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In the News By Dennis McMillan LGBT Organizations Commemorate Black History Month February is Black History Month, and a number of LGBT organizations are marking it with special programs and events. HRC is spotlighting the voices of African American LGBT leaders and allies as part of its Black History Month series. (http://www.hrc.org/blog/c/ black-history-month) The San Franciscobased Bayard Rustin LGBT Coalition and numerous other organizations

throughout the Bay Area are hosting the event “Generations: Black LGBT History Experiences,” to be held on February 20 from 6–9pm at the African American Art & Culture Complex, 762 Fulton Street at Webster in San Francisco. (http://www.defrankcenter.org/events/ featured-events/478-february-20-generations-black-lgbt-history-experiences) SF Pride Grand Marshal Nominees Announced

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Applications are now being accepted for the “Free Muni for Seniors” program, which begins on March 1. All San Francisco seniors, ages 65+, with a gross annual family income at or below 100 percent of the Bay Area Median Income level are eligible for the program. A chart at the SFMTA website further explains eligibility and provides instructions on how to apply. Applications are being accepted now. http://www.sfmta.com/ getting-around/transit/fares-passes/freemuni/free-muni-seniors After Soft Launch, Castro Cares Goes into Full Action The Castro Cares two-year pilot program is now fully underway, after a soft launch took place in December. Castro Cares is a coalition of neighborhood groups, businesses, social services and city programs that have come together to improve the quality of life for those living on the street and for those who live, work, shop and play in the Castro. Castro Cares is now focused on the following issues: people with serious mental illness/drug addiction on the streets; the increase in mostly nonviolent crime; drug dealing and petty theft; and the increase in bad behavior, public drunkenness, rowdiness and lack of respect for the area from late-night partiers. evna.org

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Public Comment Sought for Proposed New SFPD Station District Boundaries The San Francisco Police Commission is now seeking public input on proposed SF Police Department district boundary changes meant to better reflect calls for service, staffing levels within each district, and changes that have occurred in districts since the original boundaries were established. If the proposed changes are adopted, the Northern Police Station would cover everything north of Market Street and east of Castro Street. Park Police Station would cover everything north of Market Street and west of Castro Street. For more information, including on how to comment, please go to: http://castropatrol.org/bulletins/ police-commission-considers-new-sfpdstation-district-boundaries/ LGBT Senior Bill of Rights Unveiled Supervisors Scott Wiener and David Campos have unveiled groundbreaking anti-discrimination legislation to protect LGBT seniors residing in long-term-care facilities in San Francisco. It is the first legislation of its kind in the nation. According to a press release issued by Supervisor Wiener’s office, the proposed ordinance will amend the Police Code to prohibit discrimination against residents in long-term care facilities in San Francisco on the basis of sexual orientation, gender identity or HIV status. In addition, it will provide aggrieved persons with the right to seek investigation and mediation by the Human Rights Commission. Importantly, it will also create a private right of action and impose treble damages on violators. Castro Retail District Strengthens The Castro/Upper Market neighborhood’s retail sector is experiencing a gradual filling of vacant storefronts. From long-term vacancies such as the old Diesel store (soon to be SoulCycle) and the Patio (soon to be Hamburger Mary’s) to more recent vacancies such as Escape from New York Pizza (now Oz Pizza) and the old sunglass shop (now Dapper Dog), dozens of new stores, service providers, restaurants, and bars have come into the neighborhood. Supervisor Wiener and others hope to be proactive in attracting businesses that will add to the neighborhood and meet the needs of both residents and visitors. MCC Church Relocates from Castro District to Polk District The Metropolitan Community Church of San Francisco, the Christian-based spiritual heart of the San Francisco queer community for over four decades, has accepted buyer offers for its Castro location on 150 Eureka Street and an adjacent four-unit residential building at 138-140 Eureka Street. MCC is now renting space from First Congregational Church of San Francisco at 1300 Polk Street, which used to be a largely gay neighborhood. Beginning February 8, Sunday services will be held at 12 noon and 6 pm. The Prayer at the Heart Service will also move to 1300 Polk Street on February 11. Anniversary Celebration at Moby Dick This Friday Moby Dick owner Joe Cappelletti and his partner Scot Riffe are celebrating their 20th anniversary with a party at the legendary Castro bar on February 6 at 7:30pm. All are invited. When Joe and Scot announced their wedding in 2013, after being together for 18 years,

they joked that “we will not be releasing doves on a hillside, in Monterey, at dusk, nor will we be writing our own vows to be recited in a majestic Redwood forest along the northern California coast, with everyone dressed in white croquet outfits, and toasting afterwards to sprites of the forest for a long and happy union.” They instead were married during a very private ceremony. The San Francisco Bay Times wishes them many more years of happiness and success! Moby Dick is located at 4049 18th Street, in the heart of the Castro. Reminder Regarding 415 Area Codes As of February 21, all calls made from the 415 Area Code will have to be dialed using 1 + area code + 7-digit telephone number. Beginning March 21, new telephone lines or services may be assigned numbers using the 628 area code. California Bars Judges from Boy Scout Membership California’s Supreme Court voted to prohibit state judges from belonging to the Boy Scouts on grounds that the group discriminates against gays. The court said its seven justices unanimously voted to heed a recommendation by its ethics advisory committee barring judges’ affiliation with the organization. In 1996, the state Supreme Court banned judges from belonging to groups that discriminate on the basis of sexual orientation, but made an exception for nonprofit youth organizations. The Supreme Court’s Advisory Committee on the Code of Judicial Ethics recommended eliminating the exception to enhance public confidence in the judiciary. The Boy Scouts allows the participation of openly gay boys, but continues to prohibit gay and lesbian adults from serving as leaders. Project Open Hand Executive Director to Step Down Project Open Hand Executive Director Kevin Winge will leave the organization on April 3, 2015. Winge has led Project Open Hand since January 2012. He is resigning as executive director so he can spend time with family in his home state of Minnesota and help care for critically ill family members. Project Open Hand Board Chair Scott Willoughby thanked Winge for his innovation, energy and commitment to Project Open Hand’s mission, vision and long-term growth. Under Winge’s leadership, Project Open Hand has become a stronger organization and launched an ambitious strategic plan to ensure the organization is not only sustainable, but also thriving. Project Open Hand’s Board of Directors is actively developing a leadership transition plan that will be announced to the community prior to Winge’s departure. Mayor Lee Announces $25.6 Million in HUD Grants for Homeless Programs in SF Mayor Ed Lee recently announced that the U.S. Housing and Urban Development (HUD) has awarded San Francisco $25.6 million in HUD’s Continuum of Care grants to fund 60 San Franciscobased organizations and a variety of housing and services including transitional and permanent supportive housing, rapid re-housing, street outreach, client assessment, and other services for families, victims of domestic violence, youth, and homeless veterans. Among other projects, the grants will fund Richardson Hall in Hayes Valley that will serve 8 chronically homeless seniors with disabling HIV/AIDS. The Mayor also announced that, working with Supervisors David Campos and Scott Wiener, San Francisco would fully fund a shelter for the LGBT homeless population.

GLBT Fortnight in Review By Ann Rostow How About Those Justices! Did you happen to notice last week that we were inundated with Super Bowl stories for days and days leading up to the Big Game? Then, on Sunday, the sports channels ran hours worth of anticipatory coverage that involved nothing but speculation and, let’s call a spade a spade, football blather. Here in the world of GLBT news, we ourselves are much like the pigskin fanatics, obsessed with Supreme Court goings on, searching for the smallest crumb of new information, digesting pages of commentary and analysis. In other words, we are immersing ourselves in Supreme Court and marriage equality blather, indifferent to the fact that the game is months away and the contours of the opinion remain unknowable despite our best efforts. For example, even though most of my last column was devoted to the High Court, and even though nothing much has transpired since then, I still have the desire to return to the subject and rehash whatever nonsense might occur to me. Is Tom Brady really the best quarterback of all time? Let’s talk about that for a couple of days. Sweet Home Alabama That said, I do have some non-SCOTUS news to impart. Before we start, let me correct a correction from last time around. Florida is indeed the 36th state to allow marriage between same-sex couples. I was right the first time, and wrong when I inexplicably corrected myself last week and said it was the 37th state. I know this now due to the happy, albeit odd, situation in Alabama, where a federal judge has overturned the state’s ban on marriage in two separate cases. The judge has put a hold on her decision until February 9, but state authorities have asked the U.S. Court of Appeals for the Eleventh Circuit to extend that stay until the appellate process is complete. But guess what? Florida also tried to get an extended stay, but failed, both before the Eleventh Circuit and before the Supreme Court. Here again, the Eleventh Circuit has rejected Alabama’s motion, and we can assume that the High Court will also turn thumbs down, at which point Alabama will become the 37th marriage equality state in short order. So what’s odd about Alabama? Well, I suppose it’s actually just business as usual for the Tide. First, the head of some Probate Judge association announced that judges would not have to issue marriage licenses for samesex couples, even if the stay is denied, based on the notion that the right to marriage would be limited to the actual named plaintiffs in the cases. That, of course, would require every same-sex couple in the state to file their own individual federal lawsuits in order to marry, a somewhat onerous burden. At any rate, the ruling judge clarified her opinion to make it clear that indeed, the decision does apply to everyone. Second, the Attorney General wrote a ridiculous brief for the Eleventh Circuit, warning that allowing marriage would lead to mass confusion and complete chaos. I suppose the prospect of imminent doom and destruction had more credibility back in the day, but as we recently confirmed here in this very column, some 36 states now provide marriage equality. Would Alabama really stand alone as the outlier, where marriage paperwork could not be processed, where public off icials resigned en masse, and where couples would be married

one minute and become legal strangers in the next? Third, you may remember Roy Moore, the nutcase who def ied a federal court order to dismantle a gigantic Ten Commandments monument in the state courthouse in 2003. Disturbingly, the man was recently elected Chief Justice of the state supreme court, a commentary on the state electorate that actually does make you wonder if marriage equality would spark rioting the streets. The other day, Moore wrote a letter to the governor, noting that federal courts have no jurisdiction over Alabama law, and pledging to ignore any mandate emerging from said judiciary. Hmmm. The Southern Poverty Law Center f iled a complaint against Moore, charging that the man’s bizarre public outcry violates the state’s Canon of Judicial Ethics. Well, we’ll see. Mr. Moore was not able to hang onto the Decalogue. I don’t think he’ll be able to intercede successfully on behalf of Alabama’s antigay marriage amendment. Gay Rights Movement, Next Chapter A dozen years ago, before marriage was legalized in Massachusetts, marriage equality guru Evan Wolfson noted that “the backlash has started before we have lashed.” Now, again, the backlash against the lash we all expect from the High Court next June is well underway. Over a dozen state legislatures have proposed antigay bills, ranging from prison time for county clerks who conduct gay weddings, to cartes blanches for businesses to refuse gay customers. Yes, of course, just as we recognize Chief Justice Moore’s claptrap as empty rhetoric, we know that most of these patently unconstitutional bills will die on the vine. But not all of them. A large number of states already have religious freedom laws on the books, laws that require the state to provide a compelling justification for infringing on religious liberty. We’ve lived with those laws for some time now, but in the wake of the High Court’s Hobby Lobby decision, which also revolved around a religious freedom statute, they and their progeny are likely weapons for the future battles against discrimination. After all, the bakers and florists and photographers we’ve all been reading about were working in states that protected the GLBT community against discrimination in public accommodation. That’s why their recalcitrant attitudes were challenged in the first place. They were violating state law. Further, as Justice Alito wrote for the Hobby Lobby majority, religious freedom cannot be grounds for avoiding laws against discrimination. He was referring to federal law (which does not include us, of course) but nonetheless, state governments and agencies can easily argue that state anti-bias laws also trump the faithbased whims of rightwing wedding purveyors. But what about all the other states— most of the country—that do not explicitly protect our community from bigoted bakers? As far as I can tell, there we’re out of luck. Absent massive litigation, which I’m sure will be forthcoming, it will be hard to make a case against these bad actors. (That’s also why we are all hoping and praying that the High Court’s opinion next summer will articulate, not just a right to marry, but a right to equality in general.) I’ve seen articles from both gay and conservative pundits asking why in the world a gay couple can’t just go to a friendly baker? And indeed, who

among us would want to do business with someone who grudgingly shoves a sloppy cake in our face and hates us? Particularly on our wedding day. The answer is that no one would want such a vendor, but that this is beside the point. Opportunities to discriminate against gay clientele would not be limited to bakers or photographers. They would extend to anyone and everyone who could concoct a religious excuse for turning us away, including the cab driver who dumped two Oregon lesbians off in the middle of the Interstate at one in the morning a year or so ago. (I’m thinking that even in a red state, he could be sued for endangerment or something, right? But you get my point.) No Swastika? No Lawsuit By the way, speaking of bakers and Oregon, one of these Christian operations just got hit with a $150,000 fine by the state labor bureau for denying service to two women in 2013. The baker, Sweet Cakes, was forced to close last year after all the hoopla. Keep in mind that even in states that (unlike Oregon) do not protect us from discrimination, we still have Yelp. Meanwhile, the latest twist on the scenario comes from a Denver baker, who refused to make two cakes; one that said “God hates gays,” and another that showed two stick figure men in a circle with an X on top. Many in the media are presenting this incident as a chance for thoughtful reflection, as if the baker’s refusal to make these cakes corresponds to another’s refusal to serve gays.

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In fact, the nasty cake slogans are something else entirely. That’s not a refusal to serve a particular subset of customers; it’s a refusal to make a specific product. Lesbians don’t walk into a bridal shop and sue because they didn’t have the exact dress they sought. Gay men don’t sue bakers because the cake maker refused to design an erect penis. Couples don’t sue innkeepers because they declined to plant rose bushes for the ceremony. All of these customers sued because they were flatly told no. No service, period. They couldn’t even buy the cake in the display window. By contrast, this baker didn’t say no to the customer. She said no to the God-awful special order product he requested. For the record, this same distinction applies to the theoretical Jewish baker who won’t bake a swastika cake, another sophomoric attempt to show “the other side of the coin” of discrimination.

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Tuesday Mor n i ng Qua r terbacking Speaking of the Super Bowl, I can’t believe the crazy blame game that faults Pete Carroll and his offensive coordinator for trying a pass instead of a run in the final seconds. Now I’m reading that some people think the unlucky play call was a deliberate attempt to shift glory from the controversial running back to the allAmerican star quarterback by letting the quarterback pass for the win. Are they out of their minds? Do these people think a fluke interception at the one-yard line was a likely possibility that Carroll should have taken into account? It was second down with 26 seconds left. It wasn’t the last play of the game. Carroll had a time out, and time for two rushes and one pass. One of the rushes should come on fourth down if necessary, because otherwise it would have eaten up too much clock. So the question was not do you run or pass. It was do you pass on second down or third down? Plus, the Patriots were set up in a run defense. Hello? (continued on page 26)

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Beloved entertainer Cookie Dough (Eddie Bell) passed away on January 29 in San Francisco with her husband Michael Chu by her side. According to fellow performer and San Francisco Bay Times contributor Pollo Del Mar, Cookie became ill in Puerto Vallarta, Mexico, during a two-week tour of the drag satire of the hit television show “The Golden Girls.” At first it was thought that Cookie had food poisoning, but she developed a brain edema (swelling) and went into a coma. A GoFundMe campaign was established to help pay for medical costs and to bring Cookie back to the Bay Area. Cookie was transferred to Kaiser Permanente in San Francisco, where she was diagnosed with meningitis, but could not be revived. Cookie Dough’s career included hosting the long-running “The Monster Show” at the Edge in the Castro, performing in the drag show “Fall Follies,” a memorable appearance in the 2005 documentary “Blood, Sweat & Glitter,” and many other performances. “The Golden Girls Live” has run for nine years in San Francisco. Hundreds of tributes continue to pour in. Here are just a few: Pollo Del Mar: “It is with great sadness that I announce the passing of

Donna Sachet: “Cookie Dough, you leave your mark on San Francisco and the LGBT Community. The many kindnesses you showed to others endeared you to us all and your love of fun should be a lesson to everyone. Our thoughts are with your husband, your family, and your huge extended circle. You had so much more to give...” From Cookie’s husband Michael: “Thank you for allowing us to live out our dreams. I’m so saddened, because you had so many more dreams to live…You were a spiritual being having a human experience. Thank you for landing in my path and allowing me to enjoy your presence for 14 years. You will forever be in my heart. I love you hon.”

one of my dearest friends, the person to whom I owe my drag career, Cookie Dough. Thank you again for all you, as a community, have done to support us in this gravest of times. It is a testament to the lasting impact Cookie had that thousands & thousands rallied to her aid when she needed it most.”

A public memorial service is being planned, and a memorial was created at 18th and Castro, where mourners have placed candles, remembrances and many beautiful bouquets. The GoFundMe campaign continues, with the funds now going to the remaining medical costs, the funeral, and to support Michael. As of this writing, well over $55,000 has been raised. To contribute and to learn more about Cookie, please visit www.gofundme. com/kppdgo

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By Sister Dana Van Iquity Sister Dana sez, “Valentine’s Day is cumming! Unfortunately Congressional Repugnicans cannot celebrate Valentine’s Day because they were tragically born without hearts. They are heartless, while Democrats are ‘bleeding heart’ liberals with a heart on for the less fortunate. Gotta love that!”

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Very, very sad news. San Francisco drag queen extraordinaire, extremely talented actor, former Grand Duchess, and highly successful impresario Ed Bell passed away on January 29th at age 52 having succumbed to complications from meningitis at Kaiser Hospital in San Francisco. As mentioned in the obituary on this page, Cookie Dough (her drag persona) had fallen into a coma while staying in Puerto Vallarta along with the rest of the cast of the live drag version of The Golden Girls, playing the part of Sophia Petrillo. Cookie had a brain edema and fell into a coma. She was then medevacc’ed back to San Francisco where her condition remained catastrophic, and physicians at Kaiser were unable to help. She had been hosting her own fabulous drag show, “The Monster Show,” Thursdays at The Edge in the Castro for years.

Social media is sending an astounding outpouring of fond remembrance, of grief, and especially love to her surviving husband, Michael Chu - also known as DJ MC2 when working the turntables. Friends are going to gofundme.com/kppdgo to donate and help with extensive hospital and funeral expenses. Rest in peace, beautiful Cookie. I know you are on heaven’s stage performing with the rest of the glorious drag angels! MAGNET, the Castro hub of health and wellbeing, brought in the new year by hosting a big launch party for BEST GAY EROTICA 2015 edited by Rob Rosen and published by Cleis Press, an LGBT publisher. Rosen and three other authors from the book compilation - Xavier Axelson, Dale Chase, and Simon Sheppard read from their short stories. Among the hot topics was a discussion on the emerging trend of female authors of gay male erotic fiction. Erotic food and drink were served. CUMMING UP! We’re having a ball for Valentine’s Day when producer Marc Huestis presents ROMEO & JULIET with Leonard Whiting (who played handsome Romeo and showed his beautiful bare butt) live on The Castro Theatre stage! It will be a masked ball theme overflowing with romance - so expect men in tights, ladies in masks, and other special surprises. Whiting

caused a sensation when he starred in Zeffirelli’s all time 1968 classic nominated for 4 Academy Awards including Best Picture and winning 2 (Cinematography & Costume Design). Roger Ebert called this version “the most exciting film of Shakespeare ever made.” Also featured will be tribute performances, rare film clips, Romeo & Juliet Look-alike and Best Mask contests. Costumes are encouraged. The romance starts at 8pm, Saturday, Valentine’s Day, February 14th at the Castro Theatre, 429 Castro Street. castrotheatre.com FIFTY SHADES OF GREY at GOOD VIBRATIONS? They’re celebrating 50 shades of sex education this Valentines month, both kinky and not so much! Whether or not you’re going to see the notorious movie, catch up with real BDSM knowledge and safety with expert Cléo Dubois in San Francisco and, at their Brookline store, brush up on your rope skills with Midori! There’s even a class separating 50 SHADES OF GREY’s fact from fiction! Plus a sensual class to warm you up for Valentine’s Day from Shara Ogin; Amy Jo Goddard’s “9 Elements for Your Sexually Empowered Life,” and yoga teacher Kimmy Carter’s class on exercises for pelvic floor health and greater pleasure; Also in Brookline: Megan Andelloux’s perennially popular workshop shop “Fabulous Fellatio” (continued on page 26)

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One Time Tax Exemption on the Sale of Your Home? Not Anymore

Real Estate America Foy

The over-55 home sale exemption was superceded by provisions in the 1997 Tax Reform Act. This act raised the amount of excludable gain to $250,000 per taxpayer, and also allowed for more than one exclusion per taxpayer per lifetime. As a result, single sellers are able to exclude $250,000 in gain each time they sell their primary residence after living in it for more than two years. Couples who file together are able to exclude $500,000 in gain from the sale of their primary residence after two years.

At a recent listing appointment, the owner who’d had the home for many years as her primary residence asked me the following question for which I did not have an immediate answer: “Is there a one-time exemption from capital gains on the sale of your primary residence?”

To claim the exclusion, you must meet the ownership and use tests. This means that during the 5-year period ending on the date of the sale, you must have:

Although such questions are best asked of accountants, I hustled back to my office and did some research. I discovered that there was once a one-time exemption for homeowners above the age of 55 with a one-time capital gains exclusion. Individuals who met the necessary requirements could exclude up to $125,000 of capital gains on the sale of their personal residences. The exclusion was intended to stimulate the real estate market and reward homeowners for their purchase and subsequent sale.

• lived in the home as your main home for at least two years (the use test).

• owned the home for at least two years (the ownership test) and

If you can exclude all of the gain, you do not need to report the sale on your tax return. If you have gain that cannot be excluded, it is taxable. Report it on Schedule D (Form 1040). Don’t think you can only use this exclusion if you own a single family, traditional house. The act applies to any dwelling that you consider your primary residence, such as a house-

boat, condo or townhouse, cooperative apartment, or a mobile home. If you realize more than $500,000 in gain—which you may if I’m selling your house!—the excess gain will be subject to a significantly lower capital gain rate of 15% instead of the 25-31% capital gains tax on investment property gain. If you’re interested in deferring taxes on the capital gains realized on the sale of investment property, check into 1031 exchanges. In a nutshell, a 1031 exchange is when the seller of an investment property defers their capital gains taxes on the sale, provided they buy another property or properties to hold as investment. A basic premise of a 1031 exchange is that the taxpayer who sells relinquished property must be the same taxpayer who buys replacement property. This usually means that the vesting is the same for both the relinquished and the replacement properties. For example, John Doe’s name is on title to both properties involved in the 1031 exchange. America Foy is a top producing real estate agent with Bay Sotheby’s International Realty in Oakland. Email him at americafoy@ gmail.com Follow him on Facebook (America Foy), Instagram @americafoyrealtor or Twitter @americafoy

SF Real Estate Market Forecast

Real Estate George Langford 2014 was another strong year for real estate in San Francisco, if not one of the strongest we have ever seen in terms of home appreciation and the amount of buyers actively in the market. This is due, in part, to the lack of housing units available for sale. Homes were not built fast enough to keep up with the demand. The combination of low inventory and historically low interest rates then contributed to the appreciation we have seen here in the city and throughout the Bay Area. Recovery from such a scenario usually takes about three years, but it looks like San Francisco’s recovery will take just one and a half to two years time. We are also now in the second phase of a typical two-phase cycle. During the first phase, cash and investment buyers tend to dominate the market. During the second, we see more buyers purchasing with financing. Outlook for Buyers Although there is no crystal ball that can predict what will happen with certainty, interest rates are expected to rise, but will stay modest from an historical perspective. I’ve always advised buyers: “If you can afford to buy something now and if the purchase makes sense, then buy it. Don’t wait for a ‘slow down’ or rates to shift, as you might miss an opportunity, or even get priced out of the market.” If interest rates do rise while housing prices level off or continue a modest

appreciation, the monthly cost of a home could be the same as it is now. Base your decisions on what we know now, rather than on what might happen. The first part of the year should continue to see multiple buyers bidding on a given property. A modest rise in prices is also expected, although the days of 20+ offers and 25 percent over asking will become a thing of the past. Outlook for Sellers We have seen one of the strongest home value recoveries in history. Year after year, gains in home values have been fueled by low interest rates, lack of housing units, higher consumer confidence and a lower unemployment rate. This creates an ideal scenario for sellers, but not for buyers over time. With the Federal Reserve beginning to talk about raising interest rates during the middle or end of this year, we will begin to see a shift in the market. Although we won’t see a leveling off, we will see a market that will begin to balance between buyers and sellers. If you are thinking about selling, now is the time. If you have outgrown your current home and are thinking about moving up, your time is just around the corner. San Francisco Hot Spots Location, location, location has always held true when purchasing real estate. We have seen home prices rise the fastest in areas more centralized to downtown. As buyers become priced out of these neighborhoods, they look to up-and-coming neighborhoods still within San Francisco. We have already begun to see a change in the dynamic of areas such as Mission Bay, Bayview, Ingleside and Crocker.

“The Shipyard” (Candlestick Point) is undergoing one of the largest redevelopments since what occurred in the Sunset. Although the aforementioned areas tend to attract more visionary buyers, this could evolve into something truly amazing, as we saw when the Mission Bay neighborhood previously went through redevelopment. What is needed to balance the market? I don’t want to be the bearer of bad news, but we need interest rates to rise a bit. We are seeing a flood of buyers in the market and, although there is an aggressive building boom, this will only make a small dent in relieving the supply versus demand problem. An often forgotten, yet important sector, of our real estate market are the sellers that want or need more home space. A gradual increase in interest rates could lead to more of these so-called “move up” sellers. That’s because recent years’ markets have been so strong that they have left some sellers sitting on the sidelines who would like to “move up,” but do not do so because of uncertainty in finding a replacement property. When the confidence of these sellers rises, such that they can sell their current home and find a replacement property, it will help to increase inventory and relieve some of the competition for buyers. George Lang ford is a senior sales associate at CLIMB Real Estate group in San Francisco and is the founder of SevenSquaredSF.com Let his expertise guide you to your new home, or help you to get the best price for your current one. To contact George, please phone 415336-8191 or e-mail him at lang ford@ climbsf.com

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Seventy percent of people turning age 65 today can expect to require some form of long-term care during their lives, according to the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. This stark fact makes long-term care planning critical. It can be uncom-

Many people initially assume that obtaining a long-term care insurance policy fulfills the need to plan. While a policy can help to cover the cost of care, it does little to ensure that you would receive the type of care that you would want and under the conditions that you’d desire. A long-term care plan is a written document that describes your wishes and is shared with your community of family, friends, and caregivers. It therefore can be just as important as long-term care insurance. A long-term care plan is not a legal document so it can take any form, provided that it’s written and shared with

Round About - Community Women’s Orchestra - Chamber Concert Soiree Photos by Sandy Morris East Bay’s Piedmont Center for the Arts welcomed the Community Women’s Orchestra on Sunday, January 31, for the Chamber Concert Soiree. In addition to a selection of chamber music, the program included a surprise segment of country music tunes. Attendees enjoyed samplings of fine wines and hors d’oeuvres, and participated in silent and live auctions benefiting the orchestra.

Dr. Marcy Adelman oversees the new Bay Times Aging in Community column. For her summary of current LGBT senior challenges and opportunities, please go to: sf baytimes. com/challenges-and-opportunties others. Below is a list of what your plan should address: Who should provide assistance? Will it be a paid worker or a family member? If the person is to be a family member, will that individual be financially or otherwise compensated for their time? Have you had a direct conversation with the family member about your wishes and obtained their agreement? Where will you receive the care? Would it happen at your home or at another location? If it’s to be at your home, how long might that last and, if remaining in your home is a priority, should the care continue there at any cost? For example, are you willing to receive less assistance than you might get from an assisted living or skilled nursing facility? If care in such a facility might be required at some point, which would be your first and second choices, given your financial means and preferences? How will the details be coordinated? Long-term care needs are often challenging and confusing for family members who might have different opinions on how to help and uncertainty about how to ensure that care comes from reputable individuals or agencies. Some insurance policies offer a care coordination benefit, but the benefit could have conditions or restrictions. If you don’t have a policy, or your policy doesn’t offer a sufficient benefit, who will act as your care coordinator? Have you had a direct conversation with that individual to both obtain his or her agreement and to discuss your wishes? Do the answers to any of these questions change if your long-term care needs result from a memory condition, like Alzheimer’s or another dementiarelated condition, rather than a physical limitation?

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Making long-term care decisions can be confusing and stressful when you or your loved one must make decisions quickly and under mental or physical stress. If initial decisions about care are made without the benefit of forethought, research, and the input of the person receiving the care, it’s likely that some of those decisions will need to be reconsidered. This would only extend the amount of time that you and your family members would spend in a stressful transition. By contrast, creating a long-term care plan in advance has some hidden benefits beyond making the transition to receiving care a smooth one. Conversations with friends and family members who will play a role in your care often relieves the stress those relationships may face as a result of unspoken expectations on both sides. Seeking answers to the questions outlined above can serve as an exploratory guide to discovering the various resources available to you. This gives you ample time to vet and consider each. Rachel J. Robasciotti is the founding partner of Robasciotti & Associates, Inc., a wealth management firm that, for over a decade, has been dedicated to serving the LGBT community.

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Upcoming Gay Ski Events that you won’t find anywhere else in the country. “I love the beginning of new events,” Whitman said. “It is good to see repeat attendees at our longstanding events, but I really enjoy seeing new faces each time.” As for his own winter sports choice he said, “I’m primarily a snowboarder, which I believe is easier on the knees than skiing.”

Sports Tony Jasinski LGBT skiers who live in the Bay Area won’t want to miss the Gay Ski Weeks being held at some of our closest ski resorts. Now is the time to pack up your skis and parkas for some incredible winter fun, starting with the First Annual Lake Tahoe Gay Ski Week, which is being held at Squaw Valley from February 5–8. As many as 500 participants are expected, but that number could easily skyrocket. The mastermind behind this and many other gay skiing events is Tom Whitman, who partnered with one of the biggest gay party planners and promoters in Northern California— Gus Presents—to organize the Tahoe happenings. Whitman recently took time out of his busy schedule to speak with me. He said that Squaw Valley will be “stamped with our signature blend of sporty days and sexy nights.” The terrain can be gnarly and nice, suitable for all types of skiers. He also reminded that this is one of the largest ski areas in the U.S. It additionally features the “Gold-Coast Funitel,” which is a beefed-out gondola system

Round About - Keith Haring Exhibit Visit Photos by Paul Margolis Members of the group Let’s Kiss Ass-AIDS Survivor Syndrome participated in a group visit to the Keith Haring - The Political Line exhibit at the de Young Museum. Throughout the exhibit’s final weeks on Fridays, tickets are $15 during extended hours, 5:30pm-9pm.

If you can’t make the Lake Tahoe event, there will be another Gay Ski Week at Park City, Utah, from February 19–22 and, from March 18–22, you can check out the 13th Annual Mammoth Gay Ski Week. The Mammoth event is truly mammoth, and it earns money for charities too. Nearly all gay sporting events are run by individuals or non-profits, so it’s unusual for a business such as Whitman’s to organize LGBT sports outings. While he expects to receive no profit from the Tahoe event, he quickly added that the organizers are not necessarily motivated by money, but rather by how they can help the community. The evening parties, for example, allow for a social comfort that’s usually only found at places like a gay bar or on a gay cruise. Whitman is proud that attendees at the events are diverse in age range. Most who attend are gay men, but LGBT women are always in attendance too. The mixture of sport and socializing cannot be beat, so if you’re a skier, be sure to consider coming to one or more of the upcoming three Gay Ski Weeks. For more information, please visit http://elevationgayski.com/ Tony Jasinski is the former president of the San Francisco Gay Basketball League.

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Last week’s shocking public letter from Roy Moore, Chief Justice of the Alabama Supreme Court, urging Alabama Governor Robert Bentley to ignore a federal court ruling and continue to exclude same-sex couples from the freedom to marry, appalled us for many reasons. The letter also instilled in us even deeper respect, admiration, and connection to LGBT Alabamans who bravely seek dignity and equality in their home state, and for all Alabamans who stand for equality, the United States Constitution, and the rule of law. On January 23, 2014, Federal District Judge Callie Granade, a George W. Bush appointee, held that Alabama’s “Sanctity of Marriage” amendment that excludes same-sex couples from marriage violated the United States Constitution. Four days later, Chief Justice Moore, who as a state court judge has nothing to do with the federal litigation, wrote a letter that illuminated his ignorance of the separation of religion and state and his disregard for both the Supremacy Clause of the United States Constitution and Alabama’s history of racism and sexism in marriage. Chief Justice Moore’s primary legal citation supporting his view of the “sanctity” of Alabama’s exclusionary marriage law was an 1870 case, Hughes v. Hughes, in which the Alabama Supreme Court “described marriage as ‘a divine institution,’ imposing upon the parties ‘higher moral and religious obligations than those imposed by any mere human institution or government.’” What Chief Judge Moore omits is that Hughes v. Hughes was a case in which a husband successfully prevented his wife from divorcing him because the Alabama Supreme Court did not be-

his wife. And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one f lesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let no man put asunder. (Mark 10:6-9).”

Marriage Equality Stuart Gaffney and John Lewis Marriage Equality USA lieve her testimony that she lived in “perpetual fear” that her husband was going to do great physical harm to her or kill her. Indeed, Alabama law at the time required a wife to prove such a threat to her safety beyond a “reasonable doubt” and required that “the wife should be… without fault on her part.” We see nothing “moral” or “divine” in that type of marriage law. Chief Justice Moore also failed to consider that the Hughes case was decided just five years after the 13th Amendment to the United States Constitution forced the state to end slavery, and that indeed Alabama’s purportedly “sacred” marriage laws excluded slaves from marriage, as did the laws of every other slave state. But Chief Justice Moore’s letter did not end with citing the Hughes case. He went on to invoke the Bible and his personal religious beliefs in the exercise of his function as the state’s chief judicial officer. He stated: “The laws of [Alabama] have always recognized the Biblical admonition stated by our Lord: But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female. For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and cleave to

Chief Justice Moore’s words chillingly echo the religious proclamation of the trial judge whom the Supreme Court reversed in Loving v. Virginia, the case in which the Supreme Court held that bans on interracial couples’ marrying violated the Constitution. The trial judge had declared: “Almighty God created the races white, black, yellow, Malay and red, and he placed them on separate continents. And but for the interference with his arrangement there would be no cause for such marriages. The fact that he separated the races shows that he did not intend for the races to mix.” Chief Justice Moore’s letter fails to mention that Alabama’s purportedly “divine” marriage laws also stated for over a century that interracial couples were prohibited from marrying. In fact, Alabama was the last state to take such a ban off the books when it did so by referendum in 2000, over thirty years after the Supreme Court had ruled it unconstitutional and unenforceable. An astonishing forty percent of the Alabama electorate—over half a million voters—voted to keep the law on the books, just fifteen years ago. We are proud of Alabamans like James Strawser and John Humphrey, a gay couple from Mobile who, without a lawyer, sued and won the right to marry in Alabama federal court last week. As reported on the Alabama news site, AL.com, (continued on page 26)

Fulfilling Dreams Through the Power of Ritual ily, and friends approach me after a ceremony to tell me how meaningful they found it.

Weddings Howard Steiermann All of the same gender couples I’ve married were together for years prior to their wedding. When I checked in with them after their ceremonies, most told me that they were surprised that they actually felt different. The wedding ceremony had prompted a transformation to take place. Even those couples who had been living together for decades were surprised to say that they felt different. The ceremony precipitated changes that they had not anticipated. As an officiant, I believe in the power of ritual. Rituals not only help us to commemorate a moment, but also help us to transition from one life space to another. I enjoy working with people to create rituals, which will be meaningful for them. It is an added bonus when their guests, fam12

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I am typically the person who officiates at ritual events. In January I was a proud participant. After decades of study, I became an ordained Rabbi. Years ago I got my online nondenominational minister license so that I could legally perform weddings. But since I was born and raised Jewish, I had thought rabbinic ordination as more fitting. So, as a good friend said to me recently, I had a dream, I pursued it, and I fulfilled it. Thank you, Yvonne, for your loving and succinct words! I do have to admit that I was more than a bit surprised at how transformational I found the ordination ceremony to be. People joke, asking me if they now need to call me Rabbi. Most of the time I would be embarrassed if they did. I have to admit, however, that when people use the title, the respect that it brings feels good. Somehow a part of me has changed in others’ eyes. I don’t officiate any differently. I don’t lead services or deliver sermons any differently. I don’t give better advice than I had given before. Perhaps earning the title helped me take one more step in earning people’s respect because I made the effort to accomplish a dream.

If it is your dream to someday get married, I encourage you to do so. The couples I have married said all of the planning and headaches were well worth it. So often grooms and brides are ecstatic thanks to the normalcy they felt once marriage equality became a reality. For example, my friend Barbara shared with me that she is reveling in her marriage. It is not just a ‘kind of’ marriage, but an actual, legal matrimony. She loves having in-laws, not ‘kind of’ in-laws. Barbara is proud that she and her wife can be their complete selves and finally begin their lives recognized as lawfully wedded spouses. As Elizabeth River wrote in her column here two weeks ago, “We are a bit short on ritual in our culture; we just don’t set aside sacred time and space often enough for all the important moments—transitions, wins, losses, changes—that happen in our everyday lives.” I am so thankful when I have the opportunity to facilitate rituals for others. And, I am so thankful that, in my own life, I am able to participate in rituals that are transformative. Howard M. Steiermann is an Ordained Ritual Facilitator based in San Francisco. For more information, please visit www. SFHoward.com

Kiss for the Bay Times “Kiss for the Bay Times” Is Our Valentine to You

To combat such negative energy around such a beautiful, natural act, we bring to you our “Kiss for the Bay Times” photo exhibit this Valentine’s Day. It represents the first San Francisco Bay Times exhibit, and has been a long time in the making. We first told you about it last June, when several of our talented photographers took to the streets of San Francisco during Pride to capture images of couples kissing. The diversity astounded us. We found friends play fully sharing

group kisses. Some amorous couples couldn’t stop! People with pets gave their furry friends an affectionate peck. One kiss was so powerful that it even knocked a guy’s hat off. Perhaps you were snapped by our photographers? Find out, or see those who were, at our exhibit launch party this Valentine’s Day. To match the mood (and because we love this cozy spot), it will be held at Sweet Inspiration in the Castro from 4–7pm. There is no cost to attend. Romantic music will greet you, and you can sample some of Sweet Inspiration’s delish desserts and other fare too. If you’re single, who knows? You might meet that special someone. Couples could stop by on their way to a dinner-for-two. The point is… all are welcome! If you cannot make it to the launch party, the exhibit will remain at Sweet Inspiration through the month of February. We look forward to seeing you, and hope that the exhibit will inspire you to “Kiss for the Bay Times” for love, for friendship and with pride.

PHOTOS BY CHLOE JACKMAN

Think about it: lips were meant for kissing. They are soft, sensual and fit so well with those of another. What could be more natural? And yet when LGBT couples lock lips, homophobes the world over can’t seem to handle it. For example, there was a public outcry when football player Michael Sam joyously kissed his now husband when he learned that he’d been drafted into the NFL. In stores, taxicabs, restaurants and other locations around the world, LGBT couples have been kicked out for even the slightest smooch.

Photographer’s assistant Michael Ashlay calls on spectators to kiss for the Bay Times

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Kiss for the Bay Times Smooching Over Beets By Kit Kennedy

Who cooks with a lover knows tongue is the center of taste and memory. You remember don’t you, roasted salmon with lentils or asparagus risotto? Cheeses & roasted figs? Perhaps, an unexpected side dish of warmed oranges with tarragon, black olives & almonds?

Photographer Abby Zimberg and assistant Jenny McGrath walk past TV host Donna Sachet and Lenny Broberg as the Bay Times contingent follows behind them on Market Street.

Umbrellas and more umbrellas on the parade route

Because the day of red & roses is upon us, cook for your Valentine. Mix raw & red shredded beets with a bit of flour, pepper, rosemary. Form into a heart, sauté in browned butter (both sides). Before you top with a dab of crème fraiche, take time to kiss. Slice the beet cake; feed your lover a morsel. Kiss some more. Now you know why among all tastes some say savory kisses are the sweetest & what every cookbook assumes you know: recipes are made fool-proof with a smooch.

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Kit Kennedy is the “San Francisco Bay Times” Poet in Residence. For more information, please visit http://www.poetrybites.blogspot. com and http://kit.awegallery.com

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Who doesn’t love kissing where every room embraces, the embracers? Especially the kitchen.

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“Kiss for the Bay Times” Photographers

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Jenny McGrath and Helene Wenzel assisting photographer Abby Zimberg

Zachary Irwin with Michael Buitrago

Phyllis Costa Security and transportation professional Phyllis Costa is an avid photographer, cat lover and Bay Times supporter. Becky Gladding Becky and her partner Sue Steirer own and operate Absolutely Fabulous Tours, a fun-loving LGBTQ-friendly wine tour company based in the Napa Valley. They offer customized educational tours and can be reached at sue@absolutelyfabuloustours.com Zachary Irwin A recent graduate from SUNY Plattsburgh, Zach is a native of New York who visited the Bay Area during Pride Month 2014. His interests include photography, geology and music, and he can be reached at zelome @gmail.com Chloe Jackman Based in the Bay Area but always willing to travel, Chloe specializes in wedding, portrait and personality photography. She is passionate about inspiring love, belly aching laughter and true emotion. Reach Chloe via www.chloejackman.com

RINK Veteran photographer RINK, who has taken more than six million photos, has been the featured photographer at numerous exhibits across the country. During his early career, Rink’s images were included in the window of the Castro camera store owned by his friend Harvey Milk. Photos by Rink were the inspiration for the ongoing SF Bay Times feature “Round About - All Over Town.” Abby Zimberg Abby is an accomplished designer and photographer who leads the SF Bay Times design team. Currently in training as an art therapist, she holds an MFA from Boston University and an MA from Notre Dame de Namur Universiry. Abby and her partner, attorney Helene Wenzel, have lived in the Upper Market since relocating from the East Coast in 1990. Photographers’ Assistants for the “Kiss for the Bay Times” Project Thanks to those who helped our photographers along the Pride Parade route: Michael Ashly, Michael Buitrago, Jenny McGrath, Sue Steirer and Helene Wenzel. BAY T IM ES F EBRUARY 5, 2015

I’m Only Attracted to Younger Guys Roland Schembari and Bill Hartman Co-Founders in 1978

10’s in my book. Could a sex therapist help me to understand why I only like younger guys and make me start to be more attracted to guys closer to my own age so that I’d have a better chance of finding a partner?

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Tom Moon, MFT Q: I’m a 42-year-old man who’s never had a relationship that’s lasted longer than a few months. That’s because I’m only attracted to really good-looking, muscular guys in their early twenties. I hook up with a lot of young guys who like older men, but they all just want to party and have fun. Young guys aren’t interested in settling down with one man. They’ll hang with me for a while and then move on. I don’t blame them. I was the same way when I was their age, but I really want to settle down and find a partner. I know I’d be more likely to succeed if I liked older guys, but if they aren’t a perfect 10 I’m not interested, and unfortunately only guys under 25 are

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I don’t share your pessimism about the possibility of finding a younger partner. I know a number of couples who have been together for some years, with age differences ranging

Maybe your real obstacle is something else. Do you actually want a relationship? When you say that you aren’t interested unless someone is a 10 do you mean that your idea of a relationship is hot sex for the rest of your life with someone who is perfect? That’s a great fantasy, but it’s never going to happen. For one thing, your perfect 10 will inevitably get older. Even while he’s young you’ll wake up with him some rainy Tuesday morning when you’re both in a bad mood, and he just won’t look like the fantasy lover of your dreams. If you do want to find a real relationship you’ll need maturity, f lexibility and realism in your approach. What if you meet someone who’s older than

you prefer, but looks youthful, or has youthful energy? What will you do if you meet someone who is “only” a 6 or a 7 but is also loving, relationshiporiented and interested in you? Will you reject him out of hand? Finally, is sexual attraction the only criterion that matters to you in considering a potential partner? Unless you go beyond merely being dazzled by good looks, you’re likely to keep just having brief sexual f lings; and the reason won’t be the shallowness of your partners but your own lack of depth. How much do you value qualities like loyalty, honesty, kindness, respect, affection, and generosity of spirit? These are some of the character traits that keep a relationship going past the initial sizzle phase. You’ll probably have more luck if you notice these qualities in men as much as you notice their bodies, and if you value them enough to seek to develop them in yourself. Next: I’m Only Attracted to Older Guys Tom Moon is a psychotherapist in San Francisco. For more information, please check out his website: tommoon.net

Why Can’t We All Be Valentines? other people, and sometimes animals, which really upsets some of the people who then wish those abusers dead.

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A: In my experience, fundamental sexual turn-ons usually don’t change much once they’re established. They sometimes evolve over time, but that’s an organic process that happens by itself. It won’t happen because you make a “rational” decision that it would be more convenient if you liked something different. Therapy doesn’t have much effect on your turn-ons: learning “why” may increase self-understanding, but is unlikely to change the sexual attractions themselves. Most of the therapists I know would probably encourage you to work toward acceptance of your sexuality as it is and focus on how to make it work for you, rather than try to change it. If young guys float your boat, you’re probably always going to be attracted to youthfulness.

from 19 to 25 years, and as far as I can tell, these relationships are doing well. While most gay men do want to connect with people in their own age group, a minority has always been interested in men who are older or younger, and it just isn’t true that these relationships can’t work. And while many young men (and lots of older ones too, by the way) aren’t interested in settling down with one guy, it’s untrue and ageist to assume that they all feel that way.

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And then—as though to offset all of the bad stuff that is coming up— there’s Valentine’s Day, a sickeningly sweet and silly way to acknowledge that there is love in the world, even if it’s mostly limited to two people.

Okay, so it’s a manufactured “holiday,” a day for lovers to celebrate their love. What’s wrong with that? Haters get to celebrate everyday!

Let’s face it. When you are in a kind, loving, thoughtful, warm and caring relationship, partnership, two-some of some type…there is bound to be some acknowledgement given from time to time in the form of gifts or services, get-aways or get-alongs, organics or orgasms. Somehow, one or the other of you is going to let it be known that happiness is being shared between you two, and more often than not, it happens on the regular.

You read, watch, and digest the news—if you want to call it that—and it’s all about war and violence and injustice. People being mean and hateful and prejudiced and just plain wrong to

That being said, Valentine’s Day must be for the forgetful, too-busy couples who simply need to be reminded to show care and appreciation in the middle of their important, hectic lives.

Karen Williams, M.Ed Let me start by saying that I love Valentine’s Day!

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I propose a general makeover for many of the days that we call holidays in America! Why not congratulate people that they are working or have a job or some sort of income on Labor Day? How about taking a military family out for a meal on Veteran’s Day? Let’s choose to gift a local charity or nonprofit organization for Christmas as an alternative to buying items we already have and don’t need. And for Valentine’s Day, we can decide to be loving towards whomever we come into contact with that day! In fact, we can carry around bouquets of roses and give them to everyone who does services for us, like the dry cleaner guy, or the cashier at the gas station, the librarian at your local branch or the barista at your favorite coffee shop. I’d love to give my postal guy two dozen roses for coming to my door in snow, sleet, hail, rain, and hot burning sun, but it would probably be a drag for him to go around with them in his mailbag all day. You get my point!

We could decide to go far overboard and send a note of forgive and forget to an ex, reach out to a long lost relative, give some love to elderly patients in a nursing home or visit some children in the hospital and share Valentine’s Day hugs. The idea of sharing love only between lovers is becoming obsolete and downright boring. We can expand ourselves above and beyond that which we have come to believe we are capable. It’s time to grab those flowers and fly! On the wings of love, we can search out new ways and opportunities to give and share love, particularly with those who are often forgotten. The fun part is that you get to decide! You can thank your publisher and producer, your teacher and students, your children and your children’s network of caregivers and coaches. Valentine’s Day can be a day of random lovemaking with as many people as you can, because all of us have one thing in common: we want to give love. (continued on page 26)

Round About - Flowers for Angela Lansbury San Francisco Bay Times co-publishers Betty Sullivan and Jennifer Viegas recently attended the fantastic Noel Coward play “Blithe Spirit” at the Golden Gate Theatre. The all-star cast included Angela Lansbury, Charles Edwards (Downton Abbey), Simon Jones (Brideshead Revisited), Jemima Rooper (check out her starring role in the sexy lesbian series Hex), and others. Sullivan and Viegas brought flowers for Lansbury, but couldn’t easily hand them over. To their rescue came handsome Edwards, who leapt to the foot of the stage, grabbed the bouquet during his curtain call and handed them over to Lansbury. She clutched them tightly while letting the other cast members sniff the flowers and admire the attached heart wreath. The moment, and humorous first-rate show, proved to be an early Valentine’s Day treat for all.

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Rainbow Honor Walk Dr. Bill Lipsky A true superstar, Sylvester represented the black and gay cultural origins of disco to mainstream America and made it possible for RuPaul’s success. His body of work includes crucial contributions to the disco songbook, but his ballads proved he was a versatile stylist who brought a realness and depth to all material. Sylvester James was born to a slightly bourgeoisie family in Los Angeles that included the blues singer Joan Morgan. After moving to San Franscisco, he spent time in the experimental troupe Cockettes, where he really began his performing career. Things took off af-

ter he met Harvey Fuqua, a one-time producer at Motown who was then a scout for Fantasy Records. Fuqua signed Sylvester, who began work on an album. In a stroke of luck, Izora Whitehead and Martha Wash were discovered singing background vocals at a concert and Sylvester jumped at the chance to hire them. He renamed the hefty pair the Two Tons of Fun, and they were an integral part of Sylvester’s success, adding stage presence as well as reminders of his gospel roots. The self-titled Fantasy debut dropped in 1977 without much fanfare, but it did gain cult status via the remake of the Ashford and Simpson’s “Over and Over.” Sylvester’s greatest achievement was the later released LP Step II. As it was being recorded, Sylvester let Patrick Cowley, then an up and coming remixer, hear an early version of “You Make Me Feel Mighty Real.” Cowley’s synth overlays transformed the former ballad into a disco tour de force. The driving beat and keyboard flourishes reflected the intensity of gay disco at its best, while Sylvester’s impassioned vocals communicated the anticipation of sex. Arriving at the height of discomania, the combination proved irresistible. Much to the horror of disco haters and homophobes (who were largely one and the same), he was launched into the mainstream. The accompanying video made a mockery of Fuqua’s attempts to tone down his flamboyance, as Sylvester strolled around a disco in full drag. “Mighty Real” won several Billboard disco awards, placing Sylvester in disco’s stratosphere. The other single from

t he a lbum, “Dance (Disco Heat),” featured the Tons on lead vocals. Their performance was pure gospel spirit, so powerful that all Sylvester could do was come in halfway through the song with a scream that anybody familiar with the black church will recognize as the “happy shout.” Despite the obvious magic he had with dance material, Sylvester never viewed himself as a disco act. He was more inspired by performers such as Patti Labelle, who were known for different types of music. Sylvester therefore announced that an upcoming compilation, Stars, would be his only pure disco album. A celebration of nightlife, the four tracks dared you to sit down as he and the Tons worked the hell out of “I Who Have Nothing.” It’s a classic. Disco crashed among the popular audience in 1980, so Fuqua figured now was the time to branch out into other styles. He soon had Sylvester doing strange versions of “Ooh Baby Baby” and “Cry Me A River,” while actually banning Cowley from entering the studio. Creative differences led to Sylvester signing with Cowley’s Megatone label after he did the lead on Cowley’s “Menergy.” The timing was impeccable, as the label had a completed album sitting in the vaults that they couldn’t previously release. Sylvester simply cut new vocals and All I Need was born. The record was highlighted by the driving “Do You Wanna Funk,” a more aggressive sequel to “Mighty Real” that was a huge hit and set the template for hi-NRG.

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Call Me and M-1015 were his other albums for the label, but with Cowley’s death at the age of 32 from AIDS, Sylvester had to work with producers Ken Kessie and Morey Goldstein, who couldn’t match Cowley’s standards. “Take Me to Heaven,” “Sex” and “Band of Gold” were all dance hits, but didn’t quite compare to the Fantasy material. Oddly enough, after years of paying dues with small companies, Sylvester found himself on Warner Brothers for the LP Mutual Attraction. “Someone Like You” had a Larry Levan mix, but Sylvester was unable to take full advantage of his new resources as he was diagnosed with AIDS. He stopped performing, yet stayed in the spotlight to raise awareness about the disease. Sylvester died in 1988, only 40 but with a legacy that will forever endure. Bill Lipsky, Ph.D., author of “Gay and Lesbian San Francisco” (2006), is a member of the Rainbow Honor Walk board of directors.

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Ground Your Dream Relationship in Ordinary Reality while simultaneously being real. The dance of these two energies can bring you to the Promised Land if you manage to allow both equal floor time. It is an emotionally risky business to ground your dream relationship in ordinary reality, but so well worth it!

Astrology Linda Amburgey I once had a client who sat down for her 15-minute reading with only one big question on her mind: “Is my husband cheating on me?” I gazed at her astrological chart for about 30 seconds, looking at nothing in particular. I looked up, met her eyes, and questioned, “Have you asked him?” This exchange illustrates the sometimes-antagonistic combination of our fantasies and assumptions with grounded reality. Are you having a relationship with someone that you haven’t even seen for years? Do your assumptions and projections hijack your ability to see with clarity? This is a beautiful month to dream up your vision for the perfect relationship,

ARIES (March 21–April 19) Your relationships will seem other worldly, and perhaps a bit hard to bring into focus. If you are single, this is your opportunity to create your romantic vision for future manifestation. If you are already hitched, meditate on softening your boundaries and making your relationship a direct line to the Divine. TAURUS (April 20–May 20) Cast your fantasy line long and far for you will surely hook a keeper this month. Do not hold back on the vision for your long range desires around intimacy, and remember that magic happens when you are awake and present to your deepest yearnings. GEMINI (May 21–June 20) You may get caught day-

dreaming on the job this month. Try to keep your muzzy drifting directed on your true calling. There is a divine portal seducing you to trust and follow, and if all goes well, it will seem like you floated easily into your next career venture. CANCER (June 21–July 22) Pack a bag and head to that far off land that calls your name. Leave your map, your compass, and your GPS at home, and wander as if you are the mystic following only the magic in every moment of every footstep. You are certain to meet a few fairies and enchanting spirits. LEO (July 23–August 22) The collective longing in the air will grip you deeply and personally. There are consequences for becoming too checked out. Check in by opening that dangerous can of worms in your most intimate relationships. The reward is so empowering that you will be baffled that you waited so long. VIRGO (August 23– September 22) Why do love and longing seem to go hand and hand? Your desire to melt and

disappear is ultimately your true nature moving closer to the source from which we came. Although this hunger to dissolve is easily assigned to your love interest, remember its energy is anchored in your own soul. Sharing this true state with another is the cherry on top! LIBRA (September 23– October 22) You may be longing to serve something bigger than yourself, but wonder how. This is a beautiful time to seek out a spiritual mentor or guide. Certain relationships may show you the way to the light if you let go and trust without being delusional or overly gullible. SCORPIO (October 23– November 21) Fantasy play is not just for children. Dip into your magic bag and pull out your favorite toys. A true loss of self can be delightful when engaged in a creative process, but be sure you have enough structure to reassemble when called back into your body. SAGITTARIUS (November 22–December 21 It’s time to conjure up your dream home and your fantasy family. No need to fuse over pesky details. Just let your

imagination leap from possibility to impossibility. The Universe will deliver what is in the highest interest of everyone involved, so trust is the only active effort you have to make. CAPRICORN (December 22–January 19) Your poetic words will entice and attract. You can use this temporary gift to beguile or enchant, to delude or to heal. Either way, your words float hypnotically on the entranced folks who step into your spellbinding flow. AQUARIUS (January 20– February 18) A little dose of effort, coupled with a prayer dance around the fire, calls in all the resources you need. If something no longer holds value it will drift quietly out to sea, while the new tide delivers enchanting treasure at your feet. PISCES (February 19–March 20) You will be visible to all as the shape shifter that you inherently are, but beware that you do not create so much smoke and mirrors that people only see themselves when they gaze into your eyes. A true mystic can take the shape of others as well as congeal into their own skin and bones.

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“The loveliest dinner you can imagine - this is the intersection of romance and foodie-ism”

“Rigorous sex first, then shower, then Netflix on a couch with snacks”

“My ideal Valentine’s Days were when I was a kid. I loved handing out paper cards in class. I have a poem about that in my book, “Stay Little Valentine, Stay.”

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The tale was inspired by the real-life “Newsboy Strike of 1899,” when newsboy Kid Blink led a band of orphan and runaway “newsies” on a two-weeklong action against publishing titans Joseph Pulitzer, William Randolph Hearst and other powerful newspaper publishers. In the musical, the publishers raise distribution prices at the newsboys’ expense.

The aforementioned number is an all male extravaganza, but one of our faves in the cast is Angela Grovey, whom you might recognize from the movie Joyful Noise or the TV show 30 Rock. She’s been in a bunch of Broadway and other theater productions too. Here she plays Medda Larkin, who owns a vaudeville-style theater. She’s a burlesque queen and mentor to the show’s lead character “Jack Kelly.” As Grovey shares, the musical is a story of “triumph” that really inspires those who see it. The driving, infectious score will also stay with you long after you leave the theater.

When the newsies portrayed in the musical decide to strike, the jolt of power that they feel is

For more information and to buy tickets, please visit: www. Stephanie Styles (Katherine) and Dan DeLuca (Jack Kelly). shnsf.com. Original North American Tour company of Newsies. ©Disney

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To this day, those who deliver or sell newspapers aren’t exactly rolling in dough, and the situation was even more extreme in the late 19th century, when social programs for orphans and others in need were even worse than they are now.

Newsies will be at the Orpheum Theatre in San Francisco from Dan DeLuca (Jack Kelly) (center) and the original North American Tour company of Newsies. ©Disney February 17 to March 15. Those who attend opening night will make history because SHN is holding the first ever Broadway Bobblehead Night. Silly, right? But, like the goofy Giants giveaways, we want one! The special Newsies bobblehead will be free to audience members that night. It’s just an extra bit of Disney fun on top of the smash hit musical that already has won Tony Awards for Best Score and Best Choreography.

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“It’s clear that the themes of Newsies—of the younger generation taking their place, of the underclass righting injustice — are extraordinarily timely,” Thomas Schumacher, Producer and President of Disney Theatrical Productions, said. “We could never have imagined our show would be called to Broadway in the way it has, but we could not be prouder that it’s resonating so deeply.”

conveyed in the showstopper “Seize the Day.” The gymnastic moves are Olympics-worthy and include backflips and Baryshnikov-style leaps and spins. It’s part “Seven Brides for Seven Brothers” (minus the brides), part Gene Kelly in “Summer Stock” (remember Kelly’s famous newspaper dance?) and is altogether unforgettably fantastic.

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The Disney musical Newsies is set in 1899, but its timeless tale of the wealthy one percent gouging the rest of us packs a strong emotional punch, particularly for LGBT audience goers. Perhaps one reason why the show seems to resonate so well with our community is that the book was written by fourtime Tony Award winner and always out Harvey Fierstein, famous for hit queer shows such as La Cage aux Folles, Torch Song Trilogy and many others.

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Exhilarating Newsies Demonstrates the Power of the 99 Percent

The Cult of JT LeRoy Presents Cautionary, Fascinating Tale About the Nature of Fame

Film Gary Kramer One of the highlights at this year’s Independent Film Fest is local filmmaker Marjorie Sturm’s The Cult of JT Leroy, playing at the Roxie in San Francisco on February 7 and 15 at 12:30 pm; and February 8 at 7:15 pm. Sturm’s film is a terrific documentary about the author of Sarah, The Heart Is Deceitful Above All Things and other novels. Said to be a 15-year-old prostitute, who was addicted to drugs, homeless, transgender, and HIV+, LeRoy gained an international following and many celebrity fans, ranging from actors Susan Dey and Ben Foster to musicians Shirley Manson and Lou Reed. However, the author is deceitful above all things too. As the film deftly chronicles LeRoy’s meteoric rise to fame, there is the surprising revelation that the author does not actually exist! LeRoy was, in fact, the fictional creation of San Francisco resident Laura Albert. Sturm films in and around the Bay Area, and features interviews with local celebrities, including writer Stephen Beachy, who exposed the hoax in a New York magazine piece in 2005; out author Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore; and musician Stephan Jenkins of “Third Eye Blind.” She also includes the recorded testimony LeRoy’s therapist Dr. Terrence Owens. Sturm artfully weaves together these interviews, with footage of bookstore readings where LeRoy appeared, but was too shy to speak—so celebrities

read his work in his place. Sturm also shrewdly features animated sequences to provide context on Albert’s reasons for creating the hoax, and news items about the phenomenon that was JT LeRoy. The film is a remarkable assessment of the impact LeRoy had on his fans and celebrity culture. Those who bought into his story and found truth in his writing are not judged, even if Sturm probably relishes presenting all of the contradictory, ironic quotes. As The Cult of JT LeRoy exposes Albert’s ability to perpetrate a hoax, and the legal battles that resulted once the devastating truth came out, Sturm considers the ramifications of Albert’s actions. The film is a fascinating cautionary tale about the nature of fame and how people will often believe the unbelievable. In a recent phone interview for the San Francisco Bay Times, Sturm discussed her film. Gary M. Kramer: How did you first learn about JT LeRoy? Marjorie Sturm: I didn’t know anything about LeRoy when I started filming in May of 2002. I didn’t know the books at all. I thought there was something strange, but I didn’t know what it was. Then I followed the strangeness from 2003–2006. Then when the truth was revealed, I wrote Stephen Beachy an email to thank him for resolving it. I think a lot of people in San Francisco had this “What’s going on?” response.

Scenes that Are Challenging to Write

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Michele Karlsberg: Is there a certain type of scene that’s harder for you to write than others? Love? Action? Racy? Liz McMullen: One of my biggest challenges as a writer is that I tend to write really tight scenes so when I edit, I need slow down a bit and ratchet up the pressure moment by moment, making my readers as breathless as my characters. I love going in draft after draft, enhancing the imagery and getting to the core emotion of an action sequence. This includes building in corners and plot twists that engage the reader, having them running alongside the protagonists as they plan their next move. I’m comfortable writing romance and erotica, but found it a challenge in my debut novel. If I Die Before I Wake is paranormal horror, not a romance. At the core, my novel is about friends working together to vanquish a common foe, out of sisterhood, rather than the thrill of conquest. There is a romantic subplot, but I wanted that to remain in the background, and not

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Gary M. Kramer: What prompted you to make the documentary? Marjorie Sturm: I made it in waves. In 2002–2003, I was working with the homeless and mentally ill in the Tenderloin. I had the footage sitting in my closet and I was blown away when I read the magazine piece Beachy wrote. When Beachy resolved it, he encouraged me to start shooting again and he gave me his contacts: Brian Pera, Bruce Benderson, Dennis Cooper, etc. and I would follow those leads to other people. The project kept snowballing—especially with the trial. Gary M. Kramer: What can you say about the “cult” that formed around LeRoy? Marjorie Sturm: The reverence for JT was fascinating. I’m not one to do hero worship. It was weird and interesting to be surrounded by celebrities who loved this character. That was my introduction to it. It’s just so over the top. The unreality of our culture and the construct of a celebrity are pushed over the edge, so the fake celebrity gets this zenith moment. Gary M. Kramer: What observations do you have about the power of celebrity? Marjorie Sturm: In our culture, it cannot be overestimated. Our culture is narcissistic and people bow to it. It’s deeply embedded and not healthy for the celebrity or other people. As Panio Gianopoulps said in the film, (continued on page 26)

take over the focus of the book. I had to be very thoughtful regarding what I included. It took some effort, but I was able to strike a balance, with a fleeting, yet meaningful, romantic scene that enhanced the main plot without arresting the forward momentum of the storyline. Liz McMullen is a Mount Holyoke College graduate. She is an author, publisher, documentarian and talk show host. Her debut novel, “If I Die Before I Wake,” was a Rainbow Award Finalist.

Jeff Mann: Love scenes and sex scenes are pretty easy for me, probably because I have a lot of practice writing them in my historical novels and erotica. For me, action scenes are the hardest. The sentence structures need to be simple, fairly short, and almost staccato, to mimic the speed and intensity of what’s happening. Plus, the verbs need to be vivid and just right. (Not for nothing we English professors call them “action verbs.”) (continued on page 26)

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passions that define us and bring us together. Featured are the world premiere of “My Friend, My Lover: Five Walt Whitman Songs,” from Whitman’s brilliant and subversive works of the 1800s; the world premiere of “#twitterlieder: 15 Tweets in 3 Acts,” by composer James Eakin and librettist Charles Anthony Silvestri; and the San Francisco premiere of Jake Heggie’s amazing choral opera “For A Look Or A Touch,” presented in collaboration with the

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that became an instant sing-along hit! Our Season 37 ends with a journey through the greatest hits penned by Sir Elton John ELTON: – from the worlds of pop THE SING-ALONG music, film, and Broadway. June 24, 25 & 26, 2015 And best of all, YOU get Nourse Theater to sing along on some of them! So dust off your One of the most famous bedazzled spectacles, strap journeys began when on your platform shoes and Dorothy took off along that grab your boa for “Rocket iconic Yellow Brick Road in Man,” “Crocodile Rock,” search of home. Decades “Your Song,” “Don’t Let later, the fabulous Elton The Sun Go Down On Me” John revisited that journey and “Goodbye, Yellow and composed a song Brick Road.” BAY T IM ES F EBRUARY 5, 2015

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Finance for Entrepreneurs – Start Out. $10. 6:30pm. (425 Market St.) Learn from a panel of startup experts how to build revenue models and cash flow for your business. www.startout.org Bare Chest Calendar Semi-

Final – Powerhouse. Free. 8 pm. (1347 Folsom St.) Support the Bare Chest Calendar as they raise funds for the AIDS Emergency Fund. www.powerhousebar.com Indian Ink – A.C.T.’s Geary Theater. $25-$100. 8 pm. (405 Geary St.) Indian Ink follows Flora, a free-spirited English poet, on her travels through India in the 1930s. www.tickets.act-sf.org

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Torch Run: High Heels Race – Oasis. Free. 7:30pm. (278 11th St.) A fun spirited, high heel race. All runners must register by sending an email to truck@trucksf.com www.sfoasis.com Some Thing – The Stud. $5. 10 pm. (399 9th St.) Enjoy a fabulous drag performance with a special Nina Simone tribute. www.studsf.com

• 7 : S ATURDAY

Pancake Breakfast – Billy De Frank Center. $10. 10 am to 2 pm. (938 The Alameda, San Jose) A fundraiser breakfast with a Gilligan’s Island theme look-a-like contest. www.defrankcenter.org BAAITS Powwow – South Hall Cow Palace. Free. 10:30 am to 6 pm. (2600 Geneva Ave., Daly City) Enjoy the 4th Annual Bay Area American Indian Two-Spirit Powwow with over 25 vendors. www.baaits.org 3rd Annual Shady Fish Bowl – Edge. Free. 3:30 pm to 7 pm. (4149 18th St.) Enjoy lots of live performances, live auction, and raffle with all proceeds benefitting the Monarchs Charity Fund. www.edgesf.com

• 8 : S UNDAY

LezWrite Valentine’s Day Show – Take 5 Cafe $8. (3130 Sacramento Ave., Berkeley) Short, fast and funny stories and monologues written and performed by lesbian artists. www.3girlstheatre.org Tammy Hall – Kassmann Fine Pianos. $24. 5 pm. (843 Gilman St., 24

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Berkeley) Enjoy a live performance by brilliant gospel/jazz pianist Tammy Hall. 510-558-0765. AIDS/LifeCycle Fundraiser – City Pulse Acupuncture. $25. 10 am to 12 pm. (513 Valencia St.) Come for a wellness session by licensed acupuncturist Danielle Boucher. www.brownpapertickets.com/ event/1148896

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Marga Gomez’s Performancerama – Oasis. $10. 8 pm. (298 11th St.) Enjoy new theater by Marga Gomez, with drink specials. www.sfoasis.com Opulence – Beaux. Free. 9 pm. (2344 Market St.) A hip-hop night with happy hour drink specials all night long. www.beauxsf.com LGBT Sangha – SF LGBT Center. Free. 5:30 pm to 6:30 pm. (1800 Market St.) All are welcome to join for a mindful meditation and spiritual practice. www.sfcenter.org

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In Conversation with Ernst Ostertag – Hormel Center. Free. 6 pm. (100 Larkin St.) Historian and rare-book dealer Gerard Koskovich will interview Ernst Ostertag and Röbi Rapp about their work with Der Kreis in the 1950s and 1960s. www.thecircle-movie.com/ geschichte Love, Loss, and Liquor – Martunis. $10. 7 pm. (4 Valencia St.) A Broadway Cabaret that chronicles the different stages of relationships. 415-241-0205. Mirage – Oasis. $8. 6 pm. (298 11th St.) A fun dance party with Go Bang!

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The Circle – LGBT Community Center. Free. 6 pm to 7:30 pm. (1800 Market St.) A gripping portrayal of the fight for equality in Zurich during the mid- 1950’s. www.thecircle-movie.com

Champagne Reception – Café Flore. Free. 8 pm to 10 pm. (298 Market St.) Help welcome guests of honor Ernst Ostertag and Röbi Rapp. www.thecircle-movie.com Sex Trivia Night – Virgil’s Sea Room. Free. 5:30 pm. (3152 Mission St.) A great night of sex trivia and prize giveaways. www.virgilssf.com

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Kinky Karaoke – Club OMG. Free. 8 pm. (43 6th St.) KJ Dana hosts a fun evening to mingle and perform with other kinksters. www.clubomgsf.com San Francisco Imperial Anniversary – Twin Peaks Tavern. Free. 7:30 pm. (401 Castro St.) A social event to meet and greet the Imperial Council of San Francisco. www.twinpeakstavern.com Keith Haring: The Political Line – de Young. $15. 5:30 pm to 9 pm. (50 Hagiwara Tea Garden Dr.) Through February 13. www.deyoung.famsf.org

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Prom Date – El Rio. Free. 9:30 pm. (3158 Mission St.) The New Orleans-based queer pop band makes their debut in San Francisco. Code ‘fabulous’ gets you in free. www.elriosf.com

Cubcake – Lonestar. Free. 9 pm. (1354 Harrison St.) A monthly bear dance party happening second Fridays. www.lonestarsf.com Friday Nights at the de Young – de Young Museum. $11. 6 pm to 8:45 pm. (50 Hagiwara Tea Garden Dr.) Enjoy the museum in a fun and dynamic atmosphere with live music and cocktails. www.deyoung.famsf.org

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Victorian Valentine Ball and Benefit – Haas-Lilienthal House. $95. 8 pm. (2007 Franklin St.) A Valentine Masquerade Ball to transport guest back in time more than a century to experience the decadence of Victorian high society. www.galavantevents.com Kiss for the Bay Times Sweet Inspirations. Free. 4 pm to 7 pm. (2239 Market St.) Enjoy The Bay Time’s very own photography exhibit showcasing the kiss. Valentine Dance Party – La Peña Cultural Center. $15. 8 pm to 11 pm. (3105 Shattuck, Berkeley) Celebrate love with food, drinks and Leave it to Diva Band. www. leaveittodivaband.com

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Valentine’s Day Comedy Show – Magnet. Free. 7 pm. (4122 18th St.) Now in its 5th season, this Valentine’s Day Comedy Show feature the best LGBT comedians for a hilarious evening of gay comedy. www.magnetsf.org

If you know a child who is an animal lover, encourage that love with hands-on activities and inquiry-based classes from the San Francisco SPCA. From Animal Camps and volunteer programs to Community Service Saturdays, Puppy Movie Nights, and school classroom visits, our Humane Education department makes learning about animals fun and exciting.

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Love and Basketball – Hi Tops. Free. (2247 Market St.) Join SFGBA, Castro’s own basketball league for drinks and a good time. www.hitopssfc.om BIG! – The Stud Bar. Free. 6 pm to 1 pm. (399 9th St.) A monthly bear dance party with drink specials, go-go dancers and hot Djs. www.phattestevents.com Sanctuary: Red Party – 1015 Folsom. $30. 10 pm. (1015 Folsom St.) The 2nd Annual President’s Weekend Red Party, with special DJ Nina Flowers. www.guspresents.com

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Piano Bar 101 – Martuni’s. Free. 9 pm. (4 Valencia St.) Sing along to your favorite songs with friends. www.dragatmartunis.com Karaoke Night – Toad Hall. Free. 8 pm. (4146 18th St.) Sing your heart out on stage at Toad Hall’s weekly karaoke night. www.toadhallbar.com Motown Monday – Madrone Art Bar. Free. 6 pm. (500 Divisadero St.) Dance the night away to favorite Motown songs and remixes. www.madroneartbar.com

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Mr. Burns – American Conservatory Theater. $25-$120. 7 pm. (415 Geary St.) In a post-apocalyptic Bay Area, a group of strangers comes together by recreating the infamous “Cape Feare” episode of The Simpsons. Through March 15. www.act-sf.org

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Last Drag: Quit Smoking Class – SF LGBT Community Center. Free. 7 pm. (1800 Market St.) The Last Drag is a free quit smoking class for LGBT and HIV positive smokers who are ready to become nonsmokers. www.sfcenter.org Trivia with Miss Kitty – Wild Side West. Free. 7 pm (424 Cortland Ave.) Enjoy a fun trivia night with prize give-aways. www.wildsidewest.com

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Exhibit: Imogen Cunningham Photography – Harvey Milk Photo Center. Free. 4 pm to 8:30 pm. (50 Scott St.) The Harvey Milk Photo Center presents a stunning exhibit of Imogen Cunningham’s work during the 1960’s. www.harveymilkphotocenter.org BeatBox Country – BeatBox. $6. 6:30 pm. (314 11th St.) An LGBT country western themed dance. www.beatboxsf.com

• 18 : W EDNESDAY Tree – San Francisco Playhouse. $20+. 7 pm. (450 Post St.) A story of love and betrayal, with three generations that twist and grow in astonishing ways. Through March 7. www.sfplayhouse.com

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ROSTOW (continued from page 3) I’m mentioning this not out of an interest in football or the Super Bowl, but more out of astonishment at the lengths to which the media can second-guess our leaders in hindsight (I’m referring to any leader in any context) while remaining perfectly oblivious to the situation that the leader faced in real time. Moving on, it’s interesting that the U.S. Court of Appeals for the Eighth Circuit has gone ahead and issued a timetable for the appeal of marriage cases out of South Dakota, Arkansas and Missouri. Oral arguments are set for May 11, approximately six weeks before the High Court will decide the question once and or all.

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Let’s just say that it would not have been a surprise if the Eighth Circuit had put these appeals on hold pending the High Court review, much as our other challenges to the Defense of Marriage Act were shelved during consideration of the Windsor case. Maybe the Eighth Circuit wants to make its own opinion known before the justices release their final pronouncement. Speaking of the Eighth Circuit, not the most progressive appellate courts in the country, I just came across a ruling against a lactating mother, who was effectively fired (forced to “resign”) because she was not able to pump at work. The High Court recently refused to review the case,

leaving in place the Eighth Circuit’s decision. Among other things, the appellate panel noted that the problems of lactating on the job did not amount to impermissible sex discrimination because men also have the ability to lactate. Yes you read that right! I got the information from an ACLU press release. The panel also decided that a supervisor’s suggestion that the woman “go home and be with your babies,” was also not sex discrimination, but was a neutral remark that could have been directed just as easily to a new father. Really? Maybe to a new lactating father I suppose. At any rate, that’s the Eighth Circuit. arostow@aol.com

(MARRIAGE continued from page 12) when James and John “applied for a marriage license…the clerk ‘had a fit’ and told them she could not issue it.” James explained: “I could not make a marriage work with a lady,” and “I felt like we had just as much right to marry as anyone else.” Upon winning, John exclaimed, “I am just ecstatically pleased. We…did not even think [the judge] would consider it… This is the Bible Belt for Christ sake.” As the struggle in Alabama continues, Strawser wrote on his Facebook wall: ‘I plan to stand up [and] fight back. [W]e have just as many rights as anyone does in the world. [Let’s] stand to-

gether…[W]e all have equal rights no matter who…we are.” We stand with James and John and all those working to make Alabama the 37th state with marriage equality and a state where LGBT people, and indeed all people, can live with dignity and equality. John Lewis and Stuart Gaffney, together for three decades, were plaintiffs in the California case for equal marriage rights decided by the California Supreme Court in 2008. They are leaders in the nationwide grassroots organization Marriage Equality USA WILLIAMS (continued from page 18

(KRAMER continued from page 22) enabling LeRoy was “pleasurable altruism.” Gary M. Kramer: I really like testimony you included of the therapist, Dr. Owens. Can you discuss that? Marjorie Sturm: He’s one of the most interesting threads. I had to work really hard to get his footage, which I knew was public domain. He adds a whole layer. The [hoax] was revealed to him by the way it was revealed to me. Then he took on Laura as a client (!) Gary M. Kramer: Did you have any response from Laura Albert while making the film?

(KARLSBERG continued from page 22) Marjorie Sturm: She’s actually tried to have me abandon my film, which has been really intense and crazy. She’s very legally pro-active in trying to control the story as much as she can. A lot of what she did [with JT LeRoy] is unethical, but it’s not against the law. There’s a fine line. I wanted to debunk her lies. © 2015 Gary M. Kramer Gary M. Kramer is the author of “Independent Queer Cinema: Reviews and Interviews,” and the co-editor of “Directory of World Cinema: Argentina.” Follow him on Twitter @garymkramer

It’s also important to position the characters clearly in relation to other characters and to the surrounding setting, and to describe their movements in an efficient, uncluttered manner. Then, hopefully, a clear visual comes across to readers, as if they were watching a movie made from words. I’ve struggled with these difficulties in the battle/attack sequences that occasionally occur in my vampire fiction. My fanged protagonist, Derek Maclaine, has an entertaining penchant for overpowering hot young

men and kicking homophobic ass! Jeff Mann has published four novels, three novellas, two collections of essays, two collections of short fiction, four volumes of poetry, and a book of memoir and poetry. He teaches creative writing at Virginia Tech in Blacksburg, Virginia. Michele Karlsberg Marketing and Management specializes in publicity for the LGBT community. This year, Karlsberg celebrates twenty-six years of successful book campaigns.

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The desire to give love has been proven to be stronger than the desire to receive it. So why not celebrate Valentine’s Day in that way? Spend your day giving love away as much and as often as you can, and you will experience yourself in a brand new way. You may find that instead of looking for love in all of the wrong places, giving love is always all right. Let’s all be Valentines this Valentine’s Day! Sending lots of love your way, all year long. Karen Williams, M.Ed, has a great big heart full of love for you! To learn about Karen, who is a talented stage performer and more, please visit www.hahainstitute.com

SISTER DANA (continued from page 8) returns! And Sister Dana sez, “If you want to give a great V-Day present to your man (or to yourself, sir), get the Sure Grip Vibrating Stroker. Soft and stretchy, with an easy-grip ribbed exterior plus a removable 10-function bullet vibrator that allows you to explore pulsation and escalation as well as a multi-level buzz. Keep track of your favorite sensations with the LED push-button controller, and if you like, replace the bullet vibe with another model via the plug-in jack. Whether you savor the stroking sensation or prefer to enjoy focused vibration, you’ll love the options you have with this versatile toy.” More V-Day gift ideas can be found at goodvibes.com Happy shopping! As florists, jewelry stores, candy and chocolate manufacturers gear up for the big V, some say that love can never be sufficiently expressed by gifts and fancy dinners, and that receiving a heartfelt expression of love from one’s lover is still the most memorable experience. Yet Valentine’s Day could very well be one of the most stressful days of the year for us. Bestselling author and relationship expert Hellen Chen puts the focus on how to make a relationship last with one of her many books or courses at matchmakerofthecentury.com This Valentine’s Day you might consider giving a different type of gift that gives back. A new classical album with the world’s most renowned classical music stars is titled, AN AIDS QUILT SONGBOOK: SING FOR HOPE, as a wonderful new musical tribute and gift idea to help find, and fund, a cure for HIV/AIDS. SING 26

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FOR HOPE is a New York City based national nonprofit organization that helps artists give back to their community. Sales benefit AMFAR, THE FOUNDATION FOR AIDS RESEARCH. Available for purchase ($19.95) via iTunes, Amazon, retail stores, etc. in the U.S. and Canada. singforhope.org If you’ve got a partner, dump ‘em now, and especially if you don’t have a lover, come commiserate with LESBIAN/GAY CHORUS OF SAN FRANCISCO during their 12th Annual LOVE BITES anti-V.D. cabarets at Martuni’s! Valentines Schmalentines: Sunday, February 8th at 4pm and Monday, February 9th at 7:30pm, Martuni’s Piano Bar, 4 Valencia Street, $10 at the door! Cheap, like your ex-lover! lgcsf.org At the IMPERIAL COURT 50TH ANNIVERSARY GALA come celebrate 50 years of continuous public service of THE IMPERIAL COUNCIL OF SAN FRANCISCO, INC. as they gather for cocktails, seated dinner, formal program, dessert, and dancing, all in the spectacular setting of San Francisco’s City Hall, February 15, 5pm. They promise gowns & crowns, memories & goals, pageantry and a bit of fun along the way. imperialcouncilsf.org Join ACADEMY OF FRIENDS and MERCEDES-BENZ of San Francisco as they launch the 2015 Gala Weekend with a VIP PreParty at the dealership, Thursday, February 19th, 6:30pm, 500 8th Street. All those who purchase or have purchased their ticket for the February

22nd ACADEMY AWARDS NIGHT GALA will receive free admission to the pre-party. If you are not attending the Gala, they suggest a $20 donation at the door for this special event. Wine, cocktails, food, music - mix, mingle, and enjoy an incredible kick-off for Academy of Friends’ 35th Annual Gala weekend, which will raise money to support HIV/AIDS services throughout the Bay Area. You’ll also have the chance to win a 2-Year Lease on a 2015 Mercedes GLA-Class from Mercedes-Benz San Francisco with the purchase of a raffle ticket. academyoffriends.org

Ewan McGregor & Olivia Munn. Get on da “Mardi Pardi” Bus! Join KREWE DE KINQUE for our ANNUAL FAT TUESDAY BAR CRAWL aboard the KdK Mardi Gras party bus! Call off work on Wednesday, put on your finest Mask and Costume and Beads, and join us for a Kinky Night on the Town! Tuesday, February 17th, 6pm to12am (and beyond!) starting at the Edge in the Castro, ending back in the Castro. DON’T drink and drive on this fun night. Hop on our bus. We want everyone alive and well on Ash Wednesday. sfkinque.com

Don’t miss the critically acclaimed musical on the life of legendary “Disco Queen” Sylvester. Direct from New York City comes MIGHTY REAL: A FABULOUS SYLVESTER MUSICAL, running February 11th through March 1st at Brava Theater Center, 2781 24th Street. Broadway star, Anthony Wayne (Pippin, Priscilla) brings the legendary disco diva to vivid life. Joining Mr. Wayne are Broadway Divas, Anastacia McCleskey & Jacqueline B. Arnold as The Two Tons of Fun/Weather Girls. brava.org

Sister Dana would like to send a special valentine to President Barack Obama for getting his swagger back during the State of the Union speech! THIS is the prezzie I voted for! Especially with the President’s off-the-cuff response to a group of Repugnicans who sarcastically applauded the line, “I have no more campaigns to run.” “I know,” the President retorted, “because I won both of them!” Let’s hope he keeps up the butch front and does not cave to the RepubliCAN’T Congress!

Juggling some angry Russians, the British Mi5, his impossibly leggy wife, and an international terrorist, debonair art dealer and part time rogue Charlie Mortdecai (Johnny Depp) must traverse the globe armed only with his good looks and special charm in a race to recover a stolen painting rumored to contain the code to a lost bank account filled with Nazi gold. MORTDECAI (Lionsgate Films), a very funny film, stars Johnny Depp, Gwyneth Paltrow,

Sister Dana sez, “Oklahoma State Representative Sally Kern introduced the so-called “Freedom to Obtain Conversion Therapy Act,” which would allow therapists the unrestricted right to engage in the dangerous and discredited practice of conversion therapy on vulnerable LGBTQ children. Kerns previously made national news by claiming that the ‘homosexual agenda’ poses a bigger threat to our country than terrorism. Jeesh! This bill has taken the attacks on our youth taking place across the country to a new extreme!”

Round About - All Over Town

Guests at the Beats4Books benefit held at Mezzanine supported the Breast Cancer Emergency Fund, Shanti’s breast cancer project and the Women’s Cancer Resource Center.

An array of Valentines offerings in the window at Good Vibrations on Polk Street

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The large red heart sculpture in Union Square is one of many similar installations in San Francisco General Hospital Foundation’s “Hearts in San Francisco” project.

Participants enjoying the Beats4Books benefit at Mezzanine

The legendary Castro 24-hour restaurant Orphan Andy’s is decked out for Valentines.

Star model Kathleen with Breast Cancer Emergency Fund supporters Linsley Fox, Daniel Hlad and Sean Greene at Beats4Boobs Valentines Day decorations at Outfit clothing store

Actress Hannalore Elsner was introduced by Berlin and Beyond Film Festival director Sophoan Sorn as the Festival’s Lifetime Achievement Award winner for 2015. Entertainers at the Beats4Boobs benefit at Mezzanine

Hard Rock Cafe’s Dustin Durham (left) with San Francisco Pride’s executive director George Ridgely, board vice president and parade manager Marsha Levine, and board president Gary Virginia at the LGBT Center for the announcement of the new partnership between Hard Rock Cafe and SF Pride.

Actor Samuel Schneider (center), star of the festival centerpiece film “Exit Marrakech,” with Berlin and Beyond Film Festival director Sophoan Sorn and the Goethe Institute’s Sabine Erlenwein at the Castro Theatre

Parish Manager Michael Poma and Father Jack McClure served as hosts for the Equality California Town Hall held at Most Holy Redeemer Church.

Author Michelle Tea autographed her new memoir “How to Grow Up” for Good Vibrations sexologist Dr. Carol Queen at Books Inc in the Castro.

Comics Jesus U. Bettawork and Sampson McCormick after their performance at Magnet Poets Stephen S. Mills, Matthew Hillinger and Brent Calderwood at the “Three Under Forty” literary event at the Hormel Center of the SF Main Library

The Castro theatre marquee shines on Opening Night of the Berin and Beyond Film Festival.

SF Pride sponsorship sales and relations manager Lisa Williams (right) with Pride supporter Donna Sachet at the SF LGBT Center for the announcement of Pride’s new partnership with Hard Rock Cafe

Performer Veronica Blanco joined Christopher James Marshal and Bobby Blue (Promise Kings) at Magnet for the Smack Dab open mic event BAY T IM ES F EBRUARY 5, 2015

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