Mufti ismail menk 1 nov2013 sariati 2

[ WORDS OF WISDOM] COMPILATION BY: SARIATI BINTI DALIB

Words Of Wisdom By Mufti Ismail Menk for my reference and self-motivation.

[ WORDS OF WISDOM] W1: When people refuse to spend in a good cause, perhaps their wealth is not fit enough to be accepted in that noble cause.

Wealth earned through impure means is mostly used to disunite, create problems, sickness, hatred & enmity.

The Almighty is pure & only accepts that which is pure.

May He forgive us & grant us purity in our sustenance. Aameen

W2: When we believe everything we hear, others can easily control us & we begin to lose track of good & bad, right & wrong.

Infact nowadays even seeing is not always believing. It can be photo shopped, staged or edited. Don't movies look so real?

W3.

When suffering in life, ask yourself, "Have I wronged a fellow human being in any way?"

Sometimes we suffer immensely due to having made others suffer, be it a worker, colleague, family member, scholar etc.

The same applies when we have wronged others by slander, backbiting, rumour spreading, gossiping, cheating, usurping of wealth, addressing inappropriately etc. ...

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W5: When the knowledgeable develop an arrogance, the goodness of their message is more likely to be lost.

Conveying the message of the Almighty requires much humility & forbearance.

It really hurts to see a person who is so well versed with what is right & wrong in all matters yet has no clue how to treat others or speak to them. ...

W6: Be prepared to adjust the dreams you have for your children because as they grow older their choices rewrite those dreams W7: Foolish is he who constantly works such long hours that he loses his spouse & children whilst claiming he did it for their sake.

Some people have such love for wealth that even after they are well to do, they never see the need to cut down & spend more time with their families.

Having at least a meal a day as a family or taking our own children to & from their school is a priceless gift which definitely pays back.

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[ WORDS OF WISDOM] W8: Not being offended when we are not congratulated upon our religious festive seasons by people of others faiths, is a sign of true coexistence, tolerance & understanding of freedom of religion.

When others congratulate us upon a religious festival that does not contradict their beliefs, it does not mean we must congratulate them when it contradicts our beliefs.

Eid Mubarak said by a non Muslim because it is acceptable in his faith does not imply that we should do what is unacceptable in ours.

Those who stand for freedom of religion will not compel or expect others to do anything against the core of their beliefs.

Sometimes we don't realise we are congratulating people for engaging in something against the core of our beliefs or insulting it.

To feel obliged to congratulate others for engaging in something against ones core belief is against freedom of conscience & religion.

W9: The following is from a friend. I found it interesting. Hope you do too.

"Marriage is a school where you get the certificate before you start.

A school where you will never graduate.

A school without a break or a free period.

A school where no one is allowed to drop out.

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[ WORDS OF WISDOM] A school which you will have to attend every day of your life.

A school where there is no sick leave or holidays.

A school founded by the Almighty: 1.On the foundation of love, 2.The walls made of trust, 3.The door made of acceptance, 4.The windows made of understanding.

5.The furniture made of blessings.

6.The roof made of faith.

Before you forget, you are just a student not the principal. The Almighty is the principal.

Even at times of a storm, don't be unwise and run outside.

Remember this school is the safest place to be.

Never go to sleep before completing your assignments for the day.

Never forget the C-word, communicate, communicate, communicate with your classmate and with the Principal.

If you find something in your classmate (spouse) that you do not appreciate, remember your classmate is also just a student not a graduate. The Almighty is not finished with him/her yet, so take it as a challenge and work on it together.

Do not forget to study, study, study the Noble Book (the main textbook in this school).

Start each day with a sacred assembly and end it the same way.

Sometimes you will feel like not attending class, yet you have to.

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[ WORDS OF WISDOM] When tempted to quit find the courage and continue.

Some tests and exams may be tough but remember the Principal knows how much you can bear.

Still, it is one of the best schools on earth; joy, peace and happiness accompany each lesson of the day.

Different subjects are offered in this school, yet love is the major subject.

After all the years of being theoretical about it, now you have a chance to practice it.

To be loved is a good thing, but to love is the greatest privilege of them all.

Marriage is a place of love, so love your spouse but remember: "This class doesn't involve a person who is not permitted into it"! If you invite your mother or father or your friends to this class, or anyone who is not allowed to be there, you will fail the exam.

It is you who should attend and it is you who will pass.

Its your choice today:" build it or break it".

May the Almighty bless us all. Aameen "

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[ WORDS OF WISDOM] The heart & mind are connected in an amazing way.

They are a very powerful gift of the Almighty through which He tests us.

To lead a happy life & ensure success in the hereafter too, we should never allow either of these to be controlled by others no matter who they are.

The only exception is revelation from the Almighty via His Messenger pbuh.

Many have regretted allowing others access to their hearts & minds.

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Spiritual progress should be continuous. For an aircraft to fly it must keep moving. The minute it stops, it drops.

W12: A sin could be your weakness, but to force your dependants to sin with you is a heinous crime.

A sin could be your weakness, but to be upset when your dependants choose not to sin with you is worse.

To force others to please you & ignore what pleases the Almighty is lack of spirituality.

Let's make mends.

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[ WORDS OF WISDOM] Call out to the Almighty Alone & He will meet your needs. His Help is very close & He is even closer.

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Call out to the Almighty Alone & He will meet your needs. His Help is very close & He is even closer.

W14: True faith lies in the balance between hope & fear. We should understand His Mercy & be hopeful just as we should be cautioned about His Wrath & be careful.

Those who always doom others have missed the point because without hope we would all feel worthless.

On the other hand those who never caution others have also missed the point because whilst we hope for His Mercy we must be aware of what He dislikes.

Hence it is good to have a balanced approach when reminding others so that we can all develop by being hopeful of goodness whilst being reminded of what angers Him. The most refreshing reminder after being cautioned is that of repentance & forgiveness.

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[ WORDS OF WISDOM] Oh You who is Most Forgiving Merciful! Forgive our shortcomings & have mercy upon us. Aameen

W15: Many of us are guilty of checking our phones more than we check Divine revelation. Take a moment to read the Qur'aan regularly.

W16: We know that if we don't follow the recipe of a cake, it flops.

Then why do we think that if we don't follow the recipe of going to paradise we will still somehow make it there?

The Mercy of the Almighty is great. Keep trying without giving up or losing hope.

W17: Your parents were a Divine Choice & u had no say in that, so fulfil their rights. If anything, they prayed to have u, so appreciate that.

W18: Don't let the love you have for your hair or face exceed the love you have for the One who gave you that hair or face!

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[ WORDS OF WISDOM] W19: We become excited when Frequent Flyer Programs reward us with five star treatment, special check in counters & access to lounges.

We clock as many miles as we can to taste comfort on a journey of a few hours.

But do we realise that the Frequent Prayer Program will ensure five star treatment during the journey from this world to the next, facilitate easy check in of deeds and not just access but ownership of the eternal lounges of paradise.

Are we ready to clock miles and be loyal Frequent Prayer Program members?

Keep praying on time & enjoy the privileges of your new platinum status!

W20: A man should stand up for his wife when his family is wrong & remember that she gave up everything to be with him.

Too often we allow our family members to trample over our wives leaving them in tears, helpless & even suicidal.

The worst is when we forget that she is a human being just like we are & begin to trample over her ourselves.

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[ WORDS OF WISDOM] Where does she go? Who does she turn to besides the Almighty? He is watching, He will come to her rescue.

Why can't each one strive to make life easy for the other instead of difficult? The world would be a better place.

Gone are the days when a daughter in law was equivalent to an unpaid house maid! Shame upon those who look at her that way.

W21: Whilst children must respect their parents, parents must not make it difficult for their children to respect them.

W22: When a bend of sin turns you away from the Almighty, straighten the wheel quickly with repentance & you will find Him waiting for you with forgiveness.

W23: "The book that you will be surprised to read although you authored it is your own book of deeds on the day of Judgement so author it well."

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[ WORDS OF WISDOM] If you miss your family when you are away & can't wait to get back home then your relation is in order.

But if you can't wait to get out & be away from your family then something needs urgent attention.

It's great to be home. Nothing beats the feeling.

W25: If we enjoy causing pain to others, remember it won't be enjoyable when pain returns to us one day.

Prove Your Love Daily What’s the point of trying to impress the women of the world and send them gifts with messages, emails, phone calls, cards, roses etc when the wife you chose and the “Queen” who bore your children is ignored. She deserves all that and more!

How can one day be set aside for love when the year has 365+ days? It’s a cheap way to run away from responsibility and abuse women. A daily sacrifice is required to prove love, and the sweetest of statements which should be reflected in our behaviour should be routinely repeated – but to those who really deserve them!

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[ WORDS OF WISDOM] our lives are our spouses, children, parents, siblings & family before everyone else. Don’t jump the gun by going further at the expense of those closer.

Did you know that many homes are broken on Valentines over a rose! Where did it comes from, why was it sent, why was it not sent etc. What a great deception.

Blessed are those who are conscious of their Maker for indeed a true believer is transparent & avoids all sinful hidden private secret relations that only add stress in life after the short excitement.

Let’s not be from those who “Fought-in February”

One of the most painful things one could go through is to be blocked from seeing his own children after a divorce for no other reason but extreme hatred.

Hatred makes you blind. Let go of that hatred & see miracles in your life. Open your eyes & realise that you've lived a lie. Be truthful unto the Almighty & reserve your place in paradise.

Every human being is tested with something major. The result will either lead to paradise or elsewhere.

What if we are blocked from seeing the Almighty or the Messengers or our loved ones in the hereafter as a result of us blocking our exspouses from children the Almighty chose as theirs too?

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[ WORDS OF WISDOM] Definitely not worth such a loss. But we can still change that for as long as we are breathing, unless hatred or pride come in the way.

Make choices that prepare you for the day you leave this very very temporary world.

Be mindful of how you praise people, for exceeding the limits in praise can affect your relation with the Owner of all Praise.

A kite flies even higher with strong adverse wind. So don't despair, enjoy flying your kite whilst the wind blows.

Small minded people believe their success depends on how well they attack those doing the work & accuse them, yet they have no beneficial contribution themselves.

True leaders concentrate on positively & tirelessly benefiting humanity whilst others have nothing better to do than sit on the sidelines & keep attacking.

Your success is not dependent on the failure of others so leave them alone.

Your success depends on how hard you work to serve humanity for the Pleasure of the Almighty.

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[ WORDS OF WISDOM] beneath throwing stones at you.

Whilst some are busy using their candle to light countless candles, others are trapped in their belief that their candle will only shine if they blow out the rest.

"Have mercy upon those who are on earth & the One in the heavens shall have mercy upon you." The Prophet Muhammad pbuh

When things do not go exactly the way we wanted, when we do not achieve what we have tried so hard to achieve or when we feel so let down by others, then always know that for as long as we have faith and trust in the Almighty, He definitely has something better in store for us, has saved us from a calamity or disaster that would have been in our path or has elevated our status through surrendering to His decree.

We are not considered believers until we are pleased with the Decisions of the Almighty.

This will save us from much anxiety and depression.

Try your best and leave the rest to Him.

Death can overtake anyone at anytime. Ironically whilst knowing this, we still become forgetful of it.

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All that is required is to prepare for that day by being disciplined upon what pleases the Almighty.

Each one of us will speak to our Maker directly without a translator, and we will answer for our deeds.

Prepare for the presentation of your accounts in full on that day.

A quick way of getting rid of irregularities in our accounts is sincere repentance. No point delaying it.

Fathers who are kind, loving, caring, tolerant and patient, who spend maximum time with their families and strive to be role-models of their own children, are the greatest asset to a home.

The role of a father to protect the family and instil spirituality, values and morals can only be fulfilled correctly if he realises the seriousness of this great responsibility.

The Almighty has instilled the respect of a father in the eyes of the children, but his actions can either build upon it or destroy it as time passes.

When the father of the home is irresponsible, the entire home is affected negatively and the future of the children is at stake.

Let's become the best dads possible who bring our children up in the best possible way by the Help of the Almighty.

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[ WORDS OF WISDOM] When pointing a finger at others remember the rest of the fingers are pointing at you.

Would you rather shed your fat or shed your sins?

Perhaps both!

Repent whilst working out..

But make sure you're in the right environment.

If sincerity levels of prayer were maintained as those during a very turbulent flight, our spirituality would be boosted greatly.

When we are in distress we pray genuinely, seeking forgiveness, promise to quit all sin & beg for mercy & protection. Why do we easily forget once all is well?

Sometimes the Almighty creates situations of distress to help us recognise Him, turn to Him, realise our wrongdoings & become sincere.

None of us would like to remain in constant distress but sometimes that's the only way we remain in check.

Why wait for distress before we change for the better?

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[ WORDS OF WISDOM] to smile not to frown, and to love not to hate!

At the end of life, what really matters is not what we bought, but what we built, not what we got, but what we shared, not our competence but our character, and not our success but our significance.

Live a life that matters.

Live a life that cares... and be Yourself "Dear Sister, A man is responsible for his gaze, but you are responsible for what you give him to gaze at.."

Facebook accounts can be used to benefit or harm, guide or misguide, improve or deteriorate, learn or teach good or bad, earn reward or sin. This can either make you or break you.

Look carefully at your account, profile, friends & words and ask yourself, "How am I using my account?"

I'm sure we can all do much better. Let's focus upon the Pleasure of the Almighty & be disciplined.

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[ WORDS OF WISDOM] Whilst visiting the sick is highly rewarded, we must make sure that our visits do not inconvenience them.

Be considerate of the fact that the sick would require much rest.

Prolonged hospital visits may defeat the whole purpose of them being there which is rest & recovery.

It is not difficult nowadays to prearrange short visits to the sick at their convenience.

May the Almighty make us considerate of one another. Aameen Was there something wrong with the meal today?

Well out of hundreds of meals & thousands of hours in the kitchen, it's just today.

I really appreciate those who tirelessly prepare my meals, even if sometimes something goes wrong.

May the Almighty bless you with the best of the meals of paradise.

Aameen I don't live to eat, I eat to live. Alhamdulillah We sometimes pray to be removed from a situation that is better for us than what we are seeking to get into.

The ability to recognise what is good for us is a gift of the Almighty that He blesses the believers with.

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Many have regretted losing what they did not realise was better for them than what they chose.

Pray for guidance, have faith, make the most of what is at hand & seek counsel before making big decisions in life.

Cursing your own children is one if the worst things you could do to them.

No matter what, pray for their guidance & goodness rather than curse them.

The effect of a curse of a parent against his own children can be severe, so abstain from it.

Sadly sometimes even when parents are totally wrong, they still curse their children. Such a curse may be a means of the downfall of that parent rather than the child.

Spread a good prayer for each other rather than words of curse for each other.

Sometimes when people insult you, your only option is to leave it for the Almighty to deal with.

Some people believe that we must not be good or kind to those of other faiths. This is a serious mistake.

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[ WORDS OF WISDOM] kindness, genuineness & goodness.

It is also important that we be just & side with he who is correct even if he does not belong to our faith.

Justice & kindness result in portraying the true image of who we are & what we stand for.

Those who believe that we should side with a family member, relative, friend, fellow worshipper, colleague etc even when he is wrong have not understood the basic values & morals revealed by the Almighty.

May our words & actions always be in line with whatever pleases the Almighty. Aameen When you know you are trying your best, When to please your Maker you never rest.

Then excuse those who do not see the light, In what you stand for and constantly fight.

Those who unjustly try to serve a punch, The Almighty Alone protects from that bunch.

Those who say a lot but know you not, Should be ashamed of what they've now got.

Waste not your time straightening their line, Rather draw a perfect one & you'll be fine.

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[ WORDS OF WISDOM] But correct yourself if they are indeed right, For that is righteousness in His Sight!

SubhaanAllah!

Be careful. If you are not prepared to listen to the other side of the story first hand, then your judgement is wrong!

"Actions speak louder than words. We can apologise over & over but if our actions do not change then our words become meaningless."

When parents are the role models of their children, there is a greater chance of them developing & achieving much more.

Living with your role model allows you to pick up many more aspects of development in your life since you are watching them all the time.

This is in contrast to a role model not being seen except for a short while now & again.

Either way, it is important to have people we look up to, draw inspiration from, be guided by, follow the footsteps of & would like to be similar to.

It helps us focus & set a standard.

If we succeed, there comes a time when the crucial question is no longer who we want to be like, but who wants to be like us, although our refinement continues till we breathe our last.

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Remember that the ultimate role models are the Messengers of the Almighty, may peace be upon them all. Aameen "They are those whom the Almighty has guided, so follow their guidance." 6:90

The Messengers were sent to remove us from worshipping creatures to worshipping the Creator of all creatures.

Satan's main aim is to make us worship any creature at all, thereby insulting the Creator in the biggest possible way & defeating the mission of the Messengers.

Rendering even a single act of worship to anyone or anything besides the Creator Himself goes against the very mission of all the Messengers. May peace be upon them all.

Never become upset when reminded of this nor try to justify worshipping anything or anyone besides the Creator, because it has been declared the prime issue between us & Him. "You Alone we worship, You Alone we ask for help." Surah 1:4

I can't understand people who give others the feeling that they're the only ones going to paradise & others are not even worth a greeting or a smile because they're all doomed!

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[ WORDS OF WISDOM] That's definitely not piety. In fact its a sign of arrogance which is a quality of Satan.

Don't ever allow yourself to be caught in this type of arrogance which some sadly believe to be piety.

"The best revenge is just moving on & getting over it. Don't give someone the satisfaction of watching you suffer."

Sent by a friend. I'm sure it will be applicable to many.

"It is better to lose something for the Almighty than to lose the Almighty for something."

Dreams are a gift of the Almighty & are mostly a replay of our thoughts, deeds, worries or experiences.

We should not overreact to a dream, becoming engrossed in it as though our lives rotate around it.

Upon seeing a bad dream we should seek the Almighty's protection from Satan, give out a little charity & not relate it unnecessarily.

True dreams mostly recur during the last third of the night.

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Describing intimate details to others of what goes on behind the closed doors of the marital home is shameless & results in others losing respect for us very quickly.

We do not realise the disastrous effects of this type of speech which can easily lead to envy, enmity, evil plotting & much more.

In the process we sometimes disgrace our spouses too, yet we are meant to protect them.

Seeking help when necessary is permitted but publicly disclosing private matters is not the quality of a true believer.

Infact disclosing anything that happens within our houses to outsiders can prove to be very costly.

Remember that modesty is a part of faith.

The worst condition is when one is rejected by the Almighty due to his evil & keeps thinking he is on the right path.

Surah 18:103,104 A win win situation.

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[ WORDS OF WISDOM] "The affairs of a believer are amazing. During ease he is grateful so it's best for him & during hardship he is patient so it's best for him."

- Muhammad pbuh Everything is measured or weighed differently. The true weight of a human being is measured by piety & character.

Your wealth, looks, intelligence, position, health etc will ultimately be of no use but your humility, character & piety will always be remembered & come to your rescue.

Be very humble at all times with all people & be conscious of your Maker.

Say what you want about contentment.

"It is only by the words of Allah that the hearts can find true contentment." 13:28 Try reading the Qur'aan & your search for contentment will stop.

Nothing beats the Words of the Almighty.

Those who have tried it have found more than they were searching for.

Are you going to give it a try it or keep searching elsewhere?

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[ WORDS OF WISDOM] When people only understand a good message negatively, always missing the whole point, they need urgent help.

Each morning we awaken to, brings forth a new opportunity to turn to the Almighty, but what guarantee do we have that we will see tomorrow, or even the end of this day?

Those who say they are not yet ready or choose to leave it for another time, might never see that time.

The sweetness of obedience is tasted by those who recognise their Maker & realise they have to return to Him shortly.

"But you give preference to the life of this world when the hereafter is better & everlasting." Surah 87:16,17 When something seems impossible, remember that for the Almighty it is simple & easy. Call out to Him truly & witness the great miracle!

If you don't occupy your tongue with goodness, it will keep you occupied with evil.

The cut of a knife can heal, And perhaps you might conceal, But that of the tongue will peel Much more than you can heal.

Sometimes our suffering in life is a result of accusations we leveled against the innocent. Guarding your tongue can guard your life too.

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[ WORDS OF WISDOM] Every time a solid message is delivered, the biggest loser is he who is quick to think it refers to others & not him or takes it so personally that he becomes upset with the messenger, or makes a comparison with others to justify his own wrong doings.

Let us take heed & appreciate being told & taught. Alhamdulillah Extravagance in our weddings where money is wasted , trends are set for people to follow, those who cannot meet the set standards borrow money and live in debt for a long time thereafter, food is wasted, only the rich and famous are invited, people are inappropriately dressed, people try to outdo one anothers functions etc, are all actions that can significantly reduce the blessings in our marriages.

It is important for us to bear in mind the simplicity of such a function, the invitation of the poor and needy, the fulfillment of whatever pleases the Almighty and the abstention from whatever displeases Him.Then we will see the blessings in our marriages by the will of the Almighty.

Extravagance and wastefulness in any sphere of life is wrong.

"A man remains a child until his mother passes away" Arabic Quote depicting that we are children of our mothers.

We sometimes pray for a situation that we don't realise is worse for us than what we are in, so the Almighty through His Mercy keeps it away from us & we keep thinking our prayers are not answered.

The favours of the Almighty upon us are countless.

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Take your time when praying as it could be your last opportunity to do so.

Develop a no rush policy when praying to your Maker.

May the One we are returning to have mercy upon us on that day.

It is better for a woman to be married than to remain single, but it is better for her to be single than to be married to an oppressive, abusive man who makes her life an intolerable misery.

It is also better to be in a respectful polygamous marriage than in an intolerable monogamous marriage.

Marriages should not be broken for petty reasons, but when there are serious matters beyond reconciliation, divorce comes as a saviour.

If a woman was supposed to be forced to live in an intolerable marriage, why would the Almighty give her the right to apply for a dissolution of her marriage upon the non-fulfilment of her rights by her husband?

It is better for a woman to be single than to marry an oppressive, abusive man who makes her life an intolerable misery.

If you have no time for your spouse, why did you get married?

If you have no time for your children, then why did you have them?

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Make time for them before you lose them.

Be very humble, polite & respectful with others even if you are the wealthiest, most influential, most powerful, most knowledgeable, most good looking person.

There will always be others who have been blessed with much more than us in every way but atctge same time they are much more humble, polite & respectful to others than us, so let's learn from them.

We will never be able to please everybody no matter how hard we try.

Some people will only be pleased if we give up our values, morals, faith & principles. By trying to please such people, we lose ourselves.

When people are upset with us because we stand for justice, values, morals, principles & what we believe in, we should consider it a strength.

Be good & the good will appreciate it. How can we lose the good in us just to please the bad?

"Those who make you smile, thank them.

Those who make you cry, tolerate them.

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Those who make you smile with tears in your eyes, treasure them."

Anonymous None of us have chosen our parents. The Almighty decided through whom we would come into this world, as a blessing and a test for both sides.

Our parents looked after us when we were helpless infants, so why do we find it a burden to look after them when they are aged and in need of care?

Kindness to parents is decreed upon us. Never utter a disrespectful word to them even in disagreement.

Pray for them to attain the Mercy of the Almighty, guidance and goodness for they brought us up praying for our goodness so sincerely.

Obedience of parents is a duty unless they ask us to go against the instruction of the Almighty or to do something unreasonable.. Then too, we must always respect them.

Serving one's parents in old age is as good as opening the doors of Paradise for oneself, so don't miss out.

In old age, sometimes all they want is for us to sit with them and show some interest in their stories of the past, or call them from afar simply asking how they're doing.

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[ WORDS OF WISDOM] May the Almighty forgive our shortcomings and shower our parents with His Mercy.

Sometimes it takes a very big mistake we make in life to transform us into the best of people.

When people make mistakes, react positively.

When we make mistakes, reflect correctly and draw lessons. Don't repeat a mistake.

Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, but it only saps today of all joy, so do your best and trust in the Almighty.

"Whenever you are alone, remind yourself that the Almighty has sent everybody away so that it's only you and Him."

"Every successful person has a painful story & every painful story has a successful end. Learn to accept pain & prepare for ultimate success."

"Sometimes we fight so long over who is right and who is wrong that we forget what is right and what is wrong."

Just like eating as we please can be harmful to the health, doing as we please can be harmful to the spirituality. Both require discipline.

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[ WORDS OF WISDOM] In this age of technology, falsehood is spread in a rather convincing manner. Many stories are deceiving, inaccurate or completely false yet professionally presented. We need to be more alert in this regard.

The disease of suspicion and doubt can ruin the best of marriages and relationships. Help yourself by fighting your own disease.

Pushing our children too much at school or expecting them to be first all the time can be very harmful to their mental, emotional and physical well being.

So long as they have tried their best they deserve to be congratulated and encouraged further. In this way they will remain sane, happy and healthy.

Being there for our spouse, children & family members when they need us most is priceless.

Stressing about future or the past can affect your health very seriously. Try your best, have hope in the Almighty and thank Him upon all conditions.

Whilst smiling is considered an act of reward, putting a smile on the face of others is considered an even bigger act of reward.

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[ WORDS OF WISDOM] Those who fail to prepare for death have wasted their lives.

He who is irritated by sound advice probably needs it most.

Ask yourself what positive contributions have you made towards your own family, community and nation.

Cry out to the Almighty in the darkest hours of the night when others are fast asleep. See His Mercy touch you miraculously. Aameen When our success in life does not make us forget those who stood by us before we were successful then we are truly blessed.

People buy things they can't afford on credit without realising that it can cause them the biggest distress. Rather adjust your lifestyle.

Don't be fooled. Most of those who promise to change after marriage do not change. The serious few change before marriage.

The wise strive to build bridges that will benefit future generations, yet the foolish burn even those bridges that they themselves need.

Those who have nothing better to do, have all the time to spread bad things about others. Occupy yourself with something truly beneficial.

A dirty mind wrongly begins to think that others think like him

When we are very emotional or angry it is more difficult to accept reality or the truth, hence we are advised to be calm.

"Your Maker is Most Forgiving, Most Merciful."

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[ WORDS OF WISDOM] It is very sad to see how computer games are becoming so dirty, immoral, explicit and violent. What can we expect thereafter?

When you are straight, don't expect those who are not to be impressed.

It doesn't mean that because we must respect our parents and elders that they have the right to abuse us.

Those who occupy themselves with that which does not concern them usually fall short in matters affecting their own lives.

Everyone has a good side that we can benefit from but miserable people only search for a bad side in others.

If we all want everything to happen our way without compromise, most of our relationships would be broken. Consider others ideas too.

I learnt that whilst we have the right to disagree with others, in most cases it is advisable to ponder deeply before saying "I disagree".

We all want to achieve, but nobody wants to do the hard work.

Achievement only comes with hard work, dedication & the help of the Almighty.

We all believe we are good people, but we must all believe that we can be much better than we are and work towards it.

How can those who are not merciful upon others expect to achieve the Mercy of the Almighty?

So many people are doing so much good work. What good work are you doing?

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[ WORDS OF WISDOM] When telling others NOT to do something, remember that providing a suitable alternative where possible makes it easier for them to comply.

Be wise in your relationships. Getting too close to someone can prove to be a source of painful regret as time passes.

Not only is a "know it all" attitude very irritating but it prevents us from learning more or being corrected.

When you are successful, it is more difficult to distinguish your true friends than when you have failed.

Scholars who interact with people upon all levels, learn so much through such real life interactions, that those who don't, sometimes fail to understand.

A genuine seeker of guidance shall be guided, whilst he who is not genuine will fail to see it even if it is staring him in the face.

The smile of an adult breaks barriers but the smile of a child melts the heart.

Whilst the eyes of those who love us may not notice our faults, the eyes of hatred will create faults even where there aren't any "Every day that passes without you having sinned is a day of EID" Ali RA "People will question all the good things they hear about you but believe all the bad without a second thought." – Unknown Putting our pride aside to seek forgiveness from those we have wronged requires great character and strong faith in the Almighty.

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[ WORDS OF WISDOM] What better opportunity can there be to resolve our disputes and seek forgiveness from those we have wronged than a blessed and joyous occasion?

Part of the Mercy of the Almighty is that He gives us these opportunities to come closer as families, communities, nations, brothers and sisters.

Will you sacrifice by putting an end to your bad habits for HIS sake?

If yes, you deserve this "Day of Joy" as it is all about sacrifice.

Those whose worldly achievements make them even more humble & bring them closer to the Almighty are the truly fortunate.

We all want to achieve forgiveness but sometimes forget that it will happen only if we repent. Seize the opportunity of these blessed days.

If others use social media for the wrong reasons it doesn't mean we should stop using it for the right reasons.

Being busy on the phone at bedtime each night whilst your spouse awaits you can be extremely irritating.

As time passes, it becomes clearer that those we hang out with definitely shape us. Choose wisely, change timeously or regret sadly.

Take your time when praying as it could be your last opportunity to do so. Develop a no rush policy when praying to your Maker.

It's easy to sit back and criticise others but it's not easy to do the hard work or lead by example.

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[ WORDS OF WISDOM] Children develop a tendency to lie when we overreact to their truth.

Correct them gently with much respect and politeness.

The best gifts come from the heart, not from the wallet.

"Smile before it is too late! Rather show your teeth now than realise their value only after you have dentures!"

It will still be a good deed! Lol Time ticks, never to return. A minute wasted is gone forever. There is no room for laziness in this life. Make the most of every moment.

A great lesson. "The most arrogant of people have "eaten humble pie" in the past, so never be arrogant or you may be next in line."

Sad how you are a good person until you correct someone. Then you are officially a bad person in their eyes.

Buying what we NEED when there is a sale is better than buying what we don't need just because it's on a special offer. Let's not be wasteful.

When a matter has been resolved, we should not keep bringing up the past.

There can be more than one way of doing things. A difference of opinion shouldn't create hatred amongst us.

Make the most of your parents whilst they are alive. Some have already lost them.

Every marriage has its tests. Those who pass them are content.

Those who fail, regret.

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[ WORDS OF WISDOM] When we assist others through their issues & problems, we learn much, gain experience, become appreciative & earn a great reward.

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A smile that hides the pain within the heart soothes the hearts of those who behold it. So smile even through difficult times.

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