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10 UPFRONT & PERSONAL I'm a full on metal head(slam kid lol) however I enjoy other genres of music too because I have a huge appreciation for music. I have a few tattoos, not nearly enough, and a few piercings. I am looking at getting some more body modifications done in the very near future.

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38 KITCHEN CORNER "Chia isn’t likely to cause a reaction or trigger symptoms, as with some other foods that are known allergens or spark GI-related symptoms," says Harbstreet. 40 KITCHEN CORNER Good news. It’s super simple to add chia to your diet. A relatively tasteless seed, they’re easy to sprinkle on yogurt or blend into your morning sip.

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APRIL 2019 52 LIFESTYLE Are you giving all your energy to others while putting your life and health on the back burner? Recapture your health and happiness with these 8 tips.

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What was the motive behind? The motive behind what I do is to make sure women of all shapes, sizes and colour to know that they are beautiful and sexy regardless of what society and social media tells them. Beauty can not and can never be boxed or measured by other people's scales and opinions and we should stop looking for outside validation because we are all beautiful in the creators eyes

each other's feelings with our harsh words and whenever I come across an unfortunate situation where someone is trying to put me down I always remind myself that I am a strong beautiful woman and other people's opinions of me won't and can not change that.

I am today because of my mother's teachings and my siblings guidance. I'm big on family and my family is and means everything to me

What can you say/Message to Plus-Size Women who are looking up to you? Firstly I'd like to thank them for the love and • What else keeps you support they've given me busy besides modelling? in the past years and my I'm also a make up artists advice to them would and a full time business be to wear that body woman. Those two take with pride, we are not up all my time when I'm plus size we are Africans not in studio's or on set. and African women are Before you get into naturally curvy and have • Favorite Quote & Verse? big boodys. You are modelling what were you "Be kinder than necessary beautiful just the way you doing? are and there's absolutely Before I started modelling because everyone you meet is fighting some kind nothing wrong with you I was as a sales person of battle" there's something wrong and studying part time with society. towards one of my • Your Favorite Food & diplomas Music you listen to? If you were to travel outside Who is your inspiration? I try very hard to keep a South Africa, Which country/ I'm inspired by a lot healthy diet but I am a City would it be? of amazing women. I huge sucker for ulusu Honestly I'd love to travel look up to women like (tripe) and dumplings all over the world but Ashley Graham and and a huge fan of indian my dream is to visit the Tricia Campbell who are food. I have a very special Bahamas and Singapore world renowned plus musical ear and I love all size models who are kinds of good music be it constantly challenging local or international but and changing the narrative of beauty in the if you scroll through my playlist you'll probably modelling industry. How do you handle those find a lot of Jhene Aiko, Drake, J Cole, Mahalia and who bring you down? Shekinah We're all humans at the end of the day and What is it that you can’t live humans sometimes without and why? can be nasty and My family. I'm the woman inconsiderate towards

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with beautiful and gorgeous way to add flair to your look. Nail art can complement your outfit for special event or add a unique touch to your personality every day.

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s always, the beauty world can be a complex one, so you are certainly not alone if you feel bombarded and overwhelmed by the range of choices you have when it comes to products. Just have a look at the eye-shadows out there; not only are you having to select the colors and brand you want, but they’ve also decided to make eyeshadow in a variety of consistencies, just to confuse us! Well, not quite – there actually are some valid uses for the different types of eyeshadow, and we’re here to tell you about them and how to use them. You’re welcome!

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This year nail art is treading and comes with lots of styles and we gotta maket on point that we rocking it from top to bottom If you can’t handle it working on both nails, we having several salons that can work the magic and put a smile on that

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your nails clean without any nail polish clear nail polish is Make up and nail art work al- there to keep them shiny and pretty .there is that one thing together in conjunction depending on your mood, how we have to take notice is that round and short nails are makyou want to rock it whether Gothic, or just a simple girl but ing a comeback. the important is to do more of you, what makes you feel awePrepare your nails some. REMOVE OLD NAIL POLISH. • We looking at dark nail polish that would look nice with a bit Make sure you’re starting with of metallic touch for example a a clean slate by removing any old polish still lingering on black nail your nails, wash your hands Polish with some little dash of with warm water and dry them off. metallic blue.

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your nail from getting stained or damaged by nail polish and other nail art materials. Apply one layer of base-coat and allow it to completely dry before proceeding. Some base-coats remain tacky after drying. This texture is meant to help the next layer, the polish, stay in place longer without chipping. Choose whichever base-coat you like best. PAINT JUST THE TIP OF YOUR NAIL A DIFFERENT COLOR. Choose two complementary colors that will look great on the same nail.

TRIM AND FILE YOUR • Or maybe a change of style NAILS. Shape your nails to when we remove that metallic make the neat. Since you’re blue and get left with black. creating nail art, try not to trim Then what to do next. We havthe too short. It’s better to have ing many style to inset on the Apply a base-coat color or a more space to work with. black for instant inserting difclear base-coat. Allow the polferent pattens on you black ish to dry. APPLY A BASE-COAT. nail polish with a white nail Base-coats are usually clear polish like lines .or spots. Place a French manicure stickor bluish in color, and can be er, use a similar-shaped sticker, purchased wherever nail pol- such as the circular stickers B. Short and round ish is sold. Base-coats protect that reinforce punched holes in Let’s say you want to keep

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Relationship By Gina Vivinetto It happens to the best of couples. In the beginning, the two of you can’t keep your hands off each other. But over time, especially when life gets tough, that sexy spark can fizzle. xperts say there are ways to get the spark back, but first we need to "ditch the myth" that sex should always be spontaneous and easy. The signs that a couple is in a sexual rut can vary, according to Amy Levine, a New York City-based sex coach and the founder of Ignite Your Pleasure, but some common ones include:

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Sex is happening infrequently — or not at all. Sex has become routine. Only one partner seems to be initiating sex — and that partner is often rejected.

psychologist, certified sex therapist, and founder of Florida’s Whole Health Psychological Center. She hears from couples who aren't touching intimately anymore —not holding hands or kissing for longer than just a peck.

Sometimes partners get to the point where they just don't see each other sexually, said Dr. Rachel Needle, a licensed

Another sign ? When partners no longer pay attention to their physical appearances. Typically, desire and

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passion are at their highest at the beginning of a relationship. "When people get comfortable in their relationships and all of life’s other factors come into play, desire sometimes fizzles off if not worked at,” Needle says. RELATED: What two words are the secret to a happy marriage? Both experts say there are ways to get the spark back, but first we need to “ditch the myth” that sex

Model : Tash Grifo Roberto Should always be spontaneous and easy, said Needle. Like any other aspect of a healthy relationship, good sex takes time and energy. You have to make an effort. Start by focusing on your connection with one another, both experts say. Being able to communicate is essential both in and outside of the bedroom. Ask your

partner the same kinds of questions you’d feel safe asking a good friend. Be open about your feelings, whether you're talking about your day at the office or your intimate desires.

dopamine —together.

One thing that caused butterflies when you first met was the chemical cocktail in your bodies, says Levine. "Recreate this by doing something novel. Check out a new Once the communication restaurant, take a cooking is back on track, try these class together — do seven tips to reignite the something fun that you’re spark: both excited to try,” she said.

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RELATED: 5 Relationship warning signs couple should never ignore 2. KISS MORE OFTEN.

Levine. “Don’t think about whether you want to try them or not. Just list them.” Next, rate each topic on a scale of 1-5 for how willing you are to try it. Share your answers with one another. See if you can come up with something new to try together.

At the beginning of a relationship, couples often enjoy deep kissing, but over time they tend to stop. “Continuing to hug, kiss, cuddle is an important component of a RELATED: healthy relationship,” she Could your relationship said. survive 'The Marriage Test'? Try this experiment 3. REMEMBER WHAT IT to see WAS LIKE WHEN YOU FIRST MET. 5. KEEP THE MYSTERY

Turn off the TV and reminisce about the fun times you had — even sexually, if that’s the case — when you first met, said Levine. 4. MAKE A LIST OF SEXUAL POSSIBILITIES. Look through a sex book together and be inspired by its suggestions. “Make a list of at least ten possibilities,” said 22

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YOUR OWN SEXUALITY. Read an erotic novel or watch a sexy movie to get yoursef in the mood. Think about times you were most sexually excited. “You may even want to write out a script of fantasy to share with your partner,” said Needle. 7. SEEK OUT A SEX COACH. Though many people know intellectually they need to make changes with their partner, they

often need to talk with an expert to figure out No matter how long how to do it, said Levine. you’ve been together, “Having a coach is a great make an effort to be way to not only get expert seductive and keep your guidance and support, erotic connection fresh. but to have someone “Put some surprise into hold you accountable the relationship. Break the for the transformation predictable pattern every to take place,” she said. so often,” said Needle. Keep in mind, says Levine, “This can help keep desire professional sex coaches alive.” like herself are merely there to talk, like any 6. GET IN TOUCH WITH therapist.

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Soften lines. After applying lip liner, trace your finger over it to soften the line. Next, use a concealer lighter than your skin tone to be applied around the very border of your lips to create a bolder look, says Mayo. Apply lipstick first, then add Set lipstick for lasting power. lip liner. To make your lipstick last all The lip liner will go on smoother day, apply the shade, blot with and more easily, and applying a tissue, and dust a thin layer of lipstick first enables you to see powder over lips. Next, reapply the exactly where you need the lip lipstick—this will form a base for liner, says celebrity makeup longer wearing lip coverage, says artist Ramy Gafni. Bonus: When Mayo. your lip color starts to fade, the liner and lipstick will fade away Try the finger trick. together, sparing you the illadvised “ring” around your lips. After applying your lip color, Only use lip liner to define do the “finger trick” to prevent the shape of your actual lipstick from getting on your lips. teeth. Put your finger in your mouth and close your lips Never create your “own” lip around your finger. With lips line. Remember, it’s about still closed, pull your finger keeping it natural: You want to out. Any lip product that would enhance your lips, not create have ended up on your teeth is new ones, says Annie Mayo, now on your finger, says Gafni. makeup artist and founder of Choose the method that works Advanced Mineral Makeup. for you.

BEAUTY CORNER Where you begin and end your lipstick application doesn’t matter. Some people apply lipstick in the center of their lips and work their way to the outer corners, others start applying on one corner of their lips and draw the lipstick on all the way around. The manner of application is personal preference, says Gafni. It’s the end result that counts.

Cater to your features. Dark, matte shades will make lips look thinner, while light, glossy, shimmery shades make lips look fuller, says Gafni. Be mindful of how you use your lips. Try to drink from a straw instead of putting your lips smack on the edge of a cup or glass where color will rub off, says Wendy Lewis of Beauty In The Bag. The less you eat, drink, kiss, and touch your lips, the longer your lip color will last.

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et’s keep it all the way real: the best new skincare gadgets aren’t exactly a necessity, but they’re way more fun than using our hands. And when used correctly and consistently, they actually do a good job of helping us tackle all-too-common annoyances, like acne and peach fuzz whenever we want smoother layers. At the same time, as our tolerance for popular but harmful ingredients dies down,

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SMART SHOPPER our interest in technologically advanced inventions that combine convenience and health benefits also grows. What we’re really trying to say is that no matter what your skin goals are, there are a lot of options out there, even if you’re ballin’ on a budget like us. Ahead are some truly useful and downright cool gadgets that we’d happily add into our rotation. Some are drugstore price; others … not so much.

NuFace. NuFace FIX Line Smoothing Device Considering the fact that this tool covers a very wide gamut of skin concerns including fine lines, loss of firmness and dullness, I’m actually not mad at the price tag. NuFace’s latest innovation is a hand-held tool, powered by a microcurrent, that aims to give you a facelift minus the invasive surgery. After cleansing your face and applying the accompanying serum, move the tool like an eraser in quick, small strokes over fine lines and wrinkles. Treat each part of the face for three minutes each and up to twice daily. Voila!

BeautyBio. BeautyBio Full Body Routine GloPRO® Microneedling Regeneration Tool Set This limited-edition set includes not only an athome microneedling tool for exfoliation but a smoothing body cream and facial oil to curb irritation afterward too. Just be sure to only use on clean skin and prep with the GloPRO Prep Pads Clarifying Skin Cleansing Wipes first. $229 at Sephora

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Clarisonic Mia Prima Cleansing Brush The newest brush from this iconic cleansing brand comes in just one mode with one button to make washing your face simpler than ever. We’re also particularly excited about the Soft Start feature which starts with a gentle exfoliation before adjusting power as you use. Clarisonic cleansing brush heads.

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Michael Todd Beauty Clear Bilight 2-in-1 LED Acne Treatment Device We’ve waxed poetic about the benefits of LED light therapy before. Most tools fall on the more expensive side, so we’re excited to find an affordable exception. The combined power of blue light (for eliminating bacteria) and red light (for speeding the healing process) makes this tool an effective solution for acne.

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Skin Inc. Optimizer Voyage Tri-Light This next-level light therapy tool combines multiple colors to address a multitude of concerns. The red light addresses elasticity, while the blue light soothes and calms, and the yellow light brightens tone.

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-Do not mix the dark colors with lights ones, lumping them together in a tub and then tears roll down when the pure white lace becomes Lingerie is that it’s antique rust color. mostly worn by women compared -Remove any loose bucklets or anything else to men to reveal that doesn’t belong in the lingerie wash bowl. their sexiness and boosts their confidence. - This helps prevent rust spots forming on Everyone has their own different views on delicate lingerie. what lingerie is and they also have their own choices including the colours, decorations to -Wash padded areas careful. - pay attention bring that spark to the bedroom or just feeling to the areas that trap sweat. – make sure that sexy. All lingerie items are underwear but not you wash them thoroughly or it might give you all underwear is lingerie. When it comes to some nasty rashes the next time you wear it. underwear people consider comfort, perfect -Do not squash the bra or padding while size and practicality. What makes the two washing as it will deform the shape- Just different is underwear is more economical, press them gently. Put the cup of the bra in made from inexpensive cotton whereas the center of one palm and use your fist from lingerie is expensive and mostly made from the other hand to press against the cup, this will drain out the water without squashing the silk and lace. cups. Taking care of your lingerie Wash your new lingerie before wearing them, -Rinse away the detergent thoroughly as even though it may be very new. - To get rid of most people do not pay attention to this new garments of potential chemical residue. step. – Detergent weakens the fibers of the Soak the garments for no more than ½ hour material and leaving them on just speeds up the erosion. In time to come, you will notice in light that your favorite sexy lace is not as snug as detergent. The brands and types may vary, before. Yes, the bra has expanded not your but pick the one that is easy to dissolve. Mix breasts. the detergent with water before putting in the lingerie also make sure that they are evenly mixed or you might end having blotches in your bra or G-string. hat comes into your mind when you think about lingerie?

ang up the lingerie to dry if possible. if not , clip on the straps and the middle portion of the bra, unless you want an imprint of the clothes peg on the padded portion, never snag a peg on the cups portion. Use a lingerie bag when drying your delicates in a clothes dryer. Stowing them in their original shapes is the best way to preserve the shape .if you crush them or fold them you are likely to destroy the shape of the bra, if you are not careful, not only will the bra not enhance your cleavage, you might end up looking like you have extra nipple. Never leave anything under direct sunlight for too long as this may take away the vibrancy of the colours. Soak your colored clothes in salt water before washing it with detergent. It helps to seal the colours. No scientific proof yet but so far it works. No harm trying.

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OatmealStoriesGetty Images Guess what's still knocking around the health scene? Chia seeds. With good reason, too. These small black seeds, which experienced a boom soaked in milk to make a pudding or scattered over salads a couple of years ago, are a nutritional powerhouse, rich in fibre, (25g portion of chia seeds = approximately 9g of fibre), and are relatively high in protein. Thanks to the above, they can be a great addition to your diet, especially if you're a vegetarian or vegan and might be looking for a high-protein, animal product-free breakfast.

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But can chia seeds really help me lose weight? All that fibre in chia seeds could certainly help. Increased fibre intake can help with weight-loss goals, according to a study published in Annals of Internal Medicine.

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Chia seeds are also a good source of protein, which is an important piece to the weight-loss puzzle.

In a study published in Nutrition Metabolism, dieters who increased their protein intake to 30 percent of their diet ate nearly 450 fewer calories a day and lost more than half a stone over the 12-week study without employing any other dietary measures. In a study published in Nutrition Metabolism, dieters who increased their protein intake to 30 percent of their diet ate nearly 450 fewer calories a day and lost more than half a stone over the 12-week study without employing any other dietary measures. Ultimately, though, weight loss is all about paying attention to your overall diet and exercise routine—not about eating more (or less) of one certain food. "No single food or ingredient is able to do that, so if you’re hoping for chia to solve your health concerns or be the catalyst for dramatic weight loss, I recommend reaching out to a dietitian for support for your individual goals," says Harbstreet. That also means chia seeds won't help you burn belly fat—or magically boost your metabolism. Are there side effects to eating chia seeds? A serving size of chia seeds is about two tablespoons—and there's a reason for that limit.

Have you ever seen chia seed pudding at your local health food store, or made it on your own at home? If so, then you’ve seen how the seeds absorb liquid and expand in volume. Now imagine that expansion happening... inside your stomach. That's not necessarily a bad thing—unless you're Advertisement - Continue loading up on chia seeds in favour of other foods. Reading Below "It’s not an issue to eat to Too much fibre often translates to bloating and fullness, but if it’s replacing other foods in your diarrhoea—fun. You might also find your- diet, you may be inadvertently reducing the variety self feeling fuller than of foods and nutrients in usual after eating chia your overall eating patseeds—for better or for worse. tern," says Harbstreet. Think about it this way: "Chia isn’t likely to cause a reaction or trigger symptoms, as with some other foods that are known allergens or spark GI-related symptoms," says Harbstreet. "That being said, a sudden and drastic increase in fibre intake could potentially cause some ‘misbehaviours,’ especially for people who previously consumed very little fibre."

Good news. It’s super simple to add chia to your diet. A relatively tasteless seed, they’re easy to sprinkle on yogurt or blend into your morning sip. "You can eat them raw, toasted, soaked, or cooked," says Becky Kerkenbush, RD, and medical representative to the Wisconsin Academy of Nutrition and Dietetics. "They can also make a great egg substitution in baking, by combining one tablespoon ground chia seeds with three tablespoons water to replace one egg."

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axed Suits has been

The ninth series of the show will be its last

Suits, the slick American legal series that introduced the world to Meghan Markle, has been axed. A statement released by TV network SYFY confirmed that the forthcoming ninth season will be its last, running at 10 episodes long. Markle, who played legal secretary Rachel Zane, departed the show at the end of the seventh season ahead of her marriage to Prince Harry - along with co-star Patrick J. Adams, who played her love interest Mike Ross. The pair had been leading characters since the start of the series and were firm fan favourites.

HOW

The Suits cast learnt of Meghan's relationship

While no specific reason for the show's axing has been given, many are speculating that Suits struggled to find its footing following their departure; according to reports, season eight averaged at 1.2 million viewers, a drop of 100,000 from season seven. However, viewing figures have been slowly declining since the start of the show; the first series aired with an average of 4.6 million viewers in 2011. "Suits has played an instrumental role in our network's DNA for nearly a decade," said Chris McCumber, president of USA Network and SYFY. "I and everyone at USA Network sincerely thank Aaron Korsh, our partners at UCP and the entire Suits family for their tremendous creativity, devotion and support over a truly amazing run."

Following her departure from the show, Markle appeared to remain close with her Suits co-stars, with several of them attending her royal wedding back in May.

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Wear a suit. The best outfit will showcase your personality and confidence, and sometimes dresses don’t do that. Opt for a slimmer suit with a womenswear jacket, which will hit at your waist instead of below it. For a less fitted style, choose a relaxed, slouchy style instead of boxy.[13] o Alternatively, wear tailored pants with a detailed top, but avoid fabrics like jersey and

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denim, which can be too casual. Choose shoes for style and comfort. Unless the shoes are used to highlight or accent something, choose heels or boots that don’t distract from Avoid over-accessorizing since your outfit.[14] it can be too distracting for people you’re talking to. Choose o If you don’t wear heels, something that complements try ballet flats, but don’t wear your clothing choices and your sneakers.[15] personality.[17] It could start a o If your outfit is black, choose conversation. colorful shoes for a pop of personality. o Cocktail rings have colorful precious jewels (either real or Choose a minimal handbag. reproductions) that make a bold You should only bring the statement. However, the size of essentials to a cocktail party. the stone can look gaudy when Large purses packed full can combined with a necklace, both feel and look weighty.[16] earrings, and a bracelet.[18] Go easy on yourself and lighten your load.

Pick one standout accessory.

The Duchess of Sussex spoke about leaving the show during her first joint interview with Prince Harry in November 2017. "I see it as new change, a new chapter. I've been working on my show [for] seven years, we were so fortunate to have that longevity, and I feel like I checked that box and am very proud of the work I've done there," she said. Recent reports that the duchess had been offered millions - to donate to a charity of her choice - to film a cameo appearance were swiftly denied.

owToPut YourselfFirst:8 Tips For Health And Happiness

Above all, be true to yourself, and if you cannot put your heart in it, take yourself out of it.

But you must also listen to yourself to know what it is your heart needs to be in, and then have the courage and commitment to move towards that. Every day, we are pulled in so many different directions; from your kids to your boss, the pulling rarely ceases. Sometimes I daydream about what it would be like to throw in the towel for a week and hibernate until I got some away time and recharged my batteries. It’s mentally draining. It can suck your lifeblood and leave absolutely no time for anything else. Forget working out, eating healthy or even just sitting down to read a book that interests you. Basically, there is no time or energy left for putting your needs into the equation. I’m going to cut straight to the chase without sugar fluffing reality: life isn’t easy but we have to find ways to adapt and be happy. It all comes down to these THREE words: putting yourself first.

Then you must make it your mission to go out, hunt yourself down and care for yourself like never before. I can say from personal experience that the ONLY way I was able to lose 40 pounds, to be an author for Muscle & Strength, to become a transformation story for an international ad campaign, to make it to the finals of NBC’s Biggest Loser trainer auditions, to begin my own company and then start another one that is touching people’s lives in a healthy way, to be happy with myself, was and still is by putting myself first. The power to do this is within each of us. It took a lot of practice to learn how to put myself first. For so long, I was putting myself last and that’s how my life began spiraling downward. It wasn’t until I realized I had a choice, that I made the choice to begin moving forward healthfully.

We’re all different people in this world and we all play different parts. What You are an actual being that needs to be we have in common is the ability to loved with great care, just like everyone feel, the ability to move mountains and else. You deserve to be loved as equally the ability to choose how we will live as you love others. You may say, “but I’m a our lives. If you want to move forward caretaker, an employee, a wife, a daughter, towards a healthy body and mind (and a sister, a friend.” And I’ll reply, “you can yes, the two most definitely connect) be all these things and still be your own then you must begin moving in that self.” In fact, if you’ve lost yourself in the direction and here’s how. hustle and bustle of caretaking for others,

Putting Yourself First

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You have a choice. The

anything before you and you will. You will also feel choice is yours to make: a sense of empowerment will you go out, hunt her and self love for giving down and do what you need to do to regain your yourself the time and energy before you gave happiness or will you continue serving everyone anything else that energy that you needed for you to else but yourself. be happy. Then, you’ll be able to give more to other Prioritize yourself into the things and people. equation. You wake up and make your daily to do list Making the time work for you. To be prepared, you which is usually 20 items long, and most of must prepare. You hear it them are centered around all the time: your friend or other people or things, inspiration announces on a not you. I say put yourself Sunday night on Facebook first on the list. This will be that she’s prepping her a challenging change to weekly meals and you grasp at first, but everything think, “pssshhhh, if I only have the time.” Well, you mastered takes practice. Part of being healthy is do. Those other people working out physically. are “making the time.” So put your workout first They have figured out thing on your list. Get your HOW to make health and workout in, because when themselves a priority. you’re finished with putting This may be a hard pill you first for the day, you’re to swallow, but have you going to feel on top of the figured out yet that the world, like you can conquer

source of your unhappiness centers not on everyone and everything you’re caring for, but instead... you. Three years ago, I was lying on the floor of my apartment listening to Sarah Mclaughlin. I was looking at pictures from New Year's Eve and I just fell apart. I laid back on the ground and began sobbing. After 5 minutes of balling my eyes out, I got up and went into the bathroom, leaned over the sink and into the mirror and saw and realized two things: I didn’t know whose sad, green eyes I was looking into and that after that moment of me vs. me, I realized: I have a Choice. It dawned on me so hard I just stood there looking into my eyes until they opened wide, I stood up tall and was just shell shocked. I said it again to myself, “I have a choice…”

. It dawned on me so hard I just stood there looking into my eyes until they opened wide, I stood up tall and was just shell shocked. I said it again to myself, “I have a choice…” And then I thought of my past and my future and what I wanted for myself in my life and thought, “I always have had a choice and I always will.” The choice was mine for the past 2 years I let my body and self go. I didn’t know who I was anymore and that was the result of me letting go and that was a choice. Everything we do is a choice and every choice has an action and every action has a reaction and over time it builds up. It doesn’t happen over night but it happens, slowly and then one day you realize what you have created from your choices. Sometimes it’s good, sometimes bad…

8 TIPS FOR HEALTH AND HAPPINESS

So let’s get down to business here in this final section. If you want to be happy, healthy and love what you’re doing and giving to the world, then you must choose to do so.

Tip #1 - Listen To Your Heart “Be faithful to that which exists within yourself.” - Andre Gide Listen to your needs, your desires, to what your heart is telling you. If you are out of balance, if you feel something isn’t right, if you know you are not giving yourself enough, if you know you want to lead a healthy life but don’t know why you haven’t started or can’t stick to it, this is your heart telling you you’re not going down the path it honestly wants. So what do you do, how do you answer these feelings and questions…you start. Listen, then act.

Tip #2 - Find Your Purpose Write down what you want for yourself. Whatever it is, write it down.

Tip #3 - Outline The Path To Your Success Write down the steps it will take, even if it requires a day by day analysis, to get to each desire you have. You can also call these goals. Don’t finish writing until you have thought about them all. You may even add an additional desire after thinking about it more.

Tip #4 - Prepare Like You Mean It This is yours. You are in this game. Prepare yourself in 48

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the way you know YOU turn doing for you…. need to so that you can Tip #6 - Balance Is take that first step.

first…because it just is. It’s that way because it’s what you have to do to Everything be happy. This is more Remember that if all of your Maybe it’s planning your important than anything energy is going away from meals so that you can be else, now and forever. you and nothing is coming on point with a healthy Let’s twist this in favor back, you will not be happy. diet. Then tell your family, of others and take the Balance is everything in or write down on your burden off you. If you are life. Yin/Yang, Sun/Moon, Sunday to do list, that unhappy, you will be less Positive/Negative, Light/ you will be prepping your likely to joyfully do other Dark... Without one, there meals from 4-5pm and things for people. If you cannot be another. If you need to do your shopping are happy, then you will are always giving and not at 2pm to hit this deadline. have more heart, soul and giving back to yourself, Tell them all, and tell energy to give to other there is and always will be yourself you will do it. It’s things and people. something missing. a date. Seek Balance and you will Tip #8 - Put Yourself Tip #5 - Re-ignite find balance. First Your Motivation Daily Tip #7 - Remember Stop living for other things Bring energy into the and other people. Live That You Are game and do what you for You. Don’t ever forget Important have to do to keep that the power, strength Your happiness is energy burning high. and passion you have. important. You are Never stop finding ways Sometimes it’ll be buried important. Yes, you are. to keep your training and Remember to cut yourself by all the fog of the day to diet motivation at the day, but don’t ever stop slack. You don’t need ceiling. Remember your unburying or moving anyone else to tell you purpose, why are you that it’s ok to put yourself towards the path you know doing this and what is it in you must travel.

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Etresia Van Der Merwe

professional curvaceous model (Size 14 - 16) located in the Vaal (Vanderbijlpark).Her modelling career started off when someone from the local University asked Her to pose for a few photos for a CD cover design she had to do in her Graphic design class. From there, she said I was hooked. My portfolio started growing after I joined a portfolio club in the area, where I had the opportunity to shoot on a monthly basis. It has only been recently that I signed up with an agency and my experience on Catwalk and fashion shows grew. As for studying. Don't think that models have nothing in between the ears. I am currently in the final stages of my Masters degree and have been lecturing and tutoring within my field of study. Other than that, I am a normal, fun loving girl, who enjoys the finer things in life. Modelling is not always the glitz and glam portrayed in Magazines. It is hard work. A career that teaches you discipline and dedication.

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08 TIPS

for Health and

Happiness AND HOW TO PUT YOURSELF FIRST

Are you giving all your energy to others while putting your life and health on the back burner? Recapture your health and happiness with these 8 tips.

After

YEARS OF LIVING, LEARNING, FAILING, AND SUCCEEDING, I’VE REALIZED THAT SOME OF THE BEST TIPS FOR ACHIEVING THE GOOD LIFE AREN’T NECESSARILY INTUITIVE OR OBVIOUS.

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But you must also listen to yourself to know what it is your heart needs to be in, and then have the courage and commitment to move towards that.

be happy. It all comes down to these THREE words: putting yourself first.

Putting Yourself First You are an actual being that needs to be loved with great Every day, we are pulled in care, just like everyone else. so many different directions; You deserve to be loved as from your kids to your boss, equally as you love others. You the pulling rarely ceases. may say, “but I’m a caretaker, an Sometimes I daydream about employee, a wife, a daughter, what it would be like to throw a sister, a friend.” And I’ll reply, in the towel for a week and “you can be all these things hibernate until I got some and still be your own self.” In away time and recharged my fact, if you’ve lost yourself in the batteries. hustle and bustle of caretaking It’s mentally draining. It can for others, then you must make suck your lifeblood and leave it your mission to go out, hunt absolutely no time for anything yourself down and care for else. Forget working out, yourself like never before. eating healthy or even just I can say from personal sitting down to read a book experience that the ONLY that interests you. Basically, way I was able to lose 40 there is no time or energy left pounds, to be an author for for putting your needs into the Muscle & Strength, to become equation. a transformation story for an international ad campaign, to I’m going to cut straight to the make it to the finals of NBC’s chase without sugar fluffing Biggest Loser trainer auditions, reality: life isn’t easy but we to begin my own company have to find ways to adapt and and then start another one

LIFESTYLE

that is touching people’s lives in a healthy way, to be happy with myself, was and still is by putting myself first. The power to do this is within each of us. It took a lot of practice to learn how to put myself first. For so long, I was putting myself last and that’s how my life began spiraling downward. It wasn’t until I realized I had a choice, that I made the choice to begin moving forward healthfully. We’re all different people in this world and we all play different parts. What we have in common is the ability to feel, the ability to move mountains and the ability to choose how we will live our lives. If you want to move forward towards a healthy body and mind (and yes, the two most definitely connect) then you must begin moving in that direction and here’s how.

I’ve put together an ultimate guide to meditation that you can check out for some helpful tips on why/how to get started with a meditation practice.

7. Take Your Sleep Seriously Sleep deprivation has been shown to lead to obesity, diabetes, cognitive decline, cancer, and all sorts of other nasty maladies. If you want to live the best life possible, then you must take your rest and recovery seriously. Sleep at least 7 hours a night in a cold pitch black room. Have an evening routine, power off all electronics one hour before bed, and quit eating after 7:30. It will make a huge difference in how you feel and act.

9. Feed Your Mind Daily Studies have shown that most CEO’s read about 50 books a year. Spend at least 30 minutes a day filling your mind with new information and positive messages and it will have a huge impact on your ability to successfully navigate the game of life. Other people have spent decades learning lessons that you can learn in a matter of minutes. Don’t waste the opportunity to learn from their actions and mistakes.

Be Careful About the Words You Use . Sweat Everyday People underestimate Not everyone should the impact that their self talk has become a bodybuilder, on their brains and lives. marathon runner, or crossfit If you tell yourself that you are competitor. stupid, incapable of achieving But everyone should sweat daily. success, or unlucky, you will Exercise has been proven to be bring those things into your more beneficial for your quality of reality. life than damn near anything else If you tell yourself that you are in the world. smart, capable, and powerful Sweat everyday for at least 20 beyond measure, your brain minutes and thank yourself later.

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will find ways to confirm these beliefs and help you build a more amazing life. Talk to yourself the same way that you would talk to a treasured friend. 11. Start Your Mornings with a Glass of Lemon Water and a Coffee Lemon water has been shown to have tremendous physical benefits for clearing internal toxins and creating an alkaline pH in your stomach. Coffee has been shown to have countless cognitive and physical benefits and very few drawbacks. Start your mornings with a glass of lemon water and one cup of coffee and I promise you will feel like a million bucks.

If a Relationship Isn’t Serving You Eliminate it Now If you are in a friendship or relationship with a toxic person, cut them out now. Period.

Instead of trying to do things the hard way, learn from someone who has been thereso that you can shorten your learning curve and achieve your best life faster.

02. Remember that Success Takes Time If you want to achieve anything worthwhile in your body, business, relationships, or life, then you must be patient. Success happens by compounding small daily actions over time.

Remember that You Are Going to Die We are the only species (we know of) that is cursed with the knowledge of their own mortality. You are going to die, I am going to die, and so is everyone that we know and love.

01.

Measure Everything that You Value As Peter Drucker said, “What gets measured gets managed”. If you are not tracking your performance at work, in the gym, with your spouse, or in your personal education then how can you hope to optimize and manage your performance? If you don’t know how you are doing now, then how can you optimize your life to do better later? You can’t.

If something is important to you, then track it. End of story.

22. Take Very Few Opinions If you wouldn’t trade lives with someone then why would you take advice from them? Stop taking advice from broke, unhappy people and instead listen to people who have the results that you want.

23. Find a Coach or Mentor Who Can Help You Accelerate Your Results Just about everything that you want to do, someone else has already done.

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Instead of running from this fact, embrace it and use this knowledge to help you overcome your fears and live the life you truly desire. If we are all going to die anyways, then you might as well live this life as best as you can because, as far as we know, it’s the only one we get. If you found this content helpful, please leave an clap, follow my profile, and leave a quick comment below. I am on a mission to serve 1,000,000+ Medium users with life changing content and I can only do it with your help!

HOW TO

STUDY SMART D

id you ever stop to wonder what sets apart the really successful students from the average ones? Why do some students who appear to study all the time just get by, while others who don’t appear to put in as much time and effort do well? Is it all related to IQ and genetics or are some other factors involved? The truth is that success in school is not so much determined by sheer intelligence as knowing how to study. Studying is a skill. Being successful in school requires a high level of study skills. Students must first learn these skills, practice

them and develop effective study habits in order to be successful. Very often the study habits and practices developed and used in high school do not work for students in college. Good study habits include many different skills: time management, selfdiscipline, concentration, memorization, organization, and effort. Desire to succeed is important, too. In this module you will discover your areas of strength and identify your weaknesses pertaining to studying. You will learn about your preferred

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learning channel, tips to organize your studies, and ways to help you remember what you study. The skills you will learn about in this module can be applied in other areas of your life as well: your job, your career, or any activity that requires thought, planning, information processing, and selfdiscipline. You’ll find that once you develop effective study habits, the job of studying and learning will become easier. Instead of working harder, you’ll be working smarter. Exercise: Discover your approach to studying. Circle the responses that apply to you.

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YOUR LEARNING PREFERENCE

studying -use color in your notes (colored pens, Knowing how you learn highlighters, etc.) best is the first step in -visualize what the developing effective study instructor is lecturing habits. about -draw pictures and Every student approaches diagrams the task of learning - use mind maps in your differently. Every student notes has a -use picture and graphics unique and personal to reinforce learning learning style or a - learn from videos preferred channel through which learning TO IMPROVE AS AN comes more easily. AUDITORY LEARNER

ASK YOURSELF THE FOLLOWING:

1. My study habits are... good fair poor 2. For every hour in class, I study… a little 1 hr. 2 hrs. more than 2 hrs. 3. I have an organized plan

and schedule for study... true false 4. I have a quiet place in which I study... true false

Am I more inclined to remember something better when I see it, when I hear it, or when I experience it or do something active with it? Depending on how you learned the activity or game, you will have a fair idea of what learning channel – visual (by sight), auditory (by hearing), or hands on (by doing)—you prefer to use. We all use all three learning channels. In fact, we use all our senses in learning about the world around us, but each of us has a tendency to lean more heavily on one of the three learning channels – visual, auditory, or hands on. You can improve your study habits by developing all three learning channels.

5. I usually approach studying with a positive attitude. true false In what ways could you improve your study habits? _________________________ TO IMPROVE AS A VISUAL _________________________ LEARNER _________________________ -visualize what you are _________________

-listen to tapes of recorded assignments - tape record your own textbook reading - read out loud -talk over ideas from class and what you are studying with other students - participate in class discussions - listen to audiotapes on the subject TO IMPROVE AS A HANDS ON LEARNER -stand up and move around while you are studying - take frequent breaks while studying - make use of your hands and write things down as you study - use the computer to reinforce learning - be physically active; experiment with objects - memorize or drill while walking or exercising

When we talk about affairs, we often categorize them as emotional, physical, or both. That’s helpful to some extent. Yet nowadays, there’s another category that we can loosely call the

TEXTING AFFAIR.

oversimplified scenario goes like this: Your spouse strikes up an oppositesex friendship with a person at work, spin or yoga class, the gym, or through your child’s school or extra-curricular activities. For some reason, they feel compelled to exchange phone numbers. There’s no real need for this, although your spouse tells you that they need to stay in touch because of work or to coordinate fitness class, the kid’s activities, etc. Soon, their innocent texting about work or scheduling begins to escalate into personal, ever more intimate texting. Your spouse starts guarding their cellphone and going into the next room to text. They lock their phone, change their password and delete their text history. For a while, you bite your tongue. After all, nobody wants to be “that wife” or “that husband.” You look the other way and pretend not to notice or be bothered. You force yourself to not ask who your spouse is texting and not show how worried or hurt you are. You lay awake and stare at your

partner’s phone, wishing you could look through it but not wanting to cross that line. Finally, you crack.

by saying, “Oh, so I’m not allowed to have ANY friends?” He or she may turn the situation around so that it’s you who finds yourself explaining your • Is A ‘Partner Predator’ behavior. He or she may make Circling Your Husband Or you feel paranoid, jealous, Wife? controlling, or pathetic. “You • 10 Proactive Ways To Fix went through my phone! You’re The Cracks Forming In Your crazy. That’s private!” Marriage Of course there are spouses who • Your Marriage Will Fail For are unreasonably jealous and The Same Reasons Celebrity suspicious, and who behave in Couples Split Up controlling ways. Of course Here’s where anything can happen. Your spouse may downplay the relationship and shrug off your concerns, saying

hoosing your words carefully, you ask your partner who he or she is texting. If you already know who it is, you might tell your partner that you are concerned or feeling second-place. Or perhaps you wait until your partner is in the shower and give in to the urge to scroll through his or her phone. Either way, you hear or see something that makes your stomach sink. More from Debra Macleod: “We’re just friends. You have to trust me.” Or your spouse may react with an angry, inflated display of wounded indignation

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Unfortunately, there is no formula to determine when texting crosses the line into betrayal. In fact, those who are behaving in inappropriate ways quickly learn how to blur this line so that they can deflect and continue to do what they’re doing.In the end, you must learn to trust your gut. After all, no one knows your marriage or your spouse better

than you do. Texting affairs are the gateway to emotional and physical affairs. Of the infidelity cases I’ve dealt with in the past several years, the vast majority started out as “innocent” texting between opposite-sex friends or acquaintances. You are not over-reacting by insisting that a spouse end a texting relationship that you feel in your heart is undermining your marriage, and you are not overreacting by treating it as a form of infidelity. Blocking the other person’s number, keeping

communications strictly workrelated, being transparent in terms of cell phones and computers (those who have nothing to hide, hide nothing), and working together to improve your own marriage are all reasonable requests.

RELATIONSHIPS

that they have formed a deep bond. Too often what begins as a cautious “hi...was thinking of u” turns into “i miss u” and then “can you meet again tomorrow?” And when it gets to that point, well, the whole thing becomes a lot harder to “delete.” Visit Debra Macleod’s private practice at MarriageSOS.com

To prevent and overcome infidelity, couples must learn to build a loving, respectful and there is a reasonable expectation protective “fortress” around of privacy in marriage. Of

their marriage, which includes insulating it from the invasive effects of technology. That’s something I talk a lot about in my Couples in Crisis book. Continued inaction or letting the texting continue -- perhaps out of fear of your partner’s reaction -- only increases the chances that your partner will begin to see you as a nagging barrier to the exciting and fresh-faced relationship that he or she enjoys via text messages. Texting creates a false sense of intimacy between texters. Within weeks, they may feel

course some co-workers and friends need to communicate after-hours. Of course there are unhappy marriages that have deep problems. But that’s not always the case. Suspicions are often warranted. Anger, defensiveness and indignation may be covers for betrayal. Explanations may be just excuses. And all too often, a texting affair steals so much time, energy and emotion from a marriage that a rift forms -- or widens -- between spouses that otherwise would have worked through their marriage troubles.

WOMAN

CRUSH WEDNESDAY

WONDER WOMEN ON INTERNET TV Shows & movies Posted Feb 21st, 2018 , by Jennifer Ochieng

Share Facebook Twitter Google Plus LinkedIn Republish This WCW, we celebrate the remarkable women from Africa and the rest of the world who have made waves on series and movies now on Showmax. Greetings from Wakanda. Unless you live under a rock, at this point, everyone who has not yet watched Black Panther has heard a thing or two about how groundbreaking this movie is. Let’s forget how it continues to smash Box Office records for a second: Black Panther has successfully done with female characters what other MCU films have failed to do by giving them enough depth to stand on their own, and not just as a shadow of their male counterparts. We see you Shuri, Nakia and the whole army of Dora Milaje, and we celebrate you.

Now go see the movie and stop being weird. In the spirit of Woman Crush Wednesday and honouring great women on television, join us as we celebrate these 8 women starring in series and movies that you can stream or download on Showmax.

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Find Lupita Nyong’o as Ayira on MTV’s Shuga on Showmax.

N’yongo, Watch Now On Show Max » centre. Image: Viacom No one can hold a candle pm for the force of nature that is Lupita Nyong’o. A darling in Hollywood and on the red carpet, this Kenyan beauty has managed to captivate the world not only with her beauty, but also with her recent badass role as Nakia in Black Panther, not to mention her positivity and sense of humour that seems to rub off on everyone.

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innie Dlamini Minnie Dlamini’s life is what so many girls aspire to – a fairytale wedding watched by millions plus a powerful career … and in TV, no less. And now we hear that she’s already been offered a baby reality show. What’s there not to love about “South Africa’s Diamond” as she calls herself?

Why we love her

There is just no rivaling this Kenyan beauty when it Show us a more perfect picture than this, we’ll wait. comes to fashion on and off the red carpet. Join Minnie Dlamini for her fairytale wedding in the three-part Becoming Mrs Jones on Showmax. You And she can rap too; this is her dropping some bars can also find her in The Wild and Rockville, also with her Black Panther co-star Letitia Wright. streaming on Showmax. Watch now »

3. Yvonne Orji

came into the limelight after her role as Issa Dee’s best friend in HBO’s Insecure, and has since starred in the hit series Jane the Virgin. Orji is proud of her African roots and never afraid to flaunt her Nigerian heritage on social media, and occasionally embraces it in her fashion as well.

Why we love her

No one is goofier on social media than Yvonne Orji. Plus, we are not trying to get anyone fired here, but Yvonne has just invented a new way to walk into meetings. Find Yvonne Orji as Molly in HBO’s Insecure, Season 1, on Showmax.

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Reese Witherspoon When she is not acting in her many roles that have made her a fan favourite, Witherspoon is sharing her voice in the Times Up movement and other philanthropic ventures. An entrepreneur too, the awardwinning actress owns a clothing company Draper James and a production company that has produced movies like Gone Girl, Hot Pursuit and most recently Big Little Lies, which she coproduced (and starred in) with cast-mate Nicole Kidman. 66

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5. SANAA LATHAN

Why we love her Other than all the amazing things she does to uplift other women, she’s basically figured out this parenting thing. Find Reese Witherspoon as Madeline in HBO’s Big Little Lies on Showmax. Watch now »

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From Brown Sugar to Love and Basketball, Sanaa Lathan has given us some of the best memories and love stories on TV. Her most recent roles include an intelligent yet troubled investigator in Shots Fired and the no-nonsense principal Janelle in The Affair.

Why we love her She’s absolutely gorgeous, especially with her short hair. Catch Sanaa Lathan as Kenya in romantic drama Something New on Showmax. Watch now »

Katherine

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MGM Remember when The L Word was the hottest thing on TV and Katherine Moennig was just the fairest of them all with her androgynous look? Moennig also plays one of Ray Donovan’s bad ass sidekicks in Ray Donovan, and has also appeared on shows like Dexter.

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She’s may have got older, but she’s maintained her flawless bad boy look. Pretty in black and white #katemoennig #katherinemoennig #thelword #raydonovan #lane1974 #mydeadboyfriend #amazing #actress #cute #beautiful 1,400 Likes, 12 Comments – Kate Moennig (@katherinemoenniglove) on Instagram: “Pretty in black and white #katemoennig #katherinemoennig #thelword #raydonovan #lane1974…” Find Katherine Moenning as Shane in The L Word (S1-6) on Showmax, plus as Lena on Ray Donovan (S1-4), also on Showmax.

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