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Uncovering Health Issues in Your Child While Straightening Teeth Without Braces Every Child, Every Advantage Start Early –Don’t Wait Nightmares • Snoring • Bed Wetting • Difficulty in School • ADD/ADHD Chroonic Allergies • Restless Sleep • Dark Circles Under Eyes • Mouth Breathing Daytime Drowsiness • Sleep Issues • Defiance/Aggression Healthy Start Case: Overjet
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First Kid Vs. Third Kid First child eats grass, parent calls doctor. Third child eats grass, parent doesn’t bother making vegetables for dinner. Mother’s Day Craft: Footprint Art With little effort on your little one’s part, an adult can help baby make a lasting keepsake for mom (and older kids can do it, too).
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SUMMER READING LIST Keep on learning this summer with suggested books from San Joaquin County Office of Education teachers.
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COMMON CORE MYTH BUSTERS Sort of the facts from fiction with answers compiled using input from experts at San Joaquin County Office of Education.
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Day Trippers: Old Sacramento Just a short jaunt from San Joaquin County, Old Sacramento is full of family-friendly attractions.
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Swim Safety Six simple steps for a safer summer.
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FIRST KID versus THIRD KID BY NORA HESTON TARTE
“Well my first child I didn’t want to leave her with anyone but by the third child it was like, ‘Calgon, take me away please.’” –Debra Berkland When my son was one year old, we went to a birthday party for an older cousin. In attendance was a child who was about the same age. It was nice to have a playmate there, and I couldn’t help but stare at how the dad interacted with his little girl. I watched him throw her up in the air, completing a half spin before he caught her backside and brought her back down before promptly doing it again. She leaned forward and licked his beer. He laughed. I was mouth agape. Was this normal dad behavior? No, it was normal third kid behavior. For while our children were the same age, the biggest difference between their upbringings was that my son was a first child, and this little girl was a third.
First baby, you keep everything—toys, clothes, locks of hair—third baby, you just keep the baby. First child eats grass, parent calls doctor. Third child eats grass, parent doesn’t bother making vegetables for dinner.
“With my first child everything was scheduled, timed, matched, and organized. My third child… HE wore pink often.”–Melissa Wyman
MOTHER’S DAY CRAFT: Footprint Art BY NORA HESTON TARTE
Handmade gifts from little ones are a perfect pick for Mother’s Day, but finding crafts suitable for all ages can be tough. Older kids have lots of materials available for at-home art projects, but when it comes to infants and young toddlers it’s best to go with a classic: footprint art. With little effort on your little one’s part, an adult can help baby make a lasting keepsake for mom (and older kids can do it, too). MATERIALS: Non-toxic paint (color of choice) Alphabet stencil Pen or pencil (use color if you prefer) White canvas Other art supplies (optional)
STEP 1: Dip both of baby’s feet in a non-toxic paint of your choosing (finger paints work great). Be careful to place their feet at an angle to create a heart shape while avoiding any unnecessary movement from your infant (this is the tricky part!) Luckily, it’s easier to manipulate a tiny foot than a hand. STEP 2: Use alphabet stencils to write out the following phrase “I love you Mommy from the top of my head to the tips of my toes.” STEP 3: Let dry. STEP 4: (optional) Let older kids decorate the rest of the canvas as they see fit, using stickers, glitter, markers, etc. STEP 5: Give to Mom.
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BOOK nook
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Selections made by Sunelle Simpenderfer—a thirdgrade teacher at Venture Academy Family of Schools, Ventureland.
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Recommended Reading Little House on the Prairie, by Laura Ingalls Wilder
BY NORA HESTON TARTE
Twenty is the magic number. Outside of class time, most experts recommend (at least) 20 minutes of reading each day. In fact, reading 20 minutes per day has been linked to larger vocabularies and better test scores. Keep it going over summer with suggested books from San Joaquin County Office of Education teachers.
“This is a fun read for kids to learn about ‘Valley Days,’ which is our third grade’s big field trip each ear.”
Modern Pick: Absolutely Almost, by Lisa Graff
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Selections made by Karen Dukes, a teacher at Adams Preschool in Stockton and part of Head Start San Joaquin. Recommended Reading Last Stop on Market Street, by Matt De La Pena
A contemporary tale about finding yourself and what you love. “We are currently reading it and [it] is really fun for the kids, very relative to their ‘world.” Personal Recommendation I Survived series, by Lauren Tarshis
A grandma teaches her grandson to be thankful for what he has. “I chose this book because many of the children can relate to having to ride the bus and not having the things their friends have...”
Modern Pick The Pigeon Needs a Bath! by Mo Willems A book about bath time. “Children can relate to this story because, for young children, ‘who really wants to take a bath?’”
Personal Recommendation The Rainbow Fish, by Marcus Pfisher Lessons for little ones about sharing and making friends.
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Historical fiction told from the perspective of boys who survived real-life disasters.
MIDDLE-HIGH SCHOOL: Selections made by Gina Mickley, who teaches grades 7-12 at one.Chartville.
Recommended Reading: Red Badge of Courage, by Stephen Crane Set during the American Civil War, a young private flees the field of battle and then faces his cowardice. “It addresses so many issues young students experience like decision making, self-awareness and reflection, and ultimately taking responsibility.” Modern Pick: Buried Onions, by Gary Soto The protagonist struggles to overcome his past and change his path, while making startling observations about those around him. “I felt… connections being made to the story. My students would actually ask to read!” Personal Recommendation: Kindred, by Octavia E. Butler Time travel is used to explore the commonly accepted atrocities of slavery and how it impacted modern history.
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DAY TRIPPERS:
Old Sacramento BY NORA HESTON TARTE
As the weather warms, families trek north on all-day excursions to immerse themselves in culture, history, and the great outdoors. Just a short jaunt from San Joaquin County, Old Sacramento is full of family-friendly attractions. So many, in fact, a couple hours in this neighboring city just won’t do. Instead, make it a day trip with several historic stops. 2PM – Burn some of those well-worthit calories with a stroll. The shops laid out on cobblestone paths are primed with props for families who want to have a laugh. There are apparel options like clever t-shirts at Old Sac Shirts & Gifts, 1104 2nd St., and colorful socks suitable for everyone at Sock City, 123 K St. However, the real gems hide inside the specialty shops and toy stores, where kids will clamor to try new inventions at G. Willikers Toy Emporium, 1113 Front St. TIP: Pick up knick-knacks, funny books, and silly gifts at Evangeline’s Costume Mansion, 113 K St.
10AM – Start your day at the California State Railroad Museum, 125 I St., (open 10 AM -5 PM), and traipse across 225,000 square feet of exhibit space to learn about railroad history in California and the West. In addition to restored railroad cars and locomotives, enthusiastic docents add character to the historically driven exhibit. Don’t forget to book a train ride. Starting April 2, weekend excursion rides take guests along the Sacramento Southern Railroad. Other public rides run Tuesdays in March and April. Ride Cost: Free for ages 5 and under, $6-15 for youths, and $12-20 for adults. Admission: Free for ages 5 and under, $5 for youths, and $10 for adults. TIP: Plan to stay for more than 90 minutes? Park in the garage on I Street. 1PM - Head deeper into “Old Sac” for lunch at a local eatery. You can continue the railroad theme at Railroad Fish & Chips, 1100 Front St. #100, a casual spot with outdoor seating near the waterfront. Or, grab a sandwich at Old Town Smokehouse, 1100 Front St. #140, nearby. TIP: Sit outside.
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3PM – Enjoy scenic Sacramento views as you cruise the Sacramento River on the Hornblower (departs from L Street Dock). The one-hour ride is a historypacked journey narrated by the Captain. Cost: $20 per person. Snacks: Cash only. TIP: Schedule varies so plan ahead, (www.hornblower. com). 4:15 PM – Treat yourself and the kids to something sweet. Danny’s Mini Donuts, 900 2nd St., was voted the best of Sacramento. Sprinkled and sugared confections are aplenty, but root beer floats, banana splits and ice cream cones also reign superior. TIP: Order everything and share. This is where most families may call it quits. But, if you’re itching for more adventure, make one last stop before you pack it in. 5PM - Eat dinner at the Delta King, a floating hotel and restaurant that boasts live onboard entertainment. Here, families can explore the history of river travel between Sacramento and San Francisco on the restored vessel.
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swim SAFETY Six Simple Steps for a Safer Summer BY NORA HESTON TARTE
When it comes to swimming, the motto is safety first! Children are naturally drawn to water, and they often don’t understand the possibility for danger. To them, it’s just a fun, warm-weather activity (and it should be!) but as an adult your job is to teach safe swimming practices. Follow the steps below before you dive in. Safety first! Encourage safety both in and around the swimming pool. Start with an age appropriate conversation about how to act near a pool, lake, ocean, or other body of water. Remind children to never swim alone and to always ask an adult’s permission before they get in the water. If they are older, explain what can happen if they don’t follow the rules. For younger children, keep a watchful eye and employ safety measures such as proper locks and gates around swimming areas. Always discourage running on wet areas and roughhousing that could lead to injury.
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Sign up for swim lessons. Knowing how to swim is the best way to remain safe near the water. Many swim centers teach young children how to roll on their backs and get to the edge of the pool where they can climb out in the very first stages of formal swim lessons. Kids of all ages should know what to do in an emergency. Watch where you swim. When venturing beyond the backyard, make sure swimming areas are safe. It’s not advised to swim in areas without an on-duty lifeguard. Currents, storms, and
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other dangers can put even an experienced swimmer in danger. If you’re on a beach after hours, or one where a lifeguard isn’t present, stay out of the water. Pay attention to temperature. If the water or weather outside is too cold swimming can be dangerous. Body temperature drops quicker in water than on land and most people consider anything below 70 degrees to feel chilly. Muscle cramps and shivering can indicate it’s time to take a break from the water. For small children, purple lips may also signal a need to get out and warm up. On the other hand, hot weather can be a problem, too. Make sure swimmers stay hydrated. Swimming, like all exercise, can cause the body to lose fluids. And don’t forget to spread on the sunscreen. Sunlight reflecting off of water can lead to painful burns. Be present. It’s easy to get caught up in conversing at a neighborhood barbecue or co-chaperoning a kid’s swim party, but it’s important that someone is always keeping an eye on the pool. Create shifts if necessary so that one adult (or several) is always on pool duty. Ger certified. It’s important to know CPR, and to know when to call 9-1-1. Get certified at a local class. Hopefully it’s knowledge you’ll never have to use, but it could save a life if you do. TAKE LESSONS: BEAR CREEK AQUATICS 10555 Thornton Rd. Stockton, (209) 482-1938 BearCreekAquatics.com
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FAMILY finds
COMMON CORE BY NORA HESTON TARTE & ZACHARY JOHNSON
Answers compiled using input from experts at SJCOE Educational Services including: Assistant Superintendent Jane Steinkamp, STEM Director Kirk Brown, Assessment Projects Director Kristin Condit, Language and Literacy Director Karin Linn-Nieves, LCAP Director Lisa Pettis, and Mathematics Director Satinder Singh.
Common Core math is harder than the math we’re used to.
Experts at SJCOE say no. In fact, it is just the contrary. The “traditional” way of teaching math often comes across as dull, boring, and difficult. So, instead of presenting math to students as a set of rules and procedures to be memorized and followed, common core focuses on treating math like an experiment. It is meant to combat the “I’m just not good at math” perception many students suffer from. The new standards for math ask students to mess around with problems to create more individualized solutions based on guidance from the teacher instead of following a set formula or procedure that asks them to learn math one way. Using this method lets kids explore the equations and think in a more flexible way, interpreting the problems so they make sense to them. As a result, many strategies emerge and children are allowed to use the one that fits the way they learn as an individual. This results in a much deeper understanding of the concepts, a more accessible math for children, a confidence in the ability to do math, and a developing notion that math is easy, fun, and (possibly) enjoyable.
Common Core does not accommodate the way my child learns.
For generations, educators have approached teaching under the popular misconception that children come to them not knowing anything. To align with this, everything was taught in a stepby-step fashion. According to research, students start school with a vast amount of intuitive understanding that teachers should be capitalizing on, creating opportunities for them to further develop ideas and concepts to create learning that is multifold. If given the chance, children have the ability to come to their own conclusions and not only solve a problem but effectively communicate their thought process and even debate their way of thinking, defending the process they have formed or accepting that a peer has found a better approach. This premise makes the material more accessible and exciting for all learners.
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Common Core focuses too heavily on nonfiction reading.
Common Core asks for an increase in the amount of non-fiction reading required at each grade level, with a steady incline from kindergarten to high school. There is, however, a sound reason. To get children ready for college and careers, it is very important that they can successfully navigate through many different kinds of text. Most reading in a postsecondary education or career field is informational, not fictional. English classes will still teach fiction works, as well.
Teachers do not believe Common Core standards are a positive change for our students.
The educators at SJCOE say those
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who work with the new standards are excited about the new methods, and some even cite a renewed love of teaching, as students get excited about learning. At SJCOE, teachers who work with the new standards typically say Common Core is headed in the right direction.
Common Core dumbs down curriculum for students in California.
As common core levels the playing field across America, some parents fear top-performing areas will be held back in order to find middle ground. However, SJCOE educators assure parents that new standards ask students to do more than ever before. Instead of focusing on memorizing and repeating content, common core requires students to apply what they learn and know to demonstrate a much higher level of understanding.
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Common Core is unnecessary. There was no indication that a change was needed.
In order to encourage students to make informed choices, critical thinking must be taught. A major component of the new standards are to teach students how to think critically. This approach focuses on creating a globally competitive population for 21st century America. With common core, the curriculum is designed to prepare students for careers that require advanced mathematics. Kindergarten through 12th grade children are counting on educators to prepare them for the future and close the equity gaps to allow societal advancement.
Common Core is too heavily focused on testing.
At SJCOE, there has not been an increase in testing with the adoption and implementation of the new standards. In fact, fewer students and fewer grade levels are tested as a result of these standards. The statewide testing schedule that may be causing a perceived bump is the result of federal requirements and has nothing to do with the new standards.
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COLLEGE savings plans BY NORA HESTON TARTE
By the year 2030, college expenses are expected to rise about five percent due to inflation. That puts the estimated average U.S. tuition for an in-state, public, four-year university at $41,228. Out-of-state is estimated at $71,373 and a private college in the ballpark of $92,869*. That’s a lot of money! So how do you prepare? There are three popular types of education savings plans—the CollegeAmerica 529 plan, the Coverdell Education Savings Account, and custodial accounts (UGMA/ UTMA). So which plan is best? It all depends on your personal situation. Regardless of which account you choose, however, Dale Immekus, a financial advisor at Dedicated Financial & Insurance Services in Lodi, says what’s most important is that you start early. “The sooner the better… Time makes a big difference,” he says. “A lot of people don’t start thinking about college until they have children.” According to Dale, starting even before you have kids can help.
529
“I’m a big fan of the 529,” Dale says. “I think that is an awesome plan.” What makes it his most recommended? High limits and low taxes certainly help. Anyone—parents, grandparents, godparents, and friends— can contribute to this account, totaling up to $350,000 per beneficiary per year. It is funded with after-tax money and there are no taxes due on funds that are gifted to the account. There is, however, no deduction for contributions either. Money is tax deferred and invested as it grows.
Coverdell
While the 529 can only be used for college expenses, the Coverdell funds can be pulled out for K-12, as well. Earnings can grow free from federal tax (like the 529 plan), as well as other taxes, and withdrawals for qualified elementary, secondary, and higher education expenses are free from federal tax, as well. There is, however, a $2,000 annual cap, per beneficiary, on contributions for this account. Again, money is tax deferred and invested as it grows.
Custodial
With the custodial accounts, there are few restrictions, but the funds are not tax deferred. There are no limits in regard to contributions, meaning families can pour as much money as they like into the account each year, and the investment is also flexible, allowing asset transfers at any time (however there will almost always be a tax applied). Also, the funds are not educationspecific. They can be used as the beneficiary sees fit after they take control of the account. With the 529 and Coverdell plans, all money must be used for education purposes such as tuition, books and supplies, or room and board.
How Much to Contribute:
A financial adviser can help determine how much to put into an education fund each month. However, Dale warns against overspending on an education fund if you can’t truly afford it. “We differentiate between fundamental goals and lifestyle goals,” he says. “College is considered a lifestyle goal.” Funds should only be deposited into an education account when retirement, housing, and transportation needs have been met. Don’t forgo spending on retirement to fund a child’s education account, he warns. ASK AN EXPERT: DEDICATED FINANCIAL & INSURANCE SERVICES 1300 W. Lodi Ave., Ste. A1 Lodi, (209) 625-8755 DedicatedFinancialServices.net
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DITCH the mom BOD BY NORA HESTON TARTE
Are the pregnancy pounds still lingering two years postpartum? Have yoga pants become more of a wardrobe staple than an actual workout tool? Are you feeling complacent about your “I chase toddlers” exercise routine? It’s time to ditch the mom bod and embrace the old you—you know, the one that stepped on a treadmill every once in a while. When you’re short on time those five hours a week (okay, maybe three) you used to spend exercising is likely the first pastime to go. Between school drop-offs, play dates, and binge-watching shows on Netflix during your one hour and thirty eight minutes of freedom each night between the kids bedtime and your own, there’s just no time for a quick trip to the gym—especially if you have to find childcare. So instead of skipping the fitness routine altogether, switch it for a tot-friendly workout your little one can get into. I call it: toddler aerobics!
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Pick exercises that are kid-friendly. Jumping jacks, running in place, and hopping will all elevate your heart rate while simultaneously occupying your toddler. Win-win. For legs, try squats down a long hallway or across the backyard, leg lifts, and bicycles. “Baby lifts” are a favorite for arms (use your kid like a weight), as are pushups. Work the ab muscles and core with sit-ups (let your little one sit on your feet) and planks (step it up by asking them to climb on your back). Many tots will join in, while others may be more inclined to laugh at how silly you look. Either way, remind yourself this activity is for them, too (it’s hard doing anything 100 percent selfish) because leading by example will encourage them to exercise, too—not just now, but later in life.
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Set aside a chunk of time three to five days each week to complete your mini-routine. Shorter stretches twice a day (about 30 minutes each) may be more reasonable if your little one has the attention span of a fly. Turn on some music to get yourself amped!
Choose a range of movements to work each muscle group, plus a few cardio exercises. Keeping it varied not only works every part of your body, it ensures your little one won’t get bored. After all, the only way to get this done, is to make sure they’re entertained, too, right?
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MAY JUNE 2016
85TH ANNUAL MCKEE STUDENT ART CONTEST & EXHIBITION
FREE ADMISSION DAY AT THE HAGGIN MUSEUM
Calling all artists! Haggin Museum is hosting its 85th Annual McKee Student Art Contest & Exhibition, the longest running museum-sponsored art exhibition in the country. All schools in San Joaquin County—public, private, charter, parochial and home schools—receive invitations to submit artwork to the museum. The contest and exhibition gives students the freedom to create a variety of art in different media such as crayon, colored pencil, pastel, watercolor, oil and acrylic paint, photography, sculpture, collage and mixed-media. All of the art submitted by teachers is installed and routinely fills the Museum’s Tuleburg and West galleries from floor to ceiling. In addition to the traditional two- and three-dimensional selections, short digital films will be accepted for the fourth year. Artwork will be on display through May 8 during regular museum hours. 1201
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Let the races begin! The 3rd annual Ducky Derby (hosted by CAPC and the Stockton Police Department) is coming to McLeod Lake. Related festivities begin at 10 AM and the duck race will start at 1 PM. Each participant will have a number that corresponds to one of the rubber ducks, thousands of which will swim the watercourse at Weber Point. The first to cross the finish line will be crowned the winner. Bring a picnic lunch and spend the day. 221 N. Center St., Stockton (209) 965-7678 Capcducks.com
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CLEVER LEVERS AT HAGGIN MUSEUM
MAY 14
As part of the 2nd Saturdays for Families program at Haggin Museum, families with children ages 5-12 can gather to explore activities like art projects, interactive programs, and Museum-wide events. In May, the hands-on project will explore art and engineering while participants learn about kinetic energy. Space is available on a first come, first serve basis. Activity is included in regular museum admission and is available 1:30-3 PM. 1201 N. Pershing Ave., Stockton (209) 940-6300 Hagginmuseum.org
FESTA ITALIANA: A CELEBRATION OFEVERYTHING ITALIAN AT LODI GRAPE FESTIVAL GROUNDS
MAY 22
Embrace all things Italian at the family-friendly Festa Italiana! Held at the Lodi Grape Festival Grounds, the annual event focuses on food, music, games, and crafts. Children will enjoy the park-like setting and accompanying talent competition – Italian Idol. From 10:30 AM-6 PM. Tickets are $5 presale and $7 day of the event. Waterloo Gun & Bocce Club, 4343 N. Ashley Ln., Stockton (209) 9310323 Festa-italiana.com
LIL’ MUD RUNNER AT EAGAL LAKES
MAY 14-15
The Lil’ Mud Runner Kids’ Fun-Mud-Run is back! Run, duck, climb, slide, and crawl through obstacles on the muddiest 1-mile course you’ve ever seen—and the best part is you won’t get in trouble for getting dirty! There’s no limit to how many times you can complete the course. After the run, head to the kid’s carnival where participants can play games, win prizes, ride tubes around the lake, eat carnival food, and bounce in bounce houses! Parents can sit back and enjoy the music with a cold brew while kids play. 12 W. Lorenzen Rd., Tracy (209) 640-4252 Eagallakes.com
SEUSSICAL THE MUSICAL AT THE GRAND
MAY 20-22
The Tracy Repertory Theater presents Seussical the Musical, an on-stage adventure for the whole family based on classic Dr. Seuss books! Through mishaps and adventures, the characters find their place in the world in these inspiring tales. Tickets are $18 each. 715 Central Ave., Tracy 209-831-6858 Atthegrand.org
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MAY 21, JUNE 18
Join other shoppers at the STOCKMARKET; an indoor/outdoor curated market place featuring the best of Central Valley. Peruse locally made goods and food, as well as a variety of vintage vendors at the once-amonth event. Don’t forget to sample snacks and sips from food trucks and vendors while listening to music, making new friends, and soaking up the atmosphere! Open 10 AM-4 PM. Downtown Stockton, 630 E. Weber Ave., Stockton (209) 323-4389 Stockmarketca.com
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Pixie Woods is celebrating its 27th Annual Children & Youth Day with free admission 10 AM-3:30 PM. The day will be filled with Western-themed activities, games, and entertainment. Sponsored by Family Resource and Referral Center and the City of Stockton, Community Services Department. Louis Park, 3120 Monte Diablo Ave., Stockton (209) 461-2602
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LODI FOOD TRUCK MANIA AT HUTCHINS STREET SQUARE On the fourth Sunday of every month, Hutchins Street Square plays host to Food Truck Mania. In addition to a fleet of food trucks doling out delicious delicacies from both near and far, the event boasts live music and family-style fun. Hosted by the City of Lodi. 25 S. Hutchins St # A, Lodi (209) 333-6782
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NOT FORGOTTEN: MEMORIAL DAY WEEKEND IN MANTECA
MAY 29
In honor of Memorial Day and all of America’s fallen heroes, Manteca will host its annual Not Forgotten weekend event at Woodward Park, complete with entertainment, a 5K run/walk to benefit Wounded Warrior, a car show, fireworks and other activities to celebrate the nation’s heroes. Admission is free. Fireworks begin at 9:15 PM. 710 E. Woodward Ave., Manteca (209) 2898033 Thememorialweekend.org
25TH ANNUAL LODI LAKE YOUTH FISHING DERBY
JUNE 4
Children age 15 and younger can try their hand at fishing at the annual Lodi Lake event. Bring your pole and participate in a day-full of fishing and contests— there will even be a tank for kids age eight and younger. Prizes will be given for contests in each age group as well as raffle prizes. Grand prize will go to the largest fish pulled out of Lodi Lake during the competition. 230 W. Elm St., Lodi (209) 333-6742 Lodi.gov
SAN JOAQUIN BICYCLE COALITION LONG, SLOW DISTANCE RIDE
JUNE 4, JULY 2
Join the SJBC for a 10- or 30-mile ride through Lodi wine country, including a stop at Phillips Farms for snacks and refreshments. All riding levels are accommodated in this leisurely ride through the country roads. Participants under age 18 are required to wear helmets. Riders will meet at McNabb Street, north of Bear Creek High, 10555 Thornton Rd., Stockton, at 8 AM. (209) 969-3875 Sjbike.org
TEMPLE ISRAEL JEWISH FOOD FAIR
JUNE 5
Foodies unite! The Temple Israel Stockton will play host to this annual, all-day event, where members of the temple gather to prepare and serve traditional Jewish cuisine. Don’t miss live music, food, baked goods, dancing, and more. Paid admission is required. 5105 N. El Dorado St., Stockton (209) 477-9306 Templeisraelstockton.com
DELTAFUSION WORKSHOPS
JUNE 6-24
For three weeks, students age six and up are invited to join DeltaFusion’s summer workshops. Held at the University of the Pacific’s theater arts building, classes will include mask making, puppetry, movement, and storytelling. Classes for children age six to 12 run 1:30-3 PM, and those for kids ages 13 and up are held from 3:305:30 PM. 3601 Pacific Ave, Stockton (209) com
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JUNE 11
As part of the 2nd Saturdays for Families program at Haggin Museum, families with children ages 5-12 can gather to explore activities like art projects, interactive programs, and Museum-wide events. In June, participants will create and recreate sculptures using the force of magnetic attraction. Space is available on a first come, first serve basis. Activity is included in regular museum admission and is open 1:30-3 PM.
JUNE 15-19
Step right up to the San Joaquin County Fair! With live entertainment, a carnival, food, livestock, agriculture, exhibits and more, it’s sure to be fun for the whole family. Take a spin on the Ferris wheel, or grub on local eats. Tickets are free for children under age five, $5 for kids ages six to 12, and $10 for adults. Get an unlimited ride wristband for $30. Seniors, military, and students with ID pay $7. Hours vary. San Joaquin County Fairgrounds, 1658 S. Airport Way, Stockton (209) 466-5041 Sanjoaquinfairgrounds.com/fair
BACONFEST AT DELL’OSSO FAMILY FARM
JUNE 18-19
For the first time ever, Dell’Osso Family Farm is playing host to BACONFEST, a celebration of beer, bacon, and bands suitable for the whole family. Over father’s day weekend, attendees can participate in amateur bacon eating contests, sample small plates from local food spots, and be entertained by live music, pig races, pig costume contests, and more. Not to mention the Dell’Osso favorites including kid attractions and rides. Join the all-day fun 9 AM-8 PM Saturday and 9 AM-6 PM Sunday. One-day tickets are $12.50 for children ages six to 14, $25 for ages 15 and older, and free for kids under six. 26 Stewart Rd., Lathrop Baconfest.com
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FRIENDS OF THE FOX PRESENTS MARY POPPINS
JUNE 12
As part of its classic movies series, Mary Poppins will play at the Bob Hope Theater for families who want to relive this Disney favorite. Released in 1964, a magic nanny comes to work for a cold banker’s unhappy family. Showtime is at 2 PM. Art, wine, and snacks will be available starting at 1 PM. 242 E. Main St., Stockton (209) 373-1400 Stocktonlive.com
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JUNE 25
At the sixth annual event, children who enjoyed in the DeltaFusion summer workshops will participate in a pageant and festival at Victory Park that features giant puppets, original music, and scores of community performers from 5-7 PM. Enrollment in the free Haggin Museum’s Summer Art Workshop is required. 1201 N. Pershing Ave., Stockton (209) 940-6315 Deltafusionstockton.com
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Pride A cautionary tale BY NORA HESTON TARTE
As a parent, I think it’s impossible not to be (overly) proud of our tiny offspring. After all, every new milestone they hit is more than just an achievement for them, it’s a victory for mom and dad, as well, and two years old seems to be an especially busy time for little ones. They are potty training, transitioning to big boy and big girl beds, and learning how to ditch the little comforts that have consoled even their biggest tantrums for the previous two years (such as binkies and bottles). All of this while simultaneously learning shapes, colors, letters, and numbers. It’s a lot. Every time my son masters a new word or counts just a little bit higher, my heart swells with pride. I, like most parents, think my son is probably the smartest kid around, boasting to family and friends about his (honestly timeappropriate) life developments as if he has just secured an Olympic gold medal. We can’t help it, I swear. Thankfully, however, in the same moment two year olds make your heart grow three sizes, they can bring you crashing back to reality. They do it well, and they do it often. This week, in mommy and me soccer, my budding soccer star (who still prefers to use his hands and scream touchdown when he makes a goal; it’s okay, he can be the goalie), was a perfect angel for the entire 50-minute skills class, which is really saying something for a toddler who can’t make it through dinner without at least two meltdowns, three screaming sessions, and a fit of giggles. To say I was proud he managed to follow directions for the duration of class would be an understatement. We could have left class right then, never come back, and my son would have forever been remembered as the most well-behaved two-year-old to ever play soccer. But I didn’t. I missed my opportunity. I took his behavior for granted. And as he and his little teammates put their hands out for traditional end-of-
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class stickers, I was humbled. My son’s playmate—same age as him—took one look at the star-
shaped adornments on his hand and promptly exclaimed “Stars!” for all the mommies to hear. Then, as if that wasn’t enough, he began to count proudly “1, 2, 3 stars!” His mom yelled congrats, we all clapped and said “yay,” my son looked on in awe. And as he got his celebratory stickers—the ones that marked a job well done for the most perfect performance in a toddler class ever—he took one look at those brightly-colored stars, lifted his hand toward his
face, and ate them. Just like that, it had all come crashing down. It was not my first lesson in parental pride, and it will not be my last. I’ll still cherish every milestone, I’ll still gobble up compliments when they’re doled out (I’ll need those moments when he’s sprawled out on the floor, screaming because I cut his waffle wrong), and I’ll remember to cherish it while it lasts; because if my son has taught me anything, it’s that these prideful moments are fleeting.
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