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Gay Summer Travel INCLUDING A CALENDAR OF GAY PRIDE FESTIVALS ACROSS THE COUNTRY

Utah Republicans Ponder Killing HIV/AIDS Funding

Another Salt Lake Gay Bashing

More Cities Contemplating Non-Discrimination Laws

Utah Episcopalians Considering Gay Bishop

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first person A Traveling Fool

by Michael Aaron

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kind — road trip, cruise, beach lounging, resort hopping. My favorite, though, is the kind where you go to a gay resort or bed & breakfast, curl up on a comfortable lounge chair by a pool or on the beach, and read a book. When it gets too dark — go shower, gussy up, and find the local gay scene. Until I went out “researching” for this travel issue, it had been a while since I’d had much success at doing just that.

Yes, this issue was a tiresome, grueling burden. But someone had to do it.

My first bed and breakfast experience was on a business trip to Chicago about 13 years ago. I was a bit nervous, because I thought it was going to be like staying at a stranger’s house. It was so fun, however, to actually interact with the owners and other (mostly gay) people on their vacations — I was hooked immediately.

Owned by a gay couple, the house was immaculate, they were warm and friendly as can be, and my fellow visitors were very helpful in helping me find the fun things to do, places to be.

I’ve been to B&Bs and small gay resorts in over a dozen states, on both coasts and several places in-between.

I enjoy them so much that my fantasy is to semi-retire to a warm resort-ish town and run one myself. My leading contender for a location: Springdale, Utah.

So, it was with envy in my veins that I visited Joe Pitti and Mark Chambers at their new (to them) B&B in Springdale, right outside Zion National Park. I’d been watching their progress through Facebook and was so happy to see how well they settled into their new life.

I decided the focus of this year’s travel issue would be gay-owned B&Bs and resorts within an eight-hour drive of Salt Lake. I chose three very different places: Joe and Mark’s mixed-crowd but very gay-friendly (of course) charming B&B, the 47-room Blue Moon resort in Las Vegas for gay men, and the Bed and Buns B&B in Boise, Idaho.

And now that I’ve had a taste of all three, I’m hoping that I can spend a week at each some time this summer and truly experience them.

Now, to figure out three books to bring along. Q

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Quips & Quotes

by rex wockner

Human Rights Campaign Staffers Depart The two top people in the Human Rights Campaign’s communications department have left the nation’s biggest gay rights group.

Communications Director Brad Luna’s job was eliminated in a reorganization. Shortly thereafter, Deputy Communications Director Trevor Thomas announced his departure to take up a similar position with Servicemembers Legal Brad Luna Defense Network.

The two will be replaced by Fred Sainz, who starts work May 10 as vice president of communications and marketing, and by a new hire who will carry the title of press secretary.

Sainz is currently in a similar job at the Gill Foundation. Prior to that he was press secretary to pro-gay San Diego Republican Mayor Jerry Sanders.

Insiders insist that Luna’s and Thomas’ departures were unrelated to the recent debacle that resulted when HRC staged a rally against Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell with comedian Kathy Griffin.

The rally was crashed by DADT activist Lt. Dan Choi, who says Griffin and HRC President Joe Solmonese told him they would accompany him on a march to the White House at the rally’s conclusion.

Solmonese and Griffin then did not march with Choi, who made headlines when he and former Capt. Jim Pietrangelo handcuffed themselves to the White House fence and were arrested.

HRC suffered stronger-than-usual criticism for apparently not keeping its word to Choi, for using a comedian to address a serious issue, and for purportedly again being out of touch with rank-and-file activists.

After Choi’s civil-disobedience action and the media coverage it garnered, the White House and Congress stepped up activity aimed at ending the military’s ban on open gays.

Asked via e-mail for comment, Luna responded by requesting the reporter’s phone number but did not call before deadline.

Thomas, informed of the gist of this report, emailed: “Thank you for reaching out. I think that sounds good. I don’t have anything to add.”

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To keep states from sliding down the slippery slope of national health care, Waddoups has — in effect — put many Utah citizens on a slippery slope to the grave.”

—Deseret News editorial about a proposal by Senate President Michael Waddoups and the State Legislature’s Executive Appropriations Committee to refuse federal money to help Utahns with HIV/AIDS pay for their antiretroviral prescriptions.

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Sen. Michael Waddoups and his ilk have become the very death panel the GOP were fearmongers about.”

—Layton resident Braeden Jones in a letter to the same newspaper about the proposed cuts.

Pro-ENDA protesters from GetEqual.org inside House Speaker Nancy Pelosi’s office March 18 in Washington, D.C.

PHOTO BY OMAR CLARKE, GETEQUAL.ORG

ENDA Protesters May See Charges Dropped Charges against four women who staged a sit-in at House Speaker Nancy Pelosi’s D.C. office on March 18 will be dropped if certain conditions are met.

GetEqual.org’s Janine Carmona, Samantha Ames, Chastity Kirven and Michelle Wright were protesting Congress’ failure to pass the Employment Non-Discrimination Act. They pleaded not guilty April 7 to charges of unlawful entry, and the U.S. attorney general’s office agreed to drop the charges on Oct. 6 if the four stay away from Pelosi’s office and avoid getting arrested in the interim.

Carmona and Ames, who are D.C. residents, must also perform 60 hours of community service.

“On March 18, we had the privilege of standing for equality in a congressional office where many of those most affected by employment discrimination couldn’t join us,” Ames said April 7. “For many in our community, especially transgender individuals and those living in states that have struck down employment protections, being

Martina Has Breast Cancer Lesbian tennis legend Martina Navratilova told People magazine April 7 that she has breast cancer.

The ductal carcinoma was discovered early and is expected to be fully curable.

“I cried,” Navratilova said. “It knocked me on my ass, really. I feel so in control of my life and my body, and then this comes, and it’s completely out of my hands.”

“I went four years between mammograms,” she added. “I let it slide.

Everyone gets busy, but don’t make excuses. I stay in shape and eat right, and it happened to me. Another year and I could have been in big trouble.”

Navratilova will undergo six weeks of radiation treatment starting in May.

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politically active, arrested or fired can mean risking serious physical and emotional violence. It is an honor to stand with these incredible activists on the right side of history, but we won’t stop until it’s safe for everyone in our community to stand with us.”

GetEqual.org co-chair Robin McGehee told the DC Agenda newspaper that additional civil-disobedience actions are planned in D.C. and elsewhere.

“Our goal with GetEqual is to create the lunch-counter moments that so clearly defined the civil rights movement around racial justice,” she said. “In an equality movement, we believe that we need to create those images that highlight the injustices that are clearly out there.”

The group vows to stage actions targeting the House of Representatives, the House Committee on Education and Labor, and the U.S. Senate.

“GetEqual is determined to continue fighting for this bill and intends to use non-violent civil disobedience and people-powered actions to bring attention to the injustice,” the group said.

Gay Man Elected Mayor of Small Colorado Town An openly gay man, Ron Holland, was elected mayor of Dillon, Colo., April 6.

He received 90 votes to an opponent’s 72 in the mountain town of about 800 people.

Holland, who is serving his first term on the City Council, told the Summit Daily News he was “ecstatic” over his victory.

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[W]e’re quite prepared to answer any questions that President Waddoups or others might have about what does the grant cover.”

—Utah Department of Health Executive Director David Sundwall, as quoted in a blog post on KCPW. org.

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In many cases, what these ordinances actually do is speak to the intention of the community. … If you’re a young person or just moving into this area, what it says is that these are welcoming communities.”

—Brandie Balken, Executive Director of statewide gay and transgender rights group Equality Utah, commenting to the Deseret News about Salt Lake City’s recently enacted gay and transgender-inclusive housing and employment ordinances.

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I am so sick of this happening in Utah! When will our elected officials wake up to what their hateful and bigoted antilgbt rights agenda is costing their own citizens?

When will the LDS (Mormon) Church learn what their intolerance costs thousands of families?”

—Activist Eric Ethington, blogging about an attack against two gay men outside the club Piper Down.

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Utah could become only the third Episcopal diocese with an openly gay bishop.”

—Lead sentence of a Salt Lake Tribune article, confirming that one possible replacement for Utah’s retiring Episcopal Bishop is an openly gay priest married to a man

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local news Salt Lake City Nondiscrimination Ordinances Take Effect, More Cities Moving Ahead

by Michael Aaron and JoSelle Vanderhooft

The sun peeked out from behind the clouds as Salt Lake City Mayor Ralph Becker, flanked by mayors from West Valley City and Park City, announced that his city’s anti-discrimination ordinances protecting gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender citizens from bias in housing and employment was now law.

The ordinances were passed unanimously by the Salt Lake City Council last November and signed by the mayor on Nov. 17. They were written so that their effective date would be after the Utah State Legislative session, out of concern that state lawmakers may want to gut them.

“Today marks a great moment in Salt Lake City,” Becker said from the steps of the city hall building. “These ordinances are an essential step in shaping Salt Lake City to be a great American city.”

Becker outlined the process an individual must go through to make a complaint of discrimination under the ordinances.

First, a complainant must file a form spelling out the complaint. A city reviewer will assess the complaint and decide whether it warrants further investigation. Next, the city will attempt to obtain a “voluntary conciliation.” Failing that, an administrator still has the choice to move the complaint to its final step in the process — an official hearing.

“People from cities across the state are applauding your city for extending these protections,” West Valley City Mayor Mike Winder said. “I join that applause.”

Winder said that Salt Lake City leaders have “blazed a trail” that allow for protections for gay and transgender citizens while balancing religious liberties.

“Some may be perplexed that a Republican mayor would support these ordinances.

But I come from the Republican Party of Abraham Lincoln” Winder continued. “A Lincoln Republican wouldn’t seek to make second class citizens out of anybody.”

Winder said he was disturbed by people who said they would rather not rent to or hire someone gay or transgender, saying “don’t they have other places they can work or live?” He likened such sentiment to Jim Crow laws.

“These attitudes of group hate are wrong,” he said. “I wouldn’t want to lose my job because of my sexual orientation.”

“These ordinances continue the human family’s journey toward dignity,” he ended.

Park City Mayor Dana Williams announced that the Park City Council will have similar ordinances on the April 15 meeting agenda and they are sure to pass.

“To Park City, [these ordinances] are the Tao of duh,” he quipped.

Salt Lake City Council Chair JT Martin became emotional when speaking of the ordinances’ importance.

“You can’t judge people because of their sexual orientation or religion or ethnic background. It’s just not right,” he said.

“I’m happy to raise my children in this city that celebrates this.”

He addressed threats to the ordinances.

“There are some who talk of unraveling this city’s good work,” he said. “To them, I ask you to stop, reflect and think about what it is you truly want ... do you want to live in a place that lacks civility and is polarized, or in a place where we can embrace all?”

Tom Wood of the Utah Apartment Association applauded that landlords were included in discussions as the ordinances were being drafted.

“Half of the citizens in Salt Lake are renters,” he said. “I encourage all landlords to abide by these ordinances.”

John Bennett related how he, even though he comes from a long line of politically powerful Bennett family members, was fired from a state job for being gay.

“This is Good Friday in many ways,” he said.

Equality Utah Executive Director Brandie Balken said that the group is going statewide with efforts to pass similar ordinances “from Logan to St. George, from Tooele to Price.”

Employers or landlords convicted of violating the ordinances face a fine between $500 and $1,000, depending on the size of their business. Carved out of the employment law are religious organizations, the Boy Scouts of America, the Federal Government and employers of fewer than 15 people. The housing ordinance exempts residences operated by non-profit, charitable or religious organizations, dormitories or the Federal Government. Persons or organizations not owning at least four properties in the city or do not use a rental or real estate service, and owner-occupied buildings with four or less units are also exempt from the new law.

The Movement Expands As the month moves on, five more municipal governments are in various stages of considering, and even passing, similar ordinances.

Park City

Currently, the Park City Council is scheduled to hold a public hearing on ordinances similar to Salt Lake City’s on April 15.

“I’m pretty hopeful that the council will actually pass it that night,” said Park City Mayor Dana Williams.

During the city staff’s research into Salt Lake’s ordinances — and into federal nondiscrimination laws on which they were based — Williams said he wanted to make his city’s ordinances stricter than those in the capital. For example, he wanted to toss out Salt Lake’s exemption for businesses of 15 or fewer employees, but found that federal guidelines on which Salt Lake’s ordinances were based would not allow him to do this. “[Under federal law] it’s not like you can’t hire a woman or a person of color if you have less than 15 employees,” he said.

“I don’t know why federal law” is different when it comes to sexual orientation and gender identity.

Out of concerns for what he called “repercussions from the State Legislature,”

Williams said city attorneys suggested that Park City pass Salt Lake-style ordinances now and “keep looking at future possibilities” in making the law stricter. He added

that the city’s chamber of commerce, Board of Realtors and lodging association are all supportive of the ordinances.

Ogden

On Valentine’s Day, an Ogden City Council member met with members of Utah’s gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender community and the Unitarian Universalist Church of Ogden for a town hall meeting about the ordinances. On April 20, there will be a formal presentation on the ordinances in the City Council Chamber.

“We do have some people we’re working with who are working with the city attorney and city administrator,” said James Humphreys, vice president of the Utah Log Cabin Republicans and an Ogden resident who has spearheaded the push to pass gay and transgender-inclusive employment and housing ordinances in the city. “I’m hoping since they have a draft copy of the language they will be able to publicly state a preliminary position on the ordinances to the council at the meeting as well.”

While Councilwoman Susie Van Hooser said that the ordinances had been “an item of discussion” for the council, she said that no date had been set yet for a public hearing or even a work session.

“But it’s a priority on our agenda,” she added.

The meeting will be held in the council chambers, 2549 Washington Blvd., at 6 p.m.

Taylorsville

A similar discussion has been taking place among Taylorsville’s City Councilmembers, said Brandie Balken, executive director of Equality Utah.

On March 29, Equality Utah’s staff held a town hall meeting at Taylorsville City Hall which was attended by residents and

elected officials, including Mayor Russ Wall. Since then, Balken said, the city’s ordinance review committee has looked over Salt Lake’s ordinances and have recommended that the council move forward in drafting ordinances for Taylorsville. The committee consists of Taylorsville residents who examine and make recommendations on laws proposed by citizens before delivering them to the City Council.

Moab

Additionally, Balken and other staff members have done similar work in Moab as they did in Taylorsville.

“We’ve gone down and had a public meeting and a discussion with Mayor Dave [Sakrison] and the City Councilmembers,” she said. Similarly, Equality Utah conducted a phone bank in the city to assess the level of public support for the ordinances.

West Valley City

Meanwhile, the West Valley City Council has already held a work meeting on the ordinances and unanimously voted to begin drafting them. Mayor Mike Winder said that he expected the council to vote on the ordinances “at the end of April, in May or early June at the latest.” Currently, he added, the city’s staff is examining the ordinances to see how they can be integrated into West Valley City’s particular laws.

“The council still feels strongly that this is the right direction to go, as do I,” he said.

Summit County

Balken said that Summit County was also in the process of considering ordinances like Salt Lake City’s.

As these municipalities work on considering and drafting their own gay and transgender-friendly housing and employment laws, others are also speaking with Equality Utah and with residents about the possibility of putting such ordinances in place. While Balken said she couldn’t yet name names, she did say that six additional municipalities had expressed interest in learning more about such laws.

“Most of our other municipalities are in a place where people are talking with their City Councilmembers, but we’re not on the docket yet,” she said. Q

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Getting Your City to Consider Salt Lake’s Ordinances Just five months after Salt Lake City passed historic ordinances protecting gay and transgender residents from housing and employment nondiscrimination, Salt Lake County has enacted identical laws and six more municipalities have taken them under consideration.

Undeniably, Equality Utah has led the charge to spread these ordinances across the state. But, as Executive Director Brandie Balken noted, the statewide gay and transgender rights group would not have come this far so fast without the help of citizen activists, several of whom have brought Salt Lake City’s ordinances to the attention of their own county and city governments.

James Humphreys is one of those activists. In the past few months he and several other Ogden residents have been in close contact with their city councilmembers to get the process of passing Salt Lake Citystyle ordinances rolling. He said he hopes that Utahns living in cities and counties that do not extend job and housing protections to gay and transgender students will do the same thing.

“Obviously the process from city to city is different, but getting started is the same no matter where you live,” said Humphreys, who is also the vice president of the gayfriendly Log Cabin Republicans. “You just have to talk to somebody.”

The first step, said Humphreys, is calling the city councilmember who represents you to let them know about your interest in these ordinances.

“That’s the beauty of local government,” he explained. “The city councilmembers, and especially your own representative, live near you. Many people know who they are. My general feeling is that no matter what their background is, they want to hear from the people living near them, and they want to do a good job for their citizens. How else do you explain a city like Taylorsville, which is in a heavily conservative area, and they’re considering these ordinances?”

But one phone call, e-mail or visit is typically not enough to get a busy politician’s attention. Humphreys has spoken with all seven of Ogden’s councilmembers and says that many other Ogdenites are doing the same.

The next step, he continued, is to give councilmembers a copy of Salt Lake City’s ordinances, so they can understand “exactly what we’re looking for, and why.”

Balken added that having talking points about the ordinances is a good idea when speaking to councilmembers, most of whom have a lot on their agendas to consider.

“Have information about what the ordinances do and what they don’t do,” she explained. “It’s much like lobbying. Provide information about what the ordinances entail and [note] that they’re in line with federal and state law.”

“This is where Equality Utah likes to work with residents to provide background information so they can talk to their city council or mayor,” she continued.

Before Humphreys met with Ogden City councilmembers, he asked for and obtained copies of Salt Lake City and Salt Lake County’s ordinances from Equality Utah. He said he then went through the Microsoft Word file and altered them with Ogden’s city law code in mind.

“I don’t think the average citizen has to do that, though,” he said. “You can just give the city attorney the copy and let them do that.”

Still, Humphreys said he wanted to make it “easier for the administration and the city attorney by having actual language to review and create an opinion on.” To do this, he said he kept in mind a key difference between Salt Lake City and Ogden’s laws. The two Salt Lake ordinances, he said, list a series of penalties for violating them, like fines for landlords and employers who discriminate. Ogden law, on the other hand, has a set fine for breaking most ordinances.

“Rather than complicate the issue, I just used the penalty that already existed in Ogden’s code,” he explained.

Another thing to keep in mind, Humphreys continued, is differences between businesses and housing units in Utah’s municipalities. For example, Salt Lake City’s ordinances offer exemptions to landlords who own fewer than four units. The reasoning behind this, Humphreys said, is that individuals who are simply renting out a bedroom in their apartment or home aren’t running a business.

However, Ogden City’s rental situation is slightly different, a fact which means that Humphreys has had to be very clear about Salt Lake City’s exemptions. “We have a lot of houses that have secondary duplexes and basement apartments, so it’s important that we’re very specific [about housing exemptions] because that language made some of our councilmembers a little nervous,” he explained.

After getting councilmembers’ support, Humphreys said the next step is to contact the individual responsible for putting together the council’s agenda. He said he made a formal written request to get the ordinances on the agenda and then asked the council’s chairperson and vice chairperson to put it on the schedule.

“We worked out a date that worked well for us all,” he said.

That date will be the City Council’s April 20 meeting. Here, Humphreys and other Ogdenites will give a 10-minute formal presen-

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tation on the ordinances.

“After that, the City Council will put a motion forward to consider the question,” he said. “All that says is that the topic we sent to them is something they need to open dialogue on.” If the council wishes to go forward at this time, he added, they can ask the city attorney and administrator to write a report about what enacting the ordinances would entail.

“We do have some people we’re working with who are working with city attorney and administration,” he said. “I’m hoping since they have a draft copy of language they will be able to publicly state a preliminary position on the ordinances to the council at the meeting as well.”

After the attorney gives an opinion, said Humphreys, the council can then hold a public hearing on the ordinances and vote on whether to accept or reject them.

“No one said they won’t vote for it, and many have said they will vote for it,” he added. “But I think most are reviewing the language I sent to them and waiting for the formal presentation.” Overwhelmingly, he added, the council seems to be “in favor of talking about the issue.”

“Councilmembers who I didn’t think would be because of their age or religion are open to discussing it because it affects their neighbors and they care about their neighbors,” he said.

Balken stressed, however, that each city and county’s process for getting an ordinance on the table for consideration will be different. For example, not all cities will have a manager or an attorney. In these cases, she added, Equality Utah can help citizens out by bringing in lawyers to answer the council’s legal questions and to talk about how the ordinances would be implemented.

She urged citizens interested in starting the process to call Equality Utah to set up an appointment to talk about strategy, talking points, and “how to support one another.”

“I’m thrilled to say we’ve had residents from several different cities who have sent us e-mails saying, ‘I’d love to get this done in my city. Where do we go next?’” she said. Q

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local news Republican Lawmakers Consider Axing Ryan White HIV/AIDS Grant

by JoSelle Vanderhooft Republican legislators have proposed cutting a federal program that funds life-saving medications for low-income Utahns with HIV/ AIDS. Senate President Michael Waddoups, RTaylorsville, suggested the cuts during a monthly meeting of the Republican-dominated Executive Appropriations Committee, which had met to approve federal grants.

Here, he postponed approving 5.2 million federal dollars for the state’s Ryan White Program for a month, in order to examine the program further—particularly to determine if recently-passed federal healthcare reform legislation will take its place. “It looks to me like we’re funding a program providing insurance and [medical care] that is going to be covered under Obamacare: pre-existing conditions, lifestyle choices and things of that nature,� Waddoups said during

UAF Releases ‘Fact Sheet’ on Ryan White Part B Grant Funding Because of the work of Senator Orrin Hatch, Utah has been eligible for funding through the Ryan White CARE Act since 1992.

This funding provides assistance to low income families living with HIV in accessing primary medical care, medications, and supportive services. These services remove barriers to this life-saving treatment and care. Without funding, these services will disappear.

Without these life-saving medications individuals and families will suffer.

The life span of a person living with HIV has changed dramatically since the introduction of medications that inhibit the virus’ ability to replicate. Many Utahns with HIV may not survive a year without this funding which pays for their medical care, medications and supportive services.

Ryan White Part B costs Utah nothing.

Utah’s match to receive Ryan White Part B funding is provided through in-kind budget items.

The Utah Department of Health demonstrates this to Health and Human Services through expenses Utah incurs regardless of accepting Ryan White Funding. That means there is no cash contribution from the State of Utah. If the State refuses this Ryan White funding, there is ZERO savings to the State.

It remains unclear what impact Federal Health Reform act will have for people living with HIV. It is clear however, that by accepting federal assistance all Utah families living with HIV benefit. Because of Ryan White Funding, fewer people will develop life-threatening illnesses, thus placing less burden on the State of Utah for providing emergency services.

Ryan White funding provides more than medical care and medication assistance.

Programming supported by Ryan White funding removes barriers that prevent low income individuals and families living with HIV from accessing medical care and medication.

Ryan White Part B funds assist more than 450 families.

the meeting. “I’m just concerned about that.� “Obamacare� is a colloquial name given to the federal bill, which narrowly passed the Democratic-dominated Congress last month amid strong Republican opposition.

In response to Waddoups’ question, Robert Rolfs, Director of the Division of Disease Control and Prevention, said that Medicaid would “essentially replace� the Ryan White Program in 2014, when all people with HIV would be come eligible to enroll in the government program.

For now, Rolfs said, the 450 low-income Utahns with HIV/AIDS would be unable to receive care without the grant. “[It covers] medications which have changed this from essentially a fatal disease to one which people can stay alive for,� he said. “And this program pays for medications, as well as supportive services, such as dental care, mental health care, and in some cases provides assistance with housing, and in some cases when it is a more affordable way to do that, pays their health insurance premiums to allow them to continue health insurance, so that they can continue to get this care.� “To me, this is a life-saving program that is inadequately funded,� he continued, noting that the Department of Health had to “trim the number of people on it� in 2009 because of diminishing funding.

Although the program — named for a teenager who contracted AIDS from a blood transfusion in 1984 — would be mostly funded by federal money, it does require a partial state match of funds. But that money, said Utah AIDS Foundation Director Stan Penfold, need not come from already-strapped state coffers. “The feds have been very flexible, and [in the past] it’s all been [paid] through in-kind contributions, so there isn’t a single dollar allocation to this match,� he said. “So we’re talking about giving up money to save money, but we won’t save money.�

Penfold said that the possibility of having the grant axed took the foundation and state health officials by surprise. Utah, he noted, has received Ryan White money since 1992 without any trouble. “But clearly leadership had talked about this before it went into the appropriations committee,� he added.

Articles about the possible cut that have appeared in The Salt Lake Tribune and the Deseret News have stated that Utah’s Ryan White grant for 2010 totals $5.2 million, with $1.4 million of that coming from the state.

However, Toni Johnson, Director of the People With AIDS Coalition of Utah, said that she did not know where Waddoups got these figures. “The state does not give any funding to this program,� she said. “In 2009 they gave $100,000, but nothing for this year. We’re one of the few states in the country that doesn’t support their state’s Ryan White Program.�

This year, Johnson visited the Legislature to ask for $500,000 to fund Utah’s AIDS Drug Assistance Program, the part of the Ryan White Program which exclusively funds antiretroviral and other HIV/AIDS medications.

Last year, the program closed to new applicants and kicked nearly 100 people off its rolls

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Q uni because of a nearly $313,000 budget shortfall.

Jennifer Brown, Director of Bureau of Epidemiology, said that the error may have come from adding what the state calls money for Maintenance of Efforts into the federal sum. “Federal law requires that we maintain our services to people living with HIV in accordance with our previous year’s status,� she explained. “So if we contributed a million dollars last year, we still have to maintain that for the next year.�

Both Johnson and Brown confirmed that match money can come from in-kind donations.

For the fiscal year beginning April 1, 2010, the grant the Utah Department of Health received from the federal government totaled $3,729,185. UDOH, said Brown, submitted a MOE of $1,361,653 for the period between July 1, 2008 and June 30, 2009. The MOE money can come from in-kind donations, rather than state budgets.

Brown also said that ADAP received a supplemental grant of between $400,000 and $500,000 in 2008.

Since word of the grant’s postponement hit the local media, letters have appeared in Utah’s two daily newspapers expressing outrage at the delay. Many have drawn attention to Waddoups’ use of the term “lifestyle choices� in his objection to the grant — a term which many have interpreted as a reference to homosexuality.

Penfold called Waddoups’ phrasing “problematic.� “It appears to me that this is a continuation of ‘messaging’ that the Legislature had a lot of this session and it’s at the expense of people living in Utah who are potentially going to lose their healthcare, not because of Obama’s healthcare plan but because the state of Utah is going to try and send a message [against Obama’s plan],� he said.

Although the Legislature will not act on the Ryan White funding for another month, Utah Health Director David Sundwall has promised that the program will continue for the next 30 days. “To be honest with you, it’s kind of a lot of smoke and fury signifying nothing, because we believe the program will be continued,�

Sundwall told radio station KCPW. “And we’re quite prepared to answer any questions that President Waddoups or others might have about what does the grant cover.�

Sundwall could not be reached for further comment.

While the Utah AIDS Foundation and public health officials will speak to lawmakers about what the program does and does not cover, Penfold encouraged members of Utah’s gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender community and their allies to contact their Senators and Representatives to “let them know how important this funding is to Utah.� “It’s important we make these people [whom the Ryan White Program serves] real,� he said. “They’re on life staving medications and if they don’t have them they’ll get sick very quickly. I think that’s getting missed in this whole message debate.� “Without support from the community our request to the Legislature keeps falling on deaf ears,� Johnson said. “The community needs to support our request for this money.

If [the Legislature] keeps hearing from me, it doesn’t mean anything. The gay community rallies around Equality Utah and their bills but doesn’t around PWACU and our request for money, and I don’t understand why.� Q

Meet with Mayor Becker Salt Lake City Mayor Ralph Becker has announced that the date for his monthly “One-on-One Meetings with the Mayor� will be April 21.

City residents are invited to meet with him from 3–5 p.m. to discuss issues pertaining to living in the city. Meetings will be scheduled in 10 minute blocks and held in the Mayor’s Conference Room on the third floor of the City and County Building, 451 South State St. Individuals may schedule an appointment in person at the Mayor’s Office or by calling 801-535-7704.

Meetings are scheduled on a firstcome, first-serve basis. The next meeting will be held May 19, 4–6 p.m. with scheduling beginning on May 10.

Spring Dine O’Round This year, 37 Salt Lake City restaurants will participate in the 4th annual Downtown Spring Dine O’Round. During this two week-long event, they will each offer a three course dinner priced between $15 and $30. Additionally, 27 restaurants will offer two item lunches priced between $5 and $10. Participants include QSaltLake friends Bambara Restaurant, Cedars of Lebanon, Market Street Grill, Market Street Oyster Bar, New Yorker and Tin Angel CafÊ.

WHEN: April 16–May 1 INFO: dineoround.com

HRC Dinner Tickets are still available to the 6th annual Utah Human Rights Campaign Gala Dinner & Silent Auction, which will be held May 8 at the Grand America Hotel, 555 South Main St. Tickets are $150 for general admittance and $200 for the VIP package. Corporate sponsorships are also available. To puchase tickets visit hrc.org/Utah.

Join Team Try-Angles Once again, Club Try-Angles will sponsor a cycling team in this year’s Harmon’s MS Best Dam Bike Tour, an annual bike ride to benefit the Multiple Sclerosis Society of Utah (this year’s ride will be held June 26–27 in Logan). The team is open to cyclists of all sexual orientations, gender identities and experience levels, and participants may sign up to ride 40, 75 or 100 miles each day.

The ride has several rest stops and supply wagons, making it ideal for beginning cyclists.

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An assault on a gay couple has two victims with black eyes, stitches and potential surgeries, and has a bar owner angry that out-of-town “rednecks” have tarnished his club’s gay-friendly reputation.

On Wednesday, April 7, Ryan Gray and his partner, Kevin Burns, went to Piper Down for karaoke night as they often do on Wednesdays. They were having a good time, Gray said, until a group of men began heckling some friends as they sang a Lady Gaga song.

“They were harassing people in the bar all night,” Gray said. “They were right behind us calling us ‘faggots’ and making fun of our friend. My partner turned around and said, ‘You know, we’re standing right here, we can hear you.’”

Gray said that’s when the men first began to get aggressive with them.

Piper Down owner Dave Morris said surveillance video shows Burns “politely turning and saying something to the redneck yelling ‘faggot.’”

“The redneck gets all huffy and up in his face, and Ryan knocks the guy’s cowboy hat off,” Morris said. “The guy says something and Ryan punched him.”

“He was insulting my partner, and I couldn’t handle it,” Gray said. “I’m a nurse.

I’m not usually one to get violent. We were just there to have a good time.”

Morris said that the bar’s security rushed over to the altercation and Gray left of his own accord.

G r a y waited by his car for Burns to follow him. As Burns left the bar, however, Gray said the six men in the group followed him out as well.

“As [Burns] was walking out, it was like in slow motion,” Gray said. “He was walking out to find me and this guy and all his friends came out with him and they hit my partner from behind, and then in the face and throat.”

“I ran over to protect him, but the guys got us to the ground,” Gray continued. “All we could do at that point was try to shield ourselves.”

“We were all outside dragging rednecks off and getting Ryan and Kevin inside,” Morris said. “The bar just emptied and chaos ensued.”

Bar staff called the police, but the attackers left the scene before they got there.

“This is being handled as a hate crime assault,” Salt Lake City Police Department Sgt. Robin Snyder said. “By the time our officers got there, the bad guys were gone. We have photos of the victims’ injuries, which

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The couple ended up with black eyes, several cuts on their faces and heads and bruises on their faces and arms. They transported themselves to the hospital after offering a statement to responding officers.

Gray received stitches on the inside of his lip and may possibly require surgery to repair a fractured eye socket.

Morris said that he gave police the names from the credit cards used to buy the group’s drinks.

“They are all refinery workers from Louisiana, Kansas and Oklahoma,” Morris said. “The first [SLCPD] officer there said, ‘I know who you’re talking about. We’ve had problems with them before.’”

Snyder said the police received very good descriptions of the men while interviewing the bar’s staff and patrons and was sure the department would be able to find them soon. Morris also handed the surveillance video over to the police.

“We don’t have problems like this,” Morris said. “I train everyone as much as I can.

Part of that is training customers. Don’t put yourself in harm’s way. If there’s bigoted people, I will remove them. That’s why you pay premium prices for beer: extra security, bouncers, and people to pick up after you.”

“The staff and I know they were in the heat of the moment, should have made sure the cowboys stayed inside until they were sure Ryan and Kevin had left,” Morris said.

“All we can do is learn from this.”

Morris is very proud of his bar’s mix of patrons.

“We definitely value our gay and lesbian business and protect people as much as we can,” he said. “98 percent of the time it works out. In a mixed club sometimes things like this happens. This is the first case I can remember where it was based on sexual orientation.”

“This all started with someone looking for a fight,” Gray said. “We go there [Piper Down] all the time and have never had a problem. We always feel safe there. I still feel safe.”

At press time, no arrests have been made.

Gray said they are both healing. He has been told his face may be numb for six months to a year because of nerve damage.

Doctors are waiting for swelling to go down around his eye to determine if he’ll need surgery to repair the eye socket. Burns, an actor and singer, is waiting to get into a specialist to determine the damage to his throat. Q

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local news State to Hold Medicare Workshop for Gay, Transgender Utahns The Utah Department of Human Services will host a Medicare Q-and-A session for gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender Utahns on April 21.

The class is part of the Utah Pride Center’s programming for its senior group, Senior Advocacy for LGBT Elders, which regularly hosts and sponsors classes aimed at educating and supporting community members aged 50 and over — members who Center Adult Programs Director Jennifer Nuttall has said often face challenges to aging that their straight counterparts do not. “We have learned that far too many members of our community are left out of benefits because of reluctance or fear of encountering the formal system,� she said. “For this workshop an official of the State of Utah will be coming to us on our turf. A respectful encounter with the formal system will raise our visibility and enhance our influence.�

That state official is the Department of Human Services Senior Health Insurance Program Director, Darren Hotton. Hotton said that he regularly presents these workshops to a variety of groups and allows those in attendance to direct the time by asking questions. “When I go out and I’m doing a basic Medicare/Medicaid coverage presentation, I work them through the steps of Medicare crossroads,� he said. “A person who is eligible for Medicare — and that’s not just [seniors] anymore — is pretty much everybody, through age or disability.�

Hotton said he starts out by asking those in attendance to consider their health status, as well as how much money they have saved or are able to save for retirement or medical emergencies. Based on the group’s answers to those questions, Hotton said he discusses a number of plans, including the Medicare Advantage plan (for those who can put money aside), the Medicare Supplement plan (which can pick up costs from Medicare A and B plans, which cover hospital and medical insurance, respectively. Other topics for discussion can include Medicaid options for people with low incomes, affordable prescription coverage and changes to both Medicare and Medicaid that the recentlypassed health care reform bill will address. “There are a few tweaks here and there that are going to start up soon,� he said, noting that one such “tweak� will be a $250 rebate for people going into what is called the “donut hole� of Medicare prescription coverage, or a gap in coverage that requires recipients to pay 100 percent of prescription costs.

Hotton said he can also go over Medicaid, a government health coverage program for low income individuals and families.

Overall, however, he stressed that applying for and using Medicare or Medicaid was not really different for gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people than for their straight, non-transgender counterparts. “Medicare itself treats everyone pretty much the same,� he said. “There aren’t a whole lot of specific things in Medicare and Medicaid that have to do with specific populations, but I can try to answer any questions

[about this subject] that people have.�

Hotton also stressed that the class will be beneficial not only to seniors, but to people under 50 who cannot work due to disability, and people of all ages who are caregivers to a partner or family member.

He also directed all members of the community to two Medicare and Medicaid re-

Q uni sources, Utah’s Senior Health Insurance Program and the Medicare Web site. The first can be reached at 800-541-7735 and provides counseling on applying for Medicare and answering any questions about the process.

The second can be accessed at Medicare.gov., which lists 56 Medicare plans available for Utahns.

The class will be held April 21, 6:30–8 p.m. at the Department of Human Services Building, Room 1020, 195 N. 1950 West, Salt Lake City. The building can be entered through the door on the northwest side.

Pride Day Brings Back 5K Run This year, the Utah Pride Festival will bring back an event that festival-goers haven’t seen in the last three years: a 5K walk/run.

The Pride Day 5K will be held June 5, the second day of the three-day festival. It’s a tradition that the Utah Pride Festival has missed, said Michael Westley, media and special events coordinator for the Utah Pride Center, which operates the festival annually. The 5K run, he said, was discontinued in 2006 as the festival grew. “It had to be dropped because we didn’t have the manpower to do it,� he said.

This year, the run will be administered by an outside group, Wasatch Area Race Productions, the company behind this August’s Battle at Midway Race Festival in Midway, Utah. According to WARP co-owner Charity Vernon, who runs the company with her husband and mutual friend Rob Leishman, WARP is “a trio of friends who enjoy putting on endurance events here in the community.� Her company approached the Pride Center because they thought a race “seemed like a logical aspect which was kind of missing from the event.� “We thought it’d be a fun way to kick the weekend off and get things going for the festival, and to help raise some money for a good cause,� she said.

The good cause is the Center’s Student Scholarship program, which a portion of the race’s proceeds will benefit. To support the program, participants must register for the 5K’s “Super Pride Strider� category. Tickets are $65 each and include a race T-shirt, festival tickets and a package including a number of festival prizes which will be announced soon. The regular entrance fee, which does not benefit the scholarship, is $25. Super Strider packages will not be available for purchase on the morning of the race, but regular day of registration will be available for $30 per individual. “They’re paying a little extra but they’re getting the entrance tickets and supporting [the scholarship] as well,� said Vernon of the Super Strider packages.

Pride Day 5K is a 3.12 mile race which will begin at 8:30 a.m. on June 5. The route will travel north on Capitol Boulevard through

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City Creek Canyon to 11th Avenue. Athletes will then turn and head back down the avenue to Bonneville Boulevard, onto Canyon Road and into Memory Grove, where the race will end. Although the race is a fun run, meaning that participants are invited to run or walk at their own pace, prizes, such as

festival tickets and VIP passes to the festival Beer Garden will be given to the top three runners in male, female and transgender categories. The event will be emceed by Sister Dottie S. Dixon, star of the KRCL radio program bearing her name and her own play, The Passion of Sister Dottie S. Dixon. “It should be a great time,� said Vernon. “We’re expecting probably around 300 or so athletes. The first years [for a race] are always kind of a little smaller and they take off after that.�

She encouraged participants of all sexes, sexual orientations, gender identities, races and ages to participate. “One of our goals is to get the community a little more involved and feeling like it’s a festival for everyone,� she said.

Westley agreed. “[Center Director] Valerie Larabee and the rest of us [Center staff] are very much keen on having a race because this gives us a way to talk about health and wellness and this allows us [to reach] a group of individuals� who are interested in fitness and wish the festival had an event centered around physical health, he said.

He added that the race was a good example of the gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender community working with straight allies for the benefit of everyone.

Registration for the race has just opened and spots can be purchased on the WARP Web site at wasatchracing.com/prideday5k-raceinfo.html.

2010 Pride Parade Accepting Entries The 2010 Utah Pride Parade will be held on Sunday, June 6 and those who want to participate can sign up now on the event’s Web site. The parade line-up is done by assignment blocks based on when the Pride committee receives your completed application and payment.

Regular registration ends May 1, with late registration going through May 15. Entries range from $100 to $300 and scholarships are available for organizations on a limited budget.

INFO: bit.ly/2010parade

Noche Latina: Cinco de Mayo Noche Latina, the Utah Pride Center’s Latino social group, will hold a party in honor of Cinco de Mayo (the day commemorating Mexico’s victory over French forces at the Battle of Puebla), complete with food, music and non-alcoholic drinks.

WHEN: May 7, 7 p.m.

WHERE: Utah Pride Center, 361 N. 300 West INFO: Lillian Rodriguez at 801-5398800, ex. 23 ÂĄMĂşsica, comida, y mucho mĂĄs!

Todo empieza el 7 de mayo a las 7 de la noche en el Utah Pride Center.

Para mĂĄs informaciĂłn visiten la pĂĄgina electronica del Utah Pride Center o pueden contactar a Lillian (801-539-8800, ex. 23).

Teddy Bear Designers Needed Since 2002, a silent auction of teddy bears has become the largest annual fundraising event for the the Matthew Shepard Foundation, which seeks to “Replace Hate with Understanding, Compassion & Acceptance.� Last year’s “Bear to Make a Difference� gala raised over $100,000. Every year celebrities agree to sign bears designed in their image to be auctioned off to support the work of the Foundation.

Last year’s participants included Celine Dion, Katie Perry, Meryl Streep, Barbra Streisand and Nicole Kidman. The Foundation is seeking designers interested in creating a teddy bear for the event. They will provide the bear and you dress it.

Bears need to be completed by August 1.

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Episcopalians To Consider Third Gay Bishop for Utah Replacement Episcopalians will consider a third openlygay bishop next month in Utah.

Rev. Michael L. Barlowe is one of four finalists vying to replace retiring Bishop Carolyn Tanner Irish of the Utah Diocese in a special election to be held May 22.

Barlowe married his husband, the Rev. Paul Burrows, in San Francisco during the narrow May-to-November window in 2008 when gay marriage was legal in California.

If elected, Barlowe would become the third openly gay bishop in the Episcopal Church, joining New Hampshire Bishop V. Gene Robinson, who was installed in 2003, and Los Angeles Suffragan Bishop Mary D.

Glasspool, whose ordination is scheduled to take place on May 5 at the Long Beach Arena.

Also being considered for the post are: the Rev. Juan A. Quevedo-Bosch, the Rev. Mary C. Sulerud and the Rev. Scott B. Hayashi.

Speaking with The Salt Lake Tribune, Ric Tanner, president of the Utah church’s Standing Committee, which advises the bishop, called the four finalists “immediately engaging.”

“We felt that any one of them would help us draw together as a church family, given the challenges of the diocese’s great geographic separation and cultural diversity, between downtown Salt Lake City and Native American parishes on Utah’s southern border,” he said.

Barlowe’s Ascencion to Priesthood

Barlowe was raised in North Carolina, though he frequently moved about the country because of his father’s career in the United States Navy.

He joined the Episcopal Church in New York City and entered the General Theo-

logical Seminary in 1980 whre he was formed an Episcopal priest.

“In the summer of 1982, while an intern in an inner-city parish in South London, I met Paul Burrows, an English priest, and fell in love,” he wrote in his biography.

“Love can make you irrational, which was a good thing for us: with little money, an ocean between us, and the competing immigration bureaucracies of the United Kingdom and the United States, we were blind to the impossibility of making this relationship work.”

By 1985 he and Burrows were both priests in New Jersey, and three years into a “life-long commitment to one another, the Church, and God.” He became rector in a small church in an impoverished section of Plainsfield, N.J. and was called to Des Moines, Iowa, where he became the youngest Dean in the Episcopal Church.

Barlowe followed his partner to San Francisco and enrolled as a doctoral candidate at Church Divinity School of the Pacific.

“In 2007, Paul and I celebrated our 25th anniversary,” he said. “In 2008, after the historic California Supreme Court ruling, we were married in a civil ceremony, by one of our heroes: Judge Herbert Donaldson, one of the first civil rights attorneys in the country to fight for equality for gay people.

“Afterwards, we drove a rented red convertible to Mendocino, and stayed in an inn that was featured in the classic TV show, Murder She Wrote.

Fewer than 24 hours later, we were back in San Francisco, busy with our ministries.

“Less than a year later, Proposition 8 was passed,” he said. “And that, really, is a parable of my life, and of our lives: Christians are called to live and minister among the heights and depths of God’s world, integrating our personal happiness and challenges with the joys and sorrows of all God’s people. We follow God’s call, and share the Good News of Jesus. And so it has been for me: From the red clay of the mountains of North Carolina to the ivy halls of Harvard; from Wall Street to the cloisters of Chelsea Square; from the slums of South London to the children of New Jersey; from a new cathedral in Iowa to the center of San Francisco; and now to the possibility of ministry in Utah: God reigns, and to God be all the glory.”

Anglican Communion and its more liberal American branch, the Episcopal Church.

Robinson’s 2003 ordination infuriated church conservatives and led to a self-imposed moratorium on the election of gay bishops.

Last July, however, the church reversed course when it voted in favor of lifting the ban at its general convention. Within six months the Los Angeles diocese had nominated Glasspool.

Dr. Rowan Williams, the spiritual leader of the Anglican Communion and the Archbishop of Canterbury, called Glasspool’s

election “regrettable” and suggested the Episcopal Church’s moves threaten the bonds between the two churches.

The Utah Diocese is offering a chance to meet the four candidates at “walk-abouts” in five regional meetings the first week of May, beginning May 4 at 6:30 p.m. in the St. Mark’s Cathedral. During those meetings, each candidate will be given a few minutes for an opening statement, followed by a set of questions which they will all answer, followed further by questions from the floor.

The diocese will consecrate its new bishop on Nov. 6. Q

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The Utah Pride Center’s annual Queer Prom drew hundreds of teens, April 10, to the Salt Lake City Main Public Library for a night of partying in an environment where all sexual orientations and gender identities are accepted.

Ranging in ages 14–20, the youth in attendance are coming of age in a time that many older gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people could only imagine at their age. Today, ordinances in several states, cities and counties — including Salt Lake City and Salt Lake County — ban employment and housing discrimination against gay and transgender people. Congress has amended the U.S. hate crimes law to cover sexual orientation and gender identity. The military’s ban on openly gay servicemembers is taking its last breaths, and same-sex marriage is legal in five states and the nation’s capital.

Yet, while the political and social gains this generation enjoys are many, the experience of growing up while being out as gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender is often still a mixture of acceptance and rejection. QSaltLake sat down with five young prom-goers, ranging in age 16–20, to find out more about this generation’s experiences, needs and ambitions. They are: Daniel Hill, 20; Tomathon Keene, 16; Chelsea Sebastian, 17; Cortney McKibben, 16; and Morgan Shattuck, 17.

In the 15 years since gay-straight alliances first appeared in schools — thanks, in part, to the imbroglio surrounding East High School’s own GSA — one might well expect teachers to be more accepting of queer students. But according to the teens, this is not always the case.

When Sebastian asked one of her teachers why humans were attracted to people of the same sex, he replied; “It’s a mental defect.”

“He was really old, but there’s no excuse for that,” she added.

“I know teachers who are homophobic and tend to lash out in passive-aggressive ways,” added Shattuck. “They’ll often ignore you or pay less attention to you. But I do have a lot of gay-supportive teachers.”

Peers can also be cruel. Before moving to Utah, Sebastian attended a high school in a small Illinois town. When one of her classmates came out, she said that everybody avoided the girl and spoke badly of her.

Likewise, all five youth said they had heard anti-gay language in schools, including the use of the word gay to mean “stupid” or “bad.”

“A lot of people caught on to it,” agreed McKibben. “I began hearing it in the sixth grade.”

Sebastian said that she didn’t find the misuse of the term particularly offensive.

“It’s happy. It’s a good word,” she said.

“You just kind of laugh at them because they’re not using it right.”

On the other hand, Keene said that his friends all accepted him when he came out.

“[They said,] ‘We knew you were gay, and we saw it coming,’” he recalled.

The main problem Hill struggled with, he said, was figuring out how his sexual orientation fit into his life and his aspirations for the future.

“I was 15 and everyone is trying to find out who they are then,” he said. “Coming out was difficult because it just added one more thing.”

“I think being out today is tough,” added Shattuck. “But I felt uncomfortable hiding it. Once I came out I was able to be myself.

I gained a family. When I went to TINT [the Tolerant, Intelligent Network of Teens, the Utah Pride Center’s youth activities center] I had all these people who accepted me.”

All of the youth are involved with the Utah Pride Center in some capacity. Shattuck is a member of Queers in Action, the Center’s youth-focused activist group, and all of them have attended TINT — McKibben with her parents’ explicit support.

Additionally, Shattuck, an East High student, is assisting Keene and Sebastian in the process of starting a GSA at Murray High, which both students attend. So far, the fledgling group has yet to find a faculty sponsor.

“It’s really rough,” said Keene.

Perhaps unsurprisingly, the teens’ involvement with youth activities has carried into the political arena. Shattuck has taken lobbyist training workshops with Equality Utah, and a number of the students have attended protests on Capitol Hill (Keene was present for one on Feb. 12 where a Republican Party official notoriously remarked that the gags the protesters were wearing “must be to keep the cocks out of their mouths.”). When asked if they thought Utah would pass any statewide protections for gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender citizens, all were doubtful.

“I think it’s going to go federal if we want it to happen here,” said Shattuck of same-sex marriage. “And since I think it is protected by the Constitution, it should be nationwide.”

“We need to separate God from politics, because God shouldn’t control our politics,” she continued. “We have freedom of religion as well as freedom from religion.

Not being able to get married because of your god is like forcing your religion on me, which is against the Constitution.”

One thing the youth did not doubt, however, was that their generation was, overall, more accepting of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people than previous generations — and that they could do something to change the political climate in which they live and in which they will soon participate as full adults.

“Just act up, speak out,” said Hill. “People can put [gay rights issues] on the table, but it’s going to sit there unless people stand up.”

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le ers An Open Letter to Sen. Hatch Dear Senator Hatch, As a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, married in the Bountiful temple to a beautiful wife, and with two children “born in the covenant,” I find it appalling that a member of my religion would violate a firm christian belief, the second great commandment, to “Love thy neighbor as thyself.” I may be wrong, but the religion I subscribe to has room for all, just as Christ himself had. In my religion, we also believe in something called Agency, you may recall it led Eve to eat off the forbidden fruit, thereby leading to the call to multiply and replenish the earth, thereby leading to intolerance by men and woman in the United States Senate.

Although I support my church leaders, I do not believe for one moment, that gay marriage and a marriage protection act is a “critical issue” other than the face that it may be the basis for a re-election bid. Just how will the Marriage Protection Act protect heterosexual marriage? I know of no homosexual couples, many of whom are in more stable relationships than heterosexuals, that will up and leave their partner for a member of the opposite sex just because the Constitution says so. So what are the consequences?

As I see it, with other pressing issues that are “critical issues” my elected officials have once again chosen to waste valuable debate time and consequently money on such an issue that will not only be ineffective at accomplishing anything but hatred and ignoring other issues such as the death of soldiers and civilians in the Middle East.

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❝ What is your fantasy summer vacation?

Hope Eksten Michael Aaron, 200 of our closest friends, jello shots, Ruby Ridge emceeing and someone in the back of the bus intermittently screaming “GINGER!” at the top of her lungs.

Ronald Yeates I would love to spend three weeks in Ireland, riding a mopad from city to city through the country side experiencing their culture with no agenda or time frame other then the end date. Maybe find some hot romance along the way.

Sen. Hatch, the State of Utah Constitution states in Article I, Section IV, that “The rights of conscience shall never be infringed.”

(Emphasis Added) Conscience is defined as “the awareness of a moral or ethical aspect to one’s conduct together with the urge to prefer right over wrong,” or “A source of moral or ethical judgment or pronouncement,” or “conformity to one’s own sense of right conduct.” One’s OWN sense of conduct, not one dictated by government or any other person.

So should such a bill pass out of the intolerant Senate, it would not be able to be ratified by the great state of Utah, as such would violate it’s Constitution. As many from the “religious right” have argued, homosexuality is a choice. If it is such a choice, although that may be debatable, then it is protected by the Utah Constitution. As you were in the people business as a lawyer, then you must truly understand that such legislation would never be allowed in Utah, as it violates Constitutional rights.

While on the subject, we currently occupy a middle eastern country, and as such, have also encouraged a government that is “Nonsecular.” How can we encourage and promote such a government, while all the while, acting completely in opposite manner, using conservative christian beliefs in an attempt to pass spiteful legislation. Hypocrite. This is why much of the world looks upon our great country with contempt. We, as citizens, all hear that the U.S. has a tarnished image in foreign relations, and how should we fix such image? The answer is simple, stop being a hypocrite. Practice what is preached, and judge ye not lest ye be judged!

As I also recall, two plans were presented at the Grand Council in Heaven. One would lead all back to our Father in Heaven, but 2010

eliminate choice, telling us what we must do and enforcing such rules with force. The other led to agency and choices that would test our faith in God, and by making “right” choices, led us back to lie with our Father in Heaven. The first presented belongs to Lucifer, the great serpent, Satan, etc. The chosen plan belonged and still belongs to our Savior, Jesus Christ and his great atonement. What is being forced upon the American citizens through the presentation of such legislation amounts to the plan of Lucifer, the plan forsaken by God himself!

I encourage you, Sen. Hatch and all your colleagues to actually meet with members from the homosexual community. Yeah, we’ve all heard that you (meaning Religious conservative) have close gay friends, but we know that such friendship could not abide in the aura of malice toward the gay community. Sit down, meet with homosexuals and maybe their children. Yes, gay couples do have children too; but you will see that such productive, taxpaying, upstanding citizens are not that different from you and me.

They have a sense of moral conscience, they raise their children to respect others, have tolerance and respect for cultures, races, etc., very similar to the way families were raised in the era of civil rights in the ’60s. Have common sense and spend your constituents time on issues that really impact America. This law will change nothing, but the composition of the House and Senate in November.

What would Jesus do? (Women, where ares’t thine accusers? Neither do I accuse you.)

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Monte Shaw A seven-day, all expenses paid trip with my crew to Australia. Any longer would cause me to hurt one of them. LOL

Steven Ellis I would have to go classic. Sevenday vacation in Disneyland, hitting all the rides as many times as I want. Probably spend an entire day dedicated to Splash Mountain.

“Zip-da-de-So-da.”

Karl Elbel I’ve never been to Europe, but have always wanted to go there more than anywhere else. Cliché as it may be, I would absolutely love to do the hippy thing and spend an entire summer backpacking across Europe, camping in the Alps and staying in hostels.

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people.” This phenomenon is described best in Lisa Duggan’s Twilight of Equality. “Neoliberalism” she argues, “developed over many decades as a mode of polemic aimed at dismantling the limited U.S. welfare state, in order to enhance corporate profits. The raising of profit rates required that money be diverted

by Troy Williams from other social uses, thus increasing overall economic inequality.” Duggan acknowledges the limits of law reform OFTEN HEAR PEOPLE SAY, “WE JUST NEED that is only 58 percent of an average white in achieving social progress. Without older folks to die so the next gen- family’s. In 1974, median black incomes economic safeguards, proper governeration can take over and then we’ll were 63 percent those of whites. In every ment regulation and expanded public see full equality for queer people in area from education to health care and caretaking, we’re all vulnerable. But America.” It’s a nice sentiment, one I’ve employment, African-Americans are dis- wait, that sounds like European demoexpressed many times, but history offers a advantaged in comparison to their white cratic socialism! Yup. And guess what more haphazard tale. counterparts. And the system is rigged to countries allow gay marriage, provide The idea that progress is achieved in keep them there. universal health care and are less likely a linear fashion toward inevitable social And what about U.S. women? In the to incarcerate people in jail? justice is a romantic notion that elides 1970s our nation was fractured over ratiBut here we are. The land of the not historical realities. If we only consider a fying the Equal Rights Amendment. The quite free. There is no guarantee that shallow review of history, it may appear objective seemed fair enough: “Equalwe are going to win. In many critical true. The liberal narrative boasts that in ity of rights under the law shall not be 1776 white men established sovereignty denied or abridged by the United States from the English crown and representa- or by any state on account of sex.” Who tive democracy was born. In 1865 we end- could oppose that? ed a civil war to liberate black slaves. In Well, the Mormons, Eagle Forum and 1920 women won the right to vote. In 1965 others, of course. Regressive counterwe defeated the final Jim Crow laws. To- campaigns were effective in halting the day we are working toward equality for process. Today women are still not progay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender tected equally under the law. And furpeople with a certainty that time and an- ther, the gender wage gap persists. other left-leaning Supreme Court appoint“But wait, wait,” you say again. “In ment will award us full civil equality.

1963 we passed the Fair Pay Act! That’s But will it? progress, right?” Well, yes we did, and Martin Luther King, Jr. is famously 47 years later women still only earn 78 quoted for his declaration that, “The cents for every dollar men make. Last arc of the moral universe is long, but it year the Center for American Progress bends towards justice.” It’s the kind of delivered alarming news. A woman’s feel-good quote a speaker delivers at the income earning potential actually deend of a fundraising dinner to assure creases with education. Over a 40-year the weary crowd they are on the right period a woman with a bachelor’s depath (so write that check!). But equality gree or higher can expect to lose $713,000 under the law is not always the same as compared to men. A woman with less justice. And though we have made great than a high school diploma will only strides in providing federal protections lose $270,000. Further, the gap increases for African-Americans, we are still quite as women age. Even in the 21st century, a way from insuring true racial justice. sexism is still deeply embedded within “But wait,” you say. “We have an Af- our patriarchal culture. rican-American president! This is clear And what of the poor and the shrinkevidence that we as a nation are making ing middle class? Gross income disparprogress, right?” Well, look closer. What ity may be the greatest impediment to is the state of African-Americans in our social justice. Poor queers and poor nation? Jim Perkinson’s new book, Tex- straights (black or white, male or feas Tough: The Rise of America’s Prison male) all face disenfranchisement from Empire, paints a devastatingly grim pic- a common source: a political economy ture. In 2009, one in every six African- ruled by neoliberal ideology. “NeoliberAmerican men were incarcerated (and alism” is an economic agenda embraced one out of every 13 Hispanics). “Today,” by both Republicans and Democrats to Perkinson writes, “a generation after privatize every facet of public life inthe triumphs of the civil rights move- cluding health care, schools, prisons ment, African-Americans are incarcer- and even our military. It is an anti-demated at seven times the rate of whites, ocratic, pro-corporate philosophy that nearly double the disparity measured places profit over people. It is diametribefore desegregation.” He continues, cally opposed to the material redistribu“Denied a place in society at large, Jim tion of resources. In this, Obama, Bush, Crow has moved behind bars.”

Clinton and Reagan are all faithfully The disparity doesn’t stop in our penal aligned. system. A report released from the EcoThe collective good is stripped away nomic Mobility Project in 2004 revealed by free-market pirates hell-bent on makthat a typical black family has an income ing a profit at the expense of “we the A pril 15 , 2010 | issue 152 | QSa lt L a k e | 19

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ways we are losing. Our movements have been politically neutralized. Public wealth is being redistributed upward (privatized) into the hands of an affluent, predominately white, heterosexual male elite. And they are invested in maintaining their power.

Don’t buy the rhetoric that we will eventually win. There is no guarantee.

To pull this off we will need every citizen educated and mobilized. We must demand justice in all areas: economic, racial and gender. This is not a gay movement. We must get that forever out of our heads and drop the identity politics. This is a human rights movement that must embrace and protect all people. The only chance we have of winning is to stand united and indivisible.

We must embrace and actualize our nation’s highest ideals. Q Troy blogs at queergnosis.com.

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by Ben Williams

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there are bishop’s courts, and the one held in Honeyville, Utah in 1893, involving the “Big Love” offspring of the Mormon Patriarch Abraham Hunsaker, was a doozy!

Shortly after October Conference, 33-year-old Lorenzo Hunsaker appeared before the Box Elder stake president and his Honeyville Ward bishop complaining that his younger half-brothers Weldon and Peter Hunsaker had “circulated a story in the ward to the effect that he had been guilty of sucking their penis.” This story didn’t sit well with Lorenzo Hunsaker, who had been the community school teacher and had his reputation to think of. Upon hearing this story from Hunsaker, the Box Elder stake president told the bishop of Honeyville that he really ought to look in to the matter. Peter and Weldon Hunsaker, 24 and 18 years old respectively and brothers from different mothers, were called to an ecclesiastical hearing to answer Lorenzo’s charge of spreading lies about him.

One of the investigators at the church court lamented about what “grief and sorrow” must be felt by “that great and good man” Abraham Hunsaker, the family’s deceased patriarch, who was watching from Heaven and probably shedding tears. After much reflection on these comments, Lorenzo was asked to raise his arm to the square and state his innocence in the presence of “God, angels and men.” He said, “you betcha.” Then Peter and Weldon were asked “if they could raise their hands in the presence of God, angels and men and affirm that Lorenzo was guilty of the charge.” They said Lorenzo was a “cocksucker.” (Well, maybe not right then, but later they did.) The ward secretary remarked, “I have nothing more to say, the trial may go on.”

At the trial Peter Hunsaker claimed that Lorenzo tried to have oral sex with him on four occasions. At his brother Benham’s house, said Peter, Lorenzo, “came to my

bed while I was asleep. When I awoke he had his mouth over my penis. I turned over and pulled it away. The second time was in the mill two years ago last summer. We were both sleeping in one bed and on awaking found him ahold of my penis with his mouth, and I was in the act of discharging.

The third time occurred on the balcony of Lorenzo’s house, and on awaking found him as before with my penis in his mouth. The fourth time was at the house of Mr. Willis in Mendon, Utah — two years ago this last summer. Each of the three last times occurred about three weeks apart.”

Weldon told a similar story. Weldon testified that the first time he caught Lorenzo in the act of sucking his penis was “about one year ago, he coming to my bed. When

He claimed homosexuals were ‘abnormal in that they are non productive and have no Godly satisfaction.’

I awoke I felt that it was him, but did not see or speak to him or he to me. I turned over on my belly and did not discharge. He did not leave my bed immediately but kept bothering me. The second time occurred about two weeks after the first, when he

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came to my bed as before and got my penis in his mouth. I awoke in the act of discharging.

The third time was in a different room. I was asleep when he came in, but awoke immediately. He did not accomplish anything, but remained in my bed about one hour, when Florida [his wife] came in search of him with a lamp, but she soon returned leaving him still in my bed, she telling him that he ought to be ashamed of himself. I left the bed and occupied another the rest of the night. The fourth time occurred near daylight so that I could see him. I asked him what good it did him, and he answered that it might keep me from bothering the girls. I replied that it would make me worse rather than better.

Got my penis in his mouth, the talk occurred after I awoke. This happened last spring.

Have no feelings against him, but had some words. Think Peter asked me if Lorenzo had ever sucked my penis and I must have said ‘yes,’ as he told me that he had sucked his.”

Then several witnesses were brought in as character references for all the brothers.

The word “cocksucker” was bandied about.

Peter Hunsaker said he woke up while his half-brother Lorenzo was “in the act of fingering me.” He said his older brother also attempted to “ride him,” (perform anal sex) and then complained, “I did not want him to monkey with me.” Peter added, “I do not think he would have intercourse with other women, but [he] is not virtuous with men.”

A married 25-year-old neighbor also testified that he awoke one night and discovered Lorenzo masturbating him while they slept together during a visit.

The outcome of the trial was that Lorenzo was found guilty and disfellowshipped by the Honeyville bishop. However, the stake president decided that all charges against Lorenzo were lies and reversed the previous decision of the bishop’s court. Instead, Weldon and Peter Hunsaker were excommunicated for the “gross wrong” of making “such a monstrous charge” against their married brother. Mormon Apostle Lorenzo Snow was present and approved the decision to exonerate Lorenzo Hunsaker and to punish Hunsaker’s brothers for claiming he sexually molested them.

The Honeyville Ward bishop was then released for encouraging dissent against the stake president’s decision. In protest, ward members refused to sustain the newly appointed bishop. To quell the rebellious, sacrament was not allowed to be administered for seven months. Historian Michael Quinn remarked, “This is the only instance in Mormon history when a specific community suffered the LDS equivalent of “the interdict” — a Roman Catholic practice of punishing a congregation or community by prohibiting the administration of the holy sacraments.”

Well, you can imagine Hunsaker family reunions after that were kind of awkward.

So Lorenzo Hunsaker went off to Arizona where he died at Prescott in 1941. Peter Hunsaker stayed in Honeyville where he died 20 years after this brouhaha in 1912. Weldon Hunsaker, the youngest actor in this drama, died in 1957 in Salt Lake City.

I bet the Hunsaker Book of Remembrance is a fun read. Q

snaps n slaps SNAP: Queer Prom Salt Lake City’s public library is one of the most striking buildings in the city, but it’s never looked better than on April 10, when hundreds of teenagers packed into its main hall for a night of friends, food, fun and, of course, dancing — all without having to worry about being thrown out or harassed for dancing with someone of the same sex, or wearing “gender inappropriate” clothing.

It was also encouraging to see the community turn out to make this night a good experience, from the helpful chaperons and Utah Pride Center staff to the police providing event security. Although nobody on QSaltLake’s staff has been to prom in decades, we can safely say that ours weren’t nearly as fun or creative. We’re a little jealous.

SLAP: Michael Waddoups It seems that Sarah Palin was right. Health care death panels really do exist. At least, the State Legislature seems interested in creating one. Last week, Senate President Michael Waddoups and the Executive Appropriations Committee voted to hold off on accepting federal funds for the Ryan White Program, which helps low-income Utahns with HIV/ AIDS purchase their anti-retroviral medications. Their reasoning?

“Obamacare” will cover this, and having HIV/AIDS is due to “lifestyle choices,” anyway. The same “Obamacare” that will mandate insurance coverage for all adults regardless of pre-existing conditions in 2014. And the same disease that doesn’t discriminate on the basis of sexual orientation and which kills straight and gay individuals equally when they don’t have their medication. Shame on Waddoups and the committee for using the lives of some of the most vulnerable Utahns to rail at the federal government yet again. The Legislature’s never ending romance with sending messages about things they don’t like has likely cost our state more time and money than any program like Ryan White ever could.

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EMPLE PENGUINS MATE FOR LIFE, BUT

with a lot of men in penguin suits.

Beer is the drink of choice rather than that is not Utah’s state bird. No, that would be the seagull; the bird root beer.

You can parade around in swim gear and well-known in the science community for mating only for procreation purpos- thongs, but wearing a temple garment unes and then choosing to next with same-sex derneath your clothes is just ‘strange.’

Caffeine is not against God’s word, but a partners. And they don’t just ‘cuddle.’

Well, a new penguin exhibit opened up necessary vitamin.

Brokeback Mountain is a must-see love smack in the center of Happy and Salt Lake Valleys. The Living Planet Aquarium will film, not an X-rated porno that is removed be a place for couples and people of the from theaters.

Religious freedom is not a right believed country, and even the world, to take their dates. But, it won’t matter because the di- to be at risk.

Off-Broadway plays does not mean going versity will be no more extreme than what to the theatre to watch Mamma Mia!. is already right here in Utah.

Being gay or lesbian itself is not reason Forty miles may not seem like a long distance to most people. Obviously, some enough to attend Sex Addicts Anonymous.

Bingo is an excuse to yell obscenities, of these people have never driven from Happy Valley (in the Provo area, for all wear fancy wigs and dress in drag. It is not you Gentiles) to Salt Lake Valley in one a place for the older Elders and their wives day. The two cities are about as different to sit around quietly and discuss church as Brittany Spears and Marilyn Manson. issues.

Stores and businesses are open every Comparing the two cities is like comparing Planet Pandora in Avatar to United States day of the week instead of six.

Going to church means dancing and of America. But, I will try, anyway.

Salt Lake Valley residents have bongs singing loud songs rather than sitting on dressers while Happy Valley has shiny deathly quiet for three hours.

Every third church is an LDS Church guns inside dresser drawers.

In SLV shots of espresso are needed to rather than every church on every block.

Evolution is not a point of view. function, while in HV hot chocolate is the Rights of gay, lesbian, bisexual and most common drink at Starbucks.

Also in SLV, “Oh my f-in God” is used transgender people are not seen as ‘special as an expletive rather than “Oh my gosh” rights.’

Being a missionary is a pick-up line rathin HV. Actually, it’s getting old typing SLV and er than a noble service to God. Having sex before holding hands is not HV, so I’ll just do this. In Salt Lake Valley uncommon. vs. Happy Valley: More than one sex partner is not a direct “Gay and Lesbian” is used as a title reference in bookstore rather than “cultural ticket to hell, but a necessary trail before marriage. studies.”

Working women don’t get asked all the Indie bookstores are more common than time, “But, wouldn’t you rather be home giant Barnes Nobles and Borders.

A bottle of wine sits in bathrooms rather with the kids?”

Relief Society is a lesbian and bi group than a bottle of Prozac.

A gay and lesbian school club is com- that meets at Coffee Garden, not a group of mon, while such a club in HV might result women who bake cookies.

Tuna and dot dogs are not only terms for in an extreme case of home-schooling.

Six kids are a death sentence, not a com- food.

Working at home does not mean taking mon way of life.

A woman can say she doesn’t want kids care of kids.

Freedom to be oneself is at risk not freewithout getting looked at like she needs to dom to worship a wrinkly old guy. be committed.

I groan every time my friends ask me to Soy milk is right next to the half-n-half.

QSaltLake is lugged around in place of go to Happy Valley for an adventure. The only excitement I get there is honking at scriptures.

‘Breeders’ is a term used for straight the sexy, flowery-dressed girls and getting people and not farmers who breed animals. dirty glances in return. I prefer spending Dressing up as a drag queen or king does my Sunday at the drum circle rather than a fireside that has nothing to do with fires, not result in immediate jail time.

Independent food stores are seen every- a certain plant or camping. But, like many Salt Lake Valley residents, I have lived on where, but not a single WalMart.

Being vegan is not grounds for relentless both sides of the split country that is Utah and prefer to spend my time with the ones teasing or parental discussions.

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I HAVE refrained from condemning the LDS Church for its involvement in the Proposition 8 campaign. I’ve tried to take the opinion that, as a religious institution (and as a group of individuals), they have the right to express their backward and ignorant viewpoint. Recent events, however, have made it necessary to point out just how backward and ignorant the church’s stand actually is on homosexual rights.

At the LDS General Conference, Dieter Uchtdorf of the LDS Church’s First Presidency stated that in order to be true disciples of Jesus Christ, members must welcome all of “God’s children,” even those “who might dress, look, speak or just do things differently.” That’s a really nice thought, but it doesn’t really jive with the church’s recent stand on gay issues, especially in relation to California’s Proposition 8 battle. In that situation, the church took an official stance against the right of people to marry according to their own hearts and consciences. The church even encouraged its members to donate time and VER THE PAST LITTLE WHILE

money to help overturn the legalization of same-sex marriage.

The LDS Church also recently took a stand in favor of Salt Lake City’s anti-discrimination ordinances, which prohibit housing and employment discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation and gender identity.

Yet, even in the midst of that, they remained active in the battle to “protect marriage.”

I’ve asked this question a few million times, and still haven’t heard a logical response: How is marriage threatened by same-sex couples? One would think that the behavior of a former LDS bishop like Kevin Garn (naked hot tubbing with an underage girl) would be more of a threat to marriage than a loving relationship between two people of the same sex. Of course, Garn’s “indiscretion” was dealt with privately by his church superiors — much like the abuse of children was “dealt with” by Catholic authorities.

Several months ago LDS Apostle Dallin Oaks gave a speech at BYU-Idaho in which he compared the backlash against the church to the backlash against civil rights leaders in the 1960s. I don’t think I need to

explain just how ridiculous that analogy is, but suffice it to say I find it disturbing that a leader of an organization that has committed itself to oppressing the civil liberties of a group of people would have the audacity to play the victim. Remember, this is the same church that, until the 1970s, argued that African-Americans were cursed with the stigma of Cain and were therefore excluded from holding their magical priesthood. Now the church is claiming that people protesting their temples are in some way attempting to limit their rights to religious freedom.

There are a number of arguments circulating about the LDS Church and its role in both Utah and national politics. I’m not ready to advocate the revocation of the church’s non-profit status as a religious organization (although I believe that all property tax exemptions should be revoked for all organizations), but I do feel it necessary to point out the obvious hypocrisy in both the statements and actions of church leaders.

The Mormons moved to Utah ostensibly to escape religious persecution, to set up their own place to live and practice their religion as they saw fit. How is it that an organization that has felt the sting of oppression can now so easily seek to impose a similar oppression upon another group?

The LDS Church has spent the past several years attacking homosexuals

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The bottom line is pretty simple: Freedom means allowing all people within a society the same basic rights and freedoms, regardless of other considerations. If two people are allowed by law to enter into a marriage, then any two people should be allowed to enter into a marriage. If the LDS Church (or any other church) doesn’t want to recognize or perform that marriage, fine, that’s their right. Where their rights end, however, is within the confines of their own membership. As a private religious organization, they have the right to set standards of behavior for their members, who agree to abide by said standards or risk expulsion. They don’t have the right to impose those standards upon anyone else.

So we end up where we started, with Mr. Uchtdorf explaining that a true “disciple of Christ” would embrace all of “God’s children” regardless of their differences. Yet, the LDS Church has spent the past several years attacking homosexuals and using their influence to promote discrimination and oppression.

What this tells me is that LDS Church leaders, and a large number of the church’s members, need to take a good look at their actions and statements, and reconcile those with the “Christian” values they publicly espouse. Q

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I always thought it was an insult to black people when Bill Clinton was called America’s “first black president.”

For one thing, it was as if folks were saying that Bill Clinton was as close as we’d ever get to pigmentation in the White House. But it also set a ridiculously low standard for what it meant to be a friend to minority groups beleaguered by oppression. All he had to do, it seemed, was acknowledge that black people existed and throw some sunshine their way and all of a sudden Clinton’s got a brand new bag.

Using this same assbackwards standard, Tom McClusky from the Family Research Council is claiming that Barack Obama is America’s first gay president. “(I)t was argued during his two terms in office that Bill Clinton was ‘our first black president’ because of his supposed liberal policies that would benefit African-Americans,” McClusky writes on the FRC’s ominously named Cloakroom blog. “With that argument, shouldn’t Barack Obama already be our ‘first gay president’ due to his liberal policies pushing the homosexual agenda?”

Super-genius logic, Tom. Super-genius.

Can we get a Presidential Medal of Freedom pinned to this guy’s nose, please?

It should be noted that McClusky isn’t the first person to pair the “first gay president” label with Obama’s name. Shaun Jacob Halper did that via the Huffington Post back in early 2008. But that was before Obama was even elected. Halper’s column was a litany of what-ifs, wondering if Obama would really be the gayfriendliest president of them all.

Today, anyone who has spent even the time it takes to watch an episode of Elimidate in reality knows that Obama is hardly the great presidential savior of gays.

All you need for proof is the fact that gay and lesbian members of the military are still getting the boot on his watch.

But apparently anything other than overt abject scorn for gays and lesbians makes you a total fag-hag of a president.

“During the campaign President Obama made it clear he would be a strong advocate for the homosexual agenda when elected, however the bumbling of the health care debate by his party has been a roadblock for him on two big issues, allowing gays to serve in the military and passage of the Employment NonDiscrimination Act, which would allow for special protections for homosexuals, transgendered [sic] and transvestites,” writes McClusky.

Now, wait just a minute. That’s a misrepresentation of ENDA. The Act does not include transvestites, only “Sweet Transvestites from Transexual, Transylvania.” There’s a difference, Tom. There’s a difference.

“Since taking office the president and his administration has done all they could to chip away at the protections to the states and the institution of marriage provided by the Defense of Marriage Act,” continues McClusky.

For proof, McClusky offers the fact that gay U.S. diplomats have been granted domestic partner benefits under Obama. Well gosh, I guess all that the homos in America have to do to achieve some semblance of recognition and fairness is become a diplomat. Easy-peasy.

But you know, even if Obama did do away with “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell,” got federal recognition for same-sex marriage and gave all of the country’s homos a pony, a Nintendo Wii and a lifetime supply of 5-hour energy drinks, Obama still wouldn’t be America’s first gay president. Have you seen Michelle Obama?

That lady ain’t no beard. Q

‘Shouldn’t Barack Obama already be our ‘first gay president’ due to his liberal policies pushing the homosexual agenda?’

D’Anne Witkowski has been gay for pay since 2003. She’s a freelance writer and poet (believe it!). When she’s not taking on the creeps of the world she reviews rock and roll shows in Detroit with her twin sister and teaches writing at the University of Michigan.

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Under the Eaves with Mark and Joe

by Michael Aaron

M

C HAMBERS AND J OE P ITTI had lived in their Marmalade home for decades, developing it into an oasis that many had visited at various functions, like the Aqua AID fundraiser for the Utah AIDS Foundation.

Last summer, the couple put the house up for sale, packed up all their belongings, and headed to Utah’s Dixie. They had bought Springdale’s oldest bed and breakfast and were eager to put their touches on it.

The two are frequent visitors of Utah’s national parks. Last year, they had gone to Zion National Park, staying at Zion Canyon Lodge. Needing an extra night, they turned to Purple Roofs, a Web site listing gay- and lesbian-friendly accommodations around the world, and found Under the Eaves.

“I instantly fell in love with the house,” Pitti said. “As Mark was unpacking his luggage in our room I said to the previous owner, Steve, ‘you have a great set-up here,’ to which he said, ‘make me an offer.’”

The seed was planted.

But how could two well-entrenched Salt Lakers uproot from the 40th largest city and move to a town of 450 people?

“We had been thinking about a transition to partial retirement,” Chambers said.

“Salt Lake City was beginning to feel both ‘too big’ and ‘too small’ at the same time; and the air pollution was disagreeable.”

They took inventory of the business skills they’d developed through their lives and the bed and breakfast just “seemed to fit.”

And fit, it did. Along with two friends, I headed down for a three-night stay over the town’s St. Patrick’s Day celebration and noticed immediately that the duo played the part of B&B hosts as if they’d been doing it their entire lives.

We were put up in the largest of the house’s six guest rooms: upstairs in the Eaves Suite. The 1,200-square-foot room has three beds, a kitchenette, a wood-burning stove, vaulted ceilings and a claw-foot tub. A large, antique church window overlooks the gardens and has a breathtaking view of the West Temple in Zion Park, which glows a fiery red in the early morning.

There are two other bedrooms in the main house on the main level and three rooms in the Garden Cottage behind the house.

If you’ve ever been to the Pitti-Chambers house while in Salt Lake, you know they are avid collectors of angels. Angels large and small grace the property inside and out. The fountain that once stood outside their Quince Street home now sits off Zion Park Boulevard, looking like it was built right there with the house.

While the B&B was wonderful before the pair bought it, it has truly come alive with character in the short time they’ve called it home with new bedding, fresh paint, and furnishings.

ARK

And then, of course, there are Mark and Joe. Both are friendly, funny and, at the same time, professional with issues such as privacy.

While we were staying there, a gay couple from Austin, Texas was staying downstairs from us. Mark, Joe, the Austin couple and the three of us spent one night in the house’s living area playing board and card games while going over our days exploring the area.

Springdale has embraced the couple as well.

“One of the reasons we were drawn to Springdale is their hosting of Southern Utah Gay Pride,” Pitti said. “We knew they were a liberal town, welcoming such an event.”

“There is a small gay community down here and some gay-owned businesses, but more than that the town is quite a liberal enclave. A ‘live and let live’ feeling permeates within the community,” Pitti continued. “Springdale also becomes somewhat of an international city during the tourist season. Close to three million visitors come to Zion each year and see what the park has to offer. During the height of the tourist season you can hear languages spoken from all over the world.”

While we were in town, the St. Patrick’s Day Parade passed right in front of the B&B. The three of us and Joe donned “saysomething hats,” and waived as entries of businesses, individuals and organizations drove by, including Chambers dressed as a turtle (because it was green) for the area’s arts and cultural group, of which Chambers and Pitti are president and vice president. One man, riding a donkey, had a sign on his back saying, “Follow my ass to the Bit N Spur for Jell-O,” which we did, finding live Irish music, green Jell-O-eating and green Jell-O-sculpture contests.

“The town is always putting on some kind of fun event,” Chambers said.

Of course, Zion National Park is the area’s largest draw, but the couple took us in their opentopped Jeep to the ghost town of Grafton, stopping on the way at the Springdale Fruit Co. Market for some incredible gelato.

The area also boasts some extremely good restaurants, a well-stocked wine and liquor store and more art and rock galleries than you could visit in a week. I even took care of a Mothers’ Day gift while there.

But, it’s more the people who make Pitti and Chambers feel they are at home.

“We have been pleasantly surprised by the spirit of generosity we have consistently encountered,” Chambers said. “Everybody has been welcoming, inviting us into their homes and offering any kind of help we might need.”

Which is exactly what we found of Joe and Mark as well. Q

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talk to, as well as a bit frisky in their conBED ‘N’ BUNS BED versation. Jeff works during the day and and Breakfast brings a beautiful mingles with guests in the evening, while backyard, billiards and a bad-boy Sam works in a studio in the house as a masbasement to Boise, Idaho. I’ve run sage therapist. Sam is also a contractor.

During our time in Boise, we spent sevout of Bs. Seriously, though, partners Sam and Jeff eral hours touring the Old Penitentiary beare bringing a Palm Springs-style B&B to cause the great grandmother of my travel gay men traveling to Boise. The impres- partner, David Nelson, was sent there for sive house is surrounded by lush, private killing (or being party to the killing of) grounds, which draw those who may want his great grandfather. While there, staffto skinny-dip in the large hot tub or sun ers told him, she was a bit of a ... hussy.

I thought that explained a lot. She caused bathe au naturel.

The pair bought the house about seven quite the scandal when she ended up beyears ago, and turned its three extra bed- coming pregnant while incarcerated. She rooms into a B&B. The house was built pointed the finger at the warden, recanted in the ’80s, but has the charm of a turn-of- the story and then recanted the recant. Nelthe-century building with its columns and son says they basically kicked her out of spiral staircase coming from an area court- the prison for being too much of a pain.

We also went to a new gay club, Sin, house slated for demolition. Each room has its own bathroom, comfortable beds and downtown. With wonderful exposed-brick walls and upscale lighting, it would fit porn-art on the walls.

“We have to lock the doors when the well in an even larger city. The population grandkids come and visit,” joked Sam as of the Boise metropolitan area is about he gave us the tour. I noted that some of the 600,000 which makes it the 100th largest in artwork in the halls would also have to be the country.

We drove by the area’s gay community squirreled away.

They’d need to lock the door to the base- center, which also publishes its monthly ment as well, as the entire basement is a 12-page gay newspaper, only to find it closed. It is situated in a very industrial fully-furnished sex area.

“We host a bi and married group every area, ironically named Garden City.

When we awoke the next morning, we other Friday and they are the ones who were served a beautifully-presented expandmostly use it,” said Jeff.

It’s the immaculate grounds that caught ed continental breakfast of fruits, cheeses, my attention, however. The two-acre lot yogurt, and cereals as well as quiche.

“Jeff is the one who knows how to make about 10 minutes outside downtown is surthe breakfasts look pretty,” Sam said. “I rounded by mature trees, bamboo and wisthink I missed that part of the gay gene.” teria trellises.

Business has slowed since they first “We had to bring in a grove of full-grown opened seven years ago, but they are hoptrees when we first moved in to hide the ing it will pick back up as the economy rehot tub from the neighbors,” said Sam. Tobuilds. With how grand the house is, lush day, the blue spruces are easily 20-feet tall. the grounds are, and hospitable the hosts, Bamboo groves fill in any gaps and make it should do just that. Q an outdoor room out away from the house.

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The little touches are not forgotten as well — soft music going as you enter the room, toothpaste and headache-remedy samples in the bathrooms, etc.

The resort is definitely well-suited for a frisky, single gay man, or frisky gay couples, for that matter. I believe it is also well-suited for more conservative gay men as well, as long as you avoid the steam and video rooms and, perhaps, the hot tub very late at night.

Three million gay people are estimated to go to Vegas in a year, most of whom will stay at the

larger resorts. I think there is definitely room for a 47-room, well-run gay resort on top of that.

I, personally, will be going to Vegas just to stay there and bask in the sun. I may even drag myself away from the pool long enough to take in a show. Or not. I’ll play it by ear. Q Find more information at bluemoonlv.com or call 1-866-798-9194

by Michael Aaron

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F EBRUARY OF 2003, J OHN Hessling left a cush job as director of leisure sales at Mandalay Bay and, with his partner Mike Torres, opened the doors to a 47-room resort for gay men — a first of its size in Las Vegas — The Blue Moon. The former Travelodge three blocks off The Strip was completely remodeled over several years to include a steam room, video room, a massive waterfall that pours over the hot tub into the large pool, private cabanas and a coffee house. The pair hoped to be in the black in the first year and to purchase the sister building next door, expanding to 150 rooms.

In the seven years since, Hessling and Torres split and plans for the adjacent property were scrapped as Vegas suffered hard in the bad economy.

Though the plans may have ended up being too pie-in-the-sky for the moment, the resort draws great crowds, especially in the warmer months when Vegas visitors lay poolside in the lush, clothing optional compound.

The rooms underwent a second wave of renovation, designed by Hessling, and now feature king-size pedestal beds, pillow-top mattresses, 300 thread-count linens and N

flat-panel televisions. Hessling said he designed the rooms specifically for the tastes of his gay male clientele. The furnishings are dark, rich wood with a grand tuftedleather headboard to match the leather furnishings. The earth-tone color scheme is masculine and zen-like.

A continental breakfast is included with the room and is served in the coffee shop near the pool. Weekly barbecues are also held poolside on Sundays.

Average room rates vary from $59–110 for a standard room (higher on weekends of course) to $119–170 for a suite. A master suite with every bell and whistle Vegas has to offer is $340 a night.

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Day passes are available for locals and those staying at other properties for $25.

I found Hessling to be very personable (and not too hard to look at) and was impressed that he worked shifts during the week at the front desk greeting newcomers. The staff was very professional (and not too hard to look at) as well.

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health Q fitne The Traveling Man

by Laimis

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TICKING TO YOUR WORKOUT IS HARD

enough when you’re close to home.

But when you throw in an out-oftown conference here, or a weekend excursion there, a regular exercise routine becomes even tougher to sustain.

If travel is a regular part of your job, you have some inkling of what I am talking about. When you travel to another city you’re in unfamiliar territory and often an unfamiliar time zone. Fatigue takes its toll on your plans for an evening run; daylong meetings quash your opportunity for a morning workout.

If you’re trying to stay fit, travel can be tough on you. It’s not just the issue of making time for exercise while you’re traveling. Just as big a question is: Where can I go to exercise?

Taking Your Workout on the Road I call them the twin demons of travel fitness: finding time to work out, and finding a place to work out once you do find the time. But you can exorcise these demons once and for all with a little ingenuity. And I’m not just talking about calling ahead to make sure your hotel has an exercise facility (although that’s a great idea). One of the factors that made humanity the dominant species on the planet was our ability to adapt to changing surroundings, improvise

with the materials at hand and overcome the obstacles to our survival.

And so it is when you’re on the road and there isn’t a barbell around for miles. Now, the point isn’t to try and duplicate your athome workouts. The idea is to do enough substitute exercise so that when you can resume your regular exercise routine, you won’t have lost any ground on your physical fitness. If you want to ensure the survival of your fitness in those situations, try these expert tips.

PACK FOR A WORKOUT. The easiest way to miss out on exercise is by conveniently forgetting to pack appropriate exercise clothes. You have to make it a habit to always keep workout clothes in one of your suitcase pouches. If they’re always in that pouch, you’ll never have the excuse that you forgot them. Wrap the clothes in a plastic bag, though — you wouldn’t want your suit smelling like sweat socks.

ASK AT THE FRONT DESK. If your hotel has a weight room and a couple of stair-climbers, or a pool where you can do a few laps before bedtime, then you’re set. But even hotels that don’t sport these facilities do have at least one useful exercise resource — the concierge.

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least, a concierge can direct you to the local bend your arms; your elbows should be YMCA or the nearest squash court. And if close to your sides. Lower yourself so your you are an outdoor exerciser, the front desk chest is in line with the beds. Pause, then can certainly tell you the safest places to do raise back up. your exercise — which is an important conReverse-Grip Dips sideration in a strange and unfamiliar city.

This dip works your lower pecs and triceps.

WALK WHEN YOU CAN. One problem with Start by standing between the beds or two traveling is the fact that we become overly chairs. reliant on vehicles to move us from place to This time, your legs will be straight place: the company car, the red-eye flight, out in front of you, toes pointing up, heels the express train or bus. So it’s very easy to forget that you have your own two feet to touching the floor. Place a hand on each mattress and extend your arms so you’re help you to move around.

So walk when it’s practical. Take the holding your butt off the ground. Your finstairs instead of the hotel elevator. Walk gers point straight ahead, parallel to the around the terminal while you’re waiting sides of the bed.

Now slowly bend at your elbows and lowfor your connecting flight. er your butt toward the floor, but don’t let it SEEK OUT A PARTNER. It may help to remember there are others of your kind, traveling touch. Pause just above the floor, then raise men and women who would like to stick yourself back up to the starting position.

Note: If the mattresses aren’t firm enough, to their workout. If you’re at conventions, make sure to check out the message boards slide your hands under the mattresses and you always see in the lobby. I’ve seen mes- support yourself on the box springs. sages announcing a morning fitness walk, Luggage Rack Shoulder Raises or that someone was looking for a running For this exercise, which works the top and or exercise partner. And if you don’t see back shoulder muscles, you’ll need one of any messages, post your own. those fold-out luggage stands (check the VISIT THE LOCAL CLUBS. If you belong to closet for them), which will act in place of a fitness club at home, remember that a weight bench. membership has its privileges, even when Note: Again, test the rack to make sure it you’re out of town. doesn’t wobble and that it will support your MAKE AN APPOINTMENT. At home, exercise is weight. If you don’t think the luggage rack simply part of your routine — something you is sturdy or large enough to support you, do at a set time everyday. When you’re on the do these luggage rack exercises on the bed, road you don’t have a routine, you have an working one arm at a time. If you haven’t itinerary. You’re on a travel schedule, so the brought a set of light weights with you, use routine goes out the window, and then it’s a couple of heavy books, like the telephone easy to forget exercise. That’s why I’d suggest directory or the Bible in the nightstand. actually scheduling exercise time. Put it in Kneel facing the luggage rack, using it your daybook like any other meeting. By ac- to support your upper body. Let your arms tually building exercise time into your sched- dangle off either side of the stand. Hold a ule, you’re more likely to find time for it. weight in each hand, palms facing inward.

Even when there’s no weight room at the Your arms should be fully extended. If your inn, and no fitness club where you can drop arms are long enough to touch the floor, in, you can still get together a halfway deraise them slightly so they’re no longer cent weight-training regimen. touching the floor.

But before you begin, a note of caution.

Now raise the weights in a semicircuSome of the exercises suggested here call lar motion, keeping your arms as straight for using furniture or hotel-room accesas possible without locking your elbows. sories that weren’t designed for exercise.

Raise your arms to shoulder height, then If I suggest using a bed, make certain the lower and repeat. mattress is firm. If you’re using a chair or luggage rack to do an exercise, test them, Luggage Rack Flies shake them, do what you need to do to en- You’ll need the luggage stand and a chair sure that they’re stable and sturdy enough for this pectoral exercise. If the stand is not to support your weight. If they’re not — or sturdy enough, do this on the bed, working you’re not comfortable using them — then one arm at a time. skip the exercise.

Push a chair up to one end of the luggage “There’s nothing wrong with being in- rack. This time lie on your back on the lugventive and trying to develop a workout gage rack, with your knees bent so your feet using materials close at hand. But it’s im- are touching the floor. Support your head portant that you use common sense and be on the chair. Extend your arms up so you’re safe about it,” says my dear friend Steve. holding the weights above your chest. You With that in mind, try these. should be holding the weights so your palms are facing each other.

Hotel-Room Push-Ups Keeping your arms as straight as possible Like the standard push-up, this exercise works your upper and outer pectorals. For (it’s OK if they bend a little), lower the weights this exercise, you’ll need two beds placed in a semicircular motion out to either side of side by side. If the beds are so far apart that your chest. Lower until the weights are even you can’t position your hands properly, with your chest, but back slightly so they’re in line with your ears. Pause, then raise the then use two sturdy chairs Stand between the beds and get yourself weights back up. Repeat. in standard push-up mode — legs extended And always remember, “Without good behind you, toes touching the floor. Place health, nothing else matters.” Q a hand flat on either bed, fingers pointing straight ahead. Your hands should be about If you need more help on nutrition or any help shoulder width or slightly wider apart. with your fitness goals, you can find me at King Your arms should be extended so your up- Studio, 1400 Foothill Dr. (above Stein Mart). You per body is elevated slightly above the level can also reach me at laimis@laimisenergy.com or 801-815-7725. Buy a gift certificate for yourself, of the bed.

Now slowly lower yourself toward the your family or your friends in April and save $300 floor. Keep your back and legs straight and on your personal training sessions.

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Q health HIV Is Not a Right of Passage

by Lynn Beltran

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RECENTLY HAD A PATIENT WHO TOLD ME

that he moved here from another state. He was incredibly surprised by the lack of condom use and the negative attitudes regarding condoms within Salt Lake’s gay community. Even more surprising was the fact that he came here from an area with one of the largest gay communities in the country. He told me that the social paradigm within gay communities in other cities and states encourages condom use. But right here in our little land of Zion, the gay community seems to continue to show a waning regard for its sexual well-being.

Increases in HIV, syphilis and gonorrhea rates within the gay community in Salt Lake have certainly made the public and private medical communities recognize that the days of safe sex have gone the way of the 8-track. The new reality is that I am often seeing patients diagnosed with multiple diseases at the same time. I see patients frequently who have been diagnosed with the same bacterial infections three or four times a year. I have had patients who have had to be hospitalized for weeks at a time for co-infections of syphilis and HIV. These facts have become the realities of working with HIV in the new millennium.

It was truly discouraging to hear this newcomer’s shock about our community’s attitudes about safe sex. He actually paraphrased, word for word, what I often cite as possible causes for increases in disease rates and risky behaviors. I speak these exact same words to patients every day, multiple times a day, with compassion, without judgment and with hopes of convincing them to value and protect their sexual well-being. Agencies such as the Salt Lake Valley Health Department and the Utah AIDS Foundation exhaust resources year after year, to employ prevention-based programs aimed at reducing the transmission of HIV and other STDs within the gay community. Countless others before me have employed many a strategy to rally Salt

Lake’s gay community to value and protect their sexual health. Yet, it felt a little like a punch in the stomach to hear a patient speak my words of concern, and with such dismay and frustration.

Perhaps his words were so stunning because they brought me to that next level of awareness and concern that the community itself has given up on their well-being.

Perhaps they made me fear about what the future may hold if things don’t change for the positive. Perhaps they made me question if this effort was worth it.

What I hear and sense most often from patients is that as gay men, they have come to accept that they will probably get HIV at some point in their lifetime as a fact and as a sort of a rite of passage. What I hear is, “Let me just get HIV and get that part over with.” Patients tell me that they don’t even want to hear about condoms anymore. My newcomer patient said this is exactly what he hears from men in Salt Lake: Getting HIV is considered a rite passage.

Let’s look at this closely. Calling getting HIV a rite of passage it just a fancy way to try and justify a negative behavior to yourself, your partners and your community. A rite of passage is graduating from high school or college, and starting the next chapter in your maturation process.

A rite of passage is moving from childhood to adulthood. A rite of passage is a celebration.

Calling HIV a rite of passage is simply a way to hide behind a fashionable and somewhat sophisticated phrase. HIV is neither fashionable nor sophisticated. It is a disease. It impairs your immune system and negatively impacts your health. It can end a life prematurely. It can greatly impair your quality of life, forever. It can compromise your ability to be in a healthy relationship. It is expensive to have. HIV is preventable. HIV should be no one’s rite of passage! Q

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by Tony Hobday

I hope you all had a happy Easter.

I did ... though it was also a bit strange. My friend V made these cinnamon apple shots: she dipped the glasses in cinnamon sugar — picture that in your mind. We’ve named them Dirty Rim Jobs. Then Jake was so intoxicated from the Rim Jobs that he started removing the shells and coloring the naked eggs, and Matty shaved his head so we could color it too ... I need new friends!

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FRIDAY — Based on Stieg Larsson’s international bestselling trilogy, THE GIRL WITH THE DRAGON TATTOO comes to the big screen.

I’ve read the book, and it’s one of the best thrillers I’ve had the pleasure of picking up. The characters are complicated and have both common and unusual flaws. The story is beautifully detailed, with a dark, edgy ending — it will blow your mind. This is a Swedish film, with subtitles, and hopefully it will hold true to the book.

Opens today, Broadway Centre Cinemas, 111 E. 300 South. Regular theater ticket prices, 801321-0310, saltlakefilmsociety.org.

Q The second installment of the Sugar Space series AFTER DARK promises to respond to Salt Lake’s need for diverse performing arts better suited for a nightclub than an opera house. Amidst a cash bar and tunes spun by DJ Tidy, Monica Campbell has curated Chelsea Ellis Hip Hop Crew (Ellis was also curator and producer of Gender Neutral, a collaboration of artists expressing gender representation in the Arts), Revolve Aerial Dance, ToySoup Improv Comedy and Samba Fogo in a night that is certain to entertain.

8pm and 10:30pm, Sugar Space, 616 E. Wilmington Ave. Tickets $12, 888-300-7898 or thesugarspace.com.

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KARL WOLFE See April 22

SATURDAY — For over 80 years, the name MARTHA GRAHAM DANCE COMPANY has been synonymous with American modern dance. Performing one of Graham’s classic works, Appalachian Spring, this internationally acclaimed company, called “one of the seven wonders of the artistic universe” by the Washington Post, celebrates both

the past and future of this distinctly American art form.

7:30pm, Kingsbury Hall, 1395 E. Presidents Cir., UofU. Tickets $29.50–44.50, 801-581-7100 or kingtix.com.

Q It’s the return of RAW COUTURE, the Salt Lake Community College’s Fashion Institute fashion show. A reception will be held in the theater lobby to meet the designers and view the best of the best from the Fashion Institute’s programs. So pull out your best Louis Vuitton, and be sure to accessorize — I hope it’s going to be a little Drag Race-y.

7:30pm, Jeanne Wagner Theatre, Rose Wagner Center, 138 W. Broadway. Tickets $10–19, 801355-ARTS or arttix.org.

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TUESDAY — Utah Contemporary Theatre’s annual fundraiser event THE HOPE CHEST returns. This year 12 local actors are reaching into their “hope chests” to pull out a performance they’ve always loved but would never be cast in: wrong age, wrong gender, wrong race, or just plain wrong! it’s the chance of their lives! I’d play Oprah Winfrey’s part of Sofia from The Color Purple: wrong age, wrong gender (somewhat), wrong race ... but just the right amount of underarm flab. “Pass me them peas, boy!”

7pm, Black Box Theatre, Rose Wagner Center, 138 W. Broadway. Tickets $50, 801-355-ARTS or arttix.org.

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THURSDAY — Ririe-Woodbury Dance Company presents PROPEL, a contemporary dance performance that stretches the boundaries of both dance and theatre with works by four choreographers, including a world premiere by John Jasperse.

The audience will be challenged with abstract styles, the significance of love and the darker side of life.

7:30pm, through Saturday, Jeanne Wagner Theatre, Rose Wagner Center, 138 W. Broadway.

Tickets $30, 801-355-ARTS or arttix.org.

Q In celebration of Earth Day, the first outdoor concert this year at the Gallivan Center is EARTHFEST, featuring Train, Hey Monday (power pop, punk), Karl Wolf (soul, fusion) and Vita Chambers (pop, rock). An afterparty will be held at Keys On Main.

5pm, Gallivan Center, 239 S. Main St. Tickets $15, 801-467-8499 or smithstix.com.

Q Park City celebrates the 10th anniversary of PARK CITY FOLLIES. It’s an evening

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of lampooning everything Park City, from news events, local personalities and landmarks to historical events and traditions. So are they going to make fun of Wilfred Brimley? Is nothing sacred?

Just my fucking underwear drawer, goddammit! Sorry ... Tourette Syndrome has finally set in.

8pm, through May 1, Egyptian Theatre, 350 Main St., Park City. Tickets $25–35, 435-6499371 or egyptiantheatrecompany.org.

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FRIDAY — Twenty-five pages, 10 dance numbers and six songs to learn in 36 hours.

That’s the plight of Peggy, a small-town chorus girl arriving fresh off the bus at 42ND STREET in the Big Apple. With determination, a little luck and the lullaby of Broadway propelling her, this bright-eyed gal has the talent and heart to

become a star. Bite me, Peggy, you slutty sow ... lord, this Tourette’s a real curse.

7:30pm, through May 8, Pioneer Theatre, 300 S. 1400 East, UofU. Tickets $30–49, 801-5816961 or pioneertheatre.org.

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SUNDAY — She has captured the imagination of legions of followers, and has jammed with folkies, orchestras, rappers, rock ‘n’ roll hall-of-famers, jazz musicians, poets, pop superstars, storytellers and a martial arts legend (Julie Newmar). She is the incomparable, hairy-armpitted ANI DIFRANCO. Her new album, Red Letter Year, was conceived, sculpted and refined over the course of two years and is an impeccably crafted, multi-layered sonic achievement.

7:30pm, Kingsbury Hall, 1395 E. Presidents Cir., UofU. Tickets $28–35, 801-581-7100 or kingtix. com.

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WEDNESDAY — Spy Hop Productions’ biggest fundraising event, THE ANNUAL BENEFIT, helps raise money to fund its four core programs: the PitchNic Young Writer and Director program, the Multimedia Apprenticeship program, Youth Documentary Arts program, and Loud and Clear Youth Audio program. This year enjoy student-produced multimedia, food and drink, a live auction and guest Doug Fabrizio.

6–9:30pm, Rose Wagner Center, 138 W. Broadway. Tickets $50–75, rsvp to 801-532-7500 or spyhop.org/benefit.

UPCOMING EVENTS MAY 7 JUN 10 JUN 12 JUN 12 JUL 16 AUG 20

Sugarland, E Center Sting, USANA Lisa Lampanelli, Peppermill Concert Hall, Wendover Olivia Newton-John & Colbie Caillat, ESA Paula Poundstone, Rose Wagner Cyndi Lauper, Peppermill Concert Hall, Wendover

save the date April 16 Day of Silence dayofsilence.org

May 8 HRC Utah Gala utah.hrc.org June 4–6 Utah Pride utahpride.org

August 6–7 Women’s Redrock Music Festival, Torrey redrockwomensfest. com August 7–8 Park City Arts Festival kimballartcenter.org August 8 Q Lagoon Day qsaltlake.com August 20 Cyndi Lauper, Wendover, Nev. wendoverfun.com August 22 Utah Pride Center Golf Classic utahpridecenter.org

June 13 Salt Lake Men’s Choir “Americana” Concert, saltlakemenschoir. org

September 1 Sheryl Crow redbuttegarden.org

June 10–13 Damn These Heels FIlm Festival slcfilmcenter.org

September 18 sWerve’s Oktoberfest swerveutah.com

June 24–27 Utah Arts Festival uaf.org

September 28 Equality Utah Allies Dinner equalityutah.org

August 1 Mary Chapin Carpenter redbuttegarden.org

October 9 National Coming Out Day utahpridecenter.org

Sandra Bernhard, Martha Wash and Sister Dottie to Headline Utah Pride

Sandra Bernhard, Martha Wash and Sister Dottie S. Dixon will be the main attractions at this year’s Utah Pride Festival, the Utah Pride Center announced April 12.

A stand-up comedian, actress, singer and author, Bernhard has appeared on several Pride Festival stages. She will perform at Washington Square on Saturday evening, June 5.

R&B singer/songwriter Martha Wash is a former member of The Weather Girls, known and beloved among the gay community for her hits “It’s Rainin’ Men” and “I’m Still Standin’.”

She will perform on Sunday afternoon, June 6 at Washington Square.

Sister Dottie is the star of a KRCL radio program and one-person play bearing her name, and a regular presence at many events held by Utah’s gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender community. The LDS mother of a gay son known for her outspoken opinions on everything from church politics to the goings-on in her Spanish Fork Ward; she is portrayed by actor Charles Lynn Frost.

The Utah Pride Festival will be held June 4–6.

Red Butte Garden Concert Series Announced Because of the multimillion dollar renovation in 2008, the Red Butte Amphitheatre is now larger, the new stage shaped like the rear ramp of a cargo plane and the once u-shape line of port-a-potties has been replaced by large, easily accessible permanent bathrooms. However, what little shade-providing foliage the general lawn-seating venue once had has now been replaced by a number of table umbrellas located on a terrace at the back of the venue where only “VIP” members are lucky enough to take cover.

Regardless, this outdoor venue is one of the best in the state, in our opinion, and it happens to draw in big name artists each year such as Diana Krall, Bonnie Raitt, The Indigo Girls and Death Cab for Cutie. This year’s 21-concert (the largest to date) line-up is no different. It’s going to be a great summer at Red Butte ... enjoy!

June 6 June 16 June 18 June 22 June 28 July 7 July 11 July 13 July 14 July 25 Aug 1 Aug 4 Aug 8 Aug Aug Aug Aug Aug

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Aug 29 Sept 1 Sept 10

Kenny Wayne Shepherd Steve Martin w/ Steep Canyon Rangers Joss Stone Chicago JJ Grey & Mofro with Todd Snider featuring Great American Taxi Joan Baez with Guy Clark Brandi Carlile Barenaked Ladies Lyle Lovett and his Large Band Rhythm Devils featuring Mickey Hart, Bill Kreutzmann, Keller Williams Mary Chapin Carpenter Natalie Merchant Allen Toussaint w/ Dirty Dozen Brass Band, Trombone Shorty and Orleans Avenue Chris Isaak The Swell Season John Prine Norah Jones with Corinne Bailey Rae A Prairie Home Companion with Garrison Keillor Doobie Brothers Sheryl Crow Willie Nelson

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a&e Beauty of the Beat Writer

by Anthony Paull

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MANY LITERARY MASTERS, critically-acclaimed Naked Lunch author William S. Burroughs was an enigmatic soul riddled with contradictions. Born into an affluent family of Missouri inventors, he was Harvard-bred but held blue-collar jobs.

He married two women — one Burroughs killed by accidental gunshot — but severed his pinky over love for a man. He was troubled by a history of drug addiction and loss, but had a crystal eye for the future.

Still, what do we truly know of Burroughs — the multi-faceted author who foretold readers about the rise of AIDS, widespread crack use, and plastic surgery? Just who is the man who spoke of being ‘queer’ before it became a universal language? Unraveling the mystery, 25-year-old director Yony Leyser tackled the task by reviewing Burroughs social history in the documentary William S. IKE

Burrough: A Man Within.

Screening at North American film festivals, Within grants viewers a behind-thescenes look at beat-writer Burroughs’ literary rise and drug-plagued fall through a series of exclusive interviews and celebrity conversations including talks with John Waters, Iggy Pop, Patti Smith, and Gus Vant — signifying his enduring impact on artists worldwide.

Recently, Leyser stopped by to answer a few questions regarding the experience.

ANTHONY PAULL: Hi Yoni. Thank you for taking time to talk. What Burroughs’ novel most inspired you to chronicle his life work? And why?

YONY LEYSER: Well, I don’t think there was one novel. The first book I read of his was Naked Lunch. I thought it opened up new avenues of thinking. It was funny, outrageous, and I found it shocking that it had been written in the late ’50s when

everything else I had read from that time period was such crap. It still holds itself up as such a great critique of society, and it’s a great satire in regard to the bullshit government system we’re living in now, stuck and controlled by.

PAULL: Burroughs used a nonlinear/cut-up technique to separate himself from other writers in Naked Lunch. What directing and stylistic techniques separate you from other documentary filmmakers?

LEYSER: No person is a carboncopy of the next. So hopefully, if you decide to make it in life as an artist, you’ll have some form of creativity. The techniques I incorporated were experimental animation techniques I’d learned while I was a student at CalArts, including wired-sculpture stopmotion and drawn-animation.

Also, I included a combination of unseen footage in the film that his friends had given me, along with close-knit, intimate interviews with his closest friends. I looked for accuracy while maintaining the grittiness that was found in Burroughs writing.

PAULL: Burroughs’ work as an exterminator inspired the title of one of his short story collections. Outside of the film industry, what personal work experience has helped you become an effective director?

LEYSER: I don’t think any of my jobs assisted in forming my work on this film, except financially. I worked as a copy boy at Newsweek magazine, a personal assistant to a wine executive, a bike messenger and with various newspapers reporting on music. I didn’t want to be a bike messenger or a copy boy. These are jobs I took to financially support the film. I made my first documentary at the age of 16 about an obese carpet cleaner and his love affair with a crack prostitute. I’ve made documentaries and short films my whole life.

PAULL: Through his life, how did Burroughs help develop queer culture?

LEYSER: Burroughs was a pioneer of queer culture. Back then, people didn’t know gay people or ‘out’ people. He was gay when it was illegal. He had a boyfriend when it was illegal. He wrote about it when it was illegal and no one else was doing it. He was a deconstructer of language and sexual identity, and I think he paved the way for what a lot of people have come to take for granted.

PAULL: Burroughs short novel Queer took 30 years to find a publisher due to its centralized LGBT themes. From your experience, what kind of obstacles does a director face in modern times when attempting to produce a queerfocused film?

LEYSER: Well, I don’t think it’s a queer film. It has elements of homosexuality and Burroughs was a homosexual, but I believe in deconstructing labels. Other than being labeled a documentary, I don’t know how many more labels could be attached to it. The LGBT audience is extremely important. I’m a big advocate of the community, but much more in my photography work, which focuses on transgender, queer, outsider punk. The film is a portrait of an intricate and dynamic man with so many different facets to him, and I think it’s a very important film for the LGBT community to see.

PAULL: Within is laced with many celebrity conversations regarding Burroughs’ work. What seems to be the central characteristic about Burroughs’ writing that has so many celebrities enthralled?

LEYSER: Again, in the ’50s and ’60s, Burroughs was a pioneer of rebellion, of anti-authoritarian, of deconstructing modes of creating art. That’s why they sought him out. Who else were they going to reach to? I didn’t include celebrities because of who they were. These are people who were friends with Burroughs.

He was a huge influence on John Waters and Patti Smith.

PAULL: Ultimately, what surprised you the most about ‘the man within’ Burroughs that you had not known before undertaking this project?

LEYSER: Wow. There’s just too much to say. That’s truly an impossible question.

It’s too simplistic. There’s nothing that’s fact about Burroughs. There’s interviews and research. There’s nothing written in stone, and we don’t truly know who Burroughs was. I think people should watch the film, and I’d like them to be surprised at what comes out. Q

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Who’s Your Drag Momma?

by BeBe Zahara Benet

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YOUR ELDERS AND YOUR HISTORY !

That was one of the themes of this week’s episode of RuPaul’s Drag Race, and no one did that better than the very funny, very open Miss Pandora Boxx.

When I sat down to interview her, I asked Pandora where she got her wonderful name. “At the time I started drag I was really into Greek mythology,” she told me, explaining the myth of Pandora. “She was the first woman ever created.” The original Pandora opened up a forbidden box that let out all the world’s evils. Ms. Boxx thought it would be a good name because it plays up the idea that you don’t know what to expect. An approach I think is amazing!

It turns out Pandora auditioned for the first season, but was turned down.

“I was kind of devastated,” she admitted, noting she wanted to hate the show but got hooked. As soon as she heard there was a second season she reapplied and got the gig, which was a huge moment. “If something didn’t change in my drag career, I was going to quit,” she revealed to me. “Well, it changed in a big way.”

I love how funny and approachable Pandora was on the show, a trait that definitely helped her stand apart from many of the other girls. One of my favorite Pandora moments was her Carol Channing impersonation during the “Snatch Game” competition.

I was shocked to find out Ms. Channing was not her first choice — she almost became Jan Brady instead! “It was only the fourth time I’d done Carol,” she revealed. You fooled me, honey!

Pandora did admit her biggest frustration on Race was the judges’ reaction to her style, particularly her green leopard print dress. “It’s like telling a joke that flopped ... and flopped and flopped,” she explained. “Yeah, I know the dress didn’t work, can we drop it and move on?”

When it came to the drag mother competition, Pandora enjoyed working with her unconventional partner, even with his American flag bikini. Pandora was surprised by the judges’ comments that her mom outshined her on the stage. That was her strategy. “I planned everything,” Pandora explained, telling me the upstaging showbiz mom was the whole idea of the gag. “If it was funny and you liked it, I should be getting credit for it.”

One of the wonderful things Pandora takes away from Race is sharing her own struggle with depression and suicide. She wasn’t sure about saying something on TV, but since Race ended she has gotten ‘thank you’ letters from people struggling with the same challenges. “I’m starting to tear up now,” she marTyra Sanchez and Pandora Boxx veled. “That’s an amazing thing for from RuPaul’s Drag Race will be a reality show that’s supposed to be performing live at In The Venue on about a drag queen competition.”

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food & wine restaurant review Cannella’s: Back to the Neighborhood

by Drew Ellsworth

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somewhat dazzling lifestyle in Tinseltown led him to a job as saloon manager at the fabled Red Rock bar where the rich and naughty go to play. Joe says After going to many high-end and im- he came back to Utah and his neighborpressive restaurants lately, it was good hood roots just in time. Or, as he put it, to “come back to the neighborhood” “it was great for my health.” and find beautifully prepared food, nice Joe and his family completely reprices and sweet company. We found all modeled the restaurant several years of these at Cannella’s Restaurant and ago and pulled down three fake ceilLounge, which is located on the corner ings. I love the cozy booths and the oldof 500 South and 200 East. fashioned bar, which has a portrait of Brad and I were met by the handsome Emma Smith, wife of the LDS Prophet, and charming (and recently married) in a prominent spot above the alcohol.

Joe Cannella, who is the devoted owner I’m not sure what the message is there. and all around go-to guy at the restau- Shortly after the renovation, Joe’s faSage'sÊAdÊforÊQÊMagazineÊ12.17.09 rant. Cannella’s opened in the 1970s and ther passed away and the full responhas been in the same spot ever since. sibility of the place fell on his ample The food, warmth and “friendly bar” shoulders. What he’s accomplished atmosphere of the place was just what since then is very admirable.

I needed on that almost-spring evening.

Cannella’s is devoted to causes in Joe grew up in the restaurant busi- our community. They frequently host ness and left home in the ’80s to find events for the Utah AIDS Foundation fame and fortune in L.A. His crazy, but APRIL 11, BRAD DI IORIO AND I enjoyed what was one of the nicest, most laid-back dining experiences I’ve had in some time.

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and they always fly the rainbow flag house lasagna. The halibut was served during Pride Weekend. Not that I want on a nest of creamy risotto, oozing with to turn Cannella’s into a “gay” place, cheese and flanked by the same delibut it is exactly the type of neighbor- cious sauce we had on the portobello. hood mixed bar/restaurant we’re all On top we were really delighted by fresh looking for. “micro greens” — a mix of tiny beets, In an unassuming blue T-shirt and lettuce, arugula and other things which jeans, Joe waited on us himself. First he the chef had lightly tossed in fresh lembrought two beautifully plated appetiz- on juice and olive oil. This gave such a ers: stuffed portobello and a crispy ri- great nuance to the fish. sotto cake. The portobello was large and The lasagna is a time-honored recipe, cut into quarters — like the meatballs quite old-fashioned but very good and everyone is doing now, only better. The typical of a long-standing neighborhood stuffing was made of sausage, cheese restaurant. These types of signature and bread crumbs perched in a pool items should never be replaced. of nicely made marinara sauce which We were full by the time dessert came I wanted to drink. The mushroom por- around, but Joe brought us a sampler tions were topped with a spirited chif- plate of nice house-made tiramisu and fonnade of fresh basil. Brad and I must two Italian gelatos — coffee and pistahave been hungry, because we wolfed it chio. These were a perfect end to our down like field hands! The risotto cake meal. was garnished with greens and tiny I had brought an Italian Dolcetto by diced veggies — less impressive but still Peccinnino which is from the Piedmont good. I also thought it needed a sauce — Region of Italy. Dolcetto, as indicated I’m such a Frenchman. by the name, is light, but We were then treated to not too light, soft and gives the two house salads: tradia determined but modest Cannella’s tional Caesar and the more sweetness in the long finish.

204 E Fifth South trendy green apple and For a $20 wine we loved it. If 801-355-8518 arugula. Joe explained that you haven’t tried Dolcetto cannellas.com his chef, Alberto Higuera, before, it’s time.

DREW’S RATING: makes his own dressing for Cannella’s offers drink 91 specials and tasty hors the Caesar, and that it is such a staple at Cannella’s d’oeuvres at the bar six nights a week (it’s closed they dare not change it. on Sunday). Each day has a (Higuera, by the way, is a sort of fixture in Salt Lake; he’s worked lunch special for $6.95. If you’re vegetarseveral times for the David Harries en- ian, no problem; many items are already deavors and at Fresco.) The apple and made to suit your needs.

It’s not only my hope, but my predicarugula salad was our favorite, refreshing with a light dressing and three cubes tion that established, family restauof fried Polenta as garnish — hearty rants in Salt Lake will make a huge comeback, and I urge you to start this enough to make it a meal.

For our entrées we were treated to movement by going to Canella’s. I give a broiled halibut and the traditional it a 91 rating. Q

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E NCHANTED W EDDING HAS A unique history among Utah’s wedding businesses: It has been owned by two lesbian couples.

Current owners Hazel Jensen and her partner Misty Elan recently bought the business — including its van, trailer and collection of wedding backdrops — from the first couple, who were mutual friends. “They just were done and didn’t want to do it anymore,� said Jensen.

Since then, Jensen has faced the typical struggles of restarting a business, particularly letting happy couples know that One Enchanted Wedding is back and open for business. To help spread the word, and to help out members of the local community, Jensen and Elan contributed several services to QSaltLake’s first wedding giveaway. They designed the sandbox in which winners Jessica Engel and Amanda Brown stood for their March 13 service at the University of Utah’s Fort Douglas Post Chapel and the striking fishbowl centerpieces, complete with live betta fish, seen on the tables at the reception in the Utah Museum of Fine Arts’ main room. “I think its cool that it’s becoming more common for gay couples to do ceremonies, so it was a great opportunity when QSaltLake called to put [ourselves] out there for the gay community and say, ‘Hey, you know, we’re owned by a couple of women so you’re not going to feel like you’re having to convince the straight community that your ceremony is as legit as any,� said Jensen. “I think it’s a lot more comfortable for gay couples when they’re doing that [having a commitment or marriage ceremony] to deal with businesses they know are friendly.�

Buying the business was a natural step for the couple not only because they are interested in serving same-sex couples, but because of their artistic backgrounds. Both women have decades of experience in the theatre, in such areas as stage, lighting and sound design and technical direction. Elan is a former props manager at Capitol Theatre and Jensen has served for years as a member of the Utah Arts Festival’s technical staff. “I’m really comfortable with live events,� said Jensen. “When you do live theatre, an audience is there and you get one shot at it, and weddings are kind of the same.� “Our background is on a way bigger scale so this is just doing smaller events,� she continued. “I’ve spent 20 years making other people’s designs look good on stage and it’s kind of fun on a smaller scale to be designing for people what they want.�

The designs of which Jensen speaks are typically backdrops for wedding photographs and receptions, which include ivyNE

twined white pillars, trellises and even Medieval-style arches. Some of these are stock pieces, which Jensen and Elan keep in storage. But the couple prefers it when clients ask them to design backdrops to suit a particular event. “I really enjoyed Amanda and Jess coming to me and saying we want to do this [the sandbox] and it’s not something you have sitting in your inventory,� she said. “It was fun to make it unique for them.�

To promote their business and showcase their design work, the couple is offering its Grand Entrance Special. If clients give them a digital photograph of the backdrop the couple created for them for use on One Enchanted Wedding’s Web site, they will receive a discount on their order. If the client wants to use a rental, they will receive

a 50–70 percent discount on their order, depending on which piece they want to use.

And these events don’t have to be weddings. Jensen said that she and Elan will happily create backdrops for any event.

They can also create unique centerpieces, including silk and live floral arrangements, which Jensen has some experience building for television shoots. Of course, they also offer non-floral items, like the fish bowls made for Engle and Brown’s wedding. The special thing about the bowls, Jensen noted, was that wedding guests got to take part of them home as a wedding memento, and as a pet. “They got to adopt the bettas,� she said. “The guests who took them home were really excited.�

Although One Enchanted Wedding is just starting out again, Jensen hopes to grow the business into several other areas, including, someday, event management.

But for now, she and her partner seek to provide stellar set pieces for any wedding regardless of the couple’s sexual orientation or gender identity. “I feel like whether it’s a gay or straight event the best thing you can do as a business person is to do the best job and be the most committed to your business and your clients,� she said. “If you do the best you can, I think your work will speak for itself.� Q

For more information about One Enchanted Wedding and its Grand Entrance Special, visit 1EnchantedWedding.net.

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homoscopes i Getting Older Could Suit You, Taurus!

By Jack Fertig

Saturn is in Virgo aspecting Uranus in Pisces, Neptune in Aquarius — triggering persnickety criticisms that could easily miss the mark — and Venus strong in her own sign, Taurus, offering some stability and harmony. Be practical, take the long view, and let compassion take the form of patient understanding, not unsolicited advice!

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BY BRAD DI IORIO

Lambda Hiking Club Salt Lake City’s longest running gay and lesbian hiking group has planned its spring and early summer hikes and is encouraging anyone to join for a weekend hike or participate in the moonlight hike on Black Mountain.

Hiking is great cardiovascular exercise and a great way to make new friends with local and visiting gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender people and straight allies who enjoy the outdoors. People of all experience levels are welcome to participate and each hike’s leader can provide information about the planned hike in advance. General details about each hiking excursion are also put on the group’s Web site, including the meeting time and area, estimated length of the hike, suggestions for needed gear, and estimated hiking time. Bringing water bottles is always suggested for the hikes.

“We had two enthusiastic ladies join us for our first hike this past Saturday, an easy hike up City Creek Trial,” said Dana Clark, vice president of the club. “We have

over 300 lesbians signed up with Lambda and we are encouraging more participation from the lesbian community. We need women hike leaders to plan and lead some of the hikes.”

Current hikes are planned for Saturdays and Sundays, until the end of June, with a weekend hike and campout at Bear Lake, July 17–19. Other hikes and events will be planned as the summer weather takes over.

“Our next hike will be Sunday, April 25, at the sound end of the valley,” said Ron Steckler, president of Lambda Hiking Club. “It is an easy hike with great views.

Let’s hope the weather cooperates with good hiking conditions.”

Lambda Hiking Club is also planning to march in this year’s Utah Pride Parade, and will have a booth at the Utah Pride Festival to recruit outdoor enthusiasts and advertise its upcoming hiking and camping events. Experienced club members will be available to talk about upcoming trails and locations where planned events will take place.

This year, Lambda is also encouraging members to bring dogs if the hiking trail allows leashed pets.

Lambda Hiking Club spring schedule is as follows:

April 25, Bonneville Shoreline Trail, Corner Canyon, Draper May 8, Bonneville Shoreline Trail, North Salt Lake, Bountiful

May 22, Frary Peak, Antelope Island June 26, Full Moon Hike on Black Mountain For more information, check out gayhike.org.

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Each player must have a softball mitt, baseball cleats (or a good pair of running shoes), and outdoor wear — usually shorts This season, Pride Softball League, Salt to match the team shirt. Each team proLake City’s gay and lesbian softball league, vides team T-shirts and baseball caps, bats, is celebrating their 15th anniversary. They balls, bases and the location of practice have also joined the Salt Lake City Gay fields. Each team practices at least once Athletic Association, a non-profit, all-vol- a week and sometimes two times a week. unteer, gay and lesbian athletic organiza- Each team may also have other participation that promotes, organizes, and helps to tion fees or team dues. financially support Utah’s gay and lesbian Opening day games were played April 11 sports leagues. at Jordan Park, where the softball league “We have 17 teams this year. Teams can has played in years past. Softball play will continue to register players until April 25,” continue throughout the summer on Sunsaid Jarrod Ames, chairman of Pride Soft- days at 9 a.m., with the double elimination ball League. “There is a $25 player fee to get tournament beginning August 15. on a team’s roster. Individual players who All are welcome to watch game play on don’t have a team can send their name, sex, Sundays. “Several people bring snacks contact info and lay out and positions on blankets, Pride Softball League they can play enjoying the Week 1 results: to pcsl@pridegames and Salt Lake’s Fynest 10 / Trash Talkers 6 league.com.” mingling with Capers By Meditrina 17 / Damn These Heels 4 Because of other fans,” the increase Paper Moon 18 / Ace Trashers 14 added Ames. in getting the “Several umLos Gatos 11 / Bonwood Bowl 18 word out durpires and Wasatch Heating & Air 6 / Bonwood Bowl 15 ing the winter scorekeepers Off Trax 10 / The Trapp 23 months, Ames have told me Softball Heroes/JAM 16 / QSaltLake 6 said the league this is their fawas able to Stonewall Democrats 11 / Royal Court 6 vorite league create a new t o o f f ic ia t e Softball Ninjas 9 / Pride Counseling 8 team with all because of the new players to friendly fans the Pride Softball League. The new player and light-hearted atmosphere and lack of team is called Pride Counseling and they arguments and physical confrontations.” played a close game this past weekend, losFor more information about the Pride Softball ing by one point to the Softball Ninjas.

“Since our fragile beginnings in 1995 Team, visit prideleague.com or e-mail pcsl@ we have become the largest recreational prideleague.com. Jordan Park is located at 1060 softball league in Utah,” said Ames. “Pride S. 900 West at the International Peace Gardens, Softball strives to provide an alternative which is also home to People’s Market on Sunsocial setting where everyone is welcome days.

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“We are an LGBT-ran league, but are open to anyone who wants to play. Male, female, gay, straight and even transgender.

Everyone is welcome to play,” said Keith Rockstead, league director and player.

“All skill levels [are] welcome. We are also looking for people to volunteer with the league during the league season.”

Rockstead said there wasn’t an election of officers. Instead, the players sat down and found out who had the time to make the changes the league needed and who could participate in the capacity of a board of directors member in such areas as fundraising, field preparation, sponsorships and preparation for the league’s appearance as SLC Avalanche at this year’s Gay Bowl X, in Phoenix, (Oct. 6–11).

“We decided this year that our 2010 sponsors will be sponsoring the league and not individual teams,” said Rockstead. “We based the sponsorship fee on the current condition of the economy and believe our sponsors benefit more with our promotions and community involvement as a league than as an individual teams.”

The Mountain West Flag Football League is part of SLCGAA. Gear for practice and games include non-metal cleats, player shorts without pockets, gloves for receivers (if they help in catching the football), and appropriate upper body wear as the spring evenings warm up. Team T-shirts will be provided for game play, as well as the flag belts. The MWFFL is also working with local sport stores for coupons and discounts for gear.

After ‘open play,’ teams will be selected by coaches from players’ information and playing ability that has been observed during ‘open play.’

One of the biggest changes in the rules this year is about rushing the quarterback on the opposing team. The box that protected the quarterback from instant rushing has been removed and rushers are free to grab the flag from the opposing quarterback when the down begins. This should make each play a bit shorter, thus speeding up each team’s downs.

Other rule changes include adding a fiveyard penalty for flag guarding, a change in the end-of-half timing and extra plays, and allowing a first down in overtime. All rules will be taught at ‘open play.’

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This is almost exactly how that night had gone except for that I had poured myself back on the bus with sixty-five dollars.

When Franny and I had returned home around 9 p.m. we decided our drinking should not end, plus the sixty-five bucks was burning a hole in my pocket. We strolled, haphazardly, into Club TryAngles (the bus dropped us off nearby) to a roar of “Tommy!”. Where everybody knows my name ... I’m not too clear on if

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Spread around what we call “the conference table” was Geoff, Gregory, Jill and Leah, well on their way to intoxication as noted by the collection of barbellsize beer mugs scattered across the table — Franny and I had quickly added to it.

At some point in the evening the table conversation had turned raucous. We were animately discussing the art of kissing, and for some reason I had decided to demonstrate: I had grabbed the first p o o r schmuck t h a t passed by and pried his mouth o p e n with my tongue; and then the next stranger; then a third. After I hade made a few liplocked fruit loops through the bar, I just had to dance. I don’t remember the song ... I think it was a Miley Cyrus diddy ... oh god, the embarrassment. Stranger #3 had joined me on the dance floor and preceded to pry open my mouth with his tongue — it happened again later on the patio. Stranger #3 was a stalker.

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informed me that we were a little out of control. “I love all you guys, Tommy but you were so loud and obnoxious I got a headache,” he had said. He added that our voices had overtaken the music. I politely indicated to him that I could hear the music just fine because I had been dancing.

He was not amused, and to him we must have looked and sounded like a cockfight.

When I had awoke the next morning, still in one sock, I was grateful it was my bed and Stranger Stalker #3 was not at my side. I scrambled around the loft in search of my phone that was in my jeans pocket. I found the jeans on top of the refrigerator. When I pulled the phone out, a slip of paper came with it. I got a phone number at the bar, I felt like a princess ... until I realized it was Stranger Stalker #3’s digits. There were no damning messages left on my phone, I have this insatiable need to drunken text random

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friends and family members. I had once drunken text my mother with ‘Um las nite waz sofun les do ita gain but im top.’

When she had asked me later what it meant I told her “he’s just a friend who has a bunkbed.” She appeared skeptical.

I threw my jeans back on top of the fridge and realized my head was pounding like a gavel. I felt nauseous. I was 40 and not so fabulous. Why I was running around being a bar slut was beyond me, I’m usually a little more reserved than that ... or so I like to believe. Maybe I will call Stranger Stalker #3, he could be a nice guy. But he’s older than me, I tend to date younger; plus I don’t like beards.

Maybe I’ll call Vance, the set-up from St. Patrick’s Day — turn that one-night stand hopefully into something more meaningful. I truly need to redeem myself. Forty and frivolous is not where I want to be, it’s not attractive. Something’s got to give because it’s ridiculous for 40 to be the new 20.

I washed down two B6 vitamins with a banana milkshake, took a hot shower then a cold one — I’m a stickler about water conservation — grabbed my gym bag and headed out the door dialing Vance’s number. Q

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