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Discover what it’s like to enjoy a glass of lemonade on the porch and get to know your neighbors. the front-porch community of Bell ridge is nestled in the foothills of the lower Appalachians and surrounded by serene, tree-lined hilltops, yet conveniently located less than 15 minutes from Montgomery in the city of Wetumpka. thoughtfully designed features include a rear access road, keeping driveways and garages invisible from the homes’ front facade. the road surrounding the center park offers extra width for easy guest parking. A variety of floor plans, both two-story and one-story are available. Features include high-end appliances, granite counters, wood floors, high ceilings, and double garages. two-story designs offer space for an elevator. our award-winning homes are constructed to be low-maintenance, green homes, which can be customized to suit your individual needs. inquire now, while prime lots and homes are still available. Hwy. 14
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...especially when it comes to her health. Just like hair and eye color, breast cancer can run in your family. And the probability of it developing rises with age. Which is why you should schedule a yearly mammogram once you turn 40 – especially if your mother or a sister has experienced breast cancer. The Jackson Imaging Center provides accurate, state-of-the-art digital technology and comfortable, private surroundings. Plus, our compassionate team of professionals provides comprehensive imaging care dedicated to the special needs of women.
Early detection means an early cure.
Schedule a mammogram today at (334) 834-3671.
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Jackson Hospital to Improve Breast Cancer Detection The phone rings. You hear the worry in her voice immediately, and know that something is wrong. Your best friend calls to tell you that she had her yearly mammogram, but doctors saw something different. It could be cancer. According to the American Cancer Society in 2011 more than 230,000 cases of invasive breast cancer and more than 57,000 cases of non-invasive breast cancer will be diagnosed. Nearly 40,000 women will die from breast cancer just this year. These numbers are alarming, but there is hope—early detection. Women over the age of 40 should have an annual mammogram, which can make all the difference in a long, healthy life. The Jackson Imaging Center was the first in the region to offer digital mammography. Today that technology is enhanced by iCAD, computer-aided detection. The iCAD system detects up to 72% of actionable missed cancers an average of 15 months earlier than screening mammography alone.* The Jackson Imaging Center is also one of only five locations in Alabama to offer Breast-Specific Gamma Imaging (BSGI) with the Dilon 6800® Gamma Camera as a complementary diagnostic tool to detect breast cancer after a questionable mammogram, and to help physicians detect early stage cancers even in dense breast tissue. “We find BSGI to be a proven and effective tool in the early detection of breast cancer when mammography is inconclusive,” said Dr. George Wakefield, radiologist. “Even though mammography may remain a primary screening method, when we encounter a challenging breast case, we can count on BSGI to help deliver accurate, fast results at nearly one-third the cost of magnetic resonance imaging (MRI).” Mammograms are sometimes difficult to interpret due to dense breast tissue and scarring from a previous surgery, or when implants are present. In these cases additional testing is often necessary, including ultrasound, MRI or BSGI. Mammography is a highly sensitive screening tool, which means it is very effective in detecting breast abnormalities. However, higher breast density lowers sensitivity and, in some cases, mammography provides low specificity, which is the ability to determine the nature of a suspicious area, as indicated by the high rate of abnormalities that appear to be cancer, but turn out to be normal. With BSGI, the patient receives a pharmaceutical tracing agent that is absorbed by all the cells in the
body. Due to their increased rate of metabolic activity, cancerous cells in the breast absorb a greater amount of the tracing agent than normal, healthy cells and generally appear as “dark spots” on the BSGI image. BSGI takes about 45 minutes to perform. Because there is no compression of the breast and patients are seated throughout the entire procedure, it is much more comfortable than a mammogram. “We are committed to providing our patients with the most advanced technology in breast health and with the addition of BSGI, we have clearly taken a substantial leap forward,” explained Jim Stroud, chief operations officer, Jackson Imaging Center. “With BSGI, our patients can receive same-day evaluation and results, contributing to less anxiety; and for high-risk patients it may reduce the need for a six-month follow-up. Ultimately, we believe BSGI will translate into earlier detection of breast cancer.” BSGI also gives physicians a higher degree of clinical confidence in negative test results. During October, make sure you and your loved ones have a mammogram. Call the Jackson Imaging Center at 334-834-3671 to schedule an appointment.
Special Events
Join us at one or all of these events, and help make a difference! It could save your life or the life of a best friend, family member or loved one.
• Ladies Night Out
Are you looking for a fun, relaxing way to have your yearly mammogram? Well grab a friend, and come on over for an evening that could save your life! Limited to 25 women. To register call 334-834-3671.
Monday, Oct. 17, 2011 • 5:30pm Jackson Imaging Center • Making Strides Against Breast Cancer
The American Cancer Society’s annual non-competitive walk event. Since 1993, nearly six million walkers have raised more than $400 million. In 2009 alone, nearly 700,000 walkers across the country collected $60 million to save lives from breast cancer. Join the Jackson team, and you can help make a difference! For more information visit www.makingstridesmontgomery.org.
Saturday, October 29, 2011 • 8am Huntingdon College
* Brem RF, Baum J, Lechner M, Kaplan S, Soudes S, Naul L. Gill, Hoffmeister J. Improvement in Sensitivity of Screening Mammography with Computer-Aided Detection: A Multi-Institutional Study. AJR 2003; 181: 687-693.
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DR. BRUCE WILKINSON
YOU Were BORN for THIS
What happens when ordinary people start living a life of everyday miracles? Most of us have experienced at least one “divine coincidence,” a miracle moment that may not have defied the laws of nature, but it clearly demonstrated the love and power of God in an otherwise unexplainable way. But what if God desires to show His power through you on a regular basis? What if you were born to be God’s “miracle delivery agent?”
4-DAY BIBLE TEACHING CONFERENCE OCTOBER 23-26, 2011 Learn the 7 Keys to a life of predictable miracles in this in-depth, practical series by renowned Bible teacher Bruce Wilkinson, the #1 bestselling author of The Prayer of Jabez.
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DR. BRUCE WILKINSON Bruce Wilkinson is a popular speaker, #1 New York Times bestselling author, Bible scholar, teacher leader of various global and humanitarian causes, and media producer. He has written over 60 books in 30 languages including The Prayer of Jabez, The Secrets of the Vine, A Life God Rewards, Beyond Jabez, and The DreamGiver. Dr. Wilkinson built Walk Thru the Bible, the largest religious seminar organization in the world, and has been the keynote speaker to Marriage and Family conferences and major national events. He trained 100,000 professional teachers in Teaching for Life Change. Ten years ago, Bruce led a Bible conference on Personal Holiness at Frazer that led to a significant movement of God in Montgomery. Bruce is married to Darlene with three children and six grandchildren. The Wilkinson’s reside in South Carolina.
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Contents
October 2011
“Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending.”
Volume 2 Issue 3
Carl Bard
Thought Relationships Taste Inspiration
Humor Advice Health Community
“You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.” C.S. Lewis
5 Jackson Hospital’s Health News 8 Publisher’s Letter 12 Junior League Holiday Market 16 Making Strides Against Breast Cancer 21 Vintage Olive Recipes
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22 Healthy Hearing, What’s The Best Hearing Aid?
Features 17 Praying in Pink
Getting place of worship invloved with the fight.
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Radio’s “Gospel Messenger,” shares her story.
Departments 10 This and That
28 {12} Things
Something interesting, even for you!
Plenty to do for Boomers and Beyond.
26 Intimacy
10 ways to achieve mind blowing intimacy.
27 Lone Ranger Creed 30 Art & Soul by Sandi Aplin
25 Wht Do We Exist? by Sherry DeBray
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Ticket Giveaway! page 23
BOOM! magazine is published monthly by River Region Publications, 8637 Harvest Ridge Dr., Montgomery, AL 36116. The phone number for voice and fax is 334.523.9510. Copyright 2011 by River Region Publications. No part of this publication can be reproduced without written permission from the publisher. Opinions expressed in BOOM! magazine are those of the authors and do not necessarily reflect the view of the owners, nor do they constitute an endorsement of products and services herein.
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publisher’s letter
My Breast Cancer Story The mission of BOOM! is to serve the folks of the River Region age 50 plus with information and ideas to inspire new experiences, better quality of life and new beginnings.
As I was preparing for this month’s issue, I got to meet many people who have a breast cancer story. No matter what month it is, when you meet someone who has had or has been touched by breast cancer, it’s like a family reunion breaks out and everyone is sharing their life’s story with you. It’s a wonderful connection to have with people. Strangers become part of your life instantly. And everyone understands the condition breast cancer creates in all of us. I have shared my breast cancer story before and I wanted to share it again this year.
Publisher/Editor
Jim Watson, 334.523.9510 jim@riverregionboom.com
Breast Cancer’s Blessing Could life be any better? My wife and I were truly enjoying the fruits of our labor. We were business partners, she was the boss and I was her advisor. We had been publishing Montgomery Parents for eight years, and serving our community with something we thought was worth doing. We were “empty nesters”, and our schedules allowed for Jim Watson, Publisher travel and plenty of time to love on the grandkids. Through our effort we had discovered the joy of “made for each other”, because both of us brought something to our marriage and business relationship the other didn’t have. We became a complete work of love. After a 40 year relationship stemming from a 9th grade history class encounter, Marty and I had discovered the “sweet spot” of happiness and we were enjoying the blessing of God’s design. And then we weren’t.
Associate Editor Kelly Watson
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Contributing Writers Sandi Aplin Dr. Bettie Borton
Jeanette Crook Sherry DeBray Mary Jo Rapini Angier Johnson
Cover Photography
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In April of 2003, our lives changed. Marty and I were sitting in our living room as our family doctor told Marty she had metastatic breast cancer. We were paralyzed by the thought. It’s as if our brains were frozen. It was a Friday afternoon so we would have to spend the weekend with this intruder; we were being held hostage by breast cancer until Monday’s appointment with the oncologist. We both struggled to understand the why. I researched breast cancer and learned too much while Marty began sharing with family and friends the “news” no one wanted to hear. As an optimist I was going to get to the bottom of this problem and find a solution. Marty, who had a deep faith, knew the solution was with God. Of course, we both would press and probe our doctors for answers and hope and got some of both. But in the end, our journey with breast cancer led to God and the peace that only He can provide. Breast cancer changed our lives, but God was the director. I became a caregiver, and like many men, was pretty unfamiliar with the job description. But when your wife has breast cancer and every day together is truly precious, you ask a lot of dumb questions and you get smart quick. I’m not talking medical stuff, I’m talking laundry and cooking and pill organizing and, most importantly, serving. Marty lived 30 months after her diagnosis and I wouldn’t trade one moment of serving her for anything in this world. The blessing of serving is hard to realize and appreciate because we all want for ourselves. Our nature is to be selfish. But when you serve someone you forget about your needs and value someone else’s. I learned that from Marty. She was a selfless, caring person and when I took on that role in our lives it was an abundant blessing. Marty showed me where to find hope and how to never lose it. Our hope was and is in God. God’s blessings aren’t about being in the best place of your life, they’re about being in the best place with Him. This month’s BOOM! Cover Profile is Jeanette Crook and she has been battling breast cancer for nine years. If you know Jeanette, you know she has the most infectious positive attitude of any breast cancer survivor you’ll meet. It serves her well and those around her. Please take time and read her story. Another profile this month is Angier Johnson, known as the Gospel Messenger on WVAS 90.7. Angier is a six year survivor who also can inspire us to be a family and share our breast cancer experiences so others will know they are not alone in this fight. Thanks to you both for sharing your stories with others. Because it is Breast Cancer Awareness month we listed a few events that will take place during October. Please take time and lend your support to some of these activities or maybe you’ll decide you want to volunteer throughout the year. I think you’ll see the blessing in your actions.
We welcome Sherry DeBray this month with a column that asks the question “Why Do We Exist?’ We also have some ideas on growing your intimacy with your spouse and a little art talk with Sandi Aplin. We’re giving away tickets to this year’s Riverwalk Wine Festival and I think we even have something from The Lone Ranger in there. Thanks again for sharing BOOM! with your friends. We have some new advertisers this month who would love for you to do business with them. Will you? If so, let them know you saw their ad in BOOM! They will appreciate it. Remember, it’s a great time to be Booming!
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Yankee Candle will open its first dedicated store in the River Region at The Shoppes at EastChase. The nationally-known brand will be located between Coldwater Creek and Williams-Sonoma. Yankee Candle, the country’s best selling candle brand, began more than 40 years ago and now offers more than 150 fragrances, as well as home fragrance scents and candle accessories.
Dr. Bettie B. Borton Recognized on List of Top Hearing Healthcare Professionals of 2011!
Doctor Bettie Borton, founder and CEO of Doctors Hearing Clinic, is honored to be recognized by The Hearing Review as one of the best hearing care professionals of 2011! The Hearing Review, the leading trade magazine in the hearing industry, is dedicated to updating readers on the latest in hearing aid technology and research advancements. They recognize that as critical as the technology is – it is ultimately the hearing health professional that is the decisive factor in patient satisfaction. Doctor Bettie Borton was chosen for this prestigious award because of her exemplary patient care. Dr. Borton consistently goes above and beyond the call of duty to serve the needs of people with a hearing impairment. She offers expert advice to all her patients, and their loved ones, so that they can find the right solution and get the most out of life. Doctors Hearing Clinic is an AudigyCertified™ member of Audigy Group. This certification recognizes practices with the highest credentials who deliver outstanding hearing and diagnostic services to its patients, offer the most up-to-date technology, and strive for excellence through further education. Dr. Bettie Borton is a licensed audiologist in Alabama, and was the first audiologist in Montgomery to hold certification by the American Board of Audiology, and is the only audiologist with such certification in private practice in this area. Doctor Borton and the rest of the team at Doctors Hearing Clinic offer a comprehensive approach to hearing care and pride themselves on providing custom solutions to enhance the life of each of their patients.
Check Out Library e-books on Your Kindle E-books are taking over the publishing industry. They now outsell printed books. You can find thousands of free public domain books online. You could go hunting around for e-books on your local library’s website, but there’s a better way. Go to OverDrive’s search site. You can look for specific e-books by title (use quotes around the book title for better results). It will show you all the locations where you can checkout the e-book. Alternatively, you can search by zip code for associated libraries and bookstores in your area. Select a library and then click the library link on the page. You’ll be taken to the library’s e-book catalog. To check out an e-book, you will need a library card number. Additionally, all checked out e-books are downloaded from Amazon’s site. You can only transfer the e-book to your Kindle via Wi-Fi or USB cable. Amazon won’t deliver the e-book over 3G. search.overdrive.com
What is it? It is a fun-filled day of fun and entertainment for the whole family, a day in which businesses, organizations, schools,and groups of friends enjoy a fun competition to see who makes the best chili in Montgomery--Who is the “hottest” bank, insurance or real estate agency, law firm, medical office, neighborhood, etc?? In addition to feasting on unlimited amounts of chili, attendees will also enjoy some great musical entertainment or just watch college football on a big screen! When? October 29, 2011 Where? The Riverwalk Stadium in Downtown Montgomery Why? The proceeds of the Capitol City Chili Cook-off will be used to support the charitable and service projects of the Montgomery Lions Club and its affiliated entities:
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Living Well Alabama Chronic Disease Self Management Program By attending these classes you will get the support you need, find practical ways to deal with pain and fatigue, discover better nutrition and exercise choices, understand new treatment choices, and learn better ways to talk with your doctor and family about your health. If you have a chronic condition, live with someone with a chronic condition, or take care of someone with a chronic condition such as diabetes, high blood pressure, heart disease, chronic pain , arthritis, anxiety or depression, the Living Well Alabama Workshop can help you take charge of your life. Although our target group is individuals 60+, an individual of any age that meets the above description can attend. For caregivers needing respite to attend, Central Alabama Aging Consortium may be able to assist you – please contact Jane Mitchel at 334240-4666 for more information. 1. Join a free 2 hour class, held each week for six weeks 2. Learn from trained volunteer leaders with health conditions themselves. 3. Set your own goals and make a step-by-step plan to improve your health. Class Locations and Times: Health South Rehabilitation Hospital October 12 – November 16, Wednesdays, 1:30 pm – 4:00 pm Archibald Center at MACOA October 6 – November 10, Thursdays, 1:30 pm – 4:00 pm Community Home Health & Hospice (Tallassee) October 6 – November 10, Thursdays, 9:00 am – 11:30 am Registration Required: Call Jane Mitchel or Myrtle Scott at (334) 240-4666 to register.
Moderate Alcohol Consumption
particularly of wine, may reduce the risk of dementia Wine enthusiasts rarely need a reason to uncork, but if you’re looking for one, here it is: Wine in moderation is good for your brain. Researchers at Loyola University’s Chicago Stritch School of Medicine have found that moderate drinking reduces the risk of dementia, Alzheimer’s disease, and other cognitive impairments by about 23 percent. Moderate drinking is generally considered one drink per day for women. For men, it’s two drinks. The researchers, who evaluated more than 100 studies dating back to 1977 and spanning 365,000 participants, said it was unknown why moderate drinking can have a beneficial effect. One theory suggests that it can improve blood flow in the brain and, consequently, metabolism. Another hypothesizes that small amounts of alcohol are like a kickboxing class for your noggin: the booze strains cells and toughens them up to deal with major stresses down the road that could cause cognitive impairment, like Alzheimer’s. And, yes, wine was found to be more beneficial than beer or spirits.
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JUNIOR LEAGUE OF MONTGOMERY HOSTS 23rd ANNUAL HOLIDAY MARKET Proceeds Support Area Charitable Organizations
The Junior League of Montgomery will host its 23rd Annual Holiday Market, October 1315 at the Montgomery Convention Center at the Renaissance Hotel and Spa. This year’s Grand Investor is River Bank and Trust, and the Premier Investor is Baptist Health. The annual shopping event is Alabama’s premier opportunity to kickoff holiday shopping, while raising needed funds for the grants the Junior League awards to area charitable organizations. “We are all very excited for Holiday Market this year,” said Molly Stone, 2011 Holiday Market Chairperson. “Every year our committee strives to bring something new to Holiday Market, while maintaining our beloved traditions, and this year we have achieved this goal with some new additions. Most importantly, Holiday Market allows us to raise the funds necessary for local agencies to strengthen families and improve the quality of life throughout the River Region.”
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After meeting with the children on Saturday in Santa’s Workshop, Santa Claus will make his way over to his sleigh and will hear Christmas wishes and take photos. Santa will be available from noon to 5 p.m. All general admission tickets will be available at the door ranging from $10 for adults to $5 for military and senior citizens. Children under 10 receive free admission.
This year the Market will host more than 95 vendors from across the country selling art, clothing, gourmet foods, holiday decorations, home apparel, jewelry, linens, toys, and much more.
Major contributors who help make the 23rd Annual Holiday Market possible include: River Bank & Trust, Baptist Health, Loree & Owen Aronov, Leigh Anne Nevins DMD, and Harmon Dennis & Bradshaw.
The festivities begin Wednesday evening, October 12th with the annual cocktail gala, Mistletoe and Martinis Preview Party, from 6 to 9 p.m. This year’s Preview Party will feature a silent auction, hors d’oeuvres and live entertainment. Tickets for the party are $35 per person and will also include admission to the Holiday Market shopping area. Tickets to the Preview Party are available on the Junior League of Montgomery’s website: jlmontgomery.org.
The Junior League of Montgomery is an organization committed to promoting volunteerism, developing the potential of women and improving the community through the effective action and leadership of trained volunteers. Its purpose is exclusively educational and charitable.
Friday evening is “Girls Night Out,” sponsored by Baptist Health. This year’s focus will be Breast Cancer Awareness. “Girls Night Out” showcases a fashion show featuring clothing from Holiday Market merchants, with River Region breast cancer survivors serving as models. “Girls Night Out” festivities are from 6 to 9 p.m. To add to the casual fun of the night, it is requested that shoppers do not bring strollers with them to Girls Night Out. This year’s Holiday Market includes “Market Mystery Money,” a new program that allows shoppers to purchase a “Mystery Money Envelope” for $25. Each envelope contains two $25 gift certificates from randomly selected
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Holiday Market merchants. Saturday morning heralds the arrival of the Christmas Angel, the popular character from the locally authored holiday book of the same name. The Christmas Angel will be joining Santa Claus in Santa’s Workshop on Saturday the 15th, 10-11:30 a.m. All participating children will have an opportunity to make a special holiday craft and sample yummy cookies and milk. Tickets for Santa’s Workshop are available for purchase in advance or at the door for $10.
The dramatic success of the league’s annual fund raising events has enabled a financial commitment to the various charities throughout the Montgomery area of well over $1 million dollars in the last ten years. Proceeds raised by the Junior League of Montgomery support the community through projects that improve the quality of life for families and children. Holiday Market Hours: October 12 – Mistletoe and Martinis 6:00 to 9:00 p.m. $35 per person October 13 – 10:00 a.m. to 9:00 p.m. October 14 – 9:00 a.m. to 9:00 p.m. October 15 – 9:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m. For more information contact the Junior League of Montgomery 334-288-8816 or visit www.jlmontgomery.org
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Jeanette Crook, 9 Year Survivor This month’s BOOM! profile is Jeanette Crook. If you live in the breast cancer community as many of us do, you may know Jeanette. She is a breast cancer survivor of 9 years and anyone who has met Jeanette knows how contagious her “survivor’s attitude” can be. We first met Jeanette while she was working at The Velvet Pumpkin and then again at Fineline Engravers. We were seeing her so often we thought there had to be more than one. There’s not. Jeanette certainly keeps busy with work and activities, while her personality makes a distinct impression that is not soon forgotten. She grows on you and makes you laugh. In fact, if you’re feeling a little low, go by and see Jeanette, she’s just what the doctor ordered to help you get over what ails you. Because it’s breast cancer awareness month, we asked Jeanette to share her story with us. In her battle with breast cancer she has demonstrated courage, perseverence, a positive attitude and above all, a strong faith in God. We hope you’ll enjoy getting to know Jeanette as much as we have, she’s a real inspiration to every generation. BOOM!: Please tell us a little something about yourself? Jeanette: I am widowed. I have two great daughters, Tami Stephens and Brandi Madderra, two son-in-laws and three grandchildren, with one on the way (sooo excited about that). I work in two great retail stores in Montgomery, The Velvet Pumpkin on Vaughn Rd and Fineline Engravers on Perry Hill Rd. I also, clean homes along with other odd jobs, all of which keeps me very busy.
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was nothing and would go away. It didn’t. And when my family doctor discovered it, he ordered an immediate mammogram and asked for a second opinion that very day. My daughter, who works in the medical field, wanted me to see Dr. Howard Snider. I went to his office and was given an ultrasound and a fine needle aspiration. I was told it was cancer. Breast cancer is a horrible thing to hear. I was very scared. What was I to do? First on my list was to pray a lot. Not only did I have a bad diagnosis, but It was worse than I could have ever imagined. The lump consumed my whole breast and would require chemotherapy to take place before surgery could be scheduled. The cancer had to be shrunk.
BOOM!: One of the reasons BOOM! asked you to be our October Cover Profile was this quote from 2008… “Jeanette Crook is an inspiration to every man,woman and child at the Walk of Life, year after year. Her battles with cancer would be overwhelming to the best of us. Yet, Jeanette continues to light up a room with her radiant smile, her positive attitude is overflowing and her courage and strength are nothing short of sheer inspiration. So, we want her to know, “We’re walking through this journey with you, Jeanette. And we know your contagious energy will help you beat cancer, once and for all!” Joy to Life Newsletter 2008 Would you please share your breast cancer story with us, when were you diagnosed, treatments, your doctors, where treated, etc Jeanette: I was diagnosed with breast cancer. November 21, 2002, It was a day I will never forget---one that should have come six months earlier. I had felt something in my left breast and I waited six months after that date to let my family doctor find it. I tried to make myself think it
One horrible side effect of the chemo was my pelvis became brittle and broke in three places. Just turning over in bed probably caused this to happen. Now, we not only had to shrink the tumor but let the pelvis heal. I had to stay in a rehab hospital 11 days and the pain was severe. It would be almost a year later---November 13, 2003---when I would finally have my breast removed. The decision was to have a bilateral mastectomy and a tram flap for reconstruction. Why a bilateral mastectomy when only one breast was involved? I was from a family with a cancer history of the breast,brain, prostate and ovaries. Dr. Snider chose the surgery and I was a believer in Dr. Snider’s abilities. My surgery lasted almost 10 hours. December 2003 came, and I prepared to spend my last Christmas. It was so hard getting through all of usual festivities with my loved ones all around. Instead of being the end of my favorite holiday, God had other plans. He chose many more Christmases for me. He is an awesome God. Some felt God extended my life to be a witness for others. I was in a lot of pain from my pelvis. Using a
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BREAST CANCER AWARENESS walker is not for mowing lawns, weed eating, walking four miles or all the many things I love to do. When I was having a really bad day, I would load my walker into my car and head to the mall to shop and run into friends. I did not stay home and dwell on the worst or feel sorry for myself. I knew there were some out there worse off than me. I love life and I try to show it in all that I do. I know that attitude is 95% of the healing process. Giving up would be so easy but that is not me. I have a challenge before me and I plan to win.
As the saying goes, “Life may not be the party that we had hoped for. But while we are here we might as well dance.”
Ladies, do not put off getting a Jeanette: Going to the breast exam like gym and church on the I did. Get check weekends. regularly and remind your male BOOM!: With your busy loved ones that it schedule, do you get to can strike them, travel much? Favorite also. Keep a posivacation spot? Any travel tive attitude and dreams for the future? Brandi, Jeanette, “snicklefritz, Tami remember God does not give us a problem that the two of us Jeanette: I took my first cruise this past cannot handle together. August and it was a great time! When I can I love to go to the beach. God is on our side. He puts no more on us than we can handle. BOOM!: What is it about living in the MontI try my best to have a smile for gomery/River Region area that you like? everyone, to laugh a lot, and to thank God for all of my blessings Jeanette: Everything is so convenient. It’s and for each day and for each easy to get around to work, doctors, shopperson I can give hope to. ping, church, etc.
I have a great doctor---Mac Barnes—and the wonderful staff at the Montgomery Cancer Center cheering me on. The treatment I still take is bearable. I get a treatment every 28 days. I have been blessed by never really getting sick from the chemo, but I did lose all my hair. Thank goodI have seen Joy Blondheim and Jeanette ness for cute hats and yesterday and wigs! I love each day. Waking up is a blessing. I am not afraid I was lucky to find one just like my hair—“red of tomorrow, I have a great and sassy.” It gets lots of attention and lots of church family at Frazer Unitreaction and comments but it is me! ed Methodist Church and many other great friends I try to have a really good outlook and never and family. complain or mention the word cancer. I now exercise, clean houses, mow and trim lawns, I know if I cannot win this bake for people, and enjoy being at the Velbattle with cancer, let me be vet Pumpkin, where I see many friends. brave in the attempt. Today, when I go to the Cancer Center I look around and see far worse off than I am. I realize how truly blessed I am. I have been in a wheelchair like so many, but now I am walking in stylish heels or in the park on a three or four mile hike a day in my tennis shoes or working out in the gym.
BOOM!: How do you like to relax and wind down from a hard day’s work at your many jobs?
BOOM!: Life can be very challenging when trying to manage breast cancer, but your positive attitude is obvious and contagious. Can you share your secret with our readers? Jeanette: I love life. I love to laugh because there’s no time for a “Pity Party”, I want to live, take one day at a time and be thankful.
BOOM!: We know you have BOOM!: Do you have any Brandi and Jeanette, first cruise! a busy work schedule some hobbies or other activities days, can you share what it is you do most that grab your attention? days and what you enjoy most? Jeanette: I love shoes, clothes, shopping Jeanette: I love playing when I can. I also like doing crafts, scrapwith the clothes and Pambooking and taking pictures. dora Jewelry at The Velvet Pumpkin, making wreaths and doing displays at Fineline Engravers. Mickey (The Velvet Pumpkin) and Kim (Fineline Engravers) are Pets, Chocolicious and Snicklefritz fabulous to work with!
I thank my God for walking hand in hand with me through this battle. I now feel good most of the time, even BOOM!: What are you Co-worker, Allison and Jeanette though I developed most passionate about? bone cancer three years after my breast surgery. I know that bone cancer is not curable, Jeanette: Having the strength to continue but it is treatable and for that I am grateful. fighting cancer.
We want to thank Jeanette and Allison for helping us make this month’s BOOM! Cover Profile come together. Thanks also to Micki for the use of The Velvet Pumpkin on Vaughn Rd. If you have questions, comments or suggestions, please send them to jim@riverregionboom.com
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Top 10 Reasons to Participate in Making Strides Against Breast Cancer 1. Making Strides is a powerful and inspiring event that unites communities to celebrate people who have battled breast cancer, raise awareness about the steps we can take to help prevent the disease, and raise money to find cures and support programs and services for those facing the disease.
5. This year, we want to do even better!
2. More than 11 million Americans who have a history of cancer will celebrate another birthday this year. The American Cancer Society knows how special a birthday can be: a celebration of life, a marker of progress.
7. Cancer survivorship rates are increasing! With help from participants like you, more people are surviving the disease.
3. Since 1993, nearly 7 million walkers have raised more than $400 million through the American Cancer Society Making Strides events. And that money is helping more people stay well and get well, it’s finding cures, and it’s helping to fight back against a disease that has taken too much. 4. In 2010 alone, nearly 800,000 walkers across the country collected $60 million to help create a world with less breast cancer and more birthdays.
6. In 2010, an estimated 207,090 women in the United States were diagnosed with invasive breast cancer and nearly 40,000 women died from the disease.
8. We want to increase the rate of survivorship even more! 9. The American Cancer Society has invested more than $3.5 billion in cancer research since its research program began in 1946. We need your help to fund even greater discoveries! 10. We need to create a world with less breast cancer and more birthdays!
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PRAY IN PINK WEEKEND - October 14, 15 & 16, 2011 Pray in Pink is an opportunity for area houses of worship (churches, synagogues, and mosques) to honor breast cancer survivors and to provide life-saving information about breast cancer to their congregants during the month of October - Breast Cancer Awareness Month. Participating congregations are encouraged to make a day or weekend in October a celebration of survivors and co-survivors by hosting a special luncheon for survivors, encouraging attendees to wear pink clothes or by inviting survivors to speak about their experiences. More programming ideas and suggestions are available online as a free download once registered. Pray in Pink Weekend is October 14, 15 and 16, HOWEVER, since October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month you can plan to celebrate anytime during the month of October. Registration is FREE and you can register now through October 14, 2011. We offer Online Registration or download a paper registration form to mail in. Participants will receive FREE informative materials regarding breast cancer detection and treatment that can be passed along to congregants. The FREE Resource Materials include: Sample Bulletin Announcement, Program Ideas/Suggestions, Ten Commandments for Breast Health, Breast Cancer Risk Factors, Why do “Young” Women Get Breast Cancer?, Do Men Get Breast Cancer?, The Facts on Breast Cancer, Signs to post announcing your Pray in Pink event(s), IN MEMORY OF and IN HONOR OF cards to post on bulletin boards Thank you to everyone who ordered the Pray in Pink tote bags and the BreastCancerTV DVDs. The deadline to order was Friday, September 23, 2011. Registration to participate in Pray in Pink will continue through October 14, 2011. Remember, registration is FREE. For more information, please call 334.284.LIFE (5433) or email prayinpink@joytolife.org. Visit www.joytolife.org
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Six Year Breast Cancer Survivor
Angier Johnson, Gospel Messenger Montgomery native Angier Johnson-Gunn, 49, is a six-year breast cancer survivor. A radio broadcaster with a career spanning two decades, she has been known for the past 17 years to listeners of WVAS-FM 90.7 as the “Gospel Messenger.” Here, she shares her story of survival: In late May of 2005, at the age of 43, I was put in a position where I immediately had to practice what I preach each week. Following a routine mammogram, I was summoned to return to the Montgomery Breast Center to hear, “You have breast cancer.” Accompanied by my mother, I was stunned to hear the news. I stared straight ahead and felt totally lifeless. I was thinking, “This is a bad dream, a nightmare, and I just need to wake up.” I was a recent divorcee and my mind fell to my two young sons. I thought, “They need me!” That became the “it” factor. My boys gave me the will to survive, to live, to fight to beat the monster that had the nerve to invade my body. With a doctor and nurse standing by, holding a Kleenex for me, I asked, “What’s next?” Within an hour I had chosen an oncologist and a surgeon and immediately started putting my treatment plan into action on a Thursday evening. That week my sister-inlaw who had breast cancer died from com-
plications of her treatment. My sons were hurt and I was preparing them for their aunt’s memorial service on that Saturday. All while we visited with family and friends, I was there trying to figure out how I was going to break the news to them that their Mom too had breast cancer? I worked my shift that Sunday morning at the radio station and the next day had surgery. After my surgery my treatment was followed by 42 radiation treatments over several months and I have been taking Tamoxifen daily for past six years. My daily prayer was for God to heal me, allow me to see my sons to adulthood, to see my grandchildren and even great-grands, if you please. While I was in the battle of my life, I felt that God had me on assignment and I had to use the vehicle given me -- the airwaves -- to share his goodness. If he could spare me, he can certainly do the same for others. Breast cancer was my test and beating it has become my testimony! Today, I feel a sense of obligation to my community to help in the fight against breast
cancer, and I seek to fulfill that mission through my radio program and any forums available to me to share my experience. The incidence of the disease is higher among Caucasians than African Americans, but it is African Americans who die from breast cancer in many cases because it is diagnosed at later stages. Too often women in my culture allow fear to overcome them. We are afraid of the unknown when the unknown can cause more harm and ultimately kills us. I witnessed this shortly after I was diagnosed. Someone who called to check on me confided that she had not had a mammogram in years and was actually too afraid to go. I begged her to go for me, but more importantly, for herself! I lend myself to numerous community organizations such as my sorority, Zeta Phi Beta, American Cancer Society, SISTAS (Sisters In Survivorship Through Action and Support) and Women of Hope, while also spreading the message through my radio program. I reach out to all women but especially to the African American religious community. My role as a messenger doesn’t just come upon me during October (Breast Cancer Awareness Month). At every opportunity, with audiences large or small, I share my personal experience and message of hope to inspire others. I love Regina Britt’s quote, “Life Isn’t Tied With A Bow, but it’s Still A Gift!” Every day that God blesses me with my sons, Caleb and Peyton and to be a blessing to others is a constant reminder!
Women of Hope offers support group meetings, the 2nd Tuesday of each month, free of charge to any breast cancer patients/survivors, caregivers, family members, friends, or anyone interested in becoming a part of this compassionate journey. WOH support group meets at Frazer United Methodist Church at 5:30 PM in room 8114. Light refreshments are served. We encourage you to bring a friend and join Women of Hope…Women Of Montgomery Embracing and Nurturing Hope Of Prevention and Eradication of breast cancer… as we pledge to give hope, promote healing and advance our community for the cause! Hope is the assurance that one day we will be able to live cancer free. For more information regarding these support group meetings, please contact Women of Hope at 334-220-4599, email womenofhope@charter.net, or visit www.thewomenofhope.org. Also, check us out on Facebook.
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Healthy Hearing
by Dr. Bettie Borton Au.D. bchampion1@aol.com
What’s the Best Hearing Aid ?
“What’s the best hearing aid?” As an Audiologist, I’ve heard that question so many times. To successfully answer that question, perhaps the very first thing I need to do is Dr. Bettie Borton Au. D. modify it slightly ~ “What’s the best hearing aid for you?” An important concept to keep in mind when exploring today’s vast array of options for hearing devices is that what’s right for you may not be right for someone else, and vice reverse. The decision regarding which type of hearing instrument technology will sound and perform the very best will be largely dependent on you, your lifestyle, budget, and listening needs. These parameters tend to be highly variable from person to person, so let’s take a closer look. Not all hearing losses can be correctly fit with the same style or type of device. This is very evident when fitting those with precipitous loss in the high frequencies. High frequency deficits are the most common configuration of hearing loss, and respond best to open fit technology. This type of device leaves your ear canal open, ensuring that the sound of your own voice is normal and pleasant. Conversely, fitting those with high frequency loss with conventional “in the ear” devices can have catastrophic results in terms of patient satisfaction. Have hearing instruments that you or your loved one are not using? It may be resultant from the units being the wrong style for the loss! High quality open fit technology has been available for a relatively short period of time, and many of those whose instruments were purchased more than 5 years ago may not have had access to those devices.
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What about some of the new “fancy stuff”, like Blue Tooth technology? Is that for you? Many of my patients are not familiar with Blue Tooth, but it can open up a world of ancillary devices and couplings for your hearing devices. For example, if you use Blue Tooth enabled hearing aids, you can wear a “streamer” around your neck, and answer your cell phone hands free through your hearing aids! With the new cell phone use restrictions now in place in Montgomery, that can be a really handy feature. It’s also possible to listen to your TV or IPod directly through your hearing instruments with this technology, or use a special microphone to make conversations with your significant other in a noisy car or restaurant much easier. Other technologies to consider are remote controls, assistive listening devices like amplified phones or doorbell alerts, or FM devices to help with performance in a classroom or job environment. However, if you don’t want or need such technologies, don’t pay for them!
What kind of lifestyle do you have? If you are still working, it’s likely that you are in highly variable listening environments, or your profession demands auditory accuracy (and most jobs do!). Those who lead very active lifestyles need to consider today’s high end technology, with plenty of noise reduction capability. On the other hand, if you’re retired, living alone, and seldom go to restaurants or parties, simpler, more basic noise reduction features will suffice – and cost less! If you are the type of person who “wants the best of everything” then there are plenty of high end technologies to wow you (and your friends and family). Don’t overbuy, but do be honest with your Audiologist about your listening needs. If you aren’t you may be disappointed with your hearing devices.
Finally, as self-serving as this might sound, perhaps the only honest and comprehensive answer to the question above is “a hearing device recommended and provided by an exceptionally skilled and dedicated Audiologist.” Sometimes that’s not the answer folks are looking for. I have patients tell me “it’s all about price” or request a specific brand because a friend or relative was successful with a particular device. Hearing aids are a big investment with the potential for providing a big improvement in the quality of your life. People with hearing impairment need a competent and caring Board Certified Audiologist who will go the extra mile to provide them with solutions custom-tailored to their own unique hearing loss and listening situations. As critical as the various aspects of technology may be to the hearing aid industry, it is ultimately the professional who is the decisive factor in guiding patients to satisfaction and benefit with hearing devices. Note: Doctors Hearing Clinic was recently named Best of 2011 Hearing Healthcare Professionals by The Hearing Review, and was Dr. Borton and her staff were the only clinic in Central Alabama to receive this award. This recognition was provided to only 165 hearing healthcare clinics across the United States.
To learn more, visit doctorshearingclinic.com or call for an evaluation at (334) 396-1635. Dr. Bettie B. Borton is a licensed audiologist in Alabama, was the first board certified audiologist in Montgomery, and recently served as National Chair of the American Board of Audiology. She and her husband, Dr. Tom Borton, are the only audiologists with ABA certification in the Montgomery area.
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Contemporary Dentistry From Willis Dental Care
The Dentist’s Role in Treating Sleep Apnea
While diagnosis of sleep apnea requires a physician usually known as a sleep specialist, treatment of sleep disorders is a growing field and has now been expanded to the dental community. Sleep disorder therapy is quickly becoming one of the newest supplemental services provided by dentists to their patients by providing oral appliance therapy.
If you have ever suffered from sleep disorders or tried to live with someone who does (now known as “Second Hand Snoring”), you probably already understand the magnitude of this issue. Sleep disorders rob you of your sleep and can impact an entire household. Lack of sound sleep affects your daily activities and can have a huge impact on the quality of your life and health. To drill it down even further, lack of sleep can cause performance problems at work, added risk of accident or injury, relationship problems – the list goes on and on. A normal sleeping jaw position maintains the airway in an open position allowing for effortless breathing. However, for the person with a sleep disorder the mouth is open and the tongue and soft tissue collapse into the throat causing periodic blocking of the airway. This narrowing or obstruction causes the vibrations that most of us know as “snoring”. While snoring can be somewhat amusing and seemingly harmless, it can also be an indicator of a more serious health concern. Treatment options for sleep disorders may include good sleep hygiene, weight loss and exercise, and in more serious cases CPAP (Continuous Positive Airway Pressure), surgery, and/or oral appliance therapy. The latter, is where the role of the dentist comes in to play.
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Maybe you are having problems adjusting to your CPAP and find yourself less-thancompliant. Maybe you have been avoiding treatment because you do not want to use a CPAP device. Maybe you snore and are not aware of the treatment options. If you fall into any of these categories – we can help you move forward in diagnosing and treating your problem. While treatment options can vary depending on the severity of the problem, custom oral appliances, similar to orthodontic retainers can be custom-made and fitted providing relief in many cases.
The oral appliance will reposition the lower jaw, tongue and soft tissue of the mouth stabilizing it. This action will keep the airway open and allow for free movement of air through the throat. The appliance can be used independently to treat sleep disorders, or used in conjunction with a CPAP device. We want to help you. If you have already been diagnosed and want to investigate treatment options, or if you suspect you could benefit from sleep disorder therapy, contact us for a consultation. The consultation will start with a comprehensive review of your health history and an Apnea Risk Evaluation. We can even help you get your assessment by a sleep specialist. Once this is complete, we will assist in determining the treatment approach that will be best for you. In most cases, sleep disorder therapy is a process and can take several weeks to fully resolve.
You can be assured that we will work with you as long as it takes to see that your device is fine-tuned and working to provide you the maximum benefit. In many cases a portion of the fees associated with your therapy may be covered by medical insurance. Willis Dental Care offers complete dental care for the whole family including general and cosmetic dentistry, implants, orthodontics, relaxation dentistry, and much more. We are committed to the absolute best in dental technology and use the highest-quality and most precise modern solutions to give you the smile you have always wanted. Dr. Brad Willis and Dr. Hong Lao are now working together to provide you the convenience of expanded hours. Our office is conveniently located in East Montgomery in the Sturbridge community. For more information about Willis Dental Care, call our office at 334-260-2929 or visit our web site at WillisDentalCare.com.
We can’t wait to give you a reason to smile!
Willis Dental Care Dr. Bradley W. Willis and Dr. Hong Lao Family and Cosmetic Dentistry 8161 Seaton Place, Suite A, Montgomery, AL 36116 334.260.2929 www.willisdentalcare.com
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A Christian Perspective
Sherry DeBray
WHY DO WE EXIST?
A young mother at the end of the day changes yet another diaper and wipes the running noses of her children as she places them in bed. With no thanks for the time she invests, she stands wearily watching as her babies sleep and asks, “Is this why I exist?” The teacher shows up for her class knowing that every day is a battle for the attention of her students: ipods, movies, text messaging, sports and parties always come before math, science and homework. Yet, she will still rise early, prepared to teach only to wonder, “Is this why I exist?”
The father of four, working at the plant, with hard hat in one hand and lunch in the other whispers, “Is this why I exist?” The business man works a seventy- hour week to give his family all he thinks they need, only to ask, “Is this all there is to life-work. Is this why I exist?”
A grandmother, in the winter of life, has time on her hands and wonders, “For what reason do I exist now?” Yet, another with just as many years, has worked and invested in children, stood against the odds of failure, and stored her treasures where moths can’t eat away at their value, smiles and says, “This is why I exist. I’ve run a good race and stored my hopes in an eternal future. I know for whom I have been made.” If you find yourself wondering why you exist, it’s not too late to find your purpose. It could be that you thought you had a purpose, but now that you are older, in the prime of life or even beyond you may find yourself questioning, “For what do I really exist?” Some spend a life time searching for that answer to the question when the answer is so simple. It’s not in how many gifts or talents we boast of that dictates who we are or why we were created. Everyone has a purpose (a gift). Some more than others. Some early in life, while others find their purpose late. Yet, others boast of their gifts, never realizing why they were given so much. The River Region’s 50+ Lifestage Magazine
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Once I spoke to a singles group of about two hundred people. When I finished an older gentleman, in his eighties, approached me. He shared with me how he felt lost after the death of his wife. He didn’t know for what reason he existed. He thanked me for reminding him that God had given him a new purpose, as a single man. What he didn’t realize was that his purpose had not changed, only his situation. For we were created to worship, to be the hands, the feet and the voice for God. Each of us were made in the image of God. Each given a gift or a talent. Once man and woman walked with God, in His perfect world, then man decided he knew more than God. Sin divided us from one another, but God continued to bless man with His gifts. Man fell, but God already had a plan. God never gives up on His creation or the purpose for which he made us. God’s love formatted a plan for us to be reunited with Him, while we discover our purpose in Him. John 3:16 Made to worship.
Being made in the image of God with a longing to worship is a gift in it’s self. So, how are we using that gift of worship? It’s a fact we, as humans, will find something to worship. We can’t help ourselves. Remember we were made to worship. Sadly we attempt to fill that need for worship by worshiping things with no return. Have you ever wondered why the new car, the new house, the
new boat, or any other purchase only gives fulfillment for a short time. Not even the worship of our children can bring satisfaction. Yes, children will disappoint you, too. We, as humans, need to worship something; the worship of self, of others or things will not bring contentment or a joy that lasts. Then, could it be true, the reason we keep looking is because we are worshiping the wrong persons, places or things? Could it be the reason we don’t know why we exist, wondering if this is all there is, might be because we are giving our affections to everything but to the one who holds the reward? Peace, joy and love.
Don’t stop working or playing, just do it with the purpose of loving our Lord and each other. Let’s not misplace our worship and be disappointed again. Let’s invest in worship with a return that is, too, large to count. Let’s give thanks for the desire He placed in us: to worship. Only when we discover for what we were made will we find the peace that passes understanding. John 14:27
Sherry DeBray, Author/Speaker Owner of It’Za Gift & Interiors in the Pepper Tree Shopping Center sherry.debray@gmail.com
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10 ways to create ‘mind blowing intimacy’
One difficult phrase and concept that I try to get clients to understand is “mind blowing intimacy.” This is no surprise as we are inundated with “mind blowing sex” on reality TV, in magazines, on the internet, and in movies. “Mind blowing sex” gets the highest media ratings, as well as most couples’ attention. In truth, “mind blowing sex” is nothing compared to “mind blowing intimacy.”
4. Watch an old movie or listen to old songs, and talk with your spouse about how the movie or song touched you. 5. Go to bed and focus on pleasing the other person, whatever that is...don’t make it about you and your needs. Touching goes a long way with building intimacy.
By Mary Jo Rapini
Many of us are confused because we think the two are one in the same. They are not. Intimacy must come first in a healthy relationship or the relationship will not be well supported. I have worked with many couples who told me (while in the process of divorce) that the sex was still good, but there was no intimacy anymore. Women have a tendency to give men a bad rap in this area. Women generalize men. They believe men don’t care about intimacy and just want sex. This is not what I see in my office. In fact, when a man over 30 years of age is not happy in his marriage, it usually stems from a lack of intimacy. Men report that when their wife has sex just for him, but isn’t into it for herself, it is not meaningful. This is a clear example of him wanting more intimacy. How did we get so far away from intimacy? Part of the reason is due to the virtual world. We connect through emails, texts, Facebook, Twitter, and other social networks. We no longer have to meet each other. Even the telephone takes more time than we are willing to commit. We don’t touch anymore at home and we forget to check in with each other while at work. We don’t take time to share meals together, and we are in such a hurry to get our errands run, and our work done, that we have stopped listening to one another. Following that, sex is a sterile performance, and something we need to do to keep each other happy.
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Marital or relationship happiness is dependent upon intimacy, as is our health. The media may not promote it, but go to your doctor with a heart problem, cancer, stress related illness or sexual dysfunction and they are going to tell you that becoming more intimate in your relationship will help you heal. When couples haven’t had sex in a long while or they are estranged, they come in complaining about how to have sex again, as it feels awkward. This is not uncommon, but my approach may be. I ask each of them to begin by telling each other what intimacy means to them. By putting sex on the sideline for awhile (since it really isn’t the problem anyway), they can begin to be intimate with each other. Here are a few suggestions of how you can develop mind blowing intimacy in your marriage: 1. Have protected time built into your schedule that is just for the two of you. 2. Listen without interrupting. Before you respond, make sure you censor it so it is true, but still kind. 3. Choose one day of the week and take note of how many times you ask your partner to do something, help with something, or provide you with something. Focus on being the giver instead and actually do and say the things your spouse would appreciate.
6. When you are in a crowd or getting attention, make sure you make eye contact with your spouse more than you do the crowd. 7. Tell your spouse frequently what you admire and love about them. 8. Ask your spouse for help with your weaknesses instead of defending them. 9. Revisit the town or restaurant you used to frequent as a new couple. Talk about it and share your first impressions. Tell your spouse how you were feeling at this time. Help them connect to you. 10. When your partner is “down,” no one has more power to build them up or knock them down more than you. Make sure you hold them and tell them you are on their side, and you will beat this together as a team. Commitment in a marriage is so important, but no one can commit if there isn’t a connection to commit to. Keep working toward and building that connection with intimacy. Everything, including your marriage survival, health and mind blowing sex is dependent on the intimate connection you share with your partner. Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC, is a licensed psychotherapist and co-author with Janine J. Sherman, of Start Talking: A Girl’s Guide for You and Your Mom About Health, Sex or Whatever. Distributed by MCT Information Services
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The Lone Ranger Creed
I believe: “That to have a friend, a man must be one. That all men are created equal and that everyone has within himself the power to make this a better world. That God put the firewood there but that every man must gather and light it himself. In being prepared physically, mentally, and morally to fight when necessary for that which is right. That a man should make the most of what equipment he has. That ‘This government, of the people, by the people and for the people’ shall live always. That men should live by the rule of what is best for the greatest number. That sooner or later… somewhere…somehow… we must settle with the world and make payment for what we have taken. That all things change but truth, and that truth alone, lives on forever. In my Creator, my country, my fellow man.” The Lone Ranger The River Region’s 50+ Lifestage Magazine
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MONTGOMERY DOWNTOWN Taste of The River Region Renaissance Hotel Sunday, October 2, 2011 6-8 pm
Formerly know as the Taste of Montgomery, a great event to explore the many tastes of our restaurant community. Plenty of food and drink for in support of the Junior League of Montgomery and the Alabama Restarant Association. Tickets $25 in advance or $30 at the door. Renaissance Hotel & Conference Center. Help raise money for a good cause, so plan to Share a New Experience! tickets at www. jlmontgomery.org or 288-8816
MONTGOMERY Dracula ASF October 7 -30
Theatregoers will be in for a bloody good time when the Alabama Shakespeare Festival opens the 2011-12 season with a special-effects and horror-filled staging of Dracula, October 7-30. For the supremely brave there will be a one-time 10 p.m. performance on October 29 – a perfect prelude to Halloween. McNulty’s Dracula has been a staple at the Actors Theatre of Louisville for almost two decades where it continues to sell out public as well as school matinee performances. Louisville.com raved, “It’s jump out of your seat, grab the stranger next to you and hang on for dear life fun!”
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This annual event raises money for children’s and youth charities with midway rides, main-stage entertainment, food, informational and commercial booths, a kids’ area, livestock competitions, a family faith day and more. www.alnationalfair.org
JOIN US FOR THE MONTGOMERY ZOO’S ANNUAL ZOOBOO: 13 NIGHTS OF HORROR AND FUN. Mark your calendar today to make plans to visit the Montgomery Zoo for a trick or treat of another sort. ZooBoo will take place October 1316, 20-23 and 27-31. Join us if you dare for 13 fun-filled nights of horror and fun. Climb aboard the thrill ride of a lifetime. Many climb aboard, a few are left behind. Or mosey or over to the Pumpkin Pull for a non-scary traditional hay ride. Enjoy the games, bouncy castles, Creatures of the Night Education program, concessions and much more at ZooBoo. ZooBoo admission: Admission for ZooBoo is $10, includes 10 game tickets. Toddlers 2 years and younger are FREE. Montgomery Zoo members: $5, includes 10 game tickets. Additional game/ ride tickets are $5 for 10 game tickets (one sheet). ZooBoo hours: 6:00 - 9:00pm nightly.
Alabama National Fair October 7-16
MONTGOMERY DOWNTOWN Riverwalk Wine Festival Riverfront Saturday, October 8, 1-4 pm
Do you love wine, food, live music and fun? Come to the Riverwalk on October 8th for the 2nd Annual Riverwalk Wine Festival! There will be tastings from 11 distributors, representing over 100 wineries. Buy your tickets now for this great culinary festival at www.riverwalkwinefestival.com
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Fry Street Quartet with Robert McDonald Thursday, October 13, 7:30 Fry Street Quartet with Robert McDonald Thursday, October 13 at 7:30 p.m. at the Wilson Auditorium, Montgomery Museum of Fine Arts, Enjoy the first concert of the Montgomery Chamber Music Organization’s 51st season, and remain for the Opening Reception following the concert. For ticket information, call 334.277.3505, or visit www.montgomerychambermusic.org.
Zoo Boo, Montgomery Zoo Weekends in October, 6-9 pm
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40th Annual National Shrimp Festival Gulf Shores; Oct 13–16 Public beaches will come alive with more than 300 vendors of fine arts, crafts, retail goods and delicious seafood. Local and national music groups will play continuously, featuring everything from country, blues and rock ‘n’ roll to Zydeco and soul. There will also be a children’s acThe River Region’s 50+ Lifestage Magazine
tivity village, a sand sculpture Contest and exhibits for the whole family to enjoy.
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Alabama Tale Tellin’ Festival Selma; Oct 14–15 The legendary Kathryn Tucker Windham began the Alabama Tale Tellin’ Festival in Selma 33 years ago. Though she is no longer with us in body, you can be sure she will be here in spirit. Each evening, special tribute will be given to “Miss Kathryn.” Performers this year are Anndrena Belcher, Wanda Johnson and The Dill Pickers. The event will be held in the newly renovated Carneal ArtsRevive Building, once home to an auto service business, on the banks of the Alabama River. www.artsrevive.com
MONTGOMERY DOWNTOWN Davis Theatre for the Performing Arts Hunt Family Fiddlers Tuesday, October 18The Season Subscrib-
er Series will launch on Tuesday, Oct. 18, with a performance by the Hunt Family Fiddlers. The Hunts are an award-winning family of Irish step dancers, fiddlers and singers. The family of nine performs Celtic, bluegrass, inspirational and popular tunes, and has toured extensively in the U.S., Canada, Scotland and Ireland. For more information on the upcoming season, call the Theatre office at (334) 241-9567.
SANDESTIN
Baytowne Beer Festival October 21-22
Emerald Coast,” this popular event features on-site craft brewers, beer samplings, seminars and live music. Beer aficionados will be able to sample domestic and international options, including specialty, seasonal and not-yet-released beers. (877) 402-5804 or www.sandestin.com
MONTGOMERY DOWNTOWN Black Jacket Symphony Presents “Led Zeppelin IV” Thursday, October 27 at 8:00 pm Tickets: $20
The Montgomery Advertiser calls it “mesmerizing”. The Black Jacket Symphony returns to the Montgomery Performing Arts Center on October 27th to perform Led Zeppelin’s “IV”–note for note, sound for sound, exactly as it was recorded– plus a full set of Led Zeppelin’s greatest hits. Zeppelin’s “IV” is one of the most influential rock albums ever made. Its songs are legendary — from the crashing intro of “Rock and Roll” to the sweaty burn of “Black Dog”, it is constantly rediscovered by new generations and is required listening by all. Relive the magic as the Black Jacket
Symphony recreates one of the top selling rock albums of all time–Led Zeppelin’s “IV”. The Black Jacket Symphony offers a unique concert experience by recreating classic albums in a live performance setting with a first class lighting and video experience. A selected album is performed in its entirety by a group of hand-picked musicians specifically selected for each album. With no sonic detail being overlooked, the musicians do whatever it takes to musically reproduce the album. Following the album and a brief intermission, the Black Jacket Symphony returns to the stage to perform a collection of greatest hits by the evening’s artist. For tickets www.mpaconline.org
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Haunting on the Harriott Saturday, October 29, 8 pm
Already in the Halloween spirit? Join us on Saturday, October 29th for the Haunting on the Harriott cruise! Come in your spookiest costumes, and get ready for some Halloween fun! Haunting on the Harriott . ww.funontheriver.com. Boards at 8pm, departs at 8:30pm It ’s a Great Time to Be Booming! Please submit any events/pictures to jim@riverregionboom.com
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Get a puppy for yourself and feel the love that only a pet can bring!
Bring together more than 100 domestic and international beers, 40 craft brewers, the charming Village of Baytowne Wharf at Sandestin Golf and Beach Resort with beautiful October weather and you have a winning combination for fun in the sun at the Baytowne Beer Festival this October 21 and 22. Known as the “Best Beer Fest on the The River Region’s 50+ Lifestage Magazine
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Art & Soul
By Sandi Aplin
THE 45th ANNUAL MONTGOMERY ART GUILD REGIONS BANK EXHIBITION Montgomery Art Guild (MAG), Montgomery Gallery Association and Regions Bank gave us a lovely afternoon. MAG President, Thornton Clark shared, “We are delighted Regions Bank hosted their annual show for the 45th year. Opening reception attendance was up substantially which provided an Artrek kickoff.
This years Juror is Dale Kennington, a very talented, genteel, Southern Lady. Dale was born in Savannah, Georgia, and has spent most of her life in Dothan, Alabama. She holds a B.A. in Art History and Design from the University of Alabama. In her more than thirty years as an artist, she has been featured in eighteen one-person museum shows. Her work is included in the permanent collections of sixteen museums, including the Smithsonian American Art Museum, the Birmingham Museum and the Montgomery Museum of Fine Arts. It is also included in the collection of King Carl Gustav XVI of Sweden, the Federal Reserve, the American Committee for UNICEF and the United States Embassy in Paris. In 2009, Dale was recognized by the Alabama State Council on the Arts and the Alabama Bureau of Tourism and Travel as one of Alabama’s “Master Artists.” In 2011, she received “The Governor’s Arts Award,” given by the Alabama State Council on the Arts. Tiny Dancer, Giclee’ Print by Phil Scarsbrook
Chairman of the MAG/Regions Bank 2011 Art exhibition, Barbara Simpson said, “Artists from Alabama to Florida submitted artwork for this exhibit, less than half of the entries were chosen.” There were 105 pieces selected. Winners: Best of Show – Kotohira by Linda Walden Category I: Opaque Painting Durand Seay Category II: Transparent Painting Richard Mills Category III: Sculpture Beryl Chesnutt Category IV: Photography Phil Scarsbrook Category V: Works on Paper Thornton Clark Category IV: Mixed Media Kyle Braund Honorable Mention: Category I: Opaque Painting George Taylor Category II: Transparent Painting Carrie Waller Category III: Sculpture Kenneth Lever Category IV: Photography Karen Weir Category V: Works on Paper Seay Earehart Caregory VI: Mixed Media Langley Tolbert.
I took a second look at two of Dale’s figurative choices. With“Tiny Dancer” Phil Scarsbrook, won Category IV. He explained, “This piece represents a departure from my typical black and white realistic photography. I Sun Goddess, oil on board by Julia Wallace began with one of my black and white photographs and colored it. Then, using various Photoshop texture layers and new painting brushes, I transformed a simple image into one that is more impressionistic and hopefully more visually interesting.” Dale felt he had accomplished his goal. Next“Sun Goddess” by Julia Wallace. Dale said in her critique of this painting, “I like the subject, beautiful colors and the umbrella. All these things just work so well together, this is a very powerful painting.” When we were walking out, Julia said ”Sun Goddess” was painted in oil. I wanted to capture a vintage joie de vivre with the palette, subject and the general feel of the painting, as though you are peering into a retro Polaroid photograph from the 1960’s” Kennington’s Quote: I learn to do by doing. I learn why I am doing it by seeing where it leads me.” Sandi Aplin, Director of Gallery One, A free lance writer living in Montgomery, Alabama www.galleryonefineart.com
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