QSaltLake Magazine - 140 - Oct. 29, 2009

Transgender Awareness Month

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Utahns March on Washington

Salt Lake City Has an Outie

Hate Crime Bill Goes to Obama for Signature

SLC Council District 3 Election Down to Wire

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In This Issue

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ISSUE 140 • October 29, 2009

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National . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 4 Local. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 6

Guest Editorial. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 15 Ruby Ridge. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 16 Snaps & Slaps. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 16 Creep of Week. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 17 Lambda Lore . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 18 The Straight Line. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 19 Gay Geeks . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 20

Gay Agenda . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 28 Restaurant Review. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 32 Dining Guide . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 33 Crossword, Cryptogram. . . . . . . . . 38 Comics . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 38 Qdoku. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 41 Anagram. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 34 Jacin Tales. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 43 Puzzle Answers. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 43 The Back Page. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 44

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Mainers Split on Nov. 3 Marriage Vote

Maine voters are split 48 percent to 48 percent on Question 1, the measure on the Nov. 3 ballot that would use the state’s “people’s veto” to stop the new law that legalized same-sex marriage from taking effect.

The remainder of those questioned in a new Public Policy Polling survey said they were undecided. The margin of error was plus or minus 2.9 percent.

Seventy-four percent of Republicans plan to vote yes, which would block same-sex marriage. Only 25 percent of Democrats said they will vote yes. Fifty percent of independents oppose Question 1 and 44 percent support it.

Older voters support the measure 54 percent to 40 percent, and there is a 10point gender gap: 53 percent of men but only 43 percent of women plan to block gay couples from marrying.

The poll also found a race gap. Fortynine percent of whites support samesex marriage, with 47 percent opposed.

Nonwhites, however, support depriving gays of marriage by a margin of 55 percent to 35 percent. According to census. gov, Maine is 96.4 percent white. Ninetythree percent of the 1,130 people polled were white.

“The fate of Question 1 is going to be decided by which side does a better job of mobilizing their supporters to get out and vote,” said Public Polling President Dean Debnam. “Voters in the state know where they stand on the issue and now it’s just an issue of who shows up.”

Meanwhile, the TV ad war continues.

The anti-gay-marriage side has continued to hammer away with the same campaign that worked with Proposition 8 in California, warning voters that if same-sex marriage is legal, schoolchildren will be subjected to inappropriate lessons on gay topics.

State Education Commissioner Susan Gendron asked state Attorney General Janet Mills to look into that claim and, on Oct. 15, Mills reported: “I have scoured Maine laws relating to the education of its children for any references

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Hundreds of thousands marched on Washington, D.C. for the National Equality March, called by activist Cleve Jones at the Utah Pride Festival last June. PHOTO: B. Elenor

to marriage in the public school curricula. I have found none.”

The pro-gay-marriage side’s TV ads reflect a degree of awareness of what went wrong for the gay side in the California Prop 8 battle.

Unlike in California, the gay side’s TV ads in Maine portray gay people and gay families. The gay side’s Maine campaign also is responding to the charges in the anti-gay side’s ads much more quickly than the No on 8 campaign did in California.

Nonetheless, in the blogosphere and on campaign-related mailing lists, there are routine expressions of concern over whether the gay side’s ads are “hardhitting” enough to neutralize the opponents’ tactics. There also is concern that the anti-gay side is driving the discourse, with the gay side placed in the position of responding to charges rather than proactively presenting its own case.

But NO on 1/Protect Maine Equality Campaign Manager Jesse Connolly says he believes the gay campaign is on the right track.

“We feel really confident about where this campaign is headed,” he told The Rachel Maddow Show on Oct. 20. “We feel that the combination of our field effort that’s been going on for the past year and the paid media that we’ve been pushing will really sort of make sure Maine Gay Marriage that Maine voters understand just how Referendum Donations critical it is to vote no this November 3rd.”

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400 Counterprotest Phelpses in San Diego Around 400 people staged a counterprotest against six picketers from Kansas’ anti-gay Westboro Baptist Church on Oct. 16 outside San Diego High School.

Local blogger Mike Tidmus said the counterprotesters carried “flags, bullhorns and colorful signs and banners with positive, upbeat and occasionally humorous slogans.”

Westboro demonstrator Shirley Phelps-Roper told The San Diego UnionTribune that President Barack Obama “is the Antichrist.”

“He uses the White House as a bully pulpit to push fags and Jews,” she said.

Lesbian Banned from Wearing Tux in Yearbook Photo The Wesson Attendance Center, an elementary and high school in Wesson, Miss., has refused to publish lesbian Ceara Sturgis’ senior photo in the yearbook because she’s wearing a tuxedo.

The American Civil Liberties Union has threatened to sue over the matter but Copiah County School District Superintendent Ricky Clopton has refused to back down.

“We are informed by counsel that this exact issue has been litigated in federal court,” he said in a statement. “The decisions of the federal courts completely support the policy of the district in this regard.”

The ACLU said the school’s action violates Sturgis’ rights to freedom of expression and equal protection under the law.

Sturgis is a member of the National Honor Society, a trumpet player in the band and a goalie on the soccer team.

These incidents were expressions of outrage against those who disagreed with the gay-rights position and had prevailed in a public contest. As such, these incidents of “violence and intimidation” are not so much anti-religious as antidemocratic. In their effect they are like the well-known and widely condemned voter-intimidation of blacks in the South that produced corrective federal civilrights legislation.”

—LDS Elder Dallin H. Oaks in a controversial speech at BYU-Idaho on Oct. 13, in which he condemned vandalism and harassment in the wake of Proposition 8.

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How many Mormons were lynched after Prop 8?

How many Temples were firebombed?”

—Sex advice columnist Dan Savage, expressing outrage at Oaks’ invocation of the civil rights movement.

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The Mormons might have something in common with one group of people during the civil rights era.

But it’s not the minority that was oppressed by people who tried to impose their own small-minded views on a group of people they didn’t like.”

—Gay blogger and pundit John Aravosis on his blog, Americablog.

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I wish the language used could help people hear one another rather than revving up their own constituents.

Extremes on both sides make that dialogue difficult. We still have to live and work together.”

—First Amendment Center religious liberty scholar Charles Haynes, as quoted in the Salt Lake Tribune, talking about the ongoing struggle between religious groups and gay rights groups over such issues as legalizing gay marriage.

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If you are able, please join me this week in offering up prayer and penance for the morally destructive and offensive play being presented by a school in my diocese this weekend.”

—Fr. Erik Richtsteig, pastor of Ogden’s St. James the Just Catholic Church, on Judge Memorial High School’s production of a toned-down version of Rent on Orthometer.

Hate-crime Law Sent to Obama The U.S. Senate sent a gay- and transinclusive hate-crimes law to President Barack Obama on Oct. 23, attached to the 2010 defense-spending bill.

“We look forward to President Obama signing ... into law our nation’s first major piece of civil rights legislation for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people,” said Human Rights Campaign President Joe Solmonese. “Too many in our community have been devastated by hate violence. We now can begin the important steps to erasing hate in our country.”

The Matthew Shepard and James Byrd, Jr. Hate Crimes Prevention Act, which Obama plans to sign, will: • Give the Justice Department the power to investigate and prosecute bias-motivated violence where the perpetrator selected the victim because of the person’s actual or perceived race, color, religion, national origin, gender, sexual orientation, gender identity or disability.

• Provide the Justice Department with the ability to assist state and local

jurisdictions or, if necessary, take the lead in investigations and prosecutions of bias-based violent crime that results in death or serious injury.

• Make grants available to state and local jurisdictions to combat violent crimes committed by juveniles, train law enforcement officers and assist in investigations and prosecutions of hate crimes.

National Gay and Lesbian Task Force Executive Director Rea Carey called the measure’s passage “a milestone for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender Americans.”

“With his signature, President Obama will usher in a new era ... in which hate-motivated violence against (LGBT) people will no longer be tolerated,” she said. “Our country will finally take an unequivocal stand against the bigotry that too often leads to violence against LGBT people, simply for being who they are.”

The late Matthew Shepard’s mother, Judy, said, “Hate crimes continue to affect far too many Americans who are

simply trying to live their lives honestly, and they need to know that their government will protect them from violence and provide appropriate justice for victims and their families.”

Judy Shepard and her husband, Dennis, have campaigned for the inclusion of LGBT people in federal hate-crimes law for more than a decade. Matthew

Shepard was murdered in Laramie, Wyo., in 1998 in what became the highest-profile anti-gay hate crime in U.S. history.

James Byrd Jr. was a black man who was murdered in Jasper, Texas in 1998.

He was beaten, stripped naked, chained by the ankles to a pickup truck and dragged for three miles.

HUD Launches Gay Projects

HUD’s new rules will: U.S. Housing and Urban Development • Clarify that the term “family” as Secretary Shaun Donovan announced used to describe eligible beneficiaries of a series of proposals Oct. 21 to ensure the public-housing and Housing Choice that HUD’s housing programs do not Voucher programs includes otherwisediscriminate on the basis of sexual ori- eligible LGBT individuals and couples.

• Require grantees and those who parentation or gender identity.

“The evidence is clear that some are ticipate in the department’s programs denied the opportunity to make hous- to comply with local and state nondising choices in our nation based on who crimination laws that cover sexual orithey are and that must end,” Donovan entation or gender identity.

• Specify that any Federal Housing said. “President Obama and I are determined that a qualified individual Administration-insured mortgage loan and family will not be denied housing must be based on the creditworthiness choice based on sexual orientation or of a borrower and not on unrelated facgender identity.” tors or characteristics such as sexual prop1ad_q 6:05 PM Page orientation 1 Following a10/13/09 public-comment period, or gender identity. Q

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Utahns March at Home and on Washington On Oct. 11, more than 200,000 gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people and straight allies converged on Washington, D.C. to demand equal federal rights for all Americans regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity.

The National Equality March drew an estimated 200,000 people from across the country.

For those several Utahns that made it to Washington, D.C. a few have generously provided QSaltLake with photographs and their accounts of the day.

See the photos in the QScene section, page 30.

Dominique Storni On Friday, I arrived at BaltimoreWashington International Airport at 4:30 p.m., but didn’t get to my hotel room until 7 p.m. It was warm so I took a quick shower, got all girly and walked to the TG Meet & Greet, hosted by National Transgender Advocacy Coalition at their national headquarters.

Saturday was a full day. I took the Metro and walked to Gallaudet University for the TG Caucus. It was organized

by TG youth and hosted by San Franciscan David McElhatton. I ran into Jude, Di and Bonnie from the Pride Center.

I also finally met many transgender activists in-person that I have known online for years. It was brilliant.

When the caucus was done, Jude, Bonnie and Di convinced me to go to the Youth Speak Out next door. What a great Idea. I was able to relive my lost youth, make peace with that past part of me, and see the future of our queer community. Let me tell you that our future is in good hands. I have never seen such powerful speeches. Gallaudet

University is the world leader in liberal education and career development for deaf and hard-of-hearing undergraduate students. Events were organized by the Gallaudet gay-straight alliance and our own Chloe Noble and Jill Hardman, who have been walking across the country to raise awareness of queer homeless youth since May. Three speeches were given by Gallaudet students, and it was amazing to see their passion and hear the passion of their words through the translator. I was moved to tears every time.

Saturday night, Eric Ethington and I went to the HRC National Gala, but it was sold out. So we settled for gathering footage and pictures of the protest outside. There were the usual Christians calling us to repentance and the hecklers who tried to silence them, as well as a group of queer people protesting HRC. They were upset at HRC for spending more time and money on galas and kissing-up to politicians, and wanted more inclusion for everyone.

They were chanting that it is time to quit asking and time to start demanding.

Next, the police started setting up a safe perimeter for President Obama’s autocade. They lined up their motorcycles and started moving the crowd backward. The leader of the group shouted thorough his megaphone that they had a permit and refused to move.

Almost as if rehearsed, the front line all sat down in unison. Eric and I were up close, right on top of them taking pictures. We really thought there was going to be a small riot or something.

The police were taking control and the group was taking the sidewalk. I felt like I had been rushed back to the ’70s anti-war protests. What an adrenaline rush! The police needed 20 more feet, but the group would not back up any further.

But cooler heads prevailed and everyone agreed to disagree. The police protected the president and the group respectfully gave more speeches.

On Sunday, it was time for the march.

We went to the staging location early, around 9:30 a.m. I spent a lot of time working my way through the crowd from start to finish, like a butterfly going from flower to flower, absorbing as much as possible. I wanted to experience with all six senses as many queer and queer-affirming spirits as I could.

At one time, I stood on a light pole in front of the White House for nearly an hour just taking pictures, smiling, laughing and crying. I would jump down occasionally to take pictures and then jump right back up for a bird’s eye

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view. Tears come to my eyes just remembering as I write. It was one of the most brilliant experiences of my life.

H. Rachelle Graham Marina Gomberg The world has always been a mysterious place for me, and especially before I realized I’m a big old lezzie. You see, I’ve always been skeptical (firmly believing at 3 years old that reading involved looking at pages, following little squiggly lines with one’s finger and making up a story), but the whole “liking boys” phenomenon really had me in a quandary. My lack of butterflies when kissing boys lead me to believe one of two things must be happening: 1) Everyone was lying about the existence of romantic love, or 2) I was dead inside. Having thought before that reading was a lie and subsequently learning otherwise, I leaned towards the latter. It seemed simple. Discouraging, but simple.

Part and parcel of my skepticism has been my inherent disbelief in a higher power. The notions of deities in the sky, death and rebirth, a collective energy, or even karma have never resonated much with me. That is, until the National Equality March. Never before have I felt such power; never before have I felt so connected.

I realized our differences meant nothing as people from around the country converged into a raging river of humanity flowing down Pennsylvania Ave. to our nation’s capitol. We had all lined up with our respective groups waiting to step off, but it wasn’t long before the boundaries of our associations dissipated. The LGBTQ Jews were soon yelling trans chants and Utahns hollered the Spanish chants of our fellow Latino marchers.

We were peaceful, we were powerful and we were one.

I’ve had ah-ha moments like this before when I learned the alphabet and when I first kissed a girl. I realized that those little squiggles on the page do mean something and that I’m not, in fact, dead inside. And because of the National Equality March, I now know that there is a unique power in unity — one that transcends our individual efforts. Perhaps that doesn’t make me religious, per se, but can I get an amen?!

“I don’t get it, why is this so important to you?” My dad narrowed his eyes. He was supportive of me, but being gay was something foreign to him. He wasn’t a Bible-thumping creationist, but rather an atheist evolutionist. But he still had no idea what it was like for me growing up as a lesbian Mormon. “You’re not rich, you can’t be a worldwide traveler,” he added.

My journey to D.C. started the day I went to the Operation Shine event at the Utah Pride Center in July. Here I met two courageous women willing to sacrifice their cozy indoor dwellings to face a life on the streets. They suffered blisters, aching feet and starvation for forgotten, gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender homeless teens, who had no night shelter to call home.

I resolved to help these youth. I wrote poetry and donated time and money, and served as one of the leaders of the National Equality March youth team.

A few months later, I sat on the grass at the nation’s capitol and listened to youth after youth speak about their hardships of coming out as gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender in their homes and communities. Some were homeless, some struggled to stay alive; some had happier stories, but all were fighting for their lives. I was so moved. I faced my fears and held back my shakiness to face the podium where I spent most of my five minutes pretending to study the length of the grass. I spoke about my struggle with being a lesbian and Mormon, and how that struggle had led me to attempted suicide.

The mob of the National Equality March was a little more difficult for me. But I never felt more alive chanting and dancing with the youth. During the huge Sunday march, someone accidentally tripped me. I fell face first into the gravel, skinning my knees and my hands. Later that day, I went to the airport with a frown on my face, tears of pain running down my cheeks and vomit on my shirt. My feet were aching so hard I had to ask for a wheelchair just to get to my gate.

My dad picked me up from the airport and noticed I had no luggage with me because it was stolen.

“Was it worth it?� he asked.

I threw my plastic sack on the ground and then tore off my shoes before answering, “Of course.�

hooligans, and we had our moment. A moment of coalescing, of re-branding, of focusing, and lighting a fire under a new generation of fighters, And every moment was delicious. From hearing our newly adopted Cynthia Nixon on through to Scott McCoy, who made me so proud to be from a state that isn’t my native one, and on to the surprisingly pointed speech from Lady Gaga. It was a long, hot, fabulously wonderful day. It wrapped up with curry at the Station, and a satisfied, exhausted subway ride home, back to Dupont, to celebrate the day some more. I came home with a new fire. Anyone who claims that the march was a waste of space and time just wasn’t there. The value of lighting that fire under the old guard and the new was worth every dime, every moment the organizers put into making this march forward a reality. It was magnificent.

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It was delightful, and transformational.

The entire experience. From waking up in a town of every shape, size and hue outside of the cookie cutter, white bread world of Salt Lake City; walking to the march past the HRC headquarters with cookie cutter queers outside scraping madly at the overnight paint bombs plastered over their logo, and on to the march. Standing in a sea of queers, surrounded by kin and allies, moving in step with dear, dear friends, surprised along the way by lovely, smart, sassy, angry, poignant, flippant, funny signs and people. Passing the White House with a mixture of disappointment and a dash of hope, and seeing the capitol building rising up before us as we marched forward, past pink gorillas and furry chickens, and beautiful multi-racial straight couples holding signs saying, “Our marriage was once illegal, too.�

I had chills, and tears, and laughter, and I marched on forward to the hill of

Many gay and transgender Utahns and straight allies were unable to attend the national march, and just two days prior, the Utah Pride Center announced a local Equality March. The short notice and the cool, damp wather may have played a factor in the outcome of the Salt Lake City march, approximately 100 attended. The morning started out with three keynote speakers on the Utah Pride Center grounds: Will Carlson, Joni Weiss and Jeff Key. Each presented very different, yet very cohesive speeches.

Then the small turn-out took to 300 South and marched along a zig-zag route to Club Sound, where they were welcomed to watch the coverage in Washington, D.C. with a cocktail, water and pizza. Along the route, marchers chanted “What to we Want? Equality.

When do we want it? Now!� to motorists and the modest crowd of pedestrians along the way — mind you, it was Sunday in downtown Salt Lake City.

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News Equality Utah Calls for Support of SLC Nondiscrimination Ordinance Utah’s statewide gay and transgender rights group is asking members of the gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender community to let the Salt Lake City Council know that they support two recently introduced ordinances barring workplace and housing discrimination in the city based on sexual orientation and gender identity.

The proposed ordinances would create processes for receiving and investigating discrimination complaints, which could be resolved either through a mediation process or a fine of up to $1,000.

The Human Rights Commission would also track complaints and their outcomes in annual reports to gage their effectiveness. However, neither ordinance grants individuals the right to bring suit in court. Religious organizations, small businesses with fewer than 15 employees and landlords owning smaller units would be exempt from the ordinance.

Salt Lake City Mayor Ralph Becker proposed what was then a single ordinance addressing both forms of discrimination in July after the city’s Human Rights Commission released a report.

The report mentioned that all forms of

‘Sister Dottie’ Actor Hospitalized Charles Lynn Frost, known most recently as Sister Dottie S. Dixon, has been hospitalized with complications due to pneumonia. The Pygmalion Theatre Company announced the postponement of the Monday, Oct. 19 show after Frost suddenly became ill following a successful Sunday night show. The company announced the postponement of the remaining shows the following day.

Frost was diagnosed with the H1N1 flu and pneumonia and spent four days in the intensive care unit — two of which he was on a respirator. He returned home on Sunday, Oct. 25 Frost’s doctors and family expect a full recovery and plan on completing the remaining six shows of The Passion of Sister Dottie S. Dixon, which had been running since Oct. 1.

The company is asking those holding tickets for one of the remaining shows to hold onto them for an eventual restaging, expected in January. Refunds are also available through ArtTix at 801-355ARTS. “We expect Sister Dottie will rise again after Charles has made a full recovery,” show co-writer Troy Williams said in a released statement. “Also, in the interest of Charles Lynn Frost’s family, we respectfully ask that his fans and those of Sister Dottie give him time to recover. Thank you for your support and prayers.”

discrimination, and especially discrimination based on race, sexual orientation and gender identity, were widespread problems within city limits.

Currently, state law does not include gay and transgender people in workplace or housing protections.

In an e-mail message, Equality Utah encouraged gay and transgender Utahns and their allies to write, fax and e-mail members of the Salt Lake City Council urging to pass the nondiscrimination ordinances favorably and to enact them now instead of in 2010.

“We are getting closer to a fair and just Utah,” wrote Will Carlson, the group’s manager of Public Policy. “These calls and letters may be the most important political action you take all year. ... It’s time we declared our place on the Common Ground of equal rights.”

The City Council’s contact information is as follows: District 1: Carlton Christensen Carlton.Christensen@SLCGov.com District 2: Van Turner council.comments@SLCGov.com District 3: Eric Jergensen Eric.Jergensen@SLCGov.com District 4: Luke Garrott Luke.Garrott@SLCGov.com District 5: Jill Remington Love Jill.

Love@SLCGov.com District 6: JT Martin JT.Martin@ SLCGov.com District 7: Søren Simonsen Soren.Simonsen@SLCGov.com Letters can be sent to: 451 S. State St., Room 304 P.O. Box 145476 Salt Lake City, UT 84114-5476 (The P.O. Box should be included to ensure delivery) The council may also be reached at 801-535-7600 or 801-535-7654, which is a 24-hour voicemail number, or by fax at 801-535-7651.

LDS Apology to Deliver Petitions by Handcart On the anniversary of Proposition 8’s passage, members of the Foundation for Reconciliation will deliver a petition to LDS Church headquarters via handcart, in homage to the church’s iconic rescue of the Martin and Willy Handcart Companies, who were stranded in a deadly snowstorm on the Great Plains in 1856.

The petition, which had over 1,950 signatures at press time, calls for reconciliation between the church and gay and transgender people, and asks “that parties on both sides of this issue be willing to honestly examine their attitudes, behaviors (including past behaviors), policies and practices — and be open to understanding, forgiveness (both asking

for and accepting), and apology.” The handcart trek will begin at the This Is The Place Monument. Those who bring signs are asked to keep their slogans positive, in keeping with the group’s goal of reconciliation.

The trek will begin Nov. 4, at 1 p.m. at the This is the Place Monument, 2601 Sunnyside Ave. (across from Hogle Zoo) and will proceed to City Creek Park, across from LDS Church headquarters.

A gathering at City Creek Park will welcome the trekkers at 3:30 p.m. and the petition will be delivered to the LDS Church Headquarters at 4 p.m.

For more information, visit their Web site at LDSApology.org

Salt Lake City Wins Gay Equality Award Utah’s capital city has received worldwide attention because of its domestic partner (“Mutual Commitments”) registry and its adult designee plan, which allows city employees to include a nonspousal adult on their health insurance plan. But now the city has received an “Outie Award” for its gay- and transgender-friendly policies.

Out & Equal Workplace Advocates, a national nonprofit group that supports workplace equality for gay and transgender people, gave Salt Lake City Corporation the award on Oct. 8 in recognition of the insurance plan and the registry, which began in 2008 to help businesses that offer domestic partner benefits recognize eligible employees.

Salt Lake City Mayor Ralph Becker’s Chief of Staff, David Everitt, accepted the Significant Achievement Award during the Out & Equal Workplace Summit awards dinner held Oct. 8 in Orlando, Fla. The award recognizes: “any employ-

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er that has made significant strides in the past year in advancing a fair and equitable workplace for its LGBT employees, such as: announcing domestic partner health insurance, including gender identity diversity training, or initiating a unique general advertising campaign that includes LGBT people.”

“Every workplace should be a safe place for employees to be themselves and conduct their work in a peaceable and respectful environment,” he said.

“Salt Lake City Corporation remains committed to our employees as they focus on serving city residents.”

Other past winners have included a number of Fortune 500 companies such as IBM, Goldman Sachs, JP Morgan Chase and Ford Motor Company. This year’s finalists included Wells Fargo Advisors and Deutsche Bank.

The Florida conference drew more than 2,300 participants from across the country, many from Fortune 500 companies.

Q mmunity ROTC-SLC Fundraiser The Righteously Outrageous Twirling Corps, a gay and transgenderfriendly color guard affiliated with the People with AIDS Coalition of Utah, will hold a fundraiser at the Noodles & Company on 400 South.

Diners at the restaurant that night between the hours of 5 and 10 p.m. will have 25 percent of their meal ticket donated to the group if they mention supporting ROTC-SLC upon ordering. Money raised will go toward helping the color guard travel to Denver for a performance.

When: Nov. 5, 5–10 p.m.

Where: ONLY at the Noodles & Company on 358 S. 700 E.

PWACU Poinsettias The People with AIDS Coalition of Utah has opened orders for its 5th annual poinsettia fundraiser. Until Nov. 20 the organization will offer potted poinsettias (averaging 15 to 19 inches tall and 15 inches wide).

All proceeds will benefit the organization, which serves people with HIV/AIDS in the state.

Cost: $10 per plant or $75 for eight plants.

Purchase: pwacu.org or 801-4842205 Delivery Dates: Nov. 24 and 27, Dec. 1, 4, 8 and 11. Deliveries in Salt Lake County require no minimum order, but deliveries for Davis, Summit, Tooele and Weber require an eight plant order. Davis and Weber delivery dates are Nov. 24 and Dec. 4 , Summit County’s is Nov. 27 and Dec. 8 and Tooele and Utah Counties’ are Dec. 1 and 11.

Dates are subject to change.

Queer Spirit Retreat for All Queer Spirit, a gay men’s spirituality group, will host a fall retreat for people of all sexual orientations and gender identities this November to help participants deepen their work with Spirit in the context of community. The three-day weekend retreat will include such activities as heart circles, ritual and drum circles. This will be the group’s first retreat open to all.

When: Nov. 13-15 at Windwalker Guest Ranch in Spring City, Utah, beginning at 1 p.m. Friday and closing at 3 p.m. Sunday.

RSVP: Via e-mail by Nov. 1 Cost: $350 one-person room, $250 two-person room before Nov. 1, $375 and $275 after.

Info: Queerspirit.org or Jerry Buie at 801-557-9203

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News Drug Assistance Program for Utahns with HIV/AIDS Imperiled Facing a deficit like many government Johnson also pointed out that the cuts organizations during the current reces- are forcing many who received ADAP sion, a Utah program that assists resi- money to go onto prescription assisdents with HIV and AIDS in paying for tance programs run by drug companies their life-saving medications has shut — programs that all too often do not covits doors to new applicants and is cut- er the regimen of medications they are ting aid to 87 people currently enrolled — currently taking. This is forcing many cuts which have sent those enrollees and to switch to medications, an action that state’s HIV/AIDS groups into a panic as most doctors discourage because doing they scramble to cope with the shortfall. so can cause the virus to mutate, thus Recently, the Utah AIDS Drug Assis- increasing the chances that it will resist tance Program announced that it was treatment altogether and causing sympfacing a $312,518.93 deficit — a number toms to worsen as stores of the new regiless than the $375,000 shortage it predict- men build up in the body. ed in September, but a significant num“It’s really scary,” she said. “It’s just ber still. To deal with shortfall without a nightmare.” shutting the program down completely, Even worse, Johnson said that ADAP said Stan Penfold, executive director of has also cut off dental treatment and the Utah AIDS Foundation, the program medications related to mental illness has closed access to new clients until that many enrollees also use.

March and has raised its financial eligi“For people that are mentally ill, you bility requirements from 250 percent of know, their meds help them adhere to the federal poverty level to 400 percent. their HIV meds,” she explained. “We’re As Penfold explained it, a single person likely to see an even bigger increase in living at what the U.S. government con- infections because people aren’t taking siders 100 percent poverty makes around their mental health meds.” $12,000 per year. So, an individual living Additionally, the 87 people who have at 250 percent poverty has an annual in- been cut from ADAP do not include ancome of $4,400 and a person at 400 per- other group of people with HIV/AIDS cent an income of $2,700. who are still in need of services — those “At [250 percent poverty], people are infected in other states who have since working but they may not have very moved to Utah. The federal Ryan White good insurance,” said Penfold. “If you CARE Act that funds ADAP does not let go lower than that, it’s people who can’t states count such people when asking work full time, who probably don’t have for money, meaning that Utah and sevhealth benefits. The level of need of assis- eral other states consistently receive less tance increases dramatically the lower funding than they need to help. you drop in that percent.”

“There are approximately 200 people “There were just a few people, and I with AIDS in Utah who have moved here think this is fortunate, who were getting from out of state,” said Johnson. “The 100 percent of their medication through federal government doesn’t allow Utah the ADAP program, so there are very few to add them to their formulary because people who face getting cut off altogether, they weren’t infected here. But they live and I think we’ve been able to find some here, and we’re taking care of them.” options for them,” Penfold continued, In the month since the program closed noting that most of the 87 people being its doors to new enrollees, Johnson said shut out have some combination of fund- that 25 people living at 400 percent povering to help them meet their co-pays. ty have been denied access — a number Toni Johnson, executive director of that would have been much larger if the the People with AIDS Coalition of Utah, guidelines still included people living at gave QSaltLake a comprehensive break- 250 percent poverty. down of how the cuts effect those 87 The number of applicants waiting for people. Of those, 50.52 percent have lost services, said Penfold, is the biggest longADAP’s co-pay assistance — meaning term challenge ADAP and Utah HIV/ that they have insurance, but ADAP was AIDS service providers are facing, eshelping them pay for their HIV regimen. pecially since Utah receives little Ryan Nearly 15 percent were dropped from White funding when compared with more HIP, Utah’s High Risk Insurance Pool, densely populated states. He anticipates and 35.5 percent have lost all financial that people will continue to apply for the help with their medications. program, particularly as people continue But Johnson noted that the cuts are to lose their jobs in the recession. affecting more people than just those Johnson is also feeling the recession’s shut out of ADAP. She noted that the sting, and cites it as the reason PWACU University of Utah’s Infectious Diseases had to cancel its annual Living with Clinic (more commonly known as Clinic AIDS Conference.

1A), is currently being swamped with de“The drug reps typically bring in mand for services. Given that the clinic speakers to do our conference, and they receives grant funding from the Ryan couldn’t,” she said. “Their budgets have White CARE Act, which funds programs been cut, so I didn’t have any speakers.” like ADAP, it is not difficult to see why.

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have had to cancel the conference anyway in order to devote all of her time to the ADAP shortfall, which she and PWACU are trying to combat in a number of ways.

“I’ve been corresponding with many clients urging them to contact their case managers,” she said. “We have clients who don’t think they need case mangers, but they do. There are clients cut from programs due to their income and this is not something they can wade through by themselves.”

“We’ve been working really hard to identify who the people are who will be impacted and seeing if we can help them with some alternatives,” said Penfold, noting that UAF may be able to help some people who need drug assistance get on drug companies’ assistance programs, or at least help them find housing and food so they can devote their money to prescriptions.

“We eliminated all of our financial requirements for our food bank access and holiday program access,” he added.

“We expect to see an increase in access there. What ends up happening to people is they have to make decisions like ‘do I pay my co-pay or do I buy groceries?’” He encouraged members of Utah’s gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender community and their friends and allies to support the foundation’s holiday program as well as the Utah Food Bank, from which UAF receives food and toiletries.

Although the state is facing the possibility of cutting 700-800 billion dollars from its budget in 2010, Johnson said that she and other PWACU officers will advocate for ADAP during next year’s legislative session. She is also working hard to keep the issue in the media and is currently working with the Salt Lake Tribune on a number of stories about individuals affected by the ADAP cuts.

She encouraged concerned Utahns to write letters to the editor about the cuts and to call their representatives and Senators when the legislative session opens.

“Utah is one of few states that contributes nothing to our ADAP program and they’re not going to unless the community demands it,” she said.

Penfold agreed. “It’s going to be really challenging to make a case to them for additional funding on a state level.”

Likewise, Penfold encouraged people to involve themselves in the ongoing debate about health care reform.

“I know it feels overwhelming sometimes, but this is what the national health care debate is about,” he said. “I think this situation has put a spotlight on HIVspecific issues, but if you’re living with cancer, any kind of chronic illness that requires name brand medication, there are thousand and thousands of people in this same situation, many of them with no assistance programs available. This whole conversation about our health care system and prescription medication, all of this gets wrapped up into the conversation [we’re having about funding for people with HIV/AIDS].” Q

Q mmunity Halloween Circus Trolley Square will host a free circus featuring fire artists, aerialists, trapeze artists, sword fighters, belly dancers and more on the night before Halloween. The event is free and tickets for a prize raffle are $1 each. A costume contest will be held, but full face paint, face masks and weapons as part of costumes are not permitted.

When: Oct. 30, 8 p.m. to midnight.

Where: Trolley Square, 600 S. 700 East Info: Trolleysquare.com

Día de los Muertos Noche Latino will host a Day of the Dead party at the Utah Pride Center, complete with music, snacks, café con leche and pan de muerto — a special bread made on the day. The event is family-friendly and prizes will be given for best costume.

When: Oct. 30, 7 p.m.

Where: Utah Pride Center, 361 N. 300 W. Info: Lillian Rodríguez, 801-5398800, ex. 23 Noche Latino presenta Día de los Muertos! Ven a celebrar con nosotros este día! Tendremos música, antojitos, café con leche, y el pan de muerto, hay que rico. Un evento para toda la familia. Esperamos verlos el 30 de Octubre a las 7 de la noche en el Utah Pride Center.

Premio para el mejor disfraso! Para mas información llamen a Lillian Rodríguez 801.539.8800 x23.

Gobble, Gobble The Utah Pride Center will host a Thanksgiving Day dinner on Nov. 26 and is currently looking for financial donations as well as volunteers to cook and serve the food.

INFO: Jennifer@utahpridecenter.org or utahpridecenter.org.

Keeping Your Eyes on the Whys While it’s nice to be nice to the nice, times of disagreement seem to bring out the worst in our ability to engage in civil discourse. A major concern today is the almost universal inability to disagree in an agreeable manner. Dr. Robert Dow has developed a method to work toward difficult solutions in a way that yields more light and less heat.

“Keeping Our Eyes on the Whys” is presented by the Utah Humanities Council and sponsored by First Baptist Church.

When: Nov. 9, 7 p.m.

Where: First Baptist Church, 777 S. 1300 E. Info: Bob Dow, 801-467-5679 or David Henry 801-582-4921

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Red Party to Have French Flair This November, Salt Lake City’s Hotel Monaco will take guests down to old Moulin Rouge for a party filled with can-can girls, burlesque dancers and, of course, the iconic club’s spinning windmill for its fifth annual Red Party.

Held each year at the hotel (part of the gay and transgender-welcoming Kimpton Hotels & Restaurant group) to commemorate World AIDS Day, the Red Party is one of the biggest fundraisers for the Utah AIDS Foundation. The proceeds from the entire evening, from admission donations to raffle tickets, go to the organization, and the party’s donation has grown right along with its attendance. Last year, the party raised over $24,000 according to Shawn Jackson, Monaco’s entertainment guru.

Kimpton hotels around the country hold similar parties, with all funds going to local HIV/AIDS groups. Depending on how many hotels are in a specific city or region, the number of participating properties in an individual party may be one or several. Hotel Monaco is the only Kimpton property in Utah, which makes its fundraising efforts in past Red Parties that much more extraordinary. “[Last year] we were actually the Kimpton property that raised the most,” said Jackson. “We are hoping for $30,000 this year.”

Hotel Monaco also came within hours of raising the most money of any Kimpton property in the United States or Canada in 2007, but a “last minute donation of $5,000 from one person” put Washington, D.C. in first place, said Jackson.

“But we were still number one in our book,” he joked.

To help raise the $30,000, Monaco is enticing party-goers by taking them to the Moulin Rouge, the iconic French cabaret built in the late 1800s where the can-can dance was perfected. The club, frequented by celebrities such as painter Toulouse-Lautrec (who frequently made the cabaret, its staff and clients the subjects of his paintings), has also been the subject of several movies, including a 1952 Zsa Zsa Gabor vehicle and, more recently, Baz Lhurmann’s wildly popular 2001 musical staring Nicole Kidman and Ewan McGregor.

Much like Lhurmann’s film, the party — titled Monaco Rouge! — will put a 21st Century and HIV-awareness twist on the fin de siecle club. On Nov. 12, the hotel’s second floor meeting space will be decked out in red, the color of HIV/ AIDS awareness and remembrance.

“It will be Paris,” said Jackson. “AS you walk through there will hopefully be a big screen of the Moulin Rouge with the windmill turning, and hopefully we’ll be playing the [Lhurmann] movie as well.”

Since it could not be the Moulin Rouge without can-can dancers, Jackson said Utah’s premiere burlesque troupe, the Slippery Kittens, will per-

form the dance, which is a chorus linestyle series of high kicks performed by female dancers dressed in 19th century clothing — including petticoats and bloomers. The Kittens will perform throughout the evening, said Jackson, but gay men and straight women needn’t worry. There will be plenty of male eye-candy as well.

“Last year we used scantily clad go-go dancers, but this year we’ll have about four gentlemen who will be shirtless and dressed in black slacks and shoes, with suspenders and bow ties, who will be selling boas and raffle tickets,” he said. “Well, I had to bring the men in!”

The raffle tickets the gentlemen will sell are for such prizes as round trips on Jet Blue Airlines and two-night stays at a number of Kimpton properties. Guests will also have the opportunity to sip on beer courtesy of Squatters Pub Brewery (the event is still looking for a business to sponsor wine) and food by Hotel Monaco’s in-house restaurant, Bambara.

While the menu is still in the works — though Jackson said it will likely have a French flair — one thing is certain: like the drinks, all of it will be red.

Hotel Monaco Entertainment Guru Shawn Jackson, right, with partner Tyler Barlow, at a previous Red Party Entrance to this little bit of Paris on the Wasatch Front, as in years past, will be a suggested donation of $25. However, Jackson added that partiers may chose from three packages this year, some of which include valet parking.

Due to the party’s popularity and the limited capacity of space — which can only hold about 300 people — Jackson asks all attendees to répondez s’il vous plait by Nov. 9. They should RSVP by contacting Nathan Measom at Nathan@

No. Utah HIV/AIDS Group Takes Trip to Roaring ’20s

Dolls, molls, gangsters, bootleggers and flappers will take over the Ogden Eccles Conference Center on Nov. 14, but not for any nefarious, anti-Prohibitionist reason. In fact, the alcohol will flow freely at the cash bar and the food will be plentiful at the Northern Utah Coalition, Inc. HIV/AIDS Project’s A Night at the Speakeasy.

The evening is a fundraiser for the coalition, which assists Northern Utahns living with HIV/AIDS with basic necessities like paying for rent, utilities, toiletries and groceries, and for transportation to and from doctors and case managers in Salt Lake City. The project’s building at 536 24th St., Suite 2B in Ogden has a food bank that the Utah AIDS Foundation supplies twice a month and can help with bus tokens for people who don’t own cars or who can’t drive. The project also offers help during the winter holidays, often with food and with providing money for clients with children to buy Christmas gifts.

“We fill in the gaps between other programs,” said Project Director Sarah McClellan. “These things are important for people that have HIV or AIDS.” Currently, McClellan estimates that the project serves between 30 and 35 regulars, but the chilly economy also means that more people are now looking to the project for help than ever before.

For this reason, A Night at the Speakeasy’s organizer, Sheena Scoffield, is hoping to sell all 300 tickets to the event.

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At press time, only 45 of those had been purchased.

“The Eccles Center said that if we don’t sell that many we can make the room [for the party] smaller, but to benefit the project we need to sell at least 150,” she said.

Tickets for the event are $40 and include access to a cash bar, a full-course dinner (with a chicken, beef or vegetarian option) and an evening of music, silent auction, raffles and dancing. While musical acts are still being booked, confirmed performers include James Dayley, the proprietor of Ogden’s eatery and antique shop Two-Bit Street Café, who will regale the crowds with such feats of magic as bending spoons with his mind.

“We’ve also got a group of about 18 dancers from Weber State [the fundraiser’s partner] who are going to come and perform the Charleston, and they’re willing to teach other people, too,” said Scoffield. A photographer will also be on hand to take pictures for those who dress up and want a keepsake of the evening.

While fancy/period dress is encouraged, Scoffield said that people who don’t want to dress up don’t have to.

Like many fundraisers, An Evening at the Speakeasy will also include a silent auction and a raffle with such prizes as passes to the Snowbird Ski Resort and gift certificates from a number of Ogden restaurants.

“We’ve got really good support on

utahaids.org or 801-487-2323.

Jackson said he hopes to see those 300 spaces fill up faster than a can-can girl’s legs can kick.

“It’s the fifth year, so it’s going to be bigger and better than last year,” he said.

Monaco Rouge! will be held at the Hotel Monaco, 15 W. 200 S., on Nov. 12 from 5–8 p.m.

For more information, or to inquire about sponsorships and donations, contact Jackson at shawn.jackson@hotelmonaco.com or 801-990-9723.

that end,” said Scoffield. “Lots of people are giving us a lot of services and items.”

Overall, Scoffield hopes that the project will raise at least $1,500, though she noted that they would like the evening to draw $3,000 or $4,000 dollars, all of which will go to client services as well as counseling and free HIV/STD testing services. With the Eccles Center waiving its room and parking fees, and board members donating everything from decorations to candy cigarettes for sale, she said that every little bit will help.

“If we can get the money raised for the project, they aren’t going to stress about funds,” she said. “Sarah spends her days requesting grants to keep the office afloat. If they weren’t able to support Northern Utah, it would have a real impact because of all the things they do. It’s very stressful that I can’t get Northern Utah to give back to the coalition. It’s been a very rough month and a half to try and get tickets sold.”

Still, Scoffield said she hopes that people from all over the state will want to take a trip back in time for a good cause.

“I understand it’s hard economic times and right before Christmas, but right before Christmas is a very giving time usually,” she said. “Hopefully we can find some of those giving people to attend and help out.”

A Night at the Speakeasy will be held Nov. 14, 6:30–11 p.m. at the Ogden Eccles Conference Center, 2415 Washington Blvd. in Ogden. For more information or to purchase tickets visit northernutahcoalition.com or call Sarah McClellan at 801-393-4153.

Salt Lake City Council District 3 Race Down to the Wire About the only hotly-contested race in the state this election is for Salt Lake City Council District 3, to replace Eric Jergensen after he announced he would not seek reelection after a series of embarrassing headlines focusing on his struggling business dominated his attention.

The race has been called “bland” by local pundits, but a recent rash of articles began focusing on the differences between candidates Stan Penfold and Phil Carroll.

We interviewed each for this last issue before the Nov. 4 election.

Stan Penfold: Moving Toward Election Day

stituents have discussed with him. It includes adding more bike lanes throughout the city and giving residents more public transportation options, reducing automobile dependency, investing in the district’s parks and open spaces and balancing the city’s developments — particularly those around the airport and ever-expanding University of Utah — with the needs and concerns of individual neighborhoods.

Of course, Penfold has also made a name for himself as a candidate by supporting an agenda that is inclusive of gay and transgender people and all other minority groups within his highly diverse district, which covers the Marmalade neighborhoods, the Avenues, Guadalupe and Federal Heights. Along with opposing SB81, a controversial bill that gave local authorities the right to crack down on illegal immigrants,

by JoSelle Vanderhooft

With just a few days until the Nov. 3 election, Stan Penfold’s campaign for the District 3 Salt Lake City Council seat is gradually winding up.

“We’re in the last basically week of the campaign, so we’ve been doing consistently pretty much what we’ve always been doing; going door-todoor and talking to people about what their concerns are, what they like about the district and what their concerns about the district have been,” said Penfold. “It feels like there’s good support out there. I think we’re in a really good position. Now it’s pretty much a matter of making sure people get out and vote.”

Although voter turn-out is often low during elections taking place in oddnumbered year, and particularly low in elections where city council and public safety positions are the only ones on the ballot, Penfold said that these elections are actually some of the most important.

“I think a lot of people — and we’ve had a lot of people say this — don’t really understand what the city council does or how it impacts them. That’s important because it’s how government interacts with us on a day-to-day basis, it’s all the real simple things, from [installing] traffic lights to police, fire departments, parks, snow removal — all of those things you take for granted, those are all the things the city council deals with.”

Even though many of the people he has met while canvassing aren’t sure what the city council does, Penfold said they are still concerned with many of the things that fall within its jurisdiction.

“Planning and zoning, open space, transportation, all those sort of nitty gritty nuts and bolts that make the city run, that’s what people are concerned about, what makes a great neighborhood,” he said.

And while Penfold is getting a lot of attention for being an openly gay candidate, he has also built a substantial platform around the issues that his con-

Phil Carroll: One Community

by Michael Aaron

An article pointing out the differences between Salt Lake City Council District 3 candidates Phil Carroll and Stan Penfold in the Salt Lake Tribune just two weeks before the election has one candidate hanging his head in dismay.

Carroll and Penfold are old friends who agree on many of the issues they would face as council members, making their differences key to swaying votes. They agree on monster houses, the need to preserve the character of neighborhoods in the district, which include the Avenues and Capitol Hill.

The Tribune pointed to Mayor Ralph Becker’s non-discrimination ordinance as one issue on which the two disagree.

Penfold says he “completely” supports the proposal, saying “it’s what progressive cities do.”

The paper read: “Carroll worries about enforcing the rule ‘when we’re creating a special, another protected class.’”

“You create another layer of bureaucracy,” the Tribune quoted him as saying.

“Contrary to the Sunday’s Tribune article I have over and over again ex-

Penfold also supports Salt Lake City Mayor Ralph Becker’s two proposed ordinances to extend nondiscrimination housing and employment laws to all city residents regardless of sexual orientation and gender identity.

Although Penfold said he has “nothing specific right now” that he can think of pursuing in the way of gay and transgender rights if elected to the council, he added that getting the housing and employment ordinances passed and implemented are “immediate priorities.”

“I think one of the things the city can be more proactive about doing, and has actually been doing a pretty good job of, is to promote that this is an LGBT friendly community,” he said. “And it really is. That’s a really important role for a capital city to play because for people who live in a community where they don’t feel safe, to remember there are places [where gay and transgender people are treated well] is a good thing.

The more visible Salt Lake is, the better off it is for people no matter where they are.”

Although Penfold has been paying attention to murmurs from some state legislators, including notoriously antigay Sen. Chris Buttars, R-West Jordan, about implementing a law during the 2010 general legislative session to nullify both ordinances, he said he isn’t

sure what will come of such discussions. And not knowing the outcome, he said it is difficult to comment on what he will do, if he is elected, to support Becker during the next year.

“It’s hard to tell how serious that conversation is,” he said. “There are some people threatening, like Buttars, to make [these ordinances illegal if they pass], but the support on the city council is pretty consistent and very rational. The good thing about this proposed ordinance is it wasn’t created in a vacuum. The city did their homework, the Human Rights Commission [whose report on discrimination in the city inspired Becker’s ordinances] did their research and found clearly documented cases of discrimination.”

But one thing that Penfold is certain about is that he will support the diversity of his district, if elected, in every way that he can.

“One thing that comes up [during walking] is how much people in my district love how diverse it is and how diverse people are,” he said. “They get that. They recognize that’s part of what makes this neighborhood incredible and a good place to live. Protecting that diversity makes it a more desirable community.”

pressed my support of the proposed non-discrimination ordinance,” Carroll told QSaltLake. “I have confused the issue because I have substantial concerns about its implementation. That said, I have also stated that I would support the passage even if my concerns were not met.”

The proposal, according to Carroll, creates a separate agency to handle discrimination complaints. Currently, he says, the Utah State Labor Commission handles such complaints and that perhaps the agency can be utilized to handle those addressed in the proposed ordinance.

“I would propose that the city contract with the state or visa versa to create a single point of intake. If this is not possible then we would proceed as proposed,” he explains.

Not only does he say he supports the passage of the ordinance, but he “would stand shoulder to shoulder with the other members of the city council to do everything possible to insure it withstands a legislative challenge.”

He notes that Utah already has an additional protected class, unique to 17 states: source of income.

“I believe in equal protection under the law,” he said. “I am sometimes asked if I feel that GLBT individuals are discriminated against. My answer is yes. Everyone is entitled to equal protection under the law.”

Another difference between the candidates is the issue of neighborhood pubs, like Jam in the Marmalade neigh-

borhood, which sits in District 3.

Penfold says he is interested in exploring the issue, while Carroll is not.

“We’re not Portland,” he told the Tribune. “In our neighborhoods, it flatly doesn’t work.”

But what has the comment board on the newspaper’s Web site buzzing is a comment Carroll made about his experience in an effort to differentiate himself from Penfold.

The paper wrote that Carroll suggested Penfold “lacks insight by having never reared a family. “That’s a big difference,” he said. “Raising a family makes a difference in how you perceive what the problems are.”

“For the Tribune I was asked to distinguish myself from my opponent,” Carroll told QSaltLake. “I made a comment that was less than sensitive. I do understand that families come in many forms and I appreciate them all.”

Carroll said that he and Penfold sat down to breakfast at the beginning of the race and both agreed that they did not want it to be divisive.

Any negative effect the family statement might have, he said, was “not my intent, not my desire. It really concerns me that we get so polarized.”

“I think we did pretty well until Sunday,” he chortled, but immediately returned to seriousness. “It is my sincere desire that this community be one community.”

Visit Stan Penfold’s campaign Web site at friendsofstan.com.

Visit Phil Carroll’s campaign Web site at ­votephilcarroll.com.

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Letters Hate Laws aren’t Equality Editor, Bob Henline claimed that public policy to prosecute hate crime “promotes an inequality within the justice system” because such policies treat some crimes differently than others (“The Straight Line,” QSaltLake, Oct. 15).

As one who helped write the first hate-crime laws in Utah and many of the legislative attempts to correct the laws’ mistakes after they were adopted, I believed early that such laws were best crafted when the enhanced punishment resulted from a criminal’s harmful act against a certain group, not his ideas.

After all, there are already laws throughout the United States which enhance the punishment for crimes against certain groups including children, law-enforcement officers and elected representatives, among others. The laws aren’t called “hatecrime laws,” of course, and usually survive the scrutiny of citizens who criticize the “special treatment” that they claim nominal hate-crime laws provide.

But, despite my willingness to ensure for hate-crime victims the kind of legal protection that is provided unquestioningly for others, I was wrong to believe that a constitutional or honest policy could distinguish between two instances of the same crime and punish the criminals differently based on facts which we ought not consider.

Hate-crime policy reduces us to a

choice between two evils: Punish the crimes against certain groups more than others and therefore violate the constitutional mandate of equal protection, or punish the ideas of certain criminals more than others and therefore violate the constitutional guarantee of free speech.

Federal hate-crime policy would combine the two by prosecuting “acts motivated by [the] actual or perceived”

group status of a victim and considering evidence of a criminal’s “speech, beliefs, or expressive conduct.”

Henline is correct; hate-crime policy complicates the simple. It asks our judiciary to remove its blindfold for the criminal, the victim or both. We must admit, that isn’t equality.

David Nelson Salt Lake City

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Guest Editorial They Just Don’t Get It

by Jacob Whipple

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LDS Church involved itself in Proposition 8 there has been a clash between the church and the LGBT community. Words, rallies, press releases and Conference talks have been thrown about, but I really don’t think the Mormons understand what we’re fighting for.

First of all, they don’t understand the fact that most of the gays and lesbians here in Utah grew up Mormon. We lived it and believed it. Many of us, especially my age and older, have gone on missions, spending two years promoting and defending the church. We believed that if we did God’s will, He would make us straight. Upon returning we found out that we were still gay and we had to make the long, painful journey towards accepting the fact that we can’t change our sexual orientation.

The church and its members don’t, and can’t ever, fully realize how difficult a process that is. Ever. We are forced to reconcile our religious beliefs with the reality of ourselves. It is incomparable ince the

to anything else, and yet we go through it alone, without the support of our family, friends and religion because they could never understand what we are dealing with.

What also dumbfounds the church is that the turning point for our coming out process is sometimes a spiritual experience in which we get an answer from God letting us know that it’s OK to be gay and that He still loves us. We finally accept who we are and, knowing that the church will never be able to accept us, we make the painful separation and leave the church.

Living as a gay man or a lesbian, a bisexual or especially as a transgender person is not easy. We did not grow up with positive media images; it wasn’t the cool thing to do. Nor is it easy. We deal with persecution and discrimination all the time. The church has complained about a few broken windows and blames the LGBT community for them.

I’ve had my car keyed more times than I can remember. People yell “faggot” at us as they drive away. We’re mugged, beaten and left for dead. We’re fired from our jobs and evicted from our apartments. We lose friends. Our families turn us away. Sorry Elder Oaks, but honestly the post-Prop 8-Mormonbacklash has nothing on what we’ve been dealing with our whole lives.

I don’t think that the church and its members realize that we’re not out to get revenge on the church for what it’s put us through emotionally, spiritually and mentally. We’re not out to try and change the church’s position. We don’t even care to silence the church from preaching against homosexuality within its congregations. We left the church and we’re fine with that. What we’re not fine with is that the church still tries to influence our lives. We allowed the church to guide us while we were still members, but we’re not now and we shouldn’t be forced to hold to its moral beliefs. We have our own morals and standards, despite what Senator Buttars has to say, and we live by those.

Again, because it bears repeating, we’re not trying to force our lifestyle onto the church, we’re trying to keep the church from forcing its lifestyle on us. We’re being beaten up literally, and we’re fired and evicted, we’re discharged and we’re denied. Keep your religious beliefs, but let us have our own.

Hate crimes legislation, which will be law come Wednesday, is not about creating a special class, it’s about preventing violence based on hate. Everyone is protected equally by it. A group of gay men who attack a straight man would be tried just as harshly as a group of straight men who

We’re not trying to force our lifestyle onto the church; we’re trying to keep the church from forcing its lifestyle on us.

attack a gay man. Employment non-discrimination does not limit employer’s rights, but it will prevent discrimination. Being hired or fired should be dependent on a person’s performance and not on their love life. Repealing Don’t Ask Don’t Tell would let everyone fight for their country with honor. These bills have nothing to do with infringing on religious rights; they’re about protecting the rights of those being discriminated against.

Even marriage equality has nothing to do with religion. The LDS Church will never have to perform gay marriages if they don’t have a revelation ordaining it. You cannot be incarcerated for preaching that homosexuality is immoral. Not only is it protected by the First Amendment, but it’s also specified and specifically protected in the laws and bills already introduced.

However, we believe that the church is infringing on our rights by involving itself in the legislative process. It’s one thing to preach morality but it’s quite another thing to demand and enforce it, especially when not everyone embraces your concepts of morality. Religious principals and teachings should not be enacted by law, especially when not all religions agree. Many religions celebrate marriage equality; why then is their religious freedom limited?

Mormons can never understand what we go through, but I do hope that they can see that what we’re working towards does not infringe on their religious freedom and will not change their way of life. I hope that they can understand that, like Sen. Reid, you can have your own personal beliefs but still fight to defend the differing beliefs and rights of others.

Jacob Whipple is an organizer for the All For One Initiative, AllForOneInitiative.org.

Q Street Spooky season is upon us, aka Gay Christmas—

❝ ❝What is the best Halloween costume you have ever seen?

Kirk Parrish Mine! The One Night Stand.

Jeanne Bullard

Tony Fantis

Eddie Fung-Schwarz

Keith Wells

Mark Lawrence

An overweight woman dressed as wonder woman with a huge bouffant hairdo.

I’d have to say it was a pregnant, smoking nun at Ohio University in 1988. S(he) had one well-placed hand on her backside, a sure sign that the pregnancy was legit.

Last year, I taped a small wooden house on my forehead and went to my work party as “Little House on the Fairy.”

I dressed up as a disco ball.

I made a big ball that went around my chest, dressed in black, covered my face in black, made a huge hat out of foam and covered it and the ball with shiny fabric. I flashed two flashlights on my costume. Won first place at work.

In San Francisco, four guys in white lab coats and stethoscopes. They were 4 out of 5 doctors.

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I will always remember October 2009 as the month of wood. No I’m not talking about a freak Cialis accident turning Mr. Happy into purple timber for 30 days, I’m talking about trees and all things tree related. I have just spent the most wonderful few weeks of vacation up on the Olympic Peninsula of Washington. Let me tell you kittens, it was so gorgeous I could pack up the dogs, cats and Mr. Ridge, and U-Haul up there tomorrow.

Between all of the forests, the wonderful down to earth people, the art, the food, the wine and the ocean, I was blissfully happy. And OMG the people sure know how to put on a great Farmer’s Market!

I’m still eating the contraband fruit we smuggled across Idaho, and mothering several bottles of inexpensive, but really great St. Chapelle from the Trader Joe’s in Olympia. Aahh, Trader Joe’s, with aisles of really affordable wines and every type of trail mix known to man, it was Paradise Found darlings!

They desperately need a Trader Joe’s in Wendover or maybe Evanston, so that Utahns’ have better things to smuggle across the state line than just fireworks and biker chick porn. But I digress.

We actually drove up to Washington in the Ruby-Mobile “Lucretia,” and got to try out the new Onstar turn by turn feature that has Glenn Beck going ape shit. Did you hear his “Obama is track-

ing your every move via Onstar” rant?

I’m waiting for Beck’s “Obama is secretly adjusting your cars lumbar support so that you need socialized medicine” rant.

Don’t laugh darlings, he’s so whacked out and paranoid it could happen.

Anyway during my visit to the Pacific Northwest there was a strange confluence of super gay events, namely the broadcasting of the National Equality March in D.C., and the local TV ad cam-

“Oaks, Evergreen,… what is it with confused Mormons and Wood?” paigns for Referendum 71. A short while ago Washington passed a law giving same-sex couples all of the legal recognition and benefits of married heterosexual couples (euphemistically called “the everything but marriage” law). And naturally as a true demonstration of toler-

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ance and Christ’s love, the religious extremists of Washington instantly forced the issue onto the election ballot for repeal. Yes, I know muffins, so much for their “I support gays but leave marriage alone” bullpuckey. I think it was the Box Turtle Bulletin blog that noticed one of the anti-gay TV advertisements contained LDS copyrighted artwork (which suddenly disappeared as soon as it was exposed in the media). Hmmm ... Interesting I thought to myself. Despite the PR backlash from Prop 8, the Mo’s still haven’t stopped trying to destroy gay and lesbian rights across the country (don’t even get me started about the quasi-Mormon front group NOM and their huge injections of secret cash into the Maine election). Just like California, the anti-gay folks are throwing every slimy distorted argument they can and hoping that something sticks (you know...gays will demand Temple marriages, gay sex will be taught in kindergarten and religious speech will become criminalized, yada, yada, yada.). I was fuming with all of their fear mongering and downright dishonest statements. When supposedly moral and religious people lie through their teeth with no pangs of guilt then there is something horribly wrong with Christianity (and Mormonism) today.

Keep in mind kittens, this is all going on less than a month after the notorious Evergreen Conference where Elder Hafen blurted out his “there is no such thing as gay DNA speech. Followed a few weeks later with the now infamous Dallin Oaks “Mormons are just persecuted and oppressed like black people” speech. I couldn’t help thinking, “Oaks, Evergreen ... what is it with confused Mormons and wood?”

Anyway darlings, the election in Washington is next week, so cross your fingers that the gays and lesbians of the state get to keep their hard-won civil rights and their domestic partnerships.

In solidarity I’ll be watching CNN all night clutching a bottle of Washington wine and a 20pound bag of dried apple rings. Ciao Babies! Q You can see Ruby Ridge and the Matrons of Mayhem performing live, in all of their politically incorrect polyester glory every third Friday of the month at Third Friday Bingo (First Baptist Church, 777 South 1300 East in SLC at 7 p.m.). Don’t forget Ruby is hosting the fun bus to Wendover on Saturday November 14, so all truckers on 1-80 Westbound you have been warned!

Snaps & Slaps SNAP: U.S. Congress It’s ridiculous that a bill protecting gay and transgender people, people of all gender presentations and people with disabilities from hate crimes would need to be added to a defense bill of all things in 2009.

Nevertheless, the U.S. Congress finally did something right late this month by passing the Matthew Shepard Act, which gives federal dollars towards hate crimes and federal prosecutors the right to try them based on gender, sexual orientation, gender identity and disability when state and municipal authorities decline to do so. You know, like they do in Utah, where hate crimes apparently never happen.

We’re not entirely sure why some of our state lawmakers — like Sen. Chris “Gays are a Threat to America” Buttars — haven’t started frothing at the mouth yet, but suspect it’s not because they’ve immigrated to Greenland in protest. It’s a great day for our community and the disabled community (whose stake in the law is, frustratingly, being ignored in most coverage), and a great day for Judy and Dennis Shepard, Matthew’s parents.

SLAP: Dallin H. Oaks This latest foray in the LDS Church’s campaign to look as bigoted and ridiculous as possible happened right as we were going to press last issue, so you had to wait for our fabulous backhand until now. As you’ve probably read, Oaks mentioned backlash against church members in the wake of Prop. 8’s passage “including vandalism of church facilities and harassment of church members by firings and boycotts of member businesses and by retaliation against donors.” He compared this all to the “intimidation of blacks in the South” during the civil rights movement. While we (and all of Utah’s gay and transgender groups) condemn harassment and violence towards members of any group, that’s beside the point here. Oaks compared a rash of firings and violent incidents (none of which we’ve heard about in Utah, by the way) to institutionalized violence towards black Americans during the 1950s and ’60s. Mr. Oaks, this violence was the product of nearly 200 years of racism. You should know. The LDS Church was complicit in that racism until 1978, when it finally stopped teaching that blacks were spiritually inferior to members of other races. Mistreatment of pro-Prop. 8 Mormons, while wrong, is not the same thing as racism that still harms Americans of color. You might want to shut up until you learn that.

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fault for everything? Gays caused 9/11. Gays caused Hurricane Katrina. Gays caused Perez Hilton. No matter what went wrong in the world, rightwingers were always quick to pin the blame on gays.

But there’s a new scapegoat darling in town: socialism. Yes, socialism, the economic/political specter that dare not speak its name. In the minds of many Americans, the thought of universal health care is far more terrifying than the thought of two dudes saying “I do.�

Alas, the respite was brief. The super astute Rep. Steve King, a Republican from Iowa, has uncovered the big fat gay socialist marriage agenda and blabbed all about it during a Sept. 23 interview on the WorldNetDaily radio show. “If there’s a push for a socialist society, a society where the foundations of individual rights and liberties are undermined and everybody is thrown together, living collectively off of one pot of resources earned by everyone,� he said, “that is, this is one of the goals they have to go to is same-sex marriage because it has to plow through marriage in order to get to their goal.�

That’s right. Just as socialism is a precursor to communism, gay marriage is a precursor to socialism. Karl Marx laid the whole thing out in his little known work “Das Homosexuelle.� First there was feudalism, then capitalism, then gay marriage, then socialism. Granted, Marx tried to couch the whole gay marriage thing preferring euphemisms like “worker revolts,� but gays always got the winkwink, nudge-nudge of it all. “They want public affirmation,� he continued. “They want access to

public funds and resources. Eventually all those resources will be pooled because that’s the direction we’re going. And not only is it a radical social idea, it is a purely socialist concept in the final analysis.�

It certainly is a radical idea, but hey, the gays want what the gays want. And basically they aren’t going to be happy until their Crate and Barrel wedding registries are subsidized with tax dollars.

King also gave a shout-out to his man Rick Santorum. “And I just would extend that rationale and argue this, that if marriage is something other than union between one man and one woman, ... if there’s a right to same-sex marriage, if that right exists then that means Rick Santorum was right. The right also exists for any other relationship that one might argue.

Then there would exist no ban, no rational foundation to prohibit incest, for example, between father and a son or a daughter, or a mother and a son or daughter, for example, or brothers and sisters.�

So if two consenting adults of the same sex can legally marry then the gloves are off for parents to rape their children?

Wow. You can’t argue with logic like that.

The National Logic Society is totally going to give King their award for having the ‘Best Looking Ass While Wearing Logic Pants.’ This year’s judge? Rick Santorum. Ten bucks says King cries during his acceptance speech.

‘not only is [gay marriage] a radical social idea, it is a purely socialist concept in the ďŹ nal analysis.’

D’Anne Witkowski has been gay for pay since 2003. She’s a freelance writer and poet (believe it!). When she’s not taking on the creeps of the world she reviews rock and roll shows in Detroit with her twin sister and teaches writing at the University of Michigan.

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i pLay with the moil for many years until, by the grace fabulous editors who have ed- of God, I realized that I am a noun, not a ited my columns for QSaltLake verb. The heart of gay liberation’s messtarting way back with Bran- sage finally took root. Gay is who I am don Burt. One my readers never see. I — not what I do. It’s my spirit. If paracapitalize the g in gay and the editors lyzed from the waist down, I would still promptly demotes my big fat gay g back be gay because it’s in my mind and soul, to lower case; poor, puny and lacking in not my genitals. self esteem, little g. Brandon and I had I would never be a lower-case gay afa very lengthy discussion on this issue. ter that epiphany.

He quoted all the newspaper style handBeing a historian, however, first and books, pointing out that the powers that a grammarian second, I was bolstered be at the New York Times have decreed in my crusade to capitalize gay all over that forever more we as a people must this land by an article printed in Nov. 14, be a little g. He was adamant that to be 1969, when the flames of gay revolution taken professionally we must adhere to were still burning hot. On that date the national standards. I said fuck national Los Angeles Free Press posted an article standards and their horse. What have stating, “the Committee for Homosexthey ever done for us? ual Freedom voted at a recent meeting Now, I’m not completely stupid. It’s to request all publications to hereafter only because I chose not to read 1,500 capitalize the word Gay. Proponents of pages of 19th century romance novels the measure argued that Gay is a proper that I switched from an English minor noun and adjective which describes a to political science. I’ve also taught people.� These gay liberationists argued grammar for 23 years and even scored that heterosexual writers and lexicogin the top 7 percent of all teachers in raphers were part of the psychological the United States taking the National oppression of homosexuals by lower Standard Praxis test so I could be one casing the word. of George Bush’s highly-qualified teachCan you give me an amen?! ers; because, as we all know, experience We are not a “happy� people. We are means nothing these days. gay people; a political movement with I digress. a specific culture and history. Why is For some reason (which can’t be bias it we capitalize Republicans, Catholics or prejudice), the establishment of jourand Mormons but we won’t capitalize nalism has lowercased us, inferring that ourselves? Internalized homophobia? gay is something we do and not who we Yes! Some gay people are part of the are. According to every rule of grammar problem. Gay columnist Dan Savage reI have ever read, the distinction between plied in his Dec. 2, 1999 “Gay Ol’ Time� common nouns and proper nouns are column to a kid who wrote to him using that the latter are capitalized. Well, editors of journalistic styles, I have news a capital g, “Some wisdom: First, don’t capitalize gay. It’s silly.� I say it’s defor you: I am anything but common.

Nouns name people, places and meaning, disrespectful and disparaging things. Every noun can further be clas- to the hundreds of thousands who have sified as common or proper. A proper struggled for equality in the Great Gay noun has two distinctive features: 1) it Civil Rights movement not to capitalize will name a specific (usually a one-of-a- the g.

Also, I might add, there’s a literary, as kind) item, and 2) it will begin with a capital letter no matter where it occurs well as, political dishonesty in changing a writer’s words, even by something as in a sentence.

Proper adjectives are adjectives de- simple as lower casing a capital letter rived from proper nouns. In English, without even so much as a [sic]. Would proper adjectives must begin with a e.e. cummings’ poem “Gay is the captivating cognomen� be the same if edited capital letter.

When I attended Brigham Young Uni- by the New York Times style handbook? versity, before blacks could hold the I would suggest that a column is not priesthood, I was forced by standards subject to the same criterion as a news to attend counseling because of a minor report, but hey, it’s not my paper.

It is my fervent desire that the Stonemorals rap. I remembered the church social worker told me that, in order to wall 2.0 generation shake off the shackovercome my “problems,� I must never les of heterosexual nomenclatures. believe that homosexuality is any more Equality does not mean we have to all than a condition; a behavior that can be the same. “Way down in Egypt’s land; Tell old be modified. He said to me that you can never change who you are, only what Pharaoh to let my people go!� Please, you do. This deluded man inflicted on way down in homo-land; tell old QSaltme a source of inner conflict and tur- Lake to let my big g’s go. Q 1 8 | QSa lt L a k e | issue 1 40 | Oc tober 29, 20 09 here’S a game

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Sutherland Institute are at it again, this time issuing a press release opposing Mayor Becker’s proposed city ordinances to ban employment and housing discrimination based upon sexual orientation and gender identity. In the press release, the Sutherland Institute claims that their opposition to the proposed protections is in order to “protect the meaning of marriage in the law.”

I’ve asked this question before, as have many others, and yet we still haven’t heard a reasonable response.

How does legal protection for the rights of all individuals impact the marriage of anyone else? Sutherland Institute continues the fearmongering “antimarriage” campaign with statements such as: “The experiences of other states, namely California, Massachusetts, Connecticut, and Vermont, prove that he bigots at the

the inclusion of terms such as ’sexual orientation’ and ‘gender identity’ in state and local laws is used, ultimately, to denigrate the meaning of marriage.”

What they fail to do, however, is explain or even point to a single example of this denigration of marriage. Here are their arguments: 1) Proposed ordinances are legally vague. The argument attached herein, however, only complains that the wording of the ordinance is redundant, not vague. What it does, though, is define “sexual orientation” as “heterosexual, homosexual, and bisexual.” This isn’t vague, it clarifies that all people, regardless of their orientation, are entitled to fair housing and employment consideration. It really isn’t that difficult of a concept to grasp.

2) Proposed ordinances are dangerously broad. The Sutherland Institute argues that inclusion of the term “perceived as” disallows any serious

response to an accusation of discrimination. What they fail to address is that virtually all cases of discrimination are cases of perception. It still falls upon the accuser to prove that they were discriminated against because of a perception of their sexual orientation. That phrase in no way, shape, or form attempts to shift the burden of proof to the defense, nor does it undermine any legitimate defense.

3) Proposed ordinances are inherently unjust. “Businesses that operate within the city limits of Salt Lake would be compelled to abide by ‘civil rights’ laws that do not exist elsewhere in the state.” This is probably the most absurd argument I’ve ever seen. Just because other cities and municipalities are lagging behind the times in terms of extending equality to all people, it is no justification for Salt Lake City to not take the lead.

The press release ends with: “Sutherland does not condone discrimination against any human being on grounds of innate and universal human traits addressed by civil rights laws. Nor does Sutherland condone ir-

rational discrimination against any human being for chosen behaviors.”

If the Sutherland Institute truly supports the concepts of freedom and liberty that they espouse, there is absolutely no legitimate reason to oppose these ordinances. In no way do Mayor Becker’s proposals create an unfair playing field for anyone, they only serve to help promote justice and equality for all citizens of Salt Lake City, equally.

Sutherland’s alternatives, the passage of ordinances that do not include the terms “sexual orientation” and “gender identity” and the passage of “nonbinding resolutions” defeat the entire purpose of the proposed ordinances.

It is time that someone in Utah’s political arena had the courage to stand up and promote equality for all Utahns.

I applaud Mayor Becker for his courage and vision, and look forward to the day that other cities, counties, and our backwards State Legislature joins us in the 21st century to honor the principles of liberty and equality upon which this nation is theoretically based. Q

How does legal protection for the rights of all individuals impact the marriage of anyone else?

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By JoSelle Vanderhooft

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Easter, Christmas and Pride month, Halloween is one of my favorite holidays.

Probably because the other three don’t come with a roster of terrible movies — The Santa Clause notwithstanding.

Longtime readers of “Gay Geeks” long with

know that I have a thing about B movies, those paragons of bad writing, bad acting, bad special effects, bad music and bad everything. New readers have been warned.

Since Halloween is just around the corner, and because I’m doing two cons this month and feeling both lazy

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and behind on about 50 years of sleep, I thought I’d share some recent gems I’ve found on This TV, the new non-cable HD movie channel that really ought to pay me for writing about its more abysmal offerings as often as I do.

loopy dialogue (evil sorcerer: “I must be losing my touch!”) and painted on backdrops are part of the funny. Or are they?

My rating: Four out of four talking birds.

The Thing with Two Heads (1972)

Not to be confused with the Shannyn Sossamon and Pink vehicle 20 years later, this gem takes us to an Italian abbey plagued by a demon-possessed man sealed away during one of the Inquisitions — apparently the one where the priests all read “The Cask of Amontillado.” Hijinks ensue, including what has to be the most unintentionally hilarious example of sacrilege ever captured on celluloid. I’ve summarized: Scene: An altar in the catacombs: Gold monstrance, white altar cloth, and a LIFE SIZE JESUS STATUE on a cross.

MONK with Sweet Tooth: [Gets down on a kneeler and CUTS UP A SNICKERS BAR] Bet the brother superior didn’t know I was hiding THIS in my psalter! [devours his sweet, sweet secret shame as he prays.]

[Camera focuses on him and on blurred JESUS in the background. Ominous sound of rushing wind.]

[Blurry JESUS begins to move.]

MONK: [is oblivious] JESUS: [is busy pulling out all of his nails] MONK: [chows down] JESUS: [strolls over to him] MONK: [looks up at last] A miracle!

[JESUS’ eyes go all black, pupil-less and scary like the robot’s eyes in the original Stepford Wives. The one that didn’t make you want to punch yourself until the pain stopped.]

JESUS: DIEEE MWAHAHAHA I AM SATAN! [Or something. I was laughing too hard at this point to hear.]

[JESUS stabs MONK with one of his nails.]

JOSELLE: So, God hates fudge?

I’ll probably have to go to confession five times this weekend, and even that might not be enough to keep me out of Hell.

Rating: Four out of four mini Snickers bars. For this scene alone.

Whether you spend Halloween at home with Vincent Price, geeking it up at a party, or heading out to one of the many awesome Halloween nights at one of Salt Lake’s many gay and gayfriendly bars, I hope you all have a safe and happy holiday, geeky ones.

Uh. Just be careful of those Snickers bars. Q

I’ll just let the movie poster speak for this one: They transplanted a WHITE BIGOT’S HEAD onto a SOUL BROTHER’S BODY! My rating: Two out of four disembodied, yet still talking, heads.

The Incredible Two-Headed Transplant (1971)

Pretty much the same thing, except the heads are an escaped murderer and a homage to Lenny from Of Mice and Men. Somehow this manages to be more offensive than the previous film. It also has worse dialogue: “Johnny, this is an axe. It is used for chopping wood, and nothing else.” Did I mention Casey Kasem is one of the stars? And that a love ballad is the theme song? The more you know, man.

My rating: One and a half axes

Food of the Gods (1976)

A mysterious substance welling up from the soil turns an island’s fauna into giants. Ginormous rats proceed to terrorize a cabin full of guests including a greedy scientist; a calm, collected football player; and a pregnant woman who goes into labor while one beast is breaking down a door! I suspect this was voted the worst rodent movie in history for the combination of laughable puppets and the most obvious blown up footage in cinematic history. Inexplicably, the dialogue manages to be wooden and ridiculous at the same time.

My rating: Three out of four rodents.

The Haunted Palace (1963)

OK, I adore Vincent Price and his 15 bajillion movies. But some of them were real dogs. Like this one, which combined Poe’s story with H.P. Lovecraft’s elder gods, for reasons movie-goers have been debating ever since. Price is awesome as always, and everyone else is laughable — but the elder god who tries to eat people in the last scene is what makes this one for me.

My rating: Three out of four wriggly Cthulhu tentacles.

The Raven (1963)

Another Price vehicle based on an Edgar Allen Poe piece — this time his oft-quoted poem of the same name. Bizarrely, it’s a horror-comedy, so the hammy acting,

Catacombs (1988)

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Swine Flu: Where Are We Now?

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I just discussed swine flu (H1N1) recently. Twice, in fact. But things have changed slightly, even in these last few weeks. And since this is our countryâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s most emergent health issue, I thought an update would be important.

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention have officially announced widespread H1N1 activity throughout most of the United States, including Utah. The severity of an influenza season is most often measured by the number of hospitalizations due to influenza illness and pneumonia and the number of influenzar e l ated deaths.

According to L y n Finelli, a CDC flu surv e i l lance official, â&#x20AC;&#x153;In people age 5 to 64, there h a v e been as m a n y flu-related hospitalizations in the last six weeks as there usually are in an entire flu season. This level of activity so early in the influenza season is extremely unusual. The message that the public should be taking from this is that H1N1 is a real public health threat, and we all need to follow appropriate measures to protect ourselves and our communities.â&#x20AC;?

So, what should you do? First of all, donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t panic. Some people feel that all of the media coverage of H1N1 is either making them panic or desensitizing them. Donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t let yourself be desensitized, either. Stay informed, and be proactive about protecting your health.

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Step 1: Maintain good personal hygiene. Wash your hands frequently and cough into your elbow.

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riencing any flu-like illness, do not attend work or school. Try to isolate yourself from others.

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As you may have heard, vaccine production is currently behind what officials estimated earlier in the year. The CDC is hopeful that vaccine production will catch up sometime in November and will be more widely distributed.

I also know that many people are concerned about getting any vaccine. According to the CDC, the H1N1 vaccine is showing a similar safety track to the seasonal influenza vaccine, which has had a very good safety track record. The most common side effects of vaccine are soreness or redness at the injection site, mild muscle aches, mild fever and nausea. For more information about the 2009 H1N1 vaccine, you may go to cdc.gov.

The Salt Lake Valley Health Department is working to distribute H1N1 vaccine to the public as quickly as possible. To find out how and where to access vaccine and to get current updates on H1N1 please go to slvhealth.org.

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Utah Pride Center Holds Transgender Awareness Month Each November, the Utah Pride Center presents several events in honor of Transgender Awareness Month, to help address the needs and raise visibility of the T in the GLBT movement — the letter that is most frequently forgotten or misunderstood.

This year, however, there seem to be more events

planned than in years past designed not only for transgender people and their allies to socialize and mingle, but to discuss topics of particular importance to transgender people including representations of gender identity in the media, safer sex and HIV prevention for transgender people and gender and phi-

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Workshops and presentations on these topics and more will be presented at Un(packing) Gender, the first annual mini-conference sponsored by TransAction, the Utah Pride Center’s youth-led transgender advocacy group. Un(packing) Gender will be held Nov. 28 at the Salt Lake City Main Library, 210 E. 400 S., 9 a.m. – 5 p.m. Other topics during the conference will be a ‘Transgender 101” session on the basics of being transgender and gender identity, shaving and makeup how-tos, a workshop for parents, partners and families of transgender people, and a discussion about issues of cisgender (non-transgender) privilege in the community, and how social biases in favor of cisgender people impact transgender people. The day’s keynote speech will be given by PJ Carlisle, an adjunct professor in the University of Utah’s Gender Studies Program.

The conference is free and open to everyone regardless of gender identity or sexual orientation, and Rose Ellen Epstein, the center’s Transgender Youth Program coordinator, said that everyone who can attend, should.

“It’s important for everyone in our community because we all have a gender and a lot of us, even those who aren’t transgender, are stigmatized for their gender presentation,” she explained. “Transgender people are doing a lot of work and are on the front lines to make the world a safer place for all of us to express ourselves no matter what gender presentation we prefer.”

Epstein noted that the conference is free, but the center would like all who plan on attending to preregister by sending their name and contact information to transactionutah@gmail.com. However, Epstein stressed that day-of registration will also be available.

The month will also include a number of social events for transgender Utahns and their allies, friends and family. On Nov. 3, all are invited to go ice skating at the County Ice Center, 5201 South Murray Park Ln., at 7 p.m. The Sacred Light of Christ Metropolitan Community Church, 832 S. 600 E., will hold a chili cook off on Nov. 10 at 7 p.m. and AMF Ritz, 2265 S State St., will hold a gay and transgender-friendly bowling night on Nov. 24.

Mestizo Café, 641 W. North Temple, will be home to two events for Transgender Awareness Month: an open mic night on Nov. 17 from 7–10 p.m., and on Nov. 21, 9–11 p.m. is a special evening with spoken-word artist Athens Boys Choir (aka Katz), who identifies as a “Transsexual man living in the Deep South.”

His lively, edgy shows often mix humor, wide-eyed movie references, dancing and education about transgender issues.

“He’s a fascinating guy,” said Epstein. “He’s really funky and does his own thing.”

Transgender Awareness Month is held during November because the month is home to the Transgender Day of Remembrance, in which observers honor and memorialize people around the world who have been beaten or killed because they identify as transgender. The day was founded in 1998 in honor of Rita Hester, a Bostonian trans woman brutally stabbed to death on Nov. 12, 1998 by two men who followed her home from a bar. This year, the day will be observed in Utah at 7 p.m. on Nov. 20 at the South Valley Unitarian Universalist Society. The candlelight vigil will be sponsored by the Transgender Education Advocates of Utah, who have organized similar vigils in past years.

For more information about Transgender Awareness Month events, or to express interest in presenting at the Un(Packing) Gender conference, contact Epstein at 801-539-8800, ex. 17.

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Feature — Transgender Awareness

Fabulous People Joni Weiss: Putting the T at the Center

by JoSelle Vanderhooft

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Weiss has only been back in the state of her birth four years, but based on the service she has given to Utah’s lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender community, you would think she had never left.

At present, Weiss is a member of the Pride Interfaith Council, the organization that puts together gay and transgender-affirming religious and spiritual gatherings — most notably the Utah Pride Festival’s annual Interfaith Service — and the Community Inroads Alliance, an organization dedicated to supporting gay and transgender-friendly businesses and their work in the community. This January, she became a member of the Utah Pride Center’s board of directors, 17 individuals who handle a number of the center’s most vital tasks such as bringing in funding.

After joining, Weiss helped the board undertake another important job, one that she was surprised the board wasn’t doing already: Starting a diversity committee.

“You wouldn’t think we’d need one, but we now have one to focus on issues for people of color and transgender people and bisexuals. Those parts of the community who tend to feel a little bit left out,” said Weiss, who identifies both as transgender and pansexual — that is, attracted to people regardless of gender identity or biological sex.

“Being new to the board, I guess the diversity committee is the biggest thing I’ve been involved with, and just in general trying to represent the transgender community and bisexual community on the board in discussions and meetings,” she continued.

It’s a lot for one person to have taken on in just four years. Although Weiss grew up in Salt Lake City, she moved to Denver at age 30, shortly after marrying.

“When I got married my wife and I decided we didn’t want to [stay here],” said Weiss, who was observed male at birth. “The Mormon influence was kind of hard for her and the pressure to have children was great and neither of us liked that, so we wanted to get away.” For the next 18 years, Weiss worked for AT&T until her job was outsourced to IBM after 2000 (“they sold me with the furniture to IBM,” she joked). She described her current job with the computer giant as a “jack of all trades” position.

“I’m a bottle washer. I do some training, I do some training documentation, some automated programming for an internal product, which is my favorite piece. If I had to [say anything in particular], it would be that, and production support.”

When Weiss came out as transgender in 2005 and began the process of transitioning, she said the company supported her every step of the way.

“They are very supportive of transgender and gay people,” she explained. “They have human resource policies that protected me once I came out and they had a program in place within HR that assisted me in coming out. It was very well orchestrated.”

Although she didn’t come out until later in life, Weiss said she had known she was “female inside for most of my life.” oni

“In kindergarten I didn’t want to play with the boys, I knew I would rather hang out with my sister and her girlfriends,” she explained. “What was I supposed to do as a boy wasn’t really fun for me ... and when puberty hit I would cross dress and I would feel more comfortable in a dress. I wanted to do what all the girls were doing, but I couldn’t. So I knew then that something was wrong, but I still didn’t know what transgender was.”

Weiss didn’t know the term until roughly 2003 or 2004, when she began doing some research on the internet. She described one Web site, run by engineer and computer scientist Lynn Conway as particularly helpful in teaching her what transgender meant.

“I really struggled with [being transgender] because I thought it was wrong and I didn’t think that I would be able to come out and do anything about it,” Weiss explained. “I prayed and prayed — I’ve always been a spiritual person — for it to go away all my life. And it just never happened ... and when it didn’t go away, it really hit me that I didn’t really have any other choices. I had to come out and face whatever the consequences were.”

When Weiss came out in March of 2007, she and her wife divorced. More happy, she began involving herself with the local LGBT community — attending workshops, making friends and volunteering for a number of groups, such as the Human Rights Campaign’s The L Word night at Mo Diggity’s (a lesbian sports bar that closed in 2008) and the Sundance Film Festival’s Queer Lounge, the independent film festival’s annual queer-friendly forum.

“It wasn’t very long before there were people who were newer to coming out than I was,” she laughed.

In volunteering and in making and talking to her new friends, Weiss said she began realizing that the transgender community in Utah had a lot of unmet needs including the need to socialize with and meet people “outside a support group environment.”

“It just really struck me that it was hard for people like me to realize that there are people like us out here,” she said.

So when Weiss’ friend and Utah Pride Center board member Brenda Larsen asked her to consider applying for the board, Weiss took her up on the offer. She was elected to the board last November and says she looks forward to several more years of advocating for bisexual and transgender people as a board member.

When not busy at her job or with her duties for any number of volunteer organizations, Weiss said that she spends much of her time “cat-proofing” her house for the litter of kittens she cares for and playing the drums for a band she describes as a combination of “rhythm and blues and rock and roll.”

But no matter what she does, Weiss is dedicated to helping the community — which is often largely focused on issues pertaining to white, lesbian or gay people — find ways to welcome and serve all of its members. Q

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Feature — Transgender Awareness

Engendered Species: A Transgender Support Group and a Film In the past few years Engendered Species, one of Salt Lake City’s groups for transgender people as well as those who identify as transsexual or cross-dressers, has mentioned a documentary film on its Web site.

Titled simply Engendered Species, the 48-minute film features several members of the group speaking candidly about such things as coming out as transgender, advocating for transgender rights and even deciding on which outfits to wear each day.

The film was made in 2005 by Julie van der Wal, then a graduate student in the University of Utah’s film studies program. And until now, it has received little attention in the media.

As Engendered Species founder, Deborah Dean, explains, the film began as a five-minute project for one of van der Wal’s undergraduate classes and gradually evolved into her master’s thesis.

Unfortunately, van der Wal has since left the state and was unavailable for comment.

“The film is hers except for like five minutes at the beginning, because there’s something I thought needed to be there and she didn’t want to deal with it, so she gave me the footage and I put it in,” said Dean. The footage she added was a clip from an interview with one of the group’s members, a trans woman named Liz (few last names are used in the doccumentary).

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In this clip, Liz is speaking about meeting a fellow closeted transgender woman she met while serving in the U.S. Army during the Vietnam War and how that transgender woman died in her arms after being fired upon during a covert action. Her last request was for Liz to call her “Judy.”

“The bonds of combat can be very close. It can be closer than anything you find in civilian life, but still these two guys were transgender in some form and they didn’t know about each other. This was 1970 and you didn’t talk about it,” said Dean.

“I very much wanted that story in there because it’s one of the most compelling stories I’ve heard in years, and Julie wanted a happier, lighter film. So there’s a compromise,” she continued. “I took that footage she shot and put that on the front, and then I have me telling the attitude [about transgender people] I want to convey and contrast, which is once you know us as human beings you’ll know our good and positive aspects.”

While the film begins on a somber, indeed heartwrenching note, much of it is, indeed, a lighter look at the members of Engendered Species, who recount their coming out as transgender women or as crossdressers as they socialize, shop for clothing and put on makeup. Along the way, they and Dean provide some insights into what the word “transgender” means to them.

“There are people who dress up once a month and that’s enough, there are people who dress up once a week and that’s enough. There are people who do it every night and that’s not enough,” says Dean at one point. “The gender bridge is recognizing that people are varied in gender like they are in height or weight or anything else. We’re not so much men or women as we are individuals.”

Dean, however, recalls a time only 14 years ago when few Utahns who would have identified with any definition of the word transgender were so open.

When she began Engendered Species in 1995, Dean said that the only group for gender-variant and transgender Utahns in Salt Lake City met “secretly in a hotel room.”

“People were afraid that they could be manipulated,” Dean explained. “I thought that was wrong.”

Deciding that she wanted to make Utah a safer place for people like her, Dean outed herself as transgender and began speaking publicly about the issues that she and others faced. Along the way she encouraged members of the fledgling group to come out in public, encouraging them to meet for social events like museum outings and road trips, and even to march in Salt Lake City’s annual Gay Pride Parade, which the group has done every year but one since its founding.

“We try to do all kinds of stuff like that to let people know you can be under the open dome of the sky and be who you are,” she said. “If you act right, you can control how people relate to you. You can navigate society without ill effects or ill approval. If you’re acting nice to someone, unless they’re a psychopath, they’re going to start acting nice to you, but if you act suspiciously they’re going to treat you accordingly like they do to people [regardless of whether they’re transgender or not].”

Allowing van der Wal to make the documentary, Dean added, was one more part of her mission and the group’s mission to help people live openly.

“I wanted the word out. I enjoyed doing this stuff too. I have to or I wouldn’t have done it for 15 years,” she said. Q

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Gay Agenda Halloween Costumes: Flashy or Flasher?

by Tony Hobday

My memory isn’t as extensive as Kate Gosselin’s birth canal, but I do remember a few of my Halloween costumes from recent years, which I’m sure you’re riveted to hear about: a goth ballerina, Judge Judy, a bloodied hospital patient, Agent Fox Mulder (The X Files), Kelly Garrett (Charlie’s Angels) and yes, even a flasher. But this year, after much consideration, I’m going as Balloon Boy.

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thursday — Direct from a hit off-Broadway run, the acclaimed musical Fabulous Divas of Broadway starring Alan Palmer is a rapid-paced show business tale about legendary Broadway divas ranging from Ethel Merman, Liza Minnelli and Judy Garland, to Patti LuPone, Kristin Chenoweth and most honorably, Tony Hobday (tehehe!). They’re all brought to life with hilarity, songs and gorgeous costumes, showing us exactly why they’re all called divas.

7:30pm, through Friday, Black Box Theatre, Rose Wagner Center, 138 W. Broadway. Tickets $22, 801-355-ARTS or arttix.org.

QQ The Tower Theatre once again presents the screening of one of America’s Halloween cult classics, The Rocky Horror Picture Show starring Susan Sarandon and Tim Curry. Instead of going to the movies with popcorn, nachos and Junior Mints, the Horror is all about toast, water guns, rubber gloves and more ... sounds like the perfect date. However, these props may not be brought in, only purchased at the theater. It includes a live pre-show performance and singalong presented by Salt Lake’s Latter Day Transvestites.

10pm tonight, 8pm & midnight Friday and Saturday, Tower Theatre, 876 E. 900 South.

Tickets $10, saltlakefilmsociety.org.

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friday — The Utah Pride Center presents Hallow’s Eve: Circus of Sorts.

This free event includes magicians, pyschics, jugglers, fire performers, an art show, raffle and costume contest.

Note, however, that the venue prohibits masks, full face paint or weapons in Halloween attire ... what if I want to come as a flasher?

8pm–midnight, Trolley Square, 600 S. 700 East. Free, 801-539-8800 or utahpridecenter.org.

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saturday — If you’re still torn about your Halloween costume this year here are some popular choices: Voldemort, Dementor (Harry Potter characters); Queen Elizabeth, Farrah Fawcett (powerful women); Wolverine, Fembot (sexy non-humans); ‘Officer Frisk Me,’ ‘Sexy Naughty Santa’ (dirty whores). I do, however, recommend you refrain from the ‘Naughty Rainbow Brite’ costume — I know of one person going as such and that’s enough to make your eyeballs bleed.

Have a thrilling, safe and happy Halloween from the old trolls of QSaltLake.

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sunday — If you didn’t get enough of Halloween night then check out Club Karamba’s Nightmare Halloween Fashion Show, sponsored by the Nightmare on 13th Haunted House. The night includes a costume contest with more than $1,000 in prizes ... woohoo! I’m definitely going as a flasher to this party.

9pm, Pachanga Night at Club Karamba, 1051 E. 2100 South. No cover until 10pm, 801-637-9197.

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monday — Self-identified bisexual, industrial goth artist Emilie Autumn comes to Salt Lake City. Her vaudeville show is part Broadway musical, part Victorianera play and part circus side show.

It’s filled with aerial acrobatics, tea & cookies thrown into the crowd, fire eating, Emilie and her Bloody Crumpets in corsets making out, badass violin solos, fan participation, flaming hula-hooping, and dancing on five-foot stilts.

7:30pm, Murray Theater, 4961 S. State St. Tickets $13, 801-467-8499 or smithstix.com.

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QQ Promoting his latest album Draw the Line, alternative-folk rock artist David Gray returns to Salt Lake City.

Enjoy live performances of such hits as “Babylon,” “Say Hello, Wave Goodbye,” “Sail Away” and “Fugitive.”

If nothing else, Gray’s rugged good looks and deep-sea voice will have you swooning the entire night. Lisa Hannigan opens.

7:30pm, Kingsbury Hall, 1395 E. Presidents Cir., UofU. Tickets $32, 801-581-7100 or kingtix.com.

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tuesday — The Utah Pride Center hosts a lovely evening of outdoor Community Ice Skating.

So pull out your blades and do your best Jeremy Abbott triple toe loop, or best Paul Wylie camel spin, or best Evan Lysacek combination jump.

Also, enjoy hot chocolate, conversation and ice fishing ... oops, sorry, my mind drifted to cold holes.

7–9pm, Gallivan Center, 239 S. Main St. Admission $3–5, rentals $3, 801-539-8800 or utahpridecenter.org.

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friday — Set in the heart of Southeastern Utah, to the backdrop of stunning redrock landscape and an endless, majestic sky is the incomparable event with “a community-minded spirit” known as the Moab Folk Festival. Artists include Bill Nershi (bluegrass), Indigie Femme (roots/folk), Blame Sally (indie folk-rock), Darol Anger (acoustic jazz), Harry Manx (Hindustani) and The Burns Sisters (Celtic-folk).

Hours and venues vary, through Sunday, Moab, Utah. Tickets $30 and $115, moabfolkfestival.com.

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saturday — I don’t like reality shows; they’re annoying as hell. Well, except that I kind of like American Idol, but what’s up with Ellen DeGeneres replacing Paula Abdul? Just because Ellen likes to dance doesn’t mean she knows singing. I digress. Anyhoo, the Top 10 dancers of a hit reality tv show are in town tonight.

The So You Think You Can Dance Tour features season five’s winner Jeanine, and Kupono, Evan, Jason, Janette,

Kayla, Ade, Randi, Melissa and Utah’s runner-up Brandon.

7:30pm, E Center, 3200 W. Decker Lake Dr. Tickets $38.50–56, ticketmaster.com.

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monday — The SLC Film Center presents CHRIS & DON: A LOVE STORY, the true-life story of the passionate three-decade relationship between British writer Christopher Isherwood and American portrait painter Don Bachardy, 30 years his junior. With Isherwood’s status as an out-and-proud gay maverick, and Bachardy’s eventual artistic triumph away from the considerable shadow of his life partner, the film is a joyous celebration of an extraordinary couple.

7pm, Tower Theatre, 876 E. 900 South. Free, 801-746-7000 or slcfilmcenter.org.

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wednesday — Spy Hop Productions presents the seventh annual PitchNic World Premiere, featuring four films from its critically acclaimed youth film program. The films: Destination:SLC, a documentary detailing a refugee’s journey to make a new home from Africa to SLC; Brains, chronicling the story of two brothers making a zombie survival guide; Brother of Mine, a documentary accounting the personal story of Ethan Pullan’s (film co-creator) brother who died from leukemia; and The Antagonist, following a character’s struggle against his writer to change his murderous fate.

7–9pm, Jeanne Wagner Theatre, Rose Wagner Center, 138 W. Broadway. Tickets $5, 801-355ARTS or arttix.org.

UPCOMING Events

NOV. 20 Elton John & Billy Joel, ESA NOV. 21 Kathy Griffin, Abravanel Hall NOV. 24–25 David Archuleta, Abravanel Hall

Save the Date November 12

January 6–10 Utah Gay & Lesbian Ski Week, gayskiing.org

January 21–31 Hotel Monaco Red Sundance Film Party ­ Festival, utahaids.org Park City ­ sundance.org November 14 Q’s Big Gay Fun Bus to Wendover ­ qsaltlake.com

February 12–14 QUAC Ski-N-Swim ­ quacquac.org

November 20 HRC’s Transgender Day of Remebrance­ utah.hrc.org

June 4–6 Utah Pride ­ utahpridecenter. org

December 11–12 Salt Lake Men’s Choir Holiday Concert ­ saltlakemenschoir.org

September 28 Equality Utah Allies Dinner ­ equalityutah.org

Email arts@­ qsaltlake.com

DVD Review Eating Out 3: All You Can Eat

by Tony Hobday

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peaking in terms of substance

and intelligence, 80 minutes is about “all you can” stomach of Eating Out 3: All you Can Eat, the thrid installment of the Eating Out series by creator Q. Allan Brocka. With any pride, no pun intended, Brocka will hopefully shelf a fourth movie.

If you’re unfamiliar with the Eating Out flicks, they’re basically semi-comedic, mostly absurd, deities of deception, immorality and crude sexual hijinx. Totally gay community, right? Maybe, but for some, the films will feel embarrassing and offensive. As with the previous two films, there appears, foggily, to be a message in All You Can Eat, albeit not revolutionary in the least. Basically, All You Can Eat, fights for the underdog, i.e. the lanky, pale-skinned dork with low self-esteem that has led to anality.

If you are familiar with the Eating Out films then it should be said that Kyle and Marc are not our leading men in All You Can Eat due to an unfortunate chance meeting with Celine Dion.

In turn, Kyle’s cousin Casey (Daniel Skelton) takes the lead as a geeky romantic with an abhorrance for the L.A. gay infrastructure. That is until he meets Zack (actor/singer Chris Salvatore), the intrinsic tall, dark and handsome protagonist who, of course is dating the most popular, egocentric and least interesting person in town — here he’s called Lionel (Utah native John C. Stallings who graced our pages in our first year). Almost instantly, all of

Casey’s small town ideology, upbringing and church-combover is ‘lost in cyberspace,’ so to speak, and with the aid of the questionable influence of Tiffani (Eating Out alumni Rebekah Kochan), a stereotypical Baywatch-blonde slut with a foul mouth and a taste for behavioral impropriety.

Casey and Tiffani attempt to deceive Zack by posting photos of Tiffani’s exboyfriend Ryan (Michael E.R. Walker), a hot, muscular stripper, who’s moved to Arizona, to Casey’s profile (that’s creative!). But when the real Ryan unexpectedly rolls into town, an accidental meeting obviously prompts an even deeper deception (besides, where else could it go!).

Written by Phillip J. Bartell (Eating Out 2: Sloppy Seconds), All You Can Eat lacks ingenuity — seems like only a few details have been altered from its predecessors — and there certainly was not much thought given to a plot

twist — it is predictable and it knows it, which makes it all the more dissatisfying. And though there’s little wit, somehow parts of the film turned out funny — Kochan’s comedic timing is pretty darn solid. (Plus, gay icons Mink Stole and Leslie Jordan always bring a cheery attribute to films). Most of the writing is sophomoric, crude or uninspired: “Babies are just abortions that eat,” “That’s why it’s called homosexual, not homohuggable...”

Thankfully, director Glenn Gaylord had the intelligence and decency not to prolong this unnecessary film and also had the insight to litter it with a lot of skin (and a full-frontal shot or two) to keep even the embarrassed and offended tuned in — even if it is just through the ‘scene selection’ on the DVR. Q

Eating Out 3: All You Can Eat hits the street Nov. 10. Suggested retail $24.95, visit ariztical.com.

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Q Scene National Equality March Becky Elenor spent the entire trip to Washington D.C. looking through a lens and was nice enough to let us reprint them here.

You can see more at gallery.me.com/b.elenor

Brent Marrott also made the trek to D.C. with friends and snapped some damn fine shots himself. 

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A&E pacted by the church’s support of the Yes on 8 campaign and Prop. 8’s passage last November, which effectively launched a new era in America’s gay rights movement.

Eight months after Cowan first contacted QSaltLake to let the local community know that he would be in town seeking interviews, the film is now complete and being sent to such major film festivals as Sundance, the Santa Barbara International Film Festival and the Nashville Film Festival, and several more throughout the United States and Canada.

“Our early press has gotten us several invitations sight unseen for other festivals in and out of the United States,” said Cowan.

Reaction to the project has been varied, and many of them can currently be seen on the film’s Web site, mormonproposition.com. At the moment, most of the comments have been signed by Utahns or Californians, and most are supportive of the film. However, as press coverage of 8: The Mormon Proposition continues to snowball, and if the film is screened at any film festivals or in any theatres, these reactions will likely change. For his part, Cowan has promised to post all comments — “good, bad, ugly or beautiful” — on the film’s Web site as he

Trailer for Documentary about Prop. 8 and Mormons Released

In mid-October, the trailer for a muchanticipated documentary about the LDS Church’s involvement in passing Proposition 8 was released on the internet, igniting blogs across the nation and increasing further interest in the film as it heads to the juries of several national film festivals.

“In only 72 hours since our trailer’s release on the web, we estimate 50-75 thousand people logged on to see the trailer,” said Reed Cowan, the director, writer and producer of 8: The Mormon Proposition. “At one point we were the number one video for the activism channel on YouTube. That’s huge. I’ve had acquisition departments from big, big media companies call wanting to see the film. So interest didn’t build ... it exploded.”

In February, interest in the film exploded for the first time in headlines across the world after Utah’s ABC affiliate showed footage of Cowan’s interview with anti-gay Sen. Chris Buttars, R-West Jordan. In this footage, Buttars — known for his controversial remarks about gays and lesbians — compared gay people to terrorists, claimed that they engaged in “pig sex,” and called them “the biggest

threat to America going down that I know of.”

Cowan said the time he spent with Buttars haunts him today.

“I thought he knew about my life.

Everyone does,” he said. “As I listened to him I had to put aside my feelings and keep a cool head and genuinely try to see it from his perspective. And I did that. It wasn’t until after the interview, when I was two stories underground in a gay youth hiding place in the dead of winter that his words hit me. Here were children of god ... living in a hole ... coughing and freezing and hungry before my eyes and Buttars’ words about how despicable gay people are! Can you imagine that juxtaposition? I became sick, and frankly I’m still haunted by him. I’ve learned a lot. When you speak with goodness you leave feeling edified ... light. I did not leave feeling that after speaking with Buttars.”

The now-famous footage opens the two and a half minute trailer, which goes on to show clips from interviews with LDS leaders, gay and lesbian couples, politicians, leaders of political action committees and Latter-day Saints about how their lives were im-

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receives it.

“It’s been wonderful to see the enormity of people’s interest,” said Cowan.

“This film hits a nerve with people. Not only people concerned for gay causes but also people who are interested in church and state separation themes.”

Cowan said that he expects the film to be released “any time after January 2010.” At present, he has no plans “just high hopes” to screen it in Utah.

8: The Mormon Proposition is narrated by Dustin Lance Black, the Oscar-winning screenwriter of Milk, the Sean Penn movie about the life of assassinated San Francisco Supervisor Harvey Milk. Utah philanthropist Bruce Bastian serves as executive producer.

For more information visit mormonproposition.com.

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Northern Utah Coalition HIV/AIDS Project is a Non-Profit Organization and the proceeds from this event will support education, awareness, training and local services to those affected with this challenging disease Event will be held at the Ogden Eccles Conference Center located at 2415 Washington Boulevard Ogden, Utah 84401-2315 Northern Utah Coalition, Inc. HIV/AIDS Project in partnership with Weber State University Phone: (801) 393-4153 E-mail: nuc536@comcast.net Web:northernutahcoalition.com

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Food & Drink

Restaurant Review J. Wong’s Asian Bistro

by Drew Ellsworth

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f you haven’t been to

J. Wong’s yet, you need to go. They have possibly the best Thai/Chinese food I’ve had recently in Salt Lake City.

Located at 163 W. 200 S., facing the south entrance to the Salt Palace, J. Wong’s is elegant and surprisingly secluded.

The proprietor is the “Doogie Howser” of new restaurateurs in town — he may be in his mid to late 20s but still looks like a teenager. Josh Wong is from a dynasty of Chinese and Southeast Asian cooks, and he and his brothers have been raised, with great finesse, by their single mom who owns the China Platter in Bountiful. Josh has that solid calm and intelligent demeanor, so necessary in running a restaurant.

He’s kind, gentle and handsome, and possesses excellent taste.

J. Wong’s is just beautiful when you enter. Its Asian/contemporary décor lacks all the schlock that is so prevalent in many Chinese or Thai places.

Josh and his family chose all the wall hangings that were sent to Thailand to be painted or woven — they are simple and chic. The colors and arrangements of the tables and chairs are welcoming and nicely put together.

My dining partner was Brad Di ­Iorio of QSaltLake, and we arrived, un-announced, late on a Sunday afternoon.

There were few people when we got there, but as the evening progressed many more were seated. We were quite surprised at this, because downtown Salt Lake is so desolate on Sunday afternoon.

After being greeted by Josh we started our meal with Thai Summer Rolls, which I nearly always ask for in a Thai restaurant. The rolls were beautifully made and tightly wound. They had a filling which surprised me: rice/stick noodles. They also included veggies and herbs and a peanut sauce for dipping. I would have liked a little more veggie and a little less

rice/stick, but they were refreshing and light and very nice. Throughout our meal we drank a delightful Pine Ridge CheninViognier white wine. Brad, who is still a novice with wines, enjoyed it and it complimented nearly all the things we were served. Plus, it is such a nice wine just by itself. This was a bit of a revelation for me because, in general, wine people recommend Riesling or Gewurtz with Asian foods, but the Chenin blend was great.

Now I’m also thinking Pinot Gris would be nice, too, with this kind of cuisine.

Our next plate was just gorgeous, the Crying Tiger Shrimp. It consisted of spicy stir-fried shrimp on a bed of fried rice/stick with cut bell peppers in a light, lime dressing. Surrounding the plate were little rice crisps that had been fried in perfectly clean oil.

You made little bruschettas by placing all the ingredients in one of the scoopshaped crisps and crunching it down.

We loved it. What a nice way to enjoy a shrimp salad!

Next we ordered Chilean sea bass.

This came as a skin-on steak, not a fillet, and it was topped with curly, stir-fried scallions. The sauce was a lightly sweetened soy, very simple and delicious. The fish was perfectly cooked and melted in your mouth — as sea bass should.

I love to order pork dishes in Thai restaurants, so Josh suggested we try the Mu Shu Pork. Josh brought some nicely stir-fried pork with veggies and made the hand-rolled crepes tableside.

The crepes were made of wheat flour, which was different from the usual rice crepe, and the Hoisin sauce was not too overpowering. Brad and I liked this dish a lot. (We could have ordered a glass of a light red wine to go with this dish — perhaps a Beaujolais or Oregon Pinot Noir — but we didn’t.)

Finally, we had one of the house spe-

cialties, and obviously one of Josh’s easily prepared, and I strongly recomfavorites: the Walnut Shrimp. These mend the Thai-inspired dishes. There shrimp were very lightly battered then are beautiful banquet facilities in back tossed in a very light sweet and sour and a nice patio which is now closed for sauce — no color added. The walnuts the winter. I would encourage Josh to branch out a little bit and were big and plump and try some fusion dishes. I toasted. The plate was know his chefs have the cadecorated with a beautiJ Wong’s pability to pull it off. A nice ful Asian hand-cut flower Asian Bistro pepper steak and wasabi made of deacon radish.

163 W 200 South mashed potatoes would be The dish was lovely, but we 801-350-0888 some cool additions to the were already quite full and jwongslc.com menu, just as examples.

I’m sure we didn’t appreciWe didn’t order dessert ate it as we should have. I DREW’S RATING: but were shown a plate loved the fact that Wong’s 93/100 of coconut ice-cream surtries to re-create old Chirounded by deep-fried nese favorites with a new and modern presentation. The walnut cheesecake, wrapped in wontons then shrimp would wow most customers drizzled with chocolate and caramel.

A huge leap from the rainbow sherbet who love sweet and sour.

The menu is full of things I want to try my parents got in the ’50s and ’60s up — plenty of curry dishes, rices, noodles, in Ogden.

Most dinner items are in the $15 range soups and salads. Wong’s offers a lunch special for $8.50 which I have had sev- and appetizers are around $7. Wine and eral times as a take-out on the run. The beer are served and there is a full bar. I menu is big, but organized enough to be give J. Wong’s a 93+ rating. Q

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QFitness How to Change for Good

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who lost 30 pounds and kept it off? Have you ever witnessed a couch potato morph into a competitive athlete? I have! My work as a personal trainer provides me the rare opportunity to witness amazing transformations.

Plot Your Course

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Stage 1: â&#x20AC;&#x153;I donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t need to change.â&#x20AC;?

Here, you donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t yet have a desire or interest in making changes. To snap out of this stage, identify specific reasons you might need to change. (Are you taking medications? Can you walk to the end of the block and back without being winded? Are you constantly tired, completely lacking energy?)

Stage 2: â&#x20AC;&#x153;I know I need to change.â&#x20AC;?

Stage twoâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ers are interested in learning how to begin to live healthy. Here is where youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ll take a close look at your motivation to change. Are you wondering what you could achieve in the future if you were healthier? Are you looking for energy to play with your kids when you get home from work? Are you looking to make a job change? Are you trying to attract a mate? No matter what your motivation is, write it down and reflect on it daily. Determine where that motivation ranks in your life.

Stage 3: â&#x20AC;&#x153;Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;m planning to make a change.â&#x20AC;? In this stage, concrete steps are taken to incorporate change into your lifestyle, such as buying equipment, joining a gym, scheduling classes, planning meals, and setting specific short-term and long-term goals.

Stage 4: â&#x20AC;&#x153;I am changing!â&#x20AC;? At this level you are making healthier choices.

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When it comes to attaining personal goals, coaching, ongoing support and encouragement are crucial to sustaining lasting life-change progress.

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Click or Treat: Halloween Safety Tips for Your Pet Halloween is a fun and festive holiday for humans, but it can be a truly terrifying time for our four-legged friends.

There are all those noisy little monsters ringing the doorbell repeatedly, there’s tempting but toxic chocolate everywhere and not every pet really wants to wear those cute but confining costumes we pick out for them.

Here are some key points to remember for your pets during Halloween: • Keep track of your pet. With the door opening so many times for trickor-treaters, pets can run out of the house in an instant.

• Candy can make your pet sick, and candy wrappers, if swallowed, can be harmful.

• Pets can be frightened by all the commotion and by Halloween costumes.

• Not all pets like to be dressed up. But if you do, make sure your pet’s costume allows for movement and that your pet can see, hear, walk, bark, and breathe.

• Make sure your pet’s costume is free of accessories that can be chewed off and/or swallowed.

• Keep pets away from jack-o-lanterns because they can knock them over, causing a fire hazard. Plus pets are curious and can easily suffer a burn.

Best Friends Animal Society has created the Furry Frankenstein project — clever materials that animal advocates

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LEO (Jul 24–Aug 23)

Get into your groove when Sun enters strategic Scorpio. We suddenly see things for what they are and people for who they are.

Discover your hidden talents and find new methods to your madness. This is the time to take careful action.

Proud Lions are at home at home.

Make your surroundings more comfortable and in sync with who you are.

This is also a good time to attend to certain family issues. You are especially strategic and diplomatic and can smooth out the rough edges and build bridges. Say what you have to say. You sound wise and balanced... for a change!

can download and share to help spread the word about keeping pets home, happy and healthy this All Hallow’s Eve. Part of the Society’s “First Home Forever Home” campaign, folks can go to http://network.bestfriends.org/campaigns/foreverhome/13415/news.aspx and download a free mini-poster with witty words of advice for protecting our pets. After printing off a pile of posters, caring friends of animals can plaster them throughout their communities, in coffee shops, dog parks, bookstores, grooming salons, gyms or libraries, or anywhere else their travels take them.

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Pink Caps give out a whoop and a holler. Friends gravitate to you and you are surrounded by adoring admirers.

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this time to solidify and consolidate their gotten gains. Soon all your hard work will really pay off. You HAVE been working hard, haven’t you?

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If life has been getting you down, this month will offer a great escape from stresses and strains. Whether you pack up your troubles and cart them off to Paris or decide to hang close to home and cruise the net, Guppies expand their Outreach and lower their personal temperature. But also expect a little cosmic oomph so you don’t become too mellow...

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Your personal charm turns on full throttle as you attract anyone you want now. Can you control your impulses?

Proud Rams are infused with a sexual thirst that needs to be quaffed. Before you dive head first into something (or someone...) over your head, think about the ramifications and end results. Caution? Okay, forget about that–full speed ahead!

TAURUS (Apr 21–May 21)

Relationships are the be all and end all this week. Queer Bulls who ache for a significant other will have a choice of potential partners. Those already in a relationship can improve on perfection.

But don’t expect it to come easily; You will be expected to put out a bit of effort for your domestic bliss. You just can’t phone it in... or can you?

GEMINI (May 22–Jum 21)

Pink Twins are more efficient than usual. Use this useful energy to clear off your desk and get a few nit picky things out of the way. And, as the week progresses, you can turn that excess girth into attractive grist. Rewards are there for those who put in the effort in exercise and their overall health regime. Work hard now to play hard later.

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How playful do you feel gay Crab?

You can be tempted into all sorts of wilde activities that expand your imagination, tickle your gay muse and just relax and have fun. Allow yourself to be tempted!

Before you know it you can turn your inspiration into reality. Let’s hope that reality nibbles and doesn’t bite... unless that is your thing.

VIRGO (Aug 24–Sep 23)

Queer Virgins express themselves eloquently and expertly now.

Consider your strategy and plan out your line of attack. You can more easily consolidate and build on your successes while you have the optimism, confidence and clearer perspective. It is time to reap your just desserts.

Will there be a cherry on top? Only if you add a little sauce....

AQUEERIUS (Jan 21–Feb 19)

If you have felt hamstrung in your attempts to climb the corporate ladder, this month will offer you an easy ride up. Aqueerians experience increased professional opportunities now and should use

LIBRA (Sep 24–Oct 23)

SCORPIO (Oct 24–Nov 22)

A flattering pink light is cast on all your best moves. Proud Scorps increase their popularity quotient tenfold and win over even the most unwinable folks.

But don’t rest on your laurels, you charmer you; as the week progresses you are encouraged to put words into action. Don’t be a blowhard unless you know which way your wind blows.

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Gay Bars versus Great Cocktails

by Camper English

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Cocktail Chatter Though I spend what many would consider an inordinate amount of time in bars, less and less of this time is spent in gay bars.

My issue is not with the gays, of course, nor even with gay bars per se. Between dance bars, biker bars, piano bars, cruise bars, rock-and-roll bars, bear bars, drag bars, sports bars and neighborhood bars, I think you can usually find the gay bar that suits your mood at any time of the week. What you can’t find, however, is a decent cocktail.

You can find a decent mixed drink in a gay bar — don’t get me wrong — but complicated cocktails are another story. The simple mixed drinks like vodka cranberry, vodka tonic, vodka soda, and the like when they’re served in gay bars tend to be stronger in alcohol content, less expensive and served faster by better looking bartenders than in straight bars. This part I like very much.

The part I don’t like so much is that usually the only cocktails beyond a Martini and (sometimes) a Manhattan that gay bar bartenders seem able to make is the Cosmopolitan and the Apple Martini. Those drinks were fine for a time, but after six or seven hundred of them, one’s tongue may want to wander towards something different or new or at least something invented within the last decade.

We are in a new golden era of cocktails made with fresh ingredients, homemade bitters, spicy syrups and floral liqueurs, yet the drinks being served in gay bars became popular when Sex in the City was still a television series rather than a series of movies.

The only good news is that the cocktails are so dated that soon they’ll be retro.

To be fair, the vast majority of bars in America aren’t making the couture cocktails of my dreams with hand-carved ice cubes, rare Indonesian rum, and fresh-picked kumquats either. But I still hold out hope that my gay sisters and brothers will hop on the haute cocktail bandwagon sooner rather than later. We’re supposed to be a trendy people.

Another trend is the prevalence of competitive cooking reality shows, and those are just chock full of gays. Who knew there were so many queer chefs? I suppose it’s the same with gay mixologists. They do exist, and there are more than a few of them, but they just don’t work in gay bars where their talent would be wasted.

Perhaps that’s my fault and yours too, leaving the gay bar talent untested. Maybe if we asked the bartenders (nicely) for more complicated and delicious cocktails they would learn to make them for us. We’ll have to do this at times when the bar isn’t very busy so the bartenders have the time to indulge us, but maybe if we start bringing in new, relatively simple, cocktail recipes they’ll learn to make these drinks for us.

At worst we’ll be rebuffed and this plan will fail, but at best we’ll slowly improve the qualities of cocktails in gay bars, one bartender at a time. Q Camper English is a writer at Alcademics.com.

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Q ueeries Guess Who’s Coming to Dinner? Your Ex!

By Steven Petrow

How Do I Have a Successful Lesbian Potluck?

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I hate to be a stereotype, but I’m going to have a lesbian potluck next month. It’s the food that has me worried, though. The last time I did this, I wound up with several different versions of lentil salad, no main courses, and no ingenuity.

How can I get my friends to do better?

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Well, you can get them to do better by doing better yourself. Get organized. By that, I mean give out assignments. One way is to divide your guest list alphabetically with one group bringing appetizers and salads (you might tell this team jokingly, “let’s skip the lentil salad this year”), another main dishes, and the last, desserts. Maybe you can provide the beverages yourself.

And the next time you’re a potluck guest?

Inquire whether anyone coming has special dietary considerations — perhaps someone is vegan or lactose intolerant or has celiac disease, for example. (If you yourself have special needs, be sure to bring something that you can eat and let your host know beforehand so there are no worries.)

Potluck guests should also avoid making their dish at the host’s house, even if it’s just a salad. All the prep work should be done at home, except perhaps for reheating a dish right before serving.

Guess Who’s Coming to Dinner? Your Ex!

Q

It’s said that in the lesbian and gay community, “we are an army of lovers and ex-lovers.” How do you handle invites, seating arrangements, etc., when you know that so many of the guests are former lovers — and you want to invite them all?

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Indeed, what they say is true. I remember being unpleasantly shocked at a birthday party for my former boyfriend Victor to see all four of his other exes in attendance. At one point, the five of us were even corralled into a group photo. Flash!

Posterity recorded. What Victor hadn’t counted on was that we would talk — talk about him — and since we were all history, as they say, we had a lot of pent-up dish. By night’s end, the entire party was referring to our merry little band as “Victor’s Victims.”

Probably not what Victor had in mind.

Back to your question. First of all, as a host you need to think of your guests’ comfort. Just because you want to invite them all, doesn’t mean you should. Masked or

unmasked bitterness, rage or jealousy can quickly tank the best of parties. But if you’re committed to this potentially prickly guest list, be transparent. You don’t need to tell each guest who among their exes will be present, but if they ask, fess up. Then, it’s every man and woman for him or herself. Some will simply not show, but at least the others know what they’re getting into.

Likewise, if you’re having trouble choosing between two separated lovers, feel free to invite them both. Let them choose to attend or not. Or the exes can decide between themselves what’s appropriate. But again, if asked whether the other is invited or attending, say what you know.

As for seating arrangements, you’ve got to be kidding. You can’t just put a group of unhappy souls at a table and ask them to break bread together. Instead, make sure the party is big enough so that folks can hide in corners or behind a tree.

The Art of Mingling (LGBT-style)

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Whenever I have a party, it seems that my lesbian friends stay to themselves and my gay male friends do the same.

How can I encourage my guests to mingle instead of clinging to their same-gender friends?

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Of course, the larger question is: How do you get people who don’t know each other to try and connect? Sad to say, but most of us like to stick with our own kind, or at least with what’s tried and true. With strangers, simply starting a conversation can be the biggest challenge. And this is where a good host makes all the difference.

Go around the party and match up people who happen to have something — pretty much anything — in common. For instance, “Rochelle, I’d like you to meet Mike; he also lived in St. Louis before moving here.”

Or: “Mike, you probably didn’t know that Rochelle has a new puppy too.”

Of course, one of the reasons that the gays and the lezzies may be staying in their own camps at your parties is that they’re on the prowl for a date. Here, too, a good host intervenes. Introduce Sally to Jeanne, saying something like: “You’re two of my favorite people and you’re both screenwriters. I think you should know each other.”

And then let them be. Your work is done.

Until the next party. Q Steven Petrow is the author of ‘The Essential Book of Gay Manners & Etiquette.’ Find him on the web at gayandlesbianmanners.com

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Sports BY BRAD DI IORIO

Avalanche Places 15th at Gay Bowl IX After hosting Gay Bowl VIII last year and finishing second out of 19 teams, Salt Lake City’s entry in Gay Bowl IX finished a disappointing 15th out of the 20 teams. Teams from across the United States participated in the tournament during the Equality March on Washington weekend.

Led by Tracy Taggart and Mark Barr, pick-up players were added to

the roster as Avalanche was not able to garner a full roster of participants this year, due to the cost of traveling to Washington, D.C. “We lost to New York in our first game and then beat Pittsburgh in our second game. San Diego, the eventual runner up, beat us in our best game,” said Taggart. “We played well against them.”

After the San Diego loss, Avalanche played Silicon Valley and narrowly lost that game, too. On Sunday, Avalanche was poised to play Denver for the Rocky Mountain bragging rights.

Avalanche won and that placed them 15th overall with a tournament record of 2-3.

“Several guys who were very inexperienced got some valuable playing time which we see as very positive for our league in the future,” said Taggart. “We had a great time. The guys played hard each game.”

Outsports co-founders Cyd Zeigler and Jim Buzinski, who had a hand in creating the Gay Bowl national championship tournament, led their team, Los Angeles Motion, to a third national title championship, matching New York Warriors’ run at three Gay Bowl wins. The San Diego Bolts battled Los Angeles Motion in the championship game to take the second place title.

Gay Bowl X will be held in Phoenix, Ariz., October 8-10, 2010, during Columbus Day Weekend. Local Salt Lake City flag football play will begin in March 2010 at Sugarhouse Park for a couple months of practice. Teams will be chosen in early May for league play.

Ski OUT Utah Announces Schedule

The Wasatch Front’s only gay and lesbian ski club, Ski OUT Utah, announced their 2010 ski, snowboard and snowshoe events at their monthly social in Salt Lake City on Oct. 24.

“This summer, Ski OUT took a survey and found that most people were skiers, not boarders,” said group member Dana Clark. “Boarders are welcome as much as ski fanatics, but we will be visiting Alta Resort and Deer Valley Resort this year, as well as taking a trip to Snow Basin, near Ogden, for the first time.” Snow Basin allows both skiers and snowboarders, as do the other ski resorts Ski OUT intends on visiting.

“This year, all Ski OUT events will be held on Sundays,” Clark continued.

“Including QUAC’s ski event, which has been changed to Sunday, Feb. 14 at Snowbird Resort.”

Looking further on into 2010, Ski OUT’s March 27 Moonlight Snowshoe hike will begin at 7:30 p.m. on Saturday night through early Sunday morning.

A Park City trail is being considered and will be announced later in the season.

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Ski OUT is a social and sports club made up of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people as well as straight allies, who want to meet other winter enthusiasts throughout the year and participate in events as a group. Social events are held each month in the summer months, usually at membersâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; homes.

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and sadness he felt over Eddie’s reluctance to share a life with him.

Gabe languidly entered the bar and ordered a Sapphire gin martini from a tall, mustached bartender who winked at him. He left a dollar tip — would’ve been more but the wink annoyed him.

Then it happened; his mouth dropped open and his heart raced to his stomach.

Perfection was in the bar. Perfection had thick, dark hair tufting behind the ears, and a tanned neck with blue-gray veins racing underneath a white-ribbed crewneck. Gabe watched Perfection’s back muscles pulse underneath the shirt.

He sauntered past and shot Perfection a smile.

“That guy just checked me out,” Perfection commented to the blonde sitting next to him.

“What did you expect,” the girl replied rhetorically. “This is a gay bar!”

“Excuse me,” Gabe interrupted, then asked Perfection, “Do you want to shoot pool?”

“I’m not gay!” Perfection blurted out.

Gabe took a step back, “Sorry. I didn’t mean ... I just need a partner to play doubles.”

“No. I’m sorry man. Yeah, sure I’ll play.”

“I’m Gabe,” he said.

They shook hands, “Kyle.”

Perfection’s name is Kyle. Gabe noticed the blue-gray veins also branched out along smooth, tanned, robust arms and hands.

“Uh, this is my sister Ronnie,” Kyle said, indicating the blonde.

“Hi,” said Gabe, taking her hand.

“Hello,” she returned.

“So what brings you here,” Gabe asked.

“I come here with my girlfriend, but she’s in Arizona visiting her parents. So I made my apparent homophobic brother come with me,” Ronnie jabbed.

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Gabe folded the letter and returned it to the green velvet diary.

Gabe had asked Eddie to move in with him over a week ago. Yet day after day Eddie dodged Gabe’s attempts to inspire an answer, just as he also was dodging questions about Kyle.

Eddie’s persistence the last few weeks was beginning to alienate their relationship; Gabe thought if he asked Eddie to move in with him the questions and suspicion would end, and memories from his past would again subside, allowing Gabe to sleep at night.

The memories were once distant shadows that had crept back into his head, and stood poised in single file like disciplined soldiers ready for battle. Determined and ambitious, they’d patiently wait for that inevitable touch that would heavily topple them over in quick succession, like watching the travels of a bicycle through a picket fence.

Unfortunately, Gabe’s plan had misfired: Not only was he still riddled with those dark memories, his anxiety was now coupled with the disappointment

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Gabe, Congratulations on turning 35!

I know how bummed you are about me moving to Boston so I bought an open-ended plane ticket for you to use when you’re ready to come see me. Also, I want to say that these past few years have been some of the best. I’m glad you came up to me at the bar that night and asked me to play pool.

I enjoy your friendship more than I ever thought possible. You’ve made me a fuller and better person and I love you for it.

Please go see your parents as a favor to me, share your wisdom with them like you did with me.

Always, Kyle PS – Take care of my little sister, I wouldn’t trust anyone else to do it.

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“I’m not homophobic,” Kyle retorted, flustered. “I thought you were trying to pick me up ... I didn’t want you to feel embarrassed.”

“So bellowing, ‘I’m not gay!’ was saving me from being embarrassed,” Gabe said playfully.

Kyle dropped his head, giving up, “Yeah, really, I’m sorry. Not my finest moment.”

“Come on, let’s play pool,” Gabe dragged Kyle off.

That night, a friendship started that was as close as any gay-straight men could have. Kyle taught Gabe to fish; Gabe taught Kyle to make hobo dinners. They went to the movies weekly and shared a jumbo salted popcorn and a large Sprite. They occasionally went to nightclubs – Gabe introduced Kyle to the Electric Slide, and Kyle introduced Gabe to Mudslides.

Then one night, their friendship took a tragic turn. It was Gabe’s 34th birthday and Kyle threw him a bash in his home.

After hours of dancing, games of Twister, countless tequila shots and eventually pushing Ronnie and her girlfriend out the door, a highly inebriated Kyle suggested Gabe join him in his bedroom.

“You want to watch porn,” he asked Gabe.

“I’m not really into straight porn, but thanks.”

“Come on, I have one that has some man-on-man action in it.” Kyle slung his arm around Gabe’s neck, toppling them over.

Kyle finally coaxed Gabe into his room, where he drunkenly stripped off his shirt and pants. He popped in a DVD and pounced on the bed like a dog. He patted the mattress, inviting Gabe to join him.

Gabe reluctantly joined him, fully clothed.

Kyle fast-forwarded the film to the male-male-female scene. Within seconds Gabe noticed Kyle’s boxers rise, and found it amazing that as drunk as Kyle was, he could still get hard.

Gabe peeled his eyes off what he estimated was at least a 9-inch hard-on and looked at Kyle. Kyle’s green eyes, lined with a golden speckle, stared back at him, longingly.

Gabe hesitated for a moment then slipped his hand under Kyle’s boxers.

He started to stroke him.

Kyle turned his head back to the film.

His breathing gained momentum into a near-inaudible moan. His bare chest heaved, and he climaxed in Gabe’s hand.

Suddenly Kyle jumped off the bed as if he realized he was lying in toxic waste, causing Gabe to fly off the bed too.

“What the hell was that,” Kyle demanded.

Gabe was so stunned he couldn’t even respond.

Instantly Kyle was within inches of Gabe; intense pain surged through Gabe left cheekbone. Suddenly he was balled up on the carpet shielding Kyle’s swift kicks. Q To be continued ...

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