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Meet Sacramento family, Jessie and her husband, Arsenio with their two children, Tristan and Brooklyn. Their heartwarming story of adoption is so inspiring, grab a tissue and don’t miss this special story starting on page 21.

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contents NOVEMBER 2016

departments 10 FUN FINDS

Hot Holiday Gifts for Kids

16 CRAFTY

Gift-Worthy Wrap Bracelets

21 NEXT DOOR A Heartwarming Story of Adoption

features 13 A Nursery Created with Love 19 Dive In: Swim All Year 26 Protecting Your Child’s Identity 38 Gifting Your Family History 42 Cultivating Gratitude in Kids

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Brubbees: A New Play Space for Special Needs Kids

around town 31 CALENDAR Thankful for so Many Events

40 SHOWS Lights, Camera, Action!

41 EXHIBITS Fall for Art

The future looks bright to me! You wouldn’t know it to see him today, but Teddy Reynolds was born blind – his lenses covered by hereditary cataracts. If not corrected early, Teddy’s brain would never “learn” to see. But within his first two months of life, pediatric

See Teddy’s story at healthierworld.ucdavis.edu

ophthalmologists at UC Davis surgically removed both cataracts and equipped him with special high-powered lenses – which get swapped out regularly as he grows and his vision changes. Today, Teddy studies Taekwondo, plays soccer and is learning to surf. This is one little boy with a bright future.

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It’s the season of family, gratitude and giving and I’m so happy to offer you a break from all of the crazy headlines and newsfeeds, lately. I’m excited to share with readers some pretty incredible people, places and stories happening right here, in Sacramento. Let’s start with our cover family. We had the opportunity to chat with Jessie. Together, with her husband, they have given the gift of family to two lovely siblings. Her story is real, heartfelt and inspiring. It includes elation, disappointment and overall perserverance. I really had a hard time waiting to share this one. co-publisher | SUE LETO COLE co-publisher | SHELLY BOKMAN editor | SHANNON SMITH assistant editor | CHRISTINE QUARRY art directors | PATRICE VAN DAM, Studio PR

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WIN IT!

Tis the Season...

Hot Holiday Gifts for Kids!

By Shannon Smith and Christine Quarry

We’ve made our list and checked it twice to bring you a round-up of our favorite holiday gift ideas. Plus, if you see something you like—skip the mad-dash to the store this year and head over to SacramentoParent.com to enter to win a free gift for your little elf!

GET MOVING! Kids SpitFire XT Rollerblades

A definite favorite for kids to unwrap Christmas morning! Spitfire Rollerblades are designed with a lower center of gravity for balance and control, incredible comfort, easy closure and they expand by four sizes! “Roll on” kiddos! www.Rollerblade.com/usa/products/spitfire-xt/?gen=30

ShedRain Holiday Edition Umbrellas

A little wet weather won’t stop you from splashing around with a ShedRain Holiday Edition Umbrella. The perfect stocking stuffer, pre-packaged to keep you dry this winter season! A Macy’s Exclusive that will be available at select stores, but why head to the mall when you can win it here? www.ShedRain.com

Swimmable Mermaid Tail

A mermaid tail that combines fantasy, fashion and fun with swimmability! Designed for safety, comfort and performance—perfect for anyone who has ever dreamed of being and swimming like a mermaid does! www.FunFinMermaid.com

Yoga Spinner Game

Stimulate and calm the mind while encouraging teamwork and physical activity. Players give the spinner a whirl, choose the corresponding card and perform the pose pictured to win the pose card. To win the game, collect a card from each of the four categories of yoga poses. www.ThinkFun.com/products/yoga-spinner

CUDDLE UP Aurora Plush Pom Pom Penguin

This ultra-soft plush will make a great companion for your littles this season. Sip hot cocoa, cuddle up and keep warm with Pom Pom Penguin! www.Amazon.com/Aurora-Floppy-Penguins-Small-Purple/dp/B01HSABHQA

Cuddle Tail

Fin Fun Cuddle Tails make the perfect gift for any girl who has ever dreamed of being a mermaid, but prefers to stay cozy on the couch! Warm and snuggly soft, these mermaid tails come in toddler, youth and adult sizes to fit every mermaid wannabe. www.FinFunMermaid.com

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LET IMAGINATION SOAR Faber-Castell Soft Pastel Set

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Hatchimals™ from Spin Master™

Who’s inside? They’re interactive magical creatures inside eggs that will surprise and delight. Kids care for them and they hatch themselves. They can be taught to walk, talk, play games and more as they are raised through multiple stages (2 “AA” batteries included). www.ToysRUs.com

Kurio® Smartwatch for Kids

The new Kurio® Watch™ has all the best features of a smartwatch in a kid-friendly package. The cool design and accessible price point make Kurio® Watch™ very fun for young techies. Watch-to-watch messaging via Bluetooth makes it possible for kids to share texts, emoji’s, drawings, voice recordings and photos, within a safe distance. The watch comes loaded with fun games to play alone or with a friend, plus it includes all of the features you would expect from a smartwatch. www.KurioWorld.com/k/us/parents/

Large City Zoo

Enter this zoo-themed playset through the turnstiles to visit animals of all kinds like the penguin habitat and lion enclosure! Be sure to check out the feeding schedule first. Visit the souvenir shop to buy a stuffed animal, penguin balloon or even post cards. www.Playmobil.us

Twozies™ Season 1 Twogether Pack from Moose Toys™

Kids can find and match the baby figures with their pet friends and display them in cute matching shadow boxes. This pack contains six babies and six pets, plus a “Perfect Match” (four pets and one baby), but there are more than 140 Twozies™ to be matched. www.ToysRUs.com

Happy Holidays from the team at Sacramento Parent!

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Whether you are adopting or expect-

ing—preparing the nursery for your new addition can be a wonderful experience for parents-to-be. Designing Claire’s nursery has been an absolute joy. I’ve always dreamed of the day I would get to style a girly nursery. I am thrilled to share with you the final reveal, as well as tips for creating a heartwarming space to welcome your sweet little one into the world. For Claire’s nursery, I incorporated items from some of my favorite shops, along with sentimental items from other meaningful times in my life. I topped off the unicorn rocking horse with the same floral crown I wore at my baby shower. I used cake stands to prop up my favorite decor items. I incorporated other items from my prop closet and around the house, including a disco ball, sequin hanger, gold night stand, more cake stands, a framed picture of Andy and I, a gold basket, and even old baby books

that my son Charlie still enjoys. It makes those 3:00am feedings feel like a real party, let me tell you! When designing your own nursery, I recommend first getting a crystal clear idea of your theme—decide what colors and vibe make you over-the-moon excited! For Claire, it was pink, white, and gold with a chic and modern vibe, and bunnies and unicorns. I was also clear on the colors I wanted to steer away from, like purple (sorry purple fans). Here’s where I have to admit to my obsession with Pinterest (*WINK*). I recommend creating two Pinterest boards. The first Pinterest board should include all of your favorite items found online that you can easily order or run to the store and purchase. The second Pinterest board should include images of other people’s nurseries that inspire you. It’s so easy to forget all those little details when they pop in mind—so leave comments

beneath each photo, including what you love about the nursery or unique ways that you can make this your own fun design. Not only are you going to be tired, but “crazy busy” is going to have a whole new meaning after your little one arrives, so be your own best friend and prep things in advance as much as possible before your baby’s arrival! Make a fun day out of it; blast the music, bust out the cupcakes and invite your favorite people over to help you set up the new digs. After my baby shower, my mom and one of my girlfriends came over to help me set up shop! We unpacked everything, sterilized all the bottles, washed and folded all of Claire’s clothes and neatly put everything away. I couldn’t image how stressful things would have been if I didn’t do this before-hand, so please be your own best friend and do this too! Continued on page 15

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I recommend washing all of your baby’s clothes ahead of time and separating them by size. Luckily, the dresser we used had enough drawers for everything, but even if you are short on space, you can use stylish fabric storage bins to organize clothes for every stage. I put my husband to work on setting up all the big, intimidating items like the crib and furniture. In the top four small drawers, I organized burp cloths, bibs, sock and accessories, and instruction manuals. The bottom longer drawers were individually dedicated to each size: Newborn, 3 months, 6 months, 9 months and 12 months. I love draping a stylish blanket over the top of the dresser to add a chic touch without

much effort. Of course, the crib also has some soft plush stuffed animals (like unicorns, kitties and bunnies) tucked away for Claire to cuddle with!

where so many important memories will be made—pouring your heart into the design will make it that much more special.

I know that you must be so darn excited for your sweet little one to get here! Remember to have fun in the process! Use this as a joyful opportunity, almost like a pre-game party! In the process of decorating your nursery, be sure to take your time and get excited! Create memories while you do it. Visualize holding your little one in the nursery before he or she arrives. Use it as an opportunity to create a space that you love and feel uplifted about. You’re the pilot of this experience! Your new space will be a room that will be lived in for years to come and a place

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Gift-Worthy Wrap Bracelets By Lady DIY With the holiday (and gift-giving) season approaching, I wanted to share a simple craft that makes the perfect gift—wrap bracelets are trending and popping up all over! This is a great craft to work on at the end of the day or while you’re waiting at your kiddos sports practice or after school activity. I purchased all of my supplies at my local Jo-Ann’s—with most items being on sale and my 20% off coupon, this bracelet cost about $5 to make. Let your kids choose the beads and turn it into a teacher gift they will love!

Materials: • Leather Cord (approximately 1.5 yards) • Jewelry Glue (I used Beadalon’s Bead Fix)

• Beads • Button • Sewing Needle • Sewing Thread in a coordinating color (I used a heavier thread for use with denim)

Directions: 1. Decide on the desired length of your bracelet. Fold the leather cord in half and wrap it around your wrist to get an idea of how long it needs to be and how many times you want it to wrap around. My bracelet wrapped three times around, and 1.5 yards (folded in half) gave me enough length, plus a little extra. My finished bracelet is about 20” long. 2. Holding the folded end of the leather cord, tie a knot just below the end, leaving a hole large enough for your button to fit through. This will be the “clasp” for your completed bracelet. 3. Thread the sewing needle with sewing thread. You’ll want to double the thread so that it has a little more strength than a single thread. Start with about 18-24” of working thread (too much longer leads to tangles). I pushed the needle and thread through the knot to start. 4. Start with the thread underneath the right cord. Bring the thread around and over the top of the right cord. Now go underneath the left cord and bring the thread around and over the top of the left cord. You’ll end back under the right cord. You are essentially making a figure 8 around the two leather cords. Repeat this step about 5-6 times. Pull the thread taut. 5. Continue the figure 8 around the two cords, but now you’ll add on a bead. Starting underneath the right cord, bring the thread around and over the top of the right cord. Add a bead. Now go under the left cord, and then up and around the left cord. Go back through the bead. Go under the right cord. 6. Repeat step 5 until you reach the desired length of your bracelet. Pull your thread taut (but not too tight) after each bead. 7. When you come to the end of your thread and need to add more—simply tie on another 18-24” of thread. I put a dab of jewelry glue on the knot to help secure it. 8. Once you reach the desired length for your bracelet, repeat step 4—continue the figure 8 around the two cords, but don’t add any more beads. Pull the thread taut. 9. Thread the button onto the two cords and the remaining thread. Tie a knot to secure the button. Cut off the extra leather cord and thread. 10. I like to add a drop of jewelry glue to that last knot in the leather cord to keep everything nice and secure. I also add a drop to the two sections of “figure 8 thread” from Step 4.

A few helpful tips: • Feel free to mix it up and use different colors or different types of beads on your bracelet! Just make sure that your beads are about the same size so that the spacing between the two leather cords remains consistent. • Use the jewelry glue sparingly—a little goes a long way! Too much glue will make the leather brittle and more likely to break over time. Lady DIY lives in Rocklin and stays at home with her three boys. When she’s not busy with DIY projects around the house, she enjoys gardening, fitness and living the glamorous life of a baseball/soccer/football mom. 16 NOVEMBER 2016 sacramentoparent.com

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Changing the World for Two

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A Sacramento family shares their story of adoption By Allison Hopkins | Photographer: Visions By Janessa | www.VisionsByJanessaPhotography.com

“A mother’s love for her child is like no other love. To be able to put that feeling aside because you want the best for your child is the most unselfish thing I know.” —Mary, American Adoptions Birthmother

The story of Tristan and Brooklyn is filled with challenges, triumphs, laughter and tears. It’s real, it’s touching…it’s completely inspiring for any family considering the adoption journey. The best part is, this is just the beginning. Jessie Ryan, 38, and her husband Arsenio Mataka, 39, both had adoption in their hearts. Ryan, executive vice president for the Campaign for College Opportunity and a trustee for Sacramento City Unified School District, is currently working to pass Measure G, an initiative to bring arts and music programming as well as vital student supports to Sacramento area students. She was raised locally by a single mom and has spent most of her career in education policy and as a community organizer in the Central Valley. Mataka, assistant secretary for environmental justice at the Cal-EPA, grew up near Modesto in a home where struggling neighborhood kids would come for shelter. Three weeks into dating, it was agreed upon, they shared a common view on the subject of adoption. What the future would hold was unknown, but the passion for loving children who needed a family was mutual.

In 2010, four years after getting married, they started the process for an international adoption in Ethiopia, primarily because there were millions of orphans there at the time, and Ryan had read that it was harder to place black children in adoptive homes. They purchased a bungalow in Oak Park, preparing for the opportunity to raise a child. “We wanted the child we adopted to grow up in a community that looked like them,” says Ryan. “We thought it was really important that our children be exposed to diversity, their culture, and community members that they related to.” About a year into the process, Ethiopia’s Hague Adoption Certification and ethical practices were being questioned (which Ryan states has since been corrected) and they immediately stopped their search. They considered foster-to-adopt, but after taking classes at Sierra Forever Families, both realized they wanted to experience raising a baby first, and ultimately agreed on a domestic adoption. Ryan and Mataka started working with The Family Network adoption agency and writing letters to birthmothers. The couple was immediately faced with tough questions; what levels of exposure

were they open to? Would they be okay with adopting a child who had possibly been born to a drug-addicted parent? The answer was yes, as a family, they were prepared for the possibility. “We ended up very quickly matching with an incarcerated birthmother in San Diego,” says Ryan. “We really felt concerned that if we weren’t willing to adopt her child, she might struggle to find someone…given her circumstance. Being incarcerated, the brutal reality of it is, pregnant women often don’t have access to adequate prenatal healthcare…” Ryan and Mataka saw it as an opportunity to be that “life line” this mother needed; that they could be the ones to ensure she had a healthy pregnancy. They visited with her monthly (for five months) and wrote letters back and forth every week, sharing books and thoughts. Mataka fought to ensure that the birthmother was transferred to UC San Diego when pregnancy complications emerged. The couple ended up being strong advocates for fair medical practices for incarcerated inmates during this time. It was finally happening. In September of 2012, they were preparing for the birth Continued on page 23 sacramentoparent.com NOVEMBER 2016 21

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of the baby they would bring home. They had named the little girl. The nursery was decorated. They had celebrated the approaching date with family and friends at baby showers throughout the state. Ryan and Mataka got the call that everybody dreads. The call that Ryan says steers so many families away from adoption. One week short of the baby’s due date, the mother (who would be incarcerated for another 3 to 5 years) had changed her mind. She would place the baby with a relative, until she could care for her daughter. “We were convinced that this adoption was going to be successful because we had formed a relationship with the

birthmom; because we felt she was really certain this was the best thing for the little girl; and because we had done everything in our power to support her,” says Ryan. It was devastating. They were back to square one. As quickly as they had received the crushing news, the couple was back on the rollercoaster. The very next week, on the expected birthday of the baby girl, Ryan received a call from the adoption agency. A seven-month-old boy needed a family. His adoption had fallen through because the potential parents changed their minds. With the support from close friends and family, Ryan and Mataka made a

decision to change tracks yet again, and rushed from Sacramento to San Diego to meet Tristan. “From the moment they put Tristan in my arms, he just took to me and I fell in love,” says Ryan. “The moment you hold your child, you realize it was all worth the journey and that you have the child you were always meant to have. The pain of the process and the failed adoption just melted away.” Tristan’s birthmom lost her biological mother at a young age and grew up in the New York foster care system. Now, as a single mother living with various relatives, she wanted a life for Tristan that she felt she could not give him.

“There is no perfect family. Life isn’t how you pictured it. Somehow it’s so much better than you ever thought it could be.” —Jessie Ryan

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next door Ryan describes the first months with Tristan Mateo (they added Mateo, meaning “gift from God”) as both magical and difficult. They held their breath for the first 30 days until the courts officially terminated his birthmother's rights, worrying that she too might change her mind.

Since Tristan had an open adoption, Ryan and Mataka sent letters and pictures back and forth with his birthmom. They believe that the decision to do this type of adoption is what ultimately led to the next chapter in their story.

Tristan was a bright-eyed happy baby. They proudly carried him everywhere in their Ergo carrier. Even with the exhaustion, the joy they remember feeling, after longing to be parents for so long, was immense.

Ten months into their new life, Ryan was contacted by Tristan’s birthmom about the possibility of adopting his full biological, three and a half-year-old sister, Brooklyn, who in the past year had lived in seven different homes across five states.

“Arsenio and I didn't realize we could love a tiny being so much,” says Ryan. “He began saying mama and dadda almost immediately. They were the sweetest words we had ever heard.”

“His birthmom saw, through the photos and the letters we shared, how beautifully he was doing and what a happy life he had,” says Ryan. “She said, ‘I’m calling because I believe that you were

always meant to be Tristan and Brooklyn’s mother.’” Ryan and Mataka were flooded with different emotions. They had barely finalized Tristan's adoption, but were very excited about the prospect of reuniting the siblings and completing their family with the addition of a daughter. They were also very sad that Brooklyn would have to leave everything she had previously known and their hearts ached for her birthmother, who would be saying goodbye to another child. The couple wanted to make sure that it was not an economic decision. “She assured me that this wasn't about not having the money to care for Brooklyn,” says Ryan. “It was more than that. Continued on page 25

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Be a Li’l Angel Sponsor a child for the holiday through the “Li’l Angel” program at FosterHope Sacramento. Your gift will bring joy to a child this holiday season. You will receive an original, limited edition porcelain angel inscribed with the year to remember your special thoughtfulness. (Ornament comes with a minimum of $50 donation.)

Go to FosterHopeSac.org today to learn more about foster care and make someone's wish come true this holiday season.

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She wanted Brooklyn to be with her brother and to experience all the same opportunities in life. She also felt that she wouldn't be able to pursue her dreams until she was on her own and truly believed that ‘God had meant for her to birth these precious babies, so that I could become their mother.’” While Brooklyn and her birthmom started meeting weekly with a child psychologist to prepare for the transition, the social worker started preparing Ryan to be ready for a little girl who would be “bringing a life with her.” She told Ryan that her number one job would be to teach Brooklyn how to be a little girl again, and to “hold her through her tears and allow her to heal.” The social worker also suggested having a daily phone call for one month prior to the adoption, so Brooklyn could hear Ryan’s voice. The calls ended up being a special time for both of them, singing songs together and rather quickly, developing a bond. Finally, it was back to San Diego again. For Ryan, meeting Brooklyn was a much different experience than meeting Tristan, as a baby. Resembling Annie from the 2014 version of the musical, she came bounding down the street and leaped into Ryan’s arms. Brooklyn had seen pictures of the couple with her baby brother and after talking on the phone every day, she was excited to meet her new parents. She came with one little backpack, one stuffed animal and two sets of clothes that she had outgrown. Brooklyn and Tristan, who are 20 months apart, held hands during the 14-hour trip “home.” While he was too young to remember her, she had never forgotten him. When they arrived to Oak Park, there was something unusual about this new home for Brooklyn. It was already decorated with pictures of her. Bookshelves were filled with children’s stories, showing kids who looked just like her. While this place was brand new to her and she

was certainly having feelings of sadness from leaving her birthmom, her brother was there and it was clearly a place that was welcoming. “There was a strong message being told to Brooklyn, that your mommy loves you so much that she is giving you a better life,” says Ryan, explaining that the emphasis has been on her birthmother choosing this life for her. “For Brooklyn, knowing that has made all the difference in the world. She has such a healthy sense of why she is with us.” With all the excitement and joy of bringing the siblings together and forming a solid family unit, came challenges and many tears those first two months. “I like to joke that part of her ‘life experience’ meant she swore like a sailor,” says Ryan. Brooklyn may just fit the thriving, big city name she was given, and overtime, swearing turned into announcing “apples and cookies” and adjustments to “what we say in our home” were quickly being made. As far as the alpha figure between the siblings, it was a struggle. Here were two high-energy kids who both had claimed that status in a way, with Brooklyn being older, but Tristan joining their new family first. What formed over time, and now is life-as-we-know-it three years later, is a beautiful family of four who are growing from each other, in ways that are unexplainable. Ryan and Brooklyn share a love

for dancing and musicals; Mataka and Tristan enjoy playing instruments and listening to reggae music in the backyard. The couple embraces their children’s Puerto Rican and Jamaican heritage, even meticulously researching how to properly care for their hair (shea butters and coconut oils are favorites). The family often visits a neighborhood bookstore where Mama Rose gives advice on culturally relevant literature. Their favorite adoption stories are “Born from the Heart” by Berta Serrano and “I Wished for You: An Adoption Story” by Marianne Richmond. “I want my children to grow up believing that they can make a difference in the world,” says Ryan. “We say in our home that you might not be able to change the world, but you can change the world for one by adopting.” This December, Brooklyn, who was recently voted “Little Miss Capital City” by The National Girls Self-Esteem Program, will be dancing in Sacramento Ballet’s Nutcracker performance. Tristan is busy dressing up like Harry Potter and learning how to swim. “Our kids will tell you that ‘we are so lucky, because we have two mothers who love us,’” says Ryan. “They say ‘I was born in our other mommy’s tummy, but I was born in mommy Jessie’s heart.’” For information about the adoption process, Ryan suggests the following website: www.davethomasfoundation.org.

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Protect Your Child’s Identity By Carol Wyzinski, Esq.

There are so many opportunities for being victims of fraud. Most of us are savvy enough to know we should shred our credit card bills and anything else with identifying information on it, but have you thought about protecting your child’s identity? Child identity theft is a fairly new problem, but it’s happening more and more. To keep your child from becoming a victim of identity theft, keep these tips in mind:

1. Don’t disclose personal information if you don’t know how it’s going to be used. Never give your child’s personal information out over the phone, through the mail or online, especially with regard to any kind of sales promotion. Never carry your child’s Social Security card or number in your purse or wallet. If your child is old enough to use the Internet, watch what they’re doing. Social networking sites have led to an increase in the amount of personal information children are providing about themselves online. Just as you warn your child about talking to strangers, warn them about posting their home address, date of birth or phone number online. 2. Request that your bank require photo identification. This is for all transactions for your accounts or accounts in your child’s name. 3. Don’t apply for credit cards through offers received by mail. If you have opened a credit card account with your child as a joint account holder (typically a teenager), you will more than likely begin to receive credit card offers in your child’s name. If you do, don’t assume that it’s a mistake. If you receive an offer in the mail for your child, check with the three credit reporting agencies periodically to make sure that fraudulent accounts haven’t been opened in your child’s name. 4. Shred all paperwork. Just as you would shred paperwork with your information on it, shred anything with your child’s information on it. The same protections that you employ for yourself should be applied to your child. 5. Contact the Social Security Administration. Call the Social Security Administration and request an earnings report in your child’s Social Security number and name to make sure that someone isn’t out there working under your child’s identity. If you take these steps and your research turns up fraudulent information, take the following steps to begin to correct the problem: • Contact the Social Security Administration and advise them of the fraud • Contact the three leading credit report agencies, TransUnion, Experian and Equifax and advise them of the problem • File a complaint with the Federal Trade Commission

Carol Wyzinski is an attorney who helps families make sure everything and everyone they love is taken care of the way they would want if anything happens to them. Her mission is to make sure that children are always with people that they know, love, and trust and not in the hands of strangers. She received her undergraduate degree from The University of California, Santa Barbara and Juris Doctorate from Ventura College of Law. She is member of WealthCounsel, a national community of top estate planning professionals committed to the highest standard of practice excellence. She holds Bar Memberships with the State Bar of California, United States Court of Appeals for the Federal Circuit and United States Court of International Trade. She is also a member of the American Bar Association. Carol can be reached at 916-865-9921.

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Brubbees: A Play Space for Special Needs Children By Michelle Kopkash

Local special needs families have reason to celebrate this fall with the opening of Brubbees, a highly specialized, therapeutic play space designed to accommodate children with any and every special need. Located in Penryn, the indoor recreational center offers a bedazzling array of fun, safe and therapeutic equipment and activities for children of all ages and abilities to explore. The idea—conceived by Sherie Bedrossian Evans of Auburn—took flight after her youngest son, Nigel, was diagnosed with a rare chromosomal disorder. She wanted a play space for her son and his peers that felt warm and welcoming, but struggled to find the local resources. “Most of the settings designed for people with disabilities felt very clinical to me. Kids with disabilities tend to get left out,” Sherie admitted. “I’m doing this to secure a place for my son to have peer interaction.” Named after her eldest son, Colin, who used to call his baby brother “baby brubbee,” the center proudly opened on September 25 and thus far, has received an incredible amount of positive praise from the local special needs community. In addition to its wide-ranging collection of equipment—selected with the help of occupational, physical and speech therapists—strict health and safety protocols have been implemented to make it safe for medically fragile and physically challenged individuals to attend.

With the harsh reality that over one in five households across the United States has at least one child with special health care needs1—including autism spectrum disorder (ASD), attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), cerebral palsy, down syndrome, motor and speech development delays and other physical, medical, emotional and behavioral challenges—it was important to Sherie to consider every disability while designing the center. “The goal is accessibility for one and all. We will accommodate anybody with any type of special need,” Sherie stated resolutely. Indeed, this center is completely wheelchair accessible and a changing table that fits children up to seven-years-old has been installed in the restroom.

tion of the center, described as the sensory corner, has been embellished with textured boards and interactive bubble tubes to provide kids with the sensory input they seek. Several other areas within the play space offer opportunities for children to have fun: a ball pit and crash pad area, a section with therapeutic swings for kids who benefit from vestibular movement, a climbing wall with ropes and nets for older individuals and a smaller rock-climbing jungle gym for younger kids. Children who become overstimulated can rest in the calm down corner, which consists of a private nook with padded walls.

Brubbees currently offers one-hour open play sessions for children and their caregivers to explore the play space at An extraordinary amount of thought was their own pace and will begin enrolling also put into making it a sensory-friendly children in directed play sessions and experience for children who cope with themed monthly classes in the comsensory processing challenges. The lights ing months. In the latter two sessions, have been switched from fluorescent to trained staff members will move the LED to shelter sensitive eyes and a sec-

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HOLY ROLLERS Peruvian artist, Saint Michael the Archangel (detail), 18th century. Roberta and Richard Huber Collection.

Activities abound for visitors of all ages at the Crocker Art Museum! From baby-friendly gallery walks to art classes for toddlers to teens, discover it all at crockerartmuseum.org. From October 23 – January 22, visit the Crocker to enjoy the new exhibition, “Highest Heaven: Spanish and Portuguese Colonial Art from the Roberta and Richard Huber Collection”, organized by the San Antonio Museum of Art.

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children through a number of enjoyable movements and activities designed to enhance motor and language skills and promote social interaction. The sky is the limit when it comes to the types of classes that Brubbees plans to offer its clientele, with arrangements already in the works for introductory classes in karate, art, music and sign language.

and will undoubtedly bring smiles to the faces of those who visit. For more information about Brubbees view their website at www.Brubbees.com or call 916-824-1134. 1. “One-in-Five: One in Five Families with Children Has at Least One Child with Special Health Care Needs.” Family Voices, March 2015, http://www.familyvoices.org/admin/miscdocs/ files/One-in-Five_Infographic.compressed.pdf. Accessed 20 Sept. 2016.

This much-needed play setting is a win for the local special needs community

Smartwatch for kids, rollerblades, mermaid tales, event tickets & more... We want you to Win Big in November!

Bee-lieve, Bee-strong, Bee-you! Michelle Kopkash is a local freelance writer, family blogger and author-in-the-making. She’s got two spunky kids and loves being in nature with her family. Visit her website at www.MichelleKopkash.com to view her writing portfolio, services and blog.

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We recommend confirming events before you go. All phone numbers are area code (916) unless otherwise noted. See our full calendar listings at www.sacramentoparent.com.

Feast your eyes on the cornucopia of family-friendly events happening this month! Make new memories to share at the dinner table this Thanksgiving! Let the feast begin!

1 TUESDAY

Food Drive at the Zoo 10am at Sacramento Zoo Take a non-perishable food item when you visit the Zoo and receive $1 off your Zoo admission! Food donations benefit the River City Food Bank. 808-5888 | www.SacZoo.org Off the Grid 5pm at Crocker Art Museum, Sacramento Join the Museum every Tuesday night for a food truck festival featuring themed menus, cocktails, live music, and family-friendly activities. Enjoy a variation of food truck cuisines, museum galleries and more! Free for everyone but does not include Museum admission. 808-1182 | www.CrockerArtMuseum.org

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Día de Los Muertos Celebration 5pm at Brickhouse Gallery, Sacramento Remember your loved ones and celebrate with your community at Oak Park’s first annual observance of Día de los Muertos. Día de los Muertos, or Day of the Dead, is a holiday for remembrance of deceased family and friends, as well as a celebration of life for the living. 905-3229 | www.Facebook.com/ events/1195249040532423 Wee Wednesday 10:30 & 11am at Crocker Art Museum, Sacramento Bring your little one and yourself to this gallery-based art experience for children ages 3 to 5. The adventure begins in Tot Land. Free for Museum members and free with general admission for nonmembers. 808-1182 | www.CrockerArtMuseum.org

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Just Between Friends Sale (11/3-11/5) Various times at Sacramento Asian Sports Foundation, Elk Grove Just Between Friends (JBF) offers a safe way to sell items at great prices with great consignor incentives including making 60%-75% of your items’ selling price and shopping for the best bargains before the public at a Pre-Sale Party. This is a community event with hundreds of

families selling their gently used kid’s stuff. 718-6897 | www.ElkGrove.jbfsale.com Hawks, Honkers, and Hoots 4:30pm at Rio Linda Library Hawks, Honkers & Hoots offer fun, interactive natural history and interesting facts about the birds of prey living in and around the Pacific Flyway. Live birds are included in the presentation along with a discovery table for an up close and personal experience with these wonderful creatures. 264-2920 | www.SacLibrary.org Off the Grid 5pm at the Sacramento Zoo Off the Grid Sacramento Zoo invites you to enjoy a night out every Thursday. Expect delicious food from food trucks, live music from local musicians, and kid-friendly activities. Receive discounted admission to the Sacramento Zoo with an Off the Grid Zoo coupon (available only at the Zoo’s interactive Off the Grid booth). 808-5888 | www.OffTheGrid.com

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19th Annual Sacramento Arts Festival (11/4-11/6) 10am at Sacramento Convention Center The 19th Annual Sacramento Arts Festival brings remarkable one-of-a-kind arts and crafts to Sacramento. The festival features over 225 of America’s best contemporary craftspeople and fine artists offering over 15,000 original works. The festival has become the premier art and craft show in the Central Valley and has developed into one of the top art festivals in the country. www.SacArtsFest.com Artful Tot (11/4-11/5) 10:30am at Crocker Art Museum, Sacramento Every month, toddlers explore art-making with different materials in new ways. Adults learn how to encourage experimentation and self-expression while nurturing their child’s creativity. Please dress for mess. This program is for children from 19 to 36 months old and their caregivers. 808-1182 | www.CrockerArtMuseum.org

Downtown Sacramento Ice Rink Through January 16, 2017 in St. Rose of Lima Park, Sacramento The Downtown Sacramento Ice Rink has been a seasonal landmark on The Kay for over 20 years, providing a playful escape into a winter wonderland for kids and adults alike. A treasured #URBANholiday destination for outdoor skating and a launching pad for exploring the ever-booming central city. 442-8575 | www.GoDowntownSac.com Pokemon Night 5pm at Krush Burger in the Roseville Galleria Into the Pokemon craze? Guests who dine at Krush Burger will receive a discount based on the number of Pokemon they have in their Pokedex. 787-2000 | www.Westfield.com/ GalleriaAtRoseville 5 SATURDAY 3rd Annual Sunrise Craft Fair 10am at Rusch Park Community Center, Citrus Heights The 3rd Annual Sunrise Craft Fair features all handmade items, live music, and a visit from Santa. There will also be raffle drawings held hourly. 725-1585 | www.SunriseParks.com Dia de Los Muertos Celebration 6pm at Old Sacramento State Historic Park Celebrate Dia de los Muertos, or Day of the Dead, at the Sacramento History Museum! This annual event is the largest Dia de los Muertos celebration in Sacramento and features a traditional ceremony, Aztec dancers, great food, sacramentoparent.com NOVEMBER 2016 31

calendar vendors, and more! 808-7059 | www.SacHistoryMuseum.org Holiday Craft Faire 9am at Mission Oaks Community Center, Carmichael Forget that last minute holiday shopping and start your Christmas shopping early! Find unique gifts at great prices and enjoy some family fun, too! 972-0336 | www.CarmichaelPark.com Member Appreciation Mornings 9am at Sacramento Zoo Stroll around the Zoo before they open to the public! Enjoy free rides on the Zoo Train and Conservation Carousel and a 20% discount in the Zoofari Market gift store until 10am. Just show your membership card at the entrance. 808-5888 | www.SacZoo.org Off the Grid: Folsom Outlets 11am at Folsom Outlets This pop-up food market will include eight local food trucks offering unique lunch options for the shoppers at Folsom Outlets while also bringing in music to create a fun, family friendly lunchtime atmosphere. 415-339-5888 | www.OffTheGrid.com Salmon Stroll 10:30am at Effie Yeaw Nature Center, Carmichael The annual migration of Chinook salmon has arrived. Join a naturalist and hike to the river to catch a glimpse of these impressive fish as they swish and swirl in the shallows. 489-4918 | www.SacNatureCenter.net Samba School: UC Davis Parent and Family Weekend 10am at Ann E. PItzer Center, Davis Samba School UC Davis will perform excerpts celebrating Parent and Family Weekend, which is a chance for alumni to rediscover UC Davis and for parents to get a glimpse at their child’s college experience. Families can spend time together at a host of scheduled events and enjoy the hospitality of the Aggie community. 530-752-5537 | www.Arts.UCDavis.edu/ samba-school Sensory Storytime 10:30am at Southgate Library, Sacramento This inclusive storytime was developed for youth with autism and/or sensory disorders and their families/caregivers. It features songs, stories, sensory activities and interactive materials. The program is targeted for a developmental age of 2 to 6 years-old. Behaviors and/or noise are no problem. Siblings are welcome! 264-2920 | www.SacLibrary.org Wall of Honor 10am at Patriots Park, Carmichael Join Carmichael for this annual event honoring our local heroes. This event recognizes members of the community who have given their lives in the line of duty. The Wall of Honor currently has thirteen inductees. Members are represented from all areas of service including the California Highway Patrol, Sacramento Sheriff’s Depart-

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ment, Sacramento Metro Fire District and the U.S. Military. Light refreshments will be served. 485-5322 | www.CarmichaelPark.com

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Kids & Company Gallery Adventure 10:30am at Crocker Art Museum, Sacramento Amusing and educational, this tour is the perfect way to introduce art to children ages 5 and older (and the adults who tag along with them) in a fun and playful manner. Free for Museum members and free with general admission for nonmembers. 808-1182 | www.CrockerArtMuseum.org

Mermaid Theatre of Nova Scotia 3pm at Mondavi Center-Jackson Hall, Davis Adapted from Margaret Wise Brown’s 60-yearold classic, Goodnight Moon is a celebration of familiar nighttime rituals, while “The Runaway Bunny’s” pretend tale of leaving home evokes reassuring responses from his loving mom. Both stage adaptations feature endearing animal puppets and stunning scenic effects based on Clement Hurd’s illustrations, and evocative musical accompaniment. Perfect for kids twoyears-old and up. 530-754-2787 | www.MondaviArts.org Nature Detectives 1:30pm at Effie Yeaw Nature Center, Carmichael Have you ever wondered what critters have used the trail before you? Many animals are out and about when we are not. Join the Nature Center in exploring the trails and sharpen your nature detective skills by learning the tracks and other signs of local wildlife. 489-4918 | www.SacNatureCenter.net 1st Anniversary Party 5:30pm at Sacramento Pizza Co., Folsom Join this family-friendly pizza restaurant for their first anniversary with princesses Anna and Elsa! It’s a free event. There will be a sing along storytime and picture time with the princesses plus, face paintings and plenty of fun kids activities! 673-9754 | www.SacPizzaCo.com

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Tour + Performance: Sacramento Ballet 11 & 12pm at Crocker Art Museum, Sacramento In this 2-for-1 program, dancers from the Sacramento Ballet will use movement and kinesthetic imagery to evoke narrative and emotion. Students investigate connections between visual art and dance, exploring artworks in the galleries and enjoying a live dance followed by a Q&A. $8 per person. 808-1182 | www.CrockerArtMuseum.org

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Autumn Crafts with Art Beast 3:30pm at Elk Grove Library Join the library for a fun-filled afternoon of autumn crafting with Art Beast! 264-2920 | www.SacLibrary.org Beary Special Playdate 5pm at Sacramento Children’s Museum, Rancho Cordova Beary Special Playdate is a monthly event for special needs children and their families to enjoy all the Museum activities and light refreshments. Admission to the Museum is free. This is a RSVP only event as space is limited. Sponsored by Ronald McDonald House Charities of Northern California. 638-7225 | www.SacKids.org Wee Wednesday 10:30 & 11am at Crocker Art Museum, Sacramento Bring your little one and yourself to this gallery-based art experience for children ages 3 to 5. The adventure begins in Tot Land. Free for Museum members and free with general admission for nonmembers. 808-1182 | www.CrockerArtMuseum.org

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ArtMix | Howl 5pm at Crocker Art Museum, Sacramento Election day has passed, but we all still have something to rant, rave, or howl about. Check out Activism Articulated’s Altars for Justice project, and join Sol Collective for art-making that will get you thinking. ArtMix is for guests 21+ and takes place every second Thursday of the month. 808-1182 | www.CrockerArtMuseum.org Free Preschool Program 10am at the Utility Exploration Center, Roseville Help your preschooler become a future planet protector while they explore with friends and participate in engaging activities, every second Thursday! 774-5200 | www.Roseville.ca.us

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Military Family Day 10am at Sacramento Zoo In appreciation for our troops, all military personnel, veterans and their families receive a 50% discount on Zoo admission with a valid military identification card. 808-5888 | www.SacZoo.org

calendar Veterans Day Parade 9am at E. Bidwell St & Montrose Dr, Folsom Join in for the 16th annual Wayne Spence Folsom Veterans Day Parade. A brief memorial ceremony takes place immediately following the parade, in Folsom City Lions Park at the Veterans Memorial (near the flagpole). 355-7285 | www.Folsom.ca.us Veteran’s Memorial Day Remembrance 11am at Koobs Nature Area, Carmichael Celebrate and honor veterans at the Koobs Nature Area, on Veterans Day. The nature area is home to the Vietnam Veterans Memorial, one of the first such memorials in California. Sponsored by the Kiwanis Club of Carmichael. 485-5322 | www.CarmichaelPark.com

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Adoption is Awesome 6pm at Roller King, Roseville Join Capitol Adoptive Families Alliance’s 4th Annual Skate Party Fundraiser! This event is for all families, friends and supporters who have been touched by adoption. There will be skating, dancing, games, kid-friendly music, goodie bags and raffles! 671-2030 | www.CapAdoptFam.org

Community Day at the Adventure Playground 11am at Maple Neighborhood Center, Sacramento All ages are invited for a day of play! Children get to create their own play structures and spaces by re-purposing everyday items such as cardboard boxes, plus household wares, natural elements and unexpected items. A fun and safe environment where children can use their imagination and creativity to direct their own play! Also features special activities and craft projects. 808-7462 | www.FairytaleTown.org Dungeons and Dragons 1pm at North Sacramento-Hagginwood Library Join a band of adventurers to create your own fantasy story. Open to both first-time and experienced players. The game will be casual and slow paced so players can learn the mechanics of the game, but veterans who want to help guide or even run their own campaign are encouraged to attend. 264-2920 | www.SacLibrary.org

Kids Expo 11am at Cal Expo, Sacramento Kids Expo California was created by 9 year-old, TJ to be a fun kid’s event doing things they like to do. Fun family event for all! Enjoy hands-on activities, kids activities, shopping, food and I love it but need to make two changes. more! Let’s change the “ THE PLAY OPENS . . .” 866-931-8508 | www.KidsExpoCa.com to “THE PLAY RUNS . . .” and “PLAYS Live Wild Parrots SATURDAYS . . .” to “AND PLAYS SATURDAYS . . .” Thanks! Love the 2pm at Ella K. McClatchy Library, Sacramento purple and graphics! Do you love birds? Have you ever wanted to see parrots up close? Then join the library as A-Team for Wildlife shows us a variety of live wild parrots. They will tell us about these amazing birds and the habitats they come from, and give us a chance to see them up close! 264-2920 | www.SacLibrary.org Member Appreciation Mornings 9am at Sacramento Zoo Stroll around the Zoo before they open to the public! Enjoy free rides on the Zoo Train and Conservation Carousel and a 20% discount in the Zoofari Market gift store until 10am. Just show your membership card at the entrance. 808-5888 | www.SacZoo.org Nature Storytime 10:30am at Effie Yeaw Nature Center, Carmichael Come relax and enjoy some nature tales with Storyteller Jan. This program is recommended for children and those young at heart. 489-4918 | www.SacNatureCenter.net Quarry Trail Hike 9am along the Middle Fork of the American River, Auburn Volunteer Donna Orth will lead this 3.5 mile moderately-paced hike in the Auburn State Rec. Area. Enjoy the natural beauty of the American River canyon and also pass by an enormous cave that was the site of both paleontologic excavations and more mining activities. One well-behaved dog (per family) on leash, all ages and all-terrain strollers OK. 530-621-1224 | www.ARConservancy.org/ Activities

STORYTIME THEATRE OF SACRAMENTO CITY COLLEGE PROUDLY PRESENTS

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ADAPTED AND DIRECTED BY DOUG LAWSON THIS PRODUCTION WAS INSPIRED BY SACRAMENTO CITY COLLEGE’S 100 YEAR ANNIVERSARY! THE PLAY RUNS OCTOBER 29TH - NOVEMBER 20TH AND PLAYS SATURDAYS AND SUNDAYS AT 12 NOON ADMISSION IS $5 FOR ALL AGES (CASH OR CHECKS ONLY AT THE DOOR)

TICKETS MAY ALSO BE PURCHASED ONLINE AT CITYTHEATRE.NET (CHILDREN TWO YEARS OLD AND UNDER ARE ADMITTED FREE).

HALF-PRICE OPENING DAY SPECIAL! OCTOBER 29TH ONLY! GROUP RATE FOR PARTIES OF 15 OR MORE, 20% OFF! PLEASE CALL 916-558-2174 TO MAKE ARRANGEMENTS PERFORMANCES ARE LOCATED IN THE LITTLE THEATRE, ROOM 106, OF THE PERFORMING ARTS CENTER LOCATED IN THE CORNER CREATED BY 12TH AVENUE AND FREEPORT BLVD (THE NORTHWEST CORNER OF THE SACRAMENTO CITY COLLEGE CAMPUS). PARKING IS FREE ON CAMPUS SATURDAYS AND SUNDAYS ONLY.

THE CLOSING PERFORMANCE ON SUNDAY NOVEMBER 20TH WILL BE INTERPRETED IN AMERICAN SIGN LANGUAGE. FOR MORE INFORMATION

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Grand Opening 10am at Jan Shrem & Maria Manetti Shrem Museum of Art, UC Davis Show up for the ribbon cutting and stick around because the doors open for the first time at noon! Free for All; Opening exhibitions include: Out Our Way, representing more than 200 examples of art from First Generation Faculty; Hoof & Foot, a video project by Chris Sollars that explores the symbiotic relationship between animals and students; and A Pot for sacramentoparent.com NOVEMBER 2016 33

calendar a Latch, a participatory installation by Mexico City artist Pia Camil that invites the public to exchange “objects of desire.” 530-752-8500 | ManettiShremMuseum. ucdavis.edu Sunday Playday 10:30am at Crocker Art Museum, Sacramento A monthly program for children ages 4 to 6 and their caregivers, Sunday Playday is a gallery-based artmaking experience designed to support school readiness. Led by a Museum educator, children will participate in a fun makeand-take project using a variety of art materials, inspired by a different artwork each month. Free for Museum members and free with general admission for nonmembers. 808-1182 | www.SacLibrary.org Sunday Safari 1:30pm at Effie Yeaw Nature Center, Carmichael Grab your binoculars and join a naturalist guide to get a closer look at the animals and plants that make up the unique habitat along the American River. 489-4918 | www.SacNatureCenter.net

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Baby Loves Art 10:30 at Crocker Art Museum, Sacramento Baby Loves Art engages babies (up to 18 months old) in a visually stimulating gallery walk and gives parents and caregivers a fun opportunity to connect with their babies and each other. All baby noises are expected and welcome. Strollers are allowed and front carriers are recommended for the best art view. Please no backpacks or rear carriers. 808-1182 | www.SacLibrary.org ExplorAbility 8-10am at Sacramento Children’s Museum, Rancho Cordova ExplorAbility is an early-morning program for children on the autism spectrum, ages three to five. With a maximum of 20 participants per session, the ExplorAbility program offers opportunities for children on the autism spectrum to participate in small group sessions within a structured program, featuring Sacramento area professionals from a variety of disciplines. Registration is required. 638-7225 x 103 | www.SacKids.org Off the Grid 5pm at Crocker Art Museum, Sacramento Join the museum every Tuesday night for a food truck festival featuring themed menus, cocktails, live music, and family-friendly activities. Enjoy a variation of food truck cuisines, museum galleries and more! Free for everyone but does not include Museum admission. 808-1182 | www.CrockerArtMuseum.org Wire Jewelry Class 4pm at North Sacramento-Hagginwood Library Learn how to make rings and more with this step-by-step wire jewelry-making class. Make one for yourself, or for a friend! These wire wrapping techniques can be carried over into other jewelry designs to create elegant scrolling embellishments for pendants and more. Spon-

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Food Truck Safari 5pm at Folsom City Zoo Food Truck Safari presented by SactoMoFo and the Folsom City Zoo Sanctuary enjoy some of the best Food Trucks in the region the 3rd Wednesday of Every Month. Vendors Include: Smokin’ Hot Pizza; Chando’s Tacos; Honest Pie; Gameday Grill; Wandering Boba; Drewski’s Hot Rod; Sweet Spot; and Smoothie Patrol. 351-3527 | www.FolsomZooFriends.org Storytime 3:30pm at the Folsom Public Library Visit the Folsom Public Library every 3rd Wednesday of the month for a special storytime featuring zoo animals. Organized by the Folsom Zoo Sanctuary. 351-3527 | www.FolsomZooFriends.org Wildlife Care Association 4pm at Arden-Dimick Library, Sacramento Learn about Sacramento’s local animals with the Wildlife Care Association. 264-2920 | www.SacLibrary.org

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Silver Ochre: “Who are US 2016–Observations from the 21st-Century American Road” 6:30pm at Crocker Art Museum, Sacramento Experience the 21st-century American road through the eyes, ears, and fingers of two perpetually touring artists. An immense collection of visual moments and sonic influences that transform the mundane into the exotic and reveal the familiar in the strange. Learn about the unique and common, humorous and tragic, everyday idiosyncrasies and abstractions, undercurrents, hidden agendas and extreme creativity. 808-1182 | www.CrockerArtMuseum.org Wholesome Meals for the Season with Judith Yisrael 5:30pm at Colonial Heights Library, Sacramento Join the library and learn a few techniques that will resonate deep in the stomachs of those we share food with. Judith Yisrael will be demonstrating how to prepare a few wholesome and seasonal dishes incorporating the bounty of the winter season. Participants will walk away with a little taste of a few new recipes that they prepare and a lot to share! This class is free but requires registration. 264-2920 | www.SacLibrary.org

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44th Annual ‘Gifts ‘n Tyme Holiday Faire (11/18-20) 10am at Napa Valley Expo Holiday music and spirit abounds as you stroll the hall and visit 85 local and regional artists of original crafts, artwork and holiday pieces. Sample a variety of gourmet foods with the smell of hot-cinnamon roasted almonds in the air. This is a great way to get your Christmas shopping done early with a day trip to beautiful Napa!

Mandarin Festival (11/18-20) Daily at Gold Country Fairgrounds, Auburn The sweet and tangy citrus scent of Mandarin oranges permeates the crisp November air during the three-day Mandarin Festival . The Sierra Foothills, long-known for the discovery of gold in California, are also known for their golden treasure, the Mandarin orange. Head to this Festival where the bright orange globes of Mandarins are everywhere you turn, plus much more! 663-1918 | www.MandarinFestival.com Reading Partners Trivia Night 6pm at Studio 817, Sacramento Are you the source of information (albeit a little random) for your friends and family? Then join in for Trivia Night and have fun testing your knowledge while supporting literacy in Sacramento. You’ll play for the chance to take home the trivia trophy and win fun prizes; enjoy gourmet food, wine, and beer; and help 540 struggling readers develop the reading skills they need for a lifetime of learning. 530-746-8306 | www.ReadingPartners.org Sacramento Harvest Festival (11/18-20) 10am at Cal Expo, Sacramento One of the largest indoor arts and crafts shows on the West Coast boasting unique gifts like original art, jewelry, toys, clothing, ceramics, specialty foods, decor and much more! Win tickets at www.SacramentoParent.com 800-346-1212 | www.HarvestFestival.com Friday Flicks: Finding Dory 6:30pm at Vernon Street Town Square, Roseville The friendly-but-forgetful blue tang fish reunites with her loved ones, and everyone learns a few things about the real meaning of family along the way. (Rated PG) 774-5200 | www.Roseville.ca.us

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Getting to Know ARC-hike: Traverse Nature Area 1pm with ARC Nature Conservancy, Coloma Fred Bernstein will lead this informal 2-3 mile walk sharing the great diversity of Traverse Creek and ARC. There are 3 creeks to explore, easy and challenging trails, great rock hounding, bay trees, blackberries, and wild roses. Best of all, it is an easy 35 minutes from the Hwy 50 corridor, so it is a great family location. Please call to sign up, and for meeting location (Garden Valley area). 530-621-1224 | www.ARConservancy.org/ Activities

calendar Global Winter Wonderland 4:30pm Opening Day at Cal Expo, Sacramento Global Winter Wonderland is a spectacular holiday festival and multi-cultural celebration featuring, awe-inspiring illuminated landscapes celebrating Holiday Fun for Everyone! Enjoy beautiful Christmas lights, ice skating, full carnival, photos with Santa, Holiday shopping, crafts & activities for all ages! (510) 962-8586 www.GlobalWonderland.com Holiday Parade 10:30 at the intersection of Riverside/Douglas/ Vernon, Roseville Enjoy the free 55th Annual Sylvia Besana Holiday Parade. Before the parade, join in the fun at Vernon Street Town Square. Experience the season with tasty treats, holiday vendors and fun for all ages! www.Roseville.ca.us Love Olivia Holiday Boutique 9am at Rocklin Event Center “Love, Olivia” proudly hosts its annual Holiday Boutique, featuring over 30 local vendors, a bake sale, a raffle, and a visit from Mr. & Mrs. Santa Claus. Shop for locally made crafts, artisan products, fashion items, décor, and much more. All proceeds raised will go towards providing support to children with special needs and their families. 752-8192 | www.LoveOlivia.org Member Appreciation Mornings 9am at Sacramento Zoo Stroll around the Zoo before they open to the public! Enjoy free rides on the Zoo Train and Conservation Carousel and a 20% discount in the Zoofari Market gift store until 10am. Just show your membership card at the entrance. 808-5888 | www.SacZoo.org Sacramento Ballet’s Nutcracker 12pm at Clunie Auditorium, Sacramento Enjoy a free preview of the Sacramento Ballet’s ”The Nutcracker,” at the library! All are welcome to the Clunie Auditorium for the ballet. Children are then invited to stay for a free ballet lesson, taught by the Sacramento Ballet Company. 264-2920 | www.SacLibrary.org Turkey Vultures 10:30am at Effie Yeaw Nature Center, Carmichael What bird is truly bald-headed? These relatives of the condor and stork are intelligent, family-oriented and playful! Learn how these birds are important to our ecosystem and take a hike to the river in hopes of catching natures cleanup crew in action. 489-4918 | www.SacNatureCenter.net

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A Day in the Life 1:30pm at Effie Yeaw Nature Center, Carmichael Discover how the Nisenan Maidu people might have spent a fall day over 200 years ago. 489-4918 | www.SacNatureCenter.net Symphony of 2000 4pm at Memorial Auditorium, Sacramento This year’s event will feature 1000 musicians performing with the addition of 1000 voices,

creating a symphonic and choral event not to be missed. The Symphony of 2000 strives to bring together musicians of all ages and skill levels together to collaborate as a community and as inspiration to the surrounding community. 808-5181 www.SacramentoYouthSymphony.org Wonder Lab 11am at Crocker Art Museum, Sacramento Free for Everyone! This drop-in art-making program, open to all, is designed to spark creativity! Children with learning and developmental disabilities and their families are especially invited. 808-1182 | www.CrockerArtMuseum.org

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Off the Grid 5pm at Crocker Art Museum, Sacramento Join the museum every Tuesday night for a food truck festival featuring themed menus, cocktails, live music, and family-friendly activities. Enjoy a variation of food truck cuisines, museum galleries and more! Free for everyone but does not include Museum admission. 808-1182 | www.CrockerArtMuseum.org Preschool Storytime 10am at Franklin Library, Elk Grove Talk, sing, read, write, and play with the library! Preschoolers ages 3 to 5 years and their caregivers are invited to join Ms. Julia for 30 minutes of fun songs, rhymes, stories, and fingerplays, all designed to build early literacy skills. A playtime with age-appropriate, educational toys follows this program. 264-2920 | www.SacLibrary.org

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Old Sacramento Tree Lighting 6pm at Front and K Street in Old Sacramento Standing center stage at Front Street and K Street in Old Sacramento, the 58-foot tall City of Sacramento Christmas tree will be lit for the first time during a visually-exciting official tree lighting ceremony that is free and open to the public. The festive tree lighting ceremony serves to kick-off the first “Macy’s Theatre of Lights” performance of the season that will immediately follow. 970-5226 | www.OldSacramento.com Wee Wednesday 10:30 & 11am at Crocker Art Museum, Sacramento Bring your little one and yourself to this gallery-based art experience for children ages 3 to 5. The adventure begins in Tot Land. Free for Museum members and free with general admission for nonmembers. 808-1182 | www.CrockerArtMuseum.org

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Run to Feed the Hungry 8am at Sacramento State (CSUS) Join the Sacramento Food Bank and Family Services (SFBFS) for this year’s Run to Feed the Hungry event to take place on Thanksgiving Day. This annual family-friendly fundraiser supports families in need and all donations go to the SFBFS. Two race lengths are offered to suit participant needs. Show your support and participate this year! 456-1980 | www.RunToFeedTheHungry.com Thanksgiving Feast for the Animals 11am at Folsom City Zoo Sanctuary Join the Zoo for their annual tradition of a very special celebration for the animals. Watch as all of the Zoo Sanctuary animals receive festive Thanksgiving meals and treats, including special pumpkin pie! 351-3527 | www.FolsomZooFriends.org Turkey Trot 2016 9am at Vernon Street Town Square, Roseville Kick-off a great Thanksgiving Day with a fun race, run, jog, walk, stroll, roll, or even crawl... before the parades...before the kick-offs...and before the feasting commences (and maybe even burn off a few calories). Run for the fun, stay for the rewards. Be there - rain or shine! www.Roseville.ca.us/events

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Crocker Holiday Artisan Market (11/25-27) 6pm at Scottish Rite Center, Sacramento Join the library for the shopping event of the year! This festival showcases 100-plus artists and artisans in Northern California. Works include ceramics, jewelry, glass, metal, wood textiles, photography, toys, food, and more. Hosted in partnership with the Creative Arts League of Sacramento. 808-7782 | www.CrockerArtMuseum.org Nationwide Free Admission Day & Canned Food Drive 10am at Fairytale Town, Sacramento Fairytale Town offers FREE admission to visitors who bring in a canned good to donate the day after Thanksgiving! All goods will be donated to the Sacramento Food Bank & Family Services, Spirit of Giving Holiday Drive. Enjoy free play with puppet shows and free arts and crafts activities. 808-7462 | www.FairytaleTown.org

Autism Family Friendly Movie 10:30am at Sylvan Oaks Library, Citrus Heights Join the library for a special family movie event for kids with autism and/or sensory disorders. “Typical” toddlers and preschoolers are welcome too! This month: They’ll have healthy snacks, the lights will be slightly up, the sound will be slightly down, and kids don’t need to remain seated while enjoying the movie. There will also be lots of fidget toys! 264-2920 | www.SacLibrary.org Crocker Holiday Artisan Market (11/26-27) 10am at Scottish Rite Center, Sacramento Join the library for the shopping event of the year! This festival showcases 100-plus artists and artisans in Northern California. Works include ceramics, jewelry, glass, metal, wood textiles, photography, toys, food, and more. Hosted in partnership with the Creative Arts League of Sacramento. 808-7782 | www.CrockerArtMuseum.org

Great Gobblers! 10:30am at Effie Yeaw Nature Center, Carmichael Had enough turkey yet? Join the Nature Center for a hike to learn more about this unique bird. 489-4918 | www.SacNatureCenter.net LEGO Block Party 10am at Franklin Library, Elk Grove You bring your imagination and creativity, and they’ll supply the Duplo and LEGO blocks. This is a free program hosted by the Franklin Community Library the second and fourth Saturday of each month. 264-2920 | www.SacLibrary.org Member Appreciation Mornings 9am at Sacramento Zoo Stroll around the Zoo before they open to the public! Enjoy free rides on the Zoo Train and Conservation Carousel and a 20% discount in the Zoofari Market gift store until 10am. Just show your membership card at the entrance. 808-5888 | www.SacZoo.org

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Oncorhynchus Encore! 1:30pm at Effie Yeaw Nature Center, Carmichael Join a Naturalist for a stroll to the American River in hopes of catching a glimpse of the migrating salmon. Learn about these amazing anadromous fish and their remarkable life cycle. 489-4918 | www.SacNatureCenter.net

Sketch It 11am at Crocker Art Museum, Sacramento Visitors ages 5 and older can sketch at their own pace while receiving drawing instruction. This drop-in program meets in a different gallery each month. No experience necessary, and all supplies are provided. Free for Museum members and free with general admission for nonmembers. 808-1182 | www.CrockerArtMuseum.org

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Storytime With Santa 6pm at Vernon Street Town Square, Roseville Put on your cozy PJ’s and kick off holiday celebration week with your ticket to join Santa on the Polar Express. Enjoy the classic holiday story, sing carols, visit with Santa, make a craft to take home and have some hot cocoa. 774-5200 | www.Roseville.ca.us

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Family Game Night 6pm at Vernon Street Town Square, Roseville The Winter Games are coming to Town Square! Join a special guest host in welcoming the holiday season while winning prizes and participating in fun and exciting reindeer games. Dress up as your favorite holiday character for a chance to win the grand prize! 774-5200 | www.Roseville.ca.us Off the Grid 5pm at Crocker Art Museum, Sacramento Join the Museum every Tuesday night for a food truck festival featuring themed menus, cocktails, live music, and family-friendly activities. Enjoy a variation of food truck cuisines, museum galleries and more! Free for everyone but does not include Museum admission. 808-1182 | www.CrockerArtMuseum.org

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Gingerbread House Decorating & Engineering Challenge 4:30pm at Fair Oaks Library Individuals and families prepare to craft and if you so choose, join in the challenge to create the best Gingerbread House! All materials will be provided at this free program hosted by Fair Oaks Public Library thanks to funding from the Friends of the Fair Oaks Library. 264-2920 | www.SacLibrary.org Tree Grove 6pm at Vernon Street Town Square, Roseville Come visit the 4th annual Tree Grove on the square! Local businesses, organizations and schools have the opportunity to decorate trees in the square. This night, the trees in the grove are officially lit, and families can enjoy making Christmas crafts, music, visiting with Santa and food! Visit the website for an application to participate. 774-5200 | www.Roseville.ca.us

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Gifting Your Family’s History By Bart A. Stump

You share many gifts with your family that make-up your collective family history: births, weddings, family trips, holiday gatherings, recipes, stories, and traditions. But have you thought of giving your children the actual gift of your family’s history? Pass on your family’s legacy by researching your genealogy. While it may seem daunting at first, it’s quite simple. Start by recording your full name and the date and place of your birth on an ancestor chart or family group sheet, both of which are readily available on the internet or at a family research center. There are also numerous computer programs and apps available that will make recording your information a breeze. Next, record the information you know about your siblings and parents. Include the dates and places of marriages and deaths if necessary. Once that is completed, move on to your grandparents’ generation. Get as much information as you can from older, living relatives. Once these priceless resources are gone, researching becomes much more difficult. Ask these relatives about themselves, their spouses, parents,

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grandparents, and other family members. You may be fascinated by some of the family stories you will hear so don’t hesitate to record the conversations. Also, have them help identify people in old family photos. If not, you may be forever stuck wondering who that mystery person is staring back at you from the picture. Once you have exhausted your living sources, it’s time to start researching.

Vital records such as births, deaths, and marriages are extremely helpful. You may also want to search for records of deeds, wills, baptisms, court cases, immigration/ emigration information, and military service. Other good resources are local history books produced by communities in the area. You might be surprised to find out what activities and organizations your family members were involved in once upon a time. Do not forget old newspapers, yearbooks and phone directories. Census records are one of the most valuable resources available. U.S. censuses are population counts that have been conducted every ten years, starting in 1790. Censuses from 1850 onward are especially useful, in that they list all family members by name and age. Later censuses also include occupations, language(s) spoken, nation of birth, and other helpful information. Much of the information you will need for your research can be found by searching libraries, local historical societies, county courthouses/archives, cemeteries, churches, genealogical societies, state and national archives, and the internet. A

word of caution about the internet, do not believe everything you find. Remember, anyone can put anything on the internet; it does not necessarily make it true. Mistakes can happen and false assumptions can be very misleading. There are numerous internet sites that you may find useful. Ancestry.com is a popular pay site, but much of the information provided on the site can be found from free sources as well. A great free starting point is FamilySearch. org. This easy to use site is a treasure trove of records and helpful hints. You also may want to try Genforum. com, a site that allows people to post information and ask questions about specific family surnames. It is a great way to network with distant relatives. It is important that you always record the source of your information as you do your research. If you ever need to go back and verify information, you will know exactly where to look. There is nothing more frustrating than finding a promising lead and then forget-

ting where you found it. Being organized and keeping good records are a must! Also, be aware that some early records might not be written in English and that the spelling of names may vary or change over time. Tracing your family history can be challenging. False leads, dead-ends, lost or destroyed records are all part of the adventure. Also, be cautious of the “family legend.” Contrary to popular belief, not everyone had an ancestor that fought in the Civil War or had a relative that was part Native American. Researching your family history is also very rewarding. While not everyone’s ancestor was a signer of the Declaration of Independence, it is important to remember that they lived during those amazing times. They had hopes and dreams just like you and through their hard work and effort, they helped create the world you know today. Now that you know the WHAT, WHERE and HOW of family genealogy, it is time for you to begin your fascinating journey into the past so that you can pass this amazing legacy on to future generations.

Bart Stump is from York, PA and has been teaching history for 20 years. He loves getting his students addicted to genealogy and sharing his research with family. He has written for Country Magazine, The Numismatist, When & Where, and Pennsylvania Magazine.

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An Irish Christmas

November 25-26 at Harris Center for the Arts As seen on PBS and on Stage One of the Harris Center, where the show has become an established part of the holiday season in Folsom. This celebration of Christmas in Ireland, with plenty of Irish soul, offers superb music-making, dance and singing of Christmas carols, all led by an award-winning cast of Irish dancers, in a night that sparkles with life. 608-6888 | www.HarrisCenter.net

Cats

November 4-27 at 24th Street Theatre Based on T. S. Eliot’s Old Possum’s Book of Practical Cats, this mega hit show is set amongst a larger-than-life junkyard playground and is alive with your favorite feline characters. The Jellicle Cats come out to play on one special night of the year—the night of the Jellicle Ball. One by one they tell their stories for the amusement of Old Deuteronomy, their wise and benevolent leader, who must choose one of the Cats to ascend to The Heaviside Layer and be reborn into a whole new Jellicle life. 207-1226 | www.RunawayStage.com

Disney on Ice: Passport to Adventure

The Sleeping Beauty

Saturday & Sunday through November 20 at Sacramento City College Storytime Theatre of Sacramento City College proudly presents The Sleeping Beauty adapted and directed by Doug Lawson. This production was inspired by Sacramento City College’s 100 year anniversity! 558-2174 | www.CityTheatre.net

Toruk: The First Flight

November 30-December 4 at Golden 1 Center Inspired by James Cameron’s “Avatar,” “TORUK: The First Flight” transports you to the world of Pandora in a visually stunning live setting. Experience a storytelling odyssey through a new world of imagination, discovery, and possibility. 888-915-4647 | www.Golden1Center.com

November 3-6 at Golden 1 Center Join Mickey Mouse, Minnie Mouse, Donald, Goofy and Daisy on a journey to the timeless worlds of Disney’s “The Lion King,” “The Little Mermaid,” “Peter Pan,” and “Frozen.” Upbeat music, lovable characters and unforgettable moments make “Disney On Ice: Passport to Adventure” an experience your family will cherish forever! 928-0000 | www.Golden1Center.com

Wizard of Oz

I Ought to be in Pictures

November 4-20 at Harris Center for the Arts With its spirited defense of lives lived for sheer joy rather than for achievement, ambition, financial gain, or rank, this 1936 Pulitzer Prize winning play proved an escapist tonic in the midst of the Great Depression. The prototype for countless comedies about wacky families blithely out of step with the world around them, this giddy romp is a perennial favorite. 608-6888 | www.HarrisCenter.net

November 2-December 11 at Sacramento Theatre Company This comedy-drama follows struggling screenwriter Herb, who abandoned his family 16 years earlier, and his daughter, Libby, who travels to Hollywood to convince her father to give her the acting career she wants. Libby confronts Herb with the trials and responsibilities of parenthood and forces him to come to terms with his girlfriend, Steffy. In this play, Neil Simon’s unique brand of humor touches the heart, as well as the funny bone. 443-6722 | www.SacTheatre.org

Robin Hood

November 19-December 25 at B Street Theatre An original retelling of the classic hero of Sherwood Forest. Four actors bring to life the story of Robin Hood and his merry men as they steal from the rich to give to the poor. This action packed adaptation features sword-play, chivalry and plenty of laughs. Recommended for ages 6 and up. 443-5300 | www.BStreetTheatre.org

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November 4-20 at Harris Center for the Arts Join Dorothy, the Scarecrow, the Tinman, the Cowardly Lion, and Toto as they travel the universe of Dorothy’s imagination. Songs include: “Over The Rainbow,” “Munchkinland (Ding Dong! The Witch Is Dead),” “If I Only Had A Brain, If I Only Had A Heart, If I Only Had The Nerve,” “We’re Off To See The Wizard (Follow The Yellow Brick Road),” “The Jitterbug,” and “The Merry Old Land of OZ.” 608-6888 | www.HarrisCenter.net

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All phone numbers are area code (916) unless otherwise noted A Bit of the Best Exhibit Through November 15 at Shimo Center for the Arts Embrace the beauty of 11 well-known Sacramento artists. Each of them will present four pieces of mixed media work ranging in oil, charcoal, ink, ceramics, etc. The subjects of these pieces represent each artist’s area of expertise. 706-1162 | www.ShimoGallery.com

December 27th-30th 9am-5pm (before care and after care provided)

A Show of Force Now through February 26, 2017 at Crocker Art Museum Internationally recognized for his iconic figurative and modernist sculptures featuring Native American people and themes, Allan Capron Haozous (1914–1994) became known to the world as Allan Houser. He is widely considered the most influential Native American artist in modern times. 808-1182 | www.CrockerArtMuseum.org For more information, contact:

Form Lore Exhibit Through November 17 at Beatnik Studios This fall, Beatnik Studios features work by Bryan Valenzuela, Brian Shea, and Rora Blue. Check out the unique work of all three artists! 400-4281 | www.Beatnik-Studios.com

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Patterns of Endurance Through December 2 at C.N. Gorman Museum “Patterns of Endurance” features works from Kahutoi Te Kanawa, Donna Campbell, LisaNa Red Bear, and Tawhanga Nopera. Threads of memory and stories connect people to many spaces, imbued in the patterns of continuity from mind, body, and spirit. (530) 762-6567 | www.GormanMuseum.ucdavis.edu Power of the People: Voting in California Through November 13 at California Museum This exhibit surveys the evolution of how Californians vote, from paper ballots used in the 1850s to a computer-based prototype of the future, while examining historic elections and the changing ways campaigns get their messages across. www.CaliforniaMuseum.org/voting-california Reuniting the Masters: European Drawings from West Coast Collections November 13-February 5 at Crocker Art Museum This innovative exhibition reunites European drawings that have traveled across centuries and continents to different modern collections on the West Coast. By coincidence or by design, drawings by the same artist, for the same project, and even from the same sketchbook, have made their way separately to the West Coast. 808-1182 | www.CrockerArtMuseum.org Visions Photography Show November 1-20 at Sacramento Fine Arts Center Visions is Sacramento Fine Arts Center’s 17th annual open juried photography show. The show will be judged by Dan Herrera and Jim Trapp. 971-3713 | www.SacFineArts.org

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Thanks a Lot! Cultivating Gratitude in Children By Heather Lee Leap

If you’re feeling like your kids may need a little reminder, or just hoping to start them off right when it comes to appreciating the big… or little things in life—read on to find some fresh ways to instill thankfulness in little ones. Kids learn through modeling and repetition, and gratitude is no exception. The more often your children see or hear you showing thanks, the more seeds you plant in their garden of appreciation.

we do, an upward comparison that can breed dissatisfaction, Froh and Bono suggest we bring our attention, and that of our children, toward friends and family whose plans haven’t worked out as they’d hoped. These types of downward comparisons encourage empathy. With that empathy, comes greater appreciation for the things we have. Kids also begin to see that everyone has a different perspective, and that their circumstances could spark envy in others.

In the book, “Making Grateful Kids: The Science of Building Character,” Jeffrey J. Froh and Giacomo Bono note that young children first practice thankfulness as politeness, rather than genuine gratitude (that comes when they are old enough to appreciate why others are offering them kindness).

Basket of Thanks Keep a basket or other container in a prominent place in your home, along with index cards and pens or colored pencils. Encourage family members to stop by and write a quick note of thanks for people, pets and things in your home throughout the day.

The words please and thank you are building blocks of gratitude and for many of us they come easily when our children are learning to talk. If your kids are a bit older though, take a day to observe your interactions, not just with your children, but with everyone you speak with. How often do you use the “magic words?”

Thank You Cards Writing thank you notes cultivates thoughtfulness and gratitude, and can become a regular habit. Author and mom, Sage Cohen writes and sends thank you cards daily.

Here are a few activities you can practice, too. Roses and Thorns Sometimes called simply “Highs and Lows,” is a practice where each participant shares one positive thing and one negative thing that happened during the day. Consider offering “roses” last, to end on a positive note or up your gratitude game by taking time as a family to consider what good may have come from the “thorns.” Don’t forget to express thanks for the people with whom you can share these highs and lows. Five Pennies…or beads or small stones Have your child think of five things he or she is grateful for and allow each small treasure to represent one of those things. Keep them in a special spot or precious container, or take them to school in a pocket as a reminder throughout the day. Encourage Empathy Rather than lamenting how everyone else has it better than

“My son is very aware of my gratitude practice,” she says. “In my household, writing thank you notes is like brushing your teeth, going to bed on time, and being gentle with the cats. It’s both modeled and required, but in a friendly and integrated way. It’s just a rhythm of life that we co-create and enjoy together.” Rather than an occasional obligation, thank you notes can be an opportunity for family members to talk regularly about what and who they appreciate, as well as a time to consider what our words of thanks mean to the recipient. Gratitude Journal Help your children keep a daily list of people and things for which they are grateful. Spending time to write or draw things we appreciate focuses our attention on them in a way that can magnify their value. Entries can be a simple drawing or more detailed written entries such as, “I am thankful for…because…” As a parent, in any season, you can plant seeds of appreciation and watch gratitude grow in your life, and in the lives of your children.

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A Holiday Tradition

THE NUTCRACKER presented by Placer Theatre Ballet Join Clara as she travels to the magical kingdom of sweets! Combining the most recognizable ballet score by Pyotr Tchaikovsky with captivating choreography, you won't want to miss this magical holiday tradition. www.PlacerTheatreBallet.org

DEC 10-23

THE NUTCRACKER presented by Ron Cunningham’s Sacramento Ballet A true holiday spectacular! Be captivated by Sacramento’s crown jewel of family entertainment with Clara’s magic journey through the sparkling Snowflake Forest to the delicious Land of the Sweets. www.SacBallet.org

DEC 10-17

THE NUTCRACKER presented by Capitol Ballet Company Join Clara and the Capitol Ballet Company on a tasteful journey of sweets and treats! Capitol Ballet Company brings the beauty and artistry of ballet to a diverse audience of art lovers. www.CapitolBallet.com

DEC 15-18

THE NUTCRACKER presented by Pamela Hayes Classical Ballet Returning to the Harris Center, this is a Holiday tradition you won’t want to miss! Infusing fantasy with wonderful choreography and stunning costumes this is feast for the eyes. www.DanceBallet.com

DEC 17-18

CHRISTMAS ANGELS & NUTCRACKER SUITE presented by Crockett-Deane Ballet & Deane Dance Center This annual holiday performance is a one-act, family-friendly, narrated version of the familiar holiday story set to the beautiful music of Tchaikovsky. “Christmas Angels” tells the familiar story of Christmas set to traditional holiday carols. www.DeaneDanceCenter.com

DEC 22-24

THE NUTCRACKER STARRING YOUR COMMUNITY presented by Natalia Johnson Conservatory Watch a modern day twist to the classic Nutcracker Ballet! There will be tumbling candy canes, hip hopping rats, snowflakes, and rapping Uncle Dross from Oakland. www.GirlsSelfEsteemProgram.com

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