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Gov’t Urges Court Not to Issue Worldwide Injunction in DADT Case In a Sept. 23 filing, the U.S. Justice Department asked the federal district court in Riverside, Calif., not to issue a worldwide injunction against enforcement of the Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell gay ban.

U.S. District Judge Virginia Phillips struck down DADT on Sept. 9, ruling that it violates the U.S. Constitution’s guarantees of free speech and due process under the First and Fifth Amendments.

Plaintiff Log Cabin Republicans then asked Phillips to issue such an injunction.

The government filing included a host of arguments against the idea.

“The United States is not a typical defendant, and a court must exercise caution before entering an order that would limit the ability of the government to enforce a law duly enacted by Congress, or defend its constitutionality in other tribunals,” the federal government argued. “(Log Cabin Republicans’) proposed injunction is untenable,” the government said.

“Because any injunction in this case must be limited to plaintiff LCR and the claims it asserts on behalf of its members — and cannot extend to non-parties — plaintiff’s requested worldwide injunction of the statute fails as a threshold matter. A military-wide injunction would, moreover, prohibit the consideration of similar challenges in other courts and would freeze the development of important questions of law in violation of the Supreme Court’s clear direction that, in cases in which the United States is a defendant, the United States must be allowed to continue to advance legal arguments even after they have been rejected by a particular circuit.”

Furthermore, the government argued, “both the Executive and Legislative branches are actively examining the DADT law and policy. A court should not compel the Executive to implement an immediate cessation of the seventeen year old policy without regard for any effect such an abrupt change might have on the military’s operations, particularly at a time when the military is engaged in combat operations and other demanding military activities around the globe.”

Finally, “no injunction should be entered or made effective until the government has had an opportunity to consider the terms of any injunction and to move for a stay,” the Justice Department asserted.

LCR denounced the filing.

“We are not surprised by this but we are extremely disappointed with the Obama administration,” the group said. “Many times on the campaign trail, President Obama said he would support the repeal of Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell.

Now that it’s time to step up to the plate, he isn’t even in the ballpark.”

The group’s lawyers sounded incredulous.

“The Justice Department’s objections fail

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The military fight and die for each other. If you dissolve that with such an inclusive thing as homosexuals serving beside others who are not of the same persuasion, we can’t have our troops crawling all over each others’ sleeping bags at night trying to figure out what they’re going to do.”

—Utah Senate Republican hopeful Scott Bradley on the U.S. military’s Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell policy, as transcribed by City Weekly writer Brandon Burt on Brandon’s Big Gay Blog

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A Florida appeals court ended a 33-year ban against adoptions by gay couples is uncostitutional. The ban had been in place since 1977 when Anita Bryant and others fought against gay adoptions. Robert Lamarche (right) and his partner, PHOTO: ALLEN EYESTONE Donald Giustiniani, play a game with their son in Boca Raton. to recognize the implications of the government’s defeat at the trial,” said White & Case partner Dan Woods. “It is as if the South announced that it won the Civil War. The objections also fail to mention that the court has previously denied the government’s requests for a stay on three prior occasions and nothing has changed to suggest that a stay is now appropriate; if anything, the Senate vote this week (declining to consider repeal of DADT) shows that the court was correct in denying the prior requests for a stay. What is most troubling is that the government’s request for a stay ignores the harm that Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell causes to current and potential members of our Armed Forces. That is the saddest, most disappointing, and, in light of the president’s position, most hypocritical part of the objections.”

Servicemembers United Executive Director Alexander Nicholson expressed outrage.

“President Obama is certainly taking his so-called ‘duty to defend’ this anti-gay military policy as far as he possibly can,” he said. “Two blows from the White House in one week is a bit much. First, the president cannot find the time to make any phone calls to senators to help us avoid a crushing loss on Tuesday, although he does manage to find the time to call the WNBA national champions to congratulate them on their victory.

Then, the president once again goes much farther than he has to in defense of the discriminatory and unconstitutional Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell law. When is the White House finally going to get serious about repealing Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell? We needed help this week, and our commander-in-chief and ‘fierce advocate’ was AWOL.” But Obama Press Secretary Robert Gibbs defended the filing.

He said: “Today, the Department of Justice made a filing in a legal challenge to the Don’t Ask, Don’t tell (DADT) policy, as it

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traditionally does when acts of Congress are challenged. This filing in no way diminishes the president’s firm commitment to achieve a legislative repeal of DADT — indeed, it clearly shows why Congress must act to end this misguided policy. The president was disappointed earlier this week when a majority of the Senate was willing to proceed with National Defense Authorization Act (which includes repeal of DADT), but political posturing created a 60-vote threshold. The president spoke out against DADT in his first State of the Union Address, and the secretary of defense and the chairman of the Joint Chiefs have both testified in support of repeal. And the Department of Defense continues to work on a plan on how to implement repeal. The president, along with his administration, will continue to work with the Senate leadership to achieve a legislative repeal of DADT as outlined in the NDAA this fall.”

The day after the Justice Department filed its objections in California, the DADT gay ban was hit with another adverse ruling, from a federal court in Tacoma, Wash.

U.S. District Judge Ronald Leighton, a Bush appointee, ordered that Maj. Margaret Witt, a nurse who was kicked out of the Air Force for being a lesbian, be reinstated as quickly as possible.

Leighton said the military’s firing of Witt “violated her substantive due process rights under the Fifth Amendment to the United States Constitution.”

Said SU’s Nicholson: “Major Witt’s victory will apply only to her own discharge, but the precedent set with this decision and the previous appellate court ruling in this case on the standard to be used in deciding on Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell discharges all contribute to a significant shift in how courts appear to be viewing and treating the Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell law.”

We have gay men and women serving proudly and risking their lives in the military. I think it’s an insult to them, I think that needs to go away, and I would support the elimination of Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell.”

—Democratic Senate hopeful Sam Granato

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I have the benefit of having consulted with a panel of military advisers that my campaign has assembled. ... [A]nd they’ve informed me that Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell works well; it’s easy to implement; it is necessary to maintain the morale of troops and should be maintained.”

—Republican Senate hopeful Mike Lee

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If the decisions of federal courts can override the actions of state lawmakers on this subject [marriage], we have suffered a significant constitutional reallocation of lawmaking power from the lawmaking branch to the judicial branch and from the states to the federal government.”

—LDS apostle Dallin H. Oaks as quoted in The Salt Lake Tribune in a Sept. 23 speech addressing the anniversary of the U.S. Constitution’s signing

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Each of us has problems.

Together, we shall overcome them.”

—Bishop Keith B. McMullin, telling the attendees of the Evergreen Conference that they don’t have to be homosexual, as quoted in The Salt Lake Tribune

Senate Fails to Move Forward with Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell Repeal The U.S. Senate failed by four votes Sept. 21 to end a filibuster by Sen. John McCain, RAriz., and move on to consideration of this year’s military funding bill that contains congressional authorization to repeal the Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell gay ban.

The vote was 56–43. Sixty votes were needed to halt the filibuster. The measure already had passed the House of Representatives. Although Congress may opt to fund the military after the November elections, the provision repealing Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell likely faces a less hospitable climate then, advocates predicted.

“Today’s Senate vote was a frustrating blow,” said Servicemembers Legal Defense Network Executive Director Aubrey Sarvis. “We lost because of the political maneuvering dictated by the midterm elections. Let’s be clear: Opponents to repealing Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell did not have the votes to strike those provisions from the bill. Instead, they had the votes for delay. Time is the enemy here. We now have no choice but to look to the lame-duck session where we’ll have a slim shot.”

National Gay and Lesbian Task Force Executive Director Rea Carey accused “politicians (of) playing politics with people’s lives.”

“Seventy-eight percent of Americans support ending Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell,” she said. “The senators who led and supported the filibuster effort should be ashamed.”

Servicemembers United Executive Director Alexander Nicholson blamed Senate Majority Leader Harry Reid, D-Nev., for the loss.

“The votes to break the filibuster had previously been lined up, but last week ...

Harry Reid decided to use an uncommon procedural privilege on the bill that eroded support for breaking the filibuster and guaranteed the vote’s failure,” Nicholson said. “Intense lobbying and public pressure over the past week proved not to be enough to force either side to back down.”

Courage Campaign Chairman Rick Jacobs responded to the loss by saying the Justice Department and President Barack Obama should opt not to appeal the recent federal court decision in Riverside, Calif., that struck down DADT as unconstitutional.

“We applaud the Log Cabin Republicans for initiating this case and we hope the Justice Department recognizes that it’s time to consign this discriminatory law to the dustbin of history,” Jacobs said.

Human Rights Campaign President Joe Solmonese said the filibuster “was election-year politics at its worst.”

HRC sent a letter to Attorney General Eric Holder joining Courage in demanding the government not appeal the Riverside decision.

“We expect the Justice Department to recognize the overwhelming evidence that proves DADT is unconstitutional,” Solmonese said.

GetEQUAL responded by calling on Obama to issue an executive order sus-

Don R. Austin, LCSW pending discharges under DADT between now and the time that repeal is achieved.

“Four months ago, we asked the president to stop military discharges while the U.S. Congress haggled over our rights,” the group said. “He didn’t respond, and we’re now seeing the result of this complete lack of presidential leadership and courage. So we’re taking the fight back to the White House.”

“We need volunteers to help us hold the president accountable and meet him head-on during this election season, asking him at each campaign stop and at each fundraising party, ‘When will the discharges end?’” the direct-action group said.

“Now it’s time for our ‘fierce advocate’ to step up to the plate for us.”

Nearly 80 percent of Americans support repealing DADT, according to a recent CNN poll.

If the Senate had passed DADT repeal and President Barack Obama signed it, nothing would have happened right away.

That’s because of language in the bill that delays repeal until three things take place: the Pentagon completes a study by Dec. 1 on how to implement DADT repeal; Obama, Defense Secretary Robert Gates and Joint Chiefs of Staff Chairman Michael Mullen certify that the military will not be harmed by implementing DADT repeal in accord with the Pentagon’s plans; and 60 additional days pass after the certification.

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Americans Now Support Same-sex Marriage An Associated Press-National Constitution Center poll has found that a majority of Americans now think the federal government should recognize same-sex marriages.

Asked, “Should the federal government give legal recognition to marriages between couples of the same sex, or not?” 52 percent of respondents said “yes,” 46 percent said “no” and 2 percent were unsure.

The poll also asked, “Should couples of the same sex be entitled to the same government benefits as married couples of the opposite sex, or should the government distinguish between them?”

Fifty-eight percent said benefits should be equalized, 38 percent said they should not be, 3 percent were unsure and 1 percent refused to answer the question.

The poll, conducted Aug. 11-16, quizzed 1,007 adults and has a margin of error of 4.5 percent at the 95 percent confidence level.

“For the second time, a national poll shows that a majority of Americans support the freedom to marry, reflecting the growing momentum of the marriage movement,” said Freedom to Marry Executive Director Evan Wolfson.

“Echoing the findings of last month’s CNN poll, the Associated Press poll shows that those who would deny liberty and equal protection to same-sex couples are now in the minority.”

New York OKs Gay Adoption Gov. David Paterson signed a bill Sept. 19 OK’ing adoption by gay and other unmarried couples. It took effect immediately.

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Student’s Prop 8 Letter Pulled from BYU’s ‘Daily Universe’

by JoSelle Vanderhooft

BYU’s newspaper, the Daily Universe, pulled a student’s letter that agreed with a federal judge’s ruling on Proposition 8 from its online edition earlier this month, creating a firestorm of protest on several blogs and bringing attention to its writer — a senior pre-med student named Cary Crall.

Crall said that he was moved to write to the newspaper at the LDS-owned school because he had been following the Proposition 8 case closely. On Aug. 4, a federal judge ruled that the measure, which rebanned same-sex marriage in California, was unconstitutional. Both proponents and opponents expect the case to reach the U.S. Supreme Court.

In June 2008, LDS leaders called on members in California to donate money and volunteer hours to the ‘Yes on 8’ Campaign.

Soon, Mormons across the country added their support, raising over $25 million in support of the controversial proposition.

At the time, Proposition 8 supporters argued that legalizing same-sex marriage in the state would lead to homosexuality being taught in schools and children being confused about gender identity. Crall said he had problems with these points.

“During the campaign I always felt uncomfortable with the arguments that were being used to defend Prop 8 that were called non-religious, rational arguments,” he said. “I felt like they really didn’t have to do with gay marriage, they had to do with education, adoption and not the issue at hand.”

During the campaign, Morris Thurston, a retired BYU law professor, wrote a paper addressing an anonymous flier titled “Six Consequences if Proposition 8 Fails.” In it, he rebutted these arguments and others made by Prop 8 advocates, including that religious-owned adoption agencies would be forced to give children to gay and lesbian couples, and that the LDS Church would lose its tax-exempt status if it refused to perform same-sex marriages.

Crall said he agreed with Thurston that these arguments were “hastily put together and purposely deceitful,” and that he did not like how the campaign asked him and other Mormons “to use those arguments when I was supposed to try and influence my friends to vote for Prop. 8.”

“Even the proponents of Prop 8 recognized they were weak,” he said. “Judge [Vaughn] Walker [who presided over the Prop 8 case] didn’t have to make that decision [to rule against Prop 8], it was made for him,” he added, noting that no witness appeared during the trial “to explain the discrepancy between the arguments used to support Prop. 8 during the campaign and those arguments used during the trial.”

“When the judge called them out I think it was that line in particular that made me really look at how little evidence was available to support those claims,” Crall said.

With these thoughts in mind, Crall said that he was also prompted to write the let-

ter by an Aug. 8 Daily Universe column, “Another Proclamation on the Family.’ In it, summer editor JJ Despain made the following remarks about gays and lesbians, which Crall called “arrogant and needlessly divisive.”

“Even in my short lifetime I have seen the rapid erosion of family ideals and values. I remember when the general public frowned upon the fight for same-sex marriage. Now, the movement is erroneously hailed as the Civil Rights Movement of our generation. And the recent striking down of Proposition 8 in California will further make the supporters of traditional marriage quieter and fewer.”

“They were part of the reason I decided to write the letter,” Crall said. “In my opinion, they were inflammatory towards gays and lesbians.”

Initially, Crall said that Daily Universe editors told him that they “weren’t going to print the letter at that time.” However, the staff that came on at the start of fall semester told Crall that they would like to print his letter as an editorial. Crall said he then sent the paper a revised version of the letter (see bracketed section), which he added to “clear up” a point. The paper, however, printed the first draft.

“My guess is that it could’ve been a deadline thing, that the opinion editor couldn’t run it by the faculty editor in time, or maybe she did and he said that line was a little more inflammatory than the original letter.

I’m not sure and I never asked them why they didn’t publish [the second version].”

“But no one went through with a black pen and crossed that section out,” he said.

When Crall discovered that his letter had been pulled from the site, however, he said he e-mailed that same opinion editor to ask what had happened.

“She told me there was a meeting involving faculty,” he said. “She wasn’t a part of that meeting and didn’t know what was discussed, but they had decided to pull it.”

In the letter’s place, the paper published the following statement: “The Daily Universe made an independent decision to remove the student viewpoint titled “Defending Proposition 8” after being alerted by various readers that the content of the editorial was offensive. The publication of this viewpoint was not intended to offend, but after further review we recognized that it contained offensive content.

This is consistent with policy that the Daily Universe has, on rare occasions, exercised in the past.”

The letter’s publication attracted attention from Mormon and ex-Mormon bloggers alike, many of whom praised the paper and the LDS-owned university for supporting free speech. When staff removed the letter from the site, however, that praise turned to anger. The story also grew legs, garnering not only blog posts but headlines across Utah and the country.“I have been really interested to see where this ended up,” said Crall of this attention. ‘I think

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overall it’s been a good thing. I’ve received a lot of positive feedback. I’m probably getting four or five Facebook messages a day saying, ‘I read your article. Thank you for writing that.’”

He added, however, that he has been less pleased with how some bloggers have interpreted the story. He mentioned that Pharyngula, a popular science blog written by a self-described “godless liberal,” had held his story up as an example why people shouldn’t attend religious-owned universities.

“I understand their viewpoint but it’s not my viewpoint,’ he said. “It’s obviously out of my hands. I can’t control how it’s used at this point.”

Since the letter’s publication, several bloggers have written that they are concerned that Crall will face repercussions from BYU or his church. So far, Crall said that has not happened.

“BYU or my church leaders have not contacted me at all on this issue,” he said.

“There’s just been silence; I haven’t heard anything. I don’t anticipate that I will in the future, but it feels like the time’s kind of past. I don’t think anything I said was

against the [school’s] honor code or against LDS teachings and that’s why I think I haven’t heard anything.” As far as he knows, he said the editor who asked to run the piece has not experienced any negative repercussions, either.

Crall also noted that his letter has lead to the creation of a new student newspaper in Provo called The Vanguard, and that editors have asked him to contribute.

Crall also said that he hopes gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people don’t think that all Mormons are against them, a stereotype he said that he has heard a lot.

“I don’t feel like I’m the only one who feels the way I do, and the response I’ve gotten since my letter was published reaffirms that. There are many people in the LDS mainstream community who feel the same way,” he said. “I hope the LGBT community understands that not everyone in the LDS Church is intolerant or bigoted. I hope that gives people who feel marginalized by the LDS Church hope or comfort that there’s a lot of conflict going on within the [LDS] community about the Church’s role in Prop 8 and a lot of introspection.” Q

Defending Proposition 8 — It’s Time to Admit the Reasons Perry v. Schwarzenegger, the recent United States District Court case that overturned Proposition 8, highlighted a disturbing inconsistency in the pro-Prop 8 camp.

The arguments put forth so aggressively by the Protect Marriage coalition and by LDS church leaders at all levels of church organization during the campaign were noticeably absent from the proceedings of the trial. This discrepancy between the arguments in favor of Proposition 8 presented to voters and the arguments presented in court shows that at some point, proponents of Prop 8 stopped believing in their purported rational and non-religious arguments for the amendment.

Claims that the defeat of Prop 8 would force religious organizations to recognize homosexual marriages and perform such marriages in their privately owned facilities, including LDS temples, were never mentioned in court. Similarly, the defense was unable to find a single expert witness willing to testify that state-recognized homosexual marriage would lead to forcing religious adoption agencies to allow homosexual parents to adopt children or that children would be required to learn about homosexual marriage in school.

Four of the proponents’ six expert witnesses who may have been planning on testifying to these points withdrew as witnesses on the first day of the trial. Why did they go and why did no one step up to replace them? Perhaps it is because they knew that their arguments would suffer much the same fate as those of David Blankenhorn and Kenneth Miller, the two expert witnesses who did agree to testify.

Judge Vaughn Walker, who heard the case, spent 11 pages of his 138-page decision meticulously tearing down every argument advanced by Blankenhorn before concluding that his testimony was “unreliable and entitled to essentially no weight.” Miller suffered similar censure after it was shown that he was unfamiliar with even basic sources on the subject in which he sought to testify as an expert.

The court was left with lopsided, persuasive testimony leading to the conclusion that Proposition 8 was not in the interest of the state and was discriminatory against gays and lesbians. Walker’s decision is a must-read for anyone who is yet to be convinced of this opinion.

The question remains that if proponents of Prop 8 were both unwilling and unable to support even one rational argument in favor of the amendment in court, why did they seek to present their arguments as rational during the campaign?

It is time for LDS supporters of Prop 8 to be honest about their reasons for supporting the amendment. It’s not about adoption rights, or the First Amendment, or tradition. These arguments were not found worthy of the standards for finding facts set up by our judicial system.

The real reason is that a man who most of us believe is a prophet of God told us to support the amendment. [This is a privately held religious belief that we are using to support legislation that takes away a right from a minority group. If our government were to enact legislation based solely on such beliefs, it would set a dangerous precedent, possibly even more so than allowing a homosexual to marry the person he or she loves.] We must be honest about our motivation, and consider what it means to the delicate balance between our relationship with God and with His children here on earth. Maybe then we will stop thoughtlessly spouting arguments that are offensive to gays and lesbians and indefensible to those not of our faith.

Editor’s note: Cary Crall added the bracketed section to the second draft of the letter; the ‘Daily Universe’ ran the first draft of the letter, which did not include this part.

Five New GSAs Form in Northern Utah Schools Gay-straight alliances have been exploding across the state in 2010. In May, the Washington County School District allowed the clubs (which provide safe space for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender and allied students) to meet in all of its high schools, following a change to district club policy.

In July, the ACLU of Utah sent the Tooele School District a letter informing them that prohibiting a club because it used the word “gay” in the title was unconstitutional.

And this fall, students at Weber, Bonneville, Syracuse, Woods Cross and Clearfield high schools will be able to join a GSA. The eventual goal, said activist and Northern Utah resident Turner Bitton, is to get a GSA in all of Weber, Ogden and Davis school districts’ 15 schools. Although he was inspired by the Utah Pride Center’s Queer-Straight Alliance Network, a youthlead movement to support and sustain GSAs throughout the state, he said that the push to bring the clubs to Northern Utah was something he and local students initiated themselves, even though they are now being helped by the Center.

“I like [the QSA Network], but I have a habit of doing things on my own,” he said.

Bitton, 19, said that he reached out to people in the area and got to know high school students who were interested.

“We built until we had about 30 people, and then we just pushed forward,” he said.

So far, the four new GSAs are pushing forward slowly but surely. Kevin Berkley, president of Syracuse High School’s club, said the school actually formed a GSA last year. However, the club’s faculty advisor moved, and the club needs a new one to be active again.

“We didn’t know exactly what to do since we didn’t have too many contacts, so last year was basically a failure, but we’re going to redeem ourselves this year,” he said.

Berkley launched Syracuse’s GSA with his best friend shortly after he came out.

Although they had to track down a student body officer to sign off on their application, Berkley said the process wasn’t difficult.

“I think it’s partly due to[the fact] that most of our administration is very accepting,” he said, describing the student body as split “50-50 on people who are OK with the LGBT community and people who are not OK.” “We still get harassment at our school,” he said.

Although the club had just 15 members in its first year, that number has now doubled — and several more students have expressed interest who have not officially signed up to participate.

Mario Ramirez, president of Bonneville High School’s club, said that he and Vice

President Fidel “Pablo” Deleon are looking for members now that the school has approved their application.

“We’re trying to recruit younger people,” said Ramirez, who is a senior. “That way, when we’re gone they can take over.”

At press time, Ramirez said that he and Deleon would be setting up a table for the GSA in the lunchroom throughout late September, to advertise along with the rest of the school’s clubs and crews (curricular clubs).

He said that most students have been supportive.

“A lot of people have been joining and not just gays and that crowd; most of them are straight,” he said. “I was like, ‘Whoa that’s kind of shocking.’ And a lot of them are Mormon, too. I wasn’t expecting that kind of crowd to join.”

“Our school is iffy on it,” he said, when asked what faculty and administrators thought about having a GSA on campus. “I think the fact Turner wrote them a letter was why they said yes in the first place.”

The letter, said Ramirez, read that the students would call the Utah ACLU if the school refused to allow the club to form.

“I think that letter helped, because we have a lot of Mormon teachers here who aren’t OK with this. But they’re getting more accepting,” he said. “The teachers started talking to me more and they’re asking what I’m doing. They’re checking up on me, but I’m OK with it.”

Although the QSA Network has worked with the ACLU, Bitton said that he would rather see schools in Northern Utah allow the clubs in without the threat of legal action.

“I love [the ACLU] and I appreciate what they do, but I really don’t like lawsuits,” he said.

Northern Utah isn’t the only place seeing a push for GSAs. Kathy Godwin, president of Salt Lake City’s PFLAG chapter, said that Uintah High School in Vernal has approved a gay-straight alliance — however, no students have stepped forward to fill out paperwork to begin it.

“They don’t feel safe, “ she said.

Eric Hamren, who runs the Utah Pride Center’s QSA Network, agreed.

“The general vibe we’ve gotten from the few students [at Uintah] we’ve contacted who are LGBT or allies is they’re very afraid to come out and be in public,” he said.

“And the vibe I got from students who are not LGBT or allies was not at all.”

However, Donny Sawyer, the founder of the social group Gay Uintah Basin, said that a Uintah student has asked him for advise in starting a GSA at the school.

Bitton said that he is currently working on getting GSAs into Layton, Northridge, Freemont, Ben Lomand, Ogden and Moun-

tain high schools. He noted that Freemont High School in particular may be a challenge, because that school does not allow non-curricular clubs.

Hamren noted that GSAs exist at Rolland Hall, Murray and Taylorsville high schools.

Tooele high school’s GSA has just met, and he said the QSA Network has also made contact with clubs at Logan and Skyview high schools and is assisting with the creation of Carbon and Cyprus clubs.

“The end goal is to get GSAs in every high school statewide, but that’s a long way away,” he said. ‘But just in this last year [after the QSA Network’s founding] the number of GSAs has more than doubled.”

“If I was to give any advice at any high school or middle school or private school anywhere in Utah, I’d say just having the courage to say you want to make a difference will make all of the difference, and there will always be someone to support you,” he said. “The hardest part of staring a GSA is finding the one youth in the whole school who is willing to take the first step.”

For more information about the QSA Network contact Eric Hamren at Utahgsanetwork@gmail.com.

Turner Bitton can be reached at 951-323-4670. Q

Turner Bitton

Vernal Gets New Gay Group The Uintah Basin is now home to a social group for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender and queer residents of all ages, thanks to one Vernal man.

Donny Sawyer said he was inspired to create Gay Uintah Basin after Kathy Godwin, president of Salt Lake City’s Parents, Families & Friends of Gays and Lesbians, visited Vernal to teach interested residents about PFLAG. “She inspired me because she said that she gets a lot of e-mail and the [Utah] Pride Center gets a lot of email from people in Vernal for information [about resources for gays and lesbians] and other things, so I wondered how many people would be interested in just getting together,” he said.

Sawyer then set up a Facebook page for the fledgling group, which he said sparked immediate interest.

“I got inundated,” he said. “I have 157 friends on my page as of today. I had 30– 40 a day for a few days. I just discovered there’s a real need for education and social interaction in this area, and people from high school on up want to get together and meet each other, so I want to provide a safe, neutral place for them to meet.”

“And it’s not just gay people [who are

joining], it’s their friends,” he added.

Although Sawyer lives in Vernal, he stressed that the group truly is for residents of the entire area, which includes Duchesne, Roosevelt and Dinosaur, Colo., which is close to the Utah state line.

At present, Sawyer said he is mainly concentrating on setting up the group, getting members and planning future activities.

The first of these activities will be a Halloween party on Oct. 30 at the Kingsbury Community Center in Vernal, 65 E. 100 North, from 2–5 p.m. — though Sawyer said it can run later if attendees want.

“I thought I’d have it early so people could go on to their own Halloween events,” he said.

Sawyer is also trying to help support other gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender-friendly organizations in the Basin, including a gay-straight alliance at Uintah High School. He said a student at the school recently contacted him for help.

“He was online with me [on Sept. 26] chatting, and so I told him I’d collect information before he started asking teachers,” said Sawyer. “I was online with someone else on my Facebook page for an hour gathering information and I messaged it to him.”

“I’ve had tons of questions, and I’ve talked to the Pride Center getting answers for people. It’s been really great,” he said.

For more information about Gay Uintah Basin, search for “Gay Uintah Basin” on Facebook, or contact Donny Sawyer at 435-790-4752 or gayinthebasin@yahoo.com.

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Suicide, Acceptance Topics at Utah Family Conference

“That’s kind of ironic because they’re Speakers from The Trevor Project, Ogden [in] one of the most progressive states in and Salt Lake City’s PFLAG chapters, and the country and Utah is just the opposite,” a number of local youth organizations will she said. “They have really great thinking be just a few of the presenters at the Utah around the work they do and are bringing Pride Center’s first-ever Family Acceptance their work here to show Utahns how far we Regional Conference, to be held Oct. 8–10 at have to go and what the best practices have been in terms of this work” - including how the Sheraton Salt Lake City Hotel.

Themed around to work with systems of care to make sure helping parents ac- that queer youth have “safe and affirming cept and support environments.”

“The end result here is that we hope we their gay, lesbian, biget the attention of some of our Legislators sexual, transgender and parents, and we will raise the need for and queer children, the conference is in- an identical commission here, or at least a viting guests from commission on youth that includes some of the issues of LGBT youth so we’re not invisacross the Southible in the conversation,” she said. west and the counLocal PFLAG parent Kathy Godwin will try for three days of co-present a workshop on family acceptance training, workshops of queer youth and Dave Reynolds of the Trevor and presentations Project participate in a panon such topics as el discussion followempowerment for homeless queer youth, ing the screening of supporting youth in out-of-home care, comOut in the Silence, ing out to family and friends, and family aca documentary cenceptance. tered around coming Valerie Larabee, director of the Utah out in rural PennPride Center, said that she is excited for the sylvania. Additionconference, and for several of its panels in Kathy Godwin of PFLAG ally, keynote speaker particular. She noted that she was especially Caitlin Ryan of San pleased to have Dave Reynolds, educational Francisco State University will speak about programs director for The Trevor Project, the Family Acceptance Project, a research which works to prevent suicide among queer effort she has spearheaded to help families of youth. Reynolds will present the Saturday all cultural and religious backgrounds supsession ‘Suicide Among LGBTQ Youth: A port their queer children.

Public Health and Social Justice Crisis.”

But not all of the programming will be fo“In light of the suicides [of young gay Utah cused on parents. Larabee pointed out that a men this summer] and all of the discussions number of workshops and presentations will that were going on in the community around be geared toward youth of all sexual oriensuicide, we wanted to incorporate an oppor- tations and gender identities. On Saturday, tunity for community members to come in Operation Shine America co-founder Chloe and be trained by the organization that we Noble will lead “Homeless LGBTQ Youth feel is one of the leading organizations in the Awareness and Empowerment” with Kacountry that deals with LGBT suicide and trina Oakason. Oakason is a national youth the issues that surround that,’ she said. “I ambassador who has worked with Operation think that every member in the community Shine America, and who was the subject of needs to understand the dynamic of suicide a 2009 QSaltLake article on homeless youth and how to point someone to the resources in the city. [to help], and the things to be looking for Later in the day, Jude McNeil, the Utah [warning signs of suicide] in your friends Pride Center’s director of youth programs, and loved ones and what to do about that. I will lead “Real Life: Coming Out to Family think everyone has the skills for increased and Friends.” On Sunday, Darcy Goddard, capacity in those areas, and our community ACLU Utah legal director, will present is better off [if they learn].”

“What Are My Rights in School and Out-ofLarabee also noted that Ed Byrne, vice Home Care.” chair at Commonwealth of Massachusetts ‘The ACLU in Utah has been doing really Commission on GLBT Youth, would be on- great work,” said Larabee, referring in part hand for a special presentation about the to the organization’s support for gay-straight commissions work and how to get govern- alliances in a number of Utah high schools, ment leaders involved in queer youth health including those that have been resistant to issues. their formation. “It’s very important that Larabee said that the Center has modeled our youth understand they can be advocates much of its work on what the commission for themselves within those school systems.

And in order to advocate successfully they has done.

Fashion Stroll #10 Salt Lake City’s Fashion Stroll will celebrate its 10th incarnation by turning its outdoor market into a Halloween party. Attendees and merchants are encouraged to dress in costume, and prizes will be awarded to the most creative. Likewise, the event’s runway show and entertainment — including dancers, local bands and street performers — will all have a Halloween flair. Sponsorship opportunities are available.

WHEN: Oct. 29, 6–10 p.m., East Broadway (300 South between State Street and 300 East) COST: Free to the public INFO: SLCFashionStroll.com or contact organizer Matt Monson at 801-671-4304 or slcfashionstroll@ gmail.com.

by JoSelle Vanderhooft

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Living with AIDS Conference Caitlin Ryan of San Francisco State University need to know what their rights are. Without that information they don’t know who to call [about starting GSAs or their rights to free expression]. I don’t think parents understand what student rights are, either.” “[The workshop is] probably going to be specific in Utah in some cases, but the youth will understand what it is that the administration can’t ask them to do” pertaining to setting up a GSA, she added.

Other youth-focused panels will include a presentation on the Utah Pride Center’s QSA Network, which is focused on creating and sustaining GSAs in the state, “Safe at School,” lead by Kim Hackford-Peer and Planned Parenthood’s Annabel Sheinburg, and “Building Effective Youth & Adult Partnerships,” which will seek to bridge communication gaps between youth and adults.

Larabee said that she was thrilled to have youth participate, because the conference is ultimately “about their lives and how we can help caregivers and families be more accepting and loving of them.”

“You can’t accomplish what you need to with adults until you have the youth tell them what their experiences are,” she said.

For a complete schedule of panels and speakers, visit utahpridecenter.org.

Ticket prices for the conference are as follows: $125 for individual registration on or before Sept. 30; $175 for individual registration after Oct. 1; $75 for one day pass (Saturday or Sunday); $75 for youth pass (ages 14–22). The following events can be added to any registration; $50 for Friday training for members of the National Association of Social Workers (or $75 just for training without conference attendance); National Coming Out Day brunch; $50. Online registration is available at utahpridecenter.org. Q

The People With AIDS Coalition of Utah will host its 22nd annual Living With AIDS Conference this month.

This one-day program is designed to give Utahns living with HIV/AIDS, their family members, friends and caregivers as well as AIDS service providers the most current information about the disease, treatment and coping strategies. This year’s medical update will be presented by Dr. Kristen Ries, a pioneer in Utah HIV/AIDS treatment. Registration scholarships are available for people with HIV/AIDS. A continental breakfast and lunch will also be provided. RSVP by Oct. 13.

WHEN: Oct. 16, 9:30 a.m.–4:30 p.m.

WHERE: IJ and Jeanné Wagner Jewish Community Center, 2 North Medical Dr. REGISTRATION: $25 INFO: 801-484-2205

NCOD Brunch The Utah Pride Center will host its annual brunch in celebration of National Coming Out Day on Oct. 10 at the Sheraton Salt Lake City Hotel.

National PFLAG President John Cepek will be this year’s keynote speaker. The Utah Pride Center will also honor recipients of its 2010 Lifetime Achievement, Volunteer and Community Organization of the Year Awards. This year’s celebration will also coincide with the Utah Pride Center’s first Family Acceptance Regional Conference.

WHEN: Oct. 10 (registration starts at 11 a.m. programming at noon.)

WHERE: Sheraton Salt Lake City Hotel, 150 W. 500 South.

INFO/TIX: utahpridecenter.org

U of U Pride Week with Shades of Queer

Eight Chilis Enter, Three Leave Victorious

by JoSelle Vanderhooft

Judith “Jack” Halberstam, Center for Feminist Research

For full schedule visit sa.utah.edu/lgbt.

$300, said Gomberg, all of which went to PWACU for its programs and services. The event, she added, drew a large and hungry crowd.

“It was bustling in Café Marmalade where the cook off was held,” she said. “I think everyone had a really good time. It was a great way to bring the community together, especially on the day where we’re celebrating community centers.”

Other participants included the Utah AIDS Foundation, the Human Rights Education Center of Utah and Café Marmalade.

“…One of the greatest plays of the twentieth century.”

A Gay Fantasia on National Themes

of their life, such as their race, education level, religion and ability level. The week will also include a panel discussion on the artwork of Trevor Southey, who was featured in QSaltLake earlier this month.

As ever, U of U Pride Week will also feature the “Ask a Queer” booth, where LGBT students and community members will be on-hand to answer any questions about sexual orientation and gender identity, as well as the resource center’s Safe Zone Training, for individuals and organizations seeking to make their places of work more queer-friendly.

Finally, representatives from a number of gay and transgender-friendly organizations will gather Oct. 18 to present the panel discussion “Know Your Rights and How to Use Them” on several topics pertaining to gay and transgender rights in Utah.

Martinez said she is hopeful that the community at large will come to the campus for the week’s events.

“Pride Week at the university is about sharing the community with the entire campus as well as the community at large,” she said. “It’s our way of saying this is the richness of our community and what we’re about. We’re not just one size fits all, we come in all sorts of identities and gender and queerness. That’s the reason the committee came up with the name ‘Shades of Queer: Connecting through Difference.’

There are different shades to the community and we really come together in that place of difference.”

Proceeds from the Gay-la dinner go back to the LGBT Resource Center to support its programming, which includes providing scholarships for LGBT students to attend conferences and training workshops. The week is sponsored by the school’s Associated Students of the University of Utah Presenter’s Office, Plan-B Theatre Company, the Utah Museum of Fine Arts, the University Guest House, University Student Affairs, University Office of Equality and Diversity, Twigs & Co., Jim Dabakis, QSaltLake and others. Q

Angels in America

The University of Utah will celebrate its gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender and queer students, faculty and staff, allies, and Utah’s queer community at large during its annual Pride Week, Oct. 18–22.

The theme of this year’s celebration is “Shades of Queer: Connecting Through Difference,” and the diversity among LGBT people will be reflected throughout the week’s events, said Cathy Martinez, director of the school’s LGBT Resource Center, which sponsors event.

For example, she said, the school will screen three very different films about LGBT as well as members of other minority populations. The 2008 documentary Bi the Way follows five young adults from different U.S. cities in an exploration of the country’s changing definitions of sexuality, which include the rise of bisexuality as a more commonly embraced identity among young Americans. Papers: Stories of Undocumented Youth explores the lives and hardships children without U.S. citizenship face as they come of legal age in the country where they have always lived, but in which they are illegal residents.

Trinidad documents the life of Marci Bowers, a transgender gender reassignment surgeon who works in Trinidad, Colo. — a city that has been dubbed the “sex change capital of the world.”

A number of guest speakers will also visit the school to lead workshops and address the student body and the public at large.

On Oct. 21, queer theorist and author Judith “Jack” Halberstam will provide Pride Week’s keynote lecture. Other guests include spoken word artist Andrea Gibson and 8: The Mormon Proposition director Reed Cowan, who will speak at the week’s Gay-la dinner and host what Martinez calls an “old-fashioned assembly” for U of U students and the general public.

“We call it an old-fashioned assembly, but it’s really a presentation, question and answer period, and lecture by Reed Cowan,” she said. ‘I just took the whole concept of an assembly from junior high and high school and we called it that.”

Events just for university students include Halberstam’s lecture and a breakfast with Cowan, Halberstam and local poet Ely Shipley. Shipley will also be the featured artist for the weeks “Shades of Queer” monologue night. The evening will feature a performance by the Lambda Literary Award nominee, as well as spoken word, poetry, film and art presentations by members of the local queer community. The performances, said Martinez, will all focus on how each participant’s experience of being queer is also affected by other aspects

The Utah Pride Center held its second annual Chili Cook Off during its National Community Center Awareness Day Celebration on Sept. 15. Eight participants including organizations, social groups, and restaurants competed, but only three winners could walk away.

The panel of judges chose the People With AIDS Coalition, social group Simply Social and the Utah Pride Center’s chili to receive first, second and third place.

“They tested and rated the chili on a number of different attributes including color, aroma, consistency and aftertaste,” said Marina Gomberg, the Center’s director of development and marketing.

Attendees also got to voice their opinions. Simply Social took home the top honor in the people’s choice category, followed

by PWACU and the Utah Human Rights Campaign.

Proceeds from the day totaled around

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—New York Observer

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Affirmation Goes Homeless

A support group for gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender current and former Mormons plans to raise awareness of homeless youth by giving themselves a taste of what these youth go through on the streets.

On Oct. 6, Affirmation’s top three leaders: Executive Director Dave Melson, Senior Assistant Director George Cole, and Assistant Director Micha Bisson, will travel to San Francisco, check into a nice hotel and, four hours later, head to the streets with nothing but their clothes, a cheap watch and be ‘de-glamored’ of their usual appearance. For 24 hours, said Melson, they will survive on the streets by panhandling, dumpster diving, and searching for safe places to sleep. Local journalists and TV stations have been invited to cover the story, though at press time, Melson said that none had confirmed their participation.

“Homelessness and suicide are two of the problems we decided to take on this year,” said Melson, explaining why he and Director of Outreach and Advocacy Robert Moore had chosen such an event. “We felt if we’re going to put a dent in this [youth homelessness], we should know as much as we can about what these kids go through.”

“Granted,” he added, “we are only doing it for 24 hours, and we get to go back to clean beds and hot showers. These kids don’t know where their next meal is coming from or what tomorrow’s going to be like.”

Melson stressed that he, Cole and Bisson would not be using any resources designated for homeless people, including shelter space or food.

“When Robert was making up plans for this, I know he talked to a lot of homeless

people, and we went out of our way to make sure we weren’t patronizing anyone,” he said. “The rules are you must panhandle for at least one hour, you’ve got to find food from a public source, like dumpster diving or getting someone to buy you food. You must find a place to use as a restroom, you must stay within certain boundaries on the map, and you can’t take resources.”

“Also,” he added, “you can’t tell anyone what your doing to get help in any way.”

Although a security person will be on-hand a few blocks away in case of an emergency, Melson added that the guard would not be within sight.

Following the event, Affirmation will hold a rally on Oct. 8 outside of San Francisco’s City Hall. There, homeless youth, and representatives from the Human Rights Campaign, social justice group Soul Force and the Trevor Project, an organization that seeks to prevent gay suicides, will speak about youth homelessness and the impact on gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender and queer youth—who make up nearly 40 percent of the homeless youth population in the United States.

Following the rally, attendees will go on a candlelight march from city hall to Harvey Milk Plaza. The Affirmation leaders will also be on hand to talk about their experiences on the streets. Moore, Melson added, will also talk about being kicked out of his home as a teenager when his LDS family discovered that he was gay. Q

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Layton PFLAG Cancelled The plug has been pulled on what might have been Utah’s newest chapter of Parents, Families & Friends of Lesbians and Gays.

In its Sept. 16 issue, QSaltLake reported that activist Turner Bitton and other Layton residents were in the process of forming a PFLAG chapter for that city. However, after the group’s president and vice president had a conversation with Kathy Godwin, president of Salt Lake City’s chapter, the three determined that the group was not needed at this time.

Godwin cited the closeness — and newness — of Ogden’s chapter as the reason she and Layton’s officers decided against it.

“My suggestion was that they work with Ogden’s chapter and then re-evaluate in a year to see if they could clearly support two chapters in that geographical location [Northern Utah],” she said, adding that Ogden’s had just completed its first year and was expecting to grow throughout its second.

Another problem with the would-be Latyon chapter, said Godwin, was its structure, which involved more youth than parents.

“I think what happened is that some excitement was created through youth in the area that PFLAG might be an answer to what is needed in Layton,” she continued.

“So they gathered a bunch of youth, and the PFLAG model of course is that it’s youth and parents. Youth can be there, but we really do need someone to take responsibility for the chapter.” In areas, she said, like collecting dues, creating programming, and “supporting education and advocacy” on issues affecting gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people and their families.

“One of the things that we’re always struggling to do is get families into the picture to support their own family, and try and educate them,” she continued. “Youth are usually several steps ahead from where their parents are, unfortunately.”

In order to help youth and their fami-

lies talk, Godwin said that she and other PFLAG members will be traveling into rural parts of Utah to help start this conversation between youth and families, and to help set up chapters in these areas. Rock Springs has just formed a chapter and currently, said Godwin, PFLAG is holding

“safe space” meetings in St. George, Logan, Vernal and Provo for families with queer members to voice their feelings and concerns. Although few have been wellattended, Godwin calls these meetings a “baby step.”

“We feel we succeed if we get one family,” she said.

She added that PFLAG was not abandoning any plans for a future chapter in Layton, but merely waiting to see if such a

chapter could be sustained.

Bitton, however, said he was dispirited at the chapter’s cancellation. He said that he received an e-mail from one of Layton’s officers that said he was “too young to worry about setting up a chapter” or to file paperwork.

When asked if he would be part of any future efforts to organize a Layton PFLAG chapter, he said no.

Gay and Lesbian Business Alliance Started in Salt Lake “One of the most important organizations that currently doesn’t exist in Salt Lake City’s gay and lesbian community is a business alliance,” said QSaltLake editor and publisher Michael Aaron. “Several people have stepped up and attempted to create one, but none [of those leaders] had the staying power to keep it going.”

The Q Business Alliance held its first monthly social Sept. 17 at A New Day Spa, drawing about 30 attendees. Its next social is Oct. 1 at Underground Ink. The alliance will host First Friday Socials each month on ... well ... the first Friday of the month. Business owners, entrepreneurs, professionals and agents are targeted to mingle, spread the word about their businesses, and just wind down from a long week ... and wind up for the weekend.

“At our first social, it was great to see how much actual business connecting was going on,” Aaron said. “People were very responsive to what they also see as a void in our community.”

The socials are open to all QSaltLake readers. Aaron said that people looking for jobs might be another group who may want to make an effort to attend.

The gay and lesbian newspaper is spearheading the effort and offering up display advertising to encourage businesses to sign on.

“I think previous attempts [at a business alliance] lacked actual buy-in from members and lacked any real benefits for participating,” Aaron said.

This will be the first business alliance to charge a fee for becoming a member — from $500 for large corporations down to $125 for individuals and $25 for non-profits.

With that, QSaltLake will be offering display ads or listings each week in its pages.

“People, especially small-business owners, immediately did the math and found that they were getting vital advertising exposure for less than $5 per issue,” Aaron said. “But they also want to be part of an organization that gives back to the community.”

The group founders, Aaron, QSaltLake sales manager Brad Di Iorio, and Goldman Sachs LGBT Network organizers Ken Allen and Timothy Webb, hope that the organization can do community service projects and raise funds for non-profit organizations.

“What better way to show the community why they should seek out gay and gayfriendly businesses than doing something in a real and meaningful way to give right back to the community,” Aaron said.

“We are developing a board of directors and creating special committees that will address specific issues of gay businesses in the community,” said Di Iorio. “We hope people will bring up issues that are important to them.”

The group will also host monthly breakfast meetings at restaurants throughout the valley with special guest speakers. At both the breakfasts and the socials, members will be allowed to speak on special

events or projects that their businesses are holding or simply introduce their business to attendees.

“At our first breakfast we hope to address what the new health insurance options and responsibilities are for small businesses,” Aaron said. “We’ll also go into further detail of what benefits the alliance can give them, and solicit ideas for the group.”

The group will also create window decals so that gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender shoppers will be made aware that they are shopping at a friendly business.

“We are open to people of all sexual orientations and gender identities,” Aaron said. “In fact, one of our founders is an ally.

We truly hope to reach out to all businesses and professionals who see Utah’s gay and lesbian people as important pieces of the fabric of our community.”

The group is a project of the Q Cares Foundation, a non-profit organization recognized as a 501(c)(3) charity. Five percent of membership dues will be donated to the People With AIDS Coalition of Utah.

The organization has created a website at QBusinessAlliance.com which spells out many more benefits of joining and has an online application for joining. It will also show each month’s events, their locations and special guest speakers.

For more information, go to QBusinessAlliance. com or call 801-649-6663, extension 111. The next social event is at Underground Ink, 249 W. 4500 South, Oct. 1, from 5;30 to 8 p.m.

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guest editorial Tactical Voting In Five Steps

by David Nelson

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N 1994, GAY AND LESBIAN Utah Democrats (now Utah Stonewall Democrats) promoted my idea that gay voters should “do something straight ... vote straight-party Democratic” on their election ballots.

After all, the group was a party caucus, a politicalaction committee and a legislative lobby. It endorsed only party candidates for elected public office. But, the promotion was the first time that the group endorsed all the party’s candidates, and it was wrong.

The response from some group supporters and other gay voters was understandable. They doubted the endorsement and said that their own party candidates were silent about gay issues or worse. In the group’s enthusiasm to support the party that welcomed it, it had mistakenly promoted candidates who didn’t join in the welcome.

Some of the candidates won election and demanded publicly a year later that the group stop using the word “Democrats” in its name. The group didn’t stop, but it learned a lesson. Some candidates didn’t deserve or want the group’s endorsement, and were willing to prove it.

But, the group endorsed all the party’s candidates again in May at the Utah Democratic Convention. The endorsement endorses no one really because it endorses all without distinction. And, it teaches those candidates who don’t deserve it that all they must do to win their elections is to stay quiet about our issues ... until they are sworn in. Besides, if all candidates are endorsed, we will vote for them no matter what, right?

There are ways in which gay voters can influence po litical parties and their candidates including those who haven’t performed well, but seem to win election

anyway. Voting to our advantage is called “tactical voting.” After every election, campaign workers study the polling data to determine why their candidates won or lost, and adjust their opinions. Tactical voting emphasizes this.

Under state election laws, there are five ways to vote tactically and increase the influence of your vote:

VOTE STRAIGHT-PARTY AND THEN YOUR OPINIONS Political parties examine straight-party ballots to determine if some of a party’s “base” voters didn’t support its candi dates. Therefore, vote straight-party for the party that you support and vote for some candidates of other parties with which you agree, according to the following conditions.

VOTE YOUR OPINIONS WHEN YOUR CANDIDATES ARE AHEAD Candidates compare the number of votes that they receive to that of their opponents to determine why their support is different from the opponents. Therefore, vote for a candidate with whom you agree if another candidate (especially your own) is likely to win. Though counterintuitive, you can influence your candidate’s opinion if he or

she is likely to win, anyway. This is especially effective when the candidate who is likely to win hasn’t campaigned well.

against a judicial candidate.

VOTE AGAINST INCUMBENT CANDIDATES

Candidates compare the number of the votes that they receive to that of their write-in opponents to determine why their support is different from the opponents.

Therefore, vote for “None of the above” as a write-in candidate when you can’t support any of the candidates. If the name or voting history of a candidate is unfamiliar, the candidate hasn’t done enough to inform the voter and doesn’t deserve the vote. This is especially effective when the candidate who is likely to win hasn’t campaigned or governed well.

While tactical voting isn’t perfect in every election or race, it does far more to help and inform voters than blanket endorsements and partisanship. Albert Einstein’s definition of insanity is “doing the same thing over and over again, and expecting different results.” In other words, if we do what we always did, we will get what we always got. Be different. Vote smartly.

Incumbent candidates compare the number of votes that they receive to that of their opponents to determine why their support changed since their last election.

Therefore, vote for a candidate with whom you agree if the incumbent candidate (even your own) is likely to win. Though counterintuitive if you prefer the incumbent candidate, you can influence his or her opinion if he or she is likely to win anyway. This is especially effective when the candidate who is likely to win hasn’t governed well.

VOTE AGAINST JUDICIAL CANDIDATES Judicial candidates compare the number of votes that they receive to that of their last election to determine why their support changed since their last election. In Utah, an incumbent judge is a candidate for retention election with no opponent and no public campaigning. This gives most voters no information with which to vote knowledgeably. The only way to influence the opinion of incumbent judges is to vote them out of office. Therefore, vote

VOTE “NONE OF THE ABOVE” WHEN ALL ELSE FAILS

David Nelson is the founder of Gay and Lesbian Utah Democrats, and the creator and cofounder of National Stonewall Democrats.

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ATER TODAY (ON SEPT. 21, when I’m writing this) the United States Senate is scheduled to vote on the National Defense Authorization Act, which includes a provision to repeal Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell, the controversial policy that prohibits gays and lesbians from openly serving in the U.S. military. Earlier this year, the House of Representatives voted for repeal, but also allowed the remainder of this year for the Pentagon to conduct a study to determine the potential impact to recruitment, unit cohesiveness, morale and readiness that the policy’s repeal would have.

Call me naive, but I don’t really see what this “study” is supposed to prove. Apart from the fact that it is obviously slanted in such a way as to create potential problems, the idea that we need to conduct a study prior to doing the right thing is fundamentally flawed. Since when do we need to assess the potential impact of providing equality to all Americans?

On Sept. 9, U.S. District Court Judge Virginia Phillips provided the White House with all of the legal authority it needs to dispose of this outdated relic when she ruled that DADT was, at its core, unconstitutional. Given President Obama’s campaign promise to repeal DADT, this should be more than enough for the Chief Executive to dispose of it. Unfortunately, for all of us who believed in President Obama and support the cause of equality, the official White House response was “we’ll look into it.”

What exactly are we looking into? Is this not the land of the free? How can we even pretend to have a free society when our own military is mired in inherently discriminatory and unconstitutional practices?

Going back a few decades, I seem to recall a great deal of opposition to integrating the military along racial lines. However, racial segregation is wrong, and the military was forced to integrate. Yes, there was opposition, yes there were bigots who were uncomfortable with the change, and yes, it was the right thing to do. Not too long

ago the military was forced into another change: allowing women to serve in roles that were previously designated “men-only.” Again, although there was resistance, it was the right thing to do, and it was done.

What is the difference here? I don’t see any.

We elected President Obama to be a leader, a President who would fight for what is right. Instead, we have a President who has abdicated that leadership role to the Speaker of the House and the Senate Majority Leader. The result now is that the Senate is mired in games of parliamentary procedure with no apparent end in sight.

Even if today’s vote comes, over a likely filibuster, the Senate legislation mirrors that of the House: not rescinding DADT until after the Pentagon completes its biased review and the President, Secretary of Defense, and Chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff certify that the military could handle the adjustment in policy.

If you have any doubts about the results of the survey, all you really need do is either look at them (they have been leaked online) or listen to the comments of General James Amos, who has been nominated to head the United States Marine Corps.

According to General Amos, the feeling is “predominantly negative.” About the only thing I can think of that makes less sense than asking the bigots if we should integrate the military is allowing the Utah Legislature to set its own ethical standards.

The bottom line on this issue: There is no legal, ethical, moral or practical reason to discriminate against gays and lesbians who have a desire to serve their country.

The only thing worse than barring these dedicated individuals from service is forcing them to live a lie while doing so. How does this discrimination jive with the codes of honor and tradition touted by the Armed Forces of the United States? Q

How can we even pretend to have a free society when our own military is mired in inherently discriminatory and unconstitutional practices?

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HIS MONTH EVERGREEN International is celebrating 20 years of promoting itself as a vehicle for change for dysfunctional homosexuals. I paraphrase. Evergreen seems to be a tad bit disingenuous. It states it has no “official” affiliation with The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, but always has many LDS bishops and stake presidents in attendance at each year’s conference — that seems to be a tad bit disingenuous.

Its board of trustees includes emeritus LDS General Authorities, and at least one General Authority has spoken at the annual Evergreen conference over the past decade.

These conferences are held at the Joseph Smith Memorial Building in downtown Salt Lake City—but let’s be clear, there is no “official” church affiliation, wink! wink!

OK, since my column is lumped in the commentator section I might as well admit I have an extreme bias against Evergreen.

There’s my disclosure.

From what I can ascertain, Evergreen was founded as the Phoenix Foundation in 1989 by some homosexual LDS missionaries. Among the founders were Alan Seegmiller and Russell Gorringe, who both have since left Evergreen behind. In fact, in 1996 Seegmiller came before the Utah Stonewall Center’s Board to propose running a gay man’s support group.

As a USC board member, I initially objected because of his Evergreen connections, but removed my objection after hearing Seegmiller renounce reparative therapy. Gorringe has since become an active member of Reconciliation, a support group for gay LDS men, and has married his gay partner.

But in 1989, things were very different. For one thing, I was kind of a hot-headed radical faggot who didn’t suffer fools gladly.

Alan Gundry, the so-called “Mormon liaison to the gay community,” announced in 1988 the formation of an “Exodus”-like group for men who were trying to renounce their homosexuality. David Malmstrom, director of Wasatch Affirmation, and David Sharpton, an AIDS activist, felt betrayed and lied to when Gundry initially lead them to believe that he was commissioned by the Mormon Church to extend an olive branch to the gay community.

In 1990, Evergreen held its first conference at the University of Utah. I was there as an eyewitness to history and recorded my views in my journal, which are published here for the first time. Did I mention I was a hot-headed radical faggot back then?

Evergreen 1990 Steve Oldroyd and Tony Feliz rode up with me to the U of U Business building for the free public lecture sponsored by the Evergreen Foundation. The vermin showed their true colors earlier today by hosting a special, by invitation only, conference for LDS bishops and stake presidents. I heard that Rocky O’Donovan was there protesting it.

The Evergreen Foundation is masquerading as a pseudo-scientific organization when in fact it’s just a front for the Mormon Church’s homophobic division of quack cures.

Well anyway, at the U of U I allowed myself

It was so fascist!

I thought the brown shirts were back! to be interviewed on the radio but would not go in front of the television cameras because the longer I teach the more I could be recognized by some homophobic parent of one of the children I have taught. That would be the end of my career as a teacher.

Liz Pitts, co-president of LGSU, brought a banner stating LGSU’s opposition to Evergreen and I helped her pound the stakes and poles into the ground. Once inside the auditorium it was so fascist! I thought the brown shirts were back! Evergreen people were hassling even Mormon-owned KSL, saying that the film crew was not allowed to film inside the conference, even though it was touted as a public meeting. Satu Servigna, editor of the Triangle, was also told not to take pictures. I sat next to Satu and she would sneakily take pictures of people on the stage and when she was confronted about why she was taking pictures, I spoke up cheerfully, “Because she finds you oh so cute!”

Evergreen was being so secretive. I heard this one Evergreen official say that “Evergreen was like AA” where confidentiality is honored; but then I asked him, “Are you promoting your organization as a 12-step program?” He just scowled at me and backed away from that one.

The lecture hall was packed but I’d say 90 percent of the people there were from the gay and lesbian community. As the program began I leaned over and whispered to Satu, “Promise me that you’ll slap me if I go ber-

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serk.” At one point Robert Austin, chair of the Gay and Lesbian Community Council of Utah, turned around and said to me “be nice,” and I replied firmly “No!” I refuse to budge an inch against those who would do harm to the gay community. Robert Austin hasn’t sat through years of weekly meetings of unconditional support where gay men poured out their hearts to me about how much damage had been done to them by socalled “nice people” with good intentions.

I’ve picked up the broken pieces and nurtured the walking wounded who have taken a beating by buying into the garbage Evergreen is trying to sell. It’s spiritual poison.

Let the anti-gay forces retreat, not I. Gundry, the Uriah Heep frontman for the Mormon Church introduced Joe Dallas and Jeff Konrad, and he clearly underscored the LDS influence in this farce. Well, because of the amount of gay and lesbian activists in the audience, I really feel that we received a totally different presentation then the one that would have been presented, to the closet cases and their fearful wives, had we had not all been there. To underscore how pathetic the whole conference was, I saw a fellow in the audience who I had sex with in 1986, who was even then trying to get back into the Mormon Church. I’m sure that is his main motivation. Not to be cured of his homosexuality but to be cured of that which he feels is blocking his being fully accepted into the Mormon Church!

Joe Dallas was the first to speak and he is a Bible fundamentalist from Orange County, Calif. Talk about your basic snake oil salesman. He let everyone know right away that while he feels strongly that homosexuality is a sin and a curable mental disorder, he respects gay people! He was also very concerned with letting the audience know how butch he was and that he was no nelly faggot.

I think that was a backhand slam to Seegmiller who was very nelly.

The main speaker was Jeff Konrad, a very handsome boy-next-door type man who came to Salt Lake to promote his book You Don’t Have to Be Gay. You could almost see him searching out the faces of the handsome young men in the audience. He said that when he was young he was a little sissy boy who really just wanted to be manly. Like Joe Dallas I suppose! ha!

Interestingly, Konrad never could explain why he was unhappy being gay, and to me the only time he seemed truly happy during the entire presentation was when he was talking about how much he enjoyed gay love. I imagine that he was a very sexually dysfunctional person because at one point he mentioned that he found gay sex gratifying but not satisfying. Couldn’t the same be said about hetero sex by a dysfunctional heterosexual?

Finally the sponsor of the conference, Seegmiller, spoke. He was about as nelly and queenie as they come. He wore a butterfly accessory on his belt and minced across the stage. And he’s curing gay men? What a joke. Q

snaps & slaps SNAP: U of U Pride Week Granted, we’re always excited to see what the University of Utah cooks up every fall for its celebration of Utah’s gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender community. But this year’s events have left us wide-eyed and overjoyed. Three film screenings—one of which addresses issues facing a minority population that many of Utah’s queer population are also part of. A lecture by Reed Cowan. A performance by local artists including the brilliant Ely Shipley. Oh. And did we mention that the pet pageant will return for another year, much to the embarrassment of cats, dogs, birds, geckos and any other animal that can be crammed into a cute costume? You don’t want to miss this year’s celebration, especially if you were wowed, as we were, by Lt. Dan Choi’s speech last year.

SLAP: Scott Bradley and Mike Lee The U.S. military’s policy is a lumbering dinosaur being kept alive by filibustering and the unadulterated homophobia of the Senate members who support Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell. Sadly, two of those dinosaurs are Utah Senate hopefuls, Scott Bradley and Mike Lee. During a recent debate between with Democratic candidate Sam Granato, Lee said that his campaign’s “panel of military advisors” said DADT was necessary for troop morale.

Who these advisors are or why they think homophobia makes the military run smoother is anyone’s guess. Constitution Party’s Bradley, however, went one step further by invoking the lovely image of “troops crawling all over each others’ sleeping bags at night” if gays and lesbians in the military are allowed to be honest. We’re not sure if Bradley means that gay soldiers are rapists, or that they’ll turn the military into a Lady Gaga-ified version of “In The Navy.” But his remarks were creepy and unbecoming of a Senate candidate whereas Lee’s were simply more bland, dinosaur stupidity.

So while the latter should rethink what his military advisors tell him, Bradley should apologize for insulting gay and lesbian servicemembers — who to a person have more honor than he does.

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EINCARNATION MAY SOUND like A weird idea. Maybe it’s the idea that one person can be Joan of Arc, a Generation Y teen and a Mormon mother of eight. I get the idea, but then again, maybe what’s weird is not the idea that a soul can take on multiple shells or bodies, but the idea that one white spirit-man with a beard can save us all if we say his name out loud and go to church every Sunday.

Reincarnation is a valid theory. Here’s why: The Higher Powers are not found in outer objects like buildings, temples or synagogues just as who we are is not found in our skin, organs or limbs. This is why I’m baffled by the popular spiritual belief that God(ess) is found in a building and not in directly serving the poor (worthy or not), needy and cast out.

Since this is the case, a lot of the reasoning used to say those with different outer shells (or bodies) are somehow of less worth than those who are male or white or just plain more attractive is just pointless. Here’s an example of how ridiculous that reasoning gets: a mom in one of the commercials in support of Proposition 8 said, “I don’t want my children to grow up in a genderless society.”

So, either she meant that two women who get married will magically produce offspring that do not have reproductive parts, or if we let two men marry then suddenly every human will cease to be clearly male or female. Or it’s possible the Prop 8 supporters just made up lies for the hell of it.

I have to go with the latter.

Still, we can learn from the people who say gays, lesbians, bisexuals and transgender people are the ones who fit under the psychiatric definition of bizarre. I’m not saying we should strip

people of their private parts, but we could benefit by removing the stigma that creates the hell on earth that comes from judging people on their outward appearances.

A body can be burned, mutilated, amputated, be-headed and hurt or destroyed in a lot of other ways. A soul is lasting and its value lies in feelings, thoughts and actions. For example, a gorgeous woman eventually turns into a shriveled old lady, but her knowledge and kind acts for others never dies.

It makes sense that if we are to achieve Nirvana with the higher powers, then we need to learn from our mistakes. This is never truer than with the philosophy of reincarnation, which brings a definition to the idea that the rich will be the poor. The sexual predator will be the sexual victim.

The solider who tortures will be a tortured war slave. The anti-gay Legislator will be the gay man with limited rights.

So those who have ignored the pleas of their own shadows will remain in a constant flux of bodyjumping and will take longer to get to heaven, whether that is a place with a bunch of dead white guys, a perpetual Mardi Gras or the Willy Wonka Chocolate Factory.

Over time, large houses will fall. Cars will rust. Temples will collapse. Bodies will turn to dust. Souls who rise will do so in love and harmony together, having full compassion and understanding for one another. Thank Goddess we will then live in a genderless society where the walls that separate us will die.

Bodies will evaporate, making us truly naked together! Hey, it’ll just be another Woodstock without the wood.

I’m there. Q

A gorgeous woman eventually turns into a shriveled old lady, but her knowledge and kind acts for others never dies

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OU KNOW WHAT’S totally hilarious? Matthew Shepard jokes.

You know, the 21-year-old guy who, in 1998, was brutally beaten and then hung on a fence like a scarecrow to die in rural Wyoming because he was gay. So much potential for comedy there.

Shepard’s murder is the exact kind of thing that seems so terrible at the time but you think, “One day we’re all gonna look back on this and laugh.” If you’re a total shit-for-brains asshole, that is.

Enter Tim Ravndal, president of the Big Sky Tea Party Association in Montana.

On July 23, Ravndal posted a link to a story about marriage and gays on his Facebook page with the following comment, “Marriage is between a man and a woman period! By giving rights to those otherwise would be a violation of the Constitution and my own rights.”

A friend named Dennis Scranton wrote in reply, “I think fruits are decorative. Hang up where they can be seen and appreciated. Call Wyoming for display instructions.”

Ravndal writes back, “Dennis, Where can I get that Wyoming printed instruction manual?”

“Should be able to get info (from) Gazette archives. Maybe even an illustration,” Scranton posts. “Go back a bit over 10 years.”

Get it? LOL! ROTFLMAO! I mean, sure, they don’t mention Shepherd by name, but they don’t have to. We all get the joke.

Not everybody is laughing, however.

“Mr. Ravndal’s comments are outrageous,” Kim Abbott of the Montana Human Rights Network told the Great Falls Tribune. “He is a public figure, in the public sphere, condoning and making light of violence against gay people.

It’s actually pretty frightening.”

“I would like to know if Mr. Ravndal thinks that gay people are entitled to the same safety, security and protections as

everyone else, because his comments seem to suggest he thinks it’s OK to hurt or even kill members of the LGBT community,” Abbott continued.

I’m going to guess that the answer to Abbott’s query is, “No, he doesn’t think homos deserve the same protections as everybody else.” I’m not inside Ravndal’s head (thankfully), but that’s where I’d put my money.

Ravndal is now claiming that he had no idea what Scranton was talking about and that he does “not condone violence to any human being.”

“I wasn’t even thinking about the tragedy that happened in Wyoming,” Ravndal said. “I made a mistake and I apologize to anyone I offended.”

Really? Ravndal had no idea that “fruit” means “fag?”

And that to “hang up” means, well, to hang? As in lynch?

As in kill? Hasn’t he ever heard Billie Holiday sing “Strange Fruit” before? And even if all of those things really did go right over Ravndal’s head, wouldn’t the specific mention of Wyoming be, at minimum, confusing?

Because Ravndal doesn’t reply with something like, “Dude, WTF? I don’t get it.” He writes, “Where can I get that Wyoming printed instruction manual?”

Kind of hard to believe he didn’t know the significance of “Wyoming” in this instance.

It’s interesting to note that on his Facebook page in the list of things Ravndal “Likes” right alongside “Tea Party protests” is “Not everything that pops into your head needs to be shared on Facebook.”

Ironic, yes. But it really makes you wonder what kinds of things he isn’t posting. Q

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Eric Fidelis Alva B. APRIL 1, 1971

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This year, our designees go as far back as a 13th century poet and as recent as 22-year-old Olympic diver.

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ETIRED STAFF SERGEANT ERIC ALVA was the first American soldier wounded in the Iraq War. He is a LGBT civil rights activist and a national spokesman for the repeal of Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell.

Alva is a native of San Antonio, Texas.

He inherited his middle name from his grandfather and father, both Marine veterans named Fidelis. “Semper Fidelis,” the official Marine Corps motto, means “always faithful.” Serving in the military was Alva’s dream.

In 1990, the 5-foot-1-inch tall Alva enlisted in the Marine Corps. He made it through the rigors of boot camp and went on to serve for 13 years. In 2000, he was promoted to Staff Sergeant.

In 2003, on the first day of Operation Iraqi Freedom, Alva was with his battalion in Iraq when he stepped on a land mine. The explosion shattered his right arm and damaged his right leg so severely it had to be amputated.

Alva received a medical discharge and was presented with a Purple Heart by former President George W. Bush.

He was the Iraq War’s first Purple Heart recipient.

Having survived a war injury, Alva felt he’d been given a second chance at life.

He discovered a new calling. “I had to use my voice,” he says. “I had fought and nearly died to secure rights for others that I was not free to enjoy. I had proudly served a country that was not proud of me.”

In 2003, Alva received the Heroes and Heritage Award from La Raza. People magazine honored him with the Heroes Among Us Award (2004). He received the Patriot Award from the city of San Antonio (2004) and the Public Citizen Award from the National Association of Social Workers (2008).

Alva earned a Bachelor of Social Work in 2008, and is studying for a master’s degree in that field. He lives in San Antonio with his long-term partner, Darrell Parsons.

George George Washington Eastman Carver B. JANUARY, 1864, D. JANUARY 5, 1943

Scientist “Where there is no vision, there is no hope.”

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EORGE WASHINGTON CARVER was a groundbreaking agricultural scientist, known for discovering innovative uses for peanuts, sweet potatoes and clay. A black man born during the Civil War, Carver overcame racism to establish himself as a preeminent scientist and renowned academic.

Carver was born a slave in southwest Missouri. As an infant, he was kidnapped by slave raiders, and then abandoned when they discovered he suffered from whooping cough.

His mother’s former owners, Moses and Susan Carver, adopted and raised him. At the age of 13, Carver left home to attend a school for African-Americans. In 1890, he matriculated to Simpson College in Iowa, where he was the only black student. In 1891, he transferred to Iowa State College to focus on his passion for agriculture. After graduating, he served as the only black member of the Iowa State faculty. Carver was invited to head the agriculture department at the Tuskegee Institute, a university for black students founded by Booker T. Washington.

As a professor, Carver encouraged students to think creatively and independently. He emphasized self sufficiency and resilience, and he pursued broad interests, including painting and religion. Throughout his life, he maintained a positive approach. Even in the face of overt racism, Carver said, “I can’t do my work if my heart is bitter.”

Carver is best known for his advances in the agricultural field. He devised and taught impoverished farmers uses for nutritious, commonly grown crops.

He was the first scientist to discover multiple uses for peanuts, developing products as diverse as flour, ink and face cream. He experimented with developing rubber from the sweet potato. Carver’s discoveries are seen as the basis for many products, including biofuels and fruit-based cleaning products.

In 1916, Carver was offered membership in the Royal Society of London. In 1923, he was awarded a Spingarn Medal by the NAACP. Simpson College awarded him an honorary degree in 1932.

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Entrepreneur “What we do during our working hours determines what we have; what we do in our leisure hours determines what we are.”

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EORGE EASTMAN is the father of modern photography and the inventor of motion picture film. He founded the Eastman Kodak Company and became a philanthropist to organizations involved in technology, medicine, music and theater.

Born in Waterville, N.Y., Eastman moved with his family to Rochester. His father died when George was 7. Eastman dropped out of school at age 14, and took a job with an insurance company to support his mother and two sisters, one of whom was severely disabled.

Eastman began working in banking, but it was his passion for photography that made him a household name. His ingenuity and marketing savvy transformed photography from a pricey hobby to an affordable, popular pastime.

In the business world, Eastman was a leader. His company was among the first to offer its employees retirement and insurance benefits, as well as profit sharing.

Eastman is nearly as famous for his philanthropy. In addition to contributing millions to the University of Rochester, M.I.T. and the Tuskegee Institute, he established and supported the Eastman School of Music, one of the nation’s preeminent music institutions.

Despite his achievements in the world of photography, few pictures of Eastman exist. He was a shy, unassuming man who steered clear of publicity.

In 1946, Eastman’s home became the George Eastman International Museum, housing the world’s leading collections of photography and film.

In the final years of his life, Eastman suffered from severe pain caused by a degenerative disorder of the spine.

At age 77, depressed over his inability to lead an active life, Eastman killed himself with a gunshot to the heart. His suicide note read, “To my friends. My work is done, why wait?”

Sharon Farmer

Leslie Feinberg

B. JUNE 10, 1951

B. SEPTEMBER 1, 1949

WHITE HOUSE PHOTOGRAPHER

AUTHOR/ACTIVIST

“Never turn down a chance to show what you can do.”

“Gender is the poetry each of us makes out of the language we are taught.”

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HARON FARMER was a White House photographer during both terms of the Clinton presidency.

She was the first woman and first African-American to direct the office charged with chronicling nearly every second — from the mundane to the monumental — of the nation’s highest office.

Born in Washington, D.C., in 1951, Farmer was interested in photography from a young age. She discovered the power of the medium looking at pictures in her family’s encyclopedia. She attended Ohio State University, intending to study bassoon, but quickly switched her major to photography and honed her skills on the yearbook staff.

The Associated Press hired Farmer for a photojournalism internship during her senior year in college. After graduation, she returned to her hometown, where she became a freelancer and a photographer of album covers.

In 1993, she was hired as a White House photographer, a fast-paced job in which she used approximately 3,000 rolls of film per year and traveled the globe on a moment’s notice. In 1999, she was promoted to director of White House photography.

During her stint at the White House, Farmer captured many prominent events, including the handshake between Israeli Prime Minister Yitzhak Rabin and Palestinian leader Yasser Arafat, and the swearing in of Nelson Mandela as the president of South Africa.

Farmer also chronicled many political races, from local to national. In 2004, she served as the head photographer for Senator John Kerry’s presidential campaign.

In addition to being featured in individual shows and group exhibitions nationwide, Farmer has lectured for National Geographic and the Smithsonian Institution and has taught at American University. She resides in Washington, D.C.

ESLIE FEINBERG is a leading transgender activist, speaker and writer. She is a national leader in the Workers World Party and a managing editor of Workers World newspaper.

Feinberg was born in Kansas City, Mo., into a working-class family. In the 1960s, she came of age in the gay bars of Buffalo, N.Y. Now surgically female-to-male transgender, Feinberg is an outspoken opponent of traditional Western concepts about how a “real man” or a “real woman” should look and act. Feinberg supports the use of gender-neutral pronouns such as “ze” instead of he or she, and “hir” instead of him or her.

“Everyone who is under the gun of reaction and economic violence is a potential ally,” Feinberg says. Stone Butch Blues (1993), Feinberg’s widely acclaimed first book, is a semi-autobiographical novel about a lesbian questioning her gender identity. It received an American Literary Association Award for Gay and Lesbian Literature and the Lambda Small Press Literary Award.

Transgender Warriors: Making History from Joan of Arc to RuPaul (1996), Feinberg’s first nonfiction work, examines the structures of societies that welcome or are threatened by gender variance.

Trans Liberation: Beyond Pink or Blue (1998), another nonfiction work, documents Feinberg’s near-death experience after being denied medical treatment for a heart problem.

The doctor, after discovering his patient was transgender, turned hir away.

In 2008, after Feinberg became disabled from a degenerative disease, the author began telling hir stories through photography. Feinberg was named one of the “15 Most Influential” in the battle for gay and lesbian rights by Curve Magazine. The celebrated author has delivered speeches at colleges, universities, conferences and Pride festivals across the country.

Feinberg is married to poet and activist Minnie Bruce Pratt.

Tom Ford B. AUGUST 27, 1961

Fashion Designer/ Filmmaker “All I’ve done my entire life is fulfill my destiny.”

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OM FORD is a prominent creative entrepreneur whose accomplishments — first in the fashion world and later in the film industry — have earned him worldwide acclaim.

Born in Austin, Texas, Ford grew up in Santa Fe, N.M. At 17, he moved to New York to study art history at New York University, but was smitten with fashion and design.

He graduated with a degree in architecture from what is now Parsons The New School for Design.

His first foray into fashion was in Paris, where he interned for Chloe. He worked for American designer Cathy Hardwick next, before moving on to Perry Ellis.

Ford moved to Milan in 1990, where he served as Gucci’s head women’s designer.

Two years later, he was named design director. In 1994, he became creative director of Gucci’s Italian label. Ford is credited with turning around the historic fashion house in his short time at the company. In 2000, he was granted new responsibilities at sister label Yves Saint Laurent, where he served as the creative director for YSL Rive Gauche and YSL Beaute.

In 2005, Ford left Gucci and formed his own fashion brand, TOM FORD. Two years later, his flagship store opened in New York. By the summer of 2010, TOM FORD had opened 20 more stores worldwide.

In addition to his remarkable financial success, Ford has won many prestigious awards, including five from the Council of Fashion Designers of America.

Ford’s lifetime ambition, however, was to make a film. He says, “I guess I’m just one of these people who when I decide I’m going to do something, I just do it.” In 2009, he wrote, produced, financed and directed A Single Man, an adaptation of Christopher Isherwood’s 1964 novel. The movie centers on a gay man’s mourning over his partner’s tragic death. The film premiered at the Venice Film Festival and was nominated for numerous awards, including a Best Actor Academy Award nomination for Colin Firth.

Ford lives with his partner of more than 20 years, journalist Richard Buckley, in their London, Santa Fe and Los Angeles homes.

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E. Lynn Harris

David Huebner

Kevin Jennings

Mara Keisling

Kiyoshi Kuromiya

B. JUNE 20, 1955 D. JULY 23, 2009

B. MAY 7, 1960

B. MAY 8, 1963

B. SEPTEMBER 29, 1959

B. MAY 9, 1943 D. MAY 10, 2000

Author “I want people to know they don’t have to live their lives in a permanent ‘Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell’ existence. Truth is a powerful tool.”

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. LYNN HARRIS is one of the nation’s most popular authors.

Considered a literary pioneer, Harris introduced millions of readers to characters rarely seen in literature — black gay men who are affluent, complex and sometimes troubled. With 10 consecutive New York Times best sellers, he remains one of the most successful African-American novelists.

Harris was born Everette Lynn Jeter in Flint, Mich., to unmarried parents.

At age 3, he moved with his mother to Little Rock, Ark. Everette’s surname was changed to Harris after his mother married Ben Harris. When Everette was 13, his mother divorced his stepfather, who had abused the boy for years.

Harris attended the University of Arkansas. In 1977, he graduated cum laude with a Bachelor of Arts in Journalism. He was the school’s first black cheerleader.

After graduation, Harris worked as a sales executive for IBM. He remained in the closet for many years, which led to depression, heavy drinking and a suicide attempt in 1990. Writing helped him find the will to live.

His first novel, Invisible Life (1991), was self-published and quickly rose to the top of the Blackboard best seller list of African-American titles. Harris sold the books door-to-door from the trunk of his car to local beauty salons and bookstores. After the success of his first book, Doubleday signed Harris and became his long-term publishing company.

“Invisible Life had to be the first book out of me,” Harris said. “It helped me deal with my own sexuality.”

Harris wrote more than a dozen novels and paved the way for the next generation of African-American novelists.

His books are accessible to the masses and appeal to a diverse audience. He always made time for his fans, whom he said changed his life. He would answer up to 200 e-mails from readers every day.

Ambassador to New Educator/Activist Zealand “We know that students “I can imagine no higher learn best in a school where honor and privilege than to they feel truly safe. I am here serve my country.” to make that happen for more kids.”

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AVID HUEBNER is the United States ambassador to New Zealand and Samoa. He is the third openly gay ambassador in United States history.

A native of Mahanoy City, Pa., Huebner graduated summa cum laude from Princeton University, where he studied at the Woodrow Wilson School of Public and International Affairs. He earned a J.D. from Yale Law School.

While at Yale, he served as a special assistant to the Hon. Koji Kakizawa, the former Japanese foreign minister.

Licensed to practice in three United States jurisdictions as well as England and Wales, Huebner was chairman of Coudert Brothers, an international law firm. He was later hired as a partner in the Shanghai office of Sheppard Mullin Richter & Hampton, where he led the firm’s Chinese operations and its International Disputes practice.

He has taught courses on intellectual property and international arbitration at the University of Southern California Gould School of Law. President Obama nominated Huebner as an ambassador on Oct. 8, 2009. With his partner by his side, Huebner was sworn in by Vice President Biden, who told him, “You’ve lived the American dream. I can think of nobody better to represent our nation to the people of New Zealand and Samoa than you.”

Huebner has a long record of public service. Governor Arnold Schwarzenegger selected him to chair California’s Law Review Commission.

Huebner served as president of the Los Angeles Quality & Productivity Commission, and he was a founding board member and chief counsel for GLAAD. When not on diplomatic assignment, Huebner and his partner of more than 20 years, psychiatrist Duane McWaine, live in Los Angeles.

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A

MONUMENTAL LEADER and crusader, Kevin Jennings has dedicated his career to ensuring safe schools for all students. In 1990, he founded the Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network, the nation’s first organization combating discrimination against LGBT students. He currently serves as the assistant deputy secretary for the Office of Safe and Drug-Free Schools at the U.S. Department of Education.

The youngest of five children, Jennings experienced a childhood deeply rooted in conservative ideology. Poor and in a continual state of transition, his family moved so often that Jennings attended 11 schools in four states. While he displayed impressive academic aptitude, he suffered daily from mental and physical abuse by classmates.

“School was a place I both loved and hated,” recalls Jennings. “I loved it because I loved learning. I hated it because I was targeted at a pretty young age for bullying and harassment.”

In 1985, Jennings earned a bachelor’s degree magna cum laude from Harvard University, becoming the first member of his family to graduate from college.

Later, he earned two master’s degrees.

In 1988, while he was a history teacher at a Massachusetts high school, he spearheaded the country’s first Gay Straight Alliance, a coalition of students fighting against harassment based on sexual orientation and gender identity.

Two years later, Jennings expanded the movement to encompass parents, teachers and community members, creating GLSEN. Beginning as a grassroots volunteers group, GLSEN has developed into a national organization with more than 40 chapters and over 4,500 schools.

Jennings challenged the Mass. State Board of Education to adopt new policies protecting LGBT students. In 1993, his efforts led to the country’s first state law prohibiting discrimination based on sexual orientation in public schools.

transgender activist

Author/ AIDS Activist

“I really believe that activism “What’s important is that is therapeutic.” transgender people are respected as members of the IYOSHI KUROMIYA was a Gay community—that they are Pioneer and early HIV/AIDS expert. safe from discrimination and Kuromiya was born in a Japanese internment camp in rural violence and disrespect.”

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ARA KEISLING is a leading transgender activist. She is the executive director of the National Center for Transgender Equality, the largest transgender rights organization.

One of seven siblings, Keisling grew up as Mark in Harrisburg, Pa. His father was the governor’s chief of staff.

Mark was a reticent boy. “During junior high, I was shy to the point where I feared giving a book report in front of the class,” Keisling says.

Keisling became more extroverted after joining the school’s Model U.N. Club, where he found his calling in the political arena. He graduated from Penn State and pursued post-graduate work in American Government at Harvard University.

In the 1990s, after Keisling told friends and family he’d felt like a woman since childhood, he began his transition to Mara. Keisling soon turned to activism after seeing the discrimination transgender people face. Keisling co-chaired the Pennsylvania Gender Rights Coalition and served on the steering committee of the Statewide Pennsylvania Rights Coalition.

In 2003, recognizing the need for a cohesive voice in Washington for transgender people, Mara Keisling founded the National Center for Transgender Equality (NCTE), a social justice organization dedicated to advancing equality through advocacy, collaboration and empowerment.

Keisling and NCTE were among the leaders of UnitedENDA, a coalition of more than 400 LGBT organizations lobbying for a trans-inclusive Employment Non-Discrimination Act. Keisling has over 25 years of professional experience in social marketing and opinion research. In 2005, Harvard University named her Outstanding LGBT Person of the Year.

Wyoming during World War II. He became active in the civil rights and antiwar movements as a student at the University of Pennsylvania.

Kuromiya participated with Frank Kameny, Barbara Gittings and other gay pioneers in the first organized gay and lesbian civil rights demonstrations.

These “Annual Reminders,” held at Independence Hall and the Liberty Bell each Fourth of July from 1965 to 1969, laid the groundwork for the Stonewall Riots and the LGBT civil rights movement.

In 1970, Kuromiya served as an openly gay delegate to the Black Panthers convention, where the organization endorsed the LGBT liberation struggle.

He assisted Buckminster Fuller in writing “Critical Path” (1981), an influential book about technology and its potential to improve the world.

Diagnosed with AIDS in 1989, Kuromiya became a self-taught expert on the disease, operating under the mantra “information is power.” He founded the Critical Path Project, which provided resources to people living with HIV and AIDS, including a newsletter, a library and a 24-hour phone line. Around the same time, Kuromiya helped found ACT UP Philadelphia, a pioneering organization that helped bring AIDS to the national consciousness.

He worked with many AIDS organizations, including We the People Living with AIDS/HIV. In addition to his service-oriented work and street-level advocacy, Kuromiya was involved in impact litigation, including a successful challenge to the Communications Decency Act, which criminalized the circulation of “patently offensive” sexual material. He was the lead plaintiff in a federal class action lawsuit on behalf of patients seeking permission to use medical marijuana.

Kuromiya was a nationally ranked Scrabble player. He died at 57 from AIDSrelated complications.

Sharon J. Lubinski

Jane Lynch

B. JULY 11, 1952

“As for being out in Hollywood—I never thought about it. I never hid who I was.”

U.S. Marshal “Hopefully my coming out will dispel any myths that you can’t be gay and in uniform.”

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N 2010, SHARON LUBINSKI became the nation’s first openly gay United States Marshal. She is the first female to hold this post in Minnesota.

A native of Green Bay, Wis., Lubinski received a bachelor’s degree from the University of Wisconsin in 1974, and a master’s degree from Hamline University in 1992. She has served for 32 years in law enforcement, including 12 years of command experience as precinct commander of downtown Minneapolis and as deputy chief of patrol. From 2006 to 2010, Lubinski managed the Minneapolis Police Department’s daily operations as assistant chief of police.

In 2009, Senator Amy Klobuchar recommended Lubinski to the post of United States Marshal for the District of Minnesota stating, “Her mix of experience managing a large, urban police department and working in a rural sheriff’s office makes her uniquely qualified to serve in this role.” United States Marshals are responsible for running the enforcement arm of the federal courts.

They protect court officers, apprehend fugitives, transport federal prisoners and protect federal witnesses.

After nominating Lubinski, President Obama stated, “She has dedicated her career to the noble cause of protecting her fellow Americans.

She has displayed exceptional courage in the pursuit of justice, and I am honored to nominate her today to continue her selfless work as a U.S. Marshal for the District of Minnesota.”

Lubinski is a member of the community faculty at the Metropolitan State University School of Criminal Justice and is a doctoral candidate in Public Administration at Hamline University.

B. JULY 14, 1960

actress

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ANE LYNCH is an award-winning theater, film and television actress.

In 2010, she shared a Screen Actors Guild Award for Best Comedy Ensemble for the hit television series Glee. She also received a Golden Globe nomination and won an Emmy for her role on the show.

Lynch grew up in Dolton, Ill., outside Chicago. She received a Bachelor of Arts in Theater from Illinois State University and a Master of Fine Arts in Theater from Cornell.

Lynch began her career on stage with the Second City comedy troupe, followed by a stint playing Carol Brady in the touring company of The Real Live Brady Bunch. In 1998, Lynch wrote and starred in Oh Sister, My Sister. Six years later, Lynch’s play helped launch the Lesbians in Theater program at the Los Angeles Gay and Lesbian Center.

After playing bit parts and acting in commercials, Lynch caught the attention of film director Christopher Guest, who spotted her in a Frosted Flakes commercial and cast her in Best in Show.

Lynch’s turn as a lesbian dog handler in the movie was her breakout role. She has appeared in more than 50 films, including The 40-Year-Old Virgin, Julie and Julia, Alvin and the Chipmunks and The Fugitive.

On television, Lynch guest starred on dozens of series, and she has played recurring characters on The L Word, Two and a Half Men and Criminal Minds.

As Sue Sylvester, the Glee cheerleading coach described as “pure evil,” Lynch is receiving rave reviews. Mary McNamara of the Los Angeles Times wrote, “Lynch alone makes Glee worth watching.”

In 2005, Jane Lynch was named one of the “10 Amazing Gay Women in Showbiz” by the Professional Organization of Women in Entertainment Reaching Up (POWER UP).

In 2010, Outfest, the Los Angeles gay and lesbian film festival, honored Lynch with the 14th annual Achievement Award for her contributions to LGBT film and media.

In 2010, Lynch married her longterm partner, Dr. Lara Embry, in a Massachusetts ceremony.

Patsy Lynch Matthew Mitcham B. JULY 21, 1953

Photographer

“If we don’t know our history we’re going to become forgotten.”

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ATSY LYNCH is a trailblazing photographer whose work documenting several decades of the LGBT civil rights struggle has provided visibility to the movement and inspired activists worldwide.

A native of Washington, D.C., Lynch received her Bachelor of Arts from Elon University, where she started the college’s newspaper. She earned two master’s degrees from Gallaudet University.

Working for both The Advocate and the UPI news agency in the 1970s and 1980s, Lynch was the first openly gay journalist with a White House credential. She was a founding member of the Washington, D.C., chapter of the National Lesbian and Gay Journalists Association.

Through her lens, Lynch chronicled numerous milestones in the LGBT civil rights struggle. She was one of four official photographers at the 1979 Lesbian and Gay March on Washington.

She captured lasting images of the AIDS activism movement, including a 1987 protest at the White House and a 1988 die-in organized by ACT UP in Washington.

Lynch served as the photographer for the “Community Pioneers” exhibit of Washington residents who contributed to the struggle for equality. “We need to let people know that we are here, and we’re not going away,” Lynch said.

In 1990, the National Gay Press Association named Lynch Photographer of the Year. In 2006, she received a Distinguished Service Award from the Gay and Lesbian Activist Alliance.

The following year, she received the Community Pioneer award from the Rainbow History Project. Recently, Lynch has worked on assignment for the Federal Emergency Management Agency (FEMA), where she documented Hurricane Katrina and the 2010 BP oil spill in the Gulf of Mexico.

A resident of the Washington area, Lynch is also a skilled sports photographer, landscape photographer and portrait artist.

B. MARCH 2, 1988

O LY M P I C D I V E R “Being ‘out’ for me means being just as I am with nothing to be ashamed about and no reasons to hide.”

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USTRALIAN DIVER MATTHEW MITCHAM is one of the few openly gay Olympic athletes. At the 2008 Summer Olympics in Beijing, Mitcham won a gold medal after executing the highest-scoring dive in Olympic history.

Mitcham grew up in Brisbane, Queensland, Australia. He competed as a trampoline gymnast before being discovered by a diving coach. By the time he was 14, he was a national junior champion in diving. A few years later, he won medals in the World Junior Diving Championships.

In 2006, after battling anxiety and depression, Mitcham decided to retire from diving.

The following year, he returned to diving and began training for the Olympics.

In Beijing, Mitcham won an Olympic gold medal in the 10-meter platform dive. It was the first time in over 80 years that an Australian male diver struck Olympic gold. After his triumph, he leaped into the stands to hug and kiss his partner, Lachlan Fletcher.

Mitcham was the first out Australian to compete in the Olympics. There were only 11 openly gay athletes out of a total of over 11,000 competitors in Beijing.

Mitcham was chosen 2008 Sports Performer of the Year by the Australian public. The same year, Australia GQ named him Sportsman of the Year. After accepting the GQ award, Mitcham joked, “Oh, my God, I’m a homo and I just won the sports award!”

Mitcham competed in the 2010 Gay Games in Cologne. He is studying at Sydney University and training for the 2012 Summer Olympics in London.

“I look at the last 20 years as a long, winding path of lessons and some hardship,” Mitcham said in 2008. “I hope I do have more lessons to learn. I look forward to that.”

Jamie Nabozny B. OCTOBER 14, 1975

youth activist “Kids are becoming a lot stronger, and with my case I hope they realize that they’re not alone.”

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AMIE NABOZNY was the first student to successfully sue a school district for its failure to protect a student from anti-gay harassment. His 1995 lawsuit helped pioneer the Safe Schools Movement for LGBT students.

Nabozny was emotionally bullied and physically abused as a high school student in Ashland, Wis., after he revealed his sexual orientation. Classmates urinated on him, simulated raping him and beat him to the point that he needed surgery. Although he and his parents reported the bullying repeatedly, Nabozny was told that, because he was openly gay, he should expect such behavior.

“I was numb most of the time, and I had to be numb to make it through,” Nabozny says. He left the school, moved to Minnesota with his family, and passed the GED exam.

His lawsuit against the school was initially dismissed, but the Nabozny family appealed. The appellate court, basing its ruling on the Equal Protection Clause of the Constitution, allowed the lawsuit to go forward. A jury then found the school liable for Nabozny’s injuries; the school district eventually agreed to a nearly $1 million settlement.

Nabozny’s story is featured in a documentary film and teaching kit produced by the Southern Poverty Law Center.

Bullied: A Student, a School and a Case that Made History and its accompanying materials have been distributed to schools nationwide.

Nabozny has submitted written testimony to Congress and has lobbied lawmakers about school safety for LGBT youth. He was honored for his pioneering efforts by Equality Forum, which recognized him with its 1997 National Role Model Award.

Nabozny lives in Minneapolis. He travels the country speaking to diverse audiences about his experience and the importance of safe schools.

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Cynthia Nixon Catherine Opie B. APRIL 9, 1966

Actress

“I never felt like there was an unconscious part of me that woke up or came out of the closet. I met this woman and I fell in love with her.”

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YNTHIA NIXON is a television, film and Broadway actress best known for her role as Miranda on Sex and the City. She is one of only 15 performers to receive a Tony, an Emmy and a Grammy Award.

Nixon is a native New Yorker, the only child of radio journalist Walter Nixon and Anne Kroll, an actress and a researcher on the television series To Tell the Truth.

Cynthia’s first television appearance was at age 9 as an imposter on the show.

At age 12, Nixon acted in an ABC Afterschool Special. Her feature film debut came soon after in Little Darlings (1980), followed by her first role on Broadway in The Philadelphia Story.

Nixon graduated from Hunter College High School and attended Barnard College. As a freshman, she made theatrical history acting in two Broadway plays at the same time, The Real Thing and Hurlyburly.

A working actress since the 1980s, Nixon received a Best Supporting Actress Emmy Award in 2004 for Sex and the City, a Tony Award for Best Leading Actress in The Rabbit Hole in 2006 and a second Emmy for Outstanding Guest Actress on Law & Order: Special Victims Unit in 2008.

In 2008, Sex and the City became a movie franchise. Nixon and her television co-stars reprised their roles in the film and the 2010 sequel. The original film grossed over $415 million worldwide, making it one of the most successful R-rated comedies.

Nixon is engaged to Christine Marinoni. The couple plans to tie the knot in Manhattan when same-sex marriage becomes legal in New York State. “We want to get married right here in New York City, where we live, where our kids live,” Nixon says. She and Marinoni share parenting responsibilities for Nixon’s two children from a previous relationship.

In 2010, Nixon received the Vito Russo GLAAD Media Award for promoting equal rights for the gay community. Nixon is a breast cancer survivor and a spokeswoman for Susan G. Komen for the Cure.

B. APRIL 14, 1961

Sunil Babu Pant

Annise Parker

John A. Pérez

B. JUNE 28, 1972

B. MAY 17, 1956

B. SEPTEMBER 28, 1969

nepalese politician

mayor of houston

“Let’s push the boundaries a little bit here about what you guys think normal is.”

“People in general do not wish to discriminate against their fellow neighbors.”

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“The voters of Houston have opened the door to history.

I know what this means to many of us who never thought we could achieve high office.”

Speaker of the California Assembly

photographer

OR OVER A DECADE, photographer Catherine Opie has used the power of her lens to create visibility for queer subcultures existing on society’s fringes. Her raw and honest photographs challenge viewers to reevaluate notions of sexuality and societal norms.

Her groundbreaking work has adorned gallery walls worldwide, including The Guggenheim in New York and The Photographer’s Gallery in London.

At age 9, Opie decided to become a social documentary photographer after studying the work of Lewis Hine.

At 18, she left her home in Sandusky, Ohio, to study at the San Francisco Art Institute where she received a B.F.A. in 1985. She earned an M.F.A. from California Institute of the Arts three years later.

Opie’s career gained momentum in 1995 when her provocative portraits of gay fringe groups appeared at one of the art world’s leading shows, the Whitney Biennial. Images of pierced, tattooed and leather-clad members of Opie’s inner circle were presented to the public in a bold and unapologetic fashion.

“Looking at her pictures can be uncomfortable,” observed The New York Times, “not because of their confrontational content but because they reveal as much about the beholder as the beheld.”

Opie also photographs landscapes and architecture. In her exhibit “Freeways” (1994–95), she explores the intricacies of Los Angeles’s highway system. In “Mini-malls” (1997–98), she reveals the rich ethnic diversity of Southern California’s shopping centers.

Combining both landscape and portraiture in her series “Domestic,” Opie traveled nationwide photographing lesbian couples living together.

Opie is a professor of photography at UCLA. She has received various awards, including the Washington University Freud Fellowship, the Larry Aldrich Award and the United States Artist Fellowship.

In an exhibit catalog interview, Opie reflects, “I have represented this country and this culture. And I’m glad that there is a queer, out, dyke artist that’s being called an American photographer.”

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UNIL BABU PANT is the first openly gay politician in Nepal. His 2008 election to the national legislature followed years of activism on behalf of the Nepalese LGBT community.

Trained as a computer engineer, Pant received a scholarship to study in Belarus. It was there that he first heard the word “homosexual” and identified as a gay man. It was also where he was first exposed to entrenched homophobia, inspiring him to fight for equality in his home country.

In 2002, Pant founded the Blue Diamond Society. The group consists of more than 20 organizations and 120,000 members representing the interests of the country’s LGBT and HIV/AIDS communities. Leaders and members of the society have continued their advocacy in the face of threats of arrest and violence.

The Blue Diamond Society was party to a 2007 case that led Nepal’s highest court to declare that LGBT individuals were “natural persons” who deserve protection and civil rights. The court also ordered the establishment of a commission to study same-sex marriage, as well as the addition of a third gender option on official government documents.

Pant was elected to Nepal’s Constituent Assembly as a member of Nepal’s Communist Party United. His legislative goals include equal justice and economic rights. He serves on a committee charged with rewriting Nepal’s constitution. In spite of his many accomplishments, Pant insists that his work is far from complete: “With our progress, however, is the awareness that so many more need to be served.”

In 2005, Pant and the Blue Diamond Society were awarded the Utopia Award, Asia’s leading LGBT honor. In 2007, the International Gay and Lesbian Human Rights Commission bestowed the group with its Felippa de Souza Award.

Pant, who lives in Nepal’s capital city, Kathmandu, recently founded Pink Mountain, a company that offers LGBTgeared travel packages to Nepal.

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N 2009, when Annise Parker was elected, Houston became the largest city in the nation with an openly gay mayor. Houston is the fourth most populous city in the United States.

Annise Parker was born and raised in Houston. Her mother was a bookkeeper, and her father worked for the Red Cross. Annise received a National Merit Scholarship to Rice University, where she earned a bachelor’s degree in anthropology and sociology.

After graduation, Parker began a 20year career as a software analyst in the oil and gas industry. In 1997, she won a seat on the Houston City Council, making her Houston’s first out elected official. In 2003, Parker was elected city controller.

She served two additional terms before being elected mayor.

Parker’s mayoral triumph didn’t come without a fight and controversy.

Conservative groups criticized her for her “gay agenda” and distributed fliers featuring Parker and her partner, asking the question, “Is this the image Houston wants to portray?” Parker campaigned with her partner, Kathy Hubbard, and their three children.

Despite the attacks, Parker won the election in a city that denies its employees domestic partner benefits, and in a state where gay marriage and civil unions are constitutionally banned.

Parker was recognized as Council Member of the Year by the Houston Police Officers Union. In 2008, Houston Woman Magazine named her one of Houston’s 50 Most Influential Women.

“Yes I’m gay, and I’m a politician. It’s a descriptor. I don’t think it’s a definer.”

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OHN A. PÉREZ is the openly gay speaker of the California Assembly.

He is the first LGBT person of color to hold such a position and only the third out leader of a legislative body in United States history.

Pérez was born in working-class Los Angeles, the son of Felipe, a Mexican immigrant who was disabled from a workplace accident, and Vera, who directed a community clinic. At age 14, Pérez became politically active, motivated by government cuts in disability payments to his father and in government subsidies to his mother’s clinic.

After graduating from the University of California, Berkeley, Pérez spent several years as a labor organizer in Southern California. He served as political director for the United Food and Commercial Workers in Orange County.

Before he held an elective office, Pérez was actively engaged in public service. He was integral in founding California’s statewide LGBT organization, now called Equality California.

Presidents Bill Clinton and George W. Bush appointed him to the President’s Advisory Council on HIV and AIDS. Pérez served as a gubernatorial appointee to a panel charged with reforming California’s initiative system and as a mayoral appointee to the Los Angeles Community Redevelopment Agency.

Pérez was elected to the California Assembly in 2008, winning 85 percent of the vote in his Los Angeles district. Two years later, he was selected as speaker by members of the Democratic Party and formally elected by the Assembly.

Assemblywoman Fiona Ma said, “He’s someone who sends a signal to the nation that being gay is no longer a barrier to greatness.”

Pérez is a fan of classical music, art museums and the Los Angeles Dodgers.

Eleanor Roosevelt

Jalal al-Din Rumi

David Sedaris

Maurice Sendak

Matthew Shepard

B. OCTOBER 11, 1884 D. NOVEMBER 7, 1962

B. SEPTEMBER 30, 1207 D. DECEMBER 17, 1273

B. DECEMBER 26, 1956

B. JUNE 10, 1928

Sufi Mystic/Poet

author/illustrator

B. DECEMBER 1, 1976 D. OCTOBER 12, 1998

first lady

Writer/Humorist

“A good short story would “No one can make you feel in- “Only from the heart can you take me out of myself and ferior without your consent.” touch the sky.” then stuff me back in, outsized, now, and uneasy with LEANOR ROOSEVELT transformed ALAL AL-DIN RUMI was a poet, theothe fit.” the role of First Lady. She served as logian and Sufi mystic. He founded

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a diplomat and a tireless champion of international human rights.

Roosevelt was born into a wealthy family in New York City. Both her parents died before she was 10; she then moved in with her grandmother in upstate New York. At the age of 15, she lived in England, where she learned to speak French and Italian fluently.

Shortly after her return to New York, Roosevelt met her future husband, Franklin Delano Roosevelt, her father’s fifth cousin. The couple married and had six children, five of whom survived infancy. Franklin took his first leap into politics, winning a seat in the New York State Senate. The family moved to Washington, D.C., when he was appointed Assistant Secretary of the Navy

by President Wilson.

Life in the nation’s capital kindled Eleanor’s interests in policy making. In 1924, she joined the board of the League of Women Voters and became involved in Democratic Party politics. In 1928, after her husband was elected governor of New York, she became actively engaged in domestic and international issues.

She wrote a syndicated newspaper column titled “My Day.” In 1933, Roosevelt became First Lady of the United States, a role she held for 12 years. While assuming traditional duties, she did not allow them to compromise her ideals. In 1939, she announced in her column that she would resign her membership in the Daughters of the American Revolution, after the group refused to allow Marian Anderson, a black singer, to perform in Washington’s Constitution Hall.

While First Lady, Roosevelt developed an intimate relationship with Lorena Hickock, a journalist who covered the White House. The relationship lasted for the rest of Roosevelt’s life.

Eleanor’s commitment to public service continued after her husband’s death in 1945. President Truman named her a delegate to the United Nations, where she was elected chairwoman of the Commission on Human Rights.

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the Order of the Whirling Dervishes, a branch of the Sufi tradition that practices a gyrating dance ritual representing the revolving stages of life.

Rumi was born in the Persian province of Balkh, now part of Afghanistan.

Rumi’s father was an author, a religious scholar and a leader in the Sufi movement — the mystical dimension of Islam.

When Rumi was 12, his father moved the family to escape the impending invasion of Mongol armies, eventually setting in Konya, Anatolia, at the westernmost tip of Asia where Turkey is today.

In 1231, after his father died, Rumi began teaching, meditating and helping the poor. He amassed hundreds of disciples who attended his lectures and sermons.

Rumi was married and had one son.

After his wife’s death, he remarried and fathered two more children. In 1244, Rumi met a man who changed his life.

Shams of Tabriz was an older Sufi master who became Rumi’s spiritual mentor and constant companion. After Shams died, Rumi grieved for years.

He began expressing his love and bereavement in poetry, music and dance.

Rumi had two other male companions, but none would replace his beloved Shams. One of Rumi’s major poetic works is named in honor of his master, The Works of Shams of Tabriz. Rumi’s best-known work is Spiritual Couplets, a six-volume poem often referred to as the greatest work of mystical poetry.

In “Rumi: The Book of Love Poems of Ecstasy and Longing” (2003), Rumi expresses his perception of true love.

“Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere.

They’re in each other all along.”

Rumi died surrounded by his family and disciples. His tomb is one of the most revered pilgrimage sites in Islam and is a spiritual center of Turkey.

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AVID SEDARIS is an award-winning best-selling author whose short stories depict, variously, the life of a young gay man in 20th century America, the experience of an American living abroad and the comedy of family life.

Sedaris, who is one of six children, was born in Binghamton, N.Y., and grew up in Raleigh, N.C. In 1983, he graduated from the School of the Art Institute of Chicago. He began writing, and supported himself with odd jobs in Raleigh, in Chicago and eventually in New York.

His big break came on National Public Radio, where he read his short stories.

Called the “preeminent humorist of his generation” by Entertainment Weekly, Sedaris is the author of numerous collections: Barrel Fever (1994), Naked (1997), Holidays on Ice (1997), Me Talk Pretty One Day (2000), Dress Your Family in Corduroy and Denim (2004) and When You are Engulfed in Flames (2008), which ranked number one on the New York Times best seller list. He edited a 2005 collection of stories called Children Playing Before a Statue of Hercules, from which the proceeds benefit a nonprofit writing and tutorial center.

Sedaris is known for his distinctive style, combining elements of memoir, humor and the traditional short story. He is clear that his stories are embellished.

“I’m a humorist,” he says. “I’m not a reporter.”

Sedaris is a frequent contributor to the award-winning “This American Life” public radio show. Along with his sister Amy, he is the author of numerous plays written under the name “The Talent Family.” He has been nominated for two Grammy awards and was named Time magazine’s Humorist of the Year in 2001.

In 2008, he delivered the commencement speech at Binghamton University and was awarded an honorary doctorate.

Sedaris lives in London, Paris and Normandy with his longtime partner, Hugh Hamrick.

“Inside all of us is a Wild Thing.”

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AILED AS THE PICASSO of children’s literature, Maurice Sendak has captured the imagination of readers young and old for more than 40 years. A prolific author and illustrator, he has published over 100 works.

Sendak has received numerous awards, including the prestigious Caldecott Medal, the National Book Award and the National Medal of Arts.

PBS describes him as “one of the most consistently inventive and challenging voices in children’s literature. His books and productions are among the bestloved imaginative works of their time.”

Born in Brooklyn, N.Y., to Jewish immigrants, Sendak was plagued with illness in his early childhood. He spent most of his time indoors where he occupied himself with books. Having discovered his creative voice at a young age, he found a perfect outlet in drawing and illustration.

At the age of 12, after seeing Disney’s Fantasia, the awestruck Sendak decided to become an illustrator.

Sendak is best known for his 1963 book Where the Wild Things Are. Over 10 million copies have been sold worldwide.

Sendak’s work has often generated controversy, despite his celebrated career as an illustrator. Over the years, his children’s book In the Night Kitchen (1970) has been censored in several states due to illustrations deemed inappropriate. Where the Wild Things Are has been condemned by conservatives who claim the book involves witchcraft and supernatural elements. “I thought my career was over,” recalls Sendak. “The kids saved me. They loved the books because they are not afraid of life.”

For decades, Sendak hid his sexuality from the public, fearing it would ruin his career. “All I wanted was to be straight so my parents could be happy. They never, never, never knew.” In a 2008 interview with The New York Times, Sendak opened up about his private life and revealed his 50-year relationship with Eugene Glynn, who passed away in 2007.

In 2009, filmmakers Lance Bangs and Spike Jonze teamed up to produce Tell Them What You Want, a documentary about his life.

Hero “Every American child deserves the strongest protections from some of the country’s most horrifying crimes.” – Judy Shepard

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S A GAY COLLEGE STUDENT, Matthew Shepard was the victim of a deadly hate crime. His murder brought national and international attention to the need for LGBT-inclusive hate crimes legislation.

Shepard was born in Casper, Wyo., to Judy and Dennis Shepard. The older of two sons, Matthew completed high school at The American School in Switzerland and enrolled at the University of Wyoming in Laramie in 1998 where he joined the campus’ gay alliance.

On October 6, 1998, two men, Aaron McKinney and Russell Henderson, lured Shepard from a downtown Laramie bar.

After Shepard acknowledged that he was gay, McKinney and Henderson beat and tortured him, then tied him to a fence in a remote, rural area and left him for dead. Eighteen hours later, a biker, who thought he saw a scarecrow, found Shepard barely breathing.

Shepard was rushed to the hospital, but never regained consciousness and died on Oct. 12. Both of Shepard’s killers were convicted of felony murder and are serving two consecutive life sentences.

Despite the outcome of the trial, the men who took Shepard’s life were not charged with a hate crime. Wyoming has no hate crimes law, which protects victims of crimes motivated by bias against a protected class. Shepard’s high-profile murder case sparked protests, vigils and calls for federal hate crimes legislation for LGBT victims of violence.

Shortly after their son’s death, Judy and Dennis Shepard founded The Matthew Shepard Foundation to honor his memory and to “replace hate with understanding, compassion and acceptance.” Judy Shepard became a LGBT activist and the most recognized voice in the fight for a federal hate crimes bill.

In 2009, more than a decade after Shepard’s murder, The Matthew Shepard and James Byrd Jr. Hate Crimes Prevention Act (HCPA) was signed into law.

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Jóhanna Pyotr Ilyich Rufus Mel White Sigurðardóttir Tchaikovsky Wainwright

Emanuel Xavier

B. OCTOBER 4, 1942

B. MAY 3, 1971

Prime Minister of Iceland “Egalitarian policies are the best way to unite and empower people.”

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ÓHANNA SIGURÐARDÓTTIR is the first female prime minister of Iceland and the world’s first openly LGBT national leader.

Sigurðardóttir was born in Reykjavik, where she received the equivalent of a high school diploma from the Commercial College of Iceland. Her first job was as a flight attendant for what is now Icelandair. After six years in that position, she became a union organizer with the airline — a move that served as her entrée into Icelandic politics.

Sigurðardóttir was elected to Iceland’s Parliament in 1978. Viewed as a rising star, she was named Minister of Social Affairs in 1987. In 1990, she ran for the top spot in the Social Democrat Alliance party. She narrowly lost that race, declaring, “My time will come,” which has become a common catchphrase in Iceland.

In January 2009, following the collapse of the nation’s economy in the worldwide recession, Iceland’s president asked the Social Democrat Alliance to form a new government, which elevated Sigurðardóttir to the office of the prime minister. At the time of her appointment, she was the longest-serving member of Iceland’s Parliament.

Four months later, Sigurðardóttir’s party, along with its coalition partner, won a majority of seats in the Parliament, handing her a strong mandate to lead Iceland’s economic revitalization efforts and to work toward joining the European Union. While focusing on these important tasks, Sigurðardóttir has not forgotten the value of equity in politics. “A society that does not use the intellectual power of its female population fully is not a wise society,” she says.

Sigurðardóttir was married to a man prior to coming out. She and her ex-husband are the parents of two adult children. On June 11, 2010, by a vote of 49 to 0, Iceland’s Parliament approved same-sex marriage. On June 26, 2010, the first day that legislation became effective, Jóhanna Sigurðardóttir and Jónína Leósdóttir were married.

B. JULY 26, 1940

minister/activist

B. MAY 7, 1840 D. NOVEMBER 6, 1893

Composer “Music’s triumphant power lies in the fact that it reveals to us beauties we find in no other sphere.”

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YOTR ILYICH TCHAIKOVSKY is one of the most popular composers in history. His best known works include the ballets “Swan Lake,” “The Sleeping Beauty,” and “The Nutcracker”; the operas, “The Queen of Spades” and “Eugene Onegin”; and the widely recognized Fantasy Overture “Romeo and Juliet” and “1812 Overture.”

Tchaikovsky was born in Votinsk, Russia, a small industrial town. His father was a mine inspector. His mother, who was of French and Russian heritage, strongly influenced his education and cultural upbringing.

At age 5, Tchaikovsky began piano lessons. His parents nurtured his musical talents, but had a different career path in mind for their son. In 1850, the family enrolled him at the Imperial School of Jurisprudence in St. Petersburg, where he prepared for a job in civil service.

After working in government for a few years, Tchaikovsky pursued his passion at the St. Petersburg Conservatory. After graduation, he taught music theory at the Moscow Conservatory and worked on new compositions. Tchaikovsky created concertos, symphonies, ballets, chamber music, and concert and theatrical pieces.

His passionate, emotional compositions represented a departure from traditional Russian music, and his work became popular with Western audiences.

Despite his career success, Tchaikovsky’s personal life was filled with crises and bouts of depression. After receiving letters of admiration from a former student, Tchaikovsky married her.

Historians speculate the marriage took place to dispel rumors that Tchaikovsky was gay. The marriage was a disaster and Tchaikovsky left his wife after nine days.

Tchaikovsky began an unconventional relationship with a wealthy widow, Nadezhda von Mek, who agreed to be his benefactor on one condition: they were never to meet face-to-face. The couple exchanged more than 1,000 letters, until von Mek abruptly ended their 13-year liaison.

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singer/songwriter “It’s important for famous people to be an example for gay teens.”

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NOWN FOR HIS unique style and daring artistic endeavors, Rufus Wainwright is one of the most accomplished singer/songwriters of his generation. He has produced six albums, and is the recipient of two Juno Awards and five GLAAD Media Awards.

Wainwright’s musical talent was shaped by his folksinger parents, Kate McGarrigle and Loudon Wainwright III. He was born in Rhinebeck, N.Y., and holds dual United States and Canadian citizenship. After his parents divorced, Wainwright spent most of his youth with his mother in Montreal.

At age 14, Wainwright broke into the entertainment world with a song he composed and sang in the film Tommy Tricker and the Stamp Traveller, earning him a Juno Award nomination for “Most Promising Male Vocalist of the Year.”

That same year, he was sexually assaulted by a man he met at a bar. Deeply disturbed by the attack, he remained celibate for seven years.

In 1998, following the release of his first album, Wainwright was named “Best New Artist” by Rolling Stone. He composes music for theater, dance and opera, and has contributed to numerous film soundtracks including Moulin Rouge and Brokeback Mountain. Additionally, he has acted in The Aviator and Heights, among other films.

As a collaborator, Wainwright has worked on albums with music greats Rosanne Cash and Elton John. John hailed him as “the greatest songwriter on the planet.”

Wainwright’s first opera, “Prima Donna,” premiered in 2009 at the Manchester International Festival and was the subject of a documentary film that premiered on Bravo! in 2010.

Despite fame and success, Wainwright struggled with crystal meth addiction, a habit he eventually recovered from in 2002. With two decades of performing under his belt, Wainwright assures his fans that he won’t be retiring any time soon: “I am a self-sustaining, vibrant, long-term artist, and I’m not going away!”

“I’m perfectly happy going on TV now and saying I’m a gay man. I’m happy and proud to say that.”

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EL WHITE is an ordained minister who left his career as an adviser to prominent Christian evangelists when he came out in the mid 1990s has since dedicated his life to gaining acceptance for LGBT Christians.

Early in his career, White served as a speechwriter for Jerry Fallwell and Pat Robertson. He married a woman and had one son. When White realized he was attracted to men, he tried to “cure” his homosexuality with therapy and exorcism. Acknowledging that nothing could alter his sexual orientation, he attempted suicide.

White ultimately accepted his sexuality and amicably divorced his wife. In 1993, he publicly acknowledged that he was gay when he was named dean of the Dallas Cathedral of Hope of the Universal Fellowship at Metropolitan Community Churches.

Two years later, he published Stranger at the Gate, a book that chronicles his struggles as a gay Christian.

In 1996, White led a two-week fast on the steps of Congress as the Senate considered and ultimately passed the Defense of Marriage Act. He moved the fast to the White House, where he was arrested. “How can we stand by in silent acceptance while the president and the Congress sacrifice lesbian and gay Americans for some ‘greater political good’?” he asked.

In 1998, White and his partner of more than 25 years, Gary Nixon, founded Soulforce, an organization whose mission is to “seek freedom from religious and political oppression” for LGBT people. Its name comes from “satyagraha,” a term used by Gandhi to describe his civil rights struggle.

In 2008, White and Nixon were legally married in California. In 2009, White and his son, Mike, were a team on the 14th season of The Amazing Race.

Poet

“Being Latino and gay gives me much to write about. Anything that oppresses us as artists is always great fodder for art.”

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MANUEL XAVIER is a poet, author and editor. He is one of the most significant openly gay Latino spoken word artists of his generation.

Xavier was born in Brooklyn, N.Y., the child of an Ecuadorian mother and a Puerto Rican father who abandoned the family before his son was born.

When Xavier was 3, a family member sexually abused him. At 16, when Xavier came out to his mother, she threw him out of the house.

A homeless gay teen on the streets of New York, Xavier soon turned to sex and drugs for money. He became a hustler at the West Side Highway piers and sold drugs in gay clubs. After landing a job at a gay bookstore, A Different Light, he began to write poetry and perform as a spoken word artist.

Pier Queen (1997), Xavier’s self-published poetry collection, established him in the New York underground arts scene. Christ Like (1999), Xavier’s novel, was the first coming-of-age story by a gay Nuyorican (Puerto Rican living in New York). The novel earned him a Lambda Literary Award nomination.

Fellow author Jaime Manrique said, “Once in a generation, a new voice emerges that makes us see the world in a dazzling new light. Emanuel Xavier is that kind of writer.”

Americano (2002), another poetry collection and Xavier’s first official published work, advanced his prominence within the literary community of color.

Xavier edited Bullets & Butterflies: Queer Spoken Word Poetry (2005), for which he received a second Lambda Literary Award nomination.

In 2005, Xavier was the victim of a random attack by a group of young men. As a result of the beating, he lost all hearing in his right ear, but continued to write and perform.

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Illuminating risks to LGBTQ youth and providing strategies for keeping families united.

October 8-10, 2010 Sheraton Salt Lake City Hotel $125 Pricing, registration, agenda, and presenter bios can be found online.

Space is limited.

Honoring families with keynote speaker, John Cepek, National PFLAG President, and presenting Volunteer of the Year Award (Chris Coon), Organization of the Year Award (SLC PFLAG), and the prestigious Lifetime Achievement Award (Diane Bernard).

October 10, 2010 Sheraton Salt Lake City Hotel $35 Registration, sponsorships, and more information can be found online.

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ARTS&ENTERTAINMENT

gay agenda

Angels in America See Oct. 6

Gay Fantasia in Utah

by Tony Hobday

Michael and his Chilean boyfriend Guido ... or Guadalupe, I forget, and my sister Jake and his boyfriend Joey Puddin’, and my lesbos and I went to Nightmare on 13th last weekend.

Now, I’m not much for scary things ... even though I use Texas Chainsaw Massacre (the new version) as a lullaby when I can’t sleep — go figure! Anyhoo, this haunted house was pretty damn scary and fun. So scary, in fact, those rough-n-tough lesbos were too frightened to go through the whole house — wusses! Plus, Jake peed a little.

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THURSDAY — Whether in lakes, rivers, oceans or swimming pools, water is the earth’s most precious and vital resource, especially when it comes to bubble baths. Anyhoo, Repetory Dance Theatre, in collaboration with Brolly Arts, presents H20, a sensuous journey inspired by the rhythm of the tides and the precarious ribbon of life in the desert. Featured works include Zvi Gotheiner’s “Glacier,” Ford Evans’ “Watermark” and Francie Lloyd’s “The Lady of the Lake.”

7:30pm, through Oct. 2, Jeanne Wagner Theatre, Rose Wagner Center, 138 W. Broadway. Tickets $15, 801-355-ARTS or arttix.org.

Q Written in 1978 by Lanford Wilson, a gay American playwright, FIFTH OF JULY is the first in a trilogy about a rural Missouri family. Kenneth Talley, Jr. is a gay paraplegic Vietnam veteran living in his childhood home with his boyfriend Jed. When a houseful of family members and friends come for a visit, several ulterior motives for being there come to light.

7:30pm, through Oct. 3, Studio 115 Theatre, Performing Arts Building, 240 S. 1500 East, UofU. Tickets $5 at box office or $6.50 when purchased at 801-581-7100 or kingtix.com.

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FRIDAY — Do you want to see some hot girl go-go dancers, called sinrGy, in sexy go-go gear by B_Rich, Savage Martini and SinrGy Gear, and listen to the steamy spinnings of Nico Caliente and Jus Jack? Well then, join all of them at this PRE-HALLOWEEN DREAM COMPRESSION COSTUME PARTY. This two-night event will also include a fabulous fashion show. Don’t miss it!

TBA, tonight at Studio 27 & Sunday at Club Edge. Tickets $10 at the doors, for more info call 801-363-2200 or 801-4104367.

Q Art photographer TERI OCKEY of Photography Your Soul Studio kicks off a month-long exhibit of her “sensual, often abstract, and tastefully provocative, one-of-a-kind human form art. Join “TeriO” at this Opening Night party full of libations and oodles of fun.

7–10pm, Club JAM, 750 N. 300 West. Free, call 801-290-2766 for more information.

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TUESDAY — Based on the book by Bob Martin and Don McKeller, the 2006 multi-Tony award-winning musical The Drowsy Chaperone returns to the Utah stage. The show-within-a-show centers on a vain show girl, 30 | QSa lt L a k e | issue 164 | Sep te mber 30, 2010

who is about to marry a man she only just met. Audiences will be immersed in the glamorous, hilarious tale of a celebrity bride and her uproarious wedding day.

7:30pm, through Nov. 27, Hale Centre Theatre, 3333 S. Decker Lake Dr. Tickets $15–26, 801-984-9000 or halecentretheatre.org.

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WEDNESDAY — Can you believe they can make a seven-hour play about gays? Holy banana boat!

It’s a bit depressing, and yet, extremely moving.

Salt Lake Acting Company presents ANGELS IN AMERICA: MILLENIUM APPROACHES. This first act introduces the characters: A neurotic gay Jew, his AIDS-infected boyfriend, a closeted Mormon (there’s a stretch), his agoraphobic wife, and another closet case. Dubbed A Gay Fantasia on National Themes, Tony Kushner’s play is probably the most notable and cherished in our community.

7:30pm, through Oct. 31, Salt Lake Acting Company, 168 W. 500 North. Tickets $15–41, 801-363-7522 or saltlakeactingcompany.org.

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FRIDAY — Sugar Space is laughing its ass off.

SKETCHOPHRENIA is a live sketch comedy show starring local comedians Andrew Jensen, Troy Taylor, Christopher Stephenson and Jimmie Morgan. The show combines live sketch comedy with digital short films and musical numbers. These boys are hot, hilarious and into hanky-panky. The band Moon Water assists.

8pm & 10:30pm, Sugar Space, 616 Wilmington Ave. Tickets $10/adv.–12/door, 888-300-7898 or thesugarspace.com.

Q The entrancing documentary, JACK SMITH AND THE DESTRUCTION OF ATLANTIS, is based on gay performance artist, photographer and underground filmmaker Jack Smith. Photographs and rare clips of Smith’s performances and films punctuate interviews with artists, critics, friends and foes to create an engaging portrait of the artist. Widely known for his banned erotica film Flaming Creatures, Smith was an innovator and firebrand who influenced artists such as Andy Warhol and John Waters.

7pm, Salt Lake Art Center, 20 S. West Temple. Free, 801-7467000 or slcfilmcenter.org.

Q In VOX LUMIERE–PHANTOM OF THE OPERA, a disfigured musical genius hides in the depths of the Paris Opera House. What could he want? What is his dark secret? The singers, dancers and musicians of award-winning Vox Lumiere combine new music, theater and the classic Lon Chaney

silent film to uncover the mysteries of the Phantom in an explosive entertainment experience that brings this silent movie masterpiece to life.

7:30pm, Kingsbury Hall, 1395 E. Presidents Cir., UofU. Tickets $29.50, 801-581-7100 or kingtix.org.

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SUNDAY — So one day a year, we as gay peeps are encouraged to come out to someone. But if you’ve been out of the closet since sprouting pubes than it’s somewhat difficult to find someone in whom to come out. Here are some suggestions: Perhaps a homeless person, your pet goldfish, Dr. Phil (oh god, no!), the person you’re sleeping with (but don’t want to be) or the person sitting next to you at the Pride Center’s NATIONAL COMING OUT DAY BRUNCH. Nice segue, yes?

11am, Sheraton Hotel, 150 S. 500 West. Registration $35, 801539-8800 or utahpridecenter.org.

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MONDAY — Gore Vidal’s controversial, tabooshattering, razor-sharp satirical novel became a movie, of the same title, that many people didn’t think was possible to film. MYRON BRECKINRIDGE (film critic Rex Reed) travels to Europe to undergo a sex change and comes back to America as the sexy, man-hating Myra (Raquel Welch). Look fast for Tom Selleck and Farrah Fawcett in small roles.

7pm, Tower Theatre, 876 E. 900 South. Free, 801-746-7000 or slcfilmcenter.org.

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WEDNESDAY — Whether you’ve seen Odyssey Dance Company’s THRILLER each year for the past 12 years or you’ve only been once, there is absolutely nothing you will see that you’ve already seen in entirely the same way. Once again this “Halloween Spectacular” will showcase returning numbers such as “Curse of the Mummy,” “Children of the Corn,” “Jason Jam” and “Lost Boys.”

7:30pm, through Oct. 31, Kingsbury Hall, 1395 E. Presidents Cir., UofU. Tickets $20–40, 801-581-7100 or kingtix.com.

UPCOMING EVENTS NOV 2 NOV 15 NOV 17 APR 11

Lady Antebellum, Rail Event Ctr Lifehouse, In The Venue Brandon Flowers (of The Killers), The Depot Lily Tomlin, Kingsbury Hall

Live Music, Dancers, Artisits, Storytellers, Food, Childrens’ Art Yard Workshops, , Jewish Book Fair & the “Jews Rock” photo exhibit ñ ñ ó

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Lisa Lampanelli: One Mean Queen Comedian on gay marriage, celebrity roasts and how we screwed up her life

by Chris Azzopardi

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HERE’S NOTHING LIKE HEARING A familiar voice on the other end of the line, and Lisa Lampanelli’s is just as I remember it: loud and mean, like she’s burping up Sue Sylvester.

“What’s up you big fag face?” She razzes in her bawdy blurt. And I’d be shocked, like I admittedly was during our first interview just over three years ago, had this not been our fourth chat together. So how she’s doing now?

“Sick of straighties!” She says. Which is unusual for the self-dubbed “Lovable Queen of Mean,” who’s typically trashing the minorities. But the insult comic’s bad-mouthing, like the greeting she swooned me with, is just her way of scooping you up into a big bear hug and gently placing a soft kiss on your forehead — like you’d imagine from someone who looks as bingo grandma as she does.

Ridicule doesn’t exactly express a tender fondness, but Lampanelli dishes it out fairly, so at least nobody feels left out. Now that’s love.

She’s experiencing the real thing lately, falling for a guy she wouldn’t typically, if you know Lampanelli, go for: a white one. “I know — I’ve disappointed everyone,” she pouts. “But he’s Italian, so when I tour The South he’s still looked at like a colored, so it all works out.”

The wedding is set for October at the historical Friars’ Club in New York, and unlike most stars, the Connecticutborn comedian’s hungry for any kind of publicity. Her people even suggested it as a talking point.

“I’m whoring out everything, are you kidding?”

Lampanelli admits. “Who wants to talk about their wedding? Me! ’Cause I’m, like, fucking romantic, okaaay?”

Will she hire a gay wedding planner? “Nooo! Screw those dirty faggots. I’m not going to support you and your gay lifestyle. You guys should’ve listened to Howard (Stern) and heard my price because I’m not telling you, because you fucking faggots are all jealous of me and my $300,000 wedding ... oh, did I let that slip out?!”

Then we logically jump into gay marriage, and in her own lovingly backward way she wonders why it’s such a big deal to us because “you have the best out in the world.”

She continues: “We should say yes to gay marriage but outlaw gay divorce and see how you like it.”

Does that mean divorce is imminent for the soon-tobe newlyweds?

“I got my prenup all set,” she says. “Signed, sealed and delivered!”

Lampanelli’s always on top of it, always getting the last laugh; she clobbers the hell out of mankind

(gay kind, black kind, old kind, handicap kind) with a mouth that never lets up — onstage, during TV interviews, during this interview. She toned her dirtiness down for a recent Chelsea Lately appearance, but that wasn’t all that seemed unusual: Viewers, myself included, sensed awkwardness between the comedian and the show’s host, Chelsea Handler.

Lampanelli settles that: “No, you read it wrong, because when we came off we were like, ‘Oh my god, wasn’t that so much fun?!’ — like two giddy schoolgirls.

You know what it is? You faggots love to stir up trouble!

Like, ‘Hey, let’s make Kathy Griffin hate Lisa; hey, let’s make Lisa hate Margaret Cho.’ Well, guess what? You don’t have to make me hate Margaret Cho ... because I already do!”

Lampanelli backpedals, slipping out a light laugh that’s more sweet than sour, and says she doesn’t really abhor Cho, a constant among her targets. She doesn’t even know the fellow queer-loved comedian, but “I always have to make fun of her because she’s a dirty Asian.”

So there’s no rivalry among female comedians?

“Not from where I sit, because I’m, like, better than them all,” she explains, mentioning that Handler is actually producing her upcoming reality show that’s still in negotiations and can’t be discussed. “There’s none between me and Kathy because she’s tough, man. She doesn’t care whom she fucks with; that’s beautiful! A lot of people allude to celebrities, but she just says it, and I’m like, that’s balls! I love that.”

But Lampanelli’s own saucy remarks sweep up a lot of attention, too, just as they did after she opened the Roast of David Hasselhoff in August on Comedy Central, where she’s also roasted Joan Rivers, Pamela Anderson and William Shatner (next up, she hopes: “The fat lesbian roast. I’d love to do Rosie O’Donnell ... and Oprah Winfrey.”)

For Hasselhoff’s time in the hot seat, Lampanelli said his black and bloated liver could’ve starred in Precious and that his career “has crumbled worse than downtown Haiti.” Even Perez Hilton thought it was too much.

“Oh, she just had her period! She was just a little annoyed, and I get it,” Lampanelli says. “But where’s the line? And who’s gonna draw it, some arbitrary FCC or whatever? If you can make it funny — which I obviously did, because I’m, like, the best comedian who ever lived — then obviously it has not gone too far.”

When Lampanelli was on the receiving end, the roasters went for the obvious — her love for black men and her voluptuous size. After opening up about her self-esteem battle in her book Chocolate, Please: My Adventures in Food, Fat, and Freaks, recently out in paperback, you

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might wonder if she was more affected than she looked. Not this time, she says.

“If they’re funny, I don’t mind them.

And they were funny,” Lampanelli says, naming Gilbert Gottfried as her favorite that night. “In the past there’s been jokes that aren’t that great and you’re just like, that kind of hurts.

But when the joke is really good, you almost appreciate the comedy more than what they’re saying. These were really clever and I said, ‘OK, this is not affecting me.’”

Lampanelli breaks off for a bit, mulling over her thoughts a little more until she swings back in: “I mean, it hasn’t yet. Oh my god, maybe now that you mention it I’ll go and binge this afternoon. You faggot, leave it to you to fuck up my life!”

Payback’s a bitch, Lisa.

On her upcoming comedy special, Glamour-Puss, out in early 2011 “I’m sure it’ll be nominated for a Grammy, but I won’t win again because I like to be consistent. I like to never win anything and always be slightly less than everyone. I’m an insult comic, so I will never depart from those roots because they are so precious to me — and by precious, I don’t mean the fat, black chick.”

On her upcoming reality show “I have to shut my mouth because I got in trouble last week. They’re like, “You’re gonna queer the deal by yapping about it and naming the network.” And I’m like, “I gotta be proud of something!” Shit, all I lost was two pounds for my wedding — and (my fiancé) Jimmy lost 60.

Fucking AIDS! On Jimmy’s testicles His nuts are huge. It looks like that thing a hobo ties on a stick and puts over his shoulder; it’s freakin’ enormous. You gays like the big nuts; I’m not crazy about ’em, but what can I do? It’s more painful for him; he got one caught in the zipper ... of his boot, which was really fucked up.

On doing the talk show circuit They let you talk about anything edgy, you just can’t use language, which is really easy. That would be hard to go on and kind of just be sweet ... because sweet don’t come naturally. Q

dvd reviews

By Tony Hobday

For My Wife...

Nearly four years ago, Charlene Strong’s live was uprooted when a torrential storm took the life of her wife, Kate Fleming, of 10 years. The unspeakable truths that tore at Strong’s heart in the aftermath of that deadly storm are laid out in the documentary film For My Wife ... . The one-hour film is not a sappy tribute to Fleming with a montage of overly sympathetic

violin chords, but instead, is a tactful story of the amazing, positive strides that Strong has taken in the struggle for LGBT equality, while in the midst of her incredible loss.

“Every story has a beginning, a middle, an end.

This story begins with rain,” the narrator opens.

The next 50 minutes or so, we hear the devastating death of Fleming in 2006; the inane discrimination that Strong faced in her darkest hours; a simple, yet extremely moving speech by Washington State Sen. Rosa Franklin during the Senate Floor debate on SB 5336, a law that would protect LGBT couples and families; and the subsequent triumphs that Strong has since accomplished in securing the rights for the LGBT community. “This story is still being told and ends with equality,” the narrator closes.

Other than the segment with Gloria Steinham, which felt self-indulgent, this uplifting documen-

tary is well worth the watch.

$19.95, cinemalibrestudio.com

Unsolved Suburbia On the other hand, director Cheetah Gonzalez’s unrewarding fictional drama Unsolved Suburbia is a major bust. Set in a California “suburb,” the recurring story of closeted gay love is only set off by a neighborhood full of bisexual trysts — “straight Mondays through Fridays, but the weekends ... well ... .”

Marty, 18, is in a budding relationship with a boy and girl, Marty’s emo friend Jake is the neighborhood gossip, whose peeping-tom antics provide him with the scoop on Eddie and Thomas, a gay couple that come from strict, traditional Latino families. When Thomas’ brother Angel learns of his brother’s homosexuality, he

plots, with his gang-banging buddies, a deadly lesson.

But the outcome is far different.

The concept of this film had so much potential, but the mediocre writing, the atrocious acting and the boggy sound makes this 66-minute film, unlike For My Wife ..., is near unwatchable.

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HE PUPPIES WERE IN RESIDENCE that weekend, which meant the rest of us gorged on calorie-free eye candy, since the boys were untouchable. The best we could do was smell them.

Robbie had a distinct personal funk that shifted a little from day to day: top notes of salt water with middle notes of two rank men — Robbie and the previous night’s trick. Kyle, on the other hand, always smelled faintly of Dr. Bronner’s peppermint soap, which blended with his naturally sweet disposition to create aromatically the ideal playmate, soulmate, best friend, husband and ultimately survivor, weeping over the grave even as he inherits the fortune. I had a major crush on him.

CNN’s prepster-geek reporter Jack Fogg showed up, too, along with his glorious boyfriend, Sammy.

Dan came straight from the airport (conference in Cleveland) in a stressed, must-be-medicated state.

And with the angel of cocktail creation smiling upon us, it was Craig’s weekend as well.

If you found yourself in a Tarantinodesigned slaughterhouse with a large enough beam balance, you could hang Craig on one hook and the rest of us on the opposite end, and Craig would still remain on the ground.

Not really, but in the Pines, Craig felt like (and frankly looked like) a mastodon. But he adored the beach and loved our house, so he braved the stares and not-even-stifled laughs of skinny, giggling twinkies who didn’t have a quarter of Craig’s wit. He dismissed them Bugs Bunny-style as “maroons.”

We were all in the living room late on Saturday afternoon when Craig, as though by instinct, launched into one of his routines: a frightfully accurate imitation of a certain glamorous 1950s song belter. He ran through bits from It’s Always Fair Weather and Kismet, and even the song she sings (uncredited) in Bette Davis’s Mr. Skeffington. I was, as usual, enthralled and applauded at the end; Dan grinned with joy. Craig’s Dolores Gray was phenomenal. He even claims to have coached Lypsinka.

Jack and Sammy were polite but clueless.

Kyle said, with wide-eyed wonder, “Wow! You’re really good! Who was that? She’s amazing!”

At which point Robbie stood up, stretched dramatically to show off his chili-red treasure trail, and announced, “Why do bitter queens love clownish women from old movies nobody else cares about? I’m too young for this.

I won’t be back for dinner.” And out the door he strolled.

“Asshole,” said Kyle.

Dan seethed. Jack and Sammy kept their mouths shut; they probably agreed with Robbie but were too polite to say it. I was offended across the board — for Craig, for old movies, for the late Dolores Gray — and was paralyzed with outrage. “Robbie’s hot,” Sammy observed. Jack threw a pillow at him.

“Eureka!” Craig declared. “I have just invented a cocktail to celebrate the revelation that Robbie is an agent of Satan. I always thought there was something suspicious about that flaming red hair. Gents? Who would like a Bitter Queen?”

“What goes into a bitter queen?” Kyle asked innocently.

“Nothing! That’s the problem!” Craig batted back.

Here’s Craig’s incredibly simple and quite delicious recipe. We collectively added the descriptive details during a slightly sodden dinner:

‘I have just invented a cocktail to celebrate the revelation that Robbie is an agent of Satan’

The Bitter Queen Take last night’s martini glass with the dregs still in it, and toss the dregs in the sink.

Don’t rinse out the glass. Add a bit too much Jameson Irish Whiskey and three or four dashes of Angostura Bitters. Plunk a single, pathetic ice cube into the glass. For the full effect, drink it alone.

Variation: “The Bitter Old Queen”: use Jameson 12-year Special Reserve. Q

Ed Sikov is the author of Dark Victory; The Life of Bette Davis and other books about films and filmmakers.

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On a Saturday night, deciding where to go can be quite a production — Babylon, Edge, JAM, The Trapp, Try-Angles, Studio 27?

So many decisions, and honestly they are all great in their own way. But still, some are struggling.Basically, I Friday night is truly dominated by two establishments. And for the most part, other lounges, clubs and bars seem fine with that, yet they fight for top slot on Saturday night. This is evident in Babylon’s recent advertising of “Legendary Saturdays” marketing a once-great past and promoting a bright future. So Saturday is the new fighting ground.

It comes down to preference and honestly, where the friends are. Does the group want to travel north from south and pay for parking and wait in lines, or quickly get off the freeway, park and walk right in where a drink is inevitably waiting? It’s hard to tell for sure, but it seems that convenience is truly where the success is coming from.

I say, go off the beaten path and explore new bars and clubs.

Try out Studio 27 and watch their drag shows from the comfort of an exotic environment. Go to The Trapp and enjoy a back patio experience with a cocktail in a jar. Dance the night away at Edge (or people-watch, your choice).

Regardless of what you do, only we, the “consumers” can change trends. Now, do the trends need to be changed? No, but it would be nice if somehow the distribution could become even across a weekend so all the establishments supporting us are supported back. Just food for thought.

Anyway, here are some things to look forward to: U of U Pride Week (oh the college boys, how they stir things up), World AIDS Day and (I may be jumping the gun here) Sundance Film Festival!

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T MAY HAVE NOTHING TO do with going out on a Friday night, but the Q Business Alliance will surely never let anyone down in refreshments and connections. This network for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender business owners is up and running. With so many gay-owned corporations, small businesses, sole proprietorships and independent agents, its monthly events are sure to be worth marking on your calendar.

Membership in the alliance includes monthly breakfasts, after work socials, service guide ads, online exposure through QSaltLake.com, newsletters, swag bags and much more. Please don’t hesitate to look for more information at QSaltLake.com/QBA. Now, on to Salt Lake City’s nightlife. Lately, I have gone out much more than the average individual, and surprisingly the usual hangout spots are flourishing whereas new up-and-comers are struggling a bit to gain headway. Our thirst for social networking and throwing back a few cocktails with friends and foes hasn’t diminished, so why the lack in popularity?

Püre, as usual, does seem to be the populated place on Friday nights. But the issue is, they are populated around midnight, and that is frankly past my bedtime. Why is this? Can we as a community not make it to a large club before p.m. turns to a.m.?

As I previously mentioned, JAM continues to be the go-to place for starting an evening whether it be a Thursday, Saturday or a Friday. The change, however, is people are staying at JAM later and later and the urge to party-hop is lowering in popularity with the number of DUIs going up and temperatures coming down.

Thus, JAM continues to reign supreme in being consistent, accommodating and frankly the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender “Cheers” of Salt Lake.

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Choosy About a Jacuzzi Across

1 Christmas threesome 5 Opening for guys that cruise 10 Nemesis of Tinkerbell 14 One side of Ed Wood 15 Honolulu hello 16 Gallup specialty 17 Hairspray composer Shaiman 18 Give in kind 19 The 411 20 Start of a Jacuzzi ad 23 Sees eye to eye 25 TV host Steve 28 The Cat in the Hat author 29 Pampering, briefly 32 Where fruits hang around 33 Abe Lincoln’s boy 34 Summer tops 37 Breakfast on Pluto actor Stephen 38 General vicinity 40 Cut 41 Catch sight of 42 More of the ad 45 Hacienda room 47 Anka’s “___ Beso”

48 Brief moments of lovemaking?

51 Hard-hitting Giant of legend 53 Put bubbles in 55 End of the ad 59 Trick’s Spelling 60 Like Diana 61 Ass attachment?

62 Julia Roberts’ Brockovich 63 Edwin of Reagan’s Cabinet 64 De Matteo of Desperate Housewives 65 Performed like Rufus Wainwright 66 Kind of statesman 67 Put into piles Down

1 The Wizard of Oz studio 2 Chicken-king link 3 Autobiographer of Alice 4 Measure of manhood 5 Long-eared leapers 6 Position at sea 7 Lovers that you can’t get over 8 Rupert Everett’s fellow 9 Frida star Salma 10 Kiss of the ___ Woman 11 McKellen movie Gods and ___

12 Subordinate Claus 13 “Can’t Get It Out of My Head” band 21 Silence for Saint-Saens 22 Experts in CPR 23 Hammett hound 24 First, second or reverse 26 Hold onto 27 Key opening 29 Main idea 30 Days of Our ___ 31 Belief summary 35 Direction away from NNE 36 Bi plus one 39 Letting 41 Green stones 43 Solemn vow 44 Objectifies, sexually 45 Frida Kahlo’s woman 46 Astronaut Buzz 49 Flashy wheels 50 Ogler in a gay bar, perhaps 51 Significant others 52 “The Velvet Fog” 53 One who graced the TV screen?

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Utah has a vibrant gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender community with many organizations for nearly any activity or interest you may have. Try these organizations out. For corrections or additions, please email editor@qsaltlake.com

BUSINESS & PROFESSIONAL

POLITICAL

Aetna ANGLE

American Civil Liberties Union

* HuntR@Aetna.com . . 801-256-7137

Armed Forces Support . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 801-581-7890

LGBTQ-Affirmative Psychotherapists Guild of Utah A professional group for mental-health providers. We meet monthly to network, educate ourselves, and improve the counseling services of LGBTQ individuals. www.lgbtqtherapists.com

National Organization for Women PO Box 57816, Murray . . 801-268-0363

Pride at Work, Utah . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 801-531-6137

Q Business Alliance A guild of business owners, professionals, entrepreneurs and nonprofit organizations that holds social events on the first Friday of the month and business breakfasts on the third Friday of the month. qsaltlake.com/qba. . . . . . 801-649-6663

Salt Lake County Gay, Lesbian and Bisexual Employees * jdonchess@slco.org . 801-273-6280

HEALTH & HIV Hermanos de Luna y Sol * arman@utahAIDS.org 1408 S 1100 E . . . . . . . . . 801-487-2323

MediCruiser  medicruiser.com Gay, lesbian, transgender friendly staff and providers. Low cost, high quality Medical Care. Testosterone & hormone therapy, HIV/STD, weight management, addiction treatment 1850 S 300 W, Ste A . . . . 801-484-5504

No. Utah HIV/AIDS Project Walk-Ins Welcome.

Every other Monday 5–7pm 536 24th St, Ste 2B, Ogden .801-393-4153

People with AIDS Coalition of Utah  pwacu.org 358 S 300 E . . . . . . . . . . . 801-484-2205

Planned Parenthood 654 S 900 E . . . . . . . . . . . .800-230-PLAN

 acluutah.org * aclu@acluutah.org . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 801-521-9862

Disability Law Center

* info@disabilitylawcenter.org 205 N 400 W . . . . . . . . . . 800-662-9080

Equality Utah

 equalityutah.org * info@equalityutah.org Working for a fair & just Utah 175 W 200 S, Ste 3001 . . 801-355-3479

Human Rights Campaign, Utah  hrcutah.org * HRCSaltLakeUT@aol.com

Log Cabin Republicans, Utah  logcabinutah.org * ut@logcabin.org

Utah Stonewall Democrats

 utahstonewalldemocrats.org 455 S 300 E, Ste 301 . . . 801-328-1212 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 801-532-5330

RELIGIOUS & SPIRITUAL Affirmation Salt Lake

 affirmation.org/saltlake Serves the needs of gay Mormon women and men, as well as bisexual and transgender LDS and their supportive family and friends, through social and educational activities. . . . 801-486-6977

Bountiful Community Church

 bountifulucc.org * regal66@yahoo.com 150 N 400 E, Btfl . . . . . . . 801-295-9439

Cache Valley Unitarian Universalists 596 E 900 N, Logan . . . . . .435-755-2888

Christ United Methodist

 christumcutah.net 2375 E 3300 S . . . . . . . . . 801-486-5473

First Baptist Church of SLC

 firstbaptist-slc.org * office@firstbaptist-slc.org Jesus didn’t discriminate and neither do we. Please join us.

777 S 1300 E . . . . . . . . . . 801-582-4921

HOMELESS SERVICES Center for Women and Children . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 801-261-9177

Homeless Youth Resource Center Youth ages 15-21.

655 S State St . . . . . . . . . 801-364-0744

The Road Home  theroadhome.org 210 Rio Grande St . . . . . . 801-359-4142 YWCA 322 E 300 S . . . . . . . . . . . 801-537-8600

Salt Lake Center for Spiritual Living 1111 Brickyard Rd Ste 202 . 801-307-0481

St. Paul’s Episcopal Church 261 S 900 E . . . . . . . . . . . 801-322-5869 South Valley Unitarian Universalist Society  svuus.org * svuus@xmission.com An intentionally diverse religious community. You are welcome here, no matter your age, race, gender, sexual orientation, or gender identity. South Valley is the place where U can be U. 6876 S Highland Dr . . . . . . .801-944-9723

Unitarian Universalist Church Ogden 705 23rd St, Ogden . . . . . 801-394-3338

Wasatch Presbyterian Church  www.wpcslc.org No matter who or where you are on your journey of faith, in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ – you are welcome at Wasatch Presbyterian Church. Ours is a community committed to the nurture of Christian faith through worship, learning and service – and we hope to share our enthusiasm and care with you.

1626 S 1700 E . . . . . . . . . 801-487-7576

SOCIAL Alternative Garden Club  altgardenclub.org Meets 1st Weds at 7:30PM in Sugar House Park Garden Club Building

Bisexual Community Forum . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .801-539-8800 ext 14 Meets the 2nd Thurs each month at 7pm in the Multi-purpose room at the Center.

Engendered Species  es-transgender.com * deborahthai@yahoo.com . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 801-320-0551

Gamofites  gamofites.org . . . . . . . 801-444-3602

Gay Latter-day Saints  gaylds.net

Holladay United Church of Christ

 utahaids.org * mail@utahaids.org 1408 S 1100 E . . . . . . . . . 801-487-2323

823 S 600 E . . . . . . . . . . . .801-595-0052

Imperial Rainbow Court of Northern Utah

 slvhealth.org/hiv/ 610 S 200 E . . . . . . . . . . . 801-534-4666

Utah AIDS Foundation

Sacred Light of Christ

Gay and Lesbian Parents of Utah

* slcuu.org 569 S 1300 E . . . . . . . . . 801-582-8687

Salt Lake Valley Health Dept. — HIV/ STD Clinic

 uuhsc.utah.edu/dfpm 375 Chipeta Way, Ste A . . 801-581-7234

2900 S State St . . . . . . . . . .801-359-1151

First Unitarian Church

Glory to God Community Church

University of Utah Department of Family and Preventative Medicine

Restoration Church of Jesus Christ

375 Harrison Blvd, Ogden .801-394-0204 2631 E Murray-Holladay Rd 801-277-2631

* glpu@hotmail.com

 irconu.org PO Box 3131, Ogden, UT 84409 Kindly Gifts by Stitch & Bitch . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 801-487-7008

Ogden OUTreach Resource Center

Inner Light Center

 ogdenoutreach.org 705 23rd Street . . . . . . . . .801-686-4528

Integrity/Utah

Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians & Gays

4408 S 500 E . . . . . . . . . . . . 801-268-1137 * innerlightcenter.net St. James Church . . . . . . . 801-566-1311

LDS Reconciliation

 ldsreconciliation.org Activity Info Line. . . . . . . . 801-296-4797

Provo Community United Church of Christ

175 N University Ave, Provo 801-375-9115

Queer Spirit

* info@queerspirit.org Men loving men, gathering together in loving and intimate ways to explore, dialog, enjoy, dream and celebrate the “who” and “what” we are in the broader community through weekend retreats, vision quests, monthly gatherings . . . . . . . 801-557-9203

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 pflag.org Ogden: 3rd Thursday, 705 E 23rd St * ogdenpflag@q.com SLC: 1233 S 1000 E . . . . . 801-244-6423 * slcpflag@gmail.com St. George: 823 Harrison * pflagsaintgeorge@gmail.com

Queer Village  queervillage.blogspot.com

Queereads  twitter.com/queereads Book club hosted by Sam Weller’s Bookstore and co-sponsored by the Utah Pride Center that discusses queer literature.

254 S Main St . . . . . . . . . 801-328-2586

qVinum Gay & Lesbian Wine Tasting Qroup  www.qvinum.com Fun and fabulous wine tasting club for gay and lesbian and other fabulous wine lovers. Monthly wine tastings at members’ homes. Join us – bring the wine of the month or some delicious yummy. Mix, mingle, slurp – but don’t spit. We’re not that kind of group.

Rainbow Classic Car Club Don R. Austin . . . . . . . . . . 801-485-9225

ROTC-SLC  rotcslc.com * rotcslc@yahoo.com ROTC-Salt Lake City is a performancebased organization, centered in the lesbian and gay community. Men and women, straight and gay, we come together to form a modern-day color guard. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 801-261-3694

Royal Court of the Golden Spike Empire  rcgse.org * chairman@rcgse.org SimplySocial  simply-social.org A group of gay men dedicated to building a vibrant community through friendship.

Southern Utah GLBT Community Center * suglbtcc@yahoo.com . 435-313-GLBT  groups.yahoo.com/groups/suglbtcc

Southern Utah Pride  southernutahpride.org

Strength In Numbers(Sin) SL  groups.yahoo.com/group/SINSaltLake A social network for gay men living with HIV and AIDS.

sWerve  swerveutah.com

UTAH BEAR ALLIANCE  utahbears.com * info@utahbears.com Social/service group for Bears, Cubs and their admirers. Check the web site for a calendar of our activities

Utah Families Coalition * admin@utahfamilies.org . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 801-539-8800 Ext. 23

Utah Male Naturists  www.umen.org A social group for gay, bisexual and gaypositive men that holds nonsexual naked social and recreational events, including pool/hottub parties, cocktail parties, potlucks, movie nights and overnight campouts throughout the year. Guests are welcome at most events.

Utah Polyamory Society . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 801-309-7240  groups.yahoo.com/group/ UtahPolyamorySociety 1st Friday of the month, 6:30pm, Utah Pride Center, 4th Sunday of the month at Grounds for Coffee/Clrfld

Utah Pride Center  utahpridecenter.org * thecenter@utahpridecenter.org Community Events • Lending Library • Assembly Room • Support Groups • Resource & Referral • Utah Pride Organizers • Youth Activity Center 361 N 300 W . . . . . . . . . . 801-539-8800 Toll-free . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 888-874-2743

Utah Queer Events  groups.yahoo.com/group/ UtahQueerEvents

Western Transsexual Support Group . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 435-882-8136

SPORTS Frontrunners Utah. . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

University of Utah Lesbian & Gay Student Union

Lambda Hiking Club  gayhike.org

University of Utah LGBT Resource Center

801-519-8889

Mountain West Basketball League

angst2008@gmail.com . . .801-598-3844

Mountain West Flag Football League

 mwffl.org . . . . . . . . . . 801-359-2544

Mountain West Volleyball League

 slcgaa.org . . . . . . . . . . 773-301-5343

Northern Utah Women ROC

 groups.yahoo.com/group/ OgdenOutdoorWomen Social organization of lesbian and straight women interested in walking, camping, festivals, cook outs, shows, skiing and creative workshops.

Pride Community Softball League

 prideleague.com * pcsl@prideleague.com . . . . . . . . . . . .

801-539-8800 Ext 21

Salt Lake City Gay Athletic Association  slcgaa.org

QUAC – QUEER UTAH AQUATIC

 quacquac.org * questions@ quacquac.org Utah’s gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender and straight swimming team. All swimmers of any skill level welcome. See web site for swim schedule . . . . . . . . . 801-232-7961

Salt Lake Goodtimes Bowling League

 saltlakegoodtimes.com Sundays starting in August 801-832-9745

 utah.edu/lgsu/

 sa.utah.edu/lgbt 200 S Central Campus Dr, Rm 409 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 801-587-7973

University of Utah Women’s Resource Center

 sa.utah.edu/women 200 S Central Campus Dr, Rm 411 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 801-581-8030

Utah State University Pride Alliance  groups.yahoo.com/group/usupride/

Utah State University Gay and Lesbian Student Resource Center

(GLSRC) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 435-797-4297  usu.edu/glsrc * usuglsrc@yahoo.com

Utah Valley State College Gay Straight Alliance  uvsc.edu/clubs/club.cfm?clubID=251  groups.yahoo.com/group/uvscgsa

Weber State University Gay Straight Alliance  organizations.weber.edu/dlsu/  groups.yahoo.com/group/WeberDLSU * WeberDLSU@yahoo.com

YOUTH Homeless Youth Resource Center

Youth ages 15-21.

655 S State St . . . . . . . . . 801-364-0744

Ski Out Utah  skioututah.com

Gay LDS Young Adults  glya.com

Stonewall Shooting Sports of Utah

TINT (Tolerant Intelligent Network of Teens)

 stonewallshootingsportsutah.org

Utah Gay and Lesbian Ski Week

communityvisions.org . . . .877-429-6368

Utah Gay Men’s Tennis Group groups.yahoo.com/group/ utahgaymenstennis

Utah Gay Mountain Bike Riders groups.yahoo.com/group/ utahgaymtnbike

UNIVERSITY & COLLEGE Delta Lambda Sappho Union

Weber State Univ. . . . . . . . .801-627-1639

Gay and at BYU

 groups.yahoo.com/group/ gayandatBYU/ Gay-Straight Alliance Network  gsanetwork.org/

Salt Lake Community College Coloring Outside the Lines . . . . . . .801-957-4562 * coloring_outside_lines@yahoo.com

Southern Utah University Pride  suu.edu/orgs/pride/

The Utah Pride Center’s youth activity center provides a safe place for people ages 14-20 regardless of race, ethnicity, physical ability, religion, gender identity or expression, sexual orientation or identity.

It provides social and support groups for GLBTQ youth and offers food, a big screen TV, video games, computers, a library, a pool table, and much more! Drop-in hours: Tuesday thru Friday 3pm-9pm, Saturday 5pm-9pm 355 N 300 W . . . . . . .801-539-8800 x14

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Salt Lake City’s gay and lesbian softball league, the Pride League, ended their regular season summer play, crowning a division champion for each division and a champion for the annual end-of-year tournament.

Division champions are determined by the win-loss record played during the year. In the

Pride League’s Olympus division, Bonwood Bowl won the very competitive title, with the Softball Heroes winning the Wasatch division, and Pride Counseling winning the Oquirrh division.

Wasatch Heating and Air won the end-of-year overall softball tournament.

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By A.E. Storm

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ANCE AND I BROKE UP just six months and nine days after meeting each other at a “set-up” St. Patrick’s Day dinner at our mutual friends’ (Geoff and Gregory) home. I knew in the back of my mind, though, that our relationship wouldn’t last; I was skeptical from the beginning, mostly because he was six years younger than me. And though I tend to date younger men, I’m skeptical of dating someone more than five years my junior ... yes, I can be that kooky. But Vance also seemed to me to be lackadaisical and uninspired, which had worried me some too.

Skepticism in the worlds of love and relationships is a real buzz-kill, if you ask me; yet, I continually invite in skepticism to sabotage the happiness that I also claim to myself that I deserve. It’s like running in circles intoxicated with a double-edged sword.

For instance, several years ago I had met this really nice guy with a smile so big and perfect that when you saw it, the effect was like lounging in a hammock on a cool, breezy, summer day. However, we had only gone out on four dates because by the second one, he had told me he was bisexual, married to a woman and was interested in having a threesome with her and me. I instantly became skeptical about the outcome of such an encounter ... well, with a woman — I’ve had a foursome with men before, so I’m not as much of a prude as all of my friends think I am. But the thought of being with another woman, especially after how the first time turned out, I found his request to be an indecent proposal, even without the money.

Then, a short time later I met another bisex-

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ual — one without a wife — who I learned had been recently arrested on a TRAX car for accosting a woman, which had finally rooted my first impression that he was a schizophrenic, and of course had had made me feeling skeptical about living a long life. So obviously that relationship didn’t last long either.

The break-up with Vance, though, was more personal, and therefore, more uncomfortable than the others I had been through when I was a mere youngster and had only used the Pony Express to break up. Then, as I matured, I’d call and leave a to-the-point voice message, but only when I absolutely knew he wouldn’t answer; and then as technology matured I started sending a one-line text message, “I can’t see you anymore!”

But this last time I was much more adult and did the break-up face-to-face. “Vance,” I had said to him more than six months ago in my loft’s galley kitchen over coffee, “you’re inconsiderate of my things, you don’t pick up after yourself, you haven’t had a job in three months and you have a creepy preoccupation with your penis.” I waited for a response or at least an apology. “Do you see how this isn’t going to work out?” I asked in a Freudian manner when I got neither. Then I immediately excused myself, went into the bathroom and puked ... I miss the days of the Pony Express!

When I returned, he babbled some nonsense about I’d eventually miss him and would end up going back to him. What a schmuck. Then I drove him home because the bastard doesn’t have a car and, well, I do have some semblance of a heart. When we arrived at his apartment we had one of those awkward parting hugs, and as I watched him

walk to his door, I felt mildly despondent.

Forty years old and single again.

So, just six months and thirteen days after meeting and breaking up with Vance, I apparently jumped back on the proverbial bisexual train ... though the guy I met hasn’t claimed himself to be bisexual. I considered the possibility that he was an animate incarnation of the mythical fag stag because he openly admits to dating women, loving women, but also loves hanging out with gay men, and does so on a regular basis. He and I have also hit a couple of bases (it’s felt awkward, like done in full catcher’s gear) since we met, but my history dictates I’m not discriminatory.

Now, I haven’t actually seen Mr. Fag Stag with a woman, but the photo he carries in his wallet indicates he had been married and bore two children ... that’s pretty straightforward. Then again, there are so very many men who have been married and had children, and then come out of the closet later in life. So, maybe Mr. Fag Stag is still finding his way out

of a deep, military-like, walk-in closet, where organization and conformity are crucial, to the point of enfeebling self identity.

Whether Mr. Fag Stag is an actual human life form or he’s just in denial, I am skeptical that building any kind of relationship with him will be to my benefit. I can continue to accept him as a cock tease, waiting for him to come out of that deep, methodical closet, meanwhile missing the perfect opportunity to meet the “man of my dreams.” I can continue to be his friend, hoping for more, but knowing, on one or more levels, that I am being used. In a way though, Vance had been using me for six months and nine days; taking advantage of my hospitality, my kindness, my wanton need to please people. (Although, that last one may be completely on me!)

It’s only been four days with Mr. Fag Stag.

I mean I could give him at least a month or two, see how things play out. But the minute he suggests a threesome with a woman, I’m breaking up with him on his Facebook Wall. Q

‘You have a creepy preoccupation with your penis’

Cryptogram: I am here to be a voice for my generation, not the generation of the senators who are voting, but for the youth of this country.

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