West Hempstead Jewish Journal | Pesach Edition (88 Pages) by A. Gross

Vol. 1, No. 2 • April 11, 2019

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Rabbi Yehuda Kelemer, Rav Of The Young Israel of West Hempstead

Rabbi Menachem Brick

Rabbi Schwalb, Rav of Eitz Chayim, West Hempstead

"V'heegadata L'Bincha Bayom Hahoo Le'Mor" (And you shall retell the event to your son on that day, saying---) (Exodus) A number of years ago, on Shabbos Hagadol, I suggested a variant explanation of the above verse. The words "Bayom Hahoo" may not only refer to the verb "V'heegadata". It may also be connected to "L'Vincha". The translation that would emerge would be: And you shall retell the story to the child who becomes your son on that day.

At the outset of the Haggadah, the author states that one who elaborates on the story of the exodus from Egypt is praiseworthy. The great Rabbinic voice of the 19th century, Rabbi Naftali Zvi Berlin zt”l, known as the Netziv asks why does the author comment that it is praiseworthy. Of course, one must tell the story and teach it to our children. It is a commandment found in the Torah!

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One of the central themes of the Yom Tov of Pesach and of Yetzias Mitzrayim is Zechirah, to remember. As the Torah states in Parshas Bo: “Zachor Es Hayom Asher Yatzasem Mimitzrayim, remember the day when you went out from Egypt, from the house of bondage.” (Shemos 13:3). Similarly, in Parshas Reeh, we are commanded to sacrifice the Korban Pesach and not eat chametz for seven days “Lemaan Tizkor Es Yom Seischa Me’eretz Mitzrayim” – Continued On Page 12

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To My Dearest Editors, I absolutely loved this new addition to our community. The Divrei Torah from the communal Rabbanim was perfect. At our Purim Seudah, my entire family read each of the Divrei Torah. We took turns passing the paper around. It was so cute. Most importantly, your Ari Kahn zt”l, and Rabbi Raphael Pelcovitz zt”l pages was not only beautifully designed, but it was my highlight of Purim, (and Shabbos when I was able to finish reading them). The Hespedim were moving. They made me think about what my life, and what I’ve accomplished until now. Both men whom were two truly incredible, brought light to my Purim. The Advertisements were fun, loved the color. So proud to have our own newspaper! Oh, and the tiny font Purim Shtick made the paper so much more exciting! Thank you! Continued on Page 72

It is with much excitement, pleasure and delight to introduce you to our enlarged Second Edition of The West Hempstead Jewish Journal. As we go to print, you can already feel the community’s excitement in getting ready for Pesach. And, to all the dozens of new families that moved into West Hempstead just in the past few months, we welcome you and we’re sure you’ll enjoy your first Pesach in town. With so many Shul Events on the calendar, you can be sure you & your children will be busy. I’d like to thank all the advertisers and writers for enhancing the paper tremendously, with their excitement and enthusiasm.

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As our community expands, so has Hunki’s, with a clear, exciting, creative and innovative vision, spearheaded by its new owner, Eric Fiedler. All are welcome to enjoy the plethora of the Cholov Yisroel palate-pleasing new upgraded menu. The WHJJ had a sit-down gala lunch with the new owner, and now together with the community, look forward to the new Hunki’s experience after Pesach.

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FROM THE EDITOR By Sender Gross

Continued from the front cover This Special Pesach Edition of the Newspaper indicates the potential our incredible community has shown. Whether you’ve noticed it or not, the growth this neighborhood has had in past few years is truly incredible. With the influx of over 600 new families in town, we’re closing in at close to 1,900 families in town. 1,900 Shul Families creates so many new ideas, developments and projects going on in town. So many new young Rabbanim, and Professionals who moved in, bringing in with them ideas and plans to bring things to life. And, with so much going on in town, one can sometimes find it difficult to take a step back and actually be aware of all that’s going on. Whether it be our Daily Minyanim (In All Shuls), Daily Shiurim (In All Shuls), Shul Building Campaigns, Youth Events, Shul Dinners, School News, Restaurant Hours and/or Specials, Store Renovations and Construction, this issue has it all. So, when you go through these pages, look around, and you’ll be surprised at how much ‘The New’ West Hempstead has to offer. Of the many things the Editorial Staff and I are proud to include in this issue is the new Community Shul Daily Shiurim Listings Chart. Which lists every Shul in our community’s Shiurim that takes place weekly. We even included Shabbos! You’ll be able to see every Shiur, where it is, when it is, what topic it is, and who’s giving it. Daf Yomi Shiurim, Halacha Shiurim, Women’s Parsha Shiurim, and Chassidus Shiurim, all have a place here in the community. Similarly, we organized a Weekly Minyanim Chart for every Shul in the community. Every Minyan, every time, and where it is. As the line goes nowadays with Online Torah “There’s no excuse not to learn, there’s Torah Shiurim instantly in your pocket!” We have something similar here too. Can’t give that excuse for not knowing that Minyan or Shiur time! (But we all try our best, one step at a time) I additionally would like to thank all those who helped this publication possible, you all know who you are. We encourage all of our readers, even those who just look at the Advertisements, or Comics, to send us feedback, questions, comments and suggestions. In addition, if you have any content you feel would be helpful to our newspaper and community, please let us know.

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RESTORING OUR LOVE FOR TORAH Rabbi Yehuda Kelemer, Rav of The Young Israel of West Hempstead

Continued from front cover… I resolved that one of the debilitating effects of slavery was the emotional severance of children from parents. The child requires an image of a parent as one who is an anchor of strength. Slavery robs a parent of his image reducing him in the eyes of a child to one who is utterly powerless and

whose entire existence is concentrated on bare survival. The night of Pesach when a father and mother inhaled the breath of freedom, was also a night of reconciliation; a night in which the story of the miracles rehabilitated the bond between child and parent. The aforementioned thought came to mind when a member recently came into the office to discuss an issue which troubled him. He felt that the overwhelming involvement in career would one day take its toll on his ability to teach his child Torah. One day his son would turn to him and ask him "Peshat" in a Rashi and he would be unable to answer. He felt if he would not wrench some time from his work to study Torah, his child would not turn to him for spiritual or moral guidance, a role that he deeply felt he would want to fulfill. How many more people, I wondered, are out there, engaged in the pursuit of bread so intensely and leaving behind the spiritual needs of the family. Is it enough to entrust our children's education totally to a Yeshiva? Have we become slaves to our careers; unaware of its effect on our children's image of selves? Will they understand one day the excuse - as legitimate as it may be - "well, I just didn't have the time"? Pesach night may be the most opportune occasion to reflect upon this distance we create between ourselves and our children. When we hold them close; when we listen to the sweetness of a "Mah Nishtanah": and the insightfulness of their innocent questions - shouldn't we ask ourselves - "Mah Nishtanah" - why should this night be different? Shouldn't we devote more nights to study Torah - to explore its richness and to create an ongoing Torah conversation with our children; indeed, to make them our students and inspire them to follow our example? A personal and individual 'geulah' is offered to a Jewish parent on the night of Pesach; geulah in whose merit we will one day witness the realization of the prophet's words; "V'heshiv lev avos al banom" "And he will restore the hearts of parents to children"

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RELIVING THAT DREAM OF OUR PAST By Rabbi Menachem Brick Continued from front cover… The Netziv offers, that unlike other Mitzvos that have a certain parameter of time to accomplish the commandment, and once that time has passed, one no longer fulfills the mitzvah, here one does continue to fulfill the mitzvah long into the evening. The question to be asked is, why?

I would like to offer a possible answer. The story of this evening is not something of the past but an ongoing event. Every generation experiences the Exodus. We are commanded to see this evening as if we ourselves are experiencing the Exodus. In fact, there are many Halachos and minhagim of the evening which foster this idea. There is a story told of the great Chasidic Rabbi, Baal Kedushas

Halevy zt”l . As he was conducting his own Seder , it was revealed to him from on high, that one of his follower’s Seder was so beautiful, so perfect in tone and practice that the angels and the Almighty himself were enamored with his actions that evening. The Rebbe asked that this individual come see him the next day to learn of his great accomplishment. The individual came to the Rebbe. The simple Jew explained that he had

heard from the Kedushas Levi that their minhag was not to drink any form of whiskey ( Kosher for Passover of course) during the 8 days of Passover . This individual loved to drink whiskey but wanted very much to follow the directives of his teacher. He instead drank throughout the day, prior to the Seder. He became intoxicated and fell asleep missing the Seder. He awoke for but a few seconds . This simple Jew looked up to the sky and with tears in his eyes he proclaimed “I am an ignorant man. I cannot elaborate much on the story of this Exodus. However, I know my ancestors were in Egypt. They were slaves and You; the Almighty took them out of Egypt, and I know that You will one day take us out of this galus” He fell asleep and that was his Seder. He had such Emunah and Bitachon of the Exodus that he relived the moment ,transporting himself back to Egypt and back to Europe He threw himself into the arms of the Almighty knowing full well that all was indeed in His hands and He would continue to redeem him from this galus. That is not a moment that one can limit to a particular time. One who truly believes that the Almighty is here with us now, and is again taking us out of Egypt, cannot leave His side at the strike of midnight. One holds on and remains in His presence, unable to separate from Him. How does one cease from living the story of Exodus? I believe that is the answer of Baal Haggadah. There are no limits to the mitzvah because it is the essence of who we are and our belief in the Almighty. We cannot part from the Almighty. We are in his hands and welcome the warmth of his love and caring for all of us. We are a most fortunate generation. We have returned to our homeland. We have witnessed so many miracles. Can you not hear the footsteps of Mashiach? How much more fortunate are we than this pashuta Jew, who fell asleep and awoke in a land far away from our homeland, dreaming of a Geulah that seemed so far away ,and yet he could taste it that evening. We are witness to the fulfillment of so many prophecies. Can you not still hear the crying voice of the soldiers who entered Jerusalem? Jerusalem is in our hands. We ourselves have to transport ourselves beyond the boundaries of time and enter on high falling into the arms of the Almighty, for the geulah is soon upon us. Let us relive that dream of our past and refuse to leave the presence of the Almighty Chag Kosher V’Sameach!

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INTERNALIZING YETZIAS MITZRAYIM By Rabbi Efrem Schwalb, Rav of Eitz Chayim Continued from front cover… “In order that you may remember the day of your exodus from the Land of Egypt, all the days of your life.” (Devarim 16:3). There is a repeated link between Yetzias Mitzrayim and Zechirah.

In discussing this theme of Zechirah on Pesach, the Rambam has a unique formulation. The Rambam writes (Hilchos Chametz U’Matzah, Ch. 7): “Mitzvos aseh l’saper b’nisim v’niflaos sheasisa l’avoseinu b’Mitzrayim,” it is a Positive commandment to tell over the miracles and wonders which occurred to our ancestors in Egypt on the

eve of the fifteenth day of Nissan, as it is written-- zachor es hayom hazeh asher yesasem mimitzrayim, Remember this day when you went out from Egypt.” The Rambam adds “v’chein kasuv, zachor es yom hashabbos l’kadsho, just as it is written to remember the Exodus, so too it is written, remember Shabbos to keep it holy.”

The Rambam connects the mitzvah of remembering the exodus on the seder night to the mitzvah of remembering Shabbos. The question is why. Why does the Rambam compare remembering the exodus on the Seder night to remembering Shabbos? Apparently, the Rambam is equating the two mitzvos and using the mitzvah of zechirah by Shabbos as the paradigm by which to understand the mitzvah to remember the exodus. When it comes to remembering Shabbos, we are all aware that the mitzvah to remember requires much more than taking mental note of Shabbos or even verbally proclaiming that Shabbos has arrived. On Shabbos, the halacha insists on external action and even role playing -- just as G-d was involved in acts of physical creativity during the six days of creation and rested on the seventh day, so must every Jew imitate Hashem and repeat the cycle of six days of physical creativity, followed by resting on Shabbos. By comparing the obligation to remember yetzias Mitzrayim with zechiros Shabbos, the Rambam is reminding us that to properly fulfill the mitzvah to remember at our sedarim, the halacha requires every Jew to play the role of the slave who has been emancipated. Thus, the requirement to remember takes us beyond intellectual recollection and verbal expression to re-creation of that seminal event in our history. “B’chol dor vador chayav adam liros es atzmo k’ilu hu yatza mimitzrayim, in every generation a Jew is obligated to view himself as if he came out of Egypt.” History must not only be remembered. It must be internalized by every individual attempting to experience now what our ancestors experienced then. It is only be placing ourselves within the pages of the story, that the exodus of our ancestors can become an inextricable part of our beings. In the merit of our attempt to properly remember and internalize Yetzias Mitzrayim, may we finally experience the geulah sheleima, with the building of the bayis shelishi bimheira beyameinu amein. Wishing the entire community, a Chag Kasher V’Sameach!

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A MESSAGE FROM THE RABBI Dear Friends, As we approach the holiday of Pesach, we think of all the laws, customs and traditions associated with the holiday, and what this holiday represents to us personally and as a People. Please join us and take advantage of our Passover-related services that we are offering to you and your family at this time. Wishing you and your family a Chag Kasher V’Sameach, Rabbi Yossi Lieberman

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THE WEST HEMPSTEAD JEWISH JOURNAL WHY NOT START MAGGID ON A POSITIVE NOTE? By Rabbi Elon Soniker, Rav of Anshei Shalom

The night of Pesach is one of the most celebrated nights on the Jewish calendar. Families gather with excitement to recall and relive the. miracles of Hashem that we witnessed as a nation upon our Exodus from Egypt. At the Pesach Seder we do many things to show that we are a free people. We drink four cups of wine; we recline when we eat, and we use our nicest dinnerware. Yet, the night does not begin on a high note. At the beginning of the Maggid section of the haggada we start with the statement “ha lachma anya,” this is the poor man’s bread that we ate in Egypt, the bread of affliction, the matza. The Gemara (Pesachim 116a) echoes the same sentiment and writes that “maschil b’gnus umesayeim b’shevach,” the story must begin with the negative before ending with the positive. On a night of jubilation when we revel in our freedom, why must we begin with reminders of our enslavement and suffering? The Ail Miluim answers this question with a beautiful parable that I like to begin my Seder with. There was once a king who was taking a walk in the forest and on one of his strolls heard the pleasant and enjoyable sounds of a flute playing in the distance.

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The king requested from his servants to find the person playing the music and bring him to the palace. The servants found a simple, poor flute player named Reuven and brought him to the king. The king was so pleased with Reuven that he appointed him to be the official flute player in the palace and bought him a new flute, new clothing and a nice house near the palace. Everyday Reuven would come to the palace to play his flute for the king and after some time the king began to involve Reuven in the decisions and issues that were happening in the kingdom. The king liked Reuven and his opinions on the matters so much that Reuven quickly became the king’s top advisor. The other advisors were jealous of Reuven’s rapid rise to the top and plotted his demise. They accused Reuven of stealing from the king’s treasury, but it was difficult for the king to believe this to be true as he had given Reuven everything. After hearing of the accusations, Reuven promised that he did not steal the money, however, the king could not allow the allegations to be ignored and ordered a search of Reuven’s house. After searching the entire house, the king’s men found nothing except one door that was locked and upon which was written “DO NOT ENTER.” The king’s men were confident that they found the room with the stolen treasure. Reuven refused to open the door and unsuccessfully pleaded with the men not to enter. The king’s men pushed Reuven aside and upon breaking down the door were astonished at what they saw. To their surprise, they did not find the stolen money in the locked room. Continued on Page 51…

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THE WEST HEMPSTEAD JEWISH JOURNAL WHY NOT START MAGGID ON A POSITIVE NOTE? By Rabbi Elon Soniker, Rav of Anshei Shalom Continued From Page 50… Rather, they found Reuven’s old clothing and original flute resting on a simple chair in an otherwise empty room. The king looked at an ashamed Reuven with a bewildered expression, wondering why he still had his old belongings. Reuven, embarrassed, was compelled to explain that every day before coming to the king’s palace, he would spend some time in this room. He would wear his old clothing and play his original flute, to be reminded of his humble beginnings. This daily reminder helped Reuven realize all that the king has given him and allowed him to feel an even greater sense of appreciation and gratitude towards the king for his kindness. We begin the night of our celebration with the story of our humble beginnings, to contrast that with where we are and to be reminded that all of our cause for celebration is a direct result of the kindness of our King, Hashem, as He removed us from the slavery of Egypt and continues to provide us with all that we have. As we sit around our Seder tables and we are surrounded by our families and friends, we should take the opportunity to express our appreciation and gratitude to Hashem for all that we are fortunate and privileged to be blessed with. Wishing everyone a Chag Kasher V’Sameach.

AN INSIGHT INTO THE HAGGADAH By Rabbi Joshua Goller, Associate Rav of The Young Israel of West Hempstead One of the most important rules governing the reading of the ‫הגדה‬is that we should pay close attention to language. The writer and compiler of the Haggadah chose every word very carefully, thereby encouraging us to probe and analyze the meaning of each section. In one of the more terse lines of the ‫הגדה‬, we read about ‫—לבן הארמי‬Lavan the Aramean. We are told that he wanted to "‫—"לעקר את הכל‬to uproot it all. While that sounds very powerful, it is quite unclear as to the intentions of Lavan. What exactly did he want to uproot? The ‫ערוך השלחן‬, in his ‫הגדת ליל שימורים‬writes that it is precisely for this reason that this section of the ‫הגדה‬begins with the words ‫צא ולמד‬. Whereas sometimes in Jewish History, we can see clearly what the danger of an enemy is and what their intentions are, by ‫לבן‬, it was not so clear. His threat was far more subtle, and his intentions were wrapped in a seeming friendliness. So, we are told by the author of ‫הגדה‬to try and analyze the story and saga of Lavan and to ‘go and learn’ it well, in order to discover what his intentions were. This paragraph in the Haggadah is a reminder to the Jewish People to always investigate the motives of those around us in order to avoid the snare of the subtle and silent antagonists of the Jewish nation Wishing The Entire West Hempstead Community, A Chag Kasher V’Sameach!

CELEBRATING OUR FREEDOM By Rabbi Yossi Lieberman, Chabad of West Hempstead What is the point in celebrating an event that has already happened? This question applies to our birthday, anniversary or our Exodus from Egypt. The American Heritage Dictionary brings two definitions for celebration: The act of observing a day or event with ceremonies. The act of showing happy satisfaction in an event. According to the Kabbalah there is yet another phenomenal aspect of celebration. We can best understand this through a story with R. Shneur Zalman of Liadi. He was incarcerated for some heinous crime (like teaching Torah). One of the techniques the prison used to disorient the prisoners was to lock them in a cell with no light and confuse their concept of night and day.

Each day and each hour has a Divine configuration for that time. This energy gives the strength and direction for the events of the day. When a special event occurs on a day, there is a unique Divine energy for that event. Each year on the anniversary of that special event, the energy is remembered, is recalled and it recurs. The physical circumstances have changed so the actual event does not happen again. Continued on Page 52… THE WEST HEMPSTEAD JEWISH JOURNAL • PESACH 5779 • WHJewishJournal@Gmail.com • WHJJOURNAL.COM

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Continued From Page 51… But the spiritual force is happening again. So, on our birthday, the divine energy that was present to generate our birth is reinstated. This is called our Mazal (as in Mazal Tov). It is our unique connection to G-d. On Passover, the unique divine energy was one of redemption. On this day we were redeemed from Egyptian bondage and Egyptian mindset. Each year on the day of Passover the unique divine energy is once again present and accessible. This energy is even more pronounced at the Seder. This was the exact time of redemption. So each year it is once again the time of redemption. Liberation from Egypt: What it did and didn’t do When G-d emancipated us from Egypt, this was only the beginning. It was a physical liberation but not a total spiritual one. The purpose of Yetziat Mitzrayim, G-d’s taking us out of Egypt, was to open the path for future personal and collective redemption. The entire purpose of celebrating the Seder is to evoke that initial power of breaking through our boundaries. So we are not celebrating something that happened 3,000 years ago, but on the contrary. What happened 3,000 years ago was a celebration and initiation of our potential for freedom today. The Hagaddah expresses this thought at the very beginning of the Seder with Hei Lachma Anya... (before the Mah Nishtana.) This is the bread of affliction that our ancestors ate in Egypt....This year we are still slaves, next year we will be free. This year we are here. Next year in the land of Israel. What is bread of affliction? Simply, it means Matzah. The Kaballah explains that bread refers to what we ingest intellectually. So our ancestors ate intellect of affliction. Their experience was uninspired. We are still working on developing this inspiration. What occurred on Passover was the potential for liberation. G-d took us from the land of Egypt -Mitzrayim. In Hebrew Mitzrayim means constriction. G-d took us from an intrinsically constrictive state and gave us the ability to reach Him. However, our inspiration may still be in the process of maturing. This year we are here. We may still be in a state where we cannot truly feel the Divine presence. But tonight, we have a chance to reach the stars. Next year we will be free. Wishing The Entire Community, A Chag Kasher V’Sameach!

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Staying Healthy & Keeping Your Skin Safe This Pesach With Dr. Ruchi Kushner

Pesach is upon us. For most of us that means, spring cleaning, Shmurah matza and finally shedding those winter coats. Spring is in the air, and with that comes the sunshine we have been craving. While we welcome the sunshine, that means we have to prepare our skin for those added rays. Sun damage can occur even if we are not getting a sunburn. Accumulated sun exposure can result in an increased incidence of skin cancer such as melanoma and the less dangerous basal or squamous cell carcinoma. Can we protect ourselves and still enjoy the sunshine? The answer to that question is yes. By wearing sunscreen, you can enjoy the warm weather and be safe at the same time. However, not all sunscreens are created equal. Here are some tips when choosing a sunscreen: The most important item on the sunscreen bottle is what is called the SPF which stands for sun protection factor. When choosing a sunscreen, you should pick one with an SPF of at least 30. A sunscreen with an SPF of greater than 30 offers slightly more protection but it is not significant.

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It is most important to wear sunscreen between the hours of 10 am and 2 pm, but you should wear sunscreen anytime you are spending more than 15 minutes in the sun. When you look at the active ingredients on the back of the sunscreen bottle the best ingredients are zinc or titanium. Those are physical blockers and they do the best job protecting you from the sun. Chemical blockers such as avobenzone, are also good sun protectors but don't work as well. Sunscreen should be applied 15 minutes before you will be exposed to the sun. It should be reapplied every 2 hours. If you are sweating or swimming you should reapply after 40 minutes. You can also use sun protective clothing to protect yourself from the sun. Even wearing long sleeves and a hat can help. How do you know if you're getting too much sun? Sometimes we don't, right away. It can take years before the damaging effects of the sun shows itself. A few important things to look for are any noticeable changes in moles that you may have. Many of us have moles on our bodies. Those are the tan to brown spots on our skin that we have been born with or have since we are young. You can have a mole, on your face, back, arms, or anywhere on your body that is covered with skin. Many moles are benign, but sometimes, due to sun exposure, benign moles can become malignant and deadly. That is why if you notice any changes in a mole that you have had, you should see a dermatologist immediately for a biopsy, or skin sampling. Moles can become malignant even without sun exposure and so if you have them, you should have a skin check yearly, with a dermatologist, to check and see if there have been changes. Any new lesions that you notice on your skin should also be brought to the attention of a dermatologist. Most skin lesions that develop as we age are normal, but just to be safe have them checked out, especially if they are itchy or bleeding. Other signs of sun damage are wrinkling, or sun spots, which are brown blotches that appear most commonly in the face or the backs of hands, where people get most of their sun exposure. If you do notice these signs of aging there are various creams and cosmetic procedures, such as Botox or laser treatments that can help improve the way your skin looks. Remember, the best treatment is prevention, and that means using that sunscreen! The changing season can bring other skin changes as well. Eczema, which presents as red itchy skin, can rear its head when the weather starts to change. Sometimes just moisturizing well and using mild hypoallergenic skin products can do the trick. However, if that doesn't work, you may need a prescription medication. Poison ivy is also very common when we start to spend a lot of time outdoors, hiking, planting or just digging that baseball out of the bushes. Poison ivy usually looks like blisters on the skin and can spread very quickly and be painful and itchy. If you see new blisters, make sure you see a dermatologist quickly to get started on the prescription medication you need. Avoidance is key. Try to wear long pants and long sleeves when hiking or planting. Are you still looking forward to the warm weather? You most definitely should. Enjoy the beach, the pool and playing baseball. Just remember, be aware, be careful and most of all...wear your sunscreen. This article was written by Dr. Ruchi Kushner. Dr. Kushner is a Board-Certified Dermatologist, treating adults and children, with offices in Franklin Square and Farmingdale.

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YID-PARENTING “Seder Time…”

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Dear Rabbi Ross, Not to beat a dead horse, but I wanted to thank you for these e-mails. I’m sure it takes a lot of time and it’s greatly appreciated. I was hoping you could settle an argument I’m having with my husband. Every year, our Seder lasts for around 5 hours. Although he really tries keeping it fun for the kids, I truly believe it would be a better Seder if it lasted 3 hours. What are your thoughts please? Esther – Far Rockaway.

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Thank you for your kind words. I would love to say, “It’s not about how long it lasts; it’s about how much the kids are engaged!” However, I do believe that the two are connected. Many boys have told me over the years how “Long and boring” their Siddurim are. It seems therefore, that many children do connect the length with loss of interest. Without knowing the ages, temperaments and family dynamic, it’s hard to suggest a specific time limit for your Seder. However, I will share with you some great ideas of how to make your Seder interesting for your children.

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Try and keep everything age appropriate, if possible. Five-year-old children will not sit through Maggid, and fourteen-year old’s may not want to sing Dayenu. 2. You and your spouse can take turns going ahead in Maggid, while the other one engages the kids in fun discussions. 3. Seating arguments? Who has the better pillow? It’s not worth getting aggravated. This special night only happens twice a year. Do your very best to keep all the kids happy – even if they’re not being reasonable. 4. Try and be as prepared as possible to make everything seem more exciting. Once they are waiting for the Matzah or Marror to be measured, they start to lose interest. 5. If you have age discrepancies, for example a fourteen-year-old and a five-yearold, it might be hard to find common ground. In this case, try splitting the table up. You can talk about Pharaoh to the younger one while your spouse listens to the Divrei Torah. 6. Having a long Seder for younger kids seems silly. The whole point of the Seder is to pique the interest of the children. Why would you want to have a 5 hour Seder? Keep it moving. Whereas there is no magic number, 2 ½ hours is more than enough for younger kids. 7. When Yachatz arrives, it’s Afikomen time. Let your children hide it, and you find it. Don’t use the word steal. We don’t want to condone stealing of any sort. 8. Rewarding the kids for questions and answers is a fantastic idea. If you’re using food, try to stay away from candies as it hypes up the kids. The end result will be a few overtired and extremely hyperactive kids moving around their chairs at supersonic speeds while asking, “Are we there yet?” 9. There’s a reason why children should not be drinking alcoholic beverages. It’s not safe. I don’t even think it’s a good idea to pretend to give them alcohol (putting grape juice in the wine bottle). Rather, give them a little bit on the bottom of their cups, and tell them when you they’re older, they can have a bit more. 10. This one is for the dads. Most of the women I know are frantically preparing for Yom Tov by shopping, cooking, cleaning, shopping, cooking, watching kids and shopping. (When I say shopping, I’m not talking shoe shopping online. I’m talking going to a supermarket with ten thousand other people, parking a mile away, and fighting for the last container of tomato sauce while simultaneously watching the three younger ones.) The Seder night is their chance to sit back and enjoy. Yes, we want the kids to enjoy. However, we can impart a great lesson if we tell the kids, “Hey, I have an idea! Let’s help clean the table or serve, so mommy can feel like a free person also!” Wishing you and your family, and the wonderful West Hempstead Community a wonderful and meaningful Pesach. This year in Yerushalayim! Rabbi Ross

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FINDING THE SELF, YOU KNOW YOU CAN BE

TRANSFORMING GENERATION Z INTO A GENERATION OF ACTION:

WHY IS IT SO DIFFICULT TO CONNECT WITH OUR FULL POTENTIAL? By Tia and Craig Baumohl

From Consuming To Creating

Do you know that humbling feeling when you realize a child knows more than you about life? Well, that is exactly what I felt a few months ago as I was saying good night to my son. He said casually as I watched him crawl into bed, “By the way, I figured out why G-d created us." That is so cute I thought. He'll probably somehow tie it int amusedly answered, “Oh yeah? So, tell me, why did G-d create us?" He looked at me with seriousness and wisdom in his young eyes and said, “Well, without humans there would be no one to believe in G-d or to do acts of kindness. He created us so that we would create Him”. Wow. That deeply profound statement holds so much truth. I have spent years studying personal development and the psychology of happiness and success, and yet, this nine-year-old kid seemed to have a much more profound awareness of the capacity of this extraordinary being called 'the Human'. It is literally able to create the Divine. Even an atheist would agree that what human beings are capable of is unbelievable. Just look around at the immense technological, medical, and scientific advancements we have made over the last 100 years. Imagine going back a century to tell civilization what has become possible in our day. They may not believe you. The 4-minute minute mile was once thought to be an insurmountable goal until Roger Bannister accomplished it in 1954. From that, more than 1400 athletes have been able to break that barrier. All of us believe that we currently possess a wealth of untapped potential. Our bodies and brains possess an intelligence that it has taken us centuries to fully discover. If all this is true, why then do some struggle for years with the same old things? We can pretty much all assume, if you are not comatose, you are probably struggling with something internally. Whether it's weight, addiction, confidence, relationship problems, we all use the same language. “I feel stuck" or "I won't be able to" or "I don't have enough time”. What keeps you stuck when you know you are capable of so much more? Well, many factors contribute to this, all of which we could gain control of, but one of the most influential factors that determines what actions you take or what habits keep you stuck is simply who you believe yourself to be. I want to make a distinction here. Our perceived limitations are not rooted in who we are, but rather who we believe we are. Think of the most successful people in history. Not only those that were able to generate personal success, but the change makers of our history, like Abraham Lincoln, Martin Luther King Jr, Golda Meir; those who were able to influence the masses and make a difference for others. They believed themselves to be capable, even when they were told otherwise. A prerequisite for doing anything at all is the belief that you actually can do it, right? Otherwise, why would you bother trying? If we have finite energy, we are certainly not going to spend it trying something that we will likely fail at. Now for most of us, this concept is not so black and white; It is not that it is one or the other. It is more like it is both. For many of us, there is the belief in yourself that battles fear, self-doubt, lack of confidence, and a barrage of other limiting beliefs. This can be observed by just watching the thoughts that come in and out of our consciousness. We think about something we want to accomplish and then our inner voice that” or “I don't want to do that", or "I've already tried". Inevitably, another thought may come in with resistance to that self-deprecating idea and before we know it we are finding anything we can do to distract ourselves from the cacophony of conflicting thoughts and emotions. You can try this out for yourself. Think about that one thing you have been putting off and then listen as your mind comes up with a myriad of excuses why you can't get it done. As family therapist, Dr. Richard Schwartz discovered, we all have these "parts" of us that are constantly operating in us subconsciously. The same person can have a part of them that is outspoken, bold, and knows they are valuable. Simultaneously, there's another part that is timid, shy, and wishes desperately they could express how they really feel . You may hate the part of yourself that can't speak up for yourself. Nevertheless, it continues to show up no matter how much you try to repel it. What can we do then to overcome the parts of ourselves that hold us back? Well, Dr. Schwartz found in practicing IFS therapy, that when we try to repress or push away parts of ourselves that we dislike, it actually has the opposite effect. The parts that prevent you from losing weight, connecting more deeply with others, or speaking up for yourself are actually trying to protect you from the emotions that would result from failure, disappointment, worthlessness, and sadness to name a few.

By Sari Kahn

One question many parents are asking today is how do I prepare my child now to be a successful adult in the future? Our world is changing at such a rapid pace that it is a challenge to know how to best guide our children for the future. There have been many articles written about the Millennial Generation, the generation of people born from 1981-1996, and how they have approached the workforce, volunteerism and even their personal lives. However, less literature discusses Generation Z, the generation born between 1995 and 2015. As a camp director, Generation Z is my generation of focus as my campers and counselors are all of this generation. Therefore, the success of my camp rests upon understanding what compels, motivates and inspires this generation. The Center for Generational Kinetics, a leading researcher for Generation Z, published a study in the Fall of 2018 where they found that over half of Generation Z uses their smartphone for 5 or more hours a day and within that, 26% use their smartphone for 10 or more hours each day. As a director of NCSY Summer’s Camp Maor, a performing arts overnight camp for girls ages 916, I found the statistics on girls even more alarming. The study notes that females have a much stronger attraction to using social media then the boys their age and report longer periods of time on these social media outlets. The researchers conclude that “females are more immersed and therefore more susceptible to comparing themselves and their lives to what they see on social media, and even gauging their happiness and self-worth accordingly.”

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TRANSFORMING GENERATION Z INTO A GENERATION OF ACTION: Continued from Page 71… As an immersive, performing arts, child-centered summer camp, we at NCSY Camp Maor have been working to shift the connection between social media and self-esteem. Our goal is to instill self-esteem and confidence around their actual abilities and, more importantly, their accomplishments. Through our “success breeds success” program, campers gain confidence through a series of graduated achievements that include setting goals and working to accomplish these milestones throughout the summer. They are strongly encouraged to take these lessons and newly discovered skills back to their schools and communities. Entering our sixth summer, we are seeing the fruits of our labor as our campers are now returning to camp as valuable members of our staff. Chana Silver, a camper in 2015, returned in the summer of 2017 as a counselor. Following Chana’s first summer as a camper, she returned home and ran a one week performing arts backyard camp where she utilized what she learned at Maor to give the campers a fun experience and even direct a performance at the end of the week. She also directed her school play, “Twelve Angry Women,” in her senior year of high school, a show which she said, “truly tested [her] abilities and was a smashing success.” Adding to Chana’s feelings about what she gained in Camp Maor, Chava Schapiro, a camper for four years who is returning this summer as a staff member, shares that at the age of 11, she was very shy, but loved the performing arts and found that her shyness stopped her from fully expressing herself like she wanted to. Chava explains, “I loved singing and acting more than anything in the world and Maor was the first place that ever took me in and cherished my skills even though they were extremely lacking. More than anything else, what I got from Camp Maor was confidence. I was shy and trembling before I went, and now I have the confidence to stand in front of tons of people and perform without the slightest doubt that this is what I am meant to do. Because of Maor, I had the courage to convince a local theater group to start all-girls classes. I want to thank Camp Maor for all that it taught me and the confidence it instilled in me.” NCSY Camp Maor is a place where all Orthodox Jewish girls can come together to find their true self by learning new skills, committing to the process and working as a collaborative team. After the summer they can use these skills to lead and create and not just watch life scroll by on a screen.

FINDING THE SELF, YOU KNOW YOU CAN BE Continued from Page 71… They do their job well too, since most of us do our best to stay in our comfort zones, even if those comfort zones keep us feeling stuck, miserable and unfulfilled. You might be curious about what can be done to help us align these parts that cause inner conflict and make the changes we know would improve our quality of life. Allow me to offer you the following metaphor: Imagine a loving couple names Josh and Amy. Amy decided to spontaneously cook a delicious dinner for Josh one evening and waited in anticipation for him to come home at 6pm, as usual. She imagined how appreciative he would be and all the affection he would shower on her for her efforts. Josh, having no idea what was happening at home, went to leave at his normal time when his boss angrily points out a mistake, he made that day in front of the whole office. He says, “This needs to be fixed now and I don't care how late you need to stay!" The husband, feeling flustered and humiliated, forgets to call home. When his wife calls, he abruptly tells her he'll call her back. She is now upset at him for being late and short. When Josh gets home, an hour late, Amy is livid. She has already eaten, cleaned up, and feels totally unappreciated. She ignores Josh. He senses she is upset with him, has no idea why, and is still feeling ashamed from work. Each one feels hurt and misunderstood, and because of this they don't speak for the rest of the night. Now, imagine Amy decided to forgive Josh. She rationalized that he must've had a good reason for his behavior and feels bad that she got so upset. She goes to him and lovingly says “Honey, I'm so sorry I got upset with you." She explains everything. All of Josh's defenses melt away and he feels tremendous adoration and appreciation for his wife. His heart is open toward her and all his frustrations from the work day are forgotten in that moment. They went from a total deadlock to an overwhelming feeling of love for each other. The only thing that changed was one person decided to show compassion, understanding and love toward the other. It may sound overly simple, but this is what takes you from feeling blocked to making progress. Just like Josh and Amy, you are in a fight with yourself. Instead of trying to understand your own feelings better, you judge, condemn and dislike yourself. When you are critical toward the parts of you that are not working the way you would like, when you engage in self-deprecating talk, when you direct anger and frustration toward those parts, you are involved in the same deadlock as Josh and Amy. Conversely, when you show compassion and love for those parts you hate and when you direct love and understanding towards yourself, you stop the struggle. Because much like children, this method of verbal abuse never works. If every time you overeat you say to yourself “I'm a fat pig", how motivated are you likely to be to go for a run? Just like the Divine Intelligence that created this world, we are, at our core, loving beings who wish to feel joy, fulfillment and connection in this world. If you want to know who you really are, it’s that. It's time you aligned with that true nature. Once you do this then you can begin to set a goal and strategically begin to take steps toward that goal. Until then, the best version of yourself will remain a concept, which is truly tragic. As a human, you are undoubtedly amazing. The more you recognize that, the better off you and those around you will be. Chag Sameach! See Our Ad on Page 43!

LET’S TALK TINY FONT A Response By Meish Goldish, Renowned MC & Comedian To the Editors: I Just picked up the latest issue of the Purim Edition of the West Hempstead Jewish Journal. Nice that we have “our own” community newspaper! A friendly suggestion: Those of us approaching AARP eligibility have difficulty with tiny print, and my arms aren’t nearly long enough to read the Purim issue without Coke-bottlereading magnifiers. Please consider larger type in the next issue! For comparison, I’m attaching a Bed Bath and Beyond coupon to you in this email. The “fine print” in the coupon is about the same size as yours.

Dear Reader: We apologize for the tiny print. Our typesetter used to actually work at Bed Bath and Beyond! (We even were worried before we originally hired him that such a problem would occur. Oy! Can’t believe it did!) No worries though. We are now retraining him to think BIG! And thanks for the coupon. We used it to buy pillows for our Seder.

Dear Reader: We suggest you outfit your car with prescription windshields. That way you won’t need to wear glasses while driving. Also, a thief won’t be able to steal your car unless he has the same prescription as you.

To the Editors: an excellent publication to go to waste. Maybe one of the advertisers can "sponsor" a larger font. I think that would be a good idea.

Dear Reader: Thanks so much for taking the time out of your day to send us this email! The font was picked by Joe King, our typesetter. Since Purim is all about opposites, he chose a type size that could not be read. He even made up this joke: What’s black and white and not read all over? The WHJJ Purim issue! Oh, and by the way, we also asked The Matzah Company, Streit’s, to sponsor our Pesach Issue, with this motto: “The font size has risen…but our matzo has not.”

To the Editors: This might be the most “old man” thing I have ever read.

Dear Reader:

To the Editors:

Think of the last issue as “The Old Man and the Can’t See.”

Who picked the font? It’s a shame that it was so hard to read. I really can't even begin to read it, even with reading classes! It’s shame for such

I only wear glasses for night driving, and still thought the print was insanely small.

To the Editors:

I'd like to congratulate you on the first edition of your paper. Actually, I'd like to, but I can't. The reason I can’t is because the first issue's typesetting was so small that the individual articles were nearly impossible to read even with the reading glasses I wear. And I'm not the only one who had trouble reading the text. At services last Shabbat, the major conversation I heard were the comments about how hard it was to make out most of the articles because of the difficulty in reading them. There were at least 25 women talking about it. You may have a great new paper, but it will not survive if no one can read it.

Dear Reader: First of all, why are you up at 3:20am sending us emails? But leaving that aside for now, we do apologize for the tiny print. Next time, hopefully the 25 women in shul won't be talking about how hard the WHJJ is to read and will go back to complaining about the Rabbi's sermon instead.

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excellent paper. However, the print was so tiny in your last version it was illegible for most people my age. I couldn’t even see the headlines in most of the Articles. Will you for this Pesach edition be using a normal print size as is found in the New York Times, or Newsday? I love those newspapers.

Dear Reader: Thank you for telling us which newspapers you love. But you should have no fear about Advertising in our Pesach Issue. After consulting with several rabbis, we have decided to use 120 pt. letter size for the ads in our next issue. As we traditionally say, "Ad" Meyah V'esrim! And again, really sorry about the teeny print in our Purim issue. Our typesetter probably thought it was being published on Purim Katan and figured everything had to be small. All comments to the Editors can be sent to WHJewishJournal@Gmail.com.

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