QSaltLake Magazine - October 09, 2008

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In This Issue

michael aaron assistant editor

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ISSUE 113 • OCTOBER 9, 2008

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World. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 6 Quips & Quotes. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 6 Local. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 8 Qmmunity. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 8 Sports. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 12 10 Years after Matthew Shepard . . . . . . 23

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From the Editor Sheparding in Change

by Michael Aaron

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(I’m writing this on Tuesday, Oct. 7, of course, since this is the absolute last moment possible to do so), I was sitting in my San Francisco Jackson Square office trying to get some project or another done so I could head out the door and catch the BART home. I had a gaggle of Yahoo news alerts set on my computer and one, “Gay Wyoming,” suddenly braaannnged.

“GAY STUDENT IN WYOMING ­ATTACKED, LEFT TO DIE.” A chill started at the base of my spine and traveled up to my scalp, just as it is doing as I type this ten years later. Involuntarily, my eyelids started to brim, just as they are doing as I type this ten years later.

I spent the next several hours at the keyboard searching for more information.

It was sparse, seemingly coming from the same AP article. I searched the San Francisco Anti-Violence Project Web site for more information. Nothing. I called their number in hopes that a recording might have more info. No. I called some friends in Salt Lake to see if they had heard and, yes, the word had spread like wildfire.

Days went by and I felt powerless. I seriously considered driving out there, but en years ago this date

decided that there wouldn’t be anything for me to do. The lack of response in San Francisco was frustrating, maddening.

It was days before any kind of response came out of San Francisco, and it took the form of a candlelight vigil on the wall of the Bank of America building on Castro Street. Nothing organized, just a bunch of candles, bears, flowers and notes and people taking vigil outside. San Franciscans love their candlelight vigils.

It made me realize how out-of-touch with the rest of the country San Francisco was. That no organization saw fit to release a statement or organize an event that could help people channel their anger/sadness/sense of helplessness underscored a problem I had living in the city. The leaders and the city residents look only in the city limits, never outward. And they are so busy fighting among themselves over totally frivolous things like allowing Budweiser to sponsor the parade or adding a 23rd letter to the LGBTQRSP alphabet soup that they lose sight of what is important to those outside Camelot.

I wanted to go back home to Salt Lake.

I missed the true fight — the fight for things that matter. The fight of middle gay America.

I felt I had sold out my values in the name of big bucks.

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I talked to my then-partner. We still had the house in Salt Lake. There was a new center with a coffee shop a few blocks from the house. I needed to get involved in something again for my sense of self worth.

He loved the idea and started job hunting.

My boss called and I was trying to figure out how to tell him I wanted to be transferred back to Salt Lake. He was pussyfooting around trying to ask me to come back to Salt Lake. I let him offer me a big raise to come back. Hey ... who says you can’t do good things AND make big bucks?

Many people have similar stories — that the Matthew Shepard murder changed their life in some large way. His name has come up several times in conversation about why people are involved in their projects.

There are worse legacies to have.

I’m sure that Russell Henderson nor Aaron McKinney knew that when they pistol whipped Shepard to death that they would cause such a huge change in the American fabric. I doubt that, as they sit in their cells today, they understand what change they have made.

I’m sure Matthew himself never dreamed that he would make such a difference in the world.

As we sit here ten years later, we in Salt Lake are reading about the fourth gay man who has been assaulted while the attackers blurt anti-gay epithets at them. These apparent hate crimes are not nearly as egregious as Matthew’s, but do we wait for another murder before we work towards a hate-free world? Q

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BY REX WOCKNER

“Utah has queer legislators.

Can you believe it?”

Schwarzenegger Vetoes ‘Harvey Milk Day’ Bill

California Gov. Arnold Schwarzenegger vetoed a bill Sept. 30 that would have created a day honoring the late legendary gay activist and San Francisco Supervisor Harvey Milk.

“I respect the author’s intent to designate May 22nd as ‘Harvey Milk Day’ and a day of special significance for California public schools and educational institutions to honor Harvey Milk as an important community leader and public official in the city and county of San Francisco,” Schwarzenegger said in his veto message.

“However, I believe his contributions should continue to be recognized at the local level by those who were most impacted by his contributions.”

The executive director of Equality California, Geoff Kors, called the veto “a disappointment to thousands and thousands of Californians who regard Harvey Milk as a national hero.”

“This is a sad reminder of the lack of understanding of both the LGBT community and of the impact of Harvey Milk,” Kors said.

“As one of the first openly gay leaders in this country, Milk inspired Americans in every corner of our nation to stand proud in the face of adversity, and he gave his life in the pursuit of equality. This fall, his story will be celebrated in movie theaters nationwide as a tribute to a legacy that extends far beyond California.”

Milk settled in the Castro district in 1972 and opened a camera store.

He went on to pioneer a populist gay rights movement in the city and, in 1977, was elected to the Board of Supervisors, becoming the third openly gay candidate elected in U.S. history.

He and Mayor George Moscone were shot to death inside City Hall on Nov. 27, 1978, by then recently resigned city Supervisor Dan White, who was angry that Moscone wouldn’t let him un-resign and that Milk had lobbied Moscone not to reappoint White. White’s lenient sentence for the killings (seven years and eight months with parole) led to the famed White Night Riots in San Francisco on May 21, 1979.

Google Opposes Prop 8 Google has officially come out in opposition to Proposition 8, the Nov. 4 ballot measure that would undo the California Supreme Court’s legalization of same-sex marriage by amending the state constitution.

“It is the chilling and discriminatory effect of the proposition on many of our employees that brings Google to publicly oppose Proposition 8,” said co-founder Sergey Brin.

“While we respect the strongly-held beliefs that people have on both sides of this argument, we see this fundamentally as an issue of equality. We hope that California voters will vote no on Proposition 8 -- we should not eliminate anyone’s fundamental rights, whatever their sexuality, to marry the person they love.”

Brin said Google does “not generally take a position on issues outside of our field,” but that this was a special case because of Prop 8’s direct effect on so many Google employees.

Quips & Quotes —Openly-lesbian state Rep. Christine Johnson, D-Salt Lake City, to attendees at Southern Utah Pride.

“When you get that kind of work into your blood, it seems that’s who you are no matter where you are.”

—Attorney Laura Milliken Gray told the Salt Lake Tribune about her departure from Utah to live with her wife in England, and her plans to continue her work for gay rights there.

Pop singer Clay Aiken came out in People magazine Sept. 26. “It was the first decision I made as a father,” Aiken, 29, told the magazine. “I cannot raise a child to lie or to hide things. I wasn’t raised that way, and I’m not going to raise a child to do that.” Aiken’s son, Parker, was born Aug. 8, conceived via in vitro fertilization with his best friend, Jaymes Foster.

California Protects Gay Seniors Gov. Arnold Schwarzenegger signed a bill Sept. 28 to help prevent anti-gay bias in senior-care facilities and nursing homes.

The law, which takes effect Jan. 1, requires licensed health care professionals who have constant interaction with seniors to attend a training program on preventing discrimination based on sexual orientation and gender identity.

“Some members of the (GLBT) community living in nursing homes have been denied their most basic rights, including the simple choice to spend time with a loved one, because of their sexual orientation or gender identity,” said Equality California Executive Director Geoff Kors. “We appreciate the support of Gov. Schwarzenegger and the Legislature for approving this measure, which will proactively create a culture of respect and understanding for all seniors living in care facilities.”

EQCA said basic rights such as the choice to live in the same nursing home with a partner and the right to hospital visitation are routinely denied to older same-sex couples.

Lambda Legal Sues Tenn. City Lambda Legal filed a federal lawsuit against Johnson City, Tenn., Sept.

30 on behalf of Kenneth Giles, whose photo was released to the media after he was arrested in a sting operation targeting men who have sex with each other in public environments.

Photos of 39 other men arrested in the crackdown also were released.

“In America, the police do not get to add an extra punishment to people they don’t like,” said Lambda’s Greg Nevins. “They also do not get to ignore the principle of innocent until proven guilty. The JCPD went out of its way to humiliate Mr. Giles and caused irreparable damage.”

On Oct. 1, 2007, the police department issued a press release, personally approved by the police chief, that included photos of the men at the scene of their arrests. Local news gave the story and photos big play, and revealed the men’s addresses.

Lambda later reviewed more than a year’s worth of the police department’s press releases and found that out of some 600 releases, none concerning arrests was accom-

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panied by photos -- nor personally approved by the chief.

One of the 40 men later committed suicide and several were fired, including Giles, who was a nurse at a Veterans Affairs hospital.

Lambda Legal claims the police department violated federal equal-protection law in singling the men out for harsher treatment by making their images available to the media.

U.S. HIV Ban Still Not Dead Two months after Congress and President George W. Bush repealed a law banning HIVpositive visitors and immigrants, the Department of Homeland Security announced Sept.

30 that it has “streamlined” the process for issuing waivers to HIV-positive foreigners who wish to visit for fewer than 30 days.

“The timing of these regulations is deeply troubling,” said Victoria Neilson, legal director of Immigration Equality. “Congress issued a bipartisan message to this administration: Remove HIV as a barrier to travel and immigration. Instead of simply ending the HIV travel ban, the administration is again treating HIV differently from any other medical condition.”

The July repeal of the statutory ban was included in a bill that re-funded the President’s Emergency Plan for AIDS Relief, which Bush was keen to get done. But regulatory changes at the Department of Health and Human Services also are needed to remove HIV from a list of “communicable diseases of public health significance” for visa purposes — a list that exists under a different law than the one that was repealed.

Meanwhile, under Homeland Security’s streamlined waiver process, a short-term HIV-positive traveler still will have to meet several stringent criteria, as well as give up the right to apply for a green card from within the U.S., even if he or she marries a U.S. citizen.

“Rather than continuing forward with this unnecessary and potentially harmful visawaiver process rule, the president should actively work to ensure that his administration eliminates HIV from this disease list before he leaves office in January,” said U.S. Rep. Barbara Lee, who led the effort in the House of Representatives that repealed the statutory ban.

“She believed in what she was doing, and when you have a passion for something, you probably get a little [pushy].

But people say that about me.

I never had a negative experience with her.”

—Eagle Forum President Gayle Ruzicka telling the Salt Lake Tribune about her experiences with Gray.

“I realized that I wasn’t equipped with the knowledge to help beyond offering scriptures — which are helpful, yet not always practical.

I am a spiritual leader, not a medical or psychological professional, and I wanted to be able to reference that support to my ward.”

—Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints bishop Steve Satchwell telling the Deseret News that he attended Evergreen International’s annual conference in September after a member of his ward came out to him.

“The level of tolerance for various aspects of homosexual conduct being okay has become more widespread.

We’re in an era now where the homosexual movement has defined their issues as civil rights issues, and they’re getting a lot more attention.”

—Prof. Stephen Duncan, a faculty member of BYU’s School of Family Life, telling BYU NewsNet why he thinks the number of same-sex Utah couples has risen drastically in the past seven years.

“Every day of the year, every hour of the day, you still have to come out. By knowing us, people will know that this supposedly ‘gay agenda’ means going to work every day, paying your taxes and washing the dogs. Just living our lives like any other couple wants to live theirs.”

—Lisa Altman quoted in Salt Lake City Weekly’s cover story on gay and lesbian marriage.

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Q Utah A Week of Pride at the Univ. of Utah

Although Gay Pride Festivals around the world usually pack up their rainbow floats, streamers and disco balls by Labor Day, one place in Utah will keep the fun going well into fall.

From Oct. 20–24 the University of Utah will hold its annual Pride Week. Under this year’s theme of “Activate. Transform.

Evolve.,” the five days of talks, presentations, dances and sometimes downright quirky fun are aimed at educating students, faculty, staff and the general public about the importance of gay and transgender rights.

Veterans of Pride Week will recognize several events that have quickly become campus traditions: a safer sex education by the Utah AIDS Foundation; an interfaith service; the drag dash (a footrace performed in sequined gowns and tiaras); and the ever-popular hot dog eating contest, this year given the saucy subtitle “size does matter.” In addition, the university’s LGBT Resource Center will hold an open house to acquaint students and employees with its services, and the Marriot Library will host the provocative-sounding “Secret Lives of Queers Peep Show.”

“There’s this idea of, well what do they [gay and transgender people] do,”

University of Utah Pride Week Schedule Monday 20th 9:00am–12:00pm Open Safe Zone Training Union Parlor B 1:00-2:00pm Drag Dash Union Walk. Everyone is welcome to participate. There will be prizes given to the top dashers.

1:00–3:30pm Free HIV Testing by SHAC Union Parlor A, B &C 4:00–6:00pm LGBT Resource Center Open House Union 409. Everyone is welcome 6:30–10:00pm Pride Dance Union Crimson View Room Everyone welcome to attend

Tuesday 21st Support Lgbt Rights — Wear Jeans!

9:00-11:00am Secret lives of Queers Peep Show Marriott Library East Entrance on the Plaza

explained Cathy Martinez, Director of the LGBT Resource Center, which hosts the event each year. “It’s just going to be doing whatever we do on a daily basis: It’s reading a book, sitting down, relaxing, interacting.”

The peep show, which will cost viewers a nickel in the tradition of its sleazier cousins, was scheduled to debut last year.

But a heavy October thunderstorm, said Martinez, drove it from the Union Plaza.

This time the event will be held indoors.

The popular Allies Panel will also return. A mainstay of the University’s Allies Week, held this April, the panel teaches straight employees and students how to be supportive of gay and transgender classmates and colleagues.

Martinez described the three-hour training session as a crash course in gay issues.

“We go over terminology, history, what it’s like to be an ally, the importance of being an ally and how to be an ally,” she said.

Queer students of color at the university will also offer a presentation called “Balancing Multiple Identities: Student of Color,” which will explore the complex ways in which multiple minority identities often intersect. According to Martinez, the panel is similar in some ways to “Minority Voices in Communication,” an Allies Week discussion on how issues like race, sexuality and ethnicity overlap and conflict when it comes to language, and the understanding of the word “queer” in particular. However, she added that this particular panel would focus less on language and more on how participants deal with challenges that come with having multiple identities. “[Issues like] how do you relate to the world around you, as well as yourself, being LGBT and a person of color,” she explained. “How does the world look the same and different?”

Pride Week will also feature a host of new panels and speakers. University of

11:30am–12:30pm Hot Dog Eating Contest: Size Matters Union Kiosk 2:00–3:00pm Lisa Diamond Presentation and book signing Union Den 5:00–6:30 UAF Safe Sex Education Parlor A 7:00–9:00pm Interfaith Services Chapel next to the Guest House in Ft. Douglas

Wednesday 22nd 9:00–11:00am Secret lives of Queers Peep Show Marriott Library - East Entrance on the Plaza: 11:00-12:30pm Pride Pet Show Union Patio Walk 1:00-2:30pm Ally Panel Union Den 3:00-5:30pm Class presentation with Ericka Huggins (instructor Lisa Diamond) LNOC rm.

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6:30–8:30pm Take the Gay Train (Trax) to the Gayway(Gateway) Meet at South Campus and Stadium Trax stops

Thursday 23rd 12:00–1:00pm Keynote Address: Ericka Huggins Utah Museum of Fine Arts 3:00–4:00pm Balancing Multiple Identities: Student of Color CESA Lounge 6:00–9:00pm Red w/out Blue film screening and panel Union Theater

Friday 24th 11:30–1:30pm Public Interest Advocacy (PIA) Bennion Center Union 1st floor tabling area 4:00-5:00pm Orange Band Coffee Hour Union 1st floor by the coffee shop 6:00-9:00pm Gay-la and Silent Auction Jewish Community Center

Q mmunity Bikes and Barriers Salt Lake City Mayor Ralph Becker and a number of transportation specialists will discuss the benefits and hurdles to cyclists along the Wasatch Front in “Benefits and Barriers to Bicycle Commuting in the Salt Lake Valley” as part of the University of Utah’s Sustainability Conversation Series.

When: Oct. 9, 7:00 p.m.

Where: Salt Lake Main Library 4th Floor Conf. Rm, 210 E. 400 South Info: sustainability.utah.edu

Obama in Colorado

Keynote Speaker Ericka Huggins

Utah psychologist Lisa Diamond will speak about her book Sexual Fluidity, which discusses her decade-long study of female bisexuality. In interviews with her subjects (who identified as lesbian, bisexual and unlabeled, but not straight), Diamond found that few women who began the study identifying as bisexual later switched to lesbian or heterosexual, and reported that they were consistently attracted equally to men and women even after marriage. Diamond’s work made national headlines in January when the American Psychological Association cited it in their decision to list female bisexuality as a distinctive orientation, as opposed to a phase in coming out as lesbian.

One of Diamond’s classes will also feature a presentation by Ericka Huggins, an educator, poet and former Black Panther Party leader. In 1969 Huggins was arrested on suspicion of ordering the murder of her husband John Huggins. Charges against her were eventually dropped and members of a rival party convicted for the assassination, but not after Huggins spent two years incarcerated awaiting trial.

According to her Web site erickahuggins.com, Huggins — now a professor of Women’s Studies at California State University, East Bay — developed citywide programs to help San Francisco’s gay, lesbian, bisexual, queer and questioning youth living with HIV/AIDS as part of her work with the Shanti Project, a support organization for people with cancer, HIV/ AIDS and other life-threatening illnesses.

She writes that she is devoted to the “equality of all—beyond the boundaries of age, culture, class, gender, sexual orientation or ability.”

“She’s going to talk a out the importance of community, coalition building and coming together to build community,” said Martinez.

Pride Week at the University of Utah will end Oct. 24 with a Gala and silent auction at the Jewish Community Center which will feature a performance by lesbian drag group The Salt Lake City Kings and an address by Salt Lake City Mayor Ralph Becker.

For a full schedule of events visit sa.utah.edu/lgbt/ events/.

Each weekend, gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender Barack Obama supporters are invited to carpool to Colorado to canvass.

Obama’s campaign will provide gasoline and volunteers may stay with fellow supporters in the state if needed. Volunteers depart Friday and typically return on Sunday.

Info: my.barackobama.com/ pages/utdrive4change

People with AIDS Conference The People With AIDS Coalition of Utah will host its annual one-day Living with AIDS conference for people with HIV/AIDS, their family, friends, caregivers and AIDS service providers. Topics covered typically include emotional and physical health and advancements in treatment options. Breakfast and lunch will be provided.

When: Oct. 18, 9:00 a.m.–5:00 p.m.

Where: Salt Lake Community College Miller Campus, Rm 209, 9750 S 300 West Cost: $25. Scholarships are available for people with HIV/AIDS. RSVP: Oct. 10 by calling (801) 484-2205

PWACU Poinsettias The People with AIDS Coalition of Utah has opened preorders for their red poinsettia plants, which they sell during the winter holidays to benefit Utahns with HIV/AIDS. The poinsettias stand approximately 15-19 inches and come in six inch pots. They are locally grown and come with care instructions. They cost $10 per plant or $75 for a batch of eight plants. Plants must be ordered

by Nov. 20 and can be delivered on Nov. 25 and 28 or Dec. 2, 5, 9 or 12. Deliveries in Salt Lake County require no minimum order.

Deliveries to Davis, Summit, Tooele, Utah and Weber Counties require a minimum order of eight plants and can only be delivered on the following dates: Nov. 25 and Dec. 5 for Davis and Weber Counties; Nov. 28 and Dec. 9 for Summit County; and Dec. 2 and 12 for Tooele and Utah Counties.

Dates are subject to change.

Orders: Call (801) 484-2205 or visit pwacu.org.

SLC Gay Man Attacked Outside Apartment Salt Lake City police arrested a man for allegedly punching and kicking a gay man in front of an apartment building on 300 W and 200 S on Sept. 27.

The victim said he was sunning on the porch of his friend’s apartment, smoking and talking to passers-by when an upstairs neighbor walked out onto the deck and started yelling at him, shouting slurs like “faggot.” The victim said he responded by saying, “fuck you.”

“He came outside and started kicking me and hitting me on my sides, like my ribs and my head. That’s when I curled up into a ball,” the victim, who asked QSaltLake not to use his real name out of concern that he would face retaliation, said. When his alleged assailant went back inside, Smith said he went into his friend’s apartment and called the police.

“I didn’t want to call the cops because I was hesitant about it,” he said. His friend convinced him to make the call. “She said, ‘You have to do this.’”

When police arrived on the scene, they arrested apartment resident James Burson, 35, for simple assault — a physical attack that did not involve a weapon.

“We’re trying to figure out the back and forth of how this ended up as an assault,” said Lara Jones, Salt Lake City Police Department spokeswoman. “We have two stories from the victim and Burson, and whether or not it remains a hate crime remains to be seen.”

According to Jones, Burson told police that Smith’s smoking upset him.

“It looks like there was smoking involved that was bothering the arrested person,” said Jones. “What lead him to then beat the victim we’re still investigating.”

“Obviously our officers believe there was enough probable cause to arrest Burson on simple assault,” she added.

Smith said that his alleged attacker never said anything about smoking.

“I don’t know why he started hitting me. That’s the first I’ve heard that it was because I was smoking outside,” he said.

“Maybe it wasn’t gay oriented, but that was the first word that came out of his mouth.”

Smith said that his ear was ripped and his face bruised and swollen during the attack. Although he still has “a whole bunch of bruises,” he said he sustained no permanent damage.

The attack, however, has troubled him.

He said a gay friend who lives in the complex no longer feels safe there, and that he often thinks about what could have happened.

“It was lucky ... that it wasn’t someone smaller than me, where they could’ve gotten really hurt,” he said. “Yes, I’m OK in the sense that I am physically OK, but emotionally it hurts. I wasn’t doing anything, just talking to people walking by, and this guy just came out. Whether it was smoking or not, that’s no reason to start hitting someone. It’s just scary to think what could happen to other people.”

Smith said that he plans to file charges.

As of Oct. 2, Burson’s name did not appear in the Salt Lake County Metro Jail’s roster.

Utah Sees Surge in Same-Sex, Unmarried Couples

James Burson, arrested in the assault against a Salt Lake City gay man

Newly-released census data indicates that Utah’s numbers of openly gay and lesbian couples — and unmarried straight couples — is on the rise.

According to the report, released in late September, the Beehive State has gone from 1,798 lesbian couples living together to 2,217 and 1,919 gay couples to 2,332 — increases of 23 and 21.5 percent, respectively.

The number of unmarried straight partners has also risen significantly, from 23,182 to 33,061 in the past seven years, a 42 percent increase.

University of Utah demographer Pam Perlich attributed the increase in unmarried couples (both straight and gay) to Utah’s increasing diversity and to a greater willingness on the part of such

couples to identify themselves.

“Part of that is a more diverse population, but part is also self-identification. It’s how they see themselves,” she said.

Despite these increases, Utah still leads the nation in number of households headed by married couples and average household size. It also has the youngest median marriage age: 22.8 for women and 25.2 for men. In 2000, the average age for men was 23.9 and 21.9 for women.

Thomas Coleman, executive director of the Unmarried America singles-advocacy network said that nationally, “The trend is more unmarried, and Utah just stands out and says, ‘Not us.’” Twenty-three states now have majorities of households headed by unmarried people, compared with 38 percent in Utah, he said.

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Q Utah National Coming Out Day Brunch to Honor Educators To honor National Coming Out Day the Utah Pride Center will hold a special brunch to honor the men and women who so often have a positive impact on gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender youth and young adults: educators.

“In years past Oct. 11 [National Coming Out Day] has fallen on a weekday, so we’ve done a breakfast in the morning before work, which has never allowed for educators to be in attendance usually,” said Marina Gomberg, Director of Development and Marketing at the Utah Pride Center. “So when we realized it was on a Saturday, we wanted to take time to celebrate our educators and the impact they have on youth.”

Indeed, the brunch will feature two Utahns who have worked hard to make the state’s schools safer and more inclusive places for gay and transgender students: Planned Parenthood’s Val Murdock and Barry Gomberg (Marina Gomberg’s father), who helped to develop Weber State University’s Matthew Shepard Scholarship for gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender students and their allies.

Murdock, an education consultant with Planned Parenthood, currently adminis-

ters the organization’s Safe at School Program. Developed by Clayton Vetter in 2004 and implemented in 2006, this program teaches educators how to address anti-gay harassment and bullying in the classroom.

As Utah law prohibits public school teachers from “advocating homosexuality,” Murdock said educators are often confused about what they can legally do to keep gay and transgender students safe.

“A lot of times educators assume they can’t do anything,” said Murdock. “I want people to understand that an educator has a lot of room to do something about harassment and bullying. [They] can do many things to create inviting and safe classrooms in schools and an affirming environment for all students, including LGBT students.”

In her talk at the brunch — which she describes as a “commercial about Safe at Schools” — Murdock said she will point out that Utah law prohibits educators from excluding students from participation in any programs based on a number of factors including: race, religion, sex and sexual orientation. This means that they are “obligated to stop student harassment” when it is based on a student’s actual or perceived sexuality.

“To go beyond that [teachers can also] incorporate LGBT people from history, from art and science into their curriculum,” Murdock added. “That’s more acknowledging that gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people are part of our community and contribute in invaluable ways.”

To date, Murdock said she has taken the program’s training to the University of Utah, Utah State University, Utah Valley University, Weber State University, conferences for middle and elementary school teachers, and various public and charter

high schools.

“It’s quite an amazing process to see how many institutions of education are understanding the need for [this kind of] education,” she said.

For the Utah Pride Center, Weber State University Director of Affirmative Action and Equal Opportunity Barry Gomberg’s contribution to Utah’s gay and transgender students’ safety and wellbeing is his work in creating the school’s Matthew Shepard Scholarship. Named for the University of Wyoming student whose brutal murder 10 years ago this month shocked the nation and prompted calls for tougher hate crimes legislation, the scholarship was created in 2000. At the time, detractors — specifically from neoconservative group Utah Eagle Forum — criticized the privately funded scholarship for promoting illegal activity: namely gay sex, which was illegal in Utah until 2003.

Gomberg, who did some of the legal work for the scholarship, largely credited thenWSU President Paul Thompson with the scholarship’s creation, as well as a number of WSU employees who were “outraged by the murder” and “galvanized ... into action.”

“Eventually, to the university’s and the administration’s credit, they were willing to embrace the scholarship and say we don’t care [about the criticism against it],” said Gomberg. “There are some issues that are so important that they demand action, and you can’t always be looking over your shoulder to see how others are going to react even if it’s going to make your life more difficult.”

Additionally, Gomberg’s office, over which he has presided since 1988, has been involved in the university’s gay-straight alliance and responds to “incidents of homophobia on campus.”

In addition to these two speakers, the Utah Pride Center will also present three annual awards during the brunch: volunteer of the year, organization of the year and lifetime achievement. The Utah Pride Center’s board of directors chooses the recipients of the first two awards.

John Johnson will receive the volunteer of the year award for his contributions to the 2008 Utah Pride Festival, at which he served as logistics director.

“He donated hundreds, if not thousands, of volunteer hours to making this the most successful pride in Utah history,” said Gomberg.

The Utah Cyber Sluts, a camp drag group, will receive the award for organization of the year for their tireless efforts in raising money for local charities, including the Utah AIDS Foundation, domestic violence shelter South Valley Sanctuary, Amigos of Honduras and Utah’s annual MS Walk.

The winner of the lifetime achievement award is chosen from a group of previous winners. As the award is only two years old, however, the “group” currently consists only of last year’s winner — Utah Stonewall Democrats leader Nikki Boyer.

Boyer chose The Trapp’s owner, former political hopeful, early gay pride organizer and occasional K-TALK radio host Joe Redburn to be this year’s recipient.

“In the future as this group grows they will decide future award winners,” said Gomberg.

The National Coming Out Day Brunch will be held Oct. 11 at 10:30 a.m. at the University Park Marriott (480 Wakara Way). Tickets cost $25 per person or $250 for a table of 10. To purchase tickets, visit utahpridecenter.org or call Marina Gomberg at (801) 539-8800 x 20.

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Q Utah U.S. Teams Vie for Gay Bowl VIII Title in SLC

By Brad Di Iorio

Beginning Friday, Oct. 10 at Murray field, 19 teams will compete in the eighth annual national flag football championship competition, Gay Bowl VIII. Salt Lake City Gay Athletic Association is host to the event, welcoming teams from Boston, Atlanta, Chicago, Los Angeles, New York, San Diego, Houston, Washington D.C., Denver, Phoenix, San Francisco, and collective teams from Michigan and South Florida.

Salt Lake City will have two teams in the competition: the Salt Lake City X Communicated and the Salt Lake City Avalanche.

Gay Bowl VIII event passes are still available online at gaybowl8.org and allow participants into all participating clubs to meet the team players. The field play at Murray is free to all spectators.

A kick-off party will take place Thursday, Oct. 10 at Port O’ Call starting at 7:00 p.m.

Games begin Friday, Oct. 11 at Murray Park, followed by an after-party at Gossip at Club Sound. Pass holders pay no cover before 10:30 p.m. Saturday game play begins at 9:00 a.m., followed by the Gay Bowl Party at Babylon. On Sunday, two semifinal games and two consolation games start at 9:30 a.m. The championship game starts at 3:30 p.m. An awards dinner will take place that night at the University of Utah Rice Eccles stadium at 7:00 p.m., followed by the final party at the Trolley Square atrium, starting at 9:00 p.m.

To get a better idea of who to look for on the streets of Salt Lake City and at games, beginning this Friday morning at 10AM, meet some of the participants: Molly Lenore, 44 – New York Warriors As the 2008 Commissioner of the New York Gay Football League, Molly has been competing as an openly-transgender person for seven years in the league. She be playing outside linebacker on the NY Warriors team, the defending Gay Bowl champions for the last two years.

Molly has been playing sports most of her life, taking some time off as she transitioned from male to female, before she found the gay sports community.

“I started playing football in the New York Gay Football League in its second season and ended up playing in Gay Games VII in Chicago, winning the silver medal,” Lenore said. “Everyone has been extremely accepting.”

Lenore is owner and president of Moey Inc., a design/technology company that creates media/ interactive technology for museums, science centers, children’s museums, architects, marketing firms, corporate clients and public spaces. She was the Senior New Technology Artist at the American Museum of Natural History in NYC for ten years, studied film and special effects for her master, and enjoys technology, art, science, football, softball, dodge ball, golf, and traveling.

“I have never been to Salt Lake City so am very

excited. I heard it is beautiful and, of course, much different from New York City.”

Rory Ray, 30 – LA Motion Rory Ray was raised in southern California and considers himself a “practicing Mormon,” coming from a long line of Utah Mormons. Most of his relatives live in Utah and he has spent a great deal of time visiting.

“I have the utmost respect for many of the things the church has taught me: the importance of family, respect for others, and a belief in God,” Ray said, “I have really struggled with coming to respect and love myself. Ultimately, however, I know that I didn’t choose to be gay, and that without a doubt, this is how God made me, so I know there’s nothing wrong with me.”

Ray currently lives in New York City and is appearing in LOGO’s reality docu/drama, Shirts & Skins, a six-episode series about a gay basketball team that formed in San Francisco to train for the National Gay Basketball Tournament in Chicago this past April.

Ray grew up playing wide receiver and defensive end in high school, played some intramural football in college, and was invited by a friend to play pickup football with the gay organization in Los Angeles.

After earning respect of the guys, he was invited to play with the Outsports.com team in the Gay Games in Chicago in 2006, where the team won a gold medal. He has played with the LA Motion ever since.

Ray is currently a web developer for a major Wall Street firm and loves traveling the world, reading fantasy books, and cooking dinner for friends.

“To practice with the LA team I made a couple weekend trips out to California for practice. I definitely have had to be disciplined in training on my own to make sure I am in great shape for the tournament,” Ray said.

Michael Madsen, 37 – Salt Lake City X Communicated Michael Madsen is the Salt Lake City X Communicated team quarterback. He is a straight man with a son and a daughter and has been playing in the Mountain West Flag Football League for the last three years.

“My football career is relatively short. My father was against me playing the sport because he did not want me to ruin my knees,” Madsen said. “The Gay Bowl has been a unique experience for me. It brings together a group of competitive guys, who all want to win, but who also enjoy being a part of the sport and a part of the experience.”

Madsen works as a lighting manufacturer representative for The Light Source. He has been dating the same girl for the last four years and will continue to live in the area to help raise his kids. He enjoys baseball, running, golf, hunting, and fly-fishing, and teaching his son everything he knows.

“I look forward to playing the New York and San Diego teams. Both are very good teams that execute on both sides of the ball,” Madsen said.

Peter Goulet, 39 – Head Referee from Boston With every tournament and championship, the “head ref” oversees and organizes the other referees, monitors game play and player violations, and is involved with final decisions on all calls that need interpretation.

Peter Goulet has played in the Friends, Lesbians and Gays Flag Football league for nine of its 10 years. He is now a member of the Plum Crazies team in Boston, and has refereed at Gay Bowl tournaments as far back as Gay Bowl III. Goulet was a successful swimmer in high school and at the University of Maine. He started his football career in 1999, joining the Boston Brawlers and played in Gay Bowl II. Goulet grew up in Auburn, Maine, worked for former governor John McKernan, Jr. after college,

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and then worked for McKernan’s wife, U.S. Senator Olympia Snowe until 1996.

Currently, Goulet works for Boston Public Schools as a Student Development Coordinator at the Social Justice Academy. Peter is out to his family and at work, and is proud to live in the first state in the country that “sees that gay men and women should have the same rights in marriage as all others do.”

“I hope that the entire GLBT community and our allies come out to support this tournament,” Goulet said. “The NGFFL Board is very proud of our member cities and respect the work and dedication of all involved.”

Araueni Olivares, 25 – Salt Lake City Avalanche Araueni Olivares played football in little league and in high school in Kearns, Utah.

“My childhood dream was to play for the Chicago Bears, and watching movies like Rocky and Rudy made me believe that a smaller guy like me actually had a chance,” Olivares said. “But I stopped playing my junior year and turned into a spectator. When a friend told me about the Salt Lake City Gay league, I was excited to start playing again. Now I may get to play against Chicago’s gay team, also called ‘The Bears.’”

Olivares says his first name is an indigenous Mexican name from his parents’ native Michoacán.

Born in Chicago, he has been very involved in the Utah Latino community, co-founding the Salt Lake Chapter of the Brown Berets, and organizing young people in the fight for humane immigration reform.

He is also a member of the Hispanic Advisory Council of the State Office of Ethnic Affairs.

Araueni has been married for two years and states that he is a product of a conservative environment — “a rebellious, left-wing atheist, used to and good at, defending unpopular opinions and people.”

This will be Araueni’s first Gay Bowl and he will play wide receiver and safety for Team Avalanche.

You can also check him out playing soccer for the Roxborough Romantics.

Mark McGowan, 44 – Salt Lake City Avalanche Salt Lake City began participating in Gay Bowl with the formation of the Mountain West Flag Football league after a group of guys, including Mark McGowan, started playing pick-up flag football games in the fall of 2004. Mark has played on Team Avalanche in every Gay Bowl that Salt Lake City has attended, starting with the 2006 San Diego Gay Bowl, and played in the 2006 Chicago Gay Games.

“The involvement and participation in this league has changed how I know sports,” McGowan said, “I have always participated in individual sports like skiing, tennis and golf. I never realized the importance of team sports in terms of cooperation, working together as one, responsibility, and especially camaraderie.”

McGowan has also coached one of the Salt Lake teams for the last two years while playing on the team. He founde Rainbow Mountain Realty, now One Realty, in 1993. He is a board member of the Utah Stonewall Democrats, the Salt Lake Gay Athletic Association, president of the University of Southern California alumni club of Utah, and chaired the 2002 Sydney and 2006 Chicago Gay Games. He and his partner, Tyler, have been together 14 years.

“I look forward to seeing the talent level of the new teams that are participating. It’s fun to see the national league combine the veteran teams and new cities. The best part, however, is the sportsmanship that makes the tournament so special,” he said.

More information can be found at the event Web site, gaybowl8.org

Q mmunity Kickin’ ASS The Utah Stonewall Democrats will hold a Kickin’ ASS Party for locals to meet their endorsed candidates and enjoy an evening of good food and fun socialization. The public is welcome.

When: Oct. 16, 5:00 – 7:30 p.m.

Where: The Market Street Oyster Bar – Cottonwood (2985 E 6580 S).

Book Festival The 11th Annual Utah Humanities Book Festival will again be held in October, featuring workshops, talks and film screenings centered on authors and readers. This year’s guests include Terry Tempest Williams, Honor Moore and Richard Peck.

When: The week of Oct. 22 Where: Salt Lake City Main Library, 210 E. 400 South and other locations throughout the state.

Cost: Free Info: utahhumanities.org/bookfestival.htm or Hikmet Loe at 3599670 or loe@utahhumanities.org.

It’s STILL Elementary The Utah Pride Center in association with Planned Parenthood Association of Utah, the YWCA, the Salt Lake Film Society and the University of Utah Women’s Resource Center will screen It’s STILL Elementary. The film is a follow-up to the 1998 film It’s Elementary, which showed how teachers across the country addressed gay and lesbian issues in the classroom. The companion film catches up with several of the subjects to see how gay issues impacted their lives and discusses the controversy its predecessor provoked upon its debut.

When: Oct. 23, 6:30 p.m.

Where: Broadway Theater, 111 E 300 South Info: utahpridecenter.org

Gobble, Gobble The Utah Pride Center is planning its annual Pride Thanksgiving Dinner and needs volunteers willing to donate prepared dishes and to help run the dinner.

When: Nov. 27, 11:00 a.m–3:00 p.m Where: Utah Pride Center Info: Jennifer@utahpridecenter. org or (801) 539-8800 x 13

QueeRead Starting in October independent Salt Lake City bookseller Sam Weller’s will host a book club for gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender literature. October’s book will be Sarah Schulman’s Rat Bohemia. Copies, which will be available at Sam Weller’s at a 20 percent discount, will be in stock at the end of September.

When: Oct. 22, 6:30 p.m.

Where: Sam Weller’s basement (254 S Main St) Info: samwellersbookstore. blogspot.com

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Mormon Church Threatens to Excommunicate Gay Marriage Supporter A Nebraska man has said that the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints has threatened to excommunicate him over a Web site that asks the church to change its position on gay marriage.

In a letter to several Utah and California news outlets, Hastings, Neb. resident Andrew Callahan, wrote that he became an advocate for gay marriage in June after church leadership issued a letter to California members asking them to Andrew Callahan support Proposition 8, a constitutional amendment that seeks to ban gay marriage in the state. Callahan, who is straight and who describes himself as “a Mormon high priest in good standing,” said that he “almost immediately began trying to get the Mormon Church to change its position on the issue.”

“This just reminded me so much of the racial bigotry that Mormon leaders have historically been so famous for,” he said.

“Our past leaders insisted that racial bigotry against blacks was God’s divine idea, now current ones are promoting this same kind of bigoted nonsense about gays and lesbians.”

Shortly after leaders issued the letter, Callahan and other like-minded Mormons set up a Web site called “Signing for Something,” for all current and former Mormons and their loved ones to post statements expressing “their opposition to the

Mormon Church’s political stance.” During the summer, Callahan also wrote to hundreds of “middle level church leaders” stating his disagreement with the church’s position and asking for their support.

Callahan said he quickly came to the attention of church leaders in Salt Lake City. On Aug. 18, he said Utah leaders dispatched a “Notice” to “virtually all” U.S. Mormon leaders, instructing them and their congregations to “disregard” any communications from Callahan.

When Callahan wouldn’t back down, he said his bishop, Bryan Woodbury of Clay Center, Neb. paid him a visit on Sept. 11.

“Bishop Woodbury offered me a chance to resign my membership in the Mormon Church, and when I declined, the bishop stated that there would be disciplinary action and that my membership in the Mormon Church was ‘not mandatory,’” Callahan said.

Eleven days later, Woodbury delivered a letter from Callahan’s Stake President, Weldon Sleight, inviting Callahan to attend a disciplinary council — in which stake presidents and council members present evidence of a member’s disobedience to church teaching. It is typically ends in excommunication for the member.

In the LDS church, stake presidents (the equivalent of bishops in other Christian faiths) alone have the power to excommunicate members.

The text of the letter, posted to Callahan’s Web site, reads: “The Stake Presidency is considering formal disciplinary action in your behalf, including the possibility of disfellowshipment or excommunication, because you are reported to have participated in conduct unbecoming a member of the Church and have been in apostasy.”

Initially, Callahan’s disciplinary council

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was scheduled for Sept. 26. On that day, however, gay Mormon support group Affirmation reported that Sleight postponed Callahan’s council “in the wake of mounting criticism and media coverage.” ”We have decided to defer your disciplinary council to a later date given this politically charged election season,” wrote Sleight in an email to Callahan. “We feel that a more measured and considered discussion can be held at a date sometime in November. Meanwhile, we invite you to meet with the stake presidency tomorrow night at the same appointed time to discuss your situation.”

Affirmation also said that Callahan is “one of several” Mormons in states as diverse as California, Hawaii and Utah who has faced church discipline or harassment because of has opposition to Proposition 8.

Although Callahan’s council has been put off for now, Callahan told the Hastings Tribune that his excommunication was “a foregone conclusion.”

“I’m sad, but I’m not going to apologize

for opposing bigotry and I’m not going to beg them to keep me as a member of the church,” he said, adding that he has not attended church in the past few years because of a “crisis of faith.”

“I’m no longer certain that the Mormon Church is the one true church, which is what the church preaches,” he said.

On the day Callahan’s disciplinary council was to have taken place, Callahan received a bouquet of pink carnations from the LDS Safe Space Coalition, an initiative working to ensure safety and respect for gay and lesbian Mormons in their wards. The color pink, according to the organization’s Web site ldssafespace. org, is a worldwide symbol of ‘Safe Space.’

“We don’t want Andrew to suffer through these excommunication proceedings alone,” said coalition founder Brecken Chinn Swartz. “We want Andrew and others to know that there are many others out there who support them for being true to their hearts, even in the face of tremendous pressure.”

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So. Utah to Hold Gay, Lesbian Health Summit

For the third year in a row, the Community Counseling Center of Utah will hold the Southern Utah Gay and Lesbian Health Summit at the Green House Bed & Breakfast Resort in St. George, Utah.

According to organizer Kraig Stephens, a clinical social worker and the counseling center’s executive director, this year’s summit will cover a number of topics important to gay and lesbian health, safety and well-being.

“We have a session focusing on the turbulent economy,” he said. “An attorney will speak to us about wills, trusts, probates and the financial market.”

Volunteers from the Tri State HIV/AIDS Task Force will also be on hand to provide HIV/AIDS testing. Formerly known as the HIV/AIDS Task Force of Washington County, Stephens said the group changed its name when it decided to help out with HIV/AIDS testing and education in northern Arizona and Mesquite, Nevada — places which, he said, have “little or no” HIV/AIDS services.

Barbara and David VanLandingham, a married couple who serve as the Task Force’s testing coordinators, will also speak about another important aspect of gay and lesbian health: political participation.

“They lean towards the Obama side of ticket, but the whole idea [of their talk] is the importance of getting out there and voting,” said Stephens. “They’ll talk about the

process of getting registered to vote and the importance of the presidential election — how this will be one of the more significant elections. These are hot button times.”

Southern Utah Pride Association, Inc. president Chris McArdle will also speak about his experiences in putting together Southern Utah Pride — a talk which Stephens calls “an interesting story of outreach and community building.” Additional speakers also include Rebecca Fronberg, HIV Counseling and Testing Coordinator with the Utah Department of Health, and a local psychologist will also give a presentation about healthy relationships.

After a day of talking about health, financial planning and community building, summit participants are invited to enjoy the Green House’s pool, jacuzzi and tennis court.

“It’s a wonderful place,” said Stephens.

Although the summit is still a little more than a week away, Stephens said the summit is currently 75 percent full. Given the resort’s size, space is very limited (it can only hold 50 participants) and preregistration is mandatory.

“We want the intimacy for the therapeutic intervention that goes on there,” said Stephens.

The Third Annual Southern Utah Gay and Lesbian Health Summit will be held Oct. 17 at the Green House. For more information or to pre-register call Kraig Stephens at (435) 652-4142.

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Q Views Letters Two Americas Editor,

In my opinion, we live in two Americas.

An idealistic nation delivering on its promise of equality. And a more divisive nation where our rights as LGBT citizens are denied and often exploited by politicians seeking to get elected. Have you seen the McCain campaign T-shirt? The slogan reads “AmeriCAIN.” I believe it speaks to a divisive America. I’m tired of this divide and tired of the lies.

Enough with the fear and false claims that gay citizens seek “special rights.”

Enough with using our expressions of pride against us, as if we’re a threat to American values. Enough. It’s time to speak our mind, voice our opinions and use our votes. Regardless of where we live and who we are, we are all Americans.

But where you live does matter! Your vote may matter even more in your state, than my vote here in California. Your state may very well determine the outcome of this election and whether it’s America or AmeriCAIN that prevails.

Barack Obama’s inclusive leadership will do more for all of us, including our community.

• Obama voted to outlaw Employment Discrimination. McCain voted to allow it.

• Obama supports Full Adoption Rights for same sex couples. McCain says “I don’t believe in gay adoption.”

• Obama wants to repeal the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) and extend the 1,000+ legal rights for married couples to include LGBT couples. McCain voted for DOMA and is against same-sex unions and domestic partnerships.

• Obama voted for increased funding for AIDS Drug Assistance. McCain voted against it.

• Obama supports the Matthew Shepard Act. McCain voted against adding sexual orientation to federal hate crimes legislation in 2000, 2002 and 2004.

Check out Obama’s website: www.pride. barackobama.com. At McCain’s website, LGBT citizens are not even mentioned, unless you count the defense of traditional marriage as one of his values. Barack Obama values the LGBT community and he includes us in the one America he seeks to lead. Register! Voice your opinion! Vote!

Lets not wake up November 5th wishing we had done more.

Thom Mullins San Francisco

Believe in Equality Utah’s Judgement Editor, Rob Koster states that Equality Utah is “depriving our young people the beacon of hope in Gordon Storrs” [“Equality Utah Chose Party over Person,” QSaltLake Letters, Sept. 11, 2008]. How are they going to

prevent people from voting for Gordon?

Equality has a great track record with the candidates they have endorsed from the very founding of their organization.

In case Mr. Koster doesn’t know how this works, all of the candidates submit to a questionnaire and an in-person interview. Apparently, Mr. Storrs did not meet their expectations and Jennifer Selig did.

I received a flier from Gordon’s campaign that has me very concerned about this issue Mr. Koster speaks of. On it, Gordon claims to be for “honesty and openness in government” and that “families are the basic building blocks of communities.”

However, nowhere in this campaign flier does he mention, let alone show, his partner, Orlan, who has written to this publication at least twice in defense of Gordon without disclosing his relationship to Gordon.

How can we expect “openness” when he is not even recognizing his “family” in the person of his partner, Orlan. It makes one wonder what type of “family” he is referring to.

This is the “beacon of hope” Mr. Koster speaks of — someone who is not up front and honest as to who he is?

Could that be why Equality chose to endorse Jennifer Selig? If Gordon cannot be who he is in his House race, how can he be expected to fight for our issues on the hill?

I have had numerous conversations with Gordon over the years and am constantly perplexed that he continues to run against allies of our community. And actually, what has he gotten from the Republican Party for our community?

His son even ran against our greatest ally, David Litvack.

Maybe if he ran against someone who is not on our issues, like Carlton Chris-

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tensen, we could be much, much more supportive.

We need to look to those who can get legislation passed on our behalf, as Rep. Jennifer Selig has done.

I believe in Equality and their judgment.

To vote for someone just because they are gay, especially if they are not totally out, is, in my opinion, wrong.

Look at the individual and make you own choice just as Equality did.

No one is depriving anyone of anything.

Mike Picardi Salt Lake City

Literary Convert Editor, What a fantastic literary issue you finally produced. When I saw the cover of the Sept. 25 issue, I thought this would be an issue that took 15 minutes to read and throw into the bird cage.

But then, I took your suggestion and settled in with a cup of coffee on a rainy Saturday morning and lost myself in some of the best stories I have read in a very long time.

The range of stories was great. Each was a read well worth the time. [Scott] Perry’s “Morning” was brilliant in its reflection of the past versus the present, in loneliness vs. family love.

Keith Moore’s “Jack and Sean” was a story that I could see written about my own family. I loved that it left “the rest of the story” up to the reader since we all have been at that certain point in life and it still goes on and is still yet to be told.

And, while I’m not much a fan of poetry, Ryan Hollist and Eli Shipley’s offerings were worth a second and third reading.

Mike Mietchen West Jordan

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an email from Equality Utah’s executive director, Mike Thompson.

The subject line made me cringe: “Are You Part of the Dominant Force?”

I hesitantly opened the email. Mike was referring to a compliment given by Democrat, Frank Pignanelli, who stated, “Equality Utah is the state’s largest gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgendered organization and is the dominant force in Salt Lake City politics.” I hit reply and told Mike that no, actually, I didn’t want to be part of any “dominant force.” Pignanelli’s quote resurfaced at last month’s Allies Dinner.

The idea of Equality Utah as a dominant force was touted publicly as something we should all applaud.

I didn’t.

OK, some may think I’m over-reacting.

I’m excessively parsing language. Yes, I am — and this is why. When I hear “dominant force” I first think of Dick Cheney.

He and his neoconservative cabal arrogantly used the term “dominant force”

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to describe what would later become the Bush Doctrine of preemptive military strikes. In the now infamous Project for a New American Century, Cheney and a cadre of shifty characters crafted a seminal document entitled “Rebuilding America’s Defense Strategies.” In Chapter V: “Creating Tomorrow’s Dominant Force,” PNAC describes an American military of such global magnitude that it could fight multiple theatre wars simultaneously. PNAC maintained that America

When I hear “dominant force” I first think of Dick Cheney. must remain the world’s sole superpower, and that any threats to U.S. power must be vanquished by our mighty arsenal. The signers of PNAC became the chief architects of the Iraq and Afghanistan wars. As our military is now strained to breaking and our economy is staggering under the weight of our trillion dollar wars, PNAC’s goals of global dominance has now been discredited in the eyes of the world. But sadly, not before the staggering loss of human life.

Now, I know Equality Utah isn’t planning a military coup on the Capital. Obviously, Mike doesn’t use the term “dominant force” the way that Dick Cheney does. But language is important. Words shape our reality. In all social movements we need to be extremely aware of the language we use. There is a dangerous temptation to emulate the verbal bravado of our oppressors. We must be better.

Our world has a long history of the privileged few dominating the larger masses.

When we consider “domination” we must revisit Riane Eisler’s pivotal work, The Chalice and the Blade. Eisler articulates two models that have existed throughout human history — the domination society and the partnership society. She writes: “the dominator model, is what is popularly termed either patriarchy or matriarchy — the ranking of one-half of humanity over the other. The second, in which social relations are primarily based on the principle of linking rather than ranking, may best be described as the partnership model. In this model — beginning with the most fundamental difference in our species, between male and female — diversity is not equated with either inferiority or superiority.”

The dominator model exemplifies militarism. It thrives on racism, classism and

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sexism. It maintains that one group has the inherent right to rule over another: Man over woman, rich over poor, white over black, straight over gay, and America über alles. It also maintains that nature should be a resource for man’s indiscriminate exploitation.

Partnership does not require a stigmatized “other” to be an enemy. Humanity has intrinsic value, and all contribute to the greater whole. Eisler describes how in partnership-based societies like Sweden, Denmark and other Nordic nations, women share a greater proportion of power with men (approximately 40 percent of national legislators are female — the largest percentage in the world).

Interestingly, in these countries, queers also enjoy greater freedoms (not to mention universal healthcare). There is a connection here. If queer activists really want marriage equality, then the obvious first step is the total empowerment of women in all spheres of public life — economic, political and ecclesiastical.

Queers revolutionize the concept of family. We don’t model gender hierarchies in our intimate relationships. When people say queers are trying to destroy the so-called “traditional family” I say, “hell, yeah!” The patriarchy that exemplifies the Judeo-Christian tradition no longer has the right to determine who is “chosen,” what gender roles are appropriate, and who in our culture is worthy of equal rights. It’s a corrupt worldview that is failing. I say let it! We need to liberate everyone who suffers under oppression and domination. That is our work. The domination model promotes exclusionary rights; a partnership model works toward universal liberty. We must take the best ideas from feminists, environmentalists and civil rights activists. We must form an ideology of total cultural liberation. Our goal is nothing less than complete social transformation. Women must be equal to men. Race must never determine social standing. Queers must enjoy equal rights.

The environment must be protected. War must be abolished.

The architects of domination may work to deny us our birthright, but we can stand together in bold defiance — not through force, but in strategic partnership with all oppressed people. Separate we are a minority, but together we comprise an astonishing majority. There will never be equality in a system of domination. Ever. We have to change our story. We begin by first shifting our language from the rhetoric of domination to the discourse of partnership.

Now with all that, please understand that I hold Equality Utah in great esteem. I believe everyone should send them stacks of money and volunteer endlessly. The work they are doing is truly transforming Utah politics. Mike Thompson is a great man, worthy of our support. The board is topnotch. The staff are my friends. They have a big vision for our people. My critique is meant to challenge all of us (myself included) to consider carefully how we verbally frame our movement. Our words will shape our future. Queers have the potential to inspire the world with a larger vision of social justice and human potential. Our words will spark a revolution.

Troy Williams is the executive producer of RadioActive on KRCL 90.9 FM. He blogs at queergnosis.com.

Snaps & Slaps SLAP: The Spectrum Our first backhand for October goes to St. George’s daily newspaper for backing out of a deal with Southern Utah Pride.

The paper had contracted for a $1,000 sponsorship of the event, but canceled their end of the contract in September. It ran the agreed-upon ads, but asked SUP organizers to pull its logo from any promotional material, including the event’s Web site. Um ... what? Why eat the cost of a sponsorship without reaping any of the benefits? The only answer we can see to this question makes about as much sense as antigay attitudes in southern Utah.

But we’ll leave you to fill in the blanks.

SNAP: Utah’s Gay Households Well, what do you know?

Between 2000 and 2007 Utah experienced a 23 percent jump in lesbian couples and a 21.5 percent increase in gay couples who live together under the same roof. Of course, the Beehive state’s neo-con groups are citing the usual specters like the damned liberal media and the Gay Agenda (no, not our fabulous arts listing). Much more likely, these numbers are the result of Utah’s general population growth, more tolerant attitudes to gays and lesbians (at least in Salt Lake City) and the social de-stigmatization of gays that allows people to feel more comfortable coming out.

But whatever the reason, we think this is pretty awesome.

SNAP: South Valley Sanctuary People of all gender identities and sexual orientations (yes, even straight men) can be targets of domestic violence. The South Valley Sanctuary in West Jordan has always offered services to gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender survivors (not to mention survivors of all ages, races, nationalities, sexes and religious affiliations). With antigay prejudice still a huge deterrent for queer people seeking to escape abusive situations, it’s truly wonderful to see a shelter right here in the Salt Lake Valley that gets it.

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I usually start these columns?

Oh yeah.

OMG you guys! New shiny! New shiny! Newshinynewshinynewshiny!

Ahem. Yes. Anyway, this particular shiny goes by the name of Avatar: The Last Airbender. Yes, as usual Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;m a few years behind the learning curve on this one. Since I donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t have cable or a schedule that allows regular TV viewing, I usually catch interesting-looking series when they appear in convenient DVD box sets, which can be stopped, started or entirely put by for as long as my approximately five million deadlines require.

Hey, at least this way I donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t get squirmy between seasons, like I do during the summer doldrums that interrupt South Park every year.

Geeky ones, Avatar is awesome. Hype-surpassingly awesome.

It has engaging world building, a unique magical system (especially for one based on such a burned-over concept as the four elements), taut drama, charming romance and adolescent characters you donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t want to punch in the face every five seconds â&#x20AC;&#x201D; a feat even Harry Potter couldnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t pull off.

Since I am nothing if not a progressive geek, throw in complex female characters and respectful treatment of Chinese and Inuit cultures by Avatarâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s (at least, Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;m presuming) very white creators, and youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ve got a show that is truly what I would call family-friendly. That is, it does a good job fighting racism and sexism, and its light but just dark enough to be honest storyline can be enjoyed by children and adults â&#x20AC;&#x201D; especially adults like me who enjoy bright colors and several explosions per episode.

But of course, no show can be perfect, and Avatar is lacking something important. Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;m pretty sure you know where Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;m going with this, so say it with me: Where are all the gay people?

Sure, itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s not surprising that Avatar doesnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t have any openly queer characters.

No mainstream U.S. cartoon that Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;m aware of â&#x20AC;&#x201D; especially on the Nickelodeon Network â&#x20AC;&#x201D; does. Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;m only yelling at the heavens this time because Avatar wins at practically everything else. Yet while we have a show about non-white people who arenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t exoticized and women who arenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t helpless objects, (heck, the Avatar regularly reincarnates as female and nobody gives a damn) everyone you meet fits into the heterosexual paradigm somehow, either as a parent or a teenager in love with a teenager of the opposite sex. This, despite the fact that Avatar was heavily influenced by anime, in which gay characters have featured since the 1970s. I mean, can we say Sailors Uranus and Neptune from Sailor Moon? Actually, no we canâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t here in America. Because as we all know, DIC turned them into cousins. Cousins!

Pardon me while I puke yet again. Ten years later and Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;m still pissed off about that.

Geeky ones, itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s time American net-

works realized that this is beyond ridiculous. If we can have cartoons that feature women and people of color as fully-realized individuals, then we can damn well do the same for queer people. And no, Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;m not content with after-the-fact announcements anymore. J.K. Rowling did a fine job of that with Albus Dumbledore, but really itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s time to move on.

Surprisingly, this opinion can be rather controversial in fandom â&#x20AC;&#x201D; even among other gay geeks. I know because I used to be in the opposite camp. â&#x20AC;&#x153;But kids watch cartoons!â&#x20AC;? Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;d say. â&#x20AC;&#x153;Besides, itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s too political. Theyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;d accuse us of trying to recruit. The networks would never allow it!â&#x20AC;?

Well, itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s time we got over that attitude. Yes, kids watch cartoons. Some of them have gay family members. Some are even gay themselves and are at various stages of realizing it. Some of them (yes, even today) are isolated, deeply closeted and are desperate for any information about their supposedly â&#x20AC;&#x153;weirdâ&#x20AC;? feelings.

Are they somehow less important than all the straight kids watching? Or the straight adult fans, for that matter?

And political? Puh-lease. What isnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t political? Doesnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t the inclusion of powerful, independent female characters like Katara, Toph and Azula in Avatarâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s cast send a political message about women? And doesnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t the lack of any openly gay person send an equally politically charged message (albeit one the creators may not have intended)? Since weâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re on the subject of heteronormativity, letâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s talk a little about â&#x20AC;&#x153;recruiting.â&#x20AC;? When I do have the time to watch TV, I canâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t turn more than a few channels without seeing a straight romance or sex scene. Considering how schools still hold straight-only dances and no one sees anything amiss with a grown adult teasing a child about having an opposite sex crush, I really do think the straights are protesting way too much here.

As for the networks not allowing, say, a gay waterbender to join Avatar Aangâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s merry band, all I can say is: They never will unless people talk about the stupidity of not doing so. In the stylisticallychallenged 1980s when I was a little geek, characters like Katara, Toph and Azula were unheard of. You would never have seen a show with Asians as main characters either â&#x20AC;&#x201D; unless they were geeky tokens who were ace at ping pong. What happened in a mere two decades? People realized that there was no good reason not to portray women and Asians more honestly. And our culture, including the part of our culture regularly dismissed as â&#x20AC;&#x153;kiddy stuff,â&#x20AC;? is all the richer for it.

It would be even richer if we had a similar attitude shift for queer characters.

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I’ve had a frantic week watching the vice presidential debate, planning my fund raiser for Planned Parenthood, and most importantly, perving at the beefcakes who were installing a new horse shelter on my back field. I am exhausted!

But not too tired to talk about something important. Since QSaltLake started publishing, I have written nearly 115 biweekly columns covering all sorts of subjects from pop culture to politics. That is a hell of a lot of material, not to mention about 115 tapdancing-through-the-minefield opportunities to possibly offend or even outrage people.

Which, ummm ... might have happened once or twice.

OK, OK. It’s happened about 10 really ­notable times that I can remember. But in my defense, I think one in 11 odds is pretty damn good, and technically that makes me a centrist saint. The way I see it, my columns are like Rorschach ink blots: you see what you want to see in them and react accordingly.

A great example of this was my column in the last issue about the GLBT Public Safety Liaison Committee (If you missed it, its available on the QSaltLake Web site under Columnists — Ruby Ridge). In it I made two main points. First, that the GLBT Public Safety Committee has offered no reassurance or guidance to the state’s gay community during the latest rash of violent attacks on gay men (and yes, there was another assault on a gay man since this particular column came out, making four that we know have been reported in the last three months). And second, that there are no crime prevention messages from the Public Safety Committee

or local police agencies that discuss local gay men or the behaviors that place them at risk of becoming crime victims. Simple enough criticisms and completely true on all accounts, right?

Well clutch your pearls, darlings, because the responses I got were really interesting!

The day the last issue hit the racks I had random people emailing me and telling me horror stories about burglaries and robberies, and how they would not or could not report them to the police for fear of embar-

Your county sheriffs uniform has way more polyester in it than any one of my ‘ugly dresses’ rassment or persecution. They validated the points I made in my last column completely!

The bulk of these responses fell into two main categories: people who were robbed buying marijuana, or robbed after hooking up with an anonymous stranger they met on the internet. There was even one creepy cyber stalking case that was straight out of a Jerry Bruckheimer film. Many of the emailers made jokes and laughed off their problems in a dark, gallows humor kind of way (or maybe they were still buzzed on marijuana, because now that I think about

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Q Street it, there were a lot of typos!). Just about all of them said things like, “I should have known better” or “I knew it was wrong” or “I was an idiot,” which tells me there was a lot of guilt and retroactive remorse involved.

Now, pumpkins, as the maternal caring soul that I am, I do appreciate your confessions. I wish I were a priest so I could absolve you of your sins. But sadly, I’m built more like a nun, so next time I see you I will probably just rap your knuckles with a ruler, you immoral, drug-addled, promiscuous sluts! Oh relax, I’m just kidding. It was very brave of you to confide in me, and as profoundly imperfect as I am, who the hell am I to judge?

Anyway, in stark contrast to the numerous emails from actual crime victims, there was only one cranky response on QSaltLake’s Web site from a member of the GLBT Public Safety Liaison Committee. Not only did he conveniently miss my column’s whole point about the need for targeted crime prevention in our community, he then fixated on the fact that for two hours a month (out of about 672 hours) I wear a dress and camp drag make-up during our Third Friday Bingo charity fundraisers. Apparently, comic drag is a sin so egregious and such an affront to his delicate sensibilities that he dismissed my opinions because of my — and I quote — “obviously skewed view of the world.”

Maybe he’s right, because all I could think of in response was: A) Judging a person entirely on one superficial characteristic is called “profiling,” and it’s just tacky; and more importantly B) Your county sheriff uniform has way more polyester in it than any one of my “ugly dresses.”

If his hostile response is typical of law enforcement or the Public Safety Liaison Committee’s attitudes towards the gay community and its idiosyncrasies, then it’s no wonder they are perennially missing in action when our community actually needs them.

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We asked people: “What effect did Matthew Shepard’s murder have on you since it happened 10 years ago?”

Matthew Shepard’s murder has served as a reminder for me that even good can come out of the most heinous acts. Dennis and Judy argued against the death penalty for their son’s murderers, and after his death established the Matthew Shepard Foundation to promote lgbt equality.

Bryan Glick I was heartbroken; at the time I was living life as if America was a safe and accepting place. Ten years later I have learned that, in order for America to be that safe and accepting place, I have to live a genuine, visible life and take every opportunity to stand up in support of my community.

Erika Church Matthew Shepherd’s heinous murder made real for me the ugly bigotry that had been hidden too long by giving it a face and a soul.

Whenever I read of homophobic statements and actions, I now see Matthew’s face and it reminds me to stay in the fight for equality for all.

Kurt Bestor I remember where I was and what I was doing — morning rush hour traffic. It made me realize how vulnerable life can be, and that living in my little bubble in Salt Lake City couldn’t protect me. I am always paying attention to my surroundings and I take nothing for granted.

Matt Lyon I realized that the time had come for me to pull my head out of my ass and begin to live my life as God intended; gay, courageous and out.

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Matthew Shepardâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s murder put a face to the issue of hate crimes in this country and who the victims of homophobia really are. His death was not only a wake up call to society at large, it was a resounding bell for the GLBT community to stand up for equal treatment and protection under the law. May His Memory Be Eternal (Greek Orthodox blessing).

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Josh Adamson I have become very sensitive of which strangers I am open with about my sexuality (at least when I am in a strange town). When I travel through small towns I imagine the frustration and fears that the local GLBTQ people may be going through and I hope that they find positive allies and friends who will help to protect them.

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know about Salt Lake City Gay Athletic Association founder Mark Barr: Homophobia drove him out of high school baseball.

Being a gay teenager in Mansfield, Ohio (about 45 minutes north of Columbus and 45 minutes south of Cleveland) wasnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t easy. After realizing he was gay at age 13 Barr remembers keeping a journal in which he â&#x20AC;&#x153;self-censoredâ&#x20AC;? himself by writing that he was bisexual, not gay. â&#x20AC;&#x153;I was afraid that someone would read it,â&#x20AC;? he explains, chuckling. â&#x20AC;&#x153;Luckily I did kind of self-censor, because I found out my mother was reading it every day.â&#x20AC;?

Self-censorship was also behind his decision to quit the school baseball team, a decision Barr made because he felt the environment the team created wasnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t â&#x20AC;&#x153;that conducive to being out.â&#x20AC;? â&#x20AC;&#x153;It was difficult. I played baseball my entire life. But it didnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t feel right to be lying to all my teammates,â&#x20AC;? he explains.

Happily, Barr didnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t drop out of sports altogether. During his senior year he joined the varsity football team and started the process of coming out. Although he lost several friends (and faced hostility from a teammate who found out Barr had a crush on him), he says he soon befriended â&#x20AC;&#x153;more open-minded people.â&#x20AC;? â&#x20AC;&#x153;I didnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t change how I acted. I didnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t have a press conference,â&#x20AC;? he says. â&#x20AC;&#x153;Itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s high school. You donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t have to say anything, it kind of goes around.â&#x20AC;?

Word of Barrâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s excellence at football also got around. After graduation, he was offered an academic scholarship to play football for a local university, a procedure that was normal for that time and place.

But as a gay person, Barr knew he needed to â&#x20AC;&#x153;go further.â&#x20AC;? Figuring that his small stature (at least, when compared to most football players) would keep him out of the professional leagues he enrolled at Bowling Green University near Toledo, Ohio and concentrated on academics, eventually settling on film studies and telecommunications. Degree in hand, he then moved to New York City to work for Showtime where he worked for seven years â&#x20AC;&#x201D; first in human resources and then in broadcast operations, the department responsible for acquiring films.

While in New York City, Barr participated in a number of gay sports organizations, including a pick-up flag football league that he helped create. At the same time Showtime paid for him to attend The New School for a masterâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s degree in media studies. As fate would have it, a young law student named Scott McCoy was attending the Benjamin N. Cardozo School of Law right across the street.

As Barr tells it, he first met his future partner through a mutual friend when McCoy, newly accepted into law school, visited the city to look for housing. They stayed in touch when McCoy went back to Washington, D.C. and began casually, then seriously, dating when the new semester started. â&#x20AC;&#x153;It was kind of weird how he found a place to live in New York and found a husband in the same weekend,â&#x20AC;? Barr jokes.

The two came to Salt Lake City in 2002

when McCoy accepted an offer to be a clerk for a Utah Supreme Court justice. â&#x20AC;&#x153;We were ready to get out of New York and it seemed like a good idea to try something out west,â&#x20AC;? says Barr. â&#x20AC;&#x153;Weâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re very happy with the decision weâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ve made.â&#x20AC;?

After settling in Salt Lake, Barr, unable to make any film or TV contacts in the area, decided to reinvent himself. He got his license from a real estate school and devoted his free time to establishing the Salt Lake City Gay Athletic Association, an umbrella organization for a number of gay-friendly sports teams including the Mountain West Flag Football, Volleyball and Basketball leagues.

Barrâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s purpose for starting the association: so gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people who, like him, had to choose between sports and their sexual orientation when growing up â&#x20AC;&#x201D; or who felt like they didnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t â&#x20AC;&#x153;belongâ&#x20AC;? as gays because they were athletes â&#x20AC;&#x201D; could find a safe place to play and learn to love sports.

And, of course, to socialize. â&#x20AC;&#x153;One of the biggest problems is meeting people in Salt Lake,â&#x20AC;? Barr explains. â&#x20AC;&#x153;If you have outlets like volleyball and kickball you can show up to them, and if you get yourself there, you can make new friends that day. Then itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s up to you to try to stay in contact. Thatâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s what builds self-confidence and self-worth and makes people think that life is worth living, when [theyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re] connected to people and have those outlets.â&#x20AC;?

He also sees a political purpose in having gay-friendly sports leagues in the city. â&#x20AC;&#x153;If Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;m living here I want Salt Lake to be the most gay-friendly, liberal place,â&#x20AC;? he says. â&#x20AC;&#x153;I think if people have roots in sports leagues itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s harder for them to leave because they have a world and a family already established around them.â&#x20AC;? â&#x20AC;&#x153;I want people to seriously reconsider coming here for skiing, for hanging out, for moving, for transferring job wise,â&#x20AC;? he continues. â&#x20AC;&#x153;Itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s a great place and we need more LGBT people, allies, friends who will roll up sleeves and get involved with the community and make this a better place.â&#x20AC;?

In order to do his part in making Salt Lake City a better place, Barr said he is looking to expand the athletic association.

He would like to start a kickball league soon, to resurrect the cityâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s now defunct gay soccer league, and to find a permanent home â&#x20AC;&#x201D; perhaps a rented school gym â&#x20AC;&#x201D; for the volley ball and basketball teams to meet for practice and pickup games. Heâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s hoping that Gay Bowl 8, which Salt Lake City is hosting this year and in which gay flag football teams from across the country will participate, will bring in enough money for the athletic association to make these dreams reality.

Ultimately, Barr hopes to see gay athletics continue to grow in Utah so no gay person will ever have to face the unfair choice he did as a high school student. â&#x20AC;&#x153;The idea [in creating the association] for me as for LGBT people is to be happy, and to make people feel good about themselves and work through the issues they may have had in life regarding sports,â&#x20AC;? he says. â&#x20AC;&#x153;I think gay sports leagues can do a lot for people.â&#x20AC;? Q

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sory after-the-fact) came to the show. She sat on the front row, racked with the most sorrowful sobs I have ever heard, before the play even began. The truest intersection of art and life. Healing was happening in that theatre and we were witness to it.

Jedadiah Schultz’s presence as himself in our production made it urgent, real and was a constant reminder of the responsibility we shared of getting it right. Jed had gone to elementary school with Matthew Shephard’s killers, Aaron McKinney and Russell Henderson. Many other people that populated the play were from Jed’s everyday life.

Jed’s mother sent us a jar of dirt from Laramie that was present at the theatre for all rehearsals and performances. To this day, it is my most prized possession. In the summer of 2003, my partner Kirt and I went to Laramie with Jed. He took us to each location mentioned in the script, ending at the fence where Matthew was left to die.

It’s now in the middle of a housing development.

I keep the jar so I will never forget.

Memories from the cast of Plan-B’s ‘The Laramie Project:’ Kirt Bateman: The Laramie Project was the first time I understood the immense power theatre can have. And it was the first time I experienced a collective journey of actors/company/crew/creators/artists for a common goal without personal agenda. The company of The Laramie Project remains in my heart as some of the most important people in my life.

Colleen Baum: The story of Matthew Shepard’s death floored everyone in the theatre each night, whether you were in the audience or on the stage. I’ll never forget hearing the audience’s gasps and feeling just as moved as they were as we played the story out.

Anita Booher: Any actor will tell you that live theatre creates its own energy. That was clear every night onstage during the run of The Laramie Project. By the curtain call, you knew that many in the audience had had an experience that gave them pause, causing them to consider ideas they had perhaps not entertained before. That’s the reward of the experience for me.

Cheryl Ann Cluff: The Laramie Project had the biggest emotional and social impact of any Plan-B production to that point, maybe even since. It’s not every day you get to be a part of something like that. While it was gut-wrenching to act in every night, it was also extremely satisfying, doing something that mattered so much to so many people. I was so proud opening night that I just wanted to sit down on the stage after the show and bawl.

Remembering ‘The Laramie Project’

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1998, I was a graduate student in the theatre department at Utah State University in Logan. On the night of Oct. 7, 1998 — the night Matthew Shepard was discovered, badly beaten, hanging on a fence on the outskirts of Laramie, Wyo. — an impromptu meeting of the USU Pride Alliance was organized. I’d been to other meetings where only a handful of people showed up. But this was different. Dozens of us were there, each in shock, in need of somewhere to be — somewhere where others understood what we lacked the words to express.

A writer for the campus paper showed up with a photographer. People were openly expressing their feelings to the writer. But the relief of being in a safe place immediately shifted to tension — fear — when the writer began asking for the names of those photographed. I think it crossed everyone’s mind: “It could have been me.”

Over the next few months I read about Tectonic Theater Project’s series of visits from New York to Laramie to conduct interviews for what would become The Laramie n the fall of

Project. Their production ran off-Broadway and toured to several regional theatres during the 1999-2000 season.

However, the play had yet to be published so it took until January of 2001 before I could finagle a copy. I ripped open the package when it finally arrived and immediately read the play. By the end of the first act I had collapsed in tears on the floor. I knew I had to do whatever was necessary to produce the play.

In the summer of 2001 Plan-B became the first company, worldwide, licensed to independently produce the play. It was life-changing for each of us involved and for our company. I can see every moment of the production vividly in my memory, still feel the energy that was in the theatre for all 21 performances — a sense of community I had never before experienced.

People from all over the country came to see our production. And they wanted to share their stories with us. A man in his late 70s told me that he’d driven from Laramie to see the play and that it had given him courage — he then said, “You see, I’m gay.” It was the first time he’d spoken those words and I am honored that I was the first person to hear them. A post-show discussion was, sadly, the last public appearance of the late Senator Pete Suazo.

And during the last week of the run, Chasity Paisley, Russell Henderson’s girlfriend (who plead guilty as an acces-

Joyce Cohen: It was a profound experience to work on The Laramie Project, to explore our humanity — its grace and its destructiveness. I was (and still am) deeply moved by the discussion after one of the performances with LDS families with gay children: their comments and insights about the play, about hate crimes, and about loving their children and wanting to make their world a safe one for them in which to live and love. I will always be proud of having been part of the Plan-B production.

Charles Lynn Frost: Doing The Laramie Project allowed me to not only engage as an actor — having the opportunity to perform a phenomenal script in an inspiring production — but more importantly it allowed me to be an advocate. When you can experientially blend your art form with a very powerful social message that beautifully illustrates the value of every life, then you have achieved something marvelous. From that comes change — great and enduring change.

Carl Nelson: The Laramie Project was, and still is, my favorite play I’ve ever been in. I feel honored to have been a part of it. Matthew Shepard’s death was such a violent and horrible tragedy, yet so much inspiration, love, strength, courage, dignity and integrity was able to come out of it.

Jedadiah Schultz: When Matthew was murdered, all of us in Laramie had to ask ourselves, “How did I contribute to this? What did we do to breed this kind of hate?” The young men who murdered Matthew didn’t create this hate on their own. It came from a group mentality, a body of thought, or a collective consciousness. The production in Utah powerfully tapped into the paradox between Salt Lake City and the rest of the state. Q

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by JoSelle Vanderhooft

On Oct. 25, poet, dramatist and biographer Honor Moore will visit Salt Lake City as part of the 2008 Utah Humanities Councilâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Great Salt Lake Book Festival.

During her hour long talk she will read from and answer questions about her memoir, The Bishopâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Daughter. The book chronicleâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Mooreâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s often turbulent relationship with her father Paul Moore, who was well-known in his nearly two decades as New York Cityâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Episcopal bishop for his groundbreaking work against homelessness and racism, and his support for gay and women priests.

A closeted bisexual, Bishop Moore hid his sexuality from his family even as his daughter openly explored her own, with male and female partners.

Moore is also the author of four books of poetry and a play, Mourning Pictures.

JoSelle Vanderhooft: How did you get involved with the Book Festival?

Honor Moore: They invited me. My book has received a lot of publicity. It was excerpted in the New Yorker, and you can read a piece of it online. Thereâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s also an interview on the New Yorker podcast.

JV: Tell me a little about The Bishopâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Daughter.

HM: Itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s a story of a daughterâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s relationship to someone â&#x20AC;&#x201C; Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;m actually going to interrupt myself. I gave a talk earlier in the summer in Saratoga Springs.

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Itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s novelistic not in the sense that itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s fiction, but in the sense that it tells a big, American story.

JV: Before writing The Bishopâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Daughter, you had written a biography of your grandmother, artist Margarett Sargent. Describe for me, if you would, how you wrote that book, and how the process differs when writing autobiography.

HM: The White Blackbirdâ&#x20AC;&#x201D;which, by the way, Norton is going to reissue this springâ&#x20AC;&#x201D;is a biography with elements of memoir. I was not interested in writing a biography. In writing White Blackbird, I was interested in finding the life of this woman who had been an artist, but who I knew as my Boston grandmother. She came from a lot of wealth and, you know, I knew her as kind of odd and mentally ill. She wasnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t presented to me as an artist. What I wanted to do is show her as an artist and see what the life of Margarett Sargent was â&#x20AC;Ś That required a lot of research, art historical and historical research.

JV: And the process for writing The Bishopâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Daughter?

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I also became interested in my father when all the anger fell away. And then I â&#x20AC;&#x201C; I didnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t do a great deal of research, but I did collect the journalistic record.

I looked for the newspaper record of his accomplishments and achievements and his role in the civil rights movement and so on, which is how he came to prominence. I read his books and I re-read my motherâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s memoir of our time in an urban parish, a poorer parish in Jersey City which was where I spent my early childhood. All of his papers are at the archives of the Episcopal Church in Texas. I went there a couple of weeks and went through stuff. I had their letters and my letters from them as I was growing up, I had my diaries and they had saved my letters to them. So I had a lot of stuff to back me up or to reassure me I was remembering properly.

Then I did some thinking about what I was going to do with the fact he was a priest, and I realized there was some parallel between a religious and an artistic calling, so I decided to think about

his priesthood as an art. Then I read the story which was the story of a father and a daughter focused on their relationship with the unseen; in my case through art in his case through religion, our activism and our relationship to sexuality.

JV: Tell me a little about the aspect of sexuality as it features in the memoir?

HM: What was so painful to me was how inhumane and brutal a life in the closet is and what it does to relationships within a family and what it does to a personâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s life. I deal in the book with my own anger at him for choosing the closetâ&#x20AC;&#x201D;if you could say one chooses the closet. [In writing the book] I talked to layman Louie Crew, who started Integrity, which is the gay organization in the Episcopal Church â&#x20AC;Ś [He] talked about the kind of choice my father had to make between choosing a gay life, which given his [upper]class background and what was going on historically, would have been very difficult for him. Plus, he was split in the kind of way he fell in love with women. He would say, â&#x20AC;&#x153;Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ve never fallen in love with a man.â&#x20AC;?

JV: Do you have any other projects in the works right now?

HM: No, thereâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s nothing in the can. Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ve published five [poetry] books in the past four years, and Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;m actually just starting another prose book and starting new poems. But I have edited an anthology called Poems from the Womenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Movement for the Library of America American Poetry Project. Itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s a collection of 59 women poets in that time between 1966 and 1982 when the face of American poetry changed and women went into the American poetry world in large numbers. This is an anthology that starts with Sylvia Plathâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s poem â&#x20AC;&#x153;The Applicant.â&#x20AC;? You know, â&#x20AC;&#x153;Am I your kind of person?â&#x20AC;? and ends with Eileen Mylesâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; poem about Joan of Arc, and the last line is, when sheâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s burning: â&#x20AC;&#x153;a dove flew right out of her mouth.â&#x20AC;? So it begins with â&#x20AC;&#x153;Am I your kind of person?â&#x20AC;? and ends with, â&#x20AC;&#x153;a dove flew right out of her mouth.â&#x20AC;?

Moore will read on Oct. 25 from 2:30â&#x20AC;&#x201D;3:30 p.m. at the Salt Lake City Main Library (210 E 400 S).

The event is free to the public. For more information about her work visit honormoore.com.

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by Tony Hobday

This year Southern Utah Pride apparently drew in 2500 people, well over double that of last year’s event. I was one of those 2500 people and let me say it was a pretty groovy pride. It took place in Springdale, Utah, a small town with quaint shops, above-par eateries and several bed & breakfast establishments. The weekend went rather smoothly if you don’t count ‘Tina Turner’ who shimmied herself right off the 4-foot stage during her performance. When she pulled herself up her lips were bigger than usual ... it was freakin’ hot!

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THURSday — The University of Utah Department of Theatre presents Taking Steps, a zany British farce

by Alan Ayckbourn. Set in a old rickety Victorian manor that was once a brothel and is suspected to be haunted, a collection of scatter-brained characters delve into a pool of selfishness, deceit and greed as only the British can do. Oh, and there could be some boogies too ... brrrr!

7:30pm, through Sunday, Studio 115 Theatre, Performing Arts Building, 240 S. 1500 East, UofU. Tickets $6–10, 581-7100 or kingtix.com.

find someone in whom to come out. Here are some suggestions: Perhaps a homeless person, your pet goldfish, Candice Bergin, the person you’re sleeping with (but don’t want to be) or the person sitting next to you at the Pride Center’s National Coming Out Day brunch. Nice segue, yes?

10:30am–12:30pm, University Marriott, 480 Wakara Way. Registration $25, 539-8800 or utahpridecenter.org.

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MOnDAY — Queer Village’s monthly gay movie night screens the 2001 French thriller A Matter of Taste. A young, handsome waiter becomes the personal food taster ... yeah baby, that’s kinky! ... to a wealthy, powerful, middle-aged man. Of course obsession and deceit drive a wedge between their “close” friendship with dangerous consequences.

7:30pm, Tower Theatre, 876 E. 900 South. Regular ticket prices, 321-0310 or towertheatre.com.

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WEDNESDAY — Last year I went to Odyssey Dance Company’s annual production of Thriller for the first time. Now, let me just say I really love this troupe, and this, their “Halloween spectacular” is extremely popular and a lot of fun. It’s silly and scary and goofy and great and well-performed.

There are some fabulous and frightening characters except for Michael Jackson ... yes, I know that was predictable, but I haven’t had sweet release in a week.

7:30pm, through Nov. 1, Kingsbury Hall, 1395 E. Presidents Circle, UofU. Tickets $20–40, 5817100 or kingtix.com.

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FRiDAY — I liked Reba McEntire’s sitcom on the CW — not only is she kind of funny, her TV son-in-law (Steve Howey) is freakin’ hot! Anyhoo, I digress. Tonight’s the night when “two worlds and two voices” come together for a whole lot of good music. Check out Reba and Kelly Clarkson do a little woman-on-woman on stage ... not 100 percent certain it’ll happen, but one can only hope.

8pm, Energy Solutions Arena, 301 W. South Temple.

Tickets $47.50–57.50, ticketmaster.com.

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Q Since 2005 the punk pop band The Pink Spiders has steadily climbed in popularity. Frontman Matt Friction is the only original member. During live sets extra members are employed to fill out the sound with vocals, keyboards, percussion and guitar, which is a unique structure.

I’m not much for punk, but I like the song “Gimme Chemicals,” there’s a soft, funny undertone to it that makes it cool. Also, Friction’s not too bad on the eyes.

6:30pm, Studio 600, 26 E. 600 South. Tickets $10, 24tix.com.

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thursDAY — So Rock Band Live 2008 should be one of the best multi-artist concerts of the year (especially since that betch Cyndi blew us off). The lineup is Plain White T’s, Panic!

At The Disco, Dashboard Confessional and The Cab. Just imagine about 18 young, sexy rockers sharing the stage together ... maybe there’ll be a little man-on-man action ... yeah baby, that’s freakin’ hot!

7pm, E Center, 3200 S. Decker Lake Dr. Tickets $29.95–39.95, 988-8800 or theecenter.com.

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FRIDAY — In Pygmalion Theatre Company’s season opener Welcome Home, Jenny Sutter, Sutter is a Marine, an Iraqi vet and an amputee. Home from the war, but not ready to face her family, she heads out on a journey of discovery. With the help of a loving and funny group of misfits in an obscure little town, she learns how to heal and value herself.

7:30pm, through Nov. 1, Black Box Theatre, Rose Wagner Center, 138 W. Broadway. Tickets $12–20, 355-ARTS or arttix. org.

october 20–24 UofU LGBT Pride Week sa.utah.edu/lgbt october 13–17 Ally Week studentorganizing.org october 24–november 2 RCGSE AIDS Awareness Week rcgse.org november 4 Election Day december 12–14 Salt Lake Men’s Choir Holiday Concert saltlakemenschoir.org january 7–11, 2009 Utah Gay & Lesbian Ski Week, Park City ­ gayskiing.org january 15–25, 2009 Sundance Film Festival, Park City ­ sundance.org february 13–15, 2009 QUAC Ski N Swim ­ quacquac.org april 17, 2009 Day Of Silence ­ dayofsilence.org June 6–7, 2009 Utah Pride ­ utahpride.org June 20, 2009 HRC Utah Gala ­ hrcutah.org July 24–26, 2009 Utah Bear Ruckus utahbears.com Email arts@­qsaltlake.com for consideration to be included in Save the Date.

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SaturDAY — The Utah Opera opens their season with the highly-acclaimed Madame Butterfly. An American naval officer marries and impregnates a Japanese girl called Butterfly. He is then conveniently shipped back home, but promises to return to her ... yeah right. You get the picture ... the pig! Sung in Italian with English subtitles.

7:30pm, through Oct. 26, Capitol Theatre, 50 W. 200 South. Tickets $13–72, 355-ARTS/arttix.org.

Q Chris Cornell & Timbaland take the stage tonight for an evening of hardcore entertainment. Cornell, once with Soundgarden and Audioslave, has gone solo. His third album Scream was produced by hip-hop artist Timbaland. Get the connection? Anyhoo, Timbaland’s “Apologize” and “The Way I Are” are freakin’ hot tunes. This should definitely be a sharp night.

Bed Buddies An interview with the stars of ‘Another Gay Sequel’

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Nico, Jarod and Griff – who came of age in director Todd Stephens’ Another Gay Movie – return to serve up an extra helping of crude-and-campy pie in Another Gay Sequel: Gays Gone Wild.

In a recent interview, the actors behind the queer quartet — Jake Mosser (Andy), Jonah Blechman (Nico), Jimmy Clabots (Jarod), and Aaron Michael Davies — reflect on filming the follow-up by pondering the vanity of porn mogul and AGS guest star Michael Lucas, discussing their own four-way love affair, offering advice on overcoming nagging insecurities and revealing the reason they can’t eat cinnamon-apple oatmeal ever again.

6:30pm, Avalon Theater, 3605 S. State Street.

Tickets $35, 467-8499 or smithstix.com.

MIKEY ROX: Before we get into the grit and grime, do you know what I had to do to land an interview with all four of you?!

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JIMMY: No, I don’t know what you had to do to get this interview, but if it involves turning off the lights in the barn and playing “Who’s in My Mouth?” then I wouldn’t be surprised.

MONDAY — NPR humorist and best-selling author David Sedaris returns to Utah for one night only. I’ve read several of his books, and my favorites are Naked and Dress Your Family in Corduroy and Denim. With sardonic wit and incisive social critiques, Sedaris has become one of America’s pre-eminent humor writers. The man is a hoot!

7:30pm, Abravanel Hall, 123 W. South Temple.

Tickets $27.50–42.50, 355-ARTS or arttix.org.

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For more info about the four-day book festival visit utahhumanities.org.

6:30pm, Sam Weller’s Bookstore, 254 S. Main Street. Free, 328-2586 or samwellers.com.

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MR: Ha! Thanks for assuming I’m some kind of self-promotional whore. Let’s get down to business. What every man watching this movie will want to know is who’s really gay and who isn’t?

JONAH: I’m queer — that’s for sure!

JIMMY: I’m not gay, but I might consider it if Cheyenne Jackson became single. I saw him in Xanadu in New York recently, and he was sublime.

AARON: Well come now, good sir! We must leave some things up to the audience’s imagination. They get to see us all engage in homoerotic sexual acts, whether or not we’re really gay. Is that not enough?

MR: Yes, I suppose it is. What made you guys take on such a charmingly raunchy role?

JIMMY: I wanted to play Jarod because I knew after reading the script that the conflict at the heart of the Jarod/Griff monogamy problem was nurtured inside this gay utopian environment where sexuality was never labored in gender specificity.

JONAH: I’m a seriously trained actor who has issues with boundaries — so why not!

AARON: I have always wanted to do a campy, fun, beachy-type movie, and Todd [Stephens’] script was just that — with a little romance and zombie action thrown in.

MR: AGS is full of guest stars, from transgender icon Amanda Lepore and American Idol alum Jim Verraros to gossip gangster Perez Hilton and drag queen RuPaul. But the one that interests me most is porn mogul Michael Lucas. He hasn’t been a fan of mine since he read a scathing op-ed I wrote about him a few years ago. Did any of you have a chance to get to know him? Is he happier these days?

JIMMY: Michael was a bit vain on set, but he had his charming moments. And every time I walked by his room at the hotel, it reeked of sex. That’s when he asked me if I’d ever considered porn. I told him Brent Corrigan already had first dibs if I ever “turned.”

AARON: He was just lovely. [coughs] No, really. I mean it.

MR: With all the raging hormones on set, there was bound to be some behind-the-

scenes action happening. Come clean — who got it on?

JIMMY: I had a girlfriend during production; we talked dirty on the phone a few times.

JONAH: I only got to fool around with Gunnar, who isn’t even in the credits.

AARON: I think there was a wonderful torrid love affair involving all of us! Honestly, I don’t think there was really all that much hooking up going on. I mean, I’ve heard a few tales, but I’m not one to kiss and tell. I’m also not one to gossip per the requests of my co-stars.

MR: With a movie like this, there’s really no time to play coy with your cast mates.

Have you all seen each other naked, and how do you preserve a professional relationship when you know what everyone’s packin’?

JIMMY: We’ve seen each other emotionally naked, yes. But I’m hung like a field mouse in a snowstorm, and everyone laughed the first time I whipped it out. I heard Lady Bunny got a lot of cervical-extensor workouts on her non-shooting days.

JAKE: You know, I don’t think I’ve seen the other guys’ junk. We all wore cock socks when we filmed the nude scenes — though I heard Aaron is the big winner on that one. But I don’t have any proof.

AARON: Mine is totally the biggest! God made some mistakes when he made the size of my body, but he made up for it in the reproductive region!

MR: The premise of this follow-up finds the four friends traveling to Ft. Lauderdale for spring break expressly to engage in activities that involve alcohol and naked men.

Anybody have a spring break story akin to the sequel to share?

JONAH: I was an Orthodox Jew during those years.

AARON: Sadly, I never got to go on a fabulous spring break until I went to Ft. Lauderdale. I’m from a white trash family in Iowa.

MR: Jonah, you reprise your role as Nico in this sequel, a character that struggles with love because he’s too feminine for others’ tastes. How much of Nico’s dilemma have you had to deal with in your dating career? How have you handled those situations?

JONAH: Thanks for asking. I don’t think he struggles with love because he’s too feminine for others, although he is off the Richter that way. I experience and can relate to his struggles with love because of how he feels ... as an alien of sorts. I relate to Nico’s queerness as a freak more than with his femininity, and bit more of

the act for me. I do have to say, I feel more comfortable in my masculinity now because of what I had to embrace for Nico’s femininity. As far as how I have handled those situations — hopefully, like Nico, with no shame and accepting and loving that I am what I am.

MR: Jake, there’s a scene in AGS that I assume, and correct me if I’m wrong, is a spoof on a spoof of The Exorcist in which you and Scott Thompson, who plays your father, discover something very unsettled about each other that causes, in the most euphemistic term possible, severe illness.

Please tell me that you only had to film that scene once.

JAKE: Oh, the vomit scene — that was one of my favorite days of shooting! Yeah, we filmed that whole thing over the course of about an hour or so. Scott was awesome.

He was all in that hot sweaty costume with watered down apple-cinnamon oatmeal all over himself. That’s what it was. The whole room smelled like it. When we did the projectile vomiting, he was just like, “Shoot it right in my face!” It was the best.

MR: Aaron, I’ll admit that I relate most to your character, Griff. He’s kinda nerdy, but he has a super sexy boyfriend. I know from personal experience that that can be tough on a brother, having to protect his man from penis hawks while trying to convince himself that he deserves such a great guy. In playing this character, do you have any advice to offer in this area?

AARON: Well I don’t think it’s ever a good thing to be insecure about yourself when you’re in a relationship. I mean, no one is confident all the time, but if it creates a barrier between you and your mate, then there is a definite problem with the foundation of the relationship. You need to be able to share your insecurities with your partner, and hopefully your partner will soothe all of your fears and give your self-confidence a boost. Holding in all of these issues will just make them fester and drive you crazier and crazier. Believe me, I know.

MK: So it sounds like the possibility of AGS: Part III is very likely. Can any of you confirm or deny? Will you be a part of it?

JONAH: I’m one of the freakin’ exec producers on this ride, so how can I not be a part of it?!

AARON: If this is as successful as we all hope it will be then I’m definitely down to take a trip to another galaxy.

JIMMY: Part three is in the works. You’ll have to wait and see.

Who is Mikey Rox? Who gives a fuck! But you can find him at www.mikeyrox.com.

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Free Night of Theatre

An Interview with Elton John

Oct. 16 This fall, theatre-goers coast to coast will attend performances presented by over 600 theatres in more than 120 cities completely free of charge through New York City-based Theatre Communications Groups national Free Night of Theater program.

NowPlayingUtah.com, in partnership with the Utah Arts Council, brings Free Night of Theatre to Utah on Thursday, October 16, 2008. The productions of six Utah theatres will be available free to first-time attendees as part of this successful national program.

By Mark Segal, Gay History Project Exclusive to QSaltLake

Mark Segal: Oscar Wilde wrote “Anybody can make history. Only a great man can write it.” Your new musical Billy Elliott certainly fits that realm, and at the same time takes on homophobia. Was that one of the issues that brought you to this project?

Elton John: The main attraction to me for Billy Elliott was the deep connection I felt with the film. Billy’s artistic and social journey had parallels with my own life and wanting to be a musician. Having said that, I find Billy’s friendship with his gay friend Michael to be genuinely touching so that was a focus for me as well.

MS: Part of your history is the Elton John AIDS Foundation. Each year you tour a country where EJAF has program. What are your most memorable thoughts from those trips?

EJ: For the past few years, my partner David Furnish and I, along with friends and colleagues from the Elton John AIDS Foundation have gone to South Africa every January. And, as you say we make a point to visit projects and organizations that are supported by EJAF. These annual trips have become not only an activity to which I look forward, but in fact give me much energy at the beginning of each year. I am always overwhelmed by the hopeful spirit that surrounds all the people with whom we come in contact — and these are people whose lives have been ravaged on so many levels by HIV/AIDS. They are children whose parents have died from AIDS. They are heads of households at 10.

They are wives whose husbands have died.

The stories go on and on and yet they carry on with such hope and dignity. It is a true inspiration and is something that helps focus my energy to continue to raise money for the Elton John AIDS Foundation to support such work all around the world.

Last year, I also traveled to the Ukraine where EJAF supports a number of projects.

In fact, during the summer of 2007 I played an outdoor concert in Kiev to raise money and awareness for our work and HIV/AIDS in general. It was so gratifying and energizing to play before such enormous and enthusiastic crowds. Earlier this year, David traveled to India with EJAF staff and other Board members to view projects we support there. David and I are very proud of the work that we are supporting in that country. This year, we look forward to traveling to Cambodia to visit projects in that country.

MS: Are there any new projects in the pipeline for EJAF?

EJ: Well, I am happy to report that since 2005 EJAF has met with ever greater fund-raising success and has increased its grant making here in the United States by 140 percent.

We have expanded not only the amount of money given but also strategically targeted key regions and populations that are poorly served by current prevention efforts and most at risk of infection including: critically under-funded communities of the southern United States, the Caribbean, and Latin America; highly marginalized populations such as injection drug users, men who have sex with men, and incarcerated individuals; and underserved populations such as Afri-

can Americans and young people.

To use a specific example, many of the grants that EJAF has made over the last couple of years reinforce and enhance our commitment to HIV/AIDS awarenessraising, prevention and treatment access programs in the Caribbean, the second-most HIV/AIDS affected region in the world after sub-Saharan Africa. In 2007 alone, 17,000 people in the Caribbean were newly infected with the virus, and as many as 230,000 Caribbean residents are currently living with HIV. It is also a region where there is tremendous stigma around HIV/AIDS. In 2007, EJAF invested more than $1.6 million in grants to this region and nearly $1.4 million so far in 2008, addressing the specific challenges of the HIV/AIDS epidemic on a variety of levels. To ameliorate prejudices and reduce stigma faced by people with HIV/ AIDS, EJAF partnered with the Kaiser Family Foundation and the Ford Foundation to help establish the Caribbean Broadcast Media Partnership on HIV/AIDS (CBMP). Since its launch in May 2006, the CBMP has grown to include more than 80 leading broadcasters from 25 Caribbean countries and territories across the region, in an unprecedented collaboration to develop a coordinated media response to AIDS. CBMP broadcast members have made HIV/AIDS a business priority, and they air HIV content across all programming genres, delivering important messages about tolerance and HIV prevention to an estimated audience of some 40 million people.

With the new grant just awarded in early September, the CBMP will be expanding its efforts into Haiti, the country most affected

by HIV/AIDS in the Western Hemisphere.

So, I am very pleased that EJAF can not only maintain its commitments to funding projects at the front lines here in the United States, but can also expand to areas in desperate need such as the Caribbean region.

MS: If I’d ask someone from the United States about gay history they most likely would mention the Stonewall riots in 1969. Many in Britain might think of Oscar Wilde’s trials in 1895. When I say gay history what comes to your mind?

EJ: For me, I would have to say that when I think of gay history I immediately think of my own civil partnership with my partner David. When civil partnerships became possible in the United Kingdom, it was very important for David and I to be able to do this on the first day it was possible. I really felt part of something genuinely progressive and

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groundbreaking and we were also so totally overwhelmed and heartened by the positive support we received across the board from the press, my fans, the people of Great Britain and literally the world over!

MS: Ray Charles, The Beatles and Sir Elton John are all musical history. Charles will be known mostly by his music. The Beatles will be remembered for their musical invasion of the United States. How would you want history to remember you?

EJ: I would like to be remembered very simply as a good person.

MS: Over the last few years you’ve been outspoken on a number of issues and causes: AIDS and HIV of course, gay marriage and even sexism. Can your own history in the gay community teach us anything?

EJ: We can certainly continue to make tremendous strides by positively pulling together as a community and directing our energy toward the issues that really matter. I always say that life is about building bridges not walls.

MS: Part of our struggle is the right for equality. You stood up for equality when you and David married in Windsor. Any advice for those battling in California for that right?

EJ: I would say that ultimately we should not be deterred by those who do not want us to gain equal footing in society. The path to that day of victory will not be easy and there will be those individuals who will try and stand in the way of progress. But, I feel that over time the ideals of equality for gay men and women — in this case to marry — will prevail. So, don’t lose sight of what is right.

MS: On a light note, how does it feel to be a married man?

EJ: Wonderful! As I said, David and I deliberately chose to have our civil partnership on the very first day that this became legal and possible in Great Britain; however, after all the excitement died down, we both felt incredibly content and secure in the knowledge that mainstream British society now supported our relationship.

Editor’s Note: Mark Segal is Publisher of the Philadelphia Gay News and in 2005 produced Philadelphia’s Official July 4th concert which starred Sir Elton John, Pattie Labelle and Bryan Adams and raised $1000,000 for the EJAF and $100,000 for local HIV/AIDS organizations.

Participating Theatres: Egyptian Theatre Company’s Pageant, Park City Grand Theatres The Ark, Salt Lake City Plan-B Theatre Company’s Radio Hour: Frankenstein, Salt Lake City Pygmalion Theatre Company’s Welcome Home Jenny Sutter, Salt Lake City Salt Lake Acting Companys A Slight Discomfort, Salt Lake City Utah Shakespearean Festival’s Moonlight and Magnolias, Cedar City Its simple to reserve seats for some of the hottest shows in Utah.

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Auditions Pioneer Theatre Company PTC announces local auditions for their upcoming production of Romeo & Juliet. All those auditioning will be asked to read from the script. Scripts will be available for check out from the PTC Business Office (Room 325) on Monday, Oct. 13, 2008. Audition sides will be available at the same time. Scripts may be checked out on an overnight basis from the theatre offices located in Room 325 at Simmons PMT. A photo and resume are recommended. For more information please visit the PTC web site: www.pioneertheatre.org.

When: Oct. 20 1-2pm — AEA (Equity) members-only 2-5pm — Non-Equity members Where: Room 237 at the Simmons Pioneer Memorial Theatre, 300 S. 1400 East, UofU. All those auditioning must sign up for an audition time slot on the board inside Room 325.

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2003 serve as reminders that even our favorite “watering hole” can become dangerous under the wrong conditions.

The first case is the The Epitome Chicago and its upstairs dance floor E2.

Epitome Chicago was a popular nightclub in Chicago until Feb. 13, 2003, when a stampede occurred in which 21 people were killed and more than 50 injured.

The investigation determined that the initial cause of the stampede was the use of pepper spray to break up a fight which caused a panic. The patrons were not killed by fire but by being trampled to death or falling and being suffocated by others who fell on top of them. There were several exits but all of the patrons rushed for the narrow main entrance which became a death trap.

The second incident happened a week later in Rhode Island at a night club called The Station. Pyrotechnics used by the band Great White during their performance set the ceiling on fire. Again most of the patrons rushed for the main entrance and many fell, getting trampled with bodies soon blocking the entrance.

In this incident 100 people died and 200 were injured.

In both of these incidents overcrowding played a significant role as did clubbers’ attempts to all use the same door to leave.

With theses incidents in mind here are eight steps you can take to stay safe in a night club: 1. Before you enter a club, look around.

Does the building appear to be structurally sound? Are the exits well-lit and free of obstructions? Is the main entrance wide and do the doors open outward for easy exiting?

2. When entering a club note all of the exits. This can help prevent the logjamming effect we saw in the disasters mentioned above.

3. Also notice how crowded the room is.

Big crowds generate a lot of energy and can be fun. But if the club has so many people that it is over legal capacity, this can be potentially deadly. If the occupant load is too high, the club feels too crowded, you see a locked exit door or any other fire hazards ask for your money back and leave.

4. Make sure aisles leading to the exits are wide enough to navigate and not obstructed by chairs or furniture. Make sure the exits are not blocked or chained shut. If there are not at least two clearly

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5. Have an emergency communication plan with your friends so if there is a problem and you get separated you will know where to meet outside the club.

6. Remember that being intoxicated reduces your chances of survival in emergency situations and creates a burden for your friends.

7. Heat sources such as burning candles, pyrotechnics and even cigarettes can create a fire hazard. Notice if the club has fire safety systems such as sprinklers and smoke alarms. If it doesn’t, consider going to a club that does.

8. React instantly if an alarm sounds — don’t wait and see what other people do. If you see smoke, fire or other unusual disturbances immediately exit the building in an orderly fashion. Use the closest exit. Once you have exited, do not re-enter the building under any circumstances. Let trained emergency personnel conduct rescue operations. Your life depends on it.

Take the time to familiarize yourself with the clubs you frequently go to so that you know what to do if the unexpected happens.

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David Daniels was out for the Utah AIDS Foundation AIDS Walk. More photos are available on his Web site at daviddanielsphotography.com

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David Daniels was also at the Equality Utah annual Allies Dinner which drew over 1,200 guests.

QSex Transgender Love

by Joseph Dewey

When I was out of the state a few months ago, I visited a transgender bar.

My friend and I found this place looking for somewhere to talk over a couple of drinks. It was a small-ish fun bar with people singing show tunes. Now, show tunes arenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t my cup of tea usually, but the bar was a good place to talk, and my friend had some stories to tell.

I have to admit that I really donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t know much about transgender people. Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ve only ever talked with a few, and I donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t know much about the terminology, so please forgive me if I sound uneducated, because I am. I googled the words transgender, transsexual, cross dressing and drag queens, to learn a little. From what I can tell, transgender is a catch-all term that could encompass all of the terms above. I did learn you should address the person as the gender theyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re presenting.

But Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;m still confused. Take a male-tofemale person whoâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s transitioning and sometimes presents as either gender.

Should I say that â&#x20AC;&#x153;sheâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s a transgender womanâ&#x20AC;? and â&#x20AC;&#x153;heâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s a transgender manâ&#x20AC;? depending on how s/he is dressed? Or am I supposed to spell out everything about this personâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s gender identity and orientation?

Should I say, â&#x20AC;&#x153;Sheâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s a transgender maleto-female person whose gender identity is female, but doesnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t identify as transsexual.

Sheâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s presenting as a woman. Her sexual identity is homosexual, because she technically has all male parts, and sheâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s at the bar with her boyfriend?â&#x20AC;? And is her sexual identity homosexual or heterosexual, because even though she has male parts, she identifies her gender as female? Or can I simplify, saying, â&#x20AC;&#x153;Sheâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s a transgender woman at the bar with her boyfriend?â&#x20AC;?

Itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s still very new to me.

But back to my story at the transgender bar. I looked across the bar and saw a happy couple singing along with the performer: a transgender woman with her boyfriend. They were laughing blissfully like couples do when theyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re on a romantic date, and gave each other dollar bills

with which to tip the singer. It seemed so simple: They were happy and in love.

But then I always analyze things and try to look at everything from tons of different perspectives. I wonder what itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s like for a guy to fall in love with a transgender woman. If a guy strongly identifies as either gay or straight, heâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s probably got a lot of mental adjusting to do at first. Men of just about any orientation can be very single-minded like that.

Then I looked around the bar, and I saw her â&#x20AC;&#x201D; a transgender woman who reminded me of someone. Like the couple, she was sitting with her friends, intently watching the performers, singing along with the show tunes and generally having a good time.

I realized then that she reminded me of a girl Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ve had a crush on for as long as I can remember. So long, in fact, that I canâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t remember a time when I havenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t had a crush on her (though Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ve never told her about it).

Then, the transgender woman looked over at me across the bar, and we stared each other in the eyes for what seems like a long time. You know when you meet someone and feel as though you can tell so much about them, just from a little intense eye contact? Well, thatâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s what happened to me.

And after we broke eye contact, I realized that this transgender woman reminded me more than ever of my childhood crush. It was like my crush was there, in that out-of-state bar, fixated on me longingly, like Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;d been hoping that she would for my entire life. Needless to say I had to do a little mental adjusting.

Meanwhile, my friend continued the story, unaware that anything so interesting was happening. As my friend spoke I kept locking eyes with the woman across the bar. My friend finished the tale and we paid for our drinks. On our way out, I stopped at the door for one last look.

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Conflict Resolution Day is Thursday, Oct. 16

by Kathy Elton

Thinking about conflict resolution begs the question: â&#x20AC;&#x153;How do you resolve conflict?â&#x20AC;? If you are like most, you try to avoid conflict at all costs, hoping it will go away. Well, sorry to say, conflict does not typically go away, but festers until it is dealt with. So, if conflict is so unpleasant, why would we want to celebrate it with a day of its own? The Association for Conflict Resolution sponsors Conflict Resolution Day as a way to raise public understanding of conflict resolution and to enhance the practice of alternative dispute resolution.

One form of alternative dispute resolution (alternative to traditional litigation as a way to resolve conflict) is mediation.

What is mediation? Mediation is a process in which two or more parties in conflict come together with a third party (the mediator) to discuss their conflict and possible ways to resolve it. The mediator works with the parties to help them communicate and stay focused on the issue at hand. Unlike other conflict resolution processes the mediator does not take sides, give advice or make decisions for the parties. The mediator plays the role of an unbiased third party. If any agreement is reached it is the parties who craft it.

Mediation has many advantages over traditional litigation. Because the parties craft the resolution to the conflict, they are more likely to live up to their agreements and usually feel better about the resulting agreements because they had a part in creating them. Mediation is also a process which costs less than traditional litigation and is usually quicker than waiting for a court date.

In Utah there are mediation programs which are offered at low or no-cost to parties involved in conflict. These programs are: Landlord Tenant Mediation Program: This program is available in Salt Lake

County and is run by the Salt Lake Community Action Program. The program offers free mediation to landlords and/ or tenants who are involved in a dispute over housing. For more information contact Josie Turner at (801) 359-2444.

Small Claims Mediation: Utah Dispute Resolution (UDR) manages mediation programs in several venues around the state of Utah. Mediations are conducted by volunteer mediators at no cost to participants. For a list of venues with dates and times visit: utahdisputeresolution. org Community Mediation: Utah Dispute Resolution provides mediation services for a wide range of community disputes.

Examples of disputes are: Neighbors who have issues about noise, disturbances, animals, and property boundaries and Consumers and merchants who have issues about product and service performances, payments, and debts or loans.

For more information on this program contact UDR at utahdisputeresolution.org or 801-532-4841.

To learn more about options for resolving conflict come to the Conflict Resolution Day Open House at Kathy Elton Consulting (120 East 4800 South, suite 200) on Thursday, October 16, 2008 between 10:00 a.m. and 7:00 p.m. We will have information on the programs listed above and others which might be of interest to you.

Kathy Elton Consulting is the only mediation provider in Utah specializing in working with the GLBT Community. We can help with any type of dispute: Relationship, family, workplace etc. We also host a monthly â&#x20AC;&#x153;GLBT Conflict Dialogueâ&#x20AC;? on the first Thursday of each month at 6:30 p.m. Conflict Dialogues are offered free and are designed to give members of the GLBT Community and those who support them a chance to get together and share the opportunities and challenges they find when dealing with conflict. For more information contact us at (801) 230-8437.

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My job frequently requires me to drive long distances, often through long stretches of desert with no good scenery to look at of either the lush forest or beefcake kind. So, I have long periods of solitude where I let my imagination soar to lofty heights. I daydream of a world where I am Queen of Everything, and rule perfectly with a velvet glove. I also listen to audio books.

I just finished the Harry Potter series, with which I have been totally engrossed.

What a fun romp, listening to a story about a whole class of people who are different than the majority and must hide their special talents. No wonder most of us can relate.

Now that I think of it, the Hogwarts crowd could do fabulous magic that even Samantha Stevens could not twitch her nose at. Not that I’m trying to belittle Bewitched — I hold that show in special reverence. As a young princess-in-training I remember being very envious of Endora and her incredible outfits.

In fact, I try to emulate her to this day. And Uncle Arthur, well ... enough said!

But Harry, Ron and Hermione have an act in which I can truly immerse myself: doing wonderful magic to confound the stupid, and to confront evil. Really, they just need a queenly makeover to get some flashier robes and audacious jewelry. Perchance a rhinestone-studded wand? I mean Hermione’s already off to a good start: Her bottomless purse must be the envy of all queens everywhere. I know I’m jealous! And speaking of beefcake, how about Fred and George, the he road to

Bliss Nightlife. . . . . . . . . . 860-1083 Weasley twins? Oh, have I ever mentioned my twin fetish?

As you probably know, each book gets progressively more and more gripping with higher doses of intrigue, treachery and violence. Just like backstage at a drag show!

I don’t want to give the plot away for the solitary remaining person who has not yet read the series so I’ll just say this: In the last book several characters we have come to love and almost see as family are maimed or killed as Lord Voldemort and the forces of darkness attack Hogwarts School of Witchcraft and Wizardry.

As the dreadful and horrifying battle escalates, it appears that Hogwarts and its inhabitants are doomed for ultimate annihilation. The citizens of Hogsmead Village, rather than fleeing into the forest for safety, instead proceed en-mass, young and old, man and woman, human and animal, wizard and witch to stand with the students in the battle of all that is right and good in the world against the forces of darkness and evil.

I couldn’t help but liken that situation to us here in Utah: we citizens marching tens of thousands strong from St. George, Vernal, Logan and every city, singing anthems of freedom and justice, and converging at the state capitol building (our Hogwarts) to demand the defeat of the dark and oppressive forces of Lord Voldemort (Gayle Ruzicka and Chris Buttars).

I was a little unprepared for just how strongly I was affected by this imagery. Not since reading Where the Red Fern Grows in elementary school have I had such a volu-

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minous release from the tear ducts. It was like driving through a monsoonal downpour, except the windshield wipers were useless. So here I am at 2:30 in the morning, approaching beautiful downtown Wamsutter, Wyoming (population 75 jackrabbits and one coyote), crying like somebody just canceled my account at Maybelline while trying not to bounce off the orange barrels in the construction zone like the ball in a pin ball machine. Thank God for waterproof mascara! I certainly wouldn’t want to have a wreck while looking like Tammy Faye Baker. I would much prefer a more staged, Marilyn Monroe effect.

I needed to stop for gas. It took me at least 10 minutes to “butch it up” enough to go into the store and replenish my Diet Coke. I planned on getting in and out very quickly so that no one could really see me in such an emotional state. It didn’t help matters when the clerk was one of those drop dead gorgeous strapping farm boy types. He could brandish my “wand” anytime! Of course, I was obligated to stare being the lecherous queen I am. And “Mr. Future Farmer of America” must have been bored because he was all intent on chatting. Well, so much for making a discrete and speedy get-away.

Where is that confounded invisibility cloak when you need it?

Under normal conditions I’m all for flirting with the straight boys. It’s so cute because most of the time they have no clue what’s going on. But my powers of charm and grace were greatly diminished at this time. I just hope the clerk thought that my eyes were bloodshot from driving too long, not from having an emotional meltdown.

After some pleasant yet awkward banter with boy wonder, I returned to the truck and, armed with my potion of Diet Coke, drove off into the dark abyss of Wyoming, continuing the good fight against the forces of evil.

As always, this story leaves us with many important questions: 1. Is making a kid read Where the Red Fern Grows in elementary school emotional abuse?

2. Do they use a sorting hat to divide the legislature between Democrats and Republicans?

3. Are the Republicans the Slytherins?

4. How fast do eye drops get the red out?

5. Would a Wyoming farm boy appreciate a lesson in “wand” handling?

6. Do I need a superhero costume to fight the forces of evil?

7. Should it be made of spandex? Oh joy!

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