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NATIONAL NEWS

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BY REX WOCKNER

LGBT National Election Wrapup

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It is disheartening to me that there is such a discrepancy between what is not even an issue anymore in the scientific community and this obvious ambiguity in public opinion.”

—University of Utah psychology professor Lisa Diamond, talking to The Salt Lake Tribune about the newspaper’s poll that found 44 percent of Utahns believe sexual orientation can be changed.

There was all kinds of LGBT news on election night. Of course, the Democrats lost their majority in the U.S. House of Representatives, which is bad news for efforts to pass the gay legislation that President Barack Obama promised us.

The Democrats maintain a small majority in the U.S. Senate.

IOWA JUSTICES OUSTED The biggest LGBT news of the night happened in Iowa. Heavily funded by the gay archnemesis National Organization for Marriage, conservative forces managed to persuade voters not to “retain” three state Supreme Court justices who were up for a retention vote. NOM specifically wanted to punish the justices for their 7-0 ruling that legalized same-sex marriage in Iowa. The other four justices did not face a vote this year.

“The result in Iowa shines a light on a dangerous agenda to undermine the democratic system of checks and balances that has served us well for over 200 years,” said Lambda Legal Executive Director Kevin Cathcart. “If an embattled judiciary were to lose its ability to protect our laws and Constitution with impartiality, that would be a tragic loss for our country. We can’t let that happen.”

In a message to LGBT Iowans, Carolyn Jenison, executive director of One Iowa, which led the campaign to save the judges, said right-wing forces will be emboldened by their success.

“In this election, three of the courageous justices who recognized the freedom to marry in Iowa fell victim to a perfect storm of electoral discontent and out-of-state specialinterest money,” she said. “In addition, many of our pro-equality allies from Gov. Culver to Statehouse candidates lost their seats due to an anti-incumbent mood that swept the nation. ... While the full implications of these election results remain to be seen, one thing remains the same. The freedom to marry in Iowa remains intact. In the months and weeks ahead we can expect renewed attempts to overturn the freedom to marry and write discrimination into the Iowa Constitution. It will take a concerted and collective effort on the part of pro-equality Iowans to respond to these attacks and defend our liberties.”

The three fired justices — Chief Justice Marsha Ternus, Associate Justice Michael Streit and Associate Justice David Baker — issued a statement which said, in part: “We wish to thank all of the Iowans who voted to retain us for another term. Your support shows that many Iowans value fair and impartial courts. We also want to acknowledge and thank all the Iowans, from across the political spectrum and from different walks of life, who worked tirelessly over the past few months to defend Iowa’s high-caliber court system against an unprecedented attack by out-of-state special interest groups. Finally,

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Openly gay David Cicilline (center) with campaign manager Eric Hyers and Victory Fund CEO Chuck Wolfe. was elected to a U.S. House seat from Rhode Island we hope Iowans will continue to support Iowa’s merit selection system for appointing judges. This system helps ensure that judges base their decisions on the law and the Constitution and nothing else. Ultimately, however, the preservation of our state’s fair and impartial courts will require more than the integrity and fortitude of individual judges, it will require the steadfast support of the people.”

According to the Human Rights Campaign, NOM spent $600,000 on TV ads to unseat the Iowa judges and conducted a bus tour that visited 45 counties.

“By their own admission, NOM’s Iowa strategy was about sending a warning shot to judges nationwide,” said HRC President Joe Solmonese. “NOM and its secret donors will continue to target judges around the country if they rule in favor of marriage equality and will foster an anti-gay, hostile environment in the process.”

Courage Campaign Chairman Rick Jacobs added: “Having seen its extremist agenda increasingly rejected by the courts and the American people, it is telling that NOM has now settled on a strategy of evading tax and election laws and trying to intimidate judges. These are the tactics one might expect from Al Capone, not a credible political organization.”

OTHER ELECTION NIGHT NEWS Gay U.S. Rep. Barney Frank was re-elected in Massachusetts, lesbian U.S. Rep. Tammy Baldwin was re-elected in Wisconsin, gay U.S. Rep. Jared Polis was re-elected in Colorado, and openly gay candidate David Cicilline was elected to a U.S. House seat from Rhode Island.

Rep. Patrick Murphy of Pennsylvania, who led the successful effort in the U.S. House to authorize repeal of Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell, lost his re-election bid.

A gay man, Jim Gray, was elected mayor of Lexington, Ky. Marcus Brandon, who is gay and black, was elected to the North Carolina House. Victoria Kolakowski was elected

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as a Superior Court judge in Alameda County, Calif., becoming America’s first openly transgender judge. Kolakowski is married to Cynthia Laird, news editor of the San Francisco gay newspaper Bay Area Reporter.

In all, 106 of the 164 candidates endorsed by the Gay and Lesbian Victory Fund won their races. Openly gay Steve Pougnet failed to snatch away Mary Bono Mack’s congressional seat in Palm Springs, Calif.

Jerry Brown was elected governor of California. At press time, Kamala Harris had lost her edge in the still-undecided race for California attorney general. But hundreds of thousands of mail-in and provisional ballots reportedly remain to be counted. Unlike their GOP opponents, Brown and Harris have vowed to continue to refuse to defend Proposition 8 in the ongoing federal lawsuit against the state’s constitutional ban on same-sex marriage.

Pro-gay-marriage Mayor Gavin Newsom of San Francisco was elected California lieutenant governor. Key anti-gay-marriage activist Andy Pugno failed in his bid for the state Assembly. Three more gay people were elected to the California Legislature — Rich Gordon, Ricardo Lara and Toni Atkins. They join Assembly Speaker John Perez, Assemblymember Tom Ammiano, and Sens. Mark Leno and Christine Kehoe to create the largest LGBT caucus in any state legislature.

California voters refused to legalize marijuana by a vote of 53.9 percent to 46.1 percent.

In a statement, the Human Rights Campaign said: “The loss of the (U.S.) House of Representatives to an anti-equality leadership, along with the loss of some fair-minded senators, will certainly impede federal legislative efforts. ...

The loss of the House to anti-equality leaders is a serious blow to the LGBT community. The presumptive leadership team of Reps.

Boehner, Cantor and Pence all score zeros on the HRC scorecard and many soon-to-be committee chairs have long anti-LGBT records.”

[T]his is too controversial of an issue, and we should focus on education, not experimenting with social policy just because the city and county are.”

—Salt Lake City School Board member Alma Uluave, on adding gender identity to the district’s anti-discrimination policy in a Nov. 3 meeting, as quoted by PRIDE in Utah

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Research shows gender nonconforming or social nonconforming children are most at risk. School should be a safe place for all children. These steps must begin at the district level, which provides foundational steps which are age appropriate and can be continued through school education. This is not only good business, but establishes a situation where all are safe and welcome.”

—Salt Lake PFLAG President Kathy Godwin at the same meeting

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I think it’s outside the bounds of our community. I think somebody has to have the guts to stand up and say no.”

—Unsuccessful Washington County School District Board of Education candidate Larry LeBaron, talking to The Spectrum about the district’s new gay-straight alliances

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There is no excuse for this barbaric behavior; bullying has no place in Utah schools.”

—The Salt Lake Tribune editorial against bullying

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We will now fight for a vote on a constitutional amendment and a repeal of same-sex marriage in New Hampshire. And we look forward to the legislature overriding any veto that [state Gov.] John Lynch might attempt.”

—Brian Brown, president of anti-gay group the National Organization for Marriage

9th Circuit Extends Life of DADT; Gay GOP Appeal to Supremes The 9th U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals extended the life of the military’s Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell gay ban Nov. 1.

A court panel, in a 2-1 vote, granted the U.S. government’s request for a stay of a district-court injunction that blocked the government from enforcing the policy.

Four days later, plaintiff Log Cabin Republicans appealed the stay to the U.S. Supreme Court, which has yet to rule on the matter.

U.S. District Judge Virginia Phillips in Riverside, Calif., issued the injunction Oct. 12 after she ruled that DADT violates the U.S. Constitution’s guarantees of free speech, due process and right to petition for redress of grievances.

Her injunction remained in place until Oct. 20, when the 9th Circuit issued a brief stay while it decided whether to issue a longer stay, which it now has done. The new stay will last for the duration of the government’s appeal of Phillips’ full ruling unless the Supreme Court vacates the stay.

During the eight days that Phillips’ injunction was in force, the military stopped kicking gays and lesbians out of the services and began letting them re-enlist.

The Obama administration’s insistence on appealing Phillips’ DADT strikedown has been highly irritating to gay activists, given that the president says he strongly opposes DADT. Obama, however, says the policy needs to be ended by Congress, which created it, not the courts.

The administration also has argued that the Justice Department has an obligation to defend federal laws that are challenged, and that DADT should not be ended abruptly because that will disrupt and harm military operations.

In defending the stay, the two 9th Circuit judges in the majority said that acts of Congress “are presumptively constitutional,” that “judicial deference” is at its highest level when Congress legislates on military matters, and that Phillips’ ruling was “arguably at odds with the decisions of at least four other Circuit Courts of Appeal.”

“We conclude that the government’s colorable allegations that the lack of an orderly transition in policy will produce immediate harm and precipitous injury are convincing,” the court wrote. “We also conclude that the public interest in ensuring orderly change of this magnitude in the military — if that is what is to happen — strongly militates in favor of a stay. Furthermore, if the administration is successful in persuading Congress to eliminate (DADT) this case and controversy will become moot.”

Judges Diarmuid O’Scannlain and Stephen Trott voted to extend the stay. Judge William Fletcher voted to keep Phillips’ in-

junction in force only insofar as it prohibited the military from discharging members under the DADT policy.

Fletcher would not have required the forces “to change their recruiting practices, to change their personnel manuals, or, subject only to the requirement that they not actually discharge anyone, otherwise to change their practices.”

On Nov. 5, Log Cabin asked the U.S. Supreme Court to vacate the 9th Circuit’s order staying Phillips’ injunction.

“The court’s ruling is a disappointment not only to us, but also to all homosexual servicemembers who bravely put themselves in harm’s way so that we can all enjoy the constitutional rights and freedoms that they themselves are being denied,” said Dan Woods, Log Cabin’s attorney.

“The 9th Circuit order was arbitrary and an abuse of discretion and should be vacated immediately.”

LCR Executive Director R. Clarke Cooper commented: “Log Cabin Republicans is disappointed that Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell will continue to burden our armed forces, undermine national security and limit the freedom of our men and women in uniform. ... (W)e urge President Obama to use his statutory stop-loss power to halt discharges under this discriminatory and wasteful policy. The president claims to want to see Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell ended. It is time that he stop talking and start working to make a real difference for gay and lesbian Americans by pushing for repeal when Congress returns.”

Servicemembers Legal Defense Network Executive Director Aubrey Sarvis called the stay “a major disappointment” and said “it underscores the urgent need for the Senate to act this month in the lame-duck session to end this confusion and bring about the finality that is needed.”

Earlier this year the U.S. House of Representatives voted to authorize the Pentagon to end Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell. The U.S. Senate, however, failed to vote in favor of authorization in the face of a filibuster by Sen. John McCain, R-Ariz.

“Today’s ruling means additional months or even years of needless suffering by lesbian, gay and bisexual service members, who must continue to live in fear of discovery until the appeals process is complete or until Congress or the president steps up to the plate,” said Lambda Legal’s staff attorney Peter Renn. “The pressure is now on Congress to repeal this fundamentally un-American law and on the president, who can issue a stop-loss order to put an immediate end to discharges under Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell.”

Human Rights Campaign President Joe Solmonese expressed exasperation.

“For the good of our national security, the endless legal wrangling and political posturing has to stop,” he said. “This is the year for the president to lead and for Congress to clean up the mess it made when it enacted this discriminatory and unconstitutional law nearly two decades ago.”

Servicemembers United Executive Director Alexander Nicholson accused the government of lying to the court.

“It is really unfortunate that the government has tricked the 9th Circuit into believing that ‘enormous consequences,’ ‘immediate harm’ and ‘irreparable injury’ will result from a continuation of the injunction,” Nicholson said. “By the government’s own admission elsewhere, none of these predicted consequences or injuries have come to pass while the law has been enjoined, and the Defense Department has even voluntarily created a de facto moratorium on discharges by further increas-

ing the level of discharge authority. It is concerning that the government can so blatantly pull one over on an appeals court, and it is equally frustrating that such a distinguished court would allow itself to be fooled so obviously and so publicly in the name of ‘deference.’ Abdication is more like it.”

On Oct. 21, Defense Secretary Robert Gates issued a new directive severely restricting who can OK a DADT discharge.

From now on, only a three-person team consisting of Pentagon General Counsel Jeh Johnson, Undersecretary for Personnel Clifford Stanley and the secretary of the Army, the Navy or the Air Force can decide to fire a gay or lesbian servicemember.

Some news reports interpreted the directive as a de facto moratorium on DADT discharges, and no GLB servicemembers have been fired under the ban since then.

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Gains and Losses in the 2010 Midterm Elections Months before Nov. 2, pundits and politicians predicted that this year’s midterm election would be an upheaval, resulting in a nationwide flip from 2008’s blue back to red as the recession sputters on and the Tea Party movement’s influence continues to grow. Although the change was not as drastic as some predictions maintained, its impact was felt across the nation, and even in Utah, the most Republican of all states.

While Democrats maintain their control of the U.S. Senate, Republicans gained control of the House, with 239 seats to Democrats’ 188. As part of the shake up, Utah Senator Jason Chaffetz may become chairperson of the Federal Workforce, Postal Service, and the District of Columbia Subcommittee of the House Oversight and Government Reform Committee, on which he now serves. This subcommittee handles matters pertaining to the U.S. postal service, government employees and Washington, D.C. While Chaffetz’s committee appointments had not been finalized by press time, D.C. supporters of same-sex marriage have voiced concerns that a committee run by Chaffetz may spell trouble for same-sex marriages in the district, as well as its bid for autonomy. In January, Chaffetz introduced an unsuccessful bill that sought to overturn the city’s law allowing same-sex marriages. He has also called a bill seeking to grant D.C. voters the right to determine who sits on its city council “unconstitutional.”

“Chaffetz’s elevation would represent quite a change,” wrote Michael Schaffer in Washington City Paper, an alternative weekly news source. “In just under two years here, Chaffetz has opposed [D.C. Democrat Rep. Eleanor Holmes] Norton’s bill to give D.C. a congressional vote, opposed her bill to give D.C. more autonomy, and filed a bill to force a gay marriage referendum on D.C. And in a Republican House, Chaffetz would have reinforcements, ideological allies who wave the U.S. Constitution like members of the Red Guard used to wave quotations from Chairman Mao.” However, Slate political writer David Weigel noted that senior Party members might want Chaffetz to take another assignment.

“One reason is that Chaffetz is seen by many Republicans, including Reform and Oversight chairman Darrell Issa, as a rising star, and they might want a higher-profile job for him. Chaffetz’s office confirms that a re-shuffle might give him a new assignment,” he wrote.

Chaffetz’s spokesperson Alisia Essig told the paper that the Representative’s office would not know his committee assignments “for at least a couple of weeks.”

The shake-up in another Senate race began several months ago. After winning delegates’ nomination for Senate candidate this spring, Tea Party candidate Mike Lee will be heading to Washington, D.C. Lee soundly defeated Democratic Senate hopeful and local businessman Sam Granato on Nov. 2, winning nearly 62 percent of votes to Granato’s 33 percent (Constitution Party favorite Scott N. Bradley took a little over 5 percent of votes).

Lee did not respond to questions submitted by QSaltLake asking for comment on a number of his campaign platforms, including his stance on such things as employment nondiscrimination for gay and transgender Americans. However, Lee has been largely silent on the subject of gay and transgender rights, saying only that he does not support same-sex marriage and supports leaving the U.S. military’s ban on openly gay servicemembers in place.

This midterm election was a good one for Arlyn Bradshaw, who was one of three openly gay candidates bidding for Salt Lake County’s coveted District 1 seat earlier this year. Bradshaw won the spot in the Democrat-dominated district, trouncing opponent Steve Harmsen. In January, he will enter a council that once again has a Republican majority, after Richard Snelgrove beat out former newspaper editor Holly Mullen for the seat belonging to Jenny Wilson. Wilson was largely responsible for the county’s adoption of both insurance benefits for its employees’ unmarried partners, as well as ordinances forbidding employment and housing discrimination against gay and transgender residents.

However, those worried about a Republican majority doing away with either policy can rest easy. In an e-mail obtained by QSaltLake and from Snelgrove to activist David Nelson this July, Snelgrove said he has no plans to go after the ordinances.

“If I had been on the Council, I would have voted for the ordinances that passed.

If elected, I will oppose any repeal or change of the same,” he wrote.

Other openly gay candidates, however, were not as fortunate as Bradshaw. Former Equality Utah employee Will Carlson narrowly lost his bid for Douglas Nelson’s Salt Lake City School Board spot by 500 votes.

Mel Nimer, on the other hand, lost his bid for Senate District 2’s seat by 8,000 votes.

Nimer, President of the gay-friendly GOP caucus Log Cabin Republicans, was asked by the members of the state and Salt Lake County party offices to run against incumbent Sen. Ben McAdams (D-Salt Lake City) when McAdams’ initial opponent missed the deadline to file for candidacy. Thus, Nimer stepped in with only two months to

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build and run a campaign in the heavily Democratic Senate District once presided over by openly gay Democrat Scott McCoy. While Nimer said he knew that he did not have a big chance of winning, he said that he was satisfied with his campaign.

“The only disadvantage I had was coming in so late with no money and trying to raise money in such a short time,” he said, noting that his campaign pulled together just $6,000 to McAdams’ $47,000.

“We put on a real campaign and everyone had a real choice,” he continued, noting that McAdams would have won by default if he had not run against him.

Nimer’s campaign also contained one of a few quirks that defined Utah politics this year. Unlike most candidates, Nimer distributed two flyers in his district. Registered Democrats received a flyer with a picture of Nimer and his partner that discussed his participation in the Utah Pride Center and the Salt Lake Men’s Choir, and which listed “equality” as one of his top priorities. Republican voters, however, received a mailer featuring a picture of Nimer with his grandchildren, and which did not mention any gay-affiliated organizations; this flyer also listed lower taxes instead of equality.

Nimer said that the different flyers were his campaign manager’s idea, and that they also wanted to send a third flyer to unaffiliated voters, who now make up the largest percentage of voters across the nation. The point, he said, was to let voters of differing politics know where he stood on issues that were most likely important to them.

“It’s hard to put in one flyer everything you’re thinking about,” he said, adding that he did not think the variant mailers helped or hurt his campaign.

“It was too late in the campaign [when we sent them out] to have an effect one way or another,” he said.

Overall, Nimer said he was very pleased to bring home 26 percent of the district’s vote — roughly the same number its Republican challenger, Dr. Joe Jarvis, four years ago.

“Being gay didn’t deter Republicans from voting for me. I think that’s pretty significant,” he said. And while Nimer said that he would have to see how the [Utah]

Legislature would redistrict the state to know if a future run would be possible, he said that if he does so again “we’ll have much more time to raise money and more of a chance to make that connection with people.”

The midterm election also took a toll on several allies of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender Utahns. Rep. Neil Hansen (D-Ogden), who lost his seat to Republican challenger Jeremy Peterson, and Grand County Councilman Bob Greenberg, who lost to Gene L. Ciarus were endorsed by Equality Utah and are two allies that the statewide gay and transgender rights group will lose in 2011. However, several allies kept their seats in the House and Senate, including Salt Lake Democrats Rep. Rebecca Chavez-Houck Rep. Jen Seelig and David Litvak. Additionally, House District 25, once presided over by openly lesbian Rep. Christine Johnson will now be captained by Democrat Joel Briscoe. Rep. Jackie Biskupski, now the Legislature’s only openly gay member, also retained her seat, which she has held since 1999.

Other challengers who also won office include Sim Gill, who will succeed Lohra Miller as Salt Lake County Attorney General. During his campaign, he sharply criticized Miller on several of her decisions, including her handling of the D.J. Bell case, in which her office did not charge several individuals who allegedly beat Bell and his partner after accusing him of abducting their children (Bell was found not guilty in 2009).

Although Equality Utah faced some losses in this election, Executive director Brandie Balken said she did not think these losses would heavily impact her organization’s work.

“Equality Utah has been focused on our municipal strategy [to get city and county governments to adopt anti-discrimination ordinances protecting gay and transgender people] and we don’t have any plans to sway ourselves from that focus,” she said.

“We understand that municipal strategy is most effective for the work we’re doing in state of Utah.”

She added that Equality Utah’s work to “build relationships with all legislators regardless of the party” would continue.

Equality Utah Endorsed Candidates CANDIDATE NAME

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Utah House of Representatives Peter Clemens Alan Wheelright Neil Hansen Steven Gaskill Larry Cisney Richard Watson Jenifer Seelig Rebecca Chavez-Houck Joel Briscoe David Litvack Brian King Jackie Biskupski Larry Wiley Mark Wheatley Patrice Arent Carol Moss Alan Peterson Lynn Hemingway Laura Black John Rendell Paul Recanzone Glenn Wright Cyril Noble

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Ben McAdams Gene Davis Ross Romero Sarah Schofield

Salt Lake County Arlyn Bradshaw Diane Turner Tyler Andrus Holly Mullen Jeffrey Hatch Michael Nadeau Gary Ott Jim Winder Sim Gill

Weber County Amy Wicks Debbie Hansen Teresa Yorgason Gary Haws

Grand County Bob Greenberg

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Council Distrct 1 Council District 3 Council District 5 Countil At Large Auditor Surveyor Recorder Sheriff District Attorney

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A Social for Social Justice with NCLR Former Utahn Kate Kendell will be in Salt Lake City this month to celebrate the National Center of Lesbian Rights which she helms, and to update Utahns on NCLR’s work around the country.

“It will be great for us all to come together, have a few drinks, nosh, and talk about what lies ahead. 2010 is proving to be quite a year!” said Kendell, who served as the American Civil Liberties Union of Utah’s first staff attorney before joining NCLR as legal director in 1994. Today she serves as the organization’s executive director.

“I can’t wait to be back in Salt Lake with you — it has been too long!” she added.

Brandie Balken, executive director of statewide gay and transgender rights group Equality Utah, said she and other members of the event’s host committee are also excited to have Kendell return to Utah — which she does frequently.

“It’s an opportunity to catch up on the work that Kate Kendell and the NCLR have been doing,” she said. “Of course, Utah has deep, deep ties to Kate, so we’re looking forward to hosting her again and hearing an update on all the wonderful work that NCLR is doing nationally.”

This work includes writing an amicus brief in Florida Department of Children and Families v. M.J.H., which overturned Florida’s ban on gays and lesbians adopting children, and Adams v. Federal Bureau of Prisons et al., in which a transgender woman is suing to receive hormone therapy and sex reassignment surgery for her diagnosed gender identity disorder while incarcerated. NCLR has joined Gay and Lesbian Advocates and Defenders, Florida Institutional Legal Services, and Bingham McCutchen LLP in filing suit to prevent the Federal Bureau of Prisons from deny-

ing treatment to transgender inmates.

Suggested donations for these events are, according to a press release, “the value you place on your civil rights,” meaning

Kate Kendall, Esq. that any amount will be accepted. To RSVP contact Eleanor Palacios at epalacios@ nclrights.org with the e-mail subject line “NCLR Salt Lake Reception” or call 415365-1309.

On the following day, Nov. 13, Equality Utah and Transgender Education Advocates of Utah will co-host a house party in honor of NCLR Legal Director Shannon Minter as part of Transgender Awareness Month. This dessert reception will take place at the home of Scott McCoy and Mark Barr from 7–9 p.m. Minter, who is transgender, will also speak earlier in the day at the City and County Building, 400 S. 200, East room 315 (from 1–2 p.m.) about the legal issues transgender people face. This event will also be hosted by TEA. N o v e mbe r 11 , 20 10 | issue 167 | QS a lt L a k e | 9

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Gay Utah Sexual Assault Survivor Appears on ‘Oprah’

by JoSelle Vanderhooft

When Brian Beckstead was just 14, he was sexually assaulted by another man. Like other male survivors of rape and sexual abuse ( gay and bisexual male survivors in particular), he said the experience played havoc on his sexuality as he matured.

“As time wore on and I started thinking about it, I thought, ‘Did I entice him? Did I turn him on?’” he said.

It also played havoc on his life in general.

For 27 years, Beckstead said he didn’t seek help and coped with the pain through “alcohol addiction and sex addiction, and fighting in clubs and almost getting arrested.”

“At 41 I was going to commit suicide, I had planned it all out,” he said. But instead of going through with his plan, he said he called the Utah Pride Center. Within hours he had an appointment with a counselor at the Rape Recovery Center.

“There’s such a stigma,” he said. “I thought, ‘I’m going to the Rape Recovery Center, but I’m not a woman.’”

That was three years ago. Since then, Beckstead has helped found the Rape Recovery Center’s male survivor group and has joined MaleSurvivor, a group dedicated to helping male survivors of rape, incest and sexual assault, and in which local therapists Jim Struve and Lee Beckstead (no relation) also work. Although far more women and girls are victims of sexual violence, the National Institute of Justice & Centers for Disease Control & Prevention found in 2003 that one in 33 men have experienced an attempted or completed rape, and that 2.78 million men in the United States are survivors of sexual violence. In 2003, males also constituted one of every 10 rape survivors.

This month, Beckstead is taking his quest to raise awareness of male survivors to the national airwaves. Also, Beckstead was one of 200 male survivors of sexual violence who appeared alongside actor, director, writer and Madea creator Tyler Perry on a special two-part episode of Oprah.

The genesis for the episodes, said Beckstead, came when Perry discussed his own history as a survivor of sexual abuse on Oprah Winfrey’s show.

“He said, ‘Why don’t you do a show about male survivors?’” said Beckstead.

After that show, Beckstead said that Winfrey’s producers contacted MaleSurvivor. Out of the thousands of applicants who wanted to share their stories, the producers selected Beckstead and 199 other men and flew them to Chicago for the taping. These men make up the entirety of the audience for the show.

Of these men, eight, including Beckstead, appeared on segments that segue into Win-

frey talking to her guests. In his segment, he said, he talks about his plan to commit suicide “and about how 80 percent of people who are molested consider suicide.”

The topic was so important and had so many aspects, said Beckstead, that Winfrey ultimately decided to spread it over two shows.

PWACU Poinsettias

walk past the TV and hear Oprah talking about this issue,” he said. “I hope someone looks at the TV and goes, ‘Oh my God, this happened to me or my brother or dad,” and they know that resources are available. If it’s just one person [who gets helped by the show], that’s one more person that’s not going to suffer.”

Once again, the People With AIDS Coalition of Utah is offering red poinsettias for the holiday season. The plants are locally grown and come in six inch pots, and they range from 15–19 inches in height with five or more blooms per plant. Plants are $10 each or $75 for eight and can be ordered online at pwacu.org or by calling 801-484-2205. Plants will also be delivered to locations throughout Northern Utah on the following days: Davis and Weber Counties Nov. 23, Dec. 3; Summit County, Nov. 26 and Dec. 7; Tooele and Utah Counties, Nov. 30 and Dec. 10. Deliveries to Salt Lake County require no minimum order, but deliveries to other counties require a minimum order of eight poinsettias.

One delivery per order is allowed, and poinsettias need to be preordered by November 18, 2010. All proceeds benefit PWACU’s programs for Utahns living with HIV/AIDS.

AIDS Awareness Month

Brian Beckstead sits by a portrait of himself at the age of 15.

“She had no idea, I think, what she was getting into,” he said. “She said that [these are] two of the most powerful shows she’s done in 25 years. I think she’s really interested [in pursuing this topic.]”

Before the taping, Beckstead and the rest of the audience sent producers pictures of themselves at or around the age at which they were molested. Of these, producers selected Beckstead’s picture and several others to enlarge to poster size and place on the wall behind Winfrey’s stage. They also asked the men, he added, to hold the large pictures in front of themselves as the camera panned the audience.

“Oprah came in and looked around and the tears just rolled down her cheeks,” he said. “It was the most incredible experience.

She said, ‘This has nothing to do with you as men, this is about the innocence lost in all those faces.’”

Following the taping, Beckstead said that Winfrey challenged them to “go back home and let our media know what’s going on.”

“I want some wife or sister or brother to

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Three years after his near-suicide attempt, Beckstead said that helping young gay male survivors not reach that point is his passion.

“Three years ago I was going to shoot myself, and three years later I’m mentoring youth,” he said. “I’ve got my own business going. I have my first novel coming out. I would have missed out on so much of my life because of the selfishness of some prick.”

Anyone, regardless of sexual orientation, gender identity or physical size and strength can experience sexual violence. If you are a survivor of sexual violence, the following resources can help: Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network: rainn.org Male Survivor: malesurvivor.org The Rape Recovery Center: raperecoverycenter.org The first part of the Oprah special aired Nov. 5. The second part will air Nov. 12 at 4 p.m. on KUTV Channel 2. For more information about the episodes, including a lengthy article about the first segment, visit oprah. com/oprah_show.html. Q

The Utah Pride Center will sponsor a number of events in honor of AIDS Awareness Month in December.

These include HIV testing at local clubs on Nov. 30 (locations to be announced), a demonstration along 400 S. on World AIDS Day (Dec. 1); a panel discussion titled “Who’s to Blame for AIDS” at the Salt Lake City Main Library on Dec. 3; a Queer Sex Ed Conference Dec. 4; and another HIV testing at The Trapp Dec. 5. For more information watch utahpridecenter.org.

Artists Sticking it to Stigma The Utah Pride Center and the Utah AIDS Foundation are seeking artists to create sculptures, paintings, photographs, performance art and more in honor of World AIDS Day and ending stigma against people living with HIV/AIDS. Artists are invited to submit work centered on the theme “Stick It to Stigma” and are asked to prominently feature red — the color for AIDS awareness — in their work. All submitted works will be displayed at the Salt Lake City Main Public Library during the week of World AIDS Day as well as during December’s downtown Salt Lake City Gallery Stroll and at various other sites.

SUBMISSION DEADLINE: Nov. 22 INFO: Alex Moya and Josh Newbury at 801-487-2323 or Myles Davis and Lily Rodriguez at 801-539-8800, extensions 17 and 23.

USU Panel Discusses Gay Marriage, Faith

by Michael Aaron

Representatives from seven faiths discussed same-sex marriage on Nov. 2 as part of the Center for Women and Gender lecture series at Utah State University.

Titled, ““Gays and Marriage: Religious Perspectives,” the panel discussion was open to students, faculty and members of the general community.

Panel members included the Rev. Susan Springer of St. John’s Episcopal Church; Michael Sowder, associate professor of English and a practicing Buddhist; Dr. Vikram Garg, gastroenterologist and internist who practices the Hindu tradition; Harrison Kleiner, adjunct assistant professor of philosophy and Roman Catholic; William Duncan, director of the Marriage Law Foundation and member of the Church pf Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints; Eldon Peterson, pastor of the Cache Valley Bible fellowship; and Rabbi Ilana Schwartzman of the congregation Kol Ami in Salt Lake City.

“We realize we don’t have all possible religions represented and many will argue that we should have had an atheist on the panel,” said director for the Center for Women and Gender Ann Austin. “But this panel is an important step in understanding the diverse points of view around this very sensitive topic.”

The panel was organized by Philip Barlow, USU’s Arrington Chair of Mormon History and Culture, and Camille O’Dell, director of the School Counseling program in USU’s Department of Psychology.

Rev. Springer said all voices are important to such a discussion and, as a society, it is necessary that they are made public.

“Currently, the Episcopal Diocese of Utah permits the blessing of same gender unions, but not every Episcopal diocese in this country permits them,” Springer said.

“Unlike, for example, the Roman Catholic and LDS churches, Episcopalians have no central figure or group that is our doctrinal authority.”

“We endeavor to be a safe place and to be welcoming,” Springer said. “We’re not perfect, we don’t always succeed, but that’s our goal.”

Duncan said the controversy over the Proposition 8 measure in California — which was overturned by a San Francisco judge — demonstrates that same-sex marriage is a threat to religious liberties.

Duncan’s group was formed a year after a Massachusetts Court decision which declared banning gay marriage as unconstitutional with a mission of “reaffirming the

legal definition of marriage as the union of a husband and wife.”

“Increasingly, groups are seeking to harness religion along with other social institutions, such as family and church, to accomplish their aims of cultural reconstruction,” Duncan said.

Duncan said that many saw opponents to interracial marriage in the ’60s as bigots.

“Just because the LDS Church does not believe in same-sex marriage does not mean Latter-day Saints are prejudiced,” he said.

Peterson said Christians do not condone same-sex marriage and likened the debate to “what color the grass is ... there’s only one definition of same-sex marriage.” He said he wishes gays would “take responsibility” for their orientation and not “claim to be a victim.”

Sowder said that Buddhism has no central religious authority but largely welcomes gays as it would welcome anybody.

He quoted the Dalai Lama, who said that homosexuality is considered “sexual misconduct,” but that the Tibetan stance of gay marriage is “subject to change.”

“Compassion is the ultimate ideal in Buddhism,” Sowder said. “Why is sexuality such a highly charged issue in religion?

I think that’s why we have this focus on it, it freaks us out.”

Kleiner said Catholics believe “marriage was founded for man.”

“We are most complete as organisms when we join with opposite flesh.”

He said he does not believe gay marriage is a choice: “You can’t choose how you feel but you can choose how you act.”

Garg said that Hinduism, currently, has no one leader who would stand up for gay marriage, though there is no reference to it in scripture.

“Love, in Hinduism, means a devotion between two people, whether it is romantic or platonic,” Garg said. “There’s really no information in religious scriptures about marriage and same sex.”

He said for some it is a challenge to accept gay marriage since males play a dominant role in a heterosexual marriage.

Schwartzman said the Torah “is divinely inspired, not divinely written,” so more Jewish people are becoming accepting of same-sex marriage and that even the more conservative members are “teetering” on whether or not to fully embrace the concept of same-sex marriage.

Springer ended the panel saying she felt discussions such as this panel are necessary to moving forward. Q

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Imperial Rainbow Court Celebrates 10th Coronation

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The Imperial Rainbow Court of Northern Utah has a lot to celebrate this month. Not only is the drag charity group turning 10, it’s also holding its 10th Coronation: Chronicles in Color: A Legacy of Living, Loving & Giving.

More than that, the court is celebrating its survival after the gay bar in Ogden, where it held most of its shows, closed down.

“Trying to find other places and getting people to show up because it wasn’t necessarily at the ‘home bar’ anymore was a challenge,” said Emperor Michaelangelo Griffin West Tyler.

Happily, the IRCONU “lucked into” some help from the Roy chapter of the Fraternal Order of Eagles, which owns a bar and a convention center. After holding their 2009 Christmas show at Roy Eagles, Tyler said the Court and the bar have entered into a mutually beneficial relationship. For example, the Court has brought Roy Eagles several new patrons, and Roy Eagles has let the Court use its convention center for Coronation without charge.

Throughout 2010, said Tyler, IRCONU has raised money for a number of local charities. For example, its Halloween party raised funds for a women’s care center in Kaysville and an HIV/AIDS fundraiser in July, in which members of the Court created care baskets for locals living with the illness.

But the Emerald and Ruby Ball, said Tyler, will be its biggest fundraiser this year, as well as one that will be attended

by Court members from Salt Lake City’s Royal Court of the Golden Spike Empire and even from other states.

“This year we have done a lot of traveling to chapters and we’re hoping to have a lot o support from out-of-town people to come and hang with new faces and network with people,” said Tyler.

When asked why the Court had chosen Chronicles in Color as its theme, Tyler said they wanted to bring to mind the rainbow, the universal symbol of lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender pride, as well as the multitude of things IRCONU has accomplished since filing for 501(c)3 status.

“We’ve stayed strong as a unit even though we’ve had so many transitions and lost some people on the way,” he said.

“When it comes time, we do band together to do what we love to do, and that definitely proves true in the situation we were in this year [with the loss of the bar]. We’ve gotten a lot of support that continues to keep us going” including from non-gay owned businesses that “have welcomed us and tried to highlight us.”

“We want to show as much appreciation

and love as we can to all those who came out and made us a success,” he added.

Coronation XI will take place Nov. 18–20 at Roy Eagles, 5 130 S 1700 West, Roy, Utah, as well as Suite 325 of the Ogden Comfort Suites, 2250 S. 1200 West, Ogden, Utah. The In-Town Show will be held at Roy Eagles on Nov. 18 at 9 p.m. (doors open at 8 p.m.), with the Out-of-Town Show the following day at 8 p.m. (doors open at 7 p.m.). Coronation XI: Chronicles in Color: A Legacy of Living, Loving & Giving will be held at the bar on Nov. 20 with doors opening at 6 p.m.

The Out-of-Town Show has a cover charge of $10, while tickets to the ball are $35 in advance and $40 at the door. Brunch will be held in the host hotel’s Sahara Room on Nov. 21 at noon and is $15. Weekend packages are available for $55.

For more information about the Court and Coronation XI, visit IRCONU.org.

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Different = Amazing In July, Utah’s lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender community was rocked by the reported suicides of three young gay men.

Two months later, at least nine teenagers from a number of states committed suicide after facing anti-gay bullying. These deaths made national headlines and thrust the issue of anti-gay and anti-transgender bullying into the spotlight. The issue received even more attention in October, after LDS Church apostle Boyd K. Packer made antigay remarks during the church’s semi-annual General Conference.

Since that time, a number of Utah lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender groups have taken steps to raise awareness of and to help children and teens who are facing anti-gay bullying. The latest of these is the Human Rights Education Center. On Nov. 14, the center, which, according to its website, “provides anti-bias, anti-bullying and diversity education for people of all ages and backgrounds,” will host Different = Amazing, a night of theatre, song and dance centered around celebrating difference and diversity.

“While I welcome the long awaited attention on the deadly consequences of bullying behaviors, I am mad as hell that we have to wait until a rash of young people kill themselves before a public outcry ensues,” said Carla Kelley, executive director of the Human Rights Education Center of Utah, in a letter posted to the site on Oct. 15. “Bullying has long been largely ignored, and accepted as normative behavior. Perhaps now we will begin to address bullying as the prolific epidemic that it is.”

“As an adult, a parent and grandparent I am ashamed that nothing was done to help those sweet lives now gone,” she continued. “To their memory I make the commitment that HREC will keep working to educate youth and their leaders of the importance of bullying prevention education.

As a nonprofit community organization we will continue to demand that every child be kept safe from bullies, or from becoming a bully. Bullying is a complex societal problem, but teaching and practicing the golden rule are not. We just have to make it a priority.”

To help make and keep anti-bullying as a priority in the Utah community at large, HREC has invited a number of local artists to perform pieces centered around difference and anti-oppression during the twohour event. These include readings from Shakespeare and the Dr. Seuss classic The Sneetches and Other Stories, songs from musicals Hair and Into the Woods and a reading from the diary of teenage Holocaust victim Anne Frank. Local dance companies Ririe-Woodbury and Repertory Dance Theatre will also perform throughout the evening, as will a number of local

musicians and monologists reading from their own work. Performers will include John Graham, Melissa Singleton, Laura Noll, Luke Monday, Paul Kiernan, Zoe Fossen, DeeDee Darby-Duffin and the University of Utah’s Youth Theatre. Carol Lynn Pearson, a straight LDS author who writes and speaks about anti-gay discrimination frequently, will provide closing remarks.

Overall, Kelley said that she hopes that programs such as Different = Amazing and others offered by HREC can help teach students, as well as adults, that they have the power to help end bullying by ending the sense of apathy that surrounds the subject of bullying in schools.

“I am reminded of the insidiousness of apathy, the danger in believing there is nothing one person can do, or the Carla Kelley just plain selfishness of anyone who proclaims that bullying is not their problem,” she said.

“How can allowing young people to be unkind, if not blatantly vicious, not be the problem of all adults in a civil society? Is it not our responsibility to educate, model and insist on moral and ethical behavior from our youth?”

Different = Amazing will be held Nov. 14 from 5–7 p.m. at the Rose Wagner Performing Arts Center, 138 West Broadway. Tickets are $10 and are available through Art Tix (arttix.org, performance number 5842) or by calling 801-355-ARTS. More information is available at differentisamazing.com and on Facebook (search for Different is Amazing), or by contacting Carla Kelley at 801-521-4283 or Carla@HRECutah.org.

The evening’s outreach partners include 337 Project, the ACLU of Utah, Affirmation: Gay and Lesbian Mormons, the Utah Chapter of the Human Rights Campaign, the LGBTQ-Affirmative Therapists Guild, Salt Lake Acting Company, the Utah AIDS Foundation and the Utah Pride Center.

In addition, Dave Brunetti, Rep. Rebecca Chavez-Houck (D-Salt Lake City), Luana Chilelli, Jim Cory,Jayne Luke, Jarry Rapier and Kirt Bateman, Rep. Jennifer Seelig (D-Salt Lake City), Mike Thompson, Crystal Young-Otterstrom and Joel Otterstrom have teamed up to purchase over 100 tickets to the evening to make sure that students can attend at no cost. Q

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Volunteers of America: Homeless Resources and More

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ATIONALLY, YOUTH WHO IDENTIFY AS lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer or questioning make up 40 percent of the homeless youth population.

In Utah, that number is higher, coming in at 42 percent last fiscal year and 41 percent this year.

Volunteers of America, Utah would like to see that number reach zero. For years, the group has operated a number of programs for teens and young adults on the streets including the Homeless Youth Resource Center, the Homeless Outreach Program and a transition home for girls age 16–19.

“We’re planning to draft a five-year plan to significantly reduce the number of youth that will end up on the street,” said Zach Bale, vice president of External Relations at Volunteers of America, Utah, and the former director of the Homeless Youth Resource Center, which serves youth age 16–21. VOA, he explained, has joined forces with the Utah Pride Center, Salt Lake County Youth Services, Valley Mental Health and a number of other agencies to form the Salt Lake County Task Force to End Youth Homelessness.

“Our conclusion is that housing, employment and education are the three pillars to successful youth programming,” Bale continued. “We also know there’s a need for emergency shelters [for homeless youth] in the community and enough transitional and affordable housing. We know we don’t have that, and the key is making that available.”

But while VOA serves homeless queer youth every day by giving them meals, necessities and a safe facility to shower and attend classes, the organization does much more for Utahns. VOA, Utah is actually an umbrella covering not only homeless outreach services for youth and adults, but detoxification, senior and community enhancement services as well as counseling for drug and alcohol addiction and domestic violence.

And, said Bale, the organization is always looking for better ways to serve minority populations, including members of Utah’s lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer community — especially segments of that community who are often under-served or ignored. For example, when VOA began encountering a number of transgender clients at its homeless outreach program, Bale said the organization created an internal group to discuss how to best address transgender and gender variant clients’ concerns. These included, said Bale, whether to place transgender people in men or women’s adult detoxification facilities, and what criteria to base that decision on.

“A couple of our clients asked us to look deeper,” he said. “We hadn’t had those hard conversations internally and our clients made us realize that we weren’t prepared.”

Bale said VOA called several “progressive shelters” in San Francisco and asked how they provided assistance to transgender clients, especially in such areas as accessing public shower facilities.

“I think we as an agency respect and want to serve people as they identify,” said Bale. “The

long story short is we’ve started talking to all our programs to make sure we are inclusive in every way. We’ve had two [transgender women] clients now go through our center for women and children.”

Although Bale said he is not certain how many lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer clients have accessed the VOA’s programs, he noted that all of them are open to the community. These include its senior programs in Davis, Emory and Carbon counties and its Cornerstone Counseling Center, which provides mental health services to individuals and families dealing with substance abuse and domestic violence concerns. The center is particularly aimed at assisting low-income Utahns and those who face barriers to accessing help because of lack of transportation.

“One of the benefits of our agency is that we have an entire continuum of programs,” said Bale. “We could see someone on the street and link them up with the counseling center and case management, and then link them with housing and treatment.”

VOA also offers two detoxification treatment programs for people in the broader Salt Lake County community who want help with issues pertaining to drug and alcohol addiction: the Adult Detox Center for homeless and low-income men and women looking to detoxify from drug or alcohol use, and the Center for Women & Children, a residential facility for homeless women with children. This program also seeks to help residents transition from homelessness after they have worked through addictions.

“There are waiting lists for almost all levels of treatment,” said Bale, noting that VOA is the largest recipient of Salt Lake County’s substance abuse prevention and treatment dollars. But while several of VOA’s programs get government help, Bale added that the growing number of people seeking their services means that the organization is always in need of donations.

“Any human service agency, I think, has seen an increase [in people needing help],” said Bale. “In terms of money we’ve seen a decrease in foundation money, because they took big hits in the recession.” However, he noted that individual and in-kind donations have remained steady, and that he hopes they will throughout this season.

“Some people have said, ‘I can’t give money, but I can give time or things,’” he added, noting that VOA, Utah is always in need of items.

These include men’s and women’s underwear and sweatpants, deodorant, bath towels, flip flops, backpacks and spiral-bound notebooks.

Currently, the Homeless Youth Resource Center and the Homeless Outreach Program are most in need of tents, bus passes, men’s boxers and briefs (sizes medium and large), winter coats, thermal underwear (men’s large and extra large) and gift cards to Smith’s, Target, Old Navy and fast food restaurants.

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letters Mo’s v. ’Mos Editor, As the battle between Mormons and the homos raged forward, again, I did my best to stay somewhat involved; read the countless articles, wore a purple shirt last Wednesday and attended the protest at church headquarters. I didn’t go to fight with the Mormon hierarchy, to try and change them or to expect an apology. Why would they apologize? They wholeheartedly believe they are instruments in God’s hands and they spoke only what He wanted them to say. I went to see old friends, I went to show my support, I went to stand up for myself, I went to do my part to stop the hate, and in the hopes that someone who was hurt by those words would see that they’re not alone; they’re loved and accepted, and they especially don’t need people like Boyd Packer dragging them down.

But I can’t help but wonder if by going to the protest I only added fuel to the fire.

My friend tells me that we are slowly making a difference, but I don’t think we are.

Every time ‘they’ (meaning any religion, politician or person) say something negative about us we pull together, unite, making us stronger, and we fight back. When we attack them does it not cause the same affect? They pull together, unite and fight back because we are the adversary. Oppo-

sition is only making both sides stronger.

They have declared war upon the homosexuals, all in the name of God; the homosexuals have in turn declared war on them, demanding tolerance and equal rights. They

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throw stones, we throw stones. At some point shouldn’t I lay down my sword and turn the other cheek? War has never solved anything. I don’t like it, but I can’t stop it either.

As I try to process the battle going on between Mormons and homos I can’t help but ask myself why. Why do they hate us?

Why do they spend so much time, money and energy to fight against us? Yes, they think it’s a sin, but seriously, there are a lot of sinners out there, why aren’t they trying to save them too? Is it because we don’t multiply and replenish the earth — part of their master plan? I don’t know, and probably never will.

Yet the war rages on. Is being gay moral or immoral? Natural or unnatural? Is it a sin or not? They stand firm to the belief that it is, we stand firm to the belief that it is not, both sides trying to convince their way of thinking. Our God/Bible says it is OK and your God/Bible says it’s not.

It’s the classic our God is better than your God. I think that there is a lesson here for both sides, the gays and the religious right, to learn. Acceptance for all. If I expect them to accept me for who I am and to give me the same rights as everyone else then do I not, also, need to allow them the same right to be who they are? Who is the bigger bigot here? What gives me the right to ask them to change? But this doesn’t mean I’m supposed to just sit back and allow myself to be treated as a second-class citizen either, does it? Which

leaves me to ponder, when do I stand and fight and when do I simply lay down my sword? And if I do turn the other cheek does that mean I’m allowing them to have dominion over me?

Quite honestly I don’t care what the church thinks; in fact, I believe that they are very much entitled to their opinion, if they want to hang a sign on their front door that says “no fags allowed” then that’s their right. I don’t want any part of it then.

They also have a right, according to their interpretation of the Bible, to say that I’m a sinner. It’s OK, really. All I ask is that they let my other gay friends out peacefully, and since I’m not a member, to please stop pushing their membership rules onto me.

That’s just not right. I heard you loud and clear ... you think I’m a sinner, I’m sorry you feel that way but now back off and allow me my own choices, stop trying to change me. You also told me that drinking is a sin, but sorry, I’m going to keep doing that one too. It just so happens that I think bowling is a sin, but what bowlers do is none of my business, I’m not going to force a law against it and it’s not my responsibility to “save” them from their deviant lifestyle, it’s between them and God now.

Right? Nor will I judge them for being different, I just won’t participate.

Love and acceptance for all, that’s a hard lesson for everybody, myself included, maybe even perhaps a little unrealistic.

But I’m willing to give it a try.

Kelly Albrecht Salt Lake City

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by Bob Henline

N NOV. 2, 2010 the GOP stormed to an electoral victory over the Democratic Party in the House of Representatives. The pundits tell us that this represents a shift in the balance of power in Washington, a shift that will not only impede the Obama Administration’s ability to enact its agenda, but that could also mean defeat for the president in 2012. I find myself, as I often do of late, in stark disagreement with the pundits and “conventional wisdom.”

First and foremost it is important to note that the balance of power in Washington didn’t shift. It hasn’t shifted in decades.

On the surface we see occasional ripples between the Democrats and the Republicans, but in the end, the system stays the same. We were told by the “experts” that 2008 represented a fundamental shift in power, and most of us (me included) believed it. President Obama was elected through a grass-roots mobilization that hasn’t been seen in decades, but what fundamental change has occurred since that time?

We have a president that has paid lip service to the ideals of progressive liberalism, but has not only failed to deliver on those promises, but also in one particular case actively worked against it. We have a Congress that is log-jammed by partisan bitching and parliamentary process chicanery, resulting in the continuation of the status quo. We have a military-industrial-intelligence-security complex that continues to grind the gears of war around the globe.

And now we have a new Congressional majority, a hyper-conservative backlash to the progressive agenda espoused but not delivered by President Obama. Progressives all across America are bemoaning the loss of the House and the closing of the gap in the Senate. Oddly enough, though, I see one final glimmer of hope in this electoral defeat. One last opportunity for progressive America.

Congress right now is jam-packed with lame ducks. There is a huge number of supposedly progressive members that no longer have to worry about re-election — they’ve already lost their jobs. Combining that with the number of progressives that survived the health reform backlash, and

we’ve (theoretically) got a Congressional majority with nothing left to lose.

The question that will be answered over the next two months is whether or not the phoenix of hope can rise from the ashes of electoral despair. Can this Congressional majority shed their fear and do the right things? There are two items of particular importance that remain on President Obama’s promise list: the Employment Non-Discrimination Act (ENDA) and the repeal of Don’t Ask Don’t Tell (DADT).

With nothing to lose and everything to gain, will this president and the lame ducks in Congress finally act to fulfill their promises? Over the past two years I have been very critical of President Obama on equality-related issues. I think that he mishandled DADT by continuing to file stays and appeals instead of letting it go by the wayside. I also don’t think that he has been aggressive enough pushing the repeal through Congress. He hasn’t, in my opinion, stepped up as a leader and demanded the change that he promised the American people.

For this president, as bizarre as it sounds, the next two months are his golden opportunity. His last chance to stand up and lead and to deliver on his promises. At this moment he can step into the position of leadership to which he was elected, or he can continue upon his current course and allow his presidency to dwindle into the state of partisan lockdown that the next two years are sure to be.

Maybe this is a long shot, maybe it’s just that idealist in me rearing its ugly head again. But then again maybe, just maybe, a Congress with nothing to lose will find the way to do the right thing. It’s not going to happen on its own, though, it is going to require the president to change his tactics and step up to lead this fight.

And this is where the realist in me takes over. If President Obama fails to step up at this juncture I sincerely doubt that I’ll be the only progressive shopping for a new candidate come 2012. Q

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Bob Henline is a straight man. Don’t hold that against him — he was born that way. He is also a professional author and editor. His blog can be read at nonpart.org.

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Queer gnosis Don’t Enlist, Don’t Serve

SNAP: Different = Amazing

by Troy Hunter

HERE ARE MANY THINGS WORSE than discrimination. Being hit by a mortar blast, losing a limb, living with post-traumatic stress disorder or killing another human all come to mind.

These are just a few of the deadly realities queers will face if Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell is ultimately repealed. The one upside to a Republican-controlled House is that we may be able to maintain the protections of DADT indefinitely. However, if the pro-military faction of the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender political movement succeeds in repealing DADT, closeted soldiers will lose the opportunity to easily escape the horrors of war. DADT has saved an untold number of queer lives. We should praise President Clinton and award every politician who works to keep it in place.

Now, I agree that DADT is discriminatory. It makes liars of soldiers who have sworn oaths of honor and integrity. But war is much worse than discrimination. The ongoing WikiLeaks revelations continue to expose what progressives have argued all along: war brings out the worst in humanity. We see clearly now how politicians, commanders, rogue soldiers and private mercenaries employ torture and thuggery to enforce American hegemony.

I have absolute empathy for these soldiers. I don’t blame them for fighting to stay alive. Few go into the service because they want to fire a weapon at another human being. Most are inspired to enlist by genuine patriotism. Many who are economically disadvantaged need the military to finance college. When a soldier finally acknowledges her sexual identity she may be struck with the fear of losing her rank, career and college fund. Not to mention the shame of being dishonorably discharged.

Yes, it’s horrible to be discharged for being gay. But it’s even more horrible to be tortured by your fellow soldiers.

The culture of the military encourages hazing, misogyny and homophobia. Sexual assault against women and gay servicemembers is frighteningly common. Dr. Mic Hunter, the author of Honor Betrayed: Sexual Abuse in America’s Military lays out the ugly facts: one-third of all the females seeking services at the VA report experiencing an attempted or completed rape.

Thirty-seven percent experienced more than one. Four percent report being gang raped. Not by insurgents, mind you — by

fellow soldiers. Between 20 and 24 percent of female veterans and 10 percent of male veterans report being raped. Research on civilian rape regularly concludes that only 60 percent of sexual assaults are reported.

This number is presumably much lower in the military.

People who do report are often stigmatized and possibly retaliated against. Hunter writes, “Only 12 percent of those who had been sexually harassed used the formal complaint system, because they believed the reporting system was merely in place to protect the chain of command.” (p. 187)

How well do you really think an out gay soldier will fare in this military?

Honestly?

How well do you really think an out gay soldier will fare in this military? Honestly?

War fucks people up. When you kill you lose a piece of your soul. When a soldier dehumanizes people in order to kill them, the effects are equally devastating on that soldier’s psyche. The gay community is rightfully concerned about youth suicides.

But suicide rates for veterans are also escalating. The Wall Street Journal reported, “A 15-month-study on the rise in suicides over the last two years found 160 suicides among active-duty personnel, 1,713 suicide attempts and 146 deaths from high-risk behavior, such as drug abuse, in the year ended Sept. 30, 2009.”

And the numbers are rising. The Army reported a record number of suicides for June 2010 — at least one per day. Today we have more vets dying of suicide than in combat. Returning soldiers experience high rates of post-traumatic stress disorder. Divorce rates have also soared. Drug and alcohol abuse is rampant among Iraq veterans.

Homelessness is also increasing among them.

Yes, there are worse things than discrimination.

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Again, I don’t blame individual soldiers.

They make the ultimate sacrifice. Our country should give them absolutely everything they need, including free medical and psychiatric treatment, full-ride scholarships, job training and abundant financial reimbursement. We should hold back nothing.

Our gay leaders have little to say for the plight of veterans. Their only plea is, “Let us in! Let us in so that we can be equal!” I respond, “No. Keep us out! Keep us out of the corporate war machine. Don’t let gay kids kill other gay kids in foreign countries. Protect DADT so queer soldiers have a way to get the hell out of the military when a future hawk president like a Mitt Romney decides to invade Iran.”

I get what military service means to the marginalized gay community. It is the ultimate symbol that we are at last “good” Americans. We want to prove that we will bleed and die for this nation. Our desire for inclusion has made us silent to the fact that the military structure itself is a corrupt and corrupting force. Gay activists may personally denounce war but they won’t mobilize against militarism. They won’t defend queer Iraqis who have lost their lives because they were on the receiving end of a U.S. cluster bomb. Rather, they actually insist that gay people deserve the right to deploy the same cluster bomb. What’s wrong with this picture?

Repealing DADT will not be a progressive victory for human rights. It will not be a step forward for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender equality. Rather, it will mean that we will perpetuate a system of violent oppression. Worse, we will be fodder for future wars. Queers will fill bloodied body bags and flag-draped coffins. For which war profiteer are you willing to die? Halliburton? Bechtel? The Republican Party? They are not worthy of our sacrifice.

My advice to enlisted queer Americans is to get out while you still can. To those of you thinking of serving — don’t! To professional gay lobbyists, stop militarizing our politics. Instead, redirect the untold millions you spend on repealing DADT to college educations for low-income queers. Fund full health care for queer veterans. Encourage lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender Americans to denounce war and proclaim peace. Let’s get back to the work of social justice. Long Live DADT. Q Troy Williams blogs at queergnosis.com.

For decades, if not centuries, bullying has been a menace to communities across the country, resulting not only in wounded bodies and psyches, but sometimes in the suicides of those who endure it. Although youth of any race, gender identity, religion or sexual orientation can experience bullying, an alarming 80 percent of gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender and queer students have been bullied at school. Thus, every queer adult should be concerned about protecting our children and teenagers. And while direct actions, such as talking to teachers, school administrators and school board members can have the most positive and immediate results, we should not forget the role the arts play in shaping a kinder, gentler and more aware world. On Nov. 14 the Human Rights Education Center will present Different = Amazing, a one-night only performance of dance, music and monologues celebrating the phenomenon of human diversity and speaking out against oppression and cruelty. Everyone who can should attend — and in particular, people who remain unconvinced that bullying is really a problem.

SLAP: Alama Uluave and Mark Maxfield Speaking of bullying, why are two members of the Salt Lake City School Board not doing more to prevent it? This fall, the board has discussed adding sexual orientation to its nondiscrimination policy, but a few members — namely Ulauve and Maxfield — have balked at adding gender identity as well. Maxfield (who was unseated during this election) called a policy with a loophole through which transgender and non-gender conforming students can fall “sufficient,” while Ulauve called the addition “too controversial” and “experimenting with social policy.” Their words are not only sad and troubling commentary about the prevalence of transphobia, but a reminder that anti-trans bullying often receives even less attention and concern than bullying against gay, lesbian and bisexual students.

Maxfield and Ulauve should be ashamed of themselves for failing to take a stand for all of Utah’s students (all of whom, by the way, have a gender identity as well as a sexual orientation). And those of us in the school district should let both men know exactly how their stance will hurt already vulnerable students.

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The Real Meaning of Thanksgiving

by Christopher Katis

USED TO WORK WITH THIS great guy named Josh. He’s one of those people for whom the glass is always half full, and he never lets propriety get in the way of being himself. Once, when he heard that his girlfriend had forwarded me a link to some landscape photos she’d taken — photos that included a discreetly naked Josh tastefully posed as part of the landscape — he bounded into my office to view them with me.

Even though it’s been a decade since we worked together and a couple of years since we last spoke, I think of him every Thanksgiving. You see, Josh taught me the real meaning of Thanksgiving.

Up until Josh set me straight (so to speak), I saw Thanksgiving as the height of hypocrisy — people showed they were grateful by gorging on food and maybe, maybe sending a donation to the food

bank in response to appeals that everyone should have something on Thanksgiving.

Seriously, I thought? What about the rest of the year?

Josh reminded me that I can only control my own thankfulness by expressing it throughout the year — and to look at Thanksgiving as the one time that, in some way or another, other people express their own gratitude.

So with the tip of the hat to Josh, I am thankful!

FOR MY PARTNER, Kelly, who has loved me, cared about me, supported me, legally married me twice and made me laugh for pretty close to 25 years.

FOR MY SONS, Gus and Niko, who have taught me there is joy in every single day and that I can be a hero by just being me.

FOR MY PARENTS, who love me unconditionally, accept me for who I am and embrace

my family.

FOR MY BROTHERS, who stick up for me and show their love by never missing a chance to tease me.

FOR MY SISTER, who does so much for us, and who is also my friend.

FOR MY NIECES AND NEPHEWS, their spouses and their children, who have taught me that love is like fertilizer — it works better when you spread it around.

FOR THE REST OF MY “BIG, FAT GREEK FAMILY,” who make me laugh and are such a present part of my kids’ lives.

FOR MY JOB, which challenges me and offers me the chance to help do some good in this world.

FOR MY COLLEAGUES, who teach me something new every day, and even in the most challenging times can find a few minutes to laugh.

FOR MY BOYS’ SCHOOL, where they are nurtured, educated and celebrated for who they are.

FOR THE DIFFICULT EXPERIENCES I’ve had this year, especially the loss of my sweet aunts, which made me appreciate the years we shared together and reminded me of what is really important in life.

FOR LIVING IN UTAH, where it’s not always easy being gay, and where we’re on the front lines of the battle for equality.

FOR THIS COLUMN AND MY BLOG (Chris-

topher-whosyourdaddy.blogspot.com), which allow me to share my experiences as a gay dad, and from which I receive such amazing support.

FOR MY DOG, Gracie, who is always excited to see me, even when I’ve only been in the other room. I hope sometimes that I’m the man she thinks I am.

FOR THE NEW FRIENDS we’ve made since moving to Utah, who are a riot.

FOR THE FRIENDS with whom we’ve reconnected — sometimes it’s like we never even left.

FOR THE FRIENDS IN CALIFORNIA we no longer see every day. They’re the one part of the Golden State we consistently miss.

FOR THE PEOPLE WHO READ THIS COLUMN and my blog, share it with others, and contact me to say what I’ve written made them laugh or think, or just to tell me they think I’m full of shit.

FOR JOSH, last but not least, the hot blond with the smoking body on the other side of the office, who taught me to just say “thanks.”

No matter how you observe Thanksgiving — as a day watching wall-to-wall football, serving dinner at a homeless shelter, or sharing a feast with family and friends — take a minute to think of Josh, and just say thanks. Q

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by Ben Williams

USS LANE DIED SUNDAY, OCT. 24.

Anyone born after 1975 is probably wondering, “Who’s that?”

Well, let me tell you. He was a giant. In my lifetime I’ve known four giants — people who came to Utah on a mission. They were Robert Waldrop, Luci Malin, David Sharpton and Russ Lane. Each of these people heard their own special calling to come to Utah to fight the good fight for equality. I, myself, am just an accidental activist. I didn’t move to Utah to be an activist. I was kind of just pulled here by fate and fell into the role. The aforementioned individuals had callings.

Robert Waldrop had a passion to be an ecumenical activist, a role patterned after black ministers during the civil rights struggle. Waldrop, as pastor of Salt Lake City’s Metropolitan Church, used his ministry to preach social justice for gays and other oppressed minorities. Luci Malin came to Utah as an Equal Rights Amendment missionary. After ERA’s defeat, she stayed to champion the rights of all women, lesbian and hetero. David Sharpton came to Utah believing that he would be an emissary between the LDS Church and Utah’s gay community. But after learning that the church had no intention of offering an olive branch, he stayed on to become the spokesman for AIDS awareness across the state.

Russ Lane felt he had a similar calling.

He felt that he was on a mission to rekindle the flame of Affirmation that he believed had gone out in Utah. Affirmation is a national support group for gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people with an LDS faith or heritage. Catholics have Dignity.

Episcopalians have Integrity. Unitarians have Interweave. And Mormons have Affirmation. Unlike the other organizations which had some ecclesiastical support, Affirmation was on its own with no official recognition by the LDS Church.

Affirmation was founded in Salt Lake City in 1977, and the organization soon flourished in California, the bastion of expatriate Mormons. The original Salt Lake Affirmation had its ups and downs, depending on who was willing to facilitate the group. By 1986, Salt Lake City Affirmation was meeting every other week with only a handful of attendees. It seemed to be adrift on a sea of malaise.

In February 1986, a 29-year-old man arrived in Salt Lake City from San Jose with a suitcase and a mission. This tall, lanky, redheaded Iowa native had an epiphany in California. It was revealed to him that the Utah Gay Saints were in a quandary, and the Lord thus said, “Go east, young man.”

And so Russ hopped on a bus and came to Utah. He was going to set Affirmation aright by forming a new group, one that

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would abide by the national charter which decreed that the Word of Wisdom must be adhered to at meetings and that each meeting must open and close with a prayer.

Russ arrived in Salt Lake City without funds, a job or a place stay, but found all within a very short time.

I first met Russ within weeks of my finally coming out of the closet in 1986. I had surreptitiously attended my first gay support group after Becky Moss promoted it on KRCL’s Concerning Gays and Lesbians. It was the Salt Lake Chapter of Affirmation. A young man there told of a gay Mormon Church being formed, and since at the time I was still of the LDS persuasion, my coming out had to be through the symbols, rituals and jargon with which I was familiar. Baby steps.

At the first meeting of the Church of Jesus Christ of All Latter-day Saints, I saw a handsome red-haired man with a neatly trimmed mustache. His name was Russ Lane. I must admit that I was immediately smitten not only by his looks, but by his charisma. He was so full of enthusiasm and had all the spunk of a Mormon missionary after his first baptism. It was at this church meeting that I learned he was here to form a new group which he named Wasatch Affirmation.

The Wasatch Affirmation and Salt Lake Affirmation were like night and day. Russ’ infectious spirit was contagious. We all felt like we wanted to be part of his grand plans. However, toward the end of March, Russ Lane’s prospects for employment were nonexistent. He told me that he was leaving Salt Lake. This I could not allow. I knew that Russ was here to do good things, and that his being here would touch the lives of hundreds of gay men and women throughout the state.

I decided to approach my own boss and told him that if he hired Russ, I would personally train him and keep his production up as well as my own. My boss reluctantly agreed. I then went to Russ, told him what I had done, and then offered him to come live with me.

For about six months I was Russ’ confidant and supporter. But as I began to become more confident in myself as a gay man, Russ and I had several disagreements. I felt that Russ was too singularly involved in promoting Affirmation at the expense of the broader burgeoning gay community. However, Wasatch Affirmation, under his leadership, expanded from

70 to 100 members attending on a weekly basis. Next to the Royal Court of the Golden Spike Empire, Affirmation in the late 1980s was the largest gay organization in Utah due solely to Russ’ dedication and singularity of purpose.

In 1988 Russ Lane was elected director of the National Affirmation organization.

After serving for a year, he found that he, too, had outgrown his own organization and left Wasatch Affirmation in 1989.

Wasatch Affirmation continued to exist until 2006. Later in life, Russ would go on to find a place for himself in the First Baptist Church of Salt Lake City, having once served on its board of directors. However, he spent his remaining years out of the spotlight of gay activism.

Russ and I diverged completely on the political spectrum as I became a more avid proponent of gay rights and a queer identity. When we lived in the same apartment building, the now-demolished Juel Apartments, we had some doozies of fights over how best to advance the cause of gay rights.

I’d rather not remember Russ from all the fussing and quarreling we did as young men. I’d much rather remember him as the man from the profile I wrote a day before his 30th birthday.

“After work I went to Cahoots to buy Russ Lane a birthday present. I bought him this cute card with a sexy guy on it, a Chippendale Calendar for 1987, some male magazines, and a birthday cupcake. I brought them upstairs to him about seven-thirty to wish him a “Happy Birthday Eve.” I didn’t know if he had birthday plans for tomorrow so I wanted to catch him home tonight.

After inviting me in, I gave him a body massage and rubbed him down with Vick’s Vapor Rub since he said he was coming down with a cold. After having him all rubbed down, I just held Russ in my arms and said that I’m glad that I’m the person you are spending your last night with in your 20s.

We just held each other, cried a little, and laughed a little.”

Russel Eugene Lane, rest in peace, 1956– 2010. Q

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OOD MORNING, CUPCAKES! It’s been over a week since the midterm election, and I am already feeling so much better. Sure, sure, the Republican landslide blows chunks, but it really isn’t the end of the world. We all knew going into the election that with unemployment stalled around 10 percent, the banks refusing to lend credit, and millions of people afraid of losing their jobs, that this election cycle was all about the depressing economy.

And it really should have been.

For once gay issues took a back seat, and the piñata in the room wasn’t us homos.

Although I must admit, if I were Muslim, Mexican or a woman of reproductive age, I would probably be feeling a little nervous right about now. To those folks I can only say, I feel your pain and I’m sorry that you are being used as convenient scapegoats.

We’ve been there, and we know how crappy and hopeless it feels.

But what struck me about this election, petals, was the sheer amount of misinformation and the complete lack of truth in so many of the campaigns. The bullshit factor was made even worse with all of the anonymous ad money and slick messaging that swamped a lot of Democratic candidates (and, sadly, most of the Republican moderates and centrists as well!). This was an election where uninformed opinions and gut feelings of fear were more important than facts, and that combination, pumpkins, is never good.

The progressives simply have to get better at selling their accomplishments (and there have been many) to the American public, and making them relevant to actual people outside of the Washington Beltway and the punditocracy. The message needs to reach the real people who are working their butts off and who are just trying to raise their kids and stay afloat. I truly believe those folks are persuadable, but to get to them we have to run the gauntlet between the populist/Tea Party/anti-gay/talk radio, buzz saw of idiots.

So, darlings, with that in mind, I think we need some tools for how to deal with Tools!

1. Keep it simple I know this may be politically incorrect but I am just going to say it, petals. The reason the Democrats and the President are losing the messaging war is that they cannot reduce anything into a comprehensible sound bite. Compare the instantly memorable Republican message of “drill, baby, drill” to the absolutely true but hopelessly waffely Democratic message that “Offshore

drilling is inherently dangerous and could impact wetlands, marine ecosystems, the livelihoods of fishermen and their families, and continues our dependence on polluting fossil fuels, which ruin our air, and are compromising our children’s health, and, and, and ... zzzzzzzz!” Jesus H. Christ! People are busy and they have to make decisions in a snap. If your argument is so nuanced and so conditional, then you’ve lost your audience.

2. Stay focused Don’t let a conversation go on a tangent into unrelated topics. Take one issue at a time and keep repeating it and reinforcing it. Ignore any baiting, distractions or red herrings that dilute your one central argument. A conversation about Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell does not need to morph into an argument about Christian wedding photographers being forced to photograph civil unions in New Jersey, or whatever.

3. Don’t waste your time There is a small percentage of people whose opinions you will never ever change. They are not worth your time or energy. The same 10 anti-gay people who troll the comment boards of the Internet will still be there 10 years from now with the same arguments. They are a complete waste of energy. Move on! Instead of spending six hours responding to trolls, spend 10 minutes e-mailing your local or state representative, or doing something tangible to make a difference.

4. It’s not always about the LDS Church As a frequent critic of the LDS Church’s politics I violate this rule all the time, but I am sincerely trying hard to improve (and lose 12 pounds to get to my goal weight, and trim my nose hair more often). There are hundreds of wild-eyed Internet missionaries and defenders of the faith who will turn any discussion into an apologist rant about the LDS Church. Don’t spend your time trying to argue doctrine with LDS members.

It’s not productive and, frankly, who cares?

It’s their policies and politics that are the real issue.

When debating, posting comments online or just having ordinary conversations with family, friends or coworkers, use these simple tools with my blessing. Now get out there and spread the good news, kids!

Ciao, babies! Q

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TTENTION ALL INCESTUOUS Iowans.

Your dream is coming true.

Soon you’ll be able to marry the object of your incestuous affections. Since that’s how incest works: just two people in love, oppressed by blood. It’s like Flowers In the Attic on Broadway, only Broadway is real life.

This is all thanks to the Iowa Supreme Court. No, they haven’t legalized incest.

But they will. After all, they made it legal for homos to marry each other, so incest is next on the marriage agenda. At least that’s what Tim Hicks promises. And he would know since he is apparently insane.

Hicks is a member of Cornerstone World Outreach in Sioux City, a church facing IRS scrutiny for its rabid campaign to boot three members of the Iowa Supreme Court who are up for reelection. Apparently it’s a violation of federal tax law to mount a political campaign from the pulpit. But hey, it’s not God’s law so they apparently don’t have to follow it.

When he’s not blowing his sax for the Cornerstone Praise Team, Hicks apparently likes to make videos under the moniker Creative Media Solutions. One of his latest, which is up on YouTube, features “Mike and Sharron” in a spoof on the eHarmony ads.

“We were made to be together,” Mike says, his arm around Sharron. “But there was a time when society would not allow us to be married.”

He continues, “You have to be friends before you’re lovers.”

Sharron chimes in, “That’s definitely true of us.”

“And we were definitely friends before we were lovers,” he says.

“But more importantly than that,” says Sharron, “before we were friends we were brother and sister.”

“If it wasn’t for the Iowa Supreme Court, we wouldn’t be married today,” Mike says.

And then, in unison: “Thanks, Iowa Supreme Court!” followed by clip of the pair kissing. On the lips. Eww! Look, as far as parody videos go, it’s ac-

tually pretty good. The production level is pretty high, the actors know how to say their lines (though they could have used a bigger make-up budget. I mean, come on.

It’s hot under those lights. A little powder would’ve gone a long way, that’s all I’m saying), and it’s a clever premise.

As far as arguments go, well, that’s another story. The whole “slippery slope” argument is a crowd favorite among anti-gay folks wanting to keep homos from marrying each other. And while it may be fun to imagine all of the horrible things that gays marrying might wreck on society, it just doesn’t hold up under scrutiny.

To quote Andrew Sullivan, “If you want to argue that a lifetime of loving, faithful commitment between two women is equivalent to incest or child abuse, then please argue it.

It would make for fascinating reading. But spare us this bizarre point that no new line can be drawn in access to marriage — or else everything is up for grabs and, before we know where we are, men will be marrying their dogs.”

Of course, to Hicks, incest and homosexuality are pretty much the same thing, in that they’re horrible and disgusting and against God or whatever. But in the reality-based world where rational people live, they are not the same thing at all.

But in order to see that, you can’t just dismiss gays and lesbians as bunch of sexcrazed lunatics hell-bent on destroying marriage. You have to be able to see gays and lesbians as actual human beings capable of love, and same-sex couples deserving of the protections that come with a legally recognized marriage.

My guess is that Hicks isn’t capable of this. The Iowa Supreme Court is, however, and that’s screwing up the “homos are the worst” narrative. Sadly for Hicks and company that’s the only story they know. Q

The whole ‘slippery slope’ argument is a crowd favorite among anti-gay folks wanting to keep homos from marrying each other

D’Anne Witkowski has been gay for pay since 2003. She’s a freelance writer and poet (believe it!). When she’s not taking on the creeps of the world she reviews rock and roll shows in Detroit with her twin sister.

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HIS YEAR, LESBIAN, GAY, bisexual, transgender and queer youth have been in the U.S. media’s spotlight more than ever before. In September, the suicides of at least nine teenagers who faced anti-gay bullying in school brought unprecedented attention to the high rates of bullying that queer students face — and the potentially fatal consequences when schools do not stop it.

Unfortunately, another issue that can have equally fatal consequences has not received such attention: the disproportionate representation of queer youth among the nation’s homeless youth population. According to Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Youth: An Epidemic of Homelessness, a report released in 2009 by the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force Policy Institute and the National Coalition for the Homeless, estimated that between 20–40 percent of the nation’s two million homeless youth identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender.

In Utah, that number is higher. In QSaltLake’s story on youth homelessness last year, Zach Bale, then director of Salt

currently has one such ambassador — Katrina Oakason — Noble said she wants to add more to the program’s ranks.

“We began the youth ambassador program with the idea that Katrina would go out and raise awareness of the homeless youth epidemic and help youth,” she said. “Now tons of people are calling for her to speak.”

When asked why high schools were a good venue for raising awareness about homeless youth, Noble said that the teens with whom Oakason has spoken were eager to learn and help.

“These kids aren’t homeless but youth activism is a huge thing right now, and that’s what Katrina was inspired to tell us,” she said. “Katrina said [to us], ‘You tell us we’re the future; well, we are.’ When she spoke at Rowland [Hall-St. Mark’s] High it was amazing. Those kids were so positive about what they had experienced there and Katrina did such a great job. We had a lot of e-mails about how our information helped them.”

“These youth are going to be parents someday, and in that aspect I think we’ve done a lot to prevent homeless youth,” she added.

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Lake City’s Homeless Youth Resource Center, determined that 43 percent of its clients (who range between 16–21 years of age) identified as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender or “other than straight” in the 2008–2009 fiscal year. The number of total homeless youth also climbed by a few hundred. At the time, he cited the poor economy’s contributions to domestic violence, sexual abuse and homelessness among families as the potential source of the increase.

This fiscal year, the number has improved slightly, dropping from 43 percent to 41.

However, Bale said that the reasons for that decline were probably financial and may be temporary.

“In terms of the number [of youth] we’ve served, we’ve seen about the same number as this previous fiscal year,” he said. “But what we want to point out is that we had extra money to be available and open more hours at the previous winter, and if we’d been able to maintain at the same capacity we would’ve seen more.”

Even so, the resource center, a number of other state and county organizations, and Utah’s lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer community at large are working hard to help these vulnerable youths in new and innovative ways.

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Operation Shine America In 2009 Chloe Noble and her best friend Jill Hartman walked across the country to raise awareness of queer homeless youth. During the seven month Homeless Youth Pride walk they lived on the streets of several major cities, interviewing and filming local homeless youth and blogging about their experiences, including run-ins with law enforcement.

Since returning home, Noble and a number of Utahns, including Justice Vanguardmember Ginger Phillips, have begun a major initiative aimed at ending what Noble calls “the homeless youth epidemic.”

“It is easy for these youth to feel hopeless,” said Noble, OSA’s founding director. “When facing entire communities who believe that these youth are tearing families apart, and that their presence on this planet is actually ending the human race. What is tearing families apart is the belief that LGBTQ youth are damaged, sick, perverted, impure or unnatural.”

In order to combat the homophobia and transphobia that leads to parents kicking queer children out of their homes, Noble said that OSA is launching a trio of initiatives in 2011: a community awareness training program, a host home program and a homeless youth ambassador program. Although OSA

Host Homes One of the most pressing needs for Noble is to get homeless lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer youth into host homes, particularly because Salt Lake City does not currently have a shelter specifically for teens.

“We’re spearheading this program because DCFS [the Department of Child and Family Services] have a lot on their plate and we want to reach out and help with our own community. We want to find families [who are willing to take these youth in].”

Although Utah law formerly prohibited this practice as “harboring a runaway” as a Class B misdemeanor, this is no longer entirely the case. In the 2009 general Legislative session, Rep. Lori Fowlke (R-Orem) introduced a bill to address Utah’s prohibition of sheltering minors “absent from the home or lawfully prescribed residence of the parent or legal guardian” without that parent or guardian’s permission. The bill, which was sponsored by Sen. Curt Bramble, passed and amended section 62A-4a-501 of Utah’s law code. Now, an individual must notify a peace officer or “the nearest detention center” by telephone or “other reasonable means” about the location of a minor. Similarly, an adult will not be guilty of harboring a runaway if she or he notifies the youth’s parents, the Division of Juvenile Justice Services or a youth services center of the minor’s whereabouts, or if the parents have abused, neglected or kicked their child out.

Noble said that OSA hopes to eventually create host homes for queer youth modeled upon similar endeavors in Minnesota and New York.

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Don R. Austin, LCSW Helping the Community Understand When tackling community issues such as domestic violence prevention and adult homelessness, it is not uncommon for agencies to band together, as several have done at the Salt Lake City’s YWCA’s Family Justice Center.

By offering community training sessions about the issues facing homeless youth, Noble said she hopes to see a similar pooling of resources among agencies for combating youth homelessness.

“OSA and DCFS [the Department of Child and Family Services] are members of the VOA Task Force to End Youth Homelessness in Utah. All three are working together with many other dedicated organizations to stop the epidemic in its tracks,” said Noble. “Just like every community, every organization also has a lot to offer the situation. DCFS will be cross-training with OSA, in order to learn how to best serve the homeless youth and others involved. NAMI [the National Association for Mental Illness] is also a huge contributor in serving homeless youth, raising awareness and prevention” as inhospitable conditions on the street put homeless youth at risk for mental illnesses such as depression and anxiety disorders.

As part of this effort, Noble also said that OSA wants to work with such groups as the Utah Pride Center, the LDS Church and Catholic Community Services, and to help “build bridges” between homeless youth and those who often have negative interactions with them, like store owners, law enforcement officers and local residents.

But service agencies aren’t the only ones who can help. Noble said that the lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer community, as well as the community at large, can also play a part in ending youth homelessness.

“What that means is that the community is able to say, ‘This is what we don’t understand,’ and then we can teach the community what they need to do to help out, and the community can teach the homeless youth on how they can make an effort to resolve this problem,” she said. “What we’re doing is trying to bring everyone back into the room to most importantly understand one another.”

Why No Shelter?

Oakason said that one thing that would give Salt Lake City’s homeless youth hope as well as a future would be a shelter designated for them. Although plans for such a building have been discussed by several community leaders for years, the shelter is not currently being built.

Noting that youth who receive help from and make connections at a shelter tend to “complete high school, escape victimization and make homelessness a fading memory,” Oakason expressed frustration that such a shelter has not yet been realized.

“I am tired of watching my street family struggle to survive,” said Oakason, who is

genderqueer and prefers a mixture of female and male pronouns. “Especially when I know many of the houses we walk by are filled with people who have warm beds to sleep in, fridges filled with unwanted food, clothes that have never even been worn.”

When such a shelter is built, Noble said that its staff must be aware of the challenges that queer homeless youth face.

“When I was one of the mangers at The Road Home, one of our young transgender adult residents literally had to live in a large closet, in order to remain safe on the premises,” she said. “We need to place an emphasis on their care and safety.”

Give Them Hope During the Homeless Youth Pride Walk, Noble said that she often felt hopeless after seeing youth who were suffering from illnesses such as MRSA, who were addicted to drugs and who had turned to prostitution in order to survive.

“I started feeling like there’s nothing we can do and that’s a horrible space to be in,” she said. “But now I have a lot of hope. We’re doing great things, and once we get on the right track these youths will thrive. Katrina went from being homeless to speaking to hundreds of people. She does media work and community awareness training.”

An important thing to remember, she added, is that homeless youth can accomplish great things if they are given assistance and opportunities. Noble said she has seen this firsthand at a workshop she and other OSA volunteers teach every Wednesday at the Utah Pride Center.

“These kids went from being really super sad in our class and now they have that light in their eyes, they’re really motivated,” she said. “I was surprised by that. I didn’t think these youth, because they’re constantly dehumanized, would be so motivated. They call us all the time with ideas.”

Zero, a homeless gay youth who works with OSA, added that as dangerous and painful as the streets can be, homeless youth are generous and treat one another like family.

“We had been on the streets in one city for less than a week,” he said. “I was hungry and hadn’t slept for days. I found another homeless youth who had some crackers. We found another who had half a gallon of milk.

In no time, we had a small group of strangers gathered on a street corner, each offering what they had in their pockets. It was an organic family, a true family springing up out of nowhere. And yet, some people can’t even spare a smile for the homeless — and they call us uncivilized.” Q On Dec. 3 Operation Shine America will present an art show and photo exhibit of work created by homeless youth at the Patrick Moore Gallery, 2233 S. 700 East. All work will be available for purchase. To learn more about Operation Shine America, visit operationshineamerica.org.

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Salt Lake Men’s Choir Invited to Perform at Carnegie Hall The Choir, now in its 29th year, is hoping the community will help them get there.

by JoSelle Vanderhooft

The old joke runs, “How do you get to Carnegie Hall?” “Practice, practice, practice.”

The Salt Lake Men’s Choir has spent the last 29 years doing just that, and to Artistic Director Dennis McCracken’s delight, they have indeed received an invitation to perform at the world-famous venue in 2012 by MidAmerica Productions. Founded in 1984, the group has brought hundreds of choirs, musicians and soloists from around the world to perform at Carnegie Hall and Lincoln Center.

“We’re thrilled to death to be invited,” said McCracken, noting that only one other Utah choir — the now-defunct Cache Valley Chorale — has participated in the program.

“They have a concert season and they bring in these world-famous conductors and composers, and then they invite four or five choirs each weekend to come to New York,” explained McCracken. Each choir, he continued, performs for 30 minutes before all the invited choirs join together for a performance, one which they rehearse over three days. Past conductors of the combined performances have included Sherrill Milnes, Lukas Foss, JoAnne Falletta and John Rutter — the latter of whom McCracken hopes to work with the most.

“The one I’m really headed for is John Rutter conducting his Gloria or Requiem,” he said.

“But some of the major works they’re performing in that season [2011-2012] are Brahams’ Requiem, Beethoven’s Requiem, Schubert’s Mass in C and Vivaldi’s Gloria. You never know until they get their season booked who you’ll be with.”

But practice isn’t the only thing the choir will need to appear on a New York stage. They also need money — $19,000 by McCracken’s reckoning, to fly, house and feed 50 choir members in the city for three days of rehearsal and the performance. And with money needing to be paid by November 2011, the choir has just one year to raise it.

“You’ll see the choir be more visible in the community than we have been,” said McCracken. “We’ll be doing a lot of grantwriting. We’re still in the process of planning all that [what we’ll do].”

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For its New York performance, McCracken added, the choir would like to perform music from its 2011 concert, Hey, Look Us Over, which will be “about life, and Utah and being gay and gay-friendly in Utah.” This concert will be presented on the Thursday and Friday of Memorial Day weekend, with the fundraiser dinner and auction raffle being held Friday night.

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concert and fundraiser auction with Sister Dottie S. Dixon, a popular drag character who has starred in her own stage play and is played by local actor Charles Lynn Frost. The choir will only do two concerts next year, not only to spend more time raising funds but because fewer Utahns, said McCracken, have been attending concerts across the board.

“Fundraising’s really tough right now,” he added, noting that several arts groups have also been hurt by the sluggish economy. Still, McCracken said that he is hopeful that the group can see their dream come true.

“It’s really a chance to work with these enormously talented, famous directors and

of whom lack insurance and do not qualify for Medicaid because they are not disabled and do not have dependents.

“It costs us $150 per office visit [per person] and that’s for total coordinated care,” said Jenn Hyvonen, Development and Communications director for the clinic. “Not only is that the 30-minute appointment, but the care coordination,

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transportation, translation services, specialty care and respite care.” The total per patient per year, she noted, is $500. The clinic, she added, is staffed by 200 doctors and specialists who provide their services on a pro bono basis.

Even so, increased need for the clinic’s services means that it needs to raise more money to cover medical supplies and lab costs. In order to save money, Hyvonen said the clinic has gone to electronic health records and cut each client’s visit from 40 minutes to half an hour.

“We’ve gone from seeing 85 patients a day to about 100 with the same staff,” she said.

In total, she estimates that Fourth Street serves 6,000 people, including 700 patients age 22 and younger.

The clinic is seeking donations through SpreadingGoodHealth.org to directly fund medical services for homeless Utahns. The hope is to raise $150,000 by the end of the year to fund 1,000 medical visits for homeless families and individuals. Each visit prevents the transmission of disease, saves injuries from becoming

disabilities and gives our neighbors a way out of homelessness.

Through Nov. 15, John Netto & Catherine Putnam-Netto will match every dollar up to $50,000. Even a little bit of money, said Hyvonen, goes a long way. For example, $10 will fill many prescriptions. Five thousand dollars, she added, will supply a specialty clinic — such as the on-site for optometry and podiatry — for a year.

Each year the clinic holds a candlelight vigil in December in honor of homeless Utahns.

“We get together and remember all the homeless people who lost their lives due to homelessness,” she said, noting that about 50 homeless people in Utah die each year from exposure or “from the same type of diseases that are affecting the housed population” — chronic but treatable illnesses like diabetes, cancer and respiratory ailments.

“It goes to show what access to lack of health insurance can do,” she said. “It’s amazing the amount of pain people are living with out there.”

To make a donation to the clinic, visit f­ ourthstreetclinic.org.

You Are Welcome at the YWCA

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OR OVER A CENTURY, Salt Lake City women have had a place they can go for help in escaping and preventing domestic violence, building strong and healthy relationships, and working on their communication, anger management and self-care skills.

The YWCA of Salt Lake City, is not only a welcoming sanctuary for straight women, but for all members of Utah’s lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer community.

With the exception of its residential housing, said Keri Jones, chief program officer at YWCA, the organization’s programs welcome all who need them, regardless of sexual orientation and gender identity.

“We’re known for our shelter, but that’s not all we provide,” she said. ‘We have a myriad of other resources for people who are considering leaving home, or who are just testing the water and want to understand what options may be available for them [if they leave].”

These programs include childcare for kindergarten age and younger and which is open to parents of all sexes, a “psycho-educational” community group centered on topics like assertiveness training and coping with grief and loss, and a Family Justice Center, which Jones describes as “a co-location model of services.”

“We have brought over 10 agencies in the community under one roof on our campus to meet the needs of survivors of domestic violence” including the Department of Workforce Services, the Multi-Cultural Legal Center, the Salt Lake City Prosecutors Office and the Sego Lily Center for the Abused Deaf. The goal of keeping these services on one campus, explained Jones, is to help people using the YWCA to easily access a number of organizations that they may need in everything from getting restraining orders to helping immigrants who are married to U.S. citizens seek legal residency.

“It’s a great place to start for women and men,” she said. “It’s a place to get information and find out what your options are.”

While the YWCA campus’ secure residential facilities are only open to individual women and women with children, Jones stressed that this housing is open to all women or femaleidentified people. This housing includes both a

new 76-bed shelter that offers women and their children a private room and bathroom.

“People can find a little more space away from the community now whereas at the old shelter they were living on top of each other,” she said.

The campus also has two transitional housing programs: a residential facility that can house up to 12 women without children who are working on becoming self-sufficient, and an apartment complex with 36 rooms for women with children.

Additionally, she said that YWCA staff and volunteers are working hard to make sure that queer women feel welcome by doing such things as using gender-neutral language during intake and groups.

“We’re here to be a guide and a resource and for emotional support,” she said. “We want to be here to intervene at whatever level she may need us. If that means housing or shelter or meeting with an attorney or a police officer or social worker, any of those things can be done on our campus.”

Recently, the YWCA of Salt Lake City received a $35,347 grant from Avon Foundation for Women that will be used, said YWCA Salt Lake City Chief Executive Officer Anne Burkholder, to help fund its myriad programs.

“With these funds we will be able to aid victims and survivors of family violence on creating financial safety plans, working toward goals for financial independence; providing them with knowledge and individualized guidance to understand and utilize the financial, educational and employment resources that will contribute to their success,” she said.

However, the organization, like all nonprofit service providers, is always in need of financial help to assist the demands for services created by the ongoing recession — during which domestic violence rates have spiked. To make a donation, visit ywca.org/saltlakecity.

For those who prefer to donate items, the YWCA is accepting donations of new toys, clothing and household items for Candy Cane Corner, its holiday store that allows families using its services to shop for gifts. The store is annually run in cooperation with Volunteers of America, Utah and The Road Home. Qm For more info, vist YWCA’s website, ywca.com.

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When PWACU began in 1988 under the leadership of founder David Sharpton, it offered fewer programs than it does today, said current Executive Director Toni Johnson, who took the reigns from Dana Hutchinson in late 2001.

Under her leadership, the four cornerstones of the organization have continued and grown.

They are an annual Living With AIDS Conference, regular seminars on “pertinent issues about HIV,”a community newsletter about HIV/AIDS called The Positive Press and a resource library which today boasts free internet access for the organization’s clients.

“Those four items are our education program,” said Johnson, noting that PWACU’s social and support groups, which she created after becoming executive director, make up a fifth. Unlike many HIV/AIDS-related organizations, PWACU boasts social/support groups for women and for straight people.

“Last year we started a gay men’s support group that meets twice a month,” she added.

The group also refers clients to organizations that can help them meet health and financial needs that PWACU does not provide.

“We do a lot of referrals because no one

agency can provide everything,” said Johnson.

“We give referrals to things like case management, STD/HIV testing, housing assistance, medical care, mental health providers and utility assistance. We can also help our clients create resumes so they can find employment, and we have a social security payee program.”

“Some of our clients’ case managers feel they need help with their finances, or have been court-ordered to have help,” said Johnson, explaining that a payee takes a person’s social security money and pays his or her bills. “Unfortunately, many people are taken advantage of by their payees, so our organization has become a payee so their bills are paid and they have a place to live.”

But education and support are not the only services PWACU offers.

Since HIV/AIDS is not only be a physically and emotionally draining illness, but one that is socially isolating, PWACU has long sponsored a recreation program, an annual barbecue, an annual river trip, and several holiday parties throughout the year.

“Through the recreation program, we solicit donations to plays, baseball games and different social events,” Johnson explained.

PWACU also operates Our Store, a thrift store near the Salt Lake City Main Public Library, and which sells a variety of items such as clothing, furniture, small appliances, books and DVDs. “I love the store!” said Johnson. “When I started it several years ago, it was a thrift room

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where people could donate clothing and small appliances for our clients. Now we have the store, and so we have vouchers that we give to our clients through their case managers so they can come shopping.” Clients now also receive vouchers in the birthday cards the organization sends to them.

Johnson said that the main purpose of upgrading the thrift room to an actual store was to make PWACU self-sustaining.

“The first thing we want to do in becoming self-sustaining is to improve our existing programming and expand our programing,” said Johnson. “We’re not there yet, but we hope to be. We are online to make almost two-thirds of PWACU’s budget this year in profits. We still need the poinsettia fundraiser and we still need people to donate, but the store has been an amazing success.”

And PWACU will be launching a number of programs in 2011 that Johnson hopes will be similarly successful. The chief of these is an HIV-prevention program, a grant for which Johnson said she has applied. When asked why PWACU was branching out in this direction, Johnson shared a concern that several members of Utah’s lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender community have been voicing throughout the year.

“HIV education is not happening among our youth, and they are the highest in new infection rates,” she said. “Since no one else is doing that [HIV education], even though our programs have been focused on people after they’re infected with HIV, we feel it’s our obligation to bring education to our youth.”

In the meantime, as PWACU works on making itself and its clients self-sustaining, Johnson said they are still in need not only of donations, but volunteers for its store and to assist in running its programs. She stressed that volunteers can be any sexual orientation or gender identity, and need not be HIV positive.

“We have volunteers that are straight as well as gay, positive as well as not positive. Our volunteer base runs the gamut,” she said. “We have people coming in from the Department of Workforce Services, college students coming in for extra credit, retired people who are just looking for a way to spend time.”

The only thing a volunteer needs to have, she said, is compassion and a willingness to listen.

“We don’t have a case manager and none of our volunteers are counselors, but we do play that role quite often, especially when someone is newly diagnosed or they come to us for the first time,” said Johnson. “Being HIV positive myself, I know how scary that is. I remember that fear, and so when people come to us for the first time, our first meeting is mostly just listening to what they need to get off their minds.” Q For more information about donating to or volunteering with PWACU visit pwacu.org. For more information about PWACU’s annual holiday poinsettia fundraiser, visit this issue’s Qmmunity section.

Transgender Awareness Month November 2010: Statewide Listing of Events for Utah Early Kick-off event: Wednesday, October 27 at 7:00pm “She Was My Brother” Preview Night at Plan-B Theatre with a post-show discussion with playwright Julie Jensen. Tickets are $20 benefiting Transgender Education Advocates of Utah (TEA).

Tickets must be purchased in advance and are available by contacting TEA of Utah at teaofutah@ yahoo.com.

Thursday, October 28th through Nov. 7 Plan-B Theatre continues “She Was My Brother”. For info go to www.planbtheatre.org.

Thursday, October 28 12:00-1:00pm “Breaking

Down the Wall of Hate” with Tristan Silverman.

Sponsored by Center for Diversity and Unity at Weber State University.

Friday, October 29 7:00-9:00pm “Breaking Down

the Wall of Hate” poetry workshop with Tristan Silverman. Sponsored by Center for Diversity and Unity at Weber State University.

Tuesday, Nov. 2 from 7:00-9:00pm Transgender Tuesday: The Fabulous Chili Challenge! Wanna taste some delicious, hot chili and showcase your culinary talents? Bring your friends and come to this year’s Fabulous Chili Challenge! Please consider bringing a can of food to donate to the Utah Food Bank. Sacred Light of Christ Church at 823 S. 600 E. SLC. Sponsored by TransAction, a program of the Utah Pride Center.

Saturday, Nov. 6 9:30pm-12:30am Gender Blender Masquerade Ball, hosted by LIFE. Event features a fashion show, amateur drag show and costume contest with prizes from Persian Peacock. Tickets are $8 in advance and $10 at the door (advance tickets can be purchased from LIFE Executive Council Members in the LGBTQA Center of Utah State University or from Persian Peacock on 47 N Main St.). This event will be held at the Logan Golf & Country Club, 710 North 1500 East, Logan.

Sunday, Nov. 7 Trans Parents Day Potluck Brunch, Trans parents, Trans families and families with Trans youth are invited for brunch, games and fun. If you’d like to bring a brunch dish to share, contact Rose Ellen, roseellen@utahpridecenter.org. Brunch will be at the Utah Pride Center, Middle Meeting Room, 355 N. 300 W. Sponsored by Kids Like Me, a program of the Utah Pride Center Friday, Nov. 12 12:15-1:30pm: “Tales from the

Trenches: Litigating Transgender Rights” Shannon Minter, National Center for Lesbian Rights (NCLR), workshop with law students and local attorneys, at the University of Utah S.J. Quinney College of Law to be held in the Sutherland Moot Courtroom hosted

by S.J. Quinney College of Law, OUTLaws and Transgender Education Advocates of Utah (TEA). FREE and open to the public. Email teaofutah@yahoo.com.

Friday, Nov. 12 5:00pm Movie night featuring

“Harsh Beauty”(about the Hijra’s lives in India) at the Olpin Student Union Theater, Social and discussion to follow with food. Hosted by the University of Utah’s LGBT Resource Center.

Friday, Nov. 12 5:30—7:00pm: “Transgender

Journeys: Personal and Political Reflections on the Transgender Movement ” Shannon Minter, National Center for Lesbian Rights (NCLR), at Weber State University in the Center for Diversity and Unity— Shepherd Union 232, hosted by Center for Diversity and Unity, Ogden OUTReach and Transgender Education Advocates of Utah (TEA). FREE and open to the public. Email teaofutah@yahoo.com for info.

Saturday, Nov. 13 9:00am-6:30pm Engendering

Community, 2nd Annual TransAction Gender Conference. Attend a full day of exciting workshops and presentations offered by local community members including Trans folks, parents, partners, families, friends and allies. Featuring key note speaker and international activist/artist Elisha Lim. Conference is FREE and open to the public. Discounted lunch will be available for cash purchase. Westminster College, Gore School of Business, 1840 S. 1300 E. SLC Co-sponsored by TransAction, a program of the Utah Pride Center and the Inclusion Center

Saturday, Nov. 13 1:00-2:00pm “Transgender Rights in Utah and Around the Globe: What Does the Future Hold? “ Shannon Minter, National Center for Lesbian Rights (NCLR), to speak on legal issues that transgender people face. This event is FREE and open to the general public. This event will be held in the City & County building on the corner of 400 South and 200 East in room #315, hosted by Transgender Education Advocates of Utah (TEA). Email teaofutah@yahoo.com for info.

Saturday, Nov. 13 7:00-9:00pm House Party in honor of Shannon Minter. Co-hosted by Equality Utah and Transgender Education Advocates of Utah (TEA) at the home of Scott McCoy & Mark Barr (560 East 700 South, SLC). Please RSVP to teaofutah@ yahoo.com.

Saturday, Nov. 13 8:00-11:00pm Gender Conference After-Party featuring a performance by international guest activist/artist, Elisha Lim, Find out more about Elisha’s work at www.newhearteveryday.blogspot.com. Party will be at Sugar Space, 616 E. Wilmington Ave (2190 S.) Sponsored by TransAction, a program of the Utah Pride Center Monday, Nov. 15 6:00-8:00pm Community Panel: Dialogue with Transgender Community Leaders and Allies, Panelists include: Dr. Mark Malan, Kip Rishton, OUTLaws representative, Deborah Dean from Engendered Species, Aaron Sparks and Jesse Henninger from RCGSE, Jesse Fluetsch, and Adrian Harris. Hosted by University of Utah’s LGBT Resource Center. For info please contact Sai Samineni at ssamineni@sa.utah.edu.

Tuesday, Nov. 16 7:00-9:00pm Transgender Tuesday: Open Mic Night. Speak your truth and share your music! Sugar House Coffee, 1045 E. 2100 S. Sponsored by TransAction, a program of the Utah Pride Center

Wednesday, Nov. 17 7:30-9:30pm “I AM a

Miracle: Core Beliefs” workshop by Clark Cutler and Laura Arellano. This event will be held at the Transformation Station located at 970 East 3300 South Ste# 2. Cost: Love Donation. Event is open to all and sponsored by Transformation Station and Transgender Education Advocates of Utah (TEA). For info email TEA at teaofutah@yahoo.com.

Thursday, Nov. 18 7:00pm Transgender Monologues and Dinner hosted by the University of Utah’s LGBT Resource Center. Event to feature artists and poets in the community sharing their works about transgender identity, gender expression/identity concerns and sharing their voice as homage to those lost to anti-transgender bias. Proceeds from this event to benefit TEA of Utah. For info contact Sai Samineni at ssamineni@sa.utah.edu.

Friday, Nov. 19 7:00-9:00pm Comedy and Art Show

with Heather Franck and Karen Bayard. Proceeds to benefit TEA of Utah and TransAction. Event held at the Transformation Station located at 970 East 3300 South Ste# 2. Cost: $8 per person or $10 for two people. Sponsored by Transformation Station, Karen Bayard Comedy, Photography by Heather Franck, and Transgender Education Advocates of Utah (TEA). For info email teaofutah@yahoo.com.

Saturday, Nov. 20 6:00pm International Transgender Day of Remembrance Candle Light Vigils sponsored by TEA of Utah: First United Methodist Church, 203 S. 200 East in Salt Lake City, Unitarian Universalist Church of Ogden, 705 23rd Street in Ogden, Utah Valley Unitarian Universalist Fellowship and the United Church of Christ, 175 North University Ave in Provo, Logan TBD. ALL listings of candle light vigils are at www.TransgenderDoR.org. These events are FREE and open to the general public.

Saturday, Nov. 20 7:00pm TEA of Utah’s 5th Annual TEA Party honoring our community partners.

This year’s award recipients are Candice Metzler for Individual, Plan-B Theatre Co. for Organization and Rep. Jen Seelig for Politico of the year. For info email teaofutah@yahoo.com. This event is FREE and open to the general public.

Saturday, Nov. 20 8:00-11:00pm EnTRANSed: A Celebration of Life. After attending a vigil to remember those who are no longer with us, it’s time to celebrate trans-fabulous people at this party. This is the night to be who you are and love every minute of it!

Kilby Court, 748 S. Kilby Court (330 W.) Co-sponsored

by TransAction and sWerve Tuesday, Nov. 23 7-9:00pm SLC Film Center’s Transgender Tuesday: “Two-Spirit” Film and Panel Discussion. This FREE event seeks to engage audiences around issues of social justice, friendship, love and change within the Transgender community. Info at slcfilmcenter.org. Tessman Auditorium at the Main Library, 210 E. 400 S. SLC. Co-sponsored by TransAction, Spectrum: A Forum for Queer People of Color (programs of the Utah Pride Center), Salt Lake City Film Society, University of Utah’s LGBT Resource Center and Transgender Education Advocates of Utah (TEA).

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ARTS&ENTERTAINMENT

gay agenda Sitting Fairy, The Zerbert Blower

KASKADE See Nov. 13

by Tony Hobday

Sunday, Nov. 7, was an emotional rollercoaster. First I had to giggle a little at the memory of being in Wendover with Jesse Duckdown or whatever his last name is — let me tell you, the boy can pound a glass of wine like nobody’s business!

Then, I spent a couple hours in complete anxiety over the Vikings vs. Cardinals game (that’s football for you sissies). Then I celebrated a birthday at Piper Down — have you ever seen a lesbian get a hammer as a birthday gift? ... It’s quite traumatic. Then I attended Colt’s wake at Club Try-Angles, may he rest in peace! Then the bejesus was scared out me when Michael fell down while bowling, I thought for sure he broke a hip. I’m surprised I made it through the day.

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THURSDAY — I must dispute the veneration that ABBA MANIA is “the world’s most successful ABBA tribute show.” Obviously, whoever made such a disclaimer has not heard/seen me sing karaoke to “Voulez Vous” or “Super Trouper” — it’s a hot freakin’ mess!

Just ask my roadies Annette and Jenn. Anyhoo, this tribute band will undoubtedly send out good vibes and hip tunes all the while you are gettin’ down in the orchestra pit — Neat-o!

7:30pm, Kingsbury Hall, 1395 E. Presidents Cir., UofU. Tickets $29.50, 801-581-7100 or kingtix.com.

QQ Spy Hop Productions is pleased to present the eighth annual PITCHNIC WORLD PREMIERE featuring four new films from its most intensive and critically-acclaimed youth film program. The films: Streeters, a documentary on Salt Lake City homeless youth; The Silhouettes, a documentary on local poets and how poetry serves as a therapeutic form of escape for these artists; Rx, an unlikely friendship forms between a hypochondriac and a free spirit; and Rock is in the Air, a mockumentary on a middle-age man’s disillusionment with his “Air Band.”

7:30–9:30pm, Jeanne Wagner Theatre, Rose Wagner Center, 138 W. Broadway, Tickets $6.50, 801-355-ARTS or arttix.org.

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FRIDAY — The Wizard of Oz has been loved by children young and old for seven decades. Now, experience the entire movie as you never have before with gloriously live music from Utah Symphony, in the performance OZ WITH ORCHESTRA, complete with Judy Garland’s original 1939 vocal recordings. The handsome Jerry Steichen conducts ... hopefully in ruby slippers — he has gorgeous ankles.

8pm, through Saturday, Abravanel Hall, 123 W. South Temple.

Tickets $30–85, 801-355-ARTS or arttix.org.

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SATURDAY — The sexy, gay-affirming LDS deejay KASKADE (Ryan Raddon) returns to the stage for some thumpin’ house music that he attributes the gay community for “propelling into popularity.” A few of his Billboard hits include “Sorry,’ “Steppin’ Out” and “Be Still.”

7:30pm, Rail Event Center, 235 N. 500 West. Tickets $25, 801467-8499 or smithstix.com.

QQ Well slap me into a pair of chaps, slip on a pink headdress and call me Sitting Fairy, Cub JAM is throwing a COWBOYS AND INDIANS PARTY. Michael and I can’t wait to see what some of you boys can do with your tomahawks and spurs. Anyhoo, enjoy the signature cocktail of the night, 3 0 | QS a lt L a k e | issue 167 | N o v e mbe r 11 , 20 10

Country-Western Bitch Fit, and the fabulous spinning of DJ Mike Babbitt. And if you come dressed in only a loin cloth and war paint then you’ll likely win a prize.

9pm, Club JAM, 751 N. 300 West. For more info call 801-891-1162 or visit jamslc.com.

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SUNDAY — The Human Rights Education Center of Utah, with special guest Carol Lynn Pearson, takes a stand against bullying. In DIFFERENT = AMAZING, a montage of theatre, music and dance, they celebrate the beauty of, and need for, diversity in our life. I agree, being different is amazing ... and beautiful, and interesting, and delightful, and I could go on and on. This fundraiser benefits HRECU.

5–7pm, Jeanne Wagner Theatre, Rose Wagner Center, 138 W. Broadway, Tickets $10, 801-355-ARTS or arttix.org.

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MONDAY — Ever since the 2002 Olympics, I’ve been a huge fan of the alternative rock band LIFEHOUSE. Seeing frontman Jason Wade on stage was hypnotic and his amazing voice made me want to crawl down his throat and snuggle there forever. Now stay out of the gutter, that was not a sexual innuendo ... necessarily. Kris Allen and Alyssa Bernal open.

7pm, In The Venue, 219 S. 600 West. Tickets $25/adv.–27/day of show, 801-467-8499 or smithstix.com.

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TUESDAY — From the classic Pulitzer Prizewinning novel by Alice Walker, and the moving film

by Steven Spielberg, comes a soul-stirring new musical and landmark Broadway event. THE COLOR PURPLE is an inspiring family saga that tells the unforgettable story of a woman who — through love — finds the strength to triumph over adversity and discover her unique voice in the world.

7:30pm, through Nov. 21, Capitol Theatre, 50 W. 200 South.

Tickets $35–57.50, 801-355-ARTS or arttix.org.

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WEDNESDAY — I saw The Killers in a 2009 concert and I was completely mesmerized by frontman BRANDON FLOWERS’ energetic performance. Now, promoting his debut solo album, Flamingo, the 29-year-old Mormon hottie returns to the Utah stage, in what I can only hope will be as exuberant and fantastic a performance as the last.

8pm, The Depot, 400 W. South Temple. Tickets $25/adv.–30/day of show, 801-467-8499 or smithstix.com.

QQ The documentary film OUT IN THE SILENCE captures the remarkable chain of events that unfold when the announcement of filmmaker Joe Wilson’s wedding to another man ignites a firestorm of controversy in his small Pennsylvania hometown. This gripping film will challenge you to rethink your values and help close the gaps that divide our communities.

8pm, Westminster College Vieve Gore Auditorium, 1840 S. 1300 East. Free, 801-746-7000 or slcfilmcenter.org.

QQ The style of music that PO’ GIRL makes is called “urban roots,” a combination of country, folk and jazz. Eclectic melodies are derived using such diverse instruments as the accordion, dobro and gutbucket bass. From what I understand lesbians really groove on the “gutbucket!” So, for all you women-who-love-women who haven’t heard this band, this is your changed to squeeze that accordion.

8pm, The State Room, 638 S. State St. Tickets $15/adv.–18/day of show, 800-501-2885 or thestateroomslc.com.

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FRIDAY — So I decided not to sit on Ruby Ridge’s face while en route to Wendover on the Big Gay Fun Bus — all that makeup would’ve made a real mess. My new plan is to attend tonight’s THIRD FRIDAY BINGO, and when I win, I’m going to blow a big old “zerbert” in that majestic cleavage of hers ... ooolala! By the way, tonight’s event benefits the Salt Lake Men’s Choir, who will also perform, yaaay!

7–9pm, First Baptist Church, 777 S. 1300 East. Bingo cards $5 first card and $3 addtl card, utahpridecenter.org.

QQ In 2003, while on a hiking trip in Blue John Canyon (near Moab, Utah), Aron Ralston was trapped when a boulder became dislodged, crushing his right forearm and pinning it against the canyon wall. The new film about this heroic, brave man called 127 HOURS is a recount of the harrowing five days he spent trapped without food and water, and the stunning step he took to free himself, in this highly moving story. Also, the film stars my celebrity-husband James Franco.

Opens today, Broadway Centre Cinemas, 111 E. Broadway. Tickets $6–8.50, 801-746-0288 or saltlakefilmsociety.org.

UPCOMING EVENTS DEC 8 Jay Brannan, Urban Lounge DEC 12 Jeffree Star, The Complex DEC 31 Jewel, Eccles Center, Park City

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save the date November 20

Transgender Day of Remembrance utah.hrc.org November 25 Thanksgiving Dinners at the Utah Pride Center, Club Try-Angles and The Trapp

November 27 RCGSE’s Golden Spike Universe Pageant rcgse.org December 1 World AIDS Day worldaidsday.org December 10–11 Salt Lake Men’s Choir Christmas Concert saltlakemenschoir.org December 18 sWerve’s Holiday White Party, swerveutah. com January 5–9, 2011 Utah Gay & Lesbian Ski Week, Park City communityvisions.org January 20–30, 2011 Sundance Film Festival, Park City sundance.org February 18–20, 2011 QUAC Ski-N-Swim quacquac.org March 19 sWerve’s St. Patty’s Day Party swerveutah.com June 3–5, 2011 Utah Pride Festival utahpridecenter.org August 20, 2011 Equality Utah Allies Dinner equalityutah.org

theatre review SLAC’s ‘boom’

by Tony Hobday

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HAD TO DO SOME RESEARCH on playwright Peter Sinn Nachtrieb not only because I had never heard of him before, but also because I was intrigued by his mind after I saw a Salt Lake Acting Company production of his genuinely thoughtful and yet hysterical play boom. I can’t remember the last time I had seen such an outside-the-box kind of play — uncannily insightful, outlandishly poignant — an oxymoronic dream.

Nachtrieb is a gay 30-something San Franciscan whose writing style rests mainly on wild, free-thought, according to an article in American Theatre Magazine. Margot Melcon wrote: “Nachtrieb writes plays with an everything-and-the-kitchen-sink approach; he throws a lot at the wall to see what will stick;” and “ ... he is turning out a stream of bright, focused, bitingly witty and deeply human new plays for the American stage.” I couldn’t agree more, and yes I have only seen this one play, but that’s how affected I was by it.

Salt Lake Acting Company, like I, was also a Nachtrieb virgin — this being their first Nachtrieb production, and they give it due justice, along with that SLAC flair that so many have come to love. Performed in the intimate Chapel Theatre on a simple set, designed by SLAC Executive Producer Keven Myhre — a timpani drum, a makeshift monitoring unit, a couch, some exposed piping, a fish tank and a row of lockers — the play is a “weird” comedy that begs the question “why are we here?” It’s chalk-full of inventive ideas, quick wit and expletives.

A young, eccentric science-geek ( more accurately, marine biologist), Jules (David Fetzer), runs an ad seeking a fleeting sexual encounter.

Jo (Emily Burnworth), a journalism student, responds to the ad and meets Jules at his underground lab/abode. Jo’s eagerness to bed Jules is expressed in a vigilante manner that forces Jules to admit he’s a homosexual ... although he’s never slept with a woman or a man.

“You don’t have gay eyes,” Jo says.

“I’m wearing contacts,” Jules replies.

Jo comes to realize she’s been lured to Jules’ love-den under false pretenses. His intense belief that a comet will soon strike the earth, obliterating all mankind (because of Dorothy, the fish) conjures a plan, or obsession — that is oddly bound for failure — to re-populate the planet.

To help the play’s plot is a zealous commentator (or tour guide) named Barbara (Holly Fowers) who not only offers insights and explanations, but also runs sound effects and lighting cues.

The role of Jules is dowsed in neurotic, comic dialogue and Fetzer doesn’t miss a beat.

Burnworth is solid as the down-to-earth Jo. Fowers is hilarious in her exasperated monologues that include unique and animated ges-

tures. In particular, Barbara’s conception monologue leaves you in tears of laughter ... if you’re not easily offended. Director Robin Wilks-Dunn tightly weaves all the elements of this intelligent play, from the concepts of evolution and fate to

the concepts of love and free will. Q

The play runs through Dec. 5, Salt Lake Acting Company, 168 W. 500 North. Call 801-363-7522 or visit saltlakeactingcompany.org.

FIVE CAROLS FOR

CHRISTMAS

JINGLEJACKS

by Jim Christian & Kenneth Plain • directed by Jim Christian

7:30 pm: Nov 12, 13, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20 2:00 pm: Nov 20 • ASL: 7:30 pm Nov 13

Allred Theater • Val A. Browning Center for the Performing Arts

Weber State University Department of Performing Arts

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Whoa, Nelly!

The singer looks back at her decade-long career, when the gays fell for her and the stories behind her biggest hits

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By Chris Azzopardi

IKE A BIRD IS EXACTLY how Nelly Furtado’s career has unfurled in the 10 years since she dropped her debut, Whoa, Nelly! The Canadian chanteuse was on top of the world, scoring a Grammy for the album’s breakthrough single, “I’m Like a Bird,” before her followup, Folklore, went, well, south.

But then she switched directions, tapping into Timbaland’s boom-boom beats for 2006’s “punk-hop” Loose. Singles like “Promiscuous” and “Maneater” ate up the charts, and there she went — flying again. Her hits collection, The Best of Nelly Furtado, archives her decade-long run and includes three unreleased cuts, leading off with club single “Night is Young.”

Furtado, 31, took us back, recalling the song she wrote on hotel paper as a chambermaid and how “Maneater” started a fire. But the singer, who was catching a break from recording to chat with us, also looked ahead to next year’s upcoming studio album, Lifestyle, a return to her Whoa, Nelly! roots.

Did you ever think you’d have a greatest hits album? Actually, no, I didn’t.

In the beginning I didn’t really know I’d still be making records 10 years later; I was kind of just trying it out. It was my hobby for a long time, and I made my hobby my job. I had planned to go back to university after Whoa, Nelly! — and then I never made it back! (Laughs) But yeah, I’m surprised that 10 years have passed; it gives you a chance to reflect. I was inducted into Canada’s Walk of Fame recently, so it was all around the 10-year anniversary of the album coming out. It was all very timely and kind of cool. Really cool!

Congratulations! Oh, thanks! For the first album or two I was wondering: Is this really my career? Am I good at this? Is this going to stick around? After doing it for 10 years, it finally feels like this is definitely a career.

So you’re not going back to university? It doesn’t mean I won’t. I still have all kinds of dreams. I’m definitely happy making music at the moment.

Which song from the greatest hits album has the best story behind it? Perhaps one you wrote on hotel paper while you were a maid? I have a song on Whoa, Nelly! that was written on hotel chambermaid report paper and that song is Party, but it’s not on the greatest hits. On the greatest hits, “Say It Right” is cool because it was really late at night that we wrote that song, like 4 in the morning, and we had just finished watching Pink Floyd The Wall, and (we) were very tired but also inspired, and the song just kind of came. It was a magical moment.

“Maneater” was the same. When we first wrote that song the speaker caught fire because the beat was so loud and ambitious, and the energy was so intense. And we actually put the song away for a few weeks. We were scared of the song! It had some dark energy in it (laughs).

What do you think now when you hear “I’m Like a Bird”? I never get sick of singing it, and I’m just happy that people played it on the radio. I’m proud of that song because it had a more sort of funky hip-hop-influenced verse and then a very pop-rock chorus. I’m glad it connected with people.

So many celebrities are making videos as part of the “It Gets Better” campaign, to help prevent youth suicides ... Oh, I haven’t seen them. I did perform at the PFLAG event in L.A. I performed “Night is Young” acoustic and I did ... I don’t even remember right now! But it was a very positive night and a lot of people were speaking about (gay youth). I was proud to be part of that.

If you could dedicate one of your songs to gay youth, which would you choose? Something from the beginning of my career, like the first CD — that’s when I first noticed I had a strong gay following, when I used to play “Shit on the Radio” on my first club tour. I’d always see gay youth in the

front row, embracing each other and getting emotional and crying when I would sing the song because it’s a song about individuality and expressing yourself and kind of breaking free from the pack and doing your own thing. It’s about being true to yourself no matter what.

That song was your response to people who were pissed at you for going mainstream. Yeah, it’s hard. It’s weird merging art and business; there are always fallouts.

Then you made a bigger leap into hip-hop with “Promiscuous.” Did you catch more flack? No, because hip-hop was always something that I was inspired by. It was like a weapon I had in my back pocket that I hadn’t whipped out yet. My first influences as a teenager were hip-hop and R&B, and I used to rap! (Laughs) On a mainstream level, yeah, my image was definitely drastically different and I see that now.

At the time I didn’t see, but now I look back and go, “Wow, no wonder people were so shocked!”

I did change a lot. I mean, I grew into a woman; I wrote some songs on Whoa, Nelly! when I was 17. You change a lot from that age to, like, 25. It’s a nice synchronicity when you can go through such a personally meaningful transformation and actually capture it on record, and then have other people connect to it.

Where do you plan on taking your next studio album, Lifestyle? I’m going back to the eclectic feel of Whoa, Nelly!. So far tracks I’ve recorded encompass pop, hip-hop, dance, reggae and alternative-pop.

That’s who I am and that’s how I live my life, and that’s sort of been the way I culturally live my life in terms of what I surround myself with — music or art or even people — so I think that’s why I’m calling it Lifestyle. I just want a collection of songs that people can connect with, like always, but at the same time I think imagewise I’m going to be different again (laughs). If anything, it’ll be a throwback to who I was when I first came out.

Tell me about working with Elton John on a new version of “Crocodile Rock.” Yeah, he has a new production coming out — it’s an animated movie called Gnomeo and Juliet, and it’s a cartoon for kids that comes out on Valentine’s Day. So yeah,

they approached me to do the closing song and it’s “Crocodile Rock.” And he’s on it ... like him and I are on the track together! It’s so exciting.

So you didn’t actually do studio time together? No, we missed each other by, like, a day.

But we have sung together before. Hey, here’s a perfect example: Ten years ago, Elton and I sang “Legend” together.

The people you work with are all over the map: Timbaland, Josh Groban and James Morrison, for instance. And then Keith Urban shows up on the deluxe edition of The Best of Nelly Furtado for “In God’s Hands.” I have many fantasies of who I want to be as a singer, so I was having a country fantasy with that song, and “In God’s Hands” always felt like a country record to me.

The reason why I do so many darn duets is because I’ve always wanted to be in a band. I mean, I’m a solo artist, but I’ve always been jealous of people in bands because I think, “How fun would that be?”

ber that? (Laughs) Oh yes! I was quoted and misquoted in many publications. It was pretty funny. That went really far. I was quoted as saying that everybody was gay, which is not really what I meant. I think sexuality is ... a very alive thing. It’s very human. And I think we all embody the masculine and feminine, and so does the world. Right now we’re entering into a feminine time and everybody is embracing their feminine energy, which is really nice.

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How did you get the nickname Nelstar? Nelstar was the first band I had. It was a trip-hop group — when I first moved to Toronto when I was 17, this producer and me had this trip-hop duo and we did moody urban trip-hop songs and I performed them around town. It’s a name that’s kind of stuck with me, so I decided to name my label Nelstar.

We have an artist right now named Dylan Murray — he’s excellent, he’s Canadian. Actually, he performed with me at the PFLAG event ... oh, I know what we performed! A song from Lifestyle: a duet called “Be Okay.” It’s a really, really pretty song. Another duet!

You’ll have to release a duets album. We tried to put a few of these duets on this greatest hits.

I don’t think we got Michael Bublé on there, though; I have a really cool duet with Michael Bublé: “Quando, Quando, Quando.” Now that I say it out loud, I do have a lot of duets with guys! I have hardly any with women. Who knows, maybe I’ll have a female feature on my next album. I’m due!

Maybe you weren’t totally off with that comment, though. Now it seems everyone is a little gay with all these celebrities jumping on the bi bandwagon. I say everything first if you notice! Just go back: I say, do and wear everything first, if you really look at it. And that’s a quote! (Laughs)

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restaurant review St. Regis: Elegant, Casual, Funicular-tastic!

by Chef Drew Ellsworth

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HREE-HUNDRED-TWENTY MILLION DOLLARS IS WHAT it took to build the St. Regis Resort in Deer Valley — $10 million in the kitchen alone.

But what I really enjoyed about the St. Regis is how understated it is and how beautifully this restaurant has been nestled into an eastern hill above Deer Valley. Two elegant funicular cars carry guests from the valley floor over rolling granite cliffs. Unlike the Waldorf Astoria at the Canyons Resort, the other posh place in Park City, the St. Regis is rather plain, elegantly built out of heavy wood and stones, thus keeping a very masculine and solid, skier quality to the place. St. Regis has been built for no-nonsense outdoorsmen and the restaurant and dining rooms reflect this same philosophy. Ski in, ski out, that’s what it’s called.

I was met by my friend, who just happens to be named Regis, a long-time French acquaintance who has lived in the Park City area for 13 years. He is part-owner of Jean-Louis, one of my favorite restaurants in Utah, and like many Park City residents, he has to work two jobs in order to survive the ups and downs of the food industry up there. Regis led me and my dining partner Brad to a cozy table right next to the fireplace, which is open on two sides. The chairs were made of heavy walnut and covered with glowing, tan-colored leather. The carpets are made for skiers, not diners, and the stone work and décor are almost spartan.

The menu is just what I like to see — simple, three choices in each category, two pages — boom! We began with a wood-fired pizza spread with fresh pesto and black truffles. The pizza was then topped with a poof of baby frisée greens, which had been tossed in a light truffleoil vinaigrette and fresh baby chives. The crust was paper-thin and the Parmesan cheese was of the finest quality and beautifully melted. This was maybe the best pizza I’ve had all year. Brad and I were hungry and we wolfed it down! (There is also a hamburger on the menu.)

Regis and chef Matt Harris, who hails from Atlanta, were very kind to us and brought us more food than we could possibly eat. Our next plate came: two simply-made sushi rolls — red tuna surrounded with Japanese cracker crumbs, quickly deep fried but without cooking the tuna.

The sushi was served with a dollop of a tangy

green onion sauce which I thought was perfect.

We were also surprised by a marmite de moules. These are no ordinary mussels. They come from Maine — shipped to Utah only by Ingrid Bennis, the owner of a Maine lobster company who only deals with great chefs like Thomas Keller of the French Laundry and Jean Georges Culinary Concepts who governs the St. Regis kitchens. The mussels were cooked in the traditional way: garlic, shallots, butter and white wine. The butter was so delicious in these mussels that I knew it was special. I thought it was probably the beurre Breton or Normand from France.

I requested a small, simple salad to come before our entrées and that’s what I got ... sort of! Jaime, our server who doubles as a cook during the day, said we had to try the house Cesar salad. As it turned out, this was a work of art in itself. The salad was made only of the hearts of Romaine, the most tender and crisp lettuce there is. It had been molded into a perfect round, sprayed with a light lemon-based vinaigrette driven by nitrous oxide, then topped with a cloud of very finely-shredded Parmesan. The salad was mixed with tiny hand-diced bread croutons perfectly cooked to a golden brown — I thought at first that they were pine nuts. To give a little color, the salad was dusted in the center with a high-end chili powder.

By now we were already full and asked for just bitesize entrée servings, but it was too late. We both got full helpings of lamb and beef short ribs. The lamb was from Utah — Bear Lake country, which I know well because my grandmother was born and raised in Lake Town. The lamb was purchased from Will Clark Farms, and believe me, I’ll be contacting him soon for my own cooking! The chops were large and marbled with fat, but still lean enough to enjoy the tender, succulent but robust flavor.

They were nicely rubbed with fresh herbs and then laced with a sherry glaze. Brad’s beef short ribs were first browned on both sides and then finished in a braising pot. On the side the chef had made an anise-flavored offering that I would call a grit pudding, wrapped in a wonton and quickly fried. I enjoyed the newness and creativity, but Brad thought the anise flavor was too strong. The ribs melt in your mouth, and were made with the same care I recently experienced at La Caille.

The meal was served with warm bread and butter, which doesn’t happen a lot anymore, and we were attended, easily and silently by a small army of wait staff — not the kind that hovers, but the kind that really know how to serve guests in a fine dining room.

I have a note about my choice of wine. I brought a Bordeaux, an ’05 Chateau La Croix, Pomeral. This “right bank” Merlot-based wine is of an excellent vintage, and when we first had it

It is a chef’s dream and a tribute to the staff at the St. Regis to not overcomplicate things.

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decanted I had the feeling it would open up and of chefs to fill in with the rest. All restaurants be smooth and dreamy. Unfortunately, for me, it should operate like this. had a tannic bite that never went away. Although My friend Regis took us on a tour of the I tried and hoped for the best, the wine became kitchen before we left. It has been designed with a downer and I only wish I had chosen a wine I layer after layer of cooking areas which will be knew better. But there’s always next time. humming during the high season. An open kitchThe waiter scolded me for not having a Pinot en flanks the main dining room, complete with Gris or a French Muscadet with the mussels, and marble surfaces and a counter/bar area where was right to do so. Any domestic cab or even an guests can dine quickly, and sitting at a counter Argentine Malbec would have been nicer than is a good choice when you’re alone. Then we my ill-fated Bordeaux. were escorted into a back kitchen with AltoSham We did share a small scoop of house-made, quick cooling equipment, so needed in today’s caramel ice cream which I would have called climate requiring perfect sanitation. There were Butter Brickle. The scoop was restalso four walk-in fridges — one for ing in a bed of butter-toasted bread St. Regis J&G Grill the chef, one for produce, one for crumbs and topped with a delicate stregisdeercrest.com meat and one for dairy. caramel Tuile, a classic French 2300 Deer Valley Drive During the high ski season, the cookie.

Park City chef is planning an outdoor patio The Executive Chef, Matt Harris, 435-940-5700 grill and a skiers buffet on the enorsaid it best, “When you choose the 11am–12am mous outdoor deck to add more finest ingredients, they almost cook DREW’S RATING: seating and culinary choices to the 93 themselves.” He was right. Every already cavernous dining facility. ingredient, down to the European On a warm, sunny day, you can ski in and grab a butter, was so carefully chosen and then perhot steak sandwich, with rustic fries and a beer, fectly cooked. I had cracker crumbs that tasted like expensive pecans; croutons that taste like without taking off your gear! St. Regis will also pine-nuts, and then bread crumbs that taste like be hosting wine tasting dinners in its Chapel-like expensive Pralines. Wow! wine vault. I wanna go!

It is a chef’s dream and a tribute to the staff St. Regis resort is gay-friendly and is on the at the St. Regis to not over-complicate things. list for the annual skiers event this year. If you Simple, classical culinary methods are in play can afford it, that’s where you need to be. here, and I couldn’t have been more impressed.

I rate our experience, and the food at St. Regis The simple rule of spending money on the most a 93, remembering that I was invited there as a important things, like the lamb and the dairy, is guest. Q coupled with using the intelligence and creativity

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cocktail chatter The Scarborough Fair

by Ed Sikov

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T’S VERY LOUD IN THE city — much louder than any Fire Island sound system blasting the recent archaeological discovery, Barbra Streisand. But I’ve kept a bit of my summer garden in preserved form, and it’s literally a tonic.

Just before we left the beach house, I was seized with an overwhelming need to take something with me — something to get me through the tough, cold northeast winter. Dan had already put his suitcase outside the gate when, stricken with this impulse, I dropped my stuff, sprinted to the container garden in the back and ripped out bunches of herbs.

“What are you doing?” said Dan when I reappeared carrying two fistfuls of aromatics.

“What are you doing?” I replied as I stuffed them into my backpack.

He answered on cue: “What are you doing?!” It’s a routine we do.

“I don’t know,” I said as I picked up my backpack. “It’s part of a Native-American harvest ritual.”

“Don’t be racist,” Dan scolded. We distracted ourselves by insulting each other as we walked to the ferry.

By the time we got home, the herbs looked pretty sad, so to refresh them I wrapped them in a wet towel and stuck them in the refrigerator. I decided to make an herbal infusion, so the next morning, I bought a fifth of Absolut.

After doing some cursory Internet research, I decided I knew better. (I’m obnoxious.) So I washed the ragged bouquets, dried them in a salad spinner and laid them out on the counter. I hadn’t planned this desperate harvest at all; the herbs I’d blindly grabbed at twilight consisted of sage, thyme, tarragon, lovage, parsley and rosemary. The infusion ingredients instantly chose themselves: parsley, sage, rosemary and thyme.

Don’t you just love that song? I put the iPod on its little donut and set it to my Paul Simon playlist, then gently bruised the herbs to release their oils and juices, stuffed them in a large, clean, Mason-type glass jar, poured the Absolut in and sealed it.

I waited one day too long. On the third day, the infusion was a gorgeous shade of bright green; the next day it starting browning, and I yanked the herbs out before the thing started to look like peat moss run-off.

The taste? Well, the Garfunkle herb mix tasted very good, though in the future I might just use rosemary (it’s got the best flavor) and some parsley for color.

Turning an herbal infusion into a cocktail is easy: you can have it straight up at room temperature, put it on the rocks, stick the bottle in the freezer or add some seltzer and a lime segment.

Simple! And if a guest says your handcrafted infused vodka is not to her liking?

Just tell her to go reap it in a sickle of leather. That should shut her up. (But what the hell does it mean?)

The infusion ingredients instantly chose themselves: parsley, sage, rosemary and thyme

The Scarborough Fair Get some herbs. I’d try rosemary first, with some parsley for color. Measurements are useless here, since the whole point is to make it handcrafted by you. Wash and dry the herbs thoroughly, put them in a glass jar with a lid that seals tightly, pour in enough Absolut to cover the herbs, and seal the jar. Taste often. When it looks and tastes right to you, strain the infusion back into the Absolut bottle or the bottle or jar of your choice. Drink it straight, or mixed with some seltzer or a small splash of tomato juice.

Ed Sikov is the author of Dark Victory: The Life of Bette Davis and other books about films and filmmakers.

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grouping at a club instead.

This holiday season will prove to be a struggle for our friends in the community trying not only to maintain their business, but their reputation for dominating nights and holding onto us as customers.

As the snow piles up and the temperatures get colder the notion of gathering at a “friend’s house” does become more appealing. But that also becomes a burden on the host as the need to be responsible both for their property and others’ safety starts weighs on their minds. I cannot urge strongly enough to let professionals handle the distribution, accommodation and safety concerns for having a fun night out. Although it’s fun to be the host sometimes, hold these get-togethers at places that know what they’re doing as far as public safety and liquor laws are concerned.

Also, remember that it’s a lot easier for a club to turn away someone who has had too much to drink than the host who is the best friend.

Regardless of your intent or desire to throw this year’s “supreme party,” just remember that our community establishments are not only trying to create a legal, safe and accepting environment for us all, but trying to be the comfortable “go to place” as well.

I know without a doubt I will be venturing to friend’s domiciles and partaking in an evening hosted by truly amazing people. But don’t let that become the norm this holiday season, get out and make sure you all do your part in supporting places that constantly support us!

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ALLOWEEN PROVED TO BE THE dawn of the new event: offbeat parties in new locations.

This holiday was celebrated from dealerships to condos, apartments to mansions. It got me thinking, with how successful these events have become, will more like them spawn in the coming chilly months?

I believe the answer is no. Although going to a dealership or a private home where alcohol and the safety of a residence or business location makes a party a somewhat “safer” venue to visit, these kinds of events are also more expensive to throw. And often the hosts aren’t properly equipped for the evening’s escapades. Bars/clubs/ lounges, these are established places that not only have the ability to serve what you want when you want it, but the know-how to handle the aftermath.

Though in the moment these ‘off the path’ parties are exciting and fun — if you’re a patron. But we all know it isn’t just about our own self-satisfaction of partying at someone else’s place on someone else’s dime. How many of us have thrown a soiree and had a fantastic time with friends gathering from near and far to enjoy the event we’ve put on? The next day always reminds us just how much money, time, effort and drama went into such an evening.

This is why I believe situations like these are a nice reprieve from the often similar (at least in feel) evenings of an establishment. But they’re a slap into reality when you wake up after and realize a day’s worth of cleaning is ahead of you, and the money you spent far exceeded

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Anthony Paull

LL RIGHT, IF YOU’RE GOING to tell me you’re going to top me in the first five minutes of our first conversation, at least be a man about it, and take off your wig and earrings. I mean, seriously? Is this my pay-off for entertaining a chat at the bar?

Well, if so, I’m not impressed. But then again, I suppose that it’s my fault, because I’m making myself more ‘accessible.’ Why? Well, because my friends say I’m a dick tease, and I need to lower my standards. So fine! Tonight, I’m talking to everything with or without a pulse. And slowly, I’m getting used to the fact that not every frog is a prince, particularly when it comes to a beer kiss. But meeting the parent of a stranger I have no intention of kissing? Well, this might be too much. But then again, I can’t be too picky. You see, this drag queen with a Bette Davis wig, he wants to control me; he wants to “lurve” me. But first, he wants me to meet his mother.

“Mom, Anthony Paull, Anthony Paull, mom,” he makes introductions.

Smoking alone on a bar stool, she waves a proud hello, urging her son to buy me a beer. “For God’s sake, have some manners!” she tells him.

“Can it, mother! I can take it from here,” he groans. Then turning to me, he takes a long drag off his cigarette before fluffing his wig.

“So. Anthony. Before this relationship goes any further, I need you to know something. I don’t need some damn, stupid man.” Hence, this is when the surrounding gay hipsters, in skinny jeans and lumberjack plaids, clear out. “I got a job. I got a car. I got a house. Why the hell do I need you?”

“You don’t. I’m just a poor writer who lives with his dad,” I say, turning to follow the hipsters. But no, that’s not enough to deter him.

You see, he wants me to know that he just raised $10,000 for some gay benefit, and I guess, I’m supposed to give a shit, but I don’t, because he just freaking spilled wine on the sneakers I spent my entire paycheck on. Therefore, I turn away, dancing off to an electro-pop number playing on the jukebox.

“Don’t walk away when I’m talking to you. We got something!” he calls — his blue sequined dress, reflecting off the disco ball.

“Dude, I’m straight,” I attempt to explain.

“Mmmhmm. Straight to the next dick,” he remarks.

“Fine, I’m shy. Look, I don’t even know you ...”

“Oh, but you know my mom!” he snaps. “You don’t know me ... but you know my whole family!” Shaking his booty, there’s wine flying here and there, and saving the day, his mom joins the conversation, telling him to calm down or he might scare me off. But it’s too late. That happened the minute we made eye contact. You see,

his Bette Davis wig, it merely got in the way when I was peeking around for someone who wasn’t wearing a mini-dress. But again, maybe I’m being too picky. Yet, dear God, how can I not be? Once you’ve been loved right, it’s so hard to be loved wrong. Can I come down from this cloud?

“Yeah, you got to let your guard down a little, man,” my friend Max tells me, as I haul ass to the jukebox, pretending to be preoccupied with finding a song. I’m thinking: this is why I don’t date. I have this code. Like hey, if you like me, come up and say hello. I really dig that. Call me a traditionalist, but I don’t like some guy talking about sticking his penis in my ass when I don’t even know his name. As a matter of fact, that idea hurts, especially the thought of him lifting his dress to top me. But I’m not giving up! No! There has to be a nice guy somewhere in the midst. After all, I’m here, and I’m nice. So I must go on I think, as Max introduces me to a few coworkers — one of whom approaches me with a drunken leer.

“Aw, you’re pretty,” he says, tipping his fedora hat. Then he tells me it again and again, and I kind of like it, except he’s already leaning in to kiss me, and his breath stinks like corn chips and bacon. So I push him away, saying “no;” an act which he takes as an insult, resulting in a conversation with Max, where he inquires if I’m a whore.

“Whoa! Are you kidding me?” I respond, when Max relays the message.

“It’s no big deal. The guy’s drunk. He just doesn’t understand why you won’t kiss him,” Max says.

“Wait a minute. So I’m supposed to kiss and screw everyone who approaches me? Otherwise, I’m a whore? That doesn’t even make sense!”

Overhearing the conversation, the drag queen’s mother attempts to save the day, yet again.

“See? My son would never call you a whore,” she attests.

“No. He would just talk to me like I’m one.”

And all the gay hipsters go “oooh” in the crowd. But I’m not joining them. Rather, I’m fleeing the bar, before driving home, thinking how much this hurts. More than being a bottom for any big-top penis — this kills, being single and realizing this is my path, that this is what I have to face in the face of dating. It’s pimply, the pursuit of a mate, and I’m picky, because my heart is itching for a love it once had. So tell me, where do I go if I’m a prude, and I want a hello?

I haven’t found such a place, so I say it to myself, staring into the rearview mirror. “Hello, hello.” For tonight, it seems me being nice to me is my only reminder of what I want and who I am. Q Anthony Paull is an author, filmmaker and syndicated columnist.

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FUN&GAMES

On Your Knees Across 1 Sex at the end of a date, in slang 8 Appoints 15 Barney Frank, frequently 16 Bear’s fur?

17 Church with the country’s largest gay congregation 19 Baseball great Mel 20 “Put roses on the piano and tulips on the ___” 21 Nonvulgar swearing 22 Get straight 25 Canon camera 26 Nobel physicist Bohr 28 Painter of ballerinas 30 Painter Matisse 31 Location of 17 Across 35 Part of a Stein line 37 Airborne Amelia 38 Stud site 41 Where they yell “Cut!” 43 Fag hag on a date, perhaps 44 Start fishing 45 Sheila of the California State Assembly 47 Hawk-chicken difference 48 Blow job and more 49 BB propellant 51 Third word of Katharine Lee Bates’ “America” 52 Designer of 17 Across

59 Color purple 60 Dinah of a golf classic 61 Sphincter opening?

63 Infatuated with Mr. Right Now 64 What hangs over and sometimes drips on you 65 The sound of music 66 Tommy’s gun 67 Ancient erection 68 Poet Kitty Down 1 Furnishings 2 Tickled pink 3 Prepare to become wife and wife 4 Univ.

5 Hot time for Colette 6 What “let” means to Mauresmo 7 ___ Haute, Indiana 8 Charles, who could make you a man 9 Shakespeare’s “anon” updated 10 Sunblock letters 11 First person in Berlin 12 Take a trip with your first mate?

13 Seaport of Italia 14 Places for commercial intercourse 18 In days past 23 Eastern title

24 Show Boat bundle 26 Barber’s cry 27 One-million link 29 Big piece of meat 30 Crowd at the gay rodeo?

32 Field of study 33 Ball or chase balls 34 Conveyance weight 35 Same kind 36 Coin of Foucault 39 Part of DADT 40 ACLU concern 42 Hairspray scorer Marc 44 Impressionist Mary 46 Adjective for Abner 48 Metal container 50 Gets up 51 If ___ Walls Could Talk 52 Dreadlocks feature 53 Likely to break the condom, perhaps 54 Excellent, in slang 55 Zeus, to Romans 56 Hurler Hershiser 57 Bottoms’ description of tops?

58 When doubled, Mork’s good-bye 59 Mag. leafs 62 Non-Judy garland PUZZLE ANSWERS ON PAGE 47

Cryptogram

A cryptogram is a puzzle where one letter in the puzzle is substituted with another. For example: ECOLVGNCYXW YCR EQYIIRZNBZN YZU PSZ! Has the solution: CRYPTOGRAMS ARE CHALLENGING AND FUN! In the above example Es are all replaced by Cs. The puzzle is solved by recognizing letter patterns in words and successively substituting letters until the solution is reached. This week’s hint: S = W Theme: Quote by blogger Andrew Sullivan about Abraham Lincoln and homosexuality.

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Q scopes Get sick and twisted, Leo!

By Jack Fertig

Mercury is trine to Jupiter, opening the mind to wonderful new ideas and observations. But both are in water signs, so those new “ideas� will be more artistic, intuitive and emotional than logical – and then Mercury trines Uranus, sending those novel notions into wild new directions.

Avoid drugs and booze. They’re just crutches for people with no insight or originality.

you have to make people laugh when you tell them the truth.

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SAGITTARIUS (Nov 22–Dec 20) To unlock family secrets, ignore your siblings. They’re probably confused or lying. Parents are more likely to reveal the truth, especially when they would prefer not to. The truth could be shocking; the fall-out even more so. Is it worth it to know?

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CAPRICORN (December 21–January 19) As the world moves on, revising your

ideas is sometimes necessary. Do old ideas still serve your core ideals? Philosophical and political arguments with your friends can prove very educational if you can approach them with an open mind.

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AQUARIUS (January 20–February 18) Losing yourself in your work is a good way to screw up the job. Review your priorities and aims with your boss or a trusted expert. Getting clear on this issue is key to your advancement.

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Jack Fertig, a professional astrologer since 1977, is available for personal and business consultations in person in San Francisco, or online everywhere. He can be reached at 415-864-8302, through his website at starjack.com, and by e‑mail at Qscopes@qsaltlake.com

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ARIES (March 20–April 19) Speak your mind! Granted, that often leads to trouble, but now it should work out well. You could start misunderstandings with your friends, but trust your instincts to clear up any trouble.

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GEMINI (May 21- June 20) Impulsive actions on your own will likely cause arguments or accidents.

Be very clear about your goals, and enlist help from your boss or the experts. They’ll be glad to help you get ahead.

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SPORTS

Football Fever in the Wasatch Front

by Brad Di Iorio

As Utahns watched the Utes lose against Texas Christian University, Utah’s gay and lesbian football fans cried, yelled and accepted defeat alongside their straight friends and hoped for better outcomes down the road.

Yes, football is alive and well in Utah’s lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender community. Two women-only, full contact tackle teams will gear up for season play in 2011 and the Mountain West Flag Football League has recently represented Salt Lake City at the annual national flag football tournament, Gay Bowl X, where they brought home a trophy.

Women’s Tackle Football While women used to play powder-puff football, women’s tackle football leagues have sprung up across the nation in recent years.

These leagues feature women of all ages, skill sets and attitudes who don complete uniforms — including helmets, pads and mouth guards — to learn football offensive and defensive strategies.

Currently in the United States there are three full-contact women’s football leagues: the Women’s Football Alliance, the Independent Women’s Football League (IWFL), and the Women’s Spring Football League, each of which are made up of former women rugby players, soccer moms, multi-sport athletes, and novices who want to learn and play America’s favorite contact sport. These female athletes are as diverse in lifestyle as the communities, and a high percentage of them are lesbian.

Salt Lake City has two amateur, full-contact women’s teams, now gearing up for season play in 2011. The Utah Blitz, in its second year and a part of the WFA, will now have another Salt Lake City team to contend with: the independent Utah Jynx, which will kick off for the first time next year.

The Utah Blitz was formed in 2009 by four players: two from the Northern Avalanche, an indoor women’s football team, and two others who were about to join the Avalanche, but didn’t because the Avalanche decided not to join the WFA. “The Utah Blitz was created with different management, coaching staff, and competing in 11 position outdoor football, not eight position indoor as the Avalanche did,” said Concetta Defa, Utah Blitz board member, marketing director, and one of the four lesbians who started the team.

“We don’t specifically ask players what their orientation is,”

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said Defa. “Our team members come from all over the place. We have some who live in various cities in Utah, Salt Lake, Davis, Weber, and Tooele counties.”

Though the Blitz is keeping past members in shape now and recently had three clinics this past fall, official practices won’t start until the winter.

“We will be renting an indoor soccer field for practices through the winter months then we will practice at local parks and on our playing field after it warms up,” said Defa. “Being at practices will affect the amount of time you play during a game. Outside of practice, players must participate in strength training, speed and agility training, and injury prevention programs; however, they may do this in small groups or on their own if necessary for their schedules.”

This year the Utah Blitz has secured the new McCarthey Stadium at Judge Memorial High School in which to play their games. The football field is located in the heart of Salt Lake City, below the University of Utah. Season play will start in April and extend throughout the summer with playoffs scheduled in July.

“We expect to play 10 games, but we won’t know until the league releases the schedule,” said Defa. “We played seven league-sanctioned games and one scrimmage game last season.”

The WFA currently has 41 teams throughout the United States, with the Blitz in the American Division, North Pacific, Region VI. Although Utah Blitz did not win any of their seven games last year, four team members were named WFA All-Americans.

“In terms of cost, like most teams, there is a small fee. Players must also buy their own equipment and uniform, but players have the opportunity to raise money for themselves to help offset these costs, while raising money for the team,” said Defa. “This season we have enlisted the help of Lynda Lee … to help us with our sponsorship drive from a corporate standpoint, but each member of the team is encouraged to be involved with our sponsorship efforts.”

Defa said that, at this time, the Utah Blitz has no plans to scrimmage or play the new Utah Jynx team, which is an expansion team based in West Valley.

“Utah Jynx is following in the footsteps of BYU and playing as an independent team,” said Michelle Poe, marketing and PR manager. “We will be playing teams from all three women’s football leagues. Why play teams in just one league when you can show you’re the best in all leagues?”

Utah Jynx is coached by Greg Cover, who has only been coaching an all-female team for the past two years, and who has brought a full complement of coaching staff to the team.

“My daughter is 12 and she said she’ll be the first NFL [women’s] quarterback to win a Super Bowl,” explained Cover, who added that he was at first skeptical about coaching a women’s team. “These girls are putting in their time and effort. Their heart is the reason why I coach this team. They aren’t tainted by other philosophies or skills.”

Forty-three players have currently signed up for practices that are being held every Saturday morning at Granger Park and Wednesday night at Granger High School, specifically for conditioning. Their goal is to reach 60 players for regular season play.

On Nov. 13, Utah Jynx has scheduled a comprehensive camp that will help players put everything together, as so far players have been focusing on specific aspects of the game during current practices, from special teams, to offense and defense elements and basics.

“We have players from all across the Wasatch Front. Women from Provo to Salt Lake City to Ogden and beyond have signed up,” said Poe, who mentioned that she thought about 50 percent were lesbian. “Women who join and pay their player fee will get to be a part of the team. All travel costs are taken care of for away games, but players do have to buy their own meals.”

Sponsors are also a big part of making the team function smoothly. Player’s fees are $300, but for every $1,000 a player brings in as sponsorship for Utah Jynx, she gets a $100 reim-

bursement. Players are required to buy or rent their shoulder pads and helmets, but the team furnishes their practice uniforms.

“We are also active in community projects, and we want to give back to the communities that are supporting us,” said Poe. “We are also planning to participate in Bowl for a Cure, a breast cancer fundraiser in January, and we’re planning several other community service projects over the holidays.”

Utah Jynx plans to participate in a round robin tournament in Washington in March, but will be traveling for five games and hosting five games at Granger High School during their regular season, which starts in March and lasts until June. Tryouts for specific positions will take place Dec. 11. Utah Jynx’s first game is slated to be with the Las Vegas Showgirlz, who were named one of the best teams in the WFA last year.

Both teams play by the same rules as men’s professional football, except the ball they use is a bit smaller. Teams are coached by male coaches because of their past experience in playing and coaching football. Fundraising is always essential to any amateur sports team, and any financial support goes back into the maintenance and management of the team. Usual fees include field rental, referee costs, gym rental, equipment, travel, marketing and field maintenance. Coaches volunteer their time and experience.

For more information, visit utblitz.com or utahjynx.net, or visit both teams’ Facebook pages.

Avalanche Places at Gay Bowl X The Mountain West Flag Football League’s competitive tournament team, Salt Lake City Avalanche, brought home the consolation trophy at this year’s annual Gay Bowl X, the national gay flag football league championships that were hosted by the Phoenix Hellraiser Football League Oct. 6-11, in Phoenix. Twenty-six teams from the United States and Canada competed in the annual championship tournament which seeded teams for play on Friday and Saturday games, to divide the teams into a competitive and a consolation bracket.

Avalanche played their first game against the Phoenix Hellraiser III. They won and went on to face the NY Warriors, the team Avalanche lost to in the finals of Gay Bowl VIII, which was hosted by the Mountain West Flag Football league in Salt Lake City in 2008. After losing to the Warriors, Avalanche then played the Washington Metros on Saturday morning, losing and placing Avalanche into the consolation bracket.

With a #2 seed in the bracket, Avalanche played the Pittsburgh Ironmen, the South Florida Cat 5 and the Denver Summit. They won the consolation bracket, but placed 17th overall, after all of the teams in the competitive bracket placed above the consolation teams.

WOMEN’S FOOTBALL PHOTOS BY MICHELLE POE

In each game played during the tournament, the opposing team’s captain chooses an offensive and defensive most valuable player on the other team. Mark Madsen, Avalanche’s quarterback, although injured during the NY Warriors game and missing the Washington Metro game, was consistently chosen by opposing team captains. Thus, he was chosen as Avalanche’s most valuable tournament player.

While at Gay Bowl X, Avalanche was caught on film during play by a documentary film crew who were making a film about three of the teams attending the Gay Bowl. The documentary will be aired on LOGO channel in 2011, if the project gets enough funding.

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A new Board of Directors for the Mountain West Flag Football will be named next year and practice will begin in March 2011 at Sugar House Park on Thursday nights. Plans include a scrimmage with the Denver Summit team during regular league play, and possibly attending gay flag football tournaments in Palm Springs and Chicago in the summer. Gay Bowl XI will be held in Houston in October of 2011. Q

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Qmmunity groups

Utah has a vibrant gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender community with many organizations for nearly any activity or interest you may have. Try these organizations out. For corrections or additions, please email editor@qsaltlake.com

BUSINESS & PROFESSIONAL

POLITICAL

Aetna ANGLE

American Civil Liberties Union

* HuntR@Aetna.com . . . 801-256-7137

Armed Forces Support . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 801-581-7890

LGBTQ-Affirmative Psychotherapists Guild of Utah A professional group for mental-health providers. We meet monthly to network, educate ourselves, and improve the counseling services of LGBTQ individuals. www.lgbtqtherapists.com

National Organization for Women PO Box 57816, Murray . . . 801-268-0363

Pride at Work, Utah . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 801-531-6137

Q Business Alliance A guild of business owners, professionals, entrepreneurs and nonprofit organizations that holds social events on the first Friday of the month and business breakfasts on the third Friday of the month. qsaltlake.com/qba. . . . . . . 801-649-6663

Salt Lake County Gay, Lesbian and Bisexual Employees * jdonchess@slco.org . . 801-273-6280

HEALTH & HIV Hermanos de Luna y Sol * arman@utahAIDS.org 1408 S 1100 E. . . . . . . . . . 801-487-2323

MediCruiser  medicruiser.com Gay, lesbian, transgender friendly staff and providers. Low cost, high quality Medical Care. Testosterone & hormone therapy, HIV/STD, weight management, addiction treatment 1850 S 300 W, Ste A. . . . . 801-484-5504

No. Utah HIV/AIDS Project Walk-Ins Welcome.

Every other Monday 5–7pm 536 24th St, Ste 2B, Ogden . 801-393-4153

People with AIDS Coalition of Utah 8 pwacu.org 358 S 300 E. . . . . . . . . . . . 801-484-2205

Planned Parenthood 654 S 900 E. . . . . . . . . . . . 800-230-PLAN

8 acluutah.org * aclu@acluutah.org . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 801-521-9862

Disability Law Center

* info@disabilitylawcenter.org 205 N 400 W. . . . . . . . . . . 800-662-9080

Equality Utah

 equalityutah.org  info@equalityutah.org Working for a fair & just Utah 175 W 200 S, Ste 3001. . . 801-355-3479

Human Rights Campaign, Utah 8 hrcutah.org * HRCSaltLakeUT@aol.com

Log Cabin Republicans, Utah 8 logcabinutah.org * ut@logcabin.org

Utah Stonewall Democrats

8 utahstonewalldemocrats.org 455 S 300 E, Ste 301 . . . . 801-328-1212 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 801-532-5330

RELIGIOUS & SPIRITUAL Affirmation Salt Lake

8 affirmation.org/saltlake Serves the needs of gay Mormon women and men, as well as bisexual and transgender LDS and their supportive family and friends, through social and educational activities.. . . . 801-486-6977

Bountiful Community Church

 bountifulucc.org  regal66@yahoo.com 150 N 400 E, Btfl. . . . . . . . 801-295-9439

Cache Valley Unitarian Universalists 596 E 900 N, Logan . . . . . . 435-755-2888

Christ United Methodist

 christumcutah.net 2375 E 3300 S. . . . . . . . . . 801-486-5473

First Baptist Church of SLC

 firstbaptist-slc.org  office@firstbaptist-slc.org Jesus didn’t discriminate and neither do we. Please join us.

777 S 1300 E. . . . . . . . . . . 801-582-4921

First Unitarian Church

* slcuu.org 569 S 1300 E . . . . . . . . . . 801-582-8687

Gay Latter-day Saints 8 gaylds.net

Salt Lake Valley Health Dept. — HIV/ STD Clinic

Glory to God Community Church

8 slvhealth.org/hiv/ 610 S 200 E. . . . . . . . . . . . 801-534-4666

Holladay United Church of Christ

University of Utah Department of Family and Preventative Medicine 8 uuhsc.utah.edu/dfpm 375 Chipeta Way, Ste A. . . 801-581-7234

Utah AIDS Foundation 8 utahaids.org * mail@utahaids.org 1408 S 1100 E. . . . . . . . . . 801-487-2323

HOMELESS SERVICES Center for Women and Children . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 801-261-9177

Homeless Youth Resource Center Youth ages 15-21.

655 S State St . . . . . . . . . . 801-364-0744

The Road Home 8 theroadhome.org 210 Rio Grande St. . . . . . . 801-359-4142 YWCA 322 E 300 S. . . . . . . . . . . . 801-537-8600

375 Harrison Blvd, Ogden . 801-394-0204 2631 E Murray-Holladay Rd. 801-277-2631

Inner Light Center

4408 S 500 E. . . . . . . . . . . . . 801-268-1137 * innerlightcenter.net

Integrity/Utah

St. James Church. . . . . . . . 801-566-1311

LDS Reconciliation

 ldsreconciliation.org Activity Info Line. . . . . . . . . 801-296-4797

Provo Community United Church of Christ

175 N University Ave, Provo. 801-375-9115

Queer Spirit

* info@queerspirit.org Men loving men, gathering together in loving and intimate ways to explore, dialog, enjoy, dream and celebrate the “who” and “what” we are in the broader community through weekend retreats, vision quests, monthly gatherings. . . . . . . . 801-557-9203

Restoration Church of Jesus Christ

2900 S State St. . . . . . . . . 801-359-1151

Sacred Light of Christ

823 S 600 E . . . . . . . . . . . . 801-595-0052

Salt Lake Center for Spiritual Living

1111 Brickyard Rd Ste 202. . 801-307-0481

St. Paul’s Episcopal Church

261 S 900 E. . . . . . . . . . . . 801-322-5869

South Valley Unitarian ­Universalist Society

 svuus.org  svuus@xmission.com An intentionally diverse religious community. You are welcome here, no matter your age, race, gender, sexual orientation, or gender identity. South Valley is the place where U can be U. 6876 S Highland Dr. . . . . . . 801-944-9723

Unitarian Universalist Church Ogden

705 23rd St, Ogden. . . . . . 801-394-3338

Wasatch Presbyterian Church

 www.wpcslc.org No matter who or where you are on your journey of faith, in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ – you are welcome at Wasatch Presbyterian Church. Ours is a community committed to the nurture of Christian faith through worship, learning and service – and we hope to share our enthusiasm and care with you.

1626 S 1700 E. . . . . . . . . . 801-487-7576

SOCIAL Alternative Garden Club

8 altgardenclub.org Meets 1st Weds at 7:30PM in Sugar House Park Garden Club Building

Bisexual Community Forum

. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 801-539-8800 ext 14 Meets the 2nd Thurs each month at 7pm in the Multi-purpose room at the Center.

Engendered Species

8 es-transgender.com  deborahthai@yahoo.com . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 801-320-0551

Gamofites

8 gamofites.org. . . . . . . . 801-444-3602

Gay and Lesbian Parents of Utah * glpu@hotmail.com

Imperial Rainbow Court of Northern Utah 8 irconu.org PO Box 3131, Ogden, UT 84409

Kindly Gifts by Stitch & Bitch . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 801-487-7008

Ogden OUTreach Resource Center

 ogdenoutreach.org 705 23rd Street . . . . . . . . . 801-686-4528

Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians & Gays

8 pflag.org Ogden: 3rd Thursday, 705 E 23rd St * ogdenpflag@q.com SLC: 1233 S 1000 E. . . . . . 801-244-6423 * slcpflag@gmail.com St. George: 823 Harrison * pflagsaintgeorge@gmail.com

Queer Village

8 queervillage.blogspot.com

Queereads

 twitter.com/queereads Book club hosted by Sam Weller’s Bookstore and co-sponsored by the Utah Pride Center that discusses queer literature.

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HE ROAD TO BED BATH and Beyond is fraught with danger and excitement.

It was a dark and stormy night, and I was home all alone. It was the kind of night when great bolts of lightning and deafening thunder can only make you imagine that Dr. Frankenstein’s anatomy project will be about to rise at any moment. The kind of night when only nefarious characters skulk about, darting from shadow to shadow and murder most foul is on everyone’s mind. The kind of night when any self-respecting queen hunkers down behind safely bolted doors to watch Alfred Hitchcock’s Rear Window and gives herself a pedicure and a cucumber facial. The night was too scary for me to take a shower, for fear of Norman Bates giving me a cutlery demonstration through the shower curtain, so I began the evening by lighting some candles and luxuriating in a hot, steamy, cleansing bubble bath and let “Calgon take me away!”

My usual bath routine is thus: First I take several little rubber duckies and playing the part of Queen Elizabeth the First, I re-enact the sinking of the Spanish Armada. Then I pretend to be the Unsinkable Molly Brown and use my largest duckie to bump into the biggest outcropping of bubbles and re-enact the sinking of the Titanic. (Oh that Leo DeCaprio could stand on my “duck” and shout “I’m the king of the world.” The bastard has stopped returning my calls.) I finish up by becoming Queen Elizabeth Alexandra Mary Windsor and using my most bejeweled duckie, re-enact her triumphant tour of the British Common Wealth of 1953 aboard the royal yacht Britannia.

Studying Liz has helped me perfect my queen’s wave. (Screw the light bulb, touch the pearls, screw the light bulb, touch the pearls.)

On this particular night, I emerged from the bathroom and promenaded into the bedroom. (Even when alone, a true queen must enter a room with style and grace.) Thus, I entered the room as if I were that most legendary of the Zigfield Follies girls, Fanny Brice ready to perform a fan dance minus the fans. I was so au natural, that I wasn’t even wearing nail polish. Most fittingly, the radio was playing “Dancing Queen” by ABBA. Since I believe that air drying prior to getting dressed helps prevent a run in your nylons, I proceeded to prance about the room to the music and shake my money maker, thus speeding up the evaporative process. It could have been an audition for the cast of Naked Boys Singing.

All I lacked for a complete show was a stripper pole, a peacock feather and a dozen doughnuts for a ring toss onto my “single mast schooner.” Since I lived on the top floor of an apartment building, I seldom closed the curtains. Just as I was buffing my bum with the towel, I happened to glance up and out the window. To my horror, between flashes of lightning bolts, there was a pair of eyes glued to a window across the courtyard enjoying the show of my “full monty” and my not yet ready for prime time choreography. (Cue the scary organ music).

My boy scout emergency fire training came in handy as I stopped, dropped to the floor and rolled over to extinguish the lights. Next I crawled over to the window and closed the

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curtains. A few moments later, I parted the curtains just a fraction to peek out and see if the voyeur was still watching. They had also closed their curtains, but I saw them part their curtains just a little also, as they were peeking too. We both repeated this tit for tat curtain peeking routine two more times before I crawled away from the now covered window.

The room was now pitch black, as the thunder clapped loudly making the whole building rattle. I felt like Audrey Hepburn in Wait Until Dark, panicking about what to do next. Just then my straight, unsuspecting roommate came blundering home and I screamed like a little schoolgirl as he opened the door. When he asked me what the matter was, I quickly told him that I stepped on a spider with my bare foot. I’m not sure he bought that story, but the interrogation ended there.

Like Jimmy Stewart in Rear Window for days and weeks later I was obsessed with the occupant of the window across the way. Do they know who I am? How much did they see? Will they tell the bishop? Did they sell tickets? I had to know; were they male? Were they cute?

Were they available? A couple of weeks later, I pretended to be taking a survey of apartment residents about the quality of the swimming pool, and nervously I knocked on the door in question. I waited on pins and needles for the door to open. Could this be the beginning of a romance, or the end of my sterling reputation? The door slowly opened. Oh damn it! A university coed answered. So romance was out of the question. Luckily though I did not know who she was and hopefully she did not recognize me either. The moral of this story is, unless you are charging admission, close your drapes.

Like always these events leave us with many important questions: 1. Is it proper for a queen to wear the pearls in the bathtub?

2. Does this experience mean that my ship has sailed?

3. Do the duckies experience “Duck Envy”?

4. What brand of bubble bath has the longest lasting bubbles?

5. Should I star in a reality TV show, “The Real Queens of Cache Valley”?

6. Would there be a market for a “Perils of Petunia” pin-up calendar?

These and other important questions to be answered in future chapters ofThe Perils of Petunia Pap-Smear. Q

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