The Philadelphia Fellowship Pre-Marital & Wedding Counseling Manual by Ronnie Joyner

Philadelphia Wedding & Pre-Marital Counseling Manual

Pre-Marital Counseling & Wedding Manual © 2023 The Ronnie D. Joyner Ministries All Rights Reserved. Printed In USA. Chesapeake, VA 23325 Written by Pastor Ronnie D. Joyner, D. Min. with Kim R. Edlin-1998 (Revised By Elder Ronnie D. Joyner, II, M.Div. in 2023) No part of this manual may be reproduced by any means without the express written permission of the author. This manual is a ministry tool of the Philadelphia Fellowship Teaching Ministry. Ronnie D. Joyner Ministries, Inc. 2508 Lamp Post Court Chesapeake, VA 23325 (757) 424-5776 E-Mail-PhillyFellowship808@gmail.com

1 Corinthians 13:4-7 4 LOVE IS PATIENT; LOVE IS KIND; LOVE IS NOT ENVIOUS OR BOASTFUL OR ARROGANT 5 OR RUDE. IT DOES NOT INSIST ON ITS OWN WAY; IT IS NOT IRRITABLE; IT KEEPS NO RECORD OF WRONGS; 6 IT DOES NOT REJOICE IN WRONGDOING BUT REJOICES IN THE TRUTH. 7 IT BEARS ALL THINGS, BELIEVES ALL THINGS, HOPES ALL THINGS, ENDURES ALL THINGS.

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CONGRATULATIONS On Your Wedding & Pre-Marital Preparation! This manual is intended to assist you in the coming months. It is intended to answer some of your questions while also highlighting some areas of preparation you may not have considered. Marriage is such a crucial step in your life and the beginning of the benefits of meaningful relationships that you should do it right the first time. Marriage is a union in which God takes a special interest, whether it is your first, second, or third. The person with whom you choose to spend the remainder of your life is more important than your salvation and surrender to Christ. Genesis 2:24 says: 24 Therefore a man leaves his father and his mother and clings to his wife, and they become one flesh. God has always been interested in wedding ceremonies and marriage partnerships. First, God unites hearts through the strange yet powerful energy known as love. Then He connects spirits and bodies in a pure and intimate bond known only to lovers who honorably belong to each other's hearts. As you plan for this very special day and beyond, I recommend inviting the Lord Jesus to lead your plans, bring wisdom for all of your upcoming decisions, and make Him your very special guest to oversee your wedding, then the keeper of your marriage. He set a precedent while on Earth by accepting a wedding invitation, and as usual, He carried a special blessing with Him. John 2:1-11 says: 2 On the third day there was a wedding in Cana of Galilee, and the mother of Jesus was there. 2 Jesus and his disciples had also been invited to the wedding. 3 When the wine gave out, the mother of Jesus said to him, “They have no wine.” 4 And Jesus said to her, “Woman, what concern is that to me and to you? My hour has not yet come.” 5 His mother said to the servants, “Do whatever he tells you.” 6 Now standing there were six stone water jars for the Jewish rites of purification, each holding twenty or thirty gallons. 7 Jesus said to them, “Fill the jars with water.” And they filled them up to the brim. 8 He said to them, “Now draw some out, and take it to the person in charge of the banquet.” So they took it. 9 When the person in charge tasted the water that had become wine and did not know where it came from (though the servants who had drawn the water knew), that person called the bridegroom 10 and said to him, “Everyone serves the good wine first and then the inferior wine after the guests have become drunk. But you have kept the good wine until now.” 11 Jesus did this, the first of his signs, in Cana of Galilee and revealed his glory, and his disciples believed in him. Our wish is for your wedding day and successful marriage to be everything you have hoped for. We have made every effort in compiling the included information to assist you with the myriad nuances that surround this beautiful celebration of love and commitment. Please study this handbook attentively and ask your officiating priest any lingering questions. We will assist you in any manner that we can. Blessings,

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Table Of Contents The Checklist Calendar………………………………………………………………………...5 The Engagement  The Purpose………………………………………………………………………………….9  The Announcement-Family & Friends………………………………………………………9  The Announcement-Community…………………………………………………………...10  The Length Of Engagement………………………………………………………………...10  The Wedding Party…………………………………………………………………………11 The Rings  The Choice-Engagement……………………………………………………………………11  The Choice-Wedding……………………………………………………………………….12 The Expenses  The Bride & Her Family……………………………………………………………………13  The Groom & His Family…………………………………………………………………..13 The Wish List………………………………………………………………………………… 14 The Budget……………………………………………………………………………………. 15 The Ceremony  The Location………………………………………………………………………………..20  The Schedule Of Fees………………………………………………………………………21  The Honorarium…………………………………………………………………………….22  The Vows…………………………………………………………………………………...22  The Music…………………………………………………………………………………..22  The Rehearsal………………………………………………………………………………23  The Rehearsal Dinner………………………………………………………………………24  The Processional……………………………………………………………………………24  The Recessional…………………………………………………………………………….24  The Receiving Line…………………………………………………………………………25 The Clergy Person……………………………………………………………………………..25 The Big Picture  Photography & Video………………………………………………………………………25 The Flowers  Preserving Your Bouquet…………………………………………………………………...28 Other Arrangements  The Marriage License…………………………………………………………………….. 29  Changing Your Surname………………………………………………………………….. 31  Pre-Marital Counseling…………………………………………………………………… 31  The Gift Registry…………………………………………………………………………. 32  The Shower……………………………………………………………………………….. 33 Marriage Fact Sheet ………………………………………………………………………… 33

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Nine To Twelve Months In Advance Decide On The Type Of Wedding You Want: Size, Formality, Setting

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Choose A Wedding Date & Time

Meet With Your Officiating Clergy Person; Reserve Date & Time For Wedding & Rehearsal. (Complete Marriage Fact Sheet) Set A Tentative Budget & Decide How Expenses Will Be Shared

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Shop For Wedding Rings

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Plan The Reception & Book The Location

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Select & Book Photographer & Videographer Select Wedding Attendants

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Select & Book Transportation For Wedding Day

Choose Music & Musicians/Soloists For The Ceremony & Reception

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Select & Book Caterer

Choose The Wedding Attire: Bride’s Dress & Headpiece & The Attendants Wear  

Discuss Your Honeymoon Plans

Make Sure Out-Of-Town Participants Have Been Measured For Attire

Six To Nine Months In Advance 

Announce Your Engagement In The Newspaper & Social Media 

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Select Florist & Discuss Color Schemes

Begin Pre-Marriage Counseling With Clergyperson 

Make Your Guest List

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Four To Six Months In Advance 

Order Invitations & Other Related Stationary Needs

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Book Honeymoon

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Notify Other People In Ceremony

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Arrange Dress Fittings

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Organize Legal Documents

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Schedule Wedding Day Transportation

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If Moving, Look For New Home Or Apartment

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Purchase Wedding Bands

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Experiment With Hair Styles

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Select Baker & Order Wedding Cake

Two To Three Months In Advance 

Reserve The Men’s Wedding Attire

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Address Invitations

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Arrange Printing & Delivery Of Ceremony Programs & Reception Favors

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Draw Up Seating Plan For Reception

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Mail Invitations

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Confirm All Details With Your Hired Professionals & With Clergy

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Plan Rehearsal Dinner & Attendants’ Parties

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Make Hairdresser Appointments

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Arrange Accommodations For Out-Of-Town Attendants & Guests

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One Month In Advance 

Mail Invitations

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Get Marriage License

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Schedule Final Dress Listing

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Take Formal Bridal Portrait

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Purchase Gifts For Wedding Party

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Have Attendants’ Parties

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Finalize Rehearsal Dinner Details

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Make A Calendar Of Events For Your Wedding Day

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Pick Up The Wedding Rings & Check For Correct Fits

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Meet With Your Photographer & Videographer & Give Instructions For Special Pictures

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Discuss Ceremony Music With Musician

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Get Change Of Address Cards From Your Post Office

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Adjust Insurance Policies, Bank Accounts, Utilities, etc.

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Purchase Guest Book & Pen

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Schedule Delivery & Setup Of Flowers

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Arrange Final Cleaning & Pressing For Attire

One Week In Advance 

Phone Caterer With Total Guest Counts & Confirm All Details

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Confirm Details On Last-Minute Arrangements & Timetables With All Services Companies

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Confirm All Honeymoon Reservations; Pick Up Tickets & Travelers’ Checks

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Break In Wedding Day Shoes

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Review & Finalize Seating For Reception & Write Place Cards

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Schedule Pre-Wedding Day Quiet Time For Bride & Groom

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Have Parent Or Attendant Call Regarding Missing RSVP

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Pack For Honeymoon

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Arrange For Toasting Goblets & Knife To Be Sent To Reception Site

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Assign Your Wedding Party Tasks To Be Done On The Wedding Day

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Pick Up Wedding Attire & Make Sure Everything Fits Properly

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Deliver Marriage License & All Ceremony Donations To Clergy Person

(NOTE: Donations Must Be Paid In Full Prior To Wedding Rehearsal.) 

Conduct Rehearsal

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Give Rehearsal Dinner

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Give The Best Man The Clergy Person’s Honorarium & Instruct Him To Deliver It On The Day Of The Wedding

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Confirm With The Florist The Time Of Delivery

On You Wedding Day 

Remember Rings

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EAT! Fasting Leads To Fainting

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Leave Plenty Of Time To Get Ready

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If Pictures Will Be Taken Before The Ceremony, Plan For The Entire Wedding Party To Be Dressed About Two Hours Before The Ceremony

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Signal For The Music To Start Thirty Minutes Before The Ceremony

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ENJOY YOUR SPECIAL DAY!

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The Purpose An engagement time is a period of common sense knowledge. It gives you the time you need to communicate, think, communicate, observe, communicate, and consider. If it hasn't already been done, the gentleman will now be able to see his lover on her own grounds. He should pay her a visit, meet and get to know her parents, and see whether his fiancé is hardworking or, God forbid, LAZY. He should observe how she interacts with her mother, how she appears when her hair is a mess, whether she is kind or selfless, with her siblings, and how neat and tidy her room is. Can you take it anymore? Proverbs 18:22 reminds us that: 22 He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the LORD. The bride should also use this time to observe how her ideal man looks in his greasy overalls, how he treats his mother and father, how he behaves in difficult situations, and whether he is quick to solve technical challenges or (Is It Possible?) a procrastinator. You might even want to hide in a corner and wait for him to return home from work, hungry as a bear and potentially twice as nasty! It has to be love if you can witness all of this and still want him! I Timothy 5:8 tells us :8 And whoever does not provide for relatives, and especially for family members, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever. Let us also remember that there is nothing wrong with terminating an engagement before or even on the day of the wedding if it is evident that the proposed marriage will not work. The pair should adhere to the biblical instruction outlined above. Prior to the wedding, the lady should already be a substance-filled wife, and the male should already be a provider. What will be developed during the marriage if these two attributes are not present? This is one of the most rational justifications for an engagement time.

The Announcement-Family & Friends We're presuming that the BIG question has already been asked, and the answer has been positive, and that the rest of the world is only now learning of your happy news. Now that everything has settled and the world has suddenly become a most lovely place to live, let us descend from the skies for some practical suggestions on what to do next. You will want to share this exciting time in your lives with your parents, family, and friends right away. Even though the groom-to-be is no longer required to seek permission from his prospective in-law to marry their daughter, courtesy dictates that these very important individuals be the first to learn of your exciting new plans. A personal visit by both of your parents is best. If they reside out of town, the most thoughtful and thrilling way to tell the news is to plan a special vacation. However, if you regularly share thoughts with your parents, they may value the immediacy of an excited phone call from both of you, followed by the opportunity to plan a visit when close relatives can gather to celebrate your good news.

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The Announcement-Community Following that, you'll most likely want to inform your community. Call or email the lifestyle or community editors to determine the manner in which they need to get your news (DO NOT EXPECT THEM TO TAKE THE INFORMATION BY PHONE) before inserting an announcement in your local newspapers. They will frequently ask you to fill out a form that they will provide to you. If they do not provide a form, write a press release that includes the bride's and groom's names, addresses, hometowns (If Different From Current Residence), occupations with titles and employers; also include the bride's and groom's mothers and fathers with their current city of residence; include a daytime telephone number where you can be reached to verify information; and include the wedding date (Or Season, If Date Undetermined). If you want to add a photograph with your release, mail a glossy black-and-white print 2"x 3" or larger (DO NOT EXPECT IT TO BE RETURNED). A portrait of the bride-to-be or the engaged couple together in a formal (NOT A SNAPSHOT) headshot position is acceptable to submit. Remember to include identification with your photo and sandwich it between two sheets of cardboard for secure mail handling. TIP: If you decide to write your name and phone number directly on the back of the photo, use the proper writing instrument. Because a ballpoint pen can show through on the other side (AND LINES ON YOUR FACE AREN'T ALWAYS FLATTERING), draw lightly and use a permanent marker that won't rub off or stain through to the other side.

Length Of Engagement How long should an engagement last? To be honest, there is no definitive solution. It is a question that the people concerned must answer, taking into account personal responsibilities, obligations, emotional and material preparations, and the time required to complete the obligatory bible-based, pre-marital counseling sessions with your officiating clergyman. Our usual recommendation is no less than nine to twelve months, particularly if the pre-engagement relationship was less than 12-24 months. As evidenced by our checklist calendar, there are numerous tasks to be completed in preparation for the wedding day itself, not to mention the other days that follow. For example, there will be furniture to give, such as bedding and linens, kitchen equipment, silverware, and so on. Will you purchase or rent a home? Will you both continue to work after your marriage? Will you start having children immediately away? Who will be in charge of the finances? Who prepares breakfast? Is he a good cook? Family and friends can help a lot by sponsoring showers and parties (REMEMBER TO REGISTER YOUR PREFERENCES AT A LOCAL DEPARTMENT STORE). Many of the home's requirements are met in this manner. The couple is overjoyed since they have so many friends!

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The Wedding Party During your engagement phase, you will determine who you want to play a special role in your wedding by becoming a member of your wedding party. How many bridesmaids and attendants are you planning on having? What about the flower girl or ring bearer? One thing to remember is the Maid/Matron of Honor's and Best Man's neglected but true duty and responsibilities. This was not a one-day "job" in the past; rather, it was a lifetime commitment. The clergy person may address your Best Man and Matron/Maid of Honor in relation to their dedication to this marriage bond as an optional element to your wedding ceremony. Those people would swear before God that they will do everything in their power to support this marriage's lifetime commitment, through good and difficult moments in life. In a way, they are pledging to remain prayer partners and encouragers for the rest of their lives, with the integrity of the marriage vow serving as the foundation for any future advise or encouragement. Proverbs 17:17 says 17 A friend loves at all times, and kinsfolk are born to share adversity. This is a serious obligation that should only be assigned to long-term friends or family members who you both feel will stick by you and hold you accountable for the commitment you made to God.

The Choice-Engagement A ring appears to seal the deal. The particular lady is occasionally shocked by her engagement ring, but more often than not, the choice is made jointly. While it may be tempting to carve a rock in the shape of a headlight, this may not be the time or event to squander your money. Determine a reasonable price range and then communicate your desires to a reputed jeweler (NOT A MALL JEWELER-THEY ARE SOMETIMES MUCH MORE EXPENSIVE DUE TO THEIR OVERHEAD COSTS). A competent jeweler will have a growth strategy in place. You can buy a ring from such a jeweler, then bring it back to the store when your budget allows it and upgrade, deducting at least your initial cost from your upgrade price. There should be no time limit (Deadline Date) on your ability to do this. The diamond's weight is measured in carats, which often, but not always, determines the price. Remember that high-quality diamonds can come in a variety of sizes. I would recommend that you always prioritize quality above quantity. A reputable jeweler will take the time to educate you through the quality requirements and help you comprehend the differences. Remember, this is a large investment; take the time to educate yourself. The internet may be a valuable resource for answers and information.

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While diamonds are the most popular, precious or semi-precious stones may be more appealing to you and fit within your budget. The decision is yours; after all, you'll be staring at it on your finger every day. After you've decided on the stone, you can go on to the metal. Gold, the most popular option, is available in white (which appears silvery) and yellow, with purity ranging from 14K to 18K (pure gold at 24K is too soft for rings). Platinum, while the strongest, is also the most expensive. Whatever you choose, be sure the prongs are securely gripping the stone. One word of advice for the busy lady: when selecting the ring setting style, keep your work habits in mind. Rings with a prominent stone can catch clothing, hosiery, work and household equipment. This can cause damage to your stone, clothing, and, after a few incidences, loosening of the prongs that keep your stone in place. A professional jeweler will take all of this into account and present you with setting style options. If he/she does not think of it, you bring it up. TIP: WHEN BUYING RINGS, ALWAYS KEEP IN MIND THAT IF IT SOUNDS TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE, IT MOST LIKELY IS!

The Choice-Wedding Many bands are curled to suit the engagement ring, while others, either set with comparable stones or a simple gold band, enable the eye to focus on the more dramatic engagement ring worn above it. Whatever you decide, remember to choose a style that you will be happy with today and in the future. Always buy your bands from a trustworthy jeweler. Furthermore, we recommend that you secure your investment as quickly as possible by insuring it against damage or theft. A skilled jeweler can help you with this, or you can get it covered by your homeowners insurance.

The Expenses The old rules no longer serve as concrete recommendations. Traditionally, the bride's family paid for the wedding, while the groom's family paid for the rings and honeymoon. We recommend that both sets of parents meet with the engaged couple early in the planning process to openly address expectations and financial limits. This communication will be useful in the future. Luke 14:28 says: 28 For which of you, intending to build a tower, does not first sit down and estimate the cost, to see whether he has enough to complete it? The following is a traditional list for dividing expenses that you may wish to use or modify according to your needs and/or resources:

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The Bride & Her Family 1. Wedding Dress & Accessories 2. Wedding Invitations & Stationary 3. Cost Of Ceremony: Rental Fees, Decorations & Musicians 4. Cost Of Reception: Caterer, Hall Rental, Musicians, Flowers & Decorations 5. Gifts For Bride’s Attendants 6. Groom’s Gift 7. Photography & Videography Of Ceremony & Reception 8. Groom’s Ring 9. Transportation For Bridal Party 10. Fee For Bridal Consultant 11. Wedding Guest Book They Might Offer to Pay For: ACCOMMODATIONS FOR OUT-OF-TOWN GUESTS & ATTENDANTS OF BRIDE _____________________________________________________________________________

The Groom & His Family 1. Bride’s Ring 2. Marriage License 3. Rehearsal Dinner 4. Gifts For Best Man, Groomsmen, & Ushers 5. Formal Wear Rental 6. Bride’s Bouquet, Corsage For Mothers & Grandmothers 7. Boutonniere’s For Groom’s Attendants 8. Gift For Bride 9. Honorarium For Clergy Person 10. Honeymoon You Might Also Offer To Pay For Or Consider: Accommodations For Out-Of-Town Guests of the Groom, Groomsmen & Ushers. THINK BUDGET!

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The Wish List This may be the most difficult--and enjoyable--task the two of you must complete before exchanging vows. This is the day you've been waiting for years. What was the stage setting in those dreams? Will your wedding be formal? A ceremony in the morning, midday, or evening? Will you use roses or silk flowers to decorate? How many people will be in your wedding party? Should you spend a lot of money for a few bright, dazzling hours, or should you make some sacrifices and put some of that money towards a down payment on a house? Begin by setting priorities. After you've narrowed down the most critical aspect of your dream wedding, chances are you'll come up with imaginative and appealing compromise solutions for the other parts in the overall plan. The most important factor to consider while making a decision is, HAVE YOUR WEDDING, NOT SOMEONE ELSE'S! Expecting to please every parent, friend, and family is unrealistic (It Won't Happen). Keep in mind that this is YOUR special day. Listen to consultants' advice if you want, but make final decisions based on your own preferences. Then, explore realistically how to realize your wishes.

The Budget

Using the budgeting spreadsheets below might help you keep track of all your costs and avoid surprises. To minimize problems or misunderstandings in your interactions, make sure to write contracts outlining exactly what will be required, the periods for delivery/performance of duties, and the agreed-upon charges. Keep all receipts from deposits you've made. 14

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STATIONARY Vendor ________________________________________________________________ Contact Person:______________________________ Phone #:____________________________________ E-Mail: ____________________________________ Deposit: $______________ (Cash, Check # ________, Charge________) Estimated Cost $____________________________ Actual Cost

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Invitations

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Announcements ____________________________ Reply Cards

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Thank You Cards ____________________________ Printed Napkins ____________________________ Guest Book

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Miscellaneous

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_____________________________________________________________________________ PHOTOGRAPHY Vendor ________________________________________________________________ Contact Person:______________________________ Phone #:____________________________________ E-Mail: ____________________________________ Deposit: $______________ (Cash, Check # ________, Charge________) Estimated Cost $____________________________ Actual Cost

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Formal Portraits Engagement __________________________ Wedding _____________________________ Album ____________________________________ Candid's ___________________________________ Extra Prints________________________________ Other ____________________________________ 15

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VIDEOGRAPHER Vendor ________________________________________________________________ Contact Person:______________________________ Phone #:____________________________________ E-Mail: ____________________________________ Deposit: $______________ (Cash, Check # ________, Charge________) Estimated Cost $____________________________ Actual Cost

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Edited Tape

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Extra Copies

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WEDDING ATTIRE Vendor ________________________________________________________________ Contact Person:______________________________ Phone #:____________________________________ E-Mail: ____________________________________ Deposit: $______________ (Cash, Check # ________, Charge________) Estimated Cost $____________________________ Actual Cost

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Wedding Dress

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Veil

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Shoes

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Lingerie

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Jewelry

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Trousseau

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Other

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GIFT Vendor ________________________________________________________________ Contact Person:______________________________ Phone #:____________________________________ E-Mail: ____________________________________ Deposit: $______________ (Cash, Check # ________, Charge________) Estimated Cost $____________________________ Actual Cost

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Groom

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Best Man

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Groomsmen

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Maid Of Honor

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Bridesmaid

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Other

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_____________________________________________________________________________ CEREMONY Vendor ________________________________________________________________ Contact Person:______________________________ Phone #:____________________________________ E-Mail: ____________________________________ Deposit: $______________ (Cash, Check # ________, Charge________) Estimated Cost $____________________________ Actual Cost

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Church/Marriage Site _________________________ Clergy Person

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Organist

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Musicians

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Singers

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Decorations

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Miscellaneous Costs __________________________

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FLOWERS Vendor ________________________________________________________________ Contact Person:______________________________ Phone #:____________________________________ E-Mail: ____________________________________ Deposit: $______________ (Cash, Check # ________, Charge________) Estimated Cost $____________________________ Actual Cost

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Pew Markers ____________________________

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Aisle Runners ___________________________

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Bride’s Bouquet _________________________

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Attendants’ Bouquets ________________________

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Flower Girl _____________________________

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Boutonniere ____________________________

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Corsages _______________________________

Reception Arrangements: 

Buffet Tables ___________________________

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Centerpieces ___________________________

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Guest Tables ___________________________

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Other _________________________________

_____________________________________________________________________________ RECEPTION Vendor ________________________________________________________________ Contact Person:______________________________ Phone #:____________________________________ E-Mail: ____________________________________ Deposit: $______________ (Cash, Check # ________, Charge________) Estimated Cost $____________________________ Actual Cost

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Site Rental

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Musicians/Entertainment ___________________________ Food

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Cake

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Other

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_____________________________________________________________________________ TRANSPORTATION Vendor ________________________________________________________________ Contact Person:______________________________ Phone #:____________________________________ E-Mail: ____________________________________ Deposit: $______________ (Cash, Check # ________, Charge________) Estimated Cost $____________________________ Actual Cost

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Limousine

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Valet Parking

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Other

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_____________________________________________________________________________ MISCELLANEOUS EXPENSES Estimated Cost

$ _________________________

Actual Cost

$ ________________________

_____________________________________________________________________________ WEDDING EXPENSES ACCOUNT Bank:___________________ Account #:____________________ Phone #________________ Total Amount

$ _______________________

Deposit Paid

$ _______________________

Balance Due

$ _______________________

Date Due

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Expenses Of Bride & Family ___________________________ Expenses Of Groom & Family __________________________ Ceremony

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Flowers

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Gifts

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Photographer

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Videographer

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Wedding Attire

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Stationary

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Rings

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Reception

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Transportation

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Wedding Consultant

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Miscellaneous

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$ ___________________________

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The Ceremony The Location Because you are reading this guidebook, it is assumed that you will marry in the Philadelphia Fellowship (Baptist). With that in mind, the facility guidelines listed below will help you with your goals. The use of Philadelphia's sanctuary is free of charge. We do, however, accept donations for its use. The Sanctuary incurs costs every time it is used, and we want to be responsible stewards of The House Of God. If you intend to use the Sanctuary, please be conscious of the time spent when the lights are turned on during the rehearsal, the usage of restrooms, water fountains, and the presence of custodians for clean up following your exit. Please keep in mind that the wedding ceremony on the day of the wedding includes the use of the sanctuary prior to the first guest arriving, mail lobby foyers, main lobby bathrooms, the parking lot, groomsmen and bride's wedding party dressing rooms, elevator, and the Church Office. In addition, a sound person will be required. Your clergyperson will make arrangements for the required soundperson to attend your rehearsal and ceremony. It expresses the couple's wish to secure their singers and musicians-in accordance with their desires for a great day. We will assist if the church is able. NOTE: Unacceptable songs and non-Philadelphia musicians must be approved by the officiating clergyperson. 20

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A master audio file of your wedding ceremony will be created and sent to you after the event (this is included in the cost of the soundperson). If you have pre-recorded music performed at your wedding, this may hinder the creation of a master file. Please get clarity from your clergyperson on this. When deemed necessary by the officiating clergyperson, or at your request, security will be present for the wedding ceremony at your cost. No rice, birdseed, confetti (Or Anything Like That) is to be thrown inside or outside the building. There are no exceptions. At the writing, Philadelphia does not provide candelabras, kneeling rails, arches nor runners. These items can be secured through the florist secured for the wedding. The Communion Table and two chairs which sit at the altar, are stationary during the Ceremony After reading the facility usage restrictions, I'm sure you're thinking what kind of payment to the church would be appropriate.

The Schedule Of Fees A Possible Donation Should Reflect Sound Person: $35/Hr.-$35 Minimum Sanctuary Use For Rehearsal & Ceremony $250-Non-Member/$150-Member Dressing Rooms For The Groom & His Party $30 On The Day Of The Wedding Dressing Rooms For The Bride & Her Party $30 On The Day Of The Wedding Philadelphia Minister Of Music (Rehearsal & Day Of The Wedding) $300 Minimum. We Will Put You In Direct Contact With The Minister Of Music To Specifically Detail Your Needs & Final Donation Custodian(s) For After The Rehearsal, & Before & After The Wedding Ceremony-$25/Hr. Per Custodian 21

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Should You Desire To Use Our Multi-Purpose Room For Your Rehearsal Dinner Or Reception, We Will Happily Quote You A Price After Receiving The Specific Listing Of Your Needs

The Honorarium It is customary to pay the clergyperson an honorarium for his or her services. Traditionally, the groom is responsible for this. If you request that the clergyperson go to another city to officiate at your ceremony, the expenses and lodging should be covered by the family who requested this person's services. Remember to account the hours he/she has spent in pre-marital counseling, rehearsal, and the actual ceremony when calculating the monetary amount.

The Vows Today, some couples create ceremonies that personalize this life-changing event. Vows are collective vows given to one another. They are the basic pillars upon which your marriage will be built. They are whispered heart sentiments into one another's spirits. The Vows must be validated in everything you do as part of your everlasting commitment to each other. Those who value time-honored customs may choose a more formal wedding ceremony with traditional vows. Any possibilities will be discussed with you by your officiating clergyperson. NOTE: It is not uncommon for a couple to evaluate the alternatives and combine elements from several ceremonies into a single ceremony, or to choose one and modify it to fit their personality and style.

The Music After you've decided on a site for your wedding, you should choose your music. Your choices will be influenced by the style of your event. Set the tone for this unique event. Although organ music is most usually associated with this ceremony, harp, flute, guitar, and string quartet music offer a special touch, particularly to tiny or very formal marriages. One half-hour before the ceremony, prelude music begins. If you want a vocal soloist to perform, shortly before the processional is a good moment. Consult with this person--either a hired professional or a friend with a particularly appealing voice--to ensure that the song(s) you've picked are within his/her range and expertise. Music for professionals should be spectacular! The recessional resonates with this similar area of importance, but at a little faster tempo to express a sense of exhilaration. 22

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As previously indicated, any secular music selection must be approved in advance by the clergyperson. With your choice of a church as your wedding venue, it is only natural that the ceremony would be totally spiritual, something that should not be mistaken in spirit with this holy marriage. With that said, we are aware that there are many lovely songs performed by a secular musician that may hold a special value to the two of you and that you would like to include in your ceremony. Because it is our intention to help you make this day the fulfillment of your aspirations, your clergyperson will prayerfully examine each request--however, the spirit of the service will never be compromised.

The Rehearsal A comprehensive rehearsal is required for a well-organized church wedding. It is best to have it one or two days before the wedding ceremony. The entire party, as well as the clergyperson, musicians, singers, and soundperson, should be present. Everyone would be expected to stay for the duration of the rehearsal (UP TO A TWO-HOUR REHEARSAL). No ceremonial aspects should be left out of the rehearsal. There is a risk of error at the wedding if one participant is excused from this procedure. Beginning with the ushers' tasks of greeting and escorting visitors, the entire ceremony should be painstakingly rehearsed until the person in charge is sure that all participants can be relied on to provide a faultless performance. The minister is neither required or desired to do the complete spoken rite. However, he/she will utilize as many clues as required to demonstrate the overall outline of the answers, rings, kneeling, and recessional. If there will be children at the wedding, they should be given particular training. They should be patiently and thoughtfully practiced until they fully understand what is expected of them. There is nothing more damaging to the spiritual tone of a ceremony than children who, because they have not been thoroughly rehearsed, distract the attention of both the bridal party and the audience by wandering around the platform or altar area. We recommend that you designate one adult who is not a member of the wedding party to each youngster in the party. That person would be responsible for sitting in a strategic location and being prepared to assist the child during the ritual. This can be a long and dull time for the youngster, but for the benefit of your wedding ceremony and sanity, allow the youngest members of your party some time and preparation. Make sure the children know and "like" the person so that their complaint does not become a larger distraction. Coloring books and crayons, as well as quiet toys, can help a 23

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youngster stay calm. We will visit the sanctuary/venue during pre-marital counseling so that you can correlate your dreams with reality. You can also visit the sanctuary/venue whenever you like.

The Rehearsal Dinner Following the rehearsal, the wedding party (including musicians and the officiating priest) is expected to rejoice at a supper hosted by the groom and his family. This is usually conducted in a hotel or restaurant, but for a small, informal wedding, especially if money is an issue, it might be held in a home-pool side or even around a BBQ pit! It's fun to include close friends who are visiting from out of town. The venue must be able to accommodate a gathering of up to 350 people.

The Processional Traditionally, the bride's family and friends sit on the left side of the aisle and the groom's family and friends sit on the right; however, ushers can be instructed to use common sense if one side is less crowded, especially if one participant is from out of town and does not anticipate a large family party joining him/her. The groom's mother is escorted by an usher just before the processional music, followed by his father. Finally, the bride's mother is escorted to her place of honor in the second pew on the left side, where her husband will join her after "giving away" their daughter. She is the last person to take her seat before the ceremony begins. She rises as the processional begins, signaling the guests behind her to do the same. The clergyperson and the groom then proceed down the aisle and take their places at the altar. The groomsmen are next paired by height, followed by the bridesmaids, who can be in pairs or single. Many couples also prefer to pair groomsmen and bridesmaids during the walk down the aisle. The maid or matron of honor is next, followed by the ring bearer and flower girl. Finally, the moment we've all been waiting for has arrived: the bride on the arm of her father or escort. (The Order Listed Above Is Only Suggested; It Can Be Modified To Suit Your Taste & Desire.)

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The Receiving Line As the bridal party leaves the sanctuary/venue it is customary to form a receiving line in the foyer (or outside, weather permitting) to greet each guest. However, growing in popularity, & a recommendation for larger weddings, is to assemble this line at the site of the reception. The bride's mother is traditionally the first in line to thank visitors as the wedding's hostess. Next to her is the groom's father, followed by the groom's mother then the bride's father or escort. This permits those who are only familiar with one side of the family to be introduced as they make their way to the bride and groom in the middle of the line. The maid of honor is next to them, followed by the bridesmaids. Traditionally, the best man and ushers are not included in this rite (THIS BREAK CAN BE USED TO ROUND UP THE AVAILABLE TRANSPORTATION AND WHISK AWAY THE BRIDAL PARTY). However, tradition, like everything else, is a matter of personal desire, and many wedding couples choose to include the males at this time as well.

The Clergy Person Philadelphia's ordained clergy are all authorized to perform marriage ceremonies. You may explore their availability in doing your Bible-based pre-marriage counseling and executing the ceremony with any of them at your discretion.

The Big Picture Photography & Video Nothing will be more unforgettable about your wedding day than the essence of your DAY recorded through the use of images and other media. Remember, there is only one chance to record each exceptional moment, and relying on "Uncle Bob" is perilous. Hire a professional wedding photographer who will remember to put the film in the camera and will not be standing in the buffet line when he should be photographing the event. He/she has prior experience with lighting, positions, and filtering out bystander comments. Instead, use that willing relative to help the pro round up the correct folks for planned shots. Examine portfolios and get a sense of this professional's personality to ensure he or she will capture these moments in the way you want. It is critical that you are at ease and confident in the responsibility you are entrusting to this individual. Please keep in mind that there 25

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are no re-shoots if you don't do a decent job. You will need to confirm with him/her the dates he/she will be able to provide proofs and prints. It's also a good idea to check with the clergy to see if there are any limits during the ceremony. Remember that if you want a formal portrait to accompany your newspaper announcement, you must shoot it weeks ahead of time.

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Guests Outside Church Bride & Father Getting Out Of Car Ushers Escorting Guests Groom’s Parents Being Seated Bride’s Mother Being Seated Musicians Groom & Groomsmen At Altar Attendants Walking Down Aisle Bride & Father Walking Down Aisle Bridal Party At Altar Bride & Groom Exchanging Vows

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Guest Blowing Bubbles On The Couple Instead Of Throwing Rice Bride & Groom Arriving The Receiving Line (Posed & Candid) Bride & Groom At Bridal Table Wedding Party At Table Musicians The Cake Bride & Groom Cutting The Cake Bride & Groom Talking To Guests Buffet Table

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Video/Digital Media Philadelphia strongly supports video and digital media. This is your chance to experience the entire ceremony and enjoy the moment for years to come. Also, to capture the events at the reception. Follow the same recommendations for hiring a videographer as you did for obtaining your photographer.

The Flowers Flowers, probably the most romantic feature of this most romantic day, have the power to transport you to a fantasy land--or the poorhouse. Remember that basic bouquets will not detract from beautiful outfits; that seasonal blooms are less expensive than exotic blossoms from the hothouse; and that using a reliable florist will save you money in the long run. As soon as you've decided on the design and budget of your wedding, go to various florists and look through their portfolios. Many florists will even let you borrow a DVD of the various sorts of floral arrangements from which to choose. The bride's family traditionally pays for flowers to decorate the wedding and reception sites, as well as the bridesmaids' bouquets, while the groom provides the bride's bouquet and going-away corsage, as well as corsages for both mother and grandparents and boutonnieres for all males in the bridal party. A corsage may be preferred by the bride in an informal wedding where she is wearing a street-length gown. While the bride’s flowers are traditionally white, bridesmaids’ blossoms should coordinate with the colors of their dresses & may range from a spray or nosegay to a single, perfect rose, either 27

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live or silk-another approach to save money that is appealing. Philadelphia does not permit altar arrangements, chair decorations, or the use of either real or artificial flowers (FOR MORE INFORMATION, CONTACT YOUR OFFICIATING CLERGY). If the florist is unfamiliar with the layout of the church, you may want to have them visit before making a final recommendation. Your sanctuary decorations may be able to be reused in your reception hall. You'll need a large eye-catcher for the buffet table or head table, as well as smaller arrangements for where visitors will be sitting. Perhaps you'd like live or silk flowers on top of your wedding cake as well. Just make sure to get the delivery timing and set-up arrangements in writing.

Preserving Your Bouquet If you're the throwing kind, include a replacement bouquet in your final preparations so you may save your special arrangement. Request that your florist pick up your bouquet at the conclusion of the festivities, or arrange for someone to drop it off at your florist. After the moisture has been removed, a productive solution is sprayed over the bouquet, which is then mounted in a glass container or on a satin pillow. The process should take three weeks.

Other Arrangements The Marriage License Each state has its own requirements for securing a marriage license. At the time of this writing, the requirements for the Commonwealth Of Virginia are as follows: Who May Marry 1. Age Requirements And Consent In Virginia, the minimum age for marriage is sixteen years for both the bride and groom; however, if any party is under the age of eighteen, approval to the marriage must be obtained by the father, mother, or legal guardian. This can be done in person before the person providing the license by the parent or legal guardian, or by written consent properly sworn to before a notary public. Virginia law makes special provisions to allow marriage for underage parties when the female is pregnant and in cases when the underage applicant lacks a parent or legal guardian. 2. Prohibited Marriages  A marriage entered into prior to the dissolution of an earlier marriage of one of the parties.  A marriage between an ancestor & descendant; or between a brother & a sister; or between an uncle & a niece; or between an aunt & a nephew; whether the relationship is by the half 28

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License Requirements 1. Blood Test-In Virginia, no blood tests are required for marriage. 2. Where Obtained-A marriage license in Virginia is granted by the clerk or his deputy of a circuit court in any county or city in the state. The ceremony can take place anywhere in the state. Applicants must provide information required to complete the marriage record under oath. These are substantial; issues, and the applicant may face perjury charges for violating the section of the legislation that demands this disclosure. There is no statutory waiting period for divorcees before marriage after the divorce is granted, unless remarriage is specifically barred by a court. Clerks may need documentation proof of age or the dissolution of a prior marriage in some situations. On Saturdays, most clerks of court offices are closed. 3. Time Limitations-The marriage must take place within sixty days of the license being issued. There is no waiting period between application and license issuance, and a couple may marry immediately when the license is issued. 4. Fees-The clerk of the court who issues the marriage license charges a fee of $30. Any person authorized to celebrate marital rights may collect a fee not to exceed $30 for each ceremony. Marriage Ceremony 1. Who May Perform-A circuit court must approve a minister of any faith denomination to perform the rituals of nuptials. To receive such authorization, the minister must provide proof of ordination as well as proof of regular communion with the religious society of which he or she is a reputed member. In addition, the courts in each city and county have designated individuals who are qualified to execute civil marriage ceremonies. Refer to section 20-26, Code of Virginia, Domestic Relations, for marriages between members of any religious group that does not have an ordained minister. 2. Witnesses-There is no legal obligation that witnesses attend the marriage ceremony. 3. Marriage Record-The priest or other person performing the marriage ceremony must com29

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plete and sign the Marriage Register and the Marriage Return, and return both forms to the clerk of court who issued the license within five days of the ceremony. The clerk forwards the Marriage Return to the State Division of Vital Records. The officiate may also prepare a certificate to be delivered to the newly married couple in addition to the documents to be returned to the clerk. Certified Copies A certified copy of the marriage record is available for $8 from the clerk of the court that issued the license or from the Virginia Division of Vital Records in Richmond. When requesting a copy of a marriage record, supply the following information: full name of groom, full name of bride, date of marriage, and place of marriage. (Marriage Requirements-Commonwealth Of Virginia, Issued by Division of Vital Records State Department of Health in cooperation with Virginia Clerks Of Court, 2023)

Changing Your Surname When taking your husband’s surname, be sure to change your name on all these important documents: Driver’s License  Car Registration & Title  Social Security Card  Insurance (Health, Life, Car, & Homeowners)  Voter Registration  Bank Account (Checking & Savings)  Credit/Debit Cards  Utility Companies  Passport Or Visas  Personal Records (School & Office)  Business Cards  Memos  Letterheads  Post Office (Change Of Address)  Last Will & Testament  Medical & Dental Records Some women, particularly those who have developed a professional reputation, are choosing to keep their original last names & hyphenate her husband’s surname. Whichever you choose, it is 

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important to discuss this with your future spouse to make sure this is agreeable to both of you.

Pre-Marital Counseling Before a couple can marry in Philadelphia, we require that they attend at least eight pre-marital counseling sessions with their designated clergyperson. One major request we make of you is that if the couple is having sexual relations, they halt any sexual relationship and, if they are living together, they do not do so until after the wedding. According to I Corinthians 7:1-3: 7 Now concerning the matters about which you wrote: “It is good for a man not to touch a woman.” 2 But because of cases of sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. 3 The husband should give to his wife what is due her and likewise the wife to her husband. If you have any questions, please contact your officiating clergyperson. These eight seminars are intended to address significant areas of concern for prospective couples contemplating marriage. These spiritual seminars are colored by discussions, handouts, video presentations, and assignments. These sessions are led by Pastor Ronnie D. Joyner, D.Min., his designee, or the clergyperson of your choice. Session One: Marriage's Origins A biblical analysis of Genesis 2:15-25. Session Two: Any Unknown Baggage? Examining your genogram to find out-Exodus 20:1-6 Session Three: Husbands' Kingdom Agenda Using selected texts to review useful teachings from Dr. Tony Evans. Session Four: Wives' Kingdom Agenda Using selected texts to review useful teachings from Dr. Tony Evans. Session Five: Financial Preparation for Marriage A thorough review of the couple's finances based on the booklet "Breaking Free From Financial Bondage: A Biblical Plan To Take Control Of Your Finances" by Pastor Ronnie D. Joyner, D.Min. Session Six: Growing Together to Become One A review of the marriage stages that couples must be prepared for. Session Seven: Protecting Your Marriage and Family Against Satanic Seduction A look at Genesis 3:1-24 and 4:1-26. Session Eight-Details of the Wedding Ceremony Covering all of the Wedding's final touches. 31

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The Gift Registry A bride used to spend the first few weeks of her marriage returning woks and crock pots. But this was before the electronic bridal registry. After checking with the person with whom you'll be sharing those plates and sheets, and deciding on the patterns, sizes, and colors you'd prefer to live with. Make appointments with your preferred jewelry and department stores to register these preferences. Include the number of stuff that would get you to Utopia. It's thoughtful to have items in every price range to accommodate the various budgets of your guests. It's also completely acceptable to let your shower hostesses know where you're registered--just don't put it on your wedding invitation! Patterns of silver, stemware, and china for both formal and informal use, cookware and kitchen accessories, and bed and table liners are all common goods to register. One word of caution: while you're having fun choosing out all the pieces you desire, be a careful shopper, especially when it comes to your formal and informal china. Some manufacturers withdraw patterns on a regular basis (for example, Mikasa), making it harder to add to your collection in the future. Make careful to inquire about any manufacturer policies on retiring patterns. Reputable retailers will be able to inform you who frequently discontinues things, as well as notice practices and other relevant details (for example, microwave safe).

The Shower Your pals are likely to want to arrange more than one party in your honor, perhaps some for "the girls" and some co-ed festivities. Any time of day, day of the week, and location-from an informal pool or BBQ pit to a favorite restaurant's private dining room-is appropriate (some wedding experts consider it a "no-no" for a close family member to host this for you, but your scenario will define how this may be ideal for you). If you know that some guests, such as your attendants, will be asked to multiple parties, it's polite to let them know that only one gift is requested. Remember to buy gifts for these attendants, such as a piece of jewelry. Theme events function properly. Your hosts will most likely enquire about the types of presents you'd want to receive, such as kitchen, bathroom, or patio paraphernalia (a savvy hostess also provides visitors hints about desired color schemes). When the engaged couple has accumulated many of the essentials, it's fun to think beyond the towels and Tupperware and consider broader interests--perhaps sporting equipment, tools for do-it-yourself projects, gourmet products, or even a certificate shower, with certificates good for either purchased or contributed services. Designate someone to keep track of who provided what during the party so that your (prompt) thank-you notes are both personal and correct. TIP: It is acceptable to provide the hostess with your thank you card envelopes for placement at each seat at large shower events. During the shower, the hostess would ask guests to fill out an envelope with their name, address, city, state, and zip code. This will help the bride-to-be with her thank-you cards to the gift givers.

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Marriage Fact Sheet SECTION 1 Bride’s Name: _____________________________________________________________________________ Last First Middle _____________________________________________________________________________ Street Apt.# City/State/Zip __________________ Daytime Phone

__________________ Evening Phone

Have you been married before?

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Number of Times:_____

Divorced?

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If yes, reason: _____________

_____________________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________________ Date last divorce was finalized: _________________ Born-Again date: _________________ Are you a member of Philadelphia Fellowship? ____Yes ____No If yes, since when? ___________ Do you attend Philadelphia Fellowship regularly? ____Yes ____No If yes, how long? (Months/Years) _________ _____________________________________________________________________________ Groom’s Name: _____________________________________________________________________________ Last First Middle _____________________________________________________________________________ Street Apt.# City/State/Zip __________________ Daytime Phone 33

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_____________________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________________ Date last divorce was finalized: _________________ Born-Again date: _________________ Are you a member of Philadelphia Fellowship? ____Yes ____No If yes, since when? ___________ Do you attend Philadelphia Fellowship regularly? ____Yes ____No If yes, how long? (Months/Years) _________ _____________________________________________________________________________ SECTION 2: Desired Wedding Date: ___________________________ Month Day Year Second Choice:

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SECTION 3 Number in wedding party: ______________(Include Bride & Groom) Bride given in marriage by (name): _____________________________________ Relationship: _____________________________________ Name Of Maid /Matron Of Honor: ______________________________________ Name Of Best Man/Men) _______________________________________ Name of Clergy Person Who You Desire To Perform Ceremony: _____________________________________________________________________________ Have you made contact with the clergy person yet? ____Yes ____ No SECTION 4 Are the musicians confirmed to perform at your ceremony? ____Yes ____No Would you desire the minister of music here at Philadelphia? ____Yes ____No Will you be using other musicians? ____Yes ____No Name (s) of Musician: ____________________________________________ Address & Phone #: ____________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________________ Will you exchange rings? ____Yes ____No If yes, single/double: ______________ Candle Lighting Ceremony? ____Yes ____No Communion? ____Yes ____No Open or Private Wedding Ceremony: ______________ Digital Copy Of Ceremony Desired: ____Yes ____No Will you be needing the use of the Multi-Purpose Facility for Dinner Or Reception? ____Yes ____No 35

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FOR OFFICE USE ONLY Pre-Counseling Appointments: ____________________________ Wedding Date/Time Approved: ___________________________ Rehearsal Date/Time Approved: ___________________________ Candle Lighting Ceremony: ____________________________ Communion: _________________________________ Open/Private: _________________________________ Musician: ____________________________________ Sound Person Confirmed: _________________________________ Audio/Videos Confirmed: _________________________________ Maintenance Confirmed: _________________________________ Security Confirmed: ___________________________________ Use Of The Multi-Purpose Room: ___________________________________ Donation Discussed: _____________________________________

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