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Started modeling at the age of (8). My parents enrolled me into a modelling school where I learnt the tricks and trades of this competitive industry.

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Ensure that you have smaller portions when consuming high-calorie foods. Making use of smaller plates or side plates will be very useful in this regard.

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40 EDU-TUTOR How to Study Smart: did you ever stop to wonder what sets apart the really successful students from the average ones? Why do some students who appear to study all the time just get by, while others who don’t appear to put in as much time and effort do well?

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itisha Shanice Arujun (23) yrs old and currently completing her degree in BSc health and social science psychology Striving for success and love spending quality time with her family and her son. I am a bubbly person and I love spending time with my family and my son. For me a fun day is spending time indoors and playing with my son then ending of the day with a movie

as a commercial model. However I have started building my portfolio as a fashion model with many well-known photographers and look forward to Pursuing that part of the modelling career. The highlights of my career thus far has been acting in the New Edgar’s commercial with rapper Shoma jozi and featuring in my favorite TV soapie and getting to meet the cast of isidingo made me realise were my career is destined to. I’ve also featured in other TVCs such as meat world, Nedbank, Getroud met rugby and FNB that enhance my modeling skills.

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and popcorn. started modeling at the age of (8). My parents enrolled me into a modelling school where I learnt the tricks and trades of this competitive industry. However as I got older school became my number one priority and I decided to give my modelling a break. When I turned 22 I decided to revive my modelling career and embrace the gift i have in me. then i joined the Just You agency in

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bring you down because of pure jealousy but as you model you need to stand your ground and never let your guard down. Do what you feel is right and you will be happy and succeed.

MODEL I LOOK UP TO & LOVE TO WORK WITH

I would love to work with actress and model. She inspires me as she is a model Naomi Campbell, actress and businesswomen. All the things I am working towards.

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MY MOTIVATION comes from my parents and my son. Seeing the smile and knowing that I’m making him proud makes me want to go out there and make myself successful more and more. I want to look back one day and say I’ve made it because I wasn’t afraid to follow my heart.

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5 TYPES OF EYESHADOW and how to use them by Tamlyn Cumings

s always, the beauty world can be a complex one, so you are certainly not alone if you feel bombarded and overwhelmed by the range of choices you have when it comes to products. Just have a look at the eyeshadows out there; not only are you having to select the colours and brand you want, but they’ve also decided to make eyeshadow in a variety of consistencies, just to confuse us! Well, not quite – there actually are some valid uses for the different types of eyeshadow, and we’re here to tell you about them and how to use them. You’re welcome!

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cautious when it comes to make-up as they are super forgiving, easy to blend, and come in various palette sizes and combinations, giving you the perfect shades to use together.

1. POWDER EYESHADOW Also known as pressed powder since the pigment is pressed and compacted into containers, this is probably the most common of the types of eyeshadow, and the one everyone is familiar with. Pressed eyeshadow is great for beginners and those a bit more

Opt for a matte or shimmery finish (we recommend that more mature ladies stay away from ones that are super shimmery, as these highlight fine lines) and apply with your favorite make-up brush or your finger. Just remember to be gentle and not pull on the skin – and blend, blend, blend. Other All4Women readers liked...

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2. LIQUID EYESHADOW

You’d be forgiven for mistaking liquid eyeshadow for lip gloss, as the packaging and consistency is pretty much identical. While they may seem scary, they’re actually great for those without a flair for make-up as they are so easy to apply; simply swish the wand over the lid, and voila! Just be warned that it does dry pretty quickly, so you need to move fast. A great use for liquid eyeshadow is as the base for powder or pigments as they will stick to it, giving you a bolder look. WATCH: How to clean your make-up brushes 3. CREAM EYESHADOW This versatile formula is a pretty great one as it offers bold hues that are super easy to blend – just get your finger out and go wild. Cream eyeshadow does tend to crease, so you need to be careful with where you place it on the lid. If you’re worried about this, apply a primer first. Again, they make a great base for your powder shadows, but you may want to avoid cream shadows in very hot weather, as they can melt – and make-up running down your face is certainly not a good look!

4. STICK OR CRAYON EYESHADOW

These are ideal for keeping in your handbag for touchups throughout the day, as you don’t need a brush to apply them, and they go on super easily. They’re generally super pigmented so the colour will really pop, and they can even double up as an eyeliner if you’re looking for just a small pop of colour. Genius!

5. EYESHADOW PIGMENTS

These are fantastic for their colour

range and boldness, but can be a bit trickier and messier to apply. This is similar to powder shadow, but is far looser, so you definitely need a primer for it to stick. Alternatively, wet your brush before applying. If you’re wanting to really stand out, pigments will give you the best colour intensity of the lot, but just be careful not to drop pigment all over the rest of your face!

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BEAUTY TRENDS FOR 2019 It goes without saying that the new year always brings

with it a range of new trends – and we all know HOW MUCH THE BEAUTY WORLD LOVES A NEW TREND!

We love the chance to try out some new looks and products, and we love a fresh new rush of inspiration to get our creative juices flowing. Just remember: these trends generally come straight off the runway, so you’re going to need to tweak and tailor them to suit normal day-to-day life. Here are some of our favorite beauty trends for 2019

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STRANGEST

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TRENDS THAT CAME OUT OF

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urn around, bright eyes

After a few years of minimal, subtle or bronze and gold shades on the eyes, it’s time to let out your inner child and embrace the more-ismore ideal. Bright neon shades made a splash on just about all the runways in the run-up to 2019, with anything from green eyeliner and hot-pink mascara to orange and blue eyeshadow trending. 2019 is definitely about having fun with your make-up looks.

shimmery bronze make-up and fake it.

the one that best suits your skin tone; you don’t want to look ill, but rather bright and beautiful.

All that glitters Love it or hate it, glitter make-up isn’t going anywhere just yet! Glitter eyeshadow is still going to be trending up a storm and so is making a hair statement with glitter – for those of us who are brave enough.

Heavenly hair

The trend has evolved slightly, coming out in more jewel tones – especially emerald – and is even set to make appearances with foil

Those grey and light pink washes are not going anywhere in 2019, but both are getting a bit of a Smokey make-over, giving the colours a slightly more grown-up look. And if colourful hair is your thing, balayage techniques will be seen with all sorts of colourful tips, so let your imagination run wild. For those wanting to stay more natural, make sure your hair looks ultraglossy to stay ontrend.

Nutty nails

Nail art will still be trending up a storm, with an added twist of nail jewellery. Yip, if loads of accessories is part of your look, add a little jewel or two to dangle off of the tip of your nail. If this sounds a bit OTT for you, just stick to the fab nail art you’ve been getting.

Embrace the heat following the finishes on the likes of lips and rising temperatures, beauty trends eyes. for 2019 are set to make things a bit easier for us, with sun-kissed and glowing skin and wind-swept, justshowered hair being all the rage. If you’ve been paying attention, you’ll notice that yellow make-up Known as ‘heatwave beauty’, this has been slowly sneaking into our is all about natural, warm tones lives. From nails to eyes, and even that make it look like you’ve just cheeks, yellow will certainly be stepped off the beach… which around in a big way in 2019. is perfect, since this is true for many of us in January! No beach? Yellow can be a tricky make-up No problem! Simply get out colour to master, so be sure to play that bronzer, sea-salt spray and around with various shades to find

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EatSMART Eat smaller portions of high-calorie foods You can keep yourself trim and still enjoy high-calorie foods by having smaller portions of it.

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says you can’t enjoy have high-calorie foods at all, if you are weight watching? It may in fact not make much of a difference, providing that it does not get out of control and you don’t do it too often! Remember that it is okay to treat yourself once in a while and if it’s something delicious

that you simply can’t resist, enjoy it. Just have smaller portions.

Use smaller plates for high-calorie foods Ensure that you have smaller portions when consuming highcalorie foods. Making use of smaller plates or side plates will be very useful in this regard.

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It will help you to control how much food you are consuming. In addition, choose not to go for seconds as this may defeat the purpose of using smaller plates in the first place.

Consult a professional Always consult a dietician if you require assistance in putting a meal plan together. In addition, you should always check with your doctor before making any drastic changes to your diet, especially if you are under medication or suffer from any medical condition that has an effect on your diet.

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INCLUDING PROTEIN-RICH FOODS IN YOUR SALAD CAN HELP YOU ACHIEVE YOUR WEIGHT-LOSS GOALS.

Consider adding thinly sliced pieces of roast chicken or perhaps even little blocks of smoked chicken to your salad. You can alternatively add some Adding protein to your salad boiled eggs, salmon, tuna or can not only make it more apeven shrimp to your salad. You petising and flavoursome, but it will be pleasantly surprised at will also help you to build more how delicious these ingredients muscle. Building muscle is great can taste in a salad if you have for weight loss as it can help you never tried them before! to burn more calories.

Protein and weight loss

Which protein-rich foods to add to salads?

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too! Simply try adding some cooked beans or perhaps even some tofu to your salad. You will not be able to resist the taste, absolutely delicious!

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Apart from helping you to build muscle, protein will also help you to stay full for longer. This is great for weight loss as it will help keep cravings at bay.

Parties scheduled during the day allow for a more relaxed, casual look. If the event is at night, you may want a more upscale garment and include more ornate accessories.[5] o For men, a white dress shirt under a solid-colored blazer gives off a more daytime feel.[6]

HOW TO DRESS FOR

a Cocktail Party Co-authored by wikiHow Staff |23 References

In this Article:Following the General Cocktail EtiquetteChoosing an Outfit (for Women)Choosing an Outfit (for Men)Community Q&A23 References If you have ever received an invitation to a cocktail party, you may know how tough the preparation process can be, especially when you're trying to decipher what "cocktail attire" actually consists of. By learning how to narrow down the list of possibilities, you can save all of your energy for socializing and snacking.

o Wearing too much formal black outside during the day can often give off a solemn vibe.

Wear a knee-length cocktail dress. Opt for one

that is flattering to you. Since there is an overwhelming number of styles, a good rule of thumb is to choose simple, elegant styles over revealing ones. [7] o The little black dress (LBD) is usually a safe bet for cocktail parties due to its timeless look and conservative aesthetic.[8]

Save the minidress for less formal parties. Be-

fore choosing a minidress, consider the event you are attendMethod 1 ing. Have you been acquainted Following the General CockDress for the season. Pas- with everyone? If not, you might tail Etiquette tel colors and floral prints, which opt for something longer.[9] fit in with the spring, don’t have o If you do choose a mini, pay Read the invite. Consider as much of a place in the fall. Likewise, consider the practical- attention that the hemline is not the details around the event itity of certain items from season too short by standing straight self, like where it’s located and up with your arms at your side. to season. Open-toes shoes in who is hosting it. You can suss out proper attire by judging how the summer will have an entirely If your fingers pass the hemline, different feeling, both in comfort you should reconsider if it’s apupscale the event is, or by how propriate.[10] and style, in the winter.[3] well you know the host.[1] The meaning of "cocktail party" can change from city to city, so do some research if you’re traveling.[2] You may find that your prep is easier than you thought.

o Keep in mind how adding layers might change what your original outfit says about you. If you add layers, add it for style and functionality.

Choose a midi dress as a longer option. Be careful

with this dress because its hem, which sits between the ankle and knee, can appear unflattering on some people. To break o If you’re traveling for an Contact the host for dethe long lines up, add dressier event during the wet season, tails or recommendations. bring along extra shoes. accessories, like a large necklace. If you know who the host is, you [11] may already know their aestheto For example, opt for booties o Dresses that drop below ic and can gear yours to what the ankles become gowns and over open-toe stilettos in the you know they would apprecishould be saved for very formal winter.[4] ate. If you still aren't sure, reach events, like white tie parties.[12] out to the host for clarification.

Dress for the time of day.

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Wear a suit. The best outfit will showcase your personality and confidence, and sometimes dresses don’t do that. Opt for a slimmer suit with a womenswear jacket, which will hit at your waist instead of below it. For a less fitted style, choose a relaxed, slouchy style instead of boxy.[13] o Alternatively, wear tailored pants with a detailed top, but avoid fabrics like jersey and

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denim, which can be too casual. Choose shoes for style and comfort. Unless the shoes are used to highlight or accent something, choose heels or boots that don’t distract from Avoid over-accessorizing since your outfit.[14] it can be too distracting for people you’re talking to. Choose o If you don’t wear heels, something that complements try ballet flats, but don’t wear your clothing choices and your sneakers.[15] personality.[17] It could start a o If your outfit is black, choose conversation. colorful shoes for a pop of personality. o Cocktail rings have colorful precious jewels (either real or Choose a minimal handbag. reproductions) that make a bold You should only bring the statement. However, the size of essentials to a cocktail party. the stone can look gaudy when Large purses packed full can combined with a necklace, both feel and look weighty.[16] earrings, and a bracelet.[18] Go easy on yourself and lighten your load.

Pick one standout accessory.

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7 HEALTHY Lifestyle Tips

Keep

you and your family’s health on track with these easy tips! Limit sugary drinks Drink More: Water % or Fat Free (Skim) Milk Drink Less: Soda or Pop Sports drinks (like GatoradeTM) Juice drinks & Kool-Aid TM Soda, sports drinks, and

even juice have a lot of extra sugar. This is extra sugar that your body does not need!

The best types of activities are the ones you will actually do. Remember to get at least 60 Eat more meals at home minutes of physical activity each as a family. day. Here are some of When families the benefits from regular activity: Meals are more Better sleep at night nutritious Strong bones/muscles You eat more fruits and More energy Decrease vegetables the portion in weight sizes are smaller It costs Healthier heart & lungs less money more time Better mood to spend with each other & talk.

eat together

Be more active

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EAT A HEALTHY BREAKFAST

EVERYDAY!

Children who eat a breakfast that contain foods from at least 3 food groups: Have more energy Think better Get more nutrients Burn more calories

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Keep you and your familyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s health on track with these easy tips!

5. Eat more fruits & vegetables

servings a day. A serving of fruit is: Cup canned or cut up fruit Piece of whole fruit (about the size of a tennis ball) up dried fruit

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active. So turn off the TV or computer and get out and play!

7. Get plenty of sleep

Sleep is your bodyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s time to rest and recover. A serving of vegetables Your mind needs that is: up of raw vegetables rest time to help you Cup cooked vegetables solve problems. Children who do not get Make sure to eat lots of at least 9 hours of sleep each night usually different colors of have the following problems: Irritability fruit and vegetables Problems focusing in each day to be strong school Higher chance of and healthy! accidents & injury

6. Decrease screen

time to less than 2 hours a day.

What counts as screen Fruits and vegetables time? are high in vitamins, Watching TV minerals, and fiber. They aying video games are also very low in pending time on the fat, making them computer important to every diet no Time spent in front of a matter the age. screen is time not Try and eat at least 5

spent being physically

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STUDY SMART D

id you ever stop to wonder what sets apart the really successful students from the average ones? Why do some students who appear to study all the time just get by, while others who don’t appear to put in as much time and effort do well? Is it all related to IQ and genetics or are some other factors involved? The truth is that success in school is not so much determined by sheer intelligence as knowing how to study. Studying is a skill. Being successful in school requires a high level of study skills. Students must first learn these skills, practice

them and develop effective study habits in order to be successful. Very often the study habits and practices developed and used in high school do not work for students in college. Good study habits include many different skills: time management, selfdiscipline, concentration, memorization, organization, and effort. Desire to succeed is important, too. In this module you will discover your areas of strength and identify your weaknesses pertaining to studying. You will learn about your preferred

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learning channel, tips to organize your studies, and ways to help you remember what you study. The skills you will learn about in this module can be applied in other areas of your life as well: your job, your career, or any activity that requires thought, planning, information processing, and selfdiscipline. You’ll find that once you develop effective study habits, the job of studying and learning will become easier. Instead of working harder, you’ll be working smarter. Exercise: Discover your approach to studying. Circle the responses that apply to you.

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YOUR LEARNING PREFERENCE

studying -use color in your notes (colored pens, Knowing how you learn highlighters, etc.) best is the first step in -visualize what the developing effective study instructor is lecturing habits. about -draw pictures and Every student approaches diagrams the task of learning - use mind maps in your differently. Every student notes has a -use picture and graphics unique and personal to reinforce learning learning style or a - learn from videos preferred channel through which learning TO IMPROVE AS AN comes more easily. AUDITORY LEARNER

ASK YOURSELF THE FOLLOWING:

1. My study habits are... good fair poor 2. For every hour in class, I study… a little 1 hr. 2 hrs. more than 2 hrs. 3. I have an organized plan

and schedule for study... true false 4. I have a quiet place in which I study... true false

Am I more inclined to remember something better when I see it, when I hear it, or when I experience it or do something active with it? Depending on how you learned the activity or game, you will have a fair idea of what learning channel – visual (by sight), auditory (by hearing), or hands on (by doing)—you prefer to use. We all use all three learning channels. In fact, we use all our senses in learning about the world around us, but each of us has a tendency to lean more heavily on one of the three learning channels – visual, auditory, or hands on. You can improve your study habits by developing all three learning channels.

5. I usually approach studying with a positive attitude. true false In what ways could you improve your study habits? _________________________ TO IMPROVE AS A VISUAL _________________________ LEARNER _________________________ -visualize what you are _________________

-listen to tapes of recorded assignments - tape record your own textbook reading - read out loud -talk over ideas from class and what you are studying with other students - participate in class discussions - listen to audiotapes on the subject TO IMPROVE AS A HANDS ON LEARNER -stand up and move around while you are studying - take frequent breaks while studying - make use of your hands and write things down as you study - use the computer to reinforce learning - be physically active; experiment with objects - memorize or drill while walking or exercising

When we talk about affairs, we often categorize them as emotional, physical, or both. That’s helpful to some extent. Yet nowadays, there’s another category that we can loosely call the

TEXTING AFFAIR.

oversimplified scenario goes like this: Your spouse strikes up an oppositesex friendship with a person at work, spin or yoga class, the gym, or through your child’s school or extra-curricular activities. For some reason, they feel compelled to exchange phone numbers. There’s no real need for this, although your spouse tells you that they need to stay in touch because of work or to coordinate fitness class, the kid’s activities, etc.

• 10 Proactive Ways To Fix The Cracks Forming In Your Marriage • Your Marriage Will Fail For The Same Reasons Celebrity Couples Split Up Here’s where anything can happen. Your spouse may downplay the relationship and shrug off your concerns, saying “We’re just friends. You have to trust me.” Or your spouse may hoosing your words react with an angry, inflated carefully, you ask your display of wounded indignation partner who he or she by saying, “Oh, so I’m not is texting. If you already know allowed to have ANY friends?” who it is, you might tell your He or she may turn the situation partner that you are concerned around so that it’s you who Soon, their innocent texting or feeling second-place. Or about work or scheduling finds yourself explaining your begins to escalate into personal, perhaps you wait until your behavior. He or she may make partner is in the shower and ever more intimate texting. you feel paranoid, jealous, give in to the urge to scroll Your spouse starts guarding controlling, or pathetic. “You their cellphone and going into through his or her phone. Either went through my phone! You’re way, you hear or see something crazy. That’s private!” the next room to text. They that makes your stomach sink. Of course there are spouses who lock their phone, change their More from Debra Macleod: password and delete their text are unreasonably jealous and history. suspicious, and who behave in controlling ways. Of course For a while, you bite your • Is A ‘Partner Predator’ tongue. After all, nobody Circling Your Husband Or wants to be “that wife” or “that Wife?

husband.” You look the other way and pretend not to notice or be bothered. You force yourself to not ask who your spouse is texting and not show how worried or hurt you are. You lay awake and stare at your partner’s phone, wishing you could look through it but not wanting to cross that line. Finally, you crack.

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Unfortunately, there is no formula to determine when texting crosses the line into betrayal. In fact, those who are behaving in inappropriate ways quickly learn how to blur this line so that they can deflect and continue to do what they’re doing.In the end, you must learn to trust your gut. After all, no one knows your marriage or your spouse better

than you do. Texting affairs are the gateway to emotional and physical affairs. Of the infidelity cases I’ve dealt with in the past several years, the vast majority started out as “innocent” texting between opposite-sex friends or acquaintances. You are not over-reacting by insisting that a spouse end a texting relationship that you feel in your heart is undermining your marriage, and you are not overreacting by treating it as a form of infidelity. Blocking the other person’s number, keeping

communications strictly workrelated, being transparent in terms of cell phones and computers (those who have nothing to hide, hide nothing), and working together to improve your own marriage are all reasonable requests.

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that they have formed a deep bond. Too often what begins as a cautious “hi...was thinking of u” turns into “i miss u” and then “can you meet again tomorrow?” And when it gets to that point, well, the whole thing becomes a lot harder to “delete.” Visit Debra Macleod’s private practice at MarriageSOS.com

To prevent and overcome infidelity, couples must learn to build a loving, respectful and there is a reasonable expectation protective “fortress” around of privacy in marriage. Of

their marriage, which includes insulating it from the invasive effects of technology. That’s something I talk a lot about in my Couples in Crisis book. Continued inaction or letting the texting continue -- perhaps out of fear of your partner’s reaction -- only increases the chances that your partner will begin to see you as a nagging barrier to the exciting and fresh-faced relationship that he or she enjoys via text messages. Texting creates a false sense of intimacy between texters. Within weeks, they may feel

course some co-workers and friends need to communicate after-hours. Of course there are unhappy marriages that have deep problems. But that’s not always the case. Suspicions are often warranted. Anger, defensiveness and indignation may be covers for betrayal. Explanations may be just excuses. And all too often, a texting affair steals so much time, energy and emotion from a marriage that a rift forms -- or widens -- between spouses that otherwise would have worked through their marriage troubles.

“I’M HAPPY FOR HER!” – Future backtracks on negative

comments about ex Ciara

Future has “no problems” with Ciara and her husband Russell Wilson The 35-year-old rapper – who has a four-year-old son, also called Future, with his former partner – has claimed he’s “happy” for the lovedup duo, despite recently accusing the NFL player of failing to act “like a man” in their relationship, but admitted he had a problem relating to his child. He said: “We don’t have no problems. It’s a social media problem. No, I don’t hate him. Totally not the deal. It was just the way we were carrying it, as far as being handled with baby Future.” Future added that, despite of his recent remarks, he doesn’t have any negative feelings towards Russell, who married Ciara in 2016 and has a 20-month-old daughter Sienna with her He told the Durtty Boyz Show: “I don’t have nothing against him, and I’m happy for them.” By contrast, Future previously slammed Russell for allowing himself to be dictated to by his wife.

The rapper also argued that the NFL star ought to ban Ciara from mentioning her ex-fiancé on her social media accounts.

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He said: “He do exactly what she tell him to do. He’s not being a man in that position. He not tellin’ her, ‘Chill out with that on the internet. Don’t even talk to him, I’m your husband! You better not even bring Future’s name up!'” The Fine China hitmaker – who was engaged to Ciara at one point during their relationship – went on to say that if the situation were reversed and he were married to the singer, he would stop her from “bringing her exes’ names up”. He explained: “If that was me, she couldn’t even bring his name up. She know that. She couldn’t even bring her exes’ names up. Don’t give that s**t no energy.” Author: BANG Showbiz

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