QSaltLake Magazine - February 28, 2008

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February 28, 2008

ISSUE 97

Families Rally for Adoption Bill Bill allowing cohabitating couple to adopt will likely die in committee

Four Transgender Murders in 3 Weeks Ranging from 14 to 25 years old

UofU Law Symposium Studies Family Dynamics Fired Transgender Worker Rebuilds Life 90 Cops Raid Mexico City Gay Bar; 8 Closed

Samsel: When Dating Becomes False Advertising Ruby: It’s For the Children Joseph: Angry Gay Men The Gay Agenda Qdoku, Comics

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World News

Spanish Gays Picket Opposition Party Headquarters By Rex Wockner

Spanish Dep. Prime Minister: I’m Not Gay

Spanish Deputy Prime Minister María Teresa Fernández de la Vega

Spanish Deputy Prime Minister María Teresa Fernández de la Vega has denied Internet rumors that she’s a lesbian and secretly got married to a well-known female sportscaster. “Man, finally someone asks me!” she told El Mundo newspaper’s Sunday magazine Feb. 24, four years after the rumors began circulating. “Well, look, no,” she said. “It’s a rumor about me that they’ve invented to do damage, using something that -- hear me -- I absolutely respect. I have no homophobia. But I’m not homosexual! If I were, I would have no problem in saying so. But it’s just that I’m not!” As for the TV sportscaster, “What’s up with that!” she exclaimed. “I don’t know her, we’ve never seen each other in our lives, and they have me married to her!” Fernández de la Vega, who also is the government’s spokesperson, said that although her mother always told her she had to get married, she is extremely happy “being alone on my sofa, relaxing with a little music, without hearing anybody, without telephones ringing!”

Spain’s opposition Popular Party is threatening to undo the nation’s 2005 legalization of same-sex marriage if it wins the March 9 election. Gay activists picketed the party headquarters Feb. 16, saying they were appalled at the party’s desire to turn back the clock. They carried signs saying, “We are for a secular state” and “No to religious dictatorship.” Same-sex marriage also is legal in Belgium, Canada, the Netherlands, South Africa and Massachusetts.

90 Cops Visit Mexico City Gay Bar Some 90 police officers descended on the Mexico City gay bar Neón in the gay Zona Rosa district Feb. 16. A city official called the incident a “verification visit” to check for irregularities and the presence of minors. Seven patrons were detained for alleged drug-dealing. Other patrons said some of the officers behaved violently during the visit. About 200 gay people protested outside in Plaza del Ángel during the raid, according to a NotieSe report. In recent months, eight gay bars have been shut down in the Zona Rosa by city officials from the Cuauhtémoc borough -- Boy Bar, Colors, Crazy, Lipstick, Liverpool 100, Oasis, The Pussi and VIP, NotieSe said. Activists have blamed the closures on the local government district’s “homophobia.”

Senegal Police Tear-Gas Anti-Gay Protesters Police tear-gassed anti-gay protesters outside the Grande Mosque in Dakar, Senegal, Feb. 15. The rock-throwing demonstrators were protesting the release from custody of 10 men who were jailed after the sensationalistic magazine Icône published photos of an alleged gay wedding the men supposedly had attended. The protesters set trash piles on fire, blocked streets and chanted, “We don’t want homosexuals” and “God is great.” Penal Code Article 319 punishes homosexual acts with up to five years in prison and a fine of up to $3,000.

Moscow Pride Organizers Again Appeal to Euro Court Moscow Pride organizers have filed suit in the European Court of Human Rights over Mayor Yuri Luzhkov’s ban of last year’s aborted gay pride parade. A similar suit over Luzhkov’s ban on the first attempted parade in 2006 is already pending before the court. Pride organizers say the bans violate Russia’s Constitution and several provisions of the European Convention on Human Rights. They seek $1.5 million in compensation. “It is not possible to calculate all the sufferings created by the Moscow and Russian authorities when they banned Pride,” said chief organizer Nikolai Alekseev. “That is the reason for such a heavy compensation which we are claiming.” A third attempt at a pride parade is planned for May 31. Luzhkov has called gay pride parades “satanic” and said he never will allow one to take place. Activists did not attempt to defy the

ban last year. Instead, they gathered near City Hall on pride day to protest the ban. A mêlée ensued and several gays and lesbians were beaten and bloodied by Christian and ultra-nationalist protesters while hundreds of police officers stood by and watched. Thirty-one people were detained, including members of European parliaments who had traveled to Moscow to support the pride events. The 2006 pride activities met the same fate. After Luzhkov banned the parade, organizers instead tried to lay flowers at the Kremlin’s Tomb of the Unknown Soldier and hold a rally near City Hall. Participants in both small events were violently attacked by neofascists, skinheads, Christians and riot police, and the pride organizers were arrested. The charges were later dropped.

More Egyptian Men Arrested In HIV Crackdown Four more men have been arrested in Cairo on suspicion of being HIV-positive, bringing the number of detainees to 12, Human Rights Watch and Amnesty International said Feb. 15. Four of the first eight arrestees have been convicted of “habitual practice of debauchery” and imprisoned for one year. The other eight remain in custody pending filing of charges. All 12 were force-tested for HIV and those reported to be positive are kept handcuffed to hospital beds for 23 hours a day. “In their misguided attempt to apply Egypt’s unjust law on homosexual conduct, authorities are carrying on a crackdown against people living with HIV/AIDS,” said Rebecca Schleifer of HRW’s HIV program. “This not only violates the most basic rights of people living with HIV. It also threatens public health by making it dangerous for anyone to seek information about HIV prevention or treatment.”

N. Ireland Sports Minister: Gay Sports Teams Are Exclusionary The Northern Ireland government’s sports minister, Edwin Poots, said Feb. 19 that he doesn’t understand why gays need their own sports teams. Discussing Belfast’s Ulster Titans, a gay rugby team, Poots said: “I just cannot fathom why people see the necessity to develop an apartheid in sport. “It would be unacceptable to produce an all-black rugby Northern Ireland Sports team or an all-white Minister Edwin Poots team or an all-Chinese team. To me, it’s equally unacceptable to produce an all-homosexual rugby team, and I find it remarkable that people who talk so much about inclusivity and about having an equal role in society would then go down the route of exclusion.” A spokesman for the team, Declan Lavery, said the Titans do not discriminate based on sexual orientation and, in fact, have some straight players. “Yes, it was primarily something established as a vehicle for gay people but that doesn’t mean somebody who isn’t gay can’t join; everyone is welcome,” Lavery said.

National News

Four Murders of Young Transgender People in Three Weeks in U.S. by Michael Aaron

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Candlelight vigils have spread across the United States in memory of 15-year-old Lawrence King, an Oxnard, Calif. student shot during class at E.O. Green Junior High School Feb. 12. Fellow classmates said that King was openly gay and would come to school wearing make-up and feminine clothing. Three other recent murders are less on the radar of the U.S. press and community responses.

Talib Stewart New York City police say the body of 25-year-old Talib Stewart, who often went by the nicknames, Nesha or Sanesha, was found early Feb. 9. Stewart had been stabbed multiple times. Police arrested ex-convict Steve McMillian for the crime. McMillan told officers that he flew into a rage when he learned of Stewart’s gender. The Daily News reported that

Lawrence “Larry” King On the morning of Feb. 12, eighth-grade student Lawrence “Larry” King was shot in the head while in the school’s computer lab. According to police, his alleged attacker, Brandon McInerney, walked into the room and shot him in the head. He was caught by Murder victim Lawrence police a few blocks “Larry” King, 14 away. Lawrence was declared brain dead the following day and taken off life support on Feb. 14 after his organs were donated. Students said that King had revealed he was gay just weeks before. “They teased him because he was different,” said Marissa Moreno, 13. “But he wasn’t afraid to show himself.” Speaking at a memorial service for Lawrence, the Rev. Dan Birchfield of Westminster Presbyterian Church said: “God knit Larry together and made him wonderfully complex. Larry was a masterpiece.” Simmie Williams, Jr. On Feb. 22, 17-year-old Simmie Williams Jr. was shot and killed in Fort Lauderdale, Fla. Williams was assaulted by two men dressed in dark clothing around 12:45 a.m., according to Fort Lauderdale police. Williams was wearing a dress at the Murder victim Simmie time and was also Williams, Jr., 17 locally known as “Chris” or “Beyoncé.” Investigators are looking into whether Williams was involved in prostitution, as police say that the area is popular for transgender prostitutes. Williams’ mother said she wasn’t aware that her son wore women’s clothing. She said he was a quiet, happy person with many friends. She said in the report that he would occasionally be a target for taunting, but was able to brush off the comments. No one has been arrested for the crime.

A move to amend the Indiana Constitution to ban same-sex marriage died in the House of Representatives Feb. 15 when Rep. Scott Pelath, D-Michigan City, refused to consider the measure in the Rules Committee. The proposal had passed both houses in 2005 and had passed the Senate a second time this year. Constitutional amendments must pass two consecutively elected legislatures, then be approved by voters in a general election. Pelath’s action means gays are safe from the amendment for at least four years. “This really is a very simple decision,” Pelath said. “The reality is, we have no gay marriages in Indiana. It is against the law. Nobody has brought me evidence of a gay marriage taking place in this state. “There’s no reason to put very poorly crafted verbiage into our constitution, our state’s highest document, that could

potentially be a lawyer’s dream with all sorts of unintended consequences.”

Gays To Confront Calif. Marriage Ban Signature-Gatherers

that they do not have to surrender to stigma, ignorance, fear or the efforts of anyone, even the federal government, to impose second-class citizenship on them.”

A coalition of California gay groups has formed a “Rapid Responders” project to confront paid signature-gatherers sent out by anti-gay groups to collect the 694,354 voter signatures needed to force a ballot vote on amending the state constitution to ban same sex marriage. “Equality for All is calling for volunteers to help educate voters and is asking all fair-minded Californians to be on the lookout for people gathering signatures at local malls, grocery stores and in their neighborhoods,” the groups said. The campaign has set up a hotline and put a “Rapid Response Team” sign-up form on its Web site: equalityforall.com. ProtectMarriage.com and the National Organization for Marriage have hired people to collect the necessary signatures by the April 1 deadline, Equality for All said. “Attempts to qualify a constitutional amendment banning marriage for gay and lesbian couples failed in 2004 and 2006,” said Geoff Kors, executive director of Equality California. “With a large enough network of supporters and volunteers willing to help, we can stop them again.”

State Dept. Drops Foreign Service HIV Ban The U.S. State Department has lifted its ban on HIV-positive Foreign Service officers, Lambda Legal reported Feb. 15. The move came less than two weeks before a scheduled trial in the HIV discrimination case Taylor v. Rice, which sought to overturn the ban. Lambda’s client, Lorenzo Taylor, was denied employment as a Foreign Service officer after disclosing his HIV status. The case has now been settled. “The new guidelines mean that candidates for Foreign Service posts who have HIV will now be assessed on a case-bycase basis,” said Bebe J. Anderson, Lambda’s HIV Project director. “The State Department is taking down its sign that read ‘People with HIV need not apply.’” Taylor commented: “Now people like me ... will not have to go through what I did. They and others with HIV will know

Indiana State Sen. Scott Pelath

N.J. Civil Unions Are Inadequate, Commission Finds New Jersey’s year-old civil-union law, which was supposed to give gay couples the same rights as married couples, doesn’t do that, a state commission determined Feb. 19. The commission found that the unions create a “second-class status;” are not treated as equal to marriage by government agencies, employers and others; and often are not understood by the public. Given that the civil-union law was passed in response to a Supreme Court decision ordering the state to grant gay couples all rights of matrimony, the commission pronounced the law a failure. Gov. Jon S. Corzine said the findings raise “significant concerns” and that he’d be willing to resolve them by signing a bill granting gay couples access to full marriage. But he said he would not do so until after the November presidential election, so as not to inject the matter into the campaign season.

Rove Says He Doesn’t Know if Stepdad was Gay Former White House Deputy Chief of Staff Karl Rove told high-school students in Connecticut Feb. 11 that he doesn’t know if his late stepfather, Louis Rove, was gay. Citing published accounts, a student at Choate Rosemary Hall prep school asked Rove if his stepdad’s sexual orientation played a role in Rove’s political decisions as the architect of George W. Bush’s election campaigns. Those decisions included instances of capitalizing on anti-gay sentiment and opposition to same-sex marriage to pull certain Republican voters to the polls in the 2000 and 2004 presidential elections. Rove said he didn’t know if his stepdad, who died in 2004, was gay, adding, “I miss him a lot,” according to The Hartford Courant daily newspaper. However, several reports have claimed that the elder Rove was openly gay in Palm Springs in the later years of his life.

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Jane Doe On the morning of Feb. 4, a catering truck driver found a dead body in an empty lot in Detroit. According to a report on WDIV Channel 4 news, the victim had been shot in the head at another location before the body was dumped. Parts of that report, which identified the victim as a “crossdressing prostitute,” have angered members of the LGBT community. “We are trying to find out the identity of the victim,” said Melissa Pope, director of victim services for Triangle Foundation. “My understanding is that the victim is African-American and in their late teens to early 20s. We’re getting little pieces of information.” Detroit police have identified the victim but are refusing to release their name. The local gay newspaper, Between the Lines, has filed a Freedom of Information Act request for the victim’s name and more details about the case. “We are trying to find out more information so we can hopefully, number one, find out the identity of the victim, number two, work with the police on the investigation, and, most importantly, help the community,” said Grace McClelland, executive director of the Ruth Ellis Center. “We don’t know the motivation behind the murder or any of the circumstances surrounding it at this point, so we are urging everyone in the community to use caution.” The Ruth Ellis Center is a social service agency which works with homeless queer youth. Park is concerned as well about others in the community and released a statement to the community: “We are sending out a special plea to sex workers and any other community members who patronize businesses in and around Palmer Park (McNichols through Seven Mile and Woodward) to exercise extreme caution until this killer is caught. Our primary concern is the safety of all members of our community.”

two sources said that the two had known each other since McMillan got out of state prison in 2007 after serving eight years on a Westchester County drug conviction. Prosecutors testified in McMillan’s Murder victim Talib Stewart, 25 arraignment that he stabbed Stewart in the neck and chest and that there were defensive wounds on Stewart’s hands. Neighbors placed candles in front of the building in the victim’s memory.

Indiana Anti-Gay Marriage Constitutional Amendment Dies

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Regional News N.M. Domestic Partner Bill Tabled SANTA FE, N.M. – On Feb. 9, one of New Mexico’s Senate committees voted to table a bill aimed at granting unmarried couples the same rights and benefits as married couples. The Senate Judiciary Committee voted 6-4 to shelve HB 9, which would also have recognized domestic partnerships from 10 other states and the District of Columbia. It was a vote that crossed party lines, with New Mexico Gov. Bill two Democrats Richardson joining all of the committee’s Republican members. Committee Republicans had previously said that the bill would threaten the sanctity of marriage. The bill was not heard again before the state’s legislative session closed on Feb. 14. A similar bill proposed in the 2007 legislative session met the same fate in the Senate. HB 9 passed a House vote of 33-31 in January. It sought to grant health insurance benefits, hospital visitation and medical leave rights, and power of attorney privileges to unmarried couples.

It would have also given them the same responsibilities in raising children — such as paying child support, visitation rights and sharing custody in case of divorce — as married couples have. Former Democratic presidential hopeful Gov. Bill Richardson, who publicly supported the legislation, spoke out against the Senate’s decision in a public statement. “I am extremely disappointed with the Senate committee’s action,� said Richardson, who issued an executive order extending similar benefits to gay state employees in 2003. “This is a matter of civil rights Equality New Mexico and equity for all New lobbyist Linda Siegle Mexicans.� Supporters of the legislation said they will continue to fight for a similar bill to be passed. “We’ll be back next year and every year,� said Linda Siegle, a lobbyist for gayrights group Equality New Mexico. “It took 12 years to get the Human Rights Act.� The state’s Human Rights Act was amended in 2003 to ban discrimination based on sexual orientation and gender identity in housing and employment.

Gay ‘Prank’ Rufes Congressional Feathers BOZEMAN, MONT. – Montana gay rights leaders aren’t laughing at a prank pulled by Montana’s sole Representative on an Idaho colleague. According to The Hill, a D.C.-based paper that covers congress, Republican Rep. Dennis “Dennyâ€? Rehberg left what he labeled an “Idaho Travel Packageâ€? on the airplane seat of Rep. Mike Simpson, Rep. Dennis “Dennyâ€? R-Idaho, on Feb. 15. Rehberg, R-Mont. The package included a stuffed sheep with gloves attached to it, books on cross-dressing and sign language, a CD by the Village People and a T-shirt that read, “My senator may not be gay, but my governor is butch.â€? The shirt, which is widely available in Idaho, references embattled Senator Larry Craig, R-Idaho, who was arrested last year after allegedly propositioning an undercover officer for sex in a men’s restroom. Idaho’s governor is C.L. “Butchâ€? Otter. Although Simpson reportedly found the prank amusing, the Montana Human Rights Network and the Western Montana Gay and Lesbian Community Center did not. The day after the event, they called on Rehberg to apologize. “Denny Rehberg owes an apology to his constituents in Montana, not just his gay and lesbian constituents but certainly them, and he owes us the courtesy of meeting with us and talking about his voting record,â€? said Christine Kaufmann, D-Helena, the Montana Human Right’s

Network’s director. She cited Rehberg’s congressional record of voting against hate crime protections and in favor of a measure that defined marriage as the union of a man and a woman. “It’s bad enough that Congressman Rehberg consistently votes against equality for gay and lesbian people; we’ve kind of come to expect that,� Kaufmann continued. “But when he uses his gay and lesbian constituents as the subject of pranks, it’s beyond the pale.� Although Rehberg refused to comment on the issue, a spokesman from his office told the Helena Independent Record that the two often played pranks on each other, and that Rehberg did not intend to offend. Kaufmann also asked Rehberg to meet with representatives from her group — an offer which his office refused. She told The Bozeman Daily Chronicle that she received the following email from the representative’s office on Feb. 19: “Unfortunately, the congressman’s schedule is full during his Montana travel this week. However, Congressman Rehberg would be happy to meet with you and others from the Montana Human Rights Network when you are in Washington, D.C.� Kauffman called the missive “uninviting.� “What I take from the e-mail is that Congressman Rehberg does not want to meet with the gay and lesbian community,� she said. “Not only did he turn down an effort by the community, he clearly is not intending to apologize. He really ought to do that.�

Former Arizona Governor Dies

More than 150 counter-demonstrators were present with signs reading “Let Friends Mourn in Peace� and chanted “Go Back to Kansas.� Reno police Sgt. Chris Lange said, “There were a couple of eggs thrown at them and that’s about it.� Some of the counter-demonstrators belonged to the pro-U.S. troops motorcycle group Patriot Guard. Westboro congregants are known for picketing funerals of U.S. soldiers. A father of one targeted soldier sued the church and was awarded damages of over $2 million. The church is appealing the case, though the Supreme Court has refused to hear it.

PHOENIX — Evan Mecham, a millionaire automobile dealer who briefly served as Arizona’s governor before being removed from office by impeachment conviction in 1988, has died of Alzheimer’s disease, according to former aide Karen Johnson, now an Arizona state senator. Mecham, Arizona’s only governor to be impeached, died at his Arizona State home last Wednesday. Mecham received a lot of negative attention during his 16 months in office due to his racial comments and seeming insensitivity to the black community. Businessman Ed Buck became the first gay political activist in Arizona by leading a recall against Mecham. Mecham told the media at the time that recall supporters were “a band of homosexuals and dissident Democrats.� The recall was halted after Mecham was impeached for obstruction of justice and misusing government funds. Born May 12, 1924, in the northeastern Utah town of Mountain Home, Mecham was a devout Mormon, one of six children and the youngest of five boys reared on a country farm.

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Anti-Gay Protesters End Funeral Disruption RENO, NEV. — A small group of Westboro Baptist Church members protesters interrupted funeral services on Feb. 23 for a Reno woman killed by a serial rapist. The standoff came to a close when the three protesters, who were holding signs reading “Pray for More Dead Kids� and “God Sent the Killer,� were removed from Reno-Sparks Convention Center by a police van.

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Families Rally for Adoption Bill Dozens of Utah families and gay rights supporters braved bad weather on Feb. 13 to rally at the capitol in support of a bill seeking to allow gay couples to adopt children. Drafted by local gay rights group Equality Utah, HB 318 Utah Adoption Amendments seeks to lift the restriction on allowing unmarried (cohabitating) couples to adopt children. Utah law was changed in 2000 to allow only single people and legally married couples to adopt. As gay marriage is banned in Utah first by the Defense of Marriage Act and then by constitutional amendment in 2004, same-sex couples are ineligible. Utah is one of only three states that prohibits same-sex couple adoptions. Florida and Mississippi are the others. HB 318 sponsor Rep. Rebecca ChavezHouck, D-Salt Lake City, told the crowd that she wants to change this in order to make Utah “a better place for everyone.� “I do this in part for a very selfish reason: I do Rep. Rebecca Chavez-Houck, it for my kids D-Salt Lake City and for future generations,� she said. “When one is fortunate enough to be a parent, you see the world through different eyes: Everything is amplified and the warts and joys of our world become more apparent to you. You see threats to our environment as something that not only hurts you as an individual, but your children and their peers. You are pained by social injustice because you fear your child may be victim or witness to that injustice.� Chavez-Houck added that she was “puzzled� by the state’s attempts to “define and mandate love and want for a family.� She encouraged those in attendance to continue to fight for change, and to hold public officials responsible for preserving the constitutional values of life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. “It is my hope that you will be able to voice why our current adoption law should be changed; to talk about the unrest that the current law imposes on your lives; to help you rest easy when you get sick, knowing that your partner will be there in all capacities for your

children; to have what so many of us take for granted,� she said. Laura Milliken Gray, a Salt Lake City attorney who specializes in adoption cases thanked ChavezHouck for sponsoring the bill. She told the crowd about the difficulty of helping Salt Lake City attorney gay couples Laura Milliken Gray — including foster parents — secure protections for their children such as “a stable home, inheritance rights, health insurance, financial and emotional support, and social security death and disability benefits.� “Since [2000], other lawyers and I have tried other techniques to protect GLBT families, but our legal avenues are few,� she said. “Now, kids languish in foster care when they could be placed with a loving gay couple, even when a kid in foster care is related by blood to the couple. Now, after the anguishing loss in a recent court case in Utah, a non-bio parent has no right to a relationship with the child she or he has raised if the couple breaks up. We’ve seen heartbreaking incidents of kids being denied contact with their other parent by members of our very own community. That is deplorable.� Gray challenged gay parents in Utah to confront those in the legislature who are making their children “second-class citizens.� She encouraged them to educate five people about the injustice of Utah adoption law and to encourage them to also get involved. “If we do this, we can have faith that with time, energy and perseverance; we will achieve justice and inclusion for our families. That’s all we want,� she said. At press time, HB 318 is still languishing in the House Rules Committee, which assigns bills to legislative committees for public hearing. Will Carlson, Manager of Public Policy for Equality Utah, has called the organization’s attempts to convince the committee to assign the bill “an uphill battle.� Q

Univ. of Utah Law School to Hold Symposium on the Changing Family group of people attending this conference from the really liberal to the really conservative, and it would show how laws may not be keeping up with reality of our life.� Ruth said that she and Kim initially wrote two separate monologues and later combined them. Their shared piece details the frustrations of trying to find a willing sperm donor and of having a family that is not legally recognized under Utah law. “Riley was born out of state, so Kim was able to adopt him,� Ruth explains at one point in the piece. “He has the protections of two legal parents. But Casey was born in Utah, so we aren’t allowed this co-parent adoption.� “Straight people divorce all the time and the courts help protect those children,� Kim’s part continues. “But if Ruth and I went through a bitter and ugly separation (it wouldn’t even legally be a divorce), I would have no rights to my baby.� “The idea is to continue the conversation of what is a family in context outside of academic conversation in a law school,� Kessler explained. She added that the public is encouraged to attend both parts of the free conference — the academic and the artistic. “What we’re doing is innovative and exciting and it’s something of an experiment in doing the theatre program,� she said. “We’re very excited about this, and we want to reach a broad audience.� New Frontiers in Family Law is supported by the Lee E. Teitelbaum Symposium Fund.  Q

Homeless Youth Bill Passes Both Houses

The Senate unanimously approved a bill seeking to make child abandonment a felony on Feb. 21. Sponsored by Rep. Lorie Fowlke, RProvo and Senate majority leader Curtis Bramble, R-Provo, HB 23 Child and Family Protections would make it a third degree felony for parents to abandon their children. The bill also seeks to make child abandonment a second degree felony if it causes the child serious physical injury or if the parents receive any benefit in abandoning the child. The bill defines child abandonment as a parent or legal guardian intentionally ceasing to maintain physical custody of a child without making reasonable arrangements for his or her care and provision. It also holds parents less accountable if they were ordered or coerced into abandoning their children. Senators passed the bill two minutes after Bramble’s introduction on a vote of 26-0 with three absent. The House also passed the bill unanimously on Feb. 8. Fowlke had previously said that the bill was written to target leaders of the Fundamentalist Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints who force families to kick out their children — particularly teenage boys so older men in the community can marry teenage girls. However, local gay rights group Equality Utah has said that HB 23 will have the unintended benefit of protecting all minors forced out of their homes, including gay youth. The bill will now head to Gov. John Huntsman, Jr.’s desk for signature.

Sen. Chris Buttars, R-South Jordan, announced Feb. 18 that he will not resign from the Utah State Senate and will seek reelection this year despite telling the Salt Lake Tribune in 2006 that he would leave public office at the end of his term. The two-term senator was asked to resign by Utah NAACP president Jeanetta Williams after he called a bill he disliked a “black baby ... a dark ugly thing.� Buttars apologized before the senate after Sen. Ross Romero approached Senate Chair John Valentine complaining of Buttars’ “breach of decorum.� Ongoing articles in daily newspapers have been highly critical of Buttars, especially his comments during bills against Utah’s gay and lesbian community. A photograph on the front page of the Tribune shows Buttars watching lesbian activist Kristy Gleaves with a look of utter disgust, about which Tribune columnist Barb Guy said the photo spoke volumes of Utah’s cultural divide. Buttars responded Feb. 18 that a “lynch mob� was after him, apparently unaware of the racial undertones of that phrase. He blamed gay activists for orchestrating the reaction against him. Mike Thompson, executive director of Equality Utah, said that the NAACP was the only organization spearheading a reaction against Buttars.

“Obviously, they have concerns about what Sen. Buttars said,� Thompson told the Deseret Morning News. “Once again, Sen. Buttars gets to point at the gay community ... it’s something else to blame on the gay community.� A Deseret News-KSL poll of 241 Utahns shows that a majority want Sen. Chris Buttars out of office before the next election. According to Dan Jones and Associates, 49 percent of those surveyed want Buttars to either resign immediately or not seek reelection in November. Fortytwo percent leave Buttars’ fate up to the voters in November. About 28 percent want him to resign immediately and another 21 percent want him to finish his term and bow out of the race. Buttars has since been removed from his chairmanship position on the Senate Judicial Confirmation Commission after a letter he wrote on Senate letterhead was made public by the Tribune. In the letter, Buttars questioned a judge’s integrity for ruling against developer Wendell Gibby, a longtime acquaintance. Williams has told the press the NAACP is seeking qualified candidates to run against Buttars this year should he make good on his promise to run again. To date, no gay organizations have openly sought a replacement for Buttars’ seat or announced plans to organize against him.

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The University of Utah’s S.J. Quinney College of Law in cooperation with the school’s Gender Studies Program will hold the symposium “New Frontiers in Family Law� about the changing nature of the American family and its affect on family law, on Feb. 28–29. According to symposium co-organizer and U of U law professor Laura Kessler, the two-day event will feature various papers and discussions centered on the many ways in which the American family is moving away from the “traditional nuclear� model to include other models such as “cohabitation, same-sex relationships, extended families, friendships that function as family and all kinds of intimate relationships.� Kessler, who organized the symposium with Professor Martha Ertman of the University of Maryland School of Law, said the event was formed to help law professors, students and the general public discuss “loosening of the state’s hold on family relationships� over the past four decades. “There are major developments in family law right now that have been going on for a few years. What constitutes a family and the rights that come with that definition are really in flux,� she said. “There’s just a lot happening around these questions and what we want to do is explore kinship and intimacy and family relationships that defy the state’s official definition.� To illustrate her point, Kessler mentioned a number of things that have altered the “traditional nuclear� definition of the American family including globalization, the rise of the reproductive rights movement, the relaxation of divorce law and the 2003 U.S. Supreme Court decision Lawrence vs. Texas, which decriminalized gay sex and paved the way to debates about recognizing same-sex marriage. In looking outside of traditional marriage at other relationships and other ways of defining the family, Kessler said she hopes the symposium can help answer questions about how “law can support freedom of diversity in intimate life.� Kessler also said that she hopes the public will enjoy something most law symposia don’t include: a night at the theatre. In keeping with the event’s theme of innovation, Kessler and Ertman decided to add a 90-minute monologue showcase to the academic conference. Modeled upon Eve Ensler’s award-winning play The Vagina Monologues, these 15 pieces explore a number of different families, from a single mother who had her child through artificial insemination to a lesbian couple trying to get pregnant. Kessler said she hopes the pieces (collectively called Telling Tales on Families) will show attendees how the legal questions discussed in the symposium affect families personally. One such personal story is Kim and Ruth Hackford-Peer’s “The Most Wanted Boys in the World,� which chronicles how they planned for and conceived their sons, Riley and Casey through artificial insemination. “Our neighbor across the street is a third-year law student at university and he is the one who told us about the call for monologues,� said Ruth. “He thought it would be a good way for us to get our perspective out there. There’ll be a wide

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The new year is barely two months old, and Ariana Losco has already been through enough stress to last her for the rest of 2008. In early January, Losco was fired after she spoke to an Associated Press reporter about harassment she had experienced while working at Rocky Mountain Care, a nursing home in Tooele. Ariana Losco Losco, who is transgender, said that her shifts were cut and she was harassed when her co-workers discovered she had sexual reassignment surgery 13 years ago. The day after the article appeared, the facility’s administrator Jonathan Bengeder fired her for “embarrassing the nursing home,” despite the fact that Losco had not named the facility in the story. In an extensive interview with QSaltLake, Losco also alleges that she was verbally and physically assaulted by a supervisor, and that her many complaints about the assaults went ignored. Rocky Mountain Care declined to comment on Losco’s allegations, except to say they were a “private matter between two employees.” After her termination, Losco worried about how to pay her bills and how to care for her disabled husband. “I’m really depressed, as you can imagine,” she said at the time. One month later, Losco said she is no longer depressed. Not only has she found a new job, she has also done something that means just as much to her: She has spoken out against anti-gay and anti-transgender discrimination. “Until we get laws to protect us it’s still going on,” said Losco. Along with speaking to the press about her story, Losco also testified before the state legislature in favor of HB 89. Sponsored by Rep. Christine Johnson, D-Salt Lake city, this bill seeks to prohibit employment discrimination based on sexual orientation and gender identity. In speaking for the bill, Losco became the first openly transgender woman to testify on the Hill in Utah history. “I don’t ask you to make my employer approve of my gender identity, but to make employers focus on what really counts,” she told members of the House Business and Labor Committee on Jan. 29. The committee ultimately decided to hold the bill until its interim session in August. Losco also said that her activism will

not stop there. She said she will work to see that HB 89 is passed later this year. “I’m hoping something comes of it, that they don’t just kill it on sight,” she said. She also said she will speak up in support of a gay and transgender-inclusive hate crime bill. After a decade’s worth of attempts by several legislators, including most recently David Litvak, D-Salt Lake City, the Utah legislature passed a compromise hate crime bill in the 2006 session. The bill replaced protected categories such as race, religion and sexual orientation with language that allows judges to consider an ‘aggravating factor’ at sentencing. In other words, judges are able to look at the impact a crime may have on a specific community, not on biases that may have provoked the crime. This change appeased lawmakers who opposed the bill on the grounds that it punished thoughts. “[Criminals who commit hate crimes] will stay locked up longer,” Attorney General Mark Shurtleff told the Deseret Morning News on Mar. 16, 2006. “That is a great tool for us ... we’re going to put more than lip service to tolerance.” But like other critics who argue that Utah’s current hate crime law is toothless, Losco said it doesn’t go far enough. She added that the recent murder of Lawrence King, a gay California teenager who died after being shot by a classmate, has made securing such protections for gay and transgender people even more “urgent.” “I do see vicious people attacking us, and until we’re included, it [the hate crimes law] is not worth the paper it’s written on,” she said. “A law that doesn’t protect everyone is no law!” Losco also said she isn’t giving up on holding her former employers accountable for their actions. At first, she said her attempts to seek legal help were dead ends. Six lawyers (including those with Lambda Legal) turned down her case because Utah law doesn’t protect transgender people from workplace discrimination. But now, the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission has taken up her case on the grounds that she also experienced sex discrimination. “Federal law would protect me as a woman,” she said. “A pre-op [transgender person] would have no protection, but if you have the change they consider you a woman and you have all the rights of a woman.” Losco said she would fight this for legal redress for “as long as it takes.” “I’ll go all the way to the Supreme Court if I have to,” she said. Tammi Hartman, the EEOC representative whom Losco said is handling her case, was out of town and unavailable for comment at press time.  Q

Senate Recrafting Domestic Registry Bill by Michael Aaron

The Utah State Senate voted Monday, Feb. 25 to allow Sen. Greg Bell, R-Fruit Heights, to file a late bill aimed at Salt Lake City’s Domestic Partnership Registry. The 2008 legislative session is drawing to a close and many deadlines are looming. Bell moved for the senate to authorize legislative staff to “draft a bill that would legislate the criteria for political subdivisions of the State of Utah to enact ordinances to legally recognize unmarried persons as financial co-dependents.� Sen Chris Buttars’ bill, SB267, was sent back to the Senate Rules Committee as is unlikely to be reconsidered. Some legislators feared that the bill was too far-reaching and had likely unintended consequences. While the bill appeared to have support in the senate, House leaders warned that it may not fly through their chamber, especially under the sponsorship of the embattled Buttars. Bell’s as-yet unwritten bill, SB299, is promised to be less sweeping. “As I understand it, it will be more narrow in scope,� Salt Lake City lobbyist Ben McAdams told The Salt Lake Tribune. In a Tribune article Feb. 27, even Gov. Jon Huntsman has questioned the need for such a bill. “I’m not sure that the state has a place overreaching or micromanaging what is done at the local government level,� Huntsman said when asked about a potential registry ban. Huntsman believes that the Salt Lake City registry is within state law, and such ordinances should be left up to city officials “to do what they want to do.� Asked whether he would veto such a

bill, Huntsman replied, “I just don’t think it will make it that far.� The legislature’s final day of the session will be May 5. During the final week of the session, both houses are generally swamped with important budgetary items, leaving so-called “message bills� little time for debate. It is not unusual, however, for both houses to lift rules and slide such bills through in the waning hours of the session. Bell is considered a moderate on gay and lesbian issues, even sponsoring a bill in 2005, SB89 “Mutual Dependence Benefits Contract,� which would have created a state-sponsored contract between people unable to marry, allowing them to make medical decisions for one another among other benefits. Eagle Forum President Gayle Ruzicka called the bill “an apology for Amendment 3� and vowed to “kill it in the House.� The Senate passed the bill, but it indeed died in the House. Bell has told the media that he is not seeking to block benefits, as long as they are not exclusive to gay and lesbian couples. “We want to preserve the rights of a city or county to provide for employerrelated domestic benefits to be shared on a neutral criteria,� Bell told the Deseret Morning News. But 78 percent of those utilizing Salt Lake City’s adult designee ordinance, which uses similar wording, are not same-sex couples, according to the city. House Majority Leader David Clark, R-Santa Clara wonders aloud whether the House will be interested in Bell’s bill. “Irregardless of Sen. Buttars and Sen. Bell, is there an underlying appetite to change the policy?� he asked.

Southern Utah Pride to Hold 2008 Town Hall Meeting The board of directors for Southern Utah’s long-running annual Pride Festival will hold a town hall meeting on Sunday, March 2 at 2:00 p.m. at Brooks Nature Park in St. George. The open forum will be held to discuss the importance of Southern Utah Pride to the gay community in the state and the direction in which the festival will go this year. Open staff positions for this year’s event will also be discussed, including filling jobs that are new to the festival this year. Although the board welcomes all community input, they have asked that any concerns that may bring a negative tone to the meeting be brought to the board beforehand in writing. The sixth annual Southern Utah Pride at Zion Celebration will be held on Sept. 26 and 27 at the Springdale City Park next to the Zion Canyon National Parks entrance.

WSU to Screen ‘For the Bible Tells Me So’ The film, “For the Bible Tells Me So,� will be shown at the Wildcat Theatre at Weber State University March 7 at 9:30 p.m. The documentary premiered at the 2007 Sundance Film Festival, winning the Grand Jury prize, and was on the shortlist to receive an Oscar. The documentary looks at the ongoing battle of gays and lesbians to practice their faith without denying their sexual orientation. The film includes interviews with a number of conservative Christian families as well as V. Gene Robinson, who became the first officially ordained

Anglican bishop; political activist and spiritual leader Bishop Desmond Tutu; and Chrissy Gephardt, the openly lesbian daughter of Congressman Dick Gephardt. It was directed by Daniel Karslake, longtime producer of the PBS news and public affairs series In The Life. The film is being shown as part of the Foursite Film Festival. Tickets and more information is available at the festival’s Web site, foursitefilmfest.com.

‘Brokeback Mountain’ Returns for Gay Movie Night The Village hosts a monthly movie night the second Monday of each month. On March 10 at 7:00 p.m., Brokeback Mountain will be shown at the Tower Theatre in the 9th & 9th neighborhood. Gay rodeo competitors will start off the night, and chili and cornbread will be available for everyone after the show. The Village is a program of the Utah AIDS Foundation devoted to improving gay and bisexual men‘s health and preventing the spread of HIV. It provides “fun activites and discussions that provoke thought and discussion about staying healthy and preventing HIV transmission.� More information can be found at The Village’s Web site at queervillage. blogspot.com

Fabulous Fun Bus to Wendover Ruby Ridge will be hosting a Fabulous Fun Bus to West Wendover, Nev. on Saturday, March 1. The bus will leave the Trapp Door at 11:00 a.m. and will return by 8:00 p.m. Proceeds go to the RCGSE Cancer Fund. Tickets at gaywendover. com or by calling 801-649-6663.

Adoption Bill Likely to Die in Committee and lesbian parents say the Representative promised to let the bill have a fair hearing — a promise he later took back. “We talked to Walker about how a lot of children are on state Medicaid because in a lot of cases the working parent cannot insure her children,� said Ruth HackfordPeer, who said she and her partner Kim took their two children to the capitol to lobby for the bill. “We urged him to think about fiscal responsibility as we’ve heard he wants to be treasurer next year. Walker said that while he probably would not vote for the bill in committee, he would allow it to get out of rules and wouldn’t block the bill from going to committee. Which is frustrating because he’s the one blocking it.� A week and a half later, Hackford-Peer reminded Walker of his promise when she overheard him telling other HB 318 supporters that he had “philosophical differences with the bill and would not let it out of Rules.� “At that point I was there with my toddler and reminded him of the commitment he made to the little guy. He said something to the effect of lets not talk about the past and was defensive and dismissive.� Both women said their dealings with the representative left them “bitter and angry.� “What a liar,� Kim said. Carlson has said that Equality Utah will take up the bill again in next year’s session. Chavez-Houck has also said that she will run her legislation again.  Q

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The House Rules Committee is still holding onto a bill that would grant gay couples the right to adopt children. And with the 2008 General Session coming to a close, it is unlikely the bill will be heard, or even assigned to a committee. The last day for standing committees to hold their hearings is Wednesday, Feb. 27. The House Rules Committee, which assigns bills to standing committees for public hearing, has been holding onto HB 318 Utah Adoption Amendments since January, despite the attempts of gay rights activists and families. The bill would rewrite a 2000 change to Utah adoption law that prevents unmarried (cohabitating) couples from adopting children. Currently, gays and lesbians may only adopt if they are single. “It’s just not looking very hopeful,� HB 318 sponsor Rep. Rebecca Chavez-Houck, D-Salt Lake City, told the Deseret Morning News on Feb. 25. “It’s not going very well,� Will Carlson, Manager of Public Policy for local gay rights group Equality Utah, agreed. “Rep. Mark Walker has been very open about being the lead in keeping this bill from getting a hearing.� Walker, R-Sandy, a Rules Committee member and hopeful for the office of State Treasurer, has been vocal not only about his opposition to the bill but about his efforts to keep it from leaving the committee. “It really just comes down to my belief that gay couples shouldn’t be able to adopt children,� Walker said. Walker’s opposition aside, some gay

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Re-legalize Same-Sex Adoption By Lauren Barros

Earlier this month, the Salt Lake Tribune reported Utah senators stating they were suspicious of a repugnant “homosexual agenda.” As a lawyer, I proudly advance the homosexual agenda. It is also the Jewish agenda, the black agenda, the Hispanic agenda, and the female agenda. It is the agenda of equal rights and increasingly the agenda of the majority of Americans. Since 1988, the percentage of Americans who thought homosexual relations between consenting adults should be legal has increased from 33 to 59 percent. This legislative session, Rep. Chavez-Houck, D-Salt Lake, is sponsoring HB 318 to remove a 2000 ban on adoption by cohabitating unmarried individuals. The bill would leave in place a stated preference for married couples. The bold adoption bill would restore equal parenting rights to same sex couples. It is bold because Utah is an island alone. No other state prohibits cohabitating adults from adopting — whether gay or straight. Adoption is a powerful legal and financial protection for children, enabling them to receive the benefits of Social Security, insurance, health care, taxation, family leave, immigration, etc. Adoption also gives societal acceptance and support. Children raised by adoptive same-sex couples benefit most from this permanent legal status. Criticism that same-sex couples are bad role models is completely unfounded. Every mainstream health and child welfare organization has policies opposing restrictions on same-sex parenting and supporting the right of every child to the legal, financial and psychosocial security that results from having legally recognized parents. In fact, a recent study by the National Science Foundation shows adoptive parents are better than biological parents. The study, examining data from 13,000 households, showed families headed by adoptive parents invest more money and spend more time reading, eating and talking with their children; helping with homework and at school, exposing them to cultural activities and attending religious services. All the studies consistently say that what influences child development is the quality of the parenting, the quality of the relationship between the parents (if there are two) and the availability of adequate financial resources. Over the past 25 years, numerous studies looked at same-sex parenting and report uniform results. No study found any adverse effect on children’s development from the parents’ sexual orientation. In fact, studies show same-sex couples parent better than single parents. Parents who raise children alone report greater stress, increased parent child conflicts and less enjoyment of parenting than parents in a couple relationship, whether lesbian or heterosexual. Further, studies show that same-sex couples often parent better than opposite-sex couples. Studies show that children raised by same-sex parents play less aggressively, communicate feelings more freely, aspire to a wider range of occupations and score higher on self esteem scales. They are described as more tolerant, more nurturing and demonstrate a wider range of behaviors, such as playing with dolls and trucks, or with boys and girls. The vast majority of children raised by same-sex couples grow up to be heterosexual. Trying to keep the homosexual agenda at bay is a losing battle. The most recent census shows same-sex couples live in and raise children in every Utah county. Forty-two percent of lesbian couples in Utah are raising children. Nationwide, only 45 percent of married heterosexual couples are raising children. In the United States, the number of same-sex couples has increased 427 percent since 1990. The biggest mover was Utah, which moved from 38th to 14th in concentration of same-sex couples per 1000 households. Utah has 6,503 same-sex cohabitating couples, higher than 18 other states. The states with the largest increases in same-sex couples are those that amended their constitutions outlawing same-sex marriage, like Utah, with an increase in same-sex couples of 41 percent since 1996. These numbers show that the more our legislators try to discriminate, the more people will come out to fight for equal rights. In sum, this issue is about children. Today in Utah there are 2,600 children languishing in foster care, eligible for adoption. Utah arbitrarily excludes same-sex couples who could provide permanent, loving homes, all because of bigotry and discrimination.Q Lauren R. Barros, P.C. is an attorney in Salt Lake City. She can be found at laurenbarroslaw.com

Bullshattuck Are You Falling Hooker, Line and Sinker? by Ryan Shattuck ryan@qsaltlake.com

In the beginning, God created the heavens and earth. He then created Man and Woman. Only minutes after being created, did Woman start sleeping around and became a cheap whore, while Man started selling Meth and became a male prostitute. This paved the way for the World’s Oldest Profession™. Feeling incensed, God then struck down Man and Woman with a fierce punishment, and that is why we no longer have tails. Escort. Man-whore. Hustler. Working boy. Call-boy, Rentboy. Taxi boy. Program boy. Gigolo. Puttano. Tapins. Gayfor-pay. Rough trade. Friend of Larry Craig. Prostitution has been on my mind recently. I don’t mean in the maybe-Ishould-give-up-my-day-job sense. Rather, I’ve recently found myself interested in the topic and the history of prostitution. Sex-for-pay, which is older than the Old Testament itself, dates back to the earliest days of the human race. Before the advent of rest stops, tranny corners, Manhunt.com, the back room of a club, and

Guest Editorial How to Kill a Transperson by Ceridwen Troy

practice of accepting money for sex. I’ve since shared this story with a number of people — family, straight friends and gay friends (the story makes a great icebreaker at weddings and bar mitzvahs). While everyone has found the story entertaining, I’ve been surprised at the reaction of some of my gay friends. Most of my straight friends and family members have been shocked by this story; many of my gay friends have chided me for not accepting the thousand dollars. The second question I’m usually asked after “why didn’t you accept the money,” is “do you know how I can find him?” Now I definitely agree that prostitution plays its part in society, particularly gay society. The gay and lesbian community has always been an umbrella that accepts any and all types of diversity in sex. We are unfailingly more liberal with our sexuality than our straight counterparts, and for that reason any and all should be welcome — including male prostitutes. We wouldn’t want one-half of the gay community to tell the other half how to best manage their ‘career choices’ anymore than we want one-half of the gay community to tell the other half how to best manage their relationships. Margaret Cho, a well-known comedienne and

gay icon, recently wrote an article in The Advocate titled “Termites and Ho’s” in defense of male prostitution. Says Cho: “Frankly, I think that prostitution should be legalized, with plenty of regulations to protect the brave men and women who have sex for a living.” While Cho’s sexual opinions are more liberal than my own, it appears that we both agree that prostitution should be legal within the realms of regulations. Where I draw the line is when male prostitution encroaches on to other aspects of life. I take no issue with male prostitutes, but I do take offense at being solicited myself. I may have sympathy for the street corner drug-ridden prostitute the same way that I have sympathy for my waiter at Applebee’s, but conversely, I respect the successful career prostitute the same way I respect the successful career waiter in New York City. I believe that those who decide to become male prostitutes should do so by choice, be regulated and safe, and not feel as though they have to make desperate decisions regarding sex. In an ideal world, some men wouldn’t feel as though they have to desperately offer hotel employees money for sex, and the University of Phoenix would offer a degree in safe prostitution. Putting prostitution out into the open makes it safer for everyone involved. Is anyone looking for a new career with longevity? They don’t call prostitution the World’s Oldest Profession™ for nothing.  Q

self, call us sinners, call us abominations, call us evil. You forget that at best, the media depicts us as something to be pitied, something that our families must be strong and overcome. At worst, they depict us as abnormal, exploiting our bodies for ratings, exploiting the public’s fear of us for shock value. You forget that on a good day, law enforcement agents are neglectful of us, and that far more frequently they join in our harassment. You forget the transwomen of color who are rounded up on suspicion of prostitution. You forget the beatings that go uninvestigated. You forget the molestation and rape we face when we are arrested. You forget the medical establishment that drains our wallets for the therapy and hormones and surgeries they tell us we need. You forget the way we are then refused treatment when we are dying, dying of treatable diseases, dying of easily patched wounds. You forget that, by the law of the land, it is legal in the majority of states to deny us employment, to deny us service, to deny us housing. You forget the shelters and the rape crisis centers that will not allow us through their doors. You forget that many of us don’t even have family to turn to when we are at our most desperate. You forget that the leaders of our own community have told us that it is not time for us to have rights, that it is not pragmatic for us to be considered worthy of the same respect as other human beings. You forget that in our own circles, it is considered a negative thing to be too flamboyant. You forget the way our pride parades have been derided by our own community. You forget the scorn heaped upon drag queens by other gay men. You forget the fear to be seen in public with a friend who is considered too open, too queer.

You forget the way it seeps into the minds of transgender people, too. You forget the way a transsexual will shout that she is not a cross-dresser, as if there were something wrong with that. You forget the catty names we call each other if we don’t “pass.” You forget how many of us take our own lives every year. You forget because the noise is always there, a constant drone in the background. Every newspaper article that calls a transwoman “he” instead of “she.” Every talk show host who spends an hour talking about our genitals. Every childish taunt about “looking like a tranny.” Every transperson who talks about themselves as “true” transsexuals, differentiating themselves from the crossdressers and the genderqueer.

Every activist and politician who tells us “now is not the time.” You forget too, how easy it is to kill a person of color, with myths about “gangstas” and lies about immigrants. You forget how easy it is to kill a person living in poverty, cutting off her welfare because she’s “being paid to breed.” You forget how easy it is to kill a sex worker, with sex-shaming language, slinging about slurs like “hooker” and “whore.” You forget the message hidden inside every single one of those statements. “You are less than I am. You are not worthy of the rights and respect that I am worthy of.” “You are not human.” It’s very easy to kill something that you don’t see as human. It’s very easy to kill a transperson.  Q

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On Saturday, Feb. 9, Sanesha Stewart, a transwoman of color living in the Bronx, was murdered in her own apartment. She was 25 years old. Her killer, Steve McMillan, had known her for months. Yet when he was arrested, he claimed to have been enraged to find out that she “wasn’t really a woman.” He stabbed her over and over again in the chest and throat. She tried to fight him off; there were defensive wounds found on her hands. On Tuesday, Feb. 12, eighth-grader Lawrence King was in a classroom in Oxnard, Calif. He was openly gay, and often came to school in gender-bending clothing, makeup, jewelry and shoes. According to another student, it “was freaking the guys out.” One of them shot Lawrence in the head. He was declared brain-dead on Wednesday, and subsequently died on Thursday. On Friday, Feb. 22, Simmie Williams, Jr. was shot dead on a public street, executed by two young men for wearing women’s clothing. Williams was 17 and lived with his mother in Fort Lauderdale, Fla. “I gave him $2 for the bus and he never came back,” his mother said. “He was a quiet person, kept to himself. He had a lot of friends. He wasn’t a troubled child. He was a happy person.” His killers remain at large. It’s easy to look at cases like this and think, how tragic. How random. How senseless. But then you forget how easy it is to kill a transgender person. You forget that all across this nation faith leaders of all stripes, men and women who claim to speak for God Him-

foot taps between bathroom stalls, did Og the caveman pay Ug the caveman for sex, followed by clubbing him over the head. Prostitutes today may have to worry about getting an STD, but at least no one today is being clubbed and dragged back to a cave. While the history of male prostitution is well documented, no one entirely knows who the first prostitute may have been. What are the exact origins of prostitution? Who first thought to themselves, “I love both sex and money, but how can I combine both into a career?” Why do some feel driven to become a prostitute? Why is prostitution generally more accepted in the gay community than in the straight community? How has no one else discovered that Carrie “Garbage Bag Is So Chic Right Now” Bradshaw moonlights as a homeless prostitute? I once worked for a hotel in downtown Salt Lake City. On a particular night, an unassuming older man — who appeared to be three or four or seven times my age — offered me one thousand dollars to have sex with him. I told him that I absolutely was not interested, even after being asked several times during the course of my shift. Not only was I at work, but I’ve also never been in the

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A very common form of false advertising in the dating world is to present yourself as available when you’re not. Recently, I’ve been struggling with this challenge. I plan on relocating after graduation, and I’ve come to realize that this has rendered me undateable. Right now it doesn’t matter who I meet or how spectacular they are: I am just not in a place where I’m going to allow an intimate relationship to happen. I need to graduate and live as an adult with a real adult job before I’m going to be open to any kind of serious dating. That’s my truth right now. I say this like I really believe it, but if I’m being honest with you, which I am, then I have to admit there’s a part of me that doesn’t believe what I’m saying. I’m a hopeless romantic and my heart wants to believe that if the right person came along tomorrow, I’d be open to that possibility. But in my head I recognize that this isn’t true. And while my heart often chooses the direction, my head picks the course. While I’m unavailable due to my outwardly changing life situation, I have a good friend who is unavailable because of an inwardly changing life situation. While the outward appearance of my friend’s life is very organized and stable, he recognizes that he needs to be at peace with a lot of internal issues before he can

find the relationship he seeks. I have another friend who has found himself on the other end of this situation twice, in just the last six months. He keeps meeting men who present themselves as available, they’re really not. These men are in transition themselves and have refused to recognize, or have not yet recognized or accepted that they are not in a place where they should be seeking a serious relationship. My friend has picked up on this fact in a much clearer and more straightforward way than these men have. I think my friend’s ability to notice this has to do with the fact that his life is conducive to that which he seeks.

If you imagine the state of being capable and ready for a relationship as a beautiful and unique landscape, then you can imagine why those who are not ready for it would be incapable of accurately describing it. And how this in turn would be the bullshit detector those who have seen this landscape could use to determine whether another truly has seen it. No matter what a person appears to be, she or he radiates their truth. And while you may not be able to put your finger on what about them puts you off, your core will often sense what they don’t want you to know. Often, this is something they themselves don’t even realize.  Q

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So have you been following the Chris Buttars fiasco, darlings? I have, and let me tell you, it’s like watching a train wreck in slow motion. Every time you think Buttars is finally going to apologize and makes things right, he opens his mouth and makes things worse: dark ugly babies, lynch mobs and “those people.” Does he know or even care that February is Black History Month? Does he know that even President Bush has decried racist and divisive language? Muffins, I find it scary to think that even in my wildest, most politically incorrect rants that I (and President Dubya) can be more sensitive than an elected member of the Utah State Legislature. I’m surprised Buttars didn’t take KFC when he went to apologize at Calvary Baptist Church last Sunday! The fascinating thing for me has been how the conservatives have come running to his defense in the blogs and counter-attacking like pit bulls. I pulled up the Deseret Morning News and the Salt Lake Tribune’s on-line editions just to see what their takes on the scandal were and the hundreds (and I do mean HUNDREDS!) of shrill readers’ comments were simply amazing. There was a lot of ranting and raving from all political sides that essentially used the “Buttars Baby” topic as a Rorschach test. If you were looking to be offended by Buttars, you were. Similarly, if you were looking to be offended by the NAACP, you were. But after all of the Sturm und Drang online, I doubt that anyone’s opinions on either side were changed. Cherubs, it’s disheartening to see so much wasted energy when there are plenty of legitimate political concerns, issues and potentially bad laws being voted on right now (many sponsored by Sen. Buttars, no less). The online comments were just like Chris Buttars’ statements — divisive, rude and oozing with meanspirited posturing. I don’t know kittens, maybe it’s the nature of the beast, but

the anonymity of the internet enables some folks to throw hit-and-run messages like fragment grenades with no accountability. It doesn’t add constructively to the political discourse, and essentially polarizes positions. If you take some of the anonymous postings seriously, then Salt Lake City’s NAACP president Jeanetta Williams and the NAACP itself are personally responsible for horrors like Osama Bin Laden, Capri pants and the Irish Potato Famine. On the other hand, Chris Buttars is not only a sexist, racist, homophobic bigot, but apparently he clubs baby seals during family home evening while he sings “Come, Come, Ye Saints.” This is malicious and patently untrue because I know for a fact that Chris only clubs puppies and he lip synchs! (PETA people, take a deep breath and a Xanax, I’m just joking. Don’t get your cruelty-free knickers in a twist). Unfortunately, the pro-Buttars supporters (especially Gayle) fell back on the sleaziest and most reliable tactic for disgraced Republican politicians. When one of these familyvalues moralists screw up, they invariably divert attention away from their misdeeds and fixate on their charity work with children. Remember Nancy Workman and her shrill, “I did it for the children, waaahhhh?” As if suddenly that makes everything OK. Well it doesn’t, pumpkins. When someone like Chris Buttars denigrates and targets gays and lesbians and their families, then I don’t care how much time, money and effort he has put into the Utah Boys Ranch. Forget the fact that he is placing children at risk by opposing safe sex education, opposing stable family conditions and legal protections for our families, opposing anti-bullying legislation, and gutting gay and transgender-inclusive hate crime laws (which disproportionately involve youth). In fact, given his tangible and irrational hatred towards our community, it makes me terrified to think of how unsafe a gay kid would be in the youth program he champions. But hey, in Chris’ mind, gay kids choose their sexual orientation, so they deserve to be punished and discriminated against. Being gay is a lifestyle choice, it’s not like they were born black.  Q

When someone like Chris Buttars denigrates and targets gays and lesbians and their families, then I don’t care how much time, money and effort he has put into the Utah Boys Ranch.

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Queer Gnosis The Integral Approach to Chris Buttars, Part 1 by Troy Williams

“Troy, what are the three main things that you and Chris Buttars have in common?” Buhwha? That’s what I thought, live on air, when Diane Muscho Hamilton from the Kanzeon Zen Center asked me point blank. Zen Masters are real tricky that way. I invited Diane on RadioActive to discuss Integral Theory — a new-edge philosophy that has the ambitious objective of synthesizing body/spirit, science/ mysticism and East/West traditions. The objective of this philosophy? Jumping humanity to the next tier of evolutionary consciousness. Cool, right? Hamilton is the dharma successor of Genpo Roshi. She is also the director of curriculum at Ken Wilber’s Integral Institute. In part one, we lay the foundation of Integral Theory and apply it to me and Chris Buttars. In part two, we’ll apply Integral to the development of queer identity. TROY WILLIAMS: What is Integral Philosophy? DIANE MUSCHO HAMILTON: The impulse of Integral is to expand our mind and our perspective enough to hold multiple points of view. And to be very aware and conscious of when we are holding contradictions. For instance, one of the simple contradictions that we work with is the contradiction between rationality and faith. Spirit can’t necessarily be proved through rational means. And somehow, we are set up to negate either the scientific or spiritual perspective. Integral Theory would actually say that these are two different functions of mind. One is a rational and the other is a faith function. We somehow have to find the ability to hold both. Integral is that invitation. TW: In our society it’s often an “either/or” scenario. What I’m hearing from you is that it’s a “both/and.”

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DMH: Absolutely. Integral Theory takes into account the work of developmental psychologists like Jane Loveinger, Claire Graves and Abraham Maslow — who discovered that human beings actually unfold in a very particular pattern. The capacity to hold a “both/and” is actually a developmental process. In earlier points of our lives, we actually have to occupy perspectives of “either/or.” It’s out of a certain level of growth that we can move into a position to hold both. It’s not a capacity we are born with. It’s a capacity we grow into and practice. We have to learn how to hold contradiction and how to experience paradox. TW: Take us through this developmental evolution. DMH: Let’s take, for example, our sense of Self. We unfold in a particular pattern. We are born without a sense of Self. We are merged with the mother and our family system. At about 2 years old, we develop this individualized sense of Self. We start to feel ourselves apart. This is called the egocentric level of development. When that is intact, our awareness then starts to spread out to what is “me” and what is “mine.” The ethnocentric level becomes very much about what I identify with. My family, my friends, my sports team, my nation, etc. Then there comes another stage of development — worldcentric — where you actually start to see the commonalities between all of

those groups and that which appears to be “other.” Your consciousness starts to expand to include what formerly were groups of people who are not “You.” Maybe even animal or plant life, or maybe now you actually start to see the planet as what “You” are. And beyond that, the kosmocentric level — where you start to see through space and time. You identify with the past and the future. TW: Back to worldcentric consciousness — we become more pluralistic, we begin to evolve a sense of empathy for that which is different from “me.” DMH: This is really a critical moment of development. You begin to develop a very profound and endurable empathy for groups. You can’t land in an “us/them,” “enemy/not enemy” mentality as easily. In terms of development this can be very threatening. For example, if I am fundamentally identified as being American and protecting American values and American resources and being involved in the American adventure — then all of that which is not American is potentially problematic. If I naturally move to being able to identify with people who are not American, that could be threatening to my own group. TW: And that is really the identity crisis that we as a nation are experiencing. Not only do we have foreign enemies, the Islamofacists, but we also have internal enemies — gays, feminists and illegal aliens crossing our borders. Most of talk radio is dominated by people who share this “us vs. them” consciousness. DMH: Okay. So pick your worst enemy. TW: Wha!? I don’t have enemies! DMH: Drop down to that ethnocentric level — just as a perspective. Identify with that. TW: Okay. I can do this. Let’s take Republican lawmakers who want to disenfranchise gays and lesbians. DMH: Excellent. Just for fun, tell me in detail what you don’t like about these people. TW: I’ll take Senator Chris Buttars. He spreads vitriol and disinformation up on the Hill and he writes legislation to limit the rights of my people — my tribe. DMH: Good. So here’s what’s important. Troy is able to identify with his egocentric level — his Self — who he is as a person and an activist. He’s able to identify his ethnocentric awareness — the part of him which identifies with and stands up for his community. And he’s also able to identify with the worldcentric self that sees in fact, that he is not ultimately different. So the question I would ask you, just to practice, what are the three main things that you and Chris Buttars have in common? TW: (laughs) What do I have in common with Chris Buttars? That is a great question! DMH: Just three things that come to mind. TW: OK. Well, we’re both super passionate about what we believe in. We’re both activists. And we both get up and spew a lot of nonsense in public forums! DMH: (laughs) So when you say, I’m passionate like him, I’m an activist like him and I also spew a lot of nonsense, in that moment you are doing two things. You are standing for your position but you are also seeing in fact that you have a lot in common. So you’re not going to be able to quite demean or treat him destructively when you see the ways in which you are the same. This is a developmental trick. The challenge is how do you hold both? It’s very difficult. But that’s what you gotta do! To be continued… Learn more about Diane Muscho Hamilton at Bigmind.org. Integral Theory at integralnaked.com. Podcast the entire interview at queergnosis.com.

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n 2005, Dianna Goodliffe breathed a sigh of relief when the Salt Lake City Council approved an ordinance enabling city employees to put adult designees other than married spouses on their health insurance plans. As soon as the program became available in Feb. 2006, Goodliffe enrolled Lisa, her partner of eight years. Like many people in an age of rising insurance costs, she says she made the move with an eye on the future and the worst-case scenario for family, which includes a six-year-old daughter with type-1 diabetes. “Right now Lisa has full insurance coverage through her employer, so it’s not like we needed [the benefits] in that sense,” Goodliffe explains. “Right now our daughter’s diabetes is well-controlled. But in the event that her disease becomes uncontrollable, one of

us would have to go to school to administer her insulin. That doesn’t work if both people are working.” “For me it’s a relief to know that if at some point her disease takes a turn for the worst, Lisa could choose to stay home with my daughter or go parttime, and I could stay employed and maintain health insurance for all three of us.” If the city’s adult designee program allowed Goodliffe to sleep more easily, she says a bill by controversial Sen. Chris Buttars, R-West Jordan, which would prevent the city from creating a domestic partner registry, has been the cause of some restless nights. Buttars announced his intention to run SB 267 on Feb. 5, almost immediately after the City Council unanimously passed Mayor Ralph Becker’s ordinance to create a domestic partnership registry for Salt Lake City residents. Local Government Authority Amendments SB 267 would prevent city and municipal bodies

from “creating or establishing a registry or any other means to define, identify or recognize a domestic partnership, civil union or other domestic relationship other than marriage for any purpose.” Buttars said he wrote the bill because the registry contradicts a 2004 amendment to the state constitution that not only defines marriage as the union between a man and a woman, but prohibits the legal recognition of ‘marriage-like’ relationships, such as civil unions. Although Buttars has targeted SB 267 specifically at the registry and has assured employees in the adult designee program that their benefits are safe, Goodliffe has her doubts. So too does Salt Lake City attorney Ed Rutan. At the bill’s public hearing before the Senate Health and Human Services Committee on Feb. 11, Rutan testified that SB 267 was worded “ambiguously” enough to do away with the registry and the citywide program. Specifically, he pointed out a line in the bill stating that designee programs were legal as long as they did not “define or establish a separate and distinct category of citizens or domestic relationships other than marriage and recognized family associations involving blood relatives.” “That clause can be read to exclude certain employees from the program,” he said at the time. “We never challenged [that program] because it didn’t favor any group or class for special recognition,” Buttars responded. During the bill’s hearing he accepted an amendment exempting participants in the city’s adult designee program. The amendment stipulates that an action by a municipal body that “makes health care benefits generally available to all public employees and an approved additional named insured, including a financially dependent adult designee” is exempt, so long as it doesn’t establish a “separate and distinct category of citizens and domestic relationships” other than marriage and family associations involving blood ties. Despite the amendment, some participants in the program say they are still suspicious of Buttars’ intentions. “I want to know the time frame for that amendment. Did he rewrite this bill after all of those “emotional” outcries over the weekend,” asked Melanie Schertz, a city crime lab technician, referencing Buttars’ comment about the many “emotional” stories that local newspapers have published about his bill. Schertz is among the 78 percent of participants in the city’s adult designee program who has not applied her benefits towards a same-sex partner. She is also among the 10 percent of that number who have listed their elderly mother as their adult designee. Without this program, Schertz says her family would have lost everything when her father died leaving her mother Diana uninsured. Schertz estimates that costs for her mother’s generic prescriptions (to manage her Parkinson’s disease, firbomyalgia and high blood pressure) alone are $500 a month. Additionally, the insurance also allowed Diana to get much-needed dental work. “If it wasn’t for this insurance, we wouldn’t be able to have our home and our family life,” says Schertz, who also lives with her adult brother Kevin and her 17-year-old daughter Caitlin. Schertz rejected Buttars’ assurances that benefits for families like hers will not be effected, saying that the real issue here is the state targeting families that don’t fit so-called traditional models. “The mayor will do everything he can to see that we don’t lose our benefits, but I can see people like Buttars, in an attempt to hurt people who are gay — people he doesn’t approve of — hurting a lot of other people, and we’re in that group,” she said. “He’s attacking 78 percent to punish the 22 percent he doesn’t like? It’s ridiculous.” Andrea Curtis, another city employee who insures her mother through the adult designee plan, agreed. “I think he’d like to believe that [his bill won’t affect the program],” said Curtis, who describes herself and her elderly mother as “fairly conservative” people. “But from all the attorneys I’ve talked to and my reading of the bill, it still seems to be targeting people whose lifestyles he disagrees with.”

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To emphasize her point, Curtis brought up one relationship the bill appears to exclude even in its amended form: that of two friends living together in a non-romantic relationship. “I think he thinks that, perhaps, if I had spent 20 years living with a dear friend in a nonsexual relationship that [that relationship] would not deserve to have the same rights,� she said. “I disagree with that. I think there are all kinds of situations that make up families other than those who are legally married. And what if my mother were my mother-in-law. She wouldn’t be a blood relative. Does that mean I’m not allowed to care for her?� “The whole thing seems absurd to me,� continued Curtis. “I understand when people disagree with others’ lifestyles, but I’m very uncomfortable when people try to make it impossible for people to choose their own way.� To further complicate matters, Goodliffe said the amended bill actually verified city attorney Rutan’s prediction: if SB 267 passes, it will weaken the adult designee program because certain city employees, namely samesex couples, will be legally excluded. “I was even more concerned after they amended the language because then it felt much more targeted to the gay and lesbian community,� she said. As of Feb. 22, SB 267 has been sent back to the Senate Rules Committee. With only a few days left before the 2008 General Session closes on Mar. 5, the chances of it being brought to the Senate floor for debate are highly unlikely. However, the looming interim session and Buttars’ past history of carrying bills over from session to session have made the three families a little uneasy. “It’s a concern for a lot of reasons,� said Goodliffe. “One because I think

Sen. Buttars is acting outside of good conservative politics because he’s being big brother to Salt Lake City. Mayor Becker was very up front that he was going to [create a domestic partner registry] and the City of Salt Lake still elected him. It was their choice and for me it feels like Buttars feels like he has the right to be the moral police of the entire city.� Still, Schertz said that she didn’t expect the bill to pass easily, particularly in light of opposition Buttars has recently drawn over making what many perceive to be a deliberately racist comment on the Senate floor. “I don’t know if it will pass,� she said. “But I don’t think Sen. Scott McCoy will let it lay down.� An openly gay senator, McCoy grilled Buttars about SB 267 during its hearing and has vowed to oppose the bill at every turn. “There are others that agree with him. So I don’t think Buttars — especially with the bad press he’s getting — will be able to pass this easily,� she continued. In the meantime Schertz, like Curtis and Goodliffe, has made a point of contacting her Senators and Representatives about the bill and how it could hurt her family. She has also brought up the matter among friends and other city employees — some of whom she personally knows have used their insurance benefits to support same-sex partners and elderly family members. “It’s a humanitarian issue,� she said. And although Schertz is a single, straight mother, Schertz’s own mother Diana showed the similarity between their situation and that of Goodliffe’s with a single comment. When Schertz said that her mother and now-deceased father had acted as a second set of parents to their granddaughter Caitlin, Diana joked: “Caitlin has two moms!�  Q

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The Gay Agenda

MATCHBOX TWENTY See March 6

YOUR CALENDAR OF ARTS, ENTERTAINMENT & IMPORTANT EVENTS

The 80th Annual Academy Awards were just average this year: no extraordinary speeches, no surprises. The highlight of the evening was when the short documentary film Freeheld won an Oscar. The low was when Daniel Day-Lewis won Best Actor. I mean his nomination should have been immediately stripped when his wife walked onto the Red Carpet in that Dollar Tree gift bag of a dress. What was up with that showerhead between her bosom? Gag!

29FRIDAY Q One of my favorite productions is the American classic musical WEST SIDE STORY. Though everyone is singing and dancing, it’s dark and ocassionally disenchanting nuances forge a realistic humanism to social injustice in 1950s New York. The show’s continued success over the past 50 years illustrates its relevance to today. 7:30pm, through Mar. 8, Allred Theatre, Val A. Browning Center, 1901 University Cir, WSU, Ogden. Tickets $5-50–8.50, 1-800-WSU-TIKS.

Q The Bears are getting restless; all this snow is irking them to the point of holding their BEAR JAM & SLAVE AUCTION. Let’s hope the NAACP doesn’t catch wind of it ... unless of course Senator Buttars is auctioned off and “mauled” by the biggest, snarliest Bear in the alliance. Anyhoo, check out the warm cuddlies at Club Try-

Angles, and please keep the urinal dividers intact — tearing them from the wall is just tacky and will make my beer prices go up. Just say no!

9pm, Club Try-Angles, a private club for members, 251 W. 900 South. Free to members, 364-3203.

Q The Phoenix Gallery opens the CONTEMPORARY PLANES exhibition in conjunction with the Park City Gallery Stroll. Two artists are showcased: Ohio-based Michelle Muldrow, a ‘landscape’ painter and Kevin Box, a sculptor from Santa Fe, NM. Both artists will be on hand at tonight’s opening reception. Live jazz and hors d’ouvres provided.

6-9pm, Tonight, Phoenix Gallery, 508 Main Street, Park City. Free, 435-649-1006 or phoenixgalleryparkcity.com.

1SATURDAY Q Post Fabulous Fun Bus to Wendover is the highly anticipated GAYLYWED GAME ... OK, that may be a bit optimistic. Anyhoo, Michael Aaron hosts the fund raiser benefitting the RCGSE Cancer Fund, and my dear friend Steven is the charismatic announcer (that’s if he refrains from the Jell-O shots on the bus ... please, that’s way too optimistic). Come join in the fun and see if the couples last the night or split like a whore’s legs.

MIRACLE WORKER is the story of Keller who was blind, deaf and mute since infancy, and her challenge to emerge from her dark and silent prison with the aid of her tenacious, spitfire teacher Miss Anne Sullivan. This is an uplifting story of courage and survival.

7:30pm, through Mar. 22, Academy of Performing Arts, 3188 S. 400 East. Tickets $10–12, 486-2728.

3MONDAY Q I’ve always enjoyed the music of alternative rock band LIFEHOUSE, but seeing them live on stage during the 2002 Olympic Games turned me into a fanatic. Watching lead singer Jason Wade on stage is hypnotic and his voice makes me want to crawl down his throat and snuggle there forever. Now stay out of the gutter, that wasn’t a sexual innuendo ... completely.

9:30pm, The Trapp Door, a private club for members, 400 W. South Temple. Tickets $5 at the door, 533-0173.

8pm, The Depot, a private club for members, 400 W. South Temple. Tickets $18.50/ adv–$20/day of, 467-8499 or smithstix.com.

Q Derived from Helen Keller’s autobiography, William Gibson’s play THE

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the royal court of the golden spike empire PROUDLY PRESENTS

an evening of

joy and laughter

saturday march i5th trapp door* 8 pm cocktails / 9 pm showtime $6.00 donation to benefit the rcgse cancer fund *A private club for members

Q In the tradition of spectacular productions, Cirque Productions has once again reinvented the circus with European flair, imaginative theatrics and world-class acrobatics. CIRQUE DREAMS JUNGLE FANTASY is an all-new adventure that takes audiences soaring into a magical forest through the air and on stage. Graceful aerialists, spine bending contortionists, vine swinging characters, strong men and balancers bring this jungle dream to life filled with wild designs, special effects, inventive choreography and puppeteering.

7:30pm, through Wednesday, Kingsbury Hall, 1395 E. Presidents Circle, UofU. Tickets $35–49.50, 581-7100 or kingtix.com.

Q The ACLU of Utah screens the short documentary FREEDOM TO PARENT: LESBIAN AND GAY FAMILIES, a highly personal exploration of the rights of lesbian and gay individuals to parent. Equality Utah is sponsoring this film and discussion with Kenneth Choe, Senior Staff Attorney with ACLU’s National Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender & AIDS Project. 7pm, Salt Lake Main Library, 210 E. 400 South. Free, 355-3479 or equalityutah.org.

5WEDNESDAY Q Wilma and his hot, large staff once again host CYBER SLUT BINGO. Wilma’s the hostess with the mostess and the moistest ... well, you can figure it out. Anyhoo, this will be a fabulous night in which you may blackout in more ways than one all to benefit the RCGSE Cancer Fund.

7pm, Club Try-Angles, a private club for members, 251 W. 900 South. Bingo cards $5, 364-3203.

6THURSDAY Q This, without a doubt, will be one of the hottest concerts of the year: MATCHBOX TWENTY’s return to Utah is already generating high-octane anticipation. Rob Thomas is a true stage presence. OK, who’s infatuated to the point of being creepy? That would be me, and proud of it! 7pm, E Center, 3200 S. Decker Lake Dr. Tickets $38–55, 467-8499 or smithstix.com.

Q If you haven’t had enough of estrogen-rich babbling from Lucy Liu and that annoying, pompous redheaded bitch friend of hers on Cashmere Mafia, then you may want to check out TOP GIRLS. This show, which will have no trouble being smarter and wittier, contains a dreamlike sequence in which famous women in history attend a dinner party together and discuss their achievements, their losses and the events that made them “top girls.” 7:30pm, through Mar. 9, Studio 115, Performing Arts Bldg., 240 S. 1500 East, UofU. Tickets $5–9, 581-7100 or kingtix.com.

7FRIDAY Q Be prepared for a “breathtaking, passionate and poetic” evening as the Gina Baucher Piano Foundation presents DIMITRI RATSER. The Russian pianist will perform pieces by Schumann, Rosenblatt, Rachmaninoff and Liszt, as well as an original piece.

7:30pm, Jeanne Wagner Theatre, Rose Wagner Center, 138 W. Broadway. Tickets $15, 355-ARTS or arttix.org.

8SATURDAY Q Imagine what happens when ten strikingly handsome tenors from Aus-

tralia ... come to my bedroom. Oh, sorry, I digress. Imagine what happens when the Ten Tenors get together to wow audiences with their unparalleled fusion of artistry, musicianship and comedy. Actually see it for yourself, tonight!

7:30pm, Kingsbury Hall, 1395 E. Presidents Cir, UofU. $29.50–42.50, 581-7100 or kingtix.com.

10MONDAY

Q This month’s Gay Movie Night, presented by The Village, screens Brokeback Mountain. I shouldn’t have to give a synopsis since every gay man has likely seen the film, but in case you haven’t, I’ll at least give a tagline: Two gay cowboys and a lot of sheep. There’ll be chili and cornbread for everyone after the show! 7pm, Tower Theatre, 876 E. 900 South. Tickets 2-for-1 general admission, 321-0310.

12WEDNESDAY Q Can the love between two people ever be an abomination? Is the chasm separating gays and lesbians and Christianity too wide to cross? Is the Bible an excuse to hate? Through the experiences of five very normal, very Christian, very American

families, the documentary film For the Bible Tells Me So discovers how insightful people of faith handle the realization of having a gay child.

7pm, Vieve Gore Concert Hall, Westminster College, 1840 S. 1300 East. Free, slcfilmcenter.org.

13THURSDAY Q By age 31 Tania Katan was a two-time breast cancer survivor with the scars to prove it and a sense of humor forged by the unthinkable. Tonight she will read from her memoir My One Night Stand with Cancer, which tells the tale of living through two bouts of cancer, coping with her supportive but neurotic family, running in topless 10K races and pledging to never date a psychotic woman again. Presented by Planned Parenthood.

7pm, Salt Lake Main Library, 210 E. 400 South. Free, 532-1586.

UPCOMING EVENTS Mar. 15 — Rufus Wainwright, Park City Mar. 29 — Margaret Cho, Las Vegas Jul. 19 — The Police, USANA Amphitheatre Nov. 21 — Celine Dion, ES Arena

Oscar Win for Story of Dying Lesbian Cop’s Struggle Director Cynthia Wade and producer Vanessa Roth were among the winners of the 80th Annual Academy Awards on Sunday, taking home a statue for “Best Documentary Short Subject” for the film Freeheld. This was the first Oscar nomination for Wade and Roth. Freeheld documents the struggle of New Jersey Detective Lieutenant Laurel Hester in

SAVETHEDATE Mar. 24 Precinct Caucuses (mass meetings)

April 12 Stonewall Caucus, Salt Lake County Democratic Conv. utahstonewalldemocrats. org

JUNE 6–8 Utah Pride Festival utahpride.org

AUG. 7–10 PWACU River Trip pwacu.org

Mar. 28-30 Utah Bear and Cub Contest, utahbears. com

JUNE 14 HRC Utah Dinner hrcutah.org

AUG 24 Center Golf Classic utahpridecenter.org

April 26 Queer Prom “The Origin of Love” utahpridecenter.org

OCT 10–12 SLC GayBowl VIII mwffl.org

APRIL 2-6 Dinah Shore Week, Palm Springs, dinahshoreweekend.com

May 26-28 RCGSE Coronation, rcgse.org

JUNE 21 Salt Lake Men’s Choir “Hooray For Hollywood” 25th Anniv. Concert ­ saltlakemenschoir.org Aug. 1–3 The Village Summit utahaids.org

OCT 11 Coming Out Day Breakfast utahpridecenter.org

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her effort to transfer her pension to her domestic partner, Stacie Andree. With less than six months to live as cancer spreads to her brain, Laurel battles the Ocean County Freeholders, her elected officials, to give Stacie what heterosexual married couples receive automatically. Hester served her community as a police officer for 25 years. A dying wish of Hester was that the documentary film made of her last days as she battled against cancer — and the ‘freeholders’ of Ocean County in New Jersey — would be able to compete for an Oscar. Not only has that wish been fulfilled, but the film scored the win in a category full of brilliant films.

Alternating from packed public demonstrations to quiet, tender moments of Hester and Andree at home, the 38-minute film tells both the public story of their fight and their intimate story of facing the reality of losing each other. At the time, New Jersey law allowed, but did not require, local authorities to extend “domestic partner benefits” to lesbian and gay couples. But nine months after the death of Lt. Hester the New Jersey Supreme Court ruled that same-sex couples must be granted the same rights as married heterosexual couples. “I hope this film will inspire someone,” Lt. Hester explained in December 2005, six weeks before she passed away. “I hope it gives them courage if they’re dealing with discrimination, as I have ... I hope if they have a terminal disease they somehow get hope from listening to my story.” “We are thrilled that this powerful film, one that has the potential to change hearts and minds concerning fairness for gay couples, has been honored tonight with a welldeserved Academy Award,” says GLAAD President Neil G. Giuliano. “We congratulate Cynthia Wade on her achievement and say ‘bravo’ to the Academy for their selection.” In an interview with GLAAD’s Director of Entertainment Media Damon Romine, Cynthia Wade, a straight ally, spoke to how the film documents a non-traditional community of support for Laurel. “[I]n the film, the most, sort of staunchest allies that really stood by Laurel’s side were these straight, kind of dominating, macho cops that normally would not be considered gay allies,” said Wade. “But because they saw one of their favorite police partners face discrimination, they realized it was wrong and said, ‘No, we’re going to stand up as a community and say this is wrong. It’s about equality.’ So one of the greatest things about this film is that we’ve really been able to bring in hybrid audiences from across the country so that everybody can talk about equal rights because it’s everybody’s responsibility.” Freeheld has won numerous previous awards, including a Short Filmmaking Special Jury Prize at the 2007 Sundance Film Festival.

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Q Buzz Lindsay Lohan, Sheryl Crow BY ROSS VON METZKE BUZZ@QSALTLAKE.COM

There was so much good gossip to write on this week — which you will plainly see as you read on — that I wondered if we’d even have room for a hottie of the week. But when I stumbled upon these photos of up-and-coming model MICHAEL CHURCHILL, I vowed to make room. Sometimes, a guy is so drop dead gorgeous, there really aren’t words to accurately describe him. Michael Churchill brings the best of several worlds. A youthful face,

a chest lightly coated in hair, a muscular frame. It’s as if he said, ‘I want to appeal to every facet of the gay community,’ and someone answered. Though his print work has largely consisted of underwear campaigns, the gay Web sites immediately latched on to Michael and pushed his face out into cyberspace. Not quite sure what the reaction on Michael’s end has been, but I feel safe in saying on behalf of all the readers of this column, thank you. Yep, that about sums it up. Everyone in Hollywood is talking about LINDSAY LOHAN’s MARILYN-inspired photo spread in New York Magazine. Sure, the original photographer approached her to do it. Yes, it’s artistic and a defiant way to say, “fuck y’all ... I’m grown.” Comparisons to Marilyn not-withstanding (America’s favorite blonde had a string of hits under her belt by the time this spread was taken while, besides Freaky Friday and Mean Girls, Lohan has a Razzie and numerous photospreads in The Globe to her credit), I have to wonder: Having seen Lindsay’s vag a half dozen times while the pantyless pop tart partied her way through Hollywood, do I really need to see her chi-chis? For a far more demure photo-shoot from one of Hollywood’s sure to be up-and-comers, check out the cinematic inspired spread FRANCES BEAN posed for in this month’s Harper Bazaar. The celebuspawn of the late KURT

COBAIN and rocker COURTNEY LOVE, Bean has been hesitant to step out into the spotlight ... until now. I can understand that. When your mom takes MTV cameras on a crackedout walking tour of New York’s back alleys at some time after midnight — this after your father famously committed suicide at the height of his fame — I’d question whether I belonged in front of the cameras too. I’ve gotta say though she looks pretty damn good doing Evita, don’t you think? Check out the Beauty and the Beast and Grease pics here! While Frances is posing for photos in a legit publication, GENE SIMMONS has a camera pointed square at his bad side — a side of him that seems to be screwing a woman other than his long time partner, former Playmate and late night Cinemax staple SHANNON TWEED. Much as I’m loathe to look at Lindsay’s bits, I’m even less interested in seeing what Gene has to offer. Especially when you consider that, given what we’ve seen of the tape thus far, he seems to have a thing for rear entry. Guys tend to do that to girls when they’re either a) gay b) to ashamed to look ’em in the face or c) pissed because their wives won’t let ’em get away with it. Shannon and Gene may not be married, but they have been playing house for more than 20 years and created two kids in the process. Wonder what this tape is gonna do to their home life? SHERYL CROW joins the long list of celebrities who say stupid things this week. On the offense against NATALIE COLE, who last week chided the Grammys for giving AMY WINEHOUSE five trophies and effectively rewarding her drug use, Crow offers nothing but praise for the troubled soul singer.

In fact, Crow seems to think Winehouse is the key to her next smash hit. “I want to collaborate with Amy [Winehouse] because she’s really hot and cool right now,” sources claim Crow said at a London concert stop. “I know one song ‘Rehab’ was very popular particularly because a lot of young people are in rehab as well. In fact I’m thinking about going. It looks like loads of fun and I know my career will benefit from it.” OK, we get it — she’s kidding, right? Seriously, that sounds like a soundbyte from an episode of Newlyweds — or rather it would if JESSICA SIMPSON could pronounce the word “collaborate”, the word “particularly” or had enough hits under her belt to even warrant a concert stop in London. Hmmm ... maybe Sheryl really did say it? Might I suggest an Alanisstyle spoof of the “Rehab” video — can’t you just see it now. Sheryl dropping to 93 pounds, smoking crack on the streets of London while tipping over in the breeze every few phrases because her beehive gets too heavy?

Awww ... I like that. I’d like it more if they broke up because Pink likes ladies, but I’ll take what I can get. All that and, who knew Pink can actually string a few words together. The misplaced commas and slight run-on sentences indicate to me that this one wasn’t written by a publicist. Unless it was Britney’s publicist which, at this point, could well be anyone. Until next time, take the time to stop and smell the gossip! Q

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