride 2008 will close with a MARDI GRAS DANCE PARTY at the Depot (400 West South Temple) beginning at 8:00 p.m. Tickets are $5 in advance and $10 at the door. This dance is open to everyone over 18 (ID will be required). DJ “Jester” Savas will provide the music and Nova Starr will host.

Adoption Bill in Danger A bill that seeks to allow unmarried and gay and lesbian couples to adopt children has not yet been released from the House Rules Committee. The committee, which assigns bills to House subcommittees for debate and vote, has been holding HB 318, Utah Adoption Amendments, since Jan. 30.

Equality Utah urges HB 318’s supporters to lobby members of the Rules Committee through Feb. 14 to encourage them to assign the bill.

“We’ll be making a big push through the rally on Feb. 13 and trying to get families up on Capitol Hill on Feb. 14, Valentine’s Day,” said Will Carlson, Equality Utah’s Director of Public Policy. “But it’s an uphill battle,” he added.

Supporters may also contact the following committee members to urge them to assign the bill to a committee: Rep. Urquhart, Speaker of the House Rep. Greg Curtis, and Rep. Greg Hughes.

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by Michael Aaron

michael@qsaltlake.com

A Nevada judge sentenced a father of six to 15 years in prison Thursday for hiring a hit man to kill his American Fork wife of 28 years so he could freely live in Reno with his boyfriend.

Washoe District Judge Connie Steinheimer gave James Gau, 50, the maximum possible sentence.

Gau will be eligible for parole in two years. She had denied his request James Gau for probation, saying it would send the community the wrong message.

James Gau had asked the judge for probation, and estranged wife Sheryl Gau also asked Steinheimer to give her estranged husband probation in the hope that her family could be reunited. She also worried that he could not contribute financially from prison. “I understand that given your circumstances, you will not be in prison long before you are paroled, but I want you to be supervised because I think you are a predator,� Steinheimer told Gau. “I have seen people like you the last 30 years and have heard women like your wife the last 30 years, and you are no different from what I’ve seen. “You fit the (predator) profile perfectly.�

Gau pleaded guilty to solicitation of murder for asking a police informant in July to go to his wife’s American Fork, Utah, home, pretend to be a robber and strangle her. He gave the “hit man� a family photo and her address.

Gau moved to Reno and left his family in Utah shortly after his son’s marriage in Carson City, Nevada, because he wanted to live as a gay man, according to police. In a statement to the court, he said he realized he was gay when he was 17 and Church of Jesus Christ of Latterday Saints leaders told him if he believed in God and got married, he would become “straight.� “My wife is a wonderful person, great mother and my best friend, even though sex was difficult for me to perform and there were times of loneliness,� Gau said in the statement. “I eventually left my wife to pursue a new lifestyle,� he said.

But feelings of guilt caused him to want to reunite with his family, he said. He said his gay friends were not supportive and said he was making a big mistake.

Gau said his boyfriend suggested his problems would go away if his wife were dead. To please his boyfriend and continue their relationship, he agreed to hire a hit man.

Gau apologized to his family and said he was in a fog when he asked the hit man to strangle his wife to avoid a bloody mess. “He pulled the trigger,� Deputy District Attorney Luke Prengaman said. “Because as far as he knew, he had hired someone and then directed that person, knowing that guy was going to kill his wife.�

Steinheimer said it was just by the “grace of God� that the hit man was working with police.  Q

Affirmation Seeks Meeting With LDS Leaders

by Michael Aaron

michael@qsaltlake.com

Affirmation: Gay and Lesbian Mormons has sent a letter to newly-appointed Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints President Thomas S. Monson seeking a face-to-face conversation about gay and lesbian issues and the church.

Affirmation leaders Dave Melson, James Morris, and Olin ThomasSigned

by Affirmation directors Olin Thomas, David Melson and James Morris, the Feb. 6 letter extends the group’s sympathy on the death of Gordon B. Hinckley. “Our prayers go out to his family and to you and the other leaders who must guide the Church during this difficult time.� “[W]e extend to you an olive branch, a symbol of peace,� the letter continues. “[W]e would like to open a dialog with you to work together to find better ways to counsel and to support those Church members who are homosexual, as well as their family members and their Priesthood leaders.�

The group believes that such a dialog

could find common ground consistent with church doctrine and teachings of Jesus Christ. “Although there are many areas of hurt and disagreement that have separated us, there are many more areas on which we can find agreement and, in so doing, become a blessing in the lives of many of the Saints, both straight and gay,� Affirmation leaders said in the letter.

The letter recognizes past differences and the likelihood of future differences, but says the group hopes to find common ground. “We hope that you might be moved to give serious and prayerful consideration to this invitation, and that you might do so in the spirit in which it is offered.� “[B]y seeking areas of agreement, we believe that all of us can better get on with the work of becoming more like the Savior and serving our fellow man,� the letter finishes.

Church officials have not commented on whether Monson has received the letter, saying that such information is held as private.  Q

Faiths Gather at Third Annual House Passes Homeless Youth Bill WinterPride Interfaith Service

by JoSelle Vanderhooft joselle@qsaltlake.com

— who are typically thrown out so older men in the community can marry teenage girls — as “the lost boys.”

“We have a couple of entities in various parts of the state that have taken it upon themselves to rearrange our families and have done it under the guise of a religious enterprise,” Fowlke said.

No representatives had follow-up questions for Fowlke, an Orem attorney who introduced this bill in the 2007 legislative session. Although the House unanimously passed the bill last year, the senate was unable to find time to vote on it before the session’s end.

Although Fowlke has said that the bill is intended only to target religious sects such as the Fundamentalist Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, local gay rights group Equality Utah has said that HB 23 will benefit all minors, including gay children at risk of being kicked out of their homes.

“What [Rep. Fowlke] doesn’t realize is that most homeless youth aren’t homeless because of polygamy but because they’re LGBT and got kicked out,” Will Carlson, Equality Utah’s Manager of Public Policy told QSaltLake earlier this session.

HB 23 was scheduled to be heard before the Senate Judiciary, Law Enforcement and Criminal Justice Committee on Feb. 12. However, the committee was not able to address it before the day’s scheduled Senate Floor time. It will be heard later in the session. Q

Buttars Amends STD Funding Bill A bill seeking to grant $350,000 to educating Utahns about chlamydia and gonorrhea has been amended to prohibit private entities from being involved.

Citing concerns that Planned Parenthood could become involved in Utah’s public schools, Sen. Chris Buttars, R-West Jordan, proposed the amendment to HB 15 Control and Prevention of Sexually Transmitted Diseases on Feb. 7.

“I’m very much for the concept of this bill, but some years ago we passed a bill that outside organizations can’t come into schools and discuss these Sen. Scott McCoy kinds of things, and make presentations of their view points,” Buttars told the Senate. “If we don’t make this amendment — in fact, Planned Parenthood came and testified at the [bill’s] hearing that they’re so glad to be back involved. Well, they’re not to be involved, there’s a statute against that kind of thing, and this would open the door for them to argue to get back in.”

The bill’s Senate sponsor Sen. Allen M. Christensen, R-North Ogden, accepted the amendment.

Sen. Scott McCoy, D-Salt Lake City, however, did not.

McCoy told the Senate that taking out private organizations removes “a whole host of folks who could essentially be avenues of delivery for this important information” including private doctors’

offices where a majority of STD cases are diagnosed.

“By cutting out private entities in the bill we have significantly narrowed avenues of dissemination for this critically important information,” said McCoy, adding that he agreed with Buttars’ point about public schools. “Often times we include private entities in disseminating this kind of information. I don’t know why we’re going to single this out when we have such a significant problem with STDs.” Christensen moved that HB 15 be added to the senate calendar for a third reading, which means that it will be discussed again before the final vote.

In an email, Melissa Larsen, Executive Director of Utah’s Planned Parenthood, said that HB 15 was not about letting Planned Parenthood into public schools.

“It is about educating the community about these devastating diseases,” she wrote. “In some places, private providers are the only ones providing STD testing and treatment.”

Larsen said that Buttars’ amendment would also prevent the Utah Department of Health from giving out information about private providers “in areas where public health departments don’t provide service.”

Planned Parenthood is the largest provider of reproductive health services in Utah.

HB 15 comes at a particularly crucial time for Utah. In the past 11 years, newly diagnosed cases of chlamydia have jumped from 1,563 in 1996 to 5,627 in 2007.

Diagnosed cases of gonorrhea have also skyrocketed from 303 in 1995 to 888 in 2007. Occurrences of these diseases in Utah teenagers is also on the rise. Q

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An interfaith celebration bringing together gay and gay-friendly Christians, pagans, Jews and others was held at the Holladay United Church of Christ as part of the Utah Pride Center’s WinterPride Festival on Sunday, Feb. 10.

Russ Gorringe, WinterPride InterFaith Chair and chair of Holladay UCC’s Open and Affirming Ministry, welcomed the participants to the gay-friendly church where he married his partner and that he now calls “the place I have found to worship.”

“No matter who you are or where you are in life’s journey, you are welcome here,” he said.

The invocation was given by President Robert McIntier of the Restoration Church of Jesus Christ, an off-shoot of the Church of Jesus-Christ of Latter-day Saints which welcomes gay members and admits women to the priesthood.

McIntier encouraged the assembly to be thankful for being able to come together for the evening. “Not so many years ago such a gathering may not have been possible,” he said. He also encouraged those gathered to fight for laws that would bring about “peace, equality and justice for Heavenly Father and Heavenly Mother’s children.”

“We’re here to proclaim to our community that we are one people, a queer people,” he said.

Remarks for the evening were provided by a number of Salt Lake Valley’s religious leaders, including Rev. Erin Gilmore of the UCC, Rev. Dee Bradshaw of Sacred Light of Christ Metropolitan Community Church and Rock Oakeson of Congregation KOL AMI. Gilmore opened her remarks by quoting from the book The Life of the Beloved

by Catholic writer J.M. Nouwen. She then asked the assembly to remember that they are God’s beloved people, even though they may be told they cannot be gay and worship God. “There are alot of voices telling you that you are worthless, bad, unworthy.

And then there is that even more insidious voice out there that says, ‘prove yourself otherwise,’” she said. “But remember that other voice that says, ‘You are my beloved and upon you my favor rests.’ Our spiritual journey is listening to this voice above all others. We help one another honor that sacred voice that calls one another beloved.”

Bradshaw called upon the assembly to love God and each other without prejudice.

He recounted the story of Adam and Eve hiding from God after they had sinned, and said this story was symbolic of the human struggle to accept God’s love.

“We can be in a relationship with God no matter what people say, because God seeks us out,” he said. “Jesus said, ‘Whosoever believes in me shall have eternal life.’ Not a period, not a comma, ‘but,’ ‘except.’ Jesus said that so we could walk without fear in that relationship.”

As part of his speech, Oakson, who came as a representative of the LGBTA Jewish Community at his synagogue (Rabbi Tracee Rosen was unable to attend), recounted the day when his 10th grade class at the congregation’s religious school created a global holiday as part of a school project.

“Jonathan, a straight wrestler, said, ‘You

know, I think the world should get over itself. It’s OK for guys to hold guns, but not each other’s hands? They need to get their priorities straight.’” Oakson said. “I almost wet my pants when I heard that.”

After much discussion about the discrimination gays, lesbians, bisexuals and transgender people face throughout the world, Oakson said his class elected to create a holiday “not for gays, who have their acts together, but for straights who can’t accept them.” They decided to name it World Acceptance Day, “for all human beings to be aware of and accept all people,” and to remember those in the past who had been rejected for any reason.

Oakson ended his speech by saying he longed for the day when such a holiday would be realized across the world.

In two separate speeches, David Winmill and Jeff Lensman, leaders of the First Baptist Church’s LGBT Ministries, discussed their experiences at the church, where they became the first gay couple to be married at its altar.

Winmill, a former Mormon, said he once accepted the “lie that you can’t be gay and worship God” as a teenager but was drawn to worship at the First Baptist Church when he was hired to sing for a service. He said he chose this church because of its ties to social justice movements, in particular the abolition movement of the 1800s — and because its congregation accepted him and his partner.

Lensman recounted the way the church’s community rallied around him and his partner when Lensman was diagnosed with oral cancer. During the brutal chemotherapy sessions, he said he learned how to surrender not just to the love of his partner and church, but to the love and will of God. “In the hospital I finally learned to let go of my ego and my fear and to let the doctors, nurses and my partner take over caring for me,” he said. After a week of chemotherapy treatments, he said his tumor vanished. And while he saw this as miraculous, he said he only later realized that the support and love he received was also a miracle.

The service closed with a reading of the Rainbow Chakra Litany, a blending of Hindu, Christian and pagan traditions which honored the gay community’s strength, creativity, passion and sense of justice as well as local community members who had died from suicide, murder or other forms of violence. Maureen Duffy-Boose, Lady Aisling, High Priestess; President of the Covenant of Unitarian Universalist Pagans then gave the benediction. After explaining that those in her faith tradition stood and looked one another in the eye when receiving a blessing, Duffy-Boose had the assembly stand as she blessed them.

Music for the service was provided by the Salt Lake Men’s Choir, organist Scott Green-Mills and the UCC’s alternative/ folk worship band, Twist of Faith. Joni Weiss of Science of Spirituality, a global interfaith group dedicated to meditation, service and personal transformation, also read the mystic poem “The Cry of the Soul” by the group’s former leader, Sant Darshan Singh.

An offering was collected for the 4th Street Clinic’s Open Door Program, which serves homeless youth ages 13-22.Q

After just three and a half minutes of debate the House unanimously passed a bill Feb. 8 seeking to make child abandonment a felony.

Sponsored by Rep. Lori Fowlke, R-Orem, HB 23 Child and Family Protections would make it a third degree felony for parents to abandon their children. The bill also seeks to make child abandonment a second Rep. Lori Fowlke degree felony if it causes the child serious physical injury or if the parents receive any benefit in abandoning the child.

The bill defines child abandonment as a parent or legal guardian intentionally ceasing to maintain physical custody of a child without making reasonable arrangements for his or her care and provision. It also holds parents less accountable if they were ordered or coerced into abandoning their children.

In her introduction to HB 23, Fowlke told the House that it is intended to target leaders of fundamentalist churches (mainly splinter groups from the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints) who force families to kick out their children, particularly teenage boys. The popular press has dubbed these abandoned teens

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Letters Stop Punishing Families Editor, As biological Aunt and Uncle of two beautiful girls, ages 5 and 2, being raised by their two loving mothers, we strongly support HB 318 by Rep. Chavez-Houck.

Under current law, our sister (and sister in-law), her partner and their daughters are being denied their basic rights as American citizens. Our nieces deserve the same protection and benefits allowed to children being raised by heterosexual couples. All children should have the right to two legal parents to provide for them and protect them.

From our personal experiences the gay lesbian parents we know are productive, law abiding, tax-paying people who contribute greatly to their communities.

Please pass HB 318 to allow these lovely children the same rights as heterosexual headed families. Let’s put a stop to the punishment being inflicted upon these families due to the bigotry and prejudice of others.

Mr. Dirk DeGraw & Mrs. Bonnie DeGraw San Diego, Calif.

Protecting All Children

From the Editor The Vulgarians Are Here!

by Michael Aaron michael@qsaltlake.com

Every time the Utah Legislature calls itself to session, I get a vision of Utahns scurrying to their houses, drawing their shutters, bolting their doors and cowering in fear, as in the movie Chitty Chitty Bang Bang when the Vulgarian army storms the village square in search of their children.

But instead of losing their children, Utahns are fearful of losing more of their rights.

Just in this session alone, Latinos are fearful the legislature will strip them of state-sanctioned identification, alcohol drinkers are afraid they won’t be able to buy bitch-beer in stores any longer, Salt Lake gays and lesbians may lose their ability for couple roll-call, bar owners are braced for another round of restrictions, and who knows what other non-selfrighteous groups walk the streets with a look of terror in their eyes.

About the only people free from fear are gun packers and pet abusers. (No David, I didn’t say they were the same group of people.)

RANT. RAVE. QSaltLake Welcomes letters from our readers.

Send your letter of 300 words or less to letters@qsaltlake.com We reserve the right to edit for length, appropriateness and libel.

Try this. Google “fear Utah Legislature” and you will find over two million results. That’s one for every man, woman and child in the state.

In Utah’s Vulgaria, Sen. Chris Buttars plays the role of the evil rights catcher, smelling out anything that might be considered a benefit or right by people he doesn’t like. (And his list is long.)

“You have to know where to look, like in the cracks in the walls, in the woodwork!”

Gayle Ruzicka plays the hateful Baroness. And we play the role of the syrupy-sweet children at times, “You’re a nasty, horrid mean old lady!” “And very ugly!”

And she is.

No, really, I mean it. David Nelson, Stuart Merrill and Toni Johnson can tell me until they are blue in the face how nice she is, but I think she’s a horrid, mean old lady. And ugly. Very ugly.

But (as Ruby always says), I digress.

Chris Buttars is ugly too.

But why do Utahns elect these people who inspire not hope, not happiness, but fear and loathing? Do the people in West Jordan really think that Chris Buttars represents their views? Even half the time?

Do the people of Spanish Fork really like the nuclearwaste-loving Aaron Tilton?

Assignment two: Google “Aaron Tilton sucks.”

You get nearly 23,000 results. That’s the popluation of Spanish Fork. I’m not making this up.

Utah has a reputation of being overly-friendly, overly-cheery and just, doggone-it, nice people. Why do we elect so many hateful, bitter legislators?

Is it that Utahn’s don’t take their Prozac on election day? Is it that we can’t get a drink during an election? Utahns take three times the amount of antidepressants as those in New Jersey (New Jersey!).

Could it be that happy pills make you vote for cranky politicians?

The legislature’s reputation is well-earned. The fault lies squarely on the electorate.

Maybe we can help them fix it. We are, after all, gay. What’s more happy than that? Q

Editor, In the spring of 2004, I received a phone call from a friend. She knew a young girl that was pregnant and would consider letting me adopt her baby at birth.

This girl was only 15 years old and already had a 2-year-old daughter.

This 15-year-old came from a home where her mother was a drug addict and registered sex offender of young boys. Her step father was an alcoholic. There was a lot of abuse and neglect in the home.

To adopt my son, I had to leave a loving relationship with my same sex partner because, according to Utah law, I had to be single to adopt a child. If I had not done this, he would have stayed in that environment. What kind of life would he have had?

Since his adoption his mother, now 19, has had another child. Both children have been taken away from her and put into State Foster Care.

HB318, sponsored by Rep. Chavez-Houck, will remove the cohabitation restriction from the current adoption law so children, like my son, will have the opportunity to be raised in a loving, two-parent home — no matter the sexual orientation of their parents.

My son has everything a 3-year-old could ever want with the exception of the benefits that come from having two, legal parents.

These are just some of the reasons this bill needs to be changed. Give these children the right to a loving home.

Cindy M. Piper Sunset

My Undocumented Opinion Editor, Some gay Americans are tempted to consider the extension of U.S. civil rights to illegal aliens as morally or even legally equivalent to protecting their own equal rights; a kind of “all for one and one for all” spirit (“In Defense of the Undocumented,” QSaltLake, Jan. 22).

There’s a reason that noncitizens are simply ineligible for those protections: They’re not citizens. Like all nations, we export a lot of things worldwide, but our rights are for citizens and those working to become citizens. While more than 962,000 legal immigrants enter the United States every year to become citizens, up to three million illegal aliens enter the United States every year and don’t even try to become citizens.

Up to 20 million U.S. illegal aliens account for five percent of workers and eight percent of residents, but 29 percent of prisoners.

Up to 8.4 million illegal aliens receive some kind of federal welfare.

By most estimates, illegal aliens pay far less taxes, if at all, than their residency costs. These upside-down costs make gay Americans even more disadvantaged in the fiscal and political struggles for public policies and funding.

U.S. government health-care budgets for 2005 to 2008 will increase more than $1 billion to pay for uninsured emergency care which is disproportionately enjoyed by illegal aliens. Bear Stearns Asset Management Inc. analysts reported in 2005 that “The social expenses of [illegal-alien] health care, retirement funding, education and law enforcement are potentially accruing at $30 billion per year.” To describe this differently, imagine increasing our federal HIVAIDS budget by more than $1 billion or our hate-crime, domestic-violence and HIV-education budgets among others as part of an annual $30 billion reallocation.

Beyond the governmental disadvantage, business leaders who choose to hire illegal aliens affect gay Americans, especially youth, who are wagedepressed or displaced from entry-level jobs overall and service jobs specifically.

Most illegal aliens don’t even need the U.S. jobs, however. Pew Hispanic Center pollsters reported in 2005 that “only [five percent of illegal aliens] who have

Queer Gnosis Gordon B. Hinckley was a False Prophet

By Troy Williams troy@qsaltlake.com

with each other.

In the first 100 years of our nation, it received an average of two immigrants a day. Since 1996, it receives an average of two immigrants a minute. Things have changed. The Ellis Island-era laws weren’t nice or welcoming, but they were fair. Immigrants could be turned away because of unacceptable education, work experience or health, among other reasons. Today, illegalalien immigration affects our national ability to protect the equal rights of citizens because our government can’t respond deliberately to the problems of its economy, crime, health, education, environment and defense that illegal aliens aggravate. What hasn’t changed, however, is the idea that legal immigrants who play by the rules are welcomed, included and protected equally.

It’s an idea that gay Americans should know well.

David Nelson Salt Lake City

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think it comes down to an internalized sense of Mormonphobia. I think deep down inside, Mormons know their religion is kinda whacky. They know Joseph made up the First Vision. They know the Book of Mormon is not a history of ancient America. They know polygamy is creepy, and deep down inside they’re embarrassed by it all. This was made clear in a recent Deseret News article written

by Tad Walsh. He wrote: “Mormons are regular people, President Gordon B. Hinckley said during a 1995 interview on 60 Minutes that thrilled American church members who longed for their neighbors to see them as normal. The moment he told Mike Wallace ‘We are not a weird people’ was his highprofile zenith.”

Wow. Going on Larry King was the “zenith” of Hinckley’s career? Anna Nicole Smith has been on Larry King, too. What does that say? It’s become clear to me that Hinckley is beloved by the Saints, not because he was prophetic in word, but more so because he was able to spin the public face of Mormonism to ease the anxieties of the insecure Latter-day Saints. He offered a cover for Mormon shame. The queer parallels are fascinating. Hinckley is to Mormons as Ellen is to gays. He’s funny, agreeable, and just gosh darn likeable. The mainstream gay movement is also currently struggling with a similar identity crisis. We want people to know we’re not weird. We want people to know that we’re not all sex perverts and deviants. We want to someday run for president, too. I felt a strange simpatico with the Saints as I read Walsh’s article.

Mormons and queers could learn a lot from each other.

Not the least being what a Freudian analysis can reveal about one’s institutional character. In another salutary Deseret News article, writer Jerry Johnston wrote about Hinckley’s legendary walking cane. One doesn’t need a degree in queer theory to see the obvious phallic imagery on display.

Johnston wrote: “Of all the photographs of President Gordon B. Hinckley, my favorite is the one where he is ‘knighting’ President Henry B. Eyring

with his cane. The gesture is playful, affectionate and — like so many things the man did — contains a lesson. In the hands of President Hinckley, a cane was never a crutch. It was a tool. He took an emblem of weakness — a ‘walking stick’ — and transformed it into an emblem of power. But then, prophets have been doing that for eons. And when the apostles and prophets preached to the multitudes, they hoisted those staves for visibility.

The photograph brings to mind the 23rd Psalm and the line: ‘Thy rod and thy staff, they comfort me’ ... ” Hmmm. That is, like, so gay. But what do you expect from a church that is headquartered in a giant concrete penis? Ah, patriarchy.

Gordon B. Hinckley was no prophet. He just played one on TV. He was, however, a magnificent CEO. Mitt Romney-caliber, really. Hinckley’s legacy has been brutally devastating to minorities. He successfully fought against the Equal Rights Amendment, funded millions into political campaigns to restrict civil liberties to gays, lesbians, bisexuals and transgender people, and oversaw the

excommunication of scholars who wrote books and articles contrary to official church history and doctrine. And worse, he did it with a smile and with a feigned paternal sense of condescending love. My heart always breaks when I see Mormon kids struggling with their gay identity.

Mormonism and the prophets who lead it are quite simply not worth the angst many of us carry.

Mormon prophets are “blind guides” who “copy the forms of godliness but deny the power thereof.” Of course, these false prophets represent the divine narcissist Jehovah, who I believe to be a false god anyway, so go figure. At least Joseph Smith was a prophetic city builder who wanted to create the New Jerusalem — a literal utopian city with its own economy, militia and theocratic government. Now that was a man with ambition and vision. In contrast, Gordon B. Hinckley approved his great and marvelous plans for the City Creek shopping mall. I think that just about sums up his legacy. Q

We covet a standard of living that is built on the backs of the working poor.

Editor, It’s been well over a year since I subscribed to QSaltLake and I can’t think of a better time than St. Valentine’s Day to show you how much I love your news and entertainment magazine. The appealing, easy-to-read layout as well as the interesting and sometimes humorous articles are always bound to elicit a reaction, which is exactly as it should be.

As the whirlwinds of hopeful political change sweep across the country, I’m glad to have QSaltLake by my side; at home, in transit and after walking my two Boston Terriers as they patiently wait for me to finish reading a page or two on the park bench with a hot cup of coffee.

Bravo and all our love to you.

Tony, Gus and Lola Socci Needham, Mass.

QSaltLake welcomes letters from its readers.

Please email your letter of under 300 words to letters@qsaltlake.com.

Troy produces RadioActive on KRCL 90.9 FM. He blogs at queergnosis.com.Q

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“And many false prophets shall rise, and shall deceive many.” Matthew 24:11 I’ve been strangely fascinated with the media’s “Gorgasms” over the death of beloved Mormon leader, Gordon B. Hinckley. The Salt Lake Tribune simply couldn’t find enough ink to cover their gushing. And I’ve been equally fascinated by how Mormons themselves have been mourning their loss.

I’ve been trying to figure out why, exactly, this man was so popular among the Saints. I grew up Mormon, so I know something of the cult of personality that rises with church leaders.

But as impartial as I’ve tried to be, I just have never actually heard Hinckley say anything remotely prophetic. I mean, at least Joseph Smith produced whole books of scripture that he claimed to translate or reveal. The best Hinckley could write were little self-help books titled, Stand a Little Taller and Way to Be!: Nine Ways to be Happy and Make Something of Your Life. Not exactly the Book of Revelations.

And if you thumb through the pages you’ll note he never really says anything of substance. Compared to Hinckley, Tony Robbins could be considered a great philosopher. If anything, Hinckley dumbed it down for the Saints. Remember when he went on Larry King and said that Mormons don’t believe or teach that they can become gods? He also told King that polygamy was not doctrinal. When asked about gays, he said he didn’t know what caused it or how to fix it. Of course that wouldn’t stop him from aggressively working to restrict our civil liberties.

As a spiritual teacher, the best Hinckley could offer were banal platitudes and vapid calls for obedience. And the Saints ate it all up and asked for more.

What was the appeal of the old guy? I

been in the [United States] for two years or less were unemployed while still in Mexico” and, contrary to popular opinion, they resemble “the core of Mexico’s labor force” not its least-skilled or leastpaid workers as their desperate actions suggest. As long as corporate America provides gay workers with better and more inclusive nondiscrimination protections and partner benefits than our federal and state governments, the loss of our jobs to lower-paid illegal aliens will continue to harm our workers.

Some gay Americans continue to fuzz the edges between nondiscrimination and immigration laws by describing how gay illegal aliens who marry U.S. citizens aren’t protected by federal LPR legal permanent residency while nongay illegal aliens remain protected as they always have. While this is true, it’s a deficiency in our federal marriage laws not our federal immigration laws. None of the several immigration reform bills in the Congress would change that deficiency.

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Ruth Hackford-Peer The Dysfunction of Q and U

By Ruth Hackford-Peer ruth@qsaltlake.com

I attended a wedding this week. Weddings always make me uncomfortable.

While bride and groom commit themselves until death do they part, I typically sit back among the spectators making bets on how long it will be before the divorce. While bride and groom sign on to the thousands of legal rights and benefits that marriage bestows, I remind myself that marriage is a patriarchal institution that makes women property. Then I start to worry about the reception, hope there’ll be an open bar, and wonder how many eyes will stare if my partner and I decide to dance. Yes, weddings always make me uncomfortable — but this one was particularly disturbing.

This wedding ceremony took place at a local public elementary school. The kindergarten through sixth grade sat in the auditorium for the nuptials of “Q” and “U.” The second grade staged the wedding as part of their phonics curriculum. Each second grader played a role — most were other letters, but a select few were invited wedding guests.

There were “queens” on one side of the aisle and “quarterbacks” on the other. In the middle, the beautiful bride (the letter Q) stood beside her groom (the letter U), and the principal — dubbed a minister — married the two.

Cute? Certainly. Creative? Definitely.

Even so, I couldn’t get past the sexism, the stereotypical gender roles and the compulsive heterosexuality. Of course it was the bride who couldn’t function without the groom: “U doesn’t need Q, but Q always needs U.” U was the groom who was often needed elsewhere like in the word underwear. But Q (who stays home watching over the other letters) cannot go anywhere without U. I don’t know about you, but the thought that I am useless without my partner is nothing short of disgusting. Why are we celebrating these dysfunctional nuptials?

Shouldn’t this play be called The Dysfunction of Q and U? Suddenly, I am rewriting the play in my head. First, a rewritten heterosexual ceremony where U is a controlling husband, not allowing Q out of his sight. Q sucks it up, thinking it’s her role to be an extension of him. Even when U has extra-marital affairs with almost every letter of the alphabet, Q never quarrels with him. But then, suddenly, Q has had enough. She runs off to Qatar to be alone, knowing that Arabic doesn’t have such restrictive expectations of her.

Then I’m directing another play: The Commitment Ceremony of Q and U where U loads up the U-Haul after the second date and all the QU words move in together. At their ceremony there are queens and quarterbacks too, but some of the queens are fabulous gay boys and a few of the quarterbacks are sporty dykes.

At first, the queer couple is happy, but pretty soon Q starts getting annoyed by her lack of independence. Q is in a quagmire. She loves U but can’t stand being with her ALL THE TIME. Q decides to get a job with NASDAQ where she invests in

Compaq and Q-Tip stock. Happiness returns. Happiness based on independence and self-sufficiency. She has just enough time without U that she doesn’t mind her company the rest of the time. Neither of my plays would have made it on stage. They are, of course, “too political.” But I challenge us all to see “The Marriage of Q and U” as equally political — maybe even more so. More political because very few people even see how oppressive it is. Nobody thought to send home a parental permission slip for my child to see such narrow and biased material.

I only coincidentally attended the assembly because my son was to receive a Student of the Month award after the play.

What messages does this play send?

When Q and U married, boy married girl. When the minister read the vows, Christian marriage was held up as the ideal. A decision was made to cast Q as the girl and U as the boy. Of course, it is

Q (the girl) who is useless without her U. No wonder so many young girls have self-esteem issues. Queens and quarterbacks only enforce the gender code: girls are not supposed to want to play sports, and heaven help the boy who wants to dress up as a queen. The fact that Q is supposed to just be happy with U running all over town without her ... well, that’s just disturbing on so many levels. I call a relationship where one person (“letter”) can’t go anywhere without the other codependent and possibly even abusive.

No wonder oppression is so ingrained in us. Not only are we getting these messages through the media, in our homes and our places of worship, but even our elementary schools are telling students the status quo is the only way.

Sexism, Christian hegemony, stereotypical gender roles and homophobia are political, too. It is time to start seeing them that way.Q

While bride and groom commit themselves until death do they part, I typically sit back among the spectators making bets on how long it will be before the divorce.

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Pity, Party of One

by Ruby Ridge ruby@qsaltlake.com

Aloha, kittens! I hope you are all well.

Speaking of feeling well, I must give sincere thanks to all of you who called or e-mailed when you read about my accident. It was very kind of you and I truly appreciate your best wishes and prayers. Although cherubs, what was really funny was how many of you thought I was actually joking.

Yes darlings, I really did break my elbow on one arm and my wrist on the other. And let me tell you, for someone as hyperactive as moi, it’s been a royal pain not being able to drive, work out, or even type with more than one finger. To make a long story short I simply do not do sedentary well.

Thankfully Mr. Ridge has been a trooper helping out and putting up with my whining and moodiness (which in retrospect probably hasn’t changed that much from normal anyway). It must get tiresome though and I get the subtle feeling that as soon as I finish writing this he’s probably going to jump on the internet to google euthanasia instructions. Which reminds me ... should chicken soup taste metallic?

Just wondering.

Anyway, you wouldn’t believe how awkward it is doing the most basic things when you have two honking casts on your arms. Forget about buttons and laces (I’ve been wearing t-shirts and slip on shoes for three weeks), putting in contact lenses (I swear to God I am making an appointment for Lasik as soon as I can dial a phone), and don’t even get me started on using a freaking fork! Right now most of my dining out experiences involve utensil-free chicken nuggets and

French fries, and I’m one step away from declaring jihad on any restaurant that serves coffee creamer in those stupid little hermetically sealed communion cups. Those little f*&#@rs are impossible to open at the best of times!

But petals, I have to tell you the most atrocious story which, like a biblical parable, perfectly illustrates my current condition. Be warned it’s pretty graphic and semi-disgusting so you may want to send small children or any impressionable Utah County legislators out of the room. A few days after the accident I was swollen and purple with bruising and I had no coordination or power in my hands, but I needed to blow my nose. I KNOW! I KNOW ... comedy ensues! So despite being in shoulder length casts, I managed to pick up the tissue in my right hand because my left arm is completely immobilized. But I misjudged where my hand was in relation to my face and I completely missed the tissue. This sent a gravity defying booger flying at the speed of light across the bathroom to stick against the wall like an al dente spaghetti noodle.

Oh my God it was visually appalling, and I was aghast petals, AGHAST! But on the positive side, I got some distance on that puppy, so I’m thinking my lung capacity is fine.

Well the good news is my casts come off in two weeks right before I host the Fun Bus to Wendover on March 1 and trust me I will be partying and attacking that buffet with a fork in both hands.

Michael has all of the Wendover info on the website gaywendover.com and I invite you to come party with us. These bus trips are affordable, fun, and what I just love about them is the fabulous mix of people that go. Straights, gays, liberals, co-workers, family and friends ... it’s all good!

See you there, cupcakes! Q

To make a long story short …

I simply do not do sedentary well!

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Chocolate? Check.

Flowers? Check. Bottle of wine? Check.

Romantic movie? Check. Dinner reservations? Check. I’m all ready for the evening!

Hold on. Wait just a red-hot heartshaped minute. What’s this I’m told?

Valentine’s Day isn’t a day to appreciate oneself, but a holiday to be shared with another person? How frustrating — now I have to make a new list.

Zoloft? Check. Paxil? Check. Celexa?

Check. Serlift? Check. Prozac? Check.

Fontex? Check. Now I’m all ready for the evening!

I realize that it’s not a novel thing for gay men to say they hate Valentine’s Day. Nearly everyone says this. The very act of hating Valentine’s Day has become such a hip pastime that celebrities are starting to do it, simply so that average Americans may buy cheaper knock-off versions: “Did you hear that Jennifer Aniston hates Valentine’s Day? I hate Valentine’s Day, too — and it only cost me half the price!”

Too bad the stitching’s already coming out.

Cliché or not, I’ve never been a fan of the holiday. I hate Valentine’s Day more than Mel Gibson hates the Jews. I hate Valentine’s Day more than Bill Mahrer hates anti-marijuana legislation. I hate Valentine’s Day more than Hollywood loves Jews and marijuana. But why has such disdain for something as benign as an overcommercialized holiday steeped into obligation? As the character Joel put it succinctly in the film Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, “Today [Valentine’s Day] is a holiday invented by greeting card companies to make people feel like crap.”

While I believe that other “holidays” such as Secretary’s Day (April 23) and Sweetest Day (October 18) and Children’s Day (June 8) and Boss’s Day (October 16) and Friendship Day (August 3) and Mystery Day (?) are pointless excuses for greeting card companies to make more money, I believe that no holiday has been more bastardized than Valentine’s Day. The origins of Valentine’s Day go back several centuries to ancient winter fertility festivals, and the earliest record of American Valentine’s goes back to 1847 to Worcester, Massachusetts. Considering that the modern Valentine’s Day has since become so commercialized and convoluted, I would imagine that even Hallmark founder J. C. Hall would be embarrassed. It appears as though the true meaning of Valentine’s Day

has been lost on the average consumer.

Might it be time for the gay community to remember the origins of Valentine’s Day once more? Out with the chocolates and cards and flowers, and in with the ancient winter fertility festivals?

Simply put, we need more non-commercialized romance and more winter fertilizing.

Why do we as gay men subject ourselves to this pressure, and eventual disillusionment? For those who actually have someone to love, shouldn’t they demonstrate that love all year long? For those who don’t have someone to love, do they need to be reminded of this? Everyone is allowed to have their own holiday, as well as opting out if they choose. Christians have Christmas, Jews have Hanukkah, blacks have Kwanzaa, alcoholics have New Year’s Eve; we have no problem making exceptions at other times of the year. Why is Valentine’s different? Why is it mandatory that all gay men have someone?

Perhaps that’s ultimately the most frustrating thing about Valentine’s Day — nearly everyone assumes that everyone wants to celebrate it. What a peculiar assumption. If society (and by society, I mean Hallmark) is going to demand we continue Valentine’s Day year after year, is it too much to ask that legislation be passed that Single Awareness Day also be made an official holiday? I figure it must be possible, as weirder things have happened in Washington — not the least of which is Carol Channing’s name appearing on Nixon’s Enemy List.

Although more and more gay men feel increasingly pressured to not be alone on Valentine’s Day, more and more people are doing just that — being alone. I recently learned that in addition to Single Awareness Day, there also exists a movement known as ‘International Quirkyalone Day.’ According to their Web site, “quirkyalone” describes a person who not only takes no issue with being single, but actually embraces the idea.

It’s really not a foreign concept though, as many famous people have chosen to be single, including Paula Poundstone, Oprah, Ralph Nader, Morrissey and Ally McBeal. While not necessarily the best examples, one can also take comfort in the fact that Misery enjoys being alone.

Except even misery loves company ... so never mind.

Valentine’s Day has arrived. Break out the Ben & Jerry’s. Turn on Sleepless In Seattle. Put on the pajamas. Overload on anti-depressants. Fall asleep by nine. And most important of all on this magical Valentine’s Day, don’t forget who else is single.

Cupid.

Maybe I’ll ask him if he’d like to split my Zoloft. Q

The very act of hating Valentine’s Day has become such a hip pastime that celebrities are starting to do it

Ryan Shattuck is a syndicated columnist, University of Utah student, and edits his movies of nudity, violence, profanity and Tom Hanks/Meg Ryan duos.

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One of the most beautiful songs ever written is “In My Life� by the Beatles.

I think all Gay people of my generation can especially relate to the sentiments in the verse “Some are dead and some are living ... In my life I’ve loved them all,� in regards to our own friends and lovers. When I look around our community and remember those who are missing from it, my mind often recalls this haunting tune and it buoys me up somehow.

I don’t know if anyone has noticed, but I haven’t written for the Q in nearly five months. It wasn’t anything Michael or Ruby said, just so you know. I just needed some time to pause and reflect on my own life. Often we get so caught up in the deadlines of our lives that we don’t take care of ourselves until something kind of snaps. Last fall I didn’t quite snap but I became incredibly sad, crying for no apparent reason, not realizing that my soul was grieving because my body and mind kept racing on at a steady clip.

Last year two people, who were as diametrically opposed as two people could be, passed away by their own hands.

They were, however, similar in that they were incredibly opinionated people who knew how to roll up their sleeves and go to work. They both, in their own ways, implemented in our community their visions of making the world more just and more fabulous. And both of them were friends of mine.

One of the most gifted and noble women I had the honor of knowing was Kathy Worthington. Those who knew her and who are reading this are nodding their heads in agreement. Very few altruistic people exist on this planet, but Kathy was one of them. She was a quiet giant, rarely calling attention to herself and when the limelight was focused on her, she was genuinely humbled. There is a whole generation of women in this community who knew her and loved her through the Womyn’s Community News and the First Thursdays Women’s Group. She loved people and hated injustice, and if she ever thought them, I never heard her say an unkind word about anyone in our community. But of all those she loved, she loved Sara Hamlin the most and the pain of losing her never diminished until the day she chose to rejoin her. When Michael Aaron called me from the UAF Oscar Night to tell of her passing it felt like a mighty redwood had fallen never to be replaced in my lifetime.

Then there was Chad Keller. Chad was one of the most vocal, passionate human beings I’ve ever had the good fortune of knowing. He had every human passion magnified to the nth degree. He was vicious. He was vivacious. He was opinionated and he was compassionate. He lived life on his own terms in a “devil may care� buoyancy that seemed almost unfathomable. If you knew Chad Keller (and anyone in active leadership knew Chad) he was either a genius or the bane of your existence. And someone once called him the “most creative alcoholic� in the community. Whether you loved him or hated him, Chad was a force to be reckoned with and he was no “barstool� critic as someone also disparagingly called him.

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He was a gladiator not a spectator, and when his health failed to the point that life held no more pleasures, he went away. Another redwood giant gone.

However what finally shut me down was learning of the death of my first true love, John Cunningham. No, he was not a gay activist, and I doubt if he ever strove to make the world a better place, but in 1969 (my senior year in high school) I fell in love with him in a time when boys were not allowed to fall in love with other boys. So instead I became his best friend, attending graduation together, getting him to go to college with me, writing term papers for him to keep his draft deferment up, all the while never even holding his hand or telling another soul my dark secret, my shame. Then in the summer of 1970, no longer able to contain the ache of the façade of simple friendship, I told John I loved him. It was the most awful indignity I could have placed on him ... a queer coming on to him. Stunned, he told me he didn’t love me and in time he joined the army to avoid being drafted. I never saw John again. I was lost and soul-weary without John so I joined the Mormon church to cure me, made my way to Utah, and even married a woman as advised.

But in my heart I knew that John would always be my first love and my last.

I also knew that no one would ever tell me when John passed away. So morbidly, I suppose, I would check the social security death indexes, once or twice a year, like a casualty list, and last September my worst fears were confirmed. John was dead at the age of 56. Unlike Kathy or Chad I will never know how he died.

California death records are sealed only to next of kin and domestic partners. I am neither. I am just the man who loved him and will my entire life. “Though I know I’ll never lose affection for people and things that went before, I know I’ll often stop and think about them, in my life I love you more.�Q

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K-TALK, was one of the first all-talk stations in the country besides KGO and I think KLMX in St. Louis.

JV: You had a show on KSXX in the ’70s and ’80s, where you were a cohost. Then you went solo for The Joe Redburn Show in the ’80s and ’90s.

Tell me a little about both shows.

JR: We started out with a program called Controversy. This was one of the first times in Salt Lake talk radio where the talk show host actually gave his own opinions. So we were different and we were probably that successful because I could give my opinions. I was a Goldwater conservative at the time.

JV: What were some of the things you’d talk about?

JR: One of our first shows was on, actually, prostitution. We had a female prostitute on — that was shocking in those days in Salt Lake radio. But the main subjects in those days which probably made talk radio was the Vietnam War and then Richard Nixon.

Watergate and all that. You didn’t have to say a word, the lines just lit up.

JV: [laughs] So they did all the work for you.

JR: Yeah. Vietnam — I consider Vietnam to be the reason we have talk radio. That was the main stuff — of course we interviewed people who were in the anti-war movement nationally and locally and, you know, local politicians.

JV: I’m guessing things got a little heated then. I mean, with you being a Goldwater conservative talking to anti-war people.

JR: Well yeah, but I went from Goldwater to McCarthy, exactly like Hillary Clinton. She was a Goldwater girl and then she became a McCarthy-ite. So I changed my views really from being pro-Vietnam to being against the war.

I ended up being the alternate delegate for Eugene McCarthy at the 1968 Democratic Convention in Chicago ... and was teargassed just like everybody else. All that changed my political perspective — and all the time being on the radio, too. So talk radio really did change my political views.

JV: Were you surprised to see how talk radio exploded after Vietnam?

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Wyoming-born Joe Redburn is Utah’s own Renaissance man: a Bar owner (of the old Sun Tavern, Bricks and now the Trapp), one-time politician, charitable worker, Gay Rodeo grand marshal and, of course, long-term host on Utah’s most well-known talk station, KTKK (K-Talk).

Joe took a moment out of his schedule to talk to me about his life on and off the air.

I got out, I went back to Laramie and then I came over to Salt Lake to get a job here.

JoSelle Vanderhooft: How did you start out in talk radio?

JV: Why did you choose Utah?

Joe Redburn: I went two years at the University of Wyoming and then I went to the armed forces radio school at Ft. Slocum, New York. In those days you either gave yourself up to the draft — which I did — or wait ’til they drafted you. I just wanted to get it over with. In those days, if you checked the box that you were gay they rejected you, so I didn’t. I went in actually lying to them.

I was in the U.S. Army at Fort Riley in Kansas for two years. What we did was the news on local stations. Then when

JR: A guy I knew, a gay guy, worked at KWOB, where I worked before I went into the army. He was from Salt Lake and he knew Starley Bush who had just bought what is now K-Talk radio. So he helped me get a job here.

I started out as a DJ and then I worked for a station in Salinas, California for awhile. I’d also heard KGO in San Francisco, which was one of the first odd-talk stations. I taped it and sent it to Starley, and he said, ‘come back and we’ll give it a shot.’ It was a big success. KSXX, which is now

JR: Yeah. We were just sort of experimenting with it. Advertising would shy away from it in the beginning because they were afraid of it, the controversy.

But the ratings — we went from a radio station with no ratings that played jazz and folk music to doubling our ratings and then, at one point, we were the second highest-rated radio station in Salt Lake City. But the station was all talk in the ’60s. We started off with Controversy for one hour, and then when the ratings came out, that did it, so they went from talk from 9:00 a.m. to 3:00 p.m. and eventually the owners said, ‘let’s just go all talk.’

JV: I know you were dropped from K-Talk for awhile in ’93.

JR: I was, yeah. And I went into the bar business for a little while.

JV: Yeah, at the old Sun Tavern — which I hadn’t known was where the Energy Solutions Arena is now.

JR: When we got the old Sun, I think we put the first sound system in for a DJ in Salt Lake. I’ve never just catered to the gay community, everyone was welcome. So we had a lot of straight people that liked it, especially when we put in the sound system.

JV: How about the community outreach you did at the Sun and at your other bars?

JR: Well, we actually probably started Gay Pride. We started having keggers up the canyon, and that kinda started everybody thinking — since Gay Pride was getting started around the country — that we should do more. And then other people kind of got involved so we started having another at Fairmount Park with a couple hundred people.

And that probably launched Pride out of the old Sun. Then it evolved into what it is today.

JV: Of course, Gay Pride also came with a lot of nasty things — like the anti-gay witch hunts at BYU during the ’70s. Did BYU security ever come to the Sun looking for gay students?

JR: Oh, they used to come up all the time.

A couple times they tried to come in and we would ID them so we knew who they were, and we harassed them, so they gave up.

day the door was open and I poked my head in and Mr. Malouf was there and his mother. I told them I was from Laramie and they said, ‘we want to rent this back out.’ I think they rented it to me because I was from there. I named it after the Midnight Sun in San Francisco.

JV: Getting back to your conversion to the Democratic Party a little. You did some work on the anti-Briggs group in California. And you’ve contributed a lot to political campaigns, like Karen Shepherd’s and Howard Dean’s.

JR: I was involved in his campaign with his relatives — one of whom is now our Salt Lake County mayor.

JV: And you’re a big Rocky and Becker supporter.

JR: With Rocky I was a member of the ACLU’s board for two years, that’s where I met him. He was as much of a slavedriver then as he is now. He’s always been hard to work for. I worked on his campaign for congress — one thing he did, though, is he realized there was a big gay vote. He went down to the Trapp and I think some other places and got the gay vote which, he’ll tell you got him elected the first time. I don’t think you can be elected mayor of any major city in this country without the gay vote. And then Ralph Becker came down and campaigned at the Trapp last summer and he told me he was taking a page out of Rocky’s book. I told him, ‘Well, you’re doing the smart thing.’

Yeah, we’d try to be as gay as we could with [BYU security] and drive them nuts.

So they gave up trying to come in but they were trying to take license numbers like the Gestapo.

JV: [laughs] So you’d just tell them to go away?

JR: Yeah, we’d try to be as gay as we could with them and drive them nuts.

So they gave up trying to come in but they were trying to take license numbers like the Gestapo — in fact, we called them that. I think it was when Earnest Wilkinson was president at BYU.

JV: I understand that the Sun Tavern has an anniversary of sorts coming up on Feb. 20.

JV: How did you end up owning it?

JR: Actually it was another Wyoming connection. The Malouf family owned it, and they were from Evanston. One

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JV: Tell me something that you’ve done that a lot of people don’t know about?

JR: I ran for the legislature in 1976 in the Avenues, but I lost 2-to-1 to Genevieve Atwood. And then the Republican right wing got rid of her because she was too liberal. But now the Avenues are like Democrats. Salt Lake has become so Democratic, it’s amazing. I only ran for the legislature once, but it was quite an experience.

Everybody ought to do it once.

JV: Politics, charity, bar tending.

What do you do when you’re not working at one of these?

JR: I still do talk radio on Wednesday nights at KTALK between 9:05 and 11:00 p.m. with Jim Kirkwood who is a staunch conservative, but we’ve been friends for years. We do the liberal/ conservative thing and we get calls. I still do it because talk radio is the love of my life. I love listening to it, and now talk radio is like huge. I think it’s the number one format in the country.

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JR: We opened at noon on that day in 1973. I’d never done it before, we were all scared. The Sun Tavern had been the Railroad Exchange, and I found it because that’s where the anti-war people hung out. It was owned by a former Pittsburgh Steeler, and they had a sign outside — it was a Pepsi sign that said Railroad Exchange. And I changed it to say The Sun Tavern. I can remember a guy who had a bar just south who said, ‘You can’t do that! The gay bars can’t have signs!’ And I said, ‘Well, I’m gonna do it, anyway.’ That’s what got me, how oppressed this community was. We were oppressing ourselves.

We didn’t think we could put a sign in front of a gay bar.

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The Gay Agenda YOUR CALENDAR OF ARTS, ENTERTAINMENT & IMPORTANT EVENTS

Congratulations to Joe Redburn for being a pillar of salt-ed margaritas in the community for 35 years this month. The proprietor of several fun gay clubs such as The Sun Tavern and The Trapp, Redburn has always aspired to keeping us happy, horny and loaded.

What a freakin’ humanitarian! Also, apologies to the New York Giants. How could I ever possibly make it up to Eli Manning ... oooh, take him to The Trapp and get happy, horny and loaded!

15FRIDAY Q As with all of William Shakespeare’s works, the romantic comedy A Midsummer Night’s Dream is riddled with extravagant plot twists and a scandalous band of characters much like that of the 5 o’clock clientele at Club Try-Angles. Plus it’s been argued that Shakespeare explores interpretations of “alternate sexuality” through elements of homoeroticism and “compulsory heterosexuality.”

No wonder this is one of Shakespeare’s most popular works.

7:30pm, through Mar. 1, Pioneer Memorial Theatre, 240 S. 1500 East, UofU. Tickets $21–39, 581-6961 or pioneertheatre.org.

Q We’ve all heard of culinary arts — the medium of creating scrumptous recipes that make the taste buds sizzle like smarties in a Coke. But have you heard of food as a canvas for traditional acrylic paintings? How about Joe Bravo’s Tortilla Art? The artist explains, “For the subject matter of my tortilla paintings, I use imagery that is representative of Latinos, conveying their hopes, art, beliefs and history. As the tortilla has given us life, I give it new life by using it as an art medium.”

10am–5pm, through Mar. 30, Kimball Art Center, 638 Park Avenue, Park City.

Free, 435-649-8882 or kimball-art.org.

Q The Underground Gallery hosts the United Underground/Big Works exhibit. This unique one-night only show features 17 local graff artists who participated in last year’s Project 337, a temporary interactive exhibition of 94 artists who painted, tagged, sculpted, animated, carved into and built onto the interior/exterior spaces of a downtown office building.

6pm–Midnight, Artopia Underground Gallery, 60 E. Exchange Pl. Free, 486-6175.

16SATURDAY Q The story of Love, Janis is told in Janis Joplin’s own words, borrowed from letters and interviews. The show begins just as Joplin gets her start in the industry, leaving her Texas hometown to make it in San Francisco.

As her career takes off, monologues are woven together with her smash hits. An exhausting script and score requires two actresses to portray the icon who inspired the play. They should’ve asked my pal Trig to portray the rocker — he does exhausting well.

7:30pm, Eccles Center, 1750 Kearns Blvd., Park City. Tickets $18–65, 435-655-3114 or ecclescenter.org.

19TUESDAY Q A sweet guy named Kip inspired me to include this next event. Though I’ll never understand the appeal, Kip and a few other people I know love the big-hair metal bands from the ’80s.

Therefore — and this goes against my better judgment — Queensrÿche is in concert. I just can’t do it, but if you’re feeling brave then by all means do some head-banging tonight.

8pm, The Depot, 400 W. South Temple.

Tickets $35, 467-8499 or smithstix.com.

Q Complexions Contemporary Ballet was founded in the mid-90s by Dwight Rhoden and Desmond Richardson, dubbed “two of the most gorgeous virtuosos ever to emerge from Ailey Land.” This unique ballet company celebrates diversity and multiculturalism through graceful and high-voltage movement.

7:30pm, Eccles Center, 1750 Kearns Blvd., Park City. Tickets $18–65, 435-655-3114 or ecclescenter.org.

20WEDNESDAY Q Centuries ago, stories about love included potions or spells that tricked characters into feeling it and being controlled by it, as was true with Tristan and Yseult. The play is based on an ancient Celtic/French legend of a tragic pair whose story became part of the Arthurian legend. In reality, love potions and spells don’t exist, but I think we sometimes can trick ourselves into feeling love. A cookiefortune thought for the day.

7:30pm, through Mar. 2, Babcock Theatre, 240 S. 1500 East, UofU. Tickets $7–12, 581-7100 or kingtix.com.

21THURSDAY Q Novelist/columnist Chris Bohjalian has published 11 novels including Trans-sister Radio which explores the subject of transsexuality and Midwives, an Oprah’s Book Club recipient.

His next book Skeletons at the Feast arrives this May. He will be in Salt Lake City today only for a book signing.

7pm, The King’s English Bookshop, 1511 S. 1500 East. Free, 484-9100 or kingsenglish.booksense.com.

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Q Egyptian Theatre Company presents a “provocative, sexy and decadent” production of Kander & Ebb’s Tony-award winning musical Cabaret. Set in 1930’s Berlin, Sally Bowles has left the stuffy English life to be a chanteuse at the Kit Kat Klub. She soon gets wrapped up in a love affair with American Clifford Bradshaw. No love potions here!

7:30pm, Egyptian Theatre, 328 Main Street, Park City. Tickets $18–45 with cabaret tables available at parkcityshows. com or 435-649-9371.

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Q Reigning RCGSE royalty Ryan West and Breanna must relinquish their crowns to the King & Queen of Hearts XXXI. Unfortunately, I don’t have the inside scoop on predicted winners, but if it were solely up to me, Steven Oddball and Misty Waters would be the honorees. Certainly most of the community has never heard of them, they’re part of the underground drag group RUDKIL (Royal Underground Drag Korporation in Leotards).

8:30pm, The Trapp Door, a private club for members, 615 W. 100 South. $6

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SAVETHEDATE FEB. 8–17 WinterPride slcwinterpride.org Feb. 24 Oscar Night America utahaids.org Mar. 24 Precinct Caucuses (mass meetings) Mar. 28-30 Utah Bear and Cub Contest utahbears.com

April 12 Stonewall Caucus, Salt Lake County Democratic Convention utahstonewalldemocrats. org April 26 Queer Prom “The Origin of Love” utahpridecenter.org

26TUESDAY Q I used to be a decent speller in grade skool. I could spell werds like juxtaposition, verisatum and loquacious. It seems as I get ollder this apilty has dwendled and I hav dificolty spelling my own name. Anyhoo, Broadway Across America presents the Tony-winning musical The 25th Annual Putnam County Spelling Bee. Six youngsters in the throes of puberty, overseen by grown-ups who barely managed to escape childhood themselves, learn that winning isn’t everything and that losing doesn’t necessarily make you a loser ... unless you can’t even spell your own name.

7:30pm, through Mar. 2, Kingsbury Hall, 1395 E. Presidents Circle, UofU. Tickets $31.50–66.50, 581-7100 or kingtix.com.

Q The Utah Symphony & Opera offers a classic mystery, The Composer is Dead. No, really, the composer is actually dead, and everyone — whether string, woodwind, or brass — is under investigation. The careful sleuthing of this sinister deed, taken up by the voice of Lemony Snicket, is only part of an engaging program that introduces the members of the orchestra as never before: by interrogation.

7pm, Abravanel Hall, 123 W. South Temple. Tickets $13–17, 355-ARTS or arttix.org.

28THURSDAY Q Urban Lounge brings in up-andcoming young singer-songwriters Joshua Radin & Ingrid Michaelson.

Radin’s debut album garnered a fourstar review from Rolling Stone and has led to comparisons to such greats as Nick Drake, Simon and Garfunkel, and Elliot Smith. And you’ve probably seen Michaelson clowning around with her hit single The Way I Am. 9pm, Urban Lounge, 241 S. 500 East. Tickets $12/adv.–$15/day of, 24tix.com.

UPCOMING EVENTS Mar. 3 — Lifehouse, The Depot Mar. 6 — Matchbox Twenty, E Center Mar. 15 — Rufus Wainwright, Park City Mar. 29 — Margaret Cho, Las Vegas Nov. 21 — Celine Dion, ES Arena

JUNE 6–8 Utah Pride Festival utahpride.org

AUG. 7–10 PWACU River Trip pwacu.org

JUNE 14 HRC Utah Dinner hrcutah.org

AUG 24 Center Golf Classic utahpridecenter.org

JUNE 21 Salt Lake Men’s Choir “Hooray For Hollywood” 25th Anniv. Concert ­ saltlakemenschoir.org

OCT 10–12 SLC GayBowl VIII mwffl.org

Aug. 1–3 May 26-28 The Village Summit Royal Court utahaids.org Coronation, rcgse.org

OCT 11 Coming Out Day Breakfast utahpridecenter.org

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‘Menopause’ is For Everyone

By Tony Hobday

tony@qsaltlake.com

The “Silent Passage,” the life-changing event that women once feared and men once dismissed, is no longer muted, but rather relished. Women no longer hide the erratic emotions cultivated by it and no longer feel embarrassed by it. In fact they celebrate it. Since 2001, women have been celebrating through song and dance the many emotional and physical upheavals of the once-dreaded menopause.

Jeanie Linders, writer and producer of Menopause The Musical, had a dream — a hot, sticky, sweaty dream — to show women (and their men) that life after 40 is invigorating, adventurous and at times, laughable. She took her experiences of “The Change” to the stage, and over the past several years those experiences have been seen, recognized and cheered for by 9 million women and have raised over a million dollars.

Obviously the show is meant to appeal to women, but as a man … yes, albeit a gay man, but a man nonetheless (at least in some opinions), I found the production hysterical and endearing. I walked out of the theater confessing to my friend that the show has made me want to go through menopause, too. And the more I thought about it, I realized I may already be going through it … at least something similar. I haven’t experienced hot flashes or night sweats, but I have been prone to bouts of inexplicable anger, random bursts of tears, an insatiable need for sex, weight gain and displacement, bladder control issues and the occasional loss of memory.

Not to make light of “The Change,” I’m merely suggesting that men may be more aware and understanding of it than they chose to admit, and therefore would seriously get a kick out of the show.

The show parodies a score or more of

well-known songs from the ’60s, ’70s and ’80s including The Lion Sleeps Tonight, Stayin’ Alive, I Got You Babe and Help Me Rhonda backed by four sensational actresses Nancy Slusser (the soap star), Monique M. Whittington (the business woman), Jains Roeton (the Earth mother) and Liz Hyde (the Iowa housewife).

Inside New York City’s Bloomingdale’s, four 40-something women come in contact during a scuffle at a lingerie rack, and immediately feel a deep-rooted connection.

Throughout the afternoon and several departments, the ladies share their experiences of menopause with each other through mostly song and dance (there are minimal spoken lines) like disco-driven “night sweatin’” on satin sheets and masturbatory “good vibrations” with a pink “microphone” prop.

Whittington’s voice is as strong as her character and her Tina Turner act, What’s Love Got To Do With It, is memorable. Slusser and Reton are well cast as the past-her-prime soap star and the peace-loving, pot-smoking vegetarian, respectively. But the stand-out performance goes to Liz Hyde, whose portrayal of a naïve, homely housewife is blissfully simple. Her solely physical scene towards the end of the show is the highlight of the evening and will literally knock you out of your seat.

Some numbers were a little over the top, but all-in-all, Menopause The Musical will have you turning red in the face and teary-eyed from laughter, sexually charged (wishing you’d bought one of the “Hot Flash Fans” before the show for a buck) and so elated you’ll forget where you parked the car. Sound familiar?

Menopause The Musical, presented by Broadway Across America Utah, plays through Mar. 2 at the Rose Wagner Center, 138 W. Broadway. Tickets $25-45, 355-ARTS or arttix.org.

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Q It’s time for the hottest Hollywood party of the year, and now that the writer’s strike has ended, the industry can really cut loose. Of course, the Utah AIDS Foundation’s Oscar Night America party trumps all celebrations ... though they won’t be giving away $5,000 swag baskets. Shucks! I haven’t yet seen any of the five nominees for Best Picture, but Juno would be my pick — any flick with Jennifer Garner does it for me.

6pm, 23rd Floor Event Center, Wells Fargo Bldg., 299 S. Main Street. Tickets $100, tables $1,000 and $1,500, 487-2323.

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New Play Focuses on Gay Mormon Suicide

By Hugo Salinas

Roman Feeser, a playwright living in New York City , is the author of Missa Solemnis or The Play About Henry. Four years in the making, Missa Solemnis is based on the story of Stuart Matis, a gay Mormon young man who committed suicide on the steps of his stake center in Los Altos, California, in 2000.

Roman Feeser”Missa Solemnis” will be staged in New York City at the Manhattan Repertory Theatre on Feb. 27, Feb. 29, and March 1, 2008. All shows are at 9:00 p.m. Space is very limited in the 44-seat theater, and the shows are going to sell out. For reservations, call 646-329-6588.

For more information, visit manhattanrep.com.

In the following interview, I ask Roman about his life and his new play.

Hugo Salinas: Do you have a Mormon background? What’s your connection with Mormonism?

Roman Freeser: No. I didn’t even know what Mormonism was before I started this journey. I was researching gay suicide for my first play The Closet Contender and I accidentally stumbled across the Affirmation Web site. I asked my writing partner Brett here in New York City if he knew about Mormons and he said, “I’m Mormon!” and I thought this was fate.

HS: How did you pick the topic for your play?

RF: I read the Newsweek article written

by Mark Miller about Stuart and the last sentence said, “The people who had prepared his body for burial were struck by the site of his knees, calloused from praying for an answer that never came.” And I thought, “Who prays that hard today?”

From that point on I heard his voice — Henry Stuart Matis wanted his voice to be heard.

HS: Why did you subtitle your play, The Play about Henry and not “The Play about Stuart”?

RF: Out of respect. I didn’t know him perRoman Feeser sonally, only in spirit. People close to Henry called him Stuart. Stuart was a man who couldn’t come terms with his trial. If you read some of his writings you’ll find he was an extremely intelligent man. Henry, had he lived, would have been the man to live comfortably in his skin.

HS: Three of the characters in your play (Marilyn Matis, Fred Matis, and Robert Rees) are based on real people, and you quote from their writings. Did you try to contact any of them for this project?

RF: I did. I was able to track down Robert Rees and interview him. The Matis family was impossible to get near. As I understand, the media really did a number on them and they’re not so willing to talk. I don’t blame them. They lost a son. Some people I met along the way volunteered to get in touch with them for me including Ryan Shattuck, Henry’s cousin. But I was unsuccessful. I wanted to really give everyone a chance to give their side of the story. I wanted to put up the most honest story I could. Luckily both Fred and Marilyn wrote an essay in the book “In Quiet Desperation: Understanding the Challenge of Same-Gender Attraction” telling their side. It helped.

HS: How did you research your topic?

RF: One of my dear friends Justin has been a huge help. He grew up in Salt Lake and has been recently excommunicated himself. As I began to research Mormonism, I decided to take a sabbatical and make Salt Lake my second home. I wanted to live with Mormons, break bread with them. I wanted to know everything I could. I interviewed David Pruden of Evergreen and, with much convincing, he allowed me to attend an Evergreen Conference. I took classes and asked many questions. I spent time with the New York City Chapter of Affirmation and interviewed them. I spoke with closeted gay Mormons who are living in fear of coming out and proud Mormons who have learned to balance. The process was so cathartic I decided to write a book called Latter Gay Saints — The Mormon Church and God’s Second Class Saints, detailing my experience in this journey along with the stories of others. I’m finishing it now.

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HS: I liked the scene in which Henry, in his garments, teaches his lover the Mormon mechanics of praying. How was the process of writing that scene?

RF: I’m a former Catholic. There were no steps to praying. You knelt, you closed your eyes and you said your prayers.

The Mormon religion is very structured and regimented. When I discovered that praying was too, I felt it needed to be addressed. That scene was a reflection from my own life. I dated a Mormon and we went HS: In Affirmation, we advise gay or questioning youth to talk with someone they trust about their feelings. Stuart Matis talked with a number of people about his feelings and his frustrations (parents, relatives, compassionate priesthood leaders) and he even made gay friends — yet none of these things saved him. Why do you think he killed himself?

RF: The catalyst has never revealed itself.

The reasons why are one of the biggest pieces missing from this puzzle. I was not privy to the information that caused Henry to go through with his suicide. This is the only part of this play where I had to take artistic liberty. From Henry’s writing, he seems extremely rational. I have never read anything written by him where he feels sorry for himself. His attitude was more, “This is who I am! And these are the circumstances!” I seriously believe he made a conscious decision in doing this — to make a point. He wanted to be an example. It is not typical suicidal behavior.

HS: Did you have a chance to see the staging of Carol Lynn Pearson’s Facing East? If so, what did you think of her play? How would you say it compares to yours?

RF: Yes. I did see it when it came through NYC. When her show opened in Salt Lake I began getting emails from people saying, “Your show’s opening, congratulations!” and I’d reply, “No, it’s not mine, but go see it!” Anything to get the message out to people about the epidemic that is happening among gay and lesbian Mormons. Her show was pretty incredible. It captured the raw emotion of people when all is said and done. It challenges regret. “Missa Solemnis” is sort of a prequel to “Facing East.” Missa deals with the true nature of the struggle from the source. We get to see the gay Mormon go through the motions. We can stand up and say “Wait, isn’t anyone going to do anything about this?” before it’s too late.

Sadly, for many, it is.

HS: Are you planning to take “Missa Solemnis” to Salt Lake or other cities?

RF: My director, Linda S. Nelson, is a nonMormon from Salt Lake and she is pretty dedicated to getting the show there. I am totally open to the idea of playing Salt Lake because Mormon families that are dealing with a son or daughter, a sister or brother that are gay might see this and a light might go on. That’s what it’s all about, isn’t it? Getting closer to the light?

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HS: In your previous play, “The Closet Contender,” the protagonist is also gay, and he also kills himself at the end of the play. Are you going to write some day about a gay hero who finds ways to cope with life’s challenges and survive?

RF: I’m sure I will. But I look at Henry Stuart Matis as a survivor. He has survived in our thoughts and in his legacy.

He didn’t want change — he demanded it.

We wouldn’t be here talking right now if he wasn’t. Q

Gay Geeks Talking with Jennifer Pelland

by JoSelle Vanderhooft joselle@qsaltlake.com

Jennifer Pelland is a Boston-based writer whose short stories regularly feature gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender characters.

Recently, her story “Captive Girl,” about the complicated and painfully human love affair between a severely disabled woman and her (female) caretaker, was nominated for a Nebulae award — deservedly so, and I’m hoping that it wins.

Jennifer, like all good writers, never shies away from the painful part of being human, and her stories — which often center around our most basic, animal needs for touch, companionship and comfort — are not easily forgotten.

Jennifer was kind enough to take time out of her writing schedule to talk to me about her work.

JoSelle Vanderhooft: It’s always interesting for me to ask this one: How did you begin as a writer? Did you start writing as a child or teen as many of us do, or did you come to it later in life?

JV: Do you find it easier to write one kind of relationship than another?

JP: Well, anything written through the eyes of a man takes more thought than something written through the eyes of a woman, so I suppose that makes writing about two men more difficult than writing about two women. But the same can be said for writing about a man and a woman together through the eyes of the man. I have a disturbing tendency to have my male point-of-view characters be stereotypical in some way until someone in my writing group yells at me for it. So it’s the male side of the equation that trips me up.

You know what relationship I haven’t yet tackled through a point-of-view character? The relationship of a parent to his or her child. Well, except for in a couple of horror stories, which probably says something right there.

JV: I’ve also noticed that several of your stories deal with the body being crippled somehow — either by disease or by extreme body modification as in “Captive Girl.” Is this a theme that particularly interests you?

JP: Oh, very much so. The idea of a body being limited, either by choice or by

some kind of handicap, is something that fascinates me. And I know that sounds ghoulish. Believe me, I spent about ten minutes trying to figure out the best way to write that sentence, and I eventually just gave up and went with honesty. As a child, I was always grappling with the idea of what I’d have to do if I became handicapped in some way. I read Little House on the Prairie and tried to learn Braille in case I went blind like Mary Ingalls. I read Johnny Tremain and tried to learn to write left-handed in case something happened to my right hand. We won’t even discuss my fascination with reading about the whole bondage culture … I couldn’t really tell you why my brain has this fixation, but it’s always been there.

When I write about it, I think it’s important to try to do it right. For instance, when writing “The Last Stand of the Elephant Man,” I spent a while chatting with a disabled friend of mine online about the realities of living in a body that gets progressively more disabled with age. I wasn’t interested in writing the Victorian ideal of the “noble cripple” when I wrote Merrick’s story — I wanted to try to tap into the real frustration of having your body steadily betray you. So hopefully, I turned it into

something more than an exercise in my own literary fetishes.

JV: And, of course, tell me a bit about Unwelcome Bodies!

JP: Certainly! For starters, it’s the first thing I’ve published that has only my name on the cover, so that’s exciting. It’s got eight previously-published pieces and three new ones, and the stories all lean towards the “dark SF” side of the Force, although I did toss in what’s probably my most positive published piece ever (“Last Bus”). I was really surprised when Apex approached me to do this, because I didn’t think my career was nearly illustrious enough to merit something like this just yet, but they have this crazy belief in me, so who am I to question them? It’ll be out on Feb. 29. I’ve even scheduled my firstever signing. Now I have to figure out how to bribe people into showing up. I’m thinking cookies.

You can find Jennifer online at jenniferpelland.com. I highly recommend not only “Captive Girl”, but “Mercytanks”, “The Last Stand of the Elephant Man” and “For the Plague Thereof was Exceeding Great” — which focuses on American life after an untreatable form of AIDS becomes airborne.

Jennifer Pelland: Well, I told stories when I was young, but I didn’t start writing anything down until about high school, and then only sporadically. Most of the stories were fan fiction, although didn’t know what that was at the time. All I knew was that I wanted to tell my own Star Wars and Doctor Who stories, usually with myself as the star. Once I figured out what this fan fic thing was, I went nuts with it, mostly writing “slash” stories about the hot men on the shows that I loved, and sometimes also about the hot women. Then I hit 30 and decided I was done telling other people’s stories, and started working on stuff of my own. One of the smartest things that I did was attend the Viable Paradise SF/F writing workshop on Martha’s Vineyard.

It’s been over six years since the workshop, and I’m still gleaning new insight from the lessons I learned there.

JV: Gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender characters have long been under- or completely unrepresented in speculative fiction until recently. But thankfully, that is being corrected by many writers, including you. Tell me a little about the stories you’ve written that include queer characters or queer themes.

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JP: I’d say the most notable story of mine with queer themes is “Captive Girl.” At its heart, it’s a love story between two women.

I didn’t set out to write a “lesbian story” when I conceived of it, but it quickly became apparent to me that the relationship needed to be between two women. It just wouldn’t work any other way. In “Mercytanks,” I deal with issues of potential future gender identity and expression, and also the current realities of living in an intersexed body. And then there’s “Brushstrokes,” which is a new piece that I wrote for my short story collection, Unwelcome Bodies, which is a love story between two men. The impetus for writing it was that I wanted to write a scene where two pretty boys in pretty makeup have sex against a brick wall. Then I realized I needed a plot.

And even though it deals with similar issues of helplessness as “Captive Girl,” it’s a wildly different story because it’s about men, not about women.

I sometimes wonder if this is a perk of being a bisexual author — the ability to step back from every story and ask yourself, “Okay, what should the gender of the lovers be in this piece?”

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ARIES (MAR 21 - APR 20) Sun in Pisces gives you energy to burn as Venus brings attention and accolades. Mix it all together and set your personal agenda on go, go, go. Get involved in gay community efforts and make the world a better place. Break out of your routine proud Ram and let the world see how beautiful you are both inside and out.

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TAURUS (APR 21 - MAY 21) If friends become unpredictable, petulant, spacy or overly sensitive, chalk it up to Sun in Pisces. Give them room to kvetch. Don’t overreact to perceive slights or scuttle a perfectly beautiful friendship because of a rough patch. At the same time, you become especially intuitive. Keep your opinions under wraps but not boxed in.

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GEMINI (MAY 22 - JUM 21) Your career takes an unexpected detour. Pink Twins can go with the flow and use every unique, creative and vaguely intriguing opportunity to tap into corporate success. You are given some secret information that you may choose to use or just file away. A friendship evolves into much more, thanks to Venus.

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CANCER (JUN 22 - JUL 23) Make your personal mark on the world. Use the time to travel and scratch your itchy wanderlust. But check to be sure that you can really get away from the office. You strive for new, exotic experiences with fascinating strangers. There is nothing that can ruin the mood than a buzzing Blackberry, unless you’re sitting on it.

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LEO (JUL 24 - AUG 23) Grrrr. Proud Leos have a tiger in their tank (or is it a lion?). Sun in

Pisces brings a romantic, ebullient energy that stokes your sexual fires. Try new lovers, new positions or new techniques.

Venus helps by spreading your reputation for excitement globally. The world comes knocking! Strike while the ardor is hot!

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VIRGO (AUG 24 - SEP 23) Sun in Pisces helps gay Virgins loosen up around partners. This does not mean that you will become a pushover.

Far from it! But you will be able to more easily sway partners to your way of thinking without crushing them with petty demands.

You can attract more flies with sweet sauterne than with the same old whine.

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LIBRA (SEP 24 - OCT 23) Even work seems like play when Sun enters Pisces. Gay Libras might not accomplish much on the job this week but what the heck! Slide by but don’t become too complacent. Lazy sonofaguns find

themselves out in the cold while other more industrious types bask in the warm spotlight.

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SCORPIO (OCT 24 - NOV 22) Pick a winner, proud Scorp. Sun in Pisces practically guarantees lucky gambling guesses and a boatload of fun.

Venus ramps up the possibilities by giving you a certain animal magnetism. Get out of your cage and choose a few creative pastimes to chew on.

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SAGITTARIUS (NOV 23 - DEC 22) A new broom sweeps clean. Well considering your housekeeping abilities and a lazy Sun in Pisces, it’s probably more like a new broom sweeps a bunch of dust into the corner. Redecorate or toss a few old things in the trash.

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CAPRICORN (DEC 23 - JAN 20) Sun in Pisces makes even dour old pink Caps sparkle in conversation. Loose lips are in the stars with Venus

sweetening your speech and making even your worst gaffs delicious bon mots with certain folks. Spread the good gay cheer around and only think happy thoughts.

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AQUEERIUS (JAN 21 - FEB 19) Aqueerians keep their eye on the bottom line. Expecting a huge windfall? Anything is possible to one who believes. Nearer to the truth however is the possibility of a few lucky financial breaks on a somewhat smaller scale. But be warned; Venus tempts you to squander on some loose change if you’re not careful.

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