Hong Kong Living March 2021

FAMILY | PETS | LANTAU | DATING | GIN

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Keep your GIN up Meet Dimple Yuen, Hong Kong’s first female distiller

MAR 2021

Let’s take this outside The best alfresco restaurants

driven to succeed Meet eight female entrepreneurs making their mark on Hong Kong

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16 COVER STORY

Meet eight female entrepreneurs making their mark in Hong Kong

4 CONTRIBUTORS

15 LOCAL

6 PEOPLE

23 DINING

8 THE PLANNER

28 BIG DAY OUT

10 NEWS

30 MUST HAVES

Meet the team

Out and about in Central

What’s on in March

What’s happening in our backyard

32 HOROSCOPES

The revitalisation of Central Market

33 PETS

Dine alfresco at these restaurants

Dr Pauline Taylor answers your pet questions

A northern Lantau hiking adventure

35 HONG KONG DATING

All you need to be a boss lady

13 FIVE MINUTES WITH

Dimple Yuen, Hong Kong’s first female distiller

Here’s what’s written in the stars for you this month

Three reasons to walk away from a past (or present) relationship

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Nury Vittachi on what Google recommends

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“You must do the thing you think you cannot do.” ~ Eleanor Roosevelt

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EDITOR’S LETTER Every year when International Women’s Day (March 8) comes around, I am thrilled to see how far women have come in the corporate world.

From NASA planning an all-female space walk, to Kamala Harris taking a seat as the first female vice president of the United States. The past few years have been positive for women’s equality and we hope to reach even bigger milestones this year.

This month I was very fortunate to meet eight inspiring female business owners and entrepreneurs (page 16). Their passion and determination for change has helped Hong Kong’s corporate world become a more diverse place for aspiring entrepreneurs.

Speaking of making a mark, we sat down with Hong Kong’s first female distiller, Dimple Yuen this month (page 13) to discuss her successful gin, Two Moons Distillery. With multiple pop-ups around town last year, Yuen gives you a taste of what it’s all about.

Let us address the elephant in the room or should I say the Aston Martin on the cover. We are extremely excited to be working with the 107-yearold British brand as they introduce their first SUV style car and a VIP women in business networking party.

So sit down with a G&T and feel inspired, as we celebrate the women who make this city shine.

Editorial Editor-in-chief Nicole Slater, nicole@hongkongliving.com Contributing Editor Gemma Shaw, gemma@hongkongliving.com Editorial Assistant Cheyelene Fontanilla, cheyelene@hongkongliving.com Senior Writer Charmaine Ng, charmaine@hongkongliving.com Dining Editor Amber Lai, amber@hongkongliving.com

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Date nights

The recent lockdown has introduced an array of new hobbies to us, including embroidery. Stitch Sisters handmade kits make it easy, providing the materials, needles and instructions so all you need to do is get stuck in. stitchsister.co

Ovolo Hotels believe Valentine’s day should be everyday, so have released a forever Valentine’s staycation package. Couple’s can enjoy room upgrades, sweet treats, dining credit and more. ovolohotels.com

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Stitching it up

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CONTRIBUTORS

Dimple Yuen

Valentina Tudose

As Hong Kong’s first female distiller, Dimple Yuen has taken the gin world by storm. Since setting up Two Moons Distillery in 2017, Yuen’s spirit was the first gin from Hong Kong to win silver at the prestigious World Gin Awards 2020 London Dry Gin category. Read all about her story in our fives minutes with interview.

Certified relationship coach and clinical hypnotherapist Valentina Tudose, shares her advice on overcoming breakups in our monthly dating column.

Astor Chan After being diagnosed with cancer, Astor Chan left her job as a lawyer and went on to co-found fashion brand, May16. While the jump from legal professional to the fashion and beauty industry was challenging, Chan hasn’t looked back. Read about her journey in this month’s cover story.

Karin Bremer Dutch-Australian photographer Karin runs photography company Karin Bremer Photography offering a range of photography services including family portraits, events and commercial product services.

This month she shot our stunning cover with Aston Martin at Mont Rouge. karinbremer.com

Aston Martin DBX Mont Rouge The beautiful location for this month’s cover photoshoot is Mont Rouge. Located in Kowloon, the new luxury housing complex is surrounded by lush greenery and offers a modern and stylish living space for couples and families. themontrouge.com.hk

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The recently launched Aston Martin DBX is the first SUV style car for the 107-year-old British marque.

It provided the perfect luxurious backdrop for our eight glamorous cover stars in this month’s International Women’s Day cover.

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PEOPLE

Out and about in Central

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SNAPPED

Parent and Baby Awards afternoon tea

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PLANNER

Mark your calendars for these March events ranging from 800 metres to 3.2 kilometres. Central Harbourfront. 10am-6.30pm. Starts at $580. spartanrace.hk

MAR 14

Discovery Bay Sunday Market

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International Women’s Day A day to celebrate the social, economic, cultural and political achievements of women throughout history. Turn to our cover story on page 16 to read about eight female entrepreneurs making their mark on Hong Kong.

See What Lies Beneath Pop-Up Gallery This unique photo exhibition will depict the harrowing struggle of advanced breast cancer.

Aiming to raise awareness of genetic testing, this gallery is presented by the Hong Kong Breast Cancer Foundation. Jaffe Road, Causeway Bay. Times vary. Free. hkbcf.org

Seasonal Family Fun Morning

CMHK Hiking Festival Take on a 5G technology-integrated hiking challenge and have the chance to win exciting prizes including an iPhone 12 and Samsung Galaxy Note 20. Free. Location and times vary. wewalk.hk.

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International Women’s Day 2021 Virtual Lunch

Move for a good cause this month. Raise funds for the children of Bali Kids living with HIV/AIDS and for the children of Sunrise Cambodia. The virtual walk can be done from anywhere, as long as you register to track your steps. Donations from $250. angels-for-children.org.

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30-Hour Famine

MAR 20

UNTIL MAR 31

Active Angels Virtual Fundraising Walk

MAR 19-20

The annual famine event will take place virtually this year with a theme of Heated Hunger. All funds raised will go to support World Vision’s assistance projects for children and families in Zimbabwe, South Sudan and Somalia. 30hourfamine.org

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UNTIL MAR 28

Support local business owners at Handmade Hong Kong’s craft market. Artists, bakers, designers and makers will be selling bags, jewellery, home accessories, fine art and more! Discovery Bay Plaza. 11am-6pm. Free. handmadehongkong.com

Focused on women in film and other creative industries, The Women’s Foundation’s virtual lunch, Scripting Our Future - A Gender Equal Narrative, will feature industry experts, insightful speakers and their heartwarming stories.

12.30pm-1.45pm. Free. twfhk.org

MAR 6

Spartan Kids Race Let your kids smash through obstacle courses designed especially for children aged four to 14,

Take part in this family fun fair and enjoy Spring and Easter crafts, planting and breadmaking, topped off with a special puppet show. Highgate House School, the Peak. 9.30am-11am. $371. highgatehouse.edu.hk

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Sai Kung Magazine’s Pet-friendly Pop-up Shop for goodies, support local businesses and enjoy stunning views from Pets Central’s rooftop at Sai Kung Magazine’s first pet-friendly market. Proceeds will be donated to local dog charities Catherine’s Puppies and Sai Kung Stray Friends. 11-6pm. Free. Pets Central, Sai Kung. hongkongliving.com

MAR 26 & 27

OWN Future Fair Asia’s most innovative and diverse future exploration event, OWN is for students, educators, and parents from all over the globe.

Confirmed speakers are from Standard Chartered, Lane Crawford Group, South China Morning Post, Rosewood and more. Times vary. Free. ownacademy.co

WHAT’S ON

Book Now APR 2

fourth Harry Potter film, while the movie plays on a 40-foot screen. Star Hall, Kowloon Bay. 8pm. From $680. hkticketing.com

Good Friday Enjoy the long weekend and keep an eye out for the Easter bunny.

MAY 2

Wonder Woman Run

UNTIL APR 12

Hong Kong International Film Festival

UNTIL APR 4

Hong Kong Arts Festival If you love live theatre, classical piano, Western opera, and ballet, book your tickets for this fiveweek festival. Some performances will be online, while others will take place at various venues such as the Hong Kong City Hall Theatre in Central. From $170. hk.artsfestival.org

Enjoy one of the biggest and most respected film festivals in Asia, with an impressive lineup of 200 new, noteworthy films from 60 countries. Venues vary. From $55. hkiff.org.hk

Run like a hero in Hong Kong’s first Wonder Woman Run. Individual participants can choose between a 3, 5 or 10 kilometre course, while families can run together on the 3 kilometre course. A portion of the proceeds raised will be donated to Make-A-Wish Hong Kong. 7am-3pm. From $398. Hong Kong Science Park.

APR 21

Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire in Concert Watch the City Chamber Orchestra of Hong Kong perform the entire magical score of the

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NEWS

THE GROUNDS AT AIA VITALITY PARK RETURN The Central Harbourfront venue is a purpose-built outdoor events area designed for the Covid era.

Prior to the current restrictions being imposed, events including movie screenings, fitness classes and the Hong Kong Dining Awards were part of its offering. The outdoor entertainment hub offers 100 socially-distanced private pods, seating two to four people. A large LED screen and stateof-the-art sound system is also in place to give guests a true outdoor cinema experience. “It is our intention to extend this run of The Grounds until after Easter,” said Simon Wilson, managing director of Greater Bay Media Entertainment and organiser of The Grounds. That means that events, film screenings and other events will likely run until April 6. thegroundshk.com

STAR FERRY CONVERTED INTO LUXURY YACHT A classic Star Ferry, formerly known as Golden Star, has been converted into a luxury yacht.

The yacht, now named Dot, took 18 months to convert with a full-time project manager on board. Dot’s owner is passionate about keeping Hong Kong’s heritage alive. He retained some of the original workmanship from the Star Ferry, including its original teak deck and upstairs deckhead. But added floor to ceiling windows and a mezzanine level. Larger than most Hong Kong apartments, Dot is 6,000 square foot and includes four cabins with en suite bathrooms, a cinema room, office, living room, kitchen and alfresco dining area. The yacht is currently for sale in Tai Tam for $21 million as its owners relocate to Europe.

NEW SERVICED APARTMENT IN SAI YING PUN Weave Living, a rental accommodation brand with three establishments in Kowloon, has made its first foray on Hong Kong Island with the February debut of Weave Suites – Central West. Located in Sai Ying Pun, the new serviced apartment boasts 83 fully furnished and move-in ready homes, which feature refined design, functionality and flexible lease terms.

Weave Suites – Central West was designed in partnership with local agency DEFT and

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can be immediately distinguished by its giant windows and a signature dark green and cream palette. “We’re proud to present a fully furnished and refined home for urbanites on Hong Kong Island,” said Sachin Doshi, Founder and CEO of Weave Living. “We’ve worked diligently and thoughtfully to curate a living experience exuding comfort and convenience to complement the vitality of modern city life.” For more information, visit weave-living.com

IN YOUR BACKYARD

CATHAY PACIFIC CUTS MAJOR INTERNATIONAL FLIGHTS As of February 20, Cathay Pacific temporarily suspended a bulk of its flights to Australia, with Sydney now the last remaining destination for the Hong Kong carrier. Other international flights to be slashed include Auckland, San Francisco, Vancouver, Frankfurt, Amsterdam, Seoul, Kuala Lumpur and Ho Chi Minh City. Cathay said the Hong Kong SAR government’s latest

announcement over hotel quarantine was behind the moves. “Our Hong Kong-based pilots and cabin crew are required to undergo 14 days of hotel quarantine, plus seven days of medical surveillance when they return to Hong Kong,” the airline said in a statement. “We are actively managing our crew resources to plan for our flight services for March 2021.”

THE HONG KONG EDUCATION AWARDS education and its importance in the community. The results will be decided by an independent panel of education experts, academics and consultants covering the 2020 academic year. This year’s jury panel will be made up of experiened education experts from across the education sector.

Voting for the readers’ choice categories is open until May on our website. hongkongliving. com/education

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Hong Kong Living is proud to announce the launch of the Hong Kong Education Awards, a new initiative to celebrate the outstanding achievements of Hong Kong’s top international schools, principals, teachers and the wider education community. For the past six months, we have worked with teachers, consultants and education experts to put together a comprehensive program that reflects the changing nature of

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FIVE MINUTES WITH

Five Minutes with Dimple Yuen Nicole Slater meets Hong Kong’s first female distiller and co-founder of Two Moons Distillery Born and raised in Hong Kong, Dimple Yuen is the city’s first female gin distiller and co-founder of Two Moons Distillery.

Taking inspiration from her parents, who are successful entrepreneurs themselves, Yuen and her partner Ivan Chang set up the micro distillery in 2017 with a mission to showcase local flavours and put Hong Kong on the map.

The distillery, located in Chai Wan is home to Yuen’s pride and joy, Luna. Named after its moon shaped helmet, the stiller is one of the smallest in the world, producing just 100 bottles per batch. The custom-built copper machine took over a year to craft and offers a unique distillery experience. Her signature dry gin is made up of 12 botanicals, six of which are local flavours including Chinese apricot kernels and tangerine peels, in order to reflect her Hong Kong roots.

It’s hard to believe Yuen’s background is in programming. Her love for the spirit and determination to step outside the box compelled her to start her distillery journey.

“One of my biggest milestones was becoming the first gin from Hong Kong to win silver at the prestigious World Gin Awards 2020 London Dry Gin category,” says Yuen. The win came as a result of a two year long journey working with relevant government parties to acquire all the necessary licenses, equipment and know-hows to establish a gin distillery in Hong Kong.

“As challenging as it was, the entire experience was rewardingly worthwhile and definitely one of the proudest goals I’ve ever achieved,” says Yuen.

Although gin production is still rather niche in the city, Yuen finds that Hong Kong is a great starting point for anyone to achieve their dreams and encourages others to take the first step. “This city is full of people naturally equipped with the city’s ‘can-do spirit’ and the competitive landscape gives rise to new ideas and exciting inspiration.”

While the past year has been a challenge Yuen has shown us that determination, grit and hard work can really pay off. “My parents once told me: if you can solve the problem, there is no need for worrying. At the same time, if you cannot solve the problem, then what is the use of worrying? This piece of advice was one that I carried with me during my entrepreneurial endeavors this past year and it has quickly become one of my favorite sayings to date.” twomoonsdistillery.com

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From Historic Market to a ‘Playground for All’ Cheyelene Fontanilla reports on the revitalisation of Central Market

Before

After

Picture a building steeped in history, its walls having withstood the test of time, its floors having carried generations of Hongkongers, its doors shut for years. If you frequent Central, then you’ve probably walked through the old building that is Central Market – and it’s likely you’re thinking that introduction was a tad grand considering the structure as we know it today.

Back when it was established in 1939, the market had 255 stalls and an open atrium. Fast forward to today and the most we’ve seen of it since 2003 is the section that connects to the Soho/Mid-levels escalators. In the years that have followed, several ideas to transform the market have been proposed, including the addition of a swimming pool.

Now, the historic Central Market has taken a big step towards reopening after the Urban Renewal Authority handed management of the project to Chinachem Group. Noble Vantage, its subsidiary, will run the project and transform the three-storey site into a ‘vibrant, bustling place’ where people meet, socialise, shop and eat.

Branded a “Playground for All”, the first phase of operation will start during the third quarter

of this year. The market will maintain its original structure, with plans to tap into its historical relevance. Creating a place that embodies the old Hong Kong’s sense of community, the new design is set to embrace the hustle and bustle of the city while providing a haven for people from all walks of life to gather and connect.

Chinachem executive director and CEO Donald Choi said the group’s plan involves more than simply building a new shopping mall. “We want to make full use of the building’s heritage, legacy and collective memory,” says Choi. “We believe that the project can not only unveil the history of the past, but actually showcase and lead the future.” This new, grand endeavour falls in line with Chinachem Group’s recent repositioning to create “Places with Heart”, as the revived Central Market will reportedly not only serve as an oasis in the center of the city, but as a hub focused on supporting local brands and startups.

Between 2009 and 2011, a Community Advisory Committee was put together to extensively survey the public in order to gauge what people wanted for the future of

the landmark. As a result, the ground floor toilets that face Queens’ Road Central will be demolished and replaced with a new entrance plaza, decked with seating, garden features, and more. It appears that the people have spoken, and plans are finally underway to bring the public’s vision to life.

1939

1989 Renovations begin to form part of the Soho/ Mid-levels Escalators.

Lifts and public toilets are added. The face of Central Market facing Des Voeux Road is demolished.

2003 Central Market closes.

Four storeys are built in the Central Market’s current location.

Designed in the Streamline Moderne style of that time, it opens with 255 stalls.

1994 A section of the Central Market, the starting point of the Soho Escalators, is turned into a mini shopping arcade.

2009 Central Market is handed over to the Urban Renewal Authority and removed from the Land Application list.

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Tanya Pakhomova Founder of iPedicure and My Perfect Body Hong Kong

Ellie Bradley Founder and creative director of Atelier Lane Interior Design Named after her small Victorian cottage on a tiny laneway in Sydney, Ellie Bradley founded Atelier Lane Interior Design in 2008 and has designed residential and commercial spaces ever since. She manages everything across the board, from project managing to briefing and even overseeing progress on a construction site (which she had to do after our glamorous photoshoot). She does it all while being a doting mother, wife, sister and daughter.

Starting a business has always been the goal for Bradley.

Growing up, her father ran his own successful company for over 30 years, which inspired her to follow in his footsteps.

“Anything else just wouldn’t have felt satisfying. I paid my dues and established my career working for other businesses and learning the ropes. My goal was always to create something that I could call my own and leave my mark.”

While Bradley’s determination and passion for design has aided her way up the ladder of success, her career hasn’t always been

smooth sailing. “In the early years there was definitely a glass ceiling to break through to get the same opportunities and chances as men, to prove oneself and progress. I like to think that the perception that women aren’t as capable as men, has been firmly disproven now,” says Bradley.

While Bradley has faced many challenges getting to the position she’s in now, she believes that these formative experiences have helped her become tougher.

Since opening her Hong Kong office four years ago, Bradley has had the opportunity to meet and work with many success entrepreneurs in the city. “There are so many talented, driven and successful women here.

Ironically, I think that it is partly down to them having to go the extra mile to overcome obstacles and consequently achieve much more,” she says. atelierlane.com

Tanya Pakhomova started her career in the fashion industry, modeling for designer brands in Paris before moving to Hong Kong in 2010.

“I had a successful modelling career, I walked for many famous brands, but after visiting Hong Kong I decided to try something different,” she says.

After two years of living and working in the city, the Ukraine native spotted a gap in the beauty market and decided to open her beauty salon, My Perfect Body.

“I always dreamt of owning my own business, but I didn’t know where to start. After constantly giving my husband business ideas he said, just do it, don’t wait for the perfect moment.”

The professional beauty centre offers a range of unique treatments using new technology.

These include anti-cellulite, postnatal body, slimming and deep detox treatments.

With a team of 15 employees, Pakhomova is very hands on with her business and spends most of her days training staff, scheduling meetings and organizing the day’s events, all while making time for her three children.

“Finding a good work/life balance has been my biggest challenge. We still live in a society

where people think that mother’s should spend more time with children. It was hard not to feel guilty about being a working mum,” says Pakhomova.

Over the past few years, Pakhomova has been able to improve her balance, learning to work smarter rather than harder. While there are still some challenging days, she now leaves her work at the door. “When I’m at home, my family gets my attention first. I take time on the weekends to do things for myself and ensure that I regenerate before the work week begins.”

While Pakhomova hasn’t faced many challenges as a female in the beauty industry, starting her entrepreneurial journey at a young age instilled in her a need to prove herself. But she has surpassed many people’s expectations and continues to prove herself with her exceptional work ethic and dedication. mypb.com.hk What’s the best advice you’ve ever received?

If I followed any advice given to me, I probably would have never become an entrepreneur. I am always ready to learn, however the last decision is always my own responsibility.

What advice would you give to the next generation of female leaders?

If someone says it’s impossible, do it yourself.

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Blanche Koo Co-founder of May16

Smita More Certified Ayurvedic Practitioner, Energy Healer and Yoga therapist Having started her healing journey nine years ago, Smita More has earned an array of qualifications and titles including Certified Ayurveda Wellness Practitioner, Energy Medicine Healer, Yoga Therapist and Marama Therapist.

Using ancient teachings, More provides her clients with holistic methods to nurture, revitalise and rejuvenate the body, mind and spirit. Over the years she has helped hundreds of people recover from a range of mental and physical issues including kidney problems and depression.

With clients based in Hong Kong and around the world, including American and Canada, most of her days are scheduled around different time zones, guiding her clients over Zoom and other online platforms.

Having lived in Hong Kong for over 28 years, More has a deep understanding of the city’s work culture from her many locally based clients. “Women are expected to cope with work, socialise and look a certain way.

This can be very overwhelming, but unfortunately there is still a

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stigma attached to seeking help,” says More.

While her industry differs from many others, More has always received a positive response from both men and women throughout her career, but knows others are not so lucky. “I have heard through friends and other women in the corporate world that there is a gender gap. The main comment I’ve heard is that women have to work twice as hard to be recognized for the same work,” she says. While it is difficult not to get frustrated by this, More strongly recommends her clients not to take this personally or let it knock down their own self worth. “Women are leaders and leadership comes from hard work.

Believe in yourself, stand your ground and listen to your inner voice.” smitamore.com What advice would you give to the next generation of female leaders?

Be self reliant and independent, get a good education and know that you are just as good as anyone around you.

Working as a qualified solicitor specialising in litigation and intellectual property for over 20 years, Blanche Koo has always had a hidden passion for fashion and design. When her friend and business partner, Astor Chan reached out about starting an online fashion business, May16, Koo jumped at the opportunity.

She takes inspiration from her mother who also had a career in fashion design. “When I was young she taught me about different fabrics and materials, watching her sketch designs was eye-opening,” she says.

While Koo never envisioned herself as a business owner before, she has taken on the role of co-founder well, hosting team meetings and organising live broadcasts to showcase the brand’s clothing and other products. “It was not only about how I saw myself, it was about how other people saw me. My passion for fashion, recognition and encouragement from friends helped me realise that I should take on the challenge,” says Koo. As a strong believer in power dressing, Koo advises women to,

“dress in a style that does not only make you pretty and confident, but really reflects the position you have achieved or are working towards.” Whether that includes a well tailored pant suit or dress with matching accessories, she believes it can impose a powerful statement. “When we dress well and feel good on the outside, we are more likely to feel good on the inside, which boosts our attitude and self confidence,” she says.

Koo has had a very positive experience as a female entrepreneur in Hong Kong and is assured that women’s place in this city’s corporate world is only becoming more heightened.

“Many women in Hong Kong are taking the initiative to build their own community and support each other. This is the motto for May16, to build a community which helps women of all ages to look best, stay pretty and confident,” says Koo. What advice would you give to the next generation of female leaders?

Never give up on your passions or ideas. Execution is key.

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Elaine Shiu Hong Kong outstanding young entrepreneur

Astor Chan Co-founder of May16 As a well-known Asia Legal Expert lawyer and founder of her own legal consulting company, Astor Chan’s work ethic is admirable. But after working every day for over a year, Chan began to suffer from severe hair loss and was diagnosed with cancer. “Stress was definitely the key issue in my sickness, I insisted on having two days off every week after that,” says Chan.

Five years ago, at the age of 40, Chan decided to change direction and do something she was passionate about. “It was a big move to transform from a legal professional to the fashion and beauty industry,” she says.

Now as co-founder of fashion retailer May16, Chan takes care of the strategic and marketing management for the company, as well as its social media presence and interaction with customers.

After five years of hard work, Chan has built a reliable customer base, consisting mostly of professional ladies.

“During my time in the legal profession, I noticed there was unconscious bias between women and men in the industry,” she says.

“I attended a meeting with my male

assistant in Kuala Lumpur. When we arrived, the CEO greeted my assistant immediately and asked his secretary to serve my assistant tea and ignored me.”

Chan now makes a conscious effort to get her voice out there and be a more caring and compassionate business owner. “As a female leader, I am empathetic and a great listener, I care about people.

This helps me to build a close relationship with my colleagues and my customers.”

While Chan believes fashion and power dressing can pay a key part in boosting your self confidence, she thinks the most important element you can bring to the workplace is charisma. “Be confident when you speak, smile, stand and even walk.

Be energetic in the workplace. Be a caring person. All these elements will make you more attractive and powerful,” says Chan.

Born and raised in Hong Kong, Elaine Shiu’s entrepreneurial journey started early.

As chair of the Women in Society Association (WISA) at The Hang Seng University of Hong Kong, Shiu is a strong supporter of women in business.

The programme aims to bring together interested and likeminded women to help nurture their talent and provide guidance for developing their careers.

Using her platform, Shiu hopes to inspire more women to follow their dreams.

Throughout her many career opportunities, Shiu has faced some challenging moments, especially during her time in the fashion industry. “I joined an international fashion show with my brand in Vietnam. A buyer was interested in the brand and made an appointment with us.

Once he found out the company

was run by a female, he turned the meeting down. Eventually he ended up signing a contract with us, but it took months of effort,” she says.

While she strongly believes that Hong Kong is ahead of its time for women in business, there is still a stigma surrounding it in Chinese culture. “In our culture it’s normal for a lot of women to put their family first and give up their dream, but it is possible to find a balance for both family and business.”

Following her next business venture, Shiu is taking on the pet technology business and is ready to create new roles for women in the male-dominated industry.

What advice would you give to female business owners?

Empowered women empower women.

What advice would you give to the next generation of female leaders?

Even though people may use the word bossy to describe a lady who speaks up, we should continue to because we have brilliant ideas.

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Tayma Page Allies Founder and jewellery designer, TAYMA Fine Jewellery

Tracy Ho Founder & Managing Director of Frame & Fame Personal Branding Before founding Frame & Fame Personal Branding, many of Tracy Ho’s entrepreneurial friends advised her: “Be prepared for a rollercoaster ride.”

Ho had never imagined herself running a business before, but when her previous role as a corporate communication consultant and its round-the-clock work started to take a toll on her health, she decided to step back. “I felt stuck. I felt lost. Then, I hired myself a career coach to guide me to review what I achieved and where I envisioned myself in the long run,” says Ho. She wanted to take on a career where she could unleash her creativity, build relationships and develop people’s potential.

With encouragement and advice from her friends in the entrepreneur community, Ho decided to take on the challenge.

Ho believes everyone has a personal brand, whether they like it or not, but encourages her clients to think strategically and take charge of it. “Nowadays it is even more important for women to be aware and take charge of their personal brand for their career and life goals.

While we are living in 2021, there are still many old-fashioned beliefs in society that women need to face and combat,” she says.

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While Ho hasn’t personally experienced any difficulties as a woman in the industry, she has helped many women overcome this barrier. “Women are often required to pay extra efforts than their male counterparts, to assert themselves to get the income and respect they deserve.” Although Ho has a good mix of female and male clients, she states that a majority of female leaders come to her for executive presence coaching. “Through this coaching we work with these ladies in a one-on-one setting, to build stronger inner confidence, showcase their authenticity, speak with power and exert a greater influence in their workplace.” While she is more than happy to guide these leaders, Ho still believes Hong Kong can do better in terms of gender equality, “supporting ladies who are pregnant or those who need to take care of young children while running a business. More mother-friendly regulations and facilities would also be helpful,” she says.

What advice would you give to the next generation of female leaders?

Don’t undermine your potential.

Pave your path early instead of waiting for others to grant you permission to do so.

Growing up in the Caribbean and Africa, and having made Hong Kong her home, Tayma Page Allies embodies the international woman.

Her entrepreneurial side kicked in when she first began teaching English in Lagos, Nigeria. Her business earnt her enough money to purchase a car and put herself through a postgraduate course at Warwick University.

Following an eye-opening trip to Beijing in 1985, Page Allies gambled on her sense of adventure and the “can do” attitude of Hong Kong.

Instead of returning to London, she took a chance on Hong Kong, and hasn’t looked back since.

After three years’ organising fashion shows in China, she founded her own jewellery brand TAYMA Fine Jewellery, in 1991. Page Allies started off small in an atelier in Lan Kwai Fong, but soon expanded to a boutique in the Landmark Prince’s Building, rubbing shoulders with Cartier and Chanel. “I knew then that I’d made it,” she laughs.

Celebrating TAYMA Fine Jewellery’s 30th Anniversary this year, Page Allies has enjoyed positive relationships and friendships

within the jewellery industry. “I’ve been lucky to meet some amazing women in the industry, and we all understand the hard work involved to make a business successful.”

However, “I’d say that many men underestimate entrepreneurial women, that’s certainly one of the negative experiences I’ve had.”

During her 30 years in the jewellery industry, Page Allies states that every day has been different.

“It’s never boring. Some days I’m researching a lecture or designing a new collection and then a client will pop in and the day takes a different turn. However, I can’t do anything without my cup of tea!”

While Hong Kong’s work and social scene can be demanding, Page Allies always makes time for her two Persian cats, Flossie and Coco, sitting down with one of her many books and unwinding after a long day of gems and jewellery.

What’s your best piece of advice?

You are your own best customer.

Treat people as you would like to be treated and remember that reputation and integrity are key.

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Dining

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Soak up the sun As spring kicks in Amber Lai dines alfresco at these popular restaurants Louise This French inspired restaurant is nestled in the gardens of PMQ with a welcoming chic yet colonial style. Its weekday set lunch offers starters including scallops carpaccio and duck foie gras. Choose your main from options including braised line caught fish, smoked beef tenderloin or Laurent Berrurier vegetables with black truffle.

Both sweet and savoury desserts are available with a selection of artisan French cheeses or a pastry from its daily selection. louise.hk

The Peak Lookout Potentially one of the highest alfresco dining

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options in Hong Kong, the Peak Lookout is nestled in the green gardens of The Peak. Sit under the trees and soak in the atmosphere for a relaxing dining experience. With dishes from all over the world including curry, salads and burgers there are options for every palette. epicurean.com.hk

Lounge Hakuba Transport yourself to a ski lodge themed bar with high ceilings and wooden panels. Lounge Hakuba serves up a fusion menu putting a spin on classic dishes such as carbonara udon and portobello orzo. It’s large, open

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Popinjays

extravagant Sunday brunch with free-flow options including Sangria and various alcoholic beverages. larambla.hk

Terrible Baby This contemporary bar overlooks the neighbourhood of Jordan and has a retro and uplifting atmosphere. Pair one of its signature cocktails with spicy fried chicken, double truffle fries or a platter of cold cuts and cheeses to share with a friend. Larger dishes include a beef or an Impossible patty burger, squid ink linguine and a spiced chicken wrap. terriblebaby.com

Popinjays Located in The Murray, Popinjays is home to a wraparound terrace and is a social concept based on the local parrots from the nearby botanical gardens. The contemporary restaurant serves European cuisine with lunch, afternoon tea and brunch menus. Indulge in luxury seafood, cold cuts and cheeses before choosing a main that takes your fancy. niccolohotels.com

Arcane This blissful, tropical oasis is home to one

Michelin star restaurant, Arcane which features seasonal produce from Japan, France and England. The lush greenery goes one step further by growing over 30 different herbs, fruit and vegetables in its fresh kitchen garden, to feature in the menu. Some stand out dishes include a Japanese fruit tomato, sauteed potato gnocchi and braised wagyu short rib. arcane.hk

Between Coffee The coffee shop aims to be a communal space that appreciates art and life. Taking inspiration from its surroundings, Between Coffee shows its own culture of art and design. Sit on its outdoor balcony and look over the heritage site of Tai Kwun. Choose between a range of sweet or savoury sando flavours or bigger dishes like a Hokkaido uni tagliatelle or chicken katsu teishoku set. between.coffee

Duddell’s The iconic Hong Kong restaurant provides a tranquil escape surrounded by green trees and potted plants in the middle of Central. Dine on Michelin star dim sum with classic dishes and Duddell’s own signature shrimp dumpling. duddells.co

terrace is a hidden gem nestled in between the skyscrapers of Causeway bay.

La Rambla This Spanish inspired restaurant is set in IFC mall with sweeping views of Hong Kong’s skyline. Try traditional Catalan cuisine and daily market specials or sip happy hour cocktails on the outdoor terrace.

The welcoming venue is also host to an

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Dining news Get meaty

Partnering with Mortlach Single Malt Scotch whisky, Grand Hyatt Steakhouse has curated a special menu, Meats with the Beast, available until March 28. Signature dishes from the steakhouse have been specially chosen by head chef, Marc Benoke, to match the meaty and daring flavour of Mortlach. Start with 48-month Bellotta Iberico Jamon served with sourdough before exploring three pairings of dishes with whisky. Whisky reinvents the traditional sweet dessert, sticky date pudding.The Meats with the Beast is available a la carte or as a full pairing menu for $1,600 per person. hyatt.com

Cookies by the dozen International Women’s Day menu Two Michelin-star restaurant, Écriture has curated a tasting menu to celebrate International Women’s Day on March 8. Chef de Cuisine, Heloise Fischbach, led the army to create the exclusive five-course lunch and seven-course dinner. Dishes include a

butternut cuttlefish black truffle and Blanc de Blanc Aveyron lamb. For those with a sweet tooth, Tia Cheung, chef de partie, takes inspiration from classic French desserts where guests can indulge in her modern interpretation of rice and honey. ecriture.squarespace.com

The popular cookie brand, Cookie Vission, opened its first brick and mortar store in Tai Hang last month. Known for its 150g cookies, the brand serves up classic and fun combinations including chocolate peanut butter and Vietnamese coffee on its ever-changing menu. The shop always offers ice-cream cookie sandwiches and homemade hot chocolate for those who really want to indulge. cookievission.com

Dine & Dram Cabana Breeze Tung Chung is now home to a new alfresco tiki-inspired restaurant and bar, Cabana Breeze. The relaxed restaurant is led

by Morocccan executive chef, Faycal El Mouhahid, a love for seafood and Mediterranean flavours is showcased in the all-day dining menu. From fresh pizzas baked in a woodstone oven to seafood towers and a

whole slow-roasted suckling pig, there is an impressive array of flavours and ingredients from around the world. No tiki bar is complete without a fun cocktail culture, custom-built gin and rum trolleys and a skilled mixology team are ready to shake drinks tailored to your preferences. Try the HomeKong Sling that whips up Bénédictine D.O.M with citrus fruits for a tangy and refreshing cocktail.

Whiskey connoisseurs commence for The Ritz Carlton Hong Kong’s latest dining experience, An Evening of Dine & Dram. Located in The Lounge & Bar, guests can sample Japanese whiskey’s from the popular brand Nikka Whisky, through a unique cocktailpairing dinner experience. Each cocktail will be prepared by seasoned bartender, Sky Huo and a Spirits Alchemist of Nikka Whisky throughout the three-course dinner. ritzcarlton.com

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BIG DAY OUT

A northern Lantau hiking adventure Rory Mackay explores Fa Peng Teng and its surroundings

Once remote and untouched, Lantau Island as a whole is anything but nowadays. Since the construction of Chek Lap Kok Airport, the island has become a major transport hub and commuter base. Many of us pass through the northern reaches of Lantau on a regular basis, but most overlook this region for outdoor pursuits as it is not part of any country park.

Known instead as a hotspot for infrastructure; namely the Lantau Link, Disneyland and Sunny Bay. Despite all the construction of recent decades, the area still possesses some surprisingly secluded areas, peppered

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with nature walks and stunning viewpoints to accompany them.

There is a fantastic short to mid-length loop walk that navigates hilltops and coastlines, offering a contrast of vistas. The basic loop described here is around seven kilometers in length, so allow anything between two to four hours to complete it depending on your pace.

It is perfectly feasible to complete this route in a clockwise direction, but the anticlockwise adventure makes for the best experience and simplest navigation in my opinion. No matter which direction you decide to go, you’re

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guaranteed a peaceful retreat from city life and a dose of fresh air.

The simplest way to reach these trails is by taking a bus rather than a train or by car, as this enables one to disembark at the Lantau Link Toll Plaza bus stop. If travelling by MTR or car,

then the option exists to begin from Sunny Bay or Disneyland and access the route via alternate trails running over Tai Yam Teng Peak or up Mong Tung Hang Valley.

Not far from the Toll Plaza, there is a reasonably visible set of concrete stairs which begin through thick foliage and quickly rise into scrubland vegetation. This section of footpath is direct and will propel you towards the summit of Fa Peng Teng promptly. En route, take a few stops to catch your breath and turn back to enjoy the emerging views of the Kap Shui Mun Bridge and open waters to the north (you’ll know you’re near the top when you pass a small building).

Without being too high at 273 meters, Fa Peng Teng commands prominence over its surrounds providing fantastic views in all directions. At this point, if wishing to do this hike as more of a family friendly option, then it is probably best to spend more time up top enjoying the views before simply returning back the way you came. Otherwise, carry on as there is plenty more to come.

Not far from the summit, jutting out of the hillside is Fa Ping Rock, renowned for its apparently striking resemblance of a flower vase. From there descend towards the other side of Lantau and a small beach, once at the coastline keep an eye out for a discreet turning to the left which then heads along the coast.

This last section of this trail in many ways, is my favorite, wrapping all the way around the top of Lantau back to the start point giving plenty of open vistas in the process. Please be sure to come prepared with plenty of water and some food as there are no facilities.

For the more adventurous folk out there; this basic loop can be extended in a variety of ways by following the hilltop trails southwards towards Discovery Bay, Mui Wo and beyond.

A hike in Northern Lantau serves as a perfect excuse to drive over now the Lantau Link is toll free. Northern Lantau is such an incredible part of Hong Kong to explore. Any adventure here will leave you with a bunch of great memories and a sound night’s sleep.

If you wish to stop and take in views of the Tsing Ma Bridge, without hiking, the Lantau Link Visitor Center over on the neighboring island of Tsing Yi is worth a visit. The center can be reached by public transport via the 308M minibus from Tsing Yi MTR, taxi or by car.

Rory Mackay runs adventure company Wild Hong Kong. For more details visit wildhongkong.com

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Written in the stars Letao Wang, The Kingdom Healer shares his insights on what the stars hold for you this month AQUARIUS Your work team is going to need a reorganisation, Aquarius. You will feel the need to update the way you manage and interact with your colleagues. The planetary energies will help you change your approach and create more innovative goals. Don’t hold on to outdated ideas, but listen to what other generations have to offer.

TAURUS If you were thinking of embarking on a new project, this is the ideal time. The astral alignment encourages you to bring out your entrepreneurial spirit. Your passionate nature will help you find the right people to help you, however be careful not to make too many demands on yourself.

LEO Your artistic talents are going to be highlighted during this time, Leo. Your sensitivity will bring you in contact with subtle worlds, which will result in beautiful works of art. Let yourself be carried away by inspiration and show the world the reflection of your beautiful soul.

SCORPIO This will be a period of many work challenges and your endurance will be tested in unexpected ways. You will have a very high production capacity and secure your finances for a long time. However, be careful of turning work into an obsession, Scorpio. Your personal life can deteriorate if your attention is solely on your career.

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PISCES Your agenda will likely be full for a while and you will need to do several things at the same time to finish all your commitments. Try not to forget to rest from time to time. These moments will help you recharge your batteries to continue with your hectic life.

GEMINI Your imagination will be more active than ever, Gemini. The planetary configuration will open your third eye and help you contact other realities.

Don’t be surprised if you feel more sensitive than usual, a great channel of awareness is opening up in your heart. Be careful not to be scattered in your ideas, be clear and precise when describing your intentions to others.

VIRGO The path to success may be very different from the one you had in mind. You may feel an internal contradiction and the need to look for dubious shortcuts. However try to be consistent with your actions and avoid falling into temptations, they will only bring you more problems.

SAGITTARIUS Social activities are highly encouraged at this time, Sagittarius. Everything that has to do with your friends will take on great relevance and bring much joy to your heart. Organize get-togethers and take the time to visit old companions. You will be the life of the party at every social gathering.

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ARIES You will have a great facility to overcome obstacles, Aries. Your spontaneity and dynamism will help you overcome any problem that comes your way. You will lead projects that will bring you many rewards. Enjoy the results of your efforts and celebrate every step of the way.

CANCER Life will bring you many surprises this month, Cancer. Living in the moment and adapting to new things will be a great lesson to learn.

If something in your life doesn’t make sense anymore, you need to let it go. Planetary energies encourage you to leave the past behind and focus on the future.

LIBRA A new romantic adventure will change your perspective on life. Passion will come knocking on your door again, so the expression of sensuality and the enjoyment of intimate pleasures will be especially important. Bring out all the fire you have and leave nothing inside, Libra.

CAPRICORN Different choices can make you doubt whether you’re doing the right thing, Capricorn.

However, try not to lose focus and keep persevering in what you know is the right thing to do. Reorganize work teams according to proposed goals and don’t let outside opinions discourage you.

PETS

Ask a vet...

Dr Pauline Taylor answers your pet questions

My dog growls whenever people walk near my house. How can I get her to calm down?

Without knowing more about your home

environment the first thing I would suggest is to block off the sight of people walking nearby. This may mean installing a cover over a balcony so your dog cannot see out or stop your dog getting access to a window viewpoint.

Anxiety about the unknown is most likely the cause of the defensive growling you describe. In some cases, seeing moving things including birds, other animals, as well as people from a window, causes frustration in pets, which in turn can build up and lead to abnormal behaviour in other ways. For example, chewing the skin for no apparent reason. So, despite us thinking it’s nice to let a pet look outdoors we could be causing the problem ourselves.

If it is a sound that triggers the growling that is more difficult to control and usually people want their dogs to growl and alert us should an unwelcome visitor be nearby. When you respond to your dog when she growls, she is achieving her goal by getting your attention which is what most dogs want in their watchdog role.

Since downgrading my house, my cat doesn’t wash herself as regularly and seems a bit dirty, should I be worried?

I am concerned the downgraded house is a red herring. I would like to suggest that leading up to the downgrade you were busy and perhaps did not pay sufficient daily attention to your cat.

As soon as the move was over, and you began to settle in, having much more time around your cat opened your eyes to some things you had

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With work from home less frequent now, how can I prepare my dog for me not being around so often?

Reorganise your schedule and do not make it the same every day. Dogs like routine and very quickly settle into certain time slots for food, walks, sleep and playtime. By alternating these you will alter their normal daily routine. Normally this is not something we want, but separation anxiety in dogs may lead to many other problem behaviours. These include barking, home destruction and indoor soiling, all behaviours we want to prevent starting.

Barking when owners are gone is one of the main reasons for pet abandonment according to many welfare shelter-groups. If your dog is used to you leaving by car, leave your car keys out of her earshot when you pick them up to go, change the times you go and instead of saying goodbye leave quietly by a back door. Another trick is to arrange some food toys or treats and give them as your pre parting gift that she soon begins to associate with a nice reward when you are not around.

It is important your dog’s daily needs are met. Arrange some extra walks and playtime for her even during your absence. Hopefully, things will be fine and soon your dog will have a ‘new normal’ routine without you around all day.

Dr Pauline, Pets Central veterinarian missed before in your previous home. I think the party is over, the move and downgrade done and it’s time for your cat to have a complete clinical wellness exam from your vet. Brushing her yourself can help rather than washing her but is unlikely to be the long-term solution.

I’m considering taking my pet on one of those pet staycations. What is your opinion about them?

I admit I have not tried one myself but knowing my own dogs I think they would have fun with an interesting new experience away from home.

Imagine all the enriching noises they would hear, sights to see, smells to take in and special foods to taste. In addition, instead of the same day to day home routine they would get a change of pace. They could travel to the place looking out the vehicle windows, check in and inspect the staff, walk around in the foyer checking for messages left by other dogs, journey in a lift with other hotel guests surprised seeing a dog in a 5 star hotel lift space, then find the correct door for the room, and busily check out all parts of the room and test the holiday bed. I reckon my dogs would have a ball if they were with me and/or family. I do not think most dogs would be overwhelmed at all, but it does depend a lot on your own pet. However, the result may end up with the human getting overwhelmed thinking they were in for a short holiday when instead they ended up exhausted by excited dogs having a ball. If you are happy with your role in a staycation with your dog, I would say give it a go! However, you do not say your pet is a dog, I do not think cats in general would do so well.

Being much more independent and set in their ways with a dislike to travel. I certainly know my cats would hide and even wail, may not eat and generally be miserable in a hotel. Other small pocket pets would probably be fine in their own cages, with their own food they like.

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DATING

It’s not you, it’s me Valentina Tudose shares three reasons for walking away from a past (or present) relationship amount of commitment you each put into the relationship or simply how you’re supposed to deal with money, are clear indications the time has come to move on and find a new life. Make a list of the things you used to like that turned into reasons for conflict.

Emotional distance: “We don’t have any meaningful conversations anymore”

Breakups are one of the most painful experiences we can have in our lifetime, apparently second only to losing a loved one. People often feel the end came out of nowhere, at least for the person who’s getting the bad news.

But does it really? When you have the courage to really look back without attachment, you find the signs were there all along.

If you’ve been dealing with a breakup that took you by surprise, whether recent or at any point in your past and you are still unable to understand why it all had to end, read on to learn what red flags you might have noticed, if you only cared to look hard enough.

One or more of the answers are clear signs your relationship had possibly outlived its purpose and it was high time you moved on. The sooner you understand and learn to accept these as the real reason you are no longer in that relationship, the easier it will be for you to put it all behind you and start a new life. Were (are) any of these signs present in your relationship and what could you have done about it?

Constant conflict: “All we did was fight”

What people normally describe as lack of communication, it often has much deeper roots and a more powerful impact. When every interaction with your partner is so superficial that you no longer learn anything new about each other, your relationship has moved to a completely different level. If your partner has ceased to react to your ideas, concerns, interests and they are so disconnected from your life that they could be a complete stranger, you simply share a house with, things are likely to be beyond hope. Learn from that and be mindful to constantly nurture your connection to avoid coming to this point again.

By now, I am sure you have identified at least one if not more signs that things were not headed in the right direction for your past (or even present) relationship. These signs will help you feel less like the breakup came out of nowhere and allow you to move on and open your heart to new love.

When the only shared experience you have as a couple is fighting, things are not looking good. The right kind of arguments are often contributing to the growth of a relationship, as issues are being identified and resolved in a positive manner. However, when things get really bad, merely being in your partner’s presence is nothing but a reason to express your deep anger and disappointment at not having your needs met. If no amount of negotiation has led to an answer, you know it’s time to get out. If your fights never found a solution to the problem, you were just delaying the inevitable.

Growing apart: “We no longer had anything in common” This issue occurs when things you used to share have become the very reasons you disagree.

Relationships are there to help us grow but when each partner grows in a different direction, the writing is on the wall. Different expectations when it comes to the time you spend together, the

Valentina Tudose is a relationship coach and founder of Happy Ever After and ambassador for YVEREST. For more information visit happyeverafter.asia

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So you think you know me Nury Vittachi on what Google recommends The future of advertising has arrived. And it stinks. The week before writing this, a friend looked up “Covid deaths” on Google and received an instant survey about shopping for Covid deaths. Not everything is about shopping, Google.

Or maybe it is. A friend who got married was soon badgered by an algorithm which basically said, “We see you had a wedding, here are other weddings you can buy.”

I once looked up “Hannah Montana” on the Internet to answer a query from a young reader about Miley Cyrus’s earlier work.

A note popped up on the Google results screen: “Meet girls who look like Hannah Montana on the Shek Pai Wan Resettlement Estate” Huh? How come blonde starlets in glittery clothes are hanging out in such an odd-sounding place? I asked my colleague Eddie, a tech writer, to comment and he said: “These days, computers work out exactly where you are and point you to stuff you’d like in your neighbourhood.”

How incredibly clever. Or at least it would have been if it hadn’t tried to send me to a place which sounded like a refugee camp in Darfur.

It was nearly lunchtime and I still had Google up so I did a search for eating places, typing in “Sri Lankan food”. A new message popped up: “Find hot new restaurants, bars and nightclubs at the Shek Pai Wan Resettlement Estate.”

Clearly this odd-sounding district was the happening place. Not only was it crawling with international rock babes, but you could get a decent curry there. Google Maps showed that it was round the back of Aberdeen on the south side of Hong Kong Island.

The next time I was visiting friends in that district, I took a look. It turned out to be a suspiciously dull lane with trees on one side and crumbly municipal buildings on the other.

There were no Miley Cyrus lookalikes anywhere to be seen. In fact, the youngest women there appeared to be in their early nineties. There were not a lot of blondes. In fact, no one seemed to have much hair of any color, especially the women.

And the phrase “restaurants, bars and nightclubs” turned out to be a slight exaggeration.

There was a hole-in-the-wall shop selling boxed tea and adult diapers. But I assume there is some sort of giant internet exchange underground,

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which is why Google thinks Hong Kong computer users all live there.

That night, I shared this tragic experience with my mentor/bartender. He told me that targeted recommendations were notoriously inaccurate. We agreed that YouTube recommendations were the most annoying. This writer has no hair but regularly gets hair product videos at the top of the recommendations list. They stay there for weeks, even if I type “baldie” into the search bar every morning.

After I watched David Bowie and Queen videos, my advertising feed changed to “Gay Cruises” for almost three weeks.

My laptop was in my bag, so we decided to experiment. The bartender typed in a request on Amazon to buy a “shaver for men with hairy backs”.

He was shown several shavers, plus an on-screen list of recommended products that the Amazon computer decided that a hairy-backed person like him would like to have. It said he also needed (and this is not a joke, you can try this yourself) a construction worker’s hard hat, a 10-pack of Neapolitan ice cream, a deluxe rat trap and a video called “Girls Gone Wild 2: Best Breasts Ever”.

I laughed at the absurdity of the recommendations made. But his eyes widened and he looked amazingly guilty. Hey, you know what? Perhaps they do work sometimes.

Nury Vittachi is an award-winning author and journalist based in Hong Kong. He is best known for his comedy-crime novel series, The Feng Shui Detective. Contact him via nury@vittachi.com or through his public Facebook page.

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