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PUBLISHERS

JANUARY 2022 | TEVET • SHEVAT 5782

Mark Edelstein and Dr. Mark Moss EDITOR-IN-CHIEF

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ARTS & ENTERTAINMENT EDITOR

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CONTRIBUTING WRITERS

Features 24 Heidi Gantwerk’s Vision 29 SDJA Students Unveil Original Prototypes at Toy Expo

Columns

Emily Bartell, Linda Bennett, Leorah Gavidor, Emily Gould, Judith Fein (Senior Travel Correspondent), Paul Ross (Senior Travel Photographer), Patricia Goldblatt, Pat Launer, Sharon Rosen Leib, Andrea Simantov, Marnie Macauley, Rabbi Jacob Rupp, Saul Levine, Rachael Eden, Sybil Kaplan.

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9 From the Editor | Culture, Counterculture and Architecture 16 Israeli Lifestyle | Uninvited

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18 Examined Life | Is It Loneliness Or “Only-ness”?

20 Religion | Enrich, Not Get Rich?

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22 Personal Development and Judaism | The Proposal 33 Advice | “It’s Mine!” — When Siblings Argue:

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Departments 10 Our Town

36 Local Offerings

12 The Scene

39 Diversions

14 What’s Up Online

40 News

35 Food

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From the Editor JACQUELINE BULL

Culture, Counterculture and Architecture It is the start of a new (secular) year and I’m finding myself not looking at the future, but looking at the past.

A couple of friends and I recently started renting a 1920s Spanish Colonial Revival home. Much of the original charm like the original doors, windows, even stained glass, are there and others have been updated but kept in the same style like the hardwood floors and tile. I’ve never lived in a house this old. The home that I grew up in Michigan was built in the 1960s and had a lovely cedar shake roof and some nice qualities, although to my untrained eye, it didn’t really seem as if it was from a different era. This home is certainly a far cry to the modern late aughts and 2010s concrete and glass buildings downtown that I’ve grown accustomed to.

I got curious about the history of the home and Spanish Colonial Revival style and started reading about it. To my understanding, the chain of events goes like this: there is the architecture style of pre-colonial era Spain, that gets reinterpreted into Mexico and present day California with Missions during colonization, that style is modernized and reinterpreted for the Panama-California exhibition of 1915 in the architecture of the first buildings in our very own Balboa Park, the style seen in the 1915 exhibition gains popularity throughout Southern California and creates the Spanish Colonial Revival style, it doubles back on itself when this new revival style crops up in Mexico calling it a Californian style of architecture.

This story really tickles me because it is very Californian and very American. Throughout art and culture, you can

trace movements and countermovements all the way back — modernism was a reaction to realism, disco was a reaction to 1960s counterculture which was of course its own reaction and so on and so on. Spanish Colonial Revival style was eventually dethroned by what we would now call Mid-Century Modern architecture.

We humans tend to romanticize the past and even knowing that, I can’t help but be affected by its power.

There is something very human and charming about the style. The way the light comes through the old windows makes me want to get a film camera.

I thought I would learn more about Spain by learning about this old house, but it turned out that it was quintessentially California and even more pointedly connected to San Diego through its iconic Balboa Park.

It makes me think about the similar idea that there are no Chinese restaurants in China. Very rarely do you see restaurants here that are as meta and self-aware as labeling themselves as Californian-style food.

The forces of geography and time create consensus around identity. Homes built around the same time in the same place will have similarities and can unknowingly create a unified idea and so do groups of people under the same parameters. In the eyes of a historian, we are always in the process of making and shaping a collective idea. A

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Our Town

by Linda Bennett and Emily Bartell The San Diego East County Chamber of Commerce held its 19th Annual Women In Leadership Luncheon at Viejas Resort & Casino. Among the six women being honored, it was great to see our very own Elana Levens-Craig.

Elana, a board member of the Santee School District, was honored for “possessing unique and valuable talents that generate lasting and meaningful impacts” in many organizations. The Keynote Speaker for the luncheon, which drew in many of the 450 people in attendance, was Rose Schindler, author and Holocaust Survivor.

Rose shared a video that brought most everyone to tears.

Mazel Tov to Heidi Gantwork, for being named President & CEO of the Jewish Federation of San Diego County.

Speaking of Jewish Federation, an exciting new program called, “Community Table” was created. The program offers small gatherings with old and new friends at private homes for dinner and discussion about Federation’s exciting new work while raising funding for the local and global Jewish communities. On Dec. 10, we attended one of these sessions at the lovely home of Emily & Chris Jennewein. Some of the other guest in attendance that night were Stephanie Kogan & Larry Fritz, Cedric & Shoshannah Hart and Pam & Walt Ferris.

Central Library hosted their “Author of the Month,” Rose Schindler at a discussion and book signing for her book, “Two Who Survived: Keeping Hope Alive While Surviving the Holocaust.” Among those in the audience was 12-year-old Annika Nies with her grandmother.

Mazel Tov to Andrew Levikow on being appointed to Mayor Todd Gloria’s revamped Youth Commission. The Commission consists of a body of 17 young volunteers that advise and discuss issues related to the city’s young adults. Andrew was chosen as the representative of District 7 for the Youth Commission.

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Congratulations to Ernest Rady, recipient of the 2021 International Distinguished Entrepreneur Award (IDEA) from the University of Manitoba Asper School of Business, plus The Order of Manitoba, the province’s highest honor. A University of Manitoba alumnus, Ernest was celebrated for his significant achievements in both Canada and the United States, for his contributions toward the cultural and economic well being of Manitoba and its residents.

It’s never easy saying goodbye to friends starting on new adventures that take them out of San Diego. Some folks that have relocated recently are Bobbi & Steve Reitman (to Israel), and Karen & Bob Zeiger (to L.A.). We wish them well!

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Palm Desert’s Temple Sinai Celebrates Holocaust Survivors Inspired by a café in Stockholm, Sweden where Survivors would gather after the war hoping to find lost relatives and friends, Café Europa is now replicated in more than 100 venues around the world.

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Café Europa is a monthly gathering inviting Holocaust Survivors to participate in social activities. It acknowledges the fact that Survivors share similar memories and experiences. A Café Europa Hanukkah celebration was held at Temple Sinai on Dec. 2.

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by Jordyn Haime, JTA News Scholars do not know exactly when Jews first came to Penang, one of the smaller states in Malaysia, located on the Southeast Asian nation’s western island.

The Jewish cemetery in the region’s capital city of George Town, on a street formerly called Jalan Yahudi — “Jewish Way” — gives an estimate: its first burial was of a Mrs. Shoshan Levi, in 1835. By the turn of the 20th century, a census showed a Jewish population of 172.

Zayn Gregory, an American who himself is a half-Jewish convert to Islam and now lives in the Malaysian city of Kuching, has recently penned a book about Penang’s Jews.

“The Last Jews of Penang,” which was published last week, is a short, all-ages graphic novel, complete with colorful watercolor illustrations of old George Town streets and synagogue scenes by artist Arif Rafhan.

It profiles the history of the once-vibrant Jewish community that occupied old George Town, explaining Jewish ways of life for readers who may have never met a Jew and highlighting some of its famous figures like David Marshall, who would go on to become the first chief minister of Singapore (under British Commonwealth rule).

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by Shira Hanau, JTA News

Israeli officials are expected to attend the Winter Olympic Games in Beijing next year, unlike their American counterparts who will boycott the game to protest China’s human rights abuses against the Uighur Muslim minority.

Earlier this week, the United States announced that no American officials would attend the games. The boycott only applies to diplomatic officials and does not impact the American athletes who will compete in the games. Australia has also said it would boycott the games due to China’s human rights abuses.

In October, Israel chose not to sign a United Nations statement

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ISRAELI LIFESTYLE

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Uninvited Covid has taught that attempting to manipulate outcomes is futile.

A recent conversation with my 92-year-old mother caused me to consider the weight of judgement. Her upscale senior residence boasts a lovely wood‑paneled, carpeted dining room.

She’d recently been invited to join a table of dining regulars, consisting of six women. Mom felt flattered. Inclusion feels so welcoming and, as in high school, there is popularity in numbers. She had previously bemoaned not having a regular dining partner and wasn’t content. Finally, she’d been chosen. Her new tablemates were accomplished, well-read and, as Mom initially stated, “a cut above”. Elitist or not, Mommy had been selected by the “In Crowd.”

A few days after joining the table, our nightly phone conversation felt unnaturally subdued. Was something wrong? Some health issue she wasn’t ready to share or, perhaps, was she just fatigued after an “Intro to Wheelchair KickBoxing” class?

I probed. ‘What is it, Mom? What’s bothering you?’

“I’m ashamed to say it, but these women complain constantly. The lamb chops are too fatty. The pie crust is impossible to cut. Everything is either too cold or too hot. They make nasty comments about everything and everyone and the food is getting stuck in my throat. I keep my mouth shut, but I’m so unhappy. And if I change tables,

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I’ll become the next object of their ridicule. I made a mistake. Mealtime is a torture.”

How could I help from 6,000 miles away in Jerusalem? I offered benign remarks but ached to scold those ladies, give a heavyduty lecture about lashon hora (evil speech and protect my ‘child,’ my mother. But I couldn’t.

The acidic meal-times were otherwise uneventful until one evening, a woman at mom’s table noticed another two residents that had fallen asleep at supper. The dozing-duo rested their respective heads against the wall and were snoring. On cue, mom’s tablemates alerted the entire dining hall with finger-pointing and unbridled laughter. Their cheeks were wet with tears and one elbowed Mom to yuk-yuk along with them, but she’d had enough.

Despite landing at a table of geezer Mean Girls, this wasn’t her. If this is what a “cut above” looked like, Mom would continue to debase herself by exhibiting grace, respecting others and being kind.

Muttering that she didn’t see what was so funny and that she’d eaten enough, she slowly lifted herself from the chair and, decisively grasping the handles of her walker, left the dining room. And her table mates. And the cruelty. If this was ‘inclusion,’ she wanted out.

This brings me to the New Year.

Resolutions are only useful if others benefit as well because we exist as part of a tapestry called Mankind. What if, this January, we added something to the standard list of resolutions (giving more charity, getting in shape, being more devoted to a spouse) to include sitting with our discomforts and/ or disappointments, refraining from complaining and waiting for gratitude to fill the vacuums? Too hard? What if we attempt to try it for an hour a day?

I’d venture to guess that the cosmic repercussions of said endeavor would be earth trembling.

When I spoke with Mom last night, she reported that the lamb chops were tender, the pie crust delicious and that her new table mates were dull and lovely. She wished me a Happy New Year.

I answered, “You, too. I’m proud to be your daughter.” A

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EXAMINED LIFE

OUR EMOTIONAL FOOTPRINT

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Is It Loneliness Or “Only-ness”?

Have you ever felt utterly alone? If not, you are indeed a fortunate soul, because feeling lonely has become common in these times of ambient threats like pandemic and quarantines, ominous signs of global warming and other stressors.

I’ve always been impressed by the sheer number of popular songs about this sad human emotion. I remember feeling lonely when I was a lad about 10-years-old, quite ill and in bed with pneumonia, no one home and feeling sorry for myself. I heard a record called “Tubby the Tuba,” in which he (Tubby) sang, “Alone am I, me and I together/ If I went away from me/How unhappy I would be/Me and I, oh my, sigh,” and I was moved to tears.

I learned more about this poignant feeling from our daughter whom my wife and I had adopted from an orphanage in China. On the first night of her life she had been found wrapped in a blanket on the front stoop of a small post office, utterly alone there, not another soul around.

This dramatic newborn experience was obviously deeply moving to us, as it was at a deep preverbal unconscious level so meaningful to our daughter. (Her momentous beginnings turned out to be a seminal lifelong blessing: Our Chinese/

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American/Jewish/Episcopalian daughter is now thriving as a college senior.)

When she was around four years of age, she told us that she felt alone and added, “What I really feel is ‘only,’” a word she felt better described her feeling sad and forlorn. She was expressing the sense of being abandoned and feeling utterly alone, her penetrating insight into what her “only-ness” was all about.

We were moved by her insights and deeply touched by her pain.

Feeling lonely is a common human experience, which is somewhat jarring given that we are a social species.

Feeling lonely is a common human experience, which is somewhat jarring given that we are a social species. We thrive on relationships with others but we are not identical in our social needs and comfort.

Studies have shown that we tend to feel healthier in mind, body and spirit when we have caring others in our lives. Conversely, extended loneliness can cause anxiety and depression, as well as contribute to cardiovascular, gastrointestinal and other serious physical illnesses.

In studies of people of all ages trying to assess the “worthwhileness” of their lives, we found that their sense of belonging is a key cornerstone in that evaluation.

Whether we call the absence of social supports “loneliness” or “onlyness,” this experience has significantly increased since the onset of the pandemic and also through the rise of social media.

We humans need each other, and we are indeed ourselves the “antidote” to our loneliness. We need to reach out to each other, visit one another, commune and experience feelings with each other. We should cherish gemutlichkeit, or social togetherness in life, in work and play.

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Enrich, Not Get Rich?

I suggested to a friend that instead of operating like a therapist, he operate his business like a coach (using the business model we train our clients to use).

He said,“To call myself a coach would be a downgrade — after all, I’m a therapist!” He had gone to school for over a decade. He had $300K invested in his education. And he was broke — forced to take leads from unappreciative referral companies.

“Enrich, not get rich,” was what he had been told by the keynote speaker at his master’s degree graduation. How enriching can you be when you can’t pay the bills?

How many fake smiles do you put on when you try to help clients lead better lives, but you’re going home to fight with your spouse about what you have to cut back on this month because it’s too expensive?

How empowering can you be when you try to handle your own stress by drinking or eating it away, or looking at yourself in the mirror and wondering (and I’ve been there, trust me), “Why couldn’t G-d have given me a real skill, like being good at math?”

We told this person “There’s nothing actually wrong with you or your practice except that you’re not modeling success.”

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He had gone to school for over a decade. He had $300K invested in his education.

And he was broke.

There are plenty of people making money out there — but did you ask yourself if you were following a path that would actually get you there. You think you can build wealth charging $150/hr? You think you can create freedom working for people that don’t value yours? In both cases, the answer is no.

Chances are that the keynote speaker, who told my client “Enrich, not get rich,” was getting paid a lot of money by institutions to create demand for more students (read: customers) to enroll in the same or another institution to get another degree to enhance their financial prospects.

I told my client, “Look — do what you want, leverage ALL of your skill set to help clients get breakthroughs...But if you look at coaches (the ones who use the system that we train them on at least) the thing that they all have is enough money.”

Drop your need to be right — your need to wave around your diplomas, certifications, rabbinic degrees. It makes you safe, but it doesn’t make you rich.

And importantly it also doesn’t help your clients, just your ego.

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PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT AND JUDAISM

THIS WAY TO EDEN

by Rachel Eden | rachel.s.eden@gmail.com

The Proposal I rarely offer a long-term contract to a client, but she was special. She had spent decades checking off an imaginary list of expectations: Husband? Check.

Kids? Check. Stable job? Check.

Upstanding community member? Check.

She was also tired, unfulfilled and ready to live her life outside of the checklist.

Her children were out of the house, she and her husband were separated and she wanted a career change to pursue her dreams. Additionally, she was bright, selfmotivated, enthusiastic — essentially an ideal client. I proposed to her for a year.

She said yes!

How we began our year and how we ended it were remarkably different. She and I spent time at the beginning of the year really drawing out what she wanted for herself. This is a simple but powerful exercise that most people will never do. Most people spend their lives never slowing down enough to ask themselves: What do I want for my life? If I wasn’t scared, if I trusted myself, what would I want?

About 15 years ago, I went to a seminar where the instructor shared, “Everything in your life is the way you want it.” I was appalled and baffled.

There were many elements of my life I wanted to eliminate and others that I wanted to add. I was managing what was thrown at me; I wasn’t creating. And that’s just it: I wasn’t creating. But when I started to intentionally build what I wanted and connect with a personal vision, my life took on a different shape.

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The type of adversity that most of our biblical personalities contend with propel them into a life of intention. Abraham, the father of monotheism, grows up in a society of idolaters. His father owns a shop selling idols and Abraham smashes them to pieces. Abraham never had a shot at living unintentionally because his entire worldview countered everyone around him. Moses flees Pharaoh’s

When I started to intentionally build what I wanted and connect with a personal vision, my life took on a different shape.

kingdom when he’s young, shunned by his own people, the Hebrews, and afraid for his safety with the Egyptians who raised him. Moses had to rip up any checklist of “shoulds” in favor of a life he chose no matter the consequences. Living your own life and not allowing your life to live you is the unspoken 11th commandment.

In one of our first sessions with this client, she shared with me what an ideal relationship with a romantic partner

would look like for her. She delved into details like how he would take good care of her, support her lofty dreams, accept her with her flaws and be madly in love with her. Fast forward a year, we reflected on our time together and all of her progress. She had identified a new professional mission and mapped out important milestones she was actively reaching. She had finalized her divorce and shifted her relationship with her children for the better. She was also dating a wonderful new man who was indeed accepting and in love with her.

But, here’s the kicker. She realized that the time she spent creating a vision for a partner was in fact a love letter to herself.

She was no longer subject to the judgement or expectations of others.

She no longer had an imaginary check list of “shoulds” that she would need to complete at her own expense.

She was forging her own path and unapologetically defining her own rules and standards for success. She was taking good care of herself. She was investing in her own dream. She was accepting herself with her flaws. She was falling in love with herself.

Intentional living creates self love.

We are proposing to ourselves as our own ideal partners to co-build a life of actualization and meaning. One critical lesson I want to impart on my own children is that they are fully responsible for themselves. They must radically accept who they are and continues on next page >>

Personal Development continued connect deeply with who they can become. They need to learn how to talk to themselves encouragingly, lovingly (hopefully emulating the way I mostly speak to them!) and they must work until they understand that they’re far more powerful than they know. I want these children to see themselves as the great loves of their own lives so they can commit to building extraordinary ones.

A woman who struggled with her weight recently told me that she finds herself eating at night with an inner voice saying: ‘I can do what I want. Nobody can tell me what to do!’ Trouble was, she couldn’t seem to tell herself what to do either. When we face an inner void at some point in our lives (or frequently), we seek to fill it. The message we tell ourselves is that our own discomfort is too much for us to bear. We aren’t strong enough to hold a hard feeling. In contrast, when we propose to ourselves, we begin to shift our mental chatter so that it sounds more like: This is hard, but I can do hard things. Who would I be without this fear?

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FEATURE

Heidi Gantwerk’s Vision

“I think there are some vibrant and exciting

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Federation’s New CEO talks the challenges and opportunities of San Diego Jewish life

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ou may know the name Heidi Gantwerk and if you don’t, she is one degree away from every name you would recognize in Jewish San Diego. Her credentials for the last 28 years in San Diego are extensive (SDJA, JCC, Congregation Beth Israel, to name a few) and now she is stepping into the role of President and CEO of Jewish Federation of San Diego County.

She is stepping into the shoes of her friend and colleague, the late Michael Jeser and during a global pandemic no less, so it is no small task.

“It was a hard way to start, but I feel really privileged to carry on his vision and build on what we started on together which is one of the great joys of taking this position in such difficult circumstances,” Heidi Gantwerk said.

Stepping back and looking at her long involvement in Jewish life in San Diego — the total of both her lay leader and professional positions which would be too numerous to mention — she has a holistic perspective in that the personal, professional and philanthropic aspects all blend together into one Jewish life.

Some activities that are personal highlights for her are serving as board chair at SDJA during Covid which saw an increase in school enrollment and the Youth Teen Choir trip to Israel she took with 70 people from her synagogue Beth Israel (she now sings with the cantor over livestream with her husband on piano).

“I’ve watched the power that trip has had over the past 12 years in creating

committed Jewish young people and leadership within our community, so I know that every experience that we create for Jewish people has ripple effects that can extend years,” she said.

One of the ripples that she is contemplating in the present is how Covid has changed how, in her words, people “do Jewish” and what opportunities that presents for Jewish organizations.

“When synagogues have communities that are coming from around the country or around the world what does that mean coming out of this? What do we keep from that? I think for Federation it is a very important question to think about kehilla and how do we think about Jewish community. What role does technology have to play going forward to bring people together? So I think we have a period of discovery ahead of us that I’m excited about and curious to see what happens,” she said.

She cites people with young families, people with physical or financial challenges as examples of groups that really benefited from having more digital options to engage “Jewishly.”

“I think that the traditional sort of Jewish life is going to look different and we need to think about it differently, but I think that there are some really vital and vibrant and exciting things happening,” she said.

This is part of a larger trend of how younger generations have had increasingly easy access to engage philanthropically all over the world continues on next page >>

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Coming out of Covid, I think there is this need for this reconnection to Jewish life.

There is power in this moment.

Some of her priorites for her time as President are poverty in the San Diego Jewish community, building on security, strengthening the people-to-people relationships in Israel, combating anti-Semitism and supporting the next generation of leaders of both teens and young adults.

“There is so much to be done; the opportunity is enormous. We have time. We have energy and there is such a need. Coming out of Covid, I think there is this need for this reconnection to Jewish life. There is power in this moment. My overall goal is I want Federation to be at the center of Jewish life in San Diego and I want everybody to think of us and partner with us. We should be a first choice for every agency in this community to partner,” she said.

“Part of what Federation is supposed to do and what we are doing is always looking at what’s coming, right?

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FEATURE

SDJA Students Unveil Original Prototypes at Toy Expo

by Nathalie Feingold San Diego Jewish Academy’s Center for Innovation and Entrepreneurial Thinking (CIET) was developed to prepare students for the rapid technological advancements of modern society. The program helps teachers integrate technology into their classrooms, guide IT development and encourages student-to-student collaboration.

CIET has been incorporated into the SDJA curriculum and one of SDJA’s classes that embodies the objectives of CIET is “Ideas to Products,” co-designed

by CIET Director Kwaku Aning and Instructor Marc Muroff.

Kwaku described the overarching goal of the class, “The goal is that by the end of the year, students will have designed their own business solution for something that is either driven by their interest or driven by a problem that they’ve observed within society.”

A student creates their own prototype and develops a business model around how they would scale and monetize their

idea. Then they present their prototype and business model to local and national people within the business world for feedback.

SDJA students participated in a Toy Expo where the high schoolers create the toys that the third‑graders help them dream up.

With the support of CIET, high school students in the “Ideas to Products” class recently participated in a Toy Expo where the high schoolers create the toys that the third-graders help them dream up.

“As part of this project for physical computing, the students had to actually design toys and so they conducted empathy interviews with third-graders, so third-graders were the target audience and design partners. Then on the high school level, we had students from 9th grade through 12th grade who were physically building out the toys,” Kwaku said.

After the interviews, the high school students had just three days to build their prototypes before the expo. The unit centered around physical computing and robotics, so the students had to apply in-class learning to their creations.

Kwaku highlighted two toys as examples. One was a theremin that used an Arduino sensor to change keys.

“The design constraint was that the student wanted a musical instrument.

They decided, well we could make a piano, but this would be more fun to play with as a kid as far as creating music within space and having motion tied to continues on next page >>

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it without the technicality involved of playing an actual physical instrument,” Kwaku described.

The other project he highlighted was a toy bear that projected a heart in front of a light. The color of the toy was based on the third-grade student’s favorite color.

“The student didn’t say, ‘hey I want it to be this color,’ it just happened to be mentioned that that was their favorite color. The idea of the light being a piece that creates a connection to the student and the toy struck me,” Kwaku said.

Both of those inventions exemplify quick, innovative thinking and empathetic listening; two key elements of the class.

Kwaku explained that one of the best parts of the program is building meaningful connections between students of all ages on campus.

“From the high school perspective, the idea of, not even just empathy, but

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being able to see past their own needs and desires. It was really pointed, it was a deliberate piece to have them design for someone else. And then from the third-grade perspective, the idea of them being empowered by giving more gravity to their opinions and their voices. Also [it created] that connection between them and older students,” Kwaku said.

Kwaku noted he was most proud of the students’ abilities to collaborate with other students and their bravery to be willing to make mistakes. He described the process as energizing to everybody involved and the exchange and proliferation of ideas as being “larger than life.” The idea for the toy expo even inspired the instructor of the third-grade class, Jacinta Capelli, to come up with an idea for a reversed version of the expo where the third graders build something for the high school students.

“I think it’s really important to stress that this isn’t possible without the SDJA community, no matter how great the initial idea or vision is,” Kwaku said.

SDJA and CIET have a lot of new initiatives in the works like a partnership with a Holocaust museum and one with Coastal Roots Farm. Kwaku emphasized that they are always looking to create new ways for students to experience learning within their community, both on-and-off campus.

“This is a living organism; it’s going to evolve and new ideas are going to develop as a result of what’s been attempted.

This exchange is taking on a larger life and creating more connections and even a pathway for students to be more innovative in the way that they view their educational process,” Kwaku said. A

OP-ED

CMC Cares: Mental Health Takes Center Stage

by Buddy Voit When Rachel Shyloski first learned of the Foundation for Jewish Camp’s Yedid Nefesh (beloved soul) grant to promote mental health initiatives, she leapt at the opportunity to apply on behalf of Camp Mountain Chai (CMC). Rachel, who was recently named Camp Director, was the Associate Director in 2018, and had begun implementing programs to address mental health concerns surrounding our youth. Rachel, who holds a Masters of Social Work (MSW), was attuned to the fact that so many of our campers’ interpersonal skills were suffering due to excessive screen time, social media and more.

The pandemic made things worse.

Campers who were isolated from friends and extended family members began to suffer from anxiety, depression and self-harm. A survey conducted this past summer of 90 Jewish overnight camps, representing over 15,000 campers found that in the months leading up to camp, 53% of parents were concerned about a lack of social interaction for their children and 73% were concerned about the amount of screentime.

Our approach has always been to meet campers ‘where they are at,’ and the Yedid Nefesh grant provided CMC the opportunity to proactively address the mental, emotional, social and

“He returned home with a fresh perspective, full of joy and experiences because of his session at camp.”

spiritual health of our campers when needed most. Beginning with the hiring of two mental health professionals and enhanced staff-wide training, the impact of the program was felt from top to bottom. The focus of the intensive training was to make sure campers felt important and acknowledged. Cabin tool kits were created as a resource to facilitate relationship building through games, art projects and conversation starters. Our sensory tent continued to provide respite for campers and, thanks to the grant, staff were better equipped with tools to help campers decompress and reset themselves.

CMC provided a safe space for campers to boost their self confidence and self-esteem. Whether it was conquering the rock wall, mastering

the leap of faith on the ropes course, or hitting a bullseye on the archery range, camp was a place for campers to spread their wings and recoup what the pandemic year stole.

The breadth and depth of mental health issues this past summer was significant. Hiring mental health professionals and implementing tools funded through the Yedid Nefesh grant alongside our existing protocols gave our campers the opportunity to reconnect with each other and our staff.

As one parent wrote to us, “Due to the pandemic, I was worried how the lack of social growth and community was affecting our son. He returned home with a fresh perspective, full of joy and experiences because of his session at camp. We are very appreciative for everyone at CMC for creating a safe and fun community!”

Camp is more than just a place we call home. Creating a safe and inclusive environment is what we strive for at CMC. Camp continues to prioritize everyone’s mental health and well-being, returning campers home the best version of themselves. A Buddy Voit, Executive Director of Camp Mountain Chai can be reached at buddy@campmountainchai.com

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When Siblings Argue: Strategies That Work Part 1 Shalom my dear San Diegans: As we head into a new secular year, we think of growth, forward movement and... age. Which brings us to siblings who are growing and hopefully steeped in adoration. Of course when we were young we were the soul of empathy, generosity and self-sacrifice, especially when we let our little bro take the Danish cookie that is plain with a dot on it. (Face it: who likes that one anyway?) And look how we turned out? (Never mind.) So we wonder, who are these little ones we brought into the world with such love, celebration and psychobabble?

My seven-year-old Rachel starts off her morning murmuring what sounds like a third world insult to her little sister; one she learned on Google. Let’s look more closely at the strategies we can use to help our little ones get along (or at least not lock each other in the garage.)

Getting It! Strategies for Siblings PART ONE: TAKE A LOOK As I hinted above, despite the early echoes of our own sibling tales and tallies of “wins” and “losses,” somehow most of us naively assumed this sort of thing happened to other people’s children. After all, haven’t we worked

hard at creating good feelings among them? Exposed them to chesed, kavod, rachmanus? Divided Ding Dongs with digital calipers? Read “Cat in the Hat” precisely 300 times to each? Twisted ourselves into pretzels dividing our attention with an equality that would put any Supreme Court to shame?

Yet, our little fighting sibs charge us with tyrannical unfairness in angry, plaintive bellows that have the capacity to drown out a fighter jet and launch our nervous system into hyperdrive.

Solomon himself might say, “Break it in half, don’t break it in half... do whatever you want, already!” when trying to “settle” these squabbles. More, quaking, we wonder: “Do they truly hate each other?” “Is my child selfish and spiteful?”

Then we add to “mixmosh” our adult values and expectations: “Boys should protect their sisters.” “Kids should play nicely.” “They should be more understanding.” “Sharing is the RULE.” And then we “share” these platitudes or act like the CIA. “You should be nicer to your sister!

You’re the big brother!”

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Then there’s “childrens’ court,” a place where there’s only “Right!” (“Me”) and “Wrong!” (“Them”), “Fair” or “Unfair” (to “me”) with few areas of gray.

“Extenuating circumstances” is beyond their emotional and intellectual reach.

“Who do you love better?” of course, is the eternal question that sometimes stretches sadly into adulthood.

These are some of the questions, reasons and issues parents of siblings face. In Part 2, we will look at Rational Strategic Thinking (SRT) Methods And Strategies to handle sibling rivalry. A

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All content is available on sdrep.org.

Patrons must be fully vaccinated or show a negative PCR test result within 72 hours of the performance.

JAN. 6 – 30: The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-time | Lyceum Stage This award-winning play is based on an international bestselling novel by Mark Haddon. The story centers around a precocious 15-year-old boy who takes on the role of detective to discover who murdered his neighbor’s dog.

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Cygnet Theatre All content is on cygnettheatre.com JAN. 26 – FEB. 27: Life Sucks The regional premiere of this comical reworking of Chekhov’s “Uncle Vanya.” A group of seven old friends, ex‑lovers, estranged in-laws and enemies come together with copious amounts of vodka to discuss life’s mysteries.

JAN. 22, 8 P.M.: Jazz at Lincoln Center Orchestra with Wynton Marsalis | Balboa Theatre Enjoy a highly-anticipated performance by the Jazz at Lincoln Center Orchestra, led by Wynton Marsalis.

San Diego Symphony All content is available on sandiegosymphony.org.

ONGOING: Winter-Spring 2022 Concert Season The San Diego Symphony will feature 31 performances of classical and contemporary masterworks and chamber music starting Jan. 15 through May 28.

JAN. 15-16, 8 P.M, 2 P.M.: Jacobs Masterworks 06 | Civic Theatre, Downtown San Diego The Jacobs Masterworks winter-spring season includes 12 programs spanning over 300 years of musical composition.

JAN. 28-29, 8 P.M., 2 P.M.: Jacobs Masterworks 07 This concert will feature Berlioz’s “Symphonie Fantastique.”

▲ Wynton Marsalis.

San Diego Museum of Art All content is available on sdmart.org JAN. 9, 2 P.M.: Virtual Tour of 20th Century Art | Online Tour SDMA virtually via Zoom. Each tour is approximately 50 minutes, this tour focuses on 20th century art.

Registration is required.

The Reuben Fleet Science Center

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All content is on rhfleet.org and requires registration.

George Li, pianist, in “Symphonie Fantastique.”

Photo by Simon Fowler.

La Jolla Music Society All content is available on ljms.org.

Patrons must provide proof of vaccination or wear a mask at all times.

JAN. 7, 7 P.M.: Emanuel Ax | The Baker-Baum Concert Hall This all-Chopin program is part of La Jolla Music Society’s “Piano Series.” It also includes a lecture by Kristi Brown Montesano.

JAN. 13, 7 P.M.: Nat Geo Live: Skiing the Dream Line | The Baker-Baum Concert Hall As part of La Jolla Music Society’s “Speaker Series.” Join Nat Geo’s 2018 Adventurer of the Year Hilaree Nelson as she shares her story of being the first to ski the fourthhighest mountain in the world: Lhotse.

JAN. 3, 10:30 A.M.: Sharp Minds This discussion is titled: “One Size Does Not Fit All: Research Approaches to Overcome Challenges in Ovarian Cancer Treatment.” This talk is centered around the importance of studying the different types of ovarian cancer and the differences in disease presentation, genetic mutations and treatment response. Hosted by Dr. Layng and followed by a special screening of “Dream Big” at noon.

JAN. 5, 7 P.M.: LIVE Sky Tonight Ponder the wonders of the winter sky live and in person at the Heikoff Dome Theater.

JAN. 6, 9 A.M.: Young Scientists | Online and in-person A preschool science program for hands-on science and learning experiences.

San Diego Natural History Museum All content is on sdnhm.org.

JAN. 2, 8, 15, 19, 23, 29: Nature Hike This month’s hikes are at Anza-Borrego Desert State Park, Balboa Park, Luelf Pond Preserve and Manchester Habitat Conservation Area.

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JANUARY

Senior Events Lawrence Family JCC SEE OBJECTS IN A NEW WAY

In-Person at LFJCC Contact Sarah Mattes: 858-362-1136 or sarahm@lfjcc.org Jan. 21, 28 at 9:30 a.m.

Price: $15 | JCC Members: Free, materials are an additional cost Join instructor Susan Schwarz and learn how to sketch ordinary objects that you see in your everyday life. For more information, or to sign-up, contact Sarah Mattes or visit lfjcc.org/seniors.

Vista Friends and Newcomers MAHJONG

In-Person at El Corazon Senior Center Jan. 5, 12, 19, 26 at 10 a.m.

This event recurs every Wednesday. Visit vistafriendsnewcomers.org for more information.

JFS Balboa Ave IN-PERSON

Contact Aviva Saad: 858-637-7340 JFS Balboa Ave is open Monday through Thursday from 10 a.m. to 2 p.m. and offers activities for people with dementia. Attendance is limited and reservations are required.

ON THE GO

Transportation Services Call 858-637-7320 to book a ride.

On The Go Excursions expected to be back soon!

On The Go is now offering rides for Seniors to schedule a Covid-19 vaccination or booster. Seniors or their caregivers can call 858-637-3210 to schedule a ride.

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DIVERSIONS

Jewish Golden Globes Film nominees for 2022

by Emily Burack, JTA News The Golden Globes won’t be televised, but there will be Jewish honorees.

After numerous controversies have rattled the Hollywood Foreign Press Association — from a “culture of corruption” to not a single Black member — NBC decided it will not be airing the annual film and television awards show this year, but the association will announce winners Jan. 9.

Here’s what you need to know about the Jewish nominees for the 2022 Golden Globes.

Steven Spielberg‘s “West Side Story” received four nods, including best picture (musical or comedy) and best director for Jewish director Spielberg.

Competing against Spielberg in the best director category is Maggie Gyllenhaal, for her directorial debut

“The Lost Daughter,” an adaptation of the Elena Ferrante novel of the same name.

Andrew Garfield’s star turn as American Jewish composer and lyricist Jonathan Larson in “Tick, Tick...Boom!” earned him a nomination for best actor in a motion picture (musical or comedy).

Also in the acting movie nominees is Alana Haim for her role in Paul Thomas Anderson’s “Licorice Pizza.”

The other Jewish nominees in the movie categories include Aaron Sorkin, for his screenplay for “Being the Ricardos,” and Hans Zimmer, for his score for “Dune.” A

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The News Hillel Scholarship Applications Now Open Applications are officially open for two Hillel scholarships.

The Handeli First-Year Student Scholarship is available for incoming first-year students and the Hillel Campus Leadership Award is specifically for undergraduate college students. Interested students are encouraged to apply by Mar. 1, 2022.

Similarly, Hillel International recently awarded the winners of their 2021 scholarships which include a young novelist, social leaders and active community members.

Rabbi Lord Jonathan Sacks Honored with Posthumous Lifetime Achievement Award In late November, Rabbi Lord Jonathan Sacks was honored with the Genesis Lifetime Achievement Award a year after his death. The award was presented to Lady Elaine Sacks in London by the President of Israel Isaac Herzog.

The award seals Lord Sacks’ legacy and commends his life-long work as a teacher of Jewish values. He was recognized for his significant role in inspiring the next generation of Jews and as an advocate for interreligious and intercultural dialogue.

“Rabbi Sacks became a masterful articulator of the Jewish foundation of universal values, while unapologetically verbalizing a proud, dignified Jewish identity.” President Herzog said, “He reached across the aisle and across different religions; he brought the Torah down from the heavens — to the smartphone generation.

This is Rabbi Sacks’ legacy. Each of us can step up, light our own flame and lead, in ancient days and in our times.”

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For more information on the scholarship recipients or to apply, visit hillel.org/scholarships.

Camp Mountain Chai Announces New Camp Director Rachel Shyloski was named Camp Director effective Jan. 3, 2022. Rachel previously worked at CMC for 12 years, with experience serving as both Associate Director and Assistant Director.

“I’m proud and excited to pass the torch to Rachel, who has been my trusted partner since I started at Camp Mountain Chai. Rachel cares unendingly for the campers and staff, and our community will continue to benefit immensely from her leadership. No one is more prepared to lead CMC,” said outgoing Camp Director Dan Baer.

CMC is confident in Rachel’s ability to carry on their camp traditions and lead them into the future.

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Let us work together to create a wedding ceremony that reflects the joy of your special day.

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Jewish Disability Awareness, Acceptance & Inclusion Month Ohr Shalom Announces Star-Studded Program for 2022 The line-up for Ohr Shalom’s 2022 JDAIM programming features an award-winning author, an Emmy-winning playwright and a virtual screening of PBS’ American Masters: Becoming Helen Keller.

Kenny Fries, an internationally recognized poet, memoirist and essayist whose work reflects his experience as a Jewish, disabled, gay man, will Zoom in from Berlin, where he has been working on his upcoming book on Aktion T4, the Nazi program that mass murdered people with disabilities, its relationship to the Holocaust, and its resonance today. His talk will take us on a tour through his work and his mind, weaving together the intersectionality of the three major aspects of his identity with his Holocaust research. www.kennyfries.com/

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Ellen Gould, who received an Emmy for her biographical musical Bubbe Meises, Bubbe Stories (PBS), will honor us with a preview of her solo musical, Seeing Stars.

Written and performed by Ms. Gould, Seeing Stars is about vision in all its senses, telling the stories of 5 diverse women all affected by Stargardt disease (juvenile macular degeneration), with limited sight and limitless vision. The musical won top honors at The United Solo Festival in NYC in November 2019. www.ellengould.org/ Becoming Helen Keller, the newest PBS American Masters production, unlocks little-known and multifaceted aspects of the life of Helen Keller--showing us a woman whose achievements went well beyond the view of her we all know from the popular view of her. This new film documents her commitment to social justice, disability rights, women’s rights, voting rights, civil rights, disabled veterans, support for NAACP and the ACLU, and many other progressive causes.

Ohr Shalom will host a virtual screening of the film, followed by a discussion led by disability media experts and scholars. www.becominghelenkeller.org/

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Schedule of Events Kenny Fries, His Work and His Life -- February 27, 10:30 AM Ellen Gould, Seeing Stars--March 6, 10:30 AM Becoming Hellen Keller--TBD All programs on Zoom: us02web.zoom.us/j/83107501072 Ohr Shalom has taken the lead in JDAIM programming in San Diego for the past three years and has always welcomed community partners.

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nges with kindness le al ch s ’ fe li ng ti ee M munity. in our Jewish Com

We believe no Jewish household should face life’s challenges alone.

Adopt-A-Kindness Family When you “Adopt-A-Kindness Family” you can make a substantial difference in the life of a specific, local Jewish individual or household.

Our Adopt-A-Kindness Family program is a one-year commitment to giving and helps a family through whatever hardship they are facing.

One hundred percent of your gift goes directly to the family each month, and your contribution is tax deductible.

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You’re Invited

Community-wide Book of Life Signing Ceremony

Sunday, March 27, 2022 11:00 am with Kosher Brunch

Congregation Beth Am 5050 Del Mar Heights Road, San Diego, CA 92130 Individuals and families who have committed to include a Jewish organization in their after-lifetime plans, or who have contributed to a current endowment fund, are invited to include a personal statement in the San Diego Jewish Community’s Book of Life.

This archival collection of statements by members of our community is prominently displayed, along with photos of the donor or family, at the offices of the Jewish Community Foundation San Diego.

If you have previously signed the Book of Life, it will be our honor to recognize you at the ceremony.

To Register Please Contact:

Mara at (858) 279-2740 x107 or legacy@jcfsandiego.org All attendees are welcome to invite their family to accompany them at the celebration.

The Book of Life program symbolizes the true concept of L’Dor V’Dor, passing on traditions from one generation to the next.

The inscriptions in the Book of Life detail the personal thoughts, life experiences and philanthropic vision that inspired the gift.

These statements inspire others to include Jewish organizations in their charitable estate plans.

(858) 279-2740 / legacy@jcfsandiego.org / jcfsandiego.org/bol