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OCTOBER 2021 | TISHREI • CHESHVAN 5782 | SENIORS/PLANNED GIVING

PUBLISHERS

Mark Edelstein and Dr. Mark Moss EDITOR-IN-CHIEF

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FEATURES

CREATIVE DIRECTOR

24 JFS Makes Bold Statement About Its Legacy

and its Mission

Jonathan Ableson SENIOR CONSULTANT

27 Avodah Service Corps Officially Launches in San Diego 32 A Dispatch on Senior Living in Israel

ALSO IN THIS ISSUE

Ronnie Weisberg

CONTRIBUTING WRITERS

Emily Bartell, Linda Bennett, Leorah Gavidor, Emily Gould, Judith Fein (Senior Travel Correspondent), Paul Ross (Senior Travel Photographer), Patricia Goldblatt, Pat Launer, Sharon Rosen Leib, Andrea Simantov, Marnie Macauley, Rabbi Jacob Rupp, Saul Levine, Rachael Eden, Sybil Kaplan.

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ART DEPARTMENT

14 Personal Development and Judaism | Big Eyes, Light Feet 16 Israeli Lifestyle | Relevance 18 Examined Life | Living with Uncertainty 20 Religion | Is it too late?

42 Advice | Introducing Sylvia, The 3000 Year Old Bubbe

DEPARTMENTS 10 Our Town

38 Local Offerings

12 The Scene

40 News

22 What’s Up Online

43 Synagogue Life

35 Food

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From the Editor JACQUELINE BULL

Fulcrum Let’s talk about physics for a moment. A fulcrum is the point on which a lever rests and on which it pivots.

It indicates a range of motion tipping to one side or another. In simple machines you are applying force on one end of a lever and the other side rises. A fulcrum is the stasis in between two things.

The idea of stasis is not unfamiliar to all of us now. The way the pandemic halted the regular flow of life was felt by all. I would stand out on my balcony and try to smell the shifts of fate in the air, trying to predict anything in that thick fog of uncertainty. Maybe I never really got out of the habit. Maybe I’m getting more creative at spinning points of information into predictive feelings. Maybe the old healed fractures in my arm are merely feeling a change in barometric pressure because it is the start of autumn.

The change in the air could be the very slight cooling we call a turn of the seasons. Autumn carries a seriousness to me — like summer is over, everyone go back to ‘real’ life. (This might be a Michigan habit or I’m still accustomed to going back to school so many years later.) As an aside, I’m not a meteorologist, but I would more call this the second phase of summer; summer isn’t over until you can’t sunbathe on the beach anymore, in my opinion. Still it is quieter, less rowdy.

Autumn marks a dramatic dip in the amount of tourists on the streets. (According to the San Diego tourism’s

San Diego County’s Visitor Industry Performance, September is the third least popular month.)

And on this seasonal change, it seems we are poised to tip in one direction or another in a different sense.

City officials and health administrators are concerned about the uptick of flu cases that is typical in the fall and winter and how that would add stress to a system still reckoning with Covid. This could lead to a setback in the progress of keeping businesses open and bring back restrictions. Or, and what I am hopeful for, with our high percentage of vaccinated individuals, we will be able to ride out any sort of tourist/holiday or flurelated bump in cases and hold the momentum tipping in that direction.

Other potential tipping points have presented themselves; both our Mayor and Governor are moving in the direction of changing the status quo on housing.

Depending on your political slant, the recall results represented a change in momentum or it didn’t.

We all handle the anticipation of change in different ways. If you are me, you combine predictive feelings with physics sometimes, but I’m sure there are other ways too. A

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Our Town

by Linda Bennett and Emily Bartell It is a great pleasure to share in the news of a dear friend and accomplished American violinist, composer, filmmaker, writer, photographer and pioneer klezmer revivalist, Yale Strom, being inducted in the 2021 Class of the San Diego Music Hall of Fame. The Induction Ceremony will take place on Nov. 5!

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Mazel Tov to Shaun & Keri Copans on their daughter Haley becoming a Bat Mitzvah on Aug. 28 at Temple Emanu El. Younger sibling Leah (9yrs), looked on with admiration. Haley is the granddaughter of Avrille & Harold (z”l) Copans, and Nancy & Sheldon (z”l) Savage. Shaun Copans is the Executive Director of Temple Emanu El.

with infinite love & happiness, Mazel Tov to…

Mazel Tov to Shaia Davis-Duffy on becoming a Bar Mitzvah at Temple Emanu El on Aug. 14. Shaia’s parents, Keri & Laura Davis-Duffy along with Grandparents Carole Davis and Linda Duffy were beaming with pride.

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Mazel Tov to Talia Heart Spector on becoming a Bat Mitzvah on Aug. 21 in Skokie, IL. Happy parents are David & Lisa Spector. Talia’s grandparents are Nancy & Alan Spector.

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Mazel Tov to Jacob Ellis Musicant on becoming a Bar Mitzvah on Sept. 4. Jacob is the son of Carrie & Scott Musicant and grandson of the late Mike & Myla Musicant (z”l). Jacob’s older brother, Zachary looked on with delight.

Margaret & Paul Meyer, 50 years.

Linda & Larry Okmin, 51 years.

Francine & Phil Ginsburg, 50 years.

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PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT AND JUDAISM

THIS WAY TO EDEN

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Big Eyes, Light Feet Grey Goose vodka is synonymous with luxury and sells at a premium. I find this pretty impressive for a Russian beverage that tastes like rubbing alcohol. Sidney Frank developed Grey Goose in 1997 and was so successful at promoting it, he sold the brand to Bacardi for $2 billion mid-2004. Frank intentionally designed the Grey Goose bottles particularly tall.

While this may seem like a mere detail in aesthetic, the bottle’s length forced bartenders to literally position Grey Goose vodka as a “top shelf” choice since that’s the only shelf the bottles would fit.

The lesson from Sidney Frank’s promotion of Grey Goose is that you are only one (perhaps small) decision away from playing at the highest possible level. Some time ago, I experienced self-doubt and a colleague advised me to sit for 60 seconds and let my mind settle. The logic was my mind got me into this mess and surely wasn’t capable of cleaning up after itself! I complied and rediscovered the importance of barring my mind from a full monopoly over my life. By quieting my mind for a minute, (which quickly increased to two minutes and then multiplied 15 times to half an hour!) space opened up to allow for creativity and courage. My steps, moment to moment, lightened even when I remained ambitious as ever.

About a year ago, I joined a small, closed group of coaches from around the world. Recently, we decided to play a game with a singular objective: Book

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100 conversations in 30 days. We have the freedom to speak to who we want and when we want, but with one caveat: The conversations are designed to support clarity and confidence to those who we serve. Why not book 20 conversations in 10 days or 10 conversations in a week?

Why not keep the goal S.M.A.R.T (small, measurable, achievable, etc.)? Simple.

We are lit up by big visions. Whether we actually hit the number 100 is irrelevant.

What does matter is that we set our sights high. We call the exercise a game so our process feels light despite our big goal. There are two mechanisms at play here. A big vision (eyes) and a light game (the process or feet).

Muhammad Ali said, “I am the greatest, I said that even before I knew I was.” Ali is generally ranked as the greatest boxer of all time and he spoke accordingly. He, like many exceptional people (particularly champions), understood the power of a big vision. He also landed on a rather unconventional strategy to “float like a butterfly and sting like a bee.” Many critics felt disdain for how Ali backed away from punches instead of bobbing and weaving out of danger. Yet it was Ali’s distinct technical choices — combined with his powerful voice — that made him who he was. Ali had that winning combination: big eyes and light feet.

In contrast, most of us match big visions with heavy feet. That is, we approach large goals with heaviness or

negative pressure. Once a goalpost is established, we want to know how we could possibly reach it. The rhetorical question gives way to the belief that there is no way at all. Fear of failure and how others might react pervade until we relinquish our attempts altogether.

Some teenagers stereotypically replace insecurity with apathy because the humiliation of failure is far more painful than the void of not trying at all. (Adults may do the same but more discreetly.)

Our heaviness around dreams and ambitions only holds us back and the greats in every arena found ways to plug into a much lighter mindset. Thomas Edison said, “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”

As one of the most famous and prolific inventors of all time, Edison was a man with big eyes and light feet.

The Torah discusses many case studies of big eyes and light feet as well. Some came easily and others worked to build their vision and process accordingly. Avraham famously sets out to sacrifice his own son at G-d’s command. This incident was a critical part of Jewish history and Avraham’s personal narrative. The text writes that he woke up early in the morning, an acknowledgement of his “light” outlook on a very “heavy” endeavor, and the midrash notes that he refuses to engage with any forces that attempt to dissuade him. The verses never reflect continues on page 17 >>

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ISRAELI LIFESTYLE

LIVING ON THE FRONT PAGE

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Relevance Maybe it was Covid. Maybe it was a health scare. Maybe it was her rapidly approaching birthday. Or perhaps it was the irreversible decline of her elderly mother. Whatever the reason for the middle-of-the-night awakenings and irrepressible tears, Claire was beginning to doubt her value in the lives of those she loved.

The entire two days of Rosh Hashanah had been spent preparing for the day of hospital testing that would follow. Imagine no kugels, dates, honey cake or matzoh balls.

Instead, she downed prescribed laxative pills and powder mixes and, in lieu of praying in the synagogue with the masked congregation, she opened all of the windows in the house and craned her neck to catch a faint wail of the ram’s horn. This year, the bathroom trumped shul.

By the next morning, as she sipped hot water and dressed in preparation of undressing later, not one of her five children had called to wish her “good luck.” To say they’d be thinking of her. Not a single concerned Whatsapp to request a post-procedure update. The car ride was silent as Claire sat in the passenger seat fuming and choking back tears. It all felt so futile. Her rage defied description. Her husband, Mark, drove in silence. They weren’t his children and in second marriages, the (mis)behaviors of respective offspring can turn into

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minefields. He wanted to comfort her, offer possible explanations, but she raised her palm up and stopped his words. She didn’t want his kindness or possible defenses of their heartlessness.

She felt ashamed in front of Mark and hated him for having children who, at least this morning, conducted themselves.

Her life coach had explained that there are benefits to all actions and events, even if they appear detrimental.

So what was the benefit of stewing?

Claire found herself savoring the fury.

It felt liberating, this pulling back and newfound determination to live only for herself. She hadn’t enjoyed a good

self-pity party in a decade or so and felt near-pride in noting that she’d retained all of her “Poor Me” skills. It was like driving a car. One doesn’t forget.

As she lay on the table awaiting the anesthetic to make everything wonderful, Claire wryly observed that her tears were meaningless in a medical center. Everyone cries, everyone awaits verdicts that are groggily heard in a haze. Her turn would come, the doctor would show her pictures of fleshy-coils that somehow were related to her and she’d do whatever she was told.

Mark was waiting for her in the recovery room. The surgeon came in soon after and said something about having to repeat one of the exams next month, an unimpressive ulcer, follow-up visits, vigilance and not a bad outcome. Mark took notes. Claire was thinking about cappuccino and falafel. As she climbed into the passenger seat, her head lolled and she wasn’t crying. She did not recall the rage, the sadness, the tremendous disappointment that preceded the blessed sedation.

Reaching into her purse, Claire turned on her cell phone which began beeping with messages. Four were from her children with missives that read, “Can you babysit on Wednesday night?

We have a wedding but don’t expect to be late.” And “Here are the paint colors that

I have to decide on. What do you think? I don’t want anything to clash with the blinds.” And “How was Yom Tov? Did you hear shofar?” And the clincher, “Where are you? I’ve been trying you all morning. I thought we might meet at IKEA.” And just like that, the curtain lifted with the realization that she had never told them. She’d been angry about something that her children did not know. True, there had been a scare the month before, the one that precipitated the decision to have these tests, but instead of sharing that she was scared, nervous and vulnerable, she chose to wait to see if there was anything to share.

Had the sadness and self-loathing been a waste of time?

Revisiting the sage guidance of her life coach, Claire tapped into the critical lesson of the morning’s misguided passions.

Because just as the moon might only reveal a sliver, a massive orb remains undetected to the naked eye. An entire moon hovers in place, but the description might be woefully anemic as observed by one who retains narrow vision.

In fact, if Mark had been permitted to speak his piece instead of being silenced by his wife, she might have relaxed enough to hear him say that if we wait for rewards, acknowledgment, kudos and honor, we are setting ourselves up for disappointment. But if we wholeheartedly engage in the act of giving, we cannot get it wrong and will never run out of stock.

Remaining findable for decorating advice, religious guidance, babysitting stints or dispensing of recipes, our value only increases when we cease waiting and, instead, embrace each awakening with a sense of adventure that demands exploration, participation and, above all, generosity of spirit. A

Personal Development & Judaism continued any internal conflict on Avraham’s path (likely because had he indulged, he wouldn’t be able to do what he set out to do). On the contrary, Avraham dissolved any resistance that externally may have emerged and even woke up early to illustrate his zeal.

At different times of our lives, we are tasked with strengthening our eyes or feet. Our vision must remain larger than life and our process must continue to be filled with ease.

We know we want to be the greatest versions of ourselves and so we must always hold both vision and process in pristine condition as our forefathers did; as the greatest activists and champions did throughout history. Sidney Frank hadn’t figured out how or where he was going to make his vodka or what the bottle would look like one Sunday morning in the summer of 1996. But that didn’t stop him from waking up his groggy second in command at 5:20am when he proclaimed: “I figured out the name! Grey Goose!” And just like that, a spirits sensation was born with two key ingredients: big eyes and light feet. A

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EXAMINED LIFE

OUR EMOTIONAL FOOTPRINT

by Saul Levine, M.D., Professor Emeritus in Psychiatry at UCSD |

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Living with Uncertainty I’m sure you would agree that we are living in very uncertain times. Recent polls and health research data have shown that people are experiencing increased feelings of isolation and loneliness and more anxiety and depression. In addition to everyday worries and woes, they are concerned that this era is particularly fraught with uncertainties: the pandemic, climate change, politics both domestic and abroad.

“This is the worst era ever!” is a frequently heard sentiment, but many historians and social scientists beg to differ: They point to past eras which also saw immense suffering, upheavals and bloodshed (wars, plagues, famines) followed by recoveries and to the remarkable progress humans have made in the sciences, medicine, the arts and other pursuits.

We humans feel and do best when we sense security and predictability in our lives and are prone to conflict in its absence. When uncertainties about our security and future preoccupy us, we feel more vulnerable, and we ask ourselves existential questions, like “Where are we heading?” “Will I (my family) be safe?”

“What the ___ is going on?!”

For some answers to these psychological and social issues, we strangely turn to the “hard sciences” of physics and mathematics. About a century ago, the physicist Werner Heisenberg postulated the “Uncertainty

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Principle,” which indicated that in quantum physics, there are inherent limitations in accurately measuring objects and there are inevitable limits to precise measurements of physical properties like mass, momentum and position.

Similarly, in mathematics, “Chaos Theory” indicates unpredictable or random behaviors in systems which are supposedly controlled by predetermined laws. This involves “calculating the incalculable, expecting the unexpected, and predicting the unpredictable.”

Applying these same principles to everyday life, there are virtually no personal or social experiences which can be predicted with perfect accuracy.

If “living with uncertainty” is indeed a ‘fact of life,’ what are we to do?

We can pursue two polar opposite, futile approaches: That is, we can be alarmists like ‘Chicken Little’ and proclaim that “the sky is falling,” running hysterically about in a perpetual state of panic. Or, like the proverbial ostrich, we can bury our heads in the sand pretending that “what we can’t see, can’t hurt us.” Another blind approach used by some overly confident people is the hubris of invincibility, as in, “There is nothing to fear!”

While none of these extremes represents comprehensive answers, they do contain some elements of successful strategies.

We humans do better when we can maximize our familiar routine activities and schedules. We are a social species and we thrive on our comforting contacts with family and friends.

We defend ourselves against external turmoil by learning to compartmentalize, not like the above ostrich, but by concentrating on the present, the predictable, the possible and the pleasurable. The present by caring for our health and bodies, the predictable with routine and schedule, the possible like caring for others and the pleasurable like art and spirituality.

I am not advocating an Alfred E. Neuman (of “Mad Magazine” fame) attitude, a “What me worry?!” denial of reality. Rather, I urge rationing our strengths, being attentive to our real problems and thinking and discussing with others about strategies for dealing with social and political problems when they arise.

These strategies are obviously not “cure-alls.” That is, they will obviously not make our considerable personal and worldly challenges just vanish. They may sound simplistic to you, but I assure you, they are tried-and-true approaches to the uncertainties of our times.

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Is it too late?

Is it ever too late (or too early) to trust yourself?

Officially the Jewish High Holidays are in our rear view. Whatever judgement has been passed...or so they say. There is a famous Hasidic idea that the official end of the judgement of the High Holidays isn’t Neilah or Shemini Atzeret, but the last night of Hanukkah.

Perhaps the idea here is simple: It’s never too late to bet on yourself.

We live in a world that is crowded with other people’s opinions, needs and judgements. If we are passive, we get locked into our habits and our “fate.”

Rosh Hashanah for those that study it and even more so for those who try to live it, is a breath of fresh air. There is a tangible reality (for those that chose) to remake ourselves, to retrust ourselves, to accept things that are not status quo.

But as any gym will reveal on Feb 1, old habits and laziness come back hard.

The promises we made to ourselves tend to waver at times. We have a tendency to give up on ourselves. We sometimes wish we had taken better advantage of the time. But perhaps that itself is a fantasy.

We like to think our ability to choose, our window of opportunity, is closed behind us. That we could have chosen, but now we can’t. We’re too far down the road.

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the mistake, usually because it’s easier to assume that falling down means we can’t get up and keep trying.

That, for me, is the message of the extended date before which our judgement is sealed. There’s really no end to the opportunity for growth unless we choose to close it.

There is another saying in the Talmud. It says that people are judged every day and sometimes every moment.

For some, the fact that we experience judgment at all is problematic. But for the champion, it means that every day and every moment is a chance to run it again, to go back and do it again and to be committed to growth.

We race through our lives trying to find stability. I, for one, tried to steer myself out of a mid (well, hopefully quarter) life career crisis for over a decade. I wanted to find that one thing that just made sense and calmed me down.

Luckily, I never found it. Certain things fell into place, but on the whole I had to keep moving. What I became used to is that the ability to handle a lack of stability is worth so much more than stability.

The lack of stability means swimming in a sea of consistent growth and opportunity. If we replace our fear of the unknown with a faith of the Known — an idea that G-d creates our reality of our best intention and He won’t just leave

us out to dry, we allow ourselves the opportunity of having a positive outlook.

If there’s anything that our current situation teaches us, it is that we can’t get comfortable with the status quo.

Wanting to go back to a simpler time, a simpler way of doing things will only spell a failure to adapt.

The Jewish people, as a model, have had to consistently, constantly, completely evolve. We faced opportunities and challenges over the millennia by staying in the middle of the river, floating on the current of change, we have persevered.

I can’t tell you how many people I’ve met who want things in their lives but don’t think to go for it. I’ve been privileged to study people who’ve gotten there — reached their bliss state and oftentimes it’s just because they tried.

There is a Talmudic idea that nothing stands in the way of desire.

When we look at the life we want, the opportunities we crave, it is always easier to say it’s not for us. But perhaps if we reach down to our spiritual essence, it could be because we just don’t want it bad enough.

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Poway synagogue shooter pleads guilty to 113 federal hate crimes charges The man who opened fire on a synagogue in Poway, California in 2019, killing one and injuring three, has pleaded guilty to a 113-count federal hate crime indictment.

The guilty plea comes with a recommended sentence of life in prison plus 30 years. The charges the shooter faced, which also relate to his arson of a mosque a month earlier, carried a maximum sentence of the death penalty.

“The defendant entered a synagogue with the intent to kill all those inside because of his hatred for Jewish people, and days earlier used fire in an attempt to destroy another sacred house of worship because of his hatred for Muslims,” said Deputy Attorney General Lisa Monaco. “There is no place in American society for this type of hate-fueled violence.”

On April 27, 2019, the final day of Passover, John Earnest, a white

For Mallorca’s Jews, their first ‘public’ sukkah is a triumph over the Spanish Inquisition Before the Spanish Inquisition, the island of Mallorca had a sizeable Jewish community. Every fall, the island became dotted with the leaf-roofed huts that Jews are commanded to erect during the holiday of Sukkot.

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supremacist, walked into the Chabad synagogue in Poway, California, near San Diego, and began shooting at worshippers. The attack occurred six months to the day after the Tree of Life synagogue shooting in Pittsburgh, which killed 11 Jews at prayer.

Earnest killed one woman, Lori Gilbert-Kaye and injured three others, including Rabbi Yisroel Goldstein and a child. In a manifesto, he mentioned the shootings at mosques in Christchurch, New Zealand six weeks earlier.

Two more fatal antisemitic attacks would occur later that year, in Jersey City and Monsey, New York.

“This nation stands with Lori Gilbert-Kaye’s family and the survivors of these unspeakable acts of terror,” said Acting U.S. Attorney Randy S. Grossman in a statement. “We emphatically reject the defendant’s hate, racism and prejudice and we hope the conclusion of this case brings some measure of comfort to all those affected by his heinous crimes.”

Israeli philanthropists help dozens flee Afghanistan for United Arab Emirates Several Israeli philanthropists have helped bring to Abu Dhabi dozens of asylum seekers, including female athletes, fleeing Taliban rule in Afghanistan.

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n early 2021, Jewish Family Service launched the Center for Jewish Care. The Center has a dedicated area on the JFS campus, its own phone number, website and its own specific staff. A key component of this launch is reorganizing existing JFS programming under this new umbrella.

“The idea hatched in the early, early days of the pandemic, although, my gosh, the discussion around the segment of our Jewish community experiencing poverty, that conversation has been going on for more than a couple years,” Michael Hopkins, CEO of JFS San Diego said, “I would say that the pandemic was really the impetus to move into a front burner.”

The Jewish Community Covid-19 Emergency Fund made funds specifically available to the Jewish community and the Center helps utilize those funds and services to the folks they were intended to be used by.

“The goal was to literally have a team that could leverage all of the services that we provide — be that transportation or small home repairs or case management, home delivered meals — all of the different services that we have... We realized there was an array of services that were specifically available to the Jewish community that needed to be delivered in that way,” Michael said.

This launch also extends the reach of JFS and fills in some gaps of services.

Michael provided an example of an older Jewish couple reaching out for homedelivered meals. Part of how this service works is under contract with the county and thus only making certain zip codes eligible. Now they would be able to serve those people outside of those countyfunded zip codes by centralizing the services for the Jewish community.

Another example of an existing service being brought under the Center’s umbrella is the Serving our Survivors program. This program was also recently expanded to Orange County. JFS was contacted because of their experience providing for Survivors and, with the Jewish Federation in Orange County, they added 130 Survivors into the fold of that program.

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Ensuring the needs of the Jewish community are met in perpetuity is a critical component of our long‑term planning.

New additional programming for the Center is on the horizon as well as maintaining existing ones. They currently span the breadth beyond just services to community engagement like food drives and discussion forums, to volunteering opportunities like Jewish Big Pals. How that new programming will be tailored is going to be informed by a new Jewish community demographic study which JFS is in the early stages of conducting.

Current estimations say that about 15% to 20% of the San Diego Jewish community is struggling at any time; further data will inform that as well as which types of services (transportation, housing, mental health, food insecurity, etc.) are most needed and where. The study is slated to be completed within the year.

In the immediate future the Center is hiring a Rabbi and the remaining new

staff positions. (“Everyone who works at JFS works at JFS because there is some connection with the services that we provide. There is some time in their life either they have experienced food insecurity, or they’ve experienced mental health issues within their family.

People come to work for JFS because it is a passion. I couldn’t speak more highly of the team of staff.”)

And in the long-term, an ultimate goal is to have the Center endowed.The Center won’t have government funding like some of the other JFS programs.

“Ensuring that the needs of the Jewish community are met in perpetuity is a critical component of our long-term planning,” Michael said.

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by Nathalie Feingold Avodah, the largest Jewish year-long service-learning program in the country, has officially expanded its reach to the West Coast through the launch of its San Diego site after a year-long pandemic delay.

Amanda Lindner, Director of Communications at Avodah, provided a brief overview of their programming.

“Avodah has three programs, all career development programs for people who want to connect their Jewish values with their social justice values. The largest and longest-running of those programs is our Jewish service board, which is made up of all of our corps members and that program has been running for over 23 years now with more than 1,400 participants, myself included,” she explained.

Leadership at Avodah decided to bring the organization to San Diego after visiting the San Diego-Tijuana border in 2018. They witnessed children separated from their parents and decided that there was a vast and urgent need for their services.

“They went to the border, they witnessed the crisis, they went back and said San Diego is where we need to be for the work that needs to be done on

the West Coast,” San Diego Director of Strategic Partnerships Claudia Ehrlich explained.

Although immigration issues brought Avodah to San Diego, they realize that, like any other city, there are myriad issues that need to be addressed and plan on being adaptable to the changing needs of the community.

“Supporting the immigration efforts, of course, was the big pull that brought us here. But being new to any city, as we move forward, we’re really going to be listening to the community needs and we will act accordingly to match corps members and placements to support meeting those needs and developing Jewish leaders and having the tools and training to tangibly support those programs, so that the impact can continue to be made in large ways,” San Diego Program Director Anna Worrell said.

They already dispatched six corps members in different roles, providing support to various communities in need; a few of their placements are through their partnership with JFS. Anna explained that they have a corps member specifically tasked with supporting the San Diego Jewish

community with wraparound services.

They also have two placements responsible for working on providing legal orientation for refugees in Tijuana.

Furthermore, they have roles that focus on housing insecurity and youth services.

Anna and Claudia echoed that the six corps members have proved their dedication to Avodah’s mission from the moment they arrived in San Diego in late August.

“They arrived the end of August and have hit the ground running with our orientation, which was full of programming and focused on initiating communal living while also touching on the importance of mental health training and anti-oppression early on,” Anna continued, “It seems very clear that they all feel within themselves that there is no other option than to do this work, to be involved and support community efforts.”

Amanda explained that Avodah corps members connect through strong Jewish values that instill in each of them a sense of responsibility to their community.

“Our corps members feel that they live their Jewish values by doing social justice work. Those two things cannot be unlinked from each other and that’s continues on next page >>

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Avodah continued really how they find and express their Jewish identities,” Amanda continued, “They choose to do a program like this because it is living out and connecting those values.”

Amanda went on to describe the interconnection of Jewish values with the work that they plan to do in San Diego, specifically.

“When we think about the work of immigration justice, the most repeated phrase in Torah is ‘welcome the stranger,’ we see those ideas so intertwined, which is why we do the work that we do. We like to think that our corps members are inspired by their Jewish values and then act on those values through the framework of social justice and Judaism together,” she explained.

Anna emphasized how the corps members also enrich the Jewish communities in their new home cities.

“It’s also an opportunity to bring together Jews of so many diverse identities into a space to share who they are, what their practices are, where they come from,” Anna said. “It’s an opportunity to expand our mindsets and our knowledge of the Jewish community as a whole.”

Claudia echoed that amplifying and diversifying the voices of the community is a priority for her as director of strategic partnerships.

“We’re uniquely positioned because we are new and we have an opportunity to build a table with different voices. So we’re looking to be more proximate to different communities. ‘Community’ with a capital ‘C,’ not just the Jewish community because our placements are both Jewish and secular,” Claudia said.

Amanda, Claudia and Anna all agreed that now is a crucial time for Avodah to

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They emphasized that the need for their services, especially in marginalized communities, is higher than ever before– a need they explained was exacerbated by the pandemic.

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A Dispatch on Senior Living in Israel

by Sybil Kaplan A few years ago, a new campaign started for senior citizens which did not sound very promising, despite its rather wacky name. “Tuesdays in Suspenders” offered seniors discounts on movie tickets, certain purchases and museum entrances. We are talking — in Israel.

Although my late husband and I had finally bought a car after living here for eight years, our day-to-day life did not change much. I went to town daily by bus — often striking up conversations with interesting fellow bus riders; I picked up our mail at the main post office which gave me the opportunity to walk from the center of town or take the light rail to the post office and walk back through town to take the bus home.

Most of our food came from Machaneh Yehudah, the outdoor Jewish produce market, where I led my walks in English twice a week. Going there several times a week lessens the amount we carried, where my husband identified himself as my shlepper.

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of those who lived here, those visiting their children and grandchildren or who had apartments and came frequently, and tourists. Many of them I would identify as “seniors.”

If you’re a senior and thinking of a move, before you decide on Arizona or Florida, think Israel!

My husband continued working for an American company, inputting data on his computer on his own hours. His favorite thing was to go to town and sit in a cafe, having his cafe afuch (upside down coffee, otherwise known as cappuccino.)

I continue to freelance, edit books and continue writing for North American Jewish publications.

I also continue my lectures, particularly at senior citizen residences, because I feel the people are interesting and need stimulating.

Seniors in Israel will reach 13-14% of the population by 2025-2030 according to the Jerusalem Institute for Market Studies (JIMS).

In or out of the workforce, seniors are guaranteed excellent health care, including primary care and special care, general hospitalization, rehabilitative care and ongoing treatments.

The issue of “old age” is not what it used to be because people up to the age of 80 and older are active and can contribute to the economy.

The article, “Senior citizen employment vital to Israeli economy,” in “The Jerusalem Post” featured a survey by JIMS which revealed that 30 percent of Israeli senior citizens who were not working were able to work and their net employment would be worth billions of shekels in income.

The study, “Senior Citizens: A Great Unexploited Reservoir of Human Resources,” showed that 70% of all Israel’s seniors wanted to work.

“Certainly, even under different circumstances not all of these seniors

would seek or find work, but keeping them out of the labor force is clearly a great economic loss to Israel and a personal loss for each of them,” said Zev Golan, co-author of the study.

In Jerusalem, there are a large number of senior citizen residences and approximately 10 have a sizable number of English-speaking residents. These Batei Avot (Seniors Residences) are visited by volunteer members of the Association of Americans & Canadians in Israel (AACI) at least once a month and every homebound member is visited on the eve of holidays, receiving a small gift.

The Seniors Division of AACI conducts activities, programs and retreats for seniors and welcomes new immigrants to Israel.

Senior citizens can purchase monthly discounted transportation cards and frequently, if you ask, there are senior citizen discounts for other things. There are also Jerusalem “80s” cards offering special benefits.

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San Diegans can expect the same level of care in their homes as they would on our Seacrest Village campus.

Some commonly asked questions Is there any way to experience the community before moving in? Yes! We understand what a big decision it is to move to a new home and your satisfaction is important to us. We offer prospective residents the opportunity to stay in one of our guest suites and take part in the community. They can eat in the dining room, go to any Life Enrichment event, attend Shabbat services, use the fitness center and get to know the residents ahead of time.

Is Seacrest Village a buy-in community? No. We rent apartments on a month-to-month basis and charge a nominal $3,000 community fee upon entrance.

A 30-day notice is required for move outs.

Is Seacrest Village a kosher campus? Yes. We observe the laws of kashrut throughout campus, though resident apartments and some public areas are not designated as such.

If you have any more questions you’d like to ask, or if you want to schedule a tour, give us a call today!

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Brown Butter & Sage Carrot Ribbons Autumn is just around the corner and there’s no better way to celebrate than with a bowl of comfort food.

For me, that means that the combination of sage, hazelnuts and nutty brown butter is back on rotation!

Browned butter is the secret weapon to take your dishes, both savory and sweet, up a notch. Make a large batch and store in the fridge for a rich, nutty buttery goodness any day of the week.

SERVES 4–6 INGREDIENTS:

PREPARATION:

• 2 tbsp. unsalted butter

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• 1/3 cup hazelnuts, halved

2. Once small brown flecks start to appear, add the hazelnuts, cooking for 4-5 minutes longer, or until the butter has browned.

• 10-12 sage leaves, fresh • 7 medium carrots, peeled into “ribbons” • Sea salt & black pepper, to taste

Heat butter in a fry pan over medium-low heat until melted.

3. Add the sage and carrot ribbons, cooking for 4-5 minutes or until the carrots have softened slightly.

4. Season with salt and pepper.

5. Serve immediately.

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Local Offerings Coronado Playhouse

The Old Globe All content is available on theoldglobe.org OCT. 1-OCT. 17: The Gardens of Anuncia | In-person Graciela Daniele tells her life story as a director and choreographer at the Globe through this play. Book, music and lyrics are by Michael John LaChiusa.

▲ Carmen Roman in “The Gardens of Anuncia.”

OCT. 7-NOV. 7: Shutter Sisters | In-person This Globe-commissioned world premiere tells the story of two women living parallel lives on the hardest days of their lives.

All content is on coronadoplayhouse.org.

Patrons must be fully vaccinated or show a negative PCR test result within 72 hours of the performance and wear a mask.

OCT. 1-OCT. 10: The World Goes ‘Round | In-person Five singer/dancers travel through an eclectic collection of songs.

OCT. 15-OCT. 17: Love, Loss, and What I Wore | In-person This is a collection of stories of women through the lens of their clothes.

San Diego Symphony All content is available on sandiegosymphony.org ONGOING: Inaugural Season | In-person at The Rady Shell at Jacobs Park* OCT. 8, 7:30 P.M.: Payare, Barnatan and Mahler OCT. 10, 7:30 P.M.: Indigo Girls OCT. 15, 7:30 P.M.: Steve Hackman’s Brahms v. Radiohead OCT. 16-17: Song and Symphony OCT. 22-23, 7:30 P.M.: Chicago the Musical OCT. 23, 11:30 A.M.: Peter and the Wolf, Conducted by Rafael Payare OCT. 24, 6 P.M.: A Swingin’ Affair: Music of John Coltrane and Lee Moran OCT. 29-30: Fate Now Conquers: Simon and Beethoven OCT. 31, 6 P.M.: Ofrenda: A Día De Los Muertos Celebration

▲ Takács Quartet at The Conrad.

La Jolla Music Society All content is available on ljms.org.

Patrons provide proof of vaccination or must wear a mask at all times.

OCT. 15, 8 P.M.: Takács Quartet | In-person This Grammy Award-winning string quartet performs Haydn, Coleridge-Taylor and Schubert.

OCT. 21, 8 P.M.: Les Violons du Roy with Avi Avital | In-person Watch a variety of concertos with a mandolin soloist.

OCT. 23, 8 P.M.: ON THE MOVE | In-person City Ballet showcases both classical and contemporary ballet with the music of Philip Glass.

OCT. 31, 3 P.M.: Alexander Malofeev | In-person Enjoy a young talented pianist.

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North Coast Repertory Theatre All content is available on northcoastrep.org.

Patrons must be fully vaccinated or show a negative PCR test result within 72 hours of the performance and wear a mask.

OCT. 1-OCT. 10: Dancing Lessons | In-person A Broadway dancer and science professor start as neighbors and become unlikely friends. This comedy is written by Mark St. Germain and directed by Richard Baird.

OCT. 20–NOV. 14: Ben Butler | In-person A comedic battle of wits set during the Civil War. OCT. 25, 7:30 P.M.: “The Male Intellect: An Oxymoron?”

In-person This show uncovers the comedy in the gap of male and female perspectives OCT. 26, 7:30 P.M.: “The Book of Moron” | In-person This one-man show by Robert Dubac tackles the questions of the day with shrewd satire.

San Diego Museum of Art All content is available on sdmart.org OCT. 3, 4 P.M.: Mehregan Fall Fête: Persian Mehregan Festival With Aida Shahghasemi | In-person The event features music and a guided tour of the “Arts of Iran” gallery.

OCT. 9, 10 A.M.: Modern & Contemporary Art From India: 1970S, 1980S, and 1990S–Poetic Realism and New Pictorialism | Online This is the third lecture in the four-part series on Modern & Contemporary Art from India.

OCT. 31, 3 P.M.: SDMA+ San Diego Shakespeare Society: Spooky Artstops | In-person Check out spooky poetry and selections from “Macbeth,” “Othello” and “The Tempest.”

▲ The Sky Tonight Astronomy Talk at The Reuben Fleet Science Center.

The Reuben Fleet Science Center All content is on rhfleet.org and requires registration.

OCT. 4, 10:30 A.M.: Sharp Minds | In-person Learn about developmental diseases from Dr. MatalongaBorrel. The event will be hosted in the Community Forum.

OCT. 6, 7 P.M.: The Sky Tonight | Virtual This discussion centers on the largest, most powerful and most complex space telescope: The James Webb Telescope.

OCT. 11, 8 P.M.: Suds & Science | In-person This edition of “spirited” discussion explores the topic of nanotechnology from the rare to the conventional.

This event will be held at the Thorn Street Brewery in North Park.

San Diego Natural History Museum All content is on sdnhm.org.

OCT. 2, 10, 13, 24: Nature Hike | In-person The hikes this month are Cleveland National Forest (Roberts Ranch), San Dieguito River Park, Barnett Ranch Preserve and Lake Hodges.

OCT. 22.: Virtual Nat Talk | Online This month’s topic is insects and their relatives.

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The News Seaport Village Renovation Moves Forward with Anchor Restaurants The Board of Port Commissioners recently approved leases for Gladstone’s and Shorebird Restaurant. These two restaurants will serve as anchors for the Carousel District.

Gladstone’s is set to be a 9,684-square-foot space with an outdoor wrap-around patio and Shorebird will be a two-story structure on the bay; both are set to begin construction next summer according to “The Coronado Times.”

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City of San Diego Celebrated Think Blue San Diego with a Beach Cleanup Mayor Todd Gloria led an Ocean Beach cleanup event in honor of the 20th anniversary of Think Blue San Diego, one of the most successful environmental public outreach campaigns in the city.

“I want to thank the hundreds of volunteers who celebrated California Coastal Cleanup Day by doing their part to protect our water quality, communities and wildlife. Clean water and clean beaches are only possible through a clean stormwater system. If we each do our part, we can create a better San Diego for all of us,” Gloria said.

Local efforts were led by I Love a Clean San Diego and every year volunteers remove half a million pounds of trash from neighborhoods and coastlines.

Through their public outreach and education campaign, Think Blue informs San Diegans of the importance of stormwater operations. The campaign emphasizes proactive steps to stop pollution before it gets into the storm drain system.

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UCSD Hillel Breaks Ground On Sept. 19, The Pacific Building Group officially started construction on the Beverly and Joseph Glickman Hillel Center. The Center is projected to be completed in the Fall of 2022, just in time for the start of a new school semester.

Many community members, including Mayor Todd Gloria, attended the ground breaking, sharing their support and excitement for the project. The Hillel Center will consist of three separate buildings, offering space for religious programs and student gatherings.

“We are thrilled to be able to make our dream of the Beverly and Joseph Glickman Hillel Center a reality.

This beautiful Hillel Center will help us fulfill our mission of enriching Jewish students’ lives so that they may enrich the world,” said Hillel of San Diego Board President Todd Kirschen.

City of San Diego Collected Public Comments for Future Development The City of San Diego held two public online workshops to provide information and gather feedback on their new initiative, known as Blueprint SD. The initiative plans to help meet the City’s housing and climate goals.

needed in order to create more walking, cycling and public transit options.

The initiative will propose revisions to the City’s General Plan, by incorporating climate action goals and a new vision for the area’s transportation system.

“Our City and other agencies have worked hard to create plans that promote a more sustainable future for all.

Blueprint San Diego is needed so that climate action goals laid out in those plans are met faster and community plans are accelerated,” said City Planning Director Mike Hansen.

Blueprint SD will act as a framework for future land-use changes city-wide. It will also identify where housing is

To learn more about Blueprint SD, visit sandiego.gov/ blueprint-sd.

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Introducing Sylvia, The 3000 Year Old Bubbe In honor of “X-Treme” Seniors, Mel Brooks and the late Carl Reiner, enjoy this comedic piece My dear San Diegans: I just got word of a miraculous find 15 miles from the Negev: Archeologists just found a 3000-year-old bubbe in the Negev.

And her name is Sylvia. Sylvia! During a routine dig, archeologists found the woman who claimed she was 3000 years old. Actually, she said she’ll be 3000 and ½ — in October. As a Jewish writer, I ran over and expressed what a privilege it would be if I were the first to interview her, and she agreed! So now I am over the moon to share with you part of my conversation with THE 3000-YEAROLD JEWISH BUBBE! MARNIE: Sylvia, why did you hide from the public all these years?

SYLVIA: Frankly, I was never a people person. I lived in what is now the Middle East. Where? Who knew? It was the Dark Ages. Heh heh, a little minus-1 first millennial humor. Anyway, when I turned 500, the whole city-state made a cake with 500 candles plus one to grow on. Then they lit it and chanted, “blow and make a wish!” Not only was I temporarily blinded, I almost lost a lung with all the blowing. Then there were the crowds, the noise, the spitting on me when they talked? My wish was to get the heck out of there. For a while I lived in a cave, lovely. When I stepped outside, I had such a view of the Dead Sea. With no spitting. I stayed there for years. And from then on, I kept a low profile.

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M: Over the years you’ve seen so many marvelous inventions, tell the world what in your opinion was the greatest invention?

S: No Question! Deodorant! I’ll never forget my first hut. Mama, papa, me – and 98 other people running around wearing fur in 110 degrees. By the age of three, I had PTSD from the shtink alone. So I toddled out for a breath of fresh air.

But it turned out, the shtink traveled. In Kinderhut I learned that 250,000 cubits was the record – even the parts without people. We also studied philosophy.

The big question was: If a shtink is somewhere in the desert, and no one’s there to smell it, does it still shtink anyway? Oh boy! You bet! When our hut reached 300 and we were plotzing right and left, it took Chaim the Kohen to say, “Maybe we should build two huts.” Two huts! The man was gifted!

M: So, you were born Jewish.

S: Who wasn’t back then? What gave me away?

M: I noticed your Star of David.

S: Forget David! It should be The Star of Sylvia! Forgive me, but no one knows.

Which is the unfortunate story of my life.

Even as a child, I’d get up, pile my rocks perfectly. Did mama give me any credit?

Not a word. But my brother? If he put two pebbles in a row, he was a prince. But that Star? Me! Not that I want praise, but a little wouldn’t hurt.

M: Are you saying that you, Sylvia, invented The Star of David?! How?

S: It started with rotten gifts. Way back, women got rotten gifts — a bundle of sticks, a sandcastle, a brown tooth.

A shovel was already a birthday present.

So one day when I was digging with my birthday shovel, up came a rock that was yellow and soft like butter. Tasted good it didn’t, but boy could it bend, this away that away. I made circles, squares and on occasion a dodecahedron. Then I hit triangles. What a pastime! You could say I also invented “the hobby.” Anyway, I showed my triangle to the ladies in my village. They loved them! At the time I was married to my 76th husband, David. He hated it.

M: Why? S: One triangle? He kept saying, “Syl...

You have to say ‘And for only 19 1/2 raisins, we’ll double your order! Yes, you’ll get TWO, TWO for the price of ONE.’” Such fighting over that one triangle! “David,” I said. “Who needs TWO triangles?!” Five years we yelled at each other... “1,” “2”... finally we saw the rebbe. He said: “The Lord decreeth that maneth and wifeth shall be equalith. so you, Sylvia, keep your one triangle and David, you make another but put it upside down on top of hers.” Boom!

Two triangles in one. My husband called it The Star of David! Without a Sylvia.

Anyway... tomorrow. Bring food. Gefilte fish. Not the little balls, the big boat ones.

And not sweet. I need diabetes at my age?

Make sure there’s a carrot on top. Make it three. A

Synagogue Life Men’s Club Picnic BBQ with Temple Adat Shalom Oct. 10 at 11 a.m. at Carmel Mountain Ranch Community Park | Temple Adat Shalom is hosting a men’s club picnic in the park. Registration is required. For more information and registration visit adatshalom.com

Congregation Beth Israel’s “Newish, Pewish and Jewish: What We Can Learn from the 2020 Pew Survey on Jewish Americans” Oct. 12 at 10 a.m. on Zoom | Dr. Joellyn Zollman will hold a discussion of highlights from the latest national survey of Jewish Americans. “Dr. Zollman will offer a historian’s perspective on what these surveys can tell us about ourselves and our communities, with a specific focus on findings that are relevant to San Diego.” Event is free, but RSVP for planning purposes. For more information, contact Ilene Tatro at itatro@cbisd.org or visit cbisd.org.

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